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You sound like a wonderfully understanding and receptive woman (and he sounds lucky to be with you). I was just thinking that there may be various risque things he sees online - and it may be hard to be open about such things. But anyway, sounds like you have been bold to bring up this sensitive topic, and have handled it very well. Unfortunately porn (and many things online) can have quite negative and addictive ramifications.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:29 PM
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Now that he is making a big step to improve the intimacy situation and, opening up in quite a personal way about his own sexuality, I thing its wise for you to be very understanding about his situation. Maybe offer to indulge his fantasies verbally while you are being intimate with him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 05:32 PM
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Excellent comments!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 06:52 AM
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From your comments it sounds like firing is in evitable. As soon as your husband can pull the trigger and say ‘you’re fired’ the sooner everyone’s lives will be much better.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 01:37 PM
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When you are truly a winner, many people around you will try to bring you down to their level because they are jealous of you. Realize that their negative comments about your reflect a projection of their own shortcomings.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 03:25 AM
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Excellent post! All of the replies going back and forth tell me there is much to be learned and debated here. This board probably needs a bit more disagreement in order to stay active.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 05:10 PM
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To look for attractive instantly, give people a big warm inviting smile. Its may be the most important physical change you could make.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 06:19 PM
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Be sure to send this to the property manager of your college dorm. There is no excuse for them to keep it at 60-64 - this is completely mismanaging this property. If they do not give you a good response, ask for the property owner's contact information. If it were my daughter in this situation, I would have make sure the heat was turned up same day.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 06:38 PM
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Is this a dealbreaker for men? Frankly - men (including him) probably don't even notice to tone of your skin. Focus on making him happy, which is something you can control.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 04:44 PM
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From a HVM's perspective / mindset - it may be a benefit for her not be too absorbed in some lofty profession. I would rather her have more time for me, our family and home. I can earn all the income she would ever want.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 03:54 PM
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Here are a few words it would be great to see from a woman. - Feminine, smile, thankful, dresses, nurturing, slim.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 03:46 PM
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I kiss and hug her every morning. Seeing her beautiful smile and giggles when I kiss/tickle her ear is priceless! - And its been 25 years!
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 03:45 AM
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Well I think you are cute!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 12:40 AM
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I question that you are ugly. A number of people think they are ugly, but in reality many others disagree. What feed back have you gotten from others about your looks?
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 10:28 PM
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But most of all, watch out for the Poly Sci guys! - can very manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 04:39 AM
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Just remember both guys and girls at 18 are very young and often still finding their way. An 18 year old guy will likely make a number of mistakes - try to keep that in mind, and you might avoid a little heart ache.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 04:38 AM
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Let me give just a brief response. There are various things going on in this text to him. I might kinda short circuit - and not want to respond if I were him. How about get together with him and handle this in person.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 02:17 PM
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Translation - 'I am glad you brought this up. I am not looking for a serious relationship with you at this time. But, I get the impression you are (so be aware that I am not)'.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 03:25 AM
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Sounds like he only what’s you for sex, but he does not commit to you. Hence he doesn’t sound like what you’re looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 12:28 PM
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Thanks for sharing. OK - Here are some thoughts. And this is coming from a much older man, but having much contact me men and women your age. To summarize, the issues as I see them are 5-6 looks, tall height, somewhat awkward socially. I'll basically stay away from discussing beauty, but this issue sounds at the core of your situation. But, one idea is get a glamorous hair - think sexy redhead from the 50's. Regarding the height issue, you can compensate by creating great feminine traits in othe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 12:09 AM
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Please tell us more about you. Otherwise, the suggestions are somewhat random. How has your dating gone in the past? How would you characterize your looks situation? What is your personality like? Any particular problems that have occurred that you are trying to address? - The underlying key is to take complete responsibility for your own situation, rather than just living with the hand you were dealt.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 03:50 AM
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On a final note, does anyone have any suggestions for what to do with my unfulfilled maternal instinct? Still get married - and to a man who already has children.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 09:32 PM
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When it comes to dishes that are worth mastering, the humble frittata is at the top. After all, was there ever a more adaptable, crowd-pleasing recipe? Frittatas can be whipped up quickly and cheaply, be eaten hot or at room temperature, and allow you to use up practically any ingredient you happen to have on hand. They can be made in a skillet, baked in muffin tins, or even cooked in an air fryer. You can make them vegetarian like our Spinach and Potato Frittata, go meat heavy with a Bacon Chee…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 11:52 PM
