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Correct. “Made to penetrate” doesn’t fit the current definition of rape. But it is counted. And it’s also counted in sexual assault statistics. So i dont know why you’re hung up on semantics and not that men’s assaults are absolutely being counted and reported alongside rape reports.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 01:17 AM
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It absolutely is reported and a part of the data. You’re just parroting someone else’s talking point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:56 PM
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Men are the ones asking for help with dating. If women ask me, they get different advice based on different principals. I know everyone here thinks we have full free will, society and expectations doesn’t influence anything and only idiots care what other people think/say/do but unfortunately that’s not the case. You get the advice that will work for the gender you want to be with. It’s not “circular logic” to claim men and women exist differently and desire different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:45 PM
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I think you need to look into how many women actually receive child support in the US my dude. You’re basing your opinion off of anecdotes and not hard data.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:47 AM
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For a couple months? Sure. I’ll give you the “both sides should be clear” argument. For a decade and after having children? No. He lied.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:28 PM
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A year? Momma I know men who have wasted a decade and three children thinking “she just isn’t wife material.” Don’t let men string you along. Have better boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:26 PM
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Right? It’s almost like he’s saying “if you don’t let me exploit you for labor, I’m being abused!” Like… sir, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:21 PM
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My mother, mother in law, siblings, grandparents, certain friends, people from church, anyone in the community - people see women give birth, a medically traumatizing event leading to at a minimum a dinner plate sized wound, and think they’re lazy if they don’t continue cooking and cleaning to the same previous standard, with maybe a 3-5 day grace period. Women are expected to host people when they give birth and have for generations (in the US. My point of reference.) I find it disingenuous to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:21 PM
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It depends on if he’s a single dad or a dad who has children with someone. Those are two different things. A single mom typically implies she does the primary care of the children. A single dad implies the same. If he is a weekend warrior, you call those “people with children” - not single parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 03:08 PM
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Not to be pedantic but this definition of “pair bond” is VERY different from the RP definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:28 AM
1

My problem is with the mindset that you should treat everyone around you worse instead of better. That’s a weird way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:26 PM
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Yes it is. But you’re the one who chose for the worse instead of for the better. It’s also entirely illogical. Like I said it speaks to your mindset and those like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:05 PM
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Imagine thinking you’re the “nice stranger” by purposely making a woman feel unsafe….
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:04 PM
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I adore the illogical take that equality is treating everyone worse instead of treating everyone better. It really speaks to the mindset of your average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:00 PM
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Just because you try to pass off anger, resentment, disappointment, and other negative emotions as “not emotions” simply because you have to alienate sadness that leads to crying doesn’t mean you aren’t emotional or push down “every emotion.” Men are incredibly emotional. I have yet to meet many stoic men in my life, despite the constant claims to the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:57 PM
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But wasn’t the questions what is specifically unique to males?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:48 PM
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More likely doesn’t mean special and unique to men tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:47 PM
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Men live longer when they’re married because women push them to take legitimate health issues seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:26 PM
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Man flu =\= actual influenza. Man flu is the weaponization of feeling unwell by a man in order to get out of regular responsibilities. Women aren’t allowed to exhibit this same behavior since if we don’t handle our responsibilities, they just won’t get done. Actual influenza is horrible for men and women and kills millions of people a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 12:34 PM
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It matters who is doing harm and why. I guess nuance is such a foreign concept to the RP that they don’t understand they aren’t actually oppressed for being men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:52 PM
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Mask slip “But I’m a good guy!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:55 PM
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When you have systemic barriers to making money, and another group doesn’t, it’s actually wild to call it hypergamy like it’s a choice of “marrying up” financially when that’s the system they’ve been put in. If all men got their faces slashed up and disfigured at birth, but women didn’t, would you say that “all men date up in looks” as if it’s their fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:49 PM
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“Everyone says wild stuff” is going to be my response when anyone here complains about feminists misandrist spaces…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:42 PM
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But what I described is exactly what the RP men here have an issue with. That being careful is misandry. That it is not normal and we are discriminating against men for our “hate.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 09:53 PM
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Who’s living in constant fear? Are you going up to the raccoon and handing it marshmallows with your bare hands? Or are you giving it a respectable distance? Women still go outside, work, shop, engage in their communities. We are just careful around the ones who show signs of rabies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:04 PM
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Ahahahahahahahahahahahabab Wow - imagine walking right into the point and missing it entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:51 PM
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That’s still a lot of rapists. Claiming that rapists are ”only” 1% of the population is a weird thing to be okay saying. Where did we judge the other 99% of men? Because I don’t want to accidentally be alone with the 1% I’m doing what exactly to the other 99%?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:51 PM
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I’m saying that 1% of the population is a huge number. I also reject the premise it’s 1% of men causing harm. No where can you source that statistic for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:48 PM
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Imagine making up a statistic and then verbally abusing the person who called you out. Lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:51 PM
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You say 1% like that isn’t 41.7 million men. You say 1% like that isn’t one in one hundred men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:48 PM
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Yup - god forbid you say men rape or men murder when they’re the primary demographic. But they sure do love swooping in with a “men built the world” and “men fight and die in wars” and “men work dangerous and important jobs.” When they’ve never built anything in their lives and sit behind a computer all day talking about how women have “easy jobs.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:45 PM
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You keep saying joke… do you think satire is a joke? Like, do you think those words are interchangeable?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:02 PM
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That’s not true at all. Patriarchy has a definition lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:49 PM
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For 99% of modern history, you absolutely did not cold approach and it was considered incredibly bad form. You met through people. You went to their house. You were a “caller” and you visited their parents home to sit in the sitting room with your intended while being babysat by other people in your social circle. A failed relationship was a big issue for your reputation. You legally couldn’t marry a woman more beautiful or from a better station than you. There were ugly laws and institutions. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:32 PM
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So you don’t think men and women are treated any differently and that there is no gender bias in any systems in the “western” world?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:17 PM
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What would you define it as?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:16 PM
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So you are saying a man can’t be raped by a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:13 PM
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This is where you separate people actually into women from the people into the socially acceptable hole. You couldn’t show me a tit that I wouldn’t worship on a woman I like. And in my opinion, short of some extremes that I get - smell, unable to reach sex organs, and some third thing I can’t think of - you aren’t straight if you’re so easily put off of a woman by a physical attribute. And yes I’m willing to say that for women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 03:54 PM
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Are the hateful comments in the room with us?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 08:54 PM
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I hope you educate yourself and grow out of your victim mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 08:18 PM
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What goal post was shifted? That you’re not oppressed and women aren’t murdering men en masse? Where did I deviate from that? You can’t claim women are master manipulators getting men to murder others while also claiming to be the superior/stronger/smarter gender. You have to pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 08:17 PM
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Wow incoherent and wrong - I’m impressed with this level of incompetence
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:03 PM
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Pew research. You can google this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:45 PM
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So being unable to fuck in the kitchen equals life is over?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:41 PM
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Does romance only mean sex to you? Because you can have romance without fucking in front of people or your children. Also kids go to bed at like 7pm. There is time for intimacy if both partners desire it and have the energy and space for it. More equitable partners will have more space and energy for it. A mom cleaning the house after kids go to bed won’t have time or energy. If one person is doing all of the mental load, emotional labor, child rearing, of course it will ruin your life. But that…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:40 PM
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You can be subjugated based on other axis of oppression. But being a man will never be it. “Grow up” is honestly funny when the grown ups actually do research into intersectionality and intersectional feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:21 AM
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Not how that works. You as a man can be subjugated based on race, class, religion, socioeconomic position - but never because you are a man. A poor man has more power than a poor woman. A black man has more power than a black woman. There is zero argument you can even posit against that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:18 AM
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But why would she not just date someone she could be freaky with? Dating the safe guy doesn’t mean a total lack of attraction. Women don’t pick men they don’t actually wanna fuck. Men turn in to men they don’t wanna fuck. Women either can choose any man they want or are also constrained by male choice - it can’t be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:07 PM
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Just because you don’t understand the term doesn’t mean it doesn’t have a definition other people understand. But anything to make yourself out to be the poor male victim, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:06 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:04 PM
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Punching down to who? Men aren’t a subjugated class.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:04 PM
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Oh yes - the subjugated class trying to exist within the confines of an area deemed safe as long as they toe the line is really the one pushing the agenda!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:04 PM
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Dude - if she’s a freak, she’s not dating someone she can’t be a freak with. Do you think women can’t find men they find attractive to be freaky with? If they’re dating you, unless you’re in a sugar relationship, or under 21, they like you. It’s weird to do this self defeatist shit “no one will date me and even if they do they don’t like me and even if they do they liked other men more.” Like dude - get some self esteem and grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:32 PM
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You literally said men shouldn’t be accused as a group or held accountable as a group for “a few bad actors.” So why do you get to claim their valor when you have done nothing to stop harm against women? You can’t have it both ways. Are either are or are not “all men.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 09:55 PM
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You: punching up is a hate crime too!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 09:52 PM
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15 years ago… and it did no tangible harm besides hurt your fee fees. Women weren’t out slaughtering men en masse. But guess who is slaughtering people en masse?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 09:51 PM
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Men’s only criteria is “gave my dick tingles” so i dont know who you are critiquing with that sort of vetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:01 PM
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What does that have to do with men’s nature? My husband and I are very happy. That doesn’t change the fact that I know men’s real desires. I was a pro Domme, I have been with basketball and football stars, lawyers, doctors, engineers, and I’ve dated poor and middle class and average men. If anyone has sampled the rainbow of human experiences - it’s me. And I can tell you one thing for certain: men adore a chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:04 PM
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Oh honey no. Even Chad will chase if he thinks you don’t want him. Why do you think a dominant woman is so many dudes fantasy? Even the wanna be doms cannot wait to be thrown around by Mommy. They adore a woman who knows what she wants, especially if what she wants isn’t you. And nope - I’ve dated men who dated other women. I know who I am I don’t have to believe im the best. I know I wasn’t. But I was the least available and so I typically won. I have a mean streak and they still begged for mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:48 PM
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Oh honey - if men can be tricked into “who is more desirable” just by seeming uninterested, then you believe men are dumber than anyone gives them credit for. Men love the chase. Whether you want to justify it this way or not - they love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:44 PM
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It’s actually comical when men try to play like they aren’t desperate to settle down with a woman they love. I’m a huge slut - I have been with enough men to know that when the woman is the aloof one, all men love the chase. When men claim they hate the chase, they just want a woman to say they like him, they can’t stand “games” - it’s all a big lie. If a woman dares to try to chase a man, he can never be caught. But tell a man you aren’t looking for anything serious and mean it? They beg. Men l…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 05:31 PM
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I’m so sorry that’s how your world works. Because it’s not mine and my husband. Could never, would never, and will never. I give blowjobs “for free” because I enjoy giving them. I like making my husband cum. He gives head “for free” because he likes to watch me cum. Neither of us spend the others money, we both work. Like most married couples I know. Like most dating couples I know. Like most adults I know. If you spend your life as a human ATM, stop being upset when that’s what women treat you …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:04 PM
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Oh my gosh - since when don’t women work? “Helps” in the home you also live and make a mess in? Plan holidays - okay Richie rich how many holidays have you planned for others this year? If mom doesnt plan it, it doesn’t get done. Dad would book the tickets and forget the hotel. Also “educates you.” I have no idea what this means. I have never been the dumber one in my relationships and honestly I find it hard to believe men are teaching women much of anything they don’t already know. Men just li…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:58 PM
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I think the men who are openly in to pegging and the men who complain about women are two separate circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:50 PM
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Men really suck at envisioning what it’s like to be the penetrated instead of the penetrator and it shows. Go get pegged and then come back and tell me who gets to be good or bad at it. Make pegging widespread and normalized and we’d have a more empathetic world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:09 PM
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Not all sex work is illegal. You can pay a sugar baby whenever you want to. Or you can get an escort. Go to Vegas. Sex workers exist everywhere though and the sex worker is more likely to be incarcerated from the transaction than you are. You’re just not trying. Or I think you’d much prefer to be a pay pig - but that’s from experience. Most men who try to engage in this weird “women aren’t they great” rhetoric, they’re usually more like Kristi Noems husband than Chad. But that’s just statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:06 PM
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“Of course I’d raise my kid! By forcing the labor on to other women of course! Not difficult when you don’t do all of the work!” - you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:34 PM
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It’s like 46% of court ordered child support is paid in full. And of that some are just $0 support “payments” “paid in full.” So yeah you need a fair person to pay child support. Suing doesn’t do much unless you want to constantly chase them and alert the courts dozens of times before anything minor happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:31 PM
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Are you really trying to compare having your body invaded to working construction? Also I love when men here use this argument when less than 1% of you are in construction lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:14 PM
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Royal you dude. You’re defending the comment - you’re now a part of the opposition.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 05:28 PM
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Do you think that maybe giving a list of ways only you specifically are disadvantaged with zero context or nuance is helping anyone to address any of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 12:18 PM
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I would be absolutely devastated. My dogs would be devastated. His family would be devastated. We bought a house with an in-law home to house his mom. His dad is a POS and getting his mom somewhere safe was top priority. His sister will also be moving to our property. The MIL house isn’t ready so she lives with us right now. She’s awesome. So based on that background - I would be picking up the pieces and holding down the fort for half of his family. I hold no romantic notions that to remain wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:04 PM
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Maybe they don’t always say it out loud, but when I ask them why they aren’t going for the most undesirable women - women like the 1000 pound sisters. They seemed to date anyone who was interested in them. But when you ask they claim they’re so much better than those women, why does he have to settle for such ugly creatures? If he’s fit, that means he deserves a bare minimum hotness level. And then it’s a back and forth from “I’ll take literally any woman” to “I deserve to have standards too!”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:50 PM
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What could their side be that would make it my fault? They spilled sealer. They didn’t clean it. They didn’t let anyone else know. You’re just a part of the #believeallmen and #allwomenareliars team and that just means you’re not only biased, you’re prejudiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 05:35 PM
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So they didn’t spill the sealer and they didn’t decide to not clean it up and they also didn’t decide to not tell me? Lmao it would be comical if this wasn’t how women are treated in every male dominated industry ever. It’s like the narcissists prayer. “That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.” Nothing like a man to gaslight something he wasn’t ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 12:28 AM
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So this is the full list then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 12:26 AM
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wtf does this mean. It’s like word salad. Both men and women engage in voluntary and involuntary risk. But if we (disperse information) men and women victim in situations that were voluntary, I think that won’t look any better. You think women engage in voluntary risk as much as men do? Incorrect. Just on a fundamental level. If that’s not what you mean - you need to restate the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:55 AM
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People who do a dangerous job deserve to be paid what the job is worth. A woman also doing that job should be paid the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:53 AM
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Blame the people whose fault it was? Yeah, I will. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:51 AM
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I do have the mechanism to defend them. Again - you thinking you’re a big bad bully who will hurt women out of their rights doesn’t mean they belong to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:50 AM
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These are the only metrics then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:47 AM
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Do you not understand voluntary vs involuntary risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:09 PM
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Why is college admission your only metric of equality?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:59 PM
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Bro - the great equalizer exists. Stop pretending being able to hurt someone is justification for thinking you own anyone’s rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:55 PM
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The men I worked with were idiots. I broke my back because the men I worked with refused to clean. They spilled driveway sealer and didn’t clean it. I was carrying a bucket of concrete from the back, I didn’t know they had spilled on the metal floor of the box truck, and I tumbled out. They got it on their security cameras too and it was pretty wild to watch after the fact. But yes - if they weren’t idiots, no one would have gotten hurt. But I was talking about carpentry. Carpentry isn’t particu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:58 AM
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Where do blue pillers say that you don’t have to be attractive at all? You absolutely need to be attractive to that particular person for that particular person to want you. What RP gets wrong is that ONLY Chad gets to date and ALL women want Chad. Those are incorrect. Also if a woman is attracted to two average men and one is a good guy and one is awful, she will probably date the good one short of her own mental health issues or lying/manipulation on the man’s part. But yeah, if you want to ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:26 PM
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Recently? I worked in concrete until I broke my back in a work accident and now work in carpentry. I wouldn’t say it’s particularly hazardous unless you’re an idiot. But I have had to put up with much more than my male counterparts for every labor job I’ve ever worked. Sexual harassment, bullying, hazing, grunt work for years despite being more qualified, you name it. Male rookies didn’t deal with 1% of what I did so I don’t want to hear “that’s what happens when you’re green!” I’m not green tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:41 PM
-1

