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DiscriminationRapeMatters/r/MensRights14/05/17 02:55 AM
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I was drugged and raped by a woman. Tell him/her.
/r/MensRights01/08/18 01:21 AM
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I wanted the issue of female on male rape to be addressed. I was viciously attacked for being misogynist when I started talking about how we need to take such things seriously.
/r/MensRights01/08/18 01:20 AM
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I actually despise women as much as you guys do Yeah, we don't despise women. That's just you, apparently.
/r/MensRights30/07/18 01:36 AM
4

For the time being , let us agree that the way things currently are , are inconsistent and an abortion of justice. Definitely fully agreed on this portion.
/r/MensRights29/07/18 04:41 AM
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Although most people here strongly disagree with me on supporting liberty In this particular instance (business discrimination for employment) me included, incidentally, but still - first step is consistency. Then we can talk policy.
/r/MensRights29/07/18 04:36 AM
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What I find unjust is that in places like the U.S., actively stating that women are favored, or women are the only group sought, is acceptable but the reverse isn't. Now that, is indeed hardcore bullshit. At a bare minimum, the law should treat people equally. If it's illegal to do this for men, it should be illegal to do it for women. If it's legal to do it for women, it should be legal to do it for men. We can debate on which way to do it, and there's solid arguments on both sides, but it shou…
/r/MensRights29/07/18 04:10 AM
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There's an efficiency based argument surrounding this
/r/MensRights29/07/18 01:55 AM
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Yeah, the moment you flip the gender, it suddenly sounds horrible. It's an interesting mental exercise you can use in a lot of contexts to see how your beliefs stack up the moment you cross gender. I personally read every news article both the "normal" way and with the genders reversed to see if my take on the issue changes when the genders are reversed.
/r/MensRights28/07/18 08:35 PM
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Basically, there's a question of whether or not children should have irreversible organ removal without compelling medical reason just because parents think it "looks better" or "it's for their religion" or whatever. As a comparable statement, try to think about parents telling a doctor they want their newborn girl to have a labiaplasty because they don't like the way her vagina looks. (Also, there's a number of health effects that are coming out now)
/r/MensRights28/07/18 08:26 PM
1

I'll take anyone who will help men with the reality of sexual assault, Terry Crews included. I wish it had reflected the reality that men are most often raped by women, but we'll take what we can get.
/r/MensRights28/06/18 04:18 PM
1

“toxic blackness” makes no sense since black isn’t a way of acting like masculine is. Actually, it is. I used to be a police officer, and one of the areas I covered was what could stereotypically be called a "ghetto". I tried to do community outreach. Do you know that black children are told in those environments that if they don't join a gang, try to do well school, etc, that no matter how hard they try they'll never be white, and white people won't accept them as white? They're told the black …
/r/MensRights27/06/18 11:03 PM
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And toxic masculinity just refers to the pressures boys feel from society to be “manly” and not show emotion. This is a toxic term. Try and imagine an outreach program to tackle the issues facing minorities in america, and black people in particular, and started by saying "this whole problem comes down to toxic blackness, if black people just didn't have the pressures from society to be "black" then this problem could be addressed.
/r/MensRights27/06/18 09:32 PM
1

That’s what the wage gap is, it’s referring to women not choosing high paying jobs, but everyone here acts like every feminist thinks it’s all about sexist bosses. Ok, so what is feminism saying to do about this?
/r/MensRights27/06/18 09:30 PM
1

Do you believe in historical retribution?
/r/MensRights24/06/18 02:25 AM
3

Seems fair. So if a particular man signs a parental surrender, he would surrender all his rights along with all his responsibilities. Just like right now, when a woman gives her baby over to the state, she surrenders all her rights along with all her responsibilities. Otherwise, barring such action, they remain with each person.
/r/MensRights23/06/18 09:01 PM
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The woman is not given full responsibility. Women can already exercise a paper abortion and get out of all responsibility. So how does she have full responsibility? She has it the same way he does. Unless surrendered.
/r/MensRights23/06/18 08:47 PM
1

No one wants England to win more than women. Domestic Abuse rates increase by 38% when England lose. There's a joke in there about women not getting so upset over a game that they start abusing their husbands, but I can't quite work it out because the horrible grammar is distracting me.
/r/MensRights17/06/18 05:03 PM
1

Evo-psych, all the alpha - beta - gamma stuff, the denigration of women, the obsession with Chad, the failure to cope with the fact women have choices and do not usually mate for life (actual Redpillers have a healthier response to that one). To someone looking from outside the MRM Incels and MGTOW have quite a lot in common. I've not seen MGTOW really denigrate women anymore than the average person. Of the few I've talked to (granted, we're talking with a limited sample here) argue that women c…
/r/MensRights15/06/18 12:07 AM
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It's actually not a bad idea, in my opinion.
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:42 PM
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:thinking:
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:41 PM
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There is clear evidence the man is guilty of sexual assault/rape if the device is attached to his penis. Why is this clear evidence? This clearly places the onus on the man to provide evidence that sex occurred with consent. Does this not solve the exact issues MRAs have been discussing for years? My main issue is with women raping men. I consider that far more important than false accusations. However, no, not really. If it became a social norm for women to wear these things (which, freedom of …
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:32 PM
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Well this is a new one.
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:22 PM
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Remember, we assume the woman is innocent before proven guilty. But we should also assume the MAN is innocent before proven guilty. You didn't do that. One of the interesting things is that men are raped about as much as women (at least among free adults, prison and children are harder for various reasons), and the majority of those raping men are women. Women who rape men also threaten their victims that they will make a rape accusation if they dare squeal. You also make a critical mistake here…
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:20 PM
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The woman until proven otherwise, the device is clear evidence that the man placed his penis into a place he did not have permission to place it. Why is that clear?
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:06 PM
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we can clearly get physical evidence that unwanted sex occurred if the device is attached Yeah, after a fashion, but who was the victim?
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:01 PM
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I meant only gender reversing the sex of the child IE, the father threatening the girl with harm. If you gender flip them both, I think everyone would be mostly confused (you took out both "danger" persons, the men, and replace them with "non danger" persons, women).
/r/MensRights11/06/18 07:00 PM
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You know what would be humorous to me? Gender flip it. I bet you the reaction would be huge.
/r/MensRights11/06/18 06:04 PM
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Incels and MGTOW are complete opposites. You just argued, essentially, that it's the same when a person is rejected from a job as not applying for it. And I'm not positive incels have an "ideology" per se, besides rage at the unfairness of the world.
/r/MensRights11/06/18 03:04 PM
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It works something like this. Yeah, step 2 is where the problem lies. Either your social security tax went to pay social security benefits, in which case you are not paying them a second time, or they went to fund something else, or you didn't pay them the first time. Imagine a personal finance situation: 1) You have some money earmarked for a car repair. 2) You spend it on the car repair. 3) The car repair is now paid, so you don't have to pay it again. Or, 1) You have some money earmarked for …
/r/MensRights31/05/18 05:34 AM
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Raping other students instead of you.
/r/MensRights30/05/18 07:23 PM
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Barter is exchanging goods and services, not money. You may impute a value to that transaction, but since no money changes hands, there is no clear connection between said imputed value and reality. Eh, that's not strictly true. You can look at similar transactions, and for people who are both in business (like both of us) there's lots of comparative transactions of similar value and worth to look at when imputing value. This is actually very specifically codified in the IRC. Anyway, housewives …
/r/MensRights30/05/18 07:19 PM
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Not sure I understand, but everywhere I've seen the concept of 'imputed income', it's been a way to steal more by taxing non-existent income. Well, not exactly. If, for instance, I do a personal budget analysis of a heating and air tech, and in return he services my HVAC system, we both have imputed income as a result (me the value of the services he provided, him the value of the services I provided). This is because it's the same as exchanging checks, which would have been income to both of us…
/r/MensRights30/05/18 04:00 PM
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We could easily rectify this by determining that doing things for yourself (IE, repairs, housecleaning, etc) are imputed income and subject to taxation. It would fix the wage gap metric and also help bolster our social security system.
/r/MensRights30/05/18 03:12 PM
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1) I was a feminist. I was also raped by a woman. I tried to talk about this to my feminist friends. It didn't go well, to put it mildly. I tried bringing it up in other feminist groups, it went even more poorly. Then I did research on what has been done for men in my case by feminism, and found that the movement has been trying to protect my rapist since before I was born. 2) I think the biggest problem facing men is basic equal protection of the law. Right now, the law favors women in basicall…
/r/MensRights28/05/18 05:03 PM
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I mean, people do buy a lot of useless pointless shit just because it's on TV... But that's not the point.
/r/MensRights28/05/18 05:00 AM
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I have trouble with that analogy. Maybe if you were to talk about it in terms of different brands of cheap vodka, I'd understand it more :( I got you covered. Let's say there's two types of cheap Vodka on the shelf. Smirnoff and Svedka. The Smirnoff is cheaper than the Svedka. If they are equivalent products, you can just buy the Smirnoff. There's no complaint because you'll just buy the cheaper one. Svedka either needs to compete or they'll go out of business. Is Svedna is better, then you are …
/r/MensRights28/05/18 02:56 AM
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What he said, except I would say "equivalent" instead of "the same". IE, I would consider a 23.5 inch monitor and a 23.6 inch monitor with equivalent specs as equivalent products even though they're not "the same". But then again, I could use 23.5 inch and 23.6 inch monitors interchangeably as well, which is exactly the point. If female items are equivalent but cost more because they're female, then buy the male ones. If you can't buy the male ones because they're not equivalent, there's no reas…
/r/MensRights28/05/18 01:44 AM
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You can't logic a person out of a belief they didn't logic themselves into.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 11:03 PM
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I get your point though about the commonality. I wouldn't be shocked if I saw a 2 ton machine roll by in front of my house. That's a car. I've seen millions of cars, probably. A person in the year 1800 would be. Because they had never seen one. You aren't typically shocked by common things. Except we are, actually. If someone suddenly punched you in the face, would you be shocked? Yet this happens all the time. Probably all of us have been punched in the face at least once, and it tends to surpr…
/r/MensRights27/05/18 11:02 PM
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I've seen comments on here with hundreds of upvotes claiming stuff like the wage gap not being real, and other explicitly anti-FRA stuff. I mean, the earnings gap is 100% real, and mostly is the result of sexism against men. There may also be a small wage gap (1-3%, depending on the study) that may also be sexism against women.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 10:57 PM
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I do not understand why promoting fairness for men has to involve dismissing unfairness against women. (And, to be clear, I understand that not all MRAs are like this. But there's a reason why an anti-feminist post gets 100+ upvotes on here) I might be one of the most antifeminist posters around here, but I'm not dismissing unfairness against women. I'm antifeminist because the feminist movement has, repeatedly, tried to support, protect, and shield from consequences women are rapists and domest…
/r/MensRights27/05/18 10:55 PM
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I mean, that's obviously and plainly a crime.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 10:49 PM
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Not really. We talk about things like the sentencing gap affecting men and black men in particular, and the college kangaroo courts affecting black men disproportionately. We also talk about the suicide epidemic that is concentrated among poor white men as well. We are considering race factors.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 10:47 PM
4

One thing that bugs me is the "pink tax" requires believing two contradictory assumptions at the same time to be true. Like, basic logic error.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 10:17 PM
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Breaking News: Capitalism has a tendency to give the paying customer exactly what s/he wants.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 09:53 PM
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Oh, no. I'm not saying stop. Please continue. I'm just telling you we're pretty familiar with it.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 02:24 PM
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We're actually pretty familiar with it - and our (meaning society's) indifference, even in areas we occupy by military forces, is unconscionable.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 02:20 PM
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"Affairs"
/r/MensRights26/05/18 11:14 PM
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it's the SF Bay Area Not a lawyer, but doesn’t this make it illegal under the Unruh Act? Check with a lawyer. If it is, try to attend, sue if they refuse you.
/r/MensRights26/05/18 02:56 PM
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I also tried finding this. Nothing.
/r/MensRights25/05/18 03:47 PM
2

A bridge somewhere stands vacant.
/r/MensRights25/05/18 03:44 PM
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I was referring to the liquor portion, not the sexual assault portion.
/r/MensRights25/05/18 02:43 AM
1

Y'all get drunk in a psych ward? You fulla shit or were hallucinating, or in the world's worst best psych ward. FTFY
/r/MensRights25/05/18 02:10 AM
6

work with certain hammers What?
/r/MensRights24/05/18 11:52 PM
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I’m a huge fan of body cams, incidentally - particularly ones that can’t be turned off easily. It protects citizens from bad police, and protects police from bad citizens.
/r/MensRights23/05/18 09:52 PM
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I completely sympathize. I was also raped by a woman. It’s surprisingly (to other people at least) common. The CDC data suggests over a million men per year are raped by women.
/r/MensRights23/05/18 09:46 PM
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Or spread rumors that she's a bitch or a slut. Women tend to have to worry more about that than men. This probably isn’t true. http://www.barbararisman.com/uploads/7/8/9/2/7892654/allison_and_risman_social_science_research_final_paper.pdf Men are about as likely to be viewed negatively for having lots of sex as women. Men are more likely to have the traditional double standard (lots of sex ok for men, bad for women), while women are more likely to have a reverse double standard (lots of sex ok f…
/r/MensRights22/05/18 06:43 AM
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“Prank”
/r/MensRights21/05/18 08:36 AM
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I don't really discuss the MRM in meatspace. I did, however, influence our company's sexual harassment policy revamp in the wake of #metoo. It now includes examples of women sexually harassing men in many of the common ways women harass men.
/r/MensRights21/05/18 05:33 AM
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A1) First, that there's little to no medical benefits to it, and significant medical harms. Second, that from a rights standpoint, I should have the right to make those decisions. B1) First, I'd tell you that all children are "different" in some way from other children, and his right to bodily integrity is more important than some silly thing like "feeling different". They'll just find something else - ears too big, eyes are odd, he has a funny habit. You don't cut bits off of your children to "…
/r/MensRights21/05/18 02:01 AM
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This thing. I don't know what it would be like to be uncircumcised - and I'll never find out. And that should have been my choice. The fact that it wasn't my choice, when it clearly should have been, makes me upset and angry. Not at my parents, who were acting on medical advice and probably didn't think about things like "rights" back then, but to the doctors who gave such advice. They should have known better.
/r/MensRights20/05/18 11:13 PM
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As a feminist, I went there first as I recall. It didn't work out well.
/r/MensRights20/05/18 01:29 AM
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It is possible for the same issue to harm both men and women in different ways, both being caused by sexism. But you can't say an area where women are privileged relative to men means women are suffering sexism in that area. They are privileged by the sexism in that area (in the relative sense). Otherwise, I can argue that white children not being given $1 million at birth is racism against white people, despite the fact that roughly NO one is given $1 million at birth. As a side note, this is o…
/r/MensRights19/05/18 10:55 PM
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Men and women are equals. They are generally equally to blame when a marriage falls apart. Unless you think men are actors and women are objects to be acted upon and not responsible for what happens to a marriage, but that's pretty sexist. In any case - it's usually women kicking men out, not men leaving - in the average case.
/r/MensRights19/05/18 10:05 PM
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I'll just leave this here.
/r/MensRights19/05/18 05:05 PM
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AirBnB is basically a hotel service. She might also be in violation of the Civil Rights Act. You should consult an attorney.
/r/MensRights19/05/18 03:48 PM
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Jesus. How do you find rent for only $300 a month? That's like amazingly low.
/r/MensRights19/05/18 03:47 PM
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Have an upvote - great movie that couldn't get released today without gobs of protest from people who didn't understand it.
/r/MensRights19/05/18 03:41 PM
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I tried that once. Wasn't a fan.
/r/MensRights19/05/18 03:17 AM
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There are plenty of examples of the MRM community saying women's claims about issues they face are false, or at least saying 'Well men face issue y, so you complaining about issue x is proof of your privilege!!!!11!!!' You're conflating two things: 1) <Some issue> is not sexism against women. 2) Women suffer no sexism. Because a person can spout the first does not mean they believe the second. Take treatment of rape victims by the justice system for example. It's true that women who are rape vic…
/r/MensRights19/05/18 03:16 AM
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We really don’t deny women have issues - so I’m not sure where you get that. That being said, one of the reasons I, personally, take issue with feminism is the massive attempt to bury awareness of (and thereby protect) women who commit rape and domestic violence. I can’t abide that.
/r/MensRights18/05/18 09:50 PM
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I've had an employer explicitly refuse to promote me because they needed more women in management. I've also been laughed at by police when I tried to file a claim regarding being raped by a woman.
/r/MensRights18/05/18 06:31 PM
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yeah but at least you'll potentially get it at the end of things because you paid for it and they're legally obligated to provide it. Well, they're legally obligated to either provide service or give you your money back. They're never obligated to provide services (outside of specific immediately life threatening situations where medical expertise is required and cannot be performed by another).
/r/MensRights18/05/18 06:30 PM
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You seem lucky to me. I have to pay for my own healthcare AND wait a week or more.
/r/MensRights18/05/18 05:05 PM
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Wait, you can get an appointment the same day? Jeez. I’m in the states and I’ve never been able to get an appointment less than a week out aside from going to urgent care.
/r/MensRights18/05/18 04:34 PM
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1) Generally very poorly. 2) Quite a few have been convinced we face sexism problems as men. That doesn’t mean they love us exactly, but they recognize we have a point. 3) I was a feminist. The MRM is the logical view when you seek equality. I stopped being a feminist when I was attacked for seeking equality.
/r/MensRights18/05/18 06:20 AM
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"Pressing charges" has no legal meaning either. All people can do is file a police report and then cooperate with the investigation. There is no legal way to "press charges". I mean, at this point you're just being pedantic. Most speakers of English know what it means to press charges.
/r/MensRights17/05/18 12:55 AM
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Oh you meant the difference between "boys" and "womens", as in, juvenile vs adult. I didn't pick up on that on the first reading.
/r/MensRights16/05/18 05:24 PM
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I doubt the subby would have said anything if there was a "women's fitting room" and a "men's fitting room".
/r/MensRights16/05/18 05:17 PM
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I should have said "pressing". He can press charges, but only DAs can file charges - you are correct.
/r/MensRights16/05/18 04:46 PM
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You got it. I don't know where the 4 times figure comes from either. I haven't seen that one before.
/r/MensRights16/05/18 04:46 AM
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I don't really know why the abstract says 1000 times when I heard 4 times elsewhere. This particular study found men's adjustment for economic status cues was very nearly nonexistent. It's basically the "football stadium filled with ants" scenario - it mixes scales in a very in-congruent way. https://what-if.xkcd.com/73/ Basically, men don't make an adjustment that way outside of a few, while women generally do make that adjustment outside of few. If you compare the net result, you get 1000x big…
/r/MensRights16/05/18 04:41 AM
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I desperately want regular folks who are conservative to come together to stand up to Republicans just as much as I want regular folks who are feminist to come together and stand up to the National organization of women. I'd say both of these are about equally likely to occur.
/r/MensRights16/05/18 04:36 AM
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Does the National organization of women speak for all women or all feminists? I doubt it. I mean, it is the most powerful and most well funded Feminist organization in the United States and possibly the world. It's probably true they don't speak for all feminists, in the same way Republicans don't speak for all conservatives, but you'd be remiss to dismiss them when it comes to the feminist movement, just as you'd be remiss to dismiss Republicans when it comes to the conservative movement.
/r/MensRights16/05/18 02:35 AM
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He's not wrong that if he did that the woman would be filing charges. The problem is he's not filing charges.
/r/MensRights15/05/18 04:23 AM
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Everything you just said was some way in which you think you'd be less of a victim “Psychological effects might have been completely different” was an acknowledgement of it being difficult and complicated in a different way. I find it hard to take you seriously. Well I’m an angry bitter old man yelling at a society that fucked up.
/r/MensRights14/05/18 03:37 PM
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But that, if anything, should move you closer towards a position of empathy with women who are expected to (and usually do) put all the preemptive work into avoid getting raped (although not always effectively, given the difference between the stereotype of who commits rape versus who actually does). That's mostly because men aren't told they can be raped, and given the majority of rapists of men are women, and no one seems to know this is possible, it stays undetected. What, if anything, do you…
/r/MensRights14/05/18 06:31 AM
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People seem to want to make women suffer as badly by the law rather than fight for better treatment of males. Well, I would argue both need to move towards the middle. The number of women we just completely let off for murder and rape is unconscionable. That being said, I don't hardly see the point in super long sentences for anyone. I'd like a short sentence with the ability to extend if they are still a threat to society at the end of it. Also, we need to spend a little money on rehabilitation…
/r/MensRights14/05/18 06:01 AM
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I'm not sure what you're trying to tell me here.
/r/MensRights14/05/18 04:46 AM
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So did you report it? Was there anything holding you back from doing so? Sort of. I was also robbed my rapist, and I reported the entire sequence of events. I did not recognize, at that time, that being drugged and raped actually was any kind of a crime. Neither did the police. They recorded it as a theft. The parallel is, "Most people in my dating pool are decent, but a few are predatory assholes and I don't necessarily know upfront which is which. How defensive do I need to be against everyone…
/r/MensRights14/05/18 04:45 AM
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So, for the overwhelming majority of women (and let's just assume heteronormativity here) admitting to being raped even when it actually happened is deeply undesirable. Um, probably. I haven't seen any statistics in this regard. But then again, I'm constantly seeing people who were victims of "verbal sexual assault" and stuff like that, so there's a certain desire to be the "victim" so you have a stronger voice too. There's pulls in both directions. In any case, it doesn't have to be a majority.…
/r/MensRights14/05/18 01:18 AM
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But have you ever had a sexual encounter where you ever started to wonder if you were being more rapey than you thought you had been? No. But here's the thing, there's literally nothing to compare it to. Besides, our memories tend to be more self-serving. So it would more likely drift in the direction of the other person being "more rapey" and you being "less rapey". But I'm saying, as someone who has so been victimized but really doesn't walk in any fear at all of being labeled an accuser: act …
/r/MensRights13/05/18 08:24 PM
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Would you falsely claim someone you didn't like raped you? Me? Not personally no. I'm not a fan of using the law to punish people because I hate them. However, others do not feel similarly. https://jonathanturley.org/2012/05/25/woman-admits-that-she-falsely-accused-convicted-high-school-student-of-rape-after-he-serves-his-time-in-jail-woman-keeps-1-5-million-award-as-rape-victim/ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5190501/Student-wrongly-accused-rape-calls-anonymity.html Typically? Of cours…
/r/MensRights13/05/18 08:01 PM
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Really, there is no movement as a whole. Ah yes, Schroedinger's feminism. I know ye well. Yes there is a movement as a whole, just as there's a conservative movement as a whole and a liberal movement as a whole. Even if members within that movement have lots of different ideas. And the point of fact is, this is a movement that actively takes steps to protect rapists and domestic abusers as long as they are women victimizing men. I have very little sympathy for people who claim to be "one of the …
/r/MensRights13/05/18 07:41 PM
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But what if the majority of feminists, were actually decent people that we could work together with to further equality for everyone? I have been, and continue to, talk with such individuals. I'm not convinced they make up a majority, but when they do crop up we do speak with them. That doesn't change the fact that the movement as a whole works hard to use institutional power to protect rapists and domestic abusers - and outright excuses or even praises women who visit acts of horrific violence …
/r/MensRights13/05/18 07:25 PM
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That isn't about the dress code unless you are going to claim you are transgender. They are allowed to have 2 standards Isn't "men don't wear skirts" sex stereotyping?
/r/MensRights13/05/18 07:07 PM
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Dress codes do not have to be fair based on sex. Arguable. The EEOC includes "sex stereotyping" as a claim available under Title VII discrimination based on sex. https://www.littler.com/publication-press/publication/eeoc-opens-door-title-vii-protection-transgender-employees Of course, under the new administration, that will probably be harder than the old one.
/r/MensRights13/05/18 06:50 PM
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Right. Honestly - it's a cause for a lot of issues that we can't afford to take ironic actions because even if the courts redress the consequences, we'll be ruined before that happens.
/r/MensRights13/05/18 06:46 PM
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Depends how litigious you are. I have a secret fantasy at places like that buying the exact same skirt someone wears to the office regulary and wear it and watch for the explosion. Then sue over the explosion. I'd probably not do it though - family to support and all that.
/r/MensRights13/05/18 06:02 PM
8

Reverse the genders. A man driving over, then backing over again, a cheating wife would get more than 15 years I don't know that we've ever had that particular scenario. I do know this man who killed his wife in a fit of rage got 15 years. http://www.wsmv.com/story/16383861/ft-campbell-soldier-sentenced-15-years-for-wifes-death
/r/MensRights13/05/18 04:50 PM
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I wouldn't call 15 years for murder "getting away with it". It's a little light, but not obscenely light. A lot of men have been sentenced to 15 years for murder.
/r/MensRights13/05/18 04:41 PM
1

No, because people get angry and do shitty things for revenge. Women are no different than men in this regard. Your logic is that men should be under constant threat of rape charges because it fails to recognize the fundamental human failing, and are ultimately at fault for being victims of it.
/r/MensRights13/05/18 03:25 PM
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There are no movies with young teen boys kicking ass, there are dozens with women There are virtually no staged fights of a young teen boy beating an adult man, there are quite a few with women. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Karate_Kid https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Karate_Kid_Part_II https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Karate_Kid_Part_III https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Next_Karate_Kid https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Karate_Kid_(2010_film)
/r/MensRights13/05/18 02:54 AM
2

https://www.salon.com/2018/03/18/stormy-daniels-is-a-feminist-hero/
/r/MensRights13/05/18 02:47 AM
3

Straight guys: are you sure enough that the woman actually wants it such that you'd be willing to stand trial for rape if you get it wrong? Yes: proceed. No: double check or back off. Ultimately, this means that celibacy is the only answer.
/r/MensRights12/05/18 11:05 PM
1

what do you think "You have a woman who was the sexual aggressor, and the school doesn't really know how to deal with that situation", means? That people go full on retard when it's a woman who is the aggressor?
/r/MensRights11/05/18 05:21 PM
1

Her lawyer is suggesting that because she's a woman she can't rape or sexually abuse a man. Umm, I didn't see that. Do you have a link to the filing?
/r/MensRights11/05/18 07:46 AM
2

With fingers. Fingers + thumbs = digits.
/r/MensRights11/05/18 07:45 AM
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Aragon was charged on May 4 on suspicion of felony kidnapping of a child and felony lewd or indecent proposal to a minor, according to The Claremore Daily Progress. Goelz was also charged on suspicion of felony kidnapping of a child in connection with Aragon. Statutory rape oddly missing.
/r/MensRights11/05/18 04:35 AM
2

That's not the issue. According to one report from the U.S. Government Accountability Office3, women’s household income fell by 41% following a divorce or separation after age 50, while men’s household income dropped by only 23%. Household income. Now that her husband, who was working harder outside the home and getting more pay, is no longer in the household, his income being subtracted has a greater economic impact than hers. I can't tell, from the original source anyway, how income was calcul…
/r/MensRights11/05/18 03:39 AM
3

Translation: Everyone who doesn't agree with my triggered speshul braindead cuntservative republitard orange shitler asslicker snowflake point(s) of view is insane. Please stop. You're making us look bad. I say this as a long time liberal on this board.
/r/MensRights10/05/18 04:40 PM
3

Pretty sure liberals would want nothing to do with you. You aren't a "liberal", you are an "asshole". As a liberal, can confirm.
/r/MensRights10/05/18 04:38 PM
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Open a textbook. Women were denied responsibility! It wasn’t a trade off that women made, rights for responsibility. Maybe, or they didn't want it. It's really hard to say how these things came to be originally. We ASSUME that they were denied responsibility by men because we ASSUME that men are actors and women are objects to be acted upon. That's horridly sexist. What's more, there's some evidence that's not true, although it's hardly definitive. What's interesting is that when women did start…
/r/MensRights10/05/18 03:59 PM
18

I would recommend The Atlantic, The Washington Post, The New York Times, The Huffington Post, or NPR. I actually read those more than I do things like Fox News. It’s part of the reason I’m here - I read them with discernment. They convince me over and over again how fucked we are. I am a leftist after all. That’s why I’m here. The Incel movement that killed 10 in Toronto is alive and well here! Incel themed posts are frequent occurrences. Now, I’m not saying that everyone here condones it, or ev…
/r/MensRights10/05/18 06:15 AM
8

Have an upvote for blasting out the obvious.
/r/MensRights10/05/18 01:32 AM
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I would almost bet money that she was the abusive one attempting to use the system against her abuser, and when that didn't happen exactly the way she wanted, she killed her children to punish the true victim of the abuse: the boyfriend. I've seen this happen on multiple occasions (including by a woman who murdered her fiance, then claimed he was abusing her, despite their neighbors alleging she abused him, this was never brought up at trial). Alternative theory: they're both abusive but the pub…
/r/MensRights10/05/18 01:29 AM
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Same example worded differently by multiple users along the lines of "women dressed promiscuously, drunk, walking alone at night in a park or down an ally way", in this situation it would help her if she dressed more conservatively. Is that really the case though? Surly the most sound and relevant advice in this instance is not to walk alone at night in dodgy places whilst drunk. I'm not seeing how it might help to point out that a rape victim in these circumstances could benefit from the advice…
/r/MensRights09/05/18 05:18 PM
1

They referenced male perpetrators.
/r/MensRights08/05/18 10:33 PM
1

I broadly approve of this video. I noticed no reference to female perpetrators, but i'll take it anyway.
/r/MensRights08/05/18 03:08 AM
1

Two things: 1) This is a tax document with an SSN. Privacy rules generally don't allow them to send that anywhere except the address of record. 2) You don't need a 1098-T to claim the proper deduction. 3) They probably WOULD have sent you a receipt of payment or account statement that did not contain an SSN provided they had the consent of the student. 4) 3 is more relevant than the 1098-T anyway.
/r/MensRights04/05/18 07:05 PM
1

Epic fail. Her video was satirical.
/r/MensRights04/05/18 04:24 PM
5

So the ACA was in error when it outlawed discriminatory pricing between men and women for health insurance? Because women use a lot more healthcare than men, and were, historically, more expensive to insure.
/r/MensRights01/05/18 07:43 PM
7

So redlining was a perfectly valid practice. Interesting.
/r/MensRights01/05/18 04:58 PM
5

As a result of this feminist push, a rapist is out on the streets who should have been tried, convicted, and put in prison. With two eyewitnesses, I might add. How often do you get a rape trial with two eyewitnesses?
/r/MensRights30/04/18 02:35 PM
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That's an option too. You know that THEY wouldn't hesitate to bring a lawsuit if a bunch of boys were chanting "kill all women" and the teachers did nothing, though. Not for a second. That's why the administration takes those types of discrimination much more seriously - self protection. If you take that route, I would definitely do so quickly, and in writing, which can be used if they do nothing. Also look up your local statute of limitations on this type of claim.
/r/MensRights27/04/18 08:24 PM
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Lawsuit for the school allowing a hostile environment towards certain students on the basis of gender?
/r/MensRights27/04/18 08:09 PM
5

