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Duh, why else would I be talking to you? (joking)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:26 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:55 AM
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My partner is not active in this sub, so I am just going to answer for myself. Do they consider themselves a feminist? Yes, I do. Do they know or care at all about men's issues? Yes, I do. Have they ever heard of RP/1nc3ls and if so what do they think of them? Things like that, anything related to gender issues. I have heard of that stuff (duh) and I do not think highly of it. Neither does my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:16 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:33 AM
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I am using this to affirm my gender, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:52 PM
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Damn she doesn't even look like herself anymore. Jaw, lips, eyes and eyebrows are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:48 PM
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I don't even want to think about the logistics of ass crack shaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 06:16 PM
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What time is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:31 PM
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Your flair lmao I don't have a MMA gym anywhere close to me. And I am not a big fan of getting hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:07 PM
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Must be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:40 PM
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My parents, my ex and the pandemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:38 PM
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I probably should. And I should also start breath work again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:26 PM
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That's so strange
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:25 PM
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My brain wont stop thinking, how do I turn this off?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:24 PM
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What does this even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:19 PM
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The first time we meet? I would be out of there so fast lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:09 PM
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Saying you don't care that women get raped is a really good look. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:23 PM
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You guys are out here feeling hopeful and happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:37 PM
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I mean I have always disliked gender roles. In the I might be non-binary or something similar kind of way (so yes, in the transgender kind of sense).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:35 PM
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Yessir
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:32 PM
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Enby :3 The panini caused me to struggle with uni and I also developed a crippling fear of failure and severe depression (which made my already low self-esteem/-worth even more abysmal) and potentially undiagnosed ADHD. I have a very hard time even just thinking about having to write a thesis and believing in myself. But I have to try, I can't just give up now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:25 PM
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No preference, I'll just work with what the person I fall in love with has. Not important. I don't orgasm from penetration alone anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:08 PM
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Today was an anxiety fueled day. I finally took the steps to get my thesis started. I am still terrified of writing it and think I wont be able to do it, but I'll at least try I guess. I also used the gender neutral name I am toying with at Starbucks (to get a pumpkin spice latte). Of course the barista was unsure and I had to spell it to him. It felt scary like he was going to know that it's not my real name lol. I also bought myself a cheap "men's" perfume that smelled very gender and I am stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:05 PM
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German
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:36 PM
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Not English, but my first language.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:19 PM
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Nah, I don't want people looking at me in general. And I just avoid eye contact if they do look at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:06 PM
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She's pretty wdym?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:51 PM
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Sloth for me too because depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:55 PM
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Razor ads where women shave already completely hairless legs rub me the wrong way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:53 PM
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If she is a 5/6, I am an ogre.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:28 PM
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Nah, I'm good.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:29 AM
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I don't have TikTok.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:44 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:42 AM
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I love a short king.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:38 AM
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I hate it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:51 PM
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That's fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:34 PM
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Well, the higher suicide rate for men is coming from somewhere. There's isn't a government to provide benefits and no access to professional help. This isn't true depending on where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:10 PM
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If you can function without completely destroying yourself, sure. But there is no shame in not being able to function when struggling with severe depression. No matter what gender. And those people should get themselves professional help. Having depression is not "dealing with some personal stuff".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:03 PM
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L take
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:57 PM
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I have depression and I can't stand looking at IG because it makes me feel worse about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:43 PM
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So there is this claim that trans women are assaulting the two X holders in women’s toilets and women aren’t safe and we should protect women’s exclusive spaces That is a transphobic/TERF claim that has no basis in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:47 PM
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If you don't think so why ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:07 PM
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Yes. But at least you acknowledge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:53 PM
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Google is right there for you to educate yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:51 PM
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Same. I am so touch starved.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:16 PM
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Fair. Based that she can actually stick to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:44 PM
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Where did she go? I haven't seen her around for a while?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:41 PM
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Can we not use slurs?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:40 PM
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Ok but why is that a reason to have a visceral disgust reaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:52 AM
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Omg I am not the only one who noticed the crazy eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:39 AM
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No. It's his face. His eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:39 AM
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I am still fascinated and disturbed by the reactions to it. Makes me kind of sad honestly, that just because a man is gender non-conforming, that this causes such strong reactions in (I am assuming) straight men. I wonder why that is. Like deep down, what is the reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:33 AM
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I don't know why, but he is unsettling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:23 PM
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I mean I get that, but they are acting like he is revolting. He's just a long haired dude, not a cockroach.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:11 PM
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Why are they acting like that though?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:07 PM
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The way I was scared to click on this based on the comments the men here left. Now I that I did click I am wondering what their problem is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:57 PM
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I see. It's great that you have a (I am assuming) close and good relationship with your parents. I personally would not feel comfortable with my parent's knowing what I share in therapy. It's easier for me to open up to my therapist than to people close to me, as fucked as that sounds. Anyway I am just rambling, there are a lot of books on mental health/trauma that might be resources for you to look into if therapy doesn't work for you. I can recommend "Healing the shame that binds you" in case …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:42 PM
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Not to be that person, but do you have access to therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:31 PM
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I have never heard a woman give such dating advice to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:10 PM
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My brain is smooth.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:31 PM
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If we were in a relationship and loved each other, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:29 PM
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The movies and series I watch are pretty diverse, so no one genre. Nothing incredibly niche. In terms of reading I enjoy YA novels (Eragon, Hunger Games, Bartimaeus, etc) but also books like Dune. I am currently reading mental health/self help books. I play RDR2 and DbD. this counts tho but ew I mean you asked lol. I just realized I read your question wrong. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:54 PM
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What is the most not normie hobby or preference you have? I guess enjoying reading, watching movies and series. Does gaming count as a normie hobby? What is the most non conforming thing you did/do? I like collecting skulls/bones and dead insects (and other small dead animals). Edit: I am a dummy and read the question wrong. I thought it said "the most normie hobby".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:48 PM
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I hope so too. I can give an update in tomorrows community chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:36 PM
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I avoid animal products at home. I was vegan for multiple years but fell off. I am doing the best I can currently. I can still chose to help wildlife in need instead of just letting it die.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:35 PM
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I either let them say inside or bring them outside, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:14 PM
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Sorry, I guess? Lol I rescued fallen sparrow babies before and gave them to a person who has the knowledge and capacity to care for them. It doesn't cost more than a bit of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:00 PM
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Have you used a dating app? No. And I only do relationships in case that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:58 PM
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I mean that's fair. I usually don't go alone because eating out is expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:53 PM
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It was tasty :3
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:50 PM
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Happy cake day :3
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:50 PM
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I am not :3 Why though?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 PM
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OMG that typo lol Fixed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 PM
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Or you can be a decent person and help injured wildlife instead of feeding it to an invasive species.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:46 PM
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I also took myself out for food today because I hadn't eaten all day because of anxiety about the jay. Eating at a restaurant alone isn't so awkward after all. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:44 PM
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My parents found an injured Eurasian jay yesterday evening. I picked him up today and brought him to a clinic specialized in birds. I hope they can fix him up again. I will call them and ask for an update tomorrow. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:41 PM
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The Mad Max: Fury Road soundtrack slaps so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:30 PM
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May I ask what your native language is?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 10:36 AM
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Yes. They are repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:24 PM
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Went mushroom foraging with two friends and each of us only found one mushroom lol. We're gonna order sushi for dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:20 PM
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I have seen men being nasty to women online, especially if they are under the impression if that woman "chooses" to be "ugly" (as in short hair, body hair, piercings, clothing...). It's like they take offence to women not conforming to beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:11 AM
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Yeah, I have 1000+ hours, but haven't played in over a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:02 AM
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Partner and I are getting back into DbD again and it's actually loads of fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:47 PM
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Partner and I are getting back into DbD again and it's actually loads of fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:46 PM
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Because it just looks awkward for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:39 PM
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Having a buzz cut is great. Highly recommend. The only annoying part is growing it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:37 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:37 PM
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Yeah, I don't like that either. I try to support and help the men in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:04 PM
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Yeah, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:06 PM
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I like that garbage :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:28 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 05:38 PM
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No. I love gaming with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 05:36 PM
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I don't think I am the target audience for that question lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:27 PM
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Well this was a great summery of why I am uncomfortable being perceived as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 05:54 PM
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Why "whoops"?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:15 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:07 PM
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How does trans people not passing or not being attractive justify/excuse being transphobic?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:03 PM
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No >:(
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:55 PM
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I wish people would stop posting their corn to SFW subreddit. I don't want to see that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:41 PM
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Fair. I am pretty flat to start with, but they just make me more comfortable. For now at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:17 PM
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I would like to know too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:42 PM
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I think in general men love women a lot more than women love them.Whether is is love or lust or biology that is debate for another day Women love seems too conditional. So why is it that husbands tend to leave their seriously ill wives way more than the other way around?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:29 PM
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Yes I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:43 AM
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You don't have to apologize.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:10 AM
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Because it makes me feel better. I am gender non-conforming/non-binary(?).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:23 AM
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Haven't used facebook in years, twitter is just for memes and fandom content and I also don't use insta anymore bc it hurts my mental health. I never posted many photos of myself (bc low self-esteem) but rather posted nature pics.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:22 AM
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I am not out to my parents and wasn't planning on coming out to my parents. I just know that she'll ask questions and wont respect it or will take it personally if I don't want to talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:52 AM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:34 AM
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Maybe both?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:28 AM
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My mum noticed that I was wearing a binder. Shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:27 AM
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I mean it was "fine", it was mainly just uncomfortable. I was more impressed by his audacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:55 AM
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Not much, because I never had to do a lot of rejecting. It would have made the situation where the last guy that tried to hit on me way more confortable though. I was legit dying inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:30 AM
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Why are you so obsessed with BMI?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:27 AM
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Idk I keep secrets. It helps that my memory is shit and I forget a lot. But jokes aside, I have been carrying a secret my partner told me for years and havent told a soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:25 AM
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I did count attention from men I don't want. Instances of unwanted attention are still so rare that I can count them on one hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:23 AM
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Sorry, what does NEET mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:14 AM
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You are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:04 AM
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Me: I don't have any guys chasing me. Dude: You just don't see them as people. Me: ??? That's one hell of an assumption to jump to. I should go to sleep instead of arguing with people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:04 AM
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That's a mighty bold assumption to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:00 AM
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Idk man, I don't have any guys chasing after me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:59 AM
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Woodruff
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:57 AM
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I don't remember much of the movies because I couldn't relate to the main character at all, but how does it reflect the median man's experience with women???
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 07:17 PM
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This is the most wholesome thing I have seen today.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 04:22 PM
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Can you not handle praise (and compliments?) because of low self-esteem/-worth? Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:38 PM
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<3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:37 PM
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Flair does once again not check out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:20 PM
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So you wouldn't want to be pampered, spoiled and called princess by your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:18 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/zf4labvnl8ob1.jpeg?width=914&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=16926c5c8daae0d8cabdbd4b673bf971edbdea8b
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:09 PM
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I think I'll stick to the one I went to today. I am satisfied with the haircut, price is ok and he didn't try to make small talk. 10/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:01 PM
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I love treating my partner like the princess he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:55 PM
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I went to a barber shop for the first time in my life today and I liked it. I will be sticking to barber shops from now on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:47 PM
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Idk about "nearly all women", but I had one because it was my first relationship, I was young and naïve (plus big age gap) and just didn't know any better. Now I would never put up with that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:26 PM
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I like people (not just men) with an introverted and calm personality. Someone who is kind/gentle and empathetic. Someone with a silly sense of humor who will laugh at my terrible jokes. Someone who isn't afraid to be vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 09:14 AM
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Well, if you wont elaborate it's a bit difficult to have a discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:32 PM
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Was my question unclear? I am asking what you mean when you say that dropping facade isn't allowed for men. What does that entail? Crying? Being vulnerable?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:27 PM
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What does "dropping facade" entail for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:23 PM
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Never?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:19 PM
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IRL people pretty naturally segregate Hasn't been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:47 PM
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The only times (very few) I have gone to the club was to spend time with my female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:38 AM
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Wdym? That statement isn't wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:51 AM
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I mean I do want to work out, but I doubt I will be able to do it to the extend where I will have visible results.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:07 PM
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My friends are not druggies or criminals. Money would take quite a while. I'd rather not change my looks tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:53 PM
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I definitely have some issues when it comes to friendships due to previous experiences and the panini made me lose my social skills. Add to that the mental illness and you have me: insecure, needy and overthinking everything. I still mourn past friendships. I guess I need to address this more during therapy. I just don't feel secure in my friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:52 PM
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Does anyone know how to stop being/feeling more invested in friendships than the other person? I honestly feel like friendship doesn't come naturally to me anymore. I feel lost. I try to give them space because obviously they have their own lives, but rarely do they contact me if I don't reach out first. And if I reach out frequently I feel like I just come across as needy/clingy/annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:40 PM
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I have no words...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:43 PM
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Molestation, sexual harassment and upskirting are all rampant and common in Japan. It's not "claimed" harassment, it's harassment that is actually happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:38 PM
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I wanted to take a break from social media, caved and promptly regretted it: Twitter video (TW for SA) Pictures of women who were r*ped (more TW for SA)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:10 PM
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While scrolling through Twitter I saw a video of a person vomiting and now I feel sick and my day is ruined.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 12:33 PM
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Having to "reward" your partner for doing basic chores because he wont do them otherwise is sad honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 12:32 PM
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Online. Talking, developing friendship and at some point realizing that I had fallen in love. Just the way he is caused that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 12:04 AM
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I think I am doing attraction wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 12:01 AM
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I am sorry to hear that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:37 PM
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What does being "hooked" on a vibrator entail? Owning one? Occasionally masturbating with one? Using one during sex? Where is the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:35 PM
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What.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:28 PM
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Because the transition regret rate is so incredibly high. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:27 PM
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Are women really out here assuming that men are rapists in public stores? That's news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:26 PM
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If you know anything about trans issues you would know why it is healthcare and not purely cosmetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:25 PM
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There is one example. And the person in question does not regret it I might add.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:23 PM
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Hmmm interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:17 PM
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I have not once thought that when a man was in the same aisle as me in a store.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:16 PM
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Those are suggested guidelines by an organization, not proof that this is happening in a big scale in multiple states.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:14 PM
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Why does it make you uncomfortable?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:05 PM
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People as young as 15 year olds are allowed to get surgery in some states Source? Edit: And what surgery are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:04 PM
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He is against circumcision? Cool. Oh wait, no he is against healthcare for trans people. That isn't even done to children. But he is hateful and disingenuous, so why would he care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:00 PM
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I will never forgive him for that because the transphobes just parrot the question instead of coming up with their own stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:59 PM
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What heroic deed has he done?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:55 PM
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You could just say that you are in favor of oppressing women instead of pretending that you aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:37 PM
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I wonder why that would be?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:30 PM
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Enlighten us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:27 PM
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Lol why?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:48 PM
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I already have my blue pill beta, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:22 PM
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If you want to do nature a favor try killing any you see. They are invasive in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:07 PM
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Oh sorry, I see the edit now. From the looks of it they also do not carry his size sadly. I guess we could try if they still fit him somewhat comfortably. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:16 AM
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What? My partner didn't put any ideas inside my head lol. I am not naïve or stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:14 AM
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That is not the problem he has with condoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:09 AM
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I have seen my partner try to put on a regular condom. It doesn't work, causes him pain and it would just increase the risk of it breaking. We would have to order condoms for his size online (from mysize or something similar). I will continue looking into getting sterilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:06 AM
1

