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A girls weekend usually carries with it all of the cultural symbols you might expect. “Finally, it’s her chance to let her hair down and just have fun, dance a little, drink a little and get high on life” This usually translates to your girl being hit on constantly. Peer pressured into dancing/interacting with the guy group and depending on her friends and character, encouraged to cheat because “no one else will know”. Anyone who’s run game in tourist hotspots has met many of these types. Usuall…
/r/askTRP10/05/19 10:03 PM
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Problem you’re gonna have with LTR’ng is that every time they go out you’re gonna know that the friend is drawing attention to both the girls and groups of guys are gonna be all over her. How much that bothers you depends on you, but the problem you may run into is this; this girl is either gonna live vicariously through her friend or directly want to play a part in the attention. The best idea is to plate with the vague idea of future commitment and observe how she handles this. Does she follow…
/r/askTRP09/05/19 08:33 PM
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The UK is really not in a good place, anywhere outside tier 1 city is depressing and it grinds on you like nothing else. The scene you described is played out multiple times a day in every city in the UK. Only you live your life, and for me I left the UK as soon as I could. Work and save something solid to move, consider teaching English etc but remember the longer you stay, the more chance you run of ending up with ties and excuses too.
/r/askTRP08/05/19 09:44 PM
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Probably anxiety/nerves thing and not allowing yourself to feel it. I recommend Sex God Method for reading. First time is never as society has built it. But now you’ll go through a period of enjoying and getting better at sex. Then you’ll likely find that it’s not everything in life as you once thought, and you’ll focus on your pursuit of mission and other forms of expression like the arts for example.
/r/askTRP22/04/19 08:52 AM
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This is more like a philosophy based question. If you really got into the state that you only ever want to do what you wanted to do with your precious time and could guarantee that thing would make you happier than going with the group then you’re fine. But then you’ve got to weigh friendship vs self interest. You may not want to do the activity but you’ll miss out on the bonding if you decline. As to if it works in your favour, it depends on what you’re doing with that time. Is the rest of your…
/r/askTRP22/04/19 08:43 AM
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Desire cannot be negotiated. Without more information it’s difficult to tell you where it’s gone wrong. Too much time together? Too much comfort? Poor/unvaried sex? Acting Weak? Entering Frame? Depression? Etc, etc. You’ve gotta look back, find the reason and learn the lesson. For now you need to Dread and options. Start being more receptive to other women and realise your value. Too many guys next at this stage, and I get it. But you’re in an LTR for two reasons, either scarcity or because you …
/r/askTRP21/04/19 07:47 PM
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The problem you have is that there’s such a heavy dependency on blue pill notions by the age of 65/70 that the mental break away of having to mentally assess all of your invested beliefs can likely destroy that person on a core level. Roll writes about how difficult it is for men to look back at all of the mistakes they’ve made, but doing this at 30 gives you 20- 30 years to maximise whatever potential you have and change you life to one of abundance. I’ve been in this exact situation and my adv…
/r/askTRP20/04/19 05:30 PM
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he even agrees too but he has never made a real change or an effort to change. Books rarely help this mentality imo. You gotta break first to realise where you need fixing. Most people know what they should do, but few ever put in the effort to make these changes. He’s about to hit the real world though, so I’d second 48 laws as it’s less self help based.