This post is effectivly "see how bad women are? Focus on that." This isn't a gender issue. There will always be assholes. I've noticed this weird habit. Issues that disproportionately harm women are gendered issues and require a gender specific approach. Issues that disproportionately harm men affect everyone and focusing on men is missing part of the problem. Men disproportionately being shitty in one area is a gendered problem we need to work on men to fix. Women disproportionately being shitt…
/r/MensRights27/04/18 04:59 PM
51

We get blamed for everything. Even when it doesn't make any sense. Especially when it doesn't make any sense.
/r/MensRights27/04/18 04:48 PM
7

Honestly, as a cut guy myself, I’ll live the rest of my life ok probably. I think my parents erred, severely, but it wasn’t malicious. They were just uneducated on the subject and said “sure” when asked. However, this is really, at its core, a human rights issue. Should children have healthy functional organs cut off their body based on the aesthetic preferences of a third party? I would say no. I would use the same regarding neonatal labiaplasties - even though men generally prefer “neat” vagin…
/r/MensRights27/04/18 06:00 AM
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It seems he was duly convicted in a court of law. The process has taken place. He will now have the right to appeal, and if anyone has the money to do so, it's Bill Cosby.
/r/MensRights27/04/18 05:07 AM
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Society is pretty sexist against men as a whole, yes. We're trying to change that. It's not easy, but we are trying.
/r/MensRights26/04/18 02:48 PM
5

I'll take one giant strawman to go, please. No, I don't think I need any extra napkins.
/r/MensRights26/04/18 03:26 AM
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The problem is men like you don’t even think it is rape!! And how have you come to this conclusion? Newsflash: all sex requires consent. For example, just bc a woman has sex with you doesn’t mean you can start fucking her ass without asking. Yes, that is correct. It's not a particularly controversial thought around here though. I mean if I reverse what these men are saying, then I should have the right to physically force these men to bend over and take a cock in their ass. I've already been dru…
/r/MensRights26/04/18 03:20 AM
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At some point when I am constantly having men penetrate me without my consent Um, as a rape victim myself raped by a woman who woke up behind a supermarket, if I was "constantly having" women envelop "me without my consent", I'd either try to change my circumstances or file a shit ton of charges, or both, as appropriate to the circumstances. I humbly suggest though you take some steps to protect yourself, as any person who is repeatedly the victim of a crime would. My cousin got robbed three tim…
/r/MensRights26/04/18 03:17 AM
2

What men where?
/r/MensRights26/04/18 12:06 AM
1

At least for federal tax purposes, divorce decrees literally don’t matter if entered into after 2008. Decrees other than divorce decrees don’t matter at all. https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f8332.pdf Especially if he has the kid more than half the time, and can prove it, please seek out a competent tax professional. Also run it past your attorney.
/r/MensRights24/04/18 01:00 AM
1

Hoffman also said the pair had sex twice on the day of the statewide walkout to pressure lawmakers to find more money for public education. This is an ambiguous sentence. Very ambiguous.
/r/MensRights20/04/18 04:42 PM
2

Um, no. Deliberately beaning a player could likely be argued as assault, particularly if the player is a child. Now accidentally beaning a player happens sometimes, but that’s different.
/r/MensRights15/04/18 03:32 PM
11

I would like to point out how I can apparently broadcast oppression still felt at 100 yards.
/r/MensRights10/04/18 07:54 PM
7

That seems like a problem.
/r/MensRights03/04/18 04:51 PM
5

According to the complaint, members of the group were branded with Mr Raniere's initials using a cauterising pen, often on their pelvic areas, in ceremonies that were filmed by members. Investigators say members were expected to provide "collateral" as a pre-condition to joining in the form of sexually explicit or other compromising material. Court documents say investigators have found electronic communication that suggested Mr Raniere was behind the sorority "slave" internal group, something h…
/r/MensRights28/03/18 03:34 AM
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Cos I know feminism has a bias and that bias is bloody harmful. Yes, it does. That’s why trying to ally with it, at this point, is a fool’s errand.
/r/MensRights26/03/18 06:31 PM
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The empathy that he displays for men and boys in his BBC interview and 12 Rules for Life is touching. The problem is that he can’t seem to extend it to anyone else. Oh lord. If they project any harder Martians are going to be able to see it.
/r/MensRights26/03/18 04:07 PM
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The thing is it should all be about equality and the freedom for a person to be who they want to be (barring they don't harm another person). I honestly agree, and I can be had back incidentally. I'm not going to attack feminism forever IF feminism will stop attacking me. And I don't mean attacking me personally, you understand. Not exactly. I mean attacking the millions or maybe even tens of millions of men who have been raped by pushing squirrely definitions to avoid any recognition of such. I…
/r/MensRights26/03/18 04:02 PM
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I used to think this. I was like you once. A feminist, thinking that feminism could work on men's rights too, and it wasn't a zero sum game. It's all about equality right? Let me share a previous post: Let me tell you a little bit about my experience. See, I used to be a feminist. Used to think along the lines a lot of people do - men rape women and sometimes men, men beat women, women only engage in domestic violence in self defense, women are discriminated against in employment, and so on. The…
/r/MensRights26/03/18 03:08 PM
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Notice the total lack of "sexual assault".
/r/MensRights25/03/18 04:31 PM
2

I'd file for an EIN and file the form 1023 for nothing to apply for not for profit status. I don't have much money, but I know how to do those things and would offer my services.
/r/MensRights25/03/18 03:49 PM
2

I used to be a feminist, but now I’m antifeminist. I could not abide the widespread institutional support for domestic violence, rape, and murder based on the sex of the person committing it. That’s unconscionable, and feminism delenda est.
/r/MensRights24/03/18 02:07 PM
2

How to make false accusations with no accountability. Looks like it just is trying to figure out if there's a crime or not. Nothing is reported to the police unless the person comes forward to report the crime in the traditional manner.
/r/MensRights23/03/18 03:01 PM
7

I'd still like to know why women rape. $50 it's the same thing.
/r/MensRights23/03/18 02:35 AM
4

Woman* ;) Ah yes. I shall have myself promptly flogged.
/r/MensRights22/03/18 09:49 PM
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This man is a hero.
/r/MensRights22/03/18 03:48 PM
2

That's a rather interesting carve out.
/r/MensRights22/03/18 12:41 AM
3

http://thestocktontimes.com/2018/03/14/royal-commission-into-banks-finds-they-only-want-whats-best-for-us/ I think that's a safe bet.
/r/MensRights20/03/18 05:45 PM
1

forcing a woman to continue a pregnancy either inside or outside of her body This is a really funny turn of phrase. I had to turn it over in my head a few times. That notion isn’t really “forcing a woman to continue a pregnancy”. The pregnancy ends at extraction. Machines continue maturation from there. is a really disgusting notion Is it equally, less disgusting, or more disgusting than people choosing surgeries as the next best thing when other surgeries using stem cells is illegal? SCOTUS wil…
/r/MensRights20/03/18 02:05 PM
5

yet the only mention of sexism is sexism against women. Yeah, well, we're still struggling for recognition that sexism against men is a real thing. The funny part is that sexism against men is so everpresent it even prevents researchers from recognizing it (on average), because the researchers are as sexist as everyone else.
/r/MensRights20/03/18 03:31 AM
0

Never mind i guess.
/r/MensRights20/03/18 03:18 AM
1

My bad I guess. There's just been so much done to minimize men's problems in an attempt to marginalize historically that I thought you were trolling instead of trying to be humorous. There have been numerous articles, videos, etc, of men's problems being reduced to the utter ridiculous trivialities in an attempt to marginalize and trivialize the very real issues men face, not as a source of humor. I thought you were trolling us.
/r/MensRights20/03/18 03:13 AM
-1

The part where he's obliged to know how to fix a car resonated with me for sure. Sure, that's an issue. Similarly, if I skin my knee that's an issue. However, to focus on the skinned knee after being shot 6 times is just insulting. If you want to be angry for the sake of being angry Anger is an absolutely valid response to injustice.
/r/MensRights20/03/18 03:05 AM
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<never mind I guess>
/r/MensRights20/03/18 02:57 AM
1

Guys in particular I'm not sure it's "guys in particular" but more "everyone does it". I've counseled hundreds of guys who have been raped at this point. A rather significant majority will (for reasons still puzzling to me, but that's on them) try to tell the women who raped them that what they did was no ok, and that they raped them. A significant percentage (but not the majority) of these men were literally passed out at the time. The women's responses were universal in incredulity. The most c…
/r/MensRights20/03/18 02:44 AM
1

You didn't have an inherent right to obtain any particular medical procedure. Ok, so let's suppose that (hypothetically) this biobag thing becomes a fertilization to birth solution (merging with other technologies along the way). In accordance, Mississippi bans abortion but permits extraction into the biobag. No woman is forced to extract and place in a biobag, but she can't abort - her only option to not be pregnant is the biobag. Is that forcible if she chooses to do so?
/r/MensRights20/03/18 02:35 AM
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I actually agree with this - we’ve seen it a lot with racism recently. Syrian refugees weren’t maligned, men from Syria were maligned. Black people weren’t by and large lynched in the south - black men were. When people talk about ‘mexicans’ taking jobs, bringing drugs, crime, rapists - everyone’s mental picture is of a man. It goes on. Racism and misandry are very related.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 10:05 PM
1

Sure. But here’s a scenario for you. I have a condition that probably could have been cured with embryonic stem cells. I also probably could have raised the cash to pay for it. However, use of embryonic stem cells is illegal where I live, so I had to use an alternate procedure that would work to my ends but isn’t my first preference. Is that forcible? Was it valid consent to take the alternate procedure because my #1 preference was illegal? Why or why not?
/r/MensRights19/03/18 09:25 PM
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Gust said if the offender were a male and the situation was the same, the sentence would still fit the crime. Uh huh.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 08:35 PM
1

I wouldn’t leave your name up and post it here. That’s a good way to get harassed and your school threatened for daring to engage in wrongthink.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 07:49 PM
5

Honestly, after watching Cenk laughing at a boy getting raped, I can’t stand to watch him anymore.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 05:28 PM
5

We don't hate you for being a female feminist. First off, we have no hate against women, and second our hatred of feminism is often more general than particular. IE, we hate what the movement has come to stand for - protecting rapists and domestic abusers on the basis of their genitalia, infantilizing women, trying to minimize women's responsibility for their actions, and increasing sexism in society. That's about the movement, not you personally. Now that that's out of the way, I'm just curious…
/r/MensRights19/03/18 03:45 PM
1

don't involve any forcible medical procedures Is an abortion and the hypothetical extraction different enough to be considered "forcible"?
/r/MensRights19/03/18 02:34 AM
4

I really thought you mistyped "illegally" until I followed the link.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 02:29 AM
1

Have you noticed the number of men in this thread who seem to enjoy the notion of forcing a sex partner to decant an embryo into a Biobag rather than having an abortion? I think that, were it available from conception, we'll see a major separation between being a legal parent and biological parent come down through the law. Right now, men are frequently forced to become parents even against their will, including a number that are raped by women and then forced to both pay their rapist and lose t…
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:50 AM
5

I think that would have gotten more press.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:10 AM
1

Oh so like a circumsion!? The appendix is part of a baby's body. It serves a purpose. It should not be removed barring medical need. The foreskin is part of a baby's body. It serves a purpose. It should not be removed barring medical need. This really isn't hard.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:06 AM
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That's an unproven theory. Makes logical sense. It may also serve an immune system purpose as well. They discovered that the appendix has evolved independently in several mammal lineages, over 30 separate times, and almost never disappears from a lineage once it has appeared. This suggests that the appendix likely serves an adaptive purpose. Looking at ecological factors, such as diet, climate, how social a species is, and where it lives, they were able to reject several previously proposed hypo…
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:00 AM
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What's the purpose of your appendix? Stores good bacteria for your gut, so that if there's an event that wipes out or diminishes the good bacteria you need to break down food, it can be replenished by taking some of the good bacteria stored in the appendix. It's neat stuff. It's like a backup system for your gut flora.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 12:52 AM
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Feminists have been in search of a product, any product, that would shift the birth control burden on to men. I don't think this is the case. They loudly protested when birth control for men looked possible before.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 10:40 PM
1

I'd like to see people not coercing other people into producing offspring with them. Unfortunately, it's all too common. Artificial wombs might help that.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 09:45 PM
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It's pretty easy to get in to it. I did a bit ago. It's not a sub that blows my socks off, but it's decent.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 09:30 PM
6

Would you make the same argument with having your tonsils and appendix removed right at birth? I would. Both are natural parts of the body, both have a purpose, and you have no right to cut up babies for no reason. This all applies to foreskin too.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 09:22 PM
2

At my 20-week check, the ultrasound technician informed me that, while my baby was in perfect condition, my cervix - the portion of the uterus that stands between the baby and the world - was shortening prematurely, the condition that had caused me much grief two years earlier. The official diagnosis is “incompetent cervix”. In a “competent” female body, the cervix stays long and closed until full term, and then dilates. But in an “incompetent” female body, the buffoonish cervix can shorten and …
/r/MensRights18/03/18 08:48 PM
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I do believe FB is cracking down on that, so I’d report them. To the ironic chagrin of the people who pushed for the rules.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 02:56 PM
2

what a person looks like has no baring on the merit of his argument Hear hear.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 03:31 AM
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There's been way too many studies where "women are basically as shitty as men" is classified as "misogyny". Until I see how they classified the alleged misogyny, I won't believe it's misogyny.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 03:18 AM
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It's certainly not. However, I just want to comment the suggestions for inspirational phrases are utterly insane.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 03:12 AM
3

"Female staffers don't use that entrance because the sign is offensive to them," DuBois told WBZ-TV this week. Wat.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 02:46 AM
2

I used to be a feminist. Then for a while I called myself both. Then I abandoned the feminist label when I could no longer tolerate being associated with it. Welcome. You won't find hatred here. You may find anti-feminism - especially among those of us who are apostates former feminists. I hope you won't take it personally. It may not be about you in particular per se.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 02:43 AM
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I can't find a full text of this study anywhere. I'm not likely to believe it without one.
/r/MensRights18/03/18 02:41 AM
2

I wish there was actually more data on this. I'll bet you there ARE both girls and boys, just because that's the way it works out. All I hear though are snippets and rumors and screams. Anyone have any hard data on the victims and what the gender split was?
/r/MensRights17/03/18 06:07 PM
12

I've been telling people for years we should teach everyone martial arts. That way every physical confrontation devolves into an epic martial arts battle.
/r/MensRights14/03/18 07:02 PM
1

I'm not sure how this is "uplifting".
/r/MensRights14/03/18 02:23 PM
1

This often is who files the complaint in underage sexual assault cases like this - for both genders.
/r/MensRights13/03/18 06:48 PM
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Hey, they used the words “sexual assault”. That’s something.
/r/MensRights13/03/18 03:37 AM
2

Here’s a couple more: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Activists-oppose-making-rape-gender-neutral/articleshow/15049606.cms http://www.jpost.com/Israel/Womens-groups-Cancel-law-charging-women-with-rape
/r/MensRights13/03/18 01:51 AM
2

That men are always seen as the abusers and never the victim? That’s only part of it. It’s a big part, but not the only part. https://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2014/11/06/we-should-stop-putting-women-in-jail-for-anything/?utm_term=.95923a638679 As an example.
/r/MensRights13/03/18 01:35 AM
3

It honestly seems like a natural thing on the surface does it not? And if you don’t dig any deeper than surface knowledge of both groups, it’s an eminently reasonable ask. However, digging reveals some incompatible things that make it an impossible. Number 1, with a bullet, is the continuous feminist effort to protect rapists, domestic abusers, even murderers from justice - so long as they have the “correct” genitalia. The MRM, by and large, wants equal treatment of men and women before the just…
/r/MensRights13/03/18 01:08 AM
2

I genuinely meant what I said - what happened to you is horrible and wrong. I understand really. I do. And I do appreciate it, believe it or not. Please do not mistake my generalized anger for focused hatred - far from it. Anger is a perfectly reasonable response to injustice you understand. And I have it in spades.
/r/MensRights13/03/18 01:00 AM
1

I’m guessing that there was no punishment or repercussion for the person who did this to you, and I’m sorry for that too. No, and there never will be. This is the actual meaning of toxic masculinity, and I wish the term wasn’t so often used and/or interpreted as an insult to men, because all that does is silence the actual issue and the message behind it. I mean, here's the thing. I hate the term "toxic masculinity" for the same reason I'd hate the term "toxic blackness". It implies there's some…
/r/MensRights12/03/18 07:51 PM
1

It was more of an observation than an illustration, and it applies to a lot of people. The bookkeeper at your favorite restaurant. The insurance person at your doctor’s office. Your cable guy. The electric company workers. The road crew. The list is endless of people you’ve reduced to objects - they get you <thing>, and that’s all the further you think about it. It’s a mental shortcut, and one we take hundreds of times a day.
/r/MensRights12/03/18 04:30 AM
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I’d say objectification is a pretty fuzzy concept. You have a garbage man. Do you know his name or even what he looks like? Do you know ANYTHING about him other than he makes the garbage disappear? If he died of a heart attack and another guy replaced him, would you even notice? Isn’t he objectified?
/r/MensRights12/03/18 04:08 AM
17

What is this from?
/r/MensRights11/03/18 04:33 AM
2

Honestly, De Beers is a pretty awful corporation all things considered. The sooner their stranglehold on the diamond market is broken the better, I say.
/r/MensRights11/03/18 04:03 AM
12

Why is 'unquestioned love and respect' of men SO NORMAL SO STANDARD and SO COMMON SENSE I can only conclude these people live in a different universe from me.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 06:58 PM
4

Indeed. I'm just saying I didn't see your angle at first. And yes, a LOT of people don't know how erections work. Both among people who get them and those that don't.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 06:53 PM
4

argument rests on that men can only get an erection when they 'want' it when in reality that's not the case Oh I see now. Dead people can't want anything of course. I didn't get your angle at first.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 06:42 PM
1

Let me tell you a little bit about my experience. See, I used to be a feminist. Used to think along the lines a lot of people do - men rape women and sometimes men, men beat women, women only engage in domestic violence in self defense, women are discriminated against in employment, and so on. Then I was raped by a woman you see. Except, I had been so indoctrinated into the paradigm that I didn't know if I was drugged and forced to have sex by a woman and left behind a supermarket that that was …
/r/MensRights10/03/18 06:40 PM
-10

I'm not even sure how that's relevant. You can't really rape a corpse, only defile it.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 06:29 PM
22

Drop the CDC bomb.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 05:23 PM
2

I'd unironically file a Title IX complaint that this is discriminatory and hostile based on gender.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 03:44 PM
12

Feminism is a hate movement when?
/r/MensRights10/03/18 03:40 PM
1

My short answer is that no I do not think that rape is a hate crime. Just in the same way a gay man raping a man is not misandry and a lesbian raping a woman is not misogyny. Despite what I often being conflated by the media. That rape culture is misogyny. Why did you leave out the second most common type of rape there is - women raping men?
/r/MensRights10/03/18 03:16 PM
1

Here's the problem though - toxic masculinity has the same connotation as toxic blackness, which would be an unacceptable term in our society. No amount of rationalization of "well we're just talking about a toxic subset of black behaviors" would prevent you from being pilloried for making that kind of a link between blackness and toxicity. It's also why no one ever ever uses the term "toxic femininity". It's viewed as a slur. Switching from race to gender and making it men does not make it any …
/r/MensRights10/03/18 03:08 PM
3

Uh, you'll struggle with that one other than college admissions affirmative action.
/r/MensRights08/03/18 07:24 PM
9

I absolutely have similar feelings about a group that blows "false rape accusations" out of proportion at every opportunity. Well, that depends on what you view as an appropriate proportion. I do think it is sometimes focused on too much around here, when there's a much larger issue at play (below). How can you call yourself "RapeMatters" and then defend a group that constantly attempts to discredit rape victims? Because my focus is rape of men by women. CDC data shows this probably occurs almos…
/r/MensRights08/03/18 05:33 PM
18

I mean, there's a lot of reasons you could hate a group's ideology without hating the people they're fighting for. You could hate our tactics or think we're just wrong. Me, personally, I dislike feminism because of how hard it has worked as a movement to protect rapists and domestic abusers that happen to be women - to the point of trying to manipulate the science to bury the prevalence thereof and change the law so that raping men is not a crime for women, and make it so the "size" of the perso…
/r/MensRights08/03/18 03:29 PM
24

Yes?
/r/MensRights08/03/18 03:17 PM
2

I can't possibly express how conflicted this broadcast makes me. He makes lots of valid points (i'm not sure about the "show up on time" thing - i've had trouble with that out of both young men and young women). I've had a major distaste for Tucker Carlson for a long time, but here he is adopting many of our concerns and publicizing them. This leaves me feeling very conflicted.
/r/MensRights08/03/18 03:50 AM
2

This here. Complex systems often have odd data points.
/r/MensRights08/03/18 03:38 AM
3

I will point out there are revolvers that hold 7 rounds.
/r/MensRights08/03/18 03:37 AM
6

I must point out that's between 1 in 7 and 1 in 8. Sorry, math thing. I feel compelled to correct. Still unacceptably high, but "almost 1 in 6" bugs me on a certain level when it's not quite 1 in 7. "Almost 1 in 7" or "Over 1 in 8" would be acceptable.
/r/MensRights08/03/18 02:41 AM
1

I think you just been convinced that rape is "the worst crime in the world" so to speak. Well, no - murder is clearly worse. Most people would rather be raped than murdered. However, simple assault vs sexual assault? I'd rather simple assault. So would most people I think. Where the line gets murky is that if someone promises to "beat you" if you don't comply, that beating can end in death or severe bodily harm - much more harm than a punch in the face generally brings (note: some people have di…
/r/MensRights07/03/18 07:17 PM
1

I have experienced both, and it is true. You have a very skewed perspective at odds with most of society.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 06:49 PM
6

Oh, ok - that would make sense as a grouping.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 03:55 PM
24

Maybe it's just me, but "Drivers and Mobile Plant Operators" seems like an odd category.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 03:18 PM
70

I've come to realize that 'mansplaining' is the crime of explaining or talking about literally anything while being a man.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 03:17 PM
1

I mean, it's not wrong that gender inequality begins with bedtime stories. Men are always portrayed in such stories as using or sacrificing their power for the benefit of women.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 02:27 PM
1

Ya, i get what you are saying. But ya i personally view sexual assault as preferable to regular assault and the other crimes mentioned even though you may disagree. (in terms of vagina / penis rape) Well, again, as a person who has personally experienced both, I can tell you your assumption is not true. Sex is a very personal thing and to have it taken a very personal violation. Think about the violation of having your home broken into, and having someone rifle through all your personal things. …
/r/MensRights07/03/18 01:43 PM
12

He shouldn't have swiped right. Had it coming, amirite?
/r/MensRights07/03/18 05:41 AM
2

When it comes to crimes, rape is less serious then getting punched in the face. Don't believe me? Ask the countless people who chose rape over just that or less. As a person who has been both raped and punched in the face, let me tell you, I would much rather be punched in the face. I'd rather be punched in the face 50 times than raped again once. I know one thing, if someone who trying to stab a women, she would not sit there and let it happen, because she was scared what would happen to her if…
/r/MensRights07/03/18 05:38 AM
1

If i am enslaved. I am doing work, without pay. That has a huge effect on me in a tangible manner. I am losing out on A LOT. Yes, but we don't consider it a contract violation - like say, if you worked a job for someone on contract and they refused to pay. We consider it a criminal matter, and for good reason. If i am kidnapped, that has a huge effect on me in a tangible manner. I am in a location i should not be, presumably trapped, lots of time lost. I am losing something of value. Time. Effor…
/r/MensRights07/03/18 05:35 AM
2

Honestly, i think people feel far too sorry for rape victims, (Female ones mainly) seems like the worst thing about it, is just the person feeling bad for themselves, otherwise rape would be almost the same as sex in many circumstances. Sure. But we draw a bit of a distinction between experiences based on our acquiescence or lack. If you have sex with someone of your own free will, it's sex. If it's against your will, it's rape. If you go to someone's house of your own free will, it's called vis…
/r/MensRights07/03/18 03:17 AM
2

I’m just sad. I mean, that's fine, but sadness is a useless emotion to me. It's passive. It doesn't bring about change. It doesn't fix anything. I'm horribly angry. Anger is a normal reaction to injustice. Why isn't everyone?
/r/MensRights07/03/18 02:08 AM
2

I keep trying. To be honest, i'm way past grief and plan to stay in anger for the foreseeable future.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 01:53 AM
9

I have been yes - I was drugged and raped by a woman.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 01:41 AM
33

I might take a trip to Iceland as a result. We hadn't decided what country to visit this year, and I just want to stop in and give Parliament a thumbs up if they do this.
/r/MensRights06/03/18 10:52 PM
6

No thanks. I'd prefer NOT to protect rapists and domestic abusers based on their gender. Until feminism stops doing that, I will not relent.
/r/MensRights06/03/18 05:52 PM
28

It must suck terribly to push and push and push for rules and then watch them get ironically applied to you when you engage in hate speech. (For the record, I don't think Facebook should be banning people for hate speech, but at least they're doing so consistently. That's something.)
/r/MensRights06/03/18 05:25 AM
3

In the year ending March 2015 in England and Wales, 44% of female murder victims, compared with 6% of male murder victims, died at the hands of their partner or former partner. This bugs me, because it's two different quantities. Women are far less likely to be murdered overall. https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/compendium/focusonviolentcrimeandsexualoffences/yearendingmarch2016/homicide In the latest year, 28 men and 77 women were killed by an intimate partner …
/r/MensRights06/03/18 04:57 AM
1

I'd like to see her proof that he never faced any discrimination due to his gender. Or any man has never faced any discrimination due to his gender, for that matter.
/r/MensRights06/03/18 01:03 AM
21

So? Serious question. So?
/r/MensRights05/03/18 11:45 PM
1

I just read that definition and bro, this ain't against you, but what the fuck did you have me just read? Do you have any idea how "Post Modernist" that horse shit sounds? Post modernist 1965 Supreme Court of the United States. I laughed a lot. word orgy salad I suggest you learn to read complicated sentence structure. I mean, so what, I make up a belief today that says all life came from the "Weiner God" and now I have a religion? So was scientology a religion when one man believed it or when 4…
/r/MensRights05/03/18 11:45 PM
17

Um, is Jorge a feminist? Seems like his focus is international relations...
/r/MensRights05/03/18 04:48 PM
3

https://www.bls.gov/news.release/cfoi.t01.htm
/r/MensRights05/03/18 03:58 PM
5

I like flipping the script on this and arguing the pay gap is proof of discrimination against men. The money you receive from work is, in most cases, commensurate with what you personally sacrificed to get it. Men are expected to sacrifice more for the good of their families on the basis of their gender, and this is reflected in the pay gap. It also has the perk of being arguably true.
/r/MensRights05/03/18 03:40 PM
1

This article triggers me.
/r/MensRights04/03/18 02:05 AM
7

What IS a religion? That's a complicated question, but I like the way SCOTUS called it: Under the 1940 Act, it was necessary only to have a conviction based upon religious training and belief; we believe that is all that is required here. Within that phrase would come all sincere religious beliefs which are based upon a power or being, or upon a faith, to which all else is subordinate or upon which all else is ultimately dependent. The test might be stated in these words: a sincere and meaningfu…
/r/MensRights03/03/18 10:31 PM
0

I would start with pointing out the CDC report showing over a million men being raped by women each year, and how should women address this growing rape problem with women raping men? (I question whether it's really a "growing problem" or an "always was" problem, but phrasing it that way will get your foot in the door. Maybe.)
/r/MensRights03/03/18 08:10 PM
1

reads OP Dude, more like using it instead of a freaking comma.
/r/MensRights03/03/18 07:51 PM
8

Then why did you say "live by your own definitions of these rules"? The rules would seem to be "don't cut off bits of other people without their consent" in the context of this thread. If you can't communicate, well... https://xkcd.com/169/
/r/MensRights03/03/18 07:46 PM
12

I mean, I've never cut off bits of someone else's body on the basis of my religion, so you might say I'm already living by my own definition. So... I guess I can skip the sex doll.
/r/MensRights03/03/18 07:35 PM
5

Not the OP, this is in the article, but what the fuck is with the air quotes?
/r/MensRights03/03/18 05:20 PM
1

This is the original source (referenced in one of your sources). https://www1.wdr.de/mediathek/audio/wdr2/audio-tafel-marl-ausgabe-an-familien-mit-kindern-und-rentner-egal-welcher-herkunft-100.html I'm told "Keine eine Einzelperson" means "no single persons". (I do not speak german, but I just had a second german person verify)
/r/MensRights02/03/18 03:00 PM
10

I hate to be a killjoy, but I had a friend translate the audio from German. “No single men” is a mistranslation. It’s “no single persons”. More accurate: https://www.thelocal.de/20180301/second-food-charity-rejects-racism-accusation-over-distribution-policy
/r/MensRights02/03/18 01:24 AM
1123

File a Title IX complaint.
/r/MensRights01/03/18 01:50 PM
4

There's something slightly different about the title. Can't put my finger on it.
/r/MensRights01/03/18 01:47 PM
25

I love how the bot, not knowing any better, showcased for us handily how this is treated in the media at large.
/r/MensRights01/03/18 02:19 AM
5

Good bot.
/r/MensRights01/03/18 02:19 AM
1

Eh, once or twice. Mostly I shrugged and went on.
/r/MensRights01/03/18 02:17 AM
22

No. I'm a leftist.
/r/MensRights28/02/18 01:46 AM
8

That’s why I encouraged my guy friends to take gender classes and encouraged the guys looking for a diversity credit to actually participate. That sounds great in theory, and those willing to endure that fire I have nothing but commendation for. That's a tough path to travel. You have my kudos. Unfortunately, my experience in attempting to talk in any kind of a gendered space about gender issues (other than this one) was one of pure hostility. See, I am a rape victim - raped by a woman - and I t…
/r/MensRights28/02/18 01:40 AM
9

A lot of it has to do with gendered expectations regarding men and women, but especially men. We've spent a hundred years undoing the gendered expectations of women, and, while it's not exactly dead, we've done a lot on that front. We've spent no effort undoing the gendered expectations of men. Men must be strong, "me Og, have big club. Ready to fight dragon." If they aren't, they're useless. Discarded. Women (on average) won't date them. People (especially women) will ridicule them. Tell them t…
/r/MensRights28/02/18 12:12 AM
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I honestly cannot agree with you that women are the primary enforcers of gender roles. I think men and women are both perpetuating gender roles both by enforcing them within their own gender and expecting them from those of another gender. That’s a really interesting conversation. There's a reason why I said "primary" instead of "only". Because it's true. I don't say things lightly. https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/04/messages-of-shame-are-organized-around-gender/275322/ What Brown…
/r/MensRights27/02/18 11:15 PM
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I generally agree that men need to be able to open up and communicate instead of clamming up. However, this isn't toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is a term dreamed up by feminists to try and blame men for their own victimization. Women are the primary enforcers of gender roles - both male and female. If you want to use the word "toxic", it's "toxic femininity" that is the primary cause of this behavior. I don't like that term either though, so I prefer something simpler: Pure rank sexism ag…
/r/MensRights27/02/18 10:55 PM
2

