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Razzmatazz32/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 09:38 AM
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So you set two goals and failed on both? How are you planning on making sure that doesn't happen again?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 04:24 PM
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Have you read Day Bang? What are your goals for next week?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/24 01:09 PM
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For the emotional part I more meant that you're a fairly emotional guy. That's fine. Just don't act when toiling with them. STFU and wait until the water clears. Then decide and act. Goes triple when dealing with the TNT that is divorce prep. Keep it on the DL. As for looking at your feelings about your wife's cheating it's mostly that it seems you are in some form of denial/resentment loop. That then leads to these weird emotionally charged swings. Just accept it as fact (even without the hard …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 12:04 PM
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I've always thought that any man that goes red will divorce legally. The business case of inevitably like yours - the sooner the better. STFU will be your friend. Not a word until you have all the papers and the entire plan and narrative ready. The emotional stuff will fall into place just fine just don't do act on them. Think, sleep on it. Then maybe act. Maybe. As an aside, I think you still harbor resentment for her fucking around/don't trust her. Might be helpful to look at that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 03:32 AM
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Decent lifting, identified a sticking point and made a plan to move beyond it. Good enough. If you have 0 approaches next week you'll have a problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 03:14 AM
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I've also gotten brazen with the kino lately, in particular face and neck. So far I've had excellent results. And I'm with you on the no drinking. Have not found it to be an issue. I think sourcing from your social circle has always been the easiest. None in mine that I'd fuck though. I need better friends. 😂 Do you mean to say that you filter OLD girls through texting and then of the ones you met you closed 50%? If so that's an interesting approach. I haven't been able to find any use for texti…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/24 07:00 PM
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What's the ratio of Fcloses to first dates for you from OLD? What's the idea behind "very little kino"? What kind of social circle do you pull from? Hobbies/clubs?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 05:00 AM
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It's the law. Any deviation from it is detrimental to your fucking. With a possible exception if you have a very steady main girl/gf/wife. And even then it's dicey. Write up an example or two of where you think you have to write about anything but logistics. From your first message (pitching the date) onwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 07:18 PM
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has been colder in text since. Doesn't matter, as long as she comes over. Because you are only texting for logistics for the next fuck, right. Right?! RIGHT?!?!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 05:47 PM
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Set some SMART goals for the cold approach stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 05:19 PM
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Figured. Less efficient but more fun. Totally with you on Torero. Wildly underrated. As is MM. It's incredibly useful even for OLD/1st dates. 6'2 tho. I would wager your stats are better than you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 05:00 PM
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Continental Europe. It's worked well in two capitals so far. It will indeed be much less effective in cities less than 1M pop. And hyper effective when you reach double digits. A fellow ex merper relocated recently for this very reason. I expect his lay count to explode soon. As for the above model I started with the BD template and then adjusted along the way. I think the most salient changes are 1) that first dates are slightly longer and incorporate the LDG spike/chill method and are less aut…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 02:23 PM
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This is mine. Yields about 1/3 first date to F-close ratio for me. Only works where you live, traveling is a different animal ime. You can replace "tinder" with whatever app works best in your area (Bumble, Feeld, Hinge all have their place). Busy man's guide to sourcing girls ⁠Make a decent Tinder profile and get some matches. Use mallardcoves guide. ⁠Exchange 3-5 messages and pitch a coffee/drink date in the next 1-3 days. If the girl isn't down, move on. ⁠Meet the girl, arrange seating so tou…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 01:48 PM
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My point exactly. This is literally what everyone does, red or blue. I'm interested to see if our friend has FRs to share that provide a different perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 01:12 PM
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This is not what's usually reported. Where do you live (overall cultural circle or country is fine if you need opsec)? And how many F closes from how many nights out in the last six months?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 12:32 PM
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Go reread the Bitch Training Guide. What u/alpha_wolflord9 is saying is the same as this, as I understand it: Control Game is the power drill you use to make holes, and Indifference Game is the level on the back of the drill that you use to keep your new hole parallel to the ground.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/24 09:39 AM
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I don't think this kind of fearmongering is very useful. Even in cringy edge-cases. I remember one dude sending his wife a dom-sub contract. Which she then shared far and wide during divorce. Didn't seem to have an impact outside the laughs. One should, though, follow the divorce guide and get some good convos recorded just in case.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 06:36 AM
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How many new girls have you F-closed in the last twelve months?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 06:23 AM
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That's a more colourful way of putting it indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 06:13 AM
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In case the well-meaning "lead your wife" gentlemen are inadvertently distorting your perspective. Applying control game, or anything else you do, is never, ever for your bitch ass wife. It's for you. Practicing the skillset and gathering data to make your decision 1 May.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 05:49 AM
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What would that look like? Can you give an example? Have you read Roissy? If not, start there. I doubt you'll have any questions. Don't go overboard, just practice a bit here and there when she gives you good lay-ups. And nuke any disrespect swiftly and harshly. The rest of the time, I'd just treat her as a roommate. I wouldn't even bother bossing her around. Little upside in trying to lead someone who doesn't want to be led. No animosity, just logistics. Fuck her once in a while if you feel lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 07:28 PM
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Right. Then the performance on the trip wasn't for you. Generally the diagnosis here is simple. Lack of attraction. At this point there's no downside to practicing all out asshole game. It's also time to get a second opinion. Game another girl to the point where you have her isolated and ready to fuck. Whether you actually stick your dick in her is up to you. This tells you if you're BSing yourself or your girl is broken.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 05:42 PM
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If she's not anxious about not fucking you, you're not pulling your attention hard enough. Has she kept up improved appearance post trip?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 05:01 PM
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My man.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/24 03:28 PM
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Fuck the bitchiness right out of her and go on about your day. This is indeed where I am trying to point u/The_Iron_Temple but he seems intent on stepping on his own dick in stead.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/24 07:29 PM
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Fair enough. You are your own judge. I can see this leading you back to not initiating, now you have a new "reason" after "logistics" and "doesn't put in effort" have been removed. We'll see next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/24 05:03 AM
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OR She will just divorce you tomorrow without a word and your marriage will end in a whimper, rather than an explosion. In which case you are prepared for divorce. This literally never happens. Girls avoid responsibility like the plague. The marriage continuing isn't necessarily the best thing for u/Wild-Cheesecake-6465 , though. If I'm not mistaken he hasn't fucked for a full calendar year or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 06:05 PM
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No, she works full time. Someone has to stay with the kid when he gets sick though. Sure. Just to gauge her laziness. Not egregious. Didn’t try AA but sure seemed like bitchiness to me. As I said, doesn't really matter. It was just a technical tip for when you're in doubt in the future. “Shut up” was used generously. Good. Just keep spamming the alpha button. Then on Sunday I had to enforce boundaries once again and wasn’t going to reward bad behaviour with my attention and initiations. I though…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 05:36 PM
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Is your girl a sahm? As for tests there is bitchiness and shit tests. They can look the same. Difference can be told by trying AA. If it works, it was a shit test. If it backfires, it was bitchiness. Nukes work for both, which is why it's my go to.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 05:09 PM
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My man.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/24 05:13 AM
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The right answer, most likely, is to tell her what I want. Then initiate/fuck when she complies and pull attention when she doesn’t. I like this as a concept. In practice I can see you getting back to excuses for not initiating. I would advise you keep pulling the sexual initiations in your pocket for another couple of weeks. It has the added benefit of it being more of a break from the norm at that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 07:06 PM
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Once we started fucking, it was ok. Not bad enough for me to pull out. Has it ever been "bad enough"? If not, do you know what "bad enough" looks like? Might it be beneficial for you to set "bad enough" at a lower threshold? Correct, very good summary indeed. So the Lead Your Wife crew would tell you that this is a leadership issue. I, however, can't say I've seen many succesful examples on here of girls being "led out" of this and a lot of fucking failure. u/futilefighter being the most recent.…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 06:56 PM
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Probably?😂 AWALT!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 06:23 AM
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Why didn't you pull out on number 3 if she was phoning it in? In sum on non-sexual is that she's a decent maid and babysitter, but a shit girlfriend (frumpy, fluffy, boring life and conversation)?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 04:53 AM
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Cheers, interesting. I agree with babm and diamond doing haphazard misguided application. Disagree with eyum. Can't find your story nor environmental. But even if we count the two last ones, it's a handful of guys in the space of a year (or longer?). Enough to be significant, but not enough to merit the term being thrown around as much as it does. I guess it's just the word. Who doesn't love Rambo. 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 12:47 PM
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Like whom? I see the term thrown around a lot. But rarely is it applied correctly.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 04:12 AM
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RP isn't for everyone. 🙂
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/24 04:53 AM
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Totally. He's an emotional mess who is reeling. And indeed one of the few actual examples of Rambo. He admits as much. I was just saying this isn't the reason he nuked his history and left merp (for now). He'll be indeed be fine, no matter what he does. Happy, that's another story. But then that isn't the goal for everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/24 04:30 PM
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Did his marriage blow up or did his wife find his mrp account? No and no. Also not consequence of Rambo as u/ChestHighandClean guesses. He just realized that either you're red or Christian. Thus, he can be found in a furrow somewhere. At least until he comes back.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/24 02:31 PM
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What would you say was the good stuff?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 05:30 PM
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I agree with your gut and if I didn't it's best if you do. Not a single Main Event has ever been predicted. This makes me think that wanting/hoping/expecting one actively precludes it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 09:19 AM
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What you quickly realize about this place is the vets and mods are for the most part, dumbasses. Many are incapable of taking any sort of criticism lest it attack their ego, and in the next post, they espouse annihilating ego and how they are above it. This is definitely true. Everyone here is a dumbass writing for himself in the hope of becoming less of one. First time posters mods and "vets" (ugh) alike. It's up to the individual poster to sift through the garbage to find whats useful. A usefu…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 06:55 AM
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I have been avoiding any talking and instead tried to focus on demonstrating with actions. But perhaps some talking is warranted in this case. Are we talking more control game, "do this, do that"? Or a more broad discussion on expectations. I think you mentioned previously that she should be the one to bring this up. I see the confusion. I mean the former. Control game aka bossing her around. Tell her what you like. Have her do it. How you phrase it you can calibrate. It's essentially old school…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 06:36 PM
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Why does it matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 06:28 AM
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The handcuff knot is fun but a cheap BDSM kit off Amazon will have cuffs and whatnot that are super low effort. This. 100 times this.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 04:58 PM
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Because it seemed to me I was negotiating desire / coming off as needy at that point. I said a few weeks back that I was trying to set a standard of only fucking someone who's enthusiastic about it. I am not getting a lot of enthusiasm before sex and then decent enthusiasm during sex. I don't think jumping through a hundred hoops just to fuck is the way to improve that. Or perhaps I'm just failing a shit test and that is what things looks like before they get better. Enthusiasm during: There are…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 05:02 AM
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I'm of the apparently unpopular opinion that your untraditional approach and journey has a lot of valuable notes. Write another FR when you have enough material. Here's some value back: You have ONEitis and misunderstand basic concepts. A "best option" is unproductive girl thinking. Just like "feelz rule all" you had last time. There are things to emulate from girls like evolutionary selfishness and solipsism. But looking for a "best option" or even thinking in terms of one is not among them. Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:16 PM
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Why didn't you just fuck her the third time? How's her attitude/value add progressing outside sex? Might be worth reporting on each week.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:02 PM
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Fucked four different girls in a month is it? With another four coming down the pike?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:01 PM
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You sound like you are mistaking "asshole" for emotionally needy and entitled validation whore. They aren't the same. You aren't breaking any frames, just acting unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 07:06 PM
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Feel free to tell me where I fucked up here, I'm sure that I did. STFU. For fucks sake. Shut. Up. more hot, but more cold. In many cases the more she submits, the harder she tests at other times until she finally calms the fuck down. An alternative explanation for the erratic behaviour is that she fucked Chad and might still be at least engaged. There was shenanigans when you began here, and the hallpass is usually a dead giveaway. Whatever it is doesn't really matter. Stay the course. Do what y…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 06:59 PM
