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| 5 | The aftermath of being with LVMI’ve been through a similar experience, and it hurt like hell, when the NVM in my case decided to come and go and come back at his whim. Apart from blocking on social media, it took me quite some time to block him mentally. But it happens, even though you may have some good days and some really bad ones, surely you will get through the trauma bond and sadness. Therapy, meeting old friends or making new ones, taking up some challenge at work, developing a go to activity to drive away the blues li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 10:44 AM |
| 14 | Falling off of the maskHahahah I can actually imagine him say this! 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:35 PM |
| 19 | Falling off of the maskThank you for this! ♥️Will definitely not reveal specifics about my job or funds- wasn’t expecting such an experience to be honest. I’m glad that this revelation was the end of this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 18 | Falling off of the maskOh my bad! Yes, I think you’re correct, me discussing the dinner plan must’ve triggered this imagination for him! 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:20 PM |
| 33 | Falling off of the maskI was travelling to visit my friends and for ancillary work too, something that he knew. The idea was to meet him for a date since I hadn’t spotted any blatant red flags as such and we’d been in touch since some time (if nothing, he had seemed decent to me)- but I don’t think I’d asked him out at all, in fact, it was the contrary. I was just surprised that by me discussing with him a date to meet up, he would assume it’s for hooking up, and me paying for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:01 PM |
| 23 | Falling off of the maskAbsolutely! It’s as if it’s a tacit understanding and doubting it means you’ve got it wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:57 PM |
| 19 | Falling off of the maskThank you so much! I agree, this is very true. Yes, I am having a great time with my friends, since they were the real reason that I had planned this trip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:56 PM |
| 44 | Falling off of the maskExactly! The sheer audacity and nothing else! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:55 PM |
| 65 | Falling off of the maskAhahaha! Actually made it seem like it was something I’ve been working for all my life 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:54 PM |
| 63 | Falling off of the maskThis is exactly how he played it out! Like the whole purpose of my trip was to be so lucky so as to do what he wants! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Building Value at FDS - 2020-22 and the case of ThreeYes! Thank you! 🌸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:14 AM |
| 2 | Building Value at FDS - 2020-22 and the case of ThreeThanks, this is definitely relatable! All his dreams and ambitions would matter more to him than mine, and me getting this job was probably more than he could handle- so now he realised that we aren’t compatible and how he’s “looking for a person who is not too much focused on career but on simple joys of life” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:12 AM |
| 2 | Building Value at FDS - 2020-22 and the case of ThreeExactly! Educated women are really a turn off for so many men, it’s not even funny! This guy always harped about his own accomplishments and deliberately used to play down mine- and what surprised me was the pure delusion wherein he used to not only believe but project onto me how he was doing better than me (which was false by any objective standard). I’m glad he’s finally realised the reality, which is clear by his obvious jealously/ hate (when the mask of fake self elevation has fallen off). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:10 AM |
| 2 | Building Value at FDS - 2020-22 and the case of ThreeI’m so sorry this happened to you, and I’m glad that you kicked the NVM out! 👑 Yes, therapy helped me stay more content and comfortable with myself, and helped me internalise them fact that LVM/NVM would be the norm, not the exception. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:06 AM |
| 64 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMI’ve actually experienced this behaviour. This guy used to constantly try to put me down in one way or the other, and try and assert how great he was doing in life (he wasn’t earning as much as I was and always used to himself bring this point up and then act all offended and say how he’s waiting for the right time and he will make it big). He was so weird about me doing well in life and about my achievements that whenever he gained anything in his professional life he used to make it a point to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:28 AM |
| 8 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?I’ve literally seen all of the above being present in some form or the other in the porn sick LVM: Urge to slap me randomly without there being any sexual talks whatsoever- just that he felt like doing it and I could see how happy he was imagining and declaring it to my face. Complete lack of sensitivity or awareness for my comfort. Whether I liked his multitude of sexual experimenting ideas that came directly from porn. Violence. In all forms he could use during sex. Any and every. Spitting in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:01 AM |
| 6 | OC for your pleasureHahahaha! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 03:54 AM |
| 3 | Weird Red Flags?Dead eyes make so much sense! The scary lack of empathy screams porn addiction, disregard and cold hunting instincts. Looking back at the NVM I had dealt with, he had this super lacklustre, emotionless stare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 06:49 PM |