Let me propose a thought experiment for you. Leukemia and Non-hodgkins lymphoma kill about the same number of people per year. Source on that: https://www.livescience.com/11041-10-deadliest-cancers-cure.html Now, pulling numbers straight out of my ass, let's assume that Leukemia gets $200 million per year in research funds and non-hodgkins lymphoma gets $100,000. I have $100 that I can afford and want to donate to these two cancers. I view them as equally important. Where should I put it if I vi…
/r/MensRights26/02/18 05:16 PM
2

I mean, whether or not it was derailing would depend on the original topic.
/r/MensRights25/02/18 04:24 AM
1

And yet the cant take criticisms. :) Who couldn't take the criticism?
/r/MensRights24/02/18 06:55 PM
0

But its not their business to make people masculine or not. This just isn't a mens rights goal. It is not. But they care. Most know better. Some don't. MRAs aren't beacons of utter perfection either.
/r/MensRights24/02/18 06:52 PM
2

Why do so many feminists police how masculine/non-masculine men are? -- because they are misandric. I thought this was clear. I mean, that's a convenient answer, and to an extent is probably true, but i think the more "in our face" answer is this: Because women prefer men to be this way, and we generally cater to the desires of women. Either out of not caring about men's preferences (feminists) or trying to help men and screwing it up (MRAs). Many many men view an ideal life as involving one wit…
/r/MensRights24/02/18 06:38 PM
10

We generally don't. Some exceptions exist of course. So let me ask it back at you: Why do so many feminists police how masculine/non-masculine men are?
/r/MensRights24/02/18 06:20 PM
2

A father would be party to the suit by default. Can you show what law would make that the case and tell me how he will be notified, and perhaps give me some case law on this? Because the law specifies there is no need to notify him.
/r/MensRights24/02/18 05:08 PM
2

Citing the law shown earlier: It appears that knowingly disclosing identifying information of the person who surrenders to any party that is NOT already a party to the suit is actually a crime punishable by law. There's no practical way to notify the relatives without them knowing who surrendered the child, and notifying them who surrendered the child is a class B misdemeanor. Is the family court system just fragrantly disobeying the law? In favor of FATHERS? Count me skeptical. Or do they have …
/r/MensRights24/02/18 04:05 PM
22

Islamic countries treat their men just as bad as their women or even worse. That's not the future we want.
/r/MensRights24/02/18 05:51 AM
8

Except that women carry the financial burden of healthcare during and after the pregnancy,and that's separate lost wages Yes, in most cases, if they choose to. There's some argument there if pregnancy is discovered after viability. It's sort of like if you and I were fooling around and set your kitchen on fire and didn't realize it, you walk back in and see a small grease fire on the stove. Instead of putting it out, you leave, let it spread, and the whole house burns down. It's true we set the …
/r/MensRights23/02/18 10:40 PM
3

How will this be interpreted in situations where man's lack of consent to potential child birth wasn't apparent in advance? First, consent is generally interpreted positively not negatively. Unless he took some action which would make it seem he consented to a child, consent would be presumed to be absent. This is why I can't take money out of your account without your permission because your lack of consent wasn't apparent in advance. So if a woman categorically states that the man's decision t…
/r/MensRights23/02/18 09:01 PM
4

If you think so, you're welcome to make that argument. I look forward to seeing it.
/r/MensRights23/02/18 07:07 PM
7

The same is here. I am pro some form of financial abortion, but I am seeking for solution that is not blatantly unfair to women and places all burden of medical abortion consequences solely on them. I honestly think even discussing it in terms of financial abortion vs the regular kind is comparing apples and oranges. Despite the moniker, the two things are nothing alike. The former is a legal procedure that women can already undertake now with no one's permission easily and for free. The latter …
/r/MensRights23/02/18 05:26 PM
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Both men and women carry financial obligations to their child should it be born. Incidentally, this isn't actually true in our society. Women can terminate all financial and personal obligations to their child after birth and their necessary biological role is completed in all 50 states and most western countries. All they have to do is surrender them to the state, which they can do easily and for free. Women already HAVE financial abortion. The question is why women should get that and men shou…
/r/MensRights23/02/18 04:39 PM
13

Still no designation of r/gendercritical or feminist groups in general.
/r/MensRights21/02/18 09:27 PM
1

Thanks. I’m not sure why you dug up a five month old message, but thanks.
/r/MensRights19/02/18 03:55 PM
2

So, since there's so much discrepancy, why assume the successful claims are false? They may rarely be false, but that'd just be a random fluke. First, can we define a successful claim, then can we define how we know what's true or false and that it would be a 'random fluke'? Keep in mind, sexual harassment is not ALWAYS a cause for a claim of discrimination, and the EEOC only cares about sexual harassment to the extent it gives rise to discrimination claims. You're seem to be saying "we have no …
/r/MensRights11/02/18 07:02 PM
6

Looks to me like someone doesn't know the difference between a post and a DM. Also, that's a horrible question to ask someone. It's not really important when it comes to a person's political or ethical views.
/r/MensRights09/02/18 05:13 PM
1

Agreed, but there's a bit of a question whether he was that far gone. He might have been - and it sounds like it from his description. Thing is though, that's something an investigation would likely be needed to uncover.
/r/MensRights24/01/18 08:30 PM
1

Like "totally shitfaced" perhaps?
/r/MensRights24/01/18 07:50 PM
2

If he was "totally shitfaced" (that's the technical term), he may not have been in a position to consent per the law he operates under, the same as if he had been utterly shitfaced high, or temporarily insane. If, and it's a big if, the other person knew or should have known regarding his mental incapacitation, and proceeded anwyay, then it's sexual assault under the law.
/r/MensRights24/01/18 03:08 PM
22

That's definitely a lawyer question. In addition, even if it is an enforceable provision (I doubt it, but hey - not a lawyer), how are you going to prove the lack?
/r/MensRights24/01/18 03:02 PM
0

File a complaint with the police. Also, take a lawyer if you have one, or another witness if you don't.
/r/MensRights24/01/18 03:00 PM
3

I mean, generally people can dress how they want. It's their right (within certain boundaries). How you dress may alter how people feel about you - this is true of both men and women. That being said, she's not doing the sexual version of "picking a fight". Just as walking around with an ugly hat isn't the actual version of "picking a fight". She has her rights to herself and so forth just as you do.
/r/MensRights24/01/18 02:30 PM
1

Why does adoption relieve her of her obligation? Surely, if she has an obligation, she has an obligation, and no action she could take would remove it, right?
/r/MensRights28/12/17 09:45 PM
11

That seems like a bad thing, just in general. Wouldn't you WANT parents to change their kids instead of walking around your store with a kid with a dirty diaper, or changing the kid on <basically any random surface> in your store?
/r/MensRights28/12/17 05:45 AM
1

Ok, let's see if your idea holds up to gender-based scrutiny. Are you against safe haven laws?
/r/MensRights28/12/17 03:09 AM
1

Usually, but sometimes reversals fail. Between 5-15% failure rate depending on the type of vasectomy so google tells me.
/r/MensRights27/12/17 01:25 AM
1

Wait, what year is this? ... damn.
/r/MensRights23/12/17 03:31 AM
1

Seconded.
/r/MensRights23/12/17 03:26 AM
5

Fixed.
/r/MensRights22/12/17 12:27 AM
47

I will point out she's already been in jail for 2.5 years already. Still ridiculously short mind you, but not quite as short as the headline misrepresented. EDIT: Fixed my bad math.
/r/MensRights21/12/17 11:33 PM
1

https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf You'll note on table 3.1, 1,437,000 women were raped by being penetrated on average in a period of 12 months, while too few were raped by being made to penetrate to do a reliable estimate. On table 3.5, 219,000 men were raped by being penetrated on average in a period of 12 months, while 1,715,000 men were raped by being made to penetrate. They don't give perpetrator statistics for 12 month figures, but in the lifetime figures,…
/r/MensRights20/12/17 11:47 PM
8

I'm not convinced. Even on this forum, when I brought up this very issue, I've received pushback from older gentlemen saying THEY had sex with their teachers in school and it was "snowflakes" that would complain about it, not real men, etc etc. So I really don't think this is a modern phenomenon.
/r/MensRights20/12/17 04:06 PM
1

Is it not true that women are raped by men far more often than they are raped by women? Actually no, this isn't true - at least not among adults according to the CDC. Are more women raped by men than men raped by women? Probably, although it's very difficult to be certain. It's certainly not "far" more. The numbers are too close to even be certain of majority.
/r/MensRights20/12/17 04:00 PM
43

I don't think there's a rise in female teachers having sex with male students. I think social media has made it come out more.
/r/MensRights20/12/17 03:56 PM
1

One in ten women have been told to go home and change by their boss after choosing to wear mini skirts and crop tops to the office ... David Clift, HR Director at totaljobs, called for employers to make dress codes 'very clear', so that workers knew exactly what they should be wearing - and also said last week that employers would look at developing a 'gender neutral dress code'. I dunno. I think if I showed up to work wearing a miniskirt and a crop top, I would be sent home as well. Permanently…
/r/MensRights20/12/17 01:00 AM
5

why aren't there any super popular republican news outlets? Are you kidding me? Seriously?
/r/MensRights19/12/17 06:12 AM
1

How many of them would tell the CDC that it was "Forced Penetration" instead of "awesome"? I think a lot of men don't really have any good idea of what rape is - particularly when committed against them. That being said, we need an objective standard for what is or isn't rape - it can't be based on the feelings of the victim or we're saying that the action was not legally right or wrong, the reaction to it determines its criminality. And that's just a horrible way to do law.
/r/MensRights14/12/17 10:47 PM
1

It's plausible. The thing is, you're counting things as rape that ARE, by legal definition, rape, but will never be reported. For instance - a couple in a committed relationship are sleeping together and she wakes him up with an early morning BJ. He was unconscious at the time sexual activity began, and penetration occurred before consciousness, so that's "made to penetrate" by CDC definition. However, it's not likely to be reported to police, for largely the same reason the teenage girl stealin…
/r/MensRights14/12/17 03:14 PM
1

Oh I understand false memories. Your memory is, after all, like a telephone game. Every time you retrieve a memory you warp it a little by your current perceptions and predispositions. Not only men do this, but women too. Not to mention, as you said, remembering things you didn't. This is why I'm very big on one year numbers but not so much on lifetime. We could shrink it down to 3 months or 6 months probably, but the narrower we shrink it the larger our sample must be in order to project into 1…
/r/MensRights14/12/17 06:14 AM
1