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Thanks for your beautiful words!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 11:48 PM
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But there are many men married to women who are not in the process of having new children (with say older married women), and even for those who are, and chances of pregnancy with a woman’s affair are fairly remote.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 04:11 PM
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Thanks - I was just asking for a friend. 😀😀
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:44 PM
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Well said - you sound quite knowledgeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:19 PM
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What is his YT site?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:16 PM
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I would argue the same HVM won’t really mind all that much if their wives have a little discreet fun as well. Its actually a little justification for their own actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:13 PM
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How do you define cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:05 PM
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To call to the sub r/breakingmom ‘a pretty toxic environment’ is like saying that Arsenic is unhealthy for you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 03:45 PM
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Nice comments here. Thanks for posting. People in non-traditional work have the same feelings as others.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 03:17 PM
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A quick thought - why not text him wishing him a great time with his friends. Tell him you were very disappointed he couldn’t spend the weekend with you, and you didn’t mean to make him feel bad about that before he left.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 02:35 PM
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What is his side of the story?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 02:26 PM
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https://ketogenic.com/ketogenic-diet-and-autism/ https://charliefoundation.org/am-i-a-candidate/keto-for-autism/ https://paleofoundation.com/ketogenic-diet-autism-treatment/ https://www.ruled.me/autism-ketogenic-diet/ 23 of the 30 children tolerated the diet beyond the initial four weeks, and of those, five more discontinued the diet due to lack of improvement. Of the remaining 18 kids, two boys improved enough in symptoms to be taken out of special education classes and placed in mainstream edu…
/r/askTRP03/04/21 06:22 AM
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Yes - spend at least 60 minutes a day following Richard Cooper's advice - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuKqtwPO5ci5_KoZGbfl33g I am quite familiar with such mental health issues, and there is so much progress you can make. If you wrote the the above comment, I would not characterize your situation as 'severe autism'. You have potential. There is much in the way of natural cures involving nutrition like the Keto Diet. Having a quiet life can be wonderfully rewarding.
/r/askTRP03/04/21 05:16 AM
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What can I do besides lift, eat food to put on mass, and keep making money? What's relevant in 2021 for me to read besides the sidebar given my current situation? Take a cure from Rich Cooper and do the following: First - you look fine as you are - instead pursue excellent in your career, wealth and your passions. We have all had issues in our lives such as parents who could have been much better - turn that pain into a burning desire to change that situation for life. Make a 15-year gameplan th…
/r/askTRP03/04/21 05:05 AM
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Thanks for this great post and example! I work with a number of younger men & women, and I can clearly see they often need a fair amount of help navigating relationships. (I'm an older guy in 50's) I try to do what I can to provide an example and some guidance. This is a great reminder to have a good strategy with a few red pill-oriented messages to pass to those in the right place who you think may benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 04:43 AM
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Please read this post multiple times! Relationships only work if they are in person. Also - outside of the religion conflict - don't know that opposite politics would work either.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 08:54 PM
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Sounds like you are already doing a wonderful job. One idea - find out what his absolutely favorite desert or snack is, and while you're curled up for netflix, surprise him by having it ready for him in advance. I'm thinking icecream with a fudge brownie (heated up) inside! :):)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 08:48 PM
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Well - in that case the problems do seem to be in his head rather than actual financial stress impacting your lifestyle. Wonder if the pandemic/economy is impacting the business in a real significant way. Maybe discuss it from a business perspective. Make the message something like - 'How can we/you re-focus the business or instead focus on other business (i.e. your real estate), such that we can get this stress out of your life.' The issue may really his handling of mental stress - but easier f…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 05:40 PM
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Let me offer a somewhat different perspective on your question of how to better control your emotions and/or not becoming to obsessed with these HV guys as you feel it puts them off. But maybe that is not off-putting to them at all. At 23, you are at the peak of your beauty and probably attention from men. You also seem driven, very social and highly educated. I view attracting these these perfect high value men as far more based on actually have the attributes that they desire rather than how y…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 05:18 PM
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Here is the short answer - Say - 'I know this is completely illogical, but your being with others is very difficult for me.' He probably will not agree to eliminating it forever (that is too much to ask in this situation) - but he cares for you and he can tone it down for now to make you feel better. And, maybe you can play just a bit with other women and him to meet him half way. A better thing to work on is your own feelings of jealousy. As you know very well - men are not monogamous creatures…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 08:17 AM
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Why not earn money - or more money yourself to help lift the financial burden on him?
