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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:17 PM
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I always make it clear that I’m not interested in hookups without a meaningful connection—I value getting to know the women I talk to on a deeper level.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 08:30 AM
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Again, according to some of these people, many women who are open to something casual don’t want to be told outright that you’re looking for something casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:32 AM
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That’s fair, but what I meant here is that some see that approach as being more effective than being upfront and honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:05 AM
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I never do that because I can’t hook up with someone unless there’s a genuine connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:01 AM
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I’ve definitely considered all of this, but many people even here believe that going with the flow and avoid bringing up intentions unless asked is a better approach for casual hookups. They argue that it’s presumptuous to assume a woman wants something serious right away, and being too direct takes the fun and mystique away from the interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:32 AM
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I really don’t want to lie, though. It’s such a crappy thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:24 AM
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So, what would you suggest I say instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:14 AM
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So, what do you think about something like this: “I’m not actively seeking something serious right now, but the right person could definitely change my mind”?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:01 AM
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Why would I send you nude pictures? 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:53 AM
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I could share a couple pictures with you if you’d like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:46 AM
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I’m just not open to a serious relationship right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:44 AM
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Realistically, I’d say I’m around a 7.5, by most people’s standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:38 AM
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I suppose getting a lot of attention from women naturally leads to this kind of behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:34 AM
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I’ve been told that many women who are open to something casual get turned off if you’re too direct about not wanting something serious, so I’m not sure what the best approach is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:32 AM
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I guess so, but I enjoy getting to know the women I talk to. That’s why I always make it clear that, while I’m not looking for anything serious right now, I’m not into hookups without a real connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:16 AM
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A lot of people refer to me as a Chad, which I think is why many of my past flings have been women hoping to change my stance on keeping things casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:14 AM
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They might not always know exactly what they want in a man, but I think most women are ultimately looking for a serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 12:58 AM
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People may not know how things will turn out, but I think most have a clear idea of what they want—whether it’s a serious relationship or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 12:49 AM
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If a guy is receiving attention from women and they’re receptive to his advances, he’s probably not subpar.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 12:45 AM
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I think most women are generally honest about what they bring up. That said, pretending to want commitment just to sleep with someone doesn’t sit right with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 12:31 AM
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No, I also don’t think it’s impressive to sleep with a woman by pretending to want a serious relationship. In fact, it’s pretty disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:39 PM
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I usually say something like, “I’m not looking to date seriously right now, but I’m also not interested in casual hookups without a genuine connection.” I think it helps set the right expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:26 PM
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How do I avoid sending the wrong signal, though? What would I even call these get-togethers with women? Hangouts? Meetups?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:15 PM
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So, you’re saying my honesty isn’t the issue? Some of my friends claim I turn off women who might have been open to something casual by being upfront about it. I’m not sure how reliable that advice is, though. That seems like a setup for misunderstandings.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 10:30 PM
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Game only gets you so far when you’re dealing with a woman who’s determined not to engage in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:46 AM
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So, you’re saying you met these women on dating apps and immediately made arrangements to sleep with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:55 AM
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No, but how did you and your friends sleep with these women? Did you lead them on and pretend you were interested in a serious relationship? Did you meet them in settings like parties or clubs, where they might have been more open to casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:49 AM
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That’s why many women struggle to trust men in this day and age. If you’re certain a woman isn’t a potential long-term partner, be honest and let her know right away. Leading her on just to get her into bed is not only unfair to her but damages trust for everyone in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:41 AM
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What if I choose to pull away after we sleep together?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:20 PM
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No, you still have to, as the kids in my generation say, ‘rizz them up.’ But are there guys who can get casual sex without pretending they’re interested in commitment? I’m predominantly thinking about situations outside of bars and clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:16 PM
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I’ve actually used a variation of that line before, but it felt disingenuous because, deep down, I knew there was no chance the woman could ever change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:06 PM
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A lot of it depends on the context, but approaching women with the intent of something purely casual just feels off to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:02 PM
