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RaughKee/r/askTRP26/11/18 04:14 AM
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I went to a therapist during my divorce. It was an incredibly traumatic time and I needed help. It helped a lot, I keep meaning to find another therapist (mine retired) and go in more infrequently for a "tune-up". If you invest some effort into finding the right therapist, are willing to open up and be truthful you will get a lot out of it.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 02:27 PM
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Your goals are way off. You should not be seeking marriage, you should be seeking to get close to a variety of women so that you can start to understand what qualities you are looking for. You can meet women in a variety of ways, social circle, bar, online, day-game. Use what works for you, always be a willing to seize that opportunity.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 02:21 PM
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The soy boy’s gf was getting railed by some dude while he was justifying his soft flabby existence to Joe.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 03:28 AM
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I don't think this has ever come up on this early. You're overthinking things. Very few women will press for details of your life in the beginning. If you keep seeing someone then it is only natural for her to start to ask about your past, don't be an evasive weirdo just answer with something that is truthful and vague; "there hasn't been anyone special in the past 7 years."
/r/askTRP27/03/19 05:50 PM
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The vast majority of women do not appreciate overt, crude language. Be covert, learn to tease and be playful with your language. "Old enough to know better." - perfect.
/r/askTRP14/02/19 03:48 PM
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Text only for logistics hasn't worked for me. I'm a 50/50 parent, which usually only lets me see someone every couple of weeks. It's an attention economy and if you aren't triggering someone's attention they lose interest. My text game is balls, so I'm curious about what other people have to say.
/r/askTRP09/01/19 04:16 PM
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With all things digital it's an attention economy. I've become very aware of this over the past year using mostly digital means to initiate dating. You need to look at your schedule, start the conversation about 2-3 days out from when you have time to meet, be fun flirty and light, go for the physical meet up. Have a couple options available for dates/times. If the first meetup goes well, you need to reinforce it within a fairly short (week or less) period to cement anything. All those who say "…
/r/askTRP04/01/19 04:01 PM
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More like a faggot than when you're blowing dudes in the truck stop?
/r/askTRP10/12/18 08:34 PM
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He is, I met him in the train station bathroom. It's cool, I said "no-homo."
/r/askTRP10/12/18 08:25 PM
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I love it, incorporate a little dirty talk in there and it's awesome. Tell her what kind of a bad girl she is.
/r/askTRP10/12/18 08:17 PM
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Don't worry about u/vandaalen, he's highly argumentative and more than a little off centre. I've got $5 says he's an overweight keyboard jockey who sits in his mom's basement and jerks off to his dominant Red-Pilled alter ego.
/r/askTRP10/12/18 07:29 PM
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I'm in my mid-forties and doing better than I ever did in my twenties or thirties, men age pretty gracefully if they look after themselves and if you have confidence and frame which gets better with time, you can really have what you want. Am I smashing 21 year old Victoria Secret models, no. Do I have some cool women in my life, yes.
/r/askTRP07/12/18 04:09 PM
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There are a ton of great skills you can learn in the military, I served. Joining young and getting a free education out of it is also a huge bonus. You will have to give up some freedom, and it’s not for everyone. The leadership training given to military officers is better than anything available on the outside and after your service you can easily translate that into a good civilian career.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 02:50 AM
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Keep up the work. See if you can't start to limit video games for more social endeavors and intellectual interests. Use your goofy nature to develop and hone your sense of humor. Enjoy women, this sub can sometimes make guys too negative towards them, they are wonderful flawed creatures.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 09:53 PM
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This is going to take a lot of time and effort. You are at the bottom of the social hierarchy, right now you need to work on that. Currently you are not competitive, that doesn't mean that the 21 year old you will be the same. The 35 year old you could be a millionaire playboy. Start the work, get a few close friends, develop yourself. Do not let your current social status demoralize you. Most of the popular people in my high school are now old and fat with lives of quiet desperation. Some of th…
/r/askTRP04/12/18 06:07 PM
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You are at the bottom of the social hierarchy at a period of your life when that hierarchy is the most cruel and you are the least resilient. I'm not going to sugar coat it, things will suck. You have two options, give up and be a bitter lonely human or look to the future where you can live a meaningful and satisfying life. Choose option 2. Work on building a small social circle, a couple good friends will make things a lot better. Get away from social media, it isn't going to be a good space fo…
/r/askTRP04/12/18 04:42 PM
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This, women are not overt communicators. Try a little escalation the next time you’re out with her.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 04:19 AM
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If she’s attracted to you she just hinted at a casual thing. Has she given you IOIs?
/r/askTRP01/12/18 01:20 PM
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If you listen to them, women will tell you exactly who they are. This one just said she’s emotionally unstable. That means any kind of relationship (plate/fwb/etc) with her will also be unstable, she will flake and bring drama. Buyer beware.
/r/askTRP30/11/18 02:17 AM
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Lol, unbelievable. The great works of fiction are probably the most important conduits to wisdom we have!
/r/askTRP29/11/18 10:59 PM
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I’ve always rotated between fiction and non-fiction. Great literature can give you a new perspective on life/existence. Don’t force feed it to yourself though, sometimes relaxing with a good mystery, sci-fi, fantasy, or thriller is a great way to spend an evening. Keep a list of books you want to read, both fiction and non-fiction. Try to vary up the subject matter or genre.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 10:57 PM
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My point is that I’ve got tons of flaws and am still winning. You’re using these faggot terms like “looksmaxing”, behaving like the male version of some thot. Learn to be a man. BTW I fucked up a lot, it’s part of life, it builds character and wisdom.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 04:16 PM
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Kid, I’m 45. I have hair that grows out of my nose,grey pubes, and some massive scars on my stomach. I’m ok looking, really good looking for my age, but for some of the women I see in their mid-twenties I’m not anything special looks-wise. My ex gets a ton of my monthly income, and I don’t buy woman gifts or take them for fancy meals. What is it that I have? I can tease, laugh at their games, dominate them like they desire. It’s still a work in progress, but every interaction is a learning exper…
/r/askTRP29/11/18 04:02 PM
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Women put on makeup and endlessly fret over every little detail. It’s a feminine trait. Men need to be aware of our appearance but our value is in our character. Looks help and on dating apps they are critical, but you will see tons of regular looking men with amazing looking women.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 03:52 PM
