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Duh, why else would I be talking to you? (joking)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:26 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:55 AM
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My partner is not active in this sub, so I am just going to answer for myself. Do they consider themselves a feminist? Yes, I do. Do they know or care at all about men's issues? Yes, I do. Have they ever heard of RP/1nc3ls and if so what do they think of them? Things like that, anything related to gender issues. I have heard of that stuff (duh) and I do not think highly of it. Neither does my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:16 PM
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I don't even want to think about the logistics of ass crack shaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 06:16 PM
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Saying you don't care that women get raped is a really good look. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:23 PM
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You guys are out here feeling hopeful and happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:37 PM
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I mean I have always disliked gender roles. In the I might be non-binary or something similar kind of way (so yes, in the transgender kind of sense).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:35 PM
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Yessir
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:32 PM
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Enby :3 The panini caused me to struggle with uni and I also developed a crippling fear of failure and severe depression (which made my already low self-esteem/-worth even more abysmal) and potentially undiagnosed ADHD. I have a very hard time even just thinking about having to write a thesis and believing in myself. But I have to try, I can't just give up now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:25 PM
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No preference, I'll just work with what the person I fall in love with has. Not important. I don't orgasm from penetration alone anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:08 PM
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Today was an anxiety fueled day. I finally took the steps to get my thesis started. I am still terrified of writing it and think I wont be able to do it, but I'll at least try I guess. I also used the gender neutral name I am toying with at Starbucks (to get a pumpkin spice latte). Of course the barista was unsure and I had to spell it to him. It felt scary like he was going to know that it's not my real name lol. I also bought myself a cheap "men's" perfume that smelled very gender and I am stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:05 PM
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I hate it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:51 PM
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That's fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:34 PM
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Well, the higher suicide rate for men is coming from somewhere. There's isn't a government to provide benefits and no access to professional help. This isn't true depending on where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:10 PM
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If you can function without completely destroying yourself, sure. But there is no shame in not being able to function when struggling with severe depression. No matter what gender. And those people should get themselves professional help. Having depression is not "dealing with some personal stuff".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:03 PM
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L take
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:57 PM
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Fair. Based that she can actually stick to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:44 PM
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Where did she go? I haven't seen her around for a while?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:41 PM
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Can we not use slurs?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:40 PM
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I mean I get that, but they are acting like he is revolting. He's just a long haired dude, not a cockroach.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:11 PM
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Why are they acting like that though?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:07 PM
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The way I was scared to click on this based on the comments the men here left. Now I that I did click I am wondering what their problem is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:57 PM
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I see. It's great that you have a (I am assuming) close and good relationship with your parents. I personally would not feel comfortable with my parent's knowing what I share in therapy. It's easier for me to open up to my therapist than to people close to me, as fucked as that sounds. Anyway I am just rambling, there are a lot of books on mental health/trauma that might be resources for you to look into if therapy doesn't work for you. I can recommend "Healing the shame that binds you" in case …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:42 PM
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Not to be that person, but do you have access to therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:31 PM
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The movies and series I watch are pretty diverse, so no one genre. Nothing incredibly niche. In terms of reading I enjoy YA novels (Eragon, Hunger Games, Bartimaeus, etc) but also books like Dune. I am currently reading mental health/self help books. I play RDR2 and DbD. this counts tho but ew I mean you asked lol. I just realized I read your question wrong. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:54 PM
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What is the most not normie hobby or preference you have? I guess enjoying reading, watching movies and series. Does gaming count as a normie hobby? What is the most non conforming thing you did/do? I like collecting skulls/bones and dead insects (and other small dead animals). Edit: I am a dummy and read the question wrong. I thought it said "the most normie hobby".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:48 PM
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I hope so too. I can give an update in tomorrows community chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:36 PM
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I avoid animal products at home. I was vegan for multiple years but fell off. I am doing the best I can currently. I can still chose to help wildlife in need instead of just letting it die.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:35 PM
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I either let them say inside or bring them outside, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:14 PM
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Sorry, I guess? Lol I rescued fallen sparrow babies before and gave them to a person who has the knowledge and capacity to care for them. It doesn't cost more than a bit of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:00 PM
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Have you used a dating app? No. And I only do relationships in case that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:58 PM
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I mean that's fair. I usually don't go alone because eating out is expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:53 PM
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It was tasty :3
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:50 PM
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Happy cake day :3
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:50 PM
