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| 21 | How do I get rid of my validation seeking mentality? | ReadyBison6336 | /r/askTRP | 02/04/21 10:36 PM | |
| 1 | Can someone be 'alpha' even after having limitations? If yes, how? If no, how to navigate without them being perceived as weaknesses? | ReadyBison6336 | /r/askTRP | 13/01/21 08:29 AM |
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| 2 | What is the real reason most average men have a near impressive time finding a girlfriend?You're correct. Another way is to decide the max number of men/women you would date before you marry, say 100. Then experiencing √100= 10 relationships, and marrying the next person who's better than these earlier dates is the best solution. Thanks for the book btw, I'll check it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/22 03:46 AM |
| 4 | What is the real reason most average men have a near impressive time finding a girlfriend?It's called Secretary's dilemma. If anyone's interested in the solution, here it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/22 05:37 AM |
| 1 | "Alpha" males are greater cucks than "Betas".I don't think blue pilled alphas are cucks or pussy worshippers. Life, in their pov, is very different than average people. The privilege of naturally getting what they want without trying, stunts their understanding of game and male/female nature in general. This lack of insight, creates the disconnect with the average experience, and the red pill. On top of that, they get a confirmation bias from their personal success, that the mainstream narrative and their thoughts are what's correct. All t… | /r/MGTOW | 29/06/21 11:06 AM |
| 3 | Women on tinder are completely disinterested after meeting irlIt's based on the same principle why it's hard to quit a video game midgame or something that we enjoy. She'll miss you. Compact dates doesn't allow the meeting to meander off, which would make you come off as a better conversationalist. Remember, women usually judge you by how you make them 'feel'. You are boring only if she feels bored. You are funny if she's having fun. Put your best foot forward. Also, the goal of first meets is to feel her up, gauge attraction and see if she's suitable. So,… | /r/askTRP | 06/06/21 07:49 PM |
| 25 | Women on tinder are completely disinterested after meeting irlno date has lasted longer than 2 hours Part of the game is knowing when to exit. The best time is usually when she's enjoying the most. I think you're stretching your dates too long. Let's face it, we aren't Bill Burrs here to keep that intensity going for so long. So, try to keep it short and crisp, atleast the first few ones. I usually keep it around 30-45 minutes, unless she's DTF. Disclaimer: I still do get rejected or ghosted, but manage to convert enough to keep myself satisfied. | /r/askTRP | 06/06/21 07:16 PM |
| 1 | This is intriguing, the man actually called it, in 350BC!This is part of the theory known as Anacyclosis. | /r/MGTOW | 06/06/21 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Is it bad to ask a girl over to your place for the first date or does it not work?Works only if she's DTF. Otherwise it's better to wine & dine and feel her up first. | /r/askTRP | 06/06/21 06:15 PM |
| 41 | The purpose of a blowjobThis. I've had similar experiences too. I've had women who admittedly were passionate about BJs and were always willing to suck dick. I've seen these girls get dripping wet from just sucking, and they've said they enjoy giving it too. However, all these women were far from being wife material and half of them were crazy, who were hard to deal with apart from having sex. I've been with women who were subpar at giving BJs or had their inhibitions in even giving one, but would make a good LTR partn… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/21 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Why don't younger men ever blame their singlehood on older men who are dating younger women?I think you should be asking the question the other way around. What does she have to offer? That wouldn't really answer why they left me, or that's how I saw it. And at that time, I was desperately trying to find out what I could have done wrong or missing. So I tried to examine and analyze their new choice to compare. Did this older guy have his shit together? Yes, both of them were obviously more accomplished than I was at that time. The guy my highschool girlfriend left me for was an enginee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/21 02:17 AM |
| 7 | Why don't younger men ever blame their singlehood on older men who are dating younger women?Yeah, I agree. My high-school girlfriend dumped me for a guy 6 years older than me, and my college girlfriend dumped me for a guy 9 years older. Both times, I felt sorry for the poor dudes, not resentment. Infact I tried to find what more/less these guys had to offer. For my exes though, I absolutely hated them, until I got exposed to TRP. Now I feel grateful and accept the way it is. Life has been significantly better since. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/21 12:49 PM |
| 6 | (opportunity) Cost of marriageThis is a great deal tbh. You get the best of both worlds. How did you manage to get away from alimony and child support btw? | /r/askTRP | 06/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 1 | How to get the best outcome in my situation?Either become self reliant or find someone else or suck it up for now. Those are your only options. You have to choose one. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/21 10:35 PM |
