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It absolutely is reported and a part of the data. You’re just parroting someone else’s talking point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:56 PM
6

Men are the ones asking for help with dating. If women ask me, they get different advice based on different principals. I know everyone here thinks we have full free will, society and expectations doesn’t influence anything and only idiots care what other people think/say/do but unfortunately that’s not the case. You get the advice that will work for the gender you want to be with. It’s not “circular logic” to claim men and women exist differently and desire different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:45 PM
6

I think you need to look into how many women actually receive child support in the US my dude. You’re basing your opinion off of anecdotes and not hard data.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:47 AM
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For a couple months? Sure. I’ll give you the “both sides should be clear” argument. For a decade and after having children? No. He lied.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:28 PM
14

A year? Momma I know men who have wasted a decade and three children thinking “she just isn’t wife material.” Don’t let men string you along. Have better boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:26 PM
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Right? It’s almost like he’s saying “if you don’t let me exploit you for labor, I’m being abused!” Like… sir, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:21 PM
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My mother, mother in law, siblings, grandparents, certain friends, people from church, anyone in the community - people see women give birth, a medically traumatizing event leading to at a minimum a dinner plate sized wound, and think they’re lazy if they don’t continue cooking and cleaning to the same previous standard, with maybe a 3-5 day grace period. Women are expected to host people when they give birth and have for generations (in the US. My point of reference.) I find it disingenuous to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:21 PM
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It depends on if he’s a single dad or a dad who has children with someone. Those are two different things. A single mom typically implies she does the primary care of the children. A single dad implies the same. If he is a weekend warrior, you call those “people with children” - not single parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 03:08 PM
14

Not to be pedantic but this definition of “pair bond” is VERY different from the RP definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:28 AM
1

My problem is with the mindset that you should treat everyone around you worse instead of better. That’s a weird way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:26 PM
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Yes it is. But you’re the one who chose for the worse instead of for the better. It’s also entirely illogical. Like I said it speaks to your mindset and those like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:05 PM
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Imagine thinking you’re the “nice stranger” by purposely making a woman feel unsafe….
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:04 PM
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I adore the illogical take that equality is treating everyone worse instead of treating everyone better. It really speaks to the mindset of your average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:00 PM
2

Just because you try to pass off anger, resentment, disappointment, and other negative emotions as “not emotions” simply because you have to alienate sadness that leads to crying doesn’t mean you aren’t emotional or push down “every emotion.” Men are incredibly emotional. I have yet to meet many stoic men in my life, despite the constant claims to the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:57 PM
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But wasn’t the questions what is specifically unique to males?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:48 PM
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More likely doesn’t mean special and unique to men tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:47 PM
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Men live longer when they’re married because women push them to take legitimate health issues seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:26 PM
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Man flu =\= actual influenza. Man flu is the weaponization of feeling unwell by a man in order to get out of regular responsibilities. Women aren’t allowed to exhibit this same behavior since if we don’t handle our responsibilities, they just won’t get done. Actual influenza is horrible for men and women and kills millions of people a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 12:34 PM
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It matters who is doing harm and why. I guess nuance is such a foreign concept to the RP that they don’t understand they aren’t actually oppressed for being men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:52 PM
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When you have systemic barriers to making money, and another group doesn’t, it’s actually wild to call it hypergamy like it’s a choice of “marrying up” financially when that’s the system they’ve been put in. If all men got their faces slashed up and disfigured at birth, but women didn’t, would you say that “all men date up in looks” as if it’s their fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:49 PM
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“Everyone says wild stuff” is going to be my response when anyone here complains about feminists misandrist spaces…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:42 PM
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But what I described is exactly what the RP men here have an issue with. That being careful is misandry. That it is not normal and we are discriminating against men for our “hate.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 09:53 PM
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Who’s living in constant fear? Are you going up to the raccoon and handing it marshmallows with your bare hands? Or are you giving it a respectable distance? Women still go outside, work, shop, engage in their communities. We are just careful around the ones who show signs of rabies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:04 PM
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Ahahahahahahahahahahahabab Wow - imagine walking right into the point and missing it entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:51 PM
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That’s still a lot of rapists. Claiming that rapists are ”only” 1% of the population is a weird thing to be okay saying. Where did we judge the other 99% of men? Because I don’t want to accidentally be alone with the 1% I’m doing what exactly to the other 99%?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:51 PM
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I’m saying that 1% of the population is a huge number. I also reject the premise it’s 1% of men causing harm. No where can you source that statistic for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:48 PM
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Imagine making up a statistic and then verbally abusing the person who called you out. Lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:51 PM
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You say 1% like that isn’t 41.7 million men. You say 1% like that isn’t one in one hundred men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:48 PM
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Yup - god forbid you say men rape or men murder when they’re the primary demographic. But they sure do love swooping in with a “men built the world” and “men fight and die in wars” and “men work dangerous and important jobs.” When they’ve never built anything in their lives and sit behind a computer all day talking about how women have “easy jobs.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:45 PM
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That’s not true at all. Patriarchy has a definition lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:49 PM
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For 99% of modern history, you absolutely did not cold approach and it was considered incredibly bad form. You met through people. You went to their house. You were a “caller” and you visited their parents home to sit in the sitting room with your intended while being babysat by other people in your social circle. A failed relationship was a big issue for your reputation. You legally couldn’t marry a woman more beautiful or from a better station than you. There were ugly laws and institutions. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:32 PM
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So you don’t think men and women are treated any differently and that there is no gender bias in any systems in the “western” world?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:17 PM
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What would you define it as?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:16 PM
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So you are saying a man can’t be raped by a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:13 PM
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This is where you separate people actually into women from the people into the socially acceptable hole. You couldn’t show me a tit that I wouldn’t worship on a woman I like. And in my opinion, short of some extremes that I get - smell, unable to reach sex organs, and some third thing I can’t think of - you aren’t straight if you’re so easily put off of a woman by a physical attribute. And yes I’m willing to say that for women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 03:54 PM
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Are the hateful comments in the room with us?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 08:54 PM
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Wow incoherent and wrong - I’m impressed with this level of incompetence
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:03 PM
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Pew research. You can google this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:45 PM
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So being unable to fuck in the kitchen equals life is over?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:41 PM
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Does romance only mean sex to you? Because you can have romance without fucking in front of people or your children. Also kids go to bed at like 7pm. There is time for intimacy if both partners desire it and have the energy and space for it. More equitable partners will have more space and energy for it. A mom cleaning the house after kids go to bed won’t have time or energy. If one person is doing all of the mental load, emotional labor, child rearing, of course it will ruin your life. But that…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:40 PM
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You can be subjugated based on other axis of oppression. But being a man will never be it. “Grow up” is honestly funny when the grown ups actually do research into intersectionality and intersectional feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:21 AM
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Not how that works. You as a man can be subjugated based on race, class, religion, socioeconomic position - but never because you are a man. A poor man has more power than a poor woman. A black man has more power than a black woman. There is zero argument you can even posit against that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:18 AM
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Just because you don’t understand the term doesn’t mean it doesn’t have a definition other people understand. But anything to make yourself out to be the poor male victim, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:06 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:04 PM
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Punching down to who? Men aren’t a subjugated class.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:04 PM
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Oh yes - the subjugated class trying to exist within the confines of an area deemed safe as long as they toe the line is really the one pushing the agenda!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:04 PM
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Dude - if she’s a freak, she’s not dating someone she can’t be a freak with. Do you think women can’t find men they find attractive to be freaky with? If they’re dating you, unless you’re in a sugar relationship, or under 21, they like you. It’s weird to do this self defeatist shit “no one will date me and even if they do they don’t like me and even if they do they liked other men more.” Like dude - get some self esteem and grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:32 PM
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You: punching up is a hate crime too!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 09:52 PM
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15 years ago… and it did no tangible harm besides hurt your fee fees. Women weren’t out slaughtering men en masse. But guess who is slaughtering people en masse?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 09:51 PM
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Men’s only criteria is “gave my dick tingles” so i dont know who you are critiquing with that sort of vetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:01 PM
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Oh honey no. Even Chad will chase if he thinks you don’t want him. Why do you think a dominant woman is so many dudes fantasy? Even the wanna be doms cannot wait to be thrown around by Mommy. They adore a woman who knows what she wants, especially if what she wants isn’t you. And nope - I’ve dated men who dated other women. I know who I am I don’t have to believe im the best. I know I wasn’t. But I was the least available and so I typically won. I have a mean streak and they still begged for mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:48 PM
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Oh honey - if men can be tricked into “who is more desirable” just by seeming uninterested, then you believe men are dumber than anyone gives them credit for. Men love the chase. Whether you want to justify it this way or not - they love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:44 PM
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It’s actually comical when men try to play like they aren’t desperate to settle down with a woman they love. I’m a huge slut - I have been with enough men to know that when the woman is the aloof one, all men love the chase. When men claim they hate the chase, they just want a woman to say they like him, they can’t stand “games” - it’s all a big lie. If a woman dares to try to chase a man, he can never be caught. But tell a man you aren’t looking for anything serious and mean it? They beg. Men l…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 05:31 PM
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Oh my gosh - since when don’t women work? “Helps” in the home you also live and make a mess in? Plan holidays - okay Richie rich how many holidays have you planned for others this year? If mom doesnt plan it, it doesn’t get done. Dad would book the tickets and forget the hotel. Also “educates you.” I have no idea what this means. I have never been the dumber one in my relationships and honestly I find it hard to believe men are teaching women much of anything they don’t already know. Men just li…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:58 PM
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I think the men who are openly in to pegging and the men who complain about women are two separate circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:50 PM
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Men really suck at envisioning what it’s like to be the penetrated instead of the penetrator and it shows. Go get pegged and then come back and tell me who gets to be good or bad at it. Make pegging widespread and normalized and we’d have a more empathetic world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:09 PM
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Not all sex work is illegal. You can pay a sugar baby whenever you want to. Or you can get an escort. Go to Vegas. Sex workers exist everywhere though and the sex worker is more likely to be incarcerated from the transaction than you are. You’re just not trying. Or I think you’d much prefer to be a pay pig - but that’s from experience. Most men who try to engage in this weird “women aren’t they great” rhetoric, they’re usually more like Kristi Noems husband than Chad. But that’s just statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:06 PM
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“Of course I’d raise my kid! By forcing the labor on to other women of course! Not difficult when you don’t do all of the work!” - you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:34 PM
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It’s like 46% of court ordered child support is paid in full. And of that some are just $0 support “payments” “paid in full.” So yeah you need a fair person to pay child support. Suing doesn’t do much unless you want to constantly chase them and alert the courts dozens of times before anything minor happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:31 PM
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Are you really trying to compare having your body invaded to working construction? Also I love when men here use this argument when less than 1% of you are in construction lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:14 PM
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Do you think that maybe giving a list of ways only you specifically are disadvantaged with zero context or nuance is helping anyone to address any of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 12:18 PM
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I would be absolutely devastated. My dogs would be devastated. His family would be devastated. We bought a house with an in-law home to house his mom. His dad is a POS and getting his mom somewhere safe was top priority. His sister will also be moving to our property. The MIL house isn’t ready so she lives with us right now. She’s awesome. So based on that background - I would be picking up the pieces and holding down the fort for half of his family. I hold no romantic notions that to remain wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:04 PM
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Maybe they don’t always say it out loud, but when I ask them why they aren’t going for the most undesirable women - women like the 1000 pound sisters. They seemed to date anyone who was interested in them. But when you ask they claim they’re so much better than those women, why does he have to settle for such ugly creatures? If he’s fit, that means he deserves a bare minimum hotness level. And then it’s a back and forth from “I’ll take literally any woman” to “I deserve to have standards too!”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:50 PM
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So this is the full list then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 12:26 AM
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wtf does this mean. It’s like word salad. Both men and women engage in voluntary and involuntary risk. But if we (disperse information) men and women victim in situations that were voluntary, I think that won’t look any better. You think women engage in voluntary risk as much as men do? Incorrect. Just on a fundamental level. If that’s not what you mean - you need to restate the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:55 AM
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People who do a dangerous job deserve to be paid what the job is worth. A woman also doing that job should be paid the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:53 AM
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I do have the mechanism to defend them. Again - you thinking you’re a big bad bully who will hurt women out of their rights doesn’t mean they belong to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:50 AM
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These are the only metrics then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:47 AM
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Do you not understand voluntary vs involuntary risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:09 PM
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Why is college admission your only metric of equality?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:59 PM
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Bro - the great equalizer exists. Stop pretending being able to hurt someone is justification for thinking you own anyone’s rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:55 PM
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Where do blue pillers say that you don’t have to be attractive at all? You absolutely need to be attractive to that particular person for that particular person to want you. What RP gets wrong is that ONLY Chad gets to date and ALL women want Chad. Those are incorrect. Also if a woman is attracted to two average men and one is a good guy and one is awful, she will probably date the good one short of her own mental health issues or lying/manipulation on the man’s part. But yeah, if you want to ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:26 PM
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Recently? I worked in concrete until I broke my back in a work accident and now work in carpentry. I wouldn’t say it’s particularly hazardous unless you’re an idiot. But I have had to put up with much more than my male counterparts for every labor job I’ve ever worked. Sexual harassment, bullying, hazing, grunt work for years despite being more qualified, you name it. Male rookies didn’t deal with 1% of what I did so I don’t want to hear “that’s what happens when you’re green!” I’m not green tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:41 PM
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And which of those ten are you working in?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:38 AM
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I believe you couldn’t architect a broom closet. What is your very manly physically demanding job?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:38 AM
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This is the funniest shit I’ve ever read. I didn’t want the wedding, my husband did. I didn’t have a bachelorette party, but my husband had a bachelor party. He loves to be celebrated. I hate people. I have a huge diamond ring because he wanted to give me the ring of my dreams. I changed into sweats the moment the ceremony was over. I’m incredibly caring. And show it easier than my husband. I cook for him, because I want to. But I don’t have to and he never makes me feel obligated to. He doesn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:00 PM
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Just like it’s your choice to remain hooked up to the dying baby. It wasn’t your choice to be connected but it is your choice to stay connected. The baby doesnt live unless you stay connected to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 08:51 PM
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Nope. It’s not the 18 years you aren’t signing up for. It’s the 10 months of using your body as an incubator you get to opt out of. Just like you don’t have to be an incubator. Just like I can’t kidnap you and hook you up to a dying baby and make you stay connected for ten months, under threat of legal repercussions. The baby will die if you disconnect yourself. It was illegal for me to kidnap you and hook you up. But should it be illegal for you to unhook yourself from the baby? What if it’s yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:07 PM
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I mean you can already check that - they’ll be living with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 04:30 PM
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I don’t think you understand how a birth certificate works and it leads me to believe I’m “debating” a child… You cannot list any name you want on a certificate. I can’t just put harry styles as the dad of my kid. A man has to sign his name. If you don’t sign, she has to go after you for a dna test. Then the court determines you legally responsible or not. And no, you aren’t automatically assumed to be the father without dna evidence but you would be a fool to not give it. Much like I can be acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 04:28 PM
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Ah, I forgot… sexless men are being round up and put into institutions. The sexless men are not being hired or given access to healthcare or being rented to or given mortgages because of the sexlessness. It’s institutional!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:12 PM
1

Where is romance? Where is love? Where is passion? What the fuck is this even? You’re the one demanding it by the third date or she doesn’t like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:36 PM
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Is your issue dating is too much like a job interview or that it isn’t enough like a job interview? You seem critical of “women treating it as a job interview” with tests and probation (yeah vetting for compatibility is the goal of dating) and you don’t like that - but then go on to explain that you’re not allowed to treat it like a job interview because if you could, you would demand the following steps that culminated in sex on date three and meeting the parents (wtf?) on date 4? (4?!) and why…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:33 PM
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Fair. So you wouldn’t defend yourself? You just let people call you a rapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 03:52 PM
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That’s not the question. I asked if it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:54 PM
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Great debate. Very good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:46 AM
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Ahahahahhahahahahahaha this is hysterical. Dudes - it’s okay to be gay. If you find men, as a rule, more attractive than women, bro, you’re at least sort of gay. If you always think men are better than women, I have news for you chief. It’s okay to be gay. You don’t have to disparage women in order to like men. Thinking women are icky isn’t a requirement to fuck men. If you are using statistical averages like height or muscle mass, there is an equal biological difference in women. Saying “women …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:46 AM
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If someone calls you a rapist and it isn’t true, do you not defend yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:52 PM
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Yall wanna cry you don’t get sex and then shame the women out here having sex. I fucked the men in makeup, the pals I pegged, the dude in a dress. I also fucked macho, strong, fit, masculine types. I married the soft kind strong fit silly one. Also - sex was never a “reward” for the good boy points they put in to the pussy machine. I just wanted to fuck. And so did they. So we did.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:12 AM
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Did I stutter?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:03 AM
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Nope. Not how any of that works. A woman is taking responsibility by having an abortion instead of having the kid and dropping it off at your door and disappearing. And also - where are women saying the sex itself is the important part? And also - you can’t compel anyone to do something to you they don’t want to do. There is a huge difference and I don’t believe for a second you don’t see the distinction and you’re just a troll trying to force a false equivalence to make a non coherent point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 01:58 AM
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I support women’s rights and wrongs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 11:53 PM
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I don’t think you understand chances of reproduction… Or harm reduction… Or why an abortion is literally taking responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:14 PM
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Why does anyone know if you’re a virgin? Why are you telling people?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 04:49 PM
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What does that have to do with you crying over a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:45 PM
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All of your replies show everyone just how little you care.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:43 PM
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The internet is where no one would know if you were single or not… So yes - including friends and family - what real world ramifications of shame are you experiencing? Hurt feelings because your mom keeps asking when you’ll bring a nice girl home? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:43 PM
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What in the emotional ranting….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:41 PM
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It is a wild self own to claim women don’t enjoy sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:24 PM
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Source: trust me bro!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:20 PM
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Awe did the funny joke hurt your fee fees again?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:46 PM
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Online meeting =/= OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:22 PM
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Outside of the internet, where no one would know if you were single or not if you didn’t talk like that, what are the real world ramifications of this shame and who is shaming you, and in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:14 PM
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Do you think unconscious means it just came about because biology? Lmao you think it isn’t a learned bias?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:07 PM
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In what world is bias an “inherent trait?” Bias is learned and socialized, definitely not inherent. And yes - socialization and what’s acceptable changes rapidly. Especially over 20 years. Isn’t this the sub who claims anyone who dated more than 5 years ago has “no idea what it’s like now?”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:09 PM
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Taking quotes out of context and ascribing their intention without the full body of work attached to it is not useful or the gotcha you think it is. Of course there are women who say mean shit about men. But that isn’t systemic oppression. Also - I’m not googling every quote there and you’ve already proven yourself intellectually dishonest by not researching your own initial meme. So I have no other choice than to believe they’re all false. ETA - looking over your choice of quoting radical femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 03:22 PM
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Do you trust anything pasted on a meme for you? This line is a piece of satirical dialogue from the 2018 film The Favourite, written by Deborah Davis and Tony McNamara. It is actually calling out the dehumanization of men in the modern age you absolute fucking damp ham sandwich.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:04 PM
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When posting studies it is best to keep them within a 5-7 year timeframe to be relevant. Anything outside of this timeframe should be used as supplementary data or included in a meta analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:58 PM
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If you think humans are “casual” now - you should see how people dated before, especially in the 1950s - of which the men here love to idolize. Dating has always been casual. You aren’t supposed to marry the first person who gives you attention. You are supposed to vet partners before becoming serious. Yall are weird if you think even a significant small portion of women are sugaring or a significant portion of men pay for it. Lmfaooo yall have problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:44 PM
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Do you love your mother more than your father? Do you love your children any less when another comes along? Do you feel less loving the more family you have? No. That’s not how love works. It multiplies. It’s expansive. There is always room to love someone in a fresh way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:29 AM
1

You mean there isn’t an entire subreddit filled with “I’m so lonely, I have no one to love me, sex is a need - but no land whales! No whores! No sluts! No gold diggers! No boss babes!”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:57 PM
4

So a grifter taking advantage of the “male loneliness crisis” is who we are claiming is “what women want” now?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:46 PM
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Wow - you really don’t realize how you made zero point and actually countered the point I think you might have been trying to make. But men will try to claim sex is more important than literally anything else just to win the oppression Olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 01:20 AM
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You say this like every man on this thread is not saying “don’t care, she’s hawt! I don’t care if she’s a bum on the street with a needle hanging out of her arm, she’s HAWWWWT!”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:53 PM
1

So what does your husband do?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:51 PM
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It wasn’t supposed to be? Why would it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:27 PM
1

Dude is pretty average actually. He looks like probably 50% of the dudes I’ve ever dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:50 AM
3

Most teens who are fucking each other don’t have status or money to speak of… Also the dude I know who fucked probably 500+ women is the ugliest dude I know. He did eventually marry a pretty average woman, with several kids (he can’t have kids and wanted to be a dad. His insides are backwards and caused some health issues.) But he’s funny and a joy to be around. Anecdotal but if one can, I don’t think it’s unreplicatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:08 PM
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Yes I am absolutely disputing it since I’ve been the stranger protecting someone and had a stranger protect me. I didn’t have to view them as an authority figure and I didn’t demand it from them. That’s fucking weird dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:01 PM
1

Why don’t you use an example where it’s an adult with autonomy and higher understanding? Because do you need authority to tell someone “hey a car is coming?” No, they’ll just move because they understand what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 10:04 PM
1

Why not? That’s a weird expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:00 AM
9

Can you explain how women are “acting like assholes” by staying away from men? If your solution is to leave women alone - great! Women dont need you to do anything but leave us alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:40 PM
1

“I’m not victim blaming because a victim is always a victim… but… why did you go drinking with friends? Don’t you see how that’s a dangerous situation you shouldn’t have been in? Why were you walking down a dark alley at night to get home? Why were you wearing shorts around your uncle? Why didn’t you fight back? I mean, You’re totally a victim but like, you put yourself in that situation… not me. I’m a good girl who doesn’t do anything without my husband to protect me! It’s so much safer to just…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:38 PM
1

Women are not seeking to be seen as an authority figure - rather a reciprocal benefit to each participant. This works for dating and for community involvement. You aren’t seeking a reciprocal benefit within your community or dating life - you wish to be seen as an authority figure that no one can oppose. And that’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:29 PM
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So you only seek to participate in your community if they treat you like m authority figure? Ew…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:46 PM
11

Tinder. I was an equal opportunity slut for anyone I fancied and ended up marrying my favorite from the bunch. I was 29.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:21 AM
-2

Stop having oneitis and move on quickly when someone doesnt put it in reciprocal effort. Stop treating women like their sole purpose in life is I fuck you. Don’t be fake and lie to try to fuck. You won’t end up fucking and you’ll alienate anyone who could have been your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 10:54 PM
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They deal with either being pregnant for 10 months or having an abortion - they already take on more responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:50 AM
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If I didn’t get my first choice it would have been no one. Why on earth would I settle? To be miserable and divorced after two kids and a mortgage? If that means fewer relationships overall, so be it. No one should be with someone they hardly like and no one deserves to be treated like second best. No one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:52 PM
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That’s the sex part. The pregnancy part only happens to one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:48 PM
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I’m sorry are you trying to say sex - an act where two people need to consent, is anything like pregnancy - a medical condition only happening to the person carrying the fetus? Lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:31 PM
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Abortions literally are birth control… they control if you have a birth or not. Abortions are always paid for out of pocket as no federal dollars have been allocated towards abortion in 50 years. 93% of abortions happen by 13 weeks. That is no where near viability or complete differentiation. If a woman gets pregnant and pays for the pill to detach the fetus, great! It’s her body and her choice. She has every right to use it as birth control because that’s what it is. Of course healthcare profes…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:30 PM
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Show us the thread, because I can’t find this. I can’t even find the phenomenon you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:55 PM
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No the first thing I’d call an Andrew Tate enthusiast is a danger to himself and others. And yeah - incel has a specific ideology, someone who is an Andrew Tate “enthusiast” would qualify under that definition. And what measurement? You’re the one who thinks being sexless means you get to justify violence, not me. I don’t think being sexless means you’re worth less than anyone else. It’s the hatred and bigotry that does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 06:08 PM
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I don’t think most people in my society know me let alone like me. In fact I’m sure at least 50% hate my guts. And I’m thriving. You should try thriving.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 06:01 PM
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Why does the amount need to be the same? Why can’t it be a lid for every pot? Why can’t it be there is someone who likes what you have to offer. Why are you all trying to be as good as Chad, have as many women as Chad, be able to act like Chad. Most people aren’t Chad. But do you need to have most people like you? Is that the metric of worth?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 03:26 AM
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“No one” Bro… dudes have shot women over rejection. Be so fucking for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:48 PM
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Is that all it takes to be haunted? I don’t want anything mean or evil but I’ve been hoping for just a single ghost encounter for decades! I just want to see they exist too!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:15 PM
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You just said women get to choose all three. Who is the stay at home parent if she’s the provider?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 10:40 PM
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I’m not doxxing myself - I can see three. If you can’t find any, that seems like a skill issue. Or maybe you don’t have any in your area, and you should work on the funding necessary to build one? And I don’t see where any of that is bigoted. Holding men accountable for not supporting men is bigoted? Understanding 1% of men are violent is bigoted, when men are the perpetrators of most violent crime? Like do you need to be treated with kid gloves for everything or just when it comes to helping me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 03:04 AM
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You can just Google local men’s shelters. Don’t be disingenuous. Nope - still built a men’s shelter. I just don’t baby men who are fully capable of advocating for themselves. On the board of the current men’s shelter, there was 75% women. Why is it men are 90% of ceos, construction workers, accountants, and other essential personal to building shelters, but when it comes to charity, most of them are women? What did I say that was bigoted? The men here constantly cry that one man one time tried t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 09:28 PM
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They’re just in a different spot - I don’t feel any more or less connected to my partner based on the type of orgasm he gives me. I feel connected to him because he cares enough to give me an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 06:49 PM
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Lmfao, talk about taking things too literally. The exact same thing happens any time anyone uses an analogy here. Instead of arguing the content, you nitpick the analogy. Classic red pill brain rot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:25 PM
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That’s weird because my Google search brought it right up. “Men’s only shelters built this year in the United States” brings three up. I can be critical of the people here and a flawed ideology while still actually supporting men in the way they actually need to be supported. Men would do well to actually help men instead of whining a group protested them or someone called them mean names and so they just give up! Like I said - men are always waiting for a woman to do it for them….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:17 PM
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Autistic men having a more difficult time dating absolutely in no way diminishes that autistic women have it more difficult in every day life. From healthcare, jobs, rape and assault, coercion and manipulation, autistic women are at a much larger disadvantage than autistic men who seem to be handled with kid gloves at every turn. To believe differently is to center your own experiences as the end all be all and to entirely disregard anything anyone else thinks of as a disadvantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:52 AM
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I don’t need to dox myself. There are men’s shelters all over the country. Yes men’s only shelters. The Salvation Army even runs a bunch. There are definitely a bunch of hurdles to cross - men are more violent. Men’s shelters are more dangerous. Many have to be built so many feet away from schools because of the drug abuse and sex crimes. But it can be done. It’s just always men waiting for someone else to do the work for them. “It’s too hard!!! But they were mean to me!!” Boo hoo. You wanna hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:36 AM
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Okay… like feminists never faced any pushback? Again - I just built one. It’s not like they’re illegal. You just have to actually put in the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:30 AM
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Interesting - I’m the person behind the funding and paperwork to approve a men’s only shelter in my city. People who actually care about men aren’t worried about facing no push back ever. It sounds like an excuse to do nothing and complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:29 AM
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Pointless - sure. I mean I was able to get a men’s only shelter built in my city this past summer… seems like you’d rather find a reason to give up than actually put in work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:28 AM
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I love that saying because the saying “don’t ask a fish ask a fisherman” here or in RP spaces is like a fisherman claiming he caught big fin tuna using a single worm. And you take his advice instead of listening to tuna - because tuna eat small fish, so “listening to the fish” would be just using what they eat as bait. But RP is the dude screaming “no, they don’t actually like those things, they settle for small fish. What they actually want is worms, I’m telling you. And has there ever been a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 02:01 PM
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If you think men need to do “mental gymnastics” to be into this sort of thing, you don’t know enough about your friends kinks my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:48 PM
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I just built a homeless shelter for men only in my city. Try again with your weird “we can’t do what feminists did because people disagree!!” Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:41 PM
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So they did a half assed job for three years and gave up? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:36 PM
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Nope - you are reducing a very nuanced article down to “women don’t like skinny women in video games.” It’s inherently bad faith. Troll elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 02:55 PM
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Is it? If there were 100 m&ms on a table and one was for sure poison, would you eat a bunch of them? Or would you maybe just not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 02:53 PM
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So finding a niche group who finds women’s weight to be their primary concern specifically because their primary concern in life is their own weight means that is women’s overall argument against women’s depictions in video games? Yeah totally moving goalposts…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:44 PM
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Men are free to be afraid of women as well. I pick both.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:17 PM
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You’re ready to claim that women kill men at the same rate that men kill everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:17 PM
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Your source is a website for bulimic women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:16 PM
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And that couldn’t be partially because of the conversations we were having around characters, specifically women, in video games, could it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:15 PM
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Yes, because men commit more violence. I’m glad we’re in agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:24 PM
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Yeah, is that typical for the female side character to have depth?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:20 PM
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You mean the men who are properly protected from battle? The men who have on appropriate shoes? The men who talk to other men about more than their love interests? Women aren’t mad that women in video games are skinny dude… try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:19 PM
2