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I am not :3 Why though?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 PM
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OMG that typo lol Fixed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 PM
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Or you can be a decent person and help injured wildlife instead of feeding it to an invasive species.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:46 PM
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I also took myself out for food today because I hadn't eaten all day because of anxiety about the jay. Eating at a restaurant alone isn't so awkward after all. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:44 PM
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My parents found an injured Eurasian jay yesterday evening. I picked him up today and brought him to a clinic specialized in birds. I hope they can fix him up again. I will call them and ask for an update tomorrow. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:41 PM
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Yes. They are repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:24 PM
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Went mushroom foraging with two friends and each of us only found one mushroom lol. We're gonna order sushi for dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:20 PM
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I have seen men being nasty to women online, especially if they are under the impression if that woman "chooses" to be "ugly" (as in short hair, body hair, piercings, clothing...). It's like they take offence to women not conforming to beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:11 AM
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Because it just looks awkward for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:39 PM
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Having a buzz cut is great. Highly recommend. The only annoying part is growing it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:37 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:37 PM
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Yeah, I don't like that either. I try to support and help the men in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:04 PM
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Yeah, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:06 PM
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No. I love gaming with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 05:36 PM
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Well this was a great summery of why I am uncomfortable being perceived as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 05:54 PM
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No >:(
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:55 PM
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I wish people would stop posting their corn to SFW subreddit. I don't want to see that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:41 PM
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I think in general men love women a lot more than women love them.Whether is is love or lust or biology that is debate for another day Women love seems too conditional. So why is it that husbands tend to leave their seriously ill wives way more than the other way around?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:29 PM
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That's a mighty bold assumption to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:00 AM
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Idk man, I don't have any guys chasing after me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:59 AM
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I don't remember much of the movies because I couldn't relate to the main character at all, but how does it reflect the median man's experience with women???
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 07:17 PM
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I love treating my partner like the princess he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:55 PM
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I like people (not just men) with an introverted and calm personality. Someone who is kind/gentle and empathetic. Someone with a silly sense of humor who will laugh at my terrible jokes. Someone who isn't afraid to be vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 09:14 AM
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Wdym? That statement isn't wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:51 AM
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My friends are not druggies or criminals. Money would take quite a while. I'd rather not change my looks tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:53 PM
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I definitely have some issues when it comes to friendships due to previous experiences and the panini made me lose my social skills. Add to that the mental illness and you have me: insecure, needy and overthinking everything. I still mourn past friendships. I guess I need to address this more during therapy. I just don't feel secure in my friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:52 PM
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Does anyone know how to stop being/feeling more invested in friendships than the other person? I honestly feel like friendship doesn't come naturally to me anymore. I feel lost. I try to give them space because obviously they have their own lives, but rarely do they contact me if I don't reach out first. And if I reach out frequently I feel like I just come across as needy/clingy/annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:40 PM
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I have no words...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:43 PM
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Molestation, sexual harassment and upskirting are all rampant and common in Japan. It's not "claimed" harassment, it's harassment that is actually happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:38 PM
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I am sorry to hear that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:37 PM
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What does being "hooked" on a vibrator entail? Owning one? Occasionally masturbating with one? Using one during sex? Where is the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:35 PM
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What.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:28 PM
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Are women really out here assuming that men are rapists in public stores? That's news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:26 PM
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If you know anything about trans issues you would know why it is healthcare and not purely cosmetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:25 PM
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There is one example. And the person in question does not regret it I might add.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:23 PM
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Hmmm interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:17 PM
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I have not once thought that when a man was in the same aisle as me in a store.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:16 PM
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Those are suggested guidelines by an organization, not proof that this is happening in a big scale in multiple states.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:14 PM
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Why does it make you uncomfortable?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:05 PM
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People as young as 15 year olds are allowed to get surgery in some states Source? Edit: And what surgery are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:04 PM
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He is against circumcision? Cool. Oh wait, no he is against healthcare for trans people. That isn't even done to children. But he is hateful and disingenuous, so why would he care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:00 PM