And which of those ten are you working in?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:38 AM
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I believe you couldn’t architect a broom closet. What is your very manly physically demanding job?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:38 AM
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This is the funniest shit I’ve ever read. I didn’t want the wedding, my husband did. I didn’t have a bachelorette party, but my husband had a bachelor party. He loves to be celebrated. I hate people. I have a huge diamond ring because he wanted to give me the ring of my dreams. I changed into sweats the moment the ceremony was over. I’m incredibly caring. And show it easier than my husband. I cook for him, because I want to. But I don’t have to and he never makes me feel obligated to. He doesn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:00 PM
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Just like it’s your choice to remain hooked up to the dying baby. It wasn’t your choice to be connected but it is your choice to stay connected. The baby doesnt live unless you stay connected to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 08:51 PM
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Nope. It’s not the 18 years you aren’t signing up for. It’s the 10 months of using your body as an incubator you get to opt out of. Just like you don’t have to be an incubator. Just like I can’t kidnap you and hook you up to a dying baby and make you stay connected for ten months, under threat of legal repercussions. The baby will die if you disconnect yourself. It was illegal for me to kidnap you and hook you up. But should it be illegal for you to unhook yourself from the baby? What if it’s yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:07 PM
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I mean you can already check that - they’ll be living with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 04:30 PM
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I don’t think you understand how a birth certificate works and it leads me to believe I’m “debating” a child… You cannot list any name you want on a certificate. I can’t just put harry styles as the dad of my kid. A man has to sign his name. If you don’t sign, she has to go after you for a dna test. Then the court determines you legally responsible or not. And no, you aren’t automatically assumed to be the father without dna evidence but you would be a fool to not give it. Much like I can be acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 04:28 PM
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Ah, I forgot… sexless men are being round up and put into institutions. The sexless men are not being hired or given access to healthcare or being rented to or given mortgages because of the sexlessness. It’s institutional!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:12 PM
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Of course. I’m a slut, sex is very important to me, I slept with my husband on the first date. (A date at his parents house where he lived at 29. I met his mom before I saw his bedroom, lol.) But I am a woman with woman friends and family. I am the exception. Do not take how I view sex and sexuality and think all women operate this way or should operate this way if she only “finds you attractive enough.” I’m sorry but it just isn’t how it works. If you want sex on date three, that’s fine. I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 02:08 AM
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Where is romance? Where is love? Where is passion? What the fuck is this even? You’re the one demanding it by the third date or she doesn’t like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:36 PM
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Is your issue dating is too much like a job interview or that it isn’t enough like a job interview? You seem critical of “women treating it as a job interview” with tests and probation (yeah vetting for compatibility is the goal of dating) and you don’t like that - but then go on to explain that you’re not allowed to treat it like a job interview because if you could, you would demand the following steps that culminated in sex on date three and meeting the parents (wtf?) on date 4? (4?!) and why…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:33 PM
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Fair. So you wouldn’t defend yourself? You just let people call you a rapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 03:52 PM
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That’s not the question. I asked if it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:54 PM
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Realistically your chances of getting pregnant every month is about 30%. If I’m on my period, chances are low. If it’s the fertile week, chances are incredibly high. What factors are you looking for? Do you think only strangers on the street rape? Do you think all sex within a relationship is always enthusiastic? Do you think stealthing never happens within a relationship? With “good” guys, normal, average, every day dudes. Men and women are socialized differently. And men are socialized to not …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:53 PM
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Because you’re ugly. You know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:47 AM
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Great debate. Very good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:46 AM
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Ahahahahhahahahahahaha this is hysterical. Dudes - it’s okay to be gay. If you find men, as a rule, more attractive than women, bro, you’re at least sort of gay. If you always think men are better than women, I have news for you chief. It’s okay to be gay. You don’t have to disparage women in order to like men. Thinking women are icky isn’t a requirement to fuck men. If you are using statistical averages like height or muscle mass, there is an equal biological difference in women. Saying “women …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:46 AM
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If someone calls you a rapist and it isn’t true, do you not defend yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:52 PM
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Isn’t that also the man escaping consequences? She has to actually go seek an abortion. He has none. No I still took the awful birth control because the fear of pregnancy from sex I didn’t ask for was scarier than the awful side effects. You may not be “judging” but you are acting like autonomy is about the sex when it isn’t. That’s just what you think, but it’s wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:05 PM
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Yall wanna cry you don’t get sex and then shame the women out here having sex. I fucked the men in makeup, the pals I pegged, the dude in a dress. I also fucked macho, strong, fit, masculine types. I married the soft kind strong fit silly one. Also - sex was never a “reward” for the good boy points they put in to the pussy machine. I just wanted to fuck. And so did they. So we did.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:12 AM
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That’s not why women care about abortion and I think the fact that you can’t have your autonomy taken from you makes you think you understand it’s just about “consequence free sex” is actually wild. It’s like me saying you only fight to make kidnapping illegal because you want to go on a date and avoid the consequence of becoming an organ donor. Most women who have abortions are married and already have children. I promise it has nothing to do with “consequence free sex.” Abortion is a consequen…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:29 PM
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Did I stutter?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:03 AM
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Nope. Not how any of that works. A woman is taking responsibility by having an abortion instead of having the kid and dropping it off at your door and disappearing. And also - where are women saying the sex itself is the important part? And also - you can’t compel anyone to do something to you they don’t want to do. There is a huge difference and I don’t believe for a second you don’t see the distinction and you’re just a troll trying to force a false equivalence to make a non coherent point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 01:58 AM
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I have never in my life asked a non partner about their sexual history. Or been asked by anyone in my life. Either has my husband. So I think this is either a bold face lie or a you thing. In what world did no girlfriend equal virgin? I don’t even think no girlfriend meant virgin 50 years ago. Also your little example - there was no world you had to say that. None. Whatsoever. That was… a choice…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 01:56 AM
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I support women’s rights and wrongs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 11:53 PM
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I don’t think you understand chances of reproduction… Or harm reduction… Or why an abortion is literally taking responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:14 PM
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Why does anyone know if you’re a virgin? Why are you telling people?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 04:49 PM
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What does that have to do with you crying over a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:45 PM
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All of your replies show everyone just how little you care.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:43 PM
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The internet is where no one would know if you were single or not… So yes - including friends and family - what real world ramifications of shame are you experiencing? Hurt feelings because your mom keeps asking when you’ll bring a nice girl home? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:43 PM
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What in the emotional ranting….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:41 PM
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It is a wild self own to claim women don’t enjoy sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:24 PM
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Source: trust me bro!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:20 PM
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Awe did the funny joke hurt your fee fees again?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:46 PM
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Online meeting =/= OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:22 PM
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Outside of the internet, where no one would know if you were single or not if you didn’t talk like that, what are the real world ramifications of this shame and who is shaming you, and in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:14 PM
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Do you think unconscious means it just came about because biology? Lmao you think it isn’t a learned bias?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:07 PM
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In what world is bias an “inherent trait?” Bias is learned and socialized, definitely not inherent. And yes - socialization and what’s acceptable changes rapidly. Especially over 20 years. Isn’t this the sub who claims anyone who dated more than 5 years ago has “no idea what it’s like now?”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:09 PM
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Taking quotes out of context and ascribing their intention without the full body of work attached to it is not useful or the gotcha you think it is. Of course there are women who say mean shit about men. But that isn’t systemic oppression. Also - I’m not googling every quote there and you’ve already proven yourself intellectually dishonest by not researching your own initial meme. So I have no other choice than to believe they’re all false. ETA - looking over your choice of quoting radical femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 03:22 PM
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Do you trust anything pasted on a meme for you? This line is a piece of satirical dialogue from the 2018 film The Favourite, written by Deborah Davis and Tony McNamara. It is actually calling out the dehumanization of men in the modern age you absolute fucking damp ham sandwich.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:04 PM
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When posting studies it is best to keep them within a 5-7 year timeframe to be relevant. Anything outside of this timeframe should be used as supplementary data or included in a meta analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:58 PM
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If you think humans are “casual” now - you should see how people dated before, especially in the 1950s - of which the men here love to idolize. Dating has always been casual. You aren’t supposed to marry the first person who gives you attention. You are supposed to vet partners before becoming serious. Yall are weird if you think even a significant small portion of women are sugaring or a significant portion of men pay for it. Lmfaooo yall have problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:44 PM
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Do you love your mother more than your father? Do you love your children any less when another comes along? Do you feel less loving the more family you have? No. That’s not how love works. It multiplies. It’s expansive. There is always room to love someone in a fresh way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:29 AM
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You mean there isn’t an entire subreddit filled with “I’m so lonely, I have no one to love me, sex is a need - but no land whales! No whores! No sluts! No gold diggers! No boss babes!”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:57 PM
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So a grifter taking advantage of the “male loneliness crisis” is who we are claiming is “what women want” now?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:46 PM
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Wow - you really don’t realize how you made zero point and actually countered the point I think you might have been trying to make. But men will try to claim sex is more important than literally anything else just to win the oppression Olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 01:20 AM
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You say this like every man on this thread is not saying “don’t care, she’s hawt! I don’t care if she’s a bum on the street with a needle hanging out of her arm, she’s HAWWWWT!”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:53 PM
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So what does your husband do?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:51 PM
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It wasn’t supposed to be? Why would it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:27 PM
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Dude is pretty average actually. He looks like probably 50% of the dudes I’ve ever dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:50 AM
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Most teens who are fucking each other don’t have status or money to speak of… Also the dude I know who fucked probably 500+ women is the ugliest dude I know. He did eventually marry a pretty average woman, with several kids (he can’t have kids and wanted to be a dad. His insides are backwards and caused some health issues.) But he’s funny and a joy to be around. Anecdotal but if one can, I don’t think it’s unreplicatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:08 PM
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Nope - I’m a slut who had low self esteem for years. Ugly men do not care any more or less than hot men. Honestly even if you fuck them and fall for them, so many ugly men think “well if I got her, I can get one better!” And treat you like the second choice he believes you to be. That’s just men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:03 PM
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Yes I am absolutely disputing it since I’ve been the stranger protecting someone and had a stranger protect me. I didn’t have to view them as an authority figure and I didn’t demand it from them. That’s fucking weird dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:01 PM
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Why don’t you use an example where it’s an adult with autonomy and higher understanding? Because do you need authority to tell someone “hey a car is coming?” No, they’ll just move because they understand what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 10:04 PM
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Why not? That’s a weird expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:00 AM
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Can you explain how women are “acting like assholes” by staying away from men? If your solution is to leave women alone - great! Women dont need you to do anything but leave us alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:40 PM
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“I’m not victim blaming because a victim is always a victim… but… why did you go drinking with friends? Don’t you see how that’s a dangerous situation you shouldn’t have been in? Why were you walking down a dark alley at night to get home? Why were you wearing shorts around your uncle? Why didn’t you fight back? I mean, You’re totally a victim but like, you put yourself in that situation… not me. I’m a good girl who doesn’t do anything without my husband to protect me! It’s so much safer to just…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:38 PM
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Women are not seeking to be seen as an authority figure - rather a reciprocal benefit to each participant. This works for dating and for community involvement. You aren’t seeking a reciprocal benefit within your community or dating life - you wish to be seen as an authority figure that no one can oppose. And that’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:29 PM
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So you only seek to participate in your community if they treat you like m authority figure? Ew…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:46 PM
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Tinder. I was an equal opportunity slut for anyone I fancied and ended up marrying my favorite from the bunch. I was 29.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:21 AM
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Stop having oneitis and move on quickly when someone doesnt put it in reciprocal effort. Stop treating women like their sole purpose in life is I fuck you. Don’t be fake and lie to try to fuck. You won’t end up fucking and you’ll alienate anyone who could have been your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 10:54 PM
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They deal with either being pregnant for 10 months or having an abortion - they already take on more responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:50 AM
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If I didn’t get my first choice it would have been no one. Why on earth would I settle? To be miserable and divorced after two kids and a mortgage? If that means fewer relationships overall, so be it. No one should be with someone they hardly like and no one deserves to be treated like second best. No one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:52 PM
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That’s the sex part. The pregnancy part only happens to one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:48 PM
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I’m sorry are you trying to say sex - an act where two people need to consent, is anything like pregnancy - a medical condition only happening to the person carrying the fetus? Lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:31 PM
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Abortions literally are birth control… they control if you have a birth or not. Abortions are always paid for out of pocket as no federal dollars have been allocated towards abortion in 50 years. 93% of abortions happen by 13 weeks. That is no where near viability or complete differentiation. If a woman gets pregnant and pays for the pill to detach the fetus, great! It’s her body and her choice. She has every right to use it as birth control because that’s what it is. Of course healthcare profes…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:30 PM
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Show us the thread, because I can’t find this. I can’t even find the phenomenon you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:55 PM
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No the first thing I’d call an Andrew Tate enthusiast is a danger to himself and others. And yeah - incel has a specific ideology, someone who is an Andrew Tate “enthusiast” would qualify under that definition. And what measurement? You’re the one who thinks being sexless means you get to justify violence, not me. I don’t think being sexless means you’re worth less than anyone else. It’s the hatred and bigotry that does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 06:08 PM
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I don’t think most people in my society know me let alone like me. In fact I’m sure at least 50% hate my guts. And I’m thriving. You should try thriving.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 06:01 PM
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Why does the amount need to be the same? Why can’t it be a lid for every pot? Why can’t it be there is someone who likes what you have to offer. Why are you all trying to be as good as Chad, have as many women as Chad, be able to act like Chad. Most people aren’t Chad. But do you need to have most people like you? Is that the metric of worth?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 03:26 AM
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“No one” Bro… dudes have shot women over rejection. Be so fucking for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:48 PM
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Is that all it takes to be haunted? I don’t want anything mean or evil but I’ve been hoping for just a single ghost encounter for decades! I just want to see they exist too!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:15 PM
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You just said women get to choose all three. Who is the stay at home parent if she’s the provider?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 10:40 PM
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Yeah - being someone in charge of the funding and proper permits is a huge part of building it, yes. lol. I like that you keep trying to use the same sarcastic comment like I didn’t catch it the first time. Yes, I am going to give myself a little praise because 1. I didn’t have to help or donate my time, energy or resources. 2. I don’t see you doing anything for men. 3. I don’t see anyone doing anything for men besides groups of women - maybe men could join if they’re so worried. I know it’s tot…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:09 PM
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Nope - that’s not how humans work. Our entire brain is designed to spot patterns and react accordingly. Trying to act like you aren’t on the lookout for red flags when interacting with people wouldn’t just be a lie, it would be a stupid lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 07:32 PM
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You absolutely are, you just want to claim moral high ground. If someone hurts you, you are always on the lookout for signs of being hurt again. That’s how humans work. You aren’t some special exception to the rule buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:23 PM
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I’m not doxxed unless you want to look up every central player who was integral in the financing, building and execution of the shelter. Do you understand how many people it takes to build a shelter? My guess is no, you don’t, because you’ve decided that facing absolutely any pushback means you just can’t do it! Your poor little fee fees are terribly hurt and see, this is why men can’t seek help! Did feminists just give up? When we couldn’t vote and men murdered us, did we just roll over and acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:19 PM
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I’m not doxxing myself - I can see three. If you can’t find any, that seems like a skill issue. Or maybe you don’t have any in your area, and you should work on the funding necessary to build one? And I don’t see where any of that is bigoted. Holding men accountable for not supporting men is bigoted? Understanding 1% of men are violent is bigoted, when men are the perpetrators of most violent crime? Like do you need to be treated with kid gloves for everything or just when it comes to helping me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 03:04 AM
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Not condemning violence is the same badness as actually committing the violence?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 12:43 AM
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You can just Google local men’s shelters. Don’t be disingenuous. Nope - still built a men’s shelter. I just don’t baby men who are fully capable of advocating for themselves. On the board of the current men’s shelter, there was 75% women. Why is it men are 90% of ceos, construction workers, accountants, and other essential personal to building shelters, but when it comes to charity, most of them are women? What did I say that was bigoted? The men here constantly cry that one man one time tried t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 09:28 PM
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Why would I be more cautious around black people? They’ve never harmed me…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 09:21 PM
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They’re just in a different spot - I don’t feel any more or less connected to my partner based on the type of orgasm he gives me. I feel connected to him because he cares enough to give me an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 06:49 PM
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Lmfao, talk about taking things too literally. The exact same thing happens any time anyone uses an analogy here. Instead of arguing the content, you nitpick the analogy. Classic red pill brain rot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:25 PM
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A 13 year old YouTube video is your proof women don’t hold violent women accountable? Really? So women thinking women’s violence against men isn’t as bad, is worse than men being actually violent against everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:24 PM
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But you do have your guard up around dogs, right? You’re waiting for their behavior to tell you if they are a threat or not. You aren’t preemptively assuming the worst, but you also aren’t unaware that they can bite. You aren’t trying to do something to make them upset. You’re looking for cues that they are upset or going to hurt you. You aren’t just putting your face in a dogs face without observing its behavior, asking the owner, and keeping an eye for those signs, right? Because all dogs can …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:22 PM
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That’s weird because my Google search brought it right up. “Men’s only shelters built this year in the United States” brings three up. I can be critical of the people here and a flawed ideology while still actually supporting men in the way they actually need to be supported. Men would do well to actually help men instead of whining a group protested them or someone called them mean names and so they just give up! Like I said - men are always waiting for a woman to do it for them….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:17 PM
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Autistic men having a more difficult time dating absolutely in no way diminishes that autistic women have it more difficult in every day life. From healthcare, jobs, rape and assault, coercion and manipulation, autistic women are at a much larger disadvantage than autistic men who seem to be handled with kid gloves at every turn. To believe differently is to center your own experiences as the end all be all and to entirely disregard anything anyone else thinks of as a disadvantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:52 AM
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I don’t need to dox myself. There are men’s shelters all over the country. Yes men’s only shelters. The Salvation Army even runs a bunch. There are definitely a bunch of hurdles to cross - men are more violent. Men’s shelters are more dangerous. Many have to be built so many feet away from schools because of the drug abuse and sex crimes. But it can be done. It’s just always men waiting for someone else to do the work for them. “It’s too hard!!! But they were mean to me!!” Boo hoo. You wanna hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:36 AM
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I mean maybe hold violent men accountable? One very niche account of a woman asking a man to commit violence - if he wasn’t violent, could he have someone convince him to commit said violence? I don’t think so. Men are more violent than women. No one is holding you accountable for shit. The violent men aren’t even being held accountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:32 AM
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Again - you’re taking a nuanced discussion and framing it as size only. You’re wrong. And you don’t care that you’re wrong, you’re trying to get your gotcha. And it’s pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:31 AM
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Okay… like feminists never faced any pushback? Again - I just built one. It’s not like they’re illegal. You just have to actually put in the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:30 AM
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Interesting - I’m the person behind the funding and paperwork to approve a men’s only shelter in my city. People who actually care about men aren’t worried about facing no push back ever. It sounds like an excuse to do nothing and complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:29 AM
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Pointless - sure. I mean I was able to get a men’s only shelter built in my city this past summer… seems like you’d rather find a reason to give up than actually put in work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:28 AM
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Do you pick and choose which dogs you interact with?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:26 AM
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I love that saying because the saying “don’t ask a fish ask a fisherman” here or in RP spaces is like a fisherman claiming he caught big fin tuna using a single worm. And you take his advice instead of listening to tuna - because tuna eat small fish, so “listening to the fish” would be just using what they eat as bait. But RP is the dude screaming “no, they don’t actually like those things, they settle for small fish. What they actually want is worms, I’m telling you. And has there ever been a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 02:01 PM
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If you think men need to do “mental gymnastics” to be into this sort of thing, you don’t know enough about your friends kinks my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:48 PM
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I just built a homeless shelter for men only in my city. Try again with your weird “we can’t do what feminists did because people disagree!!” Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:41 PM
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So they did a half assed job for three years and gave up? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:36 PM
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I disagree - men commit most violence - I don’t see how that’s irrelevant to the claim that men are more violent?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 02:55 PM
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Nope - you are reducing a very nuanced article down to “women don’t like skinny women in video games.” It’s inherently bad faith. Troll elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 02:55 PM
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Is it? If there were 100 m&ms on a table and one was for sure poison, would you eat a bunch of them? Or would you maybe just not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 02:53 PM
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So finding a niche group who finds women’s weight to be their primary concern specifically because their primary concern in life is their own weight means that is women’s overall argument against women’s depictions in video games? Yeah totally moving goalposts…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:44 PM
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Men are free to be afraid of women as well. I pick both.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:17 PM
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You’re ready to claim that women kill men at the same rate that men kill everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:17 PM
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Your source is a website for bulimic women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:16 PM
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And that couldn’t be partially because of the conversations we were having around characters, specifically women, in video games, could it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:15 PM
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Yes, because men commit more violence. I’m glad we’re in agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:24 PM
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Yeah, is that typical for the female side character to have depth?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:20 PM
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You mean the men who are properly protected from battle? The men who have on appropriate shoes? The men who talk to other men about more than their love interests? Women aren’t mad that women in video games are skinny dude… try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:19 PM
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Are you really trying to compare physical violence right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:16 PM
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Of course it is. But it feels a little lopsided when I’ve never heard it, but have been attacked by several men. Almost like the rate at which one happens is significantly higher than the other. Have you had a woman tell you that she desires to kill all men irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:27 PM
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Male violence against men is still male violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 06:41 PM
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No that’s almost exclusively what we mean when we say nice guy. That is the majority of men we call nice guys. Did you think a “nice guy” was just a guy who was too nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 06:35 PM
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I’ve never heard a woman say that in my life. I’ve had a minimum of five men threaten my life over a rejection. Women aren’t shooting men in corner stores. Men are shooting women over saying no. They aren’t even a little bit the same bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 06:32 PM
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I’m sorry… what percent of violent crime are men committing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:05 AM
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Do you really not understand why women wouldn’t want all depictions of women in video games to be little more than sex pictures?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:02 AM
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We don’t know for sure it’s a bad idea to have children past 35. There are some issues that can present themselves but most are fairly mitigated by modern medicine. The best age for women to have children is when they’re married (in the us) in a stable, healthy and happy relationship, no matter how long that takes. Or have made the decision to be a single parent by choice, preferably a little later in life, say 27+. And even that is just my opinion for what is best for the children. Because hone…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:57 PM
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It doesn’t sound fake because I’ve had the exact same thing happen to me. And then he said I should get raped. Like… sir… you are not okay… It’s weird how men here never happen to see all the crazy shit other men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:57 AM
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Stop ascribing the character of a small minority of damaged women on to all women. It’s weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:56 AM
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I mean my husband got me because he was really Really nice. That’s his number one quality. But I’m also attracted to him. But I’ve been attracted to lots of people I didn’t date or marry. I dated him because he was so nice. I’m really sick of this “women only like ass holes” narrative. Because nope - I despise ass holes. I refuse to date them and usually dump them pretty quickly after any ass hole behavior. But also being nice wasn’t his only personality trait either - just the best one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:53 AM
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No - everyone in this thread is missing a key component of a Nice Guytm. If nice guy in your example goes “awe man, that stinks. I really liked her.” And goes about his life - he is not a Nice Guytm. If nice guy in your example does any of the following: wow what a fucking slut, she deserves to be abused useless bitch! see this is why I can’t be nice to females! They will always choose a bad guy Chad over me! flip out on her call names, be derogatory towards her, and when she says “wow, I didn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:12 PM
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Nope I have specifically dealt with Nice Guystm very often in my life. Nice guys are guys who claim to be so nice but then something happens and they flip out and prove they are not very nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:07 PM
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You don’t think that you’re ignoring any exploitation or abuse that is common when men go to countries to date poor women because they believe poor women will be better wives for very specific reasons - reasons they talk about openly and often - and those reasons are specifically derived from an imbalance of power?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:05 PM
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You think the percentage of women who exploit men in the us is on par with the number of passport bros who exploit third world women? Do you think maybe there is a bit of a power dynamic that you’re refusing to acknowledge on the basis of being under informed on the power dynamics at play, or at the very least downplaying them to do a “both sides” argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:50 PM
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And I would disagree with your assessment. Passport bros admit to exploitation. I’m just taking them at their word.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:34 PM
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But most people do reasonably navigate them…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:33 PM
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No but if I said “Disagree. Human understand word fine context.” You’d get the gist of what I was saying to you. Just because you can’t spot the nuances doesn’t mean no one can. Most actually do. It’s how we are such a social species - well before language evolved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:32 PM
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If you skimmed over the abuse and exploitation, Sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:10 PM
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I’m just not a huge fan of exploitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:05 PM
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Life isn’t a video game. There isn’t a consistent set of rules for anything in life. Even laws are entirely context dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 04:14 PM
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The comparison is coming from the place of being the penetrated versus the penetrator. It isn’t about ease of access to sex whether you want it or not - which is a good comparison, but not what I was getting at. Men here think letting anyone penetrate you is / can be pleasurable no matter what. And really being penetrated is so much more vulnerable than being the penetrator. So if you had to choose being pegged and anal orgasms only for the rest of your life or being a virgin, which would you ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:38 AM
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Nope - no one compared the two. I’m trying to get you to view sex from women’s pov. You only see it from the penetrators pov. You need to switch it to someone who is being penetrated. We can switch it - Would you prefer to be pegged by Gwendolyn Christie or a virgin? You do not get to penetrate her back and you can only have anal orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:42 AM
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Nope - has nothing to do with your sexuality. I am discussing an experience. We can change it up. Would you rather be pegged by Gwendolyn Christie or be a virgin? You do not get to penetrate her back. You are only allowed to be pegged and orgasm anally with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:40 AM
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I mean as a man - being penetrated by a man. If I make you imagine you’re a woman you’ll think you can imagine it but you can’t - so I will give you a one for one. Would you rather be pegged by a man as a man, Or be a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:37 AM
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Would you rather be pegged by a man or be a virgin? Relevant question to the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 01:30 AM
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Is this really your life’s great woe?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:35 PM
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You have a very idealized version of the past that doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:33 PM
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The same reason men who get women care about sexless men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:38 AM
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Just because my personal relationship isn’t like that doesn’t mean the societal norm isn’t like that. It’s like saying that men’s beauty standards don’t exist because you don’t care what people think about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:09 AM
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Holy shit thank you. Everything you just said is exactly what I would have written. Thank you for saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:55 AM
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Then what is it an excuse for?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:43 PM
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That’s not true at all. It was to believe that a woman went through something and needs support and not “Well what were you wearing?” Or “but you were out at night, what did you expect??” A woman can be believed and be given support without even knowing the perpetrators name. It wasn’t to immediately convict men, it was to not dismiss accusations just because you think women should be blamed for the actions of men. And with the abysmal conviction rate I find it hard to believe you actually belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:42 PM
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You are woefully uneducated and say several incorrect things here. It’s too much work to argue with someone who believes “being the default parent” is a privilege. Educate yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:24 PM
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Why does her “being honest with herself” have to do with the price of tea on china? You don’t want to date her. What does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:07 PM
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No one is saying women can’t be shallow. We are asking what you want us to do about it? Force other women to date men they don’t want to? Stick to the topic mate - criticize all you want, but what’s the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:01 PM
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Yeah… it’s not that men under value women and over value themselves…. Women are getting with the men they want, while the men here are striking out. I wonder who the delusional one is….
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:56 AM
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Maybe I’m just more into women than your average dude then. Because those women were attractive and it’s wild you don’t think so. Out of curiosity, I’d LOVE to see what you look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 05:09 PM
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WoMeNs StAnDaRdS aRe ToO hIgH!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:12 PM
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Imagine giving up other people for the one person you prefer and calling it settling lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:05 PM
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A comparison I like to use is wanting to become a famous singer. Everyone (within reason) would love to be a famous singer. Some people work very hard and become a famous singer. Some people don’t work hard at all and are born with natural talent. Some a nepotism babies who were handed their fame. And some people are never given the chance. I can claim it’s unfair that I’m not a famous singer. I can even lament all the things I would do for the good of others if I was a famous singer. I can say …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:52 PM
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Do you know what a 200# woman looks like? Lol This is a 200# woman. There are definitely shorter women, women who don’t carry their weight in “good” places, etc but to throw a number out that’s totally normal and sexy af for a good portion of women. Come on… lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:29 PM
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I submitted grants and got the funding necessary to build an all men’s shelter in my city. My company donated an entire bid package worth of construction inside of that shelter to make sure it stayed in budget to be built to standard. They had to find somewhere with a lot of stipulations because men’s shelters are dangerous af. But we did it. And it exists now because of the efforts several key players - many of which are owned and operated by women. I’m sick of hearing I don’t care about men ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 08:17 PM
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Because that’s the person who makes my heart sing. We had a spark, enough in common, and enough proximity to make a connection. That connection grows with good things. That’s it. That’s the grand scheme of women - we like the men we choose to spend time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:39 PM
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Woof - imagine not getting the woman you actually wanted. Couldn’t be my man. Not only am I his type, he pursued me despite us both dating several other people at the same time. We both chose the best - otherwise we would have just stayed single and dating other people. Maybe work on yourself or something because this isn’t normal “male nature.” This is a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:20 PM
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What does that have to do with rape not being natural?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:26 PM
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And if the bitch doesn’t want to fuck, she’ll snap at the dog and tear his face off. I’ve seen plenty of dogs not consent to know it isn’t just done by force. And it’s wild you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:28 PM
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I know you’re going to hate to hear it but it was their personality. I didn’t find them ugly or attractive, but hanging out with them made me more attracted to them. The first time I met them, I just really enjoyed their humor, their confidence, how they acted with their friends. So I went out of my way to hang out where they did, be in their vicinity, have conversations with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:27 PM
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What in the incoherent ramble… I’m married and have dated women. Most women are great. Most men are great. If you keep happening upon the “worst women” maybe you need the check the common denominator.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:20 PM
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This was incoherent nonsense. Wanna try again champ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:18 PM
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That’s not true. We know how often people lie on anonymous surveys and it isn’t very much. You can tell yourself whatever lie you need to make yourself feel better but it isn’t reality. And I thought the red pill only cared about the facts, not your poor widdle fee fees.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:18 PM
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The dx criteria has expanded in order to offer services to more people who previously wouldn’t qualify. It’s a spectrum and they are still autistic, it just wouldn’t have previously been recognized, classified or given accommodations. Now we do and that’s a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:40 PM
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Most animal species absolutely have a form of selection, and a form of consent. It’s why peacocks have bright feathers - the female turns down the more dull peacocks. Lionesses, hyenas, newts, spiders. Rape isn’t a key component of natural selection. And it’s weird for you to jump to that conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 04:59 AM
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Sexual partner buddy…. Not dating. Sex partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 11:02 PM
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Crazy you’re single and struggling. I have no idea why….
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 11:00 PM
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Also - more men on the spectrum also have developmental delay than women. You’re discussing men who have legally been deemed unable to consent with men who weren’t. You’re also comparing those who claimed to have wanted to be in a relationship versus those who are. What if 100% of autistic men said they wanted a relationship but only 50% of autistic women did? Now those stats mean nothing without doing math. Try posting the actual study next time champ.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:58 PM
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So “life” being easier is just whether or not you’re in a relationship now? Wow - I’ll go tell all the women being exploited and abused because their autism is allowing them to recognize or fight back that they have such an easy life!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:57 PM
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I mean you see them. Definitely not Chad. But definitely had plenty of options. Some, very beautiful, some not so much. But each one dumped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:56 PM
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Give me an example of what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:55 PM
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Then don’t date women. If they’re so awful, just leave them alone. But them out of your life plan entirely. Why do you waste so much time and energy on something you don’t even want in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:31 PM
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So you were an ATM and think that is the only thing that counts as a romantic gesture? Typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:19 PM
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Just because you would treat women poorly if you could doesn’t mean all men act like you want to. Most men are good guys with a very small percentage of ass holes concentrated at the top and bottom. Ironically, insecure men who are hot and insecure men who are ugly are equally awful partners. Throw in a few abusive dicks, some sociopaths, some addicts - and across 1-10 you have 2% of each number category category of truly terrible men. Most average dudes date average women and they’re great part…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:10 AM
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Imagine thinking DV, cheating and boredom are the only three causes of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 05:12 AM
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Less than 14% of women had more than three partners last year. That’s hardly a slut epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:14 PM
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That’s not altruism. It’s also not about the betterment of society because it isn’t better for women. If you want to be altruistic and force a system of monogamy, oppress men instead. You can be as altruistic as you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:13 PM
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I tolerate autistic men just fine. They’re some of my best friends. But no, I’m not romantically attracted to them. They don’t have the things they turn my brain on, even if they’re handsome and funny and kind. I know yall hate to hear it but vibes is how everyone chooses a partner. You can call it pussy tingles all you want - the point is not everyone is attracted to all of their friends, even if they love and appreciate their friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:49 PM
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Emotional intelligence isn’t calling your partner a child because he decided to play games instead of cleaning when you never made a plan together. It’s saying, “Hey, can we build a cleaning routine that fits both of our habits so we both feel comfortable at home?” No, emotional intelligence is knowing when to start cleaning because your partner is cleaning. Emotional intelligence is knowing that your mess is not your partners responsibility. Also it isn’t emotional intelligence a woman is criti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 07:05 PM
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I strongly disagree. Anecdotal but this is what I look like and the men I dated who broke my heart. You can call me ugly but you can’t say that I was Chad chasing. I treated these men well, never cheated, cooked, cleaned, constant sex, didn’t make them wait a particularly long time - and all of them either cheated, strung me along, or felt I wasn’t good enough. I’m in a happy and healthy relationship now with a man much hotter than these dudes so honestly it all worked out in the end, but still.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:25 PM
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But why do you have the assumption of unhealthy? Why can’t I be a healthy and well balanced individual who doesn’t want to eat kilos of chocolate? Like why does spoiled equal doesn’t understand balance, boundaries or health?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 09:53 PM
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Did you read the second two paragraphs of my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 09:52 PM
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Oh I am very lucky honestly. I couldn’t imagine needing to use any sort of force. It exactly easy to go to the cops when your profession is illegal. They’d arrest me before him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 04:45 AM
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Why wouldn’t I be with someone who gave me both wants and needs? Sure I can survive off of potatoes and water but I love me a good seafood boil. I don’t need it but that doesn’t mean I’m a bad person for wanting it nor my husband a bad person for giving it to me. I’m sorry your life is devoid of wants and need only focused.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 04:40 AM
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I just wanted to high five you for stating your preference without degrading anyone. If anyone needs an example of how to state preferences appropriately so you don’t have people calling you out - this is it. ✋🏻 <<< that’s my hand for a high five. I hope you tap it to high five back. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:25 PM
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Male gaze isn’t inheritor harmful and I think this is a misunderstanding with the issues that go with the male gaze. When are you demonized for reacting to sexual content that is sold to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:12 PM
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Actually I don’t! I was a high income niche SW. Without going into too much detail, I was with NFL players, hockey players, lawyers, doctors - that sort of income. So most were incredibly respectful of me and my time. It does help I was a Domme, so these were submissive men if not by nature, by kink. So my experience is probably very different from that of a high end escort even.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:11 PM
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Ooh fingers crossed for you! A few partners before I met my husband, they did traditional dating until they met me. After I got serious with my husband I stopped sleeping with them but helped them to find other women because I find them fun and they were such good guys they deserved to meet someone awesome. And they all did by dating less exclusively, being more into slutty, enm, or kinksters, and having more fun than serious. I hope you find your perfect match! I think a fun sex life with someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:02 PM
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My husband is incredible actually. I never hear the word no. It’s fantastic. We live in an upper middle class suburb, drive two brand new vehicles, make the same amount of money, so we spoil the shit out of each other! Funnily enough, he also never hears the word no. Because people who understand love understand boundaries and anticipate what someone else needs without it constantly being spelled out for them. I’m sorry you don’t know what that’s like.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:58 PM
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But if it’s marketed, she consented… I asked you when you were demonized for being attracted to Sabrina carpenter and you said you weren’t. Random women aren’t selling sexuality for a profit. That’s why you’re demonized when you sexualize them without their consent. And if you can’t see the comparison, I’m going to assume you’re arguing in bad faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:55 PM
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lol I happily got married last week actually! We do have a lot of fun and I’m biased but I think we have a wonderful relationship. We don’t fight or argue, we have calm discussions, we are always doing something cool, we’ve dabbled in ENM, it’s a blast! I recommend a slut to everyone. When you are with them, you know you’re with them because they want you specifically. Otherwise they’d just move on, be a slut elsewhere!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:19 PM
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Because I can profit because I consented to profiting. You cannot because I didn’t give you my consent. What is confusing here? Are you confused about why you can’t have slaves but you can have workers who work for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:41 PM
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I’m sorry you don’t understand love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:40 PM
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I think this is an important distinction and worthy of discussion. I was a SW. I loved it. I didn’t have a pimp or madame or someone above me. I owned my own body. All money made was mine (minus paying a body guard.) I chose my clients, what I did or didn’t do, and was free to say no. I was a highly paid professional in a niche market. My experiences are very different from survival or coerced SW. I don’t think that negates my experience, but it absolutely is a situation where my experiences can…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:24 PM
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They absolutely do this! I did NSA with lots of men and women. Ima chubby slut - I want someone good in bed, kind, spontaneous to sleep with. I wasn’t ready to date anyone at 24. But I would sleep with them to try them out. And every single last one wanted to date me, gave me drop everyone else or get married. Chad to below average. I’m an equal opportunity slut - but they all do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:08 PM
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But you just said no one is yelling at you for sexualizing Sabrina. Because she’s consenting to it. So when you sexualize her, it’s all good. When you sexualize women who did not want to be sexualized - then you get labeled a creep. Yes. Consent is the difference. It isn’t hypocritical to consent to sex with my husband but not with you. Even if I tell you I had sex with my husband. And it’s not hypocritical to call you a creep if you keep trying to have sex with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:01 PM
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That’s okay, we got there! And yeah the wording you used just confused me. The thing you just said about having hobbies held against him and also things outside of his control - that makes much more sense, thank you. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:37 PM
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It’s really not unhealthy to be shown love and I’m sorry you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:35 PM
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Also this is very much like saying “why do people condemn slavery when men choose to work grueling jobs that destroy their bodies every day!”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:39 AM
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Are people demonizing you for socializing Sabrina carpenter or the random woman who didn’t consent to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:37 AM
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What else does “spoiled by a father” mean if not being shown a happy and healthy view on relationships and love? Given whatever I wanted. Helped whenever I needed it. Showed me what selfless love was like. So I in turn show selfless love. I in turn mimic what my father modeled for me. Where is the negative?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:46 PM
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You wrote “men are judged by their interests.” Then wrote in the same paragraph “even in this sub I’ve seen women blast men just for being on the spectrum.” You made it seem like the autism was the interest or hobby. I was confused so I was asking you to clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:44 PM
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Is being on the spectrum an interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:39 PM
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Then I would say you are woefully ignorant to the experiences of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:38 PM
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Right on man. I wish you a lifetime of happiness ahead of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:37 PM
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I don’t own a single book like that and absolutely my father spoiled me. He showed me how a man should treat a woman. I have high standards for my partners because I know the levels my father would go for me, how he took care of his family and was selfless and kind. What is wrong with that? My husband lives up to the standard and then some. And he’d say he gets treated with the same care and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:34 PM
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Fair play. I think those women are good people can their hobby is just as valid as any other. I’m just not compatible with someone like that. Also not blue but purple haired and I feel like a lot of men here would probably benefit from a few open minded dates with a purple haired feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:40 PM
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Honestly? Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 04:14 PM
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You’re very emotional for what should have been a pretty banal comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:48 PM
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Ew - I always shower before sex. Some of yall are nasty. You been shitting and farting all day and want my genitals to touch yours? Or worse, my mouth? Some of y’all’s wives/gfs have an unresolved UTI and yeast infection and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:23 PM
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That’s not true at all. The divorce rate for people married under 25 (religious people get married younger) is 60% get divorced. The divorce rate for people over 30 is 40%. College educated over 30 is less than 15% divorce rate. I think you’ve mixed up the divorce rate with remaining married rate because your entire premise is backwards. Most people who get married stay married. The people who get divorced once are more likely to get divorced again, skewing the statistics to the 50% we know. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:55 PM
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You have to watch what men do instead of what they say. Men claim to want a low n count submissive woman who worships the ground he walks on. I call BS. Now, I’m a slut, so I’ve been around the block a time or two with men and women and at least women are open about falling in love. Men will try to act like you’re beneath them, until you treat them like shit. Then they simp real hard. Fuck them once and they think you’re dating. I’ve had men say they love me on a first date. I’ve had lawyers and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:23 AM
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Jobs are actually a great allegory. Because socially we don’t force jobs to hire anyone they don’t want to. Even placing DEI requirements doesn’t force you to hire this specific woman or this specific POC. They get to hire anyone in the world from that pool of candidates. We can offer education. Not jobs. We offer opportunity not outcomes. You wouldn’t expect to be a high school drop out and be hired as a nasa engineer, now would you? No. And we don’t complain that you can’t get a job because na…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:48 PM
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You don’t think maybe the lack of consent is maybe the deciding factor here? You can want to have sex - fine. But you shouldn’t make it her problem or bring it to her attention without her consent. Otherwise you’re just harassing her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:33 PM
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But she doesn’t. She doesn’t have clientele at all. She knits sweaters for those closest to her. Because she wants to as a labor of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:19 PM
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This is circular logic when what "makes sense" is itself decided by women in the moment. There is no standard by which men can abide, it's just aggregate contextual opinion. You don’t understand both people have to consent to the interaction for it to be welcomed? Like “it’s always on a woman’s terms and it’s always changing!” Yes, if you already know you consent, you have to figure out if she consents. So in that scenario, it’s on her terms. But if she was hitting on you, say it was Tammy from …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 01:45 PM
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Aren’t 70% of women married by 30? That’s far from The “majority hitting 30 to complain about not finding men because they ate their cake and still want to have it too.” Looks like they “spent their value on themselves” and still found husbands by 30. 80% of women before “hitting the wall” of 35 are married. So no… this narrative is incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:20 PM
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Well then why say “big muscles” or “big dicks” if what you really mean is “slightly larger than average dicks” and “healthy muscle tone?” When women say big, we are using the term big to mean big. Not whatever weird made up description of “well not big big, just big(ger)”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:21 PM
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So then why are you so angry if your county is doing just fine? Stay in your lane. If it’s working and “the west” (a right wing dog whistle) falls, (talk about doomer media) then we will see that your lovely country is thriving and turn to that. But it isn’t thriving. So we won’t be doing that. And if traditionalism works so well, and women are fighting for rights, why don’t men just become the submissive party? Fight when a woman says, protect when a woman says, but defer everything else to her…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:13 PM
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More religious people kill their IVF embryos than any woman choosing to not be an incubator.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:43 PM
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I’ll do one better Here are my pictures and the men who broke my heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:36 PM
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I mean you can judge the dudes who broke my heart in my 20s against what I looked like. You can say I’m an ugly land whale but you can’t argue the men (who I thought were very handsome and was very sexually attracted to, even after we broke up) were “chads.” You can mock me as much as you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:35 PM
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“Detrimental to men” you mean women now have a semblance of the rights men have, so that means men are suffering? Also I love evo psych, evolutionary biology and its ilk when you ignore 50% of the data we have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:40 PM
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And your comment contained no proof. Women rated 80% of men as below average but still the majority of their messages were distributed to the 2-8 range. 1/3 of women are married by 29. Why are they “settling” so young? And what proof do you have that they are? No how women feel about most men. How women feel about the man they married.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:36 PM
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Mocking? No. Not even a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:33 PM
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Across and down only? Someone should tell the one in six wives who are breadwinners they did it wrong!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 05:34 PM
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Yeah, it’s women who are mercenary, not anything else. Despite the fact that premarital assets aren’t touched in a divorce. Despite less than 9% of divorced women receiving any form of spousal support. Despite the average child support payment being $300 a month. Yeah. Mercenary.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 04:19 PM
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“I don’t care what you do for 8+ hours a day, I just care that your a warm hole that turns me on! That’s so much better than caring about trivial things like your life outside of sex with me!”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 04:17 PM
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To point out how great you are. Who wouldn’t want to be your friend? People like being around people with positive energy, or at least don’t make everything into a world’s greatest victim contest. Shared hobbies, common goals - that’s where communities are created. I’m surprised with all of the positive vibes you put off that you aren’t already a part of a ton of communities. I mean I’m in communities who don’t do much for me personally but I enjoy being kind. I’m sure you can relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:25 PM
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Well we already do that. Disabled people, the elderly, the young - we do for them because they can’t give anything in return. Even the elderly who have never contributed a day in their lives - get help. But I’m sorry I don’t feel especially great about diverting already scare resources to men who are very capable of forming groups and engaging in their communities. They aren’t paralyzed, they aren’t infirm, they aren’t unable to be in their communities - They aren’t out of options. Unfortunately…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:21 PM
1