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Once you finally put the pieces of the puzzle together, women become no problem. It’s natural abundance and it resonates through every interaction you have, women will find you attractive because you are no longer needy.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 12:05 PM
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WTF is this incel shit, looksmax?!?! Lift, pick a style that matches your lifestyle and learn to be masculine. If you have a shitty face, stay off of Tinder and learn to use your personality in the real world.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 12:02 PM
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Set specific small goals, that you can measure your performance against. Look at yourself and be critical about your weaknesses, then set little daily tasks to improve upon. Don’t create some mountain, like “be more social,” what the fuck does that even mean? Be specific, like have 5 meaningful conversations with people or invite one colleague to a non-work activity, beer, poker game, etc... Then just improve, be self critical, identify areas of required growth, set new actionable discreet goals…
/r/askTRP28/11/18 09:00 PM
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Half the responses here are written by insecure high school boys. STIs happen, the responsible thing to do is tell your partners. Your plate did that and will likely be more careful in the future. If she’s down when everything’s cleared up I don’t see why you wouldn’t see her. Go get tested yourself and if you are positive then tell your partners.
/r/askTRP28/11/18 03:34 PM
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Of course you don’t and why would you want to. Crowds of twenty-something’s are painfully irritating when you are more mature. That doesn’t mean you can’t have twenty-something year old women. You just need to find the ones that aren’t into those scenes. They are also the ones looking for something different and more refined and much more likely to want to spend time with an older guy.
/r/askTRP28/11/18 02:37 AM
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I’m a little kinky, like my women - good girl outside the bedroom, dirty whore inside the bedroom. You need to learn dominance and make her crave it. You are thinking with your forebrain and need to engage her limbic system, that’s done with game. Read the Sex God Method.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 11:18 PM
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You’ve gone full autist. Never discuss sex analytically with women. Learn to be a great lover and make her want it. Never get too comfortable and always be ready to move on if she loses attraction. Use a little dread game to keep her focused on keeping you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 11:10 PM
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Women have interests, men have interests; most of these are banal. If you want dates/plates/LTRs with women who are more interesting, choose deeper women.
/r/askTRP27/11/18 06:04 PM
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I'm 45, I lift and look decent. Most men my age are old looking, I frequently pull women in their mid-twenties and have a really easy time with women in their 30s. As long as you stay fit, have a cool lifestyle and dress well, you can slay for a very long time.
/r/askTRP27/11/18 04:26 PM
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She has other options and is waiting for the better ones to hit her up, if they do she's busy, if they don't she's free. Don't worry about it, your goal is to maximize the interaction the next time you see her to make you the number one option. You need to have other options yourself so that when she flakes you go down the list.
/r/askTRP27/11/18 04:21 PM
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And make friends. I think this is the key. My current social circle is rather limited, which is what happens to married people in their forties, and all friends are busy with their lives. I'm going to need to get out and meet people, make some new friends.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 02:22 PM
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You're still in the 'NEED a woman to complete you' phase. No, I've accepted the reality that this is an illusion. This is what's difficult. I guess I have to work on my social circle. At this stage of life, most friends are very busy and you just don't have the companionship with people that was available in your teens and twenties, people get busy and social activities slow down very dramatically.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 02:18 PM
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You are too polite and straight laced. Loosen up a bit, learn to joke and tease, your friend can make them laugh. You can’t elicit any emotion from them.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 04:21 AM
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You have to practice "being cool." That means, don't go out as some over-intense creeper that scares the hell out of women, be the guy that teases a little, touches them on the arm when joking, looks them in the eye with a hint of sexuality. Isn't afraid to take them by the hand. Almost all women are looking for "that guy," if they are on a date for you they are desperately hoping that you'll be him. If they are at the bar, they all want to have him give them some attention. Don't overthink it t…
/r/askTRP23/11/18 03:40 PM
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I can be very guilty of this. It's politeness and underlying that is a fear of rejection. If you are polite and pleasant you won't get rejected immediately, she will usually be polite and pleasant back. Then she will go make out with some other dude who triggered her on a more emotional/sexual level. You (and I) need to get more in touch with our hind-brain and how to be genuine, masculine, and unapologetically sexual. Funny thing is, I can and have done this in bursts and the response is amazin…
/r/askTRP23/11/18 02:27 PM
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If you lift with a good program and eat healthy, you’re 95% of the way there. All the rest, macros, supplements, etc ... That last 5% is pretty minimal, and expensive.
/r/askTRP23/11/18 12:01 AM
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Sounds like a good experience regardless. One thing to do is a little push and pull. You can't drive straight toward sex, especially with younger women, they need to be teased a bit.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 04:00 PM
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Nice work man.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 11:32 AM
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Always send a short text, "I had a great time last night, hope you got enough sleep" or something. To which I get a reply like "Me too (stupid emoji) I'm sooo tired today (more emojis). You've now reduced buyers remorse and have solid proof if she decides to retro-history the night into some sort of assault. Don't overthink this "alpha" stuff. You can then relax and hit her up again in a few days when you've got something that you want to do with her.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 06:31 PM
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Given those two options, go with option number two, don't be afraid to have her flake. I'd never want to be at a club with a Tinder date, very little can go right a lot can go wrong. Even if you don't have abundance, you need to operate under that paradigm. I'm finding my best success with Tinder/Bumble happens when I'm not willing to put in too much effort. Last week I went 2/2 on Tinder, just invited them to a local bar for a beer and then after a couple drinks asked if they wanted to come bac…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 05:59 PM
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Logistics are good. You don't really have to do anything ridiculous, don't be afraid to touch her a bit on the arm, tease her a bit, have a reason to go back to your place and make the invite natural. You'd be surprised at how easy these things are if you feel natural doing them.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 04:33 PM
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It’s called moderation boy. Now back to bible camp before your mommy finds out you’re using the Internet again.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 04:47 PM