Are you really trying to compare physical violence right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:16 PM
2

Of course it is. But it feels a little lopsided when I’ve never heard it, but have been attacked by several men. Almost like the rate at which one happens is significantly higher than the other. Have you had a woman tell you that she desires to kill all men irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:27 PM
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Male violence against men is still male violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 06:41 PM
3

No that’s almost exclusively what we mean when we say nice guy. That is the majority of men we call nice guys. Did you think a “nice guy” was just a guy who was too nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 06:35 PM
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I’ve never heard a woman say that in my life. I’ve had a minimum of five men threaten my life over a rejection. Women aren’t shooting men in corner stores. Men are shooting women over saying no. They aren’t even a little bit the same bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 06:32 PM
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I’m sorry… what percent of violent crime are men committing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:05 AM
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Do you really not understand why women wouldn’t want all depictions of women in video games to be little more than sex pictures?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:02 AM
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We don’t know for sure it’s a bad idea to have children past 35. There are some issues that can present themselves but most are fairly mitigated by modern medicine. The best age for women to have children is when they’re married (in the us) in a stable, healthy and happy relationship, no matter how long that takes. Or have made the decision to be a single parent by choice, preferably a little later in life, say 27+. And even that is just my opinion for what is best for the children. Because hone…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:57 PM
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It doesn’t sound fake because I’ve had the exact same thing happen to me. And then he said I should get raped. Like… sir… you are not okay… It’s weird how men here never happen to see all the crazy shit other men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:57 AM
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Stop ascribing the character of a small minority of damaged women on to all women. It’s weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:56 AM
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I mean my husband got me because he was really Really nice. That’s his number one quality. But I’m also attracted to him. But I’ve been attracted to lots of people I didn’t date or marry. I dated him because he was so nice. I’m really sick of this “women only like ass holes” narrative. Because nope - I despise ass holes. I refuse to date them and usually dump them pretty quickly after any ass hole behavior. But also being nice wasn’t his only personality trait either - just the best one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:53 AM
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No - everyone in this thread is missing a key component of a Nice Guytm. If nice guy in your example goes “awe man, that stinks. I really liked her.” And goes about his life - he is not a Nice Guytm. If nice guy in your example does any of the following: wow what a fucking slut, she deserves to be abused useless bitch! see this is why I can’t be nice to females! They will always choose a bad guy Chad over me! flip out on her call names, be derogatory towards her, and when she says “wow, I didn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:12 PM
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Nope I have specifically dealt with Nice Guystm very often in my life. Nice guys are guys who claim to be so nice but then something happens and they flip out and prove they are not very nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:07 PM
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You don’t think that you’re ignoring any exploitation or abuse that is common when men go to countries to date poor women because they believe poor women will be better wives for very specific reasons - reasons they talk about openly and often - and those reasons are specifically derived from an imbalance of power?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:05 PM
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You think the percentage of women who exploit men in the us is on par with the number of passport bros who exploit third world women? Do you think maybe there is a bit of a power dynamic that you’re refusing to acknowledge on the basis of being under informed on the power dynamics at play, or at the very least downplaying them to do a “both sides” argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:50 PM
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And I would disagree with your assessment. Passport bros admit to exploitation. I’m just taking them at their word.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:34 PM
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But most people do reasonably navigate them…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:33 PM
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No but if I said “Disagree. Human understand word fine context.” You’d get the gist of what I was saying to you. Just because you can’t spot the nuances doesn’t mean no one can. Most actually do. It’s how we are such a social species - well before language evolved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:32 PM
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If you skimmed over the abuse and exploitation, Sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:10 PM
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I’m just not a huge fan of exploitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:05 PM
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Life isn’t a video game. There isn’t a consistent set of rules for anything in life. Even laws are entirely context dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 04:14 PM
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The comparison is coming from the place of being the penetrated versus the penetrator. It isn’t about ease of access to sex whether you want it or not - which is a good comparison, but not what I was getting at. Men here think letting anyone penetrate you is / can be pleasurable no matter what. And really being penetrated is so much more vulnerable than being the penetrator. So if you had to choose being pegged and anal orgasms only for the rest of your life or being a virgin, which would you ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:38 AM
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Nope - no one compared the two. I’m trying to get you to view sex from women’s pov. You only see it from the penetrators pov. You need to switch it to someone who is being penetrated. We can switch it - Would you prefer to be pegged by Gwendolyn Christie or a virgin? You do not get to penetrate her back and you can only have anal orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:42 AM
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Nope - has nothing to do with your sexuality. I am discussing an experience. We can change it up. Would you rather be pegged by Gwendolyn Christie or be a virgin? You do not get to penetrate her back. You are only allowed to be pegged and orgasm anally with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:40 AM
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I mean as a man - being penetrated by a man. If I make you imagine you’re a woman you’ll think you can imagine it but you can’t - so I will give you a one for one. Would you rather be pegged by a man as a man, Or be a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:37 AM
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Would you rather be pegged by a man or be a virgin? Relevant question to the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 01:30 AM
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You have a very idealized version of the past that doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:33 PM
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The same reason men who get women care about sexless men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:38 AM
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Just because my personal relationship isn’t like that doesn’t mean the societal norm isn’t like that. It’s like saying that men’s beauty standards don’t exist because you don’t care what people think about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:09 AM
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Holy shit thank you. Everything you just said is exactly what I would have written. Thank you for saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:55 AM
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Then what is it an excuse for?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:43 PM
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That’s not true at all. It was to believe that a woman went through something and needs support and not “Well what were you wearing?” Or “but you were out at night, what did you expect??” A woman can be believed and be given support without even knowing the perpetrators name. It wasn’t to immediately convict men, it was to not dismiss accusations just because you think women should be blamed for the actions of men. And with the abysmal conviction rate I find it hard to believe you actually belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:42 PM
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Why does her “being honest with herself” have to do with the price of tea on china? You don’t want to date her. What does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:07 PM
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No one is saying women can’t be shallow. We are asking what you want us to do about it? Force other women to date men they don’t want to? Stick to the topic mate - criticize all you want, but what’s the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:01 PM
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Yeah… it’s not that men under value women and over value themselves…. Women are getting with the men they want, while the men here are striking out. I wonder who the delusional one is….
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:56 AM
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Maybe I’m just more into women than your average dude then. Because those women were attractive and it’s wild you don’t think so. Out of curiosity, I’d LOVE to see what you look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 05:09 PM
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WoMeNs StAnDaRdS aRe ToO hIgH!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:12 PM
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Do you know what a 200# woman looks like? Lol This is a 200# woman. There are definitely shorter women, women who don’t carry their weight in “good” places, etc but to throw a number out that’s totally normal and sexy af for a good portion of women. Come on… lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:29 PM
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I submitted grants and got the funding necessary to build an all men’s shelter in my city. My company donated an entire bid package worth of construction inside of that shelter to make sure it stayed in budget to be built to standard. They had to find somewhere with a lot of stipulations because men’s shelters are dangerous af. But we did it. And it exists now because of the efforts several key players - many of which are owned and operated by women. I’m sick of hearing I don’t care about men ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 08:17 PM
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Because that’s the person who makes my heart sing. We had a spark, enough in common, and enough proximity to make a connection. That connection grows with good things. That’s it. That’s the grand scheme of women - we like the men we choose to spend time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:39 PM
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Woof - imagine not getting the woman you actually wanted. Couldn’t be my man. Not only am I his type, he pursued me despite us both dating several other people at the same time. We both chose the best - otherwise we would have just stayed single and dating other people. Maybe work on yourself or something because this isn’t normal “male nature.” This is a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:20 PM
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I know you’re going to hate to hear it but it was their personality. I didn’t find them ugly or attractive, but hanging out with them made me more attracted to them. The first time I met them, I just really enjoyed their humor, their confidence, how they acted with their friends. So I went out of my way to hang out where they did, be in their vicinity, have conversations with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:27 PM
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What in the incoherent ramble… I’m married and have dated women. Most women are great. Most men are great. If you keep happening upon the “worst women” maybe you need the check the common denominator.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:20 PM
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This was incoherent nonsense. Wanna try again champ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:18 PM
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That’s not true. We know how often people lie on anonymous surveys and it isn’t very much. You can tell yourself whatever lie you need to make yourself feel better but it isn’t reality. And I thought the red pill only cared about the facts, not your poor widdle fee fees.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:18 PM
1

