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Raging_Dragon_9999/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/21 04:18 PM
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Dress better. Hire a fashion coach.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/24 03:08 PM
1

I suspect it depends on your personality, looks and culture. And when I say hispanic women, I mean women FROM latin america, not americanized hispanics, have been so easily into I should have married one.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/24 04:20 PM
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If you need to be hard to get and aloof to attract a woman, try different women. Sometimes whole cultures or ethnicities. For whatever reason, hispanic women often, really, really like me, far, far more than any other ethnicity. Something about my "open heart."
/r/ExRedPill13/07/24 01:26 AM
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Get off your phone, get off the internet and go interact with real people.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/24 02:35 AM
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Stay away from the feminist content, it's just as toxic as RP stuff.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 02:26 PM
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For the love of God this was painful to read. Go do the Charisma on COmmand University program. It will make a big difference. Why would you establish yourself as so old? I mean, honesty is important, but framing it is everything. Charisma on Command University
/r/TheRedPill08/06/24 04:20 PM
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Go ballroom dancing and do Charisma on Command's university program. Getting Started - Charisma On Command
/r/ExRedPill02/06/24 08:30 PM
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You're not a threat at all. Go join the ballroom dancing, swing dancing, and or salsa dancing club. It's an easy platonic way to learn how to be around women and build some confidence and have fun.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 01:40 AM
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Post pictures.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/24 12:15 AM
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Post pictures please.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/24 12:14 AM
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When women are surveyed, about half say they're willing to wait to get to know a guy and see beyond their initial looks. Less than 20% of men say the same. This means getting to know you and seeing if you grow on them. That you're struggling so much with women strikes me that you need to improve in several areas.
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 03:52 PM
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Work on setting boundaries, pleasing yourself, and being more disagreeable.
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 03:49 PM
1