| 88 | Reading about Ayurveda and even the ancient teachings from 2000 years ago say the at men ain’t sh*t 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Hinduism has had a very strong predisposition towards the strength of goddesses- most of them are depicted as fierce, strong, and powerful in the religious scriptures and even in contemporary folklore. So the irony is not lost on us when India is largely patriarchal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:51 AM |
| 11 | Society's promotion of young adult novels/ romance movies created a lovesick generationThis is so true and one major, major factor (apart from religious and societal indoctrination) that leads to pickmeism becoming inherent in women! This two pronged morphing has, on one hand, women trying to adhere to the typical romcom girl who’s always there, with all encompassing capacity to love, forgive, laugh at everything, be artificially hyper-feminine and fulfil all the physical attributes of a barbie; and on the other hand, a far-from-reality boy who expects all of the former and more (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:50 AM |
| 2 | I wish I could invoice my abuser.This is just too true! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Teach your men how to behave 😬😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 02:03 PM |
| 8 | Teach your men how to behave 😬India has a long, long way to go in terms of instilling the bare basic sense of respect, for women. Hailing from the country, I can say that it’s a daily struggle for women to ensure their safety every time they step out, stay out late, stay alone in a city, or basically do any chores, any where, it seems. And what the video depicts is very, very true. Most men are “curious” about women because of all the taboos the women are subject to in the country, and then their male “curiosity” leads to de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Happy valentine's day my queens! I can't give you flowers in person so I painted some flowers♡♡♡♡ This is for you!!Yay! This is amazing! Happy Valentines Day to you too! Love the watercolour! Thanks for painting this and sharing this with all the FDS Queens! 👸❤️🌸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Brightening up my day with all the strong FDS vibes and the lessons learnt, here! Have an amazing day, you Queens! 🌸Thank you! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Brightening up my day with all the strong FDS vibes and the lessons learnt, here! Have an amazing day, you Queens! 🌸Thank you! Yessss, please do! What’s better than capturing their beauty in a painting! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 11:48 AM |
| 14 | Okay, which one of you did this?? You need another 👑Hahahahahaha 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:45 AM |
| 1 | Brightening up my day with all the strong FDS vibes and the lessons learnt, here! Have an amazing day, you Queens! 🌸Thanks so much! Yes, they are so positivity enthusing! ❤️😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Brightening up my day with all the strong FDS vibes and the lessons learnt, here! Have an amazing day, you Queens! 🌸Thank you! ❤️This room is in my house, yes. It’s this room that I try to keep positive in terms of vibe and aesthetic- for meditation and all. 🧘♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:41 AM |
| 2 | Brightening up my day with all the strong FDS vibes and the lessons learnt, here! Have an amazing day, you Queens! 🌸Thank you! Got these for myself because felt like brightening the day! 🌸🌈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:54 AM |
| 10 | Brightening up my day with all the strong FDS vibes and the lessons learnt, here! Have an amazing day, you Queens! 🌸Thanks! Blue orchids are ❤️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 8 | Brightening up my day with all the strong FDS vibes and the lessons learnt, here! Have an amazing day, you Queens! 🌸Thank you! These are blue orchids! 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 66 | What are some of the most difficult realizations you’ve had about men ?At the risk of repeating what’s been said above, saying what I’ve realised the hard way: 1. Yes, men would sleep with anyone they can. No attraction, no feelings, no rationale apart from you allowing them to get what they want is their sole criteria. Asset boundaries and poof! Negging, gaslighting, abusive manipulation and the whole can of worms (I picture this literally) opens. If they realise you’re empowered, have a support system, financially independent and doing well in life, most of them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 05:11 AM |
| 28 | If dating apps aren't working for you and you don't feel like you'll ever be enough, read this.I think I really needed to read this, not because I’m still hung up on OLD, but because I’ve been through the exact rigmarole of shitty experiences as described above. The entitlement of men on OLD looking for casual sex and women to do ‘relationship-emulating’ favours is abhorrent. I’ve had my share of absolute meaningless conversations and manipulation the moment I asserted boundaries or questioned someone’s intention/ expectation from OLD. And honestly, the way you’ve penned this post, and wr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 09:36 AM |
| 5 | I gave this man my number 2 days ago. I ended up blocking him bc he was doing too much. He told me I’m “not engaging” with him. But who has time to text back and forth all day? I have a life lol. So this is his message after he realized I blocked him on WhatsApp. He’s 45.AMEN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 05:23 AM |