/r/askTRP20/04/19 01:15 PM
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In searching for the right one you will get none. When I’m older I’d much prefer to live like Vasily or FerallyRed and have a multitude of excited submissive women that really want me because it’s more in line with my nature. Another ideal situation would be a main girl to have the connection with, and to help you dominate/play with your other girls. The one is a nice concept and I can see why you cling to it, but the end game is rarely worth the candle. If you want children then sure, move to o…
/r/askTRP18/04/19 01:13 PM
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One of the problems I see with many guys is that by default we believe in what we’re told by society and movies. The image is that the girl gets teary eyed over your battle with this condition, pulls you close and kisses you and your connection is forever deepened. This is further perpetuated by our victim culture. In reality though your relationship is dependent upon your ability to arouse your girl and going into something like this begins to eat at your alpha positioning within the context of…
/r/askTRP18/04/19 12:59 PM
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Sounds like a classic lack of arousal to be honest. Almost all girls have a slutty adventurous side which all but the most blue of men get to see in the early part of the relationship. You feel great and desired and she feels submissive and desiring to please. Also a common theme in the book “no more mr nice guy” in which guys like yourself do not stand firm and declare that they have needs and instead bury them. Sustaining initial arousal and bringing it out further is where most people fail in…
/r/askTRP18/04/19 07:56 AM
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It’s like when people ask “why do you ride motorbikes? It’s so dangerous” and then you see all of the people your age dying of random shit or getting diseases. MMA isn’t good for you, but it’ll teach you a lot. I agree jujitsu for example is a healthier alternative but I think it’s all how you look at life and if you place enjoyment/now over future.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 11:11 AM
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Imo they don’t lose attraction but they do lose arousal, which is bad. I think this depends on a few things, like if you’re temporarily sick and you make a game of her being your nurse maid then it’s good. If you’re in pain and weak and start leaning on her for that maternal type support then you’re gonna dry her up in my experience. I remember one post in the main sub about a guy in an LTR who had an AutoImmune disease and after recovery he had to deal with the loss of arousal. On the flip side…
/r/askTRP31/03/19 09:06 AM
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The worlds are different in some ways, similar in others. There’s a market place like SMV, but here it’s “skills market value” and your options depend on how valuable you are to the market. Blue pill is believing that your passion is everything, or that if you just try hard enough you’ll success, and you just need to be yourself and skills aren’t important. Red pill is constant improvement and working on getting valuable skills or positions that make either the master dependent on you, or make y…
/r/askTRP31/03/19 08:41 AM
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It was hard to read your post without paragraphs. But it sounds like your biggest problem is that your skills aren’t economically valuable. It’s great to have a passion but if it doesn’t provide enough value then you’ll always struggle for options. I assume the rarity of your subject means that there’s not high demand for it, so you couldn’t consider even going on your own/ private tutoring? I’d definitely be looking at fields with more options based on my quick read.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 06:32 AM
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She leaves without seeing me the last week of her stay. Women will move mountains for the right level of desire. This isn’t a girl who wanted what you were selling that badly. You should have made contact once, with firm place and time (rarely ever put ball in her court) and then hit up other girls and focused on other things. One week before she had to leave to study for 2 months she says she has too many people to see. If she wanted you, she’d have found time for sure. At this point you should…
/r/askTRP31/03/19 06:21 AM
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There aren’t fast tracks to success but there’s definetely faster. On the coding thing though - Are you really going to want to learn to code? Have you ever tried? Reddit makes out like it’s an easy skill that you just practice in your spare time and will land you a job. Whilst it’s possible to do this you have to know that most juniors are a loss to their employer for for some time. And you have to convince them that you’re better than all of the comp sci graduates and boot campers. I’ts deffo …
/r/askTRP22/03/19 11:54 AM
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Basically you just keep putting it off hoping it’s not going to happen whilst nothing changes and respect is lost.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 02:50 PM
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This is the problem with most LTRs. Society and technology has normalised the idea that it’s acceptable as a girl to privately talk and openly flirt with other guys whilst committed. The girl obviously passes it off as harmless and lots of girls have guy friends - you’re just insecure. Are you though? Maybe you are. Maybe (idk you) You’re scared because you’ve committed you emotions to this one girl and now her actions have the ability to control how you feel. How long have you had this sinking …
/r/askTRP21/03/19 09:25 AM
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Eh more men than you think. Look at porn - everyone knows it’s not great for you and many people want to quit but they’ve rigged their biology to that hit now. With women it’s a case of what society says us attrsctive vs what is biologically arousing - definetely not the same.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 07:56 PM
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Seconded the other guy. College LTR? Nahhh fam enjoy that prime campus pussy and don’t worry about this stuff. College aged girls are almost always gonna follow societies path and run through the party years.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 07:21 PM
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Why not just do both?
