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Thanks for the advice, and loved your Dancing Monkeys post. Frame in general has never been much of a weak spot for me, not because of anything special about me, but because over time she has responded really badly any time I was a pussy. In my BP days I used to think this was a character flaw of hers - not wanting to be equal, wanting to yield to me, wanting me to call the shots, not allowing me to be emotional, etc. Now I know it was just because she was embracing her feminine nature. Whether …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 10:14 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I know I didn't articulate it well but I've settled into a consistent program that I really enjoy. It's a reverse pyramid upper/lower split. I love it. I hit every muscle group twice a week. It's hard; every set is to failure. The downside is workouts take 60-90 minutes and keeping track can be a bit complicated, though with Google Sheets on my phone it's a breeze. This is such a huge part of my MAP because it is by far my biggest red area. I have farther to go than most g…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 02:53 AM
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It's been almost 4 months since things changed for me. I'm in something of a reflective phase and I'm assessing my progress and goals. Posting here helps me hold myself accountable, whether anybody reads or not. Summary: Married 8 years; both in our lower-mid 30s; financially secure; 3 young kids; she's 3 and a half months pregnant with our 4th. Our relationship is great - probably better now than it has ever been. She lets me fuck her 3-4 times a week but it's obvious that she still gets no enj…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 05:15 PM
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I'm not interested in earning more money, but I'm very interested in doing more and more work on my own that I would normally have to pay someone else to do. My goal is to become educated and skilled enough to successfully complete any and all home renovations and repairs 100% on my own, and a lot of car maintenance work too. For a lot of guys, that comes as naturally as breathing. For a millennial like me, taking apart and fixing my dryer was intimidating as fuck. But I did it and that felt goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 07:00 PM
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No overtime opportunities - I'm salaried. But it's a great job and I worked hard to get here. You are dead on about the house. We only bought it because the previous owners had already put so much work into it but my time will come. You are also dead on about credit card debt. That's why I've decided no vacations for the next 3-4 years. The $5,000 I pay a year in interest will pay for a vacation every year, and then the tax refunds can go into the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:38 PM
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In my region in my line of work at my salary level, there is no more upward mobility.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:31 PM
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This is good advice. I've been reading a lot about building muscle in a caloric deficit. It's very difficult to do beyond beginner gains. Most important thing is protein intake, keeping up with lifting, keeping the caloric deficit relatively low (mine fluctuates between 20-33% with the goal of losing about 1.5 pounds per week) and at least maintaining strength levels but trying like hell to achieve progressive overload.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:27 PM
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I have it bad. This is something I need to work on. I think it's going to be easier to get rid of it when I have true abundance mentality, and that will come when I have options, and that will come when I'm not a fat fuck anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:07 PM
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I don't care about them. I just thought it was ironic that they ripped into me as an MRP bogeyman when MRP principles have made me into such a good man that my mother-in-law is buying me presents for being so good to her daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 07:27 PM
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Physical: My goal is 15% body fat. Progress is steady but it's a long road. I'm at 35%. That's fat as fuck but it beats 40%+ which is where I was at 3 months ago. And at this rate, I will be closing in on 20% by spring. My struggle is losing fat while minimizing muscle loss and actually gaining muscle despite the caloric deficit. I keep the weight loss down to 1.5 pounds a week, eat mostly lean protein and vegetables, and lift 4-5 days a week, with some cardio in there when I can. Mental: I'm in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 06:44 PM
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Some blue pill lurkers ripped me apart at their Reddit for a comment I made about how I've been initiating sex pretty much every day since we found out about the pregnancy, even when she's feeling sick. She doesn't have to say yes. Half the time she doesn't. When she rejects me, the worst thing I do to her is cheerfully go to bed instead of staying up late and entertaining her. So I'm a monster even though our relationship has never been better, and she has never been happier. Apparently she's b…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 03:32 PM