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Hey look, the resurrected Nancy Reagan as a Red Pill dude. Are you going to fry an egg for us too?
/r/askTRP11/11/18 04:40 PM
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You will end up in a world of hurt, these girls are emotionally disordered. The pain that BPDs inflict on those close to them is not something I would wish on my worst enemy. The fact that you are considering this as an option shows a deep lack of frame on your part. Go make yourself a better man.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 03:50 PM
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I love that quote, sometimes falsely attributed to Sir Winston Churchill, it is thought to be originally by John Adams...
/r/askTRP29/10/18 01:58 PM
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The second a guy says he's a "feminist" there is a huge chance he's using that to cover up creepy and misogynist behavior. Positive masculinity is about being a proud and unapologetic man.
/r/TheRedPill28/09/18 03:38 PM
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Likely less of an STD risk than your standard night club THOT. Deciding whether to be with married women is up to the individual, your call. Red Pill is about sexual strategy, in this case, the husband is a beta cuck. If OP doesn't go there, another dude will.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 02:15 PM
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I have privilege and I acknowledge it wholly Those aren't the words of a free thinking man, stop using them. You did what you did and ended up where you ended through your own efforts. You could have decided to play video games and smoke weed in your parent's basement, you didn't. No one gets to start at the same spot and no one gets to finish at the same spot, work for what you have and be proud of the work that you have done to be who you are and the work that you will do to better yourself.
/r/TheRedPill25/09/18 06:49 PM
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You shouldn't be getting to the point of making vows without being perfectly clear what you need from a partner and what other needs you have. If you want a side piece or side pieces your main LTR should know that and be ok with it.
/r/TheRedPill21/09/18 08:19 PM
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It's not uncomfortable unless you have shitty technique and scrape with your teeth.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:23 PM
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Secretly you want to suck my dick don't you?
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:17 PM
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You are a sad little man.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:05 PM
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Aren't you precious?
/r/askTRP21/09/18 04:57 PM
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By having to say that shit you are already the most insecure cuck I've seen on Reddit this week. In fact, you win the pathetic little faggot award. Congratulations!
/r/askTRP21/09/18 04:52 PM
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Add to that list datingover30, I got banned and I was being super sanitized and wasn't mentioning RP, I was just trying to carefully hint at the truth. It isn't worth it, let them fail and use our knowledge to win. If they really want to find the truth they'll find it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 02:14 PM
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People will fight, sometimes to the death, to defend an ideology they cling to, however misguided. This is why you don't talk about the RP, even when you can see a friend or family member that needs to know about it, you're more likely to lose that friendship than to help that person.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 02:09 PM
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I had a pretty bad deadlifting injury. Went to Physiotherapy after about a month of real discomfort and she sorted me out in a couple weeks. There is still some tenderness but I’m back doing squats and deadlifts. Get to Physio!
/r/askTRP15/09/18 12:02 PM
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So you're against binge eating too... Definitely, eat when hungry not too much. You should never feel gross after eating or feel that you "have to" finish your plate. As far as specific breaks in eating and periods, I've never researched it and don't know what the literature has to say about it. Personally, I eat a small meal right when I wake up to start my metabolism. I'm not a snacker (which is where most people get their extra useless calories that make them fat over the years) so I would li…
/r/askMRP10/09/18 08:01 PM
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If it doesn't do anything or just causes discomfort, then why bother. Also, there is good evidence that shows most people over-cheat on non-fasting days and do worse on overall calorie control. So yeah, not big on fads that don't show any real benefit. My mum is a (now retired) dietician, she always educated us to eat healthy meals and think very critically about the fads and misinformation. Diet and exercise are the worst for this stuff, there is so much pseudoscience and anecdotal "evidence" b…
/r/askMRP10/09/18 07:42 PM
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Here is a decent summary of the actual science of fasting, which is basically a shrug (i.e. not enough evidence to support any claims, may be good for a little weight loss, good for mice as long as they didn't overeat on non-fasting days, no control to show it was any better than caloric control over all days vs. fasting on some). https://sciencebasedmedicine.org/intermittent-fasting/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3680567/ If you are hitting the gym though, those nutrients are nee…
/r/askMRP10/09/18 07:25 PM
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The two biggest areas of BS are diet and exercise, I'm just trying to help you stop spreading it. Learn or don't learn.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 06:58 PM
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Also, consider throwing some 24h fasts during the week. Only other way to restrict calories without metabolism damage Bro-science. There is no real scientific evidence that fasts do anything other than make you hungry for a day. Don't bother.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 06:35 PM
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She can't take the kids and move somewhere far away. The courts almost always land on the children's lives not being interrupted, that means schools, friends, sports. Go get yourself a good lawyer, not an asshole lawyer because judges get tired of them, but a very competent lawyer. Listen to the lawyer and get a divorce.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 06:27 PM
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You’re a half-wit, we’re done here.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/18 01:17 PM
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eth·ics ˈeTHiks noun 1. moral principles that govern a person's behavior or the conducting of an activity. Ones ethnics are what happens when no one is watching. In this case, he did the ethical and the practical thing. I can tell by what you’ve written that you are either very young or haven’t spent much time studying philosophy. Better yourself a bit before you do end up in a position of responsibility.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/18 11:33 AM
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Yeah, but if it's transnational, there isn't much in the way of passion. I'm in a new relationship now, peak passion, the sex is awesome. We can't wait to tear each other's clothes off and go at it. Escorts don't do that, they fake it and sad lonely dudes buy it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 01:18 AM
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in·ti·ma·cy ˈin(t)əməsē noun close familiarity or friendship; closeness. (Doesn't have to be sexual)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 01:05 AM
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That's still Intimacy and Commitment.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 01:00 AM
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I was looking at this theory from another sub today and had the following thoughts. The triangle is wrong, there is no Passion-Commitment vertex that discludes Intimacy. Try to even picture that relationship, it doesn't exist. What I see is a process, Passion leads to Intimacy (romantic love) which over time and shared mutual interest leads to Commitment; however, this is at the expense of Passion. Now you have the Companion relationship of every long term marriage I've ever witnessed. Passion a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 12:36 AM