The dx criteria has expanded in order to offer services to more people who previously wouldn’t qualify. It’s a spectrum and they are still autistic, it just wouldn’t have previously been recognized, classified or given accommodations. Now we do and that’s a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:40 PM
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Most animal species absolutely have a form of selection, and a form of consent. It’s why peacocks have bright feathers - the female turns down the more dull peacocks. Lionesses, hyenas, newts, spiders. Rape isn’t a key component of natural selection. And it’s weird for you to jump to that conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 04:59 AM
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Sexual partner buddy…. Not dating. Sex partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 11:02 PM
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Crazy you’re single and struggling. I have no idea why….
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 11:00 PM
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Also - more men on the spectrum also have developmental delay than women. You’re discussing men who have legally been deemed unable to consent with men who weren’t. You’re also comparing those who claimed to have wanted to be in a relationship versus those who are. What if 100% of autistic men said they wanted a relationship but only 50% of autistic women did? Now those stats mean nothing without doing math. Try posting the actual study next time champ.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:58 PM
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So “life” being easier is just whether or not you’re in a relationship now? Wow - I’ll go tell all the women being exploited and abused because their autism is allowing them to recognize or fight back that they have such an easy life!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:57 PM
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I mean you see them. Definitely not Chad. But definitely had plenty of options. Some, very beautiful, some not so much. But each one dumped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:56 PM
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Give me an example of what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:55 PM
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Then don’t date women. If they’re so awful, just leave them alone. But them out of your life plan entirely. Why do you waste so much time and energy on something you don’t even want in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:31 PM
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So you were an ATM and think that is the only thing that counts as a romantic gesture? Typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:19 PM
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Just because you would treat women poorly if you could doesn’t mean all men act like you want to. Most men are good guys with a very small percentage of ass holes concentrated at the top and bottom. Ironically, insecure men who are hot and insecure men who are ugly are equally awful partners. Throw in a few abusive dicks, some sociopaths, some addicts - and across 1-10 you have 2% of each number category category of truly terrible men. Most average dudes date average women and they’re great part…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:10 AM
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Imagine thinking DV, cheating and boredom are the only three causes of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 05:12 AM
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Less than 14% of women had more than three partners last year. That’s hardly a slut epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:14 PM
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That’s not altruism. It’s also not about the betterment of society because it isn’t better for women. If you want to be altruistic and force a system of monogamy, oppress men instead. You can be as altruistic as you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:13 PM
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I tolerate autistic men just fine. They’re some of my best friends. But no, I’m not romantically attracted to them. They don’t have the things they turn my brain on, even if they’re handsome and funny and kind. I know yall hate to hear it but vibes is how everyone chooses a partner. You can call it pussy tingles all you want - the point is not everyone is attracted to all of their friends, even if they love and appreciate their friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:49 PM
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Emotional intelligence isn’t calling your partner a child because he decided to play games instead of cleaning when you never made a plan together. It’s saying, “Hey, can we build a cleaning routine that fits both of our habits so we both feel comfortable at home?” No, emotional intelligence is knowing when to start cleaning because your partner is cleaning. Emotional intelligence is knowing that your mess is not your partners responsibility. Also it isn’t emotional intelligence a woman is criti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 07:05 PM
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I strongly disagree. Anecdotal but this is what I look like and the men I dated who broke my heart. You can call me ugly but you can’t say that I was Chad chasing. I treated these men well, never cheated, cooked, cleaned, constant sex, didn’t make them wait a particularly long time - and all of them either cheated, strung me along, or felt I wasn’t good enough. I’m in a happy and healthy relationship now with a man much hotter than these dudes so honestly it all worked out in the end, but still.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:25 PM
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I just wanted to high five you for stating your preference without degrading anyone. If anyone needs an example of how to state preferences appropriately so you don’t have people calling you out - this is it. ✋🏻 <<< that’s my hand for a high five. I hope you tap it to high five back. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:25 PM
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Ooh fingers crossed for you! A few partners before I met my husband, they did traditional dating until they met me. After I got serious with my husband I stopped sleeping with them but helped them to find other women because I find them fun and they were such good guys they deserved to meet someone awesome. And they all did by dating less exclusively, being more into slutty, enm, or kinksters, and having more fun than serious. I hope you find your perfect match! I think a fun sex life with someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:02 PM
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My husband is incredible actually. I never hear the word no. It’s fantastic. We live in an upper middle class suburb, drive two brand new vehicles, make the same amount of money, so we spoil the shit out of each other! Funnily enough, he also never hears the word no. Because people who understand love understand boundaries and anticipate what someone else needs without it constantly being spelled out for them. I’m sorry you don’t know what that’s like.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:58 PM
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lol I happily got married last week actually! We do have a lot of fun and I’m biased but I think we have a wonderful relationship. We don’t fight or argue, we have calm discussions, we are always doing something cool, we’ve dabbled in ENM, it’s a blast! I recommend a slut to everyone. When you are with them, you know you’re with them because they want you specifically. Otherwise they’d just move on, be a slut elsewhere!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:19 PM
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Because I can profit because I consented to profiting. You cannot because I didn’t give you my consent. What is confusing here? Are you confused about why you can’t have slaves but you can have workers who work for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:41 PM
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I’m sorry you don’t understand love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:40 PM
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I think this is an important distinction and worthy of discussion. I was a SW. I loved it. I didn’t have a pimp or madame or someone above me. I owned my own body. All money made was mine (minus paying a body guard.) I chose my clients, what I did or didn’t do, and was free to say no. I was a highly paid professional in a niche market. My experiences are very different from survival or coerced SW. I don’t think that negates my experience, but it absolutely is a situation where my experiences can…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:24 PM
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They absolutely do this! I did NSA with lots of men and women. Ima chubby slut - I want someone good in bed, kind, spontaneous to sleep with. I wasn’t ready to date anyone at 24. But I would sleep with them to try them out. And every single last one wanted to date me, gave me drop everyone else or get married. Chad to below average. I’m an equal opportunity slut - but they all do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:08 PM
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But you just said no one is yelling at you for sexualizing Sabrina. Because she’s consenting to it. So when you sexualize her, it’s all good. When you sexualize women who did not want to be sexualized - then you get labeled a creep. Yes. Consent is the difference. It isn’t hypocritical to consent to sex with my husband but not with you. Even if I tell you I had sex with my husband. And it’s not hypocritical to call you a creep if you keep trying to have sex with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:01 PM
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That’s okay, we got there! And yeah the wording you used just confused me. The thing you just said about having hobbies held against him and also things outside of his control - that makes much more sense, thank you. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:37 PM
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It’s really not unhealthy to be shown love and I’m sorry you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:35 PM
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Also this is very much like saying “why do people condemn slavery when men choose to work grueling jobs that destroy their bodies every day!”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:39 AM
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Are people demonizing you for socializing Sabrina carpenter or the random woman who didn’t consent to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:37 AM
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What else does “spoiled by a father” mean if not being shown a happy and healthy view on relationships and love? Given whatever I wanted. Helped whenever I needed it. Showed me what selfless love was like. So I in turn show selfless love. I in turn mimic what my father modeled for me. Where is the negative?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:46 PM
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You wrote “men are judged by their interests.” Then wrote in the same paragraph “even in this sub I’ve seen women blast men just for being on the spectrum.” You made it seem like the autism was the interest or hobby. I was confused so I was asking you to clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:44 PM
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Is being on the spectrum an interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:39 PM
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Then I would say you are woefully ignorant to the experiences of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:38 PM
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Right on man. I wish you a lifetime of happiness ahead of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:37 PM
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I don’t own a single book like that and absolutely my father spoiled me. He showed me how a man should treat a woman. I have high standards for my partners because I know the levels my father would go for me, how he took care of his family and was selfless and kind. What is wrong with that? My husband lives up to the standard and then some. And he’d say he gets treated with the same care and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:34 PM
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Fair play. I think those women are good people can their hobby is just as valid as any other. I’m just not compatible with someone like that. Also not blue but purple haired and I feel like a lot of men here would probably benefit from a few open minded dates with a purple haired feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:40 PM
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Honestly? Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 04:14 PM
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You have to watch what men do instead of what they say. Men claim to want a low n count submissive woman who worships the ground he walks on. I call BS. Now, I’m a slut, so I’ve been around the block a time or two with men and women and at least women are open about falling in love. Men will try to act like you’re beneath them, until you treat them like shit. Then they simp real hard. Fuck them once and they think you’re dating. I’ve had men say they love me on a first date. I’ve had lawyers and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:23 AM
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Jobs are actually a great allegory. Because socially we don’t force jobs to hire anyone they don’t want to. Even placing DEI requirements doesn’t force you to hire this specific woman or this specific POC. They get to hire anyone in the world from that pool of candidates. We can offer education. Not jobs. We offer opportunity not outcomes. You wouldn’t expect to be a high school drop out and be hired as a nasa engineer, now would you? No. And we don’t complain that you can’t get a job because na…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:48 PM
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You don’t think maybe the lack of consent is maybe the deciding factor here? You can want to have sex - fine. But you shouldn’t make it her problem or bring it to her attention without her consent. Otherwise you’re just harassing her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:33 PM
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But she doesn’t. She doesn’t have clientele at all. She knits sweaters for those closest to her. Because she wants to as a labor of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:19 PM
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This is circular logic when what "makes sense" is itself decided by women in the moment. There is no standard by which men can abide, it's just aggregate contextual opinion. You don’t understand both people have to consent to the interaction for it to be welcomed? Like “it’s always on a woman’s terms and it’s always changing!” Yes, if you already know you consent, you have to figure out if she consents. So in that scenario, it’s on her terms. But if she was hitting on you, say it was Tammy from …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 01:45 PM
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Well then why say “big muscles” or “big dicks” if what you really mean is “slightly larger than average dicks” and “healthy muscle tone?” When women say big, we are using the term big to mean big. Not whatever weird made up description of “well not big big, just big(ger)”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:21 PM
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So then why are you so angry if your county is doing just fine? Stay in your lane. If it’s working and “the west” (a right wing dog whistle) falls, (talk about doomer media) then we will see that your lovely country is thriving and turn to that. But it isn’t thriving. So we won’t be doing that. And if traditionalism works so well, and women are fighting for rights, why don’t men just become the submissive party? Fight when a woman says, protect when a woman says, but defer everything else to her…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:13 PM
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More religious people kill their IVF embryos than any woman choosing to not be an incubator.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:43 PM
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I’ll do one better Here are my pictures and the men who broke my heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:36 PM
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I mean you can judge the dudes who broke my heart in my 20s against what I looked like. You can say I’m an ugly land whale but you can’t argue the men (who I thought were very handsome and was very sexually attracted to, even after we broke up) were “chads.” You can mock me as much as you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:35 PM
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“Detrimental to men” you mean women now have a semblance of the rights men have, so that means men are suffering? Also I love evo psych, evolutionary biology and its ilk when you ignore 50% of the data we have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:40 PM
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Across and down only? Someone should tell the one in six wives who are breadwinners they did it wrong!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 05:34 PM
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Yeah, it’s women who are mercenary, not anything else. Despite the fact that premarital assets aren’t touched in a divorce. Despite less than 9% of divorced women receiving any form of spousal support. Despite the average child support payment being $300 a month. Yeah. Mercenary.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 04:19 PM
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“I don’t care what you do for 8+ hours a day, I just care that your a warm hole that turns me on! That’s so much better than caring about trivial things like your life outside of sex with me!”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 04:17 PM
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Well we already do that. Disabled people, the elderly, the young - we do for them because they can’t give anything in return. Even the elderly who have never contributed a day in their lives - get help. But I’m sorry I don’t feel especially great about diverting already scare resources to men who are very capable of forming groups and engaging in their communities. They aren’t paralyzed, they aren’t infirm, they aren’t unable to be in their communities - They aren’t out of options. Unfortunately…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:21 PM
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Because men don’t petition the court. If a man puts in effort for his kids, that effort is rewarded 93% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:07 PM
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That’s your projection of women talking about a day that’s special to them. Enjoying your day doesn’t mean I don’t think it’s my partners day any less. But if you wanna go there - women do sometimes use “my special day” When talking about wedding planning - that the man doesn’t help with, the decisions, the colors, the seating chart, the food, the decor, the alcohol, the dress and tux, the dj the music, the desserts, the gifts for the parents, the wedding party and their outfits, the venue, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:06 PM
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Volunteer, join hobby groups, go to your local library.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 10:22 PM
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Why would the community care about you if you don’t invest in it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 10:18 PM
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Getting married young leads to more divorces though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:07 PM
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They’re the ones petitioning the court and getting custody oh their kids… they are sacrificing already. No one has to tell them to cut down elsewhere to pay to fight for custody. They already do. Did you not read what I wrote? Everything I am asking a man to do to fight for his kids is what the mom is already doing. Moms petition more than dads. That’s why they’re granted more time. Dads agree to less time more than women do. Women fight against an unfair arrangement more than men do. Men need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:28 PM
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Most states are default 50/50 but you have to agree on what that 50/50 looks like. Will you do 3/4 days on and off? Every other week? School days versus holidays and vacations? What does 50/50 look like for this individual family when both parents work and they don’t live in the same house anymore? Or never did. You have to go to court either way. Many men don’t want to pick up their kids on a Sunday evening to drive them to school 3 days of the week, hurry home from work to pick them up, do bat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:24 PM
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And I prefer to be a supermodel but that’s not the body I was born into. Should I life my life angry I’m not a supermodel or should I work with the cards I’m dealt?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:12 PM
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Where was the strawman? I gave you a scenario I felt empathy and a scenario I didn’t. No strawman to be had. Maybe don’t just use buzzwords you don’t understand the meaning of. Wanna try one more time?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:10 PM
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Woof
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:09 PM
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Red herring fallacy. You wanna try again with an actual rebuttal?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:11 AM
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That’s what most people do anyways. Are you walking up to strange men on the street?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:10 AM
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Why did you expect anyone to care about you though? You are inherently deserving of respect as a human. But respect is what you’re getting. It’s the bare minimum. No one is doing anything to you. That is common decency and respect. And salt in the wound or not, it’s the truth. People don’t owe you anything. Which makes it so much better when people are kind. When people do go out of their way to help. When you do find friends who love you. Having no expectations frees you from this guilt because…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:09 AM
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It actually isn’t very expensive as family court lawyers aren’t priced like a criminal lawyer. There are lots of charities that donate to dads petitioning for custody of their children. [THIS is a great place to start.](LawHelp.org) [Or HERE.](USA.gov) And if you make under a certain amount, you can get a court appointed lawyer for free. It’s a cop out to say “I didn’t petition (even tho she did) because it’s too expensive! (Even though we are going to court and I need the lawyer anyways.) “ I’v…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:00 AM
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You’ve never had an experience where someone gave you unwanted attention? Never not once? You’ve never had an experience where you felt unsafe? Where someone made you afraid they might hurt you? Where you felt you might not escape the situation unscathed? Never?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 12:44 AM
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But they don’t think the worst of you. The calculated risk of interacting with a stranger who might hurt you is one I’m not willing to take in that moment. There are times I do. I have stopped for directions from men. I have complimented men in public. I interact with my service workers. I don’t think you’re evil, I just don’t know you. And you’re a stranger, so I have no real reason to believe otherwise. I have male friends and family whom I love and care for. But I don’t know anything about yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:53 PM
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Absolutely you can. I have also been lonely. So not only do I sympathize and empathize, I have compassion for loneliness. I also don’t think my loneliness or anyone else’s is anyone else’s problem to solve nor does anyone owe me their time or attention just because I’m lonely. And becoming bitter about it only leads to people liking me less.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:46 PM
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Well yeah, everyone has a limit to their empathy. I have empathy for single moms. Until they are single moms who use their children as a weapon against the father. I have empathy for abused children. Until that abused child becomes an adult who goes on to abuse children. We all have a limit to our empathy. Demanding sex from women is most women’s line on empathy for men’s loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:44 PM
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Telling women to act tough in 10,000 BC was a death sentence for them. Wait… how do you think women lived their lives in 10,000 BC because I can assure you that women were hunters, heads of their tribes and killers just the same as men. They had different roles based on biology sometimes. a nursing mother would be vulnerable. But that’s why women raised children in packs of women while men went out. It not only spread out child rearing, it was up to women to protect each other. We can look at ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:39 PM
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I adore this word “tingles.” Like finding someone attractive is such a fucked up concept you had to give it a new name. Despite the fact that men do the same shit. Hot men will date the most toxic women (the hot crazy scale) just because their tingles. I don’t get your point? We give people we are attracted to the benefit of the doubt? Yeah. Everyone does. Until they go too far and then we don’t. And just like The comment said - these dudes aren’t horrible on day one. I’ve met men who have gone …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:17 PM
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But no one is doing anything to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:10 PM
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Yes actually. Most dads not only accept this set up but request it. Don’t think your experience of how you think you would parent is how it works for most dads. We had to made commercials telling dads to please hang out with their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:07 PM
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If I report a robbery to the police, am I the one who is responsible for the robbery? Do you think if someone is using someone else, the user is going to divorce the person they’re using? No. They’re benefitting from using someone. It’s on the person being used to say enough is enough and leave. Don’t mistake who files with who caused the break down of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:30 PM
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I mean I wanted to elope - it was my husband who spent $XX,000.00 to throw his dream wedding. He had dreams of his wedding day, loves being the center of attention and adores being celebrated. I didn’t think I’d ever get married and hate people looking at me. I met someone I loved and am compatible with, and we decided to get married to protect each other with the 12,000 laws codified into US law. The party is a bonus way to celebrate with friends and family. If you don’t want to get married, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:25 PM
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Isn’t it like 93% of men who actually take the time to petition the court for custody, received it? I think you misunderstand how the family court system is biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:18 PM
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The majority? Really? You don’t think that’s overstating it a little bit? We all know a woman who was more worried about the wedding than the man or the marriage. But it’s far from normal or the “majority.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:14 PM
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Yeah ChatGPT definitely isn’t skewed by the people who program it. They definitely didn’t do that on purpose to flatter the president… /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:41 AM
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This dude is absolutely not masculine. Have you seen him? He isn’t feminine either - femininity is beautiful and I love to see it in my men. Trump is more like an asexual agender amorphous blob with a probe to assault people. He’s like a rapey female hyena using her pseudo penis to attack. Masculinity is strong, composed, helpful, has integrity, loyal - trump is none of those things. Unless you think bulldozing over people weaker than you is “strong,” screaming nonsense and refusing to speak whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:39 AM
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Nope. Personality doesn’t matter for most women if you’re the ugliest 5% of men. But I wouldn’t even say all. I’ve met some butt ugly ass men with wives who loved them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:31 AM
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Yes I’m number one. Guy one was 5’6” and chubby. Dressed in Nike/addidas/under armor. White but I wouldn’t say particularly round eyes. Fair enough you don’t have a lot of him but; Guy two was maybe 120# soaking wet and probably 5’7”. Wore a lot of sweets and worked on cars. Also not round eyes. He’s opening hem wide to smile but he was half Native American. So definitely not “teddy bear” in the slightest. Guy three was 6’2” and chubby. Probably the most like your description but nothing like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:26 AM
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Which is funny because men understand it when they form entire communities around hating women, even if they agree on nothing else. But the moment women do it for the greater good, we’re a “hive mind.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:37 PM
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Really? No one? No one claims a doctor is more important than a king? Because I sure do. And anyone in a time of crisis sure does. And all those kings whose heads were chopped off probably thought they were considered less important than doctors. Do you disagree just to disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:32 PM
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This isn’t even a little bit true. Data exists in the world - you can’t just make something up and run with it when there have been studies of movies, magazines, books, comics, advertisements the world over that prove you wrong. You can’t google “are men more sexualized than women” and google shoots off a decent answer with sources for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:28 PM
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Correct but we are discussing specifically prostitutes - where poverty of opportunity is the driving force behind most of this type of sex work. In irl prostitution, high paying jobs are the minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:03 PM
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For incels to wallow in self pity and hate on women and everyone else try to talk sense into them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:00 PM
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Just wanna give a little high five here. You were able to communicate that single moms aren’t your thing and didn’t once make it seem like she was scum or unworthy. You just don’t date single moms. Very different from some of the other comments I see. Especially when they are obsessed with bringing up single moms constantly and will call them everything but their name. ✋🏻<<< that’s my high five. Hoping you put your hand there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:46 PM
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It’s probably closer to the bottom 5% of men who truly can’t get a date (and I say that knowing a true 1 irl and even he gets some interest. Meanwhile a 4 i know does awful and gets nothing. The 1 is charismatic and fun while the 4 is awkward and tries to play a lot of “I can’t double text” type games. He’s said some wild shit and has very specific special interests. I’d say autistic but he is not Dx) Average men do just fine. The average men who are hateful and angry that they aren’t treated li…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:42 PM
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Could you tell me based on my exes what it was I found attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:58 PM
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I’m a slut. I slept around with my fair share of men. I am happy to test drive a man to see if he’s worth it and drop him when he isn’t. I met my husband at 28 and fell in love fast and hard. He was easy to choose in the sea of mediocre men. I am exactly the type of woman you’re describing as “modern dating” and I call bullshit. Not a single other woman I knew ever dated men like I did. All of them may have short term or casual things with men, but almost always as a precursor to dating exclusiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:42 AM
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Yes, I agree with that - that makes sense to me? We are talking about empathy for men. Describing your own lived experience is usually used to demonstrate that not only do you sympathize, you empathize on a personal level. I’m not saying I empathize because women are affected - I’m demonstrating how women also experience what men here claim women never experience and how the experience gives me empathy on a personal level. It’s like when you say “do you have empathy for people who stub their toe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 02:42 AM
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OP won’t reply to this because it shows the “issue” isn’t the humiliation ritual of being laughed at because you overshot your league - it’s being rejected at all. OP- If “I’m sorry I’m married” is just as humiliating and wrong as “ew, no, freak.” Then i dont know what to say. Don’t approach people then? Go to therapy for this weird “everybody is judging me!” Thing you have going on?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 06:50 PM
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You cannot be hypergamous with anything but social caste and money. That’s it. Saying it’s hypergamy if you think he’s more handsome than she is beautiful just leaves you room to call anything hypergamy. She makes more but he’s hotter? Hypergamy. She makes more and is hotter, but he’s went to a slightly better school? Hypergamy. She is hotter, makes more, and is more educated - but she has low self esteem? HYPERGAMY!!!! We can’t fucking win for losing. Yall are cooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:03 PM
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Your mouth needs a break?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:30 PM
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Right back at you! I enjoy a happy comment, so thank you for sharing the joy with me! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:35 AM
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Yes - everyone has a nuance threshold. That’s how opinions and emotions work. It’s why you are okay with feeling empathy when a man says “I’m lonely” but you don’t when women say “I haven’t had a boyfriend in years.” Everyone puts stock into their personal experiences. That’s how empathy works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:12 AM
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Oof - demonstrating that I have lived experience enough to be empathetic doesn’t mean I’m only empathetic when women are involved. Nice try though! And the lack of empathy comes from their actions. Yes, being a shit gibbon loses the empathy I had. Now I think you deserve it. Eat shit. The royal you, of course. This isn’t personal. I dont know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:11 AM
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It’s a bit hyperbolic but the entire conservative movement is basically about a return to “Christian values.” And a part of those values would include a male head of household, with a submissive trad wife. If about half of the country holds these “traditional values”, about half of the men who want to”traditional values” would be perfectly fine with women losing rights to return to that setup.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:38 PM
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Nothing like mansplaining my own emotions and intent to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:35 PM
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Oh, okay, let me rephrase: You protect those assets, King! lol - better?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:34 PM
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You’re the one making the claim. Where is your proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:32 PM
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I think if I said “men are just hardwired to be rapists.” You’d absolutely dismiss anything else I had to say. Because it wasn’t coming from a rational person. I don’t need to tease anything. A legitimate criticism of women is something like “women I’ve dated haven’t been very receptive to me being emotionally open. I don’t feel like I’m over reacting on reflection, so maybe it’s something to do with their perception of masculinity.” Not legitimate: “women say they want men to be vulnerable but …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:31 PM
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“Way less hours” This chart says women work an average of 1 hour less 4 days a week. This chart says half of women are making as much if not more than their husbands So even when women make as much as their husband in 50% of cases - they still take time off to do shit with their children because dad refuses. And because children need it. Apparently dads think that dual income household will crumble if he doesn’t show his boss how much of a “team player” he is by staying an extra hour everyday at…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:25 PM
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What do you think happened to early feminists? Do you think there wasn’t pushback? Arrests? Counter protests? Do you think 50% of men just jumped feet first to help women? Half of men today don’t even think women deserve rights - what world do you live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:11 PM
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Wait - what is outlandish about women dating an autistic man? Lol. Do you go outside? Have community with other autistic people? Because I do and probably half are happily partnered or married, while the other half date regularly. I know 1 who is perpetually single but honestly there are very specific reasons for that. Not all autism has developmental delays where they can’t consent and can’t be in a relationship (which is why the stats of “60% of autistic men being single” is the stat it is. Of…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:58 PM
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I don’t think it can be called a slippery slope argument If we have historical evidence for the slippery slope to end up in history repeating itself. And I don’t doubt lack of sex and relationships suck. Contrary to popular belief here, there are women who are sexless and turned down by men. Even if they’re fat, old, disabled or disfigured - they still exist. And I feel empathy for that level of emotional and touch starvation. I can offer empathy all day long. What I can’t do is feel empathy for…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 06:14 AM
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Accusing women of all being gold diggers (for “slightly above average” pay) isn’t a “women bad” argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:59 AM
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Fair - what about the women who met their partners pre “wall?” Why would it be settling before they had to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:56 AM
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And what generation would that be? The one with 60% single hood - still less than the 80% you claim, or the fact that people get married later in life and so the odds of remaining single past 40 is less than 1 in 4, waaay less than 80%. And that isn’t even to speak of the men who never get married but live with a long term partner. So notice how your stats don’t make any sense? You aren’t some special snowflake that developed over the course of 10 years separate from average men before you. I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:56 AM
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You protect that chastity king!!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:52 AM
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That’s cooked dude
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 08:06 PM
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Yes I am - what does that have to do with her not being indicative of most women’s experience, or mine being indicative of most women’s experience for that matter? And what fucking empathy do you want from women? Explain it to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:44 PM
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Yes, it sucks and I’m sorry it sucks. But what do expect someone to do about it? And how do you think someone should react when you blow it out of proportion by saying “most men are incels” “most men will never have a girlfriend.” “Women are shallow and users because they just want Chad or to gold dig.” Like what are our options here? Besides showing you it isn’t hopeless for most men, most men get married at some point, most men are living perfectly average lives with the average women who love…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:39 PM
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You realize it said 45% of people and not 45% of women, right? You went straight into this “women bad” spiral and you don’t even know what percent of people equals women. You just made an assumption and ran with it. You don’t know how many people were in the self reported data, how they gathered it, the demographics - nothing. You just went off. Take a beat champ, it isn’t that serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:04 PM
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Oh I disagree with this comment. I’m sure for some of them that’s true. However, from my experience, articles I’ve read and the men themselves - R/BP is a combination of spoiled men who grew up never being told no - until it came to girls in school, middle class, lived in the suburbs, and doesn’t tend to have many axis of oppression. Again - I know there are other men who flock to manosphere groups for a host of reasons. But the one I find most common is men who think a lack of a partner/sex/val…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:32 PM
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I’m married in a 50/50 relationship Our first “date” was his parents house - where he lived, where I drove myself because he didn’t have a car, because he just got done with his masters. He was supposed to be a quick booty call. Our second date was me buying us bubble tea. I made 3x his salary but he split most dates with me, or we took turns treating smaller ones. When we moved in together he got his big boy job and made double what I did. We split bills 50/50. That was 50% of his paycheck but …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:32 PM
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A cold pb&j versus like $40k+ I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:53 PM
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How does having more standards make you more shallow? Aren’t the people with just “am attracted” the shallow ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:51 PM
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97% of men have been married by the time they hit 75. Like i dont know where you think 80% of men are single when thats not even the stats of men under 30. 63% of young men 18-29 are “single.” 60% of 35 year olds have never been married. 25% of 40 year olds have never been married. So even if you think the dickpocalypse Is upon us - more than half of the men here will be married by 40 and remain married for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:49 PM
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No. We’re adults. Our second job isn’t retail.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:31 PM
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Who’s shaming? I’m a slutty woman, I don’t do what this woman does, but I also am not so deluded that I believe my experience of sleeping around is indicative of most women. I see women irl. I know most aren’t sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:26 PM
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Yeah those are the same things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:24 PM
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Why are you so obsessed with single moms? Lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:22 PM
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Don’t move the goalposts. You said women were twice as “severely obese” and they aren’t. And no - I don’t find men that attractive. I find women attractive. At least I admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:21 PM
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You believe 90% of women would date Chris brown? That’s a belief you hold?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:18 PM
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It’s a risk factor just like dating a drug dealer. She can choose to make whatever bad decision she wants. It doesn’t mean I’ll stop talking about the risks involved. Being in an age gap relationship increases your rates of IPV, financial abuse and murder. So much for all her “power.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:18 PM
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You mean the classrooms grades that include participation, behavior and homework? Those grades? Those grades that boys do worse at than a standardized test? Those ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:16 PM
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How do I prove to you that not everyone finds Henry Cavill attractive? I can’t. I can show you the studies of women where 70% of women rated the same top dudes as the top, but that’s 70%. That’s still 30% of women who didn’t find those dudes attractive. And it’s even funnier when even when a woman objectively rated a man as a 10/10 - she was more likely to message men 4-8. Like i dont know how to prove your delusions false but it’s a realization you gotta come to. If you live your whole life bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:15 PM
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Who said the word ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:11 PM
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I’d go even further to “be a considerate partner towards someone who is attractive to you, but is also attracted to you, so that means doing some looking for those of us who aren’t Henry Cavill or Sydney Sweeney, and having a fun and engaging personality is going to trump looks in those instances because I have to spend my life with your personality, because looks fade.” Some men take this to mean “being nice” is enough when it’s not. Some men take this to mean only looks matter which isn’t true…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:43 PM
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I fuck hookups right away and picked my husband from that pool of hookups. Chad chose me because I chose him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:49 PM
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Are the women telling you all about how they fucked Chad on the first ‘date’ - to his house to watch a movie - in the room with us? Like how in the world would you know if she’s someone who has ever had a hookup? How do you know if she’s made people wait? Why are you asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:48 PM
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Yeah that one comment is very indicative of women as a whole. You got us! Thread over apparently because of one slutty woman. You nailed it homeboy!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 06:24 PM
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First link - study in Israel in 2004 Second link - from 1998 and “Boys who perform equally as well as girls on reading, math, and science tests are graded less favorably by their teachers, but this less favorable treatment essentially vanishes when noncognitive skills are taken into account.” Third link - not a study but a dissertation by an MIT grad using information from the 90s-2010s. All of your information is just like me saying women couldn’t get a bank account in the 70s and heroin chic w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:21 PM
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Could you produce said study please? All of the evidence I’ve just read is about class grades - which include things like behavior, participation, and attendance. Where yes, boys do worse. But standardized testing show boys slightly better at math and girls slightly better at reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:11 PM
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Do you have a really ugly face?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:22 AM
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False. 35.5% of men 20-39 are obese. 39.7% of women 20-39 are obese. Are that’s just based on bmi. Khloe Kardashian before the glow up was in the obese category. Show me a man in the 20-39 category who is obese and not a gym rat - natural obese body that looks half as good as Khloe while obese. I swear some of you don’t even like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:07 AM
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You’re using statistics incorrectly. If everyone’s 14% is different, you could have a match for every man. Of course there is overlap between the 14%s but there will never be a man who is universally attractive, or a majority of women willing to knowingly date a dude who has other girlfriends without being poly. There are dudes who are universally disliked but most - but even they aren’t at 0% chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:01 AM
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I mean if wanna be penetrated so bad, I’m sure there are plenty of women on fet life who would love to peg you and never call you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:58 AM
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God I love this. No matter who a woman chooses, you will find some way to make her to be hypergamous. They can make the same money, she can be the breadwinner, they can be looksmatched, she can be prettier, it truly doesn’t matter as long as she “thinks he’s better” in some way, he is always the alpha and women are always Chad chasing. Women can’t win for losing with you people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 07:51 PM
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It isn’t racism for a black woman to be wary of a white woman in her space. White women have systematically had more power and leveraged that power against black women and women of color. Yes - that is the correct position to have and it’s weird you think the disadvantaged group is wrong for being wary of dominant groups oppressing them. I might be an ally. I might be just fine to black women. That doesn’t mean most white women are, or that white women won’t take every opportunity to exert their…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:32 PM
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I know the men here are a bunch of hypergamous bitches! It’s so weird for them to project what they do all of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:15 PM
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Sure - lots of people end up in lots of situations due to circumstance. It doesn’t make them dumb though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:14 PM
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That’s great for you. But it isn’t reality. Your hatred of sex workers doesn’t negate the fact that they make trade offs in order to make bank. You don’t have to like it or agree with it - but these girls aren’t dumb. And the mentally ill comment is just unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:13 PM
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Bro I’m no going point by point with you because I literally don’t care enough to. I was just correcting the incorrect data point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:11 PM
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And yet when a woman says this, she’s a hypergamous bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 02:41 AM
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the type of girl who goes to college isn’t the type of girl who is having sex for money. That’s not true at all. There are plenty of intelligent women engaging in all forms of sex workers. College educated, masters, doctorate level women - who engage in sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 04:15 AM
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No we aren’t. That’s your fantasy of a sex worker. And by shallow do you mean “cares about looks” or shallow as in “airheaded bimbo” because you know the bimbo thing is an act… right? Most of the girls I know worked our way through our masters and doctorates. Most sex workers are “low level” like strippers and cam girls. They typically have a goal in mind when entering sex work. Even street girls I know who end up in poverty are in sex work because they know how to act the way men want. They’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 04:11 AM
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Let’s clear some things up first and foremost. What do you mean by “nice?”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:34 PM
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The poorest 10% of people are women. The richest 10% are men. That is absolutely not in line with “male variability.” That’s a great excuse to help you sleep at night, but it isn’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:59 PM
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And that worked for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:00 PM
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Women know they’re the prize. But also know who they’re a prize for. Delusional women are few and far between. Men have no idea what their level is. Dudes who claim they’re a 6 but are a solid 2, calling the woman he likes a 7 when she’s fucking 10s and dating 9s. Undervalue women, over value yourself. The rp male mantra.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:40 AM
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What do you mean? I fucked some of the most feminine men I could. They are better in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 05:23 PM
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Hard work typically produces results =/= just world fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:19 AM
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Thought terminating cliche
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:17 AM
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I got called hypergamous for being with someone who makes the same amount of money I do. And I made way more than him when we first met. I was “hypergamous” because I “sought his ambition.” Men will turn anything into hypergamy. Height. Weight. Looks. You name it. If it’s “X is ‘better’ than Y, and man has X and woman has Y, then she’s hypergamous.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:16 PM
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Yes - they matter to anyone else looking into my relationship. but to me the sun shines out of his asshole and no one can tell me any different. Talk about missing the point entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:26 PM
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But we clarified earlier that “double standards” aren’t a thing. I want men I’m attracted to to flirt with me. I don’t want men I’m not attracted to to flirt with me. And if they try to flirt, and I don’t reciprocate, I want them to have the decorum to quit flirting with someone who doesn’t want to be flirted with. Everyone has different standards for romantic interests versus normal people. It’s like complaining I let my boyfriend kiss me but not random men on the street. Yes. Consent matters. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:24 PM
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Nope that would be a misinformation. They were already on the verge of bankruptcy. They let in girls to boost numbers. More customers is better than fewer - you know? And only weird people think small children have to be broken up by sex to go camping or tie knots. They are now just called scouts though that’s correct. But not because anyone forced them to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:22 PM
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I’m married. There is no competition. I just disagree with abuse and coercion. I experienced it at the hands of an older man when I was too young to spot what as happening and it led to some trauma I would have preferred to avoid. So now I educate other women on those red flags - one of which is an age gap when you’re under 27 and he’s over 30. If anything I want women to date more - not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:45 PM
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You: women are forcing autistic men to mask! I don’t get pussy if I don’t! Also you: wants to force women to give autistic men they don’t want “a chance.” No bud. Stay single. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. But you also can’t force anyone else to do anything they don’t want to. They don’t want to date you. You have choice. Stay single or become someone they want to date. You do not have to become someone they want to date. You can remain single and just life your life. Which I …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:46 PM
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It’s so weird, it’s almost like when someone finds someone attractive enough to be an option they want different behavior from them than the general population. Wild!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:18 AM
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It was on the brink of bankruptcy and they let girls in as a last ditch effort to gain customers. So far it’s kept them from going under completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:17 PM
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I might not be Stacy but these men who broke my heart weren’t Chad either. me and the men who broke my heart. and no - I never had gaggles of men in my messages. I had men ghost me on dating apps. I’ve asked men for sex and been turned down. Like - what sort of existence do you think women live? Because from where I stand, it’s only the most beautiful women you desire and think that’s how all women exist because that’s all you see as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 04:10 PM
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And those are the dudes your sisters and friends want. It’s just literally not. Women never talk about how great being with ' average ' is. Yeah because when you love someone you don’t think they’re average anymore. They’re your special person. My man is probably by all accounts a perfectly average man. 5’6” 220 makes the same I do, very middle class dinks. But that man is everything to me. My person. Strong and handsome and kind and loving and all of the amazing beautiful things exist in the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 04:08 PM
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Doesn’t that just prove the fact that people aren’t marrying for convenience anymore since the marriage rate is down? And people who do get married today are less likely to divorce than 50 years ago, further proving the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:39 AM
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Yes. And a part of that network is a therapist and psychiatrist. Men here should try it sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:33 AM
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This is so funny. I’d never date the dudes my sisters date. I’d never date the dudes my friends date. My friends don’t want the men I date. My sister doesn’t want the men I date. We have never fought over a man, ever. I have never witnessed this “women Chad chase” irl except with exceptionally beautiful women and exceptionally handsome men - of which most people are not. Most people are average and have their own preferences within that average. The only people no one wants is the bottom 1%, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:07 PM
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It’s so weird to read shit like this when you say “women” what you mean is “desirable thin women between 18-30 years of age.” Entirely ignoring that fat women, ugly women, disabled women, old women do not hold near the same “power” you claim “women” have. People treat people they’re attracted to with more favor because they’re an option for dating. This isn’t power. The man is just as capable of saying no as any woman is. It’s not like men have to say yes to any woman who approaches, just like u…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:03 PM
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Because they’re not equally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 01:04 AM
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Wow you said a whole lot to side step the point I was trying to make. Dismissing a valid argument as a “gotcha” is inherently bad faith. Have the day you deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:26 PM
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This whole thread really is the epitome of “every accusation is an admission.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 08:38 PM
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What does that have to do with what I said or what OP said?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 07:54 PM
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That wasn’t my question. Is it gay if you never date a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 07:53 PM
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I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again - This is what I looked like and the men who broke my heart. You can claim I’m ugly. You can claim I deserved it. But you can’t claim that any of these men are Chad. And they broke my heart or abused me or cheated on me just the same. If men are socialized to be x way, and I have to find a man who behaves in y way, I might as well look for the men I’m attracted to with their shit together if there is an equal chance of being treated like shit either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 06:18 PM
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Because everyone wants one, but they’re impossible to find. And women are regularly asked to be one, even if they’re not interested. I didn’t say wanting a unicorn was rare. I said having a unicorn was rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:49 PM
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Are you gay if you never date a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:45 PM
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Yeah I was a unicorn for years. I promise it’s not even a little bit common. No matter how hot a man is, unicorns are looking to sleep with the couple, not chase Chad. If you don’t have experience with it, maybe don’t embarrass yourself by making false assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 01:59 PM
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Roughly four-in-ten adults who describe themselves as bisexual (43%) say they are sexually attracted to men and women equally. A similar share (40%) say they are attracted mostly to the opposite gender and 4% report feeling attracted only to the opposite gender, while 12% and 1%, respectively, say they are attracted mostly or only to their own gender. If you’re bi - you probably wouldn’t only be attracted to their own gender or opposite gender. Then we use terms like straight and lesbian. We kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 12:49 PM
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You said all this like left wing people don’t share an ideology. Like right wing people aren’t all okay with a raving lunatic as a leader. Like Muslims haven’t been stereotyped for their extremist cousins. Like cat owners aren’t seen as a specific type of person. Like bmw drivers can’t be assumed to have above a certain wage. Like Jewish people don’t have a culture you can comment on. Like we don’t say the Eagles have the worst fans in the league. Exceptions prove the rule. Meaning if an excepti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 10:03 PM
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Ooh is this “all sex is rape” feminism?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:00 PM
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Okay? And? Do you have to be a hypergamous little bitch and get hot women as an ugly man?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:30 PM
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I have an amazing relationship with my father. My parents are married. My father taught me how to build a house from the ground up, he’s the reason I work in the trades now. My father is my best friend, the one I turned to when I had boy trouble, when I needed help, who had an honest opinion on clothes or makeup, and wouldn’t let me walk out looking crazy. He taught me real men can be bikers with a tattoo of satan on his chest, a naked lady on his arm, will beat anyone who dared to try to hurt m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:16 PM
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Sure it does. There are men who aren’t that attractive but someone loves them because they’re likable. Someone fucks them regularly because they are likable. If you’re not hot and you’re not likable - why would anyone date you? What would you offer someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:41 PM
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But either way, they’re still single. They are not in an official relationship. That’s single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:59 PM
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See and this is the disconnect. You don’t need those things for some women to find you attractive. But it appears you want every woman you want, to find you attractive, without being able to say no, or you want to have so many women like you that it doesn’t matter who says no. But that’s not reality. There is no cheat code to be Chad. You are or you aren’t. You have the capacity to become or you don’t. If you don’t, there are other ways to have connections with women. But the rampant jealousy ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:39 PM
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Nope, not just world. You know what dude on the tea app has? Good looks. Someone is going to be attracted to him regardless. That’s how good looks works. Not everyone has good looks. But You don’t need good looks to find people who like you and want to have sex with you. You do have to have positive qualities that are attractive. If you spend your whole life as an ugly, unlikable goblin; why would anyone want to date you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:21 PM
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But that’s apples to oranges. We need to look at a poor man and a poor woman - who is more likely to escape poverty of their own volition? You can’t say “well there are some rich black people doing much better than this poor white man!” Like yeah - those are two different intersections of oppression, you can’t compare them. But if we look at the obstacles in the way of a white man versus a black man, the black man will always have more obstacles. Same with a man and a woman. All else equal, a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:20 PM
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Talking isn’t having a crush? You aren’t dating or fucking or official. You can both ghost with no notice. That’s single. Same with having feels for Chad. I can love Chad all I want, if he doesn’t notice me - that’s a crush. That’s being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:09 PM
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Name your devil. You wanna play devils advocate? Name your devil. What exactly are you defending?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:05 PM
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Bi women would be considered queer. Queer is the umbrella term. And I don’t think there is any way to truly know because humans are messy, change their minds, are unwilling to date but then meet someone they love so much, or get divorced unexpectedly and never date again despite wanting to - being in a same sex relationship is more acceptable than ever before and will only continue to be more acceptable and bi men and women can date a man or a woman, poly people exist, asexual people exist - it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:53 PM
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Wow so having a crush means you aren’t single?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:47 PM
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Comments like these remind me exactly what women men here are chasing and exactly why they remain alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 03:21 AM
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No I just disagree with exploitation. You wanna go date another woman from another country - have at it. But it isn’t just any woman from any country they’re dating. It’s why the term “passport bro” exists in the first place. Because it describes the very specific phenomenon of exploiting a poor woman who has no other options with the promise of a green card and then being the worst. Taking her ID so she can’t escape you, isolating her from her support system, financial abuse, marital rape - all…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:45 AM
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No I don’t think they were arranged. I think women chose men very quickly because they had to in order to get out from under their husbands. When you can’t vet men and have to get married before you’re a 23 year old spinster, you make bad choices. And men don’t have any incentive not to do whatever they fuck they want when marital rape isn’t illegal, you know your wife and children won’t survive without you because they don’t make nearly the same wage you do, if they even do, so she can’t leave.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:41 AM
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Do you understand how chores worked before modern machines? Women didn’t “not work” because they had bridge club like in the 50s upper class ladies - doing the laundry was done by hand. Clothes were made by hand. Soap was made by hand. Food was grown, foraged and traded. Only half of Americans had electricity in 1925. Like I could go on but I think I’ve made my point. This delusion that women have always had the same benefits of the 40s-60s is wild. 20 years women didn’t have many rights, couldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:11 PM
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Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:44 PM
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Less than 40% if it’s your first marriage. Less than 20% if you’re over 30 when you get married. And the person who does the paperwork isn’t necessarily the person who caused the breakdown of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:38 PM
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Let’s not act like “not being able to afford child care” is the same as being a sugar baby… if you don’t make enough money to be a sugar daddy, maybe don’t comment about how all these women are in a sugar baby relationship. It’s embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:34 PM
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Well marital rape involved overpowering your wife and forcing her. Women aren’t as strong as men, so chains are probably how a woman would overpower a man. So it’s the same. And you’re right - most women wouldn’t do that. But many, many men think marital rape is totally okay because she “owes” you sexual gratification. Disgusting pigs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:29 PM
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Victim blaming /= accountability. What you said /= accountability. Hope that helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:48 PM
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Oh thank god marital rape isn’t a thing. So your wife can chain you to the bed and peg you until you squeal like a little piggy and that’s okay because you owe your wife sexual gratification?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:43 PM
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No. No. We tolerate it just fine. We just won’t date a man who doesn’t like us enough to one day escalate the relationship. It’s men who can’t handle when women don’t want the setup you want and we walk away - so you like to trick us into staying. To say “all men do x” is ignorant. No. Not all men operate this way. Many are marriage minded or honest about their intentions. You’re a liar. You try to trick and manipulate women. This is a you problem. But way to try blaming women for your shit beha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:40 PM
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Who is excusing every red flag? The women dumping them?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:34 AM
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No. Love exists. I can’t measure it. I can’t tell if someone truly loves someone more or less based on any actions they take. You can say yeah you can because they x but I can find a counter example of why they don’t because of x. Feelings and self identification aren’t hard and fast rules like that. Nope. I’ve definitely met hot men who ruined it by talking. I didn’t say it was only about looks or status. That what you took from what I said. Your clothes don’t dictate how attractive you are - w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:32 AM
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I’m not reading all of that. Yell at clouds.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:24 AM
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The hinge data had people rate the opposite sex and then see who messaged who. Men said more women were above average but still only messaged the top 20% of women. Women said fewer men were above average but had a more even distribution to the top 80% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:35 PM
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I think there is a difference between confidence and being social. You don’t have to be social to be confident. You obviously have the quiet confidence. You’re okay being closed off in a social situation and don’t try to force conversation because you’re confident in who you are and what you are there to accomplish. He’s throwing spaghetti at the wall, talking incessantly, and putting himself in situations no one wants him in. That isn’t confidence, It’s delusion. I agree confidence is nebulous …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:02 AM
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I have. And I get a few matches who don’t make any plans even when I ask them to and then ghost me and then I was on the app for months with the same “hey” comment to my initial introduction and pick up line, a short conversation and then they ghost. Stop thinking all women get the same experience as the top 10% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:58 AM
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So, you can always judge a woman for being less than any man under your theory. That’s super fucking convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:53 AM
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Oh so I shouldn’t date someone charismatic and charming? I should date someone dull and angry? wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:52 AM
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Yeah it’s crazy - it’s almost like love bombing and new relationship energy look almost identical without a shit test. Yeah, we do. It’s why we wait to sleep with people and then get told “If I was a chad you would have slept with me!” Are they different scenarios or was she trying to see the good in a dude she liked and then realized an asshole is an ass hole. Not spotting the ass hole isn’t the fault of the person who wasn’t the ass hole. “Held accountable” I didn’t realize being berated for d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:51 AM
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Aye because most women who aren’t psychologically scarred would love to hang out with a rapist! Is
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:45 AM
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What’s toxic about approaching? You can be toxic by not taking no for an answer, cornering her, expecting her to be polite when you’re the one who bothered her, or getting violent in response to rejection. But just approaching is fine. Approaching can be masculine coded - sure. But it isn’t “toxic masculinity.” I swear you guys hear anything negative to do with men and go “you hate men!” When the qualifier literally qualifies not all men, not all masculinity. Doing a masculine thing doesn’t make…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:18 PM
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So it’s all a moot point anyways, You aren’t going to ask to split the bill, you aren’t going to ask for sex, you just want something to be angry at because “women don’t put in effort” but you wouldn’t know that because you don’t go on dates with women. You’re more angry at a hypothetical outlier than you are about how the world actually works. Because if someone tells you “then don’t date that person” you claim that’s not the point. So you’re just angry those women exist somewhere, even if they…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:39 PM
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Ah another “I think the experience of the top 10% of women is the experience of all women” post. At least we can clearly see how hypergamous all the men here are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:29 PM
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I’m sorry but this is absolutely the most unaware take that I have ever read. “Just have a good date and if the conversation is shallow and he tries to have sex right away, he’s just looking to smash and if he asks you to change something without the sincerest of apologies, he’s an abuser! EASY!” Ahahaha Lmfaooo bro! You genuinely have no idea what it’s like to date men. This is the absolute bare minimum milquetoast “advice” in this thread. It’s almost as basic and useless as “if he strangles a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 06:15 AM
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Convenient
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 06:04 AM
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You mean whether a woman is receptive or not to your advances depends on whether she is attracted to you or not? What?! NO WAY!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:24 PM
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Women like what? With a more logical take than your emotional ass “she didn’t pick me so now i will throw a tantrum! Wah!” Lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:52 AM
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And sometimes you just end up with a good dude who’s charismatic. Should I only give men who trip over their words a chance because he “isn’t used to it?” Is getting dates a bad thing now? He’s desirable - of course he’s getting dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:25 AM
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Yeah because that’s the type of guys women are talking about when we discuss men who were ass holes. It’s always the jobless bum who showed his true colors right off the bat. He definitely didn’t have a sob story as to why he was unemployed. He definitely wasn’t charismatic and sweet and kind in the beginning. He definitely didn’t make her feel safe and seen before letting the mask slip. Because if we don’t date a dude because he has no job we have “too high of standards” and every woman wants a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:19 AM
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100% like I know unreasonable women exist. Of course they do. Just like super hygienic men exist. But it isn’t typical or the majority. Contributing to the household in a reasonable way to maintain a reasonable standard of cleanliness should be the norm. Unfortunately it’s not and this thread is living proof. “She wanted me to change the sheets once a week!” “She didn’t want me to sleep in my work clothes!” Like… uh, there is a problem here but I promise it’s not her expectations bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:37 PM
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Oh my goodness yes! I had an ex who bragged about how “equitable” our relationship was, how he lived alone and his apartment was “spotless.” Dude had literal gunk around his toilet. The dishes smelled like death, the water he “soaked” them in was viscous. Crumbs in the bed, the sheets gave me break outs, the carpet was loaded with dog hair. Like sure, he didn’t have clothes thrown about or any real “mess” to speak of (because he played video games and had zero other hobbies and ate out every mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:09 PM
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Then you can’t complain when there are women who would love to peg you and you turn them down. You’re single because you choose to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:44 AM
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Woof. Talk about telling on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:05 PM
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Sounds like you have too high of standards. There are plenty of women offering to peg you and you’re just greedy and only want a relationship with your looksmatch if it means you’re the penetrator instead of the penetrated. Why wouldn’t you accept sexual gratification the way she wants it? Why wouldn’t you let a woman pleasure you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:05 PM
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But you have the same desire for gay men as women have for anyone they’re not attracted to. Women just won’t sleep with someone because “doesn’t matter had sex.” We don’t have that. So the best comparison for “someone you’d turn down with sex, even if they were really nice” is gay men. You’re trying to equate not getting sex with who you deem your “looks match” to not having rights or personhood. The ability to vote, access to healthcare, jobs, education. They’re not even a little bit comparable…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:02 PM
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Newborn babies see the doctor 1 day post partum and again every couple weeks to ensure baby is gaining weight properly, has no health issues spring up, is on track with development, etc. 1-3 years it’s ever few months. Then toddlers 3+ have an annual. Dentist twice a year once teeth are in. And that if you have a perfectly healthy child with zero issues. It isn’t abnormal, but it’s also not abnormal to have a kid with allergies, struggles to gain weight, kidney problems, are a toe walker, asthma…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 06:05 PM
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Because you’re looking at sex (the reward for being so nice you’re seeking) from the position of the penetrator instead of the penetrated. If you want to be penetrated and have the same access a woman does, plenty would love to peg you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:52 AM
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I dont know what you’re talking about, there are plenty of women seeking to peg men. Go to fet life and make a profile and I can bet you’d get some action.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:47 AM
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So you’re trying to equate not being desired by a multitude of beautiful women on the same level as black people during the civil rights movement?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:46 AM
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Contrapoints discussed this five years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:21 PM
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No. A one off task does not even begin to “count” towards the daily workload. And I say that as someone who does all of those jobs in my home. Swapping a sink does not make up for a week of laundry, meal planning, grocery shopping, mental load of what is left in the house, appointments, dishes, cleaning the toilet, shower, sink, floors, stove, microwave - like they are useful and necessary - of course. But it’s not like we thank moms every time they wash the shit stains out of the toilet. Home r…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:51 AM
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Yeah and swingers fuck a bunch of other swingers. It doesn’t mean most marriages are swingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:00 PM
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I think you’ve fallen for disinformation friend. I can’t find that anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 08:16 PM
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Meh it’s been five years. 8 if you count when the lawsuit was filed. 5 from when Barnes died. If you can’t laugh now, when can you?!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:25 PM
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Go read yesterdays thread where men claim women are hybristophilliacs and all love to be abused. Red pill men are absolutely saying these things and it’s willful ignorance to say they aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:24 PM
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They are… like a lot of them. Even I - a slut, went five years without sex because I didn’t have a partner or many friends. I worked a lot and didn’t put myself in situations to meet people. I wasn’t looking for a relationship but I wouldn’t have been unhappy to find one. But yup - went celibate for five years. Most women are celibate while single. They date someone and when they break up, they don’t have sex until they are with a new boyfriend. Less than 14% of women had 3+ partners last year. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:19 PM
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I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:14 PM
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The entire folder… maybe the folder is cherry picked? Because going on the site and even being on the OG awdtsg Facebook groups - no. Lmaoo. No. They picked the most handsome men and their dating profile picture and the most busted verification photo of the women. It is not fair nor balanced. If you look at the collage posted here you would think every fatty with acne is fucking a dude with a six pack. Absolutely fucking not. Lmao. I can’t even explain how separated from reality that is. Those f…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:12 PM
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“Men are universally skilled” ahahhahahah oh my god that’s the funniest shit I’ve ever read. Men under 35 literally can’t change a tire. Based on your description. youre the one claiming they aren’t men because they aren’t “universally skilled.” Lmfaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:55 PM
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Stop believing that women are utilizing casual dates, short term flings, FWB, situationships or any other contact with men to be happy single. Women who are happy single don’t do those things and say they’re happy single. They say they’re happy casually dating. They say they’re happy to use men but not settle down. “Single women” are single. They’re not engaging with men in that way. If they try to date someone, it’s in earnest. Also - you can be happy single and also still want a relationship. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:44 PM
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You mean how men here find men more attractive then women? It just sounds like a lot of dudes in the bisexual/homosexual closet to me. No shade - I’ve known how beautiful women were since I knew men and women were different. I just do wish they’d recognize it and embrace their attraction towards men. The world would be a much better place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:53 PM
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I dont know I didn’t do it. I’ll up you tho to 1 again. I assume it’s the “man up” comment tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:08 AM
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What golf clubs were shut down? Boy Scouts brought on girls because they were going under and needed numbers. Shelters in Canada I can’t speak on. I just built a men’s shelter in my city last month. I put in for the grants and funding. My millwork company provided the materials for that portion. Our sister company did the framing and gypsum. And it’s a thriving shelter. But we had to zone it correctly because men’s shelters are shut down or denied their zoning because of how horrifically violent…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:07 AM
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what are you approaching me for? To get to know you. You looked handsome and nice and like someone I’d get along with? Also I never said women aren’t lustful or don’t want sex. I even said in my argument I don’t think that’s even a major reason. I have approached every man I’ve ever dated. I’ve fucked on the first date - often. I’m telling you the harm in approaching men as a woman when 1. You aren’t that type of girl (less than 14% of women had more than 3 partners last year.) no pedestal here …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:59 AM
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And what it does is fight for the right of women. That’s what they said.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:38 AM
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No thanks - I’d rather be single and sexless for the rest of my life than ever settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:35 AM
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Safe haven laws are only for newborns, and if the dad wants to come get the kid he can. And then mom owes child support. If mom gives custody of the kid to dad, she owes child support. If this kid goes into foster care, she owes child support. The only time a mother doesn’t owe child support is when someone willingly adopts the child and relieves her of child support. Most babies and young children are wanted by adoptive families - which is the only reason safe haven laws exist, because they’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:33 AM
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No no. Pussies take a beating. He’s being a dainty little ballsack.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:18 AM
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You keep dodging when people ask for specifics.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:15 AM
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Just finished expedition 33 - the most beautiful soundtrack and an amazing story with some really fun turn based mechanics. 10/10 HIGHLY recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:17 PM
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You’re also allowed to choose to be a drug addict but I wouldn’t encourage anyone to do that either. To be financially dependent on your spouse is terrible advice. Women have been told they can do more, be more, achieve more. Why the hell would we tell men? Why don’t you try less? That’s idiotic. Also, we do tell men to break out of their gender roles. They just don’t like it when we do. We’re “emasculating” them. They don’t need emotional intelligence or vulnerability because then women who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:58 PM
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You know you’re so right. We are. We are just the worst. And since we are, there is no use in trying to date us when a pocket pussy and some lube could fulfill everything you want out of a woman. So leave is alone. Go about your life and we’ll go about ours. No need to keep chasing, pining over or desiring someone so illogical and selfish. Easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:26 PM
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Oh yes they can
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:56 PM
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Why did you say airbag like it isn’t the second most predominant safety feature keeping you alive inside of a vehicle in the event of a cash. Most of the safety features in a vehicle are directly tied to the airbag. From steering wheel angle, speed of deployment, head rest, crumple zones, sensors, and so on. “In essence, airbags have evolved from simple front-impact protection to a comprehensive safety system with various types and deployment strategies, significantly impacting vehicle design an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:50 PM
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Because they were violent. They weren’t shut down because they just dudes doing dude shit. They were inciting violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:23 PM
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Yeah like men here have this fantasy that bad men look like a crack head from a movie - Sid from the Sex Pistols, Tommy Lee, lil Wayne, Chris brown. But the truth is bad men come in all shapes and sizes. I’ve dated men who were amazing but looked like they might hurt someone, but they never did. And I’ve dated men who put on a wonderful front - white collar worker, good salary, handsome, well spoken, but utterly abusive. Men want to believe this dichotomy exists so that they can blame women for …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:12 PM
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Yup. It isn’t “this woman rejected me because she doesn’t like me.” It’s “she rejected me because all women are hypergamous and have ridiculously high standards! She’s brainwashed by feminism to see me as a beta provider!” Every accusation of R/BP is a confession.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 02:16 AM
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“Special treatment” - the government asks for 30% participation from women and minorities on a government contract. And even that can be side stepped in nearly all cases. Shouldn’t be difficult for anyone hiring who applies. But a real struggle for someone purposely keeping women and minorities out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:38 AM
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You are mixing up the order of events. It got nuked because it was muddy, not the other way around. It was pretty horrific before the nuking. And those men who were already shot to begin with spread to influences who saw a niche and filled it. Many of the grifters weren’t that bad initially. But when they saw it made money, because it’s what young men wanted to hear, that’s where they could say any absurd thing they came to mind. Even if they didn’t believe it - it didn’t matter. Saying it is en…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:35 AM
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No. Normal people get married in their late twenties and early thirties after dating for two to four years. There is a reason age of first marriage is a predictor in the divorce rate. The older you are, the wealthier you are, for your first marriage, the higher the likelihood of staying married for life. Getting married 18-23 is a recipe for divorce, single motherhood and fucked up children. Meeting and marrying your husband after 31 yields happier marriages, more well adjusted children, fewer d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:19 AM
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That the one!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 11:23 PM
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This is the bigger issue. It’s not just that men will say yes to anyone whether they like her or not, it’s not just that we are labeled as easy, it’s not just social stigma. It’s that my asking him out has now been interpreted as sexual interest, whether that’s what I meant or not. And that perceived sexual interest can get dangerous really fast. He’s excited because he believes he is getting some tonight by a girl who is super into him - so into him in fact that she asked him out. So he’s excit…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 04:18 PM
2