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Maybe this doesn't work for every woman in pregnancy, but this is something to consider. I've tailored my approach through trial and error based on advice I've gotten here and everything I have learned from the sidebar which has helped me understand her nature. Dread is considered a risky thing in the context of pregnancy, but not if you're just sticking with levels 1-5, and are giving her a lot of comfort. That's what I've been doing. Improving myself in every respect, working toward making mys…
/r/askMRP09/09/17 03:04 PM
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I've only been posting for 2 months. I lurked for a month.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 12:02 PM
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I've been here just over 2 months and unplugged for 3. My wife is almost 3 months pregnant with our 4th. This is the 1st pregnancy I have my shit together, mostly. I'll be the first to admit, I have issues. I have serious oneitis and validation seeking, as anyone will know looking at my posts especially from the last couple days. But 3 things I'm doing right: I'm keeping my issues to myself, I'm working out like a madman, and I'm not dialing it back because she's pregnant. Here is some great adv…
/r/askMRP09/09/17 04:55 AM
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This process is smashing up your oneitis, at least be pleased about this. This took her down a few pegs in my eyes and has made me realize how badly I need to start this process, now. Hows the sex life etc? Good. I want it to be great but good. Around the time this exchange would have happened, 6 months ago, we were down to twice a week, covert contract sex. Since unplugging, it's 3-4 times a week, usually 4. The equivalent of starfish in different positions, but there have been tiny signs of li…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 03:00 PM
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My response would be to mentally process the worst case scenario as if it already happened. This is really good advice. Thanks.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 02:37 PM
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Decided I'm definitely not going to confront her. Confronting her is stupid for the reasons you listed. This is why people like me have to STFU and wait a day. If I didn't keep this shit to myself and STFU, I would have confronted, and taken 10 giant steps bad. Edit: 3 deleted comments were duplicates of this one
/r/askMRP08/09/17 03:11 AM
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I've come to realize that today. Edit: 2 deleted comments below were duplicates of this one
/r/askMRP08/09/17 03:08 AM
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Not that this matters because we are in no danger of getting divorced in the immediate future, but on what planet do family courts not side by the woman almost by default in our feminized society?
/r/askMRP08/09/17 03:06 AM
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APALT That really made me laugh. Part of wife adding value to my life is not traipsing around behind my back. I agree. I think in some ways it is bad leadership to not set and enforce a boundary like this. Women make horrible decisions based on fleeting arbitrary irrational hormone-driven emotions and everyone around them and all of society tells them that is absolutely okay to do. They can fall into this shit so easily. They are incapable of doing a rational cost/benefit analysis or adequately …
/r/askMRP07/09/17 08:24 PM
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Men don't get 100% custody. Men get the kids on weekends if they're lucky. It's good to be realistic.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 08:08 PM
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I deserved that
/r/askMRP07/09/17 06:31 PM
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The more I think about it, the more I realize this is the only thing that matters - self-improvement.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 06:11 PM
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Which tools you use, and how you use them, are up to you. That's good insight. I've found some things that work really well in my relationship, and others that don't. And you get a little something out of everything. NMMNG was painful but was worth it for the insight into covert contracts alone.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 06:02 PM
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Have you seen ANY other suspicious things since this incident 2-3 months ago? It was about 6 months ago. It was 2-3 months pre-unplugging when I realized how massively unattractive I was being all the time, and that was 3 months ago. Since then, I've been a lot more pleasant and fun to be around. They've been in touch since then, as recently as within the past month, though there was barely anything to the conversation (that I know of).
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:51 PM
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What path would your life take if the marriage collapse suddenly right now. I've thought about this a lot. Fast forward 12 months. That's how long it will take me to be below 15% body fat. Let's operate under the assumption that she either cheated on me or for whatever reason decided she didn't want to be with me anymore. She's a SAHM with no career prospects and we'll have 4 young kids together. I'll get the kids on weekends. Sucks for the kids. I'll have to get a crappy apartment, and she'll h…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:47 PM
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What does baiting consist of?