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 02:01 AM
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Because the reality is desire for a sexy looks like nice boobs are extremely important to men. Perhaps just as important as financial success is to women.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 11:36 PM
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OK - I was wondering and get that now. I think its in your best interest to give him some latitude. Don't be afraid to text him if you don't hear from him soon. He would probably love to get a text, and it cannot hurt you. Let us know. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 08:29 PM
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It is up to him to answer your question of - will he commit to exclusivity? - which is the next move. This a significant request you are making of him - give him a little time. There is nothing at all wrong with your texting him in the interim. What would you do if he says that after three dates he is not ready to be exclusive?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 07:16 PM
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I can only answer with my own opinion - can’t really know what is going on in his head. Relationships are quite complex. But I would say - 1. Absolutely not. 2. This could go either way. He may be fine with offering you that commitment and want the relationship to the next level, and we know that he want to have sex. Alternatively he may decide that he wants sex before committing to exclusivity with you. In which case it may be over. You have laid your cards on the table and said I refuse to hav…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 02:43 AM
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I think the biggest thing you could do to console him is to be his actual girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 08:05 AM
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You have friends who support you here. You are very young with your whole life ahead of you. There are plenty of good things to look forward to in life.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 12:41 AM
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Also agree. Charlotte and surrounding cites are great! I find the people I've met in NC to have among the highest integrity anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 01:37 AM
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I think a problem is, when you move to those areas. A good job may be 20$ per hour for a male and so higher paying jobs are not as easy to find in rural areas. Incomes may be a bit lower - but it is easy to start your own business in a smaller area, and hire people for $20 an hour. I really see an accelerating trend of those moving from the very large cities to smaller (say pop of 1 million or less) where everything in life is much easier, plus family, community and church ties are strong.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 11:09 PM
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We made the move from NYC City area (Fairfield County - with astronomical home prices) to Southern VA (near NC border) - and could not be happier! North Carolina and SC are beautifully family oriented places - especially the middle to smaller cities. (Our home here in VA would cost in the millions if it was where we move from in CT). I actually made significantly more in VA than in Manhattan - but income was increasing due to more experience/career growth. On the other hand - you must appreciate…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 11:00 PM
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What a great story! You should share more as you would be a great inspiration to others.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 02:28 AM
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Well the concept is that almost any book you want might be available. But one title is Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Coleman.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 09:28 PM
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Are huge number of books can be purchased in audible form. I pay about $11 for a 6 to 12 hour book, and it’s incredibly convenient. Since best it’s selling books, the material is as good as you’re going to get.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 07:39 PM
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If he is discussing marriage and rings and your family, I’m going to all but guarantee that you are absolutely the ‘best’ woman in his life. But if he had a crush on a girl when he was five years old, would you feel bad about yourself that you weren’t his first love? I would not use that label ‘second best’ as I really don’t think it has any meaning.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 04:24 PM
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Based on your logic, you should never connect with any partner, because every partner can theoretically go back to someone in the past. You need to address your own insecurities. This has nothing to do with him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 03:02 PM