My favorite box!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:01 PM
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I mean my partner on our first date let me ramble on for hours about nonsense - I was stressed at work and hadn’t spoken to another adult in weeks, I felt terrible but he sat, listened, had an amazing conversation with me and then at the end of all of that, I jumped his bones. I’m not the only woman in the world who is very into sweet, safe, considerate men. The safer I feel, the more likely he is to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:01 AM
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Hey man - I can see what you’re getting at. When you are actually vibing with a woman, when she is actually attracted to you, when she actually wants to engage with you in the dance of a mating ritual we call an approach (cold, warm or hot) then yes - pushing boundaries can be a part of said dance. The teasing, the touching but don’t touch me but actually this was an invitation to touch me more, the “no I couldn’t possibly” but actually she could and wants to: yes. I understand where you are com…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:45 AM
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Some guys end up being held in a kind of stasis where the women don't really invest in them as people, but enjoy the nonchallenging company and attention. WTF does this even mean? You mean they like being casual friends? And the middle ground between the two are women who try to have the first category, but don't really know how to relate to men and end up socializing with men under a lot of stipulations (most of which are unspoken) that leave the guys feeling like they have to wear a mask to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:18 AM
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Because they all think they’re a 5 going after a 7 - forever overvaluing themselves and under valuing women. In reality they’re a 2 going after an 8. You can have low self esteem, think you’re shit and still think you’re better than women. They’re all hypergamous. Every accusation is an admission.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:18 AM
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Ah yes - the old “men are mindless sex fiends and women all asexual harpies.” Gotta love that dichotomy. Stop being a misandrist and speak for yourself when you claim men think the way you do. Most men are not driven solely by their desire to fuck and offering commitment to any woman willing to give it to him for the fee of pseudo commitment in order to trick her into having more sex. Some men actually turn some women down, don’t fuck indiscriminately, and actually would love to have a happy and…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 01:41 PM
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But men know that. We know that men outnumber women on apps up to 4-1 and nearly 50% of the “women” are bots and/or SW. it’s why men here think so many women irl are SW. because every time they get a match, she’s a SW. (I’d argue why are you swiping on someone so beautiful that she would be a SW, probably need to know your league to get real swipes. But I digress.) but men know they’re a little fish in a big pond - but it’s easy. They don’t have to socialize. They don’t have to make and maintain…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 04:03 PM
3

I disagree. I think it should be split based on effort of occupation, free time and personal preference. And thinking the way you do, you’ll cry when the divorce “comes out of no where.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:44 PM
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I know, fuck absentee and deadbeat fathers. We should make it socially unacceptable to abandon your family when you chose the wrong woman to have offspring with. Men need more accountability for their actions. They get to disappear with less than 1/3 paying a dime of child support, and over half not fully paying what is owed to their child. When men disappear from their children’s lives they have a 50/50 shot at zero consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:28 PM
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The Nice Guytm of every woman’s dreams - the one who will “trade commitment for sexual access.” Wow, how romantic!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:14 PM
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Young men acted like that when I was a teenager too. It was also how my dad acted when he was dating. Every generation thinks their dating woes are so unique. They’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:13 PM
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I’m on a liberal area and even here where men pull more of their own weight, it’s either men and women both working full time, she does 60% to his 40% of childcare and household stuff but they consider it “equal” because it’s more equal than the other half of men who are useless stumps, abusive, or think their job begins and ends outside of the home. You have a 50/50 shot if you find a good man or not. And many of them didn’t stop doing chores and shit until after the baby was born. Like a light…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:09 PM
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Oof - didn’t deserve it but got it anyways. Stay mad I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:19 PM
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These men think women haven’t ever been turned down for the way we look. Talk about ugly women being invisible. They’re all chasing Stacy and can’t even admit it to themselves because “at least they’d pump and dump her!” WTF are these delusions of men?!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:24 PM
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Don’t we already have rich dudes paying for models to fly to Belize? Like, it’s already happening. And they’re people so rich and so beautiful, they aren’t even on our radar. This already exists and the 99% of us slaves are doing just fine. .1% rich and beautiful do just fine. It’s the .9% of incels that are worried about some apocalypse that just isn’t going to happen in any meaningful way. Money is too concentrated at the top. That’s like a few thousand men. Even if they all have 100 beautiful…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:59 AM
1

Yeah, most men didn’t message on the right hand side? That’s not what that says?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:41 AM
1

I’m sorry, you’re right - messages not swipes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:38 AM
1

Disagree. It depends on the profiles they see. If I only swipe on 10 profiles, but 5 yes, 5 no - I still have a 50% swipe rate but I quit when I felt like I had enough. Meanwhile a man swiping thousand can have a 1% rate but still have swiped hundreds of women. It’s relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:37 AM
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Yes, and I was countering that it didn’t matter because men only focused on talking to the top 20% of women while women swiped on men more realistically. Men are hypergamous by nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:36 AM
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if I want sex one day a month and he wants it daily, and I would become sex repulsed by having sex more often than that - that’s an incompatibility if I like rough, throw me against a wall, hold me tight, fuck me hard sex and he likes gentle kisses and slow build up - that’s incompatibility if I love head and he hates it or vice versa - that’s incompatibility if sex is always awkward, forced, and you never settle into a mutually pleasurable flow - that’s incompatibility if I always have to tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 02:55 AM
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Wouldn’t we be hairless monkeys?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:08 AM
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Oof 80% of men’s swipes went to the tops 20% of women. Women had a more evenly distributed swipe ratio. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:05 AM
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80% of men’s swipes on old went to the top 20% of women. Women rated 80% of men as “below average” but still had a more even distribution of swipes. Every accusation from a red pill man is an admission. The men here who claim they’re “average” are a two at best crying the sevens they chase don’t want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:02 AM
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I’ll get back to you with the source. And no- I said no matter what they look like men will try to cheat. Chad or Quasimodo - they’ll cheat if they’re a cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:22 PM
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Not on the level men do. And we have the data to back it up. Men cheat three times as often as women do. With single women. You don’t need two people cheating to make a cheater. Dudes try so bad to have their harem but now get called out on it. How did you get that conclusion from what I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:46 PM
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No it’s because dudes, no matter how ugly, will cheat and lie to get women. So women have to be like “hey, anyone else claiming this one?” You don’t see men with these groups because 1. Women don’t cheat and often and 2. Men dgaf.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 06:45 PM
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I already said why. Because oral sex has been a thing since ancient times. You can believe whatever you want, it doesn’t make you any less wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 06:33 PM
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“Women are selectors” Yeah when they’re all selecting the same women… Every accusation made by the red pill is a confession.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:53 PM
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Have you seen the dudes in “are we dating the same guy” groups? Lmfqooo - 9 times out of 10 we all wanna say “no, he’s all yours lucky gal!” As we roll our eyes. The other 1% is a mid ass dude who has low self esteem and cheats constantly. There aren’t chads in that group, and if there are, no one else there has ever dated him. I think you misunderstand what those groups are for… it’s to not be dating a dude who is dating someone else, not to find your harem mates lmaooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 03:27 PM
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Oh yes, a propaganda link, awesome source… You’re incredibly wrong. The book is wrong. Anyone can write a wrong book and publish it. It’s on you to have a touch of media literacy to parse wrong from correct information. This is a time you failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:08 PM
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Funny because I know enough poor people who wouldn’t save a penny but every dollar they earn is spent on smokes, new over sized tires for their truck, and other cheap trinkets. Mothers who would sooner purchase a few pills than a can of formula. And rich people who buy quality items that will last them, save for retirement, and donate time and money to charity. Being rich or poor doesn’t mean you are good or bad with money. Just if you have some or not. I’ve dated ugly men and handsome men. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 10:47 AM
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So you can feel certain feelings and choose partners a certain way, but when women go “hey yeah, that’s how we choose men too. Looks aren’t that important when you can choose any good looking man you want so other things become far more important” it’s all a lie because something something evolutionary phycology? Oh my, you are deluded.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:48 PM
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I mean I want my partner and I to make more money together because I want us both to have a better standard of living. We both make about $100k and honestly we are very comfortable. We’ll never drive lambos, I’ll never be a sahm, but we are incredibly happy. More money just means more experiences together. I don’t want to find someone else with more money, i want us to make more money together. I want to make enough so that he can quit his job and follow his dreams. I want us to not have to chec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:05 PM
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Oh you mean the way women date and get told we are lying liars who lie and settled? There is of course a lower limit to your hypothetical - a 1 will never be a 9. There is a looks threshold and the personality and compatibility of the person matter more than good looks. A good looking woman will always have options, but you didn’t settle for your six, you chose her. Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:11 AM
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Sex with a loving long term relationship is always greater than a one night stand and we all know it. It's not about being jealous that they can't get hookups. Men just know if the guy was open to LTR then the girl would have absolutely chosen the other guy not him. No. Absolutely no. I dropped many hookups specifically because they tried to escalate to LTR and that’s not what they were good for. I did end up marrying a FWB, but because we were actually compatible. Not because I needed to settle…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:13 PM
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Yeah same here. OP straight up described my ex and I fucking loved that human and still do. We didn’t work out but it had nothing to do with anything listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:15 AM
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I date him and use how our relationship is currently to make a decision. His past is his past and made him into the man I love today. My man had a slut phase, dated beautiful women, much more beautiful than me. He’s been hurt by bad girls and women who used him and hurt him. He spent money he didn’t have, went on tropical vacations, forgave them when they did something bad to him. But he doesn’t take those negative experiences out on me. He lived and he learned. Good. Our relationship is amazing…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:08 AM
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That’s not how that works. There is no dominant X chromosome, just dominant traits along the X chromosome. If you carry the majority of dominant traits, it is your X chromosome that is primarily used. They work together to make a person, one doesn’t just shut off because moms it’s fine. There are two X chromosomes. Each with the same genetic load as the other. Your moms X chromosome does not dictate your traits anymore than dads X chromosome does. It’s the sequence together that does. You’re woe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:51 PM
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You know the man only gives a Y chromosome if they have a boy? If you have a little girl, You gave an X chromosome…. You know that… right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:45 PM
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Great comment. I agree with you 100% but I do want to add I don’t think it’s the whole story. I think some women are truly Demi. I think some women are the type who do not have sex until in relationships. I don’t think most women engage in casual or kinky sex (as backed by numerous polls.) i know sexism and the pressure to not be seen that way plays a role in women’s sexuality. For sure. But I also think that women are more easily pressured into things they don’t actually like or enjoy while the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:00 AM
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Women who have casual sex, don’t wait to truly know someone before having sex with them. Whatever is hot to them is hot to them. No chad necessary. But those women are rare and few and far between. Most women want to know and trust someone and be either dating or exclusive before having sex. This constant over stating how many slutty women exist in the world because you know some guy who has sooo much sexy sex that you know about all of the sexy sex, is a lie. Slutty people fuck other slutty peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:04 AM
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What a self own lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 01:57 AM
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No I didn’t - thanks for the reminder tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:20 PM
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I told you in the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:20 PM
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I mean I drew conclusions from a random statistical data set. I just also included anecdotal evidence to further prove the point. Men struggling on dating apps isn’t normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:19 PM
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Imagine being told where a source is from and using another source that doesn’t even separate men and women…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:15 PM
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As long as it stays in your head of course no one will even know. But telling a woman you regularly jack off her to her Facebook profile picture is diabolical and disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:30 PM
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Approximately 75% of men who use dating apps report having entered into an exclusive relationship with someone they met through the app. This is slightly higher than the 66% of women who report the same, according to Statista. While success rates vary, a significant portion of users find long-term relationships through these platforms. Most men do just fine. Maybe the men here need a reality check that they are in fact not average and do not speak for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:29 PM
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You guys always say that’s how “most men” experience dating apps but my partner got lots of action on apps. So did my exes. So did the people I was poly with. So do my friends. So do my nephews. In fact only one friend truly struggles and he still gets matches, he just has standards that don’t fit his league. But he still gets conversations and matches. “Most men” is really overstating the issue. “Most men” do just fine on apps. I don’t find men’s sexuality disgusting. I find unwanted attention …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:13 PM
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What do I want from Marriage specifically? The legal, societal and practical benefits. There is no reason, religious or otherwise, that I wanted to sign that paper besides the 1200 laws codified into US law that protect myself and my partner if something were to happen to one of us. It was 100% about protecting each other in case of accident, injury or death. The party is fun, we spent like $10k feeding people and getting them drunk in the woods. My dress was $100. Our priest a friend. Very low …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:31 AM
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… because of medical intervention…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:08 AM
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Absolutely not. I’m not even a big fan of dating men, I hardly find any attractive, and I’ve dated mostly women. But my husband is it for me. I raised my standards to find him - previous partners in hindsight were a lower tier and awful to me. This man is truly a king. I took his truck to work today while he got my car inspected. No questions asked just - go, I got this. I will go home later and cook him dinner and give him a bj while he plays DnD. It’s a wonderful setup. He’s kind and loving an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:34 PM
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Why don’t you compare her to violent offenders that receive light sentences like Brock turner instead? Also - more women judges makes more fair sentencing. It’s men who are giving harsher sentences to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:37 PM
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And the mortality rate of mother was like one in 18 and your kids mortality rate was like 1 in 2. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:32 PM
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I have been fat and I have been thin and my type has always remained the same. Honestly it’s been age that has changed my perception the most - I realized I was hotter than I was giving myself credit for, even being fat, and I found my husband by raising my standards. When I dated men who were in hindsight a few levels beneath my own, I thought they were attractive and desired them and everything but they treated me horribly. Once I began playing in my league so to speak, I found men who valued …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:15 PM
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Yes that is absolutely the distinction here. If both work, you have a 2/3 shot at things being equal or a woman as breadwinner. Of course there are still conservative women, women who have never questioned gender roles, women staying home for a year to care for a newborn and detailing their career trajectory, all much more plausible than “women demand a man who makes more!!” Like are there those women? Yeah of course. Some even here on this sub. But is it typical for a dual income household? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:29 PM
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Awe yeah the woman reading between the lines of your post is the emotional one. Not the emotional diarrhea this load of bull shit is. “Women make me pay for dates and they still ghost me!” Boo hoo. Choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:44 AM
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Oh how boring. Yet another “if I pay for dates, that means women owe me sex.” Yes, we know how entitled men feel to women and our bodies. Thankfully most women aren’t dating you or anyone like you. We pay when we want to, we fuck who we want to, and we date who we want to. And there is no going back. The harder you try, the more you drive more women off and away. Women may have fallen for it in the past, but even the teens dating today and fucking and dating less because they refuse to settle fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 09:44 PM
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Yeah, it’s not because you’re making wild and baseless accusations that lead me to make this opinion of you… mine is a baseless assumption. lol. Seriously. Seek some other sort of outlet. Maybe writing a book would better suit you than whatever this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:25 PM
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What in the rage bait revenge fantasy? Bro I say this with all of the empathy I can muster - get Off of the internet. You have officially rotten your brain. You are stuck in the whirlpool and there is no way forward but down. If this is what you think of women, just go your own way. Why date people you think so poorly of? Just leave women alone. I’m sorry no one has ever loved you, but you don’t have to impose that on to everyone else. Women date who they want to date. They marry who they want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 04:01 AM
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But you said she didn’t say anything to you - she said it to her peers later. Gossip holds utility. You’re switching it up now by claiming she laughed at you. Does that happen to you often? That you’re laughed at when you try to approach women out of your league?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:42 AM
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That’s absolutely the case. I have dated plenty of men who aren’t attractive at all in hindsight but were the sexiest things on the planet to me because they were like a celebrity crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:35 AM
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If both people work - 1/3 are equal, 1/3 are women as breadwinners and 1/3 are men. Women take on the burden of childbirth and raising in the initial stages of life so there will always be some disparity there. Find a woman who also wants to work and you have a 2/3 chance of an equitable relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:09 PM
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Oh come on, it was a positive comment about his quote. Don’t be a buzzkill.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:38 PM
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Wow so because you don’t tell people, that means no men are hostile? And since women gossip, something with proven community utility, we are treated like children? What a wild assertion to make and a while opinion to hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:37 PM
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Oh god he’s my celebrity crush. Clifford could get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:46 AM
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No they don’t. See, outside of “one time she was rude!” Or worse “well she didn’t say anything to me but she told her friends I was a creep!” That men like to use as their examples - I actually have had men get violent with me after a rejection. I’ve been spit on, cornered, yelled at, threatened, they hope I get raped, I should kill myself. I mean, name calling is the norm, but something about calling someone a fat cow after you’ve tried to proposition her for sex and she turned you down is just…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:46 PM
1