It sounds like you struggle with confidence, setting boundaries and being assertive. The lack of attractive is because you're also likely deeply uncomfortable with your own sexuality. Read Sex God Method By Daniel Rose.
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 03:23 PM
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Definitely an issue. A good chunk of RP guys are neuro divergent unfortunately. They really suffer in our current culture.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 11:55 PM
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Thank you!
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 11:54 PM
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It is the best because after 1 reading it will change your life.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 11:53 PM
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Go read Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. Hands down the best book on sex for a man to read and internalize.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 09:47 PM
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This isn't an incel forum.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 01:53 AM
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Do some research. Most bad boys are doing most things right and only a few things wrong. Nice guys, shockingly are doing most things wrong and only a few things right. Why Do Girls Like Bad Boys? 12 Fascinating Reasons (wikihow.com). The Bad Boy Phenomenon Explained by Psychology - #Dating (hashtag-dating.com) Bad Boys explained at (psychologytoday.com) Why Women Date Bad Boys, According to Psychologists (goodhousekeeping.com) Consider that the male villian in romantic comedies is usually doing …
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 01:49 AM
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Then I fail to see what the problem is.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/24 03:04 AM
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Stay with them. Rising tides lift all boats. Ask for advice, put yourself out there. For heaven's sake, do something like Charisma on Command's University Program. Charisma on Command University I can say this at 40 years old, BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO BE REFUSING TO CHANGE MEANS YOU WILL NEVER GET BETTER
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 03:51 AM
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BEcause confidence is the net result of several other personality traits that are fun and pleasant to be around. Working on your confidence transforms your whole personality.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/24 01:45 AM
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Don't go back to her. Move on and find a girl who is "hell yes" interested in you.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/24 05:10 PM
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You find a woman with the same values as you.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/24 04:28 AM
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As long as you don't have a high body count, n<10, I'd say you're at least logically consistent and not a hypocrite. Like, if my wife dies or we divorce, my count is two women I've slept with. I'm now in my early 40s. If I marry another woman who is 40, my rough expectation is to find a woman with a similar background to me sexually so that we are compatible. I also expect that at 40, finding a 40 year old woman with a prior count of 2 might be hard to come by based on how our society functions …
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 08:24 PM
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Thanks for the confirmation.
/r/ExRedPill17/02/24 06:07 PM
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I am literally commenting on what I saw at my local sex toy shop. They didn't even sell 5" dildos. They were 6" to 10", I think, and progressively thicker as they got longer.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/24 02:06 AM
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I know what I saw at the local sex toy shop, thank you!
/r/ExRedPill08/02/24 02:05 AM
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But the sex toys *for* penetration are massive. Like a 6" dildo is a "small" one. For all the downvoters, I am literally commenting on what I saw at my local sex toy shop. They didn't even sell 5" dildos. They were 6" to 10", I think, and progressively thicker as they got longer.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 03:01 PM
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Not arguing!
/r/ExRedPill04/02/24 03:16 AM
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I personally didn't. But a lot of the guys who created redpill material did try to date strippers/hoes/prostitutes/crazy women and made "game" to match this.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/24 03:12 AM
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Because you're trying to date them.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/24 03:51 AM
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A lot of the Redpill is for dealing with social climbers and hookers.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/24 12:15 AM
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Rollo is no longer Rollo, he sold the blog to someone else years ago. Or maybe I'm thinking of Heartiste.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/24 12:20 AM
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People do watch to see if your actions match your words. They do evaluate your character and your actions. Some of this is passive, little of it is intentional. PEople also subconsciously test for congruency, to see if action A has result B.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/24 04:40 AM
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Slowly but surely, but we're talking from a 2/10 to 4/10 marriage. I'd still rather be with someone else, and after years of trying and trying have just stopped and told her to pick up the slack. She has a poor idea of how to do that so largely refuses to try. Checkmate.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/24 04:27 AM
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More medication and counselling have helped. I still don't enjoy being with her very much.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/24 04:26 AM
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My wife is somewhere on the cluster b spectrum. Borderline personality disorder diagnosed by a psychiatrist and something else I can't recall. Always piles of shouting and screaming for YEARS with no end. Basically, if I talked, I made her mad. It finally culminated a few years ago with me saying "You get mad when a man speaks. That's what I did wrong, and that's why you're yelling." She got all embarrased and had to stop yelling at me. ​ Almost nothing made it better. It's why I went to RP sour…
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 02:02 AM
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Exactly. There used to be a lot more of mens clubs and mentorship for young men in a way that is hard to imagine unless you talk to boomers or even older generations about it. "The good old boys' club." It had its problems too, but it was something. ​ I did have a Maxim magazine subscription as a teenager, it had some advice... But not that much. Once I was well into marriage, the main advice I found was "be more helpful around the house." Which did something, made my wife slightly more tolerabl…
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 01:58 AM
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They actually try to answer the serious questions most men have but can't get real or proper answers from mainstream sources. Also, the algorithm.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/24 04:23 AM
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Sure, anyone can make a survey. Not everyone can make a good or useful survey.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/24 04:12 PM
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That was my first exposure as well - somewhere around 2005 via a magazine studying these guys.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/24 04:11 PM
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Your survey is quite inaccurate and needs revising by (1) a person who is actually from the manosphere and (2) someone whose qualified to run surveys. Q1. You need more age groups 25-29,30-39,40-49 etc, as the groups I was part of were predominantly married men over 30. Q2. By "Red Pill" do you mean self improvement? Q3. The manosphere also dates to the late 2000's. You need to a 5-9 year category, and 10+ years. Q4 & Q5. The gateway for many people in the 2010s was websites, forums, blogs, or b…
/r/ExRedPill05/01/24 04:29 PM
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That there's a reason so many men fall for this stuff more than just manipulation.
/r/ExRedPill04/01/24 05:22 PM
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Quite poorly written article that only skims the surface of the problems.
/r/ExRedPill04/01/24 12:58 AM
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This is where lots of "basic" advice still applies before you go ballroom dancing: Hygiene: Take a shower, use soap and shampoo and wear deoderant Breath - brush your teeth and gargle with listerine for 30 secs Clothes - should be flattering and CLEAN - no stains! Hair - get a good haircut and shape your beard. Comb your hair (and beard, if you have one) as best you can before going Shoes - if you can get a pair of dancing shoes that are comfortable to where. And by that I mean the fancy pants s…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/23 05:43 PM
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Go ballroom dancing. Seriously. You don't need to be a great conversationalist and you get more comfortable being around people.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/23 11:07 PM
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Take a serious look at charisma on commands university program. It was 100 per month for months. You get the content forever, even if they update it.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/23 11:06 PM
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Work on getting better answers to all these questions. It will help you move forward.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/23 11:01 PM
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r/relationship_advice Might be a better fit for you. Dude you got to dig into how she was raised and what her family life was like. Is this setup - where she reads and ignores you the only time her family life was peaceful? Was this how her family "showed love"? Was she molested as a kid? How much trauma does she have from childhood? This often really messes people up in ways that are hard to comprehend. You can't just "change" your love language. That's rather selfish of her to say so. What is …
/r/ExRedPill21/12/23 03:21 PM
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Ask a boomer woman about it. My MIL from NC talks about how she happily helped Sue men's clubs to let women in during the 1970s. Read some history.
/r/ExRedPill20/12/23 07:32 PM
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Feminists have banned or demonized most forms of male gatherings other than sports. There did use to be massive male support system in the form of men's clubs, which according to my boomer father were everywhere. Says you couldn't throw a rock without finding one. I'd also say it's a result of neo-liberal capitalism. Men can't make the money require do attract a woman, or if they do, get laid off, feel they have no value, then kill themselves.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 03:17 PM
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Ah, and their focus is modern youtubers. Fascinating. validates what I remember of the early manosphere in 2013, which was mostly self improvement focused, vs the online shill culture I see today in 2023.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 04:11 PM
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Do some googling and find divorce rates by age gap. That should knock some sense into him. (Hint - the bigger the gap, the bigger the divorce rate.)
/r/ExRedPill13/12/23 03:24 PM
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Just read "Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose. Best book out there on sex.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/23 05:35 PM
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Your wife is profoundly ungrateful and has no respect for the training you do.
/r/ExRedPill07/12/23 03:30 PM
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I keep telling you, there are, or at least, were, parts of the red pill communities that focused on long term relationships. Which is what I read, and focused my readings on, but you insist on not believing me.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 03:46 AM
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That's actually a difficult question - because the context matters. I'm married - so mainly I'm using these techniques on my wife, and mostly not other women, but they apply where platonically appropriate (1) stop apologizing for unnecessary things (2) stick up for myself - assert boundaries but carefully (3) practice confidence - make displays of it (4) regulate emotions (5) respect subtle and unspoken boundaries, people are conflict avoidant and don't want to have to assert their boundaries. (…
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 02:58 AM
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This is really, really bad.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 02:18 AM
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I'm not a current consumer of RP content.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 07:11 PM
1