/r/askTRP20/03/19 06:59 PM
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I was excluded from school and here’s the thing.. What led up your exclusion is probably you being you. Your truest alpha self. I was excluded for ... basically everything (drugs, fighting, sex, never attending) I just felt this intense anger and it made me very attractive - but this isn’t what society wants. Society wants you to be a good boy and get your good grades and do well in school. And there’s merit to this - you won’t enjoy the alpha sex of your younger years but when you’re making €€€…
/r/askTRP20/03/19 06:57 PM
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If you can’t leverage these apps then commit to day game it’s far more rewarding and you’ll feel far better. You’ll also develop important skills like confidence, social ability, conversational ability and charisma
/r/askTRP20/03/19 06:34 PM
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Life is like gambling bro. No one knows you but for every HB9 you approach there’s a % of her reciprocating. There higher your SMV the higher your % of conversion. Your job is to move in their circles and behave in an attractive way. Guys get caught up on looks because it’s the way they believe the world works. Looks are massively important but alpha/dominant/powerful behaviour without seeking validation is the real aroisal cue. So you’ve gotta play the game, and enjoy the game. It’s like people…
/r/askTRP20/03/19 06:05 PM
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Often this is to see if you’re gonna go “oh no! I (don’t) care so much! I’m (a big pussy) so sorry for you) and she can put you in the orbiter box or if you’re gonna be better. Other times it just conversation bait for you to game with.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 05:42 PM
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Long term: If you don’t have a religion already consider looking into Buddhism. A non-secular view from the many talks of Alan watts can completely change your perspective. You’ll learn about your ego, learn about attachment and in the long term you’ll sort out the need for validation and you’ll see why it’s both important and a hinderance. Short term: There are 7 days in a week. Every day commit to one area of those things you want to be and have a checklist of missions to complete daily. You’l…
/r/askTRP20/03/19 05:40 PM
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Have you moved on though? By now you should have enough plates and missions in your life that you don’t care about what other people are doing. These things roll off you if you have abundance mindset. Use your fuel from this to actively game other girls. The “leave your life” thing is because we like to project idealistic fantasies into other people. You’ll feel it again after a few different women - but once it happens twice you’ll be like “Ah, now I see”.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 08:42 AM
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Quit porn and replace the energy from that with everything else you want to achieve. Tomorrow sign up to a gym. Then a martial art and commit for a month at least. Most people I see can’t even quit porn. If you do the above you’ll have lost one bad vice and gained two deep self development hobbies. And schedule everything or at least have some accountability.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 08:11 PM
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Controversial advice but imo I’d just dedicate actual time to learning to game and chase women. You’re 18, you’re a lion on the prowl and your biology is giving you everything you need to enjoy the game. Refusing it’s a bit like the catholic girl conundrum. The more you refuse everything the more it’s amplified. No more porn, either learn to use social media for SMV building or get rid, hit the gym and pursue masculine pursuits. Commit to meditation and introspection. Dedicate one night to readi…
/r/askTRP18/03/19 05:20 AM
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Very little as she understood why, but was suffering from the peer pressure side. Her family and friends were heavily invested in the “free girl” sentiment but she had more traditional values. But imo most of these situations do end in resentment or a power change, especially if she can’t rationalise that you’re worth staying for. I’d say just be careful and watch for signs of resentment/changes. You’ll know pretty soon if it’s gonna be worth continuing with.
/r/askTRP17/03/19 07:54 PM
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Roosh V - Day Bang. Should be on his website
/r/askTRP17/03/19 05:10 PM
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No way man, she was unsure if she should and I said “do what you want but our values will differ there” and in the end she chose the relationship. The leading comes in not breaking and giving in even if there’s fallout. You stand by whatever your values are and don’t DEER.