You sound like someone that everyone should care very much about. You’re like a ray of sunshine!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:16 PM
1

Because men don’t petition the court. If a man puts in effort for his kids, that effort is rewarded 93% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:07 PM
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That’s your projection of women talking about a day that’s special to them. Enjoying your day doesn’t mean I don’t think it’s my partners day any less. But if you wanna go there - women do sometimes use “my special day” When talking about wedding planning - that the man doesn’t help with, the decisions, the colors, the seating chart, the food, the decor, the alcohol, the dress and tux, the dj the music, the desserts, the gifts for the parents, the wedding party and their outfits, the venue, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:06 PM
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Unfortunately many men are okay with paying more if it means less day to day responsibility. It’s why so many men sign their rights and days over. 50/50 default doesn’t mean anything when we have to go to court to decide what does 50/50 mean, does either parent want that full 50% of time and is it in the best interest of the children to spend half their time at each house? If your only reason for 50/50 parenting is financial and then don’t actually have your kids 50% of the time, you’re a deadbe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 07:55 PM
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Nope - that’s your projection. No one is projecting anger by doing nothing to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 07:53 PM
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Volunteer, join hobby groups, go to your local library.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 10:22 PM
1

Why would the community care about you if you don’t invest in it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 10:18 PM
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Getting married young leads to more divorces though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:07 PM
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They’re the ones petitioning the court and getting custody oh their kids… they are sacrificing already. No one has to tell them to cut down elsewhere to pay to fight for custody. They already do. Did you not read what I wrote? Everything I am asking a man to do to fight for his kids is what the mom is already doing. Moms petition more than dads. That’s why they’re granted more time. Dads agree to less time more than women do. Women fight against an unfair arrangement more than men do. Men need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:28 PM
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Most states are default 50/50 but you have to agree on what that 50/50 looks like. Will you do 3/4 days on and off? Every other week? School days versus holidays and vacations? What does 50/50 look like for this individual family when both parents work and they don’t live in the same house anymore? Or never did. You have to go to court either way. Many men don’t want to pick up their kids on a Sunday evening to drive them to school 3 days of the week, hurry home from work to pick them up, do bat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:24 PM
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And I prefer to be a supermodel but that’s not the body I was born into. Should I life my life angry I’m not a supermodel or should I work with the cards I’m dealt?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:12 PM
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Where was the strawman? I gave you a scenario I felt empathy and a scenario I didn’t. No strawman to be had. Maybe don’t just use buzzwords you don’t understand the meaning of. Wanna try one more time?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:10 PM
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What is your proof these women who remain married are all settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:10 PM
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Woof
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:09 PM
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The proof is women who are married to men they love? Can you prove those women dont love the men they’re married to? 60% of first time marriages last a lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:14 AM
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Red herring fallacy. You wanna try again with an actual rebuttal?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:11 AM
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That’s what most people do anyways. Are you walking up to strange men on the street?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:10 AM
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Why did you expect anyone to care about you though? You are inherently deserving of respect as a human. But respect is what you’re getting. It’s the bare minimum. No one is doing anything to you. That is common decency and respect. And salt in the wound or not, it’s the truth. People don’t owe you anything. Which makes it so much better when people are kind. When people do go out of their way to help. When you do find friends who love you. Having no expectations frees you from this guilt because…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:09 AM
2

So no matter who women choose, you’ll always have a reason it isn’t real. Is there any data point that would prove average women date average men? Any at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:01 AM
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It actually isn’t very expensive as family court lawyers aren’t priced like a criminal lawyer. There are lots of charities that donate to dads petitioning for custody of their children. [THIS is a great place to start.](LawHelp.org) [Or HERE.](USA.gov) And if you make under a certain amount, you can get a court appointed lawyer for free. It’s a cop out to say “I didn’t petition (even tho she did) because it’s too expensive! (Even though we are going to court and I need the lawyer anyways.) “ I’v…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:00 AM
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I disagree. And who is calling you bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 12:48 AM
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You’ve never had an experience where someone gave you unwanted attention? Never not once? You’ve never had an experience where you felt unsafe? Where someone made you afraid they might hurt you? Where you felt you might not escape the situation unscathed? Never?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 12:44 AM
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But they don’t think the worst of you. The calculated risk of interacting with a stranger who might hurt you is one I’m not willing to take in that moment. There are times I do. I have stopped for directions from men. I have complimented men in public. I interact with my service workers. I don’t think you’re evil, I just don’t know you. And you’re a stranger, so I have no real reason to believe otherwise. I have male friends and family whom I love and care for. But I don’t know anything about yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:53 PM
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Absolutely you can. I have also been lonely. So not only do I sympathize and empathize, I have compassion for loneliness. I also don’t think my loneliness or anyone else’s is anyone else’s problem to solve nor does anyone owe me their time or attention just because I’m lonely. And becoming bitter about it only leads to people liking me less.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:46 PM
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Well yeah, everyone has a limit to their empathy. I have empathy for single moms. Until they are single moms who use their children as a weapon against the father. I have empathy for abused children. Until that abused child becomes an adult who goes on to abuse children. We all have a limit to our empathy. Demanding sex from women is most women’s line on empathy for men’s loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:44 PM
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Telling women to act tough in 10,000 BC was a death sentence for them. Wait… how do you think women lived their lives in 10,000 BC because I can assure you that women were hunters, heads of their tribes and killers just the same as men. They had different roles based on biology sometimes. a nursing mother would be vulnerable. But that’s why women raised children in packs of women while men went out. It not only spread out child rearing, it was up to women to protect each other. We can look at ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:39 PM
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I adore this word “tingles.” Like finding someone attractive is such a fucked up concept you had to give it a new name. Despite the fact that men do the same shit. Hot men will date the most toxic women (the hot crazy scale) just because their tingles. I don’t get your point? We give people we are attracted to the benefit of the doubt? Yeah. Everyone does. Until they go too far and then we don’t. And just like The comment said - these dudes aren’t horrible on day one. I’ve met men who have gone …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:17 PM
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But no one is doing anything to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:10 PM
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Yes actually. Most dads not only accept this set up but request it. Don’t think your experience of how you think you would parent is how it works for most dads. We had to made commercials telling dads to please hang out with their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:07 PM
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If I report a robbery to the police, am I the one who is responsible for the robbery? Do you think if someone is using someone else, the user is going to divorce the person they’re using? No. They’re benefitting from using someone. It’s on the person being used to say enough is enough and leave. Don’t mistake who files with who caused the break down of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:30 PM
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I mean I wanted to elope - it was my husband who spent $XX,000.00 to throw his dream wedding. He had dreams of his wedding day, loves being the center of attention and adores being celebrated. I didn’t think I’d ever get married and hate people looking at me. I met someone I loved and am compatible with, and we decided to get married to protect each other with the 12,000 laws codified into US law. The party is a bonus way to celebrate with friends and family. If you don’t want to get married, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:25 PM
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Isn’t it like 93% of men who actually take the time to petition the court for custody, received it? I think you misunderstand how the family court system is biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:18 PM
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The majority? Really? You don’t think that’s overstating it a little bit? We all know a woman who was more worried about the wedding than the man or the marriage. But it’s far from normal or the “majority.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:14 PM
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Yeah, or I’ve done research into how ChatGPT works and don’t just believe everything I see on the internet. But if it tricked you, you do you boo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 04:31 AM
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Yeah ChatGPT definitely isn’t skewed by the people who program it. They definitely didn’t do that on purpose to flatter the president… /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:41 AM
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This dude is absolutely not masculine. Have you seen him? He isn’t feminine either - femininity is beautiful and I love to see it in my men. Trump is more like an asexual agender amorphous blob with a probe to assault people. He’s like a rapey female hyena using her pseudo penis to attack. Masculinity is strong, composed, helpful, has integrity, loyal - trump is none of those things. Unless you think bulldozing over people weaker than you is “strong,” screaming nonsense and refusing to speak whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:39 AM
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Nope. Personality doesn’t matter for most women if you’re the ugliest 5% of men. But I wouldn’t even say all. I’ve met some butt ugly ass men with wives who loved them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:31 AM
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No they do not. About half rate the same top 10% of men as such, but swipe across the board. Women spend more messages on men 2-8 than on 8-10, unlike men. Every accusation is an admission, as usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:29 AM
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And didn’t miss you, you don’t have one. Yes, even people in Palestine either stay the same and do nothing or they change themselves and their daily lives and do something like fight back. It is absolutely wild to hear a dude with more privilege than 90% of the humans on the planet with all of the power in the world to change their life and wants to cry about his so disadvantaged he just couldn’t possibly change a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:28 AM
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Yes I’m number one. Guy one was 5’6” and chubby. Dressed in Nike/addidas/under armor. White but I wouldn’t say particularly round eyes. Fair enough you don’t have a lot of him but; Guy two was maybe 120# soaking wet and probably 5’7”. Wore a lot of sweets and worked on cars. Also not round eyes. He’s opening hem wide to smile but he was half Native American. So definitely not “teddy bear” in the slightest. Guy three was 6’2” and chubby. Probably the most like your description but nothing like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:26 AM
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Which is funny because men understand it when they form entire communities around hating women, even if they agree on nothing else. But the moment women do it for the greater good, we’re a “hive mind.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:37 PM
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Really? No one? No one claims a doctor is more important than a king? Because I sure do. And anyone in a time of crisis sure does. And all those kings whose heads were chopped off probably thought they were considered less important than doctors. Do you disagree just to disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:32 PM
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This isn’t even a little bit true. Data exists in the world - you can’t just make something up and run with it when there have been studies of movies, magazines, books, comics, advertisements the world over that prove you wrong. You can’t google “are men more sexualized than women” and google shoots off a decent answer with sources for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:28 PM
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Correct but we are discussing specifically prostitutes - where poverty of opportunity is the driving force behind most of this type of sex work. In irl prostitution, high paying jobs are the minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:03 PM
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For incels to wallow in self pity and hate on women and everyone else try to talk sense into them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:00 PM
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Just wanna give a little high five here. You were able to communicate that single moms aren’t your thing and didn’t once make it seem like she was scum or unworthy. You just don’t date single moms. Very different from some of the other comments I see. Especially when they are obsessed with bringing up single moms constantly and will call them everything but their name. ✋🏻<<< that’s my high five. Hoping you put your hand there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:46 PM
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It’s probably closer to the bottom 5% of men who truly can’t get a date (and I say that knowing a true 1 irl and even he gets some interest. Meanwhile a 4 i know does awful and gets nothing. The 1 is charismatic and fun while the 4 is awkward and tries to play a lot of “I can’t double text” type games. He’s said some wild shit and has very specific special interests. I’d say autistic but he is not Dx) Average men do just fine. The average men who are hateful and angry that they aren’t treated li…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:42 PM
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Incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:22 PM
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So your solution to change is “don’t change?” This is unhinged. Expecting everyone else to change around you, in order to make your life better, instead of taking the agency you have in your own life and using it - is problematic. It keeps people stuck. “Your life sucks because society sucks and there is nothing you can do about it” is how you blame everyone else for your failures and shortcomings. Humans change and grow. If you don’t, you’re the problem. If your life sucks, change it. There are…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:22 PM
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My comment said there is no one man who every single woman finds attractive. You are just contradicting it to claim all women like the same men. It isn’t true based on the Match data everyone loves to link. There was no woman me man who everyone - or even 95% of women said were 9+. What you mean is the women you find attractive all go for the same type of men, because they’re all the same type of woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:16 PM
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Could you tell me based on my exes what it was I found attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:58 PM
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I’m a slut. I slept around with my fair share of men. I am happy to test drive a man to see if he’s worth it and drop him when he isn’t. I met my husband at 28 and fell in love fast and hard. He was easy to choose in the sea of mediocre men. I am exactly the type of woman you’re describing as “modern dating” and I call bullshit. Not a single other woman I knew ever dated men like I did. All of them may have short term or casual things with men, but almost always as a precursor to dating exclusiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:42 AM
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Where doesn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:16 AM
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If you don’t change your life, nothing changes. Only you have control over your life. No one else can change it for you. What is the other third option besides “change” or “don’t change?”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:15 AM
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You believe there exists a man who is universally every single woman in the worlds type? … seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:14 AM
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Yes, I agree with that - that makes sense to me? We are talking about empathy for men. Describing your own lived experience is usually used to demonstrate that not only do you sympathize, you empathize on a personal level. I’m not saying I empathize because women are affected - I’m demonstrating how women also experience what men here claim women never experience and how the experience gives me empathy on a personal level. It’s like when you say “do you have empathy for people who stub their toe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 02:42 AM
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OP won’t reply to this because it shows the “issue” isn’t the humiliation ritual of being laughed at because you overshot your league - it’s being rejected at all. OP- If “I’m sorry I’m married” is just as humiliating and wrong as “ew, no, freak.” Then i dont know what to say. Don’t approach people then? Go to therapy for this weird “everybody is judging me!” Thing you have going on?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 06:50 PM
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Okay then do nothing and nothing changes. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:23 PM
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You cannot be hypergamous with anything but social caste and money. That’s it. Saying it’s hypergamy if you think he’s more handsome than she is beautiful just leaves you room to call anything hypergamy. She makes more but he’s hotter? Hypergamy. She makes more and is hotter, but he’s went to a slightly better school? Hypergamy. She is hotter, makes more, and is more educated - but she has low self esteem? HYPERGAMY!!!! We can’t fucking win for losing. Yall are cooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:03 PM
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Your mouth needs a break?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:30 PM
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Right back at you! I enjoy a happy comment, so thank you for sharing the joy with me! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:35 AM
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Yes - everyone has a nuance threshold. That’s how opinions and emotions work. It’s why you are okay with feeling empathy when a man says “I’m lonely” but you don’t when women say “I haven’t had a boyfriend in years.” Everyone puts stock into their personal experiences. That’s how empathy works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:12 AM
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Oof - demonstrating that I have lived experience enough to be empathetic doesn’t mean I’m only empathetic when women are involved. Nice try though! And the lack of empathy comes from their actions. Yes, being a shit gibbon loses the empathy I had. Now I think you deserve it. Eat shit. The royal you, of course. This isn’t personal. I dont know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:11 AM
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It’s a bit hyperbolic but the entire conservative movement is basically about a return to “Christian values.” And a part of those values would include a male head of household, with a submissive trad wife. If about half of the country holds these “traditional values”, about half of the men who want to”traditional values” would be perfectly fine with women losing rights to return to that setup.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:38 PM
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Nothing like mansplaining my own emotions and intent to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:35 PM
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Oh, okay, let me rephrase: You protect those assets, King! lol - better?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:34 PM
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You’re the one making the claim. Where is your proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:32 PM
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You can’t prove there isn’t an invisible Flying Spaghetti Monster in the sky.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:31 PM
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I think if I said “men are just hardwired to be rapists.” You’d absolutely dismiss anything else I had to say. Because it wasn’t coming from a rational person. I don’t need to tease anything. A legitimate criticism of women is something like “women I’ve dated haven’t been very receptive to me being emotionally open. I don’t feel like I’m over reacting on reflection, so maybe it’s something to do with their perception of masculinity.” Not legitimate: “women say they want men to be vulnerable but …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:31 PM
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“Way less hours” This chart says women work an average of 1 hour less 4 days a week. This chart says half of women are making as much if not more than their husbands So even when women make as much as their husband in 50% of cases - they still take time off to do shit with their children because dad refuses. And because children need it. Apparently dads think that dual income household will crumble if he doesn’t show his boss how much of a “team player” he is by staying an extra hour everyday at…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:25 PM
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I know you’re trolling but it’s gross nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:13 PM
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What do you think happened to early feminists? Do you think there wasn’t pushback? Arrests? Counter protests? Do you think 50% of men just jumped feet first to help women? Half of men today don’t even think women deserve rights - what world do you live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:11 PM
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Wait - what is outlandish about women dating an autistic man? Lol. Do you go outside? Have community with other autistic people? Because I do and probably half are happily partnered or married, while the other half date regularly. I know 1 who is perpetually single but honestly there are very specific reasons for that. Not all autism has developmental delays where they can’t consent and can’t be in a relationship (which is why the stats of “60% of autistic men being single” is the stat it is. Of…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:58 PM
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Because they don’t know how to have community without a common enemy. Community is important for humans, we crave it. The easiest way to build community is to all hate something. Since autistic men can’t find community through passion or joy, they focus on the one thing they have in common. Hate and anger of women. Most autistic men aren’t red or black pill. But most red or black pill men are autistic. Most autistic men aren’t single but single men who are autistic don’t have anything else to ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:53 PM
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I don’t think it can be called a slippery slope argument If we have historical evidence for the slippery slope to end up in history repeating itself. And I don’t doubt lack of sex and relationships suck. Contrary to popular belief here, there are women who are sexless and turned down by men. Even if they’re fat, old, disabled or disfigured - they still exist. And I feel empathy for that level of emotional and touch starvation. I can offer empathy all day long. What I can’t do is feel empathy for…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 06:14 AM
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Accusing women of all being gold diggers (for “slightly above average” pay) isn’t a “women bad” argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:59 AM
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Fair - what about the women who met their partners pre “wall?” Why would it be settling before they had to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:56 AM
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And what generation would that be? The one with 60% single hood - still less than the 80% you claim, or the fact that people get married later in life and so the odds of remaining single past 40 is less than 1 in 4, waaay less than 80%. And that isn’t even to speak of the men who never get married but live with a long term partner. So notice how your stats don’t make any sense? You aren’t some special snowflake that developed over the course of 10 years separate from average men before you. I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:56 AM
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You protect that chastity king!!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:52 AM
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That’s cooked dude
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 08:06 PM
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Yes I am - what does that have to do with her not being indicative of most women’s experience, or mine being indicative of most women’s experience for that matter? And what fucking empathy do you want from women? Explain it to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:44 PM
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Yes, it sucks and I’m sorry it sucks. But what do expect someone to do about it? And how do you think someone should react when you blow it out of proportion by saying “most men are incels” “most men will never have a girlfriend.” “Women are shallow and users because they just want Chad or to gold dig.” Like what are our options here? Besides showing you it isn’t hopeless for most men, most men get married at some point, most men are living perfectly average lives with the average women who love…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:39 PM
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You realize it said 45% of people and not 45% of women, right? You went straight into this “women bad” spiral and you don’t even know what percent of people equals women. You just made an assumption and ran with it. You don’t know how many people were in the self reported data, how they gathered it, the demographics - nothing. You just went off. Take a beat champ, it isn’t that serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:04 PM
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Oh I disagree with this comment. I’m sure for some of them that’s true. However, from my experience, articles I’ve read and the men themselves - R/BP is a combination of spoiled men who grew up never being told no - until it came to girls in school, middle class, lived in the suburbs, and doesn’t tend to have many axis of oppression. Again - I know there are other men who flock to manosphere groups for a host of reasons. But the one I find most common is men who think a lack of a partner/sex/val…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:32 PM
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I’m married in a 50/50 relationship Our first “date” was his parents house - where he lived, where I drove myself because he didn’t have a car, because he just got done with his masters. He was supposed to be a quick booty call. Our second date was me buying us bubble tea. I made 3x his salary but he split most dates with me, or we took turns treating smaller ones. When we moved in together he got his big boy job and made double what I did. We split bills 50/50. That was 50% of his paycheck but …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:32 PM
3

A cold pb&j versus like $40k+ I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:53 PM
7

How does having more standards make you more shallow? Aren’t the people with just “am attracted” the shallow ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:51 PM
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97% of men have been married by the time they hit 75. Like i dont know where you think 80% of men are single when thats not even the stats of men under 30. 63% of young men 18-29 are “single.” 60% of 35 year olds have never been married. 25% of 40 year olds have never been married. So even if you think the dickpocalypse Is upon us - more than half of the men here will be married by 40 and remain married for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:49 PM
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No. We’re adults. Our second job isn’t retail.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:31 PM
1

Who’s shaming? I’m a slutty woman, I don’t do what this woman does, but I also am not so deluded that I believe my experience of sleeping around is indicative of most women. I see women irl. I know most aren’t sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:26 PM
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Yeah those are the same things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:24 PM
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Why are you so obsessed with single moms? Lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:22 PM
1

