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LawyersReallyRealOrNot/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 04:29 PM
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She’s not like this, or didn’t used to be. It’s just so sad. I have said those very words so many times
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 10:02 PM
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A woman’s Kryptonite is accountability. It’s avoided at all costs. I have learned this, and even spent a ridiculous amount of time trying to encourage her to be accountable... To no avail.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 10:00 PM
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I'm sure we could compare stories...
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 09:23 PM
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Following
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 04:36 PM
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Following
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 04:35 PM
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Sometimes her family (flaming c~nt of a sister) is who turns her against you ..
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 02:30 PM
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It doesn't help when her flaming c~nt of a sister is feeding her EMOTION DRIVEN (bad) legal advice... Despite having nothing more than a HS diploma, a half-finished cosmology degree, and her own divorce, and manipulative toxic relationship to base it on.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 01:56 PM
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I am nowhere near done with mine ... Been separated for 18 months ... Haven't officially filed yet (for reasons) ... And I know already that I have no interest in getting married again ... Hell I don't have any interest in even having a long term relationship ... I'd like to have sex again ... But I am not going to try to start "hooking up" like I did in my 20's FWIW, I'm 53, wife is 43, kids are 16/14/12.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 01:52 PM
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Outstanding
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 02:39 PM
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A lot to digest there .. I like it
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 02:46 AM
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I feel this
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 08:27 PM
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end up at planet fitness The purple nightmare!
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 02:18 AM
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Yup I've done them Great way to get yourself going
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 01:52 AM
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I am a huge fan of HIIT programming. I did 5 miles on an elliptical machine in 30 minutes today, then went and did a total of 160 one-handed kettlebell swings (20kg/45#), 8 sets of 10 each arm. Dripping with sweat and gulping for air when I was done, but GAWDAYUM did it feel good.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:49 AM
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The gym (exercise in general) is AMAZING for your mental and emotional health! For me, it burns out all the anxiety and stress and clears my mind. It is NOT a "place to meet chicks" but rather a place for you to be with yourself and challenge yourself and learn to believe in yourself and become a better version of yourself. Don't discount therapy. For me it was a bit of a "blow to my ego" to start. I'm a DIY type of guy, I'm in a career that demands you be physically and mentally and emotionally…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:36 AM
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If you drink, stop. If you do any other "recreational drugs", stop Find a good therapist. It works. Get in the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 09:23 PM
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I'mma skip that one too.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 08:45 PM
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Then I am glad I never knew of it. Not my thing.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 08:45 PM
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Dare I ask what MGTOW was?
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 08:17 PM
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She made me a better person. I don’t want to be that guy before her again 😢
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 02:35 PM
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You've got good stuff in that OP
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 12:23 AM
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On paper, yes. In our hearts, I don't know. Been separated for a year. No filings, not even an honest discussion about filing.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 12:16 PM
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An excerpt from our ceremony: Today we cross an invisible line. We leave behind our yesterdays and start our lives anew. The past is over. We concern ourselves only with the future. It is a new day, a new commitment, a new life. The vows we take today will change us forever.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 09:39 PM
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No. Not at all. A commitment is a commitment. It is a LIFETIME COMMITMENT.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 08:16 PM
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It's we all need, Sir. Straight hard truths.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 08:11 PM
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I know
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:29 PM
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True. Story.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 10:54 PM
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FAWK. Who's cutting onions this early in the morning. You can't do that to a man.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:19 AM
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The lyrics to "Downbound Train" by Bruce Springsteen...
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 01:59 PM
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Absolutely soul crushing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:17 PM
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I feel this.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:08 PM
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Long and complicated story...
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 09:41 PM
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I fear I may be forced to go this route too .. We are prolly 6 months from actually filing and starting this, but she makes +/- 2x what I make. But she has taken loans against whole life policies we took out ON HER as INVESTMENTS.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 07:55 PM
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Shoot me a chat Not gonna put it all out there
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 05:40 PM
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Get an experienced, respected Family Law/Divorce attorney. And not one of the "firms" you see and hear advertised.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 12:06 PM
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I would like to get mine. I'd put them in a box and share them with the kids when they are grown. But my STBXW 's manipulative cunt of a sister went through my house, took everything and anything that had to do with me and/or us and LITERALLY threw them in piles in corners of rooms.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:51 AM
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Damn. You just described mine. Fueled by her divorced, manipulative cunt of a sister. I am the monster. She is the saving grace. Her and the STBXW can raise them together with the SIL's 7-yo daughter. SIL got knocked up by a "townie" during her "ho phase" after her divorce, when she left her XH and 21-yo son in another state and moved back to her hometown. But she has no job, no income, is totally reliant on the Baby Daddy, and is looking for a "way out".
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:35 AM
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she was trying to lay a trap and get me to act out in a way that she could use against me I feel mine is doing this as well.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:26 AM
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I actually have been doing the same thing In addition to journaling I send myself screenshots and notes that I want to remember
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 12:00 AM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 09:32 PM
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I feel you. I was really thinking about this last night. There really is no "me" before her anymore. He is gone. Dead. We've been together since August, 2000. She was 19, I was 29. I was on a very bad path in life. Then I met and fell in love with this beautiful young woman. And she fell in love with me. She changed my outlook on life. She showed me what mattered. She believed in me when I took a chance on a whole new career. And I am heartbroken.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 03:39 PM
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I get that. And yes, there are kids involved. I already know she wants convenience, to not have to do the hard things. She has had it very easy and is trying to manipulate things to keep it easy. They are going to backfire. I fear that the only way I come out of this "whole" is to go COLD. A few steps beyond "just a spreadsheet" because there are some non-financial cards I will have to play. That will hurt, but once I can process the heartbreak, and move to the "business transaction" phase there…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 12:05 AM
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Our 22 years together, all we had done, the family we are still raising didn’t matter in the end. If I pointed out the good, she emphatically shot it down with a bad. Are you me? Because you sound like me. And that sounds like my wife.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 11:50 PM
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Damn that hits hard. Because I know that is what it is going to come down to. I know I am going to have to ICE COLD. And that breaks my heart.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 10:31 PM
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people always said you 'find the old you' when you divorce I have heard the same thing. but I didn't exactly want to find the old me, I guess I don't. Because the "old me" was me and her. The "me" that existed before I met her is long gone. And he needed to be. She is who helped me through that process.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 06:43 PM
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Very interesting. As I am experiencing some of that even prior to formally filing for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 06:40 PM
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I feel a lot of this ... I'm not there yet ... But I relate to a lot of it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:02 PM
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I can respect that. Just like I can respect a couple who chooses to not have children (my best friend and his wife). I will never judge either.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 06:57 PM
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Look at my post from last night. This coming Saturday is/was/will be 17 years. We've been separated for 18 months. It's the most empty I have ever felt. Because I too was/still am a believer that marriage is a lifetime commitment.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 11:20 AM
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Reddit was being stoopid. Was trying to post the "It's over Anakin, I have the high ground" meme. It didn't work. I hate that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 12:01 AM
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https://prequelmemes.fandom.com/wiki/It%27s_over,_Anakin._I_have_the_high_ground.?file=High_ground
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 08:29 PM
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I am struggling with this in a way myself. In fact I just talked about it with my therapist this morning. My wife is keeping my children from me (she denies this... says they don't want to see / talk to me) she has a close relationship with her sister (whom I've never gotten along with particularly well) who I believe is continually reinforcing that #I am the "bad guy". Yet, no matter what, I will not say a bad word about my wife. ESPECIALLY# not to or around my children. No matter how this all …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 04:19 PM
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Note made
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 12:05 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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