/r/askMRP07/09/17 04:29 PM
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The only thing that's going to make me confident is continuing in the direction I've been going in - losing fat and building muscle mostly. Getting to the point where I can pull the attraction of women more attractive than my wife. If only to improve our relationship, and to have options if she fucks things up. None of this really impacts that. I think what this whole thing amounts to is another phase of unplugging. Three months ago, I accepted the realities of male/female sexual dynamics. I acc…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 04:29 PM
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This interaction is mild. If it ever looked bad enough your gut would tell you it's P.I. time to CYA on alimony. My gut has always had a problem with her and her phone. I get that she might be doing things that are harmless but would embarrass her or else she thinks they will piss me off and so she hides it all. When I saw the interaction, mild as it was, my gut went into overdrive. Still, can be a massive distraction from your own goals. Potentially, but I could also see it as a huge motivator …
/r/askMRP07/09/17 04:14 PM
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I get what you're saying. This resonated. I only have trouble embracing this attitude because of two reasons. One is the kids. They are my #1 responsibility and whatever happens to us happens to them. On the flip side, I can see that if she fucked things up, whatever happens will have happened solely because of her. It would be out of my hands. The other trouble I have is my fundamental understanding of women - that they are weak, and impulsive, and often incapable of making good decisions, and …
/r/askMRP07/09/17 03:53 PM
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My family IS happy and successful, and it's because of me, and my family will continue to be happy and successful, and achieve even greater happiness and success, because of me. I don't need her to fix anything. One thing I have never had a problem with is taking responsibility for things. The only thing that's broken in our lives is her attraction to me which is 100% on me, and what I've been working on for the past 3 months. That's why I'm here. I don't need her to do anything but not fuck thi…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 03:16 PM
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The best way I can gather evidence is to download software on her phone. Half the guys here are saying, don't do it. I'm not a mindless idiot who needs people on Reddit to tell him what to do. But I can see it both ways. I have no idea whether this is a step I should take.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:29 PM
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This conversation happened several months ago. I wasn't lifting, I wasn't really losing weight, I was an emotional basket case, I was unpleasant and not fun. I think I've moved in a good direction these past 3 months in creating that place. Guys here told me don't expect any returns until 6 months minimum, and last of all from your wife. Things have improved and I'm sure they'll improve more. But based on everything I've read and learned, I'm skeptical that any amount of improvement is necessari…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:25 PM
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I didn't capture evidence. I didn't want to risk her knowing that I know by taking screen shots or something like that and slipping up. If it was something really bad, I would have documented it. What I found wasn't bad in and of itself. It only is an indicator that there might be more that I don't know about.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:19 PM
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Not knowing is worse. But I shouldn't give a fuck. The fact that I give a fuck is the problem here.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:15 PM
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What exactly are you looking for her to do here? I'm looking for her to respect me and respect our family enough to resist the urge to twirl her hair and have flirty conversations with ex-boyfriends because gosh it feelz so good. That is disrespectful to me, to our family, and it is dangerous behavior that leads to cheating. Cheating is an absolute deal breaker. If she is flirting with ex-boyfriends or doing other things that lead to cheating, I want to know about it so I can act accordingly. An…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:14 PM
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Here you are hamstering a way to keep it around by not being willing to identify the enemy and do what it takes to destroy it. I don't know how to really destroy it right now. I know that being able to spin plates, whether I choose spin or not, will destroy it, so that's what I'm working toward. It's not that I'm unwilling to put the work in. I've never put more work into anything than I have into this. And it shows. It shows on the scale, in the mirror, in my relationship with my wife. So if I …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 01:57 PM
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I agree. A minor offense. But there are things that stick out. She sent him a heart emoji. She told him to let her know when she is in town. She put up a pretty weak token "I'm married" defense. He just didn't push hard after that. There were hints of previous conversations. I see your point about attention. And I totally get that this could have been what that was all about. But her behavior is suspicious. She clears her internet history, she clears her message inboxes, she was hiding this conv…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:12 PM
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Only you know where you are on your journey and whether you can confront her, maintain frame, and handle it like an attractive man with options. I'm not there yet. I love the idea of waiting. It gives me the option of letting this go which might be the best option. And if I do reveal that I know she's been having flirty conversations with ex-boyfriends a month from now, or a few months from now, it would leave her in doubt of how long I've known, and what exactly I know, and it would get her ham…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:03 PM