Don’t move the goalposts. You said women were twice as “severely obese” and they aren’t. And no - I don’t find men that attractive. I find women attractive. At least I admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:21 PM
1

You believe 90% of women would date Chris brown? That’s a belief you hold?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:18 PM
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It’s a risk factor just like dating a drug dealer. She can choose to make whatever bad decision she wants. It doesn’t mean I’ll stop talking about the risks involved. Being in an age gap relationship increases your rates of IPV, financial abuse and murder. So much for all her “power.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:18 PM
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You mean the classrooms grades that include participation, behavior and homework? Those grades? Those grades that boys do worse at than a standardized test? Those ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:16 PM
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How do I prove to you that not everyone finds Henry Cavill attractive? I can’t. I can show you the studies of women where 70% of women rated the same top dudes as the top, but that’s 70%. That’s still 30% of women who didn’t find those dudes attractive. And it’s even funnier when even when a woman objectively rated a man as a 10/10 - she was more likely to message men 4-8. Like i dont know how to prove your delusions false but it’s a realization you gotta come to. If you live your whole life bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:15 PM
1

Who said the word ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:11 PM
1

You wanna be pegged, I’ll peg you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:10 PM
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I’d go even further to “be a considerate partner towards someone who is attractive to you, but is also attracted to you, so that means doing some looking for those of us who aren’t Henry Cavill or Sydney Sweeney, and having a fun and engaging personality is going to trump looks in those instances because I have to spend my life with your personality, because looks fade.” Some men take this to mean “being nice” is enough when it’s not. Some men take this to mean only looks matter which isn’t true…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:43 PM
2

I fuck hookups right away and picked my husband from that pool of hookups. Chad chose me because I chose him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:49 PM
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Are the women telling you all about how they fucked Chad on the first ‘date’ - to his house to watch a movie - in the room with us? Like how in the world would you know if she’s someone who has ever had a hookup? How do you know if she’s made people wait? Why are you asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:48 PM
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Yeah that one comment is very indicative of women as a whole. You got us! Thread over apparently because of one slutty woman. You nailed it homeboy!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 06:24 PM
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First link - study in Israel in 2004 Second link - from 1998 and “Boys who perform equally as well as girls on reading, math, and science tests are graded less favorably by their teachers, but this less favorable treatment essentially vanishes when noncognitive skills are taken into account.” Third link - not a study but a dissertation by an MIT grad using information from the 90s-2010s. All of your information is just like me saying women couldn’t get a bank account in the 70s and heroin chic w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:21 PM
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Could you produce said study please? All of the evidence I’ve just read is about class grades - which include things like behavior, participation, and attendance. Where yes, boys do worse. But standardized testing show boys slightly better at math and girls slightly better at reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:11 PM
2

Do you have a really ugly face?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:22 AM
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False. 35.5% of men 20-39 are obese. 39.7% of women 20-39 are obese. Are that’s just based on bmi. Khloe Kardashian before the glow up was in the obese category. Show me a man in the 20-39 category who is obese and not a gym rat - natural obese body that looks half as good as Khloe while obese. I swear some of you don’t even like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:07 AM
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You’re using statistics incorrectly. If everyone’s 14% is different, you could have a match for every man. Of course there is overlap between the 14%s but there will never be a man who is universally attractive, or a majority of women willing to knowingly date a dude who has other girlfriends without being poly. There are dudes who are universally disliked but most - but even they aren’t at 0% chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:01 AM
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I mean if wanna be penetrated so bad, I’m sure there are plenty of women on fet life who would love to peg you and never call you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:58 AM
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God I love this. No matter who a woman chooses, you will find some way to make her to be hypergamous. They can make the same money, she can be the breadwinner, they can be looksmatched, she can be prettier, it truly doesn’t matter as long as she “thinks he’s better” in some way, he is always the alpha and women are always Chad chasing. Women can’t win for losing with you people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 07:51 PM
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It isn’t racism for a black woman to be wary of a white woman in her space. White women have systematically had more power and leveraged that power against black women and women of color. Yes - that is the correct position to have and it’s weird you think the disadvantaged group is wrong for being wary of dominant groups oppressing them. I might be an ally. I might be just fine to black women. That doesn’t mean most white women are, or that white women won’t take every opportunity to exert their…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:32 PM
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I know the men here are a bunch of hypergamous bitches! It’s so weird for them to project what they do all of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:15 PM
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Sure - lots of people end up in lots of situations due to circumstance. It doesn’t make them dumb though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:14 PM
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That’s great for you. But it isn’t reality. Your hatred of sex workers doesn’t negate the fact that they make trade offs in order to make bank. You don’t have to like it or agree with it - but these girls aren’t dumb. And the mentally ill comment is just unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:13 PM
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Bro I’m no going point by point with you because I literally don’t care enough to. I was just correcting the incorrect data point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:11 PM
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Ah - I can’t fail if I don’t try mentality. That’s the ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:10 PM
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Yes. Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:08 PM
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And yet when a woman says this, she’s a hypergamous bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 02:41 AM
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the type of girl who goes to college isn’t the type of girl who is having sex for money. That’s not true at all. There are plenty of intelligent women engaging in all forms of sex workers. College educated, masters, doctorate level women - who engage in sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 04:15 AM
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No we aren’t. That’s your fantasy of a sex worker. And by shallow do you mean “cares about looks” or shallow as in “airheaded bimbo” because you know the bimbo thing is an act… right? Most of the girls I know worked our way through our masters and doctorates. Most sex workers are “low level” like strippers and cam girls. They typically have a goal in mind when entering sex work. Even street girls I know who end up in poverty are in sex work because they know how to act the way men want. They’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 04:11 AM
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Let’s clear some things up first and foremost. What do you mean by “nice?”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:34 PM
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The poorest 10% of people are women. The richest 10% are men. That is absolutely not in line with “male variability.” That’s a great excuse to help you sleep at night, but it isn’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:59 PM
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And that worked for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:00 PM
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Women know they’re the prize. But also know who they’re a prize for. Delusional women are few and far between. Men have no idea what their level is. Dudes who claim they’re a 6 but are a solid 2, calling the woman he likes a 7 when she’s fucking 10s and dating 9s. Undervalue women, over value yourself. The rp male mantra.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:40 AM
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What do you mean? I fucked some of the most feminine men I could. They are better in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 05:23 PM
1

Where did anyone guarantee results? And nope - even qualifying with “usually” is not just world. If I work out - I will gain muscle. It’s natural progression, not just world.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:13 AM
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Hard work typically produces results =/= just world fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:19 AM
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Thought terminating cliche
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:17 AM
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I got called hypergamous for being with someone who makes the same amount of money I do. And I made way more than him when we first met. I was “hypergamous” because I “sought his ambition.” Men will turn anything into hypergamy. Height. Weight. Looks. You name it. If it’s “X is ‘better’ than Y, and man has X and woman has Y, then she’s hypergamous.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:16 PM
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Yes - they matter to anyone else looking into my relationship. but to me the sun shines out of his asshole and no one can tell me any different. Talk about missing the point entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:26 PM
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But we clarified earlier that “double standards” aren’t a thing. I want men I’m attracted to to flirt with me. I don’t want men I’m not attracted to to flirt with me. And if they try to flirt, and I don’t reciprocate, I want them to have the decorum to quit flirting with someone who doesn’t want to be flirted with. Everyone has different standards for romantic interests versus normal people. It’s like complaining I let my boyfriend kiss me but not random men on the street. Yes. Consent matters. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:24 PM
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Nope that would be a misinformation. They were already on the verge of bankruptcy. They let in girls to boost numbers. More customers is better than fewer - you know? And only weird people think small children have to be broken up by sex to go camping or tie knots. They are now just called scouts though that’s correct. But not because anyone forced them to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:22 PM
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I’m married. There is no competition. I just disagree with abuse and coercion. I experienced it at the hands of an older man when I was too young to spot what as happening and it led to some trauma I would have preferred to avoid. So now I educate other women on those red flags - one of which is an age gap when you’re under 27 and he’s over 30. If anything I want women to date more - not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:45 PM
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You: women are forcing autistic men to mask! I don’t get pussy if I don’t! Also you: wants to force women to give autistic men they don’t want “a chance.” No bud. Stay single. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. But you also can’t force anyone else to do anything they don’t want to. They don’t want to date you. You have choice. Stay single or become someone they want to date. You do not have to become someone they want to date. You can remain single and just life your life. Which I …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:46 PM
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It’s so weird, it’s almost like when someone finds someone attractive enough to be an option they want different behavior from them than the general population. Wild!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:18 AM
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It was on the brink of bankruptcy and they let girls in as a last ditch effort to gain customers. So far it’s kept them from going under completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:17 PM
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I met my partner on tinder. We’re both really normal, average, everyday people. I put in effort to make sure he feels loved and cherished because he’s the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. He is my prize. And I’m his. It isn’t that rare. But being caught in the hate vortex of Bp isn’t going to let you see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:06 PM
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I might not be Stacy but these men who broke my heart weren’t Chad either. me and the men who broke my heart. and no - I never had gaggles of men in my messages. I had men ghost me on dating apps. I’ve asked men for sex and been turned down. Like - what sort of existence do you think women live? Because from where I stand, it’s only the most beautiful women you desire and think that’s how all women exist because that’s all you see as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 04:10 PM
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And those are the dudes your sisters and friends want. It’s just literally not. Women never talk about how great being with ' average ' is. Yeah because when you love someone you don’t think they’re average anymore. They’re your special person. My man is probably by all accounts a perfectly average man. 5’6” 220 makes the same I do, very middle class dinks. But that man is everything to me. My person. Strong and handsome and kind and loving and all of the amazing beautiful things exist in the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 04:08 PM
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Doesn’t that just prove the fact that people aren’t marrying for convenience anymore since the marriage rate is down? And people who do get married today are less likely to divorce than 50 years ago, further proving the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:39 AM
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Yes. And a part of that network is a therapist and psychiatrist. Men here should try it sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:33 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/j37lai7uf8mf1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=05adf53abf17daadf49f0bf9c03d35f2ac771797
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:24 PM
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This is so funny. I’d never date the dudes my sisters date. I’d never date the dudes my friends date. My friends don’t want the men I date. My sister doesn’t want the men I date. We have never fought over a man, ever. I have never witnessed this “women Chad chase” irl except with exceptionally beautiful women and exceptionally handsome men - of which most people are not. Most people are average and have their own preferences within that average. The only people no one wants is the bottom 1%, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:07 PM
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It’s so weird to read shit like this when you say “women” what you mean is “desirable thin women between 18-30 years of age.” Entirely ignoring that fat women, ugly women, disabled women, old women do not hold near the same “power” you claim “women” have. People treat people they’re attracted to with more favor because they’re an option for dating. This isn’t power. The man is just as capable of saying no as any woman is. It’s not like men have to say yes to any woman who approaches, just like u…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:03 PM
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What in the delululand?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 08:16 PM
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Because they’re not equally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 01:04 AM
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Wow you said a whole lot to side step the point I was trying to make. Dismissing a valid argument as a “gotcha” is inherently bad faith. Have the day you deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:26 PM
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This whole thread really is the epitome of “every accusation is an admission.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 08:38 PM
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What does that have to do with what I said or what OP said?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 07:54 PM
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That wasn’t my question. Is it gay if you never date a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 07:53 PM
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I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again - This is what I looked like and the men who broke my heart. You can claim I’m ugly. You can claim I deserved it. But you can’t claim that any of these men are Chad. And they broke my heart or abused me or cheated on me just the same. If men are socialized to be x way, and I have to find a man who behaves in y way, I might as well look for the men I’m attracted to with their shit together if there is an equal chance of being treated like shit either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 06:18 PM
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Because everyone wants one, but they’re impossible to find. And women are regularly asked to be one, even if they’re not interested. I didn’t say wanting a unicorn was rare. I said having a unicorn was rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:49 PM
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Are you gay if you never date a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:45 PM
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Yeah I was a unicorn for years. I promise it’s not even a little bit common. No matter how hot a man is, unicorns are looking to sleep with the couple, not chase Chad. If you don’t have experience with it, maybe don’t embarrass yourself by making false assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 01:59 PM
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Roughly four-in-ten adults who describe themselves as bisexual (43%) say they are sexually attracted to men and women equally. A similar share (40%) say they are attracted mostly to the opposite gender and 4% report feeling attracted only to the opposite gender, while 12% and 1%, respectively, say they are attracted mostly or only to their own gender. If you’re bi - you probably wouldn’t only be attracted to their own gender or opposite gender. Then we use terms like straight and lesbian. We kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 12:49 PM
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1/4 of men make over $100k. I make $100k and I wouldn’t miss a few hundred a week if I budgeted it out. Plenty of men make enough to do that. How much do you think men pay in child support? Lmao. Average is $300 a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:59 PM
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And that’s where you’d be wrong chief. Autistic women have a higher unemployment rate and autistic men have more help from family while unemployed. Autistic men have more privilege and access than autistic women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 02:07 AM
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You said all this like left wing people don’t share an ideology. Like right wing people aren’t all okay with a raving lunatic as a leader. Like Muslims haven’t been stereotyped for their extremist cousins. Like cat owners aren’t seen as a specific type of person. Like bmw drivers can’t be assumed to have above a certain wage. Like Jewish people don’t have a culture you can comment on. Like we don’t say the Eagles have the worst fans in the league. Exceptions prove the rule. Meaning if an excepti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 10:03 PM
1

Ooh is this “all sex is rape” feminism?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:00 PM
0

Okay? And? Do you have to be a hypergamous little bitch and get hot women as an ugly man?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:30 PM
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I have an amazing relationship with my father. My parents are married. My father taught me how to build a house from the ground up, he’s the reason I work in the trades now. My father is my best friend, the one I turned to when I had boy trouble, when I needed help, who had an honest opinion on clothes or makeup, and wouldn’t let me walk out looking crazy. He taught me real men can be bikers with a tattoo of satan on his chest, a naked lady on his arm, will beat anyone who dared to try to hurt m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:16 PM
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Sure it does. There are men who aren’t that attractive but someone loves them because they’re likable. Someone fucks them regularly because they are likable. If you’re not hot and you’re not likable - why would anyone date you? What would you offer someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:41 PM
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Again, you are doing the apples to oranges thing. It’s autistic man versus autistic woman - who is more likely to escape poverty? You can’t give the man an axis of oppression that you don’t account for in the woman. It has to be all else equal. Of course men and women have their own set of unique issues. No one is saying a man can’t have issues. Of course they can. But all else equal - a poor neurotypical ugly man and a poor neurotypical ugly woman - the man has a greater shot of escaping povert…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:39 PM
1

Where are these women only support programs?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:00 PM
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But either way, they’re still single. They are not in an official relationship. That’s single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:59 PM
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See and this is the disconnect. You don’t need those things for some women to find you attractive. But it appears you want every woman you want, to find you attractive, without being able to say no, or you want to have so many women like you that it doesn’t matter who says no. But that’s not reality. There is no cheat code to be Chad. You are or you aren’t. You have the capacity to become or you don’t. If you don’t, there are other ways to have connections with women. But the rampant jealousy ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:39 PM
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Nope, not just world. You know what dude on the tea app has? Good looks. Someone is going to be attracted to him regardless. That’s how good looks works. Not everyone has good looks. But You don’t need good looks to find people who like you and want to have sex with you. You do have to have positive qualities that are attractive. If you spend your whole life as an ugly, unlikable goblin; why would anyone want to date you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:21 PM
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But that’s apples to oranges. We need to look at a poor man and a poor woman - who is more likely to escape poverty of their own volition? You can’t say “well there are some rich black people doing much better than this poor white man!” Like yeah - those are two different intersections of oppression, you can’t compare them. But if we look at the obstacles in the way of a white man versus a black man, the black man will always have more obstacles. Same with a man and a woman. All else equal, a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:20 PM
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Talking isn’t having a crush? You aren’t dating or fucking or official. You can both ghost with no notice. That’s single. Same with having feels for Chad. I can love Chad all I want, if he doesn’t notice me - that’s a crush. That’s being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:09 PM
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Name your devil. You wanna play devils advocate? Name your devil. What exactly are you defending?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:05 PM
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Bi women would be considered queer. Queer is the umbrella term. And I don’t think there is any way to truly know because humans are messy, change their minds, are unwilling to date but then meet someone they love so much, or get divorced unexpectedly and never date again despite wanting to - being in a same sex relationship is more acceptable than ever before and will only continue to be more acceptable and bi men and women can date a man or a woman, poly people exist, asexual people exist - it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:53 PM
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Wow so having a crush means you aren’t single?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:47 PM
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Comments like these remind me exactly what women men here are chasing and exactly why they remain alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 03:21 AM
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No I just disagree with exploitation. You wanna go date another woman from another country - have at it. But it isn’t just any woman from any country they’re dating. It’s why the term “passport bro” exists in the first place. Because it describes the very specific phenomenon of exploiting a poor woman who has no other options with the promise of a green card and then being the worst. Taking her ID so she can’t escape you, isolating her from her support system, financial abuse, marital rape - all…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:45 AM
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No I don’t think they were arranged. I think women chose men very quickly because they had to in order to get out from under their husbands. When you can’t vet men and have to get married before you’re a 23 year old spinster, you make bad choices. And men don’t have any incentive not to do whatever they fuck they want when marital rape isn’t illegal, you know your wife and children won’t survive without you because they don’t make nearly the same wage you do, if they even do, so she can’t leave.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:41 AM
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Do you understand how chores worked before modern machines? Women didn’t “not work” because they had bridge club like in the 50s upper class ladies - doing the laundry was done by hand. Clothes were made by hand. Soap was made by hand. Food was grown, foraged and traded. Only half of Americans had electricity in 1925. Like I could go on but I think I’ve made my point. This delusion that women have always had the same benefits of the 40s-60s is wild. 20 years women didn’t have many rights, couldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:11 PM
0

Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:44 PM
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Less than 40% if it’s your first marriage. Less than 20% if you’re over 30 when you get married. And the person who does the paperwork isn’t necessarily the person who caused the breakdown of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:38 PM
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Let’s not act like “not being able to afford child care” is the same as being a sugar baby… if you don’t make enough money to be a sugar daddy, maybe don’t comment about how all these women are in a sugar baby relationship. It’s embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:34 PM
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Well marital rape involved overpowering your wife and forcing her. Women aren’t as strong as men, so chains are probably how a woman would overpower a man. So it’s the same. And you’re right - most women wouldn’t do that. But many, many men think marital rape is totally okay because she “owes” you sexual gratification. Disgusting pigs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:29 PM
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You’re going to use something parents created to create magic for children - something they grow out of believing early in adolescence - with things like love and confidence? That’s unhinged. Love is a chemical response but can you explain how you feel love? How do you prove to another person who doesn’t feel inside your body that you love them? You can’t. That’s the point. You can say you love them. You can even try to do things to prove it. But they’ll never really know. Just like confidence. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:27 PM
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Victim blaming /= accountability. What you said /= accountability. Hope that helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:48 PM
5

Oh thank god marital rape isn’t a thing. So your wife can chain you to the bed and peg you until you squeal like a little piggy and that’s okay because you owe your wife sexual gratification?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:43 PM
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No. No. We tolerate it just fine. We just won’t date a man who doesn’t like us enough to one day escalate the relationship. It’s men who can’t handle when women don’t want the setup you want and we walk away - so you like to trick us into staying. To say “all men do x” is ignorant. No. Not all men operate this way. Many are marriage minded or honest about their intentions. You’re a liar. You try to trick and manipulate women. This is a you problem. But way to try blaming women for your shit beha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:40 PM
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Who is excusing every red flag? The women dumping them?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:34 AM
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No. Love exists. I can’t measure it. I can’t tell if someone truly loves someone more or less based on any actions they take. You can say yeah you can because they x but I can find a counter example of why they don’t because of x. Feelings and self identification aren’t hard and fast rules like that. Nope. I’ve definitely met hot men who ruined it by talking. I didn’t say it was only about looks or status. That what you took from what I said. Your clothes don’t dictate how attractive you are - w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:32 AM
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I’m not reading all of that. Yell at clouds.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:24 AM
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The hinge data had people rate the opposite sex and then see who messaged who. Men said more women were above average but still only messaged the top 20% of women. Women said fewer men were above average but had a more even distribution to the top 80% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:35 PM
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I think there is a difference between confidence and being social. You don’t have to be social to be confident. You obviously have the quiet confidence. You’re okay being closed off in a social situation and don’t try to force conversation because you’re confident in who you are and what you are there to accomplish. He’s throwing spaghetti at the wall, talking incessantly, and putting himself in situations no one wants him in. That isn’t confidence, It’s delusion. I agree confidence is nebulous …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:02 AM
1

I have. And I get a few matches who don’t make any plans even when I ask them to and then ghost me and then I was on the app for months with the same “hey” comment to my initial introduction and pick up line, a short conversation and then they ghost. Stop thinking all women get the same experience as the top 10% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:58 AM
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So, you can always judge a woman for being less than any man under your theory. That’s super fucking convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:53 AM
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Oh so I shouldn’t date someone charismatic and charming? I should date someone dull and angry? wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:52 AM
1

Yeah it’s crazy - it’s almost like love bombing and new relationship energy look almost identical without a shit test. Yeah, we do. It’s why we wait to sleep with people and then get told “If I was a chad you would have slept with me!” Are they different scenarios or was she trying to see the good in a dude she liked and then realized an asshole is an ass hole. Not spotting the ass hole isn’t the fault of the person who wasn’t the ass hole. “Held accountable” I didn’t realize being berated for d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:51 AM
1

Aye because most women who aren’t psychologically scarred would love to hang out with a rapist! Is
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:45 AM
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What’s toxic about approaching? You can be toxic by not taking no for an answer, cornering her, expecting her to be polite when you’re the one who bothered her, or getting violent in response to rejection. But just approaching is fine. Approaching can be masculine coded - sure. But it isn’t “toxic masculinity.” I swear you guys hear anything negative to do with men and go “you hate men!” When the qualifier literally qualifies not all men, not all masculinity. Doing a masculine thing doesn’t make…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:18 PM
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So it’s all a moot point anyways, You aren’t going to ask to split the bill, you aren’t going to ask for sex, you just want something to be angry at because “women don’t put in effort” but you wouldn’t know that because you don’t go on dates with women. You’re more angry at a hypothetical outlier than you are about how the world actually works. Because if someone tells you “then don’t date that person” you claim that’s not the point. So you’re just angry those women exist somewhere, even if they…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:39 PM
2

Ah another “I think the experience of the top 10% of women is the experience of all women” post. At least we can clearly see how hypergamous all the men here are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:29 PM
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I’m sorry but this is absolutely the most unaware take that I have ever read. “Just have a good date and if the conversation is shallow and he tries to have sex right away, he’s just looking to smash and if he asks you to change something without the sincerest of apologies, he’s an abuser! EASY!” Ahahaha Lmfaooo bro! You genuinely have no idea what it’s like to date men. This is the absolute bare minimum milquetoast “advice” in this thread. It’s almost as basic and useless as “if he strangles a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 06:15 AM
1

Convenient
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 06:04 AM
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You mean whether a woman is receptive or not to your advances depends on whether she is attracted to you or not? What?! NO WAY!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:24 PM
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Women like what? With a more logical take than your emotional ass “she didn’t pick me so now i will throw a tantrum! Wah!” Lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:52 AM
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And sometimes you just end up with a good dude who’s charismatic. Should I only give men who trip over their words a chance because he “isn’t used to it?” Is getting dates a bad thing now? He’s desirable - of course he’s getting dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:25 AM
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Yeah because that’s the type of guys women are talking about when we discuss men who were ass holes. It’s always the jobless bum who showed his true colors right off the bat. He definitely didn’t have a sob story as to why he was unemployed. He definitely wasn’t charismatic and sweet and kind in the beginning. He definitely didn’t make her feel safe and seen before letting the mask slip. Because if we don’t date a dude because he has no job we have “too high of standards” and every woman wants a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:19 AM
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100% like I know unreasonable women exist. Of course they do. Just like super hygienic men exist. But it isn’t typical or the majority. Contributing to the household in a reasonable way to maintain a reasonable standard of cleanliness should be the norm. Unfortunately it’s not and this thread is living proof. “She wanted me to change the sheets once a week!” “She didn’t want me to sleep in my work clothes!” Like… uh, there is a problem here but I promise it’s not her expectations bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:37 PM
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Oh my goodness yes! I had an ex who bragged about how “equitable” our relationship was, how he lived alone and his apartment was “spotless.” Dude had literal gunk around his toilet. The dishes smelled like death, the water he “soaked” them in was viscous. Crumbs in the bed, the sheets gave me break outs, the carpet was loaded with dog hair. Like sure, he didn’t have clothes thrown about or any real “mess” to speak of (because he played video games and had zero other hobbies and ate out every mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:09 PM
2

Then you can’t complain when there are women who would love to peg you and you turn them down. You’re single because you choose to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:44 AM
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Woof. Talk about telling on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:05 PM
2

Sounds like you have too high of standards. There are plenty of women offering to peg you and you’re just greedy and only want a relationship with your looksmatch if it means you’re the penetrator instead of the penetrated. Why wouldn’t you accept sexual gratification the way she wants it? Why wouldn’t you let a woman pleasure you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:05 PM
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But you have the same desire for gay men as women have for anyone they’re not attracted to. Women just won’t sleep with someone because “doesn’t matter had sex.” We don’t have that. So the best comparison for “someone you’d turn down with sex, even if they were really nice” is gay men. You’re trying to equate not getting sex with who you deem your “looks match” to not having rights or personhood. The ability to vote, access to healthcare, jobs, education. They’re not even a little bit comparable…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:02 PM
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Newborn babies see the doctor 1 day post partum and again every couple weeks to ensure baby is gaining weight properly, has no health issues spring up, is on track with development, etc. 1-3 years it’s ever few months. Then toddlers 3+ have an annual. Dentist twice a year once teeth are in. And that if you have a perfectly healthy child with zero issues. It isn’t abnormal, but it’s also not abnormal to have a kid with allergies, struggles to gain weight, kidney problems, are a toe walker, asthma…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 06:05 PM
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Because you’re looking at sex (the reward for being so nice you’re seeking) from the position of the penetrator instead of the penetrated. If you want to be penetrated and have the same access a woman does, plenty would love to peg you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:52 AM
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I dont know what you’re talking about, there are plenty of women seeking to peg men. Go to fet life and make a profile and I can bet you’d get some action.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:47 AM
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So you’re trying to equate not being desired by a multitude of beautiful women on the same level as black people during the civil rights movement?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:46 AM
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Contrapoints discussed this five years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:21 PM
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No. A one off task does not even begin to “count” towards the daily workload. And I say that as someone who does all of those jobs in my home. Swapping a sink does not make up for a week of laundry, meal planning, grocery shopping, mental load of what is left in the house, appointments, dishes, cleaning the toilet, shower, sink, floors, stove, microwave - like they are useful and necessary - of course. But it’s not like we thank moms every time they wash the shit stains out of the toilet. Home r…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:51 AM
2