| 1 | How to get the best outcome in my situation?I'm aware that many bodybuilders pin themselves on their deltoids or quads. I'm not aware how shaky are your hands are, but since you can train with weights, I guess you'd be able to pin yourself properly in the more accessible sites I mentioned. I think that'd simply free you of any dependency. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/21 10:15 PM |
| 6 | You will never have enough sexI think there's a term for this: Sexual Diabetes. Traits that were once beneficial for our survival, have now become counterproductive in our modern life. Applies for both the genders. Just like simple carbs. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/21 06:06 PM |
| 3 | How do I get rid of my validation seeking mentality?Thanks for being genuine about it. I, personally, don't think anyone living in a modern society can ever become completely outcome independent. There are so many layers to it. Only a monk, who has rejected everything society has to offer and the mortal attachments that our life has to offer, can even come close to it. Achieving it would be similar to achieving nirvana, I guess, if it's not the same thing. However, for practical purposes, I just need to learn emotional mastery, which is easier sa… | /r/askTRP | 02/04/21 11:46 PM |
| 4 | How do I get rid of my validation seeking mentality?Great point, but this tells me that the inner frame is contingent upon reaching a certain ideal self/goal. If, for some reason, that goal is not reached or attained but lost, then the frame shouldn't hold. Therefore, this is not exactly outcome independent. | /r/askTRP | 02/04/21 11:19 PM |
| 2 | How do I get rid of my validation seeking mentality?I'm bothered that other people can positively and negatively affect me, which in turn affects my decision making. I don't show or act on it, but it takes a lot of willpower to not act reactively. If my willpower falls short someday, I'll fail too. This cannot be a sustainable approach. | /r/askTRP | 02/04/21 11:01 PM |
| 3 | How do I get rid of my validation seeking mentality?The disconnect between the interior and the exterior is distressing me. I may get the results as long as I LARP, but that'll be shortlived. Given enough time, like in a LTR, anyone is bound to slip up if they aren't what they claim. That's why, I'm trying to be what I show. I'm looking for possible approaches to it. | /r/askTRP | 02/04/21 10:50 PM |
| 6 | Alpha with thots but beta with potential GF-material females?The truth is AWALT. There are no women who's inherently a whore or a goddess (not counting the ones with mental pathologies). A housewife to you would be a whore to someone else, and vice versa. This relativeness even has temporal variability, a LTR material would turn into plate material if you increase your smv in future, and the reverse if it drops. The creative and funny girl that you pedestalize will behave the same way the other girl who offered herself to you for nothing did, under the ri… | /r/askTRP | 31/03/21 05:30 PM |
| 12 | Alpha with thots but beta with potential GF-material females?This is classic Madonna Putana complex! It's not that uncommon either. But it's going to be troublesome, if you ever decide to be in a committed longterm relationship. | /r/askTRP | 31/03/21 09:54 AM |
| 14 | Ex GF asked if I'm happier apart than together... How do you respond?Who's this? | /r/askTRP | 19/03/21 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Plate of 1yr recently got told she has cancer and is starting treatment soon. I'm experiencing feeling I haven't had before. Possibly not TRP related. Just after some advice or something.Ofcourse, they aren't mutually exclusive but they don't overlap at some places. TRP promotes this DGAF attitude, which isn't exactly similar to being kind to everyone. | /r/askTRP | 11/03/21 06:26 AM |
| 35 | Plate of 1yr recently got told she has cancer and is starting treatment soon. I'm experiencing feeling I haven't had before. Possibly not TRP related. Just after some advice or something.Humanity over TRP. Be supportive to her, but at the same time, don't get trapped into it. It's just your mind playing tricks. I think it's time, to gradually desexualize yourself from her, make yourself less attractive and just be a friend. If you haven't made any commitment, you should start finding other plates. | /r/askTRP | 10/03/21 12:51 PM |
| 10 | There are too many variations in dating to try to have a discussion about itWhere do you live? Gotta pack my bags. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/21 11:55 AM |