And that is hostile?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:40 PM
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“Lying” instead of being hyperbolic. Sure Jan. And it is an ad hom if you aren’t attacking the argument but my word choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:31 AM
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I guess I mean what I consider weak would be an amoral assessment of one’s strength relative to other men’s. But that wouldn’t change their value in society or their worth as a person without the hierarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:29 AM
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That’s the point you focused on? The hyperbole of my comment because I’m a fat woman? You had no argument to make you feel special so you had to attack the words instead of the argument? That’s an ad hom. In case you didn’t know you don’t have to insult someone to use the ad hom logical fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:35 AM
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I’m not going to argue with a whataboutism from someone who wants to trick women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:26 AM
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Using some biological justification for the hierarchy doesn’t mean the hierarchy doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:24 AM
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The axis of capitalism is different from the axis of gender. It’s why when we discuss oppression we typically only look at one axis. A rich black woman is privileged by her income but disadvantaged by her gender and race. And when discussing “who is more privileged” with this rich black woman versus say a poor white man, we have to ask in what ways, and what axis are we discussing? I personally don’t believe in “weak men” because every man has his position of privilege over not-men but there is …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:24 AM
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I find him attractive The sex is good We are compatible - this includes compatible love language, thoughtful, caring, non violent, kind, emotionally intelligent, homebody, libido, interests, ambition, political affiliation, lifestyle, and life goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:33 PM
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Cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:25 PM
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My husband is your run of the mill 5’6” overweight average guytm and I absolutely lust after him. He does it for me. He tickles my pickle. He floats my goat. I don’t think many other women besides his past partners lusted after him, and none as much as I do. Because he’s my partner, he’s sexy, I don’t feel like his mom or caretaker, I feel supported and cared for, I feel seen and respected. He’s the best. I don’t think all women feel lust like that. I don’t think all men will be lusted after by …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:09 PM
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I disagree - it’s not that men don’t have issues or struggles exclusively because they’re men. It’s that they aren’t the oppressed class on the axis of gender. Meaning you may be harmed by patriarchy because you’re a man, but it is always because of your perceived proximity to femininity and women. Example - male mental health is not taken seriously because you need to be more manly and less like an emotional woman. There aren’t any examples I can think of that wouldn’t circle back to “be a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:23 PM
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That wasn’t the standard. She used a turn of phrase. You’re the one who zeroed in on “well within her rights” to strawman weasel your argument of “well then I don’t have to feel bad for tricking women into sleeping with me!” You’ve used it more than once in this thread. So I think the issue isn’t that women are mean, it’s that they’re saying no to you at all. Because you want the potential to trick them into sleeping with you like the lying little scuzz bucket someone, who would lie and manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:45 AM
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Yeah you all keep saying that but I’ve yet to hear many outside of “well one time!” Like it’s not the norm. Can some women be cruel? Oh most definitely. Is it more than a snarky remark 99% of the time? Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:42 AM
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Period and ovulation are two different things. Knowing the date of per period - totally believe you. Date of her ovulation? Nope. No way to know if she’s actually ovulating on day 14 or not. Could be day 7 could be day 21, you’d have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:40 AM
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You don’t lift a fallen soldier, you drag them. 2. Armed combat is especially rare in the modern age 3. I’ve had women 1/4 my size drag me or push me around. Just because you want to think your man muscles are special doesn’t mean they actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:39 AM
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“Hint” She smiled when she said no? The monster!!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:20 AM
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Yes because telling someone “no” and leaving them alone is exactly the same as tricking someone into doing a sex act for you… totally the same thing… /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:19 AM
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Yeah, what have these 95% of women said to you personally that was so mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:18 AM
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Just because an issue is an expectation brought forth by the patriarchy doesn’t mean it’s that specific man’s fault it’s happening nor does it mean it isn’t an issue. Almost all men specific issues are related to the patriarchy - putting men in a position of power on the basis of gender alone in order to subjugate women or a byproduct of the subjugation of women. Everything from mental health care being considered “girly” or “feminine” because “boys don’t cry” to you can’t be raped as a man beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:09 AM
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There is no way to track her ovulation without an OPK. And I doubt you’re having her pee on a stick every day. If you’re using the calendar method and guessing 14 days to ovulation - it’s just that; a guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:32 AM
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Meh - failure rate of 4% but a typical rate for cream pie is 20% before 30. Pretty effective. Not outside of monogamy of course but in a relationship where you aren’t preventing but aren’t trying - it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:28 AM
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I make all of my partners get STI testing before raw dawging it. I was also on birth control, live in a state with protected abortion access and I am privileged enough to be able to get an abortion if hormonal birth control failed. It never did. (Implant. Highly recommend.) People with multiple partners are better about condom use and have fewer STIs because we know we are fucking other people. People who believe they’re monogamous and get “caught up in the moment” and cheat don’t come prepared.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:24 AM
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Why would I need a scrawny person to pick me up? And I thought we were talking military, not the fire department? When does the military have to lift people? And we “still have a military” but it would be drastically reduced according to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:40 PM
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And what do you think OP did? Waited three months and never got any and assumed they were together?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:39 PM
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The solution to this topic is simple: ⁠Only give voting rights to people who enlist. ⁠Maintain enlistment standards at the highest physical level (a male standard - sorry ladies war is indifferent to your weakness). ⁠Most will not enlist (men or women), most will not pass standards (men or women), and most women in particular will doubly neither enlist nor pass standards. Problem solved. So then we have no military, and we get crushed by other countries. Great plan. You really thought this one t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 02:03 PM
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I disagree that is obsolete. I think it means more because people are choosing who they want to marry instead of choosing someone for survival. Let’s not act like marriage rates are at 10%. They’ve been fairly steady at around 50% of adults and the divorce rate is going down. Marriage still affords a ton of benefits you can’t get otherwise. It’s why gay people fought so hard for equal marriage rights. Over 1200 laws are codified into US law. It’s still a useful tool especially without a livable …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:53 PM
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Because he could have just as easily three months in have said “we never talked about it, I’m not looking for anything serious, it’s not my fault you cut everyone else off.” So you don’t assume anything until you have defined the relationship. Like an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:47 PM
1

You sure? They’re great.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:36 PM
1

What do you mean by absolute?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:35 PM
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You don’t have to discuss “every little thing.” But the monogamy talk is one you shouldn’t assume. Why would you? Like what indication do you have that you are monogamous without confirmation? Once you’re in a monogamous relationship- okay there are a lot of assumptions that can be made. But also - you’re an adult. Verbalize your expectations because everyone has a different idea about what monogamy even is. I can think flirting with other people is totally fine as long as you don’t do anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:22 PM
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Why are you doing it when it’s 100 degrees outside? Wait for it to cool down in the evening… or did you never think of that? Oh, also hi - wife here who does all of those chores. I’d prefer the outdoor chores to indoor ones any day. I also don’t know any women who leave all of the outdoor chores to the husband either. They’re usually out there also doing chores like planting the garden, pulling weeds, laying mulch. On top of all of the indoor tasks that he thinks he gets to sit out of for a week…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:05 PM
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Yeah… I do those outside chores - inside chores are harder. I get to enjoy my time outside, do it when I decide it needs to be done, and it’s so infrequent that it hardy accounts for a half days worth of inside chores, even if the hours are the same. You can tell the men here are slobs because they have no idea how to deep clean and think mowing the lawn, cleaning the gutters and laying mulch is the harder task. “Dangerous outside tasks.” Lmfaooo bro - if you’re putting your life on the line wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:59 PM
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Then leave them alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:54 PM
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Oh maybe I’m in blue haired feminist country and we uh… we don’t choose for looks first and foremost. But no… a couple are handsome but you look at them and think “that’s a fuckboy, GL GF.” And others, just… no. I’ll come back and add pictures!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 09:24 PM
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That means they just walk away from their kids? You can’t sit here and tell me that you think that all or even the majority of single moms are just alienating the other parent. There are no deadbeats, they are kept from their kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:22 PM
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Absolutely fucking not. Are you in those groups? Because I am. Because some friends are regularly in them and I’m nosey. But let me tell you the caliper of men in those groups. They ask “are we dating the same guy” and I wanna say “nah, no one else wanted that one. I think you’re safe.” It takes all types apparently. But don’t for a second think many let alone the majority of those men are handsome or desirable. Just shitty dudes doing shady shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 06:55 PM
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Why not? That means fewer people getting married out of anything other than a desire to be together. That’s a good thing. Less people being picked or choosing because they have to and the people who are chosen are chosen for being what each other wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 06:43 PM
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Using “hehe” or “teehee” to mimic and mock women is the cringiest shit I have ever seen in my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:56 PM
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Because it is a risk factor. And calling it out should incite “yes, I know this can be problematic and I, as the older person, am doing everything in my power to make sure that I am not exploiting this inherit power dynamic in my favor, thank you for your concern.” Not “nOoOoO iTs fInE aGe iS nOtHiNg BuT a NuMbEr! HoW dArE yOu aSsUmE!” Like if you can’t even see the potential for harm, you’re not remaining aware enough to minimize harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:40 PM
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Awe thank you. I’m sure most of the men here would consider me a masculine land whale - but my partner and I are very happy. He doesn’t do the toxic masculinity thing and is more than happy to let me lead where I have the experience and I let him lead when he does. If there was ever a legit 50/50 relationship, I’d say we did pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:36 PM
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Yes. Correct. The standard isn’t unreasonable because not choosing is also a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 02:53 PM
2