My friend group doesn't really talk about sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:58 AM
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Durex doesn't have my partner's size. But thank you, very helpful. I do use birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:57 AM
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I am 27. I think the common consensus is that it is basically impossible for women/afab people without children to pursue sterilization in my country. But there is a website with resources for afab people that want to get sterilized. That includes a map with doctors and their restrictions (age, children) for sterilization. There is one near my area that does sterilization for childfree women above 25 years old. So I am hoping to maybe get the procedure done there. But it'll take time and cost mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:45 AM
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I mean I get the concern of "you might change your mind later on", but that still shouldn't be an excuse to refuse people sterilization.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:36 AM
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I am on birth control and my periods have been very consistent, except for my previous one and the one I am having currently. It's me being paranoid, I know I am very likely not pregnant, especially since the one pregnancy test was negative. But I am mentally ill and terrified of getting pregnant, so that doesn't help. And I think cases where women still have slight, period-like bleedings aren't that uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:35 AM
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My last two periods have been weird and noticeably lighter than usual and of course now I am paranoid of being pregnant. Already took a pregnancy test a few weeks ago (which was negative), guess I am going to buy another one today and hope that gives me some peace of mind. I should really seriously look into getting sterilized, I don't need this added mental pressure. My next gyn appointment is in December. And she likely wont be open to the idea so I'll have to look for a specific doctor after.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:21 AM
1

Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:12 AM
1

No. All the men in my life are very important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:18 AM
1

First
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:02 PM
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6'2
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:00 PM
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I weigh over 120 lbs, am I a fattie too?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:49 PM
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That's super short.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:31 PM
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Well you can be healthy weighing over 120 lbs though, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:22 PM
2

The real question is, will you give high N-count men and non-binary people monogamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:29 PM
1

Besides me not wanting to show my face on reddit, even if I was comfortable with showing my face, there is no way I would do it after Emma Stone was called a 6 in this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:41 PM
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Duh, but that is not relevant to the point I was making.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:21 PM
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sucking Difficult to open so wide and cover my teeth. Just hurts after a few minutes. smelling, tasting That's the problem, I am sensitive to genital smell/taste. Not a hygiene problem, it's a me problem. reaction This part is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:58 AM
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I wish it was fun for me. I'd like to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:51 AM
1

Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:17 AM
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If Emma Stone is a 6 then I guess I am delusional. Wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:34 AM
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Nah, I am not attracted or interested in a man with that physique at all. Just not my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:02 AM
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There is a difference in simply looking at a person and looking at a person like a piece of meat. The former is totally ok, the latter makes me feel disgusted (regardless of how attractive the person doing it is).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:53 AM
1

What are things women should lie to their male partners about? What lies are ok in that case?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 08:58 PM
1

What a healthy view on relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 08:49 PM
1

Didn't you post this before?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 08:18 PM
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I didn't take offence, don't worry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:20 PM
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I know. At least rationally I know that. I have had a bad experience with (former) loved ones leaving or shaming me for showing that I wasn't doing well. Since then I prefer to hide most of the stuff because I am terrified of being left again. I am working on that in therapy currently.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:13 PM
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Oops. I thought you were talking about physical SH.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:06 PM
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Of course I like sexually satisfying and pleasing my partner, but not to the degree where I perceive it as a duty. Neither would it be an issue if my (or his) libido went down. If I (or he is) am not in the mood then there is no expectation of getting sexual regardless because of "his/my needs".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:04 PM
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I am not harming myself, but thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:01 PM
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Thank you. Rationally I know this, but I have had a bad experience with a long and close friendship ending because I showed that I wasn't doing well. Since then I try to hide it as much as possible. Trying to unpack this with my therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:01 PM
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Thank you. Rationally I know this, but I have had a bad experience with a long and close friendship ending because I showed that I wasn't doing well. Since then I try to hide it as much as possible. Trying to unpack this with my therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:00 PM
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AFAB non-binary, bi demisexual I honestly don't know how to objectively rate myself since I have low self-esteem and pretty much hate myself and my body (because mental illness). I guess low average, like a 4 out of 10? I am 6'2, have short hair, bad posture, no boobage, cellulite, body hair. I know I could make myself more conventionally attractive by having long hair, shaving and dressing differently but I don't want to. I also come with crippling depression and generally being a mental mess. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 05:58 PM
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Because my brain is stupid and terrified of being a burden to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:57 PM
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I wish I was able to reach out to my partner/friends/family on days like this. Abysmal low mental health today, can't bring myself to do anything, hating myself and my body and being on my period. Sorry, just needed to get it off my chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:38 PM
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Is it interesting? I think people are just becoming more comfortable with not conforming to every beauty standard. I am more comfortable hairy than I am if I shave, so I don't shave. There isn't anything deep about it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:21 PM
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Am I wrong? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:19 PM
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Sex is a marital duty If I ever get married it wont be to a person who hold such an opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:27 PM
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Nothing I have done to a specific man, but me being hairy and "masculine" would give a lot of men the ick I assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:22 AM
1

I wish I could enjoy cooking again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:15 AM
1

What propaganda? Have you seen the movie? I have. Still with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:20 AM
1

Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:04 AM
1

I have a friend who has multiple girlfriends who he emotionally/physically abuses Why are you friends with such a person?!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:04 PM
1

How does this prove that average women aren't being assaulted/raped?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:11 PM
1

Uhhhhh, source?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:08 PM
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I don’t understand how someone so openly vitriolic towards a whole other gender can even claim to be attracted to them. I mean that is not exclusive to those bisexual women. It applies to (some) straight/bisexual men as well. I think a lot of commenters here to not contribute in good faith. That has at least been my impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:06 PM
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That sentiment seems sadly somewhat common is some bisexual women. Good thing I don't care what other people think about my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:00 PM
2

I hate when your comfort food that you have been eating for every day starts to not taste like comfort anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 06:18 PM
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Alright
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:58 PM
2

About 50/50 I would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:50 PM
2

What does leading in a relationship entail?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:44 PM
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Whatever helps you sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:41 PM
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I like my non-polarised relationship, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:37 PM
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They weren't making fun, they were repulsed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:25 AM
1

Because...?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:15 AM
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Armpit hair and things like that, imo, are fine for most guys. Eh, not sure about that. I saw a YouTube short recently, where the woman had the tiniest bit of armpit hair. The amount of (assumed) men in the comments losing their minds was astonishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:13 AM
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I don't stink more with armpit hair than I do without.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:10 AM
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really makes you think Feel free to elaborate what you are thinking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:19 AM
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All the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 06:31 AM
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Yes. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 08:36 PM
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I don't like the way you talk about vulnerable men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:36 PM
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I get easily overwhelmed, but not once have I gotten overwhelmed by my partner being vulnerable. So no, I don't worry about that (and that should mean something because I worry about almost everything). Why do you ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:25 PM
1

I actually do want my partner to share his worries and vulnerabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:16 PM
1

Can someone summarize?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 06:40 PM
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Why can't I consume media in a normal way? I just finished the second season of Good Omens and it left me an emotional mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:36 PM
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Partner knows and doesn't understand either. But he has fun reading through my comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 03:15 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:34 AM
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Lol, I love spiders.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:34 AM
1

Escitalopram
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:08 AM
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Yup. I cry less. That's pretty much it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:56 PM
1

Thanks, but I already said that I am not looking into getting one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 09:50 PM
1