| 5 | I gave this man my number 2 days ago. I ended up blocking him bc he was doing too much. He told me I’m “not engaging” with him. But who has time to text back and forth all day? I have a life lol. So this is his message after he realized I blocked him on WhatsApp. He’s 45.HAHAHAHA 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 05:21 AM |
| 29 | Cultural misogyny, patriarchy, and commodification of women.For context, this is relevant to the typical Indian misogynistic typeset of arranged marriages, beset with dowry system, where the bride’s parents have to “pay” the groom’s family for their daughter’s “well-being”. Now, there are a plethora of justifications behind this malpractice that people give, such as, dowry is a “gift” they want to give to their daughter, or some other crap. There are laws in India that criminalise the practice of taking dowry too, but it’s still very prevalent and taken … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:45 AM |
| 2 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Yessss! That was the idea this time with FDS introduced to me! One of the best gifts by me to myself! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you sooo much! 😀😀❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thanks so much! Yes the cushions depict Indian culture! I also love having cultural aesthetic all around, it just brings so much uniqueness! 😀❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you so much! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Yes, it was, indeed. The realisation and all the eye-opening stuff from FDS was indeed a fresh start! Thanks so much! 😀❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:15 PM |
| 3 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you so much! ❤️😃😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:14 PM |
| 5 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you so much! ❤️ These cushion covers are designed by an Indian artist, and may be bought online. You may check it out. It has a lot of quirky Indian art! Happy shopping! 😀 https://indiacircus.com/sales/clearance-sale.html?product_list_order=discount&product_list_dir=desc?utm_source=google-search&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=brand&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI2ueYgabV7QIV2worCh2cBww7EAAYASAAEgKAEPD_BwE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank youuu! ❤️Yes, this bag is my new favourite! 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you so so much! 😀❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you so much! ❤️😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thanks so much! Yes it’s the pleasantly-chilly weather in Mumbai! You should definitely check out SHM, the Nutella Sea-Salt Chocolate Cookies are scrumptious there! Also, thanks so much for your kind words! ❤️❤️ I guess no gift trumps attribution of self worth! 🙋🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you so much! 😀❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 12:35 PM |
| 19 | Thank you FDS! It was my birthday yesterday, and owing to all that I’ve learnt from FDS, it was a special one. This one was about self value, no past toxicity, and positivity with family and friends. FDS taught me that seeking validation is undermining oneself, and that it’s about levelling up.Thank you! For starters, the basket looking thing is actually a straw bag from H&M! The rest of the gifts are chocolates, books, mugs, earrings, Apple AirPods, passport holder, a llama pouch, host of mini perfumes, these chocolate cookies from a popular cookie place in Mumbai (India) called the Sweetish House Mafia (LOL) and a hand drawn card from my brother! This past year has been incredibly difficult for me, on account of a NVM. But getting in touch with FDS literally made me realise so many … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 12:33 PM |
| 24 | YOU CAN’T CHANGE HIM. PERIOD.I really feel sorry you had to go through this. I’ve been in an abusive place myself, and I really felt the part where you said “the harder I loved him, the more cruel he became”. I went through this too, and I’ve struggled for the longest time to figure out why I triggered this unwanted punishment. I have now come to terms that instead of figuring things out, it’s more worthwhile to value myself more, and yes, never allow such abuse from anyone, ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:16 PM |
| 8 | I release any behavior learned from past lovers that doesn't serve me. I'm on receiving mode, moving forward.I echo the same! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 04:13 AM |
| 3 | No compromisesYesss that’s true! Thanks so much! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:49 PM |
| 73 | No compromisesThis is EXACTLY what I wanted to hear. Have stepped up from a major NVM and wanted to have no second thoughts about my decision to level up. This is so well put and true. Thanks so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 11:00 AM |
| 151 | Say it louder for the back, sis 👏This is too real for Indians. Centuries of patriarchy have made the male entitlement a norm in India. It’s so engrained in the average mindset that misogyny, harassment and sexism all are just mere shades of a routine day. And even the most egregious crimes against women are, well, just background tabloid material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 09:56 AM |