If you consider anything longer than a few days inaccurate, I'm not sure how you'd get accurate rape numbers at all - the survey you cited asked about it in a similar fashion as the CDC (except they asked crime victimization questions instead of behavioral ones).
/r/MensRights14/12/17 05:48 AM
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That's not a question they ask. In the 2010 in particular, the exact questions are found in the appendix.
/r/MensRights14/12/17 05:47 AM
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Theft. I was going to go with "petty larceny", but yes. However, a parent might not see it as petty larceny if you said "have you ever been stolen from?" I didn't get to do more than skim the 2011 report, but it says many times that the numbers within the 12 month period are smaller, in some cases too small to get a baseline. Not the ones I cited. The 12 month figures for made to penetrate for women and the 12 month figures for raped (being penetrated) for men are too small to do a good statisti…
/r/MensRights11/12/17 09:58 PM
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Unless the female numbers are off, too, at which point, who hasn't been raped? Rape is pretty stinking common. It's just that a lot of rape is not reported and the victim might not even see it as a big deal. The CDC asks behavioral questions using terms that define rape and sexual assault. The BJS asks people directly if they've been a victim of rape or sexual assault (and then defines men raped by women as not raped, but sexually assaulted). It's no surprise the latter is smaller than the forme…
/r/MensRights11/12/17 08:38 PM
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CDC 2010: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS_Report2010-a.pdf CDC 2011: https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss6308a1.htm?s_cid=ss6308a1_e CDC 2012: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf Each of them report over a million men each year being made to penetrate, and most of their perpetrators are female. In fact, 2011 and 2012 report almost 2 million. Edit: Rainn does not include men who are raped by women as raped. They use a 1997 survey from the …
/r/MensRights11/12/17 08:20 PM
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As a man raped by a woman who will never ever see justice on account of my gender, just like the 1 million+ men raped every year by women in the United States? Yes, I need rights. Like the right to equal protection of the law, just for starters. There are other rights too, but let's start with the really really basic one.
/r/MensRights11/12/17 05:49 PM
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I want the law to apply equally to all, or what we have isn’t the rule of law - it’s a rule of the privileged class (in this case women). Either it’s illegal or it isn’t. If it’s only illegal for the oppressed class, it’s a discriminatory law. As a man who was raped by a woman, I do find it upsetting when women grope me without permission. But that’s irrelevant to what the law should be. The law should treat all members under it equally. “Law for thee but not for me” is an ethically bankrupt pos…
/r/MensRights10/12/17 01:16 AM
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The owners of Pornhub are ingenious. Step 1) Open Pornhub store. Step 2) Get Steinem and her group of anti-sex misandrists to protest it. Step 3) Call the press, get coverage. Step 4) Coverage uses website name, and informs everyone that they have lots of porn. Step 5) Traffic is driven to the site from people who haven't heard about it yet. Step 6) Profit.
/r/MensRights09/12/17 10:28 PM
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The victim's right's movements disagree. Well they're wrong. A legal standard must, to the extent possible, be as objective as practical. That's only the start of the problem. You next have to consider sentencing at which point you probably do need to consider victim impact compared to other forms of assult. Sure. Victim impact is relevant at sentencing, but not relevant to whether a felony was committed or not.
/r/MensRights09/12/17 10:24 PM
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As an aside, I'm very very upset at the triumph of "feelz over realz" in our society. This whole thread makes no sense. It doesn't matter how the person feels about it or not. Either it's a felony to walk up and randomly grab people by their genitals or it isn't. I'm for making it criminal (for lots of reasons), but if we're going to decide randomly groping peoples' genitals is not a big deal (and it is), then it is not a big deal for either gender.
/r/MensRights09/12/17 10:11 PM
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That is the main picture at the top of the article.
/r/MensRights09/12/17 09:24 PM
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Here's the thing Lilcumia, like over a million men per year in the United States, I was raped by a woman. When you come in here and assert that consent is not important when dealing with men, you empower these rapists to continue raping. Because those men's consent is not important. And, incidentally, you're probably not unusual in this regard. Lots and lots of women have no notion of consent and what it means when it comes to the men they are dealing with. This is why I think "rape culture" is …
/r/MensRights09/12/17 09:23 PM
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I also have this hunch.
/r/MensRights09/12/17 09:20 PM
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Sure. But the assertion that women suffer victim blaming men would never suffer is stupid.
/r/MensRights12/11/17 02:11 AM
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According to documents, the man “had been hiring female escorts and frequenting a strip club in Seattle, where he was bragging about how much money he earned and belongings he had at his house.” Buxton said the victim “liked to kind of flash his money a little bit. It’s what’s going to happen — you’re going to attract negative people along the way.” But remember guys, men never get victim blamed.
/r/MensRights11/11/17 06:32 PM
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I can think of a lot of things worse than the status quo. That doesn’t make the status quo good.
/r/MensRights11/11/17 04:06 PM
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One slightly - and it does qualify as slightly according to the true definition of outlier - different result out of three does not qualify as an outlier. A 50% different result does however. And that's what we're talking about - a shift of fifty percent of the original figure. Now one could argue the female rape is the outlier, shifting 30% downward. But one of those is an outlier, and the OP used both.
/r/MensRights11/11/17 03:09 PM
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If she doesn't, she gets no interview. Basic contract theory.
/r/MensRights11/11/17 04:17 AM
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It isn't. One year showing slightly different results doesn't qualify as an outlier. "Slightly" is a key word here. First, links to reports: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS_Report2010-a.pdf https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss6308a1.htm?s_cid=ss6308a1_e https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf Using all 12 month figures below, rounded to 3 significant figures. From 2010: 1,270,000 women raped, 1,267,000 men made to penetrate. Men make up 49.94…
/r/MensRights11/11/17 04:16 AM
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feminisits I got a sensible chuckle from that.
/r/MensRights10/11/17 04:36 PM
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Your math is a little suspect, and I'll tell you why. If you compare the 3 CDC reports, you'll find that 2010 and 2011 showed almost exactly equal levels of men made to penetrate vs women raped. Only 2012 has the disparity (found in appendix A) which is driving the 3 year pattern of having more men made to penetrate than women raped. Using that three year average when 2012 is such an outlier year is quite suspect. The second issue is that the percentage of perpetrator figures are based on the li…
/r/MensRights10/11/17 04:21 PM
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Oh I'm careful. With journalists, it's all about agreements. You write up a contract where they must quote you in full without redaction or comment until the end so that nothing can be taken out of contacts, and establishes large financial penalties for failure to comply. Then, to make sure they don't end run the contract, prohibit disclosing this information to any media outlet or partner or such without them also agreeing to the same terms. Then you get your stuff out there without being taken…
/r/MensRights10/11/17 04:11 PM
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Alimony reform is a state issue. So you'd have to go state by state.
/r/MensRights09/11/17 10:58 PM
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What is that giant black box? What is VHS?
/r/MensRights09/11/17 09:51 PM
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I mean, I concur (from both an ethical standpoint and in general sentiment), but this is a budget closing measure. According to the rules, the budget has to meet certain projected dollar amounts to pass under the reconciliation rules. This proposed alimony rule actually raises more revenue, as it's likely the payor is in a higher tax bracket than the recipient. (IE: if the payor is in the 25% tax bracket, and the recipient is in the 15% tax bracket, $20,000 results in $5000 tax to the payor, but…
/r/MensRights09/11/17 09:33 PM
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So the government is trying to tax the same dollar as income twice? No, in neither case. In the current setup, it's a deduction to the payor, so the payor is not taxed on the alimony portion (what he or she did to earn it is income, but then the alimony is deducted, meaning you pay no income tax on that amount). The recipient is taxed on the alimony portion as ordinary income. The alimony is taxed once - to the recipient. In the proposed setup, the alimony would not be deductible to the payor. I…
/r/MensRights09/11/17 07:40 PM
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Joe Schmoe gets paid 150k, owes 50k to his ex wife, pays taxes as if he only makes 100k. New bill will make him pay taxes on all 150. Hi! I'm a tax professional. This is incorrect. Alimony is a deduction to the payor, but it's also income to the recipient. This is unlike child support, which is neither a deduction nor income. This bill would make Alimony like child support.
/r/MensRights09/11/17 07:28 PM
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Well, I'm not a woman, but I used to be a feminist and no longer am. Not sure if that's helpful.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 10:28 PM
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Lawyer. You should have gotten one when this all started, but you definitely need one now.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 08:22 PM
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The child will wish you had chosen it. I mean, this may be bloody obvious, but an adult can get circumcised if they want to. They can consent to it. He doesn't have to "wish you had chosen it" and then live with those consequences for life. He can just schedule the procedure himself when he comes of age. It's really hard to get the original foreskin back.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 07:02 PM
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Breast are vital Breasts are not vital in any way shape or form. They're helpful - much like foreskins are helpful - but not vital. Formula exists and has for some time (which is a good thing, as for various reasons, many mothers can't breast feed). Circumcisions are preventative of STDs. Maybe. Most of the studies are done in Africa where running water is a major problem. In the west, you find other results, like this one for instance: http://www.cirp.org/library/disease/STD/vanhowe6/ There hav…
/r/MensRights08/11/17 06:17 PM
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circumcision is unethical Circumcision IS unethical. Making irreversible bodily modifications of children who have no ability to consent with no defect is an unethical act. I would also oppose parents giving mastectomies to baby girls for the same reason - even though that would basically eliminate breast cancer.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 06:11 PM
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As a circumcised man, my opinion is that my parents made a severe error. They received bad medical advice and followed it, and it's something I can never take back.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 06:09 PM
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everything in these comments that I have tried to be "educated" on is simply bullshit. Then you clearly aren't checking the sources. My pet issue is that men are suffering rape and domestic violence at about the same rates as women, men are mostly raped by women, but men are mocked if they are raped by women. This is so bad, that the CDC classifies a man raped by a woman as "made to penetrate" instead of real rape, and this is a major driver in nonrecognition of this violent crime. https://www.c…
/r/MensRights08/11/17 06:08 PM
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Hi, welcome to our sub. Perhaps you should read a little more and you'll learn something. No day in which you learn something is a total loss.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 06:03 PM
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Person B made the sacrifice of spending less time with their family. What buffer do ththery get during divorce? None. But they should, and that’s what I’m saying. The person who sacrificed family time for work should get some remedy during divorced, just as the person who sacrificed work for family does.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 02:50 PM
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Due to the power imbalance the 'sacrifices' are potentially one person pursuing their desire to start a family and the other person being coerced into supporting that choice (because they will be forced to support it regardless, due to the lack of reproductive rights). Ok, that's a problem. However, wouldn't it then be up to the person who was forced into such sacrifice to prove their coercion, rather than just assuming it exists in 100% of cases?
/r/MensRights08/11/17 05:20 AM
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Aha. Thank you.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 05:19 AM
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Where does it say she's a feminist again?
/r/MensRights08/11/17 04:54 AM
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You've framed the situation as "sacrifices that both spouses made for the other", which glosses over the power imbalance when it comes to the ability to put the couple into the circumstances which require such "sacrifices". There is a power imbalance there that needs to be addressed as well (reproductive issues are major), but I'm not sure what the logical consequence of your argument is regarding what I said.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 04:23 AM
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Unless and until society has achieved effective gender equal protection for reproductive rights, there is little reason to presume that the decision to start a family is one made mutually or on equal terms. Yes, but I'm not sure what had to do with my post except peripherally. You're right of course. Gender equal protection for reproductive rights IS needed, badly.
/r/MensRights08/11/17 03:25 AM
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...and I'm done with you. Ciao.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 11:20 PM
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You ever give money to the homeless and got nothing in return? No, I get good feelings from it. Help an old lady with groceries just because she looked like she needed help? Yes, and have occasionally gotten apple pies and always get good feelings from it. Doing something because there is a benefit for you is not a sacrifice, how are you not getting this? Then there's no such thing as sacrifice.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 10:14 PM
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Has a judge ever ordered B to continue looking after the mother of A? Not that I know of, no. But given person B made this sacrifice, shouldn't they get a little bit a buffer until they can reestablish themselves rather than be thrown out on their asses?
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:38 PM
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No thats called having a job. So no one has ever sacrificed anything ever. I'd say that's a worldview that's pretty silly, not to mention rendering sacrifice meaningless as a term.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:37 PM
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So, it's the only one that matters. Bullshit. If person A has an ailing mother that is so bad that A could not work full time, but person B (who is person A's spouse) works part time and takes care of A's mother so that A can work full time, was B not enabling A's earnings?
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:23 PM
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1 party agreed to do X so the other coyld do Y. You don't call that sacrifice? So when I spend time at work away from my family and the boss pays me, that's not a sacrifice because I traded X for Y? If anything, the person taking on the majority financial responsibility is making a sacrifice. Everybody made personal sacrifices for joint benefit. In dissolution, it's not unreasonable that such sacrifices should be redressed (to the manner possible and reasonable).
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:22 PM
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Let me put it this way. You don't see Judges ordering women to come over, give their ex-husband sex and clean his house. So?
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:13 PM
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I know. That's why I'm discussing how things should be. Sacrifices made for the other spouse should be redressed when practical to the extent practical - and that includes things like custody.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:13 PM
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You think that's the only input a person has into the family?
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:08 PM
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leeches You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:02 PM
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Well, and just like I think the nonworking (or lower working) spouse should get temporary alimony until they get on their feet (for a limited time), the parent who sacrificed the other way - family time for money - should not be unduly penalized for that choice either. Custody should reflect fairness now, not what the circumstances were before the divorce.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 09:02 PM
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Should all gifts acrued over the years be returned too? Probably not, but they are typically equitably (ok, should be equitably, not done in practice) divided in divorce court regardless of who gave what to whom. That's why there is divorce court. Things are very intertwined if you've spent any serious time married to the point that splitting it is not an easy task.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 08:52 PM
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You mean, quit working and stay home, leeching off of their spouse. That's not a sacrifice. That's being pampered by your spouse's sacrifice. Again, that really depends, and it may not be entirely "being at home" either - one spouse often works part time so they have time to take care of kids etc because they both prefer themselves to nannies. That spouse who's been working part time this whole time has depressed earnings as a result, and it's not unreasonable that if I make a sacrifice for you …
/r/MensRights07/11/17 08:46 PM
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A sacrifice is freely done with no strings attached. Don't be absurd. A marriage definitely has "strings attached", many, in thousands of ways in many various fields of law and economics. Don't sign a contract if you don't know what's in it.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 08:00 PM
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But not inaccurate. In some instances, perhaps, but not all. It's not uncommon for one spouse to sacrifice career for family, and one spouse to sacrifice family for career. This has typically been along gendered lines, but there's no reason it has to be, and there's no particular way to prevent this in the future (other than ungendering it). It would behoove us then to try to make allowances for the sacrifices that both spouses made for the other, by making sure that, at least temporarily, both …
/r/MensRights07/11/17 07:52 PM
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but if they leeched off of their spouse That's a particularly uncharitable view.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 06:15 PM
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I disagree with some of this - I think alimony might serve a purpose, but it should only be temporary (maybe 2 years). You can't be expected to support someone for life, but if they sacrificed career, two years is a reasonable time to get back on their feet.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 05:47 PM
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Probably, but sometimes we have to engage the troll somewhat just to stop the blatantly sexist misinformation from standing unchallenged.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 05:30 PM
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Oh the poor menz and their fee-fees. Oh hey, gender-based shaming. From a feminist. That never gets old. (This is so common it's painful.) Meanwhile women are getting raped. Meanwhile men are getting raped at about the same rate as women (at least among adults), and no one cares.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 05:30 PM
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Elliot Rodger. Not an MRA, as far as we can tell. You really need to learn a few things before you embarrass yourself further.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 05:28 PM
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Most rape victims are female. Probably not. The CDC reports that, among free adults, men are raped at approximately the same rate as women - if one uses a nonsexist definition of rape (which the CDC does not). Prison rape is also in play, and although female prisoners are more likely to be sexually assaulted by other women prisoners than men are by other male prisoners (as a function of percentages), the vast majority of inmates are male, so there's a lot more rape of men in prison in total than…
/r/MensRights07/11/17 05:27 PM
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That's because of internalized misogyny. That's just a way to excuse someone's bad behavior on the basis of their gender. Stop treating women as objects and only men as actors.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 05:25 PM
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Is there anything that could make you change your mind about feminism? Yes. I was a feminist once, and I have a very clear demand. Stop protecting rapists and abusers just because they happen to be female. The data shows, clearly, that women are abusers approximately as often as men, and women rape men at nearly the rate men rape women. Stop hiding this, and we can talk. Why do you derail feminist discussions rather than doing anything to help men? You're confusing "pointing out the sexist hate"…
/r/MensRights07/11/17 02:41 PM
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Ok, clearly this was a travesty beginning to end, but the lineup photo is comically ridiculous. http://joanmcewen.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/DSCN11854.jpg That seriously fucking happened.
/r/MensRights07/11/17 02:46 AM
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Honestly, I would make child support more like alimony from a tax perspective, not the other way around.
/r/MensRights06/11/17 03:15 PM
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I mean, if what happened meets the legal definition of rape, then go. I recommend you take someone with you who can observe and take notes about what is done, police action, etc. Do everything in your power to keep that person with you. The legal term is "witness".
/r/MensRights05/11/17 11:11 PM
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See, I think this goes the wrong way. We should be taxing child support like alimony - not treating alimony like child support. This further incentivizes divorce for the lower income spouse.
/r/MensRights04/11/17 04:57 PM
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Lmao, you sound like a feminist so badly. I am sure you are ignorant to how alike you are. Look, the data is on my side, sourced and enclosed. Read it. Learn. Or not. Your choice. Reality continues to exist whether or not you learn about it. And stop discriminating against your students. When you "know" that "the little shit" is just going to do it again, it comes across in your voice. Cause and effect is hard when it comes to childhood development - it's just as likely that boys become "little …
/r/MensRights04/11/17 02:44 AM
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Has anyone ever hassled you for choosing to have a career instead of a family? Yes. Has anyone ever hassled you for being "a bad dad" because you have a full time job? No, but my brother was hassled as "a bad dad" when he lost his job and was on unemployment for a few months, and family money was tight. When that shit happens then I will believe there is equality on the issue. It happens in different ways. So you admit this stereotype is true? I admit a tendency that can't be generalized to all …
/r/MensRights04/11/17 12:34 AM
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MEN AND WOMEN BOTH. Congratulations, equality! Yes, your complaint about that child-producing pressure pressure being sexist against women was bogus and is experienced by men and women in equivalent measures. I'm glad you realize that now. Haha, funny how you leave out the part where there is clearly more boy fights. This is true. Boy fights are more frequent, easier to break up, and don't tend to ruin friendships between the boys. I'm not sure exactly what the difference is there and whether it…
/r/MensRights03/11/17 10:30 PM
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dont. Solid advice right here.
/r/MensRights30/10/17 11:36 PM
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That's not what this case is about. This case is about female circumcision. The defendants are using the legal practice of male circumcision as a defense, because (according to the defense, mind you) their procedure is less invasive than male circumcision.
/r/MensRights30/10/17 05:51 PM
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I mean, it's part of the narrative that "men have no problems as a group because they rule everything and would do anything to give themselves the world". Which, if you pay any attention to the world at all and have ever left you home or watched TV, would be obviously and truly false.
/r/MensRights30/10/17 04:54 PM
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How would guys like it if women did the same shit to them everything they reject their advances? A friend of mine was murdered by his girlfriend when he tried to break up with her. She shot him twice in the back of the head - execution style. And why do some guys not choose to stand by women and be legitimate allies and not "just in it for the pussy"? Why do some women not choose to stand by men and be legitimate allies not "just in it for what he can do for me"? you guys are gonna need to start…
/r/MensRights30/10/17 06:12 AM
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It's really not hard to understand. People often put their in-group interests ahead of out-group interests. Basic tribalism. Takes effort to break that mold. Some would argue it's bad to even do so, but I disagree (I am, after all, a dirty leftist).
/r/MensRights29/10/17 07:05 PM
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Social inertia, basically. At some point, men and women (as a group) decided on this arrangement being acceptable. Once it was that way, it's hard to dislodge. It takes a major political change to dislodge the status quo. Enter feminism. Feminism, as a movement, should be given a lot of credit for its efforts in dislodging the female gender role. It's not finished, but credit where credit's due. But feminism, as a movement, is a women's interests group you see. That's not bad per se, any more th…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 06:56 PM
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Shouldn't both genders have rights and responsibilities?! That seems ideal, yes.
/r/MensRights29/10/17 06:08 PM
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Longer than that - it's just it really sucked for both men AND women for a long time, but in entirely different ways. I'm not going to do a whole thesis (I'm going out shortly), but basically if you head back into antiquity, you'll find that women had roughly speaking no rights, but they also had no responsibilities either. Women were basically treated like children is the long story short. This was a terrible thing. However, it was a terrible thing for men too - as they bore the entire responsi…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 05:35 PM
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For fuck's sake, men don't even have the same time pressure that women have. Men have exactly the same pressure that women have when it comes to children. I mean, it's not "popping a baby out of their bodies" (biology doesn't work that way), but if you hit 30 and you're not married, everyone starts asking you, repeatedly, when you're going to get married and have a family, and keep insisting that you should. I work with kids. I am sorry, but once you yell at a girl they usually stop doing what t…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 04:59 PM
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Yes, well. We've been putting up with sexist shit for a long time. It's likely to be longer. I do think comment sections on news articles and blogs and such are important though - most of the people I have dared to talk to about these issues eventually came around to my point of view (with some notable exceptions, naturally). It's just that most people don't hear about it, so they don't think about it. And this is what some people are afraid of and why The Red Pill Movie was so harshly criticize…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 04:35 PM
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You speak as if men are held at gunpoint to take dangerous jobs. I mean, it's pretty close. It's not exactly "gunpoint", but they'll be mocked by society at large if they can't provide for their family, mocked if they don't HAVE a family, and for the uneducated, it's either dangerous or poverty - and poverty is failure. This is part of society's sexist approach to men. Who forced them to suck at school and have no better option? Their teachers, very specifically. Behavior problems are punished m…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 04:13 PM
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You could go try to register for the draft, and if they refuse to register you because you're a woman, sue for sex discrimination. It might be a fun case - then both a man and a woman will have sued for sex discrimination over the draft. Do you have an attorney?
/r/MensRights29/10/17 03:41 PM
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That's because the post is nearly a decade old.
/r/MensRights29/10/17 03:39 PM
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These husbands have a literally told me that their jobs are easy and that they get to be lazy. Well, that sounds nice. We need more of those jobs. Those manly man, stereo typical jobs that you speak of are slowly disappearing. They're really not. I mean, the trucking one might disappear once Elon Musk gets the self-driving truck thing down pat. Fixing your electricity though takes a person. So does gathering the trash. So does piloting a boat or airplane (I mean, we probably COULD automate airpl…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 03:36 PM
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You're insane. That's a weird way to approach someone who was defending you.
/r/MensRights29/10/17 03:32 AM
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Its a literal copy paste from other media and other places on reddit. I took a couple different paragraphs and copy pasted them into google with quotes to see if it showed up anywhere else. Google said none of the paragraphs I tried existed. If it's a copy/paste, it means there were modifications from the copy/paste. Which then makes it not so much copy/paste anymore. If you've seen it before, please link it, but I don't find it.
/r/MensRights29/10/17 03:23 AM
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It isnt if you suck at it. My friends that are moms work their asses off while their husbands have cushy design jobs that allow them to be lazy. How do you know their jobs allow them to be lazy? Just because you sit at a desk doesn't mean that you get to be lazy. I mean, I sit at a desk all day, and I'd rather work at home. I recognize it's work, but it's a preferable work next to my actual desk job, which sucks about as much as you can imagine. It's also worth noting that a lot of men aren't wo…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 03:02 AM
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I disagree with you there. It is work. It's definitely a work I would prefer over having to go out into society and work, but it is work. It's just personally rewarding work, whereas most of paid work is thankless drudgery.
/r/MensRights29/10/17 02:59 AM
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Politicians that make up the institutions are usually women. Priorities of women are put before the priorities of men. It's actually worth noting that while women have an automatic in-group bias, men do not. In fact, men who are sexually active tend towards an out-group bias (IE, have a bias that favors women). We don't know if this is biological or sociological, but I tend towards sociological. I think we learn a lot more than we are determined. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15491274 Scie…
/r/MensRights29/10/17 02:34 AM
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A bunch of annoying assholes being annoying assholes. Some reason it's here. I still don't know why.
/r/MensRights29/10/17 02:18 AM
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It's my understanding from listening to Gloria Steinem that you only hang with us because "that's where the boys are." Thankfully, we have more respect for you than she does.
/r/MensRights28/10/17 05:33 PM
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There's enough irony there that I could open a smelting plant.
/r/MensRights27/10/17 06:36 PM
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They're not paying their rapist, they're paying their child. Nominally. I'd argue that the distinction is largely irrelevant in the grand scheme of things, given that in most states no accounting is necessary, and the funds can be used for any purpose by the guardian and are not restricted to paying the child's expenses. It's also worth noting that if a person owes back child support when the child turns 18, it doesn't go to the (now adult) child when it is paid. It goes to the guardian who was …
/r/MensRights26/10/17 02:19 AM
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I bet that would work with "muslims" too.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 11:45 PM
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Thank you. That's one complement that I know can be sincere. It is observable from your perspective.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 07:05 PM
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I'm not a fan of sex offender registries period, although I understand why they exist. Seems like a mandatory life sentence, part of it in prison.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 04:17 AM
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Danke.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 01:49 AM
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She needs to check her privilege.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 01:37 AM
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Can you get me a source for this? I might need it for personal use later.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 01:34 AM
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Still better than the "I'm gonna destroy your dick" from the video.
/r/MensRights24/10/17 08:58 PM
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Aww, thanks.
/r/MensRights24/10/17 07:36 PM
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I'm going to go with "entitled". Yeah, that's our go-to when men have standards for anything. So "entitled" it is.
/r/MensRights24/10/17 04:26 PM
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I want to destroy your dick I'm not sure I'd even be complemented by that one. Just amused.
/r/MensRights24/10/17 02:38 PM
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Men rarely receive any positive affirmation of their sexuality and suddenly a reasonably attractive, young woman does so. If they're shocked at these results, it is because they know so little about men. This here. I'd love to have a complement or two in my life.
/r/MensRights24/10/17 02:38 PM
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Wouldn't that be "star rape"?
/r/MensRights20/10/17 03:43 PM
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Not 100% sure, but this seems like a joke column. Read on down.
/r/MensRights19/10/17 06:12 PM
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Holy shit. They used the word!
/r/MensRights19/10/17 05:56 PM
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I'd put how the CDC shows that, among adults, about as many men are "made to penetrate" as women are raped, but for purely sexist reasons, men who are raped in this way by women are not recognized as rape victims, and the majority of men report female perpetrators. You could then back it up with a personal story of a man who was raped by a woman, and how he doesn't have legal equity in practice, not to mention social support.
/r/MensRights17/10/17 11:47 PM
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I have no idea what to say about this.
/r/MensRights17/10/17 07:48 PM
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Honestly, I've seen that go both ways many many times, and also intrasex. Of course, it's only sexist when a guy does it and a woman was the one who said it in a convoluted way.
/r/MensRights17/10/17 07:40 PM
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Didn't Newt say feelings were as important as facts?
/r/MensRights17/10/17 07:34 PM
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Feminisms looks for equality, for women to have the same rights as men, not for men to have less rights. This isn't true - feminism, as a movement, has very specifically tried to protect female rapists and bury male rape victims on the basis of the genders involved - with great success I might add. That's not a movement that seeks equality.
/r/MensRights17/10/17 03:53 PM
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Don’t ask about her romantic life. Don’t refer to her sex life. Don’t ask about the quality of the sex she’s having. Don’t comment that she seems like she needs to get laid. Don’t tell her to lock down a guy before she gets too old and decrepit. Don’t reassure her that with tits like hers, she’ll find a guy some day. Don’t relay details of your own marriage and past in order to comment on hers. Don’t make knowing eyes when she mentions she’s going on date number three. Don’t tell her how to beha…
/r/MensRights17/10/17 03:50 PM
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Thanks. Here's the thing: I'm really not an anomaly. Best science we have (from the CDC) suggests that 1 million men or more are raped by women in the US each year. There's a pretty good chance you know a man raped by a woman (besides me, I mean) and he's just never talked about it.
/r/MensRights17/10/17 06:42 AM
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I could also go into the sexist selective service, and the treatment on mutually drunk sex. This poster has been subsequently taken down, but people really do think this way: https://www.louderwithcrowder.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/jakejosie.jpg And by the way, feminist academia in general (and feminist researcher Mary Koss in particular) has been systematically defining rape in such a way to exclude men raped by women. As a man raped by a woman, I take a very profound exception to that.
/r/MensRights17/10/17 06:18 AM
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I'm not sure I can do it from a socialist perspective. I'm left from a US perspective, which is pretty centrist from a European perspective. Regarding the rest: How can I address those issues better? Personally, you could correct people when they try to assert rape and domestic violence are women's issues. Men suffer rape and domestic violence at about the same rates as women. Roughly (we could argue at length about 3% or so, but I'm not that interested in the oppression Olympics). What do men n…
/r/MensRights17/10/17 05:51 AM
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Welcome. I used to be a leftist feminist. Now I'm a leftist (mostly) MRA... I think. Life is complicated. Anything in particular you want to know?
/r/MensRights17/10/17 05:16 AM
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it is fairly well researched and supported. So you've claimed. And that's nice you quoted that, exactly, what I said is not even vaguely close to your strawman paraphrasing. Actually, now that I've had a chance to sleep on it, i think your "driver's seat" comparison might be quite good. See, when I was a kid, my dad would very often drive - while my mother would constantly admonished him to speed up, slow down, turn, stay awake, u turn, etc etc etc. But if he crashed (never did, but hypothetical…
/r/MensRights16/10/17 10:18 PM
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It's hard. But worthwhile things almost always are.
/r/MensRights16/10/17 01:34 PM
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Oh, no. I meant I am sure women are as intelligent and competent as men, on average. In both good and bad ways.
/r/MensRights16/10/17 01:31 PM
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Have you tried taking any philosophy or history classes? Perhaps read any paper ever written on the people who've had the largest impact on modern thinking, culture, and society? Yes. There's a lot of assumptions that "political power" = "cultural power", and that's an assumption I'm not willing to accept without proof. Is not even remotely close to what I said, it's not even remotely close to a correct paraphrasing of what I've said. You said: I think you make some good points, I just don't thi…
/r/MensRights15/10/17 11:21 PM
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There's a huge amount of evidence for that view. There's huge evidence of women having little to no impact on society leaving men in "the driver's seat" for everything? I'd like to see this evidence.
/r/MensRights15/10/17 09:49 PM
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I think you make some good points, I just don't think that the concept of men being in the drivers seat for both the good and bad aspects of modern society is entirely unfounded. It is, again, an assertion made without evidence. It's not just a "huge simplification". It's outright conjecture. Hell, even the anti-suffragettes accepted as given that women were in the driver's seat for cultural norms, and we're talking early 1900s, and, as far as I can tell, this was never challenged by the suffrag…
/r/MensRights15/10/17 08:49 PM
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http://www.reactiongifs.com/r/2013/06/hiding.gif
/r/MensRights15/10/17 07:38 PM
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I'm a dude, so I'm not sure what it has to do with anything.
/r/MensRights15/10/17 07:31 PM
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If you accept that men are largely responsible for society I'd say that's a neophyte view of human history and a general dismissal of female agency. Rather, it's safer to say that both men and women contributed, in their own ways, to the status quo. Now, while it's true that men are the political leaders for much of human history, but that doesn't necessarily imply that women had no voice in the system. In fact, their voices were often protected more than male voices because killing men has alwa…
/r/MensRights15/10/17 07:30 PM
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I've never heard the phrase used before Exactly. They call it "internalized misogyny". The men who are victimized by horrible sexism are responsible for their victimization - hence "toxic masculinity", regardless of source (and, pro-tip, what evidence we have suggests women are the primary enforcers of the male gender role currently, although that may or may not have always been true). The women who are victimized by horrible sexism specifically from other women are suffering victimization in th…
/r/MensRights15/10/17 06:30 PM
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I dare you to find any mainstream feminist organization that has ever used "toxic femininity" in a sentence.
/r/MensRights15/10/17 04:45 PM
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I am. Competence may be more concentrated in different areas as a function of averages, but women are competent.
/r/MensRights15/10/17 04:39 PM
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Can anyone here say one good thing about women? Women are just as intelligent and competent as men as a function of averages.
/r/MensRights14/10/17 05:34 PM
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It's no secret I'm a dirty leftist around here. As a dirty leftist, let me say this: Do they want four more years of Trump? This is how you get four more years of Trump.
/r/MensRights14/10/17 03:46 AM
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That's a good point. Of course, keep in mind, providing for children was the man's responsibility from basically forever. Being unable to provide food for his family would feel like a personal responsibility failure for him. For women at that time, they weren't responsible for making food appear. No doubt though, because people love their children, that was distressing for her as well though.
/r/MensRights14/10/17 03:43 AM
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I liked this quote: This is similar to saying the pledges in a hazing ritual are actually ok with the hazing. They might say that – and the harm of the hazing may be outweighed by their desire for social approval – but that doesn’t making the hazing ok. It’s a form of gaslighting to suggest that – ‘if you’re not ok with being the subject of bullying – it’s because you’re not a good person’. Thank you.
/r/MensRights13/10/17 05:11 AM
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The only thing I could think of offhand is certain disease epidemics - where women were unable to nurse their children back to health due to the nature of the disease. That being said, infertile women or women with difficulty carrying (IE, frequent miscarriages) can be viewed as "failures" in our society, but that's more of an underlying "always is" thing than "sudden large event" thing. I hope that helps.
/r/MensRights13/10/17 05:07 AM
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They do?
/r/MensRights12/10/17 04:55 PM
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Oh lawd, veritas. I haven't trusted them since that incident where they cropped the shit out of the Planned Parenthood video to the point they flat out kibashed different sentences together to mean the opposite of what was actually talked about, and the full video disproved it all.
/r/MensRights12/10/17 12:53 AM
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Just trick them into drinking poison, sabotage the brakes on their car, or lock them in the back of a sedan in the path of a train All of these are aggravated assault unless your state splits assault and battery as separate crimes (in which case they're aggravated battery, except the train one which would be aggravated assault as well unless they were unconscious). I would address the rest of your commentary, but you seem to be getting a bit touchy again - and I'd hate to spoil the good experien…
/r/MensRights12/10/17 12:03 AM
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The two sound so similar that most MRAs and Feminists can't even tell the difference I can tell the difference. Yelling that people need to stop telling men to "man up" is putting the blame for the behavior where it belongs: on the people treating men like shit because of their gender. Telling men the solution is that they need to start talking about their feelings more is putting the blame on the victim of people treating men like shit because of their gender. It's men's fault they should be ta…
/r/MensRights11/10/17 10:53 PM
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Honestly, there's a far simpler explanation that isn't explicitly sexist. The Dunning-Kruger effect is a hell of a thing.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 10:06 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 09:53 PM
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Archive that crap.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 09:42 PM
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I agree. Also, boys should have the opportunity to be a member of any organization they want regardless of gender.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 08:49 PM
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But really, a lot of insurance companies/policies cover viagra and not birth control (I'd assume this is because conservative policies want people to do the "normal" thing and have kids, whereas they see birth control as enabling sluts or whatever). It's worth noting that there is no mandate to cover viagra at the federal level, although it's my understanding that some states mandate it. In states where that's not the case, most insurance plans don't cover it.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 08:48 PM
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Crap, I just put my ignorance about football on display.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 08:41 PM
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How do you know that it's what became that basis? Do you think lawmakers read her hate-spew and thought "this one's onto something"? Her bio is enlightening in this regard: Mary Koss, PhD, is a Regents’ Professor in the Mel and Enid Zuckerman College of Public Health at the University of Arizona. She is co-editor a two book series for the American Psychological Association, Violence Against Women and Children (2011). She published the first national study on acquaintance rape in 1987 and develop…
/r/MensRights11/10/17 08:40 PM
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That is based on opinion, not empirical proof. It's based on the explicit reasoning offered in the 1996 report itself which then became the basis for definitions going forward. You should read the report if you want to be sickened. This is a fine analogy. But it's two different systems at two different times in two different cultures operating for two different reasons. And in one case, it was the government undermining the people, and in this case, it's the women using the government to undermi…
/r/MensRights11/10/17 08:06 PM
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It's kinda sad really. It's kinda typical is what it is. And to be clear, I'm not mocking him. I truly do feel sympathy. A lot of men are in his shoes - denial is better than the uncomfortable truth.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 04:39 PM
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I'm in.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 02:33 PM
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Ask them what they thought of the rape scene. Betcha they won't even know what you're talking about if you don't specify clearly. This is what cultural blindness looks like.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 02:17 PM
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I'm not going to read that cancer of an article. This life hack will have you treating women like people in no time. I'd like a life hack that gets people to treat men like people. Can I have one of those?
/r/MensRights11/10/17 02:10 PM
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See how this splits? It's not "male victim vs female victim". Effectively it is. There's a few outliers in either direction, but it was effectively meant to minimize male victims while not being explicitly gendered. It's sort of like the south's approach to poll tests including grandfather clauses. Sure, there were a few black peoples whose grandfathers could vote and would therefore be able to vote. There were also a few white people whose grandfathers couldn't vote and would therefore be unabl…
/r/MensRights11/10/17 02:04 PM
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I never saw it... but also never heard of a rape scene You're probably better off, but yeah, you never heard of a rape scene because it was a guy that was restrained and raped by a woman while he screamed in protest. This was played for laughs.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 06:38 AM
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Guns don't kill people. Blacks and Jews kill people. Unnecessary roughness. Five yard penalty. First down.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 04:58 AM
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Would you say that there are some mixed signals in this regard? We get a few trolls once in a while, but for the vast majority of us here, we have a pretty solid signal that a man being told to "man up" is suspicious at best and actively trying to get a man to act in his own disinterest at worst.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 04:51 AM
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Rape and Made-to-Penetrate require different actions to complete, and thus are different acts. They may traumatize victims with equal severity and are morally equal, but not literally equal. Actually they quite literally are. Person A forces person B to engage in penetrative vaginal sex against person B's will. Is it rape or not? And, incidentally, distinguishing by methods is disingenuous, as deliberately running someone over with your car, stabbing them to death, shooting them, poisoning them,…
/r/MensRights11/10/17 04:49 AM
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We largely hate the "man up" bullshit.
/r/MensRights11/10/17 03:40 AM
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So yes, but that doesn't really matter. Would you consider it problematic if every time a man was murdered we called it murder, but when a woman was murdered we referred to it as "aggravated assault" or even "unlawful killing" just because the victim was female? The sentence is handed down by the judge; remember that a judge can suspend a sentence, thereby releasing the guilty from punishment before serving any time. Yeah, it almost never gets to that point - because most of the time even when t…
/r/MensRights11/10/17 03:23 AM
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You're missing the fact that rape is a form of sexual assault. So rape is not worse than sexually assaulting someone because it is sexually assaulting someone. Do you consider murder in the first degree worse than aggravated assault? Because all murders are aggravated assault, but not all aggravated assaults are murder. Punishment for a crime isn't to investigate them or put them on trial - it's the sentencing after guilty verdict that is the punishment - which is handed down by the judge. Punis…
/r/MensRights11/10/17 02:28 AM
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Why do you believe "rape" and "made to penetrate" are not morally equal? They're both sexual assaults. That's like saying a mug and a stein are nothing alike, when their differences are purely aesthetic. Because it's not viewed that way for the same reason rape and sexual assault are not viewed as morally equal. Rape has a certain moral effect that sexual assault does not. Flicking a nipple for sexual reasons without consent is sexual assault, but it's not rape, and rape is viewed as worse than …
/r/MensRights11/10/17 01:46 AM
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If you were to get intimate with a woman, disrobe her, and then go down on her, that's cunnilingus. If you were to get intimate with a man, disrobe him, and go down on him, that's fellatio. These are morally equivalent terms, unlike "rape" and "made to penetrate", which is a key point of my argument. Koss's attempt to minimize reports that men are raped by women was key in her dodgy definition (which was then broadly adopted). almost nothing other than statistical purposes This means a lot more …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 11:06 PM
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I've been reading a lot about lately and find extremely disturbing. It is. The ACA was supposed to help that, but of course, state legislatures took it down at the knees. Because we can't have nice things. Anyway, we often do medical procedures to prevent death or such down the road, even if such is somewhat hypothetical (the previously mentioned surgeries to correct heart defects in babies even though they won't manifest for decades if ever). If we want men and women to be equal, we need to tre…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 10:22 PM
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http://www.denverpost.com/2016/11/14/clarence-moses-el-retrial-verdict/ Relevant quote: When police first asked her about the attacker, she had said she didn’t get a good look at him but described the man as having a hairstyle that Moses-EL did not. And, she has said the identification of Moses-EL — with whom she had feuded — came to her in a dream.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 10:12 PM
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Well, if you read the 1996 paper I linked, it specifically criticized Struckman Johnson (a previous paper) for using a gender neutral definition of rape. It was quickly passing into common usage (and, in fact, among lay people the definition of rape generally DOES include being made to penetrate). The problem is that while most people consider a man being forced into vaginal sex with a woman as rape, researchers do not use that definition anymore (thanks to Mary Koss and feminist academia), so w…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 10:09 PM
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I'm not sure it was feminists who blocked a mandate regarding vasectomies. Stupidity is just as relevant of a consideration as malice. Hanlon's razor and all that. We do know that feminism in the past has been opposed to male contraception, but I've not heard much of anybody say anything recently, except that rich men who get vasectomies are "paranoid".
/r/MensRights10/10/17 09:37 PM
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This is directly from the link you provided. "Rape" specifically defines the unwilling penetration into someone. So--- Yes, thanks to the sexist work of Mary Koss, feminist researcher, which has infected academia surrounding rape. Made To Penetrate is just a euphemistic word to describe an inverted rape. Yeah, I'm ok with just calling it rape.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 09:35 PM
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I also wouldn't go as far as to describe it as sickening, but that may stem from my belief that you may be overselling this feminist takeover of the law. I was talking about awareness. You can start with Mary Koss's detecting the scope of rape. http://www.avoiceformalestudents.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Koss-1993-Detecting-the-Scope-of-Rape-a-review-of-prevalence-research-methods-see-p.-206-last-paragraph.pdf Where she specifically excluded men raped by women as rape victims by definition. A…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 08:47 PM
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Oh it is total bullshit. I agree. It's just not sexism.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 08:37 PM
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Given Antifa is about as organized as a herd of cats on PCP, I'm not convinced this "manual" is anything organized or worth caring about.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 08:29 PM
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If you mean 'systematic' and not systemic, could you clarify how feminists could protect these people methodically, when there is no hierarchy or leadership to feminism? By controlling the research. The feminist definition of rape - which excludes men made to penetrate women - purveyed by Mary Koss and many other key feminist researchers has put the research into men victimized by women years behind everything else. Then the feminist "research" that classified everything up to and including "he …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 08:17 PM
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Listen to this cunt. Is it making lots of noise?
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:55 PM
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Thus an acquittal is the same as a finding of guilt of a false accusation. Um, no. The jury is still required to convict beyond a reasonable doubt. That means you can believe the complainant but still have a reasonable doubt as to accuracy, and that would require a "not guilty" even if you think it's true. Whether they always do hold the situation to that standard or not is questionable, but that's the way it should work. In theory.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:37 PM
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You trust the government... who just put you in jail for political reasons... to pick the people "randomly".... We allow them to do jury selection of the public randomly. Unless you think the last time you were called to jury duty it was part of a scheme that they wanted you specifically for your views. ? It's a crime. You go to prison for it, dude. Draft dodging? Yes. It is. In looking at snopes about Clinton, it appears the circumstances were "murky", but probably not illegal. He took lots of …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:35 PM
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Again, missing the entire point. It's not a jury of your peers then. It's a jury of government employees selected by the government. Sure it is. Take out a newspaper ad ("We'll pay you $400 for the week as a juror" and hire people at random that apply). No, we didn't, and dodging a war 8000 miles away (for which there will never be a draft again, for obvious reasons) is a little different than dodging an invasion. I kinda thought Clinton and Trump were both draft dodgers. Clinton I don't remembe…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:29 PM
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why would a woman EVER lie about rape Not sure if a serious question or not. Yes, the world is that way.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:19 PM
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How many people questioned the fact that they went (voluntarily, I might add) to go and see Wedding Crashers? Frankly, I think everyone who watched the movie deserved to be shown a comical rape scene. It's like an allegory to what the filmmakers just did to your wallet; violently fucked it for amusement. I like you. You're funny. We should get coffee sometime. And no, this is not a "hitting on you" thing. I seriously just want to hang out and laugh and laugh and laugh. It's not often people can …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:18 PM
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Trial by jury is important. It is - but it doesn't require slavery to make it happen. We could just pay people. Do you think you'll ever be welcome to live there in your life again? I dunno. Let's use something slightly more close to home. Did we have a draft dodger in the white house? Twice?
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:14 PM
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It isn't hidden, dude. Asking "Where?" to this is like saying "The sky? What sky?" I'm just unconvinced it's more prevalent here than other places. I didn't deny its existence - but its used as an excuse to ignore our arguments here, but not in other places with other movements. Well, some other movements. That just cannot change until there's some clear views and goals set by the movement, which can't happen without some organization. Well first we'd need to coalesce around an organization. The…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:12 PM
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Ok, so while I'm a recent convert to intactivism... there's a whole lot of sourcing that needs to be done on this. Personal experience does not a trend make.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 06:44 PM
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As narrow as you feel it is, that is the definition. If it doesn't apply to the majority of what people face, then those things people face are not sexism. They're something else. Well, then roughly nobody in the west is a victim of sexism. Hurray... equality? It's only sexism if he's just saying that it's because of separate social and political spheres when his real belief is that broads don't belong in government because they're broads. That's a hilariously narrow definition that is so narrow…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 06:39 PM
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Yes. We can't even be certain someone convicted made it true. I just looked at the craziest case where the court admitted "dream evidence".
/r/MensRights10/10/17 06:37 PM
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Treating ED with Viagra three times a week for a year at $15 a pill comes out to ~$2300 Well, the cheapest I find is $24.83 a pill, which is $3,873 a year using your calculation. http://www.truemedcost.com/viagra-price/ And keep in mind, there's no mandate that Viagra is covered. I'm not getting into the cancer because that's apples and oranges. That will literally kill you without treatment - no ifs, ands, buts, or odds. I was unaware that uterine fibroids can be treated with birth control (I w…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 06:36 PM
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As for vasectomies, they really ought to be covered. You guys really need to just copy-and-paste our healthcare system in Canada over onto yours in America, because almost anything is better than the mess of disconnected systems you have in place. I'm with you there. As someone who has been on the barrel-end of a healthy sample of the awful behaviour you're "shouting down quite effectively", I have to take serious exception with that statement. The reason I only come here for a day every couple …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 06:26 PM
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Ok, give me a bit because I'm about to do some work stuff, then I'll get back to you.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:53 PM
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A media outlet coming to its own conclusions? It's almost like you're describing basically every news TV show that exists. Coming to erroneous conclusions that will not be swayed by pesky things like "evidence". Yeah, but then they find places like this where MRAs defend hatred against Muslims, anti-LGBT sentiment and scores of inflammatory remarks. MRM has a major housecleaning problem, and you haven't got enough rugs to hide the dirt under. If you read deeper, you'll find that this is an under…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:51 PM
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actively treats you like less of a person because of your biological sex. I mean, that happens to men a lot, but that's a pretty narrow definition that doesn't apply to the majority of things men or women face. How can you accidentally believe you're better than the other sex? Well, you can believe that men deserve to be in politics but women don't, not because men are better, because of "separate spheres" or some other bullshit. That's still sexism. No, this is the first I've heard about a rape…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:45 PM
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See, I want both maternity and paternity leave. Equality and stuff.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:31 PM
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...you're saying the media hasn't branded you negatively? I'm confused; I thought that was what your problem with them was. Again, you might wanna brush up on the definition of a lie. The media has branded us negatively by associating us with groups that have nothing to do with us (Return of Kings, for example. Yuck.) repeatedly. I mean, you could argue they're just ignorant, but ignorance doesn't really explain it when I (and no doubt many others) have explained to every media outlet that we're…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:30 PM
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Um, ok? Good for you I guess? I'm not sure what this has to do with our discussion, nor am I particularly sure how effective such a method is compared with proper medical birth control (of various kinds), but if it works for you and you two are fine with it, ok then.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:24 PM
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I mean, in point of fact, it's true. A person acquitted a crime did not necessarily not commit it in point of fact. It just wasn't proven they did it. That being said, our approach to such people probably should be to presume they didn't do it unless we have specific personal knowledge of evidence to the contrary.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:19 PM
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It's more that we seem to have no idea what sexism is anymore. Men having more difficulty with one aspect of daily life, while women have more difficulty an a different area, is not sexism. It's just an imbalance in social matters. This idea that "I don't get everything that person gets" equates to sexism keeps blowing my mind. Well, when we're talking about government action that specifically codifies inequality into law, I have no problem calling that sexism, even if it's what you might call u…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:14 PM
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I think this is a weirdly high percentage, but the fact remains that these medications are not only there to prevent pregnancy. Some women have hormonal imbalances, endometriosis, or other issues that require birth control pills for treatment. Again, all female contraception is covered, from barrier methods which have no hormone impact to sterilization which also has no hormonal impact. I understand what you're saying. I really do. It's just you're getting a tiny niche situation and trying to ap…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:11 PM
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men's rights movement is embedded in conservative politics This actually isn't true. We have a lot of right and left members. The notion that we are "embedded in conservative politics" is actually an outright lie. I am actually quite left, although I criticize, heavily, the left's anti-male agenda. Men's Rights Advocates have all but been branded shit-disturbers by the media-at-large. Yeah, that's basically an outright lie. Now, if you can prove that those statistics remain unchanged when you as…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:08 PM
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18.5 deaths per 100,000 is pretty high for maternity death. It's also extremely rare from a "cause of death" standpoint. It's actually right about as rare as dying from the flu (just slightly rarer). https://www.livescience.com/3780-odds-dying.html Not that we don't need to increase maternity care. Our rate is atrocious compared to other developed countries, but how often do you worry about dying from the flu this year when you see a coworker sniffling?
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:04 PM
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If you think that 16 is just right I'm not sure what's just right. I do think we need some good scientific research on the subject. One of the problems is that people mature at different rates - so any line is going to be unfair to someone. I'm open to suggestions, though.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:58 PM
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But when I peed on that stick and saw 2 lines last month, one of the first thoughts to cross my mind was that we have the highest maternal death rate in the developed world (18.5 deaths per 100,000) Yeah, that's unacceptably high for pregnancy - but it's also really low when it comes to causes of death. If this is an accurate source: http://www.dartmouth.edu/~ears5/handouts/Prob_dying6_25_99.html It's about as likely as dying from the flu in a given year or 3 1/2 times as likely as being killed …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:57 PM
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Ok 12 is not a teenager. Maybe it's me who lost the thread. In any case, a 13 year old is a teenager, and roughly as incapable as a 12 year old (although the stanford article notes, maybe slightly less for some given that development takes place between 12 and 16). Again, we can debate exactly where. A lot of Euro countries have it set at 15 or 14 (with Spain being the notable exception of 12. I used to have a lot of fun pointing out that Vatican City also had it set at 12, but they changed it t…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:49 PM
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They can't get any birth control their birth control covered to be 100% free, just like men. Well, true. That would be more accurate. I'll edit.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:46 PM
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Nice. Change the goalposts. Original post from me that started this discussion about age of consent: Yeah, but we gotta draw the line somewhere. Most thirty year olds understand long term consequences. The vast vast majority of 12 year olds do not - because the physical structures of the brain that allow them to haven't developed yet. Look back and don't lose the thread. It's not so much that I moved the goalposts, but that you forgot where they were.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:45 PM
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I mean, I went through the stanford link and it didn't say anything at brain structure development related to thinking long term. In fact, it didn't say anything about brain structure at all. It only said how thinking develops, and it pinned thinking long-term to 14-16 years old. That's exactly the part that bolsters my argument. We were talking about 12 year olds. I never said when I think the age of consent should be - merely that we need one. We can argue when it should be.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:39 PM
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Working in the freezing cold during a winter storm I fell while inspecting a commercial vehicle and broke an arm. I still drove my route that day and then had it treated after I got back in.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:36 PM
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Men and women can't be treated the same when thinking about coverage for birth control, because their bodies function differently. Why not? No, I'm serious. Why not?
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:35 PM
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That last part about that they break more, and the things that break are more expensive is that point I was trying to make Again, that's probably not true, although it's really difficult to say. Women are more likely to seek medical care for the same or similar conditions as men, while men are likely to just try to tough it out. A guy who doesn't care if he has a broken taillight with tape over it, the air conditioning doesn't work, you have to shift using a wire sticking out of the dash, 3 of t…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:33 PM
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I don't think it was an active measure. I think the lawmakers in the United States are just stupid. Well, people are just stupid. One of the major things in our society is that we don't recognize sexism against men even when it's explicitly obvious. To be clear, I'm not sure Congress woke up and decided "let's be sexist against men". It's just that sexism against men is so common and normalized in our society that we don't even recognize it when it happens right in front of our faces. I'll give …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:29 PM
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As an Australain.. your health care system is confusing. Just want to let you know that. I know. Oh believe me, I know.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:27 PM
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Thats all after the fact of pregnancy, though, at which point birth control does nothing. I'm not sure what you're driving at exactly. Are you saying managing long-term health outcomes is not the point of medicine? We shouldn't fix heart deformities in babies that won't manifest as congestive heart failure for 60 years? Because we fix those as a matter of habit, even though the effects of them are long range and somewhat hypothetical. (The baby could, after all, grow up and get hit by a bus when…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:25 PM
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What does physical height have to do with anything? As regards the brain growth links - it shows exactly what we've said. Growth is highest as an infant/small child, and gradually gets slower and slower as people get older. That doesn't really indicate that teenagers are prepared to consent to long term consequences.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:23 PM
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those who have gone through puberty and are in the 14-17 range are no longer children. Eh... I mean from a biological standpoint no. From a legal standpoint yes they are. Because words can have different meanings in different contexts. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child#Legal.2C_biological.2C_social_definitions
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:20 PM
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Citation needed. http://www.stanfordchildrens.org/en/topic/default?id=cognitive-development-90-P01594 There you go. I gave you some data saying the brain doesnt' fully mature until the 40s, and that it matures far sooner for girls (pruning is apparently maturity). I'm looking over your data now.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:19 PM
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Yep, because pregnancy always happen between two committed adults in a caring, loving relationship where everything is equally shared and they take turns doing dishes. And all sex ends in pregnancy that results in birth, with there never being a failure to get pregnant, never being a miscarriage, and abortion has never happened. If your argument is that "well, sometimes pregnancy doesn't occur in a committed relationship" then the argument "sometimes pregnancy doesn't last" is equally valid. Whi…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:16 PM
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We punish these so-called children you're talking about as adults if they commit murder. And rape is arguably considered as bad or worse than murder, yet we punish them less for rape by statute? Generally we don't actually, unless it's particularly heinous. (I also generally don't agree with doing so in the vast majority of circumstances.)
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:14 PM
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I see 30 year olds who don't understand the consequences. Yeah, but we gotta draw the line somewhere. Most thirty year olds understand long term consequences. The vast vast majority of 12 year olds do not - because the physical structures of the brain that allow them to haven't developed yet. In effect, age of consent treats someone who is a year shy of being sexually available as EXTREMELY mentally retarded. Have you ever met a teenager? So age of consent should be up to 24? There's an argument…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:13 PM
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Wow, you edited in a lot. My basis isn't about power games but mental development. Children quite literally can't see long term consequences, not because they don't want to, but because the physical structures in the brain that regulate such things are not developed yet. We don't allow children to sign contracts for the same reason. However, that's ALSO the reason why we have romeo and juliet laws - neither person can think of long term consequences. This means it's also unjust to punish a child…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:11 PM
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I just want to look at this from a medical point of view. Psychiatry IS medicine, incidentally. Management men's mental health outcomes is every bit as important as managing women's mental health outcomes, men's physical outcomes, and women's physical outcomes. The result of failing to do so is death. Men are about 3 times as likely to commit suicide compared with women - this is probably not a coincidence. A step forwards would be giving men more coverage. I agree with you. Do you remember all …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:09 PM
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If men were Ford Explorers and women were high-end BMWs, you'd know that men were cheaper in comparison to maintain I laughed at this. A BMW i3 actually costs less to own than a ford explorer. https://www.edmunds.com/ford/explorer/2016/suv/st-200721917/cost-to-own/ https://www.edmunds.com/bmw/i3/2016/cost-to-own/ there's no high risk to my health from pregnancy after a certain age for me, etc Actually, there's a health risk to you always from pregnancy. Becoming a parent causes both weight gain …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:07 PM
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Pregnancy means you carry a developing child for nearly a year. Your body undergoes vast and rapid changes which ultimately increases your risk of a variety of complications significantly. Yes, it does. It also changes the metric for men and increases their risk of psychological stress and trauma significantly. It's even linked with hormonal changes in men: https://www.webmd.com/men/news/20141217/expectant-dads-may-also-have-hormonal-changes-study-suggests In particular, for becoming parents, me…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 04:01 PM
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And of those laws, most merely reduce the crime to misdemeanor rather than felony and still go on a teen's record as a sex predator. That really depends on the state (and if I were king, I would change that - I'd probably set them all to 3 years (2 if under 14) and make it no crime). (If you want to make me king, "your worship" was always a title I liked.)
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:51 PM
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There's a recent article about the rules dictated to journalists about what stories can be covered, and how they may be covered to send the message the media wants consumers to receive. I would be interested to see this article.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:50 PM
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I'm saying when a person can't reasonably understand the consequences of something, they can't really consent to it. This applies to children and people high from spiking the punch.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:49 PM
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Do you really think male and female contraceptives provide the same benefits?? They provide the same primary benefit. Do you think they are equal in terms of what they provide??? As a primary benefit, yes. For secondary benefits, no. Many female contraceptions also smooth out hormone fluctuations and provide other benefits. However, not all of them do (barrier methods, in particular, do not). However, all of them are mandated covered without copay. Why is DRE covered at all and not others? In th…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:41 PM
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If the cellphone magically prevented a 9 month health care issue for women but not the men then it wouldn’t be sexism. If the cellphone magically prevented a 9 month health care issue for both men and women but only the women got it then it would be sexism. It would still be such - both men and women suffer health complications from pregnancy, although men's tends to be limited to psychological effects and hormone fluctuations. In addition, in our current society, men suffer 18-24 years of debil…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:34 PM
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In things like reproductive health and insurance, you can't treat men and women the same. Why not? You shouldn't take away prostate exams for men because women don't have a prostate, you shouldn't take away cervical exam for women because men don't have one, and you shouldn't take away female birth control coverage because men don't have it. But is it sexism to allow SOME people to opt out of prostate cancer screenings if cervical exams are just flat out not covered at all? I would say no. It's …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:25 PM
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I prefer this analogy better. What if some employers were allowed to stop covering DRE (prostate screenings) because they don't like butt stuff because religion. I mean, prostate cancer might be a man's disease, but this is just a matter of religious rights. Totally not sexist, I promise. Let's run with this. Important social context of the question: vaginal cancer screenings and breast cancer screenings are not required to be covered at all by anyone, and typically aren't. Is it still sexist ag…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:22 PM
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so it doesn't strike me as more necessary for men than women. I would argue given the social realities regarding men and children, it's at least as necessary. The social reality is that men are committing suicide over difficulties in family court - which are generally a direct result of children. It's hard to say how many - no one's studied it because no one cares about men. I'm not sure who dies more because of children men or women (and I don't think a measuring contest is particularly importa…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:19 PM
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Use archive. For pete's sake.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:11 PM
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I have never seen real reporting on anti MGM protests. Me either. Although I'm a bit of a recent convert on the intactivism crowd, and not nearly as loud as the others, I have come to believe it's mutilation and should be banned (and I say this as a circumcised male). It's just not my focus.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:10 PM
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Birth control should be covered. Condoms should be available for free if you need them. Abortions should be covered as well. I agree with you. Now get Congress to do something about it.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:08 PM
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I will say its sexist because it empowers people with sexist beliefs. That's the dumbest definition of sexism ever. By that definition, roughly everything is sexist - from risk pool metrics to pencils. chime in on this (in support of btw) is just dumb I don't know that we're really supporting it. Certainly some are, but most aren't. We're just pointing out the narrative - that this is sexist against women - is false. I mean, think about it this way. Let's suppose every woman in the country got a…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 03:07 PM
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It would be. Why do you have to pick a side on healthcare. Stupid ass divisive bullshitters. Talking to me or the Trump admin? I'll agree this was a stupid move. It's just not sexist.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:58 PM
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I've actually been toying with the idea of mandatory maternal and paternal leave. One of the reasons that men don't take paternal leave is they are disproportionately punished for it on the basis of their gender. In that context, the wife taking leave makes more sense - she won't be punished as harshly for it. If everyone is forced to take X amount of leave (which should be paid for somehow, either by an insurance or taxes), then it no longer becomes a gender thing. The downside is... it's kind …
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:53 PM
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Well, media is a reflection of the society that birthed it. In our society, no one gives a damn about sexism against men - which is why you don't hear about it in the media - even when it's obvious and coded into law. And, perhaps more hilariously, you hear about cases like this - where some women might be treated exactly like men as a worst case scenario, and they talk about it like it's sexism against women. Yes - being treated equally to men is sexism against women in our society. To be clear…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:47 PM
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Actually, there's no federal mandate on "boner pills" AKA viagra. Some states have a mandate, but there's no federal mandate. This stands in stark contrast to birth control. The high cost of Viagra, averaging $22 to $24 per pill, leads many men to seek health insurance coverage for this drug. However, insurance companies have been ambivalent about their coverage for ED drugs, with some insurers picking up the cost and others refusing to cover any portion of the bill. For example, Medicare Part D…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:45 PM
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To be fair, and I want you to consider this. This has been the regulation since the ACA took effect. Most of those provisions were in 2014, although I can't remember exactly when the mandate on birth control took place. I could look it up if you're interested. How much did you hear in the media about the specific sexism against men in regards to birth control over the last few years?
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:42 PM
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So isn't the problem that these things aren't covered for men? That's my position, yes. But it's hard to argue, as the media has been, that this is in any way sexism against women, since the absolute worst case scenario is that women are treated... exactly like how men are already treated. What we should be asking ourselves is "why have we been treating men so badly for so long and just now noticed because some women will receive the same treatment as men?"
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:37 PM
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I don't think we're doing that really. Mostly we're pointing out how women's birth control is federally mandated while men's birth control isn't. Some women working for some employers losing access to birth control because of BS "religious objections" isn't a war on women. Worst case scenario, women are treated exactly like men are already treated. I mean I guess that's terrible, but then we have to ask the question of why we treat men so terrible and just accept it.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:34 PM
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True, but then again you could make the same argument for vaccinations. Let's be clear - the main perk of vaccination has little to nothing to do with the user per se. It has to do with herd immunity. I get the vaccination so you (not you you, hypothetical you) are protected from the disease even though you are immunocompromised and can't even have the vaccine. And we cover vaccines, even though the health effect on the user is much less direct than the benefit to the immunocompromised. EDIT: Ca…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:25 PM
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I agree with you. The government didn't - it decided to be explicitly sexist.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:23 PM
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Yes and what happens if you are accused of a crime and want to exercise your right to a trial by your peers? The government can hire them. I mean, I have rights to lots of things that don't necessarily require slavery to enforce them. As an example (steering clear of jury duty and military), I have a right not to be subject to unreasonable search and seizure. In order to enforce that right, judges are required to make rulings on what constitutes an unreasonable search. Yet, we've never drafted j…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:21 PM
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Oh, that I don't know. I'd guess that would depend a lot on age, health factors, state, etc.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:17 PM
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A man impregnating a woman or not has no effect on his health at all. This actually isn't true. The effects are psychological (which also drives hormone shifts), but there are effects on men's health when they impregnate a woman, generally speaking. Let's be clear - expanding the exception to the mandate is stupid. Trump does lots of stupid shit. However, it's not sexist - because women are still privileged in this regard compared to men. Worst case scenario, they're equal.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:15 PM
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It's not mandated they cover vasectomies. Some employers do, but there's no government mandate. This is unlike female birth control methods.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:13 PM
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Yes. Religious organizations had exceptions to the mandates. Trump allowed religiously motivated employers to do the same. In such a scenario, women are treated just like men. They can't get any birth control for free and have to pay for it out of their own pocket, just like men. EDIT: This post was edited at 12:46 PM EST, 10/10/17
/r/MensRights10/10/17 02:13 PM
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Surely not. Mindless exaggeration? On the INTERNET? I am shocked. Shocked I say. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjbPi00k_ME
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:32 AM
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I mean, the main problem is that female birth control is covered and male isn't. I see no reason why condoms and vasectomies should not be covered by insurance. They have a very specific health reason for their usage.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:31 AM
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This is about birth control, not abortion.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 07:00 AM
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Edit: Can anyone explain how recent changes to the law in India are biased against men? I seem to get conflicting information about recent changes and age-old dowry practices. Well, women's groups lobbied to make rape a gendered offense when the government was about to make it gender neutral. https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Activists-oppose-making-rape-gender-neutral/articleshow/15049606.cms Women's groups won the day.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:59 AM
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Gotta say. The book report order amused me.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:52 AM
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Well, lots of birth control is more than $20, but I'll get upset when men's birth control is covered and women's isn't. Or, I'll stop being upset when both men and women's birth control is covered.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:45 AM
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If you're in college, I'd recommend looking up the data on how many men are raped by women using the "made to penetrate" definition. It's a golden oldie, but a 1994 Struckman Johnson study of predominantly heterosexual college students found that 34% had suffered coercive sexual contact, 12% by physical restraint or harm/threat of harm. You can follow up with the CDC studies that show about as many men are raped each year as women, and most of the men report female perpetrators. You could then g…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:44 AM
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If anyone could find a full text copy of this... what I will generously call a "resource", I would be grateful. I will add it to my repertoire.
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:35 AM
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I made a comment on this, and I'm going to bring it up again. This is not sexism against women for a very particular reason. Covered contraceptive methods FDA-approved contraceptive methods prescribed by a woman’s doctor are covered, including: Barrier methods, like diaphragms and sponges Hormonal methods, like birth control pills and vaginal rings Implanted devices, like intrauterine devices (IUDs) Emergency contraception, like Plan B® and ella® Sterilization procedures Patient education and co…
/r/MensRights10/10/17 05:32 AM
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Not if the person is not in a state where they can consent - and this doesn't just apply to children, incidentally. If you spike the punch and a guy thinks he's the dragon from Land Before Time and when you say "can I put it in your ass" he says "yes please" because he heard "Do you want a piece of candy?", that's not a valid form of consent. Similarly, children below the age of consent cannot give valid consent for the same reason. Now where the age of consent should be is a debatable topic, bu…
/r/MensRights09/10/17 10:37 PM
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There's a reason why many states use so called "Romeo and Juliet" clauses in statutory rape laws. The power dynamic between a 15 year old and a 31 year old teacher who has parental authority over him (it's called en loco parentis) is too great to allow it. However, a 16 year old and a 15 year old are very nearly equal in power. Most "Romeo and Juliet" laws have windows of 2-4 years, with most settling at 3 years.
/r/MensRights09/10/17 10:35 PM
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Both seem pretty douchey to me. Now, that being said, potentially stranding someone in a strange city by themselves is a little higher on the douchey scale. Like the difference between stabbing someone once and stabbing them four times. Both are clearly assault with a deadly weapon, but one seems worse than the other.
/r/MensRights09/10/17 10:20 PM
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Keep bringing it up. Why do women often demand men shave? Do they want prepubescent boys?
/r/MensRights09/10/17 04:30 AM
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https://web.archive.org/web/20171009041347/https://www.buzzfeed.com/juliegerstein/literally-just-16-of-the-funniest-tweets-from-women-this?utm_term=.vxMLqXXmGj#.efGNBOOGKe Go to web.archive.org, put in the link to the article, hit the button to add it to the wayback machine, and then put the link in here.
/r/MensRights09/10/17 04:14 AM
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Do the shaving thing. See what she says.
/r/MensRights09/10/17 03:01 AM
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You could start by not linking to them. Use an archive.
/r/MensRights09/10/17 02:38 AM
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I wish I could say I was surprised.
/r/MensRights08/10/17 09:32 PM
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Again, I don't believe the net effect was malicious in its intent but it still needs to be fixed. Definitely.
/r/MensRights08/10/17 02:11 PM
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That would be like saying you agree to being raped because you live under a system where you never got a choice to say no and the mere notion of saying no would result in you being raided by police that would imprison you for saying no or kill you if you sufficiently resist. I mean, fortunately we view unwilling monetary transactions and unwilling bodily use differently. Well, mostly. Your latter is more similar to conscription or jury duty than taxes. I mean, after all, if I don't pay my credit…
/r/MensRights08/10/17 02:10 PM
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Here's an interesting historical fact. https://uber-facts.com/2013/01/26/high-heels-were-originally-made-for-men/ High heels were originally developed for men. It helped in certain cavalry applications. It was also a sign of status for a long while.
/r/MensRights08/10/17 04:02 AM
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This seems to me to be nothing more than an oversight in the way the Law is written. Uh, that doesn't seem quite right. It appears the law wasn't written with gay people in mind at all in any way shape or form, but by accident of biology, there's a "mother" in a lesbian relationship. Two in fact. However, since the law was only written with heterosexuals in mind, there would be one "mother" in that scenario always. You'll notice the law doesn't appear to say "mother or mothers".
/r/MensRights08/10/17 03:09 AM
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“Chris was notified of the paternity matter and an order of filiation was issued last month by the court saying he had joint legal custody and reasonable visitation privileges,” she said. “He never initiated this. It was something routinely done by the prosecutor’s office when a party makes application for state assistance. “I don’t know what his plans or intentions might be regarding any future relationship with the child,” Yockey said. “This might be something we will have a conversation about…
/r/MensRights08/10/17 12:40 AM
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It's certainly not discriminatory against women. I think it's kind of stupid (for lots of reasons), but it's not discriminatory against women. Let me use a quote to explain why: Covered contraceptive methods FDA-approved contraceptive methods prescribed by a woman’s doctor are covered, including: Barrier methods, like diaphragms and sponges Hormonal methods, like birth control pills and vaginal rings Implanted devices, like intrauterine devices (IUDs) Emergency contraception, like Plan B® and el…
/r/MensRights08/10/17 12:17 AM
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Are jury duty and paying taxes also "slavery?" Jury duty arguably is. It is forcing you to engage in labor for the benefit of the master (in this case, the state). Income taxes are something different - you are only required to pay taxes if you earn money using the legal benefits and framework of the state in which it is earned. Which, everybody who earns the money in the state does. For other taxes like property taxes for instance, you are paying for the protection of the state in the related t…
/r/MensRights07/10/17 08:22 PM
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To me it's very possible that some of those men actually had a good time and weren't harmed, and may have actually benefitted in some way from the exchange. I seriously doubt this. Keep in mind - we're talking about a child being preyed on by someone who, knowing it was illegal, willingly broke the law in order to take the virginity of a child. You're free to have your beliefs of course, but color me extremely skeptical. Like how Richard Dawkins feels about God skeptical.
/r/MensRights07/10/17 08:17 PM
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No. What would have to be done to make it credible?
/r/MensRights07/10/17 08:16 PM
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You're not the only one. It's almost a meme at this point that if you start talking about statutory rape of boys, the loudest male voice against you will reveal they had sex when they were twelve with a 43 year old teacher or 20-something babysitter and loved it. It's a defense mechanism.
/r/MensRights07/10/17 01:22 AM
1