Yeah, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 09:30 PM
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Well, it wasn't really my choice to be born into a body that is capable of getting pregnant. I have to deal with it in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:57 PM
1

Bavaria isn't the state I am from, but I am sure it would still be helpful, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:53 PM
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May I ask which country you are from? I wasn't going for a hysterectomy but rather just getting my tubes tied. And my countries health insurance doesn't cover that except if it is physically dangerous for you to get pregnant and you also cannot use hormonal birth control. So I'll have to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:51 PM
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It is (or can be), depending on what procedure you get. There is also IVF and adoption.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:49 PM
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Not worried. IF I should start wanting children there are multiple options available.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:45 PM
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Contraception can fail. I'd rather have the extra security, since neither partner or I want children. He is open to having a vasectomy, but he is also pretty young, so I am not going to rush him. I'd really rather not be able to get pregnant at all. It's not about being "lazy".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:43 PM
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Germany
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:38 PM
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I am pretty sure in my country they do, especially if you don't have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:37 PM
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With that logic I already am "interfering with nature" since I am on birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:36 PM
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Looking into sterilization. Apparently there is a gynecologist in my state who does it for childfree women over the age of 25. I'll have to start saving for it I guess. Although going through a surgery I don't "really need" (as in not medically necessary) irks me, but it would still give me more peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:33 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:36 PM
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I don't have a preference, but my partner didn't have a choice in the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 10:02 AM
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Please eat something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:58 AM
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2 slices of toast with peanut butter and strawberry jam. Blueberries Rice, vegan Schnitzel and sriracha mayo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:57 AM
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There is no universe in which Margot Robbie is "mid" or average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:10 PM
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You know that telling mentally ill people (not just women) whose life circumstances are good (which doesn't meant that you can't become mentally ill) that they have "no reason to be mentally ill" does not magically cure them, it makes the guilt and shame they already feel just worse. Besides that your comment just conveniently applies advantages that don't work like that in real life and ignores all the problems humans and women specifically face.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:07 PM
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This is just in: having a partner cures mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:16 PM
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I know you said you don't want professional help, but please consider it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 04:59 PM
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Empathy is hard for some people. I am sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 04:58 PM
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Define women being shallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 04:03 PM
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Note I don’t want to use this to hurt anyone except only the assholes who like hitting men below the belt. In other words I want a socially acceptable comeback that hits them where it hurts for when a woman tries to hit a man where it’s supposed to hurt. Would you do the same if you witness a man doing it to a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:05 PM
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Thinking they are trans? Not an insult and just makes you look silly, especially if you double down after being told otherwise. Source: Me, who has been transvestigated online multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:49 AM
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Here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:59 AM
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I don't know about most, but yes, a lot don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:22 AM
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Any woman with a bit of decency will realize that body shaming sucks and that it's a bad thing to do, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:56 AM
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Go eat
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 06:06 AM
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Weren't the different "types" of vaginas purely based on the appearance of the vulva?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 06:05 AM
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From my experience, there’s way too many parents not willing to admit their kids should get professional help. Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:46 AM
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Your female counterparts have been getting attention from their peers since they were 11 and teens start regularly dating as early as 13. Guess I was a late bloomer then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:44 AM
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But the OP is saying that he is staring, not glancing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:40 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:39 AM
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I hate it when anyone stares.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:38 AM
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doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:09 PM
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It's not dehumanizing I mean that not up to you to decide. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:06 PM
1

So how tall are you? <sup>jk</sup>
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:01 PM
1

:(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:59 PM
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Send succulent pics?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:56 PM
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I mean he has insecurities. So do I.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:41 PM
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Today I managed to take care of myself, my apartment and my plants. Feelsgood.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:37 PM
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Varies from time to time. Currently: whole grain toast with peanut butter and banana or jam. Rice with eggs and hoisin sauce.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:36 PM
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I don't think you should describe me as high value based on that knowledge alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:35 PM
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My partner reads my reddit comments. And I don't think my description of him is insulting. I love his traits, both physical and in terms of personality. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:32 PM
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My partner reads my reddit comments. And I don't think my description of him is insulting. I love his traits, both physical and in terms of personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:32 PM
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I don't do hook ups, so no story to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:27 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:26 PM
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Well, I don't believe in this whole alpha/beta male thing. But if you look at his traits he would be on the beta side of things. He doesn't have high status, isn't overly masculine in terms of looks and personality, he is shorter than me, isn't overly confident, he has insecurities, shows emotions/cries, is mentally ill, isn't muscular, doesn't display leadership/dominance or display risk taking behaviors. He is caring, kind, trustworthy and was/is willing to commit. (I looked at the wiki of thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:26 PM
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I don't get this whole dominant/submissive thing. Neither I or my partner are either. But yes, he is what you would call a beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:29 PM
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First :3
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:00 PM
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I know that my comment was a appeal to nature fallacy. I still find it strange that you find a little bit if hair that repulsive. Now, I am not talking about a preference, I am talking about your repulsion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:03 PM
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I think so. Or it's the woman with the biggest amount of internalised misogyny I have ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:47 PM
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Don't you think that it is a bit strange that you are that repulsed by the female body in it's natural state?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:27 PM
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How does it feel to be so soft?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:30 PM
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Ok lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:28 PM
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Like, just look away if it bothers you, it's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:27 PM
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Just saw a YouTube short where a woman had the tiniest amount of armpit hair and people were losing it in the comments. Like, just look away if it bothers you, it's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 11:57 AM
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Non conforming men arent all that attractive to women Are they? so by not conforming they create more issues for themselves. Now the question is which of the issues outweighs each other: being true to yourself (being non-conforming) but having a smaller dating pool vs wearing a mask/putting on an act (conforming) and having a bigger dating pool. I personally (although not a man) am happier being non-conforming and having the majority of men not be attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:32 AM
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Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:21 AM
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Men feeling comfortable expressing emotions is a good thing. Bottling everything up is unhealthy. If a person does not feel comfortable with their gender roles I see no harm in not conforming. I would be deeply unhappy if I had to conform.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:21 AM
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You put it so well!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:12 AM
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I have depression (diagnosed) and my partner likely does too (not diagnosed). I can see why a mentally healthy person wouldn't want to deal with that. But since both of us know how it is, we are able to support and be there for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:08 AM
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Nah, I love giving gifts, I usually put a lot of thought into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:03 AM
1

How is toxic masculinity demonizing masculinity and not a real thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:58 AM
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I think that men are also becoming more comfortable with not conforming to gender roles. That's a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:57 AM
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jfc
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 07:44 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:42 PM
1

cool
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:31 PM
1

word
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:28 PM
1

That means I don't count? :3
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:23 PM
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My partner and I started out as friends so we both knew that the other was mentally ill. Still didn't stop us from falling in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:19 PM
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Ok, but I am not those women. An arrogant gym guy is far away from what I would consider a friend, even further for a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:17 PM
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Women all want the same thing Imagine actually believing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:10 PM
1

I don't have one "type" so there isn't really a preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:01 PM
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Physical dealbreakers are being severely over- or underweight or having bad hygiene. I look for someone who I can be myself around with. Someone who accepts and loves me for who I am (same goes for them of course). Someone who is kind and compassionate and shares similar values. Bonus points for kind eyes and a nice smile.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:00 PM
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As I said, I don't care about height. My partner is shorter than me. Not being fit does not mean fat. Just an average body is fine. I prefer some softness. Not being rich does not necessarily mean being poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:57 PM
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are you fat? No lol. Idk I am not exactly conventionally attractive. Maybe around average?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:55 PM
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Because height, being fit (V taper shape, chiseled jawline) and being rich isn't what is important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:50 PM
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It's kind of hard to unlearn things and heal trauma though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:42 PM
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All women want a tall, fit(V taper shape, chiseled jawline), rich chad. No. The exceptions don't matter What?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:41 PM
1