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I'm keeping my mouth shut about this for the time being. That is the smartest thing someone can do.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:59 PM
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I appreciate the advice. This is a struggle. I agree on the importance of working on myself. This is first and foremost. On the other hand, I want to know what I am dealing with. She is always on her phone, up late after I'm in bed. She clears her internet history, clears her inboxes, uses apps like Snapchat. Maybe she clears her internet history because, well, fuck, I clear my internet history. Million reasons why someone would do that. Lots of her close family friends use Snapchat. Maybe she c…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:56 PM
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This is 90% of the reason I posted. I've seen so many posts like this one and I've always been fuzzy on whether to confront or not. There doesn't seem to ever be a consensus one way or another. I wouldn't confront her like "Look what you did! How could you!" That's fucking stupid. I would wait a month and simply ask if she has been in touch with any ex-boyfriends. If she says no, I will know she is a liar, and that she really can't be trusted. I will tell her that I've seen conversations with ex…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:47 PM
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I do HIIT intervals. Last night was pretty much one 30-minute HIIT interval.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:20 PM
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Point taken. I had done my upper body workout a couple hours earlier. But when has more lifting hurt anyone.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:18 PM
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Ok I see your point. Definite #2 in there. I want to be wanted. The word "validated" just doesn't resonate but wanted does. If you put that out in a AskMRP Post you will get skewered. Ha, I know. Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying these are valid emotions. These are old feelings that are going away, or that I'm working on. It's like peeling away an onion until there's nothing left. I've done pretty well at eliminating unhealthy and unattractive behaviors in me, but I still need to work at elimi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 03:06 AM
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I honestly don't know if it's validation that I'm after. I get a lot of enjoyment out of life. I know I'm an awesome guy and I'm pretty happy by default. I want sex whenever I want it but for me, I feel like sex is something I've earned and deserve, something that I'm entitled to. It's ingrained in me. When I'm rejected, I don't feel down on myself. I have to admit, my internal reaction is somewhat childish. It feels like it's tied to a sense of entitlement and childish disappointment. If I had …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 11:30 PM
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91 days in. Goal #1: Build muscle/lose fat. Last week's average was 222.69, down 1.8 pounds. I continue to lose an average of 1.5 pounds per week. I need to take better measurements with the tape measure because I'm wearing size 38 pants pretty comfortably and yet I measured my waist at 47" on Sunday morning. I'm pretty generous with the tape measure and completely relax my abdominal muscles; I strive to get a worst-case-scenario, brutal-honesty measurement. But that's a pretty big discrepancy. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 08:00 PM
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Once a week of total involvement sex would be way better than twice a week starfish. Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 07:41 PM
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A couple weeks ago, I articulated my ultimate objective as becoming a man she wants to fuck the shit out of the way I want to fuck the shit out of her, and her enjoying it as much as I do. Days like today, if I had a vision statement, it would be closer to "Become a man who can pull the attraction of someone else so I can tell her to go fuck herself and move on." Goal #1: Build muscle/lose fat. Last week's average was 224.9, down only .66 pounds. Waist is still above 47" so I'm going with 47.5" …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 03:13 PM
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Goal #1: Build muscle/lose fat. Last week's average was 225.1 pounds (down 1.9). Monday's waist measurement was around 47.5" (pretty much the same as last week). I worked out my upper body on Wednesday, Friday, Sunday, and Tuesday. Made progress on the overhead press. Did not make progress on the bench press. On other exercises, I can't even judge my progress because I need to concentrate on consistent and proper form. I had been neglecting my lower body in favor of cardio; I did my first lower …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 07:02 PM
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Good to know. I know some people don't have this problem while some people do. How old are you? I'm mid-30s and I'm 5' 9". I've been over 200 since probably middle school or even earlier, and was pushing 300 in college. Got down to 225 for a while in my mid-20s then gradually went back to about 280 until about a year ago. I lost about 40 pounds last year mostly by dieting and cardio. Now I'm focusing almost exclusively on resistance training and I'm taking in a lot of protein, and still losing w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/17 01:02 AM