/r/askTRP17/03/19 05:09 PM
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I posted this reply to your deleted post yesterday.. It’s understanding man. You’re talking to what you think girls are. You’ve learned this from movies and culture - but it’s not how it works. Whatever game you run if it’s slow “catch the cat” day game or direct SMV night game - it’s all about taking to pussy. You’re not talking to the girl. They get talked to all day and want to chill. You’re talking to their arousal. Understand what makes a woman aroused. Immerse yourself in them, commit to l…
/r/askTRP17/03/19 12:58 PM
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Take a look at my post history for a thread on this. Whatever your thoughts are on girls holidays the fact is that this is an aspect of society that they feel entitled to whilst in an LTR. Your decision comes down to your own beliefs, experiences and gut feeling. My advice is make a decision now and stand resolutely by it.Talking doesn’t help. Few girls actively go abroad to cheat, but what happens once there? You either say this is against your values and you lead her through this and see where…
/r/askTRP17/03/19 12:14 PM
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Could be many things but here’s two of the most common: You’ve never really made game your life. Club life gets boring for most people really quickly but the problem is if you begin there - you create a direct form of game there and it skews your views on everything. Game should always be fun. It’s a thrill to close a hot girl in a coffee shop or the mall. Club game is mostly about SMV and saying direct things to often very loose girls. After a while these girls aren’t fun to spend time with bec…
/r/askTRP17/03/19 07:08 AM
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Some people just vibe with solo nights better. Their personality is better matched to going out and drawing that energy. It’s also hit and miss. Going to expat bars alone in a new country is usually very good because of a shared bond, going to your own city not so much. The real thing with solo nights is you need to be high level confident and project an aura of a fun person to be with. You need to open groups of guys and girls and create conversations that give your being alone an authenticity.…
/r/askTRP16/03/19 03:01 PM
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Turning to feminism isn’t seen as disrespect for most of society today though. In fact it’s quite the opposite, societies narrative is very much “free the woman” and just stating you’re a feminist as a woman is standard. By the point they’re considering playing out the feminine duel mating directive, they’ve likely rationalised beyond their current mans SMV, so that ceases to be an issue.
/r/askTRP16/03/19 12:13 PM
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It’s understanding man. You’re talking to what you think girls are. You’ve learned this from movies and culture - but it’s not how it works. Whatever game you run if it’s slow “catch the cat” day game or direct SMV night game - it’s all about taking to pussy. You’re not talking to the girl. They get talked to all day and want to chill. You’re talking to their arousal. Understand what makes a woman aroused. Immerse yourself in them, commit to learning - what really gets a woman rationalising ever…
/r/askTRP16/03/19 08:56 AM
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A lot of it’s self confidence. When you feel high and believe you could attain a good body you eat clean to work towards it. But then you see the bad food at a low moment and you lose the self belief and it becomes a cycle. Try keeping a schedule too. Live by the routine and make it your life. That’s what gets done. Plan your meals 3 days or a week ahead and chow down. Everything logged and checked for self-accountability. If you want it enough - this should be enough.
/r/askTRP16/03/19 06:58 AM
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In some cases it occurs when a woman who previously had the seed of discontent sowed into her life earlier now looks to feminism to support her desire for open cuckoldry so her pussy can stop being oppressed. (So she can fulfil a duel mating strategy). Also can be for attention. Women get bored easily in LTR’s if you don’t give them a joint mission you both work on. And if they’re bored the first step is to vicariously live through any form of “free the woman” they can find. But if you’re seeing…
/r/askTRP16/03/19 06:48 AM
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Sounds like they diddnt see you as valuable. You offered no value to them so they didn’t care for your conversations. In situations like that just learn to realise that life’s short and have fun. Crack jokes and inside things. Tell funny stories and engage from within. Sometimes you don’t fit in and that’s life. Just learn to create conversation that at least gets you on the level. Resources can be books like How to win friends etc But I wouldn’t do this again if I were you.
/r/askTRP14/03/19 10:51 AM
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Firstly all of rollo’s books are required reading imo. But most of it is just awareness. Knowing when to provide comfort, when to be strong etc. You can’t be just one all of the time. Plate potential is always important. I don’t have plates because it doesn’t align with my values - but the potential to have them needs to always be demonstrated in a natural way. This is basically being attractive and outwardly personable with other women and being playful in general. Be the lovable flirt who ever…
/r/askTRP14/03/19 10:32 AM
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She went on a date with another guy and lied to you about this when quizzed. This isn’t about taking or not taking a trip anymore. You deserve better. Leave this behind and go be better and attract better into your life.