Yeah and swingers fuck a bunch of other swingers. It doesn’t mean most marriages are swingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:00 PM
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I think you’ve fallen for disinformation friend. I can’t find that anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 08:16 PM
2

Meh it’s been five years. 8 if you count when the lawsuit was filed. 5 from when Barnes died. If you can’t laugh now, when can you?!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:25 PM
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Go read yesterdays thread where men claim women are hybristophilliacs and all love to be abused. Red pill men are absolutely saying these things and it’s willful ignorance to say they aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:24 PM
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They are… like a lot of them. Even I - a slut, went five years without sex because I didn’t have a partner or many friends. I worked a lot and didn’t put myself in situations to meet people. I wasn’t looking for a relationship but I wouldn’t have been unhappy to find one. But yup - went celibate for five years. Most women are celibate while single. They date someone and when they break up, they don’t have sex until they are with a new boyfriend. Less than 14% of women had 3+ partners last year. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:19 PM
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I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:14 PM
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The entire folder… maybe the folder is cherry picked? Because going on the site and even being on the OG awdtsg Facebook groups - no. Lmaoo. No. They picked the most handsome men and their dating profile picture and the most busted verification photo of the women. It is not fair nor balanced. If you look at the collage posted here you would think every fatty with acne is fucking a dude with a six pack. Absolutely fucking not. Lmao. I can’t even explain how separated from reality that is. Those f…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:12 PM
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“Men are universally skilled” ahahhahahah oh my god that’s the funniest shit I’ve ever read. Men under 35 literally can’t change a tire. Based on your description. youre the one claiming they aren’t men because they aren’t “universally skilled.” Lmfaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:55 PM
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Stop believing that women are utilizing casual dates, short term flings, FWB, situationships or any other contact with men to be happy single. Women who are happy single don’t do those things and say they’re happy single. They say they’re happy casually dating. They say they’re happy to use men but not settle down. “Single women” are single. They’re not engaging with men in that way. If they try to date someone, it’s in earnest. Also - you can be happy single and also still want a relationship. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:44 PM
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I’m asking you if you think getting unearned privileges based on your genitals is fair. You deserve to have more advantages?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:35 PM
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You mean how men here find men more attractive then women? It just sounds like a lot of dudes in the bisexual/homosexual closet to me. No shade - I’ve known how beautiful women were since I knew men and women were different. I just do wish they’d recognize it and embrace their attraction towards men. The world would be a much better place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:53 PM
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So you think you just deserve unfair advantages?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:27 PM
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Ah yes because only a man so used to unfair advantages would think taking away that advantage is “unfair.” It’s like a child screaming “it’s not fair!” when someone gets a slice of birthday cake, when you already got one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:56 PM
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I dont know I didn’t do it. I’ll up you tho to 1 again. I assume it’s the “man up” comment tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:08 AM
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What golf clubs were shut down? Boy Scouts brought on girls because they were going under and needed numbers. Shelters in Canada I can’t speak on. I just built a men’s shelter in my city last month. I put in for the grants and funding. My millwork company provided the materials for that portion. Our sister company did the framing and gypsum. And it’s a thriving shelter. But we had to zone it correctly because men’s shelters are shut down or denied their zoning because of how horrifically violent…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:07 AM
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what are you approaching me for? To get to know you. You looked handsome and nice and like someone I’d get along with? Also I never said women aren’t lustful or don’t want sex. I even said in my argument I don’t think that’s even a major reason. I have approached every man I’ve ever dated. I’ve fucked on the first date - often. I’m telling you the harm in approaching men as a woman when 1. You aren’t that type of girl (less than 14% of women had more than 3 partners last year.) no pedestal here …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:59 AM
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Why isn’t it special treatment when white men only hire other white men? Saying “hey you can’t only hire people who look like you” isn’t special treatment. It’s checking your hiring practice. You’d sort of have an argument if they didn’t apply - if only there wasn’t a ton of societal reasons why women and minorities even apply less than white men. But that’s actually one of the considerations to side step it. Throw out all of the paper applications submitted by women and POC and now you “proved”…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:54 AM
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And what it does is fight for the right of women. That’s what they said.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:38 AM
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No thanks - I’d rather be single and sexless for the rest of my life than ever settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:35 AM
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Safe haven laws are only for newborns, and if the dad wants to come get the kid he can. And then mom owes child support. If mom gives custody of the kid to dad, she owes child support. If this kid goes into foster care, she owes child support. The only time a mother doesn’t owe child support is when someone willingly adopts the child and relieves her of child support. Most babies and young children are wanted by adoptive families - which is the only reason safe haven laws exist, because they’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:33 AM
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No no. Pussies take a beating. He’s being a dainty little ballsack.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:18 AM
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You keep dodging when people ask for specifics.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:15 AM
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I’m not the commenter but I’ll bite. A criticism of feminism I think is valid is calling out bioessentialism through “men bad, women good” of Rad fems. This excludes trans women because of her “male socialization” even if shes been out as trans since she hit puberty or was “different” growing up and didn’t have the normative male experience. There are also very few if any universal truths or experiences of womanhood. Not all women have experienced -say- SA and I think it’s reductive to hinge my …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:12 AM
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Just finished expedition 33 - the most beautiful soundtrack and an amazing story with some really fun turn based mechanics. 10/10 HIGHLY recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:17 PM
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You’re also allowed to choose to be a drug addict but I wouldn’t encourage anyone to do that either. To be financially dependent on your spouse is terrible advice. Women have been told they can do more, be more, achieve more. Why the hell would we tell men? Why don’t you try less? That’s idiotic. Also, we do tell men to break out of their gender roles. They just don’t like it when we do. We’re “emasculating” them. They don’t need emotional intelligence or vulnerability because then women who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:58 PM
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You know you’re so right. We are. We are just the worst. And since we are, there is no use in trying to date us when a pocket pussy and some lube could fulfill everything you want out of a woman. So leave is alone. Go about your life and we’ll go about ours. No need to keep chasing, pining over or desiring someone so illogical and selfish. Easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:26 PM
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Oh yes they can
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:56 PM
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Why did you say airbag like it isn’t the second most predominant safety feature keeping you alive inside of a vehicle in the event of a cash. Most of the safety features in a vehicle are directly tied to the airbag. From steering wheel angle, speed of deployment, head rest, crumple zones, sensors, and so on. “In essence, airbags have evolved from simple front-impact protection to a comprehensive safety system with various types and deployment strategies, significantly impacting vehicle design an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:50 PM
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Because they were violent. They weren’t shut down because they just dudes doing dude shit. They were inciting violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:23 PM
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Yeah like men here have this fantasy that bad men look like a crack head from a movie - Sid from the Sex Pistols, Tommy Lee, lil Wayne, Chris brown. But the truth is bad men come in all shapes and sizes. I’ve dated men who were amazing but looked like they might hurt someone, but they never did. And I’ve dated men who put on a wonderful front - white collar worker, good salary, handsome, well spoken, but utterly abusive. Men want to believe this dichotomy exists so that they can blame women for …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:12 PM
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Yup. It isn’t “this woman rejected me because she doesn’t like me.” It’s “she rejected me because all women are hypergamous and have ridiculously high standards! She’s brainwashed by feminism to see me as a beta provider!” Every accusation of R/BP is a confession.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 02:16 AM
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“Special treatment” - the government asks for 30% participation from women and minorities on a government contract. And even that can be side stepped in nearly all cases. Shouldn’t be difficult for anyone hiring who applies. But a real struggle for someone purposely keeping women and minorities out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:38 AM
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You are mixing up the order of events. It got nuked because it was muddy, not the other way around. It was pretty horrific before the nuking. And those men who were already shot to begin with spread to influences who saw a niche and filled it. Many of the grifters weren’t that bad initially. But when they saw it made money, because it’s what young men wanted to hear, that’s where they could say any absurd thing they came to mind. Even if they didn’t believe it - it didn’t matter. Saying it is en…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:35 AM
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No. Normal people get married in their late twenties and early thirties after dating for two to four years. There is a reason age of first marriage is a predictor in the divorce rate. The older you are, the wealthier you are, for your first marriage, the higher the likelihood of staying married for life. Getting married 18-23 is a recipe for divorce, single motherhood and fucked up children. Meeting and marrying your husband after 31 yields happier marriages, more well adjusted children, fewer d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:19 AM
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That the one!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 11:23 PM
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You know the patriarchy doesn’t mean all men. Feminism isn’t against men. It’s against patriarchy. A system put in place that places men above women. A system that intersects with race, religion, socioeconomic status, and other areas of oppression. Feminists are fighting a system, not all men. But here, especially in male spaces, “feminists” is a proxy for all women. When men here say “feminists do x” they are saying “women do x.” Because they aren’t fighting a system they feel wronged by - they…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 08:42 PM
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This is the bigger issue. It’s not just that men will say yes to anyone whether they like her or not, it’s not just that we are labeled as easy, it’s not just social stigma. It’s that my asking him out has now been interpreted as sexual interest, whether that’s what I meant or not. And that perceived sexual interest can get dangerous really fast. He’s excited because he believes he is getting some tonight by a girl who is super into him - so into him in fact that she asked him out. So he’s excit…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 04:18 PM
2

My favorite box!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:01 PM
2

I mean my partner on our first date let me ramble on for hours about nonsense - I was stressed at work and hadn’t spoken to another adult in weeks, I felt terrible but he sat, listened, had an amazing conversation with me and then at the end of all of that, I jumped his bones. I’m not the only woman in the world who is very into sweet, safe, considerate men. The safer I feel, the more likely he is to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:01 AM
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Hey man - I can see what you’re getting at. When you are actually vibing with a woman, when she is actually attracted to you, when she actually wants to engage with you in the dance of a mating ritual we call an approach (cold, warm or hot) then yes - pushing boundaries can be a part of said dance. The teasing, the touching but don’t touch me but actually this was an invitation to touch me more, the “no I couldn’t possibly” but actually she could and wants to: yes. I understand where you are com…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:45 AM
1

Some guys end up being held in a kind of stasis where the women don't really invest in them as people, but enjoy the nonchallenging company and attention. WTF does this even mean? You mean they like being casual friends? And the middle ground between the two are women who try to have the first category, but don't really know how to relate to men and end up socializing with men under a lot of stipulations (most of which are unspoken) that leave the guys feeling like they have to wear a mask to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:18 AM
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Because they all think they’re a 5 going after a 7 - forever overvaluing themselves and under valuing women. In reality they’re a 2 going after an 8. You can have low self esteem, think you’re shit and still think you’re better than women. They’re all hypergamous. Every accusation is an admission.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:18 AM
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Ah yes - the old “men are mindless sex fiends and women all asexual harpies.” Gotta love that dichotomy. Stop being a misandrist and speak for yourself when you claim men think the way you do. Most men are not driven solely by their desire to fuck and offering commitment to any woman willing to give it to him for the fee of pseudo commitment in order to trick her into having more sex. Some men actually turn some women down, don’t fuck indiscriminately, and actually would love to have a happy and…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 01:41 PM
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But men know that. We know that men outnumber women on apps up to 4-1 and nearly 50% of the “women” are bots and/or SW. it’s why men here think so many women irl are SW. because every time they get a match, she’s a SW. (I’d argue why are you swiping on someone so beautiful that she would be a SW, probably need to know your league to get real swipes. But I digress.) but men know they’re a little fish in a big pond - but it’s easy. They don’t have to socialize. They don’t have to make and maintain…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 04:03 PM
2

That’s ridiculous. Women would rather be single than settle. Even the tiny 1% minority of gold diggers and women who don’t want to work - they have to give him somewhat attractive to get married. He can ruin it and make himself entirely undesirable, but most women aren’t out here settling for shit. We get what we want in the end. It’s why men here are so angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:47 PM
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I disagree. I think it should be split based on effort of occupation, free time and personal preference. And thinking the way you do, you’ll cry when the divorce “comes out of no where.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:44 PM
3

I know, fuck absentee and deadbeat fathers. We should make it socially unacceptable to abandon your family when you chose the wrong woman to have offspring with. Men need more accountability for their actions. They get to disappear with less than 1/3 paying a dime of child support, and over half not fully paying what is owed to their child. When men disappear from their children’s lives they have a 50/50 shot at zero consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:28 PM
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The Nice Guytm of every woman’s dreams - the one who will “trade commitment for sexual access.” Wow, how romantic!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:14 PM
3

Young men acted like that when I was a teenager too. It was also how my dad acted when he was dating. Every generation thinks their dating woes are so unique. They’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:13 PM
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I’m on a liberal area and even here where men pull more of their own weight, it’s either men and women both working full time, she does 60% to his 40% of childcare and household stuff but they consider it “equal” because it’s more equal than the other half of men who are useless stumps, abusive, or think their job begins and ends outside of the home. You have a 50/50 shot if you find a good man or not. And many of them didn’t stop doing chores and shit until after the baby was born. Like a light…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:09 PM
2

Oof - didn’t deserve it but got it anyways. Stay mad I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:19 PM
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These men think women haven’t ever been turned down for the way we look. Talk about ugly women being invisible. They’re all chasing Stacy and can’t even admit it to themselves because “at least they’d pump and dump her!” WTF are these delusions of men?!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:24 PM
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Don’t we already have rich dudes paying for models to fly to Belize? Like, it’s already happening. And they’re people so rich and so beautiful, they aren’t even on our radar. This already exists and the 99% of us slaves are doing just fine. .1% rich and beautiful do just fine. It’s the .9% of incels that are worried about some apocalypse that just isn’t going to happen in any meaningful way. Money is too concentrated at the top. That’s like a few thousand men. Even if they all have 100 beautiful…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:59 AM
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Yeah, most men didn’t message on the right hand side? That’s not what that says?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:41 AM
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No. Not even a little bit. More handsome humans exist. Objectively. More beautiful women exist than me. Objectively. That doesn’t make our connection any less amazing. He’s sexy and strong and handsome and everything I want in a partner. Where is that settling? Because he isn’t Henry Cavill? lol okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:40 AM
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And yet men still all chase the top 20%
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:38 AM
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I’m sorry, you’re right - messages not swipes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:38 AM
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Disagree. It depends on the profiles they see. If I only swipe on 10 profiles, but 5 yes, 5 no - I still have a 50% swipe rate but I quit when I felt like I had enough. Meanwhile a man swiping thousand can have a 1% rate but still have swiped hundreds of women. It’s relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:37 AM
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Yes, and I was countering that it didn’t matter because men only focused on talking to the top 20% of women while women swiped on men more realistically. Men are hypergamous by nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:36 AM
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Woof - so many assumptions. Have fun with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:34 AM
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if I want sex one day a month and he wants it daily, and I would become sex repulsed by having sex more often than that - that’s an incompatibility if I like rough, throw me against a wall, hold me tight, fuck me hard sex and he likes gentle kisses and slow build up - that’s incompatibility if I love head and he hates it or vice versa - that’s incompatibility if sex is always awkward, forced, and you never settle into a mutually pleasurable flow - that’s incompatibility if I always have to tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 02:55 AM
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Wouldn’t we be hairless monkeys?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:08 AM
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Oof 80% of men’s swipes went to the tops 20% of women. Women had a more evenly distributed swipe ratio. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:05 AM
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80% of men’s swipes on old went to the top 20% of women. Women rated 80% of men as “below average” but still had a more even distribution of swipes. Every accusation from a red pill man is an admission. The men here who claim they’re “average” are a two at best crying the sevens they chase don’t want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:02 AM
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Ooh and had to use the R word. Are you an advanced specimen. You’re wrong. End of story. If you believe your weird little fairy tales - that’s on you. And it isn’t an insult to be gay - you just probably don’t like vagina nearly as much as you think you do. I personally love pussy, I couldn’t imagine being grossed out by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:36 PM
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I’ll get back to you with the source. And no- I said no matter what they look like men will try to cheat. Chad or Quasimodo - they’ll cheat if they’re a cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:22 PM
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Not on the level men do. And we have the data to back it up. Men cheat three times as often as women do. With single women. You don’t need two people cheating to make a cheater. Dudes try so bad to have their harem but now get called out on it. How did you get that conclusion from what I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:46 PM
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Why would I do the research for you? You know you’re wrong, Otherwise your only “proof” wouldn’t be a book compiled by a grifter. You’re wrong, Objectively. And if you’re grossed out by a vagina, I have news for you kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:45 PM
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I’m telling you they’re ugly men. Are you fucking men? If not, it really doesn’t matter how desirable you think they are - these poor girls are putting up with shady ass behavior from sub par men. Nah, no one else wants their crusty ass. I’m not telling on myself, I’m telling you what is. I’m sorry if you don’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:44 PM
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No it’s because dudes, no matter how ugly, will cheat and lie to get women. So women have to be like “hey, anyone else claiming this one?” You don’t see men with these groups because 1. Women don’t cheat and often and 2. Men dgaf.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 06:45 PM
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Agahahahahahah. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 06:43 PM
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I already said why. Because oral sex has been a thing since ancient times. You can believe whatever you want, it doesn’t make you any less wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 06:33 PM
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“Women are selectors” Yeah when they’re all selecting the same women… Every accusation made by the red pill is a confession.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:53 PM
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Have you seen the dudes in “are we dating the same guy” groups? Lmfqooo - 9 times out of 10 we all wanna say “no, he’s all yours lucky gal!” As we roll our eyes. The other 1% is a mid ass dude who has low self esteem and cheats constantly. There aren’t chads in that group, and if there are, no one else there has ever dated him. I think you misunderstand what those groups are for… it’s to not be dating a dude who is dating someone else, not to find your harem mates lmaooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 03:27 PM
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I was ugly when my eating disorder spiraled and I tried to get healthy but couldn’t control my binging. I’ve been 150# and 250#. In that picture I was 180# at 5’7”. Weight absolutely made me ugly. Many men here specifically have called me ugly when I’ve posted this exact picture. They said the men were hotter than me and I was being hypergamous. It shows you how varied attraction can be. I was deeply in love with each of those men, and they all broke my heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:28 PM
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Oh yes, a propaganda link, awesome source… You’re incredibly wrong. The book is wrong. Anyone can write a wrong book and publish it. It’s on you to have a touch of media literacy to parse wrong from correct information. This is a time you failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:08 PM
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Funny because I know enough poor people who wouldn’t save a penny but every dollar they earn is spent on smokes, new over sized tires for their truck, and other cheap trinkets. Mothers who would sooner purchase a few pills than a can of formula. And rich people who buy quality items that will last them, save for retirement, and donate time and money to charity. Being rich or poor doesn’t mean you are good or bad with money. Just if you have some or not. I’ve dated ugly men and handsome men. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 10:47 AM
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So you can feel certain feelings and choose partners a certain way, but when women go “hey yeah, that’s how we choose men too. Looks aren’t that important when you can choose any good looking man you want so other things become far more important” it’s all a lie because something something evolutionary phycology? Oh my, you are deluded.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:48 PM
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If that makes you feel better, to think you’ve “won.” By all means. But you are delusional and should seek treatment of some kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:45 PM
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I mean I want my partner and I to make more money together because I want us both to have a better standard of living. We both make about $100k and honestly we are very comfortable. We’ll never drive lambos, I’ll never be a sahm, but we are incredibly happy. More money just means more experiences together. I don’t want to find someone else with more money, i want us to make more money together. I want to make enough so that he can quit his job and follow his dreams. I want us to not have to chec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:05 PM
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Oh you mean the way women date and get told we are lying liars who lie and settled? There is of course a lower limit to your hypothetical - a 1 will never be a 9. There is a looks threshold and the personality and compatibility of the person matter more than good looks. A good looking woman will always have options, but you didn’t settle for your six, you chose her. Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:11 AM
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No. I don’t feed delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 10:57 PM
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Correct - but there is zero evidence to suggest that a woman’s X chromosome is any more dominant than your X chromosome. Do you understand what a strawman is? Because you used it incorrectly here. You are arguing something that doesn’t exist. I’m not arguing against a point you didn’t make. You’re trying to say moms X chromosome is the dominant one and the dads X chromosome just turns off. And that’s not true. They work together depending on who has the dominant genes. You could have all of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 10:57 PM
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Sex with a loving long term relationship is always greater than a one night stand and we all know it. It's not about being jealous that they can't get hookups. Men just know if the guy was open to LTR then the girl would have absolutely chosen the other guy not him. No. Absolutely no. I dropped many hookups specifically because they tried to escalate to LTR and that’s not what they were good for. I did end up marrying a FWB, but because we were actually compatible. Not because I needed to settle…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:13 PM
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Yeah same here. OP straight up described my ex and I fucking loved that human and still do. We didn’t work out but it had nothing to do with anything listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:15 AM
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I date him and use how our relationship is currently to make a decision. His past is his past and made him into the man I love today. My man had a slut phase, dated beautiful women, much more beautiful than me. He’s been hurt by bad girls and women who used him and hurt him. He spent money he didn’t have, went on tropical vacations, forgave them when they did something bad to him. But he doesn’t take those negative experiences out on me. He lived and he learned. Good. Our relationship is amazing…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:08 AM
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That’s not how that works. There is no dominant X chromosome, just dominant traits along the X chromosome. If you carry the majority of dominant traits, it is your X chromosome that is primarily used. They work together to make a person, one doesn’t just shut off because moms it’s fine. There are two X chromosomes. Each with the same genetic load as the other. Your moms X chromosome does not dictate your traits anymore than dads X chromosome does. It’s the sequence together that does. You’re woe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:51 PM
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Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:41 PM
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No dishonesty here. You just don’t like my answer. We don’t like being asked because you’re telling on yourself. There is no answer we could give that would be good enough for a man intent on making a woman feel shame. If she’s a virgin she’s a prude and if she doesn’t give it up right away it’s because she doesn’t find you attractive enough. If she’s had sex with 3 long term partners, you will always be comparing yourself to anything and everything her exes did. Or you’ll just accuse her of lyi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:40 PM
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Yes, I’m one of those rare slutty people. So I know how rare it is for women to think or act like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:32 PM
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You know the man only gives a Y chromosome if they have a boy? If you have a little girl, You gave an X chromosome…. You know that… right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:45 PM
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That’s fine as long as she consents to the situation - because you see her as a person with the autonomy to tell you yes or no with informed consent. The line is she’s a person you want to have sex with, not an object you use with or without her informed consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 12:01 AM
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Great comment. I agree with you 100% but I do want to add I don’t think it’s the whole story. I think some women are truly Demi. I think some women are the type who do not have sex until in relationships. I don’t think most women engage in casual or kinky sex (as backed by numerous polls.) i know sexism and the pressure to not be seen that way plays a role in women’s sexuality. For sure. But I also think that women are more easily pressured into things they don’t actually like or enjoy while the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:00 AM
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Women who have casual sex, don’t wait to truly know someone before having sex with them. Whatever is hot to them is hot to them. No chad necessary. But those women are rare and few and far between. Most women want to know and trust someone and be either dating or exclusive before having sex. This constant over stating how many slutty women exist in the world because you know some guy who has sooo much sexy sex that you know about all of the sexy sex, is a lie. Slutty people fuck other slutty peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:04 AM
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What a self own lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 01:57 AM
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No I didn’t - thanks for the reminder tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:20 PM
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I told you in the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:20 PM
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I mean I drew conclusions from a random statistical data set. I just also included anecdotal evidence to further prove the point. Men struggling on dating apps isn’t normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:19 PM
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Imagine being told where a source is from and using another source that doesn’t even separate men and women…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:15 PM
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As long as it stays in your head of course no one will even know. But telling a woman you regularly jack off her to her Facebook profile picture is diabolical and disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:30 PM
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Approximately 75% of men who use dating apps report having entered into an exclusive relationship with someone they met through the app. This is slightly higher than the 66% of women who report the same, according to Statista. While success rates vary, a significant portion of users find long-term relationships through these platforms. Most men do just fine. Maybe the men here need a reality check that they are in fact not average and do not speak for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:29 PM
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You guys always say that’s how “most men” experience dating apps but my partner got lots of action on apps. So did my exes. So did the people I was poly with. So do my friends. So do my nephews. In fact only one friend truly struggles and he still gets matches, he just has standards that don’t fit his league. But he still gets conversations and matches. “Most men” is really overstating the issue. “Most men” do just fine on apps. I don’t find men’s sexuality disgusting. I find unwanted attention …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:13 PM
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What do I want from Marriage specifically? The legal, societal and practical benefits. There is no reason, religious or otherwise, that I wanted to sign that paper besides the 1200 laws codified into US law that protect myself and my partner if something were to happen to one of us. It was 100% about protecting each other in case of accident, injury or death. The party is fun, we spent like $10k feeding people and getting them drunk in the woods. My dress was $100. Our priest a friend. Very low …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:31 AM
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… because of medical intervention…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:08 AM
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Absolutely not. I’m not even a big fan of dating men, I hardly find any attractive, and I’ve dated mostly women. But my husband is it for me. I raised my standards to find him - previous partners in hindsight were a lower tier and awful to me. This man is truly a king. I took his truck to work today while he got my car inspected. No questions asked just - go, I got this. I will go home later and cook him dinner and give him a bj while he plays DnD. It’s a wonderful setup. He’s kind and loving an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:34 PM
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Why don’t you compare her to violent offenders that receive light sentences like Brock turner instead? Also - more women judges makes more fair sentencing. It’s men who are giving harsher sentences to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:37 PM
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And the mortality rate of mother was like one in 18 and your kids mortality rate was like 1 in 2. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:32 PM
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You didn’t read the article or the linked sources, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 07:03 PM
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I have been fat and I have been thin and my type has always remained the same. Honestly it’s been age that has changed my perception the most - I realized I was hotter than I was giving myself credit for, even being fat, and I found my husband by raising my standards. When I dated men who were in hindsight a few levels beneath my own, I thought they were attractive and desired them and everything but they treated me horribly. Once I began playing in my league so to speak, I found men who valued …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:15 PM
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Yes that is absolutely the distinction here. If both work, you have a 2/3 shot at things being equal or a woman as breadwinner. Of course there are still conservative women, women who have never questioned gender roles, women staying home for a year to care for a newborn and detailing their career trajectory, all much more plausible than “women demand a man who makes more!!” Like are there those women? Yeah of course. Some even here on this sub. But is it typical for a dual income household? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:29 PM
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Awe yeah the woman reading between the lines of your post is the emotional one. Not the emotional diarrhea this load of bull shit is. “Women make me pay for dates and they still ghost me!” Boo hoo. Choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:44 AM
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I mean Google isn’t that hard to use. This link also hyperlinks to the studies. I mean it was a question with a fairly educated guess. It wasn’t personal - it’s a logical deduction. Awe - did someone get triggered because it seems like I’ve hit a nerve. Are the mods not banning the mean mean women who disagree with you and can read you like a book? Wah… And my argument is what exactly? What argument can’t I back up? That women aren’t being overtly hostile? That women who laugh in your face are o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:42 AM
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Oh how boring. Yet another “if I pay for dates, that means women owe me sex.” Yes, we know how entitled men feel to women and our bodies. Thankfully most women aren’t dating you or anyone like you. We pay when we want to, we fuck who we want to, and we date who we want to. And there is no going back. The harder you try, the more you drive more women off and away. Women may have fallen for it in the past, but even the teens dating today and fucking and dating less because they refuse to settle fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 09:44 PM
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Yeah, it’s not because you’re making wild and baseless accusations that lead me to make this opinion of you… mine is a baseless assumption. lol. Seriously. Seek some other sort of outlet. Maybe writing a book would better suit you than whatever this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:25 PM
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What in the rage bait revenge fantasy? Bro I say this with all of the empathy I can muster - get Off of the internet. You have officially rotten your brain. You are stuck in the whirlpool and there is no way forward but down. If this is what you think of women, just go your own way. Why date people you think so poorly of? Just leave women alone. I’m sorry no one has ever loved you, but you don’t have to impose that on to everyone else. Women date who they want to date. They marry who they want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 04:01 AM
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Ooh and name calling. We are going for the ad hom bingo now aren’t we?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:43 AM
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But you said she didn’t say anything to you - she said it to her peers later. Gossip holds utility. You’re switching it up now by claiming she laughed at you. Does that happen to you often? That you’re laughed at when you try to approach women out of your league?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:42 AM
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That’s absolutely the case. I have dated plenty of men who aren’t attractive at all in hindsight but were the sexiest things on the planet to me because they were like a celebrity crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:35 AM
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If both people work - 1/3 are equal, 1/3 are women as breadwinners and 1/3 are men. Women take on the burden of childbirth and raising in the initial stages of life so there will always be some disparity there. Find a woman who also wants to work and you have a 2/3 chance of an equitable relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:09 PM
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Oh come on, it was a positive comment about his quote. Don’t be a buzzkill.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:38 PM
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You’re still really stuck on hyperbole, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:37 PM
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Wow so because you don’t tell people, that means no men are hostile? And since women gossip, something with proven community utility, we are treated like children? What a wild assertion to make and a while opinion to hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:37 PM
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Oh god he’s my celebrity crush. Clifford could get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:46 AM
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No they don’t. See, outside of “one time she was rude!” Or worse “well she didn’t say anything to me but she told her friends I was a creep!” That men like to use as their examples - I actually have had men get violent with me after a rejection. I’ve been spit on, cornered, yelled at, threatened, they hope I get raped, I should kill myself. I mean, name calling is the norm, but something about calling someone a fat cow after you’ve tried to proposition her for sex and she turned you down is just…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:46 PM
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You don’t think a smaller woman could drag your average size man? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:41 PM
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And that is hostile?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:40 PM
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“Lying” instead of being hyperbolic. Sure Jan. And it is an ad hom if you aren’t attacking the argument but my word choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:31 AM
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I guess I mean what I consider weak would be an amoral assessment of one’s strength relative to other men’s. But that wouldn’t change their value in society or their worth as a person without the hierarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:29 AM
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That’s the point you focused on? The hyperbole of my comment because I’m a fat woman? You had no argument to make you feel special so you had to attack the words instead of the argument? That’s an ad hom. In case you didn’t know you don’t have to insult someone to use the ad hom logical fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:35 AM
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I’m not going to argue with a whataboutism from someone who wants to trick women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:26 AM
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Using some biological justification for the hierarchy doesn’t mean the hierarchy doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:24 AM
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The axis of capitalism is different from the axis of gender. It’s why when we discuss oppression we typically only look at one axis. A rich black woman is privileged by her income but disadvantaged by her gender and race. And when discussing “who is more privileged” with this rich black woman versus say a poor white man, we have to ask in what ways, and what axis are we discussing? I personally don’t believe in “weak men” because every man has his position of privilege over not-men but there is …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:24 AM
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I find him attractive The sex is good We are compatible - this includes compatible love language, thoughtful, caring, non violent, kind, emotionally intelligent, homebody, libido, interests, ambition, political affiliation, lifestyle, and life goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:33 PM
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Cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:25 PM
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My husband is your run of the mill 5’6” overweight average guytm and I absolutely lust after him. He does it for me. He tickles my pickle. He floats my goat. I don’t think many other women besides his past partners lusted after him, and none as much as I do. Because he’s my partner, he’s sexy, I don’t feel like his mom or caretaker, I feel supported and cared for, I feel seen and respected. He’s the best. I don’t think all women feel lust like that. I don’t think all men will be lusted after by …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:09 PM
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I disagree - it’s not that men don’t have issues or struggles exclusively because they’re men. It’s that they aren’t the oppressed class on the axis of gender. Meaning you may be harmed by patriarchy because you’re a man, but it is always because of your perceived proximity to femininity and women. Example - male mental health is not taken seriously because you need to be more manly and less like an emotional woman. There aren’t any examples I can think of that wouldn’t circle back to “be a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:23 PM
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That wasn’t the standard. She used a turn of phrase. You’re the one who zeroed in on “well within her rights” to strawman weasel your argument of “well then I don’t have to feel bad for tricking women into sleeping with me!” You’ve used it more than once in this thread. So I think the issue isn’t that women are mean, it’s that they’re saying no to you at all. Because you want the potential to trick them into sleeping with you like the lying little scuzz bucket someone, who would lie and manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:45 AM
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Yeah you all keep saying that but I’ve yet to hear many outside of “well one time!” Like it’s not the norm. Can some women be cruel? Oh most definitely. Is it more than a snarky remark 99% of the time? Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:42 AM
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Period and ovulation are two different things. Knowing the date of per period - totally believe you. Date of her ovulation? Nope. No way to know if she’s actually ovulating on day 14 or not. Could be day 7 could be day 21, you’d have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:40 AM
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You don’t lift a fallen soldier, you drag them. 2. Armed combat is especially rare in the modern age 3. I’ve had women 1/4 my size drag me or push me around. Just because you want to think your man muscles are special doesn’t mean they actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:39 AM
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“Hint” She smiled when she said no? The monster!!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:20 AM
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Yes because telling someone “no” and leaving them alone is exactly the same as tricking someone into doing a sex act for you… totally the same thing… /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:19 AM
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Yeah, what have these 95% of women said to you personally that was so mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:18 AM
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Just because an issue is an expectation brought forth by the patriarchy doesn’t mean it’s that specific man’s fault it’s happening nor does it mean it isn’t an issue. Almost all men specific issues are related to the patriarchy - putting men in a position of power on the basis of gender alone in order to subjugate women or a byproduct of the subjugation of women. Everything from mental health care being considered “girly” or “feminine” because “boys don’t cry” to you can’t be raped as a man beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:09 AM
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There is no way to track her ovulation without an OPK. And I doubt you’re having her pee on a stick every day. If you’re using the calendar method and guessing 14 days to ovulation - it’s just that; a guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:32 AM
5