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What lower body lifts are you doing? I'm neglecting my lower body right now. Not smart I know but I'm a flabby torso on top of a pair of pretty fabulous legs from a lifetime of bike riding and running at 250+ pounds. My upper body is a joke so that's what I've been concentrating on but I definitely will stop neglecting the legs. I do like wrist curls; they don't take long or much effort and I'm liking what they are doing to my forearms. Urge surfing is a more productive approach than simply tryi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 05:05 PM
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it's a LONG way off; but i am curious as to why you discount this as your grand finale? Cost. $5-10,000+ out of pocket. Insurance wouldn't cover it. I won't have that kind of disposable cash for a long time. That's 2 Disney trips, and Disney comes first. if your really lifting for 2 hours without fucking around your probably overtraining. I don't feel like I'm overtraining but I really have no way of knowing and I wish there was more science out there on this. We know what the inside of a proton…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 04:41 PM
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I unplugged 71 days ago. This is my first OYS goal check-in, so there will be some background information here. Summary: Together 9 years, married 8, 3 young kids, 2 months pregnant with the 4th, both mid-30s. Me: Good payng day job; her: excellent SAHM. Sex life isn't terrible; 3-4 times a week since unplugging, up from 2, as a result of initiating more and putting a stop to some very unattractive behaviors I routinely displayed. But it's duty sex. She is almost never eager about it and gives v…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 07:29 PM
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Yeah. Last night I initiated. She said, "You won't have an emotional breakdown after, will you?" I laughed. Afterwards, she made a comment about how my cock looks bigger since I've been exercising and working out. She said it in a very dry matter-of-fact neutral observer "I don't care" way, but come on, why bring it up at all if she didn't feel the need to pay me a compliment?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 01:48 PM
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Not saying I don't have an alcohol issue. I love putting away 8 beers and probably would every night if it weren't for the money, stigma, calories, and health effects. That's probably an issue. But if I was a full-blown alcoholic, I wouldn't be able to leave it at 2-3 drinks at a restaurant, abstain at parties because I'm driving, and go weeks or months without it like I am now. It's a spectrum and I am somewhere on the spectrum, not in the red and not in the green, but probably in the part wher…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 01:36 PM
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You're right. I had serious drinking issues for a time. But saying I was an alcoholic and blaming alcohol was a hell of a lot easier than admitting it was me and I'd be like that whether I was drunk or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 01:23 PM
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What is fucked up is I passed that shit test the other night. At first I laughed it off and ripped on her back. But then 2 hours passed and I decided to take the test back from the teacher, changed my answers, and ended up failing it miserably. This is why I'm here. Great advice. Holy shit. I want to kick myself in the balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 01:12 PM
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I think you nailed it. "Odd" is right. To make it stranger, she didn't have any brothers, nor was she a tom boy to my knowledge. But when I first met her during a summer job, she was one of the guys where we worked. Very feminine aside from those masculine characteristics. I used to think she was the perfect woman because of that. But it's very hard to build attraction by passing shit tests when she barely gives you any. I think you are 100% right with your AWALT comment. She is very submissive …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 10:12 PM
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so which is it. You tell me what mold we fit. Her: Objectively attractive. Always smells good and is meticulous about makeup. Never late. SAHM. No mood swings (and no birth control). No indication of PMS ever. Does not get nasty or bitchy. Never gives me attitude or shit. Does not complain or criticize me. Not affectionate. (I don't mean not affectionate anymore, I mean not affectionate, ever.) Hates it when I am stressed out. Puts a lot of effort into making food she thinks I'll like. Hates mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 08:13 PM
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You're right. I pretty much abandoned this idea last night. As /u/Persaeus suggested, the key is to just dial it back. She was EXTREMELY hostile to it the other day which was on my mind when I suggested this. But she is 5 weeks pregnant. She was not hostile to it all the way up to the point where she was 5 weeks pregnant. Anyone with half a brain would say, obviously it's the pregnancy hormones, calm the fuck down.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 05:42 PM
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I didn't mean I was not completely to blame. I meant the behaviors were partly to blame. The other part was being physically unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 05:02 PM
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Edit/Addendum: I just wanted to emphasize all the past tenses there. It's been more than 4 years since things were at their worst. I had been gradually improving steadily since then. But 50 days ago when I discovered the world of TRP and MRP, I woke up to the reality that she isn't attracted to me and these massively unattractive behaviors were at least partly to blame. So I shut them all down immediately. I took a long hard look at myself and I couldn't shut that shit down fast enough. On 2 occ…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 03:05 PM