Here's my idea - though tailor it for your needs: "I've found a great way to show your new alpha red pill traits, lead me in ballroom dancing! I'm the follow, you're the lead. It will be great." If he complains or won't do it, then question his commitment to red pill concepts and ideology, that he isn't really serious, and this he's just a keyboard wannabe alpha, who is in fact, a real beta because he won't lead his woman. I mean, I have trouble believing this will work, but I think you need to …
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 05:05 AM
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That he won't leave the house is deeply concerning - this is becoming a full on mental health issue.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 05:01 AM
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Not all the movement was about raping women, jesus. And no, it's not all about manipulation. Not the sites I was on. Building genuine authentic changes into a more real skilled and charismatic self was part of the sites I was on.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 04:19 AM
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Incels and red pill are different. Back in the day there wasn't even any overlap. Your hate for RP is blinding you. There are men (like me) who are just not intuitively good at relationships, and find traditional books not helpful because they ignore particular things or assume a level of competence that isn't there. Books like "What women want when they test men" by Bruce Bryans was quite helpful. Creating safety and security just didn't obviously occur to me. I just followed rules my mom taugh…
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 04:06 AM
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Depends on what you read.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 03:42 AM
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Sunshine Mary had a great blog but it went offline. Athol Kay was one of the better less toxic RP bloggers but he's gone now. Dalrock's blog might still be around. Mark Mansons book: Models, attract women through honesty is decent. Unfortunately some of the better, less toxic folks got chased out of the rp world... replaced by fuckin wackos.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 02:36 AM
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No, I don't. I was on rp LTR sites and blogs which had a totally different focus than hook up sites. Lots of autistic guys learning how to human.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 02:32 AM
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??? Why are you mad at me ?
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 02:30 AM
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Frankly, get him off the internet and spending more time outside in the real world. Half the problem is too much internet. Frankly, tell him that RP stuff is supposed to make you more attracted to him, and it is a big turn off. Get him into ballroom dancing. The guy is supposed to lead. One thing is to point him at better quality resources. I got a lot of mileage out of: Models, how to attract women with honesty by Makr Manson No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover What women want when they test m…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 04:16 PM
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One thing is to ask them to do some digging and find out how many rp "gurus" use prostitutes and do drugs. Answer? A lot. Part of what turned me off.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 04:07 PM
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This historical analysis jives with me. As I read a lot of content back in the early and mod 2010s.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 03:54 PM
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Man rp advice has changed. The sites I was on were all about that- how to make women feel safe and secure around you.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 03:52 PM
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Stop watching porn. Stop reading erotica. Stop looking at dirty mags. Just stay away from Porn.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 02:30 AM
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Sorry bro, the enemy always gets a vote about what they're going to do.
/r/ExRedPill23/11/23 03:14 AM
1

Yeah, but these men still want to get laid.
/r/ExRedPill23/11/23 03:08 AM
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I'm not arguing you with you about empathy creating a whole aspect of relationship and life satisfaction. I have read those sites around 2013 or so, they helped me get along better with my wife day to day, however, did absolutely zero for my sex life. Creating sexual excitement in women is something these type of sites are just trash at. And yes, empathy is certainly a big component, but it doesn't make create sexual attraction. Being funny, playful, confident, flirtatious, teasing, knowing how …
/r/ExRedPill23/11/23 03:06 AM
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I'm going to be straight with you - resources like this are great at teaching men empathy. They are not typically good, at all, for teaching men how to attract a woman enough to have a relationship if they don't have the skills already. They also typically, do not explain how the dating market works in a way that reflects young men's experiences at all. There's a reason red pill content is popular. And yes, I agree it's toxic.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/23 05:21 AM
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There are better resources out there. Mark Manson's "Attract Women Through Honesty" is a decent start. The dude is a reformed red piller and seems like he's recovered well. Honestly, Charisma on Command is a great youtube channel, and their university course is also excellent for making friends authentically as it is for relationships. The content you consume can definitely be alternative, but it does not have to "red pill." Shaunti Feldhahn's "For Men Only" and "For Women Only", they also have …
/r/ExRedPill22/11/23 05:19 AM
1

When you say dread game, what specifically, did you do differently?
/r/TheRedPill18/11/23 09:36 PM
2

Sounds like you don't have an easy life. I think it really depends on where you are. Rural Florida is going to be much harder on gay men than San Francisco.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/23 05:59 PM
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It's mainly tribal. "See these pathetic X Y or Z?! DON'T BE LIKE THEM! BE BETTER!" etc. There's an obsession with status. The effeminate men is a specifically a class issue. red pill is rather blue collar IMO.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/23 03:32 AM
1