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God you Christians and your guilt. You set a boundary for yourself and you haven't crossed it. In stead you got the sober second opinion you were after. So far so good. So why the navel gazing? If you ask me, it's because you don't like the answer. You got more value from the first rando you threw a bit of game at. Use this to open your eyes to how your wife is actually acting and go back to bitch training. Give her a timeline to shape up or nuke. Simple not easy. Look at u/the_iron_temple for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 05:37 AM
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Emotions trump everything. This is, literally, exactly to the letter literally, what RP teaches about girls. Don't fucking embrace being a bitch. Take action to be less of one. JFC. Once you're done punching yourself in the nuts for taking your stupid feelings seriously when they run counter to your goals, maybe reassess those goals. And/or reassess how great your bitchy wife actually is when all it takes is an hour of decent girl game to turn everything upside down. This experience shows you ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 06:18 PM
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Fair enough on the lifting. There's precious little to be gained from a fucking perspective there anyway. On the fucking how about you commit to donating 2.000USD to a feminist association every week you don't initiate 3x? Pretty sure that'll take care of any imagined "logistics" issues. Other negative incentives can work as well. Just make it suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 05:06 PM
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This is a truism yet u/the_iron_temple has been hiding his lack of fucking behind "logistics" ever since he got here, being called on it more than once. We have a divorcing father of three who fucks his bitchy stbx more than this dude does his wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 12:52 PM
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I am surprised I have to say this but you would benefit to a more deliberate approach in achieving your goals. Only fitting in two lifting sessions and one fuck session in a week is pitiful. How do you plan to improve it? At least you did better on divorce and food. I would agree with your assessment of the former. That said I can recommend actually elaborating and printing out the physical documents. Something shifts in your head when you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 12:50 PM
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I'd actually argue that it's your control game that has improved. In particular boundary enforcement. Which is where many flounder. Indifference only takes you so far. To quote HSP: An important principle to keep in mind is that Indifference and Control game are not juxtaposed to one another. They are not "opposite sides of the same coin" or any other metaphor of conceptual symmetry. They are meant to be used together. Control Game is the power drill you use to make holes, and Indifference Game …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/24 06:38 AM
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You got ILYBINILWY. Whatever you do is pointless. I disagree. A few OG's turned it around from infidelity. Hack3ge, SBIII and stoney come to mind. Just recently there was a FR by a dude who detailed how he did. It surely takes a lot of mental gymnastics to let that shit go. I'm actually unsure if you ever do. But some guys have turned cheating whores into doting and faithful Stepford Wives whores. Not what I'd chose personally, but then this place isn't about the what to want but the how to get …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 06:53 AM
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My personal opinion is that women who sniff out those small chinks in the steel armor and kindly test you in a way to point it out is of value to me. When it happens to me i catch it quickly because it's so fucking unusual. I figure if I'm getting a little shit, well, pretty sure this woman knows my frame better than anyone. To me this sounds like hamstering away allowing bad behaviour. Withdrawal of attention fixes this, sometimes you need to couple it with a nuke. But your scenario is worded f…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 04:51 AM
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Just read, lift, OYS every week and STFU for dear life. Especially with your wife. Shut. Up. Sew your lips together if you have to. But keep your eyes very open. It'll all be clearer fairly quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 06:29 PM
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Right. This is merp endgame then. Girls stop testing when they fully submit, unless they're somehow irreparably broken. I hope guys are taking notes. This is what life looks like on the other side. Your girl(s) dying to please you in all ways, very careful not to displease you. I agree with your previous comment. You have to pinch yourself sometimes. It's that good.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:56 PM
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Bitchy behaviour more than ever? :) Is it none of the time or some of the time? If the latter, how often?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:37 PM
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Damn I hope you stick around, your anger phase is going to be epic.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:33 PM
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Most guys fuck up their first bulk by overeating. I can speculate as to why, but it doesn't matter. Just know that bulking properly takes more discipline than cutting the first few times until you get the hang of it. As for fucking I like the SMART goal. I'd set a permanent one for both quality and quantity. E.g. initiate at least 3xweek, push boundaries/try something new at least 1xweek. If you stick to those, you won't stall. Divorce stuff is on point.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:27 PM
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I assume she's also adding value in all other areas of your life? Do you encounter bitchy behaviour?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:22 PM
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SGM
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 03:00 PM
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I want to have sex with someone who deserves it/wants it, not someone who acts as if they are doing me a favor. Fuck that. Hear, hear! So what have you done towards achieving this objective?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 01:52 PM
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Is sex consistently available and enthusiastic? Have you fulfilled every sexual fantasy you had?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 01:15 PM
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The second you think you're there, you're fucked for sure. Many examples here of guys thinking they've arrived, blinding themselves to reality. What I meant by fixing fucking was this section: Sex is on tap the last two weeks. Fucked nine times, always good, no resistance and no starfish. I did have this new worry of backsliding. This is the remnant of my poverty mindset. I will kill this feeling with fire. I'm going to stop writing about how much I'm initiating, fucking, etc. I don't want to me…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/24 10:09 AM
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Sounds like you fixed your fucking. Congrats. This being the case, you'll find little value in continuing oys. Commenting on guys can be helpful in staying sharp though. I'd advise against using OYS on merp to fix other aspects besides fucking. There's better subreddits for whatever else you want to get input on.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 08:15 PM
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Look at u/NorthernFacing and u/futilefighter to see what happens if you don't prep 100 abs get caught off guard. And notice how goddamn long it takes. Foot on the gas. Get everything ready so you're just a signature away. That's an integral part of a well executed MAP. It changes your behaviour more than you think. In fact, it already has.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 08:00 PM
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IR7?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 11:28 AM
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Do stuff. And don't think, write, talk more about any of this shit until you have.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 06:57 PM
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I think your self perceived lack of game is the thing holding you back. It's really not that hard. Especially after having gamed your wife. Just be careful with the hardcore nukes when transferring the skill set to new girls. Comfort is useless in relationship management but required when recruiting new plates. If you have to, read Mystery Method. The evopsych mental models as to how to manage girls holds up surprisingly well even today. I haven't found the need to use the structure there. Just …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 06:49 PM
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HSP already taught this. If this happens, either you fucked up or the girl is fucked up. In either case, answer is the same - next or "fuck only" box. Going by this post, it's the former. You talk and think too much. Just up the alpha and you won't have these issues to begin with.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 06:05 PM
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I will second the opinion that most of your current problems are caused by scarcity. And that a sober second opinion will help. Get to the point where it's literally just a case of unzipping and shoving it in. Whether you do or don't at that point won't matter - you'll know your market value. Or actually, 20% below market value as being married is playing with a handicap, even after factoring in the preselection boost. Prepare to be amazed.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 05:55 PM
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If you only ever nuke you do run the risk of people hiding things from you out of fear. I wholeheartedly disagree with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 06:28 AM
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Far as I can gather, nuking always works with no downside. It isn't very fun, as both you and u/Alpha_wolflord9 points out, so depending on my mood, I sometime poke fun in stead. If I get more shit behaviour I nuke. Commanding a BJ is what you ought to do, u/FutileFighter is wrong about that bit. You're not supposed to do a Monkey Dance to make your girl do X. This one is even a classic. Sepean would say that a guy has frame is if when he unzips, his girl automatically puts it in her mouth. Peed…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 06:25 AM
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I meant merp data. Which unequivocally supports the conclusion u/feargrinn is alluding to. Comfort is useless once you've fucked a girl a few times.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 04:54 PM
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Honestly if you keep this up you should be flaired "OYS Prodigy".
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 04:48 PM
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How about booking them?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 02:31 PM
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So what do you commit to doing on divorce prep for next week? Steady as she goes on the fucking. Don't let your foot off her neck the gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 01:58 PM
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Cuddles are required after a session you described Literally no data supports this.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 01:53 PM
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"Plates" is plural only. If you're only fucking one girl, you have a girlfriend. Good job on you for getting out there. You need to polarise way way more and eject way faster when they don't respond to escalation. This should increase your F-close ratio considerably.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/24 01:58 AM
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It is definitely getting better. Still, I have to push through a lot of resistance, which gives me an impression that all I am doing is negotiating desire. Maybe it is all one giant shit test and that is simply what things look like before they improve further. Fucking a girl good despite barriers isn’t negotiating desire. It happens when fucking new girs as well, maybe even more. With those, usually you’re batting away different tests like crazy until she spreads her legs, and then 30 seconds l…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 11:19 AM
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I was just testing of you were being Nice with those questions. Specifically: Right now I think so. But there's probably quite a bit that I am not factoring in. What's your experience with kids / custody post-D? Is that too much time? I am not representative. And my sample size on post D guys is too small to make any conclusions. My point is merely that many guys don't question going for a lot of kid time, because that's what they're supposed to do. If spending time raising a kid is high priorit…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 12:46 AM
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Are you sure you want that much time with the kid? How much better than litigation is the financial proposal you are planning to make?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 06:35 PM
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So where's the fun part for you? I'd say I'm still a beginner and enjoying it that way. The rush of creating something from nothing, the puzzle of logistics, tension/anticipation, and of course fucking some exotic. I totally get a buzz. The anticipation as you're looking in her eyes, she blushes and you know it's "on" is great. Last week I fucked four different girls four nights in a row, two of them new ones. Day 5 in the morning I was feeling low-key awesome. Wondered why, then was like "ohhh!…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/24 04:22 AM
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I think flat sharing is horrible for your fucking. Small studio is fine and arguably better than a large pad, if you're just racking up notches. The story wasn't about the buzz. But about how a long trek in public transportation can kill some of it, even for yourself. Social circle is fun, effective and at heart theoretically higher quality. It's what most of us did when we were younger. That said, it's also time consuming so not an obvious choice for the average merper. I don't see why it gets …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 05:01 AM
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I will teach her but I don't expect her to change really. Perfect. See it as you practicing a skill. Called taking responsibility for having an awesome sex life. Then she does whatever she does. I bet it's a lot more fun training a new girl rather than someone you've been with for nearly 20 years. Yes. IR7 obviously applies. Whether having the kid around full time is worth trying to circumvent it is your call to make. In May. Until then, practice. She's never been dumped before, never had to cha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 08:00 PM
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She is. You will have to teach her or dump her if you want a more exciting sex life. Training a girl can be fun. That said, after extensive testing I've developed a strong preference for "sex positive" somewhat pre-trained bitches. YMMV of course. None this week. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:55 PM
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Logistics are so crucial it's hard to overstate the importance. I F-closed a new girl a few days back. Jump in the boat kind of scenario. We had to take public transportation, even changing lines, to get to mine. Fuck. Even I considered just calling it a night. 😂😂 Getting an ultra small kinda shit but central place would work not only for logistics but fuckboy alpha vibes.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:48 PM
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Everything in there except the sentence about the nebulous container word "disrespect" was on point indeed. You might want to consider your use of "wrong" as well. As an aside, I would argue that number/K-closing other girls would actually be good for OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:44 PM
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She'll get there if you stay the course. Maybe kicking and screaming. 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:40 PM
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Hey, I learned something new. Awesome. Not only men. Noone wins from the gynocentric whatever it is Rollo calls it. Women are at their happiest when serving what they perceive as their hypergamous best option. "Happiest" isn't necessarily saying much, of course. Girls are still girls. 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:39 PM
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I predict your Dancing Monkey strategy of treating disrespect and shitty attitude with AA/AM will backfire. If it does, you know where the nuke is. Don't short-change your results dude. Most guys never have their bitches fixing their shit. Of the minority that do, most have to drag them there kicking and screaming.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:20 PM
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Keep it up. Guys underestimate how fun and productive it is to practice game. Sticking your dick in her isn't strictly necessary to know you're there. Get to the point where she's isolated and starting to take her/your clothes off. You can stop there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:16 PM
2