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If sex is an exchange, you are her beta and the frequency will be decreasing while the price increases. A woman will crawl over land mines and barb wire to be with an alpha.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/18 07:58 PM
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Man, you have no idea how to be a professional or the code of ethics one is required to uphold in a position of responsibility. I've never been a teacher but was a military officer and OP was absolutely obliged and in the right to do what he did. He has a family to feed and is in no way responsible for the idiotic actions of his colleague. The second he knew he had to take action. The action that he took was about as decent as it gets.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/18 07:33 PM
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If you are repulsed by the thought of being intimate with her, then don't go there. For sex to be fun you have to be attracted to her, she doesn't have to be mind blowing but keep going with your binary rating, if she's a 0 then avoid.
/r/askTRP29/08/18 01:36 PM
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The intensity of the relationship, her relationship with her mother. The threat of self harm (big one).
/r/askTRP22/08/18 06:08 PM
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Sounds like she's Cluster B. Keep up the no contact, you dodged a bullet.
/r/askTRP22/08/18 04:49 PM
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Here's a piece of advice: learn to write. There are gorillas who know sign language that can communicate better than you.
/r/askTRP21/08/18 05:28 PM
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You define your own reality, and in yours it costs money to date women. In mine it doesn't. I'm much older than you have a great job and date women who also have great careers and usually expect fancy dinners or nights out from the beta men that orbit them. It costs me the occasional drink and having a few bottles of wine around the house, that is it. As far as orbiting your roommate, yes stop it, she's using you as her emotional whore.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 06:12 PM
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She'd be out banging the next Alpha dude, totally not his problem. This isn't a morality sub this is a sexual strategy sub and OP's doing it right.
/r/askTRP03/08/18 08:33 PM
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Stay the fuck away from women with Cluster-B personality disorders. Run. Run. Run. Trust me. She will fuck you up!
/r/askTRP27/07/18 03:17 PM
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Your turn is over. Move on and FFS don't be friends with her, she's likely with another guy already. Don't waste your college years at a party school pining for your lost girlfriend. Take a little time to get over her and move on to game other girls.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 08:55 PM
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It shouldn't take that long (20% of the relationship), I just got out of a 10 year marriage, spent 3 months a complete mess and another 3 or 4 months figuring shit out in monk mode. You can't skip that shit, it's necessary and healthy. Use it to your advantage, make sure you're lifting and getting your sleep, it'll help fight the natural depression and anxiety that goes with this and the side effect of being in great shape when you finally start to game other girls is huge. Once through all that…
/r/askTRP25/07/18 08:20 PM
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+1 for truth. It does pass, remain stoic and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/18 05:58 PM
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Enjoy your life, woman are a great compliment to that. Use the Red Pill to understand their motivations and behaviors. Structure your life accordingly. BTW having children and raising them well is a very noble goal, you just have to know with no illusions the risks you are taking in the current environment and how to mitigate some of those risks.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 03:14 PM
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I was walking with a girl on a date across a sandy area, she was having some difficulty in her heals. I scooped her up like she was a child (yes lifting is good). Instantly changed the nature of the date and shot her sexual interest level through the roof.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 08:41 PM
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Live and learn brother. You missed one.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 05:51 PM
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You needed to separate them and escalate. It's up to you as the man to initiate sexuality and very few girls will get sexual in front of their friend let alone their sister. Take her to another room to make a drink or show her something, leave her friend/sister with your friend in the other room and try to escalate.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 02:46 PM
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Don't be too stoned or drunk., it fucks with your performance and/or desire. If you are actually attracted to her every escalation point feels great. Doesn't sound like you were. You don't become a magically different person after you have sex, don't sweat it, find someone you want to be with and then go for it.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 03:33 PM
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You've fucked yourself up by getting way to mental about this stuff. Most of PUA is garbage tricks for autists. There is no recipe to an interaction. Women are human and not particularly confusing, they want sex and comfort just like us, they are more indirect in their communications and have a slightly different sexual strategy, which you should be aware of from the sidebar. Meet, flirt, escalate, score. Get out of your head and be a little more natural. You have women on a huge pedestal and it…
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 03:11 PM
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I'm 5'9", better than average looking but no square jawed heartbreaker, didn't lift till a couple years ago (in my 40s), was pretty blue pilled, and had a lot of confidence issues with women. I still got laid a bunch in my late teens and early 20s. You are way overthinking this stuff. Woman are around, most are truly DTF if you show masculinity and some sexuality. Meet girl, flirt with girl, some will be into it some won't, if she's in know the signs and keep escalating. Stop thinking so much an…
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 01:57 PM
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Always, and a couple condoms.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 02:50 PM
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The second she says that, she's externalizing that she's thinking about having sex and doesn't want to be seen as a slut. This is the point where I excuse myself and pop a viagra, but you're young so not necessary. Ignore and continue escalating.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/18 09:13 PM
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I've spent some time thinking of this because I'm fairly new to TRP and revert to being too nice frequently. The thing is I am not a dark triad type and trying to be that guy would be really disingenuous and detectable making me less attractive. I came to the conclusion that these two items are what I need to work on. 1. Be more sexual, women love sex and they expect you to be flirty and sexual, the second you do this you'll be shocked at the responses. Talk about sex, hint at sex, look at them …
/r/askTRP05/07/18 02:06 PM
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Let him drift away for the time being, you are in different places right now and he is envious of you which is unhealthy. Don't be a dick about it, and if he reaches out in time you may reconsider this. You describe him as a brother and shared a significant portion of your life and formative years with each other. You may both be in a better place with respect to each other in the future.
/r/askTRP04/07/18 06:44 PM
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The rules state my wizard clearly gets to make a saving throw.
/r/askTRP04/07/18 06:04 PM
2