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I will never forgive him for that because the transphobes just parrot the question instead of coming up with their own stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:59 PM
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What heroic deed has he done?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:55 PM
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You could just say that you are in favor of oppressing women instead of pretending that you aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:37 PM
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I wonder why that would be?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:30 PM
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Enlighten us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:27 PM
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Lol why?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:48 PM
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I already have my blue pill beta, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:22 PM
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If you want to do nature a favor try killing any you see. They are invasive in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:07 PM
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That's super short.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:31 PM
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Well you can be healthy weighing over 120 lbs though, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:22 PM
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The real question is, will you give high N-count men and non-binary people monogamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:29 PM
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If Emma Stone is a 6 then I guess I am delusional. Wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:34 AM
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Oops. I thought you were talking about physical SH.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:06 PM
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I am not harming myself, but thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:01 PM
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Thank you. Rationally I know this, but I have had a bad experience with a long and close friendship ending because I showed that I wasn't doing well. Since then I try to hide it as much as possible. Trying to unpack this with my therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:01 PM
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Thank you. Rationally I know this, but I have had a bad experience with a long and close friendship ending because I showed that I wasn't doing well. Since then I try to hide it as much as possible. Trying to unpack this with my therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:00 PM
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AFAB non-binary, bi demisexual I honestly don't know how to objectively rate myself since I have low self-esteem and pretty much hate myself and my body (because mental illness). I guess low average, like a 4 out of 10? I am 6'2, have short hair, bad posture, no boobage, cellulite, body hair. I know I could make myself more conventionally attractive by having long hair, shaving and dressing differently but I don't want to. I also come with crippling depression and generally being a mental mess. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 05:58 PM
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Because my brain is stupid and terrified of being a burden to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:57 PM
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I wish I was able to reach out to my partner/friends/family on days like this. Abysmal low mental health today, can't bring myself to do anything, hating myself and my body and being on my period. Sorry, just needed to get it off my chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:38 PM
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Is it interesting? I think people are just becoming more comfortable with not conforming to every beauty standard. I am more comfortable hairy than I am if I shave, so I don't shave. There isn't anything deep about it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:21 PM
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Nothing I have done to a specific man, but me being hairy and "masculine" would give a lot of men the ick I assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:22 AM
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I hate when your comfort food that you have been eating for every day starts to not taste like comfort anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 06:18 PM
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Alright
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:58 PM
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About 50/50 I would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:50 PM
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What does leading in a relationship entail?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:44 PM
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I like my non-polarised relationship, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:37 PM
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They weren't making fun, they were repulsed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:25 AM
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Because...?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:15 AM
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Armpit hair and things like that, imo, are fine for most guys. Eh, not sure about that. I saw a YouTube short recently, where the woman had the tiniest bit of armpit hair. The amount of (assumed) men in the comments losing their minds was astonishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:13 AM
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I don't stink more with armpit hair than I do without.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:10 AM
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Why can't I consume media in a normal way? I just finished the second season of Good Omens and it left me an emotional mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:36 PM
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Partner knows and doesn't understand either. But he has fun reading through my comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 03:15 PM
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Please eat something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:58 AM
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2 slices of toast with peanut butter and strawberry jam. Blueberries Rice, vegan Schnitzel and sriracha mayo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:57 AM
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There is no universe in which Margot Robbie is "mid" or average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:10 PM
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Note I don’t want to use this to hurt anyone except only the assholes who like hitting men below the belt. In other words I want a socially acceptable comeback that hits them where it hurts for when a woman tries to hit a man where it’s supposed to hurt. Would you do the same if you witness a man doing it to a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:05 PM
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Thinking they are trans? Not an insult and just makes you look silly, especially if you double down after being told otherwise. Source: Me, who has been transvestigated online multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:49 AM
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Here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:59 AM
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I don't know about most, but yes, a lot don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:22 AM