Wow. That went a lot deeper than originally envisioned by a glib remark.
/r/MensRights07/10/17 01:19 AM
2

Let's think about that. You get a phone call and someone tells you they have you in their sights. They tell you what shirt you're wearing, what your couch looks like, and that if you try to flee or call police they will shoot you til death. You've seen no gun. Or the person. Is this threat credible?
/r/MensRights07/10/17 01:13 AM
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I'm not sure that's a reasonable thing to fear. Prosecuting people for theft who steal money from banks electronically didn't lead to more people stealing from banks by physically breaking in did it?
/r/MensRights07/10/17 01:11 AM
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Glad we could be here for you. I hope your therapy is helping.
/r/MensRights07/10/17 01:08 AM
3

Basically, while men are forced to work longer and longer hours to demonstrate commitment, many women are choosing to not do so. This results in women earning less money. Which is called the "motherhood penalty". Of course, women are objects and therefore this was all forced on them, while men choose to work long hours at jobs they hate for more pay, because men are actors.
/r/MensRights06/10/17 05:40 AM
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So I tried to think of an analogous situation. Clearly, he did not penetrate the girls himself (because the internet doesn't work that way). However, per the accusations, he put the girls in such fear of harm that he caused them to be penetrated. So let's think of a scenario: The perpetrator, let's call her Sandy, points a gun at Bob's head and forces Bob to penetrate Jane. Did Sandy rape Jane? Arguably yes - she caused it to happen by causing threat of deadly harm. Did Sandy rape Bob? Arguably …
/r/MensRights06/10/17 04:42 AM
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I'd say it's more likely due to male oppression. Crime and social marginalization are very much linked.
/r/MensRights06/10/17 02:38 AM
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Yeah. It's not all that uncommon. However, there's roughly no end to these stories online. I suggest you pick a couple of the more gruesome ones and keep them handy. Find one that talks about suffering a broken penis. You may involuntarily cover your crotch when you read it though.
/r/MensRights06/10/17 02:37 AM
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No, it was actually a serious question. Were there any?
/r/MensRights05/10/17 10:28 PM
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Wait, how many women sacrificed themselves for their boyfriends by shielding them with their own bodies? Serious question.
/r/MensRights05/10/17 10:09 PM
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"No, you really don't. Let me tell you about the time I was drugged and raped by a woman, and what happened."
/r/MensRights05/10/17 08:51 PM
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Exactly.
/r/MensRights05/10/17 02:21 AM
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I mean, that's what's likely to happen. Probably not in the vagina - boys aren't taught that's a good way to hurt someone. But if you kick Johnny in the balls, his friend Timmy might clean your clock. Now that you've escalated it into extreme violence with risk of lifelong injury, it's not unlikely you'll get the same in return. That's why military people learn violence deescalation techniques instead of violence escalation techniques. Violence escalation gets more people killed. Although, just …
/r/MensRights03/10/17 09:19 PM
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Pretty much this. I don't even really begrudge them it - the doctor told them it was the right thing to do, and they did it. The doctor, on the other hand, is a different story.
/r/MensRights03/10/17 07:27 PM
2