Half this sub is full of autistic basement dwellers who rattle off TRP theory like they used to quote dungeons and dragons statistics. You are bang on here, give her a little comfort and get back in the saddle. The best part is that your "apology" isn't even a real one.
/r/askTRP04/07/18 04:44 PM
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True and the societal shaming for premarital sex was massive, I'm just saying it didn't stop people and there were plenty of shotgun weddings or girls going to different cities to "live with their aunt."
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 04:29 PM
2

I'm going to disagree with the whole "burn it down and start over" approach. Change needs to be incremental and realistic. The trick to being a better human is to be honestly critical with who you are currently and come up with an achievable set of goals for who you want to be. This process should never end. As far as the sexual strategy and tactics go that's all good. Getting better with all the skills and understanding the objective truth behind your interactions will help build some confidenc…
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 04:26 PM
2

Yes, that's where some of my thinking on this was formed. If you look objectively at our behavior as a species, we are not monogamous biologically and can only be monogamous if we use our higher mind to override our more primal instincts. This made sense in our more natural environment, the advent of technology has changed our environment and we have to create the appropriate social structures to be congruent with our new reality.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 03:44 PM
5

There was plenty of sex before marriage, it was just frowned upon and kept secret.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 12:49 PM
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In a tribal setting long term monogamy wasn't as necessary because the tribe was the family and children were the future of the tribe. Monogamy was a later adaptation to agriculture and land ownership where paternity became more of an issue due to inheritance. It looks very much like we are moving to a new, yet to be defined paradigm where monogamy is most definitely broken, the government and courts have stepped in to enforce financial support but no one has figured out how to give children the…
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 12:25 PM
2

I can't do the uglies anymore it makes me ill, however in my long distant youth I was more capable of draaging the bottom of the barrel in time of need. You don't have to wait, just tone down the teasing and negs, be more complimentary with the homely and/or fat girls. Being a cocky teasing asshole works well on hotties because they aren't used to it and it makes them re-evaluate their internal SMV comparison calculus. The notties know that your SMV is higher, make your push-pull more neutral-pu…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 02:54 PM
1

So she's doing ok financially, but looking for emotional and domestic support. If you think about it, it makes sense, as a half time father that week is crazy busy with almost no time for myself, it's all about my boy. Luckily I have the next week off to recharge. Most single moms who don't share custody don't have that and as a result can be needy. I think that's what's good about the divorced or separated women with shared custody, they have that week off to themselves and they can act a lot l…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 08:02 PM
3

This is an age thing. Single mothers in their twenties are usually full time moms with shitty jobs and desperate for a partner to help out. Once you get a little older, and get pickier with who you see you can find some great divorced or separated woman who share custody of their kids, have careers, friends, hobbies and just want some fun and affection when the schedules match.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 01:19 PM
4

Best advice I ever heard was this: "If you think you can kiss her, you probably could of 30 minutes ago." Also, I've never had a woman freak out when I try, they turn their head a bit and give you a cheek or something. If that happens just laugh and be cool, wink and tell her that as a man it's your job to try and you'll be trying again. When you get to that kiss location, just take her hand, turn her towards you look her right in the eyes and kiss her. It takes a ton of courage to do this, beca…
/r/askTRP27/06/18 02:00 PM
4

Knowing the demographics is pretty key. As on older guy (mid-forties) who has no hope of meeting anyone under mid-twenties using Tinder, there are a few things to watch out for. My experience so far has shown me this: - Woman in their early thirties (no kids) - looking to get off the CC and lock down a beta for the future, but can still be fun. - Woman in their late thirties (no kids) - beware the baby rabies, these woman have their biological clocks screaming at them to procreate. - Woman in th…
/r/askTRP27/06/18 01:36 PM
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She's trying to qualify herself as an intelligent and different from the rest of the hotties there, I'd take something like that as a conversational IOI.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/18 02:57 PM
2

Confidence is not needy, he was aloof enough throughout the night to show outcome independence.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/18 03:18 PM
1

You should be looking to hit it in two dates, three on the outside. After that she's thinking your an asexual puss and that't why she's buffing up her profile for some dude who will bang her.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 04:43 PM
1

You're making excuses for putting this one on a pedestal. You haven't cemented anything with her yet and she's shining up her profile for more/better cock.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 04:39 PM
1

Try faking a number of premature ejaculations in a row, then after your done get all clingy and cry a bit. Relationship done.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 04:37 PM
2