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Any woman with a bit of decency will realize that body shaming sucks and that it's a bad thing to do, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:56 AM
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But the OP is saying that he is staring, not glancing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:40 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:39 AM
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I hate it when anyone stares.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:38 AM
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I think so. Or it's the woman with the biggest amount of internalised misogyny I have ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:47 PM
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Ok lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:28 PM
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Like, just look away if it bothers you, it's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:27 PM
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Just saw a YouTube short where a woman had the tiniest amount of armpit hair and people were losing it in the comments. Like, just look away if it bothers you, it's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 11:57 AM
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Non conforming men arent all that attractive to women Are they? so by not conforming they create more issues for themselves. Now the question is which of the issues outweighs each other: being true to yourself (being non-conforming) but having a smaller dating pool vs wearing a mask/putting on an act (conforming) and having a bigger dating pool. I personally (although not a man) am happier being non-conforming and having the majority of men not be attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:32 AM
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Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:21 AM
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Men feeling comfortable expressing emotions is a good thing. Bottling everything up is unhealthy. If a person does not feel comfortable with their gender roles I see no harm in not conforming. I would be deeply unhappy if I had to conform.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:21 AM
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Nah, I love giving gifts, I usually put a lot of thought into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:03 AM
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How is toxic masculinity demonizing masculinity and not a real thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:58 AM
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I think that men are also becoming more comfortable with not conforming to gender roles. That's a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:57 AM
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I think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 12:33 PM
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Thanks, I'm cured.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 12:32 PM
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I talked about my fear of abandonment in therapy yesterday and as a result dreamt of being abandoned. Lovely.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:04 AM
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And I am with a man who is vulnerable with me. What now?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 05:38 AM
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Yes I am. Do not perceive me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 11:10 PM
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I don't rate people, but I can tell you that he isn't my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 10:25 PM
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The only person that I want to find me attractive is my partner. They do, so I am happy. I am also happy if I am not attractive to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:43 PM
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There is an orgasm gap. Studies and data prove it. Hell, I experienced it myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 11:43 AM
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Women want fame, attention and wealth. I just want to love and be loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 11:34 AM
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Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:51 AM
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Nah, that can't be it. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:50 AM
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My partner is a "women's movement defender" and yes, he gets hot sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:49 AM
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Old, used up hags with dried out eggs, clearly. /s obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:24 PM
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<3
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 10:36 PM
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I don't care about if other people (be it strangers or friends) think if my partner is attractive or not. He's my partner not theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:30 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 10:39 PM
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I mean I never "dated" in the usual sense. I don't work like that. Both my only previous and current relationship developed out of friendships. Previous relationship lasted long but wasn't healthy. In my current relationship I am very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:17 PM
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Ok, but then don't cheat? Like it doesn't make sense if men can only get sex in relationships how would he cheat/sleep around while in it? Surely you can do one or the other without being a pos.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:15 PM
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I am afab, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:07 PM
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Well, I haven't seen it (yet). But tbf I avoid a good portion of posts because I don't want to get upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 04:03 PM
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I have not seen any woman express any of this on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:30 PM
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Not how vaginas work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:42 PM
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To be fair the solution was provided primarily to inexperienced guys. Dudes don't like being less sexually experienced than their woman. And that justifies cheating? How? Why be in a relationship in the first place if your true intetion is to cheat and sleep around?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:25 PM
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So cheating is ok as long as the man does it to a woman who has a high N count?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:31 AM
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As long as you apply that same logic to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:35 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:10 AM
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I don't know since I don't drink and don't really go to clubs/parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:10 AM
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I am pretty sure I would be the one catching and releasing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:09 AM
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Yes, that is quite literally what I am asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:57 AM
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You copied my comment, great. I am asking you for clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:53 AM
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my hobbies/interests include this: Art, videogames, politics, psychology, sociology. Surely SOME women out there share these interests Yup, I share some of these. it's almost like women aren't interested in friendships with men. I am, actually. Now as to how exactly to make friends (of any gender) I don't know. I suck at making friends and am socially awkward. Edit: Do you want to be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:44 AM