Meh - failure rate of 4% but a typical rate for cream pie is 20% before 30. Pretty effective. Not outside of monogamy of course but in a relationship where you aren’t preventing but aren’t trying - it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:28 AM
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I make all of my partners get STI testing before raw dawging it. I was also on birth control, live in a state with protected abortion access and I am privileged enough to be able to get an abortion if hormonal birth control failed. It never did. (Implant. Highly recommend.) People with multiple partners are better about condom use and have fewer STIs because we know we are fucking other people. People who believe they’re monogamous and get “caught up in the moment” and cheat don’t come prepared.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:24 AM
1

Why would I need a scrawny person to pick me up? And I thought we were talking military, not the fire department? When does the military have to lift people? And we “still have a military” but it would be drastically reduced according to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:40 PM
0

And what do you think OP did? Waited three months and never got any and assumed they were together?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:39 PM
1

The solution to this topic is simple: ⁠Only give voting rights to people who enlist. ⁠Maintain enlistment standards at the highest physical level (a male standard - sorry ladies war is indifferent to your weakness). ⁠Most will not enlist (men or women), most will not pass standards (men or women), and most women in particular will doubly neither enlist nor pass standards. Problem solved. So then we have no military, and we get crushed by other countries. Great plan. You really thought this one t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 02:03 PM
1

I disagree that is obsolete. I think it means more because people are choosing who they want to marry instead of choosing someone for survival. Let’s not act like marriage rates are at 10%. They’ve been fairly steady at around 50% of adults and the divorce rate is going down. Marriage still affords a ton of benefits you can’t get otherwise. It’s why gay people fought so hard for equal marriage rights. Over 1200 laws are codified into US law. It’s still a useful tool especially without a livable …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:53 PM
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Because he could have just as easily three months in have said “we never talked about it, I’m not looking for anything serious, it’s not my fault you cut everyone else off.” So you don’t assume anything until you have defined the relationship. Like an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:47 PM
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Or (C) women are sick of being called terrible humans but you still chase us anyways. Just leave us alone if you hate us so much. Like logic follows: don’t like thing > avoid thing. I have enough men who like women in the world. We don’t need the 1% who hate women. It’s 100 women for every 105 men. Thats nearly 5% of men who could just sit it out and it wouldn’t change thing. Find something else to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:40 PM
1

You sure? They’re great.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:36 PM
1

What do you mean by absolute?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:35 PM
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You don’t have to discuss “every little thing.” But the monogamy talk is one you shouldn’t assume. Why would you? Like what indication do you have that you are monogamous without confirmation? Once you’re in a monogamous relationship- okay there are a lot of assumptions that can be made. But also - you’re an adult. Verbalize your expectations because everyone has a different idea about what monogamy even is. I can think flirting with other people is totally fine as long as you don’t do anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:22 PM
2

Why are you doing it when it’s 100 degrees outside? Wait for it to cool down in the evening… or did you never think of that? Oh, also hi - wife here who does all of those chores. I’d prefer the outdoor chores to indoor ones any day. I also don’t know any women who leave all of the outdoor chores to the husband either. They’re usually out there also doing chores like planting the garden, pulling weeds, laying mulch. On top of all of the indoor tasks that he thinks he gets to sit out of for a week…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:05 PM
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Yeah… I do those outside chores - inside chores are harder. I get to enjoy my time outside, do it when I decide it needs to be done, and it’s so infrequent that it hardy accounts for a half days worth of inside chores, even if the hours are the same. You can tell the men here are slobs because they have no idea how to deep clean and think mowing the lawn, cleaning the gutters and laying mulch is the harder task. “Dangerous outside tasks.” Lmfaooo bro - if you’re putting your life on the line wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:59 PM
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Then leave them alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:54 PM
1

Oh maybe I’m in blue haired feminist country and we uh… we don’t choose for looks first and foremost. But no… a couple are handsome but you look at them and think “that’s a fuckboy, GL GF.” And others, just… no. I’ll come back and add pictures!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 09:24 PM
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That means they just walk away from their kids? You can’t sit here and tell me that you think that all or even the majority of single moms are just alienating the other parent. There are no deadbeats, they are kept from their kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:22 PM
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Absolutely fucking not. Are you in those groups? Because I am. Because some friends are regularly in them and I’m nosey. But let me tell you the caliper of men in those groups. They ask “are we dating the same guy” and I wanna say “nah, no one else wanted that one. I think you’re safe.” It takes all types apparently. But don’t for a second think many let alone the majority of those men are handsome or desirable. Just shitty dudes doing shady shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 06:55 PM
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Why not? That means fewer people getting married out of anything other than a desire to be together. That’s a good thing. Less people being picked or choosing because they have to and the people who are chosen are chosen for being what each other wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 06:43 PM
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Using “hehe” or “teehee” to mimic and mock women is the cringiest shit I have ever seen in my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:56 PM
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Because it is a risk factor. And calling it out should incite “yes, I know this can be problematic and I, as the older person, am doing everything in my power to make sure that I am not exploiting this inherit power dynamic in my favor, thank you for your concern.” Not “nOoOoO iTs fInE aGe iS nOtHiNg BuT a NuMbEr! HoW dArE yOu aSsUmE!” Like if you can’t even see the potential for harm, you’re not remaining aware enough to minimize harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:40 PM
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Awe thank you. I’m sure most of the men here would consider me a masculine land whale - but my partner and I are very happy. He doesn’t do the toxic masculinity thing and is more than happy to let me lead where I have the experience and I let him lead when he does. If there was ever a legit 50/50 relationship, I’d say we did pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:36 PM
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Yes. Correct. The standard isn’t unreasonable because not choosing is also a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 02:53 PM
2

Yes. That’s exactly what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 02:51 PM
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I love consent because I value autonomy and no one can read my mind. But it can’t be this constant insecurity of “are you having a good time, do you like this, are you mad at me?” I personally speak up so I don’t need someone to check-in in that way. My partner has always known how to read me and knows I’m uncomfortable before I do. But he initially asked if he could kiss me, if I was okay as he unbuttoned my pants, we discussed preferences in sex and boundaries before we had sex. So I think rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 02:42 AM
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I was gunna ask the same thing. “I’m sorry officer, I know she’s 14 but she pursued me and you see, women are the selectors so I can’t be blamed for taking what I can get!” 🤢🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 05:08 AM
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Yes, holy shit, it’s not some conspiracy. It’s not like women got together to keep the now giga chads (the incels turn into when they turn 35) away from the beautiful young women they so rightly deserve. We are just trying to make it socially unacceptable to groom literal children or take advantage of naivety and inexperience. The power imbalance is the issue. I have a friend who is in a true 11 year age gap relationship. And we gave him shit initially because - he’s a bit of a Peter Pan. But ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:48 AM
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Oh dude…. No. That’s not how a vagina works… You need to stop watching gaping porn, it’s rotting your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:47 PM
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More than 1% but less than 5%. It’s really rare. And I was a huge slut. I could get anyone to open up about their sexual history and I’ve spoken to thousands of people at this point. I even did sw and sex education for a while. From my own anecdotal experience it’s closer to 2%. And that’s size queen like would enjoy a penis over 8” all the way to fisting. So not just “my man have an above average penis” but true size queen. There are more women who won’t have sex with a too large of a penis (cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:38 PM
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I have never had a man pay for everything. It’s always been split, or one off. The only time they paid for everything or I did was when one of us made significantly more than the other. When I met my now husband, he made 1/4 of what I did, lived with his parents, didn’t own a vehicle and our first date was a movie at my place and I would treat him regularly. Now we work the same job at two different companies and he makes like 15% more than I do. We are moderately well off, dink lifestyle. I do …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 11:23 PM
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That is catastrophizing. Humans are social creatures who have lots of empathy and compassion. Having some bad experiences in your teens does not a cursed humanity make. I promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 11:00 PM
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Absolutely fucking not. Oral sex, including cunnilingus, was practiced in ancient societies like Egypt and some parts of the Middle East. In ancient Egypt, it was even incorporated into religious practices and art.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 12:33 PM
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I’m chock full of useless information, so anytime!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 10:04 PM
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That’s a wild perspective. I highly recommend investing some time in other people’s experiences in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 08:16 PM
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The point of that dancing is, yeah, to sport a half chub through most of it. It’s not the type of dancing most people do, but when done right it’s a great way to gauge chemistry. Typically it’s men approaching women, not women just slamming back on some dude so that’s weird, but it’s pretty normal where I come from to dance that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:41 PM
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But in order to concern troll my intent would be to have some big gotcha or create discourse. I wasn’t doing that. I just asked if you were okay. Because it’s a wild and extreme assertion. One they isn’t made with a healthy mind or worldview. So I asked. You can doubt my intentions all you want but I haven’t once snapped back at you. You’re being rude. Especially for a group who just wants sympathy - or so I’m told.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:31 PM
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I mean, if it’s impossible then how did it happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:12 PM
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I was just trying to be nice, you don’t gotta be so mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:29 AM
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Oh damn. That’s a wild delusion bro. Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 12:15 AM
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You forgot the /s at the end of your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 10:26 PM
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Where would she have met said low status man? Girlfriend doesn’t even pick up her own McDonald’s. They have underground tunnels they travel in to get across LA. Like - they are a rich you and I will never comprehend. There was no “low status man” in her life. She could have chosen some actor, some singer, many more handsome and rich men wanted Beyoncé, I assure you. Jay z is one of the ugliest dudes in entertainment. And also - no. You’re taking the human aspect out of love. I’ve dated Chad. Jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 12:13 AM
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Beyoncé got cheated on by a troll of a man. There is no world where jay z is a top anything. She had plenty of money to choose anyone. And she chose love. And he still cheated. You can’t weight opportunity costs based on if you’ll be cheated on. You vet for compatibility and personality. I know that’s a wild concept here but I don’t think “he’s too hot to stay loyal.” That’s weird. So by going “will you take ugly man who cleans or hot man who doesn’t” those are both untenable situations in my op…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:58 PM
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And I opt out. Because there is no word where I would choose either. I don’t date chads, though I have, but I date men who i find attractive and who contribute to the household. If they don’t contribute, it’s a conversation, and if they refuse, I will move on. There is no either or. I date who I find attractive. I stay with men who contribute or I move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:44 PM
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This isn’t a game of would you rather. There is always the option to opt out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:29 PM
1

I mean I personally don’t love abusive relationships, but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:04 PM
1

It’s really not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:03 PM
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Being single is always a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:02 PM
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I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again. Being the penetrated is very different from being the penetrator. If you envision enjoying sex the way you do now as a penetrator - you have to be considering it as the person being penetrated by someone physically stronger than you. Let’s take pregnancy out of it. Even if it’s by a woman you find attractive, she is physically stronger than you in this scenario. Are you sure she’s going to make sure you’re warmed up for anal play? If it hurts, will she st…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:02 PM
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No - we choose neither. Aside from specific trad relationships - there is a reason most women here are talking about exes and not current partners. We’d rather just be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:55 PM
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We aren’t discussing someone who “keeps their room clean” though. We could be discussing a man who has brought a date home and she walks in to see how he lives. Is she happy with the level of cleanliness and willing to spend the night, or is it deplorable and she’s so grossed out she makes an excuse and leaves? Or more so we are discussing a man already in a relationship who pulls his weight in regards to cleaning and that takes down the barrier of resentment, no time, or no energy from getting …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:17 PM
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I dont know… my man was dating 3 women when we first got together and his n count was 30. Totally normal, average, every day dude. I mean he’s 5’6”, 220# and was making maybe $40k and living with his parents. That’s probably even “below average” by some metrics. When we got together we were just dating. No exclusivity talks or anything. I was also dating other men. But we fell in love. We dropped the other people because we found we were compatible. He is the most incredible human I have ever me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 04:06 PM
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Nope - same men in the thread speaking out of both sides of their mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 06:38 PM
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It’s ironic here it’s #notallmen when it’s privilege and violence but it’s #yesallmen when it’s who built the world and who struggles more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 09:48 PM
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Do you understand, show support and show compassion for all women though? You claim only women get this “unconditional love”, but I love my friends unconditionally too, and they’re men… You need to rethink your views. I’m not the one who thinks women get this super special and secret unconditional love and men are left out in the cold, always, every woman is unconditionally loved, or only women can be unconditionally loved because you love your abusive ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:39 PM
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Nope dick comes from Richard and didn’t originally mean genitalia at all. That’s recent. Nuts comes from “nuts and bolts” like having a “few screws loose.” Not nuts like your genitalia. Cocky comes from cock like rooster - preening and acting out like a rooster. Just because they might be slang for genitalia, the insult does not tie back to the genitalia. Like being called a bitch is a female dog, and is derogatory to call someone because its current iteration means to be “acting like a woman.” …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:36 PM
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Because everyone has conditions for their love. And you can’t tell me you love her the same way you’d love your wife or child? I love my friends too - and have never asked them for anything besides coming over to have a beer and play video games with me when they’re free. My love for them is still conditional. Conditions being they aren’t abusive, don’t use me, don’t steal from me, etc. those are conditions to love. No one is loved unconditionally. To believe anyone is loved unconditionally is d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:28 PM
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… you think one powerful women means that the 50s weren’t repressive towards women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 06:35 PM
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Women don’t dislike being asked to verify paternity. ONS, relationships that are fairly new, all pretty normal to ask for a paternity test. And if you aren’t married and need benefits or child support, the court will order one anyways. What women don’t like is trying for a baby with their husband and being surprised with a “hey I don’t trust the baby we just actively tried for is mine, and I need you to prove you aren’t a cheating, lying, whore. Okay?” There are very few situations a man who fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:26 PM
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I have a feeling you have no idea what the etymology of those words are and think they’re derogatory against men… Besides cuck, a real life kink that people shame because apparently kink shaming is cool in the red pill. I’ve actually never heard a woman call a man a cuck, just a bunch of red and black pill men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:08 PM
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So your conditions were she be sober, not sleep with other people, deal with her mental health struggles in a healthier way in order for you to be with her romantically? Yeah that’s normal dog, but still conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:30 AM
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If you don’t sign the birth certificate and the mother says you’re the father, the court can enforce a dna test. You are presumed the father because mom says so. If you go to the court and mom says “no he isn’t the father” congrats it’s not your kid. If you’re married, you’re assumed to be the father without signing the certificate. You can sue anyone for anything in the us whether it’s real or not. It doesn’t mean it will stick or go to court. You keep saying “but she could sue!” She could do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:31 AM
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Feminism is not aligned on sex work at all. It isn’t “feminist” or “not feminist” when you can ask two feminists and get two wildly different answers through a feminist lens. I’m pro sex work and sex worker. I understand the harm exploitation causes and hope to root it out by using ethical sex work as a starting point. I have similar views on addiction and hard drugs - I believe in getting your d.o.c. prescribed and monitored. For lots of reasons I won’t get into here. But another feminist could…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:30 AM
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Oh god no. Even going down on me is like borderline. I have to pretend there is no spit. I hate spit. I have had so many guys try to do this to me and I make them wash their hands. I have lube, or i dont know, turn me on first. I’m not in a rush and if he is (and we aren’t an established couple where this would be a normal thing to have quickie sex) then I just won’t have sex. I know everyone is different and if it works for you or even better, turns you on, I will never yuck your yum. But for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:01 AM
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Vaginal fluid doesn’t just come from arousal. It can also come from avoiding trauma to the tissue. So a woman can be fearful, victimized, or forced and still be wet. Typically being dry for intercourse with a partner comes from not being turned on enough but obviously not at avoiding physical trauma stage. This can be from being anxious, but not likely. Fear is a better word than anxiety I think. But I think mostly for women It’s typically from the oven not being warm enough yet. Women are all d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:54 AM
2

Like 95% of men get married at least once in their life. Most date just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:10 AM
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“I’ve tried nothing and I’m all out of ideas!” This is why I can’t take sexless men seriously. They think there is some magic trick or get rich quick scheme to dating or they crash out. Like… yeah working on yourself takes time. Go figure. The time is going to pass anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:02 AM
1

I live in the us. That’s my point of reference. Whether other countries do or do not have a rape culture (I’m sure some do and some don’t) is entirely off topic. Your assertion that “it’s everywhere, so that means it doesn’t exist!” Is a stupid take and I won’t dignify it with a rebuttal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 08:11 PM
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When we still tell little boys they’re lucky when their teacher assaults them, when 1/5 women have been a victim of an assault or attempted assault, when women are bullied out of jobs for sexual harassment, when rapes jokes are still acceptable, we live in a rape culture. The flipside of your argument, just because a few notable people were held accountable doesn’t mean a majority are. A tiny minority ever even sees jail time. Even convicted you can get time served. We treat rape like theft more…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:47 PM
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Bro, a rape conviction doesn’t ruin the perpetrators life, accusations aren’t doing diddly. There are like 4 relatively well known cases where someone who jailed on an accusation and exonerated and I have all the empathy in the world for those men. But to act like an accusation is anything more than a mild inconvenience is really overstating the harm here. “Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women's bodies, and the glamorization of sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 05:40 PM
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The red pill is little more than generalizing “all women” by the experiences and actions of the most attractive and slutty women, and generalized “all men” as the ugliest and shittiest men. It’s all half truths for a very specific type of woman and a very specific type of man in order to justify hating women and shirking responsibility for men. Nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:05 PM
1

Challenging societal norms and stereotypes, advocating for legal and policy change, promoting equal access to education, medical care and job opportunities, and addressing them with an intersectional lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:11 AM
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I dont know where you got 80% from, thats not true. Thats from the “80/20 rule” which isn’t real life in the slightest. It’s just what women said percent of men who were “above average.” Not “who would I date.” And maybe women see 80% of dudes but it’s not all the same dudes for each woman. Like tinder has an algorithm that places you in leagues and shows you to others within those leagues. You aren’t just hidden. Apps suck because almost no women are on them. You screaming into a sausage and bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 08:50 PM
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I mean you keep commenting, so I don’t think you can. But I wish you the day you deserve!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:47 PM
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You commented at me first, lol. It’s an anonymous forum why would I care how weird I look? Calm down. You’re very emotional right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:46 PM
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lol then why did you comment coming at me when my comment was a response to theirs? Someone is very very angry. Maybe you should stop being so histerical and calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:45 PM
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Server can’t be found.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 06:22 PM
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I’m sorry, my migraines are sensitive to smells, if they vape I don’t have to smell it. Or it even smells nice. Why is that an lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 06:20 PM
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Feminism is a socio-political movement and ideology that advocates for the equality of the sexes, believing that women face unequal treatment in society due to their gender. It aims to address and dismantle systemic inequalities and discrimination against women, ensuring all genders have equal rights, opportunities, and treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 06:16 PM
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I think you’re a liar trying to prove a point and get emotional when you get called out for it. And this advice: The main reason I "love" mainstream, blue-pilled advice is because it's circular. Just clean yourself up, deal with your mental issues, become more stable, and well if that doesn't work then, uh... you aren't entitled to anything! People don't have to get together with you. People can sense the bitterness bro, stop complaining like this and get to work! Then you try the original advic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 05:53 PM
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I disagree. I think height has very little bearing on how attractive a man is. I don’t look at men and think “wow he’s so handsome, it’s a shame he’s 5’7” like that’s just ridiculous to me. I know some women feel that way. But I don’t know anyone personally who does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 05:50 PM
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I have never seen a woman tell a man to kill himself because he’s short. You’re making shit up. And short men get dates. Lots of them actually. I married a man 2” shorter than me. So what is the correlation of “I’m a victim of being called names” and “you’re the only person in control of how dateable you are?” Also - are the things you listed bad advice? Will women stop liking someone they’re into because they start doing them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:40 AM
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I have never seen a woman tell a man to kill himself because he’s short. You’re making shit up. And short men get dates. Lots of them actually. I married a man 2” shorter than me. So what is the correlation of “I’m a victim of being called names” and “you’re the only person in control of how dateable you are?” Also - are the things you listed bad advice? Will women stop liking someone they’re into because they start doing them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:39 AM
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You commented on my comment. If you can’t handle nuance, that’s a you issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:19 PM
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And I’m arguing that the women who encourage men to open up aren’t the ones who get the ick. I’m sure there are some, but we aren’t discussing outliers. As a whole I think women who would tell a man to “man up” or breaking up with them for being vulnerable aren’t exactly putting on airs about how he is safe to be vulnerable. Even the comment sections of “when did a woman prove you shouldn’t be vulnerable” it’s always comments of men who don’t even know if that’s the reason she broke up with him,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:17 PM
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Why did you think trauma dumping was bad? You think it isn’t a toxic thing? It’s okay to trauma dump on people? No matter who they are, what headspace they’re in, just feel free? Entitlement. That’s what we call that. If you have built trust, it’s trauma dumping if you are doing it without any respect for their boundaries. If they have encouraged you to open up, and especially in that moment (and not just when you’re trying to avoid accountability) then she would be in the wrong. But youre deman…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:32 PM
1