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He makes a lot more money than you. There is a decent possibility that you will earn more one day - but also possibly you may not. Additionally, he can adapt. Don’t assume that he can’t handle it if you did earn more than him one day. Maybe he would warm to the idea that you two have have a better lifestyle without as much pressure on him. And even if that did occur, don’t forget about the years when he far out earned you. I think the fear of an unhealthy relationship may possibly exist more in …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 02:34 PM
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Thoughts /advice? Absolutely don't go for short hair! Its the message given to women by society that they should not have to look beautiful for men. Focus instead instead on how you can be a better person / a better woman such that men are more attracted to you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 12:44 AM
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Great perspective! Always nice to hear your viewpoints. The world would be such a better place if every person looked to make others happy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 07:23 PM
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Love bombing and dread don’t work that well for men - and there are certainly differences between what works for each. Instead focus on honest, integrity, enjoying your partner the fullest, bringing them happiness, feminine beauty and fulfilling intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 11:20 AM
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The concept of 'red pill' seems to mean different things to different people. But, your post is right on target and glad you posted this. HVM probably don't spend that much time on Reddit in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 05:55 PM
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I am contemplating your comment, and find it such a profound statement.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 05:06 PM
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I feel there is much to be learned in that so many out there (other sub-reddits) turn to criticisms of other and and down talking their mates. This is really a distraction from the real solution which is to change your own behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 04:35 PM
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What a relevant and insight comment you make about how valuable this sub is! So good to hear the positive comments about men, in light of all the negativity out there. When we place responsibility with ourselves to have great relationships and a great life, we find the key to real fulfillment on big picture level. Thanks for all the wonderful comments here!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 04:19 PM
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Is it my fault that he’s no longer interested? Its hard to assign blame to either party - he is looking for certain attributes and you are looking for certain things. Apparently he was looking for something a bit different than you. Don't be too hard on yourself - and I don't think the intimacy really had all that much to do with it. But, instead focus on how you can be a person who is more attractive to others. In the redpill spirit - what ideal feminine traits would attract the high-value man …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 11:09 PM
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Interior design or architecture - perfect for those with an engineering background.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:37 PM
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This!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/21 07:44 PM
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Since he is in another city, you really don't have a relationship in this man. He is extremely good looking, a doctor, and very high value. Its hard to see why he would want or need to remain in contact with you as there is no way to have a relationship in person. It may be a misunderstanding with your comments, and he may see no reason not to be completely blunt with you. But, I don't see why it matters anyway (at least to him) - because he sees no future for you two. Just my two cents. You are…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/21 07:09 PM
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This reddit thread is really for women. Here is a good place for men for red pill material - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nV7B0Fzcl2w&list=PLMcVcytzH5GGEP8Do5l_iZkYdlArf_ZA3
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/21 09:36 PM
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What are your ages? Its makes quite a bit of difference.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 11:01 PM
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Cook me up some steak woman and we’re square.” I am starting to like this guy! - Well keep in mind you are only boyfriend and girlfriend at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 12:44 AM
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This makes perfect sense. And thank you for bringing some more beauty and kindness to this world!