Worried about what? You're not coming at this from a position of abundance. If you have plenty of women in your life, the behaviour of one becomes inconsequential, she needs to prove herself to you. Sounds like a little oneitus is creeping in. Game other women.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 05:22 PM
1

You came off as needy and stalker-ish. It showed over-investment on your behalf and that is very unattractive. Hold your cool next time.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 05:16 PM
2

The AF/BB category is pretty broad, with the intention of helping us understand that subservient (beta) behaviours engage a woman's provider-seeking instinct while lowering her primal sexual instincts for that man. Women are people and they click with other people that interest them, you can be alpha and do well with a large cross-section of woman in general while still failing to attract many other women who are looking for different things. TRP helps you succeed with women statistically, not w…
/r/askTRP21/06/18 03:10 PM
2

To be clear, you projected many of the "relationship" expectations on her. Consider that you could have been fully RP upon meeting her and had her as a perfectly good plate. You wanted the exclusivity and the relationship, she finally acquiesced. This isn't AWALT or female behavior, guys do the exact same thing. Be RP, plate them, enjoy what they have to offer you, vet them, promote accordingly. Commitment is a man's to bequeath.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/18 01:48 PM
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It's a funny conundrum, the chicks you aren't attracted to bring out the better DGAF attitude and you become more attractive. You are likely, at least at the subconscious level, showing too much interest in the ones you are attracted to and it's lowering your SMV.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 09:02 PM
2

Holly savage white trash Batman.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 08:53 AM
1

Join a co-ed volleyball league. Do stuff through Meetup
/r/askTRP04/06/18 09:42 AM
1

Are you saying that woman won’t jump to a better beta (more resources, better future, more caring)?
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 09:39 AM
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You need to work on your charisma. Successful men are charismatic, look to build new social circles with people who share your ambition and interests. As children we make friends out of proximity as adults we choose friends out of coherence to our goals, interests, and lifestyle.
/r/askTRP31/05/18 03:38 PM
4

Relax. If you pull woman off their pedestal and just talk to them as normal people then this becomes easier. Practice having conversations with random people, it's not hard. Start off situationally, comment on something interesting or odd in the environment. - I love the coffee here - The bran muffins remind me of my childhood - Did you read his other book? - What kind of cheese is this - Can you tell me where to find the marachino cherries, they don't seem to be near the baking stuff Practice t…
/r/askTRP31/05/18 02:39 PM
5

Exercise. Get a good night's sleep. Eat better food and plan your menu in advance of grocery shopping, having good food and a plan to cook it helps eliminate the desire to cave for junk food. Eliminate porn and cut your autoerotic behaviour to once per week. Build a schedule and stick to it, busy successful people have full calendars and accomplish all of their tasks through discipline and time management. Keep a running list of all the things you need to do and constantly work through it, accom…
/r/askTRP31/05/18 01:44 PM
2

This is one of the main reasons TRP advises you to lift. Not only are you increasing your confidence and SMV, you're losing body fat and gaining muscle mass which increases Test production. Higher Test levels motivate you to approach more and escalate.
/r/askTRP31/05/18 01:37 PM
1

I don't know, he's from Europe, he's 15 and never bought a car... Just Google "car dealership legislation us"
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 01:31 PM
0

Chess analogy, we now crown you "King of the Nerds."
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 01:09 PM
1

One of the biggest negative correlations to birth rate was a Led Zeppelin son. You're reading to much into this.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 01:06 PM
0

I guess it depends on the venue and quantity of other fish in the sea, but why would you waste your time with a woman who is politely hinting that she isn't interested. Move on to one who is, it's more efficient in the end.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 12:42 PM
1

I agree, I did sales years ago as a young guy and many of those skills translate directly to game. It's not a job that I'd want to do for a lifetime but I appreciate the experience.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 11:39 AM
1

No, car dealerships are so built into the legislation (mostly at the state level) that it is almost impossible to sell cars through any other mechanism.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 11:38 AM
1

Men are still the gatekeepers of commitment, it's just that woman are looking for security and comfort from that commitment and will branch swing for either a) more security and comfort, or b) tingles.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 11:33 AM
3

I think you did a good job communicating your boundaries. If you enjoy her company but require that sex be a part of the relationship, then those are your conditions. If you also require that the relationship be non-exclusive, then that is a condition and you need to subtly communicate it. If she is unwilling to meet your clearly communicated conditions then the relationship won't work (you'll end up in her frame and dancing to her tune and miserable for it).
/r/TheRedPill29/05/18 01:01 PM
1

Pursue what you are interested in and have aptitude for. I’m an engineer, but I started out studying physics because it interested me. University is great if academic studies are your thing, one of my good friends loved history and pursued a bachelors then masters (doing that abroad) he later got a law degree and is very successful. Another friend loved English lit, now is a principal in a prestigious private school. The trades are great in that you work with your hands and can own a successful …
/r/askTRP26/05/18 07:56 AM
5

Texting is bullshit, possibly one of the worst forms of communication when it comes to dating/attraction. There is no nuance and no body language, your thoughts are shortened and there is no inflection or tonal variation to your words. It's just a way for women to feel validated and get attention. Push for a live meetup in a few lines (4-6), stay brief. You can't build attraction through text, you can only lose it. If she isn't interested, next. First meetup can be in a public, safe place. Most …
/r/askTRP25/05/18 04:35 PM
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That's a kink, not a shit test. Enjoy!
/r/askTRP24/05/18 02:42 PM
1

Use her if it is the best way to get into the US. Do not, I repeat do not spend another dime, peso, or euro on her. She is a whore. If she gets you the papers, then come over. As your sponsor she is responsible for you, leverage that.
/r/askTRP23/05/18 01:11 AM
2