First :3
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:01 PM
1

I think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 12:33 PM
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Thanks, I'm cured.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 12:32 PM
1

I talked about my fear of abandonment in therapy yesterday and as a result dreamt of being abandoned. Lovely.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:04 AM
0

And I am with a man who is vulnerable with me. What now?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 05:38 AM
0

Yes I am. Do not perceive me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 11:10 PM
1

I don't rate people, but I can tell you that he isn't my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 10:25 PM
1

I forgot her on my list for her smile and expressive face.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 10:14 PM
1

Here are the ones I could think of that I find aesthetically attractive: male: Bill Skarsgard, Cillian Murphy, (young) Skeet Ulrich, Dev Patel, Bang Yongguk, Viggo Mortensen as Aragorn, Lakeith Stanfield, Chadwick Boseman (may he rest in peace) female: Keira Knightley (in Pirates of the Caribbean was my gay awakening), Cate Blanchett, Gillian Anderson, Sigourney Weaver (as Ripley), Angela Bassett, Adria Arjona, Lupita Nyong'o non-binary: Janelle Monáe, Vico Ortiz, Emma D'Arcy, J. Harrison Ghee ​
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 10:12 PM
1

I would not do that, if the dates are romantic ones. I do hang out with friends of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:38 PM
1

I came home from watching the Barbie movie and my neighbor left more berries at my doorstep. I'm gonna cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:27 PM
1

Yes <3
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:14 PM
1

So thankful that my partner sits to pee without me having to tell him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:09 PM
1

I also said that I don't like to use the word ugly, which is why I said what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:04 PM
1

Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:02 PM
1

Guess I just hallucinated me enjoying spending time/friendship with a not conventionally attractive man (I don't like the word ugly).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:50 PM
1

Please seek out a mental health professional if you can. Depression sucks, but you dont have to go through it alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:47 PM
1

The only person that I want to find me attractive is my partner. They do, so I am happy. I am also happy if I am not attractive to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:43 PM
1

Ugly people are treated worse, yes. That still doesn't mean that women enjoy seeing men suffer, cant have empathy for them or don't think of them. Or that they are invisible to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:39 PM
1

I am hairy. When it comes to partner's I don't care. Whatever they choose to do with their body hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:43 PM
1

That's just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:23 PM
1

He's being sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:31 PM
1

Aragorn/Sam from LOTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:22 PM
1

?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:11 PM
1

Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:11 PM
1

Therapy was productive and I am going to see the Barbie movie today.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:01 PM
5

There is an orgasm gap. Studies and data prove it. Hell, I experienced it myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 11:43 AM
2

Women want fame, attention and wealth. I just want to love and be loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 11:34 AM
1

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:57 PM
1

Yeah I get eepy after eating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:34 PM
1

So he's acting then. Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:22 PM
1

Well, I don't know anything about them, but usually people cry because they are experiencing intense emotions. Or he's acting. Who knows. None of my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:04 PM
1

It's an emotional moment for him I assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:57 PM
1

Not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 05:52 PM
1

What grifting does to a mf.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 05:12 PM
1

Pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:38 PM
1

What does "behaving like a man/woman" entail?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:34 PM
1

First?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:01 PM
10

Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:51 AM
12

Nah, that can't be it. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:50 AM
2

My partner is a "women's movement defender" and yes, he gets hot sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:49 AM
2

Old, used up hags with dried out eggs, clearly. /s obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:24 PM
2

<3
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 10:36 PM
1

I had rice and eggs. I can cook decently well I think. I just don't put in a lot of effort for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:31 PM
23

I don't care about if other people (be it strangers or friends) think if my partner is attractive or not. He's my partner not theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:30 PM
1

"depression is real only if I believe in it" Brb gonna gaslight myself into believing that I don't have depression
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:23 PM
1

Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:04 PM
1

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/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:01 PM
1

very romantic mutual love Easiest choice of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:46 PM
1

Oh I am not even referencing a discussion on this subreddit. I have already learned not to argue on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 07:30 PM
1

It's not so much about changing opinions, but rather that the person made a baseless assumption/leap of "logic" and refuses to provide any source for their assumption, so the whole discussion became pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 07:22 PM
1

Why do I even try to argue with people on reddit. I have the urge to repeatedly smash my head into a wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 06:57 PM
1

Q4 people that actually go outside and socialize. Damn that's a hard requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:32 PM
3

Crippling depression Also way too many plants and a collection of bones and dead things. Enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:22 PM
1

My time has finally come. Goodbye cruel world.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:20 PM
1

Hmm I think it's common here to eat them fresh. I still don't like them processed if they are prominent (jam, syrups...). Still just tastes like medicine to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:09 PM
1

MY NEIGHBOR IS A SWEET OLD LADY EXCUSE ME
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:05 PM
1

For real. I love berries so much (except for black currant, those can fuck themselves), but they are always so expensive to buy and then they don't even taste good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:03 PM
1

Extra protein nomnomnom
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:00 PM
1

My neighbor gave me raspberries and blackberries from their garden, they are too kind to me 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 03:57 PM
1

Because depression is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 03:53 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 10:39 PM
1

Thanks, I made it just for people like you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:49 PM
1

I'd take nice, yes even boring, over an asshole any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:48 PM
2

I mean I never "dated" in the usual sense. I don't work like that. Both my only previous and current relationship developed out of friendships. Previous relationship lasted long but wasn't healthy. In my current relationship I am very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:17 PM
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Yeah, it kind of does get old. This daily community thread is the most fun for me. A lot of stuff just makes me feel bad and upset. I was just curious because a friend was talking about this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:09 PM
3

Ok, but then don't cheat? Like it doesn't make sense if men can only get sex in relationships how would he cheat/sleep around while in it? Surely you can do one or the other without being a pos.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:15 PM
1

Back scratches are the best!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:02 PM
2

I am afab, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:07 PM
1

I love my partner very much. I am so lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 04:31 PM
1

Define virginity? And yes, they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 04:30 PM
1

Why virginity?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 04:30 PM
2

Well, I haven't seen it (yet). But tbf I avoid a good portion of posts because I don't want to get upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 04:03 PM
1

And what did she say?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:55 PM
1

Equality of the sexes. I am just a feminist. I don't define myself as any "kind of feminist". I am sex positive, not promiscuous, I don't think I am entitled, atheist, non-man hating, liberal, "masculine". Feminism advocates for choice. If a woman wants to be a "masculine" boss babe she can do that. If she wants to be a feminine stay at home mom she can do that. Same applies for men of course. You guys really should recognize your bias against feminism and women in general. It can't be healthy t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:54 PM
1

Well, I haven't seen them generalizing men. But I also haven't been here for very long.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:41 PM
1

As a feminist, I do not want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:40 PM
1

This sub has lots of women saying this: Yes all men, men are trash, its always a man, K*ll all men ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:36 PM
1

My mum does care about me, she just takes it very personally if I am in a bad mood and don't manage to hide it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:32 PM
1

Are the feminists in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:30 PM
2

I have not seen any woman express any of this on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:30 PM
1

Lying is a great way to start off a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:20 PM
1

I am very sorry. I hope you were able to heal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:43 PM
2

Not how vaginas work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:42 PM
1

Jfc. How to give your child body issues and an eating disorder speedrun I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:37 PM
1

I think society would be better if parents went to therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:33 PM
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To be fair the solution was provided primarily to inexperienced guys. Dudes don't like being less sexually experienced than their woman. And that justifies cheating? How? Why be in a relationship in the first place if your true intetion is to cheat and sleep around?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:25 PM
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I was talking about my not so good relationship with food and my body with my therapist this week and today, when visiting my parents for lunch, my dad commented how I was eating a lot today. Then my mum proceeded to tell me how much my dad ate yesterday for dinner and bragged how little she ate. Fml.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 10:51 AM
6