| 2 | First Birthday since finding FDS...My story for this year has been very similar to yours and I’m really proud of your journey so far! Happy birthday, and may you get stronger and closer to what you really deserve! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Don’t waste time on him.Have done the exact thing for months, waited for the LVM to “realise” what I thought we had/could have, till I ended things for good. Stumbling on FDS has truly opened up so much truth for me! More power to you! 👸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Don’t waste time on him.I hear you! After being patient for someone to “see value in me and for what I’ve done for him”, putting all that wasted patience in my own growth and building my own self-value is all I see now! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Don’t waste time on him.I totally get it. Even after deciding to cut a LVM off, it’s only natural that you still think about the whole reason/scenario why you wanted things to work out with the LVM. I’m still going through the phase of “resolving to cut out a LVM but still thinking about could haves/should haves” but honestly, one day, it’ll all just vanish. Every time I feel like going back, I just (a) remind myself why the LVM was not going to work (b) re-engage in some activity that I value and remind myself to prio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 04:00 AM |
| 8 | Don’t waste time on him.This is so true! Valuing one’s sense of worth at a priority is the most important. 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 02:21 PM |
| 40 | when they rush, they are hilariousI’ve had a very similar experience on OLD. Once a LVM saw that I wasn’t responding to his entreaties to connect on a social media base, he came back saying “I am looking for something serious and want to get out of all this casual stuff, so I’m getting off OLD. 😂 Post FDS me didn’t bother to reply to this. He lingered on and kept talking to himself, it seems. Another LVM texted me “here’s my number, give me a call if you feel like.” I didn’t because it was too new. Then began again the “soliloqu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Warning from a woman in the military.I am so sorry you had to go through this too. Their reliance on violence to get off or even feel validated is uncanny. This LVM guy not only got off on torture/rape porn, he felt “nice” by making me feel “inferior” to him. The psychopathic tendencies they carry are deeply distributing and dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:31 AM |
| 5 | Warning from a woman in the military.Exactly! The hypocrisy of this was never lost on me. He always considered women to be “interested” in him because of the “good life” that they would get by being with him. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:19 AM |
| 3 | Warning from a woman in the military.Yes, these issues pan the same across the Indian military too. More so since Indian men flaunt the patriarchal mindset any way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 07:41 AM |
| 6 | Warning from a woman in the military.Yes, these issues pan the same across the Indian military too. More so since Indian men flaunt the patriarchal mindset any way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 07:41 AM |
| 16 | Warning from a woman in the military.This. Exactly this. Thanks for bringing this up. The normalising of cheating and abuse is just sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:13 AM |
| 36 | Warning from a woman in the military.I have dated a guy in the Army and the trauma of abuse and violence I carry with me is unnerving. While early on he used to ride on this “I am a patriot and what I do is the most honourable thing on earth” (I am not at all disrespecting the people who serve the nation risking their own lives, here), but the horrors that unfolded later were shocking and damaging. Without delving into incidents, this guy told me what he always wanted to do, and when I confronted him on the scrote audacity that he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:08 AM |
| 8 | Does following FDS leave you a little guarded in relationships? Or are you open and all in, but still “ready to walk” at a moment’s notice (if he acts up)? Does the balance come naturally with time?I think FDS has made me better prepared for not only dating, but for life in general. The value of self worth, self love and being a HVW is priceless (dating or not) and I’m glad that I could but only recognise the same, but also inculcate it. As for relationships, I don’t think I’ve taken FDS advice to be prima facie restrictive in any way, but it’s like a voice of reason in the back of my mind when I’m considering dating/relationships. But yes, the self love and self care attributes voiced so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Scrote sickness galore!Yes, I am considering therapy to understand my attachment style. And will be cognisant to not rush into a relationship till I figure this out. Thank you so much! ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Scrote sickness galore!❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Scrote sickness galore!Hahahaha! Yessss! Thanks! 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:06 AM |
| 4 | Scrote sickness galore!This is exactly who he is! And yes, he was really passive aggressive. These realisations will help me move on and ensure I level up. Thanks! 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:20 AM |
| 3 | Scrote sickness galore!This is very true, I am sure it’s important for me to understand why I was attracted to him in the first place. Working on that should be the most important thing for me, and will help me become a stronger person. Thanks! 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:17 AM |
| 3 | Scrote sickness galore!Yes! Thanks for understanding! I will never unblock him, and regain my control over my affairs, not letting someone like him trying to sneak back in and control me. Thanks so much, again! 😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 3 | Scrote sickness galore!Yes, months after months he came back for this. Have to put an end to my botheration for this, realise the truth, and move on! Thanks! ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:14 AM |