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 07:36 PM
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What an interesting thread! All of my relatives remained married to only one partner throughout their lives, and I learned that you commit to a relationship and stay there always. And, you learn how to navigate that over the decades. I learned from my mother, an early feminist, drawbacks of two full-time working parents. That made me appreciate the model of the man supporting and woman as homemaker. So much in relationships is learned from examples rather than what people tell you. - a man's per…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 04:29 PM
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A beef pot roast (rump roast or chuck roast) is awesome in a slow cooker - extremely delicious. You can basically throw most any veggies there you want. Its all going to be very tasty. Set it for 6 hours or low or high. And a 3 lb roast is one of the values out there, while you make a meal to last much of the week.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 09:51 PM
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You will do fine as cooking is about as fun a 'job' can be. You'll learn together over time. Youtube can teach you anything these days. And don't worry, even if a meal is a complete flop, you can always give him great sex instead and you will always be forgiven for anything that happens in the kitchen. :):)
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 09:40 PM
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I don't think who pays for a $9 drink and $50 dinner over the past six months is all that relevant, especially for college students who might be totally broke. It does seem a bit impolite to not walk you back home (just bring it up, and ask if he can walk you home if its late). Or, alternatively, if you can work it out that he comes to your place, the problem is solved. I would point out that he seems to be providing the entertainment your relationship since you only seem to hang out at his plac…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 07:39 AM
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Entrepreneurs in Cars is the most relevant youtube site in my opinion for men to find their purpose and be the strongest men they can be. However, Richard can be a harsh guy as he likes to confront the cold hard truth. Regarding relationships withe women, he is slightly bitter, and does advise guys to not put up with much from women.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 04:53 PM
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I have just read your post, and from someone who is much older, and has learned about life, here is the reality of the points you mention: You are likely very attractive - just as you see in the mirror - your own perceptions of yourself are false. You probably have a cute face, cute body. I am confident that without your clothes, their would be a large number of men who would be lusting after you. You will likely solve and/or make good progress your anxiety and other issues over time, and be far…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 04:46 PM
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I see a trend these days in everyone spending their time on social media (ie youtube), where the most negative sentiments are in your face without filters. Can't help to think it is creating much negative sentiment among women and men. I wonder if your viewing of such material is getting to you. Life can be quite a beautiful thing for any person - man or women - regardless of what they look like or have to offer. Much of happiness is based on how you interprete events and life. If you envy the f…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 04:16 PM
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The perfect wife!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 03:22 AM
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There are numerous videos by Jordan Peterson on youtube - he can pick the ones that are relevant to his issues.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 11:53 PM
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I think one problem with Tinder is that 80% to 90% of the guys there have no luck, yet the other 10% - 20% get all the successful matches and meets. So Tinder tends to turn into a place where many women 'hook up' with the attractive 10% of guys. (So 80% of the women are matching with only 10% to 20% of the guys). They guys get a huge amount of interest from many women, and they have no reason to stop sleeping with a number of different women. So what to do? If you are looking for a long-term rel…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 01:49 AM
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I was thinking about that myself. And I think he’s just a wise man who knows very well how to woo a woman and how to connect deeply. Men must pursue women - and diligently, or a relationship won’t happen. His actions seem quite rational with me. This is not the first relationship in the world that did not work out. You should be feeling good that it went as far as it did with this relatively attractive man. And the next one, you will be a better person with that added experience. You have probab…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 07:52 PM
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We all have to realize the things in life that happen to us are largely our reasonability. I think his text was very clear that he does not like you enough to even continue seeing you. He says he just does not feel the connection. Saturday night was a major problem, but sounds like there are other issues beyond that. I know this sucks and it’s probably upsetting, but you’ve got your friends and you’ll come back better next time, with what you’ve learned from this.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 03:52 PM
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Let me offer a humble suggestion on this topic as an alternative waiting for marriage. It is my finding that most men do not really seek out that situation, however, RP men usually are quite cognizant of the desirability of a low notch count in that it is well correlated to a more successful long-term marriage and family. So, perhaps the goals should to limit the count by avoiding the hook ups with the popular alphas (chad). However in dating guys where there is a true emotional connection and a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:37 AM