So cheating is ok as long as the man does it to a woman who has a high N count?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:31 AM
1

As long as you apply that same logic to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:35 AM
2

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:10 AM
1

I don't know since I don't drink and don't really go to clubs/parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:10 AM
2

I am pretty sure I would be the one catching and releasing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:09 AM
5

Yes, that is quite literally what I am asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:57 AM
5

You copied my comment, great. I am asking you for clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:53 AM
1

my hobbies/interests include this: Art, videogames, politics, psychology, sociology. Surely SOME women out there share these interests Yup, I share some of these. it's almost like women aren't interested in friendships with men. I am, actually. Now as to how exactly to make friends (of any gender) I don't know. I suck at making friends and am socially awkward. Edit: Do you want to be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:44 AM
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my thoughts on women and relationships has changed drastically How have they changed? What exactly do you mean by "women's inner thoughts"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:36 AM
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I don't want other men's DNA in my investments. Very simple. Could you elaborate? DNA isn't "stored" in women if that is what you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:33 AM
1

That sounds like an awful conversation to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:44 PM
1

People do be making up the wildest assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:39 PM
2

How does it feel to be a hypocrite?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:36 PM
1

You just can't stand other people being happy, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 04:12 PM
1

Thank you for working for the Greater Good.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 04:10 PM
1

I don't have guys in my "friendzone", I simply have friends. One friend and I happened to mutually fall in love with each other and we are happily together now. But besides that I don't usually have romantic feelings for friends. That's not influenced by any traits I could name.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 04:06 PM
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It's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:30 AM
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Flair does not check out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:30 AM
1

Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:33 AM
1

The Fly Bite
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:32 AM
1

Already moved to an apartment in a rural area on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:29 AM
1

run away to Utah in search of the most complete utahraptor skeleton Goals honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:20 AM
2

of the pathetic rules Like?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:12 AM
2

Foreplay is a must. I want orgasms too. It doesn't have to be oral, but being invested in my pleasure isn't optional.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:05 PM
1

If only I was delusional. I would be much happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:26 PM
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If I had the money and wasn't afraid of needles I would have so many tattoos. One can dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:23 PM
1

Whatever helps you sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:20 PM
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Electric. Bamboo toothbrush when travelling.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:25 PM
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I will just use this as confirmation that I am cisn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:24 PM
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I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:43 AM
1

Don't care, still going to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:39 AM
1

I am sorry to hear that. If you need someone to vent to or just a stranger who listens without judging you can always write me. You are not alone in this!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:58 AM
1

Just checking up on you, how are you feeling?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:41 AM
1

Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:37 AM
1

I don't detest short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:33 AM
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He read the Handmaids Tale and thought that the rules there were a neat idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 10:00 PM
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Yeah. I mean impressive and good for them, but I prefer a soft stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:03 PM
1

What a terrible day to be literate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:29 PM
1

CCU - the Chad Cinematic Universe
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:37 PM
1

It's not like penises are pretty either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:03 PM
1

Why would she find him boring? Because he wants to take it slow with sex? Even though she expressed how happy she is about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:17 PM
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Why? She sounds very happy with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:14 PM
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What do you mean by non sexual intimacy ? Cuddling, kissing, just being close and embracing each other. So yeah, that would be excluded in what you were describing. I couldn't live like that, so matter how many friends or how good my social life was. Are you bisexual ? Bi demisexual, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:05 PM
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No they do not. Source: I exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:41 PM
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I could go without sex, but I wouldn't want to live without romantic love and non-sexual intimacy (be it with a man, woman or other). If that is also excluded in your question then no, it would not replace that. I would probably end up falling for one of my theoretical many friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:38 PM
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When TRP says treat women like children, they don't mean dismissing women's opinions and being a dick. Are you sure about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:03 PM
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I mean thinking about suicide is a sign that there is something going on. And it's not shameful to seek help for it. In my case it was/is severe depression. Now I am on medication and go to therapy. What I am trying to say is, you don't have to deal with this alone. Depending on where you live there are probably suicide or mental health hotlines/websites that you can reach out to and they can help you with getting started on seeking professional help. I know it all seems pointless and overwhelmi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:04 AM
1

why is it that if you are at a certain age and have little no experience with women (not by choice) they just assume you're gay? Honestly idk, that's such a weird leap of "logic".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:50 AM
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I am sure your friends and family would gladly help and be there for you, instead of losing you. Are you able to reach out to a mental health professional?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:47 AM
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Sorry for the late reply, I was sleeping. A shorter man doesn't make you feel less feminine like most women claim? Are you able to genuinely respect a man who is shorter than you? Do you feel like he could protect you? Don't taller men make you feel more protected and feminine? Both my ex and my current partner are shorter than me. I am not big on "feeling feminine" so I might be the wrong person to answer these questions. But yes, of course I am able to respect people who are shorter than me. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:39 AM
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Do you have anyone close to you that you can reach out to? People do care, I promise, please let them know how you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:28 AM
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I am here because a friend told me that he was falling down a rabbit hole here. I probably wont stick around long term though, as I try to avoid content that upsets me. I just wanted to see what he was talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:06 PM
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I don't care about height, but then again, I am 6'2. I date interracially and have no preference when it comes to ethnicity. As long as we work in terms of personality and value. I don't know honestly. Do you know if other people even notice this about you? Loving animals is a big plus. Same goes for being vegan. I am not vegan anymore myself, but I still try to avoid animal products for the most part. This is my own personal opinion as an afab person, other women might feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:04 PM
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So would you be so kind to provide some examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:20 PM
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Like?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:30 PM
1

It happens. Hope you are ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:47 PM
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I have no way of knowing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:46 PM
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To some degree it's biology, but a lot of it is either missing experience/education or simply not caring. Yes, the orgasm gap could be more narrow if men would get better at making women orgasm and if women advocated for their own pleasure more.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:25 AM
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I think pointing out the orgasm gap is still valid, as when one looks at the gap between lesbian and straight women, it's clear that lesbian women orgasm significantly more during partnered sex than straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:45 AM
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Lesbian women orgasm more frequently during partnered sex than straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:36 AM
1

I am sorry to hear that but I also can relate. Sending a virtual hug. Do you have someone close to you that you can talk to? Or are you able to do some things you know you enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:10 AM
1

I am ashamed to admit that I have never seen the movie or read the book.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:09 AM
1

I should really watch that movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:06 AM
1

You're very welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:56 AM
1

I think so. It's a slow process though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:55 AM
2

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:31 AM
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It shouldn't be a one-sided thing. In my first relationship sex was something that was done to me. My pleasure (and boundaries) were not important or regarded. In my current relationship sex is a mutual and intimate experience. Worlds apart. I actually have orgasm with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:30 AM
1

I am sorry to hear that. I hope you can get some good sleep soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:19 AM
1

It's not that I don't like therapy, it's just when I am not feeling well (for reasons that I am in therapy for) I have the urge to isolate and not talk about my problems. So I have to force myself to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:55 AM
1

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:53 AM
1

I slept like garbage and am not looking forward to dragging myself to therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:59 AM
1

I am very sorry. Sending a virtual hug.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:58 AM
1

This is hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:57 AM
1

Agreeing to split the cost is a green flag imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:56 AM
1

There's no such thing as a man that "used to be a hoe". If he was a hoe in the past, he's a hoe now, he's just better at hiding it. Don't fall for any of the bullshit when he says "That's not who I am anymore! I've changed!!" Yeah sure you have bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:55 AM
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We are long distance, but have met up irl multiple times and will continue doing so until we can close the gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:46 PM
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If we clicked personality-wise, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:26 PM
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I don't really feel like dealing with the mess... so nay.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:18 PM
4