Okay, which five are most important to you? I mean, I know what I think are the most important ones to me, but everyone has their own opinion.
/r/MensRights02/10/17 06:50 PM
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It is a dramatized version of some fictitious, idealized male experience. ... Good point. In fact, the media would have the opposite effect of revealing the male experience. It would quite directly obscure it. Hadn't really considered that. Thank you!
/r/MensRights02/10/17 05:25 PM
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They push the claim that, because media is male lead, by consuming mainstream media, they have insight into the male perspective. Personally, I find that argument unpersuasive, but I doubt setting yourself up for their prescripted response is going to be an effective tactic. It's a battle where they have a prepared position. That's not just unpersuasive - it's stupid. Most children spend more time with their mothers than the media, so by that logic, we would have more insight into the female per…
/r/MensRights02/10/17 05:11 PM
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I'm not the best person to talk to (i'm pretty hostile), but if you're going for the not-hostile route, I'd probably hunt up one of the feminists saying men cannot understand the female experience and have an inadequate frame of reference to address it. Then, use that quote as a basis (by agreeing with it), and then take the logical path that it also follows that feminism cannot understand the male experience for the same reason, and that men need a safe space to discuss specifically male issues…
/r/MensRights02/10/17 04:43 PM
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Any particular topic? "Issues men face" is a topic so broad you could write a 30 volume series on it.
/r/MensRights02/10/17 04:13 PM
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It's worth noting that Jenna wasn't blocked from participating because the organizers saw her as a woman. They didn't try to block her based on that premise. She was blocked because they saw her as a man, and they were trying to block on those grounds. Sexism against MtF transgender persons (which seems to me to be more virulent than that against FtM transgenders) is based on sexism against the perceived sex - or in other words maleness - rather than the transitioned sex, femaleness. This is act…
/r/MensRights02/10/17 04:09 PM
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I suspect a lot of it is pressure and lack of mental health services for men (or, perhaps more accurately, social shame at seeking them). You've got to understand the male gender role is one of invincibility. That means if you're abused as a child, and you're female, you will have everyone and their brother trying to help you work through that trauma. If you're a boy, you're told to man up. Boys don't cry. Boys don't show pain, or fear, or anything. It's a pressure cooker. There's a reason why a…
/r/MensRights02/10/17 03:00 PM
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You would report the crime to the police. This will have far reaching consequences.
/r/MensRights02/10/17 01:50 AM
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I'd believe that.
/r/MensRights01/10/17 07:30 PM
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Well, feminism when is a very relevant kind of question. There's always been an undercurrent of sexism against men (with things like toxic masculinity, patriarchy theory, etc etc) but there's a reason why I use the term "undercurrent". For much of feminism's history, you had a core group of sexists with lots of people trying to be nonsexist tagging on their coattails for the good things that they were doing - and lots of good things were accomplished. (Some but not an exhaustive list - voting ri…
/r/MensRights01/10/17 04:20 PM
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And this underlying assumption is the male suppression of women. Yes?
/r/MensRights01/10/17 04:08 PM
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I have no idea what our original post even says, and I've read it twice.
/r/MensRights01/10/17 04:04 PM
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I probably would have cussed you out, but hopefully with more class and less random sounding like a crazy person.
/r/MensRights01/10/17 10:17 AM
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Bad. Like I'd be ashamed to be seen with it in public. Like this bad: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zrWoG8IckyE
/r/MensRights01/10/17 08:05 AM
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I didn't look at the pictures or video. However, just reading the post itself, it made me think of the movie Billy Madison.
/r/MensRights01/10/17 06:43 AM
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No. 20 is a commonly used hyperbolic number for "many".
/r/MensRights01/10/17 06:34 AM
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Well, there's quite a few accurate things (Nixon using abortion as a wedge issue, although it wasn't his idea), but then there's random accusations that make no sense at all. You know what forced-birthers call feminism? "The curse of independence." They know 100% that if they are to have any hope of reestablishing dominance in America, they have GOT TO END WOMEN'S RIGHTS. They view abortion rights as the key to women's progress, and I think they're right about that. This is crazy. I've never eve…
/r/MensRights01/10/17 06:05 AM
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I spent a long time looking for the closing parenthesis. I read that paragraph twice trying to find it. The rant is clearly long winded, largely irrational, and practiced to shut down discussion. That being said, I generally agree with the overall sentiment - that women do in fact own their own bodies and ought to be able to rescind consent in the middle. As a thought experiment, imagine you were going to donate a kidney. They had imaged you, marked your body, prepped for surgery, you had signed…
/r/MensRights01/10/17 05:52 AM
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I dislike feminism, putting it mildly, for the efforts it has put in to protect and empower female rapists, domestic abusers, and child abusers. I hate first of all that they tried, and, perhaps even moreso, I hate how successful they've been.
/r/MensRights01/10/17 05:20 AM
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Ok troll..Im 65 I'm happy for you. been in this world when your parents were still sperm Actually no, my parents are older than you. I'm a little younger than you though, but not as much as you would probably assume. have more life experience that you ever will. That presumes I die before I turn 65. Could happen - workplace deaths are common in my industry, as they are in many male-dominated industries. However, odds are I make it to 65. GOODBYE SNOWFLAKE I hope you someday have the strength to …
/r/MensRights01/10/17 01:37 AM
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I'm attempting to shock you into recognition that teachers raping children is not ok just because it happened to you and you've rationalized it away as a "conquest". It's easy to do. 84% or so of male victims of child sexual abuse do it (based on current evidence). What's harder, what takes strength, is confronting your beliefs and challenging them instead of submitting to them and trying to make your perception of reality match your preconceptions regarding reality. Submitting to your preconcep…
/r/MensRights30/09/17 11:35 PM
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I seduced her, I had a great time! This is actually a deflection mechanism a lot of rape victims employ. They sometimes recast the abuse as a consensual event or even a good one to try and bury the pain. Don't worry - I understand you. I know why. It's ok.
/r/MensRights30/09/17 10:45 PM
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So... when you were fifteen you suffered statutory rape with a teacher who was in a position of authority over you? It's ok. You can talk about it. You don't have to put up the tough guy facade here.
/r/MensRights30/09/17 08:52 PM
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High end skin creams. https://www.babble.com/mom/3-strange-uses-for-infant-foreskins/amp/
/r/MensRights30/09/17 04:10 PM
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Yes? That's kinda my point.
/r/MensRights30/09/17 04:02 PM
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Btw, hilariously, this same site has another article about sexbots: http://www.theunknownbutnothidden.com/sex-robots-kill-hacked-expert-warns/
/r/MensRights30/09/17 01:00 AM
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It's fascinating on the difference in tone between sex bots that service men vs those that service women.
/r/MensRights29/09/17 10:30 PM
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Are men seen as liars once they've been convicted of a crime? I mean, yeah in general, but that's not what's happening here I don't think. You need to look a little deeper. People just don't care about men. It's kind of glib, but it's true. If a man kills someone, he's just a monster and we lock up monsters. We don't care why he did it overmuch, except as necessary to determine level of monster (murder 1, murder 2, man 1, etc), so the mental illness aspect doesn't come into play. "He planned to …
/r/MensRights29/09/17 08:24 PM
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So, does it make sense that sense women doing better in school and college makes them the smarter sex? After all, that's where we are, and the disparity is only getting worse.
/r/MensRights29/09/17 08:16 PM
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Honestly, looking at your sources, they would fail me if had to write a research paper on it. I wasn't writing an academic paper. I was giving some scientific backing which also matches my lived experience. It's sufficient for this venue, and you've provided nothing alternative. You've been traumatized beyond belief Please don't dismiss my experience and what evidence we have as the irrational rantings brought on by being "traumatized". This just a way of dismissing me instead of addressing actu…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 08:14 PM
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It was supremely relevant to your statement that "stronger, smarter" things end up on top. That's just lazy logic.
/r/MensRights29/09/17 06:04 PM
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You're welcome. Knowledge is power. The problem is there's a lot of really powerful interests pushing rape as "a problem women face" instead of "a problem people face", and they use contrived definitions to get certain desired statistics and cause them to be repeated over and over again. I just want to point out that the Rape Abuse & Incest National Network has incorrect statistics on their website that actually downplay the real amount of rape that men face. It may or may not be intentional. Wh…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 05:57 PM
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No, actually RAINN is off. Also your data is old. However, going there first, here's the 1998 survey being referenced: https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles/172837.pdf Keep in mind, the vast majority of men who are raped are made to penetrate women, and it's probably made to penetrate in the vagina. Keeping that in mind, here's the questions they got for rape: Has anyone, male or female, ever made you have oral sex by using force or threat of force? Just so there is no mistake, by oral sex we mean that…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 05:43 PM
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I'll point out the most successful organism on earth is the pelagibacterale. It is extremely weak, has no intelligence, and is so small you can't even see it without a microscope.
/r/MensRights29/09/17 05:19 PM
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I mean, the article indicates she has checked out and left no forwarding address. I'd say the problem is that men aren't analyzed or given opportunity to have their mental status taken into account.
/r/MensRights29/09/17 05:10 PM
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I used a metaphor to explain the focus on female rape. An unintentionally apt one, actually - because people really do view it that way. A problem who's solution boils down to a kid with a hose being told "don't let it set the woods on fire". I mean, we don't, as a society, even see teachers raping minor children as serious business if those children happen to be boys. Liberal feminism sought to change that, and at least succeeded on paper (social beliefs are slower). Kudos to liberal feminists …
/r/MensRights29/09/17 05:08 PM
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Where did I downplay female on male rape? You were talking about domestic abuse, although about half of rape men suffer is at the hands of their domestic partner, not all domestic abuse is rape. But if there's an outhouse on fire at the same time as the Whitehouse, where do you think the fire fighters will go first? <didn't downplay female on male rape> <compared female on male rape to an outhouse fire> Great. Did you know that about as many men are raped each year as women, at least among adult…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 04:37 PM
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Not just therapists. I guarantee you, they won't be the ones to devalue what you went through. My EMDR treatments last a full session and I have to be focused because they are very difficult to go through or I would ask. I mean, fair enough. I can't make you. I still remain skeptical, however. I hope you won't be offended by that. Anyway, you lost me at "women are the primary enforcers of gender roles" Fuck you for that. We couldn't even vote until the 20s and it took years and decades for women…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 04:33 PM
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No real feminist Are they hanging out with the True Christians? You have a childlike and stunted view of feminism and what it's actually all about. More I find actions more compelling than words. I know what feminism claims to be about. I also know what they've done. What they've done - protecting rapists and domestic abusers who happen to be female - is repulsive to me. But to speak of it as thought it is on the same level as male on female abuse is crazy. Downplaying the consequences is one me…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 04:10 PM
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Those therapists should lose their jobs. I've been to male and female therapists and I know everyone of them would be appalled at this story. I completely recommend you tell one about it and watch their face. I'm not kidding - do it. I was at a bar and had something slipped into my drink. Woke up behind a grocery store next to some bushes. Ive watched men joking about how "lucky the teenage boy was who slept with his teacher". My point being, both genders do it. It's not just women Yes, yes they…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 03:57 PM
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It was. Can confirm.
/r/MensRights29/09/17 03:04 PM
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There are also guys on here who were abused by women and haven't sought counseling for their trauma I'm going to get slightly personal here. I have sought counseling for being raped by a woman. This went about as well as you would imagine. I was told by two separate psychiatrists that until I took responsibility for being drugged and raped I would never get past it, and that being man means taking responsibility for what happens to me. I tried talking to a few of my feminist friends about it. Th…
/r/MensRights29/09/17 02:58 PM
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I do, generally. You're making an assumption about our politics that don't match reality. Both right and left people are MRAs. We just get cast as right wing as a method of demonizing us to the left. That doesn't make it true.
/r/MensRights29/09/17 01:33 PM
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Because women are objects and men are actors to a lot of people. If a woman does something, it's because a man acted upon her, and who's the closest man to the case?
/r/MensRights28/09/17 08:50 PM
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She should suggest to her husband that she go out and become the breadwinner and he can become a stay at home husband. Since the former is so easy, she should be willing to take on that role.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 08:29 PM
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Feminism is believing that people are supposed to be equal. And Christians are people who follow in the footsteps of Christ. This, naturally, means there's very few Christians in the world - maybe a few million at maximum if I'm being generous. I hope you believe Catholics, Anglicans, Orthodox, etc etc etc are not Christian. Is that how you feel? You are saying “Speaking for myself I can’t believe in equality because I believe in equality” No, I'm concerned with what something really means in th…
/r/MensRights28/09/17 05:02 PM
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Speaking for myself: of course. This is why I can't be a feminist anymore; I'm pro-equality, and I view being a feminist and being pro-equality as at minimum conflicting positions, and at most openly hypocritical.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 04:54 PM
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I don't even know who you're talking about.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 04:52 PM
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I wouldn't be very displeased if he suffered a nasty accident. Mainly because I care about his feelings: his inadequate familiarity with painful suffering in particular. That's a little messed up, but cheers. I'd say he's not completely objectified. Have a drink with me my good sir. Your boss meets personhood standards.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 04:04 AM
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Social studies was always a weird class.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 03:19 AM
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Does treating someone like a human strictly mean treating them like they're a loved one? I certainly don't love my boss, but I interact with him because he thinks and talks and has his opinions. Mainly I interact with him at work because I have to. When do I stop treating him like a human? It's probably a spectrum in fairness, but I would say if you care nothing for him except that he pays you, he's more like an object. You see him only as a paycheck. If you do care about his opinion/feelings/et…
/r/MensRights28/09/17 03:18 AM
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Indeed it is. Indeed it is.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 02:11 AM
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It doesn't bother me any. The girl scouts are pretty upset about it though as I understand.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 02:05 AM
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I hope my ticket dispenser isn't out of numbers.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 02:05 AM
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I must have treated a few hundred people "like objects" as I walked past them on the way to the office today. Most likely, yes. It's basically impossible to treat a person like they're a person is the impression that I get. Nah, it's not impossible. It does require actively thinking about their humanity. I'll give you an example. Your son, daughter, brother, etc has just become the victim of a natural disaster. They're alive, but stranded. You have the power to go get them. You will receive noth…
/r/MensRights28/09/17 02:04 AM
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Bullshit. They actively peddle incorrect information based on contrived definitions designed to erase men who are victims of rape. http://nownyc.org/service-fund/take-rape-seriously/ 93% of male survivors reported being raped by men What's funny, in the report they link to, they conveniently fail to point out that the vast majority of men who report being raped were made to penetrate, and among those, over 80% reported only female perpetrators (with the rest reporting male or both female and mal…
/r/MensRights28/09/17 02:01 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/MensRights28/09/17 01:54 AM
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Well, maybe. When you reduce a person to an object, you are not valuing them as a person but for some feature not related to their person hood. Not all such reductions are bad or even possible to eliminate. We take a lot of mental shortcuts. When a firefighter comes to your home to put out the fire, you're probably not going to be thinking about that he (or she in some cases) is a person with wants, needs, family that cares about them. You're not going to sit down and enjoy a coffee with them an…
/r/MensRights28/09/17 01:53 AM
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More recess. Seriously. https://www.today.com/parents/want-kids-listen-more-fidget-less-try-more-recess-school-t65536 More recess alleviates the symptoms of ADD and ADHD significantly. In fact, it may result in no need for medication at all.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 01:47 AM
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Feminism does align with egalitarian ideas Some feminists align with egalitarian ideas. Feminism, as a movement, does not. This is why that feminism, as a movement, continually trumpets that rape and domestic violence are women's issues when it's relatively certain that, at least among adults, more men are raped than women and men suffer domestic violence at similar rates to women. Also, that a significant majority of men who are raped are raped by women. Show me a major feminist organization th…
/r/MensRights28/09/17 01:42 AM
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I'm only about 2/3 of the way through this but... Damn. That's the only thing I can say.
/r/MensRights27/09/17 10:14 PM
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I mean, I'm not arguing against what you said, but I find the best way to address these arguments is to twist them around on the arguer. There is, as Warren Farrell rightly pointed out, a tendency to reduce men to success objects. So when you say "sex with a doctor, but he's really a gas station attendant", it is the exact reason why some are attracted to the man anyway - he was a success object. Similarly, there's a tendency to reduce women to sex objects or perhaps more accurately attractivene…
/r/MensRights27/09/17 08:00 PM
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Was working on how to phrase that. "Men who suffer domestic violence are more likely to be arrested than helped." Sound good?
/r/MensRights27/09/17 05:20 PM
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You could sue for child support. You might want to talk to an attorney first though. In fact, you definitely want to talk to an attorney first. EDIT: Also, as best as you can, do a calendar of all the days you and her had the kid from two years ago through today and keep it up into the future.
/r/MensRights27/09/17 05:12 PM
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That's weak, unless there was an election and she was made president of feminism. Also, president of feminism would be a weird job.
/r/MensRights27/09/17 05:04 PM
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I suggest putting one on the ladies room that says "almost all domestic violence against boys goes unreported".
/r/MensRights27/09/17 03:44 PM
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Oh good, we only have to set our watches back 130 years when we go to Saudi Arabia. New time zone! I mean, this is great and all, but it's sort of like learning that they just got running water. Running water is great, but really? just now?
/r/MensRights27/09/17 02:22 PM
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Bad bot
/r/MensRights27/09/17 02:01 PM
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You know, it always bothers me when people frame sexism against men as sexism against women. There's something distasteful about that framing.
/r/MensRights27/09/17 02:32 AM
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I think as long as the male employee brings it up to HR in the context of discrimination, he'd either be ok or have a great basis for a lawsuit, one or the other. Keep records and check your state laws.
/r/MensRights27/09/17 01:11 AM
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You seem to be under the delusion that any man ever can be better at communicating than any given woman.
/r/MensRights26/09/17 11:16 PM
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More sexist terms to denigrate and belittle men. Quelle surprise.
/r/MensRights26/09/17 10:48 PM
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I would make a sign that says "Sexism: The oppression of men. Men are in an economic, social, and political hierarchy where their needs are considered subordinate to the needs of women. Men are expected to conform to roles in the "traditional family order"." and put it right next to it.
/r/MensRights26/09/17 10:07 PM
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Almost 60 percent of women in spousal relationships used the contraceptive pill or some other form of modern contraception worldwide in 2015, according to a United Nations report. In contrast, 8 percent relied on their male partner using a condom. Put simply, there's still this perception that contraception is the job of the woman. Oh no you fucking didn't. No you fucking didn't. You surveyed women to find out what men want, then just assumed what they wanted when you don't even know. Note, the …
/r/MensRights26/09/17 09:37 PM
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Bingo. The evidence (or lack) should speak for itself if the court holds to the standards of justice.
/r/MensRights26/09/17 09:19 PM
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If a parent walked in and found a 44-year-old man raping her / his daughter, that man would probably be in a hospital or a morgue. That's what I was thinking. She's lucky she's a woman. She doesn't face near the problems a man would after having done an identical thing.
/r/MensRights26/09/17 07:16 PM
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Some of these questions are so trollable, I don't think I could resist it. Question 10, I'd probably put given present media coverage, with all the female teachers raping their students, that it's probably not safe to have women as teachers. I don't actually believe that of course. Rapists are rapists regardless of gender, but it would be fun to write down. The "boom" will be from the head of the person reviewing the answers. For question 11, a 12 page essay on D/s bedroom practices would make g…
/r/MensRights26/09/17 06:53 PM
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I think they're freaking out over nothing. I'd say the chances of women being held to the same level of accountability as men are pretty low. It didn't happen with the right to vote, it hasn't happened in the criminal justice system, and it probably won't happen here. One of the cited articles on Gizmodo: Developing technology also tests the rhetoric surrounding the right to choose. A woman’s right to control her own body is a common legal and ethical argument made in favor of abortion. Under th…
/r/MensRights26/09/17 05:21 PM
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Let me mint you a new club card. I got the same for asking questions about what to do about the epidemic of female on male rape reported in the CDC data and various other studies. Also got a "fuck you" from the moderator. Guess protecting rapists is that important to them.
/r/MensRights26/09/17 04:35 PM
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sending the film to a pedophile Wouldn't that be "sending the film to another pedophile"?
/r/MensRights26/09/17 04:25 PM
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Are people really this clueless? Yes.
/r/MensRights26/09/17 03:09 PM
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Happens to the best of us. Really. Suggestion: take a step back, give yourself a bit of time to collect your thoughts, and we'll be here to talk with you when you get them together. Sometimes I type things up on wordpad or something before posting, reorganize and get it the way I want before I post to reddit.
/r/MensRights25/09/17 11:34 PM
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Mostly irrational-sounding rants get downvoted. A lot of us are tired of them. I wasn't going to upvote or downvote, but since you got your underwear in a twist about downvoting, have another.
/r/MensRights25/09/17 10:52 PM
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So even if we throw out the issue of the draft 50 years ago, I feel her gender helped her more than hindered. I also think this is the case. One of the largest attacks against Sanders in the primary was from the Clinton camp accusing his followers of being misogynistic (also, later used against Trump, although we could argue about whether or not that was more appropriate - beyond the scope here). Misogynist has been an insult for centuries - and almost nobody wants to be called a misogynist. Tha…
/r/MensRights25/09/17 07:47 PM
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I mean, it is true that men have a natural physical advantage, but that presumes that they can hit back on equal terms (as the article points out). In practice, men who defend themselves are arrested and suffer further. So, in a sense, it's not a man vs woman fight, but man vs woman + the state fight. And in that fight, the state, and whoever is on the state's side, ALWAYS wins. And this is true regardless of who the aggressor actually is.
/r/MensRights25/09/17 06:13 PM
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What these other two guys said. Lawyer up. You are dancing across a lava bed and hoping not to get burned.
/r/MensRights25/09/17 04:35 PM
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Mr. Damore, frustrated after another diversity training, wrote a memo that he posted to an internal Google message board. In it, he argued that maybe women were not equally represented in tech because they were biologically less capable of engineering. Like I said on the NYTimes article, I wish this lie would die. Take issue with his conclusions or hell even the science, but don't misrepresent his conclusions.
/r/MensRights25/09/17 01:50 PM
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Mr. Damore, frustrated after another diversity training, wrote a memo that he posted to an internal Google message board. In it, he argued that maybe women were not equally represented in tech because they were biologically less capable of engineering. I do wish this lie would die. You can take issue with his research or what he said if you want, but do we have to misrepresent it constantly?
/r/MensRights25/09/17 01:46 PM
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Poe's law is pretty strong these days, but I think satire.
/r/MensRights24/09/17 07:12 PM
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Seems like satire. ... I think.
/r/MensRights24/09/17 05:56 PM
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First, no, a teacher raping her student via the student's youth and inexperience and using her authority over him is not harmless. Its doubly not harmless that she drugged him into doing it by giving him marijuana (which she did). It's not ok when men do it to teenage girl students, and it's not ok when women do it to teenage boy students. The punitive damages are, of course, double jeopardy Not how the law works. This is a civil suit. The punitive damages are for the victim. The criminal charge…
/r/MensRights24/09/17 02:14 PM
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"Traumatic sex romps". That's a new term for statutory rape aggravated by statutory authority.
/r/MensRights23/09/17 11:00 PM
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Or, perhaps more importantly, the charge by police. She was only charged with battery.
/r/MensRights23/09/17 07:45 PM
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Attempted rape?
/r/MensRights23/09/17 07:42 PM
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We're legit concerned about the institutional and social discrimination against men in society. You WILL see a lot of antifeminism here, mostly because feminism, as a movement, has been working hard to make sure that men's gender roles remain exactly as they are, as they specifically benefit women at men's expense. Me, personally, I used to be a feminist but no longer am. The evidence of feminism working hard to protect female rapists, child abusers, and domestic abusers from facing any kind of …
/r/MensRights23/09/17 07:40 PM
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Compare another daily fail article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-4666098/Rise-sex-robots.html
/r/MensRights23/09/17 06:57 PM
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Hey, they used the words sexual assault. What universe have I fallen into? Is this a dream? Is Kim Jong Un still crazy in this universe? Is there a movie called "Forward to the Past"?
/r/MensRights23/09/17 06:54 PM
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Give em time.
/r/MensRights22/09/17 02:55 AM
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I liked one of the comments. Something about I'll believe this when feminists claim that women rape their dildos by not getting consent first. #freethedildo
/r/MensRights21/09/17 11:35 PM
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While not much is known at this stage, I can't help but wonder how badly mistreated this man must have felt to take such drastic action. Historically, self-immolation has been reserved for protest of only the most extreme abuses. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-immolation#Political_protest
/r/MensRights21/09/17 09:38 PM
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What everyone else said. File a complaint.
/r/MensRights21/09/17 07:49 PM
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She said the surgery could be more accurately understood as a cosmetic modification like labiaplasty. That's ridiculous, but even taking it at face value, how many people give newborns labiaplasties? What if post-birth labiaplasty was the norm?
/r/MensRights21/09/17 07:31 PM
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No.
/r/MensRights21/09/17 04:33 PM
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Worth noting, three of the four students weren't minors (they were 18). Because of Paschal v. Arkansas, sexual acts between teachers and adult students cannot be per se criminalized (absent normal things like lack of consent), including 18 year old seniors. The teachers can be fired, but not criminalized. In this case, it appears 3 of the 4 students were 18 at the time, so for those three, it was not a criminal act. For the fourth, it's sexual assault.
/r/MensRights21/09/17 02:14 PM
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I'm aware. Mary Koss has probably enabled more rapists to get away with it than Emperor Hirohito's military leaders.
/r/MensRights21/09/17 03:41 AM
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I never thought they'd rent bill boards to the Klan. Yep. Business is business, and they're buying.
/r/MensRights21/09/17 02:16 AM
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I've met a couple. I won't tell you exactly where, but I live in the Deep South (which iPhone capitalizes for some reason) and they're rare, but I have encountered a couple. They even rent billboards from time to time.
/r/MensRights21/09/17 12:56 AM
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We often point out feminist functions as a hate movement, so why not use a method of creating change that has proven track record of success in convincing people that have joined hate movements to leave them? I do do this, and I am trying. I think many of us do. However, and this is weird to say, i've observed the visceral reaction to any attempt to humanize men and talk about men's issues is stronger among feminism than attempting to humanize black people is among the KKK. Maybe it's just my ob…
/r/MensRights20/09/17 10:16 PM
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Wow, honestly communicating with people can actually change hearts and minds. Whodathunkit.
/r/MensRights20/09/17 09:53 PM
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Sadly, they are right. This isn't even unique to there. In general, it wasn't illegal for grown women to rape little boys. Liberal feminists (to their credit) lobbied to change these laws and make it illegal for grown women to rape little boys. Radical feminists argued to keep the sexist status quo and therefore legal for women to rape little boys. Feminist sex radicals argued statutory rape laws were themselves wrong and inhibited the sexual autonomy of minors. Essentially, they argued for maki…
/r/MensRights20/09/17 09:45 PM
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Yes, and men receive 60% harsher sentences for the same crimes compared with women, while black people receive 10% harsher sentences for the same crimes. (causes can be debated) Yet, the latter is almost universally recognized as either a race or class problem by most everyone. The former isn't, despite being six times the effect.
/r/MensRights20/09/17 03:32 AM
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Wow, they actually used the word rape.
/r/MensRights20/09/17 03:06 AM
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Thank you for coming and listening. That's more than a lot will do.
/r/MensRights20/09/17 02:15 AM
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I'm cut and I care. I didn't for a long time, I am not angry at my parents (they acted with what they thought was good medical advice at the time), and I accept it is what it is. It's still wrong to be done now, and I wouldn't make the same mistake they did.
/r/MensRights20/09/17 01:01 AM
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The fuck did I just read?
/r/MensRights20/09/17 12:53 AM
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And you can't reasonably discard the gender "wage gap" and champion the racial "wage gap" without looking like a schizophrenic. I haven the talked about the racial wage gap. I specified a hiring gap that has specific science behind it. However, you have shown some evidence (last 3 links), that the sentencing gap may be more related to class than race, and the economic suckage of being black may be bleeding over and causing racial effect in sentencing. We need some quantitative studies of white v…
/r/MensRights17/09/17 07:27 PM
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Maybe because the previous policy was insane?
/r/MensRights17/09/17 04:46 PM
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Source that that's the cause of discrepancy in sentencing.
/r/MensRights17/09/17 04:40 PM
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You don't have to apologize for other women. Women are not a hive-mind, and each woman is responsible for her own attitude in the same way each man is. All I ask is that you keep trying. The only way this gets better is if we all keep talking, trying, convincing, and helping.
/r/MensRights17/09/17 04:18 PM
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It's like she's trying to make everyone who voted for her regret it.
/r/MensRights17/09/17 01:25 PM
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Whites get slightly lighter sentences because they typically afford better criminal defense. Source for this? Your source doesn't seem to have to do with sentencing gap, only shootings (which was interesting in its own right).
/r/MensRights17/09/17 01:12 PM
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In college sure, but once you get out of the cesspit college has become, it reverses a lot. From the other post: Yeah but there's a lot of little (and big) advantages for being white in the here and now, in a lot of ways. Treatment by police and criminal justice is a big one (black people get a 10% higher sentence for the same crime, just like men get a 60% higher sentence for the same crime). We also know that people with "black" sounding names (especially men), are more likely to get dismissed…
/r/MensRights16/09/17 09:32 PM
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Yeah but there's a lot of little (and big) advantages for being white in the here and now, in a lot of ways. Treatment by police and criminal justice is a big one (black people get a 10% higher sentence for the same crime, just like men get a 60% higher sentence for the same crime). We also know that people with "black" sounding names (especially men), are more likely to get dismissed as an applicant at the resume stage (even with equal qualifications), and a whole host of other things. http://w…
/r/MensRights16/09/17 09:30 PM
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real feminists I lol'd a bit.
/r/MensRights16/09/17 01:26 PM
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https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS_Report2010-a.pdf https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss6308a1.htm?s_cid=ss6308a1_e https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf Keep in mind everyone - man forced into sex with a woman isn't raped to the CDC because of sexist reasons. It's "made to penetrate". Another area where men suffer!
/r/MensRights16/09/17 01:02 PM
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Well, "white men" get quite a few benefits for being white, but quite a few disadvantages for being men. You could start with the 2010, 2011, and 2012 CDC reports that show adult men are raped at about the same rate as women each year, but can't get any help, resources, or even attention. You could also show her the DV data from the same reports, and point out that men make up the vast majority of the arrests because male victims are more likely to be arrested than female perpetrators. Linky on …
/r/MensRights16/09/17 12:02 AM
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Well, practically. Most states legally you don't need a penis. De jure. Never enforced that way of course, but de jure it IS in the books. You're thinking of England.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 08:03 PM
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Not sure if srs.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 06:24 PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snapped
/r/MensRights15/09/17 03:41 PM
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It also offers university-recommended sex talk (“I’ve got the ship. You’ve got the harbour. Can I dock for the night?” is among the least cringe-inducing suggestions). Wat.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 03:01 PM
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Height has a lot of effects. I remember a study showing a very strong effect between height and income.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 02:49 PM
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But when a guy changes mind. When this attempt goes sideways and is reoconsidered, noone is there. No cop. No dr. Nothing. So we simply do not know the numbers. This is certainly an eminently reasonable possibility. I'm not sure how we could quantify it though.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 02:27 PM
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Well, you need to get all your financial records and prove anything you can as far as support. Also you should try to figure out on a calendar or spreadsheet what days the child spent with you. Also figure out what you earned all those years (so they don't just go off your current job). Tax returns are a good way to reference back to what you earned. Also, Get. A. Lawyer.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 02:24 PM
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A different employee told investigators, "I was attending to the patient and at one point when I looked up there were so many people it looked like a cheerleader type pyramid." There's an interesting mental image.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 01:14 AM
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Wouldn't using physical violence in an attempt to force a person to have sex with you be attempted rape?
/r/MensRights15/09/17 01:12 AM
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Weird. Ok, thanks! It opened that way.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 01:07 AM
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Yeah that's something different. This one is far older. Thanks for clarifying. I was starting to research what he was talking about because I hadn't heard about that with the old one.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 12:23 AM
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I'll point out that behavior would be considered sexual harassment if the genders we're reversed in that context, and legally it us sexual harassment in Ontario. I think you mean if a man said that to a woman. You can't reverse the genders in a woman-woman interaction, because it's still a woman-woman interaction. I think I catch your meaning though. Regarding the rest, I was not aware of this context. That does change a lot of things dramatically.
/r/MensRights15/09/17 12:23 AM
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excessive victim-blaming Already happens, moreso than it happens to women. A lot moreso. unwelcome catcalling Also happens. Not sure if more or less. mortifyingly high rates of sexual assault and rape Already happens. Probably at rates very similar to women. having your value in society based exclusively on what you look like That is true. Our value in society isn't based exclusively on what we look like. It's based exclusively on how much money we have. Because the objectification of women lead…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 11:17 PM
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Well that's a pretty unfair pic. Women contribute plenty to society in various ways. It's just not usually in construction.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 08:59 PM
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Could it be because the men succeeded they won't have an opportunity (or need) to keep trying? That's an interesting question. How many suicide attempts per individual by gender, on average? ... That's an interesting alternative hypothesis. I'd have to dig and see if i could find any research along those lines. We usually track suicide attempts, but I'm not sure if we track suicide attempts per individual averaged by gender.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 08:57 PM
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America. :(
/r/MensRights14/09/17 08:38 PM
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I wish I had a union.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 08:25 PM
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Oh, and while I was talking to the communist a nearby woman chimed in saying that apparently a birth control pill first existed for men but they were too whiny about it. This isn't true. There was some promising research at one point that pointed to a particular cottonseed extract being useful as a form of temporary fertility control in men. It was attacked and shouted down by feminists at the time and they got its funding pulled. It also had a problem that was being worked on (it would sometime…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 07:36 PM
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Well, I'd love to be a stay at home dad, but not that much. Not enough to suffer mutilation anyway. It sounds pretty awesome all things considered.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 07:16 PM
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You know, one thing I liked about university is that you could argue with the professor and it was expected (and rewarded) behavior, so long as you had facts and research on your side. If I were still in university, I would take this class and show why the dominant narrative is full of shit and how men are being beaten and raped by women daily and need recognition of this fact, and the fact that they are not taken seriously is oppression and anyone arguing against them being taken seriously prot…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 07:08 PM
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There must be more to it than that. Body language carries a powerful impression, and the context maybe even moreso. (IE: "And so then, he hit you with a crowbar?" "um, i just want to tell you you're beautiful." "wat?") Otherwise, I don't see how remarking the lawyer is beautiful undermines credibility of a witness.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 06:24 PM
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the minute you get to knowing them, the more likely you are to come across the "Why didn't you ____!?!" as though you'd have any clue what they're talking about. I've noticed this a lot, but I've noticed it with men as well. The only difference is, when a man does it to another man or to a woman, he's a self-centered entitled ass. When a woman does it to man, he's a self-centered entitled ass. And no, my pronoun usage was correct.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 06:11 PM
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Relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mi874SgfvXs Humor sometimes masks an uncomfortable truth.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 05:55 PM
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If toxic masculinity exists there has to be toxic femininity too? I think they call that "internalized misogyny" or something. Because nothing is ever a woman's fault, ever. Hypoagency.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 05:39 PM
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You see a hero in this person. I see a complex situation that can't be summed up in "he's a coward" offhand. That's a way to demonize someone you know almost nothing about without having the facts or even a baseline understanding of how domestic violence even works. I wish the world was a nice place with ponies and rainbows and men (and women) who reported domestic violence could be relatively certain that the abuser would be removed and the children would be protected from them instead of being…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 05:28 PM
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I have two related hypotheses. Known facts: 1) Women attempt suicide more than men. 2) Men succeed more than women. 3) Men use more lethal means to commit suicide. Hypothesis 1: Suicide attempts with less than lethal means are often cries for help more than a genuine wish to die. Now, suicide attempts are very serious. It shows the person is desperate for help and thinks this is the only way to get it. However, I have a hypothesis why men use far more lethal means when committing suicide than wo…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 05:23 PM
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sitting on his ass and not doing anything to protect his children. anyone else involved in that situation that knew what was going on but failed to do anything about it. But to sit by and watch your own children get abused.... But did he stand by and watch or try to prevent it the best way he could by taking as many of the the hits himself as he could? This is what a lot of men in abusive relationships do. I don't think we have enough information to determine what his actions were over those 14 …
/r/MensRights14/09/17 04:34 PM
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I've felt for some time that black men get a really raw deal when it comes to criminal justice and... well, lots of things. I think it comes from the reinforcement of two biases: Men as criminal monsters who can't control themselves. Black people as criminal monsters who can't control themselves. And black men are both, so they get the short end of every possible stick.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 04:29 PM
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No, this was a 14 year process where had ample opportunity to protect his children. Against this back drop, motivation is virtually meaningless. It is not if you want to label him a coward. Cowardice is a state of mind requiring a person who lacks the courage to do or endure dangerous or unpleasant things. If his framing device is "I'm going to endure this to protect my children", he is showing the courage to endure an unpleasant thing, which is not cowardice. If his framing device is "if I do t…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 04:22 PM
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My mom said that "didn't seem right," and when I called her on believing the numbers for girls, but not boys from the same study, she just waived her hand, said she didn't want to continue talking about it, and changed the topic. You can point out that the results are repeatable - three years in a row. 2010, 2011, and 2012 all reported men were made to penetrate rough at the same rate as women were raped. (In fact, the Appendix A figures for 2012 show the men made to penetrate was substantially …
/r/MensRights14/09/17 04:10 PM
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So now this guy is a war hero for sitting on his ass and letting his wife abuse their children? I'm saying it depends on how it's framed in the mind whether a person is a coward or not. If he felt he was taking the hits and protecting his children as best he could in the circumstances he had, there's nothing cowardly about that. We can debate whether he was correct or incorrect in his assessment, but there's nothing cowardly about that thought process. If he felt he didn't want to go to the poli…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 04:04 PM
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Choosing to be a victim is the easy route, so he gets no accolades from me. And did you really just say his inaction was courage? Maybe, maybe not. It really depends what the rationale is. Let me ask you a question. A man is with his platoon in a war zone, and someone throws a grenade into the room. The man falls on the grenade. Is he a coward because he chose to be a victim of a grenade blast?
/r/MensRights14/09/17 03:52 PM
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t's not difficult to understand cowardice, sure. I mean, that could easily be reframed another way. You could also arguing he was doing what he could to moderate and limit the abuse of his children by taking the abuse himself instead of going down a path that will leave his abuser with unfettered access to his children he can do nothing about. http://tagv.mohw.gov.tw/TAGVResources/upload/Resources/2014/12/Why%20do%20we%20stay-%20Understanding%20why%20men%20stay%20in%20abusive%20relationships%20o…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 03:05 PM
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Again, in the eyes of many law enforcement officers, proof of her abuse if proof of him being the abuser. Because that's what police are taught. I know: I was one once. I also think I made some serious mistakes. He was A) affluent and B) had 14 years with which to work. Affluence helps (sort of), but again, we are taught that proof of a woman abusing is proof of the man being the abuser. Also, learned helplessness is a thing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness This is not a hypot…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 02:51 PM
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I'm just getting a blank page on that wiki.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 12:52 PM
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Well, keep in mind men who call police on their female abuser or more likely to be arrested for DV than she is. Many "experts" in the field advise the government that women only engage in DV in reaction to previous violence. So, even if there's documented video evidence of her violent abusive behavior, in the government's eyes, that's often just more proof of him being abusive - that part just wasn't caught on tape. It's a coin flip what happens. Either she will be arrested for abuse, or he will…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 11:59 AM
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You were wrong then, and you're wrong now. I'm really not. Men who report abuse by women are more likely to be arrested than the women abusing. Scientifically documented. Video evidence helps, but in cases like this, even that is hard to change people's mind with, because the female abuser has a go-to built-in excuse society loves called "reacting to previous abuse". The abuser asserts what the "experts" say: that she is only acting out in reaction to being beaten and abused by the guy she's act…
/r/MensRights14/09/17 11:52 AM
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They just can't stand that they might have to give up some of their sexist privilege. It's a backlash against efforts at equality. Especially love these: Good men who care about what is best for their children do not launch custody battles against the mother. Men who do not contest will not get custody and that's their fault. Men who do contest are abusers. This is what's called "damned if you do and damned if you don't", and it's the normal state of affairs for men.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 03:29 AM
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I hope I can trade a kidney directly for one. If that's an offered price, I'd wonder what they planned to do with the kidney.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 01:49 AM
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My wife told me when they make one of these sex robots that's capable of doing dishes and cleaning and making minor home repair, she's going to buy one if I haven't already.
/r/MensRights14/09/17 01:45 AM
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He had the means to stop it. Like I said last time - he had a means to try to stop it, and it was basically a coinflip whether it would stop it or make it even worse.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 11:41 PM
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Now when it's a poll in the hundreds of thousands then that would be a different story, but the poll sampling is often so small it's just idiotic. Again, this is not a small poll. It's 1000 people, which is enough for a 3 point margin of error for a population of over 300,000,000 people and still have a confidence of 95%. The problem with that is thought there were discoveries of fraud within the election so it could in fact be that she got less votes anyway. Which is so small (borderline nonexi…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 11:32 PM
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It didn't work well though did it? Trump won and not Clinton. Because of the electoral college, which is irrelevant to the question of "did the polls get the public opinion right". Yes it did, but the electoral college math goes beyond "what is public opinion" to "how is that opinion spread geographically", and that's irrelevant to this discussion we're having right now. 3 out of 5 polls got the public opinion exactly right, and the other two were within 1% of accuracy on public opinion.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:54 PM
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No problem. I'll probably still be here in 10 years if you want to come back then. Unless civilization is destroyed by catastrophic climate change due to an unknown variable between now and then. If you still want to ask then, I'll probably be driving some sort of armored truck fueled on alcohol with guns all over it, because that's how I envision the end of the world.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:53 PM
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you may as well be relying on astrology to predict the outcome of an election or how people think on a certain issues. No, it's actually science, and it works over and over again. The national polls of the Trump/Clinton election prove it. A link to the poll listing: https://www.realclearpolitics.com/epolls/2016/president/us/general_election_trump_vs_clinton_vs_johnson_vs_stein-5952.html Bloomberg had Clinton +3, with a 3.5 margin of error (anywhere within +0.5 Trump to + 6.5 Clinton). IBD had Tr…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:46 PM
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I'd be more concerned with teaching him how to protect himself from being raped by a woman. That's probably the more likely of dangers as far as rape-related dangers go. However, if you're going the route of false accusations, we have no idea what technology will be like in 15 years, so whatever advice we were to give you would likely be outdated by the time his personal service android records every sexual interaction just because he asked it to. I know that if I attended college today, I'd wea…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:39 PM
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Especially after Brexit and Trump, I would have thought that people wouldn't keep putting so much stock in statistics like this The national election was within the margin of error on the vast majority of polls leading up to it. The state polls varied a little (most being within the margins, but several not), but the national ones were actually spot on. it's bullshit, 1000 people no matter how varied they are cannot tell you the opinions of an entire country. Given it's a yes/no question, it can…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:33 PM
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I'm starting to wonder whether patriarchy arose because men observed over and over again that the majority of women refused to take responsibility for their actions. I'd say that's overly simplistic. The probable explanation was that men and women of <some era in each society> both preferred it the way it ultimately became, and thus it became the norm with overwhelming support. Once something's the norm, it's particularly hard to dislodge absent overwhelming support. Some feminists have even not…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:27 PM
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BTW Jagmeet isn't Muslim, he's a Sikh, different religion, doesn't have Sharia law. I came here to point this out. She wasn't even in the right ballpark.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:08 PM
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I'm not a statistician, but presuming a good random sampling methodology, 1000 people is sufficient to determine the view of the populace. It has an error range of +/- 3 percentage points with a 95% confidence interval (that is, 95% sure the whole populace would return a result within 3 percentage points of the stated figure). That being said, where's the actual stated figure? Appears behind a paywall. Majority is anywhere from 51% to 99%.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 09:03 PM
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His behavior is in no way, shape or form indicative of lying. It is indicative of how fucked up our culture treats male rape, including pieces of shit like u/hisstriss who lack basic human empathy for men. Indeed. I was drugged, raped, and left behind a grocery store far from home. I knew that it was wrong somehow, but I didn't identify it as rape until some time later. Years later. I recognized being drugged was assault, but that was it.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 07:27 PM
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I think it was meant dismissively.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 07:25 PM
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I have no idea. Never heard of that being the case, but it's not like that kinda thing makes news. Well I've seen it a lot in America. Full disclosure: there's a bit of an adverse incentive in play in America that may or may not apply in Canada. If you are a single parent (one parent unknown), you only have to take into account your income when figuring welfare payments (other than food stamps, which are based on household size, relation or no relation), but if there's another parent in play, th…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 07:06 PM
1