Yes. That’s exactly what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 02:51 PM
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I love consent because I value autonomy and no one can read my mind. But it can’t be this constant insecurity of “are you having a good time, do you like this, are you mad at me?” I personally speak up so I don’t need someone to check-in in that way. My partner has always known how to read me and knows I’m uncomfortable before I do. But he initially asked if he could kiss me, if I was okay as he unbuttoned my pants, we discussed preferences in sex and boundaries before we had sex. So I think rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 02:42 AM
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I was gunna ask the same thing. “I’m sorry officer, I know she’s 14 but she pursued me and you see, women are the selectors so I can’t be blamed for taking what I can get!” 🤢🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 05:08 AM
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Yes, holy shit, it’s not some conspiracy. It’s not like women got together to keep the now giga chads (the incels turn into when they turn 35) away from the beautiful young women they so rightly deserve. We are just trying to make it socially unacceptable to groom literal children or take advantage of naivety and inexperience. The power imbalance is the issue. I have a friend who is in a true 11 year age gap relationship. And we gave him shit initially because - he’s a bit of a Peter Pan. But ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:48 AM
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Oh dude…. No. That’s not how a vagina works… You need to stop watching gaping porn, it’s rotting your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:47 PM
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More than 1% but less than 5%. It’s really rare. And I was a huge slut. I could get anyone to open up about their sexual history and I’ve spoken to thousands of people at this point. I even did sw and sex education for a while. From my own anecdotal experience it’s closer to 2%. And that’s size queen like would enjoy a penis over 8” all the way to fisting. So not just “my man have an above average penis” but true size queen. There are more women who won’t have sex with a too large of a penis (cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:38 PM
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I have never had a man pay for everything. It’s always been split, or one off. The only time they paid for everything or I did was when one of us made significantly more than the other. When I met my now husband, he made 1/4 of what I did, lived with his parents, didn’t own a vehicle and our first date was a movie at my place and I would treat him regularly. Now we work the same job at two different companies and he makes like 15% more than I do. We are moderately well off, dink lifestyle. I do …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 11:23 PM
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Absolutely fucking not. Oral sex, including cunnilingus, was practiced in ancient societies like Egypt and some parts of the Middle East. In ancient Egypt, it was even incorporated into religious practices and art.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 12:33 PM
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I’m chock full of useless information, so anytime!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 10:04 PM
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The point of that dancing is, yeah, to sport a half chub through most of it. It’s not the type of dancing most people do, but when done right it’s a great way to gauge chemistry. Typically it’s men approaching women, not women just slamming back on some dude so that’s weird, but it’s pretty normal where I come from to dance that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:41 PM
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I was just trying to be nice, you don’t gotta be so mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:29 AM
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Oh damn. That’s a wild delusion bro. Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 12:15 AM
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You forgot the /s at the end of your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 10:26 PM
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I mean I personally don’t love abusive relationships, but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:04 PM
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It’s really not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:03 PM
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Being single is always a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:02 PM
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I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again. Being the penetrated is very different from being the penetrator. If you envision enjoying sex the way you do now as a penetrator - you have to be considering it as the person being penetrated by someone physically stronger than you. Let’s take pregnancy out of it. Even if it’s by a woman you find attractive, she is physically stronger than you in this scenario. Are you sure she’s going to make sure you’re warmed up for anal play? If it hurts, will she st…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:02 PM
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No - we choose neither. Aside from specific trad relationships - there is a reason most women here are talking about exes and not current partners. We’d rather just be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:55 PM
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We aren’t discussing someone who “keeps their room clean” though. We could be discussing a man who has brought a date home and she walks in to see how he lives. Is she happy with the level of cleanliness and willing to spend the night, or is it deplorable and she’s so grossed out she makes an excuse and leaves? Or more so we are discussing a man already in a relationship who pulls his weight in regards to cleaning and that takes down the barrier of resentment, no time, or no energy from getting …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:17 PM
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I dont know… my man was dating 3 women when we first got together and his n count was 30. Totally normal, average, every day dude. I mean he’s 5’6”, 220# and was making maybe $40k and living with his parents. That’s probably even “below average” by some metrics. When we got together we were just dating. No exclusivity talks or anything. I was also dating other men. But we fell in love. We dropped the other people because we found we were compatible. He is the most incredible human I have ever me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 04:06 PM
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Nope - same men in the thread speaking out of both sides of their mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 06:38 PM
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It’s ironic here it’s #notallmen when it’s privilege and violence but it’s #yesallmen when it’s who built the world and who struggles more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 09:48 PM
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Do you understand, show support and show compassion for all women though? You claim only women get this “unconditional love”, but I love my friends unconditionally too, and they’re men… You need to rethink your views. I’m not the one who thinks women get this super special and secret unconditional love and men are left out in the cold, always, every woman is unconditionally loved, or only women can be unconditionally loved because you love your abusive ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:39 PM
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Because everyone has conditions for their love. And you can’t tell me you love her the same way you’d love your wife or child? I love my friends too - and have never asked them for anything besides coming over to have a beer and play video games with me when they’re free. My love for them is still conditional. Conditions being they aren’t abusive, don’t use me, don’t steal from me, etc. those are conditions to love. No one is loved unconditionally. To believe anyone is loved unconditionally is d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:28 PM
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… you think one powerful women means that the 50s weren’t repressive towards women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 06:35 PM
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Women don’t dislike being asked to verify paternity. ONS, relationships that are fairly new, all pretty normal to ask for a paternity test. And if you aren’t married and need benefits or child support, the court will order one anyways. What women don’t like is trying for a baby with their husband and being surprised with a “hey I don’t trust the baby we just actively tried for is mine, and I need you to prove you aren’t a cheating, lying, whore. Okay?” There are very few situations a man who fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:26 PM
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So your conditions were she be sober, not sleep with other people, deal with her mental health struggles in a healthier way in order for you to be with her romantically? Yeah that’s normal dog, but still conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:30 AM
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If you don’t sign the birth certificate and the mother says you’re the father, the court can enforce a dna test. You are presumed the father because mom says so. If you go to the court and mom says “no he isn’t the father” congrats it’s not your kid. If you’re married, you’re assumed to be the father without signing the certificate. You can sue anyone for anything in the us whether it’s real or not. It doesn’t mean it will stick or go to court. You keep saying “but she could sue!” She could do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:31 AM
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Feminism is not aligned on sex work at all. It isn’t “feminist” or “not feminist” when you can ask two feminists and get two wildly different answers through a feminist lens. I’m pro sex work and sex worker. I understand the harm exploitation causes and hope to root it out by using ethical sex work as a starting point. I have similar views on addiction and hard drugs - I believe in getting your d.o.c. prescribed and monitored. For lots of reasons I won’t get into here. But another feminist could…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:30 AM
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Oh god no. Even going down on me is like borderline. I have to pretend there is no spit. I hate spit. I have had so many guys try to do this to me and I make them wash their hands. I have lube, or i dont know, turn me on first. I’m not in a rush and if he is (and we aren’t an established couple where this would be a normal thing to have quickie sex) then I just won’t have sex. I know everyone is different and if it works for you or even better, turns you on, I will never yuck your yum. But for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:01 AM
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Vaginal fluid doesn’t just come from arousal. It can also come from avoiding trauma to the tissue. So a woman can be fearful, victimized, or forced and still be wet. Typically being dry for intercourse with a partner comes from not being turned on enough but obviously not at avoiding physical trauma stage. This can be from being anxious, but not likely. Fear is a better word than anxiety I think. But I think mostly for women It’s typically from the oven not being warm enough yet. Women are all d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:54 AM
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Like 95% of men get married at least once in their life. Most date just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:10 AM
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“I’ve tried nothing and I’m all out of ideas!” This is why I can’t take sexless men seriously. They think there is some magic trick or get rich quick scheme to dating or they crash out. Like… yeah working on yourself takes time. Go figure. The time is going to pass anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:02 AM
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I live in the us. That’s my point of reference. Whether other countries do or do not have a rape culture (I’m sure some do and some don’t) is entirely off topic. Your assertion that “it’s everywhere, so that means it doesn’t exist!” Is a stupid take and I won’t dignify it with a rebuttal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 08:11 PM
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When we still tell little boys they’re lucky when their teacher assaults them, when 1/5 women have been a victim of an assault or attempted assault, when women are bullied out of jobs for sexual harassment, when rapes jokes are still acceptable, we live in a rape culture. The flipside of your argument, just because a few notable people were held accountable doesn’t mean a majority are. A tiny minority ever even sees jail time. Even convicted you can get time served. We treat rape like theft more…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:47 PM
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Bro, a rape conviction doesn’t ruin the perpetrators life, accusations aren’t doing diddly. There are like 4 relatively well known cases where someone who jailed on an accusation and exonerated and I have all the empathy in the world for those men. But to act like an accusation is anything more than a mild inconvenience is really overstating the harm here. “Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women's bodies, and the glamorization of sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 05:40 PM
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The red pill is little more than generalizing “all women” by the experiences and actions of the most attractive and slutty women, and generalized “all men” as the ugliest and shittiest men. It’s all half truths for a very specific type of woman and a very specific type of man in order to justify hating women and shirking responsibility for men. Nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:05 PM
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Challenging societal norms and stereotypes, advocating for legal and policy change, promoting equal access to education, medical care and job opportunities, and addressing them with an intersectional lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:11 AM
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I dont know where you got 80% from, thats not true. Thats from the “80/20 rule” which isn’t real life in the slightest. It’s just what women said percent of men who were “above average.” Not “who would I date.” And maybe women see 80% of dudes but it’s not all the same dudes for each woman. Like tinder has an algorithm that places you in leagues and shows you to others within those leagues. You aren’t just hidden. Apps suck because almost no women are on them. You screaming into a sausage and bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 08:50 PM
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You commented at me first, lol. It’s an anonymous forum why would I care how weird I look? Calm down. You’re very emotional right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:46 PM
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lol then why did you comment coming at me when my comment was a response to theirs? Someone is very very angry. Maybe you should stop being so histerical and calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:45 PM
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Server can’t be found.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 06:22 PM
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I’m sorry, my migraines are sensitive to smells, if they vape I don’t have to smell it. Or it even smells nice. Why is that an lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 06:20 PM
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Feminism is a socio-political movement and ideology that advocates for the equality of the sexes, believing that women face unequal treatment in society due to their gender. It aims to address and dismantle systemic inequalities and discrimination against women, ensuring all genders have equal rights, opportunities, and treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 06:16 PM
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I think you’re a liar trying to prove a point and get emotional when you get called out for it. And this advice: The main reason I "love" mainstream, blue-pilled advice is because it's circular. Just clean yourself up, deal with your mental issues, become more stable, and well if that doesn't work then, uh... you aren't entitled to anything! People don't have to get together with you. People can sense the bitterness bro, stop complaining like this and get to work! Then you try the original advic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 05:53 PM
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I disagree. I think height has very little bearing on how attractive a man is. I don’t look at men and think “wow he’s so handsome, it’s a shame he’s 5’7” like that’s just ridiculous to me. I know some women feel that way. But I don’t know anyone personally who does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 05:50 PM
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I have never seen a woman tell a man to kill himself because he’s short. You’re making shit up. And short men get dates. Lots of them actually. I married a man 2” shorter than me. So what is the correlation of “I’m a victim of being called names” and “you’re the only person in control of how dateable you are?” Also - are the things you listed bad advice? Will women stop liking someone they’re into because they start doing them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:40 AM
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You commented on my comment. If you can’t handle nuance, that’s a you issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:19 PM
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And I’m arguing that the women who encourage men to open up aren’t the ones who get the ick. I’m sure there are some, but we aren’t discussing outliers. As a whole I think women who would tell a man to “man up” or breaking up with them for being vulnerable aren’t exactly putting on airs about how he is safe to be vulnerable. Even the comment sections of “when did a woman prove you shouldn’t be vulnerable” it’s always comments of men who don’t even know if that’s the reason she broke up with him,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:17 PM
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Why did you think trauma dumping was bad? You think it isn’t a toxic thing? It’s okay to trauma dump on people? No matter who they are, what headspace they’re in, just feel free? Entitlement. That’s what we call that. If you have built trust, it’s trauma dumping if you are doing it without any respect for their boundaries. If they have encouraged you to open up, and especially in that moment (and not just when you’re trying to avoid accountability) then she would be in the wrong. But youre deman…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:32 PM
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Actually yes - there have been times in history those were desirable in some fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:30 PM
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Gene redistribution. There are signifiers of health, but that only does so much in the modern age. It’s why two ugly people can still fall in love, have a baby and the baby comes out pretty. Sexually desirable traits change by the decade. In Victorian times it was a huge forehead. Thirty years ago it was heroin chic. Like, what humans find pretty isn’t static nor set in stone. You can think you’re setting up your big burly masculine male child for success, and then in ten years femme boys are al…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:10 PM
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No they don’t. They just have the wrong combination. And their gene expression in another person with one tweak could create something entirely different. Genes don’t work the way you think they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:03 PM
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Traits are genes expressed. Right. But again, that random generator decides if that gene is on or off or expressed at all. Your article says IQ is 57-80% heritable. A crap shoot even in identical twins. But again, you can get the 20-43% of genes that do not pass on their good iq. Height is 80%+ heritable but height is not solely determined by parents, the height of parents can be a good indicator of a child's potential height. Nutrition, access to healthcare, and overall environmental conditions…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:48 PM
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What exactly are you a victim of? And is any of that bad advice? Will any of it deter a woman who is already into you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:34 PM
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It’s as close to random as we have in a list of choices. The human genome has 19,000- 24,000 genes. Each pair of parents can have 8,388,608 genetically different children, which is a lot less combination than some lotteries. Add to that, Genetic mutations aren’t rare at all actually. 1/5 pregnancies don’t come to fruition because of them. Just because it isn’t Down’s syndrome, cystic fibrosis, sickle cell disease, Huntington's disease, or Turner syndrome, doesn’t mean every human doesn’t have ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:29 PM
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Heritable but not guaranteed. Again - random generator. Things may not line up. Especially since recessive genes, codominant, random mutations, environmental factors and her egg being formed in her grandmothers womb being affected by grandmothers decisions, her mothers decisions and her own decisions exist. Genetics are no more straightforward than a random character generator.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:19 PM
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The prettiest kids I know came from to fugliest parents. The ones from pretty parents are a crap shoot. Genetics don’t really work like pretty mom, pretty dad, pretty baby. It’s more like random face generator from a preset list from both parents, but the combinations might not look nice together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:12 PM
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• ⁠they say it because it’s true. • ⁠no. You don’t get to be toxic just because you “don’t have another outlet.” Find friends or pay a therapist. Or actually built trust with someone. It’s not women’s job to help strange men. What a weird entitlement. “But I have no money and you have so much money, don’t you think you should just give me your money since I don’t have any? No, not a charity, you specifically. You personally with the money, give it to me. I have no other way to get it!” • ⁠I agre…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:37 PM
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No im just not doing free labor for some dude who isn’t actually interested in learning. I gave you my answers, you’re now outside of the scope of the debate. Youre dying to find bad intent where there is none. Maybe because it’s what you would like to do given enough power over someone. That’s sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:32 PM
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No no - not just don’t support it - use it as a catch all for women who don’t want them, disagree with them or criticize them as if it’s some sort of insult. I think pretty succinctly capture why men here use “fEmInIsT” as their insult insult in opposition to everything. They use it to mean women, to society, to popular narrative all the way to anything they disagree with or don’t understand. It’s telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:20 AM
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If you want to dig into feminist theory, there are books you can read. I gave you spark notes. Nuance comes with education. I recommend bell hooks “feminism is for everybody.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:17 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:11 AM
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Creators can flag accounts as underage, and do regularly. I haven’t ever heard of these poor boys, but if you have proof, I’d be happy to see it. If you think feminists want to hurt men, you misunderstand much more than just feminism. Have the day you deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:09 AM
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Why would I find that empowering? Why are there minors on of? Whose money are they using? Do you have proof of this widespread problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:03 AM
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That’s sort of the point. Feminism is about everyone having the freedom to do what they feel is best, right? So if it’s empowering for a porn start to work for an agency with male superiors, great. If they don’t and prefer solo work, great. If they are being exploited and need help, I’m here. If they want to not do sex work, great. It’s not for me to dictate or decide. It’s for me to support.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:59 AM
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I strongly disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:55 AM
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Is working for a boss exploitation? Is there any ethical consumption under capitalism?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:49 AM
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The contradiction that non feminists still enjoy pop music? Inconsistent for who? Nope. It’s weird to trauma dump no matter your gender. Men just do it more often because they have fewer outlets. Sure - but that doesn’t negate what I said. I support the women who find their sexualization empowering. It’s not my place to tell others what they personally find empowering. That’s the point. I didn’t call it misogyny. And also, nothing you’ve said is contradictory. I’ve just explained the nuance to y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:48 AM
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To be clear, feminists heavily criticized Katy Perry for her music video. The women who want emotions (me) aren’t the women who get the ick from them. There is a huge difference between expressing emotions with someone you have built trust with, and are in the headspace to sit with you in the hurt; and trauma dumping someone who doesn’t want to hear it, doesn’t have the capacity to hear it or doesn’t know you well enough/the trust hasn’t been built up enough for that level of vulnerability; and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 04:35 AM
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What hypocrisy exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 07:57 PM
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Marriage is about protecting the child through marital assets, things you can’t get without being married, like death benefits. It isn’t about abandonment, it’s about your death or disability first and foremost, plus making decisions in the event your pregnant wife becomes incapacitated during a significant life altering medical event. Do you want to make the decisions for her or her dad who hasn’t spoken to her in 3 years and doesn’t know her wishes? Or her mom who is actively going against her…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 06:26 PM
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Yeah it is… you know it’s well understood, right? “At 45, the human brain still possesses a significant amount of plasticity, meaning it can adapt and change its structure and function in response to experience and learning. While neuroplasticity might be less pronounced than in youth, it remains a crucial factor in lifelong learning and adaptation.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:33 PM
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I think it’s easier to influenced by others when you’re little, but as an adult, you get to do it. It isn’t forced on you so it seems harder but it isn’t. Not until you’re like 60, and even then change can still happen. Saying it’s easier is very different from “you can’t change after 20.” Of course you can. Addicts leave drugs behind, cheaters get married and never cheat again, angry and violent people go to programs and learn to keep their temper in check. I’m sure you can learn how to fake be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:19 PM
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Sure, I have not wanted to sleep with men because they’re a loser. But not wanting to sleep with them doesn’t mean I think they’re a loser. Some losers = sexually unappealing /= sexually unappealing = loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:07 PM
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No. It just means I don’t want to sleep with them. They might be perfect for everyone else on the planet, but not for me. That doesn’t mean I think they’re a loser. wtf? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:06 PM
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It wasn’t for my husband. He had an above average sexual history when we met. There is preference and there is won’t ever date and sure I’m sure lots of women have the preference of a 6’7” behemoth. But that’s not reality. In reality we fall in love with people, not their height.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:05 PM
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Ooh I actually disagree segregating by gender for adolescent health. Children become adults. They both need to know where babies come from, what consent it, how a period works, where sperm forms, and all the rest. I can’t imagine a single reason to segregate other than “the parents said so” and some weird religion thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:20 PM
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Not wanting to sleep with someone doesn’t mean I think they’re a loser. What a weird way to see the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:40 PM
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They’re both losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:39 PM
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You’re not short. That’s my husbands height. I’m taller than him. Your height is holding you back from some women, sure. But it’s far from all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:39 PM
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That’s not even a little bit true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:35 PM
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I mean, my friends in their 30s who are still single are having a blast. But most met the woman they’re going to marry, have kids with, bought a house with, whatever, recently. All of them met their spouses at 29+ minimum. Many much later. The first round of divorces was in our mid 20s. I’m sure a second round is coming but marriages have a better chance of lasting the later you get married for the first time. The only man who is struggling is the one who thinks he’s more attractive than he is, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 11:53 PM
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Actually feminists are regularly discussing positive masculinity or healthy masculinity. We actually regularly encourage it. We use qualifiers for a reason. Contrapoints made a video years ago about men’s need for positive masculine role models. But in her words, we can’t mom you out of this one. Men have to be the ones to create the movement of what positive masculinity is and what being a man means to them. I can tell you the traits that hurt you and the world around you, they’re toxic. But I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:29 AM
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I was 175 at 5’7” and ridiculed relentlessly and called fat quite often through high school and college. I have an “hour glass” shape and had dates show up, who saw full body pictures, and call me names and walk off. Yeah, a good 50% of men think “real women” are hyper thin and will make sure you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:04 AM
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⁠Would you date a woman who is a different race from your own? - yes and have 2. ⁠Would you date a woman who is a different religion from your own? - no, agnostic or atheist only 3. ⁠Would you date a woman who smokes? - vape only 4. ⁠Would you date a woman who goes to church every Sunday? - no 5. ⁠Would you date a woman who is asexual? - no 6. ⁠Would you date a woman who lives 1000 miles away from you? - no 7. ⁠Would you date a woman who is an alcoholic? - no 8. ⁠Would you date a woman who does …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:00 AM
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No - Marijuana No - Christain No - no exercise No - anti gay marriage No - abortion Depends on the porn and our sex life - porn No - 1000 miles No - gang Maybe, depends on if it’s performative or legitimate - feminist Yes, I married him (I’m 5’7”) - 5’5” No - police Yes - no mj Yes - quiet No - drunk No - never kissed Yes - 20+ n count Maybe, depending on his hygiene and how messy he is - messy room Yes - farmer No - 5 years younger No - prison Yes, I am. - autistic No - sex offender I dont know…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:12 PM
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You new to math?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:07 PM
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1/5 women are raped or have been a victim of attempted rape. Most of us have met a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:01 PM
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… a rapper? Is he going to spit some sick beats on this pussy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:58 PM
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You just wrote .1% with a lot of zeros in the ones place…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:55 PM
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Yeah, I can tell you’re swimming in it, Joshy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:53 PM
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Do you think “vet” means “by others?”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:46 PM
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You are masculine. And you do not do the toxic masculinity activity of picking fights. Good. You can be masculine and not engage in toxic masculinity. That’s the point. Again - don’t feign ignorance like you don’t know damn well that fighting is seen as a masculine traits. That’s why toxic masculinity is a different thing from masculinity. Like the difference between eating and having an eating disorder. You have to eat either way. But one is healthy and the other is toxic. They’re both eating. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:35 PM
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Because it’s a trait stereotypically associated with masculinity. Fighting physically is seen as a masculine trait and can still be represented in “masculine sports” like boxing and mma, “men punch each other and squash it while women hold grudges” and viewing women who fist fight as masculine. On top of that, men are typically using getting into physical altercations to represent and demonstrate their masculinity. Men who feel insecure will pick fights with other men to assert dominance. My tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:23 PM
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This is a misunderstanding of what toxic masculinity is. Not all masculinity is toxic. It isn’t just men who engage in toxic masculinity or upholding it, and not all men engage in toxic masculinity all of the time. You can be masculine without toxic masculinity. Example: you can uphold strong boundaries (masculine) without constantly trying to pick fights with people (toxic.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:12 PM
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Red pill - understanding dating dynamics that may be innate or socialized, but either way, leveraging them to your benefit. Feminist - equality of choice for all genders. Where is the mismatch?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:05 PM
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My husband calls me low maintenance bougie. I like nice things. The items I buy are purposeful, long lasting, high quality items I will use for a lifetime, or as long as possible. I don’t do fast fashion. So when I buy a purse, I don’t get 10 $15 purses from Walmart that will last me 3 months each - $150 for 30 months of use; I purchase one $600 leather mid tier luxury handbag that doubles as my briefcase at work, that is timeless and will last the next 30 years. My engagement ring was expensive…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:09 PM
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I don’t know any SAHM with a maid lmfao. Just a lot of people living paycheck to paycheck because daycare is more expensive than what mom makes at a job. And where in the world does this sub think all men are doing “back breaking labor?” “The Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 39.1% of the civilian workforce in the United States performs physically demanding jobs that require lifting, carrying, pushing/pulling, kneeling, stooping, crawling, and climbing activities in varied environmental c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:42 PM
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Maybe when women had/have Nannie’s, house cleaners, chauffeurs, cooks and groceries delivered. Women who exist in a trad relationship absolutely do not have time to “chill with other neighbors wives and talk shit.” Like i dont know what 1950s housewife stereotypes you’re thinking of but i know SAHM, they don’t have time to take a shit alone much less gossip with the neighbors.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:20 PM
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Yes - huge difference between being the penetrator versus being the penetrated. If men are so jealous of women, they could easily find men to be a bottom to. Close your eyes and just let it happen, it’s what they expect women to do with men they aren’t attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:06 PM
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I promise if women were leeches, we could breadcrumb some simp to offer me all of the material resources I could ever want while fucking Chad. Simps have low standards and are desperate to please. But most women don’t do that because they actually care for their partners, the people they choose to spend every day with. If that’s not your experience, choose better or go your own way. Having this mindset about women leads me to believe you’re the type of guy who complains about loneliness and how …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:41 PM
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It’s so funny that at least 50% of women here tell you that they are happy with paying for their own meal or offered regularly for the man and you tell us we are special snowflake unicorns or just straight up lying. But when 50% of women tell you the reason why they expect a man to pay for the first date, even if it has nothing to do with resource acquisition, you take it as gospel and a validation for your own bias against women. If you think women only want you for your sweet $60k a year, don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 01:14 PM
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Good. I want them to leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 10:08 PM
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I don’t put on makeup when I go to the store for men, I do it because I want to feel pretty. I don’t put on makeup at 9pm on a Tuesday just to wash it off and go to bed for men. That’s a hobby I have. It’s fun to change my face a bit. Plus no woman is wearing “all that makeup” for men. Most men say they hate it. If we wore makeup for men, it would be the minimal fresh face makeup guys say is “no makeup.” It’s still a lot of makeup, just catered to men. When I wear sweats and a t shirt, I’m not d…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:29 PM
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Yes they are. Do you think that’s the feminists fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:14 PM
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Can you show me these feminist groups calling you a misogynist?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:14 PM
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We do. I have already pointed out that we do. It’s not the top of the list when we are discussing what’s happening in the country right now, but to believe there aren’t any feminists out here with boots on the ground, you’d be sadly mistaken and it is your own bias keeping you from seeing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:14 PM
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No. That’s not even a little bit true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:10 PM
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Great - you need to get men on board. Most women defer to their male partners and family members. Most women’s opinion is “I don’t have a penis so I don’t know.” You need to get men who want to keep it legal on your side. Stop fighting with women. Women will even vote the way their husband does just to align with him. Men aren’t swayed by women. Men hold more structural power - otherwise this wouldn’t be a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:09 PM
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Why not blame the men who want to keep it legal?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:06 PM
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Sure - but in order for the movement to succeed, men have to spearhead. And they aren’t. They want to keep it. I will not circumcise my son. And I regularly advocate for it to be illegal. But I can’t force men to not circumcise when it isn’t illegal. There is only so much women can do to sway men. You know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:06 PM
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Then start a community who calls with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:04 PM
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“A lot” is doing a lot of heavy lifting here, huh…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:02 PM
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Buddy - you aren’t saying anything I haven’t personally to said to others. I agree with you. My argument isn’t that it should exist. My argument is that you have to get other men on board, women defer to their male partners and family members. Also they didn’t include boys because men fought against it. Equality doesn’t work if the person you’re fighting for fights against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:58 PM
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And have you called your local and state politicians?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:56 PM
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Because most women have this “I was a child” story. Like, when will you realize that men have been dangerous to women, and us being wary isn’t some misandrist creed - yall are dangerous. And then claim we are complicit in our own abuse as if the “1%” we were responsible for isn’t that we learned that men can do bad shit. We took responsibility. We learn and do better. And then men find some new sneaky way to trick and coerce. Any time a woman says “hey your take is bad because there are so many …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:40 PM
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Hey, feminist here. MGM is wrong. What have you done to outlaw it? Because I personally have done several things, as have a lot of feminists. But we get pushback from men who want it done to their babies. Maybe look at your own group before claiming “no feminist has ever said that it should be outlawed!” We don’t have have dicks. It would be like women expecting men to be the driving force behind pain management for IUD insertion. Are you starting a political movement for me? Are you going to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:32 PM
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I agree they’re both disgusting. But if you want MGM to be outlawed, that’s on men. Women collectively decided we didn’t want it. So we advocated against it. You know who the largest demographic pushing for their babies to “look like them?” It isn’t women. They defer to their husbands. This is a man’s issue women can get behind, I’ve signed petitions, called my politicians, talked with family and passed out pamphlets at the local hospital - what have you done? Driving is a privilege, not a right…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:28 PM
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That has not been my experience but maybe I am not the target demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:01 AM
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I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:00 AM
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Where does protective paternalism or traditional masculine archetypes make someone not a good guy in the moral sense? Someone having jjjjuuuuussssstttt enough in my interpretation would mean on a scale of 1-10 they max out at a 2. Protective enough to be worried about your wellbeing but not so protective he’s jealous and controlling. Masculine enough to fix things, change a tire and hold strong boundaries but not so masculine he’s toxic; trying to fight people, repress his emotions, control, wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 08:41 PM
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I promise I’m no special unicorn. Normal women love normal men. We all have different preferences and expectations in a relationship. I truly believe most people think it’s worse than it is. I don’t know any of these insta baddie tik tok women and I have a huge social circle of men and women, all partnered (except for one man with ridiculous expectations but hell if I don’t support his right to have them.) and none of them are anything like men here complain about. To be fair I’m in a more liber…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:44 PM
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I didn’t feel any way about it honestly. He was self sufficient and that’s all I cared about. I grew up poor so I don’t need much, and typically am very frugal or can get by with much less than typical I guess. My big splurge has been my engagement ring - that was saved up for together, and good food that I cook. I like high quality ingredients and lots of fresh fruits and veggies. I don’t need a vacation to Hawaii once a year, we go to a local state park for $300 and I have no problem paying it…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:17 PM
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Absolutely agree with this. I’m looking for a partner. Not a dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:28 PM
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When I started dating my husband he lived with his parents. His mom is amazing and I’m so lucky she is my MIL, I’d move her in tomorrow if she asked. So we had a lot of freedom. Physical activities weren’t a problem. Also I had my own place (my own car, he didn’t, and I made 4x what he did) so it didn’t bother me because I always had an alternative. He was saving up to buy a house and I respected that. If he had an overbearing parent or he couldn’t make it to my house I may have felt differently…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:24 PM
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I need you to tell me what you think your number is. 1-10
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:32 PM
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I couldn’t imagine why you would be lonely! You mean you aren’t beating women off with a stick with viewpoints like this? Color me surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:23 PM
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Why is infrastructure your metric?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:34 PM
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Most of the time, female friends come to you with their emotional problems. And it’s not just venting, they expect you to listen, understand, and often fix things for them emotionally. You end up playing the role of a therapist, not a true equal in the friendship. Can you give me a few examples of what exactly men are supposed to fix for women emotionally? What was the expectation here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:24 PM
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I’m a woman who has been on 4 dates in my entire life. Why do men think only they have it hard? Because I can get someone to penetrate me? So can you. Is that really what you’re looking for? No. Stop thinking “beautiful women” = “all women” and rp men would be all set.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:57 AM
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Has it made you more successful in dating though? Or has it made you angry at a caricature of women that doesn’t exist in most women, further driving a wedge between you and the women you so desperately wish to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:38 AM
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The clarity and consistency: I have experienced this behavior with x gender. It makes me wary of them. I know not all of them do that, but it was enough for me to keep my guard up. X gender is not a monolith and I cannot ascribe y trait to every person in x gender. I will not say people without y trait are rare and special unicorns. I will not say people without y trait are awful terrible people who deserve their rights taken away. I will adjust my own behavior accordingly based on my personal e…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:28 AM
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💯percent correct
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:31 PM
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I have 24 nieces and nephews (I’m the youngest of 10) and every single young man above 13 is in a relationship. There are only 2 girls and one is still too young and the other is focused on school, sports and work. She’s beautiful and could have anyone she wanted, but she’s choosing to be single until she finishes college at 22. The boys range from unfortunate to basketball Chad in newly adult form. Not one struggles to find a girlfriend. To be fair none are 1-2 butt ugly, and all have wonderful…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:27 PM
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You do not get to claim the valor without claiming the rape and the murder. Pick one. Is it #yesallmen or #notallmen because you don’t get both. Also I said men and women cannot survive without each other. That’s a given. I mean specifically the world still turns without this particular valor stealing misogynistic soggy sandwich of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 06:55 PM
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lol what question? Also maybe it’s time to log off if my lived experience of men being treated better and telling you about it makes me a misandrist. Could you write a single statement that was misandrist from my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 04:02 AM
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This stolen valor shit is for the birds. “Men” may have done things, but you have not. And often things created, done and accomplished were by women with a man slapping his name on it simply because he could. Let’s not get it twisted, “men” aren’t doing anything without women. And vice versa. You don’t do shit without women. But women could certainly get by without you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 03:51 AM
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Is this some sort of gotcha about women who date men who aren’t there typical type but end up marrying a man they love and are attracted to because they got to know him and fell in love with him, and falling in love with someone increases how attracted you are to them? Is it also a one for one when women end up putting in all the same effort they have with any other dude but won’t submit to duty sex they don’t want to have because their libido isn’t as high as the man their withs? Because very f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 03:22 AM
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How does being a filthy slut prevent someone from being an equal partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 09:21 PM
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Exactly. When they say “all women” they very specifically mean “thin, white or maybe light skinned, conventionally attractive based on white western beauty standards, under 5’6”, under 135#, clear skin, and able bodied” and they miss the “and also acts like the caricature of women I made up in my head.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 05:35 PM
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I’m sorry - what are women jealous of exactly? The men women didn’t want anyways living his life without bothering me? Why would that make me jealous? I purposely don’t do things I enjoy because undesirable men will bother me incessantly. It isn’t an ego boost. It doesn’t feel good. No woman wants it. If he doesn’t hit points 1, 2 or 3 - he is free to jerk it to his AI GF all day long. Literally not a single woman in the world cares. It’s AI. No one is being exploited or harmed. No one wanted yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:48 PM
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Age gaps are nuanced. “Anything over 5 years” is a shit a reductionist take. Sure 18 and 23 I might side eye. He might already have a large power dynamic against her. But 5 years generally isn’t bad at all. The old half your age plus 7 was a good rule of thumb. But honestly any woman over 25 has had enough experience to make her own decisions. People can be worried for her, I wouldn’t ever bad mouth someone telling her to be careful with men too much older, not would I someone telling you to wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:36 PM
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That’s a kink thing. Using the term “breed” is not how any normal person would speak. That is specific speak within kink communities. Do not for a moment believe that is normal for women, for single women, for well paid single women, or for anyone other than the very tiny .001% minority of women who engage in that specific type of kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 10:01 PM
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He didn’t. Girls paid for his drugs. I know you won’t believe me but it doesn’t make it any less true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:13 PM
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You think the “I can fix him” trope is about getting him to quit his hobbies?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:47 PM
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I know a too skinny white boy who is 5’4”, ugly mug, has no job, no car, no house, has lots of women friends and has an n count in the thousands. He eventually settled down with one woman though. And that’s real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 12:14 AM
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That’s really shitty of them to do to you. I can’t imagine why anyone would be so rude. But also - the way you wrote it makes me feel like maybe it’s a type of woman I am not and don’t regularly associate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 12:08 AM
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Opposite in what ways? Genuine curiosity and not goading you into an argument. I’m the opposite, I much prefer a man like me but I’d say most red pill men would consider me very masculine. But I like that about me and like that same balance of masculine and feminine in my partners - if not on the more feminine side in certain areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 12:05 AM
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… or maybe you just hate women? If no matter what you do, no matter who you befriend if hang out with, your only option is to hate women because they don’t want to fuck you, maybe, just maybe, you just hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:45 PM
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Well that’s where you’d be wrong. I love strip clubs. I’m pro sex work. I’m very okay with my man going to strip clubs and getting dances. I love watching him flirt and enjoy himself. But I don’t tolerate lying or cheating. So for me, outside of abuse and an incurable STI, I don’t have many reasons not to date a man based on his past. I vet the man in front of me. But I take his patterns and actions while initially dating into consideration to vet. As men should. If I don’t like that he goes out…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:04 PM
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It’s not the same thing. Having a standard or boundary is for what you do. “I do not date women who go to clubs as a hobby because I think they’re always trying to cheat on me.” That’s a boundary - an insecure one, but a boundary just the same. “My girlfriend isn’t allowed to go clubbing because she might cheat on me” after you’ve already been dating and you try to fight her to stop her from going is controlling and insecure. Just like a woman saying “I don’t date men who go to strip clubs becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:04 PM
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No no - it was already clarified for you. We don’t date people who do the things we don’t agree with. We don’t start dating them knowing this is something they enjoy and then try to change them. It’s okay if that person isn’t for you. But when you start dating someone who has those hobbies and then fight, coerce, or manipulate into changing, that’s when it’s an insecurity or manipulation issue. See the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:00 PM
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No no - it was already clarified for you. We don’t date people who do the things we don’t agree with. We don’t start dating them knowing this is something they enjoy and then try to change them. It’s okay if that person isn’t for you. But when you start dating someone who has those hobbies and then fight, coerce, or manipulate into changing, that’s when it’s an insecurity or manipulation issue. See the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:00 PM
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Do you find dancing with your friends is the same as getting your dick grinded on by a woman whom you paid money to turn you on?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:50 PM
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He is free to do that all he wants. The boundary is that I am no longer dating him. I don’t try to argue and change him. I don’t try to coerce him into stopping. He stops because he agrees to the boundary or he doesn’t. If he doesn’t, I leave. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:47 PM
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I feel terrible because I love him so much. He’s an amazing man, a wonderful father, an amazing husband, like really turned his entire life around and he has such a specific medical issue that I’m sure if he ever saw this he would be hurt. But This is him. again - great dude, and the funniest, nicest, coolest dude you ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:40 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:23 PM
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I grew up in liberal ass northern NY. We are closer to Canadians than Americans and yes. From the time I was 7 and first told to “suck my tummy in because boys don’t like chubby girls” to the women cooking in the kitchen during Thanksgiving while the men watch football, even though I really enjoy football and would love to be watching it, to who minds the loose children, the older girls will always be yelled at for not watching for the kids, to makeup and diet tips to make men appreciate your bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:19 PM
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My preference is women having actual o’s. So mostly solo stuff. I try to find ethically made, and stuff that pays the model directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:33 PM
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Amen feetgrass!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:19 PM
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How many men in real life, either friends or family, (who are celibate) do you believe think this way? Enough that there is this handy dandy list online.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:41 AM
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You think all women get everything they wish for? All of them? Not one woman would be turned down or left involuntarily celibate?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:33 AM
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Nope - NY, but it’s so common is laughable that any man here can argue that men “love more” or whatever. More like “use women as the help that can’t leave” more or “why would they divorce the person who does 90% of the labor in the household if not more?” More. Short of no sex ever and cheating - men don’t file - unless they have someone else lined up. They need the maid, cook, fuck toy, child minder, chauffeur, personal assistant and household manager too much!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:43 AM
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Nope, even without that stuff I do find women more beautiful on average. I’m a woman, I see women without those things because I spend the night with women, I’m in women’s spaces where they don’t need to wear those things, etc. I think women smell nicer, they’re soft and pretty and all boobs are good boobs. There is no matching thing in a man. Also men can do lots to improve their looks. Makeup comes off at the end of the night. Hair extensions just provide length and a bit of volume but don’t r…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:40 AM
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Not harsh at all - 100% how it is and should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:33 PM
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Yup - and unfortunately many of these marriages survive this awful stage, so divorce doesn’t even tell the whole story. My MIL is the most amazing human I have ever met. Works as a full time nurse, raised her three children, is an active grandparent, like epitome of good woman. I don’t have a bad thing to say about her and neither does my partner. When her husband, my FIL, got sick and nearly died of sepsis, she changed the putrid bandages, she made his food, I mean she always cooked and still d…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:27 PM
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I mean I think men are objectively uglier than women, but I like men and women. Men have to be special to be handsome, women are just sort of inherently pretty. They have to have something wrong to be ugly. I think that translates to hetero dating as well. I think virgin women have very high standards and are the type who marry later in life a douche because he lovebombed her initially. I think the combination of lack of experience and the reasons why lead to maybe a more naive or clingy girlfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:53 AM
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The most promiscuous man I ever met was a 5’3” heroin addict who had his internal organs flipped on the opposite sides, smoked like a chimney, coughed like he had cancer, and had the ugliest mug I’d ever seen. But he’s probably in the four digit range of women. Because dude was funny and confident af. I’ll post a picture if I have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:42 PM
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The most promiscuous man I ever met was a 5’3” heroin addict who had his internal organs flipped on the opposite sides, smoked like a chimney, coughed like he had cancer, and had the ugliest mug I’d ever seen. But he’s probably in the four digit range of women. Because dude was funny and confident af. I’ll post a picture if I have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:42 PM