/r/askTRP14/03/19 09:35 AM
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I ain’t got time for this shit. You may be overthinking the rude thing.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 07:23 PM
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Depends. Some girls are just naturally nice and out going without an underlying arousal element. But most girls aren’t nice to low SMV people. Low SMV guys are mostly ignored and cling to every kind interaction. Just don’t get caught in the “oh the cashier was nice to me, must be an IOI!” Thing.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 07:22 PM
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Interesting. In that case I’d go to interesting places by myself and start reingaging the girls imagination. Show her you don’t need her etc - should break any comfort test. As for the picnic, depends on the girl and both of your personalities and what you find tickles the inner child.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 03:12 PM
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Sounds like a test. Could be that you need to inject peak emotions. Do something unexpected this weekend. Impromptu trip, child like picnic and dominant sex. Too many guys become so stiff that the higher smv still doesn’t create that arousal.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 01:57 PM
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I think that not every girl subscribes to this but it’s like a societal free pass. The icon of a free wild girl who just “messes around for fun” is seen as the female archetype to aspire to. If you mean, will the girl be happy eventually that depends on if she exits the game and tries to secure a LTR or as is common now - tries to ride out the free spirit far beyond its use. Definitely not LTR for me, but these type of girls are fun to enjoy for what they offer. As a young man with a mission the…
/r/askTRP13/03/19 01:36 PM
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Very valid point. Gotta vet this carefully for sure.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 01:28 PM
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The problem is overthinking too. Check out pooks work on recapturing your child like state. Learn to play your life, not sit around thinking about it all day. Helped me anyway. People who spend all day thinking “what did that mean” “what did this mean” are using up valuable energy resources.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 12:42 PM
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From a guys objectivity yes. But from a biological POV she’s probably going to be doing far better with far more options. And really that’s a big importance in life. She’s now free to ride the CC. Plus side is, you’re free to enjoy all the other girls you like too.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 12:31 PM
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It’s possibly a very good sign, believe it is and appreciate it. But don’t get fixated on these interactions man. “Did she like me?” “Was it flirting?” “Am I now validated high SMV?” It doesn’t matter because they walked out of the door. Take the next step and approach girls in real life. Books like daybang would be useful for you.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 12:27 PM
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What you likely have here is someone who’s heavily invested in the modern “Let’s just be free and open and not have any constraints” type. A lot of people are like that now. Kissing someone else is no big deal because it just happened and it was “for the hell of it”. This isn’t the type of girl you’d want to LTR but could be fun if you can remove investment. If you’re <35 these kinds of girls are great to bring other girls into play with and fulfil fantasies. Just don’t be suprised when it’s “oh…
/r/askTRP13/03/19 12:22 PM
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Depending on how you apply IDGAF, it often has more nuances than most believe. Not caring about opinions and looking like a hobo (not the mysterious/dark triad type) is unlikely to make you feel good, or get you laid. But acting like you have value you don’t is obvious. Imo the best abundance is once you’ve worked on yourself and you’re inner confident. You may not be the wealthiest or most attractive on a global scale, but walk into any room and you bring that presence that makes insecure peopl…
/r/askTRP10/03/19 03:23 PM
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From experience this can be a few things - 1) She’s heard about how you’ve moved on and now she’s feeling insecure about her choices. The part about discussing leading up to it can be: A) Reframe for confirmation bias. Explanation - often after a breakup girls especially ask if they might have been in the wrong. They’ll usually cling to like minded friends for confo bias but it can still gnaw away at them. To combat this they renengage with you so they get the “victory” of shaming you for whatev…
/r/askTRP10/03/19 03:10 PM
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Maybe worth reviewing the sections of “epiphany phase” in rational male 2/3 just to understand a common trajectory. From my experience there are situations where a woman approaching this phase will “lock in” the provider male with overt displays of affection that tail off once the male succumbs to being deeply over invested. But really nothing changes for you, RP principals still apply - abundance, frame, self improvement and plate potential.