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Thanks for share your nice story! Conservative red pill women truly are unicorns of high value in our strange new world. He sounds like a thoughtful guy with a good head on his shoulders.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:21 AM
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You sound very ambitious indeed. The conflict between a law education / career and being a stay at home mother is clear. I wonder if there is not a slightly easier career path that may work a bit better than being a traditional lawyer. Something a more conducive to finding a mate, getting married and having children. I understand the law schools are filled with extremely progressive people. BTW, I understand your frustration with guys your age - unfortunately a number of guys that age are having…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 02:42 AM
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So refreshing to hear of young people like yourself seeking excellence. Not sure what financial independence means for you. Is it being able to support yourself comfortably by working? Let me suggest that given the early twenties age that you are in your prime years for finding a mate, and perhaps you should look to be dating at least somewhat in your early twenties while you better yourself. The Book 'Set for Life' by Scott Trench is great discussing how to build wealth from a young age.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 01:55 AM
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How attainable is waiting for marriage if you aren’t compatible with the men who want that? I read where 85% of men have had intercourse by age 21, and 81% of females have. The average age of marriage is 29 M and 27 F - which gives them much more time to have had sex (perhaps 95%). Given the percentage odds, the probability of meeting that person (and being compatible with them) are realistically quite low. Additionally, you are an atheist and don't want kids. Simply applying rough stats to thos…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 10:31 PM
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Exactly! The idea that a person's gender is something that they 'identify' with is absurd. You are either male or female - end of story.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 07:13 AM
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To put this in perspective your emotional and mental situation is about 20 times more relevant that the number of men you have been with in your life. The emotional issues need to be addressed if you are to make any real progress. Your history with men up to this point is something that you have no control over now. Hence, focus on healing yourself now rather than your past. And FWIW, 13 men in your past is not really that big of an issues for most guys.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 01:17 AM
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This is definitely an excellent article on family - much to be learned here - thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 02:36 AM
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These comments are inappropriate for this forum. Please remove them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 07:44 PM
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This problem is blown way out of proportion. Regardless of the family being under attack - it will survive and prosper while evolving just gradually over time.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 07:29 PM
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I just finished 'The Book of Numbers'., good book and new analysis, but its really just the opening of that discussion on the economics of relationships and marriage. Its quite unfortunate that many young men have grown up without fathers. I disagree about the value/quality of men and women declining. The current environment does pose some real challenges to marriage, which are real. But tough times make for strong men - They will problem solve and find solutions to these problems. Its forums li…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 07:26 PM
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There are some very insightful comments on this thread. I'll try to add something of value as well. The MGTOW trend reflects a more recent attitude among men towards women that can vary widely - and it means different things to different people. The underlying theme seems to be men who have basically given up trying to pursue women, and often harbor deep bitterness toward them. MGTOW is a problem for women to the extent that men's thoughts lean toward the MGTOW direction, and they are far less i…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:34 AM
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'How to get my man in the mood?' Here are some gradual things to get started - they work both ways. Get comfy on the couch or bed, and have some awesome eye contact - stare into each other eyes - then some soft kisses all over the face. Loving massages for your partner - you can doing this on the shoulders and all over the body. Cuddle together completely naked and just enjoy warm skin touching together. You can fill in the rest on your own.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 04:51 AM
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Just adding one thought - exploring intimate fantasys together can truly bring you much much closer together as a couple. (But lets be honest - must of us are very shy about this - both women and men). Have courage!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 04:41 AM
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A quick thought for you - if this is a completely online friendship, I think you really need to meet in person. Otherwise, I don't really see it as a 'real' relationship. If you see him in person, just drive to his place.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 07:46 PM
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One thought here - your husband's money is effectively 50% yours. I do think it is quite a nice gesture. If he has a high income / high net worth, that sounds fine. But, if the gifts are excessive for your level of income, it is sounding irresponsible to me. A heart felt note expressing true deep feelings for your mate has far far more meaning than a Gucci bag IMHO - and that can be saved and cherished for a lifetime.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 04:17 AM