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You're right. I shouldn't have even entertained this thought. As /u/WerewolfBillionaire pointed out, when I have my shit together and am attractive, shit from the past isn't going to matter anymore to her. I don't even know if it still does. And anyway, she wouldn't even want it. She has a very negative opinion of marriage counseling.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 02:31 PM
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Good advice; thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 01:27 PM
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Thanks! You too!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 01:26 PM
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I appreciate your insight and advice. Don't misunderstand - I don't think I'm any kind of special snowflake. I'm like a billion other guys. I was borderline abusive, emotionally and physically. I would get explosively angry. I had severe emotional problems that I channeled into alcohol and drug abuse. I was completely out of control. There were some very, very ugly episodes that I'm not proud of. That was years ago. Moving up from there and bettering myself was a slow, gradual process and I need…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 01:19 PM
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when driving on the snow and the car starts spinning out, the absolute worst thing you can do is try to overcorrect. Good advice. I did overcorrect.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 12:20 PM
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Agreed. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 03:55 PM
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Update: Obviously I have a leveler head this morning. What happened happened. It was bad. It was an extremely unattractive display. It could have been worse. But in the long run, it changes absolutely nothing. In 6 months, it will barely be a blip on the radar screen, as long as I don't let it happen again. I used to go to AA years ago because I was drinking pretty heavily for a while. In reality, though I've always been alcohol dependent, I wasn't a full-blown alcoholic. I just had emotional pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 02:49 PM
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I got butt hurt when my wife made fun of me for talking dirty when we fucked tonight. At first I laughed it off, then it sunk in. Apparently, it hit a nerve. I told her it bothered me. She apologized. Then I proceeded to talk to her at length about it about it and why it bothered me. I even referenced some of my insecurities with our relationship. I was on autopilot. It went on and on and on. I was the complete antithesis of STFU. It was as bad as bad could be. I didn't cry but I might as well h…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 07:30 AM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/17 01:45 AM
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for the love of jesus, NEVER ask her why you're not having sex That was so fucking stupid of me and it could have went very, very badly for me. This is not a mistake I will ever make again. the dynamic of you asking is what you're trying to kill. I never ask for sex anymore. I used to before coming here but it's not how I initiate anymore. But here is what is conflicting: When she rejects me, it's the very simple "Ok. Tomorrow?" or "Ok. Later?" which more often than not gets me good results. Her…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 07:04 PM
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While I am not saying this was planned I am saying it was no accident. I think you are absolutely right in that both parties are always at least partially responsible. In this case, this is shit I have to own myself. I was in charge of the precautions and I threw caution to the wind on Day 18 of her cycle thinking I was in the all clear. The line didn't start showing up on the pregnancy tests until 4-5 days after her period should have started which is a pretty good indicator that she ovulated 4…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 06:48 PM
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Lots of really good points. I really like what you said about how alphas have emotion too. It's really easy to be cool and stoic if you don't feel anything. It's much harder and more impressive if you do feel it. One of the things I'm proudest of is, after a lifetime of showing my emotions, after a lifetime of being made to believe that this was a good thing, I don't do that anymore. I stopped that the day I discovered TRP/MRP and unplugged. The emotions are still there. I have them incredibly s…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 04:28 PM
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Yesterday, I worked toward fully embracing the fact that she would almost certainly reject me again but that I still had to try anyway. I thought about the Dread Pirate Roberts at the end of each day telling Wesley, "Good job, get some sleep, I'll probably kill you in the morning." Like Sisyphus pushing the boulder up the hill over and over, but doing it by choice. Having a game plan for what I would do immediately after she rejected me helped, plus 90 minutes of lifting, 20 minutes on the punch…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 04:01 PM
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This is what I'm struggling with and I need to own it. I see her everyday and she looks so hot to me and I want to fuck her and 99% of the time I can't because she won't let me. I feel like I'm back in high school, always letting myself be friend zoned, wanting some chick so badly but having absolutely no chance with her. And so I resent her for it. I hate her for it. I want to go fuck somebody else just to spite her, which is not currently an option. I'm so angry. She doesn't have to give me an…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 05:25 PM
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Thanks. Well said. In terms of actionable feedback, this is extremely valuable. I do appreciate all the advice and support I've gotten here, and especially the kicks in the ass.