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I usually wait until she brings up the topic of intentions. Being upfront about not wanting something casual can sometimes come off as if I’m assuming she’s only interested in a relationship, which can feel a bit presumptuous. So, I prefer to go with the flow, but when the question does come up, I’m always honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:57 PM
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I’ve heard that before, but in situations like that, I think a woman will implicitly make it clear she just wants to hook up. That’s a different dynamic than when she’s genuinely interested in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:23 AM
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I don’t share it willingly. I usually only mention it when they ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:20 AM
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Not wanting commitment doesn’t mean I don’t value a genuine connection with the person I’m intimate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:08 AM
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I mean, I could mislead the women I talk to, but I know how deeply that can hurt someone, so I choose not to go down that path.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:36 AM
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That makes sense. Where I’m from, a lot of women prefer not to sleep with someone until there’s exclusivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:34 AM
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What I’m trying to say is, if a woman is already physically attracted to you, shouldn’t being a genuinely good person be the only thing that matters moving forward?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:43 PM
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Unless you’re a professional bodybuilder, you don’t need to go to such extremes to maintain a six-pack or a lean physique.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:30 PM
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Perhaps, but doesn’t a guy with a six-pack tend to be more visually appealing?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:25 PM
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Why is the common advice not to be kind, reasonable, empathetic, and genuinely good? Why would we need to be anything else? Our natural differences handle the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:20 PM
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Who says I can't have a lasting, passionate relationship with a woman without exclusivity?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:09 AM
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I suppose you could call it polyamory. It's not that I fear commitment— it's just not my first choice. I desire the depth and connection people typically find with one person, but with multiple individuals who bring diverse backgrounds and personalities. The idea of exclusive commitment to just one person feels constricting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:22 AM
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What do you mean by a goal?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:50 AM
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Exclusivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:50 AM
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I’m not quite sure what you’re on about. If we were hypothetically in a sexual relationship, I would prioritize your satisfaction and take the time to learn about your preferences. Unless we discovered we were sexually incompatible, I would see no reason to stop seeing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:18 AM
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Why assume it will be a negative experience? While the first few times with someone new might not be perfect, labeling the entire experience as 'crappy' seems harsh. Additionally, sexual compatibility is a valid consideration, often influencing whether people continue a relationship after initially being intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:08 AM
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I never said I’m going to leave tomorrow?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:56 AM
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That’s possible, but I also don't frequent places where women might be seeking casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:55 AM
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I believe it’s a far healthier alternative compared to ONS and dating individuals who aren’t honest about their intentions. However, if your ultimate goal is a long-term relationship, I completely understand if you decide to move on once you find someone who’s ready to provide that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:46 AM
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The boundaries have already been defined, unlike a situationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:40 AM
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I mentioned "potentially exclusive" for a reason. It's still possible to be non-monogamous while trusting that the other person practices safe sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:38 AM
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Certainly, but to me, it's more of a casual FWB-type dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:36 AM
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If that were the case, it would imply that all the women who showed interest in me but weren't throwing themselves at me were considering dating someone they perceived as below their league. While I understand some individuals settle, it's highly unlikely that's the reason we exchanged numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:34 AM
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Some might label it as such, but the truth is, for me, I don't usually desire exclusivity, at least not permanently. I desire most aspects of a traditional monogamous relationship, except the exclusivity. I understand it's not a widely accepted preference, but for better or worse, that's who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:29 AM
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What I'm trying to offer the women I meet is a casual FWB-type relationship where we genuinely become friends, are attentive to each other's needs, and prioritize safe sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:25 AM
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Well, I meant more like a casual relationship where two individuals who are aware of the risks of STIs and value communication can potentially be sexually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:22 AM
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I don’t know. I've also heard that many women who say they're not looking for hookups or want a serious relationship are often open to casual sex. That might be bad intel, but perhaps women are hesitant to be labeled as promiscuous by being too open about casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:18 AM
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I do get propositioned quite often, but typically by women I'm not particularly attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:08 AM
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That actually happens to me quite a lot, but it's usually with women I don't find very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:03 AM
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Perhaps, but don't women also have the same need to fulfill their desires as men do?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:21 AM
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