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I don't have a good feeling about this situation. It does sound to good to be true. If I were in his shoes, I would not be so quick to reveal my deepest flaws to someone I was looking to pursue. Or alternatively was he in prison for mistakes with drugs in his college days, or was it something more serious? I just don't buy that someone would be a drug dealer at a high enough level to put himself through law school. Would you trust medical doctor who paid for medical school by being a drug dealer…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 02:09 AM
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These are good comments - Hope the OP is listening.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 01:45 AM
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First - Thanks for posting! There is nothing at all offensive about it. I do you are unnecessary obsessed about the age thing. You are probably at the peak of your beauty and attractiveness to men at your age - you should be celebrating! I met my wife when she was 34, married at 36 (I was 32), and after 25 years of marriage - we could not have a better relationship - I kiss/hug her every single day!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 07:25 PM
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Could not agree more with your comment. Imagine a world where all women had this wonderful attitude! :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 07:14 PM
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What a beautiful message! I am so impressed with the wisdom on this RPW board, such as this insight. Perhaps this is a message that all people everywhere need to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 07:11 PM
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What an insightful comment - thanks so much for posting this!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 07:05 PM
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As I guy, I can tell you that RPW have wonderfully attractive attitudes and personalities - far far far more attractive to men than not.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 06:05 AM
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The majority of people end up going into something different than they originally studied in school and/or planned for. Accounting will help in virtually any business setting. You can always switch to something related like Finance. The reality is that the cost of college makes it a low return investment for a very large number of people. Learn from you mistakes and move forward. You will find a life that makes you happy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 08:41 PM
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If you are not sexual at all with him, I don't know that your relationship would work in the long term - unless he has some other outlet for intimacy. So, yes that is certainly a negative.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 06:40 PM
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Cooking and preparing wonderful meals is among the most important thing for men, in addition what you are already focusing on. Find out what he truly enjoys to eat, then become a master at that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 06:34 PM
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At 19, being a virgin is completely fine, and probably better than not. You should be loving yourself for having more integrity than the typical promiscuous culture for on tiktok, instagram, etc.. When finding a mate for marriage, men want women that have not slept around alot. But, many men are searching for women for sex only, after which you may not hear from them again - probably a situation you want to avoid anyway. You are very young and have lots of time to meet men and experience life in…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 06:25 PM
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Be brave by becoming an expert of the subject and committing to beating it. There is a growing number of people fighting cancer with fantastic results outside of the medical community. Start with books like this one. A World without Cancer: The Making of a New Cure and the Real Promise of Prevention Margaret I. Cuomo (Author)
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 05:51 PM
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Here is a good place to start - https://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/01/10-ways-to-be-sensual-without-being-sexual/ You can pick out actions that fit with your situation, your style and interest. It could be a simple as practicing great eye contact with men 5 times a day. While you are doing that focus on what they are saying and their body language. Then use body language that invites them to talk and flirt with you further. The most important thing of all is probably smiling.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 10:22 PM
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Definitely red pill, and absolutely love this story. The fact that you clean and pick up the house at his place makes you an extraordinary catch in my book! :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 04:57 AM
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Find a mutual girlfriend that both you and he know. And, if there is no mutual friend, then connect on social social such as Facebook, etc.. Find someone highly social and persuasive. Then have your girlfriend approach him, wanting to talk about something. Your girlfriend then can convince him that he should definitely ask you out - preferably to a specific event - like this restaurant Saturday night, or a church event that is coming up. You'll be sure to pay her back later. (I was roped into da…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 04:28 AM
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One other thought - I have much first hand experience with doctors regarding mental health issues. In my experience medical doctors make huge mistakes in this area and often their prescriptions do more harm that good.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 04:29 AM
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Based on what little I know about you, you sound like a lovely woman to be married to. You bring much love and intimacy, are working to improve yourself & relationship, and have a strong long-term relationship with him. I would bet that he appreciates you very much and considers you a blessing - just look at all the troubles in today's relationships for comparison. Love probably does conquer all!
