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You are giving this guy false hope. WTF! This is the comment he responded to?! I'm sorry but you are being cruel based on anecdotal and empirical evidence. I want to say, "For Shame" but that would sound hyperbolic but......"For Shame!"
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:20 PM
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Its always the friend. Edit: The miserable friend
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:11 PM
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Actually needed to hear this now. Going through the "I made a mistake" phase now....since she lost her job, and has a boyfriend...bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:06 PM
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So sorry to tell you that you are wrong
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:02 PM
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This 1000%. Your best bet is to strike while the irone is hot. Belive me, this is not me trying to sound cool or edgy. This is your ONLY opportunity to come out of this favorably.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 10:57 PM
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You need to live for YOU. I totally understand your kids being your whole world but you need to find yourself to be the best you. Even for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 10:48 PM
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DO NOT DO THE CHOOSE ME DANCE!!! Sorry for the all caps but please, don't do it. It won't work and will only make you feel pathetic in the long run. Listen to the advice others have posted. We've all been there brother. It sucks but you will come out the other side. I'm still trying to get there. There is light at the end of the tunnel....
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 10:45 PM
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Same.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:15 PM
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Probably best to keep it vague with the kids. Trust me, I know you want to vent/tell the truth but it will only hurt/confuse the kid(s). It wont make them 'join your side'.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:14 PM
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OMG. This is exactly what I'm going through. BPD, huh?
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 12:04 PM
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OMG. This!!!
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:31 PM
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I agree with this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:30 PM
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Get an F'ing lawyer asap. Strike while they are in the fog! I got my divorce on amazingly good terms by moving FAST once I found out about the cheating. Do not do the 'pick me dance' you will only regret it. My lawyer charged $1800 to push this through. If she had started to balk it could have turned out to be $18000 plus.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:29 PM
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OMG. This!
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 02:56 PM
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Adding that even though I struck when the iron was hot when mine asked for a divorce and got a very favorable deal my BIGGEST regret is doing the 'pick me dance'. First it doesn't work....at all. Second you will look back in shame if you do. I know I do.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 07:12 PM
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Stike while the iron is hot. That's what I did. As soon as I found out and she mentioned favorable terms I had a lawyer draw up papers and filed. It sucks. I wanted the same as you but trust me, I've seen it get MUCH worse for others.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 07:03 PM
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"Surprisingly my divorce went smoothly. We had some assets and some debts, but no children. I attribute this to taking time to prepare and coming at her aggressively with filing. I refused to engage in arguments with her. When she asked me "why?" when I dropped papers on her. I simply said "you know why." You my Friend are a ROCKSTAR!!!
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 10:46 PM
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God that is spot on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 05:57 PM
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Jesus. Apples and trees.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 08:32 PM
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Godspeed. That is the right decision.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 08:27 PM
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I'm not in CA but my divorce decree had a 'cohabitation' clause that alimony would cease if she lives with another who contributes to her cost of living. Even covers roommates. Proving it could be difficult and costly so you would have to determine the ROI but maybe that is a possibility for you to keep the AP at arms distance. I have no idea about CA divorce law.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 08:29 PM
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You win. You win.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 09:50 PM
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Yup.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 04:50 PM
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That's rough man. The only thing I can say is there will always be better times ahead. Love your kids. They need that more than wanting for nothing. One thing I recently did was get my kids set up on Facebook (I know I hate it too) messenger for kids. They can send me funny pics and texts and I can do the same. Brightens up my day and helps me stay connected to them in some fashion. Also, try to build a new life. I'm still working on mine. Got a long way to go.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 07:48 PM
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Mine is doing the exact same thing. This housing market is having a real effect on them...smh
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 07:36 PM
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Very similar to what happened to me. In my case there turned out to be another man....Of course there was. If not in your case it doesn't matter. I will say my biggest regret was doing the full on "choose me" dance. First of all, it doesn't work and only makes you look weak and pathetic in her eyes. Second is you will look back in shame that you were crying and begging for her to choose you. Feel bad, feel angry, feel depressed but if you can help it don't beg or plead. Again, it won't work anyw…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 05:24 PM
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Hang in there. Your daughter is worth fighting for but I do understand the money situation.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 06:27 PM
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Thanks for the reply. However, if I can impart any advice its to not even hope for reconciliation. She left you as mine did. I can't imagine being able to sweep that under the rug. Of course there was cheating involved in my situation. Her not me and I don't know the particulars of yours. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 06:05 PM
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I jumped back into dating. Did some OLD but it was a chore and ho boy, the 'catfishing'. Then I hooked up with someone within a friend group and tried to make that a thing. Didn't work out and prob for the best. I realized I wasn't ready. Both emotionally and regarding the amount of effort I was willing to commit. It's two years out from sock day for me and I'm happy, if not a bit lonely, being single for the foreseeable future.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 03:54 PM
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"a beautiful woman who loves me for me."? Wow, that's quick. Good luck. No sarcasm.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 02:02 PM
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That is interesting. Mine and me were together for......12. Married 10.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 10:02 PM
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I'm gonna keep this in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 01:53 PM
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Going through this now. Ex is calling, crying talking about not wanting to 'go on'. I worry a bit but also feel like its manipulation and mind F'ing. Not falling for it. Stay strong brother!