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“A lot” is doing a lot of heavy lifting here. You claimed so many of these young progressive women had an “embarrassing” history before reaching driving age - but the average age to lose your virginity is 17-22 depending on where you live. More than half the girls in your school were still virgins, but you focused on the sluts and you yourself ignored the sweet girls who wanted to settle down. Don’t make this out to be a “I moved to a progressive place so they were all sluts anyways!” No dude - …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:34 PM
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If you think for a second that a slut has higher standards than a virgin, you’re sorely mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:25 PM
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Power of attorney, beneficiary, living will, will, inheritance, healthcare proxy, 401k distribution, are all standard with marriage, but can be protected with a few hours with a lawyer and filing them with the state. Thousands of dollars and hours of time. Things you can’t get without marriage are social security, tax deductions, fmla, family health insurance guaranteed by law, no gift tax, tax free transfer of property, a higher Ira contribution, workman’s comp and death benefits, va or disabil…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:48 PM
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He’s either a millionaire and wasn’t before marriage. Or is lying. Those are the options here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:33 PM
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Marriage certificate and prenup is way cheaper than all of the paperwork you would need to file to even begin to cover what marriage does. And even then, You’d be missing out on some, and your children would as well. Marriage is a net positive if you choose properly and use appropriate safeguards.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:31 PM
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The justice system is more gender neutral when there are more women as judges. Interesting, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:28 PM
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If you had explosive diarrhea for an entire week, once a month, every month, mood swings, pain, cramps, migraine, headache, nausea, could you get through it? Probably. Would you prefer not to? Of course. And now imagine that diarrhea is worse for you than it is for other men. Some men have it worse, some not so bad. And say women walked up to men and told them “well some men do just fine with their weekly diarrhea, why can’t you handle it? Some people come into work with the flu.” Would that mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:19 PM
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Wow, how long did it take you to come up with that zinger? Did you read the comment or did you just decide to reply without reading the “we should test on everyone” thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:22 PM
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Plenty, when they aren’t pregnant. And what do you mean about daycare costs and salary? And yes - the system of discounting women as an equal part of society would in fact be misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:21 PM
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What does this have to do with what I said? Do you understand why the thalidomide scandal was a scandal in the first place and not just an unfortunate pill that causes birth defects, say like for Isotretinoin, which also causes severe birth defects?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:04 PM
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The one named after Trump.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:51 PM
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Yeah why don’t we just test on the general population then, you know, instead of providing one a benefit or drawback over the other? It’s misogyny because of the reasons why they do something for men instead of women, and the real world harm it enacts on women, simply because they’re women. If you don’t believe in the rigorously studied and identified issues within our society just because it hurts your feelings - that’s confirmation bias. It’s like saying black people aren’t oppressed because s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:43 PM
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Isn’t it like 1/5 men cheat in their marriage? And like 1/10 women? According to self report studies anyways. Even if all of the women are lying, some men gotta be lying too, so minimum 1/5 men cheat in marriage, and that’s not just dating where the standards are far lower to cheat because you have less responsibility to the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:10 PM
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I would care because he’s my son. And I’d give him very similar advice to the advice I’d give here, just more tailored because I actually know him. Why would I care about a stranger and their inability to be desirable enough? Like in what world is that anyone’s problem other than his own and maybe the people who love him? Do you care if I get married? Don’t you want to see your daughter in a relationship? As if those are the same thing? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:05 PM
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cafe gym park library mall church community garden stoops skate park book club bingo pickleball dancing clubs vfw volunteering dog park community center boys and girls club skating rink ice cream/soda shop museum That’s just a quick google search and the top of my head. Yes, pre 1980s I’d say men had the third spaces and women stayed home, even if they both worked, like the vfw, Shriners, yacht club, country club, golf club, which were primarily men only spaces but even leaving out those sorts o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:57 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:37 PM
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So then your comment is pointless and just working other people up. Every guy who gets a girlfriend who is red pill thinks his girlfriend is a special snowflake who isn’t like those other women but most women are normal. You found a normal woman. If all these women are special snowflakes, that would lead me to think maybe they’re not as rare as you think, because one chose you, if they were so rare and wonderful, why would they have picked you? Do you also think you’re a special snowflake man? O…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:36 PM
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They climb the walls to tell us they’re more horny and only as loyal as their options but the moment it’s a moral question - who cheats more - all of a sudden, women cheat just as often! Which isn’t even a little true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:33 PM
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You think that men in a relationship are the same regularity as women cheating on their husbands with chads?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:48 AM
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I’m marrying a nice guy who isn’t a Nice Guytm Yall just aren’t as nice as you think you are, are shooting out of your league, or have nothing going for you to make someone even attracted to your personality aside from “nice” (until they tell you no) or some combination of all three.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:14 AM
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Oh god! The dehumanization! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:06 AM
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… you’re married?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:55 AM
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All of the data I’ve found shows men cheating at twice the rate of women. What data did you use? Genuine curiosity, not some weird whatever. Like legit asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:56 PM
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Oh I was translating for you - respond to the comment OP to continue the conversation. I don’t agree nor disagree, just translating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:09 AM
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Do you not see how you just said women saying “I don’t care about a guy getting sex or not” to you saying “men shouldn’t care if women are raped and murdered or not because she won’t have sex with me. “ Like that doesn’t strike you are two wildly different things? One asking for the zero effort “leave me alone” versus asking someone to not rape and murder me. Are those on the same level to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:01 AM
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They said “if someone supports abuse, and, gives the abuser a wife who has no way out of the marriage, they themselves are as bad as the abuser and do not deserve to procreate.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:54 AM
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Most of the men here would gladly lick my boots - even if they try to claim otherwise. Men like to be dominated as much as women do, they just aren’t allowed to express it as often.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 06:40 PM
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I didn’t downvote you. I haven’t even checked this comment yet. You said feminists would call this assault if the genders were reversed. I’m correcting you that feminists believe it’s assault as it is. So I’m not sure what your distinction is pointing out. Most people believe continuing to touch someone in a sexual manner after they’ve told you to stop, is sexual assault. Where do you see feminists claiming otherwise? Or are you doing the “all women = feminists” thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 06:37 PM
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Feminist here - it is sexual assault with the genders as is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:00 PM
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There is always other women. And again - I conceded the first approach and paying for the first date. But outside of that? No. If she isn’t reciprocating your effort, she isn’t interested and you should find someone who is. There are 4.4 billion women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:44 PM
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If that’s how you’re experiencing dating, I think you need to date different women…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:40 PM
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Yeah but that’s what I mean, she’s meeting you half way, she’s putting in reciprocal effort. You may have lit the match but she’s adding fuel to the fire right next to you, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:13 PM
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You think women are doing nothing during that time? I could accept maybe that women don’t have to do anything for approaching, and maybe up to planning and paying for a first date. But once on a date? Does she sit there scrolling on her phone and you continue to pursue her? Also if a woman isn’t keeping in touch, I don’t think she’s interested. Answering you isn’t engaging. Least of all with one word answers. What does validating mean? Do women not talk on these dates, say nice things? Asking fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:10 PM
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Do RP men think women break up with men 99% of the time or something? I know women initiate more divorces, but I don’t think that necessarily translates down to dating. I think women do the paperwork more often, but I don’t think that means they are the reason the marriage failed. If a man is slowly soft rejecting someone, and the woman finally leaves, did she “break up” with him? No. A man who puts in no effort has told her that he doesn’t want to be with her anymore. It would be like him ghost…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 02:43 PM
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More results he can’t touch, in a cell, in a prison. Isn’t one woman on the outside worth every woman on the outside while you’re stuck inside?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:37 PM
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Where were the feminists who “doubled down” instead of distancing themselves from the mentally unwell minority? You showed me more unwell minority and trolls - none that are even self identified as feminists. Woman doesn’t equal feminist. Wade Wilson should rot in prison. 4000 women out of the 4,400,000,000 women who exist, .0001% of women, is definitely a small minority. I do not distance myself from women who have views different than my own, but I will denounce that incels are worse than a mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:29 PM
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And you’d see men do it more often and quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:35 AM
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Yeah them are great odds. And ruinous? That’s hyperbolic. Most people are fine after divorce, Especially men. Why else would so many get married again so quickly?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:17 AM
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Well yeah because they want to be mommy’s special boy. They were promised it. They want, nay, demand a beautiful, thin, young virgin who forgoes all social decorum of chastity and purity in order to fall deeply, irrevocably in passionate sexy love with him. She should have never had an impure thought in her life but the moment she sees him, it’s like her life has begun and she wants nothing more than to jump his bones. And she does. She doesn’t give him any “shit tests” to “prove himself” or any…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:56 AM
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We fought against the nazis because Japan bombed us. We stayed out of the war until we were attacked. And Nazis targeted Jews, LGBTQ and disabled people. They stripped rights from women, but that’s not exactly what we remember nazis for, nor the reason we fought. Not even a little bit. And who are these rich people? A group of rich women sending men off to die? And what, women don’t work? Single moms outnumber single dads 10-1. If anyone knows about sacrifice for their family, it’s women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:38 AM
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Does anyone think these things happening to men by women isn’t vile? Aside from weird men high fiving children for their abuse. Is it that men, and by extension, society, protect women by considering these things vile - or, maybe, it is vile period, but we consider men doing them as worse because men do it more often and do more harm when they do? How is the majority of bad things being perpetrated by men a benefit to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:31 AM
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60% of first marriages last a lifetime. Those are great odds actually. And there are ways to increase your odds. I’d take that bet in Vegas any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:03 PM
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No. Fuck that. You don’t need anyone to understand or agree to fight for your rights. Do you think the men here are super empathetic of the feminists in the sub and their plight? No. Absolutely not. They literally use feminist as an insult. Will that stop women from fighting for the rights and social recognition they deserve? Absolutely not. And it shouldn’t stop you either. That’s the cowards way out. “It was hard so I quit.” Pussy up dude - you take a beating and you keep coming back for more.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:16 PM
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So empathy is all your after? Someone to validate your feelings? Sorry, I’m after actual systemic change. I actually do things in my community to better the lives of the men around me. I don’t just ask “but what about men?!” Every time a woman brings up her issues. Do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:23 PM
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The newer one has fewer single people, how is that more bleak?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:05 PM
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Chad doesn’t have to settle for anyone other than Stacy. Why would Stacy chase Chad any less frequently than Becky? Use your own logic. If women Chad chase, why wouldn’t Stacy? Why wouldn’t Chad have any Stacy at his disposal? Also men also get in relationships. I don’t know any handsome men who were single for long, and most are marrying the women they met in their 20s. Half already have kids. Chad has a higher sex drive but he absolutely does not reduce his standards just because he’s horny. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:04 PM
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200? The 80s were full of bush!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 08:26 PM
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“WhAt AbOuT mEn?!” What about them, sweaty? What have you done in your community to help men? You show me yours and I’ll show you mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 12:54 PM
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A man of nuance is so refreshing to hear. Great points made!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:07 PM
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Oh no another “I’ll fuck anything until something better comes along. I’ll even date her and use her for her labor/sex/financial contributions until I decide nothing better is coming and then I guess I’ll settle and marry her, but never let her forget I settled for her! Or I’ll just monkey branch when someone better comes along. And if women don’t also do that, but never ask anything of me, but give me all of the sex, she’s a bitch with too high of standards!” Post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:47 AM
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Genuinely - this is what I’ve seen. Men like to under value women but over value themselves. (Not all men, I’m talking specifically incels and the adjacent mess) They call some of the most beautiful women “mid” and no, I’m not talking about Margo Robbie, like irl men rating women very low, but then liking to call themselves a 5 or 6 (back in my childhood we called it “every guy swears he’s a 7) but he’s probably closer to a 2 or 3. Most 5s I know do quite well, or at least well enough to not be …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:25 PM
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Maybe you misjudge your league. If they’re getting Chad in their dms, they’re Stacy. Why would Chad settle for mid when he can easily get Stacy? Like why downgrade if premium is an option?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:05 PM
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60% of first marriages last a lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:03 PM
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Well, I should tell me fiancé, who is shorter than me, was making $40k, 1/3 of what I was making, living in his parents house, with no car; that I left a life of casual sex, living on my own, never needing to worry about someone else’s opinions or needs because his dick is so magical? lol. Okay.. I’m sure he’ll be thrilled that I don’t actually love or care for him, I didn’t choose him and continue to choose him because I find him attractive, we are compatible and love the life we built together…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:00 PM
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Which is it - women settle for a beta or only hold out for Chad, so much so that he has all the power in the world to have a harem? Do women end up in relationships or do they Chad chase for the rest of eternity? If women eventually settle and do not date Chad and his harem, then one of two of these premises is incorrect and cannot be congruent with real life. Also women know most men are great. They have shitty socialization and there are plenty of ass holes and manipulators, but, we “the femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:02 PM
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You’re right, I was using my memory and I knew it was a tiny amount. Thanks for the link, it helps a lot with my point. (When I go on to say you, I mean man worried about his penis size, not you, you) Most people are not walking around with 10” monster dongs that women are regularly sleeping with and your 5” is “tiny in comparison” - nope, most guys are average, your dick is average, and everyone else you knows dick is probably average and the difference in how they feel has more to do with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:51 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:43 PM
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I had casual sex because I preferred being single at the time and wanted to have sex with someone. So when I was single I’d try a new person to see if they were any good. If they weren’t good, I’d move on. If they were good, I’d keep them around as a FWB, but if they met someone else or caught feelings, id move on. I don’t think sex needs to have a romantic component to be good. But it’s like a massage from a professional versus a massage from some stranger with no training. Obviously the no tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:35 AM
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There is very little difference between the sizes. Average is 5. 4-6 is average. Without a ruler no woman would have any idea what size your dick was. They’d guess 6 no matter what unless it was especially large or small. I promise - an average dick is an average dick and women prefer the range of average dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:10 PM
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Both. Size queens exist - but they are not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:51 PM
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Compared to what? 2% of the population? Yeah we prefer average. I don’t like pain in my vagina, I much prefer it elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:40 PM
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I don’t want men to accept women they don’t want. That isn’t the point. If that’s what you took from all of my comments, you’re misunderstanding what I am calling out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:40 PM
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This is what he said - I’m taking his insecurity to its logical conclusion. You can live in delusion all you want where your insecurities don’t affect anyone but you, but when your relationships fail over them, it isn’t the insecurity itself that’s the issue - it’s you acting out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:23 PM
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Because it’s not “reality.” The reality he’s insecure other men were better than him in the past - he admitted it, he said it’s his reason. Even if no woman ever says that to him. Even if the woman he ends up with has only ever been in 2 LTR before they meet, he will always feel insecure that she thought they were better for some reason. He will justify his shitty behavior because he will always see her past as worse. That’s reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:48 PM
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Nope - women go “this thing has turned me off, I won’t date him anymore.” And insecurity leads you to still date people, just while treating them poorly because of some perceived slight against you they never said or did.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:47 PM
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A standard I have “he treats me nice.” If he doesn’t, we don’t date. Not a standard: “if she has ever slept with anyone else ever, I will assume he’s better than me and take it out on her any time I feel insecure.” Because you won’t just not date women, you’ll “give it a shot” or use her for sex “because other guys got to” or do something else shitty that you feel justified in doing because of your insecurity. None of it even needs to be true for you to treat a woman you potentially want to date…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:46 PM
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Did we read the same thread? Some woman worried about the long term aspect as someone who had never been with someone small isn’t really demonstrating what You think it is when the comment sections popular comments and full to the brim with it not mattering as much as effort. ETA: less than 2% of men have a penis under 3” and less than 2% have a dick over 8” - I’m sorry if you’re the minority but that doesn’t mean no one will ever be happy with what you have to offer. For the rest of you - shut …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:31 PM
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They absolutely have no idea what it means. For those who don’t realize it isn’t “gaslighting” which I don’t even know how it could be that, stop using buzzwords that don’t mean what you think it means: It comes from a time when men would cold approach or shoot their shot in dms and when a woman would politely decline, he’d rebut with “oh come on, but I’m a nice guy why won’t you give me a chance? And if a woman again said no, no matter the reason, no matter how polite, he would flip out, turn v…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:19 PM
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So because that’s a general trend for some women, You’re going to put that on every woman you ever date? Nope - insecurity is a problem because it hurts those around us. You not being hurt because you don’t feel its effects, doesn’t mean your future partner won’t. Do you want to hurt the woman you love?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:43 PM
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It’s not about fairness - it’s about how you will go on to affect your future partner whether she maintains this “standard” or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:42 PM
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How do you know they were dudes out of her league and not just a bunch of guys just like you? The boundary is fine. The reasoning is why people say go to therapy. It will come up even with a virgin. You will hurt your future partner and relationship because of this insecurity. The boundary isn’t the problem, your insecurity is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:29 PM
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But none of these women dating men after having multiple partners ever say that. Maybe some niche on Reddit where she chose the safe guy, but for the most part, probably 99% of women with previous partners, it isn’t the woman who thinks she downgraded. It’s just an insecurity you feel, no one ever said it to you. And if they did say it - don’t date them. You are allowed whatever standards you want, but if those standards stem from insecurity that will affect your future partner it is your respon…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:26 PM
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Like he can’t possibly believe that is a desirable chest size for anyone without body dysmorphia. Women born with small breast’s would end up looking like this, not women with large breasts. And isn’t thwt like the crux of his “point?” Big tiddied women are desirable because feminine and estrogen and small tit women can’t be feminine because flat chested equals masculine somehow?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:45 PM
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You’re trolling right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:15 PM
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I gave my answer - I have been with bi men. I was hoping the context clues and flowery language would say “I love bi men” without needing to come out and say “nuh uh, cuz I love bi men!” Show don’t tell sort of approach. I also gave a potential answer for someone who doesn’t like bi men - homophobia, past prejudice, experience. Basically summed up what reasons other people might have. Where did you read “four paragraphs with no answer” to the question “why do you think that bi men are not relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 07:54 PM
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Realizing there are “red pill men” who are bisexual but still want to complain about being just so lonely and touch starved and women just withholding everything from them when they could literally just go be with a man, it’s just a new level of clarity for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:52 PM
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I have tasted the entire rainbow of sexual and gender expression. I’ve slept with men, women, nonbinary people, someone who was intersex, trans men, trans women, bi men, bi women, a man who ended up being gay, a woman who realized she was straight and wasn’t that attracted to women, Kinsey scales 1-10 and back again. I am attracted to feminine men and butch women. I also love a big strong man and a petite and lean woman. I am egalitarian in my relationship and an intersectional feminist. There a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:37 PM
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Absolutely not. This is so disconnected from reality. If a woman tells her boyfriend that she’s slept with 20 men, do you think the average man is neutral to that statement or upset? Can women walk around topless like men can? Do school dress code policies not exist anymore? Is birth control still demonized by the current political party in power? Are women still asked to”what were you wearing” or “what did you expect to happen when you X” when they are assaulted? No, slut shaming still exists i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:30 PM
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This is such an online take I can’t even believe you’re not trolling. Women are absolutely shamed for wanting sex, and outside of some niche online spaces, it is absolutely socially acceptable to shame them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:25 PM
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Because being attracted to someone at 16 while you are fully an adult but “waiting until she’s 18” is called grooming. It’s such an abusive power dynamic that you should be seriously ashamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:22 PM
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I hope you’re on a watch list. That’s putrid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 07:35 PM
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You just posted two examples of men deceiving women to get their way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 04:18 PM
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I love it and think it’s amazing. I actually agree with everything you say. The level of cognitive dissonance it takes for the red pill guys here to claim all women are terrible awful and anyone defending them must think women are always wonderful, but at the same time desire a woman so intensely they claim they’d “take anyone” but also, single moms, sluts and feminists are absolutely off limits but also they have no standards but also women are the devil. Like… so much for logic over emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 02:14 AM
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What’s even worse: I adore a man strong in his feminine energy. This is cry baby shit. “Because other men do important things and I also have a penis, women need me! I can steal the valor of every veteran and firefighter and construction worker that has ever existed because penis.” It’s pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:38 AM
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Oh I like you AssPlay69420. I like you a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:11 AM
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It’s the same pew data you’re referencing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:04 AM
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When you actually do the math, 26% of men were looking for casual only and 20% of women were looking for casual only. I don’t think it’s that different. But your little tirade is just so full of male superiority complex I can’t even believe it’s real, so I have no further comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:03 AM
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Aw thank you so much! I’m very excited, I see many beautiful years ahead. 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:51 AM
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Yeah even at 22 I was like wow - they are just getting out of high school and I’ve been paying bills and living on my own for four years, we aren’t are the same wavelength anymore. Anyone who romanticizes being with someone that young - so much so to point out she “just turned 18” is most likely a huge creep and she absolutely does not want to date him. Probably some 40 year old dude who she sees as a weird uncle more than a potential romantic relationship. He’s going to do nothing but creep her…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:51 AM
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I mean… I found my Chad. He has a great job, is handsome, can bench press me, the sex is phenomenal. I was single for gosh, ten years? I dated a bit in high school, then was celibate from 20-27, then I started dating around, and met my perfect match. And I was very happy single. Like, I sometimes miss it, the solitude, doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, allowing my heart to take me to the next town, the next state, the next country. I adore my life with my partner. We are getting marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:10 AM
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Do you… Do you think that’s a flex?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 11:39 PM
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Ew, wtf are you a groomer? Did you know her before she was 18? That’s disgusting dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 11:16 PM
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That stats say that an age gap relationship is a risk factor for being murdered by your boyfriend, sexual violence, financial abuse and being unhappy. What stays are you looking at that everyone is just missing it’s actually great to be in an age gap relationship? I used an anecdote to back up the data. Men here specifically only fight so hard for women to approve of their creepy age gap fetish because they know it’s wrong and want to be pat on the head and told it’s okay, You’re doing a good th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:46 PM
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J lo, Madonna, Cher, Sandra bullock - all torn to shreds over dating younger men. It’s actually pretty common. And all those “young men” were over 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:35 PM
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Ah the old Trump defense. He never said it. And even if he did it was a joke. And even if it wasn’t it’s because it’s a good thing. And even if it’s not it’s because I/they deserve it. Gloriously delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:31 PM
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Then I could just call you a man who likes little girls. They look like children. And I’m not even over 35!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:30 PM
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That’s actually exactly what they’re saying. Another guy told me he “deserves a naive woman” and when I said yeah because you have more power over someone inexperienced he replied “why wouldn’t I want power over my girlfriend in a relationship? That’s how it should be.” So you guys really have no room to do this “I’m just a pwoor widdle inexperience baby, of course I would date anyone, I just want someone as inexperienced as me, and all the slutty slutty women won’t have a low n count like I do …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:29 PM
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You think women just passively gain dating experience? wtf? Tell me you have no idea how the world really works without telling me. This is a fantasy you hold in your head over how women experience the world, not real life. Another example in this sub of “stop basing “all women” on the experience of the top 20% of women.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:24 PM
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So you have a heavy interest in believing that women are all just bitter that men our age “won’t date us and just prefer younger women” instead of self reflection and holding yourself accountable that there is an inherent power dynamic where you can easily control and manipulate your partner and women with experience with men like you are appropriately calling you out on the fact that you refuse to even remain cognizant over the fact that you can be an lordeing your power over your girlfriend an…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:09 PM
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They’re socialized male early on. Now, let’s not confuse that with them “actually being men” or even having your typical normative male experience - because no. But they do have far less hang ups when it comes to discussing sex than AFAB people do. Because there is no stigma for men wanting sex, but there is for women. And even people who claimed in this thread “it’s 2025, no one is judging you anymore, just some niche red pill dudes!” We both know that isn’t true. When 19 year olds come to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 11:46 PM
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So you want a graph that is 90% zero information? That’s actually not how line graphs work when you want them to be useful and easily convey information. Otherwise it would be the same graph, just up in the corner. You’re thinking of bar graphs… “Bar charts must start at zero because of geometry. The lengths of the bars directly represent values, so a bar that is twice the length of another means a value is two times greater than another. On the other hand, line charts use slope and position to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:45 PM
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You said “prove divorce rates are down.” And I did. They are down. Even with the slight uptick at the end, still down from “the good old days” when they peaked in the 1980s. Significantly actually. I dont see what’s misleading about a graph with the numbers written on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:29 PM
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No I don’t say it because it isn’t true. The world isn’t that black and white. And wanting it to be either or doesn’t make it true. It isn’t a strawman when those are the only options you’re presenting. It’s literally your only argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:27 PM
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Wow - way to minimize real risk factors for violence. So violence is okay because some other groups are also at risk? Did you read the part or my comment where I said remaining cognizant was best practice? Wouldn’t that be a hell of a way to decrease these risk factors? Being aware that being in an intercultural relationship or age gap relationship you have a higher risk of being a victim or perpetrator and maybe maintain that awareness? Work towards not doing that thing? No? Just fuck it - if o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 06:46 PM
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I’m not into whataboutism. Are you going to address that older men who chase young women are more likely to murder their partners or just say “but also this type of man is bad too!!” Because it isn’t the flex you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 06:18 PM
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You know how to google. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 06:10 PM
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And all of them wouldn’t compare in the slightest. I could explain how every metric you have there wouldn’t compare because of the repercussions of admitting, being or having that about them then versus now - but I won’t. Because you know it’s bullshit. You just like to glamorize the past because you didn’t exist in it. It will always be some bygone era you yearn for because you can make it be whatever you want it to be. It’s a fantasy that you enjoy living in. I will let you keep living it and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 06:07 PM
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Yes those are the only options here. Women don’t care about personality at all and looks are the only thing that matters or women are paragons of moral superiority who only care about how nice a man is and never need to be attracted to or sexually aroused by their partner. Those are the only options we have here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 06:04 PM
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Courts deemed you a deadbeat well before your cancer dx. Don’t use your personal tragedy to try to one up your argument. 95% of men who petition for custody, get it. Assigned council exists for a reason. If you are getting your bills paid by charity, you get free council. So maybe it’s time to utilize it instead of crying online. Also - wtf was the picture for? To “prove” you have cancer? So your argument should hold more weight? wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 05:45 PM
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A large age gap with the man being significantly older is a risk factor for being murdered by your partner, but not when the woman is the older partner. Financial abuse, IPV, and sexual violence are all more prevalent in age gap relationships for a reason. I don’t think most men are trying to be abusive or manipulative or lorde their power over their partners. I don’t think it’s a malicious “I am a bad person seeking to hurt this woman.” But it happens. Unconsciously and perniciously. And it hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:14 PM
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You take a lot of liberties with what women actually say. I have never heard a woman say “women don’t like sex, sex is awful and men shouldn’t want it.” It’s more like “women have a more responsive libido, lots of casual sex with men is unfulfilling at best and violent at worst and not worth having lots of casual sex, so I wish men would stop pressuring me for casual sex.” I have never heard “I’m a pure being” I don’t even know what that means. Plenty of women enjoy sex and need it to feel fulfi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:15 PM
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The divorce rate is decreasing. Less people get married because they don’t have to. You get married because you want to. And that leads to fewer divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 01:22 PM
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Do you still believe Santa is just missing your house every December? Are you so angry at the world that you don’t get free presents made by elves every Christmas? No? Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 10:03 PM
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I need you to explain to me how they treat men who aren’t bothering them poorly tho. Yes - I treat creepy men with distain. Because they’re being creepy. If you’re unattractive and I don’t show any interest in dating you, why are you just standing awkwardly in my vicinity? Why are you staring? Why are you constantly trying to ask me out? Those are annoying and creepy behaviors. But that’s not what you said. You said men who aren’t bothering anyone are being treated poorly. How?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:42 PM
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Amazing for you sweetie.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:40 PM
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Then enlighten me. If you are a man just going about your business in your day to day adult life. You aren’t talking to women when you don’t need to, you aren’t asking them out, you aren’t standing around for no reason; what are women doing to demonize your sexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:38 PM
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Not the point of the comment. I asked a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:36 PM
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Act how? You’re ignoring them. What are they doing to you in your adult life? Or do you mean then incels who come to a public subreddit to complain about how women won’t “just give them a chance” and how “women ruined society” by not being subjugated anymore and how that’s their life’s great woe? Because that’s not ignoring them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:35 PM
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So again - your argument is “because I don’t personally experience it, it isn’t a systemic issue.” What kind of argument is that? Do you think oppressed people pull “slavery out of their ass” to make a point that people of the past were awful and need reparations, or do they bring it up to point out that social injustice isn’t that far removed from the days of slavery and the societal impact isn’t washed clean just because you say so? Do you think people are using “arguments” to make themselves …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:33 PM
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What “various measures” are you considering when deciding if they fared any differently than we do today?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:30 PM
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Yes… Most are…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:29 AM
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Oh to live in a world where I believe no women in my immediate family ever experienced any sort of domestic violence, financial abuse, weaponized incompetence, or structural oppression because if I don’t know about it, that means it didn’t happen! We don’t have to look 100 years into the past to see the subjugation of women, women continue to see the effects of these power structures today. Are you 17? Tell me you’re 17.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:19 AM
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You need to read some diaries from the time. Of course I don’t think there is any way to prove it was better or worse - but I do think it was exactly the same as it is today. It’s harder to do some things and easier to do others. They suffered just as much then as we do now. Only now we have access to endless information to make better and more informed choices, and access to the information of what people are doing, especially with it being more socially acceptable to discuss. I don’t think bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:11 AM
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Porn can have no adverse effects. Just like I can go gamble at a casino for a friends birthday, spend $20 and go home - but someone else would chase their losses, dumping tens of thousands of dollars they don’t have into an electronic slot machine - gambling can have no adverse effects. But I do think porn can make men insecure thinking a “normal” penis is 7” long, instead of the top 1% it actually is. Porn can make men think that women are only enjoying themselves if they are screaming with ple…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 11:21 PM
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“Fuck ugly men or we’ll take your rights away again!” Throw your tantrum elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:24 PM
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What the fuck is “golden cock syndrome?”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 08:05 PM
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All? Of course not. But don’t try to pretend like just because you aren’t satisfied without those things means that women who have chosen that lifestyle aren’t happy. It isn’t a cope to want to show people it’s okay not to fall into the prescribed life that is expected of us. It isn’t a “push to be child free.” It’s a push for women who don’t want children to not be pressured into having them if they don’t want to. Do some people go too far, especially on tik tok? - of course. Saying anyone is “…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:57 PM
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Self own
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:47 PM
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Or… just, just hear me out here. Or, maybe… They’re actually just happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:44 PM
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5” is the national average. Most women have been with men smaller and larger than 5”. Of course I’d never tell someone with a micro penis he should never feel insecure. But honestly less than 2.5% of men have a penis under 3.7 inches. And I’ve been with penises all over the spectrum - there is very little difference between a 4” penis and a 5” penis. They serve the exact same purpose - short of size queens and women who have a naturally more wide set vagina - it will not matter. And then, you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:09 AM
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We subsidize so much of the system - why should affordable child care not be one of them? If the government can keep farms afloat, providing a decent wage to the farmers who make our food, why can’t we afford affordable childcare to allow more women to obtain gainful employment and also make sure women dominated professions are well salaried? Almost half of the taxes in the US just go to paying a politicians salary. “Politician” should not be something anyone does for a lifetime. It should be a …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:55 AM
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Ooh! 2 and 6 for me! Even thin, I’m what people call a “sturdy woman.” I’m 5’7, strong, confident, and instead of wanting to feel short - I actually prefer to feel small/weak. To be fair most men are stronger than me regardless and I’ve dated a few skinny guys as well, but chubby will always be my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 01:23 AM
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I’m fat now - but even when I was thin, I’ve always had the preference for fat men. I prefer strong fat men, but I’ve dated plenty of dad bods with very little strength. But I do have a thing for fat guys who could bench 250#+ but I’m not a fan of seeing muscles. Strong men are a good example for what I’m talking about but obviously an extreme example.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 01:07 AM
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I’m taller than my fiancé. And so were a lot of the women he was with before me. I’ve had smaller and I’ve had bigger dicks too. And none of that matters. He’s amazing in bed and I think he’s very sexy. What else would matter? No one needs “most women” to like them. Just enough to find a compatible partner. I haven’t met most women, but of the women I know, not one is a size queen. All are perfectly happy with their average partners. Only one wouldn’t date a man shorter than her, but the rest ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:21 PM
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It can be for certain types of erectile dysfunction. It’s to get you hard and then have sex. But that’s not what you’re doing, right. You’re sitting in it for… what? hours? It can do more harm than any good you are trying to achieve with “growth.” Overuse can absolutely cause desensetization, reduced pleasure, reduced rigidity, and a limp dick. Saying “oh you know more than a doctor” That’s like “my doctor prescribed me morphine for pain so I can’t over do it! You don’t know more than my doctor!…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 09:22 PM
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I just understand what pumping does to a man’s genitalia. It tears the tissue and connections that keep it hard. No woman prefers larger than it was and soft and floppy dick to a nice hard pleasing 4”. None. The best sex I ever had was with 4”. The worst was with 7”. I turned down men for being too large. I’ve told men to stop when they couldn’t stay hard. Work with what you have. An “optimal” size is like an optimal tit size. Do you prefer dd’s? Sure. But are you going be less attracted to a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:17 PM
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I should tell my 5’6” fiancé that all those women he was fucking before me didn’t exist then. I didn’t realize 6’ was for every woman on the planet!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:04 PM
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And it’s floppy as a fish and can’t stay hard. Every woman’s dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:03 PM
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Tell me you have no idea what those groups are without telling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:50 PM
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Natalie says it better than I ever could.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:29 PM
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That’s why I say that there are many issues that need to be addressed before it can be destigmatized. Obviously we don’t live in a perfect world where I chose it because I wanted to. I know people are trafficked, abused and subjected to survival work. And without a robust social safety net, and harsher punishments for trafficking, and better regulations for brothels - it isn’t something I can say it’s fine to go to any sex worker. Obviously I was fine - but I know many aren’t. I’m sorry if that’…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:22 PM
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Well I think the issue is many men do see women as not people. Not subhuman necessarily - but so different from themselves that they couldn’t possibly relate to women. Talking with me taught them that women can be just like them. Like video games, food, to laugh, to talk about science and your favorite movie. I think it was good for a lot of them. Many went on to have relationships and girlfriends and get married. It was nice. I think that I’m one of the few people in the world who made great mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:17 PM
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I’ve never heard a woman say that women voted for trump because of patriarchy. Women do tend to vote the way their husbands do, I think anyone who voted for trump is woefully misinformed, male and women alike, and I do think it gives a very “I hope they hurt people, but the right sort of people, and they definitely won’t turn on me, I’ll be protected because I voted for him!” And that’s sad. But I don’t think “patriarchy made her do it” really is the essence of any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:19 PM
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I won’t change your view and I’ll probably get taken down for circle jerking but I agree with you, sort of. I think sex work is largely stigmatized because the amount of coercion and abuse that happens within it. Women are still regularly sold into sex slavery and you can never truly know if what you’re doing is consensual or if it’s coerced or forced. That’s an issue and one I think we need to work on before the stigma of utilizing sex work can be diminished. Women are regularly using drugs to …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:30 PM
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Patriarchy made her do what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:37 PM
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Right but you can give herpes to another person. “Fatherless behavior” is a catch all term that means “she acts like a single woman while single.” Like - she might be a great partner but not compatible with you, that’s fine. But to act like someone who makes bad choices but can change is in any way like meeting someone with untreated herpes is a little intellectually dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:32 PM
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But the 20 minutes uninterrupted would be considered since it was uninterrupted while they weren’t doing something else for the family. And this is based on men and women who both work. So women too are working 9-5. You’re grasping at straws.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:12 PM
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Because better in bed doesn’t mean the one who was hotter. It means the one who was better in bed. And there are different ways to be better in bed. I’ve had a ton of sex - like so many I’m the biggest 304 you’ve ever met. And my partner is still the best sex I’ve ever had. Ever. I’ve had fun sex in the past. I’ve had guys who made me orgasm just fine. But the connection we have, the way he knows my body, his ability to read my body language; makes him the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:08 PM
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Ouch - I’m really sorry to hear you had to go through that. Mental illness is no joke - untreated mental illness is abuse, I’m sorry it’s no excuse. It isn’t their fault but it is their responsibility. I hope you were able to get to a healthier place.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 10:56 PM
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We do. It doesn’t matter. They think hotter intrinsically means better. Even if we don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 10:40 PM
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So you can talk about the minority of the worst experiences with women, but not the majority of women who turn guys down just fine - but I can’t talk about the majority of men who take rejection poorly and turn into raging ass holes when they’re rejected, because you want me to focus on the minority who take it well? Rules for thee huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:46 PM
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So a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:36 PM
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What happened after you had a shitty childhood but then realized that you had control over yourself when you became an adult in the real world where people aren’t acting like high schoolers?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:36 PM
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Is it worse to be treated with suspicion, or be the woman who gets told her attack is her fault for not being aware enough? I’m sure that hurts your feelings - but your beef is with shitty men who attack women, not women keeping themselves safe. “Hurt people hurt people” sounds like a really convenient excuse for you to go around hurting the women who you claim shouldn’t be afraid of you, simply because they hurt your poor fee fees! My husband doesn’t want to hurt women, so he doesn’t. Even afte…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:34 PM
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I think these will always be skewed - there is a lot that goes into running a house that isn’t “do the task.” Even my partner thinks he puts in 50% of the chores in the house because he does dishes and laundry and takes out the trash. Every day, he does those things. It’s great - I’ve had men who did less. But he doesn’t have to worry about meal planning, cooking, shopping, taking everyone’s likes into consideration, cleaning floorboards, wiping cabinets and walls, what food the kid eats, if the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:28 PM
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Ah yes - 196 respondents on a niche subreddit - what proof!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:27 PM
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Because we know none of that is going to feel good. It’s all entirely performative for the male gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:37 AM
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Everyone has intrinsic bias. That doesn’t mean that it’s as extreme as anyone here makes it out to be and even the research on it is incredibly limited in its scope and application.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:30 AM
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I don’t think people get what they deserve. I think on average people will react to how people act accordingly. If someone slaps me, I’m not going to continue being their friend. But there are instances where that isn’t always the case. Maybe it was an accident and I forgive them. Maybe they were all messed up when it happened and they got sober. But like - typically, it’s pretty easy to see why someone is or is not treated a certain way once we reach adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:25 AM
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They weren’t attractive tho. They were attractive to me. I doubt anyone else found them attractive. And I thought they were kind and compassionate - but they weren’t. The same fucked up misogyny wrapped in uglier packaging. Once I raised my standards and vetted for kind and compassionate people, I found them. And I found the kindest man. Who absolutely won me over specifically because of his kindness. Women do admit we want people we are attracted to. We admit it every day. The men here just don…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:23 AM
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I’m not reading all of that. The absence of love isn’t “disrespecting” you. It’s doing nothing. You are invisible. That’s not a microaggression - you just have no real systemic issues and have to make one up because women don’t want to sleep with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:18 AM
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So you’re a leech trying to claim the hard work of others or are you just another idiot who doesn’t realize it takes educated people to design what we build?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:17 AM
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Because you don’t subsidize shit. I help build the world. And I don’t like the people who don’t do fuck all trying to pretend like they’re the arbiter of who gets to enjoy the privileges of that just because you share genitals of some of the people who do the building and protecting. I do read philosophy on my own time. And I’m one of the people who actually builds the country, and I’m well aware of the fact that educated people keep society running the same as I do. You do neither. You are neit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:16 AM
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And when you became an adult who had autonomy and higher thought, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:09 AM
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You’re using just world fallacy in the same way. Hot men must be ass holes, and ugly men are paragons of moral superiority. Women treat ass holes well because they’re hot, and women treat nice guys bad because they’re ugly. It’s the same just world fallacy only using different t metrics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:09 AM
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And most women are turning down respectful men just fine. It’s the obnoxious ones who turn violent or run to the internet about how “no one will give me a chance!” “I deserve love too!” When she just didn’t want you. And since we agree we can turn people down - where is the demonizing sexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:02 AM
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Where did I say they were the same word? And no - you’re wrong. A condition can give or take away. A Boundary is the line upon which the condition is or is not met. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:59 AM
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It’s not simple because I don’t think people taller than me are inherently “dominant” over me, nor do I think people shorter than me are submissive to me. What in the middle school wrestling team…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:57 AM
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Talk about ugly women being invisible…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:55 AM
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Absolutely not. It’s well documented. It’s literally why title IX was implemented. Because colleges bully women into not reporting. I don’t believe you for a second.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:55 AM
2