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 04:22 AM
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It sounds like you are getting good advice here. On your question of 'how do I make myself a blessing to him', let me offer a very frank comment. Make sure to give him love, intimacy and some great sex. Pour your energy into caring for him. It will have much more value to him than the work you can do. He can probably figure out the rest.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 10:29 PM
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I worry a little about this guy. High value men would be better off figuring out how to chase excellence and making a million $ instead of spending time on playlists. And, especially not worrying about who sees a private playlist.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 04:24 AM
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I could chime in here regarding the guy's perspective. He will definitely notice the 15 lbs (if sometimes subconsciously). (My lady definitely notices my losing 15 lbs especially in the face). It is awesome for a guy to suddenly have a hotter woman - even if he is not the best at verbalizing that thought. He might gaze at you for longer and give you a bit more attention / love. You will feel much better about yourself, and that definitely shows up in more confidence to show off your beautiful se…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:54 PM
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Certainly there is a rebellious & expressive component to these hair styles in addition to just the novelty. I would also think liberal/feminist thoughts are involved in that these hairstyles are not typically feminine styles that most men are attracted to. The young women may be trying to reject and/or show her dislike for men intentionally makes herself unattractive to to them with blue hair and shaved hair styles. She can therefore avoid feeling rejected by men since she knows that she is tak…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:41 PM
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Of course you can be better at some things that him - and you already know that. Perhaps you are feeling bad that he does not appreciate your skills in certain areas. Men are certainly not always the best at communicating, and his actions/words may make you feel unappreciated. There is nothing wrong with asking him what he appreciates about you, or asking him what he thinks of your tech skills, and gently remind him that his appreciation/recognition of you is desired. Also, it may be helpful to …
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/21 07:06 PM
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The book 'Feeling Good' by Dr. Burns is the best source I have found for speaking back to those negative thoughts, and coming up with a new positive outlook on life. Love yourself. Create your own awesome life irrespective of men. Persue your interests and become happy with yourself, and others cannot help but be drawn to you automatically.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 09:35 AM
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Its not too late, and you can extend your prime age by being open to men of a slightly older age group. Men are hitting their career primes between 30 to 40 and will appreciate your maturity more.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 09:27 AM
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I had a similar situation. Don't bother attempting to change their thinking. Just go off and live your life on your on terms. Use them as an example - then do the opposite. Its fun to rebel!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 09:23 AM
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It would save the guy time if you do that. You can turn it into a positive and say - 'I don't want to trouble you to pick me up and I'd like to drive anyway. Where would you like me to meet you?'
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/21 07:15 AM
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Perhaps you are really looking to ask another question - 'How can have a stronger pair bonding with the current partner?' Don't focus on past events - everyone makes mistakes and can have difficult times. But instead focus on your current partner. (Christians say there is no unforgivable sin for the Christian). So, try to let go of the past and focus on what you love about him, what makes him happy and what you can do for a better relationship, and how you two can best enjoy close and intimate t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 03:34 AM
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The best gift I cant think of for a man would be a heartfelt letter telling him all the things that you love an admire about him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 07:54 PM
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This looks like a difficult situation for you – the 12-month lease situation must have been so disappointing. Let me share a few thoughts with you from the other perspective, perhaps closer to his thoughts. Many years ago, I was in a situation thinking about marriage, with a somewhat similar situation. I love the Christian perspective, and I believe that marriage (the moral long-term relationship, not the state license) and strong families are truly important for happiness and leading the most r…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 06:31 PM
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I think you are getting some great advice here. As a general rule most men are probably fine to be with women who are somewhat less experienced, and that is probably even more true with someone who is older than you - and you have already talked about it. Please don't be worried. And maybe a good idea to focus on the emotional side of that experience. It can be quite wonderful to enjoy the cuddling, the kisses, and two bodies just holding each other. If you feel a little nervous, you can always …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 11:42 PM
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Just wanted to say your sentiments are so gratifying to hear! The fact that you are on this sub and making great progress toward your goals with self reflection, goes to show your attractive qualities so well. I am glad this sub exists as well!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 08:49 PM
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