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 01:51 PM
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Yours could as well be mine. Still acts like it was some kind of mutual split. No, you were the one running through men and gaslighting.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 02:31 PM
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This is true. Which can feel weird if you are on reasonable good terms but it was definitely hampering my recovery, among other things.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 10:34 PM
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It is.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/22 09:27 PM
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Do not do the "choose me" dance anymore. It won't help and it will make you feel like a POS afterwards.....trust me.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/22 09:22 PM
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Same
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/22 04:11 PM
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You go brother!
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/21 03:22 PM
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Totally agree.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 12:32 AM
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Put them in a box. Seal the box up with duct tape like it is the Ark of the Covenant and shove it in the darkest corner of your attic.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 09:11 PM
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I don't know Jonger1150 and was mostly being tongue in cheek but I just think you can have ex's that don't have to become enemies. Never understood that part.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 08:10 PM
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Don't marry her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 06:44 PM
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This so much. Guarantee there is another guy. Also, don't do the choose me dance. I did and it's my biggest regret.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 06:37 PM
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You are thinking with your brain. She is thinking with what she thinks is her heart. This is a difference between most men and women.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/21 10:14 PM
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Ha. This is an EXCELLENT post. This advice is critical if you are in this situation. Act quick while she is emotionally high on her CHAD. I did and made it out with a VERY favorable agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/21 01:14 PM
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This! As soon as things went down I lawyered up and got my ex to agree to VERY favorable terms because she was still enthralled with her new guy (that lasted maybe 2 months). I knew the longer it dragged out the more combative it would get. Time and emotion are of the essence.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 07:04 PM
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I feel you. My marriage was in the same spot but she initiated. My big concern was for the kids (11 and 5). All I can say is I'm shocked how quickly the kids adjusted to the new normal and still seem happy and are loved.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/21 08:33 PM
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Yeah, go see your GP. Nothing wrong with that at all.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/21 02:25 PM
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Hang in there man. There will be many ups and downs. More downs at first but eventually the ups come more frequently. One thing that I am focusing on is being my own person. Not that I have perfected that or anything else yet.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/21 06:42 PM
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I really don't think it is possible. The trust level gets broken to a degree that you can never stop thinking about.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/21 02:02 PM
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I can't tell you how much I needed your post atm. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/21 11:05 PM
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Plenty of other fish in the sea.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/21 03:44 PM
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One of the best posts I've ever seen. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/21 03:46 PM
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Man. Needed to hear this so bad. Sorry for your pain but I hope I can learn a lesson from it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/20 04:25 PM
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This. At our age the latter is nothing to be ashamed of.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/20 10:01 PM
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So true. Everyone feels like it's only ever happened to them because it feels so momentous. Then you start reading and realize it's the same story over and over. There is always another guy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/20 03:03 PM
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"Also, sure are a lot of fuckin yoga instructors out there, “living their best life” LMFAO!!
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/20 07:25 PM
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What kind of things do you do....for yourself?
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/20 07:19 PM
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I'm nowhere near ready but can I ask where you met/found your dates?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/20 04:30 PM
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Check your state laws though. Its illegal in mine.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/20 04:11 PM
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So true.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/20 03:51 PM
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The rewriting history thing is so true. Mine is acting like we never had a happy moment in our 11 year marriage. She is also bringing up every argument, misstep or percieved slight from as long as a decade ago.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/20 03:46 PM
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Harsh but wise words.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/20 03:34 PM
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I hate to say it but she is cheating. I've just gone through something similar. The constant yo-yoing of hope and despair will kill you. I'm at almost the same point as you are except I just confirmed the affair last night. She finally admitted it. Actually helps with some clarity of why this is happening. Still fucking hurts though.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/20 02:21 PM
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Me too.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/20 10:19 AM
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I am going through this exact situation atm. The wife suddenly telling me she doesn't love me anymore. That she's felt this way for years. The whole shebang. Pretty sure there is at least an emotional affair going on. Sucks so hard when kids are involved. I could handle it being over if they weren't getting their lives forever disrupted. Edit: yup it's an affair and it's more than emotional. Guys if you think it is then it is. :_(
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/20 09:27 PM
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