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my thoughts on women and relationships has changed drastically How have they changed? What exactly do you mean by "women's inner thoughts"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:36 AM
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I don't want other men's DNA in my investments. Very simple. Could you elaborate? DNA isn't "stored" in women if that is what you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:33 AM
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How does it feel to be a hypocrite?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:36 PM
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It's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:30 AM
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Flair does not check out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:30 AM
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of the pathetic rules Like?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:12 AM
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Foreplay is a must. I want orgasms too. It doesn't have to be oral, but being invested in my pleasure isn't optional.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:05 PM
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If I had the money and wasn't afraid of needles I would have so many tattoos. One can dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:23 PM
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Electric. Bamboo toothbrush when travelling.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:25 PM
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I will just use this as confirmation that I am cisn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:24 PM
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I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:43 AM
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He read the Handmaids Tale and thought that the rules there were a neat idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 10:00 PM
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Yeah. I mean impressive and good for them, but I prefer a soft stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:03 PM
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What do you mean by non sexual intimacy ? Cuddling, kissing, just being close and embracing each other. So yeah, that would be excluded in what you were describing. I couldn't live like that, so matter how many friends or how good my social life was. Are you bisexual ? Bi demisexual, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:05 PM
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No they do not. Source: I exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:41 PM
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I could go without sex, but I wouldn't want to live without romantic love and non-sexual intimacy (be it with a man, woman or other). If that is also excluded in your question then no, it would not replace that. I would probably end up falling for one of my theoretical many friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:38 PM
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When TRP says treat women like children, they don't mean dismissing women's opinions and being a dick. Are you sure about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:03 PM
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So would you be so kind to provide some examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:20 PM
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Like?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:30 PM
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It happens. Hope you are ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:47 PM
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I have no way of knowing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:46 PM
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To some degree it's biology, but a lot of it is either missing experience/education or simply not caring. Yes, the orgasm gap could be more narrow if men would get better at making women orgasm and if women advocated for their own pleasure more.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:25 AM
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I think pointing out the orgasm gap is still valid, as when one looks at the gap between lesbian and straight women, it's clear that lesbian women orgasm significantly more during partnered sex than straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:45 AM
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Lesbian women orgasm more frequently during partnered sex than straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:36 AM
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You're very welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:56 AM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:31 AM
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It shouldn't be a one-sided thing. In my first relationship sex was something that was done to me. My pleasure (and boundaries) were not important or regarded. In my current relationship sex is a mutual and intimate experience. Worlds apart. I actually have orgasm with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:30 AM
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We are long distance, but have met up irl multiple times and will continue doing so until we can close the gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:46 PM
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If we clicked personality-wise, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:26 PM
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I don't really feel like dealing with the mess... so nay.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:18 PM
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I found my partner online in a gaming discord server.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:30 PM
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I want to hear your side to get a better understanding on why going out is so fundamental for your relationship It's not fundamental. I don't like going out a lot. and how can an introvert navigate this. By dating a fellow introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:00 PM
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For me personally, it's not that I like mysterious quiet guys, I genuinely think/know that a fellow introvert is just a better fit for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:15 PM
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I didn't even know it was possible to put that name and "good" in the same sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:59 PM
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My partner is slightly above average in height, but shorter than me so I am still answering: No, he is perfect the way he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:34 PM
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Working on trauma is hard, I am proud of you! I'm into nature and shit. That's nice though!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:36 PM
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I am probably the minority, but both my ex and my current partner are shorter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:04 PM
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I mean men have no reason to be physically afraid of me. In terms of male friends or partner I let them know (and show through my actions) that I am there for them if they need me, that I always have an open ear and a shoulder to cry on for them and that I wont gossip anything around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:02 PM
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Well I wouldn't be asking about his height in the first place, but obviously lying about something even before meeting in person is a bad look/deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:48 AM