Good
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:52 AM
2

Because it’s not a lie. Wanting someone kind and compassionate and that I’m attracted to doesn’t make the kind and compassionate part a lie. And being disabled doesn’t make someone incapable of love. Love may not happen for everyone, I get that, but it can happen to anyone. It isn’t hitting the lottery rare to get married - in fact 97% of men will get married at least once by the time they’re 75. And that says nothing of the men who are partnered but not married. There are men with autism, CP, D…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:16 PM
3

Where are men not getting the same common decency women are? If you don’t want to date a woman, you don’t have to. You aren’t arrested if you don’t hold the door open for the person behind you. No one is firing you from your job for not bringing gifts to the office lady. When women say “you aren’t entitled to women” what we mean is you can’t force anyone to do something for you just because you were nice. I can ask really nicely for you to give me $100. If you say no, are you disrespecting me? N…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:40 PM
1

Consumer spending is done by women because they’re the ones who do the shopping for the family. That has historically been the case - mom food shopping, meal planning, getting the kids school supplies, Christmas gifts, etc. My husband hasn’t stepped foot in a store in five years. My father hasn’t gone to a store besides Home Depot since the 90s. When both partners work 1/3 of women are breadwinners, 1/3 make equal and 1/3 have male breadwinners. If you both work, you’re just as likely to have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:47 PM
1

Being educated increases your chance of remaining married. So does marrying after 30. So does having a median or above income. Yeah I’d prefer to maximize my chances of staying married to the man I love but if you’re cool with divorce, then have no standards. It doesn’t affect me what you do or don’t care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:44 PM
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This stolen valor shit is for the birds. You haven’t done shit to contribute to society or pay anyone’s bills, if you can even afford your own. Leave the building and protecting the country to the men and women who actually do it and you stay mad the educated women of the world won’t settle for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:28 AM
0

Why did they know you were a virgin in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:21 PM
1

I mean, yeah, once I became an adult I was able to see why the bullies were bullies and I had empathy for them and their situations, even if the bullying hurt. But I was able to become a well adjusted adult despite those things because I didn’t stay stuck in that high school victim mindset. Their words had very little to do with me. I was just an easy target. I of course don’t want kids to be bullied in school but to come to this “I was bullied in school so I never have to take responsibility fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:19 PM
1

“Doing something regrettable.” He fucking murdered someone in cold blood and feels zero shame, empathy or guilt after the fact because he feels justified. wtf is wrong with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:14 PM
0

And when you became an adult and lived a normal life, what then?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:57 PM
-1

Yeah, definitely just world fallacy. It’s definitely not “your actions have consequences amongst the general population, so if you’re a whiny bitch, people will treat you like a whiny bitch and use words designed specifically for whiny bitches; and if you’re a narcissistic manipulative fuck boy, people will treat you accordingly.” No you’re right. Living life and people having an opinion is “just world.” Not your idea of “women treat ugly men really bad on purpose and hot men really good on purp…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:56 PM
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Stop looking for trad wives then. Draft laws come up every few years. The most recent in 2024. Guess who opposes them? We actually know women pass more fair sentences. Educate yourself. You sound ignorant af.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 07:35 PM
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When you think someone who isn’t hurting anyone else shouldn’t exist, and should have limited rights and freedoms for existing - that’s the exact right time to have phobe thrown your way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 06:54 PM
5

You keep saying “taller than and makes more money” as your examples. Most men are taller than most women and 2/3 of working couples make the same or the woman is the bread winner. There are definitely trad/conservatice/religious women, or women just currently having her babies, no doubt no doubt - but like are those the only two metrics of men? If a woman cooks more and cleans more does that mean men are seeking the power of women being better than him in those two categories? Why does “man tall…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 02:11 AM
0

Being bullied made me a kinder person, because I never wanted anyone to feel the way I did. It gave me empathy and experience of what I wouldn’t do - it didn’t turn me into an irredeemable shit gibbon. If bullying can turn you bad, you(general you) were never very nice to begin with. Ugly people can be awful just because they’re awful people. No one puts a gun to their head and says they have to be awful. Just like hot people can be awful or awesome. We are all adults with the capacity for growt…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 02:00 AM
1

Me with nerdy shit. Like truly nerdy - not just videos games and anime as a hobby - I’m talking obsessed with trains and can name every model made since the first, men who know every first round draft pick of every draft since the 90s, men who are a little too into dnd. That’s my shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:53 AM
12

Stop chasing Stacy and maybe this wouldn’t be your experience with women. You can’t be shallow and be mad when you select shallow partners. That’s all you dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:47 AM
2

Boundaries make the love conditional. Cross this boundary and we cannot be together. If a condition is met, we will not be together. Boundaries and conditions are a good thing. Settling for a shitty relationship is not the goal. Sometimes love is not enough and that’s okay. Men who claim their love is “unconditional” because they would put up with abuse and poor treatment is not the flex they think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 07:12 PM
0

“We don’t know giving women equal power will even be good actually so we should just keep them subjugated, the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t!” That’s what you sound like.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:43 PM
2

You don’t want women who you are attracted to, to approach you? You don’t turn down women you aren’t attracted to? If obese women with pig noses were constantly trying to corner you, you’d be pretty sick of them complaining about “no one loving them” and want them to stop. No one is saying don’t be sexual. I literally said have whatever sexual feelings you want - with someone who consents. It’s not rape if you aren’t physically assaulting someone. But choosing to sexualize someone who doesn’t wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:12 PM
0

Momma - that’s a traditional lifestyle. You can believe you are politically moderate while still living a traditional lifestyle. And I doubt you’re telling men on ppd that you split the bills and don’t care about a man’s finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:05 PM
1

All of it is about a very specific type of woman. Stop chasing Stacy and maybe you wouldn’t think this is how “women” act.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:04 PM
1

So we have men dropping out of the working world en masse when they get ED? 24% of men are just done with being productive? 40% of men by 40 are just done? Is that your take?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:58 AM
1

262ish million adults in the us. Half are men Even 1% of adult men is 1.3 million men The average “exclusive” creator - I’m guessing you mean only fans because porn isn’t exclusive - costs about $5/month for open access plus some for exclusive or personalized content. Most creators make less than $150-180 a month, while about 300 make over a million a year - celebrities and those with a preexisting following. 100 of those are men. The top 1% of all creators make more than 1/3 of all of the money…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:55 AM
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No, you’re allowed to be sexual all you want. But you have to get consent first and that’s where a lot of men fail. The lack of consent is demonized - not your sexuality. You can be intimate with your car for all I care, if you like it, I love it. But you cannot force women to want to be sexual with or for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:14 AM
2

This is a wild fan fiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 10:41 PM
1

It’s incredibly common for women to be told to find a husband young, have children young and that even if they get a degree, it’s all but useless because they only went to college to find a husband. Religious, conservative and traditional families absolutely still exist, en masse in fact. Why do you think so many women voted for trump? His economic policies? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 10:33 PM
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Ah yes, 552 college students from an unidentified college, plus references from over 15 years ago for most sources definitely proves so much. It might be U of NC but I can’t be sure, there are no free pdfs I found on a cursory search. I’m not claiming that women don’t still have these expectations but I do think there is a divide between women who expect men to pay, women who allow men to pay, women who split and women who will pay. They’re different types of women with different expectations an…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 10:25 PM
1

No I prefer people to write their preferences. I’d never want to go on a date with someone who didn’t look at all my pictures and doesn’t realize I’m fat, and tall, and have purple hair and tattoos, or didn’t read my profile and doesn’t realize I’m progressive, an intersectional feminist, don’t want kids, etc. I want someone who I would never willingly walk into a date with to make sure they list their red flags so that I can omit them from my dating pool before putting any further energy into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:38 PM
3

Why would someone want to date you over anyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 03:12 AM
3

Sex is a way to feel close to a partner. With no partner there is no one to feel close to. It’s also fine to want sex. It’s not fine to denigrate women for not giving it to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 02:18 AM
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When a woman claims she was SA’d I can see how many women in the country have been SA’d just yesterday. When a man claims he was SA’d, I know how that’s also a thing that regularly happens. I have no reason to second guess either of their stories because they are things that regularly happen. When a man comes on the internet to gotcha women in the comments about how “ no it isn’t just a made up delusion and fear mongering amongst grifters online, it totally happened to me! Thankfully nothing act…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 01:41 AM
1

Also can I ask why the caveat that you can’t help your friends and family? Can you not help your friends and family while single? If you’re trying to 1 for 1 it, I get it but this is just a gotcha when you put so many stipulations that no one is telling you to do. Same with the “if you do kiss, you’ll die!” Like is someone keeping you from finding a partner or?…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:25 PM
1

Since I’m married, no. There isn’t a number. You couldn’t pay me to hurt someone who not only I love but who loves me, trusts me. When I was single? Fuck yeah. Absolutely sign me up. I’m not responsible to anyone, I’m not hurting anyone and I get a butt load of money? I LOVED being single. I had a great time with friends and family and hobbies and shit. And also if my spouse dies (god forbid), you can also sign me up. At that point I’d take like $100k. I’d gladly never date again. I can do a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:00 PM
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That must be super hard for you. I imagine that totally happened and it’s something that regularly happens to men for just asking a girl out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:52 PM
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All men think they’re the “good natured” type. That’s the problem. You can cold approach. Nothing that bad will happen. But it’s also not the best option for most men. Can it work? Sure. Does it even 1% of the time? Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:46 PM
1

Tell it to the fatty in the thread with a bmi of 30 who claimed only “obese” women wanted him like he wasn’t a fat ass himself. I have yet to see these delusions out of the women here but the men prove it daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:45 PM
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X to doubt. I can’t find any arrests for “just asking a woman out” but I have seen a lot of men stalking, harassing, videotaping, grabbing, cornering and attacking women being arrested - and getting time served. 10000/1 it is far more serious than “just asking someone out.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:02 PM
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And approaching women out of their league. They think whatever their best quality is defines their looks match instead of their overall rating and most men are chasing the thin “average” women who are still quite beautiful. Men love to discuss hoeflation and delusion but women aren’t the ones chasing Stacy. It’s projection that they think we have high standards for looks because they don’t recognize who is actually ugly. Look at yourself long enough and you look normal to you. Other people who a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:51 PM
-2

It can, sure. What does that have to do with what I wrote?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:22 PM
1

You see, people looking at this — according to her, being an obese six-figure earner, 5'7", and confident enough to approach women… still equals obese women being in our "range." That’s what we’re apparently worth - someone in our own weight and looks category. And more than that — look at what he actually wrote: he said that an obese woman - his looksmatch - isn’t good enough for him because his “six figures” should make up for being ugly. So don’t let anyone gaslight you into believing that BS…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 09:19 PM
1

Because all the low value men sound like the dude who pumps and dumps fat women, when he himself is obese. He thinks a good job makes up for being ugly. That’s what we have to choose from when we want an average men - obese, Stacy chasing, delusional, egomaniacs who are ugly inside and out. At least hot men aren’t delusional and hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 09:16 PM
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Unless you’re the rock - a bmi of 30 is obese. Fat women aren’t inflated, You’re over estimating your looks and under estimating women’s. Men and women aren’t rated on the same scale - but you are so delusional you don’t even know that your looks match are absolutely obese women with an ugly face because that’s what you have. And you look down on the women who actually give you a chance? How disgusting of a personality “I’m better than them in every way, but at least I’d pump and dump a land wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 09:13 PM
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Why do you want to cold approach? Are women asking men to start cold approaching? Can you not see how scary it was to be a woman existing and to be on edge 24/7 that not only will you be blamed for an attack against you, but turning the wrong man down could be deadly - you don’t empathize with that even a little bit? You don’t empathize with the secrecy surrounding assault pre me too? How men were literally getting away with rape and murder and not being held accountable at all, and now it’s eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 08:54 PM
3

Yes! Needing to pretend to need help opening jars “because it makes him feel like a man” is one I’ve heard on the women’s red pill sub. “Letting him lead, take the long way home and get lost” were also some. Like, If I have to pretend to be a delicate flower when I’m clearly not, we just aren’t compatible. I prefer men to challenge societal norms. And not this weird “her icks are just reinforcing masculinity” like actually cries, is vulnerable, admits when he’s wrong, asks for help, doesn’t have…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 06:23 PM
2

I think you have to maximize your odds. I would interrupt women going about their day, but yeah I’d cold approach in bars and hobby groups. Even just to make friends and they have friends. Like every woman doesn’t have to be the woman you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 01:36 PM
1

The unfortunate issue is even men who truly don’t believe they’re sexist, are. I have found unless a man has truly deconstructed through an intersectional feminist lens, they often hold on to casual sexism, or benevolent sexism, and don’t see an issue. They don’t see how women are treated poorly due to this type of sexism and even consider it a compliment. They know hostile sexism exists, but they aren’t like that, and even further, most men aren’t. So the systemic sexism that women complain abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:53 PM
1

To all the men claiming “we don’t get anywhere if women are always being misandrist in reaction to misogyny! We need to move past the gender wars!” Why is it on women to “be the bigger person” here? Women only recently even have anything resembling equal rights. Even if you believe women are entirely equal right now, that’s a recent development. Isn’t it on the (previous) oppressor to stop being oppressive before the oppressed can move past the oppression? It’s like telling black people they sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 01:58 PM
1

I think if you don’t have a large social circle, your best odds are at meetup groups if you live near a large enough city, (it’s an app called meetup. There are groups you join and they meetup in real life. You can even host your own meetup. There are singles groups, DnD groups, cycling groups, you name it.) make friends and expand your social circle that way, and then next would be hobby groups and finally bars and clubs. I think it’s okay to approach women. Back off if she isn’t interested. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 12:04 AM
2

Send em my way chief! Just let me know what type of critique you’re looking for. Just a warning, if it’s a dick pic. I will post it. Normal pictures will of course be kept private.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:58 PM
1

… maybe for men. If men did any less they’d be immobile.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:31 PM
2

Neutral is no access to anyone’s bodies. Patriarchy is forced access to women’s bodies. The opposite would be forced access to men’s bodies. But we don’t need nor want that. Perhaps we could just cull the male embryos and make fewer men? That could be the opposite of patriarchy. No - feminism is giving women the same access and rights as men. The right to choose who has access to my body without the threat of starvation or bodily harm isn’t infringing on men’s rights. It’s neutral. It doesn’t in…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:26 PM
1

When broken down into “single and looking for a relationship” men were at 26% and women were at 20%. Don’t think that would be the case if all the women were sharing men. I’ve never shared a man. I actually dont know any women who willingly shared a man before 30. Some dudes cheated, but do you really think it’s 2/3 of all relationships in your age range men are cheating on their girlfriends? That’s bleak.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:29 PM
3

It’s dog eat dog world. No other comment. Just letting you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:25 PM
1

It’s relevant because we can all agree that adulthood comes in phases of experience. Technically you’re an adult at 18, but you’re not an “able to drink” adult. You can make adult decisions. But even the government says maybe wait a few more years before we start letting you do this next adult thing. Most adults can recognize that someone who just turned 18 is morally not very different from someone who is 17 today, except creepy men. So as normal adult humans, we categorize people into groups o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:28 PM
1

Do you know why we put age limits on things like drinking, smoking or renting a car?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:37 PM
1

I do both. It’s on AIO, AITA, relationship advice, dating, marriage, it’s a pretty typical post - some large age gap and some form of abuse … not exactly an echo chamber. Plenty of views I disagree with on all of them lol. But okay. I literally spoke with a man on this very thread who used these words. And then he claimed “well women do it!” As if that’s a justification for taking advantage of someone. But bury your head in the sand. It’s gross no matter how you swing it. And if I can shame them…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:36 PM
1

So you admit it, you want to have an advantage and that’s why you want younger women? Let’s not whataboutism this - you are saying you enjoy having power over your partner and that’s why you want younger women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:23 PM
2

That’s not what celibacy is…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:22 PM
1

You don’t have to buy it. It isn’t for you. I, too, was once that age and remember how it felt to be targeted by a man twice my age. I remember that he knew every trick in the book to make me do exactly what he wanted. I know what happened to me; and I’d like to protect young women from experiencing the same abuse. When it happened to me, it wasn’t taboo, it wasn’t questioned, it just was. So no one blinked when he manipulated, coerced and abused me. I absolutely want to protect young women from…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:16 AM
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The male given chromosome actually is responsible for making the placenta. Sub par sperm leads to a dangerous pregnancy. Women should be much more careful about the genetics they use to procreate. Women should have much higher standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:34 AM
1

Yeah why wouldn’t I date someone I can manipulate and take advantage of? I’m the one with an advantage, why is that so bad for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 10:26 PM
3

We do. But the young girl isn’t an adult. The men are. And those men are taking advantage of young girls. When someone is in an abusive relationship I talk with the victim about the red flags they missed and what they can do to better protect themselves moving forward. But there is not much I can do for the victim who is so brainwashed that she thinks she deserves it. So I then rip the abuser a new one and attempt to teach them a lesson on how to treat others. I try to get my social circle to sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:30 PM
1

Meet cute - I’m actually surprised you’re never heard of it. It’s a media trope.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:20 PM
1

Women can choose not to have sex… of course they can be celibate. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:28 PM
2

Isn’t that more about idealizing a romantic relationship than what it actually provides, though? You’ve never experienced it, So you only have the ideas in your own head about what a relationship is or provides. Someone who has been in a relationship can look at both, experienced both and say relationships are great, but if they had to choose one, they’d choose friends, family and platonic intimacy over being isolated with a romantic partner. Especially if that romantic partner doesn’t provide a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:05 PM
1

Yes. It is normal behavior for men. Of all looks, ages, socioeconomic status, you name it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:16 PM
1

No one claimed she didn’t. You just sound like an idiot who escalated with a drunk woman. She could have looked like the idiot all on her own, but you had to jump in and join her. Good job, You did such an amazing job, everyone is so proud of you and thinks you’re sooo manly! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:42 AM
1

I did sleep around because I wanted to. But that doesn’t mean that taking control of my own sexuality while facing that stigma and shame isn’t empowering. I found my happily ever after. Isn’t that just like a man to claim that systemic sexism is “playing the victim.” Men without oppression like you just dying to minimize everyone else’s experience while crying only your “loneliness” matters, just begging for your oppression points. Go watch another rerun of vampire diaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:39 AM
2

Yeah the young women with the part of their brain responsible for higher thinking still developing, their impulsivity, their hormones balancing in their adult bodies, their appreciation for excitement and alcohol, in a world of new and endless possibilities- yes so much more agreeable lol. You mean naive and easier to control. They aren’t agreeable, they don’t know how to stand up to the men who will attempt to control them yet. But don’t worry, we all age and learn and grow. Well, most of us an…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:20 PM
1

Issues like never learning how to compromise, how to consider someone else’s feelings along with their own, how to split chores and finances, how to make time for important people and events, communication, empathy, support, how to check in, how to not do things they want to do and sacrifice that thing in order to respect their partners boundaries or expectations, how to fight fair and not name call, how to stick around and disagree and come to a conclusion instead of fleeing, how to be there wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:29 PM
4

You sounds soo good in this story. You really showed her. Way to escalate that situation with zero context for us readers, we really empathize with your desire to put women in their place. You did amazing sweetie.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:46 AM
5

Lack of a million dollars makes me suicidal. Give me money, Venmo me or I’m suicidal. Do you want to be the reason I kill myself? You’re harming me by not giving me your money. Someone has to give it me. They owe it me or I’ll die and it will be all your fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:34 AM
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One is an action and one is inaction. You can just not hurt people. And women will also just not hurt people. If you want love, you have to get it elsewhere. You can’t force someone to love you just like I can’t force someone to protect me. But I can force them to not hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:32 AM
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Women make men. Well just kill all the male babies - or severely cripple them and only keep some for genetic material. One generation and men can be nearly extinct. Be LoGiCaL.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:29 AM
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This is why women had to self correct to the “being nice is the bare minimum” narrative. We try to explain that men who are good tend to have a decent life. Not in a just world it will all work in the end way - in a doing good tends to lead to feeling good and feeling good leads to better outcomes sort of way. When we try to explain we get shut down. Women love ass holes - we don’t. Women don’t respect nice men - normal ones do. Hot ass holes can do whatever they want - yeah but we aren’t hot, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:04 AM
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Now this is anecdotal, but I have 29 nieces and nephews who are all gen z, and all their little friends who all come to their favorite aunties house. Im the second youngest of 13 kids and most are 17+ now. There is no correlation between social media use and dating. There isn’t even a correlation between looks and dating. The biggest factor I’ve seen is ambition. The girls - of whom there are fewer - definitely have more ambition and don’t date. They don’t want to. But they’re still pretty young…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 04:39 AM
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