Wow, the number of negative responses here are sad. If open relationships are your thing, then enjoy. To pull this off you have to have game and hold frame, not for the beginner to be sure. If this floats your boat, go for it. There is a lot of fun to be had in this world, but you need to come at it from a position of abundance. You can run open dread right, hold frame and it helps getting any possible oneitis off of the pedestal. Also, people at places like Hedo really know how to party. If you…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/18 01:22 PM
1

JBP is looking at society's ills as a whole, TRP is looking at maximizing sexual success given society's ills. Both have diagnosed the same problem. He's an ally but his goals are strategic not tactical. Given that I have a young son, I'd love for Peterson's ideas to make it into the public consciousness and help formulate our group morality and policy. For the time being, I'll go with TRP and maximize my success. I will however use some of my influence to spread his message and support his work…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/18 01:04 PM
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All the above responses come from a lack of abundance, frightened beta mentality. If you enjoy open relationships, then have open relationships, if you don’t then don’t. If you have established a closed relationship with a LTR and she brings up polyamory, you’re on the train to cucksville.
/r/askTRP19/05/18 01:50 PM
1

50 Shades, Christian is doing it all wrong.
/r/askTRP19/05/18 01:38 PM
2

It is possible. Rollo Tomassi (The Rational Male) has been married for 20 years and has children. The major mistakes that most guys make going completely BP and being lazy after marriage. Select a wife based on her qualities as a wife, not your oneitis, which is you projecting good qualities on a woman because you lack abundance and she is hot. You need to always understand what drives woman in general and your LTR specifically and constantly game her. Never lose yourself for a woman, keep your …
/r/askTRP19/05/18 10:05 AM
1

This! Once you've made your way far enough into a StongLifts (SL) program, you're going to hit a natural plateau. This is where you can branch out a bit and try some new things. Personally, I used SL, to go from somewhat athletic guy who hadn't hit the gym for years to fairly strong guy with a respectable 1RM in all the major compound lifts used. Then went to a hypertrophy workout using mostly dumbells for about 8 weeks. Now I play around with programs but switch it up from powerlifting/compound…
/r/askTRP18/05/18 02:48 PM
1

me too.
/r/askTRP15/05/18 05:26 PM
3

Pick out some object in the background that's off and comment on it. Like, "wow, do you always have so much crap on your dresser?"
/r/askTRP15/05/18 04:51 PM
4

It's worse, she's going to be pissed. It's like us showing up to find a fat girl who used old or doctored photos.
/r/askTRP15/05/18 03:16 PM
7

5'4 is not 5'7, women are going to feel fully catfished meeting him in person. The interaction will start so negatively he won't be able to recover. OP's going to have to own it up front take his diminished returns. Tinder is pretty superficial, I'd think gaming in person would work better for someone in OP's circumstances.
/r/askTRP15/05/18 03:13 PM
7

I just threw up a little, who writes this shit.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/18 09:24 PM
6

From a biological standpoint, when we are highly attracted to each other, there is a short phase ~6 months - 1 year, where both the male and female get huge dopamine hits from one another. This is to facilitate the creation of offspring. TRP is essentially hacking this process to give those feels to the female while mitigating them in us (avoiding oneitis). That’s why TRP is best at short term dalliances and needs to be somewhat altered for longer term relationships, providing more comfort while…
/r/askTRP13/05/18 01:16 PM
3

It won’t change your physiology. There is a lot of bro-science surrounding no-fap. The important thing is to stop watching porn and rewarding yourself for an “accomplishment” that you never achieved. That is powerful and important. As far as releasing sexually, if you’re not getting regular sex, release once or twice a week to your imagination, don’t make a weird ritual out of it.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 11:30 AM
2

A similar thing happened to me in my condo gym years ago. I was benching 1 plate per side, no clamps (I only use when necessary, and I'll determine that). This older out of shape woman older comes over in the middle of my set and tells me I have to put clamps on. It was in the January-February time frame when all the slobs do their yearly pilgrimage to the gym as part of their "new year, new me" bullshit. I just laughed at her and told her to mind her own business. It was satisfying.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 09:18 PM
2

Sorry, what bullshit. She owes you nothing at this point, so why would you even consider "confronting her?" You failed to escalate and close. Until you are intimate with a woman at least twice, she can and will flake very easily.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 06:00 PM
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There really is no magic bullet for finding a woman who will meet your expectations. Some of these cultures have much more shame and less reward for hypergamous behaviour, but bring her home and the game changes. Your best bet is to understand that woman from country X are the same as women from country Y, and live your life accordingly. I married a beautiful Slavic girl, was beta BP and am now paying for it. They are georgeous though, enjoy your turn accordingly.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 02:49 PM
1

Nope, I'm just using Hitler as an example of another control freak who didn't understand the concept of moderation.
/r/askTRP10/05/18 01:09 PM
1

Is this your mission? If you are following your mission then your SMV will be fine. If you are being inauthentic to your mission then that internal discontinuity will negatively effect your external frame. This sounds like a great opportunity in a burgeoning field. But it is a long road and there will be many nights where your projects aren't working the way you want them to. You need to want to be there.
/r/askTRP10/05/18 01:03 PM
2

Almost all the "ones". You should study a little history and anthropology, almost every culture had some form of drug, which people used; alcohol, hallucinogens, opiates, this stuff goes back to primitive tribal societies and continues today. If you aren't a social, non-addicted user of something, and in our society that's booze, you're a total oddball and control freak. Hitler was a teetotaler.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 09:18 PM
2