Just pearly is copying judgy bitch, an old rp blog from the 2010s.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/23 02:40 PM
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Just Google why women like bad boys. Most of it just confidence and making their own priorities in life. Women like that.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/23 12:20 AM
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Both sides have always been there. Some are just louder over time than others. You're also conflating two groups: Mgtow and PUAs.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/23 01:27 AM
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I strongly suspect it's not all men who go rp are autistic.... But if these type of men find rp it's very seductive because it finally gives them answers no one else will tell them.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/23 02:29 PM
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Get new friends and make some life changes.
/r/ExRedPill11/09/23 01:27 AM
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At least, the church is regarded as not sufficiently right wing anymore.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/23 03:18 AM
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The catholic church is primarily left wing in practice and not well liked by the right. The new groomers have moved to other disciplines to get access to children.
/r/ExRedPill24/08/23 11:44 PM
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Try out swing or ballroom dancing.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 08:37 PM
3

It's because when she was a barbie technically she didn't have a vajayjay.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/23 06:11 AM
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Oh for sure. My sister ended up marrying a guy from the painting company she and her BF worked at. He was friendly to her when she was dating... But once he found out she was single he made moves pretty quickly.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/23 01:38 PM
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Exactly. Here's an anecdote: My sister had issues with her longtime BF. (1) They'd stop having sex for several months (2) at that point she warned him several times over several more months they needed to fix things or should would be done - BF blew her off (3) she finally dumps her BF, (at this point after 18m of no sex, but they still had to live together as they bought a house. (but separate rooms) She finally dates a new guy a month later, and BF starts crying she's cheating on him and he ha…
/r/TheRedPill07/08/23 03:54 PM
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This is true to a point. Sometimes ppl just cheat tho.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/23 04:14 PM
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At this point you're not even hearing what I'm typing and just want to argue. I never said that.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/23 11:12 PM
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Gosh no, my mom worked with poor black women doing some kind of advancement/development work. I was in grade 2 at the time so I remember very little, other than being told when we visited black ladies houses to never comment that their breath smelled because some of them were too poor to afford toothbrushes/toothpaste and if I embarrassed my mom there would be hell to pay. (But was pleasantly surprised when it wasn't an issue. But yes, the houses were not as nice in the white neighborhood I grew…
/r/ExRedPill28/07/23 04:05 AM
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Oh gosh no, people just blame black fathers all the time from what I understand. If the women want black men to behave better, they have to start demanding better and stop whatever cultural cycle creates those men. Absolutely, at the same time the men (as a whole) have to make the same changes to get better black women. As I said, in general, the men and women in a given culture deserve each other. Each side feeds on the other's strengths or weaknesses.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/23 04:02 AM
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I'm always reminded of the comment from my mom who attended black parenting classes in the 90s... "You don't like black men? Well, guess who had a first crack at them!" Lots of cultural issues with single moms creating the fathers (or lack thereof) they don't like themselves in a self perpetuating cycle. Maybe my info is out of date and geographically specific (we were in Alabama). Just saying. Read an article about a black guy who's 5'7" and was kinda the nerdy type from a middle class neighbou…
/r/ExRedPill27/07/23 04:12 AM
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Skimmed it.... Every single table and figure showed people with one partner were happier. I'm confused why you think otherwise.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/23 04:07 AM
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What are you talking about? Pretty clear the 1 partner people are happier than those who've had more... Multiple graphs pointing that out too...
/r/ExRedPill26/07/23 12:55 AM
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Because that part isn't completely wrong. ​ https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/multiple-sex-partners-before-marriage-does-it-lead-to-divorce ​ Fact is, each woman is different, you have to understand who and under what circumstances they slept with someone. i.e I'm in my late 30s. If my wife dies I would remarry someone. Lets say she's also late 30s. It's pretty unrealistic to look for a virgin at my age. And frankly if she was... I would actually worry a bit in the sense "why have they never h…
/r/ExRedPill21/07/23 02:26 AM
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Here's a great thread from some guy doing admittedly unscientific research, but very interesting reading. ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/SampleSize/comments/52w3ne/results_whats_your_ideal_male_body_type/ TLDR: It varies. Really depends on the woman. But yes, most guys should exercise, have a little muscle, a little definition and not get fat.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 03:15 AM
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I was worried about the future of dating in 2005 at 21. There are cultural shifts and such. My advice is to do real world activities (like ballroom dancing, rock climbing) that have friendly communities and go from there.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/23 02:31 PM
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True enough, thanks for the nuance.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 09:40 PM
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Some grad student doing research most likely.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 01:50 PM
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Sounds about right to me.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 02:22 AM
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Agreed.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 02:21 AM
1