/r/askTRP04/02/19 11:15 AM
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A lot of women will dig a bad boy/dark triad narrative or a “came from nothing made it big” story. Imo IDGAF is key here plus looking at why you feel inferior as that’s not an objective truth.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 07:00 PM
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Imo these kind of things sort themselves and never trouble you when you have real alternative options in play. It’s like women can sense it.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 12:35 PM
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On this level what worked best for me is incremental withdrawal. Ensure your area is set up for work or dedicate a specific area for it and then give yourself rest times to engage in social media/game whatever. Over time reduce this time whilst increasing your “flow” state with your job and opting for alternative replacement things for rest breaks. Over time as my projects began getting more involved I found myself with less desire to get the social media fixes. I also found keeping a day planne…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 01:24 PM
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Firstly you need to define your motivaton to quit. Then you need to work on the underlying reasons you became addicted and most importantly you need to develop strategies and plans for doings things that will operate over your old habitual neural pathways. If you’re addicted to video games and your current strategy is sitting in your house trying to resist then you need to create some tasks, goals and missions that involve things outside etc. Over time you stop habitually engaging in these short…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 12:40 PM
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Not at all man, it’s important you get your own perspective on things. The reason is multi faceted so I’ll give an overview of my perspective- If you follow Rollo’s advice then the idea is that your SMV begins to mature at age 30 as you have more power and freedom in your life. But the real key is that the 20’s are a great time to explore your options and realise your worth + abundance which makes you far more able to deal with an LTR later, likewise plating multiple girls gives you sharper red …
/r/askTRP26/01/19 07:21 PM
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I know it’s harder advice to follow than it is to apply but I’d really avoid getting into LTR’s until you’re 30+. It seems like the girl is hot for you now, especially as you’ve been able to stay detached so I’d say consider her as a plate and don’t over invest. But since you called her your “oneitis” be careful with sniper mentality. It’s the weekend, go out and game some other girls and see how you feel.
/r/askTRP26/01/19 05:37 PM
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I’ve followed Pooks advice for many years and just tap into my youthful fun side. Most people spend all day listening to dull boring life stuff and so when you’re with a girl you’ve gotta know how to relax. It’s not so much about what you say as how you act and project. I see so many guys who think recounting their deep philosophical thoughts is a good tactic. Personally I think it’s just about creating a vibe, if you project the posivity, own the room you’ll get it back and also I personally li…
/r/askTRP26/01/19 02:43 PM
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I know it’s bad advice but If I was in this situation I’d probably wait it out and prepare an exit strategy. I run these kinda work things through a “life is too short” filter - and this melodrama of you vs the woman and office is just going to slow you down and at worse escalate to more serious action which she will feel justified for by the support of her colleagues which if they aren’t on your side - appear to be feverishly awaiting what the pantomime villain will do next. Alternatively if I …
/r/askTRP26/01/19 09:57 AM
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There’s so much to unpack here that I’m not sure any advice you get here would help. Lifting, meditation and staying away from all vices would help but imo you’ve got a damaged world view that needs to be changed from a core level. I think what you’re experiencing is more common than you may think and I believe it begins from deep rooted inferiority and low self worth and manifests itself into pornographic outlets. I’ve seen many people on these forums with similar issues over the years. I think…
/r/askTRP25/01/19 11:11 AM
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Always appreciated your no-nonsense views over the years Vasiliy - and I can see you’re spot on and you’ve writ large exactly what is unfolding here. I can see I’ve been too paralysed by the emotional investment. I’m going to wait one week to see if she accepts the choice she made to stay if not it’s next and hit up plates. No interest in being with someone who’s going to feel like our relationship robs them of a life they want to live.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 10:47 AM
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Appreciate an alternative option view man we just different views & values I think.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 10:33 AM
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u/throwawayycheyeah - Yeah I see it playing out like you say. I’d like to think she’ll choose not to go and get past this but previous experience tells me it’s not likely to fall that way. Thanks for the in-depth advice. u/FiftyShadesOfSwole - agreed man, anyone whose travelled knows how it goes down as a single guy. I do agree it could be a green flag if she doesn’t go but that depends on if she makes peace with it or doesn’t move past it and turns bitter. u/Rkingpin - exactly. That’s why I ref…
/r/askTRP24/01/19 10:24 AM
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You’re missing out The experiences and learning even if you don’t close. In my experience as long as you don’t bring it up before she’s got deep tingles for you then you’ll be fine. Also why do you live at home? It’s far more common than you think in our society so don’t feel too bad - but if it is money/opportunity related - getting yourself out there and gaming & networking can only help.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 08:13 AM