| 3 | Scrote sickness galore!I think I am getting this now, there’s nothing to read into. It’s plain obvious and I really should just not waste a single second more on him! Thanks! 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:13 AM |
| 3 | Scrote sickness galore!Yessss, thanks so much! 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:12 AM |
| 4 | Scrote sickness galore!This is so helpful! Seems to explain the whole situation. I will ignore him and not be bothered by his significance addiction at all! Thanks much, again! 😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:12 AM |
| 8 | Scrote sickness galore!Thanks so much, this is very true! I think I’ve realised this quite well, now. ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:11 AM |
| 15 | Just broke up with a LVM - support needed 🥺The fact that you know you did the right thing means you’ve broken out of the LVM misery already. It’s almost natural that the LVM would behave like it doesn’t matter you broke up with him ‘coz of the delusional ego that he harbours. Don’t assess your self worth or be sad about how he doesn’t care about you from this. Remember the reasons you walked away, you stood up for yourself and that’s what matters the most! It’s natural to be let down after such a relationship specially when you know you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:47 AM |
| 7 | Broke up after 2 months...thank you FDS!Nothing more empowering that paving your own way to awesomeness! Just march onward to a life free of all the LVM vibes! 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:32 PM |
| 4 | My life does not revolve around datingWanted to see just this, now! 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:31 PM |
| 5 | I did everything wrong.This post just resounds so well with me! I’ve been attached to this emotionally available and depraved LVM, since I ignored some “minor red flags” (*there is no concept like a “minor red flag” is what I’ve realised. Red. Flag. Period.). After a lot of ups and downs where I felt that the LVM was avoidant, low effort, manipulative and toxic, I’d to call quits, only for him to avoid my boundaries and keep turning up like he didn’t care about my thoughts/dissent. I tried to be mature while ending th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:21 AM |
| 5 | Swallowing a load is suuuper empowering, guys. Girls who think it’s not are just annoying😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:04 AM |
| 2 | How to get over someone and move on for goodI get it, my thing is quite recent too (a few months back), when I decided to leave this LVM for good. He thought I would still hang around waiting for him while he would not commit to anything or even be available to me. The sad thing is that I did linger around, hoping he’d see it and maybe change (biggest mistake ever). Even though my situation with this LVM was quite toxic and outright emotionally abusive, after walking away from him, I still feel the pain and the hurt. I’m ashamed to someti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 05:54 PM |
| 5 | This amazing woman is creating a series of comics based on shit men said to women on dates.I totally agree. I was in a situationship (which I thought was a relationship) with a major LVM and he used to “jokingly and as a kink” say the most depraved stuff to me, including rape, torture, and ill treatment (which are all criminal offences in any country!). Even after emphasising that I was uncomfortable with all this, he didn’t stop. And after I ended things, he used to keep coming back with his damaged messages! Red flags should be spotted and no matter how tempted one may be to “change… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 04:33 PM |
| 4 | PSA to all the young Queens on here: a man wanting to have sex with you is not a compliment, nor does it mean he cares about you as a person!I think it is very important to keep reminding yourself of the truth that having a man who wants to have sex with you is not a trophy. I always thought that I have this memo embedded very clearly in my brains, just when a LVM came along, romanticised everything (that faded into breadcrumbing) and revealed after a few months that it was all about sex for him. With this came the passive aggressive undertones when I didn’t feel like reciprocating, to a point when he was shameless enough to tell me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 04:26 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020Thanks so much, this is indeed very true. Asserting boundaries does not mean that the other person will respect them. I must be strong enough to put them in effect. ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:29 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020Thanks so much! I agree, this should be the way ahead. Very helpful! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 08:01 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020I’ve been in this on and off dating situationship with a guy, who, I’ve recently discovered, is a serious LVM. While I’ve tried to respectfully distance myself from him from time to time, clearly stating early on that I’m looking for something more stable rather than something as frivolous what I see as the “sexting bootycall pattern”; he keeps trying to reach out to me. What gets me to is his effrontery to always woo me back to this sexting situationship despite me always being clear of my disc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 05:11 AM |
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