I know of no right that women have that men don't, Women have the right to unilaterally abandon their responsibilities to their born children and surrender them to the state and men do not. That's the right women have that men don't. We could argue that right should be taken away from women, or that it should be added to men, but the status quo is unconscionable. The circumstances detailed in the article are anything but common in this country. Maybe. I wouldn't be so certain. Per a previous art…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 06:53 PM
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Not just that. Sometimes women (and men) abuse children to get back at the other parent. They'll beat the child because they know it hurts you. And, in the case of a female abuser, she's not likely to be significantly punished.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 06:48 PM
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Was it not you that argued that either men should be given an opt-out or that women should have theirs revoked? Yes, but I was not talking about abortion. I was talking about women's right to unilaterally abandon their already born child to the state. now you're claiming that women shouldn't be allowed to give a child up for adoption? I'm saying equal rights are important. If women have the right to unilaterally surrender their responsibilities, so should men. Period. Women currently have that r…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 06:47 PM
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Shit, even without STDs birth control should be a must for men. Keep in mind, abusive women can also use the arm of the state to abuse, so you want to be damn sure before you make a 20 year commitment between you and a woman that she's not an abuser. Also, that applies to women as well, except the abuser using the arm of the state to abuse.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 06:24 PM
1

You're now delving into parts of society that the law can't touch without up-ending everyone's lives. The government would have to know about everyone's private lives in order to legislate something to that level. Which is why some prefer the simpler version - giving men the same rights women already have. I would argue that his case is an exception, as well, making the situation even more difficult. The assertion that this is even rare let alone common makes me really demand evidence before I'l…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 06:20 PM
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"Parental relinquishment" is not a viable solution to the problem, and neither is banning abortion. No one has argued to ban abortion. Literally no one. Please remember that just because you can't think of better options, it doesn't mean that we should be forced to pick between one shit choice and another shit choice. I'm listening for a better idea. Giving women and only women their right to relinquish already born children is a shit choice. You claim giving men the right men already have is al…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 06:01 PM
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I've talked about this a time or two, but I really think the average person sees men as agents and women as objects. Therefore, no matter what horrible thing happens to a man, it has to be his fault somehow. He's an agent and responsible for everything. Also, no matter what happens to a woman, it has to be a man's fault somehow. She's an object that was clearly acted upon by a man/men/society etc. Also, it's bullshit.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 05:45 PM
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Forgive me that this is out of order. The usual case when a father wants to intervene, he does. That wasn't what was claimed, and even if it was, that requires extensive proof. You yourself have claimed that biology does not entitle the father to rights in Canada - and that if he is not in the child's life he can't block the adoption. This is true even if the only reason he's not in the child's life is no fault of his own. Now, why that father is not in the child's life can be for a myriad of re…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 05:32 PM
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Not sure how I feel about this. From an accounting perspective, the Supreme Court's conclusion is logically absurd, but from a legal perspective it appears 100% justified.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 05:03 PM
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It makes no logical sense for a woman who doesn't want a child to even tell the father she's pregnant. Your rationale is full of holes that stem back to the moment this hypothetical woman discovered she was pregnant. Yeah, biology makes dual responsibility really hard, because it's very easy for a woman to just refuse to divulge the father to the state (barring some big brother solution IE DNA database). That's why some are in favor of parental relinquishment. Women always have that as an option…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 04:46 PM
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It may have been a myth. That sorta thing happens. Possibly, yeah. I'm now very frustrated with myself when something I thought was an absolute truth turns out to be very difficult to find. I used google and everything. But it doesn't quite mean the same thing here, because those are just blanket disinterest in enforcement, usually because the authorities don't care about that particular law. That often happens when the aggrieved party is male. If he was never told, then he is not the father. Ho…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 04:31 PM
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Now I'm confused, because you're the one that said that women cut men out in order to give children up for adoption. I was the one contending that such a thing is either so rare that it's not worth making legal policy over, or simply preposterous. Now you're saying that it makes no logical sense. Which is it? It makes no logical sense for a woman who is planning on giving a child up for adoption to leave the father in the picture. That carries risk and no reward. One of the most common reasons f…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:47 PM
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I was not able to find where that exists in US law. Citation, please? Thought this would be easy to find. Having trouble. I'm working on it. I know it was in Accounting Today some years ago but I'm having trouble finding it. I could just as easily cite the prison time for not signing up with the selective service - 5 years in jail (which is also never done). However, it is a father's legal right to assume custody of his child if he has not already surrendered that custody (as in, hasn't fucked o…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:40 PM
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typical action in the US is for the mother to "cut the father out" The typical action of a mother who intends to give up a child for adoption? Why would she put herself in financial risk by doing that? It makes no logical sense. The notion that mothers who intend to give up their children for adoption intend to randomly put themselves at financial risk for no apparent benefit would imply that women are either stupid or can't think towards the future. I don't believe this is the case. I think wom…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:16 PM
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You don't need to see a statistic. It's a law. It's the law that wasting your employer's time in the United States is illegal under federal law. It hasn't been enforced since the 1940s (World War 2, and all that). If I said it was usually the case that employees who waste employer time are prosecuted, you'd rightly call me out for bullshit, even though it's clearly against the law. That's not often the situation because so few single mothers in Canada go to term and give up the baby when the fat…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 02:41 PM
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Again, he said the "usual case" when a woman puts a child up for adoption is that the father objects and the child goes to the father. I contest that most adoption attempts in Canada fail with the father taking custody and mom paying child support. I think we would have heard about this, and he hasn't provided any evidence of such. Regarding this: The only circumstance that a woman can give up her child without consulting the father in Canada is when the father is not present in the child's life…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 02:36 PM
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I do not need to prove basic tenants of law... You didn't make a claim regarding the basic tenets of law. You made a claim regarding occurrence - that's the word "usually" describes. As you recall, this was your claim: women can give the child up for adoption which goes to the father usually... Which goes to the father USUALLY. Usually is defined as follows by dictionary.com - habitual or customary: commonly met with or observed in experience; ordinary: commonplace; everyday: http://www.dictiona…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 05:42 AM
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I'm going with "too sober". <drinks>
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:59 AM
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After she gets done talking to men everywhere, can she talk to my mother?
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:56 AM
1

I've been catcalled quite a few times, but it depends on what I'm wearing. If I wear my uniform or a three piece suit, quite often. T shirt and jeans, never.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:54 AM
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women can give the child up for adoption which goes to the father usually... who can then sue for support and SHOULD get it... Prove this. Usually means it's the normal case, and then show he can sue for support. I want to see a statistic that, in Canada, the majority of women who give up their children for adoption the child goes to the father, and then he can sue for child support.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:52 AM
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It is not a men's right issue to be able to abandon your children at whim... that is an obligation to the child once it enters the world. I mean, there's a couple ways to look at it. Either it's a men's rights issue that men can't abandon their children at a whim, or it's a men's rights issue that women can unilaterally abandon their children at a whim. And I'm not talking about abortion. Take your pick.
/r/MensRights13/09/17 03:45 AM
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This here. If he's a super cool dude, I'd still hang with him.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 09:34 PM
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Yeah that way leads to more men suffering and dying purely because of their gender, as is our heritage. I'd like to put a stop to that.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 05:58 PM
1

Aha. Thank you.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 05:41 AM
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I'd write out a narrative of events (blow by blow) to give to your attorney, both about today and previous events, and try to put it in a coherent timeline as much as possible. Besides that, get with your lawyer asap. Also, keep in mind, I am not an attorney. I've worked with attorneys regularly on corporate stuff, but that doesn't make me one.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:47 AM
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That picture of the her and the giant shell fills me more with laughter than anything else. Anyway, if that's what works for them in their relationship, more power to em.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:45 AM
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That's definitely something you need to tell your lawyer as well. But get a copy of record of the work done anyway. Also: saying it was an accident is very common among domestic violence victims - even moreso among men. I'll give you a pass on the "man up" phrase usage. It's kind of a pet peeve of mine that I hate the phrase, but since this is definitely not your day, I'll spare you any kind of a lecture on the subject. Concentrate on what's ahead of you.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:41 AM
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You can contact the medical records department wherever you had it originally done and they'll probably fax you a copy of the medical record. They probably won't have photos though unless you told them it was domestic violence incident at the time.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:35 AM
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Also, her previous domestic abuse is probative. Domestic abusers wind up more violent over time. Gather up a narrative of the times she's abused you and what witnesses are available for this - it can show a pattern of behavior. And Get. A. Lawyer.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:18 AM
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You know, I agree with this a lot: “We must continue to condemn the scourge of sexual misconduct on our campuses,” she said. “We can do a better job of making sure the handling of complaints is fair and accurate,” she also said. If these statements were made by a different official in a different Administration, they would seem rational, uncontroversial, and even banal. The idea that an adjudicatory process should be fair to both sides is about as basic as any facet of American law can be, even …
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:16 AM
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Make sure they take photos as well. Since this is a criminal matter where you were assaulted, those photos will be useful for the investigation.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:15 AM
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I guess I don't understand the insult. Based on context it appears to be an insult, but I don't know what it means.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:04 AM
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Also, you need to get your injuries documented - ASAP, before they start to heal. Get someone to photograph them carefully at minimum, and ask your lawyer what else you should do. They may suggest you see a doctor, ask them to examine you and write up what they find. This is actually a damn good suggestion. In fact, if it went down as you say, I'd call a doctor second thing in the morning (right after calling the lawyer) and have the doctor photograph the injuries and make it part of the medical…
/r/MensRights09/09/17 04:03 AM
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Lawyer. Now.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 03:58 AM
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Doesn't help. If you don't want kids you need to get the snip or always use condoms you keep in a place where no one can mess with them and make sure you flush them personally immediately after coitus.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 03:31 AM
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Like I said, I think whether or not it's illegal depends on jurisdiction. I agree in principle it SHOULD be illegal, but I'm not sure it IS illegal. Keep in mind the federal laws and protections regarding public accommodations do not generally apply to apps on your cell phone as: The app is not a public accommodation The law regarding public accommodations was passed in 1964. Because of 2, cell phone apps did not exist yet The reason for 3 is that smart phones did not exist yet and the reason fo…
/r/MensRights09/09/17 02:32 AM
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It's certainly sex discrimination, but whether it's illegal or not probably depends on jurisdiction does it not? I mean, it SHOULD be illegal, but I'm not sure it IS illegal.
/r/MensRights09/09/17 02:07 AM
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Hmm, I was kinda thinking that if they shut him down (which is not at all unlikely, although it would be nice if they didn't), he set himself up for a Title IX claim against the university for fostering a hostile environment based on his gender.
/r/MensRights08/09/17 07:09 PM
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Because no one cares about men, basically. Well, not no one. We do, but we are few, relatively.
/r/MensRights08/09/17 05:39 AM
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at what point do you take a step back and realize that some men can be pieces of shit too? I recognize it all the time. Lots of men have done lots of shitty things. Lots of men continue doing shitty things. I'm just saying in a domestic violence situation it's often not as easy as saying "My spouse is abusive to our children". That can (and, in this scenario, often does) actually make things worse instead of better. I don't have a particularly good answer to what should be done, other than we ne…
/r/MensRights08/09/17 05:20 AM
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Either he accepted this as the norm OR he simply didn't care that much for them. OR he felt the risk was too much to do anything else about except stand in the way where he could. Let's not forget that detail - even with his resources, the odds on chance of him trying to get his kids away from a female abuser is for the female abuser to receive full custody and him to be kicked out and unable to protect them at all - even partially. I've talked with a lot of men in this situation. Her abuse was …
/r/MensRights07/09/17 11:44 PM
1

Newt told me feelings were as important as facts.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 10:56 PM
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At the very least he should have tried, for the sake of his children. Like I said - that may have made the children's situation better or worse. I understand the decision. It may have been ill advised, or may not have been. I don't own a crystal ball. I certainly would have been afraid that any attempt at getting the children away from the abuser would wind up with the abuser receiving sole custody. The other poster proposed taking the children and fleeing to a country without extradition which …
/r/MensRights07/09/17 10:32 PM
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If it was really as hopeless as you claim (I don't believe it was) then she should have had a fatal "accident." As I said, extrajudicial killings are something he could have done, which then does free his children from the abuser, but puts him away for life (probably). I'm distinctly uncomfortable with encouraging extrajudicial killings. I've talked to a lot of men with abusive spouses the last few years. Getting anyone to believe it's not them is ridiculously difficult to start with, and convin…
/r/MensRights07/09/17 09:45 PM
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Like I said, this wasn't a one off deal. This was chronic. He could have simply set up a hidden camera. A hidden camera might have helped. Or, depending on what the laws are in his jurisdiction, might have resulted in him getting arrested for violating recording consent laws and the children still staying with the abuser while she promises to "get therapy" and never does it. I don't know what the laws are where he lives.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 09:40 PM
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Well, I understand it. The most likely response to him going to the police is for him to get arrested and for the children's abuser to have unfettered and uninterfered with ability to abuse his children. It's easy to armchair warrior. It's harder to figure out the right answer in the middle of it. His going to the police might have made the children's situation better, but odds are, it would have made it worse.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 09:39 PM
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Yes, I read the article. What do you think happens if he goes to the police? His wife accuses him of perpetrating the abuse, then that the children only accuse her because they're afraid of him, and, in all probability, he goes to jail and their children stay with the abuser with no protection or interference at all. The children are in an even worse situation than before he tried. And this isn't hypothetical: men who call the police to report their partner abuse are more likely to be arrested t…
/r/MensRights07/09/17 09:37 PM
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The father shares blame for doing nothing to stop the horrific abuse. I am curious as to what you think he should do. If he tries to physically stop her, he'll be arrested. If he calls the police, he'll be arrested. If he stands in her way, he'll be beaten. If he takes the kids and gets out of there, he'll be arrested and then the kids will be sent back there with no interference whatsoever. I mean, I guess he could kill the abuser, then he goes to jail and the kids wind up going somewhere where…
/r/MensRights07/09/17 08:22 PM
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My two cents: Emphasize that the feminist focus on male on female rape makes you feel unsafe given it by necessity marginalizes and minimizes female on male rape and renders it excusable in the public consciousness. This puts you in danger, as many studies indicate that female on male rape is common, but awareness is already extremely low.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 08:06 PM
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I'm considered left by most.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 02:52 AM
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In my experience, women are roughly as apathetic regarding men (or teenage boys) getting raped by women as men are, with a peppering of being mad at the boy. I don't know of any study establishing a gender discrepancy on this subject, and I've not observed any.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 01:15 AM
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Hey, it's Pam from True Blood. And no, you're not the only one who finds this disturbing. We're just rare to find it disturbing. Then again, we shouldn't be forming mobs and hounding sex offenders for life after they served their time.
/r/MensRights06/09/17 08:31 PM
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Yeah, anecdotes are a poor substitute for data, and the data is pretty clear. https://www.law.umich.edu/newsandinfo/features/Pages/starr_gender_disparities.aspx
/r/MensRights05/09/17 04:28 PM
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I got it, thanks for your help. I hate telling people to google something but I guess it can't be helped. That was a pain in the rear end to do on a phone, too.
/r/MensRights05/09/17 11:21 AM
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First, I want to say nothing against you personally. Perhaps you and your small group of feminists really see the problematic nature of these issues. Unfortunately you're about as representative of feminism as a group of conservatives working on socialized universal healthcare is representative of the US conservative movement. Men are sentenced to longer prison sentences than women, and that is something feminism is most definitely against, Complete and utter bullshit. https://www.theguardian.co…
/r/MensRights05/09/17 11:04 AM
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Weird. Even with every link removed it says "deleted" in the browser not logged in. Reddit, you're making me angry. Also hungry.
/r/MensRights05/09/17 10:59 AM
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Which begs the question "why?" Keep in mind, in America, which has a clear and present race problem, the sentencing disparity is six times as strong between men/women than black/white for the same crimes. If it's truly "better defense", why are women as a class getting world class defense, while men as a class are getting piss poor defense?
/r/MensRights05/09/17 09:54 AM
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"Your honor, request permission to treat the witness as hostile."
/r/MensRights03/09/17 05:00 PM
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If you feel like clearing up your own ignorance Yeah I looked for evidence of your claim. I found conflicting evidence. I looked for evidence of equality in aggression. I found conflicting evidence. Measuring aggression appears to be very difficult as we do not have a common understanding or definition of aggression to test academically. Consequently, it's much like claiming the earth is a sphere but without being able to measure it. It seems true, but how can you be sure? I don't care what you …
/r/MensRights03/09/17 07:08 AM
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Thank you bot!
/r/MensRights03/09/17 06:54 AM
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the facts being readily available as well as blindingly obvious to anyone with common sense. That's that bias at work I've been talking about - like seeing the earth and thinking "sphere". It seems blindingly obvious with evidence readily available in the form of photos and globes. It's also wrong. If you ever care to actually give some evidence and prove it's not like the belief that earth is a sphere, I'll be around.
/r/MensRights03/09/17 06:50 AM
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I mean, I don't know if they put the corpse in jail, but there have been corpses put on trial before. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cadaver_Synod
/r/MensRights03/09/17 06:47 AM
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you just don't want it to be true I don't know if it's true or not. That requires e-v-i-d-e-n-c-e. You repeatedly asserting it over and over again does not change the truth or falsity of the claim, just as you claiming the earth is a sphere over and over again doesn't change its actual shape. Whether or not we know what the earth's shape is (and for most of human history, we didn't), the shape was what it was all those years - even when we didn't know, or thought it was flat, or that it was a sp…
/r/MensRights03/09/17 06:39 AM
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Why so quick to jump on the sphere statement and not anything else? It proves a point, and shows why assertions, even assertions that seem reasonable, are not evidence. I'm so glad you used it, incidentally. See, almost all of us had globes as a kid. Cheaper globes are spheres (easier to manufacture, therefore cheaper, also some distortion), so we see globe and think sphere. But we have a bias towards perfect shapes - circles, squares, spheres, cubes, etc. we often see them even if they're not t…
/r/MensRights03/09/17 06:23 AM
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I already have established that they're facts Once again: As at all times before now and proceeding into forever, assertions remain not evidence. As regards this: feel free to disprove the assertion that the earth is a sphere Sure. Wiki sayeth: A sphere (from Greek σφαῖρα — sphaira, "globe, ball"[1]) is a perfectly round geometrical object in three-dimensional space that is the surface of a completely round ball, (viz., analogous to a circular object in two dimensions). https://en.wikipedia.org/…
/r/MensRights03/09/17 05:56 AM
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Meanwhile, female on male rape still not recognized as sexual violence by almost fucking everybody. /sigh
/r/MensRights03/09/17 05:09 AM
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Tableau is truly a wonder app. EDIT: To make a more meaningful comment, it's interesting to note that even the third class women, who had the lowest survival rate of the women (even lower than crew) had a higher survival rate than first class men, who had the highest survival rate of the men.
/r/MensRights02/09/17 05:30 PM
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I don't care if you believe facts or not Well first, we need to establish if they are facts. That requires evidence. Women are not as dangerous or as aggressive as men As at all times before now and proceeding into forever, assertions remain not evidence.
/r/MensRights02/09/17 07:28 AM
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Feel free to find one single powerful majority female criminal gang on a par with the AB I'm not in the habit of proving claims I didn't make, especially ones that aren't actually the opposite of claims YOU made. You made a claim - I was interested to see your evidence. Women just aren't as ruthless and they are a lot more risk averse. The latter seems likely based on the evidence we have, but the former just seems like another wild claim on your part.
/r/MensRights02/09/17 04:19 AM
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in fact there are no powerful majority female criminal gangs in existence anywhere. That's a hell of a claim to make. A very significant claim. Care to back it? I mean, I don't go around making strong negative claims, but hey, to each his own.
/r/MensRights02/09/17 02:51 AM
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Just my two cents, but depends on the topic. A lot of things you can blame "the system" for or "history" or "gender roles". Things like the draft, for instance, are based on history and biological realities regarding reproduction that no longer really apply overmuch. When it comes to rape suffered by men and domestic violence, feminism bears the large part of the blame. They didn't invent the problem, but they have worked hard to hide it and protect rapists and domestic abusers that happen to be…
/r/MensRights01/09/17 03:41 PM
1

Show me the last time a man "snapped" and killed his children that his wife was investigated.
/r/MensRights01/09/17 03:38 PM
1