You see how this is nonsense, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:14 PM
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You could've gone back and given her a few minutes to show she can perform. Instruct her if you can. E.g. "alright, get in X position and do Y while also screaming Z". Don't give her too many second chances, but a little help and guidance once in a while isn't the worst thing in the world. How slutty is her past? Is this one of those sexually repressed/inexperienced girls? Also - what divorce prep did you do this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:10 PM
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Yeah. Seems it was mainly the New Testament (and subsequently the church) that turned Christianity into a beta farm. But then I'm not exactly an expert on scripture.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:03 PM
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Why are you listening to your wife?! Did you feel between her legs after the spanking? Guaranteed she was wet AF.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 03:56 PM
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Validation is great when it solidifies an "identity" that spurs the right kind of behaviours. In this case: One thing is intellectually knowing you have abundance. Another thing is experiencing it. That's why at least catch and release is an integral part of any MAP. Helps internalise prize mentality. I'd fuck a few as well. It does wonders for your mindset. But I think that's outside your boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 03:55 PM
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You did plenty of cocky funny from how it reads, then enforced boundaries when called for. Perfect. Results seem to have been almost comically quick. To the extent I wondered if this was fake merp fantasy writing. If it isn't, I suggest you stay the course and reap the benefits.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 03:52 PM
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What does "being disrespectful" mean? I agree about the boundary thing, but then OP is so buried in the butch's frame that defining it from her perspective makes perfect sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 07:38 PM
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I buy the timeline thing. You owned that fuckup and fixed it. Living and logistics makes sense. Plan sounds solid to me. Get the apt as close to the center and a decent bar as humanly possible. Anecdote and looking at others from on high seems a normal part of the journey. Hopefully next one, you (practicing getting to) fucking will take up 80% of the FR with maybe 20% being about other people's relationships. Not ass backwards as this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 07:16 PM
2