People will prod if your actions and words don't match each other. What people (both male and female) look for is consistency and congruence.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 02:19 AM
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You have to replace the habit of reading RP shit with something else. Look, some of the basic advice still works: Excercise Bathe and use deodorant Shave Wear clean clothes The problem is that you need to work on your confidence and seld esteem. These things only increase through going out in the real world and doing things. Get off your phone, pc, go full detox... find some new outside or out of the house hobbies and go be in the real world. Join some student clubs with girls. Go ballroom danci…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/23 11:58 PM
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The communities I was in certainly believed in it not any differently than how I saw most reddit subs talk about it. There were articles blog posts that theorized about why so many more women than men are mentally ill.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/23 01:54 PM
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Kid, problem is that you're working on your looks.... But you need to work on your personality instead.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/23 08:21 AM
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"Valid"... nice dodge. Here's chatgpt's first answer. Certainly, as mentioned previously, feminism is a broad movement with a diverse range of perspectives and approaches. As such, criticisms and objections can be similarly diverse. Here are some additional reasons why people may take issue with certain aspects of feminism: Politicization: Feminism, like many social movements, has been highly politicized. This can lead individuals with certain political orientations to view it unfavorably, often…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/23 08:03 AM
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Devil's advocate, go ask your bosses how many other complaints they had about him before this.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/23 02:23 AM
1

No one else understands what the fuck you're talking about.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/23 03:16 AM
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No. Pics and height, please. Highly doubt you're that ugly.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/23 05:04 PM
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Most redpill guys have a terrible porn problem, in part caused by excessive angst about how mich sex they're not getting. Didn't realize this was controversial.
/r/ExRedPill16/06/23 08:23 PM
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You can also work on your porn addiction and might actually get laid. ;)
/r/ExRedPill16/06/23 01:39 PM
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1st, get off the internet and go spend time with real women in the real world. Maybe do ballroom dancing, or do charisma on command. Maybe just go rock climbing.
/r/ExRedPill13/06/23 12:21 AM
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Well, so long as you're confident and assertive, you have nothing to worry about. Also, those women in your post are mentally ill. You don't want those women.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/23 03:00 AM
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Well, I can say that you're pretty lucky, all things considered. Many of them become that way because their vulnerability is answered with hostility and unkindness.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/23 03:09 PM
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I got into it because my marriage sucked and most advice I found was shit.
/r/ExRedPill10/06/23 01:04 AM
1

The biggest cure is getting off the damn internet and interact with real people. Go do ballroom dancing or something very social. People are more complex than redpill ideology account for.
/r/ExRedPill10/06/23 12:53 AM
1

I'm sure the bank they make off young men and immigrants doesn't keep them up at night. I'm sure several really think they're helping too.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/23 03:47 AM
1

We rarely see taller women in relationships with shorter men. It does happen, but it's not common. Will day as a 5'7" dude that some women have written me off due to my height.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/23 02:41 AM
-1

Dude get a therapist, write in a journal.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/23 03:29 AM
1

As a guy who was already married when I first discovered it... My wife and I were going through pretty intense trauama in our relationship. Sex drive was staggeringly awful. Gyno sewed her up with a "husband stitch" NEITHER of us asked about. Got answers to questions I didn't even know I had, that's what hooked me in at first.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 09:21 AM
1

Read Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. Traumatized me, but really, actually 100% works. However- already had pre existing sex education and heavily studied other books to understand the mechanics of female pleasure centres... But seriously. Read that book and sex with my wife went off the charts just about immediately.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 09:19 AM
1

It can also be that guys offer too much "pressure" and the lack of pressure means the woman feels she can actually make invitations to the guy on her own.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 09:15 AM
1

Dude... Okay if you say so. Sounds like you still need more help. Why are you so anxious about this? What I strongly suggest is making an authentic long term relationship with a woman you can be emotionally safe with. Go slow. Make it about emotions and feelings, not just the physical act of getting off. An emotionally mature woman can help you become comfortable with yourself.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:48 PM
1

Please don't sleep with prostitutes. It will only make things worse. I would strongly suggest finding a registered sex therapist, preferably and OLDER man or woman to discuss your strong feelings on this subject.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:25 PM
1

And yet again, you're trying to compare feminism - a broad mindset revolving around equality - with organised religion - a system which involves power, hierarchies and leaders who can be held responsible for the actions of their followers. Feminism has no leader. Feminism has no book of rules. Stop lying. Feminism absolutely has a book of rules, because they keep doing the same things over and over again. There is absolutely decentralized leadership in the form of universities and organizations.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 02:54 AM
1

>Again, bad feminism isn't feminism. Sure, I'm sure you'd accept this argument for Christians excuse the bad parts of Christianity. And again, you 100% verified, even after being called out on it, for not owning the behavior of other feminists. You have no idea what I've experienced from feminism, and mothers, sisters etc excusing their own bad behavior from feminist beliefs. Shit I've had women say and do to me under the guise of feminism. So, please continue to tell me how my lived experiences…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 01:46 PM
1

>Intersectional feminism teaches us that the patriarchy pushes men to be breadwinners, to be stoic. Patriarchy punishes men for opening up about their feelings, or showing vulnerability, or doing anything that goes against the outdated idea of what a "man" should be. Intersectional feminism looks at how that very idea of patriarchy negatively impacts both men and women (and other genders). >Feminism recognises that there is a lack of mental health support and awareness for men (and everyone else…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 02:29 AM
1

From what I understand, net partner count is statistically associated with an increased risk of divorce. https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/multiple-sex-partners-before-marriage-does-it-lead-to-divorce Frankly, a lot of it comes down to maturity and attitude to make a mrr
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 03:04 AM
1

Maybe, time will tell.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 02:50 AM
1