What should that tell me?
/r/MensRights01/09/17 03:37 PM
6

I remember reading a news report some time ago where a sheriff described a man in an accident such that "his foot was decapitated".
/r/MensRights01/09/17 05:37 AM
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Of course we are breaking the law, we know that. This probably violates equality laws, but this was a conscious and deliberate risk. We don’t want to let the law stop us from speaking up about injustice," Kurttila declared. Deliberate lawbreaking typically carries higher penalties in America. Of course, it was only men who were discriminated against, so it may not matter.
/r/MensRights01/09/17 04:10 AM
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Actually, the west is a great place to do a randomized survey. We have strong privacy laws when it comes to surveys and data protections when the CDC or a similar government agency does such a survey. I had a CDC guy visit me a few months ago. Nice guy.
/r/MensRights01/09/17 03:19 AM
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Old news around here. Shouldn't surprise anyone, though.
/r/MensRights01/09/17 02:44 AM
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Thank you. Have an upvote. All I can give you.
/r/MensRights01/09/17 02:31 AM
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I actually believe in equality of opportunity. Equal treatment before the law. Equal treatment (not based on sex or race) in employment. I believe in lots of equality. What I wouldn't believe in is hobbling one to bring them "down to" the other's level in any area. That's not equality. That's stupidity.
/r/MensRights31/08/17 10:42 PM
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I'll make her a deal. When women step up to solve the imbalance in dirty and dangerous jobs by saying yes, not leaving it up to the men to say no, I will take her seriously.
/r/MensRights31/08/17 10:17 PM
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Welcome to adulthood, where you are an actor and your actions have consequences. Well, sometimes, anyway.
/r/MensRights31/08/17 07:52 PM
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For the gender gap in sentencing: https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2144002 Crimes committed were already controlled for. There's a 60% greater sentencing for the same crimes. (Also, it's six times as large as the black/white race gap)
/r/MensRights31/08/17 07:30 PM
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It's part of the Social Code. Anytime a woman does anything bad, you should find the nearest available man and see if you can pin it on him. It's more like a guideline than an actual rule, but still comes up often enough.
/r/MensRights31/08/17 07:01 PM
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Questionable. Really. I know off the top of my head that female on female sexual violence in prison is higher than male on male sexual violence (about 3 times higher, actually). I'm not sure about violence in general though without looking it up.
/r/MensRights31/08/17 05:57 PM
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For those who can't see it because region or whatever: New Fathers Should Get Same Paid Leave as New Mothers, EEOC Claims Estée Lauder facing lawsuit by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission said Wednesday that it has sued Estée Lauder Companies Inc., accusing the beauty giant of violating federal law when it awarded male employees fewer weeks of parental leave than female workers receive. According to the EEOC, the discrimination suit began when…
/r/MensRights31/08/17 03:35 PM
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Just like I said in the last thread on this subject: TRP is not an MRA forum. This is a deliberate smear.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 10:45 PM
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women's rights organization Ultraviolet I think I speak for everyone when I say this: We are skeptical of your motives. No offense to you personally, you understand, but we have been misquoted, smeared, misrepresented, mocked, taken out of context, and otherwise derided, threatened, and attacked so often that we are skeptical. Would I speak to you about the MRM? Sure. If I could wear a mask, have my voice changed, and you guarantee in writing under punishment of financial penalty that the entire…
/r/MensRights30/08/17 09:55 PM
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I'd like to have money I didn't have to work for. Sounds pretty nice. I mean, one could argue that both ways. Which is the entire point I was making.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 08:27 PM
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There's that study that shows while women tend to have an in-group preference (automatically favoring women), men do not. They have varying preferences ranging from "no gender preference" to "out-group preference", which was related to their attitude on sex (those positive towards sex had an out-group preference, while those negative towards sex had no group preference at all). https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15491274
/r/MensRights30/08/17 07:20 PM
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I know that he has the tendency to exaggerate stories and I have seen him be very gossipy with the intent to hurt people he considers have "wronged him" or acted wrongly in some way. Run.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 04:53 PM
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"When we consider family dynamics," Kim said, "men are getting the benefit from women's progress." Maybe men didn't have a 100% lock of everything wonderful before just because they made more and were more highly educated. Maybe their wives were benefiting literally the whole time from men's progress and hard work and income and no one ever thought about it. Now that it's reversed though, watch this become a women's problem that men are benefiting from their earnings.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 04:42 PM
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and little boys... I think more effort needs to be put towards getting women to stop raping little boys Also extremely important.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 05:11 AM
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I think many feminists are intentionally trying to associate men's rights activists with pickup artists. I think you're right.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 04:50 AM
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because this community is living proof that their narrative about MRAs is nothing more than lies and projection. I'll bet they've already been here and didn't get what they want. It's just a suspicion, but I feel it's probably true, and Newt told me feelings are as important as facts anyway.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 03:48 AM
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Here's the thing: Call yourself whatever you want. Most of us live in free (mostly) countries. You can call yourself both if you want to. However, you can't be upset when you're associated with the people that you freely identify with. So when I say that feminist academics have been protecting female rapists and domestic abusers, and I provide evidence of such attempts (which can be provided upon request), you can't be upset if you're associated with that. You chose to be called a feminist. When…
/r/MensRights30/08/17 03:03 AM
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Technically, I generally accuse feminists (in general) of being rape deniers - denying the rape women perpetrate against men.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 02:57 AM
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Googled the article. They hung out on TRP. When are they actually going to come here to find out about MRAs?
/r/MensRights30/08/17 12:55 AM
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Meta Good bot.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 12:53 AM
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Well, I probably wouldn't have contextualized it as "left" and "right", but he couldn't very well say "fantasy" and "reality" could he? I'm on the left and I'm aware that there is not now a rape culture against women. Whether there ever was is a debatable question (ever is a long time). It's against men, if it exists at all.
/r/MensRights29/08/17 10:26 PM
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I propose that this is because there's a perception that if a man's complaining about pain, it's worse, because men are taught never to complain about pain and to "man up" and "take it", while women are allowed to complain of pain freely. It may not in any way be true (I dunno), but that's the stereotype, and people act based on stereotypes all the time.
/r/MensRights29/08/17 04:37 PM
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I'd say gender is a social construct and that it's basically an irrelevant question. People should be able to do what they want and be who they want so long as they're not harming anybody else.
/r/MensRights29/08/17 04:32 PM
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This. The numbers mean more: that we just didn't care before when women beat their partners and children.
/r/MensRights28/08/17 06:35 PM
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Oh I get you. Sorry, wasn't getting it the first time around.
/r/MensRights27/08/17 02:14 AM
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That's really offensive in a lot of ways, but somehow just as random and stupid as the original statement. So I guess what I'm telling you is that it's perfect.
/r/MensRights27/08/17 12:51 AM
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Check your state. Quite a few states do not relieve child support obligations in bankruptcy.
/r/MensRights26/08/17 09:56 PM
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See, I listen to this and it just makes me really sad. Because no one will ever make a video like that about me being raped by a woman. Because no one cares. No one cares. No one will ever care. It's early afternoon, and I already want a drink.
/r/MensRights26/08/17 05:34 PM
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If you want to lose any faith in humanity you might still possess, read the comments.
/r/MensRights26/08/17 05:15 AM
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Paywall. Text?
/r/MensRights26/08/17 03:07 AM
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?
/r/MensRights26/08/17 03:01 AM
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Snipers shoot from cover. A similar approach seems appropriate.
/r/MensRights25/08/17 04:17 PM
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Maybe have your wife call and chew them out for it? People listen more when women complain. Sad but true.
/r/MensRights25/08/17 04:15 PM
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You make a solid point there.
/r/MensRights25/08/17 04:13 PM
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The feminist movement is often condensing towards women. That must be uncomfortable after a while.
/r/MensRights25/08/17 03:10 AM
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This would have been a lot easier to read if you had gone with "Mike" and "Nitro" (or appropriate gendered or nongendered names).
/r/MensRights25/08/17 03:06 AM
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consent is impossible when there's money involved. TIL my boss commits kidnapping and slavery five days a week (unless there's a three day weekend, like this week - YAY! - only four kidnappings).
/r/MensRights25/08/17 03:03 AM
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Yeah, but that's dependent on the accusation resulting in prison (which, admittedly, takes that way over the bar, as now you get false accusation, false imprisonment, AND rape). Barring that... questionable. I mean, I found someone who would take me seriously for the rape (my wife), but without that, I'd probably have committed suicide. So in that sense, it might have been worse than a false accusation not resulting in prison. Then again, a false accusation resulting in prison might be worse, as…
/r/MensRights25/08/17 03:00 AM
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Rape is #1 in my book. Domestic violence is a close #2. But mostly anything criminal is easier to get away with as a woman than a man.
/r/MensRights25/08/17 02:57 AM
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... I guess so, but I'm pretty uncomfortable saying it. Being sexually assaulted is no picnic I can assure you, but having your whole future destroyed isn't a picnic either.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 11:32 PM
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I really don't see the problem with women who want to go topless going topless. Men can, so women should be able to as well.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 09:41 PM
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Hypothesis: perceived higher status.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 09:39 PM
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Female hypoagency This. Men are actors - everything that happens to them, no matter how remote or removed, is their fault. This is true no matter what. Women are objects - everything that happens to them, no matter how directly the result of their decisions, is someone else's fault. This is true no matter what. That's bullshit and everyone should know it, but it happens more than anyone is willing to admit.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 07:11 PM
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I feel raped by this tweet. Oops, I man. It doesn't count.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 07:09 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong but he didn't try to claim that the perverse effect was any more significant than the obvious impact on the fifteen men did he? Well, I haven't found a link to the full statement from the judge, but the summary of IBTimes states this: During her sentencing, Judge Nicholas Loraine-Smith told her she was a "manipulative" and "convincing" liar who made the allegations usually as "a drunken attempt to get your partner's sympathy or perhaps to arouse her jealousy." He added: "…
/r/MensRights24/08/17 07:01 PM
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I mean, I'm not even sure if I believe the assertion regarding vein size. It sounds like something someone made up.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 05:53 PM
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Wait, frequent masturbation causes abnormally large testicular veins? and this affects fitness how? I'm confused.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 05:22 PM
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"Crazy" is certainly relative, but yes - there's some deliberate smearing there.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 05:16 PM
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You know what's interesting, and I want everyone to think about this. From the article: They each began impulsively, but what is particularly chilling is the manner in which you persisted in making allegations which you knew were untrue even to the extent of committing and repeating perjury.' He continued: 'These false allegations of rape, false allegations which will inevitably be widely publicised, are likely to have the perverse impact of increasing the likelihood of guilty men going free. 'C…
/r/MensRights24/08/17 04:42 PM
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Funny how they cite everyone except men's rights.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 04:33 PM
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Doesn't surprise me. I've talked with quite a few stay at home dads over the years, and many of them have "invented" a career to tell people they have that allows them lots of free time just so they can stop getting criticized. Meanwhile, I'll bet a lot of women are realizing that being the main breadwinner isn't so wonderfully empowering after all. Keep in mind: gendered expectations of men are roughly where they were in the 1800s, while expectations of women have changed extensively.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 04:12 PM
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Don't stand close to train tracks, I guess, or you might get an inadvertent golden shower.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 04:08 PM
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is the rate of fathers murdering the baby comparable to the rate of safe haven usages That's not the right question. The question would be "is the rate of fathers murdering the baby comparable to the rate of mothers murdering the baby before the advent of safe havens". And that I don't know. I mean a mom dropping a baby in desperation into a dumpster, or abandoning it, or killing it -- there's really no one who can find her out. It'd be hard to prove. But a dad killing his baby, that only happen…
/r/MensRights24/08/17 04:07 PM
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TIL that men don't pee.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 03:37 PM
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Not the best example, as evidence suggests tall people actually earn more than short people, even if you gender segregate them, but I get your meaning anyway.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 03:34 PM
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According to wiki, only 33 states have a putative father registry, and the vast majority of people don't know about them because they're basically never advertised or cited in any information campaign. Also, this line is fascinating: Some states require a putative father to file with multiple states, i.e. with the state possible conception might have occurred, state of residence (if different) and possible states the female might visit [8] or relocate to after the possible conception date that a…
/r/MensRights24/08/17 02:52 PM
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Yes. Safe havens that completely shun the father's role in an adoption are fucking atrocious. but then again, they were made to keep babies from being killed/abandoned. Interestingly, there have been a series of cases where men who were stuck supporting a child they couldn't support and didn't want actually murdered that child (and, typically, that child's mom) out of desperation. However, no one gives a damn about that.
/r/MensRights24/08/17 02:48 PM
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I'm going to assume you meant "begging", and if that makes you sleep better. I see it much that same way as referring to someone continuously as dickbreath or sugartits or such when they've asked you to stop. It's being a jerk generally, but in a duty of care situation can quickly cross the line into abuse. Keep in mind that, for a significant portion of these people, they're in a place they can't leave being cared for by people they can't choose. Being a jerk quickly crosses the line into abuse…
/r/MensRights20/08/17 03:51 AM
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Yeah, that specifically has to do with nursing home staff that are engaging in verbal elder abuse. It doesn't apply to everyone, and no one is required to accept a duty of care as nursing home staff and be subject to those regulations. also... wtf on demanding a reduction in cow methane emissions? How do you even go about that?
/r/MensRights20/08/17 03:19 AM
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It's meant to get us on the defensive. They can see that people are starting to sympathize with us just a little bit and our arguments are making ever so slight headway, so they try to associate us with Nazis.
/r/MensRights19/08/17 04:44 PM
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I read the afterthought, yes.
/r/MensRights19/08/17 04:42 PM
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Thank you. Do they really believe their anti MRA slander or did they set out to deliberately deceive. It's deliberate. There's money involved in being the eternal victim.
/r/MensRights19/08/17 04:39 PM
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I hope this made sense to you, whether you think it true or false.
/r/MensRights19/08/17 04:28 AM
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Making sense is a necessary condition of having a truth status. This isn't even true. There are plenty of things that both don't make sense and are true. For instance, when Scarramucci, who was at the time White House Communications Director, called a reporter and spoke about Steve Bannon's auto fellatio skills, that didn't make a lick of sense, so to speak, but it was still a real event that truly happened. As the saying goes - "Truth is stranger than fiction because fiction has to make sense."…
/r/MensRights19/08/17 01:00 AM
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The alt-right isn’t one group. They don’t have one coherent identity. Rather, they’re a loose collection of people from disparate backgrounds who would never normally interact: bored teenagers, gamers, men’s rights activists, conspiracy theorists and, yes, white nationalists and neo-Nazis. But thanks to the internet, they’re beginning to form a cohesive group identity. And I have the data to prove it. Hey cool, I'm a leftist and apparently on the alt-right at the same time. Politics: Rorschach E…
/r/MensRights18/08/17 09:46 PM
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You're unnecessarily restricting the phrase "it makes no sense" to "words/thoughts lack any kind of coherence" as with your previous example. Didn't say it was. Making sense and being true are not the same. The duck is green. Colourless green ideas sleep furiously. The latter is just a conglomeration of words that don't mean anything because they don't fit together (colourless green ideas are a contradiction in terms, specifically). This is what you referred to as something that "makes no sense"…
/r/MensRights18/08/17 09:27 PM
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Well, it makes no sense in the way "Donald Trump is really a bunch of squirrels in a suit impersonating a president." being a legitimate belief makes no sense. It's not inherently babbling that cannot be understood because it fails to convey any kind of thought as there's an utter failure of communication, but the clear thought makes no sense because squirrels can't do that. So saying a man wearing a dress is inherently being a jerk "makes no sense" because it is an utterly insane thought in our…
/r/MensRights18/08/17 06:50 PM
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So yes, the assertion, that a man wearing a dress is inherently being a jerk isn't per se insane babbling that makes no logical sense in our language. It's just wrong - like asserting the moon is made of cheese. So?
/r/MensRights18/08/17 04:28 PM
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"stop being a jerk" to a man in a skirt makes sense. Sure. In the same way "the moon is made of cheese" makes sense. It can be true or false because it makes sense, as your previous example illustrated. It's wrong, but it makes sense. I've long since lost what point you're desperately driving at, but it does meet the criteria of the previous statement.
/r/MensRights18/08/17 12:54 PM
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Ok. The moon is made of cheese.
/r/MensRights18/08/17 01:45 AM
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I'm trying to think of a scenario where you can accidentally kidnap someone (or would be kidnapping, if not for the lack of mens rea that implies). I mean, maybe if they were hiding on board a ship from a murderous psychopath and you departed with the ship and they were therefore being transported without their consent maybe?
/r/MensRights18/08/17 12:52 AM
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Something something uphill both ways in the snow. Also git off my lawn.
/r/MensRights17/08/17 06:12 AM
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It's really hard not to agree with non-sexist free drinks.
/r/MensRights17/08/17 03:19 AM
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TIL that if my wife experiences pleasure at making me orgasm, then it was all about her.
/r/MensRights17/08/17 03:17 AM
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Am I supposed to know something about these people? That stub of an article doesn't contain any information to speak of to come to any kind of a conclusion.
/r/MensRights16/08/17 02:42 AM
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Well, we do suffer a lot of sexist discrimination for being men, but mods are stuck in a "damned if you do damned if you don't" spot. If they try to moderate out the clickbait bullshit, they'll be accused of "censoring opinions". If they don't, then they'll be accused of "allowing a free-for-all". They chose the latter instead of the former. It's probably better that way.
/r/MensRights16/08/17 02:41 AM
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Is this where I roundhouse kick you? Chuck Norris taught me that the roundhouse kick is the finishing move in any martial arts battle.
/r/MensRights16/08/17 02:39 AM
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What are you trying to convey here?
/r/MensRights16/08/17 02:38 AM
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Because we actually give a fuck or two about men and the problems men face as a gender. That's all.
/r/MensRights16/08/17 01:40 AM
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<raises hand>
/r/MensRights15/08/17 10:07 PM
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You've got your verbiage backwards I think. Transmen have transitioned female to male, while transwomen have transitioned male to female. EDIT: Besides that, there are women MRAs too. We're not exclusive.
/r/MensRights14/08/17 07:13 PM
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So you say. We've had transmen on here before, though. What makes you think that at least some transmen aren't amenable to the issues facing them as men? Individuals are individuals.
/r/MensRights14/08/17 04:57 PM
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Transmen seem like natural MRAs to me. They've seen the other side of the coin - what it's like to live as a woman and then how their lives changed when they became men (in both good and bad ways, but mostly bad). Not all transmen are MRAs of course, but we should be happy to see them when they join us. They are naturals for our cause.
/r/MensRights14/08/17 04:51 PM
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I would like to see this "evidence" he supposedly has.
/r/MensRights14/08/17 02:18 AM
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As you wish. Not sure how any of that is 'being a jerk' in any fashion, but whatever.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 11:18 PM
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A context that any reasonable person would not interpret as being a jerk - walking around wearing unusual clothing choices in public. Alternate universe choices: someone might say to a painter, "stop being a jerk". someone might say to a man dressed in medieval armor, "stop being a jerk". someone might say to a Scotsman in a kilt, "stop being a jerk".
/r/MensRights13/08/17 08:19 PM
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Not necessarily. I could be arguing in my spare time. Anyway, you hypothetically call a person something repeatedly they've asked not to be called. That's kind of a jerk thing to do.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 08:14 PM
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The important thing is that the truth status of the imputation is independent of the willingness of the bearer to accept it. Not sure what this has to do with being a jerk or not.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 08:12 PM
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Well, many prominent feminists do support abuse of men, but I fail to see how graffiti helps.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 04:03 PM
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You said this: I'm not sure about that. I think it would make sense. It meets that requirement sufficiently to be disputed. A: A man wearing a skirt is a jerk. B: No he's not. He's perfectly fine. So I asked you what criteria could possibly lead to A being true. Make an argument for it.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 02:41 PM
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Here was the question: What if Hilary is crooked? Doesn't that mean Hilary is the jerk? I speak hypothetically here. Hillary might also be a jerk. That would depend (I think she is, but for reasons unrelated to alleged crookedness). Two people can be a jerk simultaneously.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 02:39 PM
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The point is that you're both right and wrong. She doesn't become she by "having her dick cut off". You are correct. She was she before that.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 02:35 PM
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Well, trans surgery (proper term escapes me) is generally given because it provides relief from gender dysphoria. A person born male who feels female and has neurological brain structures resembling women (as in the article linked) does not become "she" when she has, as you've so eloquently put it, had her "dick cut off". She was probably she long before that, because of years (or perhaps a lifetime) of gender dysphoria. Thanks for the link though. No prob.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 03:30 AM
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And how is it being a jerk? Seriously. How is it being a jerk to wear a dress? I mean, it's not my bag, but I have worn a kilt a time or two.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 03:27 AM
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Well, you essentially asked me if it's a jerk thing to do to slap someone with a cruel nickname. Yes, it is.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 03:25 AM
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neuro-physiological dispositions This is a hard one. Those with gender dysphoria actually are more neurologically similar to their "target" gender than their "given" gender, even on a biological basis. However, it's not 100% that way either. Trans person brains are... unique. You can read more here: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-there-something-unique-about-the-transgender-brain/
/r/MensRights12/08/17 01:21 PM
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They could of course, but it wouldn't make any sense. It'd be like telling someone to stop being a jerk for eating cereal or wearing a hat.
/r/MensRights12/08/17 01:15 PM
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Probably still kind of a jerk. Marco Rubio is only 5' 9". A little short for an American man, and quite a bit shorter than Trump at 6' 2". Repeatedly calling him "Little Marco" was kind of a jerk thing to do.
/r/MensRights12/08/17 01:14 PM
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I'm considered leftist, actually. Quite a few of us are.
/r/MensRights12/08/17 01:04 AM
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Language evolves. It's evolving as we speak. You can keep referring to a bundle of sticks as a faggot if you want. You can use "let" to mean restrict or prevent if you want to. You can use "man" to refer to people of all genders (as in old English). And you can refuse to use he to refer to a person that identifies as male. People will think you're a jerk, but being a jerk continues to be not against the law. Good luck.
/r/MensRights12/08/17 12:41 AM
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not to mention ending a sentence with a preposition I'm a rebel without a cause. What you are proposing is stripping a word of denoted meaning and having it include the exact opposite. Yes. Definition of let 1 : something that impedes : obstruction ..... Origin and Etymology of let Middle English letten, from Old English lettan to delay, hinder; akin to Old High German lezzen to delay, hurt, Old English lǣt late With that in mind: "Woman" cannot mean both a female and a man who thinks he is a f…
/r/MensRights11/08/17 10:09 PM
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Biologically, mentally, or socially? Because the first is unabashedly false. Mentally it's probably true. Socially it's an arguable assertion. (I assume you're talking about MtF transition, if you meant FtM, reverse the trues and falses.) I'm not sure any of those are a jerk thing though in any kind of intellectual discussion. In the context of shouting it in the middle of an office where someone's trying hard to work, it would be a jerk thing though.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:59 PM
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I will not acknowledge something that isn't. Except you aren't by the modern usage of the language. words still need to have a set meaning to distinguish ideas. Indeed, let thee consider all meanings in all eras, lest thee misunderstand word meaning. Forasmuch as thee lets all to use meanings from thy individual era, such is madness. That was more fun to write than I thought, and has completely different meanings depending on what era I'm talking from.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:53 PM
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Complaint form to the government is here: https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/complaintintro.html Depending on what you want to do, you could also complain to your university's Title IX office (most of them have one) before making a government complaint. And, as always, I am not a lawyer. If you are unsure how to proceed, a consultation with a lawyer familiar with Title IX isn't a bad thing.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:48 PM
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Make a title IX complaint.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:45 PM
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I guess it would depend on the context.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:44 PM
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Yeah, but he's always like that and with a lot of people.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:43 PM
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Calling someone by an alternate name is inherently different that acknowledging that the substance of the person is different than its actual physical and biological characteristics. Where do you have to acknowledge the substance of the person is different than his or her actual physical or biological characteristics by using "Mr." or "Ms." or "he" or "she" instead of the other one? Language evolves. It's changing literally under your feet.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:43 PM
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I don't see why. Is there a particular reason why wearing a particular (normal) article of clothing is being a jerk?
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:34 PM
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I don't know. Does the particular man in question still want to be called a man? There's kind of a difference between a person who got his dick cut off in a freak industrial accident but still self-identifies as a man, and a person who has never self-identified as a man but was born male and had the penis inverted and made into a vagina (which, as I understand, is how that surgery works - if I've got that all wrong feel free to correct me).
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:33 PM
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I mean, supposing I go with your premise (which I will for the sake of argument), Chris isn't Nitro either. That's not his legal name, and no one would name him Nitro. Probably. Well, except actually he kinda is, by consensus of his friends, which is kinda the same thing as trans men or trans women.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:30 PM
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I'd say if he went to prison and the prison guards referred to him as "guilty Pete" all the time even when he asked em to knock it off, they're being jerks. You're comparing apples and oranges here.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:27 PM
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Yeah. It pretty much is.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:20 PM
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Woof. Why is that a better example?
/r/MensRights11/08/17 09:17 PM
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Deliberately calling someone something they've asked not to be called is a jerk thing to do. You correlated that with something that is not a jerk thing to do as if it's equivalent. What are you trying to say?
/r/MensRights11/08/17 08:39 PM
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I don't see how a man "wearing women's clothes" is a jerk thing to do. Explain?
/r/MensRights11/08/17 08:13 PM
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I still am not sure why we have segregated bathrooms. Never heard a good explanation that doesn't boil down to "boys/girls are icky."
/r/MensRights11/08/17 05:07 PM
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I mean, obviously you're allowed to. It's kind of a jerk thing to do, but there's no law against acting like a jerk (yet). "Freedom to be a jerk" should be the 28th amendment. Put it this way. Let's suppose you have a friend named Chris, but he likes to be called Nitro. Everyone calls him Nitro. He hates the name Chris, but it IS his name. If he asks to be called Nitro, repeatedly asks you not to call him Chris, and you keep doing it, are you being a jerk? Yes. If you meet him the first time and…
/r/MensRights11/08/17 05:00 PM
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I didn't know teen vogue magazine was judicial precedent useful in a court of law. I learn new things every day.
/r/MensRights10/08/17 07:54 PM
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Doesn't quite seem to fit. Wouldn't it be section 261 which talks about intercourse? Of course, then you run into "what is physical force".
/r/MensRights10/08/17 02:17 PM
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You can knowingly rape your passed out wife, yes. That is a crime, yes. It can be prosecuted, yes. If you've both been drinking heavily and fuck there's probably no crime. The law just doesn't work that way. The level of intoxication required for rape is so high, the victim must not be able to understand the fact, nature, or occurrence of the act. Two people in that state could probably not successfully copulate.
/r/MensRights10/08/17 06:32 AM
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For starters, we don't even know how their sexual relationship started. Maybe he seduced her and she realized she'd get in big, big trouble later. Sure, that's possible. That would mean she knowingly raped him according to state law and tried to cover up her crime. Which is what she is apparently accused of.
/r/MensRights10/08/17 05:45 AM
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I haven't seen it (as you wouldn't catch me dead watching that shit), but a quick google search indicates it's filmed in Los Angeles. Has anyone called the LAPD?
/r/MensRights10/08/17 12:54 AM
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I meant compared to each other (IE, women are more likely to be raped by a stranger than a comparable man, while men are more likely to be raped by an intimate partner than a comparable woman). Not more likely among all types of rape. https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss6308a1.htm?s_cid=ss6308a1_e Maybe I could have phrased that better, but the differences aren't particularly huge either.
/r/MensRights10/08/17 12:10 AM
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Exactly.
/r/MensRights10/08/17 12:08 AM
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Next: RE: Al Kapone: If you could go to jail, you might engage in jury tampering too.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 06:13 AM
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Yeah. Men are far more likely to be assaulted. When it comes to rape, men are somewhat more likely to be raped by an intimate partner, and women by a stranger. Rape by a stranger is the rarest kind, though.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 06:09 AM
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I'd be worried that a random person could tell whether I have a nice dick or not. I mean, something has probably gone wrong if that happens.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 05:23 AM
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I dislike the word "ownership" in that context, but the rest was spot on.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 05:15 AM
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Hey, at least they used the word rape. Progress.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 02:19 AM
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I'm puzzled as to what I'm supposed to feel about this. Utter indifference is all I'm mustering right now. I barely made this post, but decided to just to ask if I'm supposed to feel something.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 02:14 AM
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I didn't see it as "how petty it is", but I thought how nice it would be for people to say that to me even occasionally. Other than intelligence every once in a great while when I stumble across a solution that's been a thorn in my company's side for a while, I am rarely complemented. If I did a good job, that was what was expected of me. If I fail, then I'm a failure.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 02:13 AM
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That does look pretty nice.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 02:11 AM
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If I had to go to college again today, I'd wear a body camera. I'm not even kidding.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 02:08 AM
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Funny part is, I've read that memo. Twice. He actually provides a number of seemingly practical suggestions to increase diversity at Google without resorting to race and sex discriminatory practices. I'm not sure if the suggestions would work (someone would have to try it), but they sound extremely practical.
/r/MensRights09/08/17 02:01 AM
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Because if men had the same rights that women now have, they would use them in a way that would harm women. But men and women are equal. But women would never use these rights in a way that harm men. Pay no attention to the man, or woman as the case may be, behind the curtain. There's nothing to see here.
/r/MensRights08/08/17 04:23 AM
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Typical, sadly. The continual wonderment to me is how many people with penises seem to have no clue how they function.
/r/MensRights08/08/17 02:55 AM
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Like I said - I don't see how it's a selling point.
/r/MensRights08/08/17 01:32 AM
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To me, yeah. I do recognize the sexist double standard many have in this area, though.
/r/MensRights08/08/17 12:59 AM
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Close it. Everyone will be better off. Probably.
/r/MensRights08/08/17 12:11 AM
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Might as well title it "20 things to google". That's what's going to happen in real life.
/r/MensRights08/08/17 12:07 AM
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I'm not sure why it aggravates you. I don't see how "woman owned" is a selling point, but I have that reaction to a lot of ads.
/r/MensRights07/08/17 11:59 PM
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Probably not, at least not in the west. In the middle and far east, that's another matter. The only one on that list that applies to women in any kind of general sense is "sexual objectification", which is something both men and women experience and probably in roughly equal measure. In a (relatively) minor way, slut shaming and victim blaming still happen to women, but nowhere near as bad as it happens to men. In essence, complaining about women suffering rape culture is roughly akin to complai…
/r/MensRights07/08/17 11:54 PM
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With all due respect and all, she's wrong. Rape culture symptoms: Behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, slut shaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, refusing to acknowledge the harm caused by some forms of sexual violence, or some combination of these. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_culture All of these exist against men here and now. Rape culture exists - against men, not women.
/r/MensRights06/08/17 04:55 PM
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I know you're being facetious, but no one should be treated as badly as a men are in this scenario, regardless of gender.
/r/MensRights06/08/17 04:38 AM
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As a standard legal practice, it would no longer put you on the instant shit list to get a paternity test with your spouse, so in that kind of a way, one could justify it as a measure to reduce familial strife. Unless paternity fraud is a lot more common than anyone thinks, then it might have the opposite effect.
/r/MensRights06/08/17 03:17 AM
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Wow, it's like every man who's ever been raped by a woman ever who tried to go to the police, except she's a woman. Yeah, unless they have contra evidence of a very compelling nature, this is pretty unacceptable behavior from the police, making the presumption that it's all true of course. Sorry you had to experience male privilege first hand, EEB. It's not as much fun as it looks.
/r/MensRights06/08/17 03:14 AM
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There are MANY feminists who I personally know who'd disagree with most/all of that article I have no doubt. However, these are not feminists in positions of institutional power. These are not feminists who are driving policy. These are not feminists who are driving the direction and activism of the movement. I understand that your few feminists in your little corner of the world may not be sexist in this regard - that doesn't make them average, it doesn't make them normal, and it doesn't mean t…
/r/MensRights02/08/17 10:59 PM
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It's like no one knows how sexual arousal works. Newsflash: women who are raped get wet and sometimes experience involuntary orgasm, because we are not in control of our sexual responses. Men are no different.
/r/MensRights02/08/17 12:02 AM
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I don't see a lot of women hating in this forum. There's a lot of feminist hating, but that's not the same thing.
/r/MensRights01/08/17 11:54 PM
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Take an attorney or another witness with you when you report, IMO. Police often don't treat cases of men being raped by women the way they should, and having a witness means that, if they treat you with sex discrimination, you have a witness to help the lawsuit later.
/r/MensRights01/08/17 02:22 PM
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If your divorce took place in 2009 or after, you can't use your divorce decree as authority to claim anyway. It's not valid for tax purposes. She would need to sign an 8332 unless you are the custodial parent for tax purposes. https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f8332.pdf If you are the custodial parent for tax purposes, contact SSA. Edit: meant to comment directly to the OP, but accidentally commented to you. Too late now - sorry.
/r/MensRights01/08/17 12:57 PM
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No problem. You might wait until other ideas are in however before making a final decision. I am full of opinions about how things should be done and, while I feel they are informed ones, I have yet to be granted omniscience yet (still working on that), and other people may have other ideas.
/r/MensRights01/08/17 06:13 AM
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I'd play it completely straight and tell them that you've seen the data that men are raped by women with alarming frequency, and you are interested in attending the defense class because of the threat of being raped by a woman is an area of concern for you. But then again, it's kind of my shtick, so I would say that.
/r/MensRights01/08/17 03:57 AM
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I understand, and that's why, in this case, I didn't viscerally react to the scare quotes. In the UK, legally, they're right - rape is only rape if a man does it. That's sexist and wrong, but it IS reality, and the article recognizes that and discusses it (to a degree). However, the scare quotes bug the shit out of me, not because they're technically incorrect usage in this case, but because of the incorrect usage generally where it is used to minimize rapes when they have the "wrong" perpetrato…
/r/MensRights31/07/17 01:36 PM
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Well, there is The Pocket Hose....
/r/MensRights31/07/17 03:23 AM
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