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But non-sexual intimacy (kissing, cuddling, hugging) remaining? I can live with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:23 PM
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I don't have casual sex and I would prefer a partner who also hasn't been interested in casual sex, which would correlate with a lower number of sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:21 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:16 PM
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I mean I would have a conversation with them about what changed, how they are feeling and try to see what boundaries to set. Is only PIV sex off the table? Do they still want to engage in (mutual) masturbation for example? Is our non-sexual intimacy going to remain unchanged? But I would absolutely continue being in a happy relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:10 PM
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I would still disagree. My partner and I are long distance so we are " inside eachothers guts" only a few times a year. Even if we stopped having sex at all I would still feel different for them than I do for my friends. But I can understand that other people would feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:03 PM
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Honestly, I feel like sex is the only thing we can offer to men. No man truly enjoys being with one woman all the time. This is a very sad perspective to have. My partner would disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:55 PM
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Well imo there is a difference between platonic love (friendship) and romantic love, even without sex. I was asking explicitly about sex, kissing and cuddling was included in my original question. But I am not so much asking about actions (as in having sex) but rather feelings. Even if my partner and I stopped having sex we would still be in a romantic relationship and I would love them romantically, in a way that is different from my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:50 PM
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I would argue that there is a difference between platonic love and romantic love (even without sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:47 PM
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Is sex really the only thing that differentiates friendships and romantic relationships for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:58 PM
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To a degree. I don't have many physical dealbreakers or preferences when it comes to potential romantic partners. What I care about is: not severely under- or overweight and decent hygiene. I am also not into really muscular men. I prefer a soft man. That being said, when it comes to me, you can be as beautiful or handsome as possible, but that isn't going to get me interested in you. I need to know a person really well in order to develop romantic or sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:51 AM
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I honestly don't know. I never understood what "status" really meant, but whatever it is, I don't care about it or value it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:46 AM
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I never know how to answer these "who would you rather pick assuming face, personality, status, money are equal insert some physical traits here" questions. I didn't even know my current (or past) partner's size before getting into a committed relationship with them. Meaning I am committing to someone without knowing their penis size because I simply don't care. I am with someone because I love them, not because of whats in their pants. Status and money are things that aren't really important to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:31 AM
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A guy being insecure about something body related isn't a turn off for me, that would be silly. I do think though that if a short guy was insecure about his height specifically, that we wouldn't be a good match, because I am tall. I feel like he would have a problem with our height difference and being seen in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:22 AM
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I am glad this is being asked after that post. It left me honestly devastated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:31 PM
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You are intentionally misinterpreting what I said. OP asked why the woman in question started to want sex less or to not want sex. I answered why her libido might have dropped in the beginning. The woman herself clearly said that she couldn't desire sex with her husband because of his behavior, which followed the assumed first drop in libido, causing her to not be able to recover from the issues. The issues probably could have been solved with the husband if he supported and respected his wife. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:08 PM
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How can you say/think this and not realize that you have a fucked up view of relationships and sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:41 PM
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"why was he still having sex with her" because she consented...? After being yelled at/threatened/nagged until she gave in. That not really consenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:40 PM
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Fair enough. Guess that just shows there isn't one thing that works for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:38 PM
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Yes, people don't want to have sex sometimes. To correct reaction of a loving partner would be to say that that's ok and to not push further. Not to threaten and pressure. Once you do that your partner very likely wont be able to go back to see you how they did before that. You broke trust and made your partner feel unsafe. You destroyed the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:32 PM
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He would threaten all sorts of things to get it He KNEW I didn't want it yet as I lay there he would still choose to have sex with me He he didn't care or try understand how I felt he just wanted his sexual desires met You get backed into a corner and all the yelling and nagging Where did she gaslight?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:29 PM
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We don't know if he did any healing. If you are really choosing to side with a man who yelled and pressured his wife into sex knowing full well that she did not want it, to the point where she would cry afterwards there is no use in having a discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:22 PM
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He would threaten all sorts of things He KNEW I didn't want it yet as I lay there he would still choose to have sex with me . I felt sick to the stomach during it . I would go away and cry afterwards .
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:18 PM
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sex is a stress and anxiety reliever. That might apply for masturbation, but to have sex I need to be relaxed and not anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:14 PM
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Your language tells me why you can't understand her (or me). No, he's demanding just as much sex Her current partner isn't demanding sex. "Demanding sex" already implies a dysfunctional and unhealthy sexual relationship. Same goes for "putting out". Neither term should be used to describe sex in a healthy and loving relationship. You not being able to understand that is why you can't understand her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:12 PM
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We don't know if she is always in the mood for him. All we know is that they have a healthy sexual relationship, which probably includes moments where either of them are not in the mood and where there is no pressure to have sex regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:03 PM