| 10 | There are too many variations in dating to try to have a discussion about itTl;dr: A woman breaks rules for an alpha, and makes them for a beta. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/21 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Bluepilled men, what exactly are the practical benefits of marriage for men these days?In that case, let's go back to the scenario I shared, where predators don't get punished for killing, but they have an incentive to do more of it. Similarly, you can say, women today have the incentive to make a killing by divorce raping a man. Even when she's wrong, she'd usually be let off with a slap on the wrist. When our ancestors faced a similar situation in the savannah, they grouped together, developed various tools and strategies to avoid the predators. Some men still died in combat, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Does "never out-shine your master" workYou've already shown a lot more composure than most of us could have tbh. Although I agree to the 'stand your ground' argument, since this is a part time job for chump change, I think this is an amazing opportunity to learn. Imo, I think you should do the opposite of what he might expect, tell him that he's a great salesman and you want to learn more from him, what tricks to employ, what are the loopholes in the system, how to manage people and the business, how to maintain the store and most im… | /r/askTRP | 01/03/21 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Bluepilled men, what exactly are the practical benefits of marriage for men these days?Legitimacy, Access, Social Approval, Inheritance. These are a few points that comes to my mind right now, which only a married relationship can provide. I'm not entirely bluepilled, but I do want to get married. From OP's post I can understand his mental point of origin and the doomer mentality. While it's true that you can end up having the short end of the stick, but what we tend to forget is that there's an equal or higher chance to have a successful marriage. Having a supportive and loving p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/21 02:11 PM |
| 13 | If red pill gets mainstream acceptance, society collapses.Nyah..society wouldn't collapse, it'd simply course correct. Infact, with growing awareness, relationships might get better as RP teaches men to be more masculine and women to be more feminine. However, the rules of the game would still be the same. The top 20% will still be more desirable than others, and hypergamy will dictate the decisions. So, MGTOW would still be a viable choice. Imo, when we start mass producing customizable android lovebots, that's when society collapses. | /r/MGTOW2 | 28/02/21 09:56 AM |
| 2 | Sex questionUse your tongue, fingers and dick alternatively/simultaneously and keep switching positions. You'll soon find out you can go more than an hour that way. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/21 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Are true alpha males inherently selfless?I read somewhere that, in the animal kingdom, the alphas are usually the highest in empathy in the group. They actually measured oxytocin levels, which plays a key role in empathy, and found that alphas have the highest oxytocin level in the whole group. This really shows that, being alpha is not just about power and domination, it's more about responsibility and taking care of every individual of the tribe. An alpha treats his tribe like his extended family; that surely requires some goodwill a… | /r/askTRP | 13/02/21 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Why did i get more choosing signals when i was skinny compared to now when i'm a muscular?What are you pursuing? Do you have a job? How much money are you making? How well spoken are you? What's your perceived social value? Girls in high school prioritizes looks more often. Status becomes more important later. Maybe you're falling short in that department. | /r/askTRP | 06/02/21 05:13 PM |
| 2 | How do I cope with feelings of loneliness and human contact?Humans are social animals, it's in our nature to seek human contact and form tribes (like TRP is one). I understand your apprehension in being vulnerable to unknown people, so the key here is progressive graded exposure over time. Fear can be either be necessary or useless. Try to identify and eliminate the useless fear, because that is just limiting. Now, truth be told, it isn't going to be smooth sailing to find a good partner or a similar minded group, especially if you're older. But try to e… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Does country or culture matter or AWALT ??This is a classic nature vs nurture issue. In nature, there's no doubt that AWALT all across the world. But nurture also plays a role in modifying the nature. India, being a multicultural country, thus has a wide range of women who are fundamentally similar but functionally different. Moreover, with the recent increase in mobility of rural people to the cities, wider access to the Internet, increased liberalisation and rise in social decadence, a new breed of cognitively dissonant women have eme… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/21 07:01 PM |
| 5 | I lost my frame for one moment and it cost me big time. Don't lose your frame.IMO it all comes down to the difference between our inner frame and our outward projection. Therefore, once the guard is down, which is inevitable given enough time, the inner beta leaks through the gaps. And once her hamster smells the weak, it will soon sniff out the rest of you. Therefore, the best fix for this will be to build a strong inner frame by doing the hard work, achieving your goals, being self sufficient and successful in life. With success comes confidence, with practice comes mas… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/21 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Men should adopt women’s mindset when it comes to dating and relationshipsYes, women, on average, get more options in their lifetime than men, due to differential mating