/r/askMRP18/07/17 06:36 PM
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I suppose the argument can be made that I'm overthinking things right now. I can concentrate on not getting emotional, not getting butthurt, maintaining frame, and not worrying so much how I initiate as long as I'm confident and OI while I continue to read and bust my ass. Sad to say but I'm probably already in the best shape I've been in since I was like 12. I will strongly consider a personal trainer if I stall or do not start to see significant progress. Right now, the numbers on the scale an…
/r/askMRP18/07/17 03:59 PM
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I appreciate the advice. Yes, obviously I am fucking impatient and I know I'm being a pain in the ass. I wasted 8+ years. I know it's going to take a while and a shit ton of work to get to where I need to be and I'm fine with that. The reason I am asking about shit tests and the reason I'm asking about initiation is because these are 2 areas where actualizing what I am learning is not so cut and dry. Kino? Got it. Game? Got it. Get ripped? Got it. STFU? Got it. Shit tests? Very difficult to dete…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 06:02 PM
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Got her pregnant. SOAB. This will be child #4. Best we can tell is that she must have ovulated very late on a day I threw caution to the wind. All on me. It will be fine. Externally, I am projecting nothing but excitement, enthusiasm, and complete confidence that everything is going to be great. I'm planning for every eventuality, except for twins. That is one eventuality I would be completely unprepared for, holy shit. Some unique challenges are ahead through the pregnancy, but some opportuniti…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/17 02:36 PM
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I can. She just doesn't emulate these behaviors. She doesn't ask me to do things unless it's to pick something up on the way home from work (way easier for me to do than for her to throw the kids in the car and go to the store). She starts getting ready for shit way in advance and I never have to wait for her. She rarely gives me crap or attitude. She is just very easy going. She is not very emotional. She has always been this way. Maybe she didn't need to initiate shit tests in the past because…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 02:27 PM
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I don't tell her no because she almost never asks for anything. It's not in her nature. She does offer suggestions. We bought our first house a year ago; once in a while she will say, "It might be cool if we did this" or "We should paint this room" but she doesn't ask me to do it. She doesn't really ask me to do anything aside from extremely reasonable things like "Could you pick up celery on the way home so I can make you that thing you really like?"
/r/askMRP15/07/17 01:09 PM
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She is very rational. No emotional outbursts, no histrionics, no drama, no significant mood swings from her period (also no birth control). Also, she has never been that romantic or affectionate; she has never gotten cuddly after sex. Going back to when I met her when we were both 20, she was the hot girl goofing off with a big group of guys where we work. She looks and acts very feminine; she likes feminine crap on TV; she is very submissive; she pretty much has all other classic feminine quali…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 12:57 PM
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I've been lifting for the past 5-6 weeks, about 1.5-2 hours in the basement every other day working the free weights. I also do the punching bag pretty aggressively. I track every repetition on every exercise so I can always tell whether I'm getting stronger. On every off day, and sometimes on lifting days if I have time, I do cardio at the Y. I have about 50 pounds of fat I have to lose while building the muscle.
/r/askMRP14/07/17 10:40 PM
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Similar thing happened to me yesterday. I'm 5 weeks in; I've seen some signs of progress but don't think I've been complimented like this yet. It wasn't really a compliment; there was a random encounter with an attractive woman I know from work/kids' school and LTR said something to the effect of "I think she likes you." I wasn't prepared for something like that. Instincts kicked in and I said, "Can you blame her?" Then I grabbed a bottle of water and went off to fix something. I spent at least …
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:02 PM
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Thanks. That is really good advice. Externally, my singular focus has been exercising and working out. Next comes fixing shit, getting shit accomplished, and controlling the kids. Internally, my singular focus has been her. And that shit has to show whether I think it does or not. I need to not just act like she's less of a focus for me but actually make her less of a focus for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:22 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Good article. Requesting might not have been the right word. I never phrase it as a question anymore. For 8 years it was "Can we have sex?" Now it's "I want it/you want it, let's go." Feels kind of different, but to me it's still requesting since she is still the gatekeeper. Yes to gaming, kino, being cocky, playful, DGAF, and maybe all of this was a factor the past couple of weeks, but I need to work on all of these more. Yes I will STFU, take it slow, get to work, try to…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:03 PM
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