Your opening sentence was a total dodge: >Feminism is like communism, Marxism, socialism etc in that the people who complain about it are usually the ones who don't understand it. And so many times I've heard people on here saying "if feminists are so much bout equality why aren't they talking about [xyz]" when in fact, they are. Sorry, but you need to take responsibility for the bad shit other feminists say. And yes, feminism is treated like a monolith, just like any other big movement organiza…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 02:49 AM
2

​ But most men don't have a good house and job, because the middle class is dying in the west. Corporate and business elites are extracting the wealth out of the lower classes, and siphoning government funds for themselves. And yeah, the men I see with good jobs are very desirable to women who want kids and a nice family life.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 02:03 PM
2

Agreed, many good point thanks for posting this.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 01:58 PM
2

An excellent summation of many of the problems I see in modern feminism, thank for this counter point.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 01:57 PM
1

Yes, this confirms my beliefs that feminists twist, jerk, and dodge accusations against them and say "well, this isn't part of my feminism" or "not all feminists" rather than take any ownership at all of what they cause and have done. Feminism means whatever the the believer in wants to believe, and they get to disregard the rest as "not real feminism." And to your point, yes, there are like 5 major strains of feminism that are distinctly different denominations, much like Christianity has the c…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 01:56 PM
1

What feminists get wrong is how much women punish men for adhering to traditional gender roles. Or that men percieve that women will punish them for not adhering to traditional gender roles. One of the many reasons I will never, ever, ever, become a feminist is the adamant belief that men have the hyper agency to fix all their problems on their own, and that women are at least half the problem. In any given culture, the Men and Women in, deserve each other.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 01:53 PM
2

That's wrong. All the sociological studies show that as women have more money, they typically demand a man making more money than them. And yes, times are changing, but only for a small minority. The large majority of women still behave this way.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 01:53 PM
1

He ain't the captain no more and the woman should get a new one.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/23 03:59 PM
2

I have to say, female friends is a thing that really hasn't worked out for me well at all post marriage, for whatever reasons. Most of them are women where I'm also friends with their husbands, and the couple may or may not be friends with my wife as well. Tried to reconnect with a couple single women "work" friends in the last year post covid, hasn't worked out.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/23 03:47 PM
3

Probably means room for a whole new generation of grifters. I know almost none of the names here except for Andrew Tate. So far as google trends go, no, not yet. https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=CA&q=red%20pill,manosphere&hl=en
/r/ExRedPill19/05/23 01:37 AM
2

Oh I've learned that lesson the hard way.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/23 04:33 PM
9

One of the reasons I stopped follow "gurus" was on closer investigation most of them used "pay for play" - those women you see them with are prostitutes of some sort.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/23 02:59 AM
1

Wish I could say the same, I really need 9 hours now, after years of not sleeping enough. 7 hours just doesn't cut it like it used to.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/23 02:57 AM
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At 39, can confirm much of this. The other part is not being embarrassed and just owning your age. No need to lie about it. And not every woman will think you aged like fine wine, but if enough do, you're gold. I would also add that getting regular, high quality sleep is really important, and the one thing I'm not good at. Also suggest things like ballroom dancing as another social, low impact excercise to keep you in shape and give you an excuse to get close with women. ;)
/r/TheRedPill12/05/23 03:19 AM
1

No joke, try a beginners ballroom dance class.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/23 07:19 PM
1

I'd say if you have a low body count, it's entirely reasonable to want to date or marry another person with a low body count. If I ever divorced my wife or she died, my n=2. That's about my tolerance for the next woman I would marry, depending on life circumstances.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/23 01:38 AM
2

This isn't preselection , you're talking about competition over a man. Pre-selection is coming to an event with a female friend and having an easier time chatting with the other women there because of that.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 07:37 PM
1

Ah, but rooshs forum had a lot of dudes talking about genuine internal self improvement. Now I'm banned because I'm not Christian, that place has changed a lot!
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 12:09 AM
2

So you're in a "real" marriage 100% of the time?
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 12:08 AM
4

It really depends on what you mean by red pill. For me, it was primarily reading Athol Kay's married man's sex life, no more mr nice guy and hanging around rooshvforum and reading some blogs like Ian ironwood, roissy, heartiste, sunshine Mary, dalrock and roosh. Mainly, alot of what I read worked. This was circa 2012 to 2016. Now it looks like redpill morphed into this bizarre version of what for the most part, was to me a self improvement ideology. It's telling to me that all the reasonable red…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/23 02:20 AM
3

Sometimes a simple text saying, "Hey, sorry for the radio silence. I'm going through some stuff right now and not great at catching up with anyone." (So long as that's true)
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 08:40 PM
2

I can see why you're asking questions, no one should have gad to go through what you did! Any other specific questions you want answered?
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 08:11 PM
8

If the man starts with "I've never told anyone this before" or "I have trouble talking about this..." It's very safe to assume you shouldn't tell people, unless it's about something he should probably be in prison for. It's one thing to say a guy friend opened up to me about his issues. It's quite another to go into the details. Women vastly overestimate how much men share with each other and frequently share details in a degree many find to be quite uncomfortable and a betrayal of trust. Not al…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 07:02 PM
-1