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In my experience discipline is working through those moments in which your body/mind is telling you no - and pushing through it to see the reward at the end. Also I find compartment strategies good. Break any big thing into smaller steps and work on just accomplishing those. In addition maybe try using a day planner/schedule - there won’t be many “big game changer” tasks to begin with but there’s always things you’re not holding yourself accountable for, like not going to the gym because you’re …
/r/askTRP24/01/19 08:07 AM
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I’d say change your mental health care plan because the issues seem pretty deep and I’m not sure getting pussy is going to give you what you think you need. There’s no shame in being lost but I think you need to look at if this is really all about your ability to acquire sex, and if it is - what roots have you found that are placing such a high importance on this that you might have a breakdown? It’s a natural drive for sure but a content life can be lived in celebicy as per monks. It’s not that…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 07:39 PM
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By being what you want to attract and moving in those circles. It takes time to build that network but the more you get invested in things like the gym, martial arts and other pursuits that require discipline the more you’ll meet people who have strong self respect and whose friendship carries actual value.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 06:36 PM
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I’d be more concerned about why I traveled to many places in the world and am having to contemplate buying fake friends and followers for female validation. If you want to stay with and utilise social media you’ll get so much more reward out of authentically putting in the hard work to network and build your presence - it’ll feel real and your validation won’t be hollow. But personally I’d look at utilising real world connections and seeing how far you can go with building plates/friendships and…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:52 PM
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Well if you’ve arranged drinks with a girl first, then take her to the club and she decides she prefers someone else then you’re going to be pretty depressed. May also be that clubs just aren’t your natural set. Clubs are known as major pick up places and I see that from one point, but imo they’re not the best and the people getting the most action are often deeply involved/promoter etc with the club. As for answering your question directly, it’s just practice. You learn to control the switch in…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:36 PM
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I’m from a similar background to you so here’s my outside view - either turn your difference into a selling point, because being positively unique is always going to be interesting/intriguing. Or learn to play their social game and network with these people, I guess they may prove very useful in your future. On a side note don’t forget that in the real world the street smarts, the hard work and the suffering you get from a tough background will take you far - so don’t start feeling ashamed of th…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:01 PM
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This attitude will hold you back because you’re obsessing about the things you can’t change and appear to be doing nothing about the things that are in your circle of influence. Hence the feeling of being helpless. In the end all the things you should change become so overwhelming that even sitting with them is emotionally exhausting and so in the end many people simply never change their direction and would rather suffer the eternal comfort of a known pain then go through the pain of change and…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 03:47 PM
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Best way is to get into their environment. Move within their circles and enjoy the networking process. There must be some free time to game otherwise next best thing is probably dating apps etcs.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 03:36 PM
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Success with general attraction - Abundance mentality, good life/social proof with hard earned results (good body, money to be free) and good looks. Success with casual sex - A specific look, your own game, attitude Success with LTR - Abundance/plate potential, self improvement and attitude
/r/askTRP23/01/19 03:26 PM
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Try it and see. Its not a major commitment unless you’ve got deeper problems to begin with. But imo expecting nofap to boost your confidence paradoxically shows a lack of confidence to begin with. I think the reality is we’ve got a generation of young men out of touch with their masculine sexuality and hooked on pleasure devices so obviously once you engage back in the real world your drive is going to recalibrate.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 02:58 PM
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It’s try hard If you’re doing it all for the validation and acceptance you think you desperately need. An example is those times you’ve been on the way to the gym etc and some spontaneous conversation with a hot girl arises and you don’t think about your responses even though you’re interested - you just do them and it’s easy. That’s the Zen of interaction & attraction.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 02:51 PM
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Isn’t the saying that a mans home is his castle? She pulled down the draw bridge and let an invader in likely just to see your reaction.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 02:20 PM
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As much as you let it be. If you focus on it then of course it’ll bring any of negative emotions you connect to it to the front of your mind. Or you can reframe and go about your schedules/goals.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:35 PM
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