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Well the husband in question here did not stop his behavior and drove his wife to separate. You can't possibly blamer her for healing, getting into a new relationship and, having healed, having a healthy sexual relationship where her boundaries and consent are respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:01 PM
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How can you read all that and draw the completely wrong conclusion? If my current partner behaved like my ex I wouldn't want him either. I feel like your problem is a complete lack of empathy for women and not understanding how damaging the described behavior can be. It is not the I (or the woman) wanted or needed another man, we just needed our boundaries and consent respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:59 PM
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The only difference is now she has another man. Who does not pressure her if she isn't in the mood. That is the whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:56 PM
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You literally cannot know that. She said why she is more happy and willing to have sex now. It sounds reasonable to me. You are making assumptions based on nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:54 PM
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Well why did she stop having sex to begin with? It's not like the nagging just showed up one day for no reason. She mentioned two children. Pregnancy and birth can mess with hormones long term, raising and caring for children is exhausting and libido can fluctuate over time. Assuming it was one or more factors being at play here and he started his behavior after a drop in frequency of sex, then I don't understand your point really.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:52 PM
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I completely understand what woman is talking about. Getting pushed/begged/pressured into sex is damaging. It makes you resent the person doing it. It makes sex not enjoyable. It destroys trust, respect and emotional intimacy and connection. Having your boundaries and consent violated like that messes you up. I had that experience with an ex. My current partner respects when I am not in the mood and does not push or beg, ever. As a result I feel more safe and secure around him and am in the mood…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:45 PM
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Partner and I are in a LDR, so we go months (like half a year or more) without having sex. I don't really struggle with not having sex, it's the non-sexual intimacy I miss most. If I wasn't in a relationship I wouldn't be having sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:01 PM
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I would kind of be turned off by a guy having hookups/casual sex in the first place. Him regretting them wouldn't add anything to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:55 PM
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Talking as in to develop friendship and possibly a romantic relationship (assuming that I am single)? In terms of physical traits, not severely under- or overweight. Good hygiene. In terms of character traits and personality I have more preferences, some/most of which are obviously hard to tell right away if we are talking about a man I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:56 PM
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Here are women's standards, to marry a man on the spot: Attractive in every way, wealthy, shares all of same values, same race as herself, other bullshit idk. As a woman, this is news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:49 PM
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I should have probably added that I am demisexual (and also in a relationship), meaning I don't find people besides my partner sexually attractive. I am "immune" so to speak. I can still recognize that they are conventionally attractive/handsome/beautiful, but there is no desire linked to it. That's my bad, that was probably important info haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:55 PM
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Oh, other people can probably view sex in different ways, but I am not very flexible with my view I suppose. Just to make sure, I don't judge or shame people for engaging in casual sex. As long as everyone is consenting and safe I don't care. It's just not for me and I would prefer my partner to not be into casual sex either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:31 PM
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Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:27 PM
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Could you re-phrase your question? I am not sure if I am understanding it correctly. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:20 PM
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As a person who views sex as something deeply intimate that I only have in committed relationships, I would prefer my partner to view sex in a similar way. So no, I probably wouldn't. and most women think this is wrong. I only find it wrong if they are hypocrites (having had casual sex themselves) or if they are unnecessarily judgy about it and shame other ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:04 PM
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I will never understand the love for Channing Tatum as long as I live. Same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:35 PM
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I can't speak for other age gap relationships, only my own, and yes, in hindsight I do view it as problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:05 PM
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Depends on the context of the interaction. If a man (regardless of attractiveness) approaches me in public I am wary of/on the fence about what he wants. It doesn't happen very often, but I always feel bad for rejecting them. What makes it tricky is that I have had instances where they wouldn't accept my rejection and wouldn't leave me alone. So I am cautious when getting approached by strangers. In a social setting, I am a bit more relaxed and open (although I am not a very talkative person gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:01 PM
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It hasn't affected me personally because I find a lot of the guys spouting those talking points just flat out hypocritical. But then again, I have always viewed sex as something deeply intimate and I only have it in committed relationships, so I am not exactly the "target audience" of their shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 09:11 PM
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This is just me, but I would not feel comfortable with physical escalation from a person I barely know. But that's probably why traditional dating wouldn't work for me. I just move too slow.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:52 PM
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None. I am on the asexuality spectrum though, so I don't find people (be it men or women) attractive in that way. Of course I still see quite a few men (and women) who look beautiful/handsome to me, but that is in a purely aesthetic way. I need a romantic and emotional connection to view a person in a way that I am attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 11:19 PM
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If you are sending dick pics to women who did not ask for them and whose conversations with you had no sexual undertones you are indeed engaging in sexual harassment. It is no different than flashing someone in public. Of course repulsion will be a natural response to getting sexually harassed/assaulted. You expecting them to react differently is telling me a lot about your character. When women actually want to see your dick they wont be repulsed, so just get consent next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 10:06 PM
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