RBGs-ghost Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	I got the handbook printed and I'm so pumped	LEVEL UP	RBGs-ghost	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/01/22 10:38 PM

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3	What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder? Oh! That reminds me of a good one. If he claims being being held accountable or suffering the consequences of his actions is abuse....run! He knows there's proof of what he did, he knows it was wrong, but he also knows the only way out is to scream "this is abusive! I'm a victim!" and run off. Men like this will NEVER take responsibility for their behavior, and bringing them to therapy makes it worse. Mine would say that in order to protect himself he needed to establish boundaries with me. What…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/22 10:35 AM
3	What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder? My abusive ex would frequently switch the flavor of his mistreatment and claim that the lack of repetition was proof that he wasn't abusive. I was never convinced by his argument, but I think your advice is wonderful. That can provide the proof and consistency you need to know shit is bad and you gotta gtfo	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/22 10:31 AM
4	What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder? I cannot stress enough that you should pay attention to physical symptoms on top of everything you mentioned, which were spot on! I was suffering with daily headaches, daily nausea, my fibro was flaring up frequently, I COULDN'T POOP. I thought I had a new illness. Then I left the scrote and guess what? No daily headaches, no daily nausea, I'm in pain less frequently, and I can poop.... I have a physical/emotional disconnect. My job and life have required me to be able to emotionally compartment…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/22 10:26 AM
13	Almost every comment is telling her its none of her business, don't get involved. Not only would I tell her immediately, I would convince her to dump him 💅 My friend told me when a garbage ex was planning to propose and I'll always be thankful for the warning. The second I heard my stomach dropped and I knew I needed to get out. I dumped him soon after being told. She doesn't need to confront the bf, she needs to be there for her friend and let her know what's up	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/22 10:36 AM
9	What've you rediscovered about yourself since being single? My anxiety isn't as much of an issue as I thought it was. Turns out being stuck with LVM/NVM can send your mental health in a death spiral. Now that I'm alone? I feel at peace. I used to always have projects to do as a cope. The anxiety tearing at me could only be forgotten when I had a project. I can be bored now. I can do a project because I want to. I'm more patient with my child. I started to wonder if I was a bad mother because I was snapping more frequently. No. It was just the company I w…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/01/22 02:17 AM
1	Casual Sex Confusion Once I committed myself to investing in my happiness, and when the thought of hooking up with yet another man who was bad in bed disgusted me, I stopped casual sex altogether. Additionally, I had unmedicated ADHD for years. Once I got medicated I stopped hyperfixating on new partners and stopped making bad decisions with them. I'm not saying this is the case with you. But for me, I realized that my ADHD was seeking those chemical hits and it was driving a chunk of my behavior. Trust everyone whe…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/01/22 01:26 PM
1	Looking the same after babies It depends on your genetics and lifestyle choices. Seriously. Some women forever carry the extra weight. And that's OK! Some women don't. And that's OK! I bounced back pretty quick. Within 6 months. I was in the military, spent my 20s fit, had a baby, worked out after, and I have great genetics in my family so the weight dropped off without me trying too hard. It just happened. How your body responds to pregnancy is so individual and no one should require women to look a certain way in a certain…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/01/22 01:03 AM
42	The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling. This is so fucking true. Keeping the house clean is easier. Managing kids is easier because you don't have to also manage a man-child. You don't have the extra headache of delegating chores to a POS who will never do them. You don't fight anymore so all your free time is yours. You don't have to worry about someone spending all your hard-earned money. AND! Ppl like to say you'll never be wanted as a divorced single mom. LIES! I have never had a better rotation. I am vetting and rejecting left an…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/22 01:56 PM
3	To those who were cheated on and took back their exes for a “second chance” how did it change you emotionally/mentally? What gave you the strength to leave? He ramped up the gaslighting after I took him back. Did his best to try and convince me that he didn't do anything wrong. Tried to insist that me being upset about it was a result of me not dealing with my childhood trauma....what childhood trauma? At one point he said he was coerced into taking responsibility for something he didn't do. At a certain point you just snap. You get so fed up with fighting and it becomes clear they have no remorse for their behavior. I read books on abuse and trauma…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/21 09:56 AM
3	Strategy: How to know if a man is only after YOUR money and success He makes jokes about wanting a sugar momma. This one can be clever. He might only make the joke a couple times, but watch. When he needs to show up financially, he won't. He will set the stage in small ways so that HE isn't expected to provide financially. He'll praise your success, encourage you to go after more. But it's because he sees you as a cash cow. ASK ME HOW I KNOW! Also, just recently stopped talking to a dude because he mentioned needing a sugar momma IN OUR FIRST CONVERSATION.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/12/21 09:18 PM
3	Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away? This is 100% true. My ex loved the validation he received from therapy but he was never honest with her. He even lied all over his intake paperwork about what his issues were and what his behavior was like	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/21 08:42 PM
63	Don't fall for the "I was planning to/going to do xyz...for Christmas" Same. Told him he never took me on dates. He said he took me out a couple weeks prior. I pointed out that he didn't confirm the date and the NIGHT OF told me I needed my COVID paperwork, which was at work and not with me, so we couldn't go. I told him it's not a date if we don't go and he can't take credit for an event that didn't happen. Apparently that was a scandalous hot take. Now he's an ex.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/21 05:45 PM
211	Don't fall for the "I was planning to/going to do xyz...for Christmas" After hearing that one too many times, I started immediately responding with, "but you didn't. So it doesn't count." Turns out they don't like it when you say the thought didn't count. Nah, bruv. It doesn't count. I judge on actions and you didn't do jack.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/21 03:54 PM
47	Can we hear your LVM break up stories? I discovered texts between him and 2 women on his phone. I thought something was up weeks ago but had no proof, but still brought it to his attention. He called me crazy, said I needed therapy. Turns out these were the women and I HAD been right. I show him the messages, tell him "so you WERE cheating on me." He said,"but I didn't meet them in person." I literally laughed, told him to get out of my house, and served him with divorce papers 2 weeks later. I should have left much earlier, but I'm …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/21 08:07 PM
72	Man in a hetero relationship doesn't do housework -> solution = "get a cleaner!!!!" I have chronic pain issues. I have absolutely had cleaners come in as a way of practicing self-care. And I've absolutely had cleaners come in because my partner wasn't pulling their weight. Never again. I will not hire a service to compensate for my partner's extraordinary laziness. I don't even want THEM to hire a service to compensate for their laziness. Because if they can't pull their weight in that area, they're likely not pulling their weight in others, AND I don't want laziness-inspired s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/21 03:17 PM
18	No more one sided relationships in 2022. I already prepared for this. Dumped my ex for this EXACT reason. 2022 is a scrote-free year for me and it's gonna be fucking glorious	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/21 02:00 AM
92	50/50 trap, listen to this queen! My former marriage is in this picture and.....it's completely accurate. RUN, BITCHES! IT AIN'T WORTH IT	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/12/21 07:52 PM
38	What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”? Men who can't be fucked to ask you a single question about yourself	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 11:52 PM
70	The First Time He Uses Your Trauma/Insecurity Against You Should Be Last Time I am fine with disclosing my history and trauma to those I'm close with because I'm not ashamed of it and being reminded of it does not harm me. So I do tell partners about my history....but I don't tell them that I'm immune to it being used as blackmail. Two of them eventually tried. These idiots thought by throwing my past in my face I'd be embarrassed into silence. I simply informed them that my past is not something that pains me and all they did was show me they are untrustworthy. Then I du…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/21 08:14 PM