But you’re not selfish for wanting to pass on your sub 5 genes?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:20 PM
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So you’ll have a solid 5 baby and hurt your wife. Good job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:34 PM
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Bald has always been neutral for handsome for the century men. Wigs were a big thing. Vin diesel doesn’t want for women. Short - men under 5’7” were 37% less likely to divorce. Jaw - The Gilded Age (Late 1800s - Early 1900s): Wealth and status, often signified by an ample figure (including a wide waist and stomach), were preferred over physical strength and defined features.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:34 PM
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Actually yes - there have been times in history those were desirable in some fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:30 PM
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You can’t influence genes to that extent when half are your own. Iq is debatable. You can be a himbo who’s dumber than a box of rocks and some women love that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:29 PM
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You might end up with a 1 or a 10, you have very little choice in the matter. And if it means that much to you - you wouldn’t have kids. A 4 and a 10 aren’t getting together let alone having a baby. They’d just look like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:25 PM
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Sure - for what we currently find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:10 PM
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Gene redistribution. There are signifiers of health, but that only does so much in the modern age. It’s why two ugly people can still fall in love, have a baby and the baby comes out pretty. Sexually desirable traits change by the decade. In Victorian times it was a huge forehead. Thirty years ago it was heroin chic. Like, what humans find pretty isn’t static nor set in stone. You can think you’re setting up your big burly masculine male child for success, and then in ten years femme boys are al…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:10 PM
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If you’re an incel you won’t have kids. And I’d bet my life savings you aren’t that ugly, and that you have no idea what your kid would look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:04 PM
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Those two data points do not correlate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:04 PM
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No they don’t. They just have the wrong combination. And their gene expression in another person with one tweak could create something entirely different. Genes don’t work the way you think they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:03 PM
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I’m saying that since your odds are truly only slightly increased, if at all, for how your child turns out, why would you focus so hard on the genetics of your partner instead of just having a baby with the person you love? I want to see a little my husband walking around. He’s 5’5”, overweight and absolutely handsome, strong and so ambitious. I’d never choose anyone else’s sperm over his. Because it isn’t about a designer baby. It’s about him. I don’t even want kids until I met him. The world n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:00 PM
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Traits are genes expressed. Right. But again, that random generator decides if that gene is on or off or expressed at all. Your article says IQ is 57-80% heritable. A crap shoot even in identical twins. But again, you can get the 20-43% of genes that do not pass on their good iq. Height is 80%+ heritable but height is not solely determined by parents, the height of parents can be a good indicator of a child's potential height. Nutrition, access to healthcare, and overall environmental conditions…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:48 PM
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What exactly are you a victim of? And is any of that bad advice? Will any of it deter a woman who is already into you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:34 PM
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It’s as close to random as we have in a list of choices. The human genome has 19,000- 24,000 genes. Each pair of parents can have 8,388,608 genetically different children, which is a lot less combination than some lotteries. Add to that, Genetic mutations aren’t rare at all actually. 1/5 pregnancies don’t come to fruition because of them. Just because it isn’t Down’s syndrome, cystic fibrosis, sickle cell disease, Huntington's disease, or Turner syndrome, doesn’t mean every human doesn’t have ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:29 PM
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Heritable but not guaranteed. Again - random generator. Things may not line up. Especially since recessive genes, codominant, random mutations, environmental factors and her egg being formed in her grandmothers womb being affected by grandmothers decisions, her mothers decisions and her own decisions exist. Genetics are no more straightforward than a random character generator.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:19 PM
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The prettiest kids I know came from to fugliest parents. The ones from pretty parents are a crap shoot. Genetics don’t really work like pretty mom, pretty dad, pretty baby. It’s more like random face generator from a preset list from both parents, but the combinations might not look nice together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:12 PM
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• ⁠they say it because it’s true. • ⁠no. You don’t get to be toxic just because you “don’t have another outlet.” Find friends or pay a therapist. Or actually built trust with someone. It’s not women’s job to help strange men. What a weird entitlement. “But I have no money and you have so much money, don’t you think you should just give me your money since I don’t have any? No, not a charity, you specifically. You personally with the money, give it to me. I have no other way to get it!” • ⁠I agre…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:37 PM
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No im just not doing free labor for some dude who isn’t actually interested in learning. I gave you my answers, you’re now outside of the scope of the debate. Youre dying to find bad intent where there is none. Maybe because it’s what you would like to do given enough power over someone. That’s sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:32 PM
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No no - not just don’t support it - use it as a catch all for women who don’t want them, disagree with them or criticize them as if it’s some sort of insult. I think pretty succinctly capture why men here use “fEmInIsT” as their insult insult in opposition to everything. They use it to mean women, to society, to popular narrative all the way to anything they disagree with or don’t understand. It’s telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:20 AM
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It doesn’t. They flag freely. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:17 AM
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If you want to dig into feminist theory, there are books you can read. I gave you spark notes. Nuance comes with education. I recommend bell hooks “feminism is for everybody.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:17 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:11 AM
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Creators can flag accounts as underage, and do regularly. I haven’t ever heard of these poor boys, but if you have proof, I’d be happy to see it. If you think feminists want to hurt men, you misunderstand much more than just feminism. Have the day you deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:09 AM
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Why would I find that empowering? Why are there minors on of? Whose money are they using? Do you have proof of this widespread problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:03 AM
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That’s sort of the point. Feminism is about everyone having the freedom to do what they feel is best, right? So if it’s empowering for a porn start to work for an agency with male superiors, great. If they don’t and prefer solo work, great. If they are being exploited and need help, I’m here. If they want to not do sex work, great. It’s not for me to dictate or decide. It’s for me to support.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:59 AM
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I strongly disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:55 AM
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Is working for a boss exploitation? Is there any ethical consumption under capitalism?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:49 AM
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The contradiction that non feminists still enjoy pop music? Inconsistent for who? Nope. It’s weird to trauma dump no matter your gender. Men just do it more often because they have fewer outlets. Sure - but that doesn’t negate what I said. I support the women who find their sexualization empowering. It’s not my place to tell others what they personally find empowering. That’s the point. I didn’t call it misogyny. And also, nothing you’ve said is contradictory. I’ve just explained the nuance to y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:48 AM
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I’m asking you to tell me what hypocritical about my opinion. Or are you just using buzz words because you’re self harming via internet?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:44 AM
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To be clear, feminists heavily criticized Katy Perry for her music video. The women who want emotions (me) aren’t the women who get the ick from them. There is a huge difference between expressing emotions with someone you have built trust with, and are in the headspace to sit with you in the hurt; and trauma dumping someone who doesn’t want to hear it, doesn’t have the capacity to hear it or doesn’t know you well enough/the trust hasn’t been built up enough for that level of vulnerability; and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:35 AM
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But I don’t think that. And I would like you to tell me what is hypocritical about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 08:03 PM
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What hypocrisy exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 07:57 PM
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Marriage is about protecting the child through marital assets, things you can’t get without being married, like death benefits. It isn’t about abandonment, it’s about your death or disability first and foremost, plus making decisions in the event your pregnant wife becomes incapacitated during a significant life altering medical event. Do you want to make the decisions for her or her dad who hasn’t spoken to her in 3 years and doesn’t know her wishes? Or her mom who is actively going against her…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 06:26 PM
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Yeah it is… you know it’s well understood, right? “At 45, the human brain still possesses a significant amount of plasticity, meaning it can adapt and change its structure and function in response to experience and learning. While neuroplasticity might be less pronounced than in youth, it remains a crucial factor in lifelong learning and adaptation.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:33 PM
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I think it’s easier to influenced by others when you’re little, but as an adult, you get to do it. It isn’t forced on you so it seems harder but it isn’t. Not until you’re like 60, and even then change can still happen. Saying it’s easier is very different from “you can’t change after 20.” Of course you can. Addicts leave drugs behind, cheaters get married and never cheat again, angry and violent people go to programs and learn to keep their temper in check. I’m sure you can learn how to fake be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:19 PM
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Sure, I have not wanted to sleep with men because they’re a loser. But not wanting to sleep with them doesn’t mean I think they’re a loser. Some losers = sexually unappealing /= sexually unappealing = loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:07 PM
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No. It just means I don’t want to sleep with them. They might be perfect for everyone else on the planet, but not for me. That doesn’t mean I think they’re a loser. wtf? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:06 PM
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It wasn’t for my husband. He had an above average sexual history when we met. There is preference and there is won’t ever date and sure I’m sure lots of women have the preference of a 6’7” behemoth. But that’s not reality. In reality we fall in love with people, not their height.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:05 PM
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Ooh I actually disagree segregating by gender for adolescent health. Children become adults. They both need to know where babies come from, what consent it, how a period works, where sperm forms, and all the rest. I can’t imagine a single reason to segregate other than “the parents said so” and some weird religion thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:20 PM
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Not wanting to sleep with someone doesn’t mean I think they’re a loser. What a weird way to see the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:40 PM
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They’re both losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:39 PM
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You’re not short. That’s my husbands height. I’m taller than him. Your height is holding you back from some women, sure. But it’s far from all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:39 PM
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That’s not even a little bit true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:35 PM
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I mean, my friends in their 30s who are still single are having a blast. But most met the woman they’re going to marry, have kids with, bought a house with, whatever, recently. All of them met their spouses at 29+ minimum. Many much later. The first round of divorces was in our mid 20s. I’m sure a second round is coming but marriages have a better chance of lasting the later you get married for the first time. The only man who is struggling is the one who thinks he’s more attractive than he is, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 11:53 PM
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Actually feminists are regularly discussing positive masculinity or healthy masculinity. We actually regularly encourage it. We use qualifiers for a reason. Contrapoints made a video years ago about men’s need for positive masculine role models. But in her words, we can’t mom you out of this one. Men have to be the ones to create the movement of what positive masculinity is and what being a man means to them. I can tell you the traits that hurt you and the world around you, they’re toxic. But I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:29 AM
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I was 175 at 5’7” and ridiculed relentlessly and called fat quite often through high school and college. I have an “hour glass” shape and had dates show up, who saw full body pictures, and call me names and walk off. Yeah, a good 50% of men think “real women” are hyper thin and will make sure you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:04 AM
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⁠Would you date a woman who is a different race from your own? - yes and have 2. ⁠Would you date a woman who is a different religion from your own? - no, agnostic or atheist only 3. ⁠Would you date a woman who smokes? - vape only 4. ⁠Would you date a woman who goes to church every Sunday? - no 5. ⁠Would you date a woman who is asexual? - no 6. ⁠Would you date a woman who lives 1000 miles away from you? - no 7. ⁠Would you date a woman who is an alcoholic? - no 8. ⁠Would you date a woman who does …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:00 AM
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No - Marijuana No - Christain No - no exercise No - anti gay marriage No - abortion Depends on the porn and our sex life - porn No - 1000 miles No - gang Maybe, depends on if it’s performative or legitimate - feminist Yes, I married him (I’m 5’7”) - 5’5” No - police Yes - no mj Yes - quiet No - drunk No - never kissed Yes - 20+ n count Maybe, depending on his hygiene and how messy he is - messy room Yes - farmer No - 5 years younger No - prison Yes, I am. - autistic No - sex offender I dont know…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:12 PM
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You new to math?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:07 PM
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1/5 women are raped or have been a victim of attempted rape. Most of us have met a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:01 PM
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… a rapper? Is he going to spit some sick beats on this pussy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:58 PM
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You just wrote .1% with a lot of zeros in the ones place…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:55 PM
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Yeah, I can tell you’re swimming in it, Joshy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:53 PM
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Do you think “vet” means “by others?”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:46 PM
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You are masculine. And you do not do the toxic masculinity activity of picking fights. Good. You can be masculine and not engage in toxic masculinity. That’s the point. Again - don’t feign ignorance like you don’t know damn well that fighting is seen as a masculine traits. That’s why toxic masculinity is a different thing from masculinity. Like the difference between eating and having an eating disorder. You have to eat either way. But one is healthy and the other is toxic. They’re both eating. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:35 PM
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Because it’s a trait stereotypically associated with masculinity. Fighting physically is seen as a masculine trait and can still be represented in “masculine sports” like boxing and mma, “men punch each other and squash it while women hold grudges” and viewing women who fist fight as masculine. On top of that, men are typically using getting into physical altercations to represent and demonstrate their masculinity. Men who feel insecure will pick fights with other men to assert dominance. My tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:23 PM
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This is a misunderstanding of what toxic masculinity is. Not all masculinity is toxic. It isn’t just men who engage in toxic masculinity or upholding it, and not all men engage in toxic masculinity all of the time. You can be masculine without toxic masculinity. Example: you can uphold strong boundaries (masculine) without constantly trying to pick fights with people (toxic.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:12 PM
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Red pill - understanding dating dynamics that may be innate or socialized, but either way, leveraging them to your benefit. Feminist - equality of choice for all genders. Where is the mismatch?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:05 PM
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My husband calls me low maintenance bougie. I like nice things. The items I buy are purposeful, long lasting, high quality items I will use for a lifetime, or as long as possible. I don’t do fast fashion. So when I buy a purse, I don’t get 10 $15 purses from Walmart that will last me 3 months each - $150 for 30 months of use; I purchase one $600 leather mid tier luxury handbag that doubles as my briefcase at work, that is timeless and will last the next 30 years. My engagement ring was expensive…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:09 PM
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I don’t know any SAHM with a maid lmfao. Just a lot of people living paycheck to paycheck because daycare is more expensive than what mom makes at a job. And where in the world does this sub think all men are doing “back breaking labor?” “The Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 39.1% of the civilian workforce in the United States performs physically demanding jobs that require lifting, carrying, pushing/pulling, kneeling, stooping, crawling, and climbing activities in varied environmental c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:42 PM
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Maybe when women had/have Nannie’s, house cleaners, chauffeurs, cooks and groceries delivered. Women who exist in a trad relationship absolutely do not have time to “chill with other neighbors wives and talk shit.” Like i dont know what 1950s housewife stereotypes you’re thinking of but i know SAHM, they don’t have time to take a shit alone much less gossip with the neighbors.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:20 PM
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Yes - huge difference between being the penetrator versus being the penetrated. If men are so jealous of women, they could easily find men to be a bottom to. Close your eyes and just let it happen, it’s what they expect women to do with men they aren’t attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:06 PM
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I promise if women were leeches, we could breadcrumb some simp to offer me all of the material resources I could ever want while fucking Chad. Simps have low standards and are desperate to please. But most women don’t do that because they actually care for their partners, the people they choose to spend every day with. If that’s not your experience, choose better or go your own way. Having this mindset about women leads me to believe you’re the type of guy who complains about loneliness and how …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:41 PM
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It’s so funny that at least 50% of women here tell you that they are happy with paying for their own meal or offered regularly for the man and you tell us we are special snowflake unicorns or just straight up lying. But when 50% of women tell you the reason why they expect a man to pay for the first date, even if it has nothing to do with resource acquisition, you take it as gospel and a validation for your own bias against women. If you think women only want you for your sweet $60k a year, don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 01:14 PM
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Good. I want them to leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 10:08 PM
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I don’t put on makeup when I go to the store for men, I do it because I want to feel pretty. I don’t put on makeup at 9pm on a Tuesday just to wash it off and go to bed for men. That’s a hobby I have. It’s fun to change my face a bit. Plus no woman is wearing “all that makeup” for men. Most men say they hate it. If we wore makeup for men, it would be the minimal fresh face makeup guys say is “no makeup.” It’s still a lot of makeup, just catered to men. When I wear sweats and a t shirt, I’m not d…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:29 PM
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Well then I hope the tips are plentiful!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:43 PM
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And I protest for men. But it’s a lot easier to protest when you have the primarily affected group spearheading the movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:38 PM
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Heck yeah man, I appreciate it. Have fun at the party!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:37 PM
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The jezebel one - she’s paraphrasing what the guy was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:37 PM
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I disagree. The comparison weakens the argument. most people only know of the most extreme versions of FGM. That is their frame of reference. So you can’t compare when that’s the comparison you’re making. You have to frame it properly. Also I’m sorry you get looks and comments. I would chalk that up to the uncomfortable and taboo factor but I know some people just suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:37 PM
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And? Men say they want their sons to look like them so that their future girlfriends don’t think it looks weird. Yes - we know there is opposition. What does that have to do with anything? I never said no woman circumcised their kid. I only argue that the majority defer to their male family member. Which is true. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3576965/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:35 PM
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Again, because men have the majority of penises and need to spearhead it. Do you think men on average are apt to listen to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:31 PM
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You realize she is summarizing his argument right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:28 PM
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When it’s something that women genuinely have worse specifically because of systemic oppression where men are placed above women - yeah, makes sense. Do you really not see the difference between a middle class man crying he isn’t a millionaire and a poor person complaining they can’t eat this week? It diminishes the complaint when comparing it to the oppressed class. And you can argue who is the oppressed class all you want, but we know the axis of oppression that exist. This isn’t an opinion, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:02 PM
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It’s sort of like me asking you to forefront pain management with IUDs because men are more likely to get pain management for their medical procedures. Like I can back you up. 100%, and I do. As do many feminists. But it needs to be men doing this one. Because men dismiss feminists out of hand - if feminists take up arms for something, certain groups will actually take the opposite stance despite their own morals. So, case by case, many feminists do. Most protests I’ve been to have been 50% wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:55 PM
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Again - my argument here is that you need to get men on board. Agree or disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:28 PM
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And they were the feminists stopping you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:23 PM
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Yes they are. Do you think that’s the feminists fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:14 PM
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Can you show me these feminist groups calling you a misogynist?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:14 PM
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We do. I have already pointed out that we do. It’s not the top of the list when we are discussing what’s happening in the country right now, but to believe there aren’t any feminists out here with boots on the ground, you’d be sadly mistaken and it is your own bias keeping you from seeing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:14 PM
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No. That’s not even a little bit true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:10 PM
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Great - you need to get men on board. Most women defer to their male partners and family members. Most women’s opinion is “I don’t have a penis so I don’t know.” You need to get men who want to keep it legal on your side. Stop fighting with women. Women will even vote the way their husband does just to align with him. Men aren’t swayed by women. Men hold more structural power - otherwise this wouldn’t be a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:09 PM
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Why not blame the men who want to keep it legal?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:06 PM
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Sure - but in order for the movement to succeed, men have to spearhead. And they aren’t. They want to keep it. I will not circumcise my son. And I regularly advocate for it to be illegal. But I can’t force men to not circumcise when it isn’t illegal. There is only so much women can do to sway men. You know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:06 PM
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It’s 100% the person who raped fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:04 PM
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Then start a community who calls with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:04 PM
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They did. Men fought against it. As they do today. And yes, women’s claims are denied more often than men’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:04 PM
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“A lot” is doing a lot of heavy lifting here, huh…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:02 PM
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Buddy - you aren’t saying anything I haven’t personally to said to others. I agree with you. My argument isn’t that it should exist. My argument is that you have to get other men on board, women defer to their male partners and family members. Also they didn’t include boys because men fought against it. Equality doesn’t work if the person you’re fighting for fights against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:58 PM
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And have you called your local and state politicians?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:56 PM
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Because most women have this “I was a child” story. Like, when will you realize that men have been dangerous to women, and us being wary isn’t some misandrist creed - yall are dangerous. And then claim we are complicit in our own abuse as if the “1%” we were responsible for isn’t that we learned that men can do bad shit. We took responsibility. We learn and do better. And then men find some new sneaky way to trick and coerce. Any time a woman says “hey your take is bad because there are so many …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:40 PM
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Hey, feminist here. MGM is wrong. What have you done to outlaw it? Because I personally have done several things, as have a lot of feminists. But we get pushback from men who want it done to their babies. Maybe look at your own group before claiming “no feminist has ever said that it should be outlawed!” We don’t have have dicks. It would be like women expecting men to be the driving force behind pain management for IUD insertion. Are you starting a political movement for me? Are you going to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:32 PM
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I agree they’re both disgusting. But if you want MGM to be outlawed, that’s on men. Women collectively decided we didn’t want it. So we advocated against it. You know who the largest demographic pushing for their babies to “look like them?” It isn’t women. They defer to their husbands. This is a man’s issue women can get behind, I’ve signed petitions, called my politicians, talked with family and passed out pamphlets at the local hospital - what have you done? Driving is a privilege, not a right…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:28 PM
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That has not been my experience but maybe I am not the target demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:01 AM
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I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:00 AM
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Where does protective paternalism or traditional masculine archetypes make someone not a good guy in the moral sense? Someone having jjjjuuuuussssstttt enough in my interpretation would mean on a scale of 1-10 they max out at a 2. Protective enough to be worried about your wellbeing but not so protective he’s jealous and controlling. Masculine enough to fix things, change a tire and hold strong boundaries but not so masculine he’s toxic; trying to fight people, repress his emotions, control, wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 08:41 PM
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I promise I’m no special unicorn. Normal women love normal men. We all have different preferences and expectations in a relationship. I truly believe most people think it’s worse than it is. I don’t know any of these insta baddie tik tok women and I have a huge social circle of men and women, all partnered (except for one man with ridiculous expectations but hell if I don’t support his right to have them.) and none of them are anything like men here complain about. To be fair I’m in a more liber…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:44 PM
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I didn’t feel any way about it honestly. He was self sufficient and that’s all I cared about. I grew up poor so I don’t need much, and typically am very frugal or can get by with much less than typical I guess. My big splurge has been my engagement ring - that was saved up for together, and good food that I cook. I like high quality ingredients and lots of fresh fruits and veggies. I don’t need a vacation to Hawaii once a year, we go to a local state park for $300 and I have no problem paying it…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:17 PM
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Absolutely agree with this. I’m looking for a partner. Not a dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:28 PM
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When I started dating my husband he lived with his parents. His mom is amazing and I’m so lucky she is my MIL, I’d move her in tomorrow if she asked. So we had a lot of freedom. Physical activities weren’t a problem. Also I had my own place (my own car, he didn’t, and I made 4x what he did) so it didn’t bother me because I always had an alternative. He was saving up to buy a house and I respected that. If he had an overbearing parent or he couldn’t make it to my house I may have felt differently…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:24 PM
3

I need you to tell me what you think your number is. 1-10
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:32 PM
2

I couldn’t imagine why you would be lonely! You mean you aren’t beating women off with a stick with viewpoints like this? Color me surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:23 PM
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Why is infrastructure your metric?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:34 PM
1