That's really wonderful. The man you were with carefully edited and massaged what he said so it came out right. Maybe he had great emotional maturity and intelligence. Maybe you dated a unicorn. Maybe you are the unicorn. It's also a lie. When a man reveals his insecurities and worries to a woman, in general, it goes badly. The men who this goes well for are positive, careful, and actually too emotional about sharing their feelings Since you keep talking as if this is all about me... i dunno. Un…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 06:54 PM
2

Over and over again? I mean these are just the ones I found in my first search.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 06:49 PM
0

Problem is when it's your wife.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 02:27 PM
0

Stop gaslighting men and telling them to open up and then punishing them for doing so. Or... when men talk about their experiences, stop telling them they're wrong and making shit up. I mean, isn't the above essentially part of feminism??
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 02:23 PM
1

They also get real experience that it's a bad idea. ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/pg0m2h/was\_your\_experience\_with\_showing/ https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/u6dive/is\_being\_vulnerable\_with\_women\_a\_turn\_off/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/z06xy4/what\_good\_experiences\_have\_you\_had\_opening\_up\_and/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/rklxz0/what\_does\_it\_mean\_for\_a\_man\_to\_trust\_a\_woman\_and/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/uf1vj…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 02:08 PM
1

Here's a few threads i found via search. Apologies for not meticulously recording every reddit thread I've read about this in the past. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/pg0m2h/was\_your\_experience\_with\_showing/ https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/u6dive/is\_being\_vulnerable\_with\_women\_a\_turn\_off/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/z06xy4/what\_good\_experiences\_have\_you\_had\_opening\_up\_and/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/rklxz0/what\_does\_it\_mean\_for…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 02:07 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/pg0m2h/was\_your\_experience\_with\_showing/ https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/u6dive/is\_being\_vulnerable\_with\_women\_a\_turn\_off/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/z06xy4/what\_good\_experiences\_have\_you\_had\_opening\_up\_and/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/rklxz0/what\_does\_it\_mean\_for\_a\_man\_to\_trust\_a\_woman\_and/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/uf1vjn/men\_who\_have\_been\_vulnerable\_and\_have\_opened\…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 02:05 PM
0

What egg? I'm not a real redpiller, just into personal improvement and having honest discussions. Here is a list of threads since you won't believe what I'm talking about otherwise. These threads are not uniformly negative, however, it is the dominant theme. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/pg0m2h/was_your_experience_with_showing/ https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/u6dive/is_being_vulnerable_with_women_a_turn_off/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/z06xy4/what_good_experience…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 02:05 PM
2

LMS is not enough Values (of the woman, which affects how she perceives the importance of next five variables) Looks Athleticism Money Power Status Some women value economic and or emotional security. Some value physical protection , others value adventure etc.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 12:29 AM
2

Read the comments below.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/23 12:25 AM
1

You do have to look for them or run a proper search. I stimble across comments like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ybgk2i/comment/ithndd8/
/r/ExRedPill02/05/23 08:59 PM
-56

This is flat out untrue. Go on r/AskMen, read through the threads there.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/23 01:25 PM
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Seriously wtf? These stories are all over r/AskMen . I can also speak from personal experience that at least what I think "being vulnerable" usually means an immediate loss of attraction from my wife. Women have a pretty low tolerance of negative emotions that they can handle from a man. God forbid he admit an insecurity.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/23 01:25 PM
2

Very interesting perspective. As someone who enjoys talking and conversation, I have no idea how to do the stoic alpha thing.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/23 07:35 PM
9

This is my point too. At 39, I am regularly told I look younger, say early 30s. I have worked out on a weekly basis since I was 16. Eat reasonably well my whole life. No alcohol, no drugs, no smoking. Unfortunately bald though. Bad habits: lack of sleep, doom scrolling online and sometimes porn.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/23 03:30 PM
4

As a 39 year old, what I have noticed is that since I look good for my age, I am not paying that much of a penalty for this with much younger women. I'm talking about ballroom dancing with 18-28 year olds at the local universities BR dance club. I was a bit embarrased/shy about my age, but really wanted to learn to dance. The young women don't seem to care that much and some are actually a bit flirtatious. For reference, I regularly have people peg me for early 30s and are shocked I have teenage…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/23 03:28 PM
-4

Help more around the house. Do dishes. Yes, my wife liked that but she still didn't want to fuck me
/r/ExRedPill29/04/23 12:41 AM
-4

I got zero answers on how build attraction in my marriage. The books I read and counselling I got mostly alienated me. Feminist advice i came across was mostly shit and didn't work.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 09:32 PM
3

That's unfair. Most guys in the communities I was in were looking for answers from a culture that gaslight them.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 08:37 PM
51

The rampant misogyny. Totally unnecessary.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 02:27 PM
3

No idea about Hamza, but I think it's telling that two of the major RP figures from the 2000's and 2010's, Athol Kay and Roosh V have completely moved away from RP. Heartise, or one of those bloggers sold it and let someone else do it. Mark Manson, former RP dude, doesn't speak highly of it anymore.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/23 03:10 AM
1

The "Redpill" never told me to mistreat women, but that was the communities I was in. It did however, specify that I should have boundaries, be assertive and self confident. What it did show me was that certain PLAYFUL behaviors were things that I saw as "no-go" which in actual fact worked quite well.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/23 02:15 PM
1