I found the loving dominant to be very blue. As most D/s literature. I'd advise extreme caution reading non-sidebar/vanguard intersexual relationship material.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 06:59 PM
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Boundaries?!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 06:21 PM
2

Is your illness life threatening and/or are you missing a limb?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 06:16 PM
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What's the point of this OYS? It's not part of a regular cadence, and you seem to be in a holding pattern with the fucking with nothing you are working on/fucking up too badly? I'm genuinely curious as to your motivation. As for your fucking, it will always be about logistics. Also when single. Hence picking a good location for your pad and a flexible schedule (work as well as kids) will significantly improve your fucking post-D. I'd give this some thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 06:12 PM
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I've said it before. Pulling comfort and defending boundaries is not the same as "petulant dictator" (credit Perseus) nor dropping control game. OP is doing the former, not the latter. Evidenced by the fact that it is working brilliantly. You guys projecting your blue save-a-hoe shit onto him isn't helpful, outside of him learning to fend off blue attacks on his frame. Which is a non trivial benefit to be sure, but not what this place is for.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/24 05:54 AM
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This is terrible. u/the_iron_temple is defending boundaries effectively and you ask him to navel gaze. You recommend comfort, when it is useless in the best of cases. And downright detrimental in this one. If rule 12 is still enforced you ought to get one.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/24 11:40 PM
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Quite. A girl has no idea what she needs. One of several things to ignore what she says. At best it's noise. More often it's testing/betaization. Most of the time she's completely oblivious to this and believes her story.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 09:34 AM
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We agree on the tactical stuff. We disagree on the mental model for his hamster. Rule Zero. "For the benefit of men." If you want to talk about congruence, this means embracing the asshole. Inevitably "treating her badly" to use OP's words. The fact that this is actually better for your bitchy wife as well doesn't factor in. Alphaing up is to make sure you have the right girl(s) around and that they act right. Wet and submissive to you. That's it. OP is already getting better intersexual outcome…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 05:07 AM
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This is a great perspective. It's a blue perspective. You aren't doing this for her. Nor the relationship. That's her job. Your job is to max out fuckability. What you think of as "treating her badly" is just alpha behaviours. Which make her wet and submissive. This has obvious upside for you, outside of her being happier and thus more pleasant to be around. So indeed ignore the feelings and keep doing what works. You will eventually find that what you (and she) thinks she needs is often the pol…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 08:53 PM
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So who will you fuck then?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 04:35 PM
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Try out everything. Even stuff you don't think you'll like. Keep what you enjoy, drop what you don't. Never stop experimenting, desires change. Working up to a hard no can be a fun part of that process. And then moving the needle next session. As for details on what and how on therapy I'll defer to your lawyer. The point abouttiming, i.e. getting this done now, still stands.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 01:40 PM
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This is horrible.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 01:35 PM
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There's a part of the process where you still fuck up but stop yourself mid fuck up. Just keep practicing. Eventually you stop fucking up. Speaking of fucking. This is very vague. I know more about your hamstering about a colleagues trip to Thailand. Which, unless it is for passport bro game, is irrelevant here. Are you getting yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 11:50 AM
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This is all great. Steady as she goes. As for the therapy. Suggest it to her over a text or email for documentation. If she declines (surprisingly probable) you're done with that bit of prep nice and easy. Bonus points for finding a concrete therapist. This also gives you the advantage of finding a decent one, in case the girl accepts. Older female ones tend to not take the girls BS. I would get on this now. Same with writing some whiny texts to your brother or something. "Shut up" really is a w…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 11:48 AM
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But every natty I know who has an FFMI over 23 has gotten there using those programs. Cheers. I'll give it a year and see if I add another data point to your examples.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 05:29 PM
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I probably wasn't clear. 3/8 converted to a second date (1 was a lay, 2 were to second dates). rough expected conversion rate of 1st dates to second dates, and if 3/8 is good though, I may just focus on my second dates, while making adjustments in my first dates. It's first date to lay. Where you're 1/8. That isn't too shit. About that PUA 12%. I generally don't bother with third dates anywhere I can't escalate to sex (my house, essentially). The amount that don't fuck on that second date is tri…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 05:16 PM
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Ime converting 40% (3/8) of your first dates to lays is the absolute best you're going to get, once you really master it. I remember the original PUAs talking about 8-12% succes rate. If you were bedding more than 40% before, keep doing whatever that was. And make an e-book on the model. I'l buy it. tagging u/creatinecapsule for any additional pointers. Otherwise, sounds like you're doing things well enough. Do you have fun on dates? If not, start doing so. Seems you have a decent enough grip on…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 05:25 AM
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I also don't think anyone at that level needs to be listening to /MRP for gym advice. I usually make this cut-off at "1000+ PL total" but you might prove me wrong. Not least because of this: Powerlifting does well as a whole body approach, but really starts to lag behind for muscles that make a physique pop. Bodybuilding (the sport which only cares about muscle size and aesthetic appeal) is a far better tool for this. There might be fairly easy fuckability gains to be made from transitioning to …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 04:57 AM
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An average height average genetics natty dude can get a 1100-1200 total just using GSLP indeed. Especially if he uses the original. Then let's say he cuts down to 12-15%bf with this total. His FFMI will be around 23. No program will significantly increase that. So what's the upside to the BB stuff at that point in your opinion?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/24 08:50 PM
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Being as unattractive as possible is a very effective divorce strategy indeed. Counterintuitive as with many things RP indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 02:18 PM
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Look up u/CreatineCapsule for how not to wife up the first girl to touch your dick (again). As for making money, it's shit easy if you focus on it. Just don't look to merp to find answers to that particular problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 07:05 AM
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I would help the swing. u/FlayerofSpiders look up the OYS history of u/alohamaui808 and how he did just that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 07:04 AM
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As much as I'm on team "divorce prep to the hilt!", dude has actually done the best divorce prep possible. Tanking his finances. Any man who can divorce with no asset split, no alimony, no child support should take it and run. It ought to hold up in court if contested later. She's the one who had a lawyer in the process, making him the (even weaker) party. u/FlayerofSpiders you've just been given a gift the magnitude of which you won't understand for a while. Just hammer the basics of lift, read…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 07:03 AM
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Quite. Fouritis. 😂😂 And yet, this is, to my knowledge, quite literally the best handling of post-D this place has seen. And thus shows u/alldownhillfrhere what he's in for.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 05:57 AM
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I thought I wouldn't like threesomes. Variety of women, yes, but threesomes seemed like more work without the equivalent fun. I was wrong. Maybe it was some weird ego protection if I couldn't pull it off. Maybe some sexual nice guy shit. In any event, it's fucking awesome and a fixed part of my sex life now. Highly recommended. Also. This wasn't a main event. Not even close. Never, ever listen to your wife, watch what she does. Your own gym example should be a clear example as to what works and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 07:32 PM
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Just stay the course. Few notes for this: Figure out exactly when you're allowed to fuck strange in the divorce process. Is it from when you file or is it only when it's final? Keep it in your pants (or stick it in the wife) until then. No pussy is worth alimony. All of it will have to be agreed, not just custody. Treat it like any other negotiation. Put everything on the table at once, and make it one big negotiation. Spend some time figuring out her pressure points. Usually around kid/reputati…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 07:10 PM
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Look at u/creatinecapsule for notes from someone who managed to transition out from a relationship without wifing up the first girl to touch him post-D.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 03:50 PM
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These are good notes. you should tag OP and anyone else with situations similar to yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 03:48 PM
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Whatever gets her to shut up. Look, verbal warning, whatever. Escalating is not the worst thing in the world if you know how to ignore here and remove your presence. Crying is one of the main manipulative tools girls have. Men are hardwired to have an emotional response to it. Ignore it. I would give zero proactive comfort. Probably consciously pull some as well. There's no upside and potential large downside to comfort. As with everything, when you do it, it should be for you, not her. Proactiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 02:27 PM
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I must've asked this before: IR7?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 11:45 AM
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Comfort is useless. Especially in your situation. Drop it. You don't necessarily have to make an effort to kill it all, but don't make an active effort. Ever. Initiate when you want to fuck, no matter her "mood". Escalate to an iron clad hard no every time. If you get one, go do something else. If you get starfish, zip up mid fuck. Say "this isn't working for me. We will try again later.". And go do something else. Nuke all shitty talk/behaviour. Especially in front of others. In particular the …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 11:38 AM
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Figuring out where you fuck up is half the battle. It's the whole point of Game as originally understood. A step-wise system for getting from identifying attractive girl to F-close. You then can see on which step(s) you're getting stuck and work on that specifically. So if you're not moving enough girls through from date 1 to 2, indeed focus on improving date 1. What do you do on date 1? Be very, very specific.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/24 05:21 AM
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There's a hit rate on step 2. Again 5, 6, 7. Not on step 3? What do you mean? As for the BP stuff you're hardwired to have those feelings. To quote Rian, they're stupid. Just ignore and stick to acting red. You'll be much happier.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/24 07:20 AM
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He literally lived upstairs from the bar. Genius.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 05:59 PM
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I learnt the 0-100 from Peed. I think(?) all his notches have been same day. Including his LTR. And he has neither tricks not status. He either invites them straight over or to a bar "close to his apartment". Spends some time gaming/liquoring them up. Light kino during. Then escalate to fuck. As you, I have fumbled many a multiple date scenario. So did Peed, before landing on the method above. As often with women, providing more than you absolutely need to is not only pointless but actively hurt…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 05:37 PM
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What does the hind brain vs logic bit mean in plain English? It seems to me you're stuck around the close. Find a system and implement it. This is the model I've ended up at. The key compared to your experiences is to get them isolated quickly and not release tension before going for the F close. Busy man's guide to sourcing girls ⁠Make a decent tinder profile and get some matches. Use mallardcoves guide. ⁠Exchange 3-5 messages and pitch a coffee/drink date in the next 1-3 days. If the girl isn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 02:15 PM
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This is what I thought as well until I had a kid. But if I really look inside myself and skip the bullshit, what I want is different. This is the case for quite a few guys. Most have difficulty owning it, much less acting on it. They in stead either stay and hamster or slink away. In both cases, resigning themselves to lives of quiet desperation. You, however, already took the first and hardest step, three months in. You really are turbocharged. It'll be interesting to see what you do once your …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 01:24 PM
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One of the better reasons I've heard yet. You're almost worthy of joining Team Gigolo. 🙂 I'd still do a sober assessment of your wants, needs and options when it comes to women once you've fixed job and immigration status.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 11:47 AM
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What's the upside for you in keeping her around even if she "comes around"? I'm genuinely curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 04:33 AM
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Beautiful. Gronking is so underrated.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 12:13 AM
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IR7?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 12:03 AM
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statements about sex I’ve had to listen to lately. "Please put it in my mouth or ass"?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 11:56 PM
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Kissing and grabbing my dick. Shark week, though. Do you know the old Patrice joke, where he asks the girls what they'd do to keep their man is their pussy was broken?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 10:29 PM
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I'm sure there's a subreddit with curated content and advice to clear up the alphabet soup. To clear one up: Munches don't (necessarily) mean you fuck/beat other people. Some of the clubs even have fully clothed no-sex "munches" just to exchange experiences and questions. Anyway. Enjoy the exploration. It's more than half the fun anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 10:18 PM
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Wrong. One of the first things you learn when you go to munches is that D/s, SM and bondage are distinct kinks. There's some correlation, sure. But they are very very separate things for many people. A lot of people have gotten hurt figuring this out the hard way. I'd advise you read up on it. There's some really good literature out there. Some of it has splashes of blue to avoid like anything else. Don't end up being topped from the bottom.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 10:01 PM
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Look at u/the_iron_temple this week. It doesn't have to be more complicated than that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:58 PM
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"Shut up." is the only verbal nuke you'll ever need. Use it generously. The selfish examples are great. There's a non-zero chance that the tests were in part caused by the preceding praise. Try observing/testing this out. First and foremost it is to be successful financially, to have the independence that comes with it so that I can do whatever the fuck I want. The end game would be working for myself, not necessarily running a business but rather investing my own money and living off that. I wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:56 PM
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Guys, I really like to fuck. As has been pointed out, this is just novelty effect. It will stay like this for quite a while as you figure out your kinks and delve deeper. At some point you might get concerned that you will become increasingly desensitized. Needing continuously crazier scenes to get off. I've got good news. Much as with porn, this has been debunked. How much you fuck is then a life choice. Once you build up a repertoire of girls/scenes you will always have something "new" and exc…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:37 PM
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Never, ever write for other people. Especially in your OYS. It helps exactly noone.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:28 PM
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Sadists are just confused, mentally weak dumbfucks. Really now. And the masochists are broken women I take it? u/vitrael2 - this is tradcon shit. Don't beat the girl if you don't enjoy it. But don't let yourself be kinkshamed either. Much less on a forum about fucking when, how and as you want. JFC.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:19 PM
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RP is about fucking. Full stop. Trying to use this place to find meaning is like going to bodybuilding.com to fix your car. Proceed at your peril.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:11 PM
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We completely agree. I'm wholeheartedly behind giving her a bit more time than needed so you don't second-guess the decision later. It's just about interpretation. When you say: get to that point and live there for a bit before doing so. It's the same as I do with the May deadline. u/the_iron_temple will be at "that point" within the next month if he keeps the current course and pace. Two, at the absolute most. Then he takes a couple of months to finalize the last divorce practicalities while he…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 11:41 PM
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Did she get in gear?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 01:53 AM
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She thought the imaginary jail of kids & societal expectations would hold me such that she could coasT. How do you know this?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/23 09:40 PM
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I've been at it for 3 months, not long enough to see any meaningful difference. But at some point she will realize I have changed. Standards dude. Three months is plenty of time for her to wake up to how awesome you are. Lucky for her, you're still prepping divorce and that takes a while. So she has until May. If she hasn't gotten in line properly by then, you'll want to give her more time. Don't. At that point that's a guaranteed waste of time and effort. Just ask u/futilefighter.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/23 09:37 PM
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You’ve correctly identified where you’re stuck. Scores of guys have been there before you. Thus, there is a tried and tested roadmap for it. It’s essentially no different to what you’ve been doing. You identify(!) and unapologetically pursue your own self interest. And you lead with action. Letting your “identity”, including thoughts and feelings, follow. It’s really that simple. If not easy. At this stage, WISNIFG will be your Bible. Further, here are three pieces of RP canon adressing your spe…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 12:04 PM
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Important enough but there are more important things I want. Good news is, you don’t have to pick. :) Rather, you have to be as creative as you can to push the standard as high as you can. And keep raising the bar. Point is that this brings me closer and closer to actually pulling the trigger. And I suspect I am heading in that direction really. So there is a lot of discomfort I experience. I guess I'm still living in everyone else's frame when it comes to divorce. Aha! Some shit to own. Awesome…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/23 03:08 AM
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I will see my wife 2 or 3 nights this week and I decided I will fuck her every night I see her. I will report back next week. Game is 90% logistics. Girls want things to “just happen”. That kind of spontaneity ironically takes a lot of planning. Easier when live-in than with a rando from tinder, obviously. Even so, spend some time working out some ways of isolating/escalating up front. I’d once again recommend fucking other times than evening. Mornings before the kids are up are particularly gre…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 09:37 PM
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My turn to typo. 315/225/405 indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 09:10 PM
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35lbs. Probably 45 and then cut 10. Think in terms of 225/315/405 SBD for reps. This can be done by Summer if you're dedicated.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 08:18 PM
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Gaining 35lbs of bw and have strength increase correspondingly would solve many of your problems. How much weight have you gained since OYS1 and how much have SBD increased?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 12:07 PM
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I think it is also more realistic and something that is not too far off. Yep. All the easy gains have been made. In the gym and from a sexual strategy standpoint. As long as you don’t regress, lifting/diet is not really OYS relevant anymore. This of course means there’s no way around the harder stuff. I have to initiate more and keep pushing the envelope. Delete ”I have/want/need to” from your vocabulary. Write about what you did. This can go for commitments into the future. As in: “I am still l…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 02:21 AM
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Iron Rule 7?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 01:43 PM
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An emotional affair begins when Chad's dick is about 3/4 is the way in. That said. Why are you listening to your wife? Nothing good ever comes from that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 01:40 PM
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If I were tech savvy I'd make an archive of your OYS. This has to be the most deliberate concrete implementation of advice week to week this place has ever seen. You're getting corresponding results. Now I'm done fluffing you, some more homework. Lifts: What you list is absolutely peak natty for you if you are top tier genetically and organise your life around lifting. From a fuckbility standpoint 85-88kg with SBD at or above 100/140/180 for reps is better. Fucking: You essentially don't get rej…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 01:31 PM
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If implemented correctly it does. It's a mix of very direct words and actions and removal of attention. It's not sitting in a corner waiting for her to come around. It's initiating/bossing her around forcefully every day. And when rebuffed, removing attention. Sometimes giving her a chance to notice she's fucking up with something like "are you sure" Pretty standard. It will eventually sink in. It might not work if the girl is completely broken (though your example would be the first). In which …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 06:14 PM
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It is May and I suspect time will fly. Indeed. Just ask u/futilefighter
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 04:55 PM
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It works because she'll want to fuck after I go do something else? Are we talking typical LMR strategy where you escalate, get pushback so ignore for a bit and then escalate again? I stumbled upon it by pure accident. Then it was replicated by some dudes. Hasn't failed yet. "Why is a stupid fucking" question to quote Rian. But if you need a metal model to tie it to, I'd call it nuking her pretence with a possible follow up of the marital version of the PUA freeze-out. I would tie this to "reset …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 10:00 AM
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Sexual dimorphism matters. A lot more than abs This is interesting, something I haven't really considered up until now. Go on terp and search for it. The posts will be at least a decade old. Most of the good ones are. Fucking. So we're about 25% of the way there and nothing is stopping you except logistics. That's a problem you can easily solve. Here's some ideas. Fuck before the kid wakes up. And/or go home on lunch breaks. I forget if two year olds still nap? If yes, that's a good time as well…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 04:48 PM
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From a fuckability standpoint you'd be better off gaining 10kg bw and getting stronger, as has been pointed out. Sexual dimorphism matters. A lot more than abs, unless you're taking all the drugs. As for your fucking: How many times did you fuck this week? How many times a week would you like to fuck? If the two don't align, why is that? What non sexual acts do you want from your woman/women in general? Be concrete.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 05:30 AM
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Thanks. Mirrors my experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 04:04 AM
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How do I pull it off successfully though, assuming I can't just go from 0 to a 100 (on a sexual skill scale) in a split second? I just told you: Give her a safeword. Do what you want to her. It's really not more complicated than that When you don't get resistance, up the ante. Be rougher, make it more unexpected/inconvenient/whatever. Eventually she'll be compliant enough that it's hard to foster organic resistance no matter what you do. Then you'll have to instruct her to resist. Happily, this …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 03:42 PM
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For four year girl: Have you ever talked about the expectations/parameters of the relationship? Including nonexclusivity. Do you text beyond logistics? If yes, what about and how much? What are some examples of the rewards?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 09:09 AM
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That's not exactly the same as you wrote. You can rack up notches just fine while grinding. But indeed three steady plates is about the max for most guys' schedules.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 04:59 AM
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This is a dumpster fire. Read lift stfu oys every week for at least three months. Then reassess and maybe start talking. But never, ever about the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 07:36 PM
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That's nonsense.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 07:27 PM
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Yeah you fucked up a bit. The lesson to take is that if you act like a boyfriend, she'll expect a boyfriend. If you want a girl around longer term without exclusivity you can usually deflect the conversation for a few months, provided you minimize boyfriend stuff. Even longer if you only (and I mean ONLY) fuck her. You could probably still fuck this one if you only text for logistics and arrange the next meet at yours, stfu and just escalate.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 07:25 PM
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What you call LMR she calls foreplay. Get into some CNC. Give her a safeword. Or at the very least use the "you just have to say no" only once. And then just do what you want to her. You should notice her becoming more submissive outside the bedroom the more you dominate her inside it, too. Possibly punctuated by some very shitty tests that you just nuke.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 07:10 PM
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Then you'll probably find that this place has little to offer except opinions from randos on topics they may/may not have any clue about.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 04:11 AM
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Pushing through LMR is hot AF. Enjoy it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 03:11 PM
2