Don't be ridiculous. People have been trying drugs since the dawn of time, across almost all cultures. We are apes with over-developed frontal lobes. Mentally healthy people know their limits and know not to become addicts. Addicts have given over their power of choice and freedom of will to a substance.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 08:29 PM
1

Of course I would have to see all the data and analyze it, but my first thought is... Why have a child with a beta provider when you can have Chad's baby and the state will step in to play the beta provider role? This is really a dark portent for the majority of men, who were never able to generate the excitement and tingles but were solid family providers.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 01:43 PM
1

There is a difference between high confidence and triggering a woman’s amygdala. Be cool too, you’re probably being too intense and persistent. Flirt, walk away and come back way later to flirt again. Learn to be a better reader of IOIs.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 01:55 PM
4

Sounds like you have a very difficult time differentiating between DGAF cocky and aggressive creeper. You don’t have “frame,” you have a demeanour that freaks women out. You seriously need to re-calibrate.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 01:35 PM
2

Cancel the hotel and pick a new one, have the airline change your flight. Then simply tell her that Vegas is off, go on your own or with a friend. She’s a plate, you owe her nothing.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 12:49 PM
1

You have to build your arousal then. Try talking dirty to her, order her to do things, it’s not that difficult.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 01:52 AM
1

You comment like this all the time. Deal with it and stop being such a pussy. Also, shitty PUA tricks can't cover up your massive lack of self-confidence.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 03:25 PM
2

You said you do well in school, that’s perfect. Think about whether you want to go to university or trade school. If you are good academically, but don’t know what field you want to study, take a year of general studies with as many interests as you can pack in. Then focus on what you like, thinking about the market for those skills. If your parents can afford it, go away for school. If they can’t, do not go into stupid amounts of debt for it.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 08:41 PM
1

I'm fond of breaking down a problem into its component parts, I guess it's the engineer in me. The way I look at it is this. You can't approach if you can't have a conversation and be natural. This is best practiced on with people who you aren't outcome dependent with. Who cares if that old man isn't interested in talking and blows you off? The DGAF attitude lets you start approaching attractive women without being so concerned with outcome, because you DGAF... Once you have that down you need t…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 02:10 PM
1

It helps to "open" conversations with anyone in public, specifically approaching attractive women is very difficult at first and having the skill set of being able to talk to strangers is key. Once you have the DGAF attitude and the skills it becomes easy. An easy way to get the conversationalist skill is to talk to people, old, young men, women. That piece needs to then be fit together with the DGAF attitude piece and the flirting/escalation piece to have the whole package.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:09 PM
2

These are all factors in attraction. The important take away for most of us is to play to your strengths and minimize your weaknesses. If you aren't blessed with great genetics, then lift and use style to mitigate while working hard on things you can have more control of like game and social status. We don't all start at equal points but we can all have success by being honest and critical with ourselves and focusing on improvement.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 12:12 PM
5

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=sprezzatura
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 11:37 AM
1

My take on this is to set goals and attain them. Your goals can be big or small, if they are big and not attainable in the short to medium term then break them down into smaller milestones. Once attained set new goals. Have a vision of the person you want to mold yourself into and work to make that you a reality. Your goals don't have to be the consensus goals, but you should always be striving to improve. If your goals aren't work or money oriented, then learn some interesting skills or hobbies…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 11:26 AM
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If you've ever had the horror of dating someone with BPD or NPD, they do this to an extreme in the early "idealization" phase. It really fucks with you, especially if you're a BP beta and have never had that kind of interaction with women before.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/18 05:10 PM
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He also had Asperger’s and was known in high school to only make cat noises. Not really a great example of why feminism is poisonous.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 10:40 PM
2

Stop trying to open women sexually, you just aren't there yet. The lack of ability to do that gets in your head and you feel like a complete failure and it ruins the rest of your day/event/week ... How about making it a goal to just strike up 3 random conversations a day, with anyone. Practice that a bit until you can actually talk to people and be social. Once you've got that, then consider making one of those conversations flirting with a woman, don't be outcome orientated you're just there to…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 09:13 PM
1

We all are born alone and die alone. This is false. Most babies, my son included, are placed right on mum's breast within minutes of being born. If there's a dad in the picture, he is usually right there. I cut the umbilical cord for my son. One can face death alone, but we are social and tribal creatures and find comfort in others. The RP is based on sexual strategy, extrapolating this to all of life takes the model beyond its boundaries. If you don't get married or have children that doesn't m…
/r/askTRP20/04/18 06:25 PM
1

A man has to be able to fight. You may lose, but you still need to be able to accept this challenge and show this crazy loser that you aren't afraid.
/r/askTRP19/04/18 05:08 PM
6

My ex-wife is a narcissist, full on cluster B disordered. She can not think past her own bottomless pit of emotional need and this is already damaging our young son (3.5 yo) who seeks the kind of love from his mother children (and especially young boys) expect. I feel for you as this is something I worry about for my own son. My advice is this: Love Yourself. Think and meditate on who it is you want to be. Break this vision of yourself down into achievable milestones and work on those. Be honest…
/r/askTRP16/04/18 03:44 PM
5

You are in college and this is how you write?
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 05:38 PM
2

"Never Game, Let Alone Fuck a Bipolar Girl" Add to this Cluster B personality disorders, if you want to see your life go to crazy town, try a BPD or NPD girl, they make bi-polar people look rational by comparison.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/18 07:51 PM
3

Total Cluster-B behavior, that girl most likely has BPD. Not saying NAWALT, but that wasn't an emotionally healthy reaction.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 06:20 PM
1

is to do a cleanse Sorry, this is total bullshit. Anyone who recommends a cleanse doesn't understand biology. Eat a healthy diet of mostly non-processed food and drink plenty of water; cleanses, organic food, supplements it's all pseudo-science and crap.
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