Disturbing to me that this post is downvoted as much as it is, because this is my experience going on those subreddits as well. Like, RP stuff isn't all wrong, it's just the tox
/r/ExRedPill11/04/23 01:49 PM
2

You can also post this on r/NoStupidQuestions. They have been chill for the dumb question I asked there.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 08:49 PM
3

Confidence sure works. Having boundaries and self respect also works. If you're not confident, you will struggle with women. Profoundly. Be proud of who you are and don't apologize for it. Watch some videos like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=49Dfl2F3UG4&t=2s&ab\_channel=CharismaonCommand
/r/ExRedPill07/04/23 03:00 PM
1

Christ dude stop being such a wimp. Solve the problem, go do Charisma on Command and work on your personality and stop being so insecure which is ruining you. https://www.charismaoncommand.com/
/r/TheRedPill22/02/23 09:52 PM
4

But like, what information?
/r/TheRedPill08/02/23 01:45 PM
1

I've always been so shitty at the ambiguous stuff. Not sure how other guys pull it off at all. Doesn't help being on the autism spectrum either.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/23 01:45 PM
2

Great post. I heartily agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:27 PM
1

Yes, feminism is but one piece of what's wrecked a generation of women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:40 PM
1

Go ballroom dancing. Also, consider religious groups that encourage marriage. Your story is pretty reasonable, and I think if you look harder in Real Life, you'll find woman empathising with a man who wanted to make himself husband material.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:39 PM
1

To find marriagable women, you have to get off the apps and meet women in real life. Typically through some kind of hobby group. Ballroom dancing, volunteering, church/mosque/Temple/Feast/ (Christian, Islam, (Hindu/Sikh/Jewish? Sorry don' t know what they go to), Baha'i) respectively, mountain climbing groups etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:37 PM
1

This post is fucking gold, dude, bang on.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/22 08:27 PM
1

You need to find better quality girls - the quality of women you want are NOT in the bars. Go do ballroom dancing or something. Have you considered therapy for why you can't get over this girl from middle school? This is seriously putting her on a pedastal. There's always coulda-woulda-shouldas. There's always some babe who was totally into you that you just missed the signs for whatever reason. Start looking forward and stop looking back.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/22 03:01 PM
2

Document, document and document. You can also post on other subs that specailize in this type of question.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/22 02:18 AM
3

Excellent post. There needs to be an underlying tension that is almost sexual to have a good male-female friendship.
/r/TheRedPill30/09/21 04:04 AM
15

My mom in some ways was some weird mix of 1 AND 2. I have dealt with feelings of both.
/r/TheRedPill29/09/21 01:58 PM
8

People are stuck where they because somewhere deep down, being stuck is more comfortable than changing. Change is hard Change requires difficult decisions Change requires being uncomfortable And I speak as someone formerly stuck and working on it.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/21 02:07 AM
3

First off all "alpha" is just a group of positive personality traits. Self Confidence Self Worth Self Esteem Self Kindness Social Intelligence Emotional Intelligence Sense of Humor Spend some time looking these up and what the definitions are. Put these words into YouTube and/or Amazon and watch videos and buy some books. If you want help in one place, then one option is spending some $$ to help building these up, I recommend https://www.charismaoncommanduniversity.com/ They have decent blog too…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/21 12:36 PM
13

He probably figured out she was doing onlyfans and found out she still lived with her baby daddy. Dude was probably done. OR A whiteknight who knew about this stuff, and thought he could rescue her. And after a year, grew a pair of balls and moved on. OR Some dude who "didn't care" and was thankful for female attention - finally got some sex, then got some confidence and realized he could do better OR Etc...
/r/TheRedPill01/06/21 12:59 PM
6

Agreed. People make their own reality come true.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/21 03:26 AM
11

Look, realism is realistic, but it sure can be a great cover for cynicism and pessimism.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/21 03:21 AM
1

Excellent example of the powers of positive thinking.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/21 03:19 AM
12

I think "curing" autism is meant tongue in cheek.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/21 05:42 PM
0

Note: on my phone and late at night, so apologies in advance for spelling, grammar and other rambling. This is a weird subject for me. In high school I had girls stare at me a lot. But not be very forward, so I just assumed I couldn't be that good looking. At the same time, I was too nervous to talk to them. Except when in ball room dance class, I had a lot of partners. I worked out a lot and got buff and lean... but I was never that big or that lean compared to other guys at the gym. Not tall e…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 06:46 AM
1

It all depends on what kind of me you're looking for and what kind of men you actually attract. If you are in fact insanely attractive, and successful in your career... Then lots of men may consider you unobtainable with super high demands and a large checklist they can't possibly fulfill. I recommend getting professional charisma coaching and learning how to flirt better. Charisma on Command has a Charisma University program, which could be a useful starting point.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 06:21 AM
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Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and ask if they're interested in a relationship. If you don't know how to flirt then you have to up the ante and openly state your interest in the guy. Please Google "r/askreddit guys what obvious clue did a woman give that you missed?" A whole generation of men have been told that they're rapists and monsters and all sorts of awful beings deserving of female scorn. Some men absorb this more than Others. Most guys are afraid of making the first m…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 06:11 AM
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