I found my partner online in a gaming discord server.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:30 PM
12

I want to hear your side to get a better understanding on why going out is so fundamental for your relationship It's not fundamental. I don't like going out a lot. and how can an introvert navigate this. By dating a fellow introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:00 PM
1

I don't, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:55 PM
1

Who are these "mentally ill monsters"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:46 PM
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For me personally, it's not that I like mysterious quiet guys, I genuinely think/know that a fellow introvert is just a better fit for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:15 PM
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I didn't even know it was possible to put that name and "good" in the same sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:59 PM
1

How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:15 PM
1

but he just said he'd been thinking about it a lot, over and over, every time I asked what brought him to this conclusion, what was going on, and eventually he just said "this is how it's going to be, take it or leave it." Those exact words, in response to literally everything I said. Full shutdown. No explanations. ​ He's now saying that I'm being unfair and manipulative, and that he tried to come to me with a serious concern about our relationship and I'm making it impossible for him to talk t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:12 PM
1

Oh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 07:19 PM
1

Every woman I know that is around my age (including myself) has a story of either sexual harassment or SA. It is certainly not a "personal issue of a few people". It happens to a lot of women. Have you outright asked the women you know if they have experienced it? Or are you just assuming?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 07:09 PM
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Being woke, depressed, feminist or "beta" aren't dealbreakers. I would even count woke and feminist as positives. My partner is woke, depressed, feminist and what you guys would call "beta". Although I will say that obesity is a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:24 PM
1

So you are talking in definities?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 07:43 AM
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No am not "Women always date up to a specific metric of the man "
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 07:39 AM
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My partner is slightly above average in height, but shorter than me so I am still answering: No, he is perfect the way he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:34 PM
2

Working on trauma is hard, I am proud of you! I'm into nature and shit. That's nice though!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:36 PM
1