strategies. Therefore, more women tend to have this abundance mindset than men. That doesn't imply that abundance mindset and female mindset are interchangeable. Please use a Venn diagram to understand the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/21 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Men should adopt women’s mindset when it comes to dating and relationshipsBoth you and goats might have beard, but that doesn't mean you are same as goats. Women come in all shapes, sizes and mentalities. Anyone, male or female, having multiple options naturally has abundance mentality. It depends more on individual opportunities than simply the gender. Also, women and men have complementary mental systems. Men behaving like women or women behaving like men, therefore, are usually perceived as unattractive by the opposite gender. So, abundance mindset ≠ woman's mindse… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/21 04:59 PM |
| 48 | Men should adopt women’s mindset when it comes to dating and relationshipsI think you meant abundance mindset. Not exactly the same as a woman's mindset. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/21 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Why do girls like guys who treat them like shit so muchThis reminds me of that meme where a bunch of birds sat on progressively higher perches and shat. It quoted, 'When you look up you see only assholes, when you look down you see only shit'. Alternatively, an asshole who shits on her, can be perceived as someone from higher position in the hierarchy aka high value. Ofcourse, this is a very simplistic view, but it works more for young inexperienced girls, than experienced high value women. | /r/askTRP | 31/01/21 10:30 AM |
| 23 | Veteran redpillers, what are some of your regrets you wish you had (not) done when you were younger?The general non-technical skills that help us navigate through people, society and environment, viz networking, negotiation, persuasion, conflict resolution, oration, presentation, nonverbal communication, strategic planning, diplomacy, adaptability, etc. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/21 02:22 PM |
| 28 | Veteran redpillers, what are some of your regrets you wish you had (not) done when you were younger?I have 3 major regrets: Not prioritizing health over everything else. When we're young, our bodies are extremely resilient to various stresses. We don't realize the effects until later in life, when all these tiny changes add up to become a disease. To be healthy later in life, we should start living a healthy lifestyle as early as possible. Health has the biggest ROI out of everything in our life. Not understanding the importance of soft skills and personal finance early enough. Our education s… | /r/askTRP | 29/01/21 12:39 PM |
| 19 | 24 and got a hookup pregnant, what do I do?It's better to talk about abortion now, than face humiliation and pay for child support later. I understand your distress, I went through all this last year when I found a close friend of mine got pregnant, just 2 weeks after the 1st lockdown. It took a great deal to convince her, and keep her from changing her mind, dealing with the mood swings. But we pulled it off successfully at 7 weeks, secretly, while living under restrictions, a timezone apart. I am not a big fan of abortion myself and I … | /r/askTRP | 17/01/21 09:11 PM |
| 5 | How do you have unattractive female friendsI had a phase when I fucked any woman I got without any discrimination - beautiful or not. I've found that unattractive women actually do a lot more in bed to please me, and are more accommodating and submissive. But they'd obviously catch feels more quickly, so you've to set hard boundaries from the start. I also have an ugly overweight female friend, who actually helps me out in separating the bitches from high value women, among other things. At one point, she used to fancy me too, but I had … | /r/askTRP | 15/01/21 04:59 AM |
| 1 | How to manage everything?This is unfortunately, an inevitability of modern life. But it does come with a silver lining, in that it teaches us to prioritize and be more efficient. I'd recommend you to thoroughly scrutinize your routine, and cut out the unnecessary/less important tasks. Also, I've found that shifting the frame from a daily plan to a weekly plan, if possible, is more convenient. Ex: Even if I plan to study 5 hrs everyday, I won't have the same energy level or circumstances everyday. So I set myself a 35hrs… | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 09:47 AM |
| 20 | LTR keeps bringing up marriage in the future?I gotta say, if you're still not bored after 4 years of banging her, she needs to be taken more seriously. Your notion about relationships seem more blackpilled to me, which I, personally, don't subscribe to. But, if you're being with her, just because she's always available, start preparing an exit strategy. If she doesn't fuck up, you have to; or atleast bring down the relationship to a point, where you can conveniently hard next her. Meanwhile, just keep stalling and enjoy as long as you want… | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 07:40 AM |