How many of those things are about intersexual relationships?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 03:05 PM
2

Why are you posting oys again?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 11:18 AM
4

Quitting an escalation early is weak. Unless you get a hard no you keep going. Why is this so hard for you to grasp?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 10:38 AM
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Haven't I linked this to you before? https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/94436/yes_virginia_you_do_have_to_be_an_asshole
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 01:30 AM
1

How fat are you? Have you read Roissy?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 01:27 AM
3

You will be amazed at how much attention you can pull. Actually. Figure out the maximum amount of asshole you can stand being. Then triple it. Aim for feeling "want to crawl out of my skin" uncomfortable. That should get you closer to being calibrated.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 03:47 PM
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Your wife is dead indeed. I will also support that talking about, or worse "working on", the relationship is pure downside for you no matter the situation. Married, plate, girlfriend. If she's a bitch or an angel. There's nothing to be gained from it and a lot to lose. Just become attractive and command what you want. Only providing value commensurate with what you get back, preferably by the 2/3 rule. This week it applies directly to both u/wild-cheesecake-6465 and u/the_iron_temple
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 12:24 PM
1

Do you know the 2/3 rule?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 12:12 PM
5

Why are you rewarding her with attention then?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 11:15 AM
1

How's the fucking going?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 09:11 AM
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When you want to fuck (and only then) initiate hard. Up until a clear, hard no. Like literally. She has to say"no" or "stop". When you get it, ask: "are you sure?". Then STFU. Most times she comes around. Either immediately or soon after. No idea why this works. But it does. Also for pushing boundaries during sex. Or go SBIII and give her a safe word. As long as it isn't used, physically have your way with her. GLO has explained to us why this works. Women need to be owned. If it isn't obvious, …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 07:44 PM
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Sounds great. Just keep trucking along. I suspect you stop your initiations before a hard no. Am I right?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 03:17 PM
2

When did you last fuck? How much have your lifts improved the last eight weeks?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 08:47 AM
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Here's my cheat sheet for OLD. Busy man's guide to sourcing girls Make a decent tinder profile and get some matches. Use mallardcoves guide. Exchange 3-5 messages and pitch a coffee/drink date in the next 1-3 days. If the girl isn't down, move on. Meet the girl, arrange seating so touch isn't awkward. Start slow, then escalate conversation and kino about the 20 minute mark. Look at LDG "spiking" or the DiCarlo ladder for inspiration. But don't kiss. End the date after an hour. Preferably on a hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 05:04 PM
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Loads of hamstering and no fucking. Reverse those two this week. You'll be a lot happier. It's basic Game knowledge that you escalate no matter the signals you get outside a hard no. Girls don't let on when they want to fuck. Much less initiate. You can train them to, eventually, if you enjoy that. But as a rule they'll be completely neutral in appearance and actions even when they're dripping wet, fantasizing about your cock. ASD or something. As for divorce then yes. Get a lawyer. Start hammer…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 04:42 PM
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You were, indeed, warned. u/futilefighter look at this guy for a warning of not taking divorce seriously and prepping to the hilt. Long OYS and not a word about fucking. How's that bit going? Did you wife up the first girl you fucked post stbx?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 03:57 PM
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Normal wisdom would say AA/AM and other Game techniques for shit tests. Defend boundaries for shit behaviour. However, it's often impossible to tell them apart. Treating them the same works fine. If you're in the mood for teasing the girl AA/AM is fine. Efficiency will then depend. Nuking always works.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/23 07:27 PM
2

Pull comfort. Eat more and get stronger.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/23 07:20 PM
2