That's good to hear! I am from Germany.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:31 PM
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Oh yeah, I didn't think about that (I am not from the US).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:26 PM
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Lucky you, he has a very nice voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:21 PM
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Unrelated, but every time I read the "pretty boy" in your flair I hear Arthur Morgan yelling "Pretty boy? You're kidding me? Pretty boy?" in my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:18 PM
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I mean I don't know all current men. The ones I do know would not benefit from this. Mental health issues and emotions don't go away just because they are "unmanly". Men should be able to talk about them and express them freely with people close to them without being judged for not conforming to some idea of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:15 PM
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How many of you all here shit on men as a whole to your significant other? I don't do that. Would you be ok with him doing the same back to women? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:09 PM
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I am probably the minority, but both my ex and my current partner are shorter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:04 PM
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Toxic masculinity: Telling boys to "man up" if they are showing emotions (especially "unmanly" ones like crying). Internalizing that and being unable to express emotions in a healthy manner, judging other man for not being "manly enough". Toxic femininity: shaming other women for not having children because "that is what women "are supposed to do", judging mothers for choosing to have a C-section or using formula instead of breastfeeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:57 PM
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Well femininity (and masculinity) aren't really universal things, they look different for every person. But I do not want to embrace femininity (at least not physically) because that's just not who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:50 PM
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Both are a thing, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:44 PM
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If your under 6ft then you need to make absolutely sure the women your seeing are shorter than you Guess I should tell my partner this. He clearly doesn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:50 PM
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Could you elaborate? I feel like you are making assumptions about my experience/views.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:47 AM
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? Well even in the past when I was active on insta it still wasn't like a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:42 AM
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I do. Although I don't really use it anymore, but I have used it in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:36 AM
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In practice social media ends up being a dating app if you’re a woman. How? I am a woman and this hasn't been my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:22 AM
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I mean men have no reason to be physically afraid of me. In terms of male friends or partner I let them know (and show through my actions) that I am there for them if they need me, that I always have an open ear and a shoulder to cry on for them and that I wont gossip anything around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:02 PM
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Key part missed here was when I said that having sex when you don't want to have it is (or rather can be) damaging. Yes, even with your significant other. Speaking from experience. I would like to copy what u/fiftypoundpuppy said that explains it better: Being penetrated by someone when you don't want them to is viscerally violating and creates deep resentment. It doesn't matter if you technically consented, if you don't want them in your body it feels like they're violating you. And I don't kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:37 AM
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This! Also happy cake day!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 08:26 AM
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I didnt check out what you linked, but I can tell you that having sex if you dont want it is incredibly damaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 08:26 AM
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Salty popcorn is the superior popcorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 08:22 AM
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Well I wouldn't be asking about his height in the first place, but obviously lying about something even before meeting in person is a bad look/deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:48 AM
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I mean yeah, I wasn't claiming to speak for the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:29 PM
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But non-sexual intimacy (kissing, cuddling, hugging) remaining? I can live with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:23 PM
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I don't have casual sex and I would prefer a partner who also hasn't been interested in casual sex, which would correlate with a lower number of sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:21 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:16 PM
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I mean I would have a conversation with them about what changed, how they are feeling and try to see what boundaries to set. Is only PIV sex off the table? Do they still want to engage in (mutual) masturbation for example? Is our non-sexual intimacy going to remain unchanged? But I would absolutely continue being in a happy relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:10 PM
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I would still disagree. My partner and I are long distance so we are " inside eachothers guts" only a few times a year. Even if we stopped having sex at all I would still feel different for them than I do for my friends. But I can understand that other people would feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:03 PM
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Honestly, I feel like sex is the only thing we can offer to men. No man truly enjoys being with one woman all the time. This is a very sad perspective to have. My partner would disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:55 PM
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Well imo there is a difference between platonic love (friendship) and romantic love, even without sex. I was asking explicitly about sex, kissing and cuddling was included in my original question. But I am not so much asking about actions (as in having sex) but rather feelings. Even if my partner and I stopped having sex we would still be in a romantic relationship and I would love them romantically, in a way that is different from my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:50 PM
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I would argue that there is a difference between platonic love and romantic love (even without sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:47 PM
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Is sex really the only thing that differentiates friendships and romantic relationships for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:58 PM
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Again, I didnt say that I judge all AGRs, I am just saying that there is increased potential. That's all I am saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:12 AM
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Yes, but I would argue that it is significantly higher in AGRs, especially with a very young partner. Some of the stuff I tolerated in my first relationship was simply because I didn't know it any different, I was young and impressionable and naive. None of the shit would fly with me today.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:06 AM
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To a degree. I don't have many physical dealbreakers or preferences when it comes to potential romantic partners. What I care about is: not severely under- or overweight and decent hygiene. I am also not into really muscular men. I prefer a soft man. That being said, when it comes to me, you can be as beautiful or handsome as possible, but that isn't going to get me interested in you. I need to know a person really well in order to develop romantic or sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:51 AM
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I honestly don't know. I never understood what "status" really meant, but whatever it is, I don't care about it or value it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:46 AM
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A friend told me he was falling down the rabbit hole here so I thought I'd check it out. After one of the posts yesterday I am not sure how long I will stick around though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:40 AM
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I am not against men getting services from sex workers. I just wouldn't want to date such a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:37 AM
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Imo there is nothing inherently wrong with them, but they do have the potential to more easily have an unhealthy/predatory dynamic, especially if the younger person is very young.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:35 AM
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Conservative and religious would each on their own be dealbreakers for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:32 AM
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I never know how to answer these "who would you rather pick assuming face, personality, status, money are equal insert some physical traits here" questions. I didn't even know my current (or past) partner's size before getting into a committed relationship with them. Meaning I am committing to someone without knowing their penis size because I simply don't care. I am with someone because I love them, not because of whats in their pants. Status and money are things that aren't really important to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:31 AM
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A guy being insecure about something body related isn't a turn off for me, that would be silly. I do think though that if a short guy was insecure about his height specifically, that we wouldn't be a good match, because I am tall. I feel like he would have a problem with our height difference and being seen in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:22 AM
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I am glad this is being asked after that post. It left me honestly devastated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:31 PM
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It might shock you, but besides loosing trust, safety and emotional connection to a partner behaving like the husband did, such actions also nuke any sexual attraction you have for the person. This isn't rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:11 PM
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You are intentionally misinterpreting what I said. OP asked why the woman in question started to want sex less or to not want sex. I answered why her libido might have dropped in the beginning. The woman herself clearly said that she couldn't desire sex with her husband because of his behavior, which followed the assumed first drop in libido, causing her to not be able to recover from the issues. The issues probably could have been solved with the husband if he supported and respected his wife. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:08 PM
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How can you say/think this and not realize that you have a fucked up view of relationships and sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:41 PM
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"why was he still having sex with her" because she consented...? After being yelled at/threatened/nagged until she gave in. That not really consenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:40 PM
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Fair enough. Guess that just shows there isn't one thing that works for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:38 PM
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Where did she act that him trying to leave is a bad thing? She left him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:37 PM
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Yes, people don't want to have sex sometimes. To correct reaction of a loving partner would be to say that that's ok and to not push further. Not to threaten and pressure. Once you do that your partner very likely wont be able to go back to see you how they did before that. You broke trust and made your partner feel unsafe. You destroyed the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:32 PM
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He would threaten all sorts of things to get it He KNEW I didn't want it yet as I lay there he would still choose to have sex with me He he didn't care or try understand how I felt he just wanted his sexual desires met You get backed into a corner and all the yelling and nagging Where did she gaslight?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:29 PM
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We don't know if he did any healing. If you are really choosing to side with a man who yelled and pressured his wife into sex knowing full well that she did not want it, to the point where she would cry afterwards there is no use in having a discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:22 PM
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He would threaten all sorts of things He KNEW I didn't want it yet as I lay there he would still choose to have sex with me . I felt sick to the stomach during it . I would go away and cry afterwards .
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:18 PM
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sex is a stress and anxiety reliever. That might apply for masturbation, but to have sex I need to be relaxed and not anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:14 PM
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Your language tells me why you can't understand her (or me). No, he's demanding just as much sex Her current partner isn't demanding sex. "Demanding sex" already implies a dysfunctional and unhealthy sexual relationship. Same goes for "putting out". Neither term should be used to describe sex in a healthy and loving relationship. You not being able to understand that is why you can't understand her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:12 PM
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We don't know if she is always in the mood for him. All we know is that they have a healthy sexual relationship, which probably includes moments where either of them are not in the mood and where there is no pressure to have sex regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:03 PM
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Well the husband in question here did not stop his behavior and drove his wife to separate. You can't possibly blamer her for healing, getting into a new relationship and, having healed, having a healthy sexual relationship where her boundaries and consent are respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:01 PM
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How can you read all that and draw the completely wrong conclusion? If my current partner behaved like my ex I wouldn't want him either. I feel like your problem is a complete lack of empathy for women and not understanding how damaging the described behavior can be. It is not the I (or the woman) wanted or needed another man, we just needed our boundaries and consent respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:59 PM
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The only difference is now she has another man. Who does not pressure her if she isn't in the mood. That is the whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:56 PM
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You literally cannot know that. She said why she is more happy and willing to have sex now. It sounds reasonable to me. You are making assumptions based on nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:54 PM
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Well why did she stop having sex to begin with? It's not like the nagging just showed up one day for no reason. She mentioned two children. Pregnancy and birth can mess with hormones long term, raising and caring for children is exhausting and libido can fluctuate over time. Assuming it was one or more factors being at play here and he started his behavior after a drop in frequency of sex, then I don't understand your point really.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:52 PM
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I completely understand what woman is talking about. Getting pushed/begged/pressured into sex is damaging. It makes you resent the person doing it. It makes sex not enjoyable. It destroys trust, respect and emotional intimacy and connection. Having your boundaries and consent violated like that messes you up. I had that experience with an ex. My current partner respects when I am not in the mood and does not push or beg, ever. As a result I feel more safe and secure around him and am in the mood…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:45 PM
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Partner and I are in a LDR, so we go months (like half a year or more) without having sex. I don't really struggle with not having sex, it's the non-sexual intimacy I miss most. If I wasn't in a relationship I wouldn't be having sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:01 PM
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I would kind of be turned off by a guy having hookups/casual sex in the first place. Him regretting them wouldn't add anything to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:55 PM
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Talking as in to develop friendship and possibly a romantic relationship (assuming that I am single)? In terms of physical traits, not severely under- or overweight. Good hygiene. In terms of character traits and personality I have more preferences, some/most of which are obviously hard to tell right away if we are talking about a man I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:56 PM
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Here are women's standards, to marry a man on the spot: Attractive in every way, wealthy, shares all of same values, same race as herself, other bullshit idk. As a woman, this is news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:49 PM
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I should have probably added that I am demisexual (and also in a relationship), meaning I don't find people besides my partner sexually attractive. I am "immune" so to speak. I can still recognize that they are conventionally attractive/handsome/beautiful, but there is no desire linked to it. That's my bad, that was probably important info haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:55 PM
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Oh, other people can probably view sex in different ways, but I am not very flexible with my view I suppose. Just to make sure, I don't judge or shame people for engaging in casual sex. As long as everyone is consenting and safe I don't care. It's just not for me and I would prefer my partner to not be into casual sex either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:31 PM
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Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:27 PM
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Could you re-phrase your question? I am not sure if I am understanding it correctly. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:20 PM
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As a person who views sex as something deeply intimate that I only have in committed relationships, I would prefer my partner to view sex in a similar way. So no, I probably wouldn't. and most women think this is wrong. I only find it wrong if they are hypocrites (having had casual sex themselves) or if they are unnecessarily judgy about it and shame other ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:04 PM
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I will never understand the love for Channing Tatum as long as I live. Same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:35 PM
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I can't speak for other age gap relationships, only my own, and yes, in hindsight I do view it as problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:05 PM
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Depends on the context of the interaction. If a man (regardless of attractiveness) approaches me in public I am wary of/on the fence about what he wants. It doesn't happen very often, but I always feel bad for rejecting them. What makes it tricky is that I have had instances where they wouldn't accept my rejection and wouldn't leave me alone. So I am cautious when getting approached by strangers. In a social setting, I am a bit more relaxed and open (although I am not a very talkative person gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:01 PM
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It hasn't affected me personally because I find a lot of the guys spouting those talking points just flat out hypocritical. But then again, I have always viewed sex as something deeply intimate and I only have it in committed relationships, so I am not exactly the "target audience" of their shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 09:11 PM
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This is just me, but I would not feel comfortable with physical escalation from a person I barely know. But that's probably why traditional dating wouldn't work for me. I just move too slow.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:52 PM
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None. I am on the asexuality spectrum though, so I don't find people (be it men or women) attractive in that way. Of course I still see quite a few men (and women) who look beautiful/handsome to me, but that is in a purely aesthetic way. I need a romantic and emotional connection to view a person in a way that I am attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 11:19 PM
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If you are sending dick pics to women who did not ask for them and whose conversations with you had no sexual undertones you are indeed engaging in sexual harassment. It is no different than flashing someone in public. Of course repulsion will be a natural response to getting sexually harassed/assaulted. You expecting them to react differently is telling me a lot about your character. When women actually want to see your dick they wont be repulsed, so just get consent next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 10:06 PM
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