| 2 | Gf and transportation - setting boundaryNever set a boundary by directly telling her to do it. Most likely she won't listen to you or even if she does, she'll secretly resent you for it. Use statements of fact like, 'Did you read this article? This girl drove 18hrs just to meet her boyfriend. I like relationships where the partners value and make an effort for each other'. Or use whatever that suits best, but you must casually bring it up when you're having a good time, and make no big deal out of it. The hamsters in her brain will ta… | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 06:21 AM |
| 2 | Asked girl out, agreed to a date, but not in town till end of month...how not to lose attraction?In situations like this, I usually don't text her first. If she doesn't text anymore, I delete her number after a week. We chat only when she texts me first. And I always keep the conversations fun and short. Keep things simple and fun, and escalate only a day or two prior to the date. And most importantly, keep spinning plates in the meantime. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 05:41 AM |
| 3 | Anybody ever gone to therapy? Advice on what to look for when choosing a therapist / psychologist?Most of the therapists/ psychologists practice DBT, which might be helpful for some, but doesn't benefit me at all. If you understand the basics of psychology, intelligent and can introspect and self regulate, DBT might not be beneficial for you either, but it does help a lot of people who don't have much idea about psychology or can't self regulate. That being said, CBT and clinical psychoanalysis is an entirely different ball game. But it requires special training and expertise, and not everyo… | /r/askTRP | 06/01/21 05:36 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with higher status/smv males shit test?It doesn't matter if you're superior or inferior, when you have no social proof, you're at zero. Even your most incisive and witty retorts will fall flat, if the crowd doesn't approve you. So it's best to use nonchalance and amused mastery. You're right, in this case, using agree & amplify without any social proof will only end up damaging your reputation, especially if you're up against a crafty mf, even with no crowd around. For example, MF: You're a loser. You: Sure, but only when I'm paid we… | /r/askTRP | 06/01/21 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with being on my purpose and finding exactly what my purpose isSurvive and reproduce. That's the only purpose of all living beings, including us. Anything else is a construct we build to give our lives, meaning. So, don't try to find any other purpose, there isn't any. However, you can find a cause, to which you voluntarily 'choose' to dedicate your otherwise meaningless life to, and label it as your purpose (as if we have a divine purpose to be a insert any work XD). We find meaning from the cause that we work for, and satisfaction from fulfilling it. I, p… | /r/askTRP | 05/01/21 10:06 PM |
| 7 | What's keeping you from being MGTOWQuitting the game is not equal to winning the game. Sure, it's better than losing; but I, personally, don't agree with the approach that MGTOW takes. Red pill knowledge comes as a shocking revelation to most, which may make a certain group of people withdraw as a reaction to it. While others may want to harness this truth, to get what they want. We humans, are intrinsically problem solvers. Had our ancestors quit the game because the predators are too OP, we'd have never existed. We have recogni… | /r/askTRP | 05/01/21 09:33 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend Always Competitive, Frequent Frame/Shit Test?Get better. You're obviously dealing with it better than most guys, and probably that's why you're still in a relationship. But the reason she's constantly testing you is to subconsciously reaffirm herself that you're the best she can get. Maybe you're not a guy with high enough smv, which is triggering her hypergamy or she might be just more hypergamous than other women in general. Also, verify if she's competitive with everyone or with you in particular. If she's competitive in most situations… | /r/askTRP | 05/01/21 07:21 PM |
| 8 | How to stop taking rejection personal?You're basing your value/ self worth in her approval of you. That acts as a double whammy for you in that it makes you look weak and needy in her eyes, leading to your rejection and loss of self worth in your eyes. The more you get disapproved, the more you chase it, to be accepted not just in her eyes, but in your eyes too. This is a perfect recipe for despair and depression, my friend. Find a purpose, which doesn't revolve around women, and work tirelessly for it. Get disciplined. Achieve some… | /r/askTRP | 05/01/21 06:58 PM |
| 19 | How to deal with higher status/smv males shit test?Bruh, this reminds me of those 'Supa Hot Fire Rap Battles', check them out on YouTube, if you haven't yet, they're hilarious. Well, most alphas around are only situational alphas and it's inevitable that they might come across a more dominant alpha. If the other person is more gifted, skilled and has more social proof, it is unwise to engage in direct confrontation. We have this notion that alphas must always compete, but ignore the fact that alphas can also collaborate. The first thing to look … | /r/askTRP | 05/01/21 05:47 PM |
| 2 | The "are you a feminist?" Shit testIt depends on the situation. If it's a normal conversation: "Beauty lies in the balance. I don't believe in any -isms" But if you want to tilt her: "No, I'm healthy", then walk away. | /r/askTRP | 05/01/21 04:58 PM |
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