You should start prep yesterday. Think the entire process through right down to the size of the U-Haul truck.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 09:14 AM
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Agreed, this is a reasonable timeline. So are you committed to it? Or just fogging? If she wanted to, I'd never know. AWALT. All girls will fuck given the right circumstances to be sure. And they will deny, manipulate and trickle truth to avoid taking responsibility. But you'll know. Not from admission. Not from evidence. But how she acts. In particular, how she treats you. Keep your eyes open and listen to your gut.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 06:01 AM
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Give yourself time to decide on the relationship. 1 May or so would be decent. It's enough time to know you've done your part. And you can use summer holidays etc. to get logistics sorted. Forget about the decision until then. Focus on becoming more fuckable. Part of that is becoming fully divorce prepped in March. Papers printed and ready for signatures. Lawyer retained. All practicalities planned out. What's the likelihood your wife fucked around on you?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 07:49 PM
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Maybe my approach is wrong and I should just A&A, I don’t know. If the sex isn't up to your standards, just up and leave. You don't have to say anything. Despite the mouth words that the girl will spew. That said, a tactical nuke that you broken record a few times can work well.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 05:33 PM
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NOT to wife / GF up the first new girl who comes along. As you know, most guys do. Somehow u/creatinecapsule avoided the trap even though he gets ONEitis faster than anyone in known record. I think it's four unicorns he's pedestalized in a few months post-D. Yet he's still adding notches. He must be doing something right. I'd check out his stuff. All the other stuff about "who am I" "toxic shame bla bla" I think is useless hamstering. Just act like a guy that actually puts himself first. Feeling…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 05:49 AM
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😘 😘
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/23 12:02 PM
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I’m planning on being single again soon You've been saying that for two years. 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/23 07:35 AM
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As for dream girl, I have no clue any more my head is still spinning at what I'm capable of - every girl just gets hotter, cooler or lets me get away with more crazy shit. Yeah. Sex is ridiculously easy these days. Maybe it always was. Hard to compare blue to red experience I suppose. Seems you're moving towards the dozen fairly quick. How do you find the time/energy/motivation to source+date? I find it difficult to find an hour or two couple times a week to fuck the 3 girls I have on rotation c…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 07:44 PM
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Wonderful thing, the hamster, when it's working for you. I stand by my initial recommendation. At least don't knock it till you try it. Start by calling her a whore, and then slowly move the needle. It's fun. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 07:35 PM
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OLD has been a much more time efficient though This is the main advantage. However, theoretically you should be able to pull slightly hotter from day/night/social game. That said. Your current dream girl was from OLD, right? I seem to be able to make things happen just by leaving my house and being social. Once one just games every pretty girl he sees in daily life, you could argue that's slightly more time efficient than OLD. Seems to be hard to get/stay there though.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 04:29 PM
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succeeding with the LDG model. is this the venue change stuff? I remember watching Tom Torero's wheel method for push/pull escalate/chill and venue changes from sitting opposite to sitting side-by-side. LDG is that entire model. Venue change for time dilation is originally from Mystery Method if memory serves, and then adopted in other models (including LDG). The wheel method is brilliant for same-day lays. It really is. ​ Going 0-100 when the time is right instead of awkwardly interspersed thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 04:21 PM
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hopefully she would give me that same courtesy Hope is not a strategy. Just keep your eyes open. If performance drops, you know where things are going. Act accordingly - just like any other merper.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 04:09 PM
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I disagree. Girls live in the moment and are masters at rewriting history. It's the basic premise of merp that a girl can change her perspective radically. From seeing our hero as a slob she gives the ILYBINILWY, to a Don Draper clone she can't keep her hands off. Provided u/dmk078 is accurate in his assessment, this has happened. She's already rewriting history. I then suggests he helps out. It's fun, and gives a nice narrative for them both. Replacing "fat loser gets cheated on" with "stupid, …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 04:05 PM
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Light switch has flipped and she now believes you are her best option. She will be absolutely disgusted with herself for fucking those guys. Explosively enjoyable stuff. At least until it loses the emotional charge for you. I recommend direct humiliation/shaming while fucking/administering beatings. There should be tears, preferably breakdowns. Great to see more field reports.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 06:23 PM
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Girl knows how to keep a guy around. They all do. Higher the alpha, higher the attraction, better the behavior. Likely its all hamster-ing to continue being a nice guy and avoid hurting someone I care about. Bingo. How does it feel, seeing through the Matrix?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 03:39 AM
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Nice to see you unlocked the OLD thing. It makes things so much easier. Also good to see a guy succeeding with the LDG model. Very effective when done right. It could also be that I'm addicted to my struggle after battling with myself and a shit marriage for so long. Things are actually fucking awesome at the minute. I think many get this at the tail end of the merp process. Some weird self improvement addiction. Your current woman goal is to work up to 2/8/2, focusing on the top range of the sc…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 03:55 AM
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Best thing about posting FRs is the chance to frame control. This response is masterful and spot on. And funny. I laughed. And learned. Why are you back though? This sounds like pinnacle merp. What's here for you now?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/23 01:52 PM
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You're right on par for OYS18. It will click soon enough. You can help it along, of course. Have you used The Unchained Man exercises to figure out what you want in the different areas of your life? If not, I'd recommend it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 07:23 PM
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Good news is it doesn't really matter what she does or doesn't do. Your plan is exactly the same regardless. Lift, read, STFU, OYS, divorce prep.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 07:16 PM
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I get wanting to share the notes on your experience. But from where I'm sitting, you're all trying to tell the u/BecomingABetterMan1 to hamster specific feelings. It doesn't work like that. Just like it was for you(?) they'll pop up just fine when the right stimulus is present. When his girl is consistently acting right, giving him everything he wants and stuff he didn't even know he wanted. It's unlikely he'll be having these issues then. If, at that point, he is still stuck, he ought to look a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 06:58 AM
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If you took my comment to say that this dude has his shit together, I was unclear. I was just saying he is employing the tools, and speeding up the usual timeline. Not elegantly, granted. Maybe not smart, either. But not Rambo. Rambo is that guy Jack10 writes about that gets in the car, puts on lights, blinkers, wipers, rolls down the windows, turns the wheel and wonders why he isn't going anywhere. There was a dude that epitomized it. Alpha_as_wolf or some shit like that. Just doing random shit…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:15 PM
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I wrote a bunch of stuff, but then realized I don't know what you mean by "weather idealized expectations are healthy". I still have it, in case I guessed right. But let's make sure we don't talk past each other. What do you mean there? If you mean continuously raising the bar to be in your life, consistently commanding improved performance, then sure. But there's no good reason to call that oneitis. It just confuses the terms. And subverts the article you linked.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 07:59 PM
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Wife and I had a miscommunication in which we were 90% in agreement on, but I thought X and she thought Y and we both agreed to it - thinking it was the same thing. I realized we had this miscommunication and addressed the whole thing up front and said I was fine with either X or Y so whichever she wanted to do was okay - considering she would be the one who had to carry out that plan. This was your mistake. You gotta take the lead. That means making decisions and taking responsibility. All of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 06:46 PM
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I see a trend of guys that get impressive numbers using 5/3/1 for the last bit. Here's hoping. 265 Press for a 6' dude is amazing. I'll be happy to hit a BW+ Press at 200lbs BW, being the same height as you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 06:15 PM
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anal became overrated for me This from the guy who used a buttplug and a written note of instructions as the final push to get his girl to submit. Funny how that works. Good concrete fucking advice and a touch of nostalgia. I think my bro-boner for you just got harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 06:04 PM
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TWOTSM What would dude gain from reading that book that he won't get from other parts of the sidebar?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 06:00 PM
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Oneitis has nothing to do with control game. Confusing/redefining/conflating the basic concepts is not helpful for discourse nor practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 05:58 PM
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There was a point where I didnt know if I wanted to stay married anymore. I'm still not entirely sure TBH, but I'm giving it time. Right now, I don't know how to calibrate 'love' between having oneitis for my wife, and just not caring about her. For so long, oneitis is what I believed love to be, so I'm struggling here. I need work here. I think you just need to ruminate less on it and just do what you want in life. Things will fall into place just fine. Sex: I lost count of how many times I fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 05:53 PM
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Awesome, someone to learn from. What programming got you the last 10-20% to those numbers?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 05:40 PM
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I like this OYS. Lucky might ban it for being so explicit, but there's way, way too little sex in here considering it's literally a forum for dudes learning how to fuck their girls. Also some good lessons learnt for you indeed. Check out u/2wo2wo3hree and his how-to-fuck manual elsewhere in today's thread. One note: Girls get off on pleasing you, once alpha is high enough. Pushed high enough she'll literally come from blowing you. That might help flip the script in your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:52 PM
1

How long have you been on gear and what kind of stuff do you use?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:35 PM
2

Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:26 PM
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It's not, though. Rambo is applying the tools haphazardly with no plan. Not going full bore. You might say this is a guy trying to run before he can crawl. Time will tell. If he backs down, it was. If he keeps up steam, u/Orange_Stock_114 just chooses a different timeline than most. Time is precious, especially when you're 46.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:00 PM
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Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 03:50 PM
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Start by accepting that an emotional affair starts when Chad's dick is inside your wife. Realize you're in no position to make any decisions or actions right now. STFU with your wife. As if your life depends on it. Apart from losing weight, NOTHING is more important for you. Check out the advice I gave dude on lifting. The same goes for you, except (assuming 6' height) you need to lose the weight to be 200lbs BW in a year, not gain. Read and process while working on this posting oys on your prog…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:50 AM
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Stfu, read, lift indeed. Just work on those and the rest will be fine. On lifting couple things. One, you should be doing gslp if you aren't already. Two, you should post form checks in the relevant subreddit (make another account obviously for opsec). And/or get the starting strength book and watch the videos. Even better is getting a good lifting coach for technique. Three, you should be 200lbs with a 900lb+ total in a year. Six months if you avoid too many set backs. Then cut back down to 185…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:47 AM
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You just described how merp works. :) Guys sharing notes, others test the hypothesis. When enough have, it's proven. Low scientific rigor (due to the reason you mention), high replicability (thousand of merpers). In this case, it was more inductionism based on existing data. To quote the important part of the post: Thousands of relationships have been dissected on here. Many girls have ejected because of a lack of attraction. Yet not a single one due to lack of comfort. From this I deduced a hyp…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/23 07:14 PM
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Trouble is, I haven't demonstrated (with my actions) what I want from her. I'll need to work on that as a priority because talking and ultimatums don't work, we all know that. Yes. You are a prime candidate for "pedal to the metal". Mash the alpha button way beyond your comfort zone in all interactions. Set high standards. Enforce them harshly. Keep raising them. Ignore/nuke any tests and do whatever the fuck you want. On the other hand, she's not stupid. She knows very well what my needs are an…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/23 06:06 AM
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​ Men need to provide women 2 sets of emotions to maintain an emotional connection. Alpha emotions (adventure, excitement, being challenging, being masculine, etc...) and beta emotions (comfort, acceptance, being "nice," etc...). The vast majority of men provide way too much beta and almost no alpha, mostly because our society teaches men to be beta and being beta just feels better. Right, thanks for clarifying, your wording had me confused. So your point was that most guys don't need to worry a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/23 05:19 AM
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Recent experience shows me there is no shortage of women in there 20s who want to fuck a guy in his mid 30s who, let's be honest, still barely lifts, has some game and depending on the context little to no frame. The bar is indeed staggeringly low. Something many merpers should internalize as they fight to get their frumpy middle-aged wives to fuck them. That said, though, if you're surprised a mid-30s guy can fuck 20yo's you lack even the most fundamental understanding of how intersexual dynami…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 06:32 PM
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Yeah I felt this idea merited a post, as it seemed to be outside the current merp paradigm. And I took downvotes to mean I was right. But you're probably right that they're meaningless.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 08:09 AM
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Your analysis is misguided for several reasons. I'm going to try to address them. Let me know if I miss one. First, most of the men who come crying on the internet for their relationships are providing comfort, and usually way too much of it. In fact, if you are married, you are almost certainly providing a high level of comfort. Most RP and MRP guys need help fixing their beta traits, not the other way around. What do you mean by "fixing their beta traits, not the other way around?" Second, guy…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 05:24 AM
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Just retard drunk captain Right. So not Rambo. Lift, read, STFU, OYS for a year will fix this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 05:01 AM
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It isn't a tactically sound RP thing to do, I don't know. You've identified a weak spot and then go some rounds with the sparring partner trying to improve it. Sounds fairly RP to me. If you want to try the engagement route then nuking would serve you well. It's a very short sentence (my go to is "shut up"), not an argument. If it doesn't end the blabber, you broken record it. If that doesn't work, harshly enforce the boundary that's being crossed, withdrawing all of the triumvirate of attention…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 04:51 AM
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Whenever a guy says this he 1) doesn't know what it means 2) didn't even do what he thinks it means. So. What'd you do?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 07:06 PM
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You would be a good candidate for the "your wife is dead" routine.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 07:04 PM
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Unchained Man. The exercises on code mission etc. Not the prescriptive stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 07:00 PM
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I did not provide comfort enough and didn't take my wife's emotions and whatever else into consideration and be the oak Just no. Lift, read, STFU for dear life is the recipe while you OYS every week for six months.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 06:15 AM
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It’s literally STFU. Don’t be afraid to STFU like you’re retarded. Opening your mouth is a conscious decision and never an accident. You have to master this. I know it's kinda gay but I'm really glad you're back. STFU is so underrated.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 06:13 AM
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women are meat robots. You just spam the alpha button with them. Goddamnit man, why are you revealing the cheat code? We might as well close down both merp and terp subreddits now.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 06:11 AM
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Getting enough hand jobs make you a bitch indeed. I think that rule was proved by alphalpha?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 04:12 PM
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And you're saying that were you not to provide this guidance, she would stay anxious/depressed?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 02:45 PM
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I upped the ante for bedroom activities and left a few marks. Everyone had fun. During a weekend adventure, I made a decision that my wife disagreed with but she still followed my direction without challenging it. what did I notice? Last week I said that dominance feels right... it does. I like it, the wife likes it, and being surprisingly rough did a lot more to turn her on than I imagined it doing. Need to further explore here. How does this relate to my mission? Fulfilling sex life (in work).…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 02:40 PM
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one in tears and panic for an hour every other meetup I've literally never had this. Nor found a note about it before. How likely is it to be attributable to the specific girl and less to your behaviour/relationship? Honest question. You, u/chesthighandclean and u/kvakerok all seem to have similar notes, which means we're getting somewhere in adding nuance to the model. None of your reports, though, seem to indicate, that lack of beta causes actual ejection. So the traditional thinking of beta=r…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 02:25 PM
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Excellent note. Which things, exactly, did you "start providing" that caused the turnaround?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 02:10 PM
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I think you're basing your argument on your experiences with plates. Conflating 0 beta actions and upping alpha to crazy levels inside live-in relationships isn't fair as they couldn't go missing for weeks or months, in a soft next manner it's just not possible or practical. Many MRP dudes have to lead kids or have family and friends tied to their live in partner. Nothing here is inconsistent with "beta is useless"? The latter part of this is exactly why I claim universal validity. I tested (and…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 12:22 PM
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A lot of Beta Comfort stuff is basically just showing that you're at best their equal. I first thought this model might be useful. But after reflecting I still think that "beta is useless" is better. It's simpler. And I'm not sure it's proven that beta is detrimental. Just useless.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 04:15 AM
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u/ragnar_Daneskjold sell this guy on being a Mod already. Best one on here I've seen in doing exactly that (with all due respect to you and the rest). Expertly identifying word salads and weeding out the noise so we can actually compare notes. Might help get the place back to where it was in days gone by.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 07:08 PM
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Great first post. I like that there’s so many comments. Yeah. I'm particularly happy to see me walking a guy through how this works got downvoted to oblivion. Shows me this is something that goes against the grain and is hard to grasp. That might lead some guys to reflect and eventually try something new. And it leads me to the answer to your question. Always wondered why you avoided this but I guess you wanted 2 (or 3?) years worth of experience before coming to a conclusion. I just didn't have…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 06:13 PM
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My argument in this post is strictly that the beta pedal at best is useless. Nothing more. It is established that plates come, plates go. Eventually most (all?) girls will want more investment than fucking, depending where they fall on the sexual strategy timeline (party years, epiphany, transition etc.). This applies whether you pass or fail comfort tests, as you (I think?) also agree. That said, very cool with some notes. I'm curious as to two things. she gave me a bunch of gifts and said she …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 05:50 PM
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This has been done already. Guys with their shit together get plenty of post-D offers to fuck their exes, "get back together" in a new logistical constellation, have a one-sided open marriage etc. I know I did. Fuck, this brings back memories. "You know we're divorcing, right?" as she was getting on all fours. Happy times. :) EDIT: The "FR" is for Field Report. It's a carryover from pickup far as I recall.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 01:52 PM
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Pot, meet kettle. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 09:22 AM
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The stuff you mention is not applicable to merpers for the most part. In the few cases they would be, they would not cause a girl to eject. Some would even be attractive. Say some versions of cheating and crime. Extreme versions would nuke the relationship, I agree. But then we're talking about seriously deranged individuals. The 0.0001%. And those guys have more important issues to handle than dosing alpha/beta. So I agree there's probably a limit somewhere. It's just lower than any sane person…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 07:59 AM
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It is incorrect advice to say carte blanche "remove all beta and your life will be better" . I can tell you, for me, it is the wrong advice and does not give me what I want. How so? What does beta give you in your intersexual relationship(s) that has upside for you? Now you seem to focus a lot on me. My basic point is that through thousands of notes on merp, not a single guy has had a girl eject from lack of comfort. With Horns possibly knowing a guy that is the exception to the rule. That said,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 06:37 AM
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I was expecting this to ruffle some feathers. I had hoped it would unearth some notes to nuance the model. So far nothing doing, though. Just regurgitation of the same sidebar quote I started the post with. It seems the futility of this is becoming apparent. So it's predictably being coupled with ad hominem now. This is one of the weirder ones, I'll give you that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 05:52 AM
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Orgasms, a kiss on the forehead, a cuddle, watching a movie, ordering Ubereats in between an extended fuck day is beta "comfort" behaviour that I guarantee will give you better outcomes. How? What happens when one does this and what happens when one doesn't in your experience? So far the only critique I get here is some version of the sidebar. I know the theory. It's literally quoted first in my post. What I'm saying is I don't see it play out in practice. In my own life or that of others. If yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 05:44 AM
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You will be horrified to learn that the more beta I pull, the more the girls love me. I literally have them saying it more often. As for me, at this point in my life I'm getting all I want out of life, including those things you mention. But my life is really besides the point of this post.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 05:34 AM
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What is this, I don't even...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 08:27 PM
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There probably is some baseline comfort that needs to be there I had thought the same. However, I'm significantly below where I'd expected it to be. It's getting cartoonish. Definitely beyond what most guys here would enjoy. And the girls are fighting harder than ever to stay on. I have a feeling it will be my tolerance level, not that of the girls, that will determine how low I end up going. Despite all the hoopla in the comments, I've yet to see a single merper get dumped due to lack of comfor…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 08:22 PM
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Is this the sort of pathetic gigolo life you want to live? Well, yes. But that's besides the point. As u/mrpwtf was kind enough to point out, your examples aren't examples.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 07:51 PM
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I'm still wrapping my head around this particular dynamic. Thus it's useful to spar with others and get more notes to compare with. If I didn't defend my position that wouldn't happen. Nice 🦌 though. I'm not attacking your life choices dude. I honestly couldn't care less.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 07:37 PM
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I like the mental model of girls being like water. But your "clay" metaphor has something going for it, too. I'll think on this. Good note.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 05:59 PM
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I'm not disagreeing, but from my experience, and yes - examples of others - your baseline argument is for autist retards. The fact that we even have to a tell them about a pedal model is retarded, and groups behaviors into "alpha" and "beta". Eh. I've gotten decent mileage out of this mental model as has at least one other fairly switched on dude. Is it necessary for a happy life? Probably not. I'm just curious about the limits of RP. The most recent example is one of our mods here. Wife ejected…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 05:58 PM
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That's the point isn't it? I gave an example that contadicts your claim: Some women, whether by the man's choice or her's, are unable to continue the relationship because he is 100% jerk (no beta). I am not talking about cases where the guy decides to leave. Strictly the girl ejecting. I will grant you that if we call cases of heavy DV "lack of comfort", it can (though sadly doesn't always) reach an extreme, where survival instincts override attraction triggers. Outside of that, my point stands,…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 05:45 PM
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Ask yourself what kind of women you will commit to you when all you give is crumbs, not comfort. No well adjusted, HSE woman would tolerate this: Only traumatized, LSE woman would. Imagine the sort of life you will live for the next 5, 10, 15 years with a traumatized, LSE woman: How much time, effort, and potential will be wasted. You cannot seriously be using the "this only works on broken girls!" line. It went out of fashion even for the feminists at least six years ago. My girls are just fine…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 05:17 PM