Most of the time, female friends come to you with their emotional problems. And it’s not just venting, they expect you to listen, understand, and often fix things for them emotionally. You end up playing the role of a therapist, not a true equal in the friendship. Can you give me a few examples of what exactly men are supposed to fix for women emotionally? What was the expectation here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:24 PM
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No… no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:39 AM
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I’m a woman who has been on 4 dates in my entire life. Why do men think only they have it hard? Because I can get someone to penetrate me? So can you. Is that really what you’re looking for? No. Stop thinking “beautiful women” = “all women” and rp men would be all set.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:57 AM
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Right because they switched from other methods to iud as it became more accessible. More people are on birth control, yes. But again - they are tools. If women wanted children, they wouldn’t use the tools to prevent pregnancy, now would they?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:52 AM
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IUDs have been around since the 69s. Plan b since 1999. I agree access to birth control allows women more control over their body. But they aren’t the reason the birth rate is falling. Neither is abortion or back alley abortions. lol It’s the underlying reason why women are using these things to put off or forgo motherhood altogether. They’re just tools. If you want the reasons behind the declining birth rate, you should probably ask people who “should” be in a position to have children but don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:43 AM
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Has it made you more successful in dating though? Or has it made you angry at a caricature of women that doesn’t exist in most women, further driving a wedge between you and the women you so desperately wish to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:38 AM
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Plan b and iuds have nothing to do with abortion. There is no fertilized egg, it is not abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:32 AM
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The clarity and consistency: I have experienced this behavior with x gender. It makes me wary of them. I know not all of them do that, but it was enough for me to keep my guard up. X gender is not a monolith and I cannot ascribe y trait to every person in x gender. I will not say people without y trait are rare and special unicorns. I will not say people without y trait are awful terrible people who deserve their rights taken away. I will adjust my own behavior accordingly based on my personal e…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:28 AM
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💯percent correct
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:31 PM
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I have 24 nieces and nephews (I’m the youngest of 10) and every single young man above 13 is in a relationship. There are only 2 girls and one is still too young and the other is focused on school, sports and work. She’s beautiful and could have anyone she wanted, but she’s choosing to be single until she finishes college at 22. The boys range from unfortunate to basketball Chad in newly adult form. Not one struggles to find a girlfriend. To be fair none are 1-2 butt ugly, and all have wonderful…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:27 PM
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You do not get to claim the valor without claiming the rape and the murder. Pick one. Is it #yesallmen or #notallmen because you don’t get both. Also I said men and women cannot survive without each other. That’s a given. I mean specifically the world still turns without this particular valor stealing misogynistic soggy sandwich of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 06:55 PM
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lol what question? Also maybe it’s time to log off if my lived experience of men being treated better and telling you about it makes me a misandrist. Could you write a single statement that was misandrist from my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 04:02 AM
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This stolen valor shit is for the birds. “Men” may have done things, but you have not. And often things created, done and accomplished were by women with a man slapping his name on it simply because he could. Let’s not get it twisted, “men” aren’t doing anything without women. And vice versa. You don’t do shit without women. But women could certainly get by without you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 03:51 AM
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Is this some sort of gotcha about women who date men who aren’t there typical type but end up marrying a man they love and are attracted to because they got to know him and fell in love with him, and falling in love with someone increases how attracted you are to them? Is it also a one for one when women end up putting in all the same effort they have with any other dude but won’t submit to duty sex they don’t want to have because their libido isn’t as high as the man their withs? Because very f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 03:22 AM
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How does being a filthy slut prevent someone from being an equal partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 09:21 PM
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Exactly. When they say “all women” they very specifically mean “thin, white or maybe light skinned, conventionally attractive based on white western beauty standards, under 5’6”, under 135#, clear skin, and able bodied” and they miss the “and also acts like the caricature of women I made up in my head.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 05:35 PM
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The desire isn’t gone, just the desire for the man I had to mommy. I still wanted sex plenty. He just grossed me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:58 PM
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Wow, what a cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:54 PM
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I’m sorry - what are women jealous of exactly? The men women didn’t want anyways living his life without bothering me? Why would that make me jealous? I purposely don’t do things I enjoy because undesirable men will bother me incessantly. It isn’t an ego boost. It doesn’t feel good. No woman wants it. If he doesn’t hit points 1, 2 or 3 - he is free to jerk it to his AI GF all day long. Literally not a single woman in the world cares. It’s AI. No one is being exploited or harmed. No one wanted yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:48 PM
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Age gaps are nuanced. “Anything over 5 years” is a shit a reductionist take. Sure 18 and 23 I might side eye. He might already have a large power dynamic against her. But 5 years generally isn’t bad at all. The old half your age plus 7 was a good rule of thumb. But honestly any woman over 25 has had enough experience to make her own decisions. People can be worried for her, I wouldn’t ever bad mouth someone telling her to be careful with men too much older, not would I someone telling you to wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:36 PM
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That’s a kink thing. Using the term “breed” is not how any normal person would speak. That is specific speak within kink communities. Do not for a moment believe that is normal for women, for single women, for well paid single women, or for anyone other than the very tiny .001% minority of women who engage in that specific type of kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 10:01 PM
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Ooh sorry but the gaming is something that men typically hide from potential partners and then once comfortable in a relationship end up spending 8-10 hours a day playing, entirely neglecting the relationship. If he was honest in the first place, she probably just wouldn’t have dated him. And I’ve never met a woman who wanted their partner to stop using musical instruments or cars? Maybe not spending their shared money, or spending so much she has to constantly float him the money to pay his bil…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:16 PM
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He didn’t. Girls paid for his drugs. I know you won’t believe me but it doesn’t make it any less true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:13 PM
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You think the “I can fix him” trope is about getting him to quit his hobbies?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:47 PM
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You’re wrong with most of your statement. But it’s not like you’ll listen anyway. You keep telling me what I do, after I’ve already told you what I do… so instead of being called a liar and arguing with someone who won’t debate in good faith, I’d rather go eat glass. Have the day you deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:44 PM
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I know a too skinny white boy who is 5’4”, ugly mug, has no job, no car, no house, has lots of women friends and has an n count in the thousands. He eventually settled down with one woman though. And that’s real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 12:14 AM
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That’s really shitty of them to do to you. I can’t imagine why anyone would be so rude. But also - the way you wrote it makes me feel like maybe it’s a type of woman I am not and don’t regularly associate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 12:08 AM
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Opposite in what ways? Genuine curiosity and not goading you into an argument. I’m the opposite, I much prefer a man like me but I’d say most red pill men would consider me very masculine. But I like that about me and like that same balance of masculine and feminine in my partners - if not on the more feminine side in certain areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 12:05 AM
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… or maybe you just hate women? If no matter what you do, no matter who you befriend if hang out with, your only option is to hate women because they don’t want to fuck you, maybe, just maybe, you just hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:45 PM
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I don’t find many women here okay with strip clubs. It’s just your comparison brought out the women who are okay with it. And no - there is no expectation. We were dating. He was supposed to show me how he naturally existed in a relationship. He was free to do or not do whatever he wanted. He’s a grown man who can make his own decisions. The point of dating is to see if how he exists in a relationship is compatible with how I exist in a relationship. That’s vetting for compatibility. Not begging…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:49 PM
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Well that’s where you’d be wrong. I love strip clubs. I’m pro sex work. I’m very okay with my man going to strip clubs and getting dances. I love watching him flirt and enjoy himself. But I don’t tolerate lying or cheating. So for me, outside of abuse and an incurable STI, I don’t have many reasons not to date a man based on his past. I vet the man in front of me. But I take his patterns and actions while initially dating into consideration to vet. As men should. If I don’t like that he goes out…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:04 PM
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It’s not the same thing. Having a standard or boundary is for what you do. “I do not date women who go to clubs as a hobby because I think they’re always trying to cheat on me.” That’s a boundary - an insecure one, but a boundary just the same. “My girlfriend isn’t allowed to go clubbing because she might cheat on me” after you’ve already been dating and you try to fight her to stop her from going is controlling and insecure. Just like a woman saying “I don’t date men who go to strip clubs becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:04 PM
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No no - it was already clarified for you. We don’t date people who do the things we don’t agree with. We don’t start dating them knowing this is something they enjoy and then try to change them. It’s okay if that person isn’t for you. But when you start dating someone who has those hobbies and then fight, coerce, or manipulate into changing, that’s when it’s an insecurity or manipulation issue. See the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:00 PM
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No no - it was already clarified for you. We don’t date people who do the things we don’t agree with. We don’t start dating them knowing this is something they enjoy and then try to change them. It’s okay if that person isn’t for you. But when you start dating someone who has those hobbies and then fight, coerce, or manipulate into changing, that’s when it’s an insecurity or manipulation issue. See the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:00 PM
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Do you find dancing with your friends is the same as getting your dick grinded on by a woman whom you paid money to turn you on?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:50 PM
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He is free to do that all he wants. The boundary is that I am no longer dating him. I don’t try to argue and change him. I don’t try to coerce him into stopping. He stops because he agrees to the boundary or he doesn’t. If he doesn’t, I leave. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:47 PM
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I feel terrible because I love him so much. He’s an amazing man, a wonderful father, an amazing husband, like really turned his entire life around and he has such a specific medical issue that I’m sure if he ever saw this he would be hurt. But This is him. again - great dude, and the funniest, nicest, coolest dude you ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:40 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:23 PM
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I grew up in liberal ass northern NY. We are closer to Canadians than Americans and yes. From the time I was 7 and first told to “suck my tummy in because boys don’t like chubby girls” to the women cooking in the kitchen during Thanksgiving while the men watch football, even though I really enjoy football and would love to be watching it, to who minds the loose children, the older girls will always be yelled at for not watching for the kids, to makeup and diet tips to make men appreciate your bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:19 PM
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My preference is women having actual o’s. So mostly solo stuff. I try to find ethically made, and stuff that pays the model directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:33 PM
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Amen feetgrass!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:19 PM
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How many men in real life, either friends or family, (who are celibate) do you believe think this way? Enough that there is this handy dandy list online.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:41 AM
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You think all women get everything they wish for? All of them? Not one woman would be turned down or left involuntarily celibate?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:33 AM
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Nope - NY, but it’s so common is laughable that any man here can argue that men “love more” or whatever. More like “use women as the help that can’t leave” more or “why would they divorce the person who does 90% of the labor in the household if not more?” More. Short of no sex ever and cheating - men don’t file - unless they have someone else lined up. They need the maid, cook, fuck toy, child minder, chauffeur, personal assistant and household manager too much!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:43 AM
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Nope, even without that stuff I do find women more beautiful on average. I’m a woman, I see women without those things because I spend the night with women, I’m in women’s spaces where they don’t need to wear those things, etc. I think women smell nicer, they’re soft and pretty and all boobs are good boobs. There is no matching thing in a man. Also men can do lots to improve their looks. Makeup comes off at the end of the night. Hair extensions just provide length and a bit of volume but don’t r…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:40 AM
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Not harsh at all - 100% how it is and should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:33 PM
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Yup - and unfortunately many of these marriages survive this awful stage, so divorce doesn’t even tell the whole story. My MIL is the most amazing human I have ever met. Works as a full time nurse, raised her three children, is an active grandparent, like epitome of good woman. I don’t have a bad thing to say about her and neither does my partner. When her husband, my FIL, got sick and nearly died of sepsis, she changed the putrid bandages, she made his food, I mean she always cooked and still d…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:27 PM
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I mean I think men are objectively uglier than women, but I like men and women. Men have to be special to be handsome, women are just sort of inherently pretty. They have to have something wrong to be ugly. I think that translates to hetero dating as well. I think virgin women have very high standards and are the type who marry later in life a douche because he lovebombed her initially. I think the combination of lack of experience and the reasons why lead to maybe a more naive or clingy girlfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:53 AM
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The most promiscuous man I ever met was a 5’3” heroin addict who had his internal organs flipped on the opposite sides, smoked like a chimney, coughed like he had cancer, and had the ugliest mug I’d ever seen. But he’s probably in the four digit range of women. Because dude was funny and confident af. I’ll post a picture if I have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:42 PM
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The most promiscuous man I ever met was a 5’3” heroin addict who had his internal organs flipped on the opposite sides, smoked like a chimney, coughed like he had cancer, and had the ugliest mug I’d ever seen. But he’s probably in the four digit range of women. Because dude was funny and confident af. I’ll post a picture if I have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:42 PM
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“A lot” is doing a lot of heavy lifting here. You claimed so many of these young progressive women had an “embarrassing” history before reaching driving age - but the average age to lose your virginity is 17-22 depending on where you live. More than half the girls in your school were still virgins, but you focused on the sluts and you yourself ignored the sweet girls who wanted to settle down. Don’t make this out to be a “I moved to a progressive place so they were all sluts anyways!” No dude - …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:34 PM
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If you think for a second that a slut has higher standards than a virgin, you’re sorely mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:25 PM
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Power of attorney, beneficiary, living will, will, inheritance, healthcare proxy, 401k distribution, are all standard with marriage, but can be protected with a few hours with a lawyer and filing them with the state. Thousands of dollars and hours of time. Things you can’t get without marriage are social security, tax deductions, fmla, family health insurance guaranteed by law, no gift tax, tax free transfer of property, a higher Ira contribution, workman’s comp and death benefits, va or disabil…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:48 PM
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He’s either a millionaire and wasn’t before marriage. Or is lying. Those are the options here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:33 PM
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Marriage certificate and prenup is way cheaper than all of the paperwork you would need to file to even begin to cover what marriage does. And even then, You’d be missing out on some, and your children would as well. Marriage is a net positive if you choose properly and use appropriate safeguards.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:31 PM
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The justice system is more gender neutral when there are more women as judges. Interesting, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:28 PM
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If you had explosive diarrhea for an entire week, once a month, every month, mood swings, pain, cramps, migraine, headache, nausea, could you get through it? Probably. Would you prefer not to? Of course. And now imagine that diarrhea is worse for you than it is for other men. Some men have it worse, some not so bad. And say women walked up to men and told them “well some men do just fine with their weekly diarrhea, why can’t you handle it? Some people come into work with the flu.” Would that mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:19 PM
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Wow, how long did it take you to come up with that zinger? Did you read the comment or did you just decide to reply without reading the “we should test on everyone” thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:22 PM
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Plenty, when they aren’t pregnant. And what do you mean about daycare costs and salary? And yes - the system of discounting women as an equal part of society would in fact be misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:21 PM
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What does this have to do with what I said? Do you understand why the thalidomide scandal was a scandal in the first place and not just an unfortunate pill that causes birth defects, say like for Isotretinoin, which also causes severe birth defects?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:04 PM
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Yes I agree that it is perfectly acceptable to be honest with women that he just wants sex and nothing else. And not spend a dime on any women. That is okay for him to choose. Why wouldn’t it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:01 PM
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The one named after Trump.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:51 PM
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Yeah why don’t we just test on the general population then, you know, instead of providing one a benefit or drawback over the other? It’s misogyny because of the reasons why they do something for men instead of women, and the real world harm it enacts on women, simply because they’re women. If you don’t believe in the rigorously studied and identified issues within our society just because it hurts your feelings - that’s confirmation bias. It’s like saying black people aren’t oppressed because s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:43 PM
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1 in 5 men admit to cheating on their wives. And that’s just who admitted it. And personal anecdote but cheaters are absolutely not just Chads with options… Do you think a man should be any less jealous of their girlfriend flirting with and trying to sleep with other men, but she doesn’t because they don’t want to sleep with Her? Or is the intention enough to be upset over? Or is it only if she actually sleeps with someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 11:14 PM
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Isn’t it like 1/5 men cheat in their marriage? And like 1/10 women? According to self report studies anyways. Even if all of the women are lying, some men gotta be lying too, so minimum 1/5 men cheat in marriage, and that’s not just dating where the standards are far lower to cheat because you have less responsibility to the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:10 PM
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“Every time I’m in an area and see someone I’m familiar with because I too am always in that area, I tell them to get a life.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:13 PM
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No one has to date anyone they don’t want to. Yes, that’s what we are saying. You try to twist the narrative from women don’t care if you get laid or not to “then men shouldn’t have to support single moms then!” Like dude - no one is forcing single moms on you. This doesn’t have to be the gotcha you always settle on. You can leave the single moms alone. They don’t want you either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:11 PM
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No no, not men. I’m not doing stolen valor today. You. Specifically you - what have you done to help women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:09 PM
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Circumcision Homelessness Mental health Addiction Gender roles What issues of women’s do you care about?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:07 PM
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I would care because he’s my son. And I’d give him very similar advice to the advice I’d give here, just more tailored because I actually know him. Why would I care about a stranger and their inability to be desirable enough? Like in what world is that anyone’s problem other than his own and maybe the people who love him? Do you care if I get married? Don’t you want to see your daughter in a relationship? As if those are the same thing? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:05 PM
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cafe gym park library mall church community garden stoops skate park book club bingo pickleball dancing clubs vfw volunteering dog park community center boys and girls club skating rink ice cream/soda shop museum That’s just a quick google search and the top of my head. Yes, pre 1980s I’d say men had the third spaces and women stayed home, even if they both worked, like the vfw, Shriners, yacht club, country club, golf club, which were primarily men only spaces but even leaving out those sorts o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:57 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:37 PM
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So then your comment is pointless and just working other people up. Every guy who gets a girlfriend who is red pill thinks his girlfriend is a special snowflake who isn’t like those other women but most women are normal. You found a normal woman. If all these women are special snowflakes, that would lead me to think maybe they’re not as rare as you think, because one chose you, if they were so rare and wonderful, why would they have picked you? Do you also think you’re a special snowflake man? O…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:36 PM
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They climb the walls to tell us they’re more horny and only as loyal as their options but the moment it’s a moral question - who cheats more - all of a sudden, women cheat just as often! Which isn’t even a little true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:33 PM
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You think that men in a relationship are the same regularity as women cheating on their husbands with chads?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:48 AM
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I’m marrying a nice guy who isn’t a Nice Guytm Yall just aren’t as nice as you think you are, are shooting out of your league, or have nothing going for you to make someone even attracted to your personality aside from “nice” (until they tell you no) or some combination of all three.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:14 AM
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Oh god! The dehumanization! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:06 AM
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… you’re married?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:55 AM
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All of the data I’ve found shows men cheating at twice the rate of women. What data did you use? Genuine curiosity, not some weird whatever. Like legit asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:56 PM
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Oh I was translating for you - respond to the comment OP to continue the conversation. I don’t agree nor disagree, just translating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:09 AM
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Do you not see how you just said women saying “I don’t care about a guy getting sex or not” to you saying “men shouldn’t care if women are raped and murdered or not because she won’t have sex with me. “ Like that doesn’t strike you are two wildly different things? One asking for the zero effort “leave me alone” versus asking someone to not rape and murder me. Are those on the same level to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:01 AM
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They said “if someone supports abuse, and, gives the abuser a wife who has no way out of the marriage, they themselves are as bad as the abuser and do not deserve to procreate.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:54 AM
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Most of the men here would gladly lick my boots - even if they try to claim otherwise. Men like to be dominated as much as women do, they just aren’t allowed to express it as often.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 06:40 PM
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I didn’t downvote you. I haven’t even checked this comment yet. You said feminists would call this assault if the genders were reversed. I’m correcting you that feminists believe it’s assault as it is. So I’m not sure what your distinction is pointing out. Most people believe continuing to touch someone in a sexual manner after they’ve told you to stop, is sexual assault. Where do you see feminists claiming otherwise? Or are you doing the “all women = feminists” thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 06:37 PM
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Feminist here - it is sexual assault with the genders as is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:00 PM
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Then you go for less attractive women. I know women who aren’t attractive, get zero attention and would truly date anyone who gave them attention, and have dated anyone who gave them an iota of attention. This whole “women have high standards” only ever takes into account thin, young, beautiful women. That’s not everyone’s league and that’s fine. But you have to find yours. And women who ghost or don’t reciprocate, aren’t it. I’d rather be alone than chasing the unobtainable. I know you can’t he…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:57 PM
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There is always other women. And again - I conceded the first approach and paying for the first date. But outside of that? No. If she isn’t reciprocating your effort, she isn’t interested and you should find someone who is. There are 4.4 billion women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:44 PM
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But we aren’t. We making a comparison between men who commit murder to have fan girls and incels free on the outside. I know more than a few incels who overcame incelsdom, as well as entire subreddits for them. Thinking there is zero chance is not zero chance. And murdering and being locked up is truly zero chance for any physical contact ever. And besides physical contact, you can’t call when you’re sad, you have to call when you have phone time, you can write, but you wait days for a response,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:42 PM
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If that’s how you’re experiencing dating, I think you need to date different women…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:40 PM
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Yeah but that’s what I mean, she’s meeting you half way, she’s putting in reciprocal effort. You may have lit the match but she’s adding fuel to the fire right next to you, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:13 PM
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But you can’t touch the woman. What is the point of attracting a woman, If you can’t touch her?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:11 PM
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You think women are doing nothing during that time? I could accept maybe that women don’t have to do anything for approaching, and maybe up to planning and paying for a first date. But once on a date? Does she sit there scrolling on her phone and you continue to pursue her? Also if a woman isn’t keeping in touch, I don’t think she’s interested. Answering you isn’t engaging. Least of all with one word answers. What does validating mean? Do women not talk on these dates, say nice things? Asking fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:10 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:04 PM
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Do RP men think women break up with men 99% of the time or something? I know women initiate more divorces, but I don’t think that necessarily translates down to dating. I think women do the paperwork more often, but I don’t think that means they are the reason the marriage failed. If a man is slowly soft rejecting someone, and the woman finally leaves, did she “break up” with him? No. A man who puts in no effort has told her that he doesn’t want to be with her anymore. It would be like him ghost…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 02:43 PM
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Is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:16 PM
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More results he can’t touch, in a cell, in a prison. Isn’t one woman on the outside worth every woman on the outside while you’re stuck inside?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:37 PM
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Where were the feminists who “doubled down” instead of distancing themselves from the mentally unwell minority? You showed me more unwell minority and trolls - none that are even self identified as feminists. Woman doesn’t equal feminist. Wade Wilson should rot in prison. 4000 women out of the 4,400,000,000 women who exist, .0001% of women, is definitely a small minority. I do not distance myself from women who have views different than my own, but I will denounce that incels are worse than a mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:29 PM
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And you’d see men do it more often and quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:35 AM
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Yeah them are great odds. And ruinous? That’s hyperbolic. Most people are fine after divorce, Especially men. Why else would so many get married again so quickly?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:17 AM
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Well yeah because they want to be mommy’s special boy. They were promised it. They want, nay, demand a beautiful, thin, young virgin who forgoes all social decorum of chastity and purity in order to fall deeply, irrevocably in passionate sexy love with him. She should have never had an impure thought in her life but the moment she sees him, it’s like her life has begun and she wants nothing more than to jump his bones. And she does. She doesn’t give him any “shit tests” to “prove himself” or any…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:56 AM
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We fought against the nazis because Japan bombed us. We stayed out of the war until we were attacked. And Nazis targeted Jews, LGBTQ and disabled people. They stripped rights from women, but that’s not exactly what we remember nazis for, nor the reason we fought. Not even a little bit. And who are these rich people? A group of rich women sending men off to die? And what, women don’t work? Single moms outnumber single dads 10-1. If anyone knows about sacrifice for their family, it’s women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:38 AM
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Does anyone think these things happening to men by women isn’t vile? Aside from weird men high fiving children for their abuse. Is it that men, and by extension, society, protect women by considering these things vile - or, maybe, it is vile period, but we consider men doing them as worse because men do it more often and do more harm when they do? How is the majority of bad things being perpetrated by men a benefit to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:31 AM
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60% of first marriages last a lifetime. Those are great odds actually. And there are ways to increase your odds. I’d take that bet in Vegas any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:03 PM
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No. Fuck that. You don’t need anyone to understand or agree to fight for your rights. Do you think the men here are super empathetic of the feminists in the sub and their plight? No. Absolutely not. They literally use feminist as an insult. Will that stop women from fighting for the rights and social recognition they deserve? Absolutely not. And it shouldn’t stop you either. That’s the cowards way out. “It was hard so I quit.” Pussy up dude - you take a beating and you keep coming back for more.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:16 PM
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There absolutely are women incels. The same way a male incel can absolutely go out and find the least desirable women to hit on, but they don’t want to, is how women who are incels are. They have options. They just don’t want the options available to them specifically because they think they’re too good for them. Call it whatever you want, even the most “I hate myself, I’m so awful and ugly” guy here will call himself a 3 when he is a 1 all day long. They love to over value themselves. They hate…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:26 PM
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So empathy is all your after? Someone to validate your feelings? Sorry, I’m after actual systemic change. I actually do things in my community to better the lives of the men around me. I don’t just ask “but what about men?!” Every time a woman brings up her issues. Do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:23 PM
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The newer one has fewer single people, how is that more bleak?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:05 PM
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Chad doesn’t have to settle for anyone other than Stacy. Why would Stacy chase Chad any less frequently than Becky? Use your own logic. If women Chad chase, why wouldn’t Stacy? Why wouldn’t Chad have any Stacy at his disposal? Also men also get in relationships. I don’t know any handsome men who were single for long, and most are marrying the women they met in their 20s. Half already have kids. Chad has a higher sex drive but he absolutely does not reduce his standards just because he’s horny. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:04 PM
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My personal theory is that there are men who have made it all the way to their 20s without having even been with someone. They see thread after thread about women who are sleeping with a bunch of men, getting dates every week, situationships, relationship hopping... All while they do nothing. This is the problem. All women don’t experience this. Least of all the 1-3/10 women who would be on his level. He sees beautiful 7-10/10 women and believes it’s close enough to his league (especially if he …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:10 AM
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200? The 80s were full of bush!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 08:26 PM
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“WhAt AbOuT mEn?!” What about them, sweaty? What have you done in your community to help men? You show me yours and I’ll show you mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 12:54 PM
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A man of nuance is so refreshing to hear. Great points made!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:07 PM
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Oh no another “I’ll fuck anything until something better comes along. I’ll even date her and use her for her labor/sex/financial contributions until I decide nothing better is coming and then I guess I’ll settle and marry her, but never let her forget I settled for her! Or I’ll just monkey branch when someone better comes along. And if women don’t also do that, but never ask anything of me, but give me all of the sex, she’s a bitch with too high of standards!” Post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:47 AM
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Seek treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:25 AM
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Genuinely - this is what I’ve seen. Men like to under value women but over value themselves. (Not all men, I’m talking specifically incels and the adjacent mess) They call some of the most beautiful women “mid” and no, I’m not talking about Margo Robbie, like irl men rating women very low, but then liking to call themselves a 5 or 6 (back in my childhood we called it “every guy swears he’s a 7) but he’s probably closer to a 2 or 3. Most 5s I know do quite well, or at least well enough to not be …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:25 PM
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Maybe you misjudge your league. If they’re getting Chad in their dms, they’re Stacy. Why would Chad settle for mid when he can easily get Stacy? Like why downgrade if premium is an option?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:05 PM
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60% of first marriages last a lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:03 PM
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You’ve been grooming her since she was 16. That’s harming a little girl. One day, you will be her trauma story. Contracts - you’re trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:01 PM
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Well, I should tell me fiancé, who is shorter than me, was making $40k, 1/3 of what I was making, living in his parents house, with no car; that I left a life of casual sex, living on my own, never needing to worry about someone else’s opinions or needs because his dick is so magical? lol. Okay.. I’m sure he’ll be thrilled that I don’t actually love or care for him, I didn’t choose him and continue to choose him because I find him attractive, we are compatible and love the life we built together…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:00 PM
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Which is it - women settle for a beta or only hold out for Chad, so much so that he has all the power in the world to have a harem? Do women end up in relationships or do they Chad chase for the rest of eternity? If women eventually settle and do not date Chad and his harem, then one of two of these premises is incorrect and cannot be congruent with real life. Also women know most men are great. They have shitty socialization and there are plenty of ass holes and manipulators, but, we “the femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:02 PM
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You’re right, I was using my memory and I knew it was a tiny amount. Thanks for the link, it helps a lot with my point. (When I go on to say you, I mean man worried about his penis size, not you, you) Most people are not walking around with 10” monster dongs that women are regularly sleeping with and your 5” is “tiny in comparison” - nope, most guys are average, your dick is average, and everyone else you knows dick is probably average and the difference in how they feel has more to do with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:51 PM
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Yeah the person who isn’t into little girls should seek help - you’re disgusting and should be physically castrated to keep you from hurting anyone, just like I’d want for any other child molester.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:44 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:43 PM
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I had casual sex because I preferred being single at the time and wanted to have sex with someone. So when I was single I’d try a new person to see if they were any good. If they weren’t good, I’d move on. If they were good, I’d keep them around as a FWB, but if they met someone else or caught feelings, id move on. I don’t think sex needs to have a romantic component to be good. But it’s like a massage from a professional versus a massage from some stranger with no training. Obviously the no tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:35 AM
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That’s even worse. Holy fuck you’re disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:29 PM
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She’s a child. Shes adult enough to vote but not even adult enough to drink yet. And that doesn’t mean she has the life experience of a crusty ass 38 year old man. You’re a disgusting pig. She is young and naive. No one said stupid - but grooming will make her think it’s okay because that’s the point of grooming. I’m not running anyone’s life. I’m telling you that you’re an abuser. You’re vile and deserve to be alone for the rest of your pathetic life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:27 PM
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Sexual grooming is the action or behavior used to establish an emotional connection (giving her advice on “navigating high school and college) with a vulnerable person – generally a minor (she was 16 when you met) under the age of consent – and sometimes the victim's family, to lower their inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. (I hope to develop a romantic relationship.) You’re 38 years old you disgusting pig. You’re the definition of a groomer. The age difference and meeting her as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:20 PM
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I’m just calling a groomer a groomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:12 PM
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There is very little difference between the sizes. Average is 5. 4-6 is average. Without a ruler no woman would have any idea what size your dick was. They’d guess 6 no matter what unless it was especially large or small. I promise - an average dick is an average dick and women prefer the range of average dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:10 PM
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The people who knew me when I was 16 still act like they knew me when I was 16 because that’s how a normal adult brain works. She still isn’t an adult. Just because it’s “legal” doesn’t make it okay. You’re a groomer. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:08 PM
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Both. Size queens exist - but they are not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:51 PM
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Compared to what? 2% of the population? Yeah we prefer average. I don’t like pain in my vagina, I much prefer it elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:40 PM
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I don’t want men to accept women they don’t want. That isn’t the point. If that’s what you took from all of my comments, you’re misunderstanding what I am calling out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:40 PM
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This is what he said - I’m taking his insecurity to its logical conclusion. You can live in delusion all you want where your insecurities don’t affect anyone but you, but when your relationships fail over them, it isn’t the insecurity itself that’s the issue - it’s you acting out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:23 PM
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Because it’s not “reality.” The reality he’s insecure other men were better than him in the past - he admitted it, he said it’s his reason. Even if no woman ever says that to him. Even if the woman he ends up with has only ever been in 2 LTR before they meet, he will always feel insecure that she thought they were better for some reason. He will justify his shitty behavior because he will always see her past as worse. That’s reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:48 PM
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Nope - women go “this thing has turned me off, I won’t date him anymore.” And insecurity leads you to still date people, just while treating them poorly because of some perceived slight against you they never said or did.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:47 PM
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A standard I have “he treats me nice.” If he doesn’t, we don’t date. Not a standard: “if she has ever slept with anyone else ever, I will assume he’s better than me and take it out on her any time I feel insecure.” Because you won’t just not date women, you’ll “give it a shot” or use her for sex “because other guys got to” or do something else shitty that you feel justified in doing because of your insecurity. None of it even needs to be true for you to treat a woman you potentially want to date…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:46 PM
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