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Again, the question always arises - what do you want? It's as if this thread is trying to tell me I don't want what I want, and it has zero to do with "beta" or comfort. I'm simply saying that the old pedal model is not true. Your girl will not eject from lack of comfort. But will from lack of attraction. That's the base argument. To underline the point, I share some notes of removing comfort to an artistic degree. And how it seems to get you more of what you want. Whether that's hugs on your la…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 04:34 PM
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As I like to say, "a girl knows exactly how to please you". Removing the beta seems to bring that out. Incites a certain proactivity. The girl will "surprise and delight you" (hat tip, Peed) in ways your own imagination would never come up with. That's part of the fun of playing with another human being. That said, I agree that training girls has it's own charm. EDIT: I have good news. :) In my experience all girls are 8+ crazy once you push them far enough into submission/femininity.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 03:38 PM
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just madness I'm reminded of Sepean having to dodge scalding hot liquids. I still think a nuke works better for this than comfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 01:43 PM
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Alpha traits far outweigh the negatives they provide to comfort While this might be true, it isn't useful. It adds an additional step to the mental model, without additional benefit.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 12:57 PM
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A two year LTR where you don't even live together is NOT MRP data. Sorry. The entire point of using this example is that it isn't classic merp. It's tested in conditions without any built in comfort. Sidebar would dictate you'd need more deliberate beta traits in this situation. Not less. To repeat the point. I haven't seen lack of comfort lead to girls ejecting. Not on merp. Not in circumstances harsher than merp. Neither have you, neither has anyone I've heard of. Hence, the "no beta" mental m…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 12:55 PM
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I know the theory. I started the post with it. My point is that my experience, and observations of merpers, don't align. I then propose another model that I tested successfully in conditions harsher than normal merp. You can dislike that. But not disprove it regurgitating Evo Psych platitudes. EDIT: If your argument is that kid, mortgage and marriage means you need MORE comfort to sustain the relationship, I don't know what to tell you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 12:13 PM
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Makes them "fall in love" even.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 11:52 AM
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I would much rather you provided some data. I've shared mine. It is consistent with my experiences when married with kids. I posted the model in order to see additional data that supports or disproves it. As for the 2 year, I've done so inadvertently throughout. The response I was getting was what made me wonder. But again. Merp is about replication. Let's have some examples to back up your claims.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 11:44 AM
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Haven't seen one with ZERO beta traits here yet. Ain't seen someone who "forgot to be beta" who didn't up the comfort either. Right. So you can't show a single example. Which means it was just parroting the very truism I am challenging. Also " There is no mortgage, kids, live-in or other elements to provide comfort" = Not MRP. The point is that testing it in this environment means it definitely applies to the average merper. What's yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 11:25 AM
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It is not useful for discourse nor practice to start redefining the terms. MRP basics tells us that you have an alpha/attraction/dopamine pedal and a beta/comfort/serotonin pedal. I posit that the latter is useless at best.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 11:16 AM
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Out of the thousands of married dudes posting their intimate dealings with women here show me one where this has happened. Just one. Also, one of them I've had for 2+ years, so LTR, if not marriage, live-in, kids etc. like most here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 11:13 AM
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Rollo has your back. Preventive Medicine part I, to be specific. Just not actively nuking any possibility of a relationship is usually enough to pass this test. In other words. DARE, don't DEER.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 09:42 AM
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they scope me for a LTR and then bug out because I lack frame. What is the age bracket of these women?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 05:17 AM
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This is a fairly normal stage. You realize that pussy is just pussy, and shift focus somewhat. Now the trick is to recognize what merp is and isn't. It seems you have by this OYS, but I would still advise caution. Don't be like so many guys using it to find your life's purpose. It doesn't work for that. It's about intersexual dynamics. For the peanut gallery, including the nerd, this is how you F-close. It really doesn't take more.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 04:37 AM
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Yeah. I don't know that learning to F-close without logistics is worth it in that situation. Once you're on your own it goes. Match on app 3-5 messages Pitch date for coffee or drink If not accepted, move on If accepted, meet for one hour, be sure to kino and sexualise talk best you can Day after, pitch date for "drink at yours", evening time. If not accepted, move on If accepted, give her the drink, talk and light kino for ten minutes, escalate to F close. For reference, I've successfully invit…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 03:32 PM
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Did you move out already?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 04:14 AM
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This is pretty awful. Wasn't Illimitable Man the one that had a melt-down? In any event. For game read Mystery Method. Surprisingly useful even today.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 04:11 AM
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Nuke: taking a girl's ego down a peg or two... works great. Try to give me 2-3 examples of how this looks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 04:09 AM
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When you get hard no's comfort is not useful. Even if you weren't, as long as you are married with kids and mortgage, you have comfort handled without having to deliberately add any.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 04:05 AM
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You're using a lot of jargon. Some of it even worded wrong, some of it not even RP. Try to describe what each of them mean, when you've applied it, what you've observed. And nuking absolutely builds attraction. Telling a girl to shut up never fails to make her wet.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 06:29 PM
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Captain cannot rest. Don't buy the tradcon bullshit. The more a girl works for you, the more she loves you. The more you work for her, the less she does. Setting standards is good, though. Do more of that. I realized that I hadn't fucked my wife nearly enough and started fucking her like she owed me money (not literal). I'm pushing kinkier and rougher sex hard now. I'm learning to train my slut. This is great. Focus more on this and less on all the other bullshit you have in this OYS. ​ I pushed…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 05:20 PM
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Nuke is my go-to; probably not the best thing. What results are you seeing that would make you think this? ​ I didn't word my OYS post accurately RE cuddles - edited for accuracy. I didn't actually push her for snuggles, I offered, considering it's effectively "aftercare". I believe this is standard practice for D/s relationships, no? I'm still very new to this so I may just be making changes too quickly or I'm not calibrating properly. Comfort is overrated. Also, maybe even especially, in D/s r…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 05:10 PM
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0 and 0 then. You might want to think about how you remedy that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 05:00 PM
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How much weight have you gained the last six weeks? How many times did you fuck this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 11:19 AM
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So what concrete actions did you take to move the divorce process this week? Which part of frame/game did you work on, what concrete real world interactions did it play out in and what did you learn? Also. Going Rambo doesn't mean what you think it means. No excuse not to go pedal to the metal for you. Oh. And gain 35lbs already.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/23 01:38 PM
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Closure is for simps. It will only hurt you and keep you stuck. GFTOW works better, but it might take a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 01:44 PM
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Different mental models are useful at different stages. "Saving the best" is a seminal post. But it serves mostly to wake guys up. If you are to be believed, you are awake. If so, "her best" is the wrong question to focus on. In stead it goes like below: Become high value. Figure out what you want. Only invest in those that contribute sufficiently to it. Keep raising the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 01:36 PM
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​ I told my wife I wanted her to delete her instagram All this is fine, but I still call shenanigans. Guys don't wave a nuke around over a broken promise of deleting an app. As I said. It eventually comes out anyway, so I guess I'll just wait. IDK if it's an ADHD thing Stop using this bullshit diagnosis as a bullshit excuse. You don't have a fixed identity, but are what you do. Own what you did yesterday, do better today, in service of your goals. The result of me confronting my wife was her beg…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 06:19 AM
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She hasn't. Not sure if wires got crossed somewhere or I communicated poorly, but she's never been unfaithful, nor would I put up with it in the slightest. I was referring to when you said this: I told my wife that I didn't trust her and I didn't want to be with someone I couldn't trust. 99 times out of a 100 this is dude speak for catching his girl in something fishy involving another dude. This, in turn, inevitably turns out to be her fucking around. Often after wading through seas of trickle …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 07:52 PM
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My man.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 07:20 PM
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​ Fair enough. Gym is on my mind 24/7 so this actually was the shorthand lol. I know and recognize this pitfall. It is not helpful at all. The 170%+ rule was made for this exact reason. How did the comfort tests look? I was being asked about faithfulness, looking at other girls, my attraction levels to my wife, if I wanted to leave etc. On the surface level sounds like comfort tests, but then: She also followed up cheating response with "for the first time, I've been toying with the idea of stay…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 07:18 PM
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"I could have sex if you want to," Please tell me you then do (when you want to, obviously).
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 06:51 PM
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You sure write a lot about training for a guy who isn't here for training advice. I'd cut all that. Doing so would make it more apparent that the reason you are here, doesn't get a lot of attention. Let's try to elaborate. How did the comfort tests look? What is an "objective look at BPD"? How is divorce prep going?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 06:45 PM
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TWOTSM - I picked up a couple things from this book, but I don’t understand the obsession. It's a fantastic resource if you want to create/maintain an illusion you are red, while still saving hoes. Seeing as this dude is hell-bent on saving this post-wall bitch, he's on the right track.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 06:40 PM
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Close enough. What kind of behaviours are you seeing in your wife that make you think you need to add beta outside kids, mortgage, fixing stuff around the house and living together, ensuring there's a person in proximity while she jabbers on about that bitch Suzy at work? Also wanted to ask. Are you on gear? Because if you aren't I am curious what kind of programming you've used to reach those numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/23 03:55 AM
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Riddle me this. What's the purpose of alpha and beta respectively?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 05:49 PM
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Yes. Yes she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 09:05 AM
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It's important to repeat the old wisdom so it isn't lost: The Main Event is the mother of all comfort tests. This being so, it is obvious that the response, Come to Jesus Speech, is indeed comfort. As is indeed most all attention, in particular guidance and leadership. This isn't necessarily where u/becomingabetterman1 gets it wrong. Rather it's (at least) two things: The misconception that a girl needs more information about his preferences to act right. A girl knows exactly how up please you, …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 06:44 AM
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You are wrong about a couple of things, some of them have been pointed out to you. The read through UW should've showed you a guy who kept telling his wife to act right or he would leave and what results he got. The most glaring hasn't, funnily enough, so I will. The below is dead wrong for every single guy in here. The answer isn't always "add more alpha".
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 05:43 AM
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F, this (blue settle / red MVP) strikes a chord. I've probably said this before. The program is simple, not easy. For you it goes: Become high value. (done) Figure out what you want. (in process?) Only invest in those that contribute sufficiently to it. (in process) Keep raising the bar. (in process)
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 05:57 AM
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Fucked up I dunno. Just don't attribute much importance to mouth words, yours or hers. If she's acting right, she's acting right. If she is, it's because of your alpha behaviors. So keep those up. Mouth words can work, as verbally nuking tests is alpha, as deerstfu points out. As for UW he insisted on communication as a tool so his wife would understand he wanted her to touch his pee-pee more. Dig long enough and you will find a few "FMOFY"-type things. It should be obvious that they had no appr…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 05:51 AM
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Quite. The medium is the message, to quote Rollo.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 05:42 AM
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Nuking is a very underrated tool indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 05:40 AM
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Read through UWs post history. It's all there but might require some digging.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:22 PM
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It very much matters. I recalled incorrectly. If you did things in the correct order (Main Event first, then CTJS) it explains the sustained improvement. However, there's a limit to a girl's potential. I would posit that not only is it possible but actually quite likely that blue FF settled for someone that no matter how motivated cannot deliver what red FF considers MVP. I know it has been for others who had turnarounds and still nuked.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:20 PM
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The quintessential example of stepping on your own dick by a proactive Come To Jesus speech has been done by u/usefulwalk4. As you will see, it rarely works long term. Though it can produce some nice outside hysterical bonding. There are some recent ones pointing more or less in the same direction. u/futilefighter - how did yours hold up?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 11:07 AM
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I've stopped being a greedy croissant eating cunt that doesn't give a fuck and decided to get my cut back in check. How is this different to the fifteen previous times where you've written exactly the same thing, only to be the same 200+ lbs three months later? What have you done to ensure you're 185 by 1 December. That said, at 6'1 anything below 200 will likely hurt rather than help from a fuckability perspective. As for your dates, just fix logistics. After the audition date, invite to your p…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 10:56 AM
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