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She's going to anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 05:32 AM
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She did change her mind. From you to someone else. You're no longer her first choice. Could you stay with her knowing she only stayed with you because she couldn't find better? That isn't love.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 03:04 AM
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Well for starters, stop thinking you can trust her. You can't. When women leave, they flip a switch in their minds and suddenly you are the incarnation of evil. Your ex is not your friend. She will destroy you if it means she gets more money.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 02:59 AM
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Hey fellow Airman. Just wanted to say I know how you feel and I'm sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 02:24 PM
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Sometimes the factor in potential. My ex just got her degree in the middle of our divorce. That increases her earning potential. Now when she says she can't find work and needs to be a lazy stay at home mom, the judge will say no and give me more child support. On the other hand, my dad quit his $90k job to go make $10/hr and the judge lowered his child support obligation substantially.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 02:27 PM
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She was acting very suspicious and sleeping/showering with her phone so I logged on to Verizon and got her call logs. She spent 8 hours a day on the phone with another man while she was a full-time "homemaker."
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 04:57 AM
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Yep. She moved out the day I caught her cheating. Left with everything she owned. It fit in the trunk of the car.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 01:32 AM
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Women getting bad advice? Surely you jest, sir. 🙄 My mother in law told my wife to have her affair and divorce me. You wanna talk about bad advice?
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 01:31 AM
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I don't think we have an official separation date.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 08:58 PM
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He thinks he's the exception. That she'll cheat with him but not on him. I'm gonna break his little heart before I break his face.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 07:17 PM
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I know I'll be able to get my ex to cheat on her affair partner with me. I'm gonna film it and send him the video.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 06:12 PM
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Gratitude is a good word for it. It hit me one day that I wasn't feeling angry all of a sudden. I have felt angry since, but in that moment I said to myself that I would see this time as a positive change because I'm beginning to enjoy certain things I couldn't before.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 06:06 PM
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I'm 14 months in and still hanging my head on the wall and contemplating suicide.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 06:04 AM
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I still have a lot of it, but what I've noticed helping was taking time to actively remind myself when I'm happy. Like, when I'm not seething with rage and I'm just okay, I remind myself, "Hey, this is how I feel right now despite what I'm going through." That helps me when I do get angry to remember that sometimes I'm happier than now and the anger doesn't represent the whole truth.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 06:03 AM
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I hope for that too. We were high school sweethearts. We went through so much together. It hardly feels real that this could be happening at all. I saw myself growing old with her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 05:58 AM
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That's hilarious. I'm torn between giving her whatever she wants to avoid the cost of litigating it and fighting over every fork and knife just to make her life that much harder.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 05:55 AM
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Okay. I won't. I guess I'll update y'all tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 12:57 AM
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I've done that several times. She even listed all the items in the home and the ones she wants and I gave them to her. Now she wants in. I fucking hate her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 07:30 PM
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I just don't want the judge to see me as being unreasonable and unwilling to cooperate.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 04:16 PM
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I'd like to know too. I hired a GAL for my kids but it hasn't happened it. I'm not sure what the delay is. I'm nervous about it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 07:54 PM
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Sure I mean your vows never meant anything anyway it seems. Ass hole.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 07:52 PM
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No it just means you will pay for the rest of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 07:48 PM
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If my ex brings her AP anywhere near me it will be an absolute blood bath. Even when I meet someone new and bring her around my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 07:38 PM
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That cuts out 100% of women.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 07:37 PM
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I'm this guy. Those people are shitty. I'm normal.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 02:03 AM
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One of the worst parts what having to sleep next to her all night afterward. I'm used to sleeping alone. Just me and my dog, lol. Having her there felt like a violation. Gave me anxiety.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 02:02 AM
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The person I thought she was was my everything. The family we had was everything to me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 12:28 AM
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That doesn't need a name. That's just normal.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 12:26 AM
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Because divorce causes misery no matter whose choice it is. I choose to believe my ex is out there crying herself to sleep every night.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 02:38 PM
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Cheaters hate accountability. They will lie and lie and lie their whole lives to justify what they've done.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 02:37 PM
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Luckily that isn't the case in my divorce. I'll post when everything is finalized. If you don't hear from me, I'm either banned (very likely) or I've killed myself because of an unfavorable outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 01:59 PM
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You think so? From what I hear it's very much frowned upon. It makes coparenting impossible and just hurts the kids. But yes, she left the day I discovered the affair and never came back.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 11:57 AM
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She moved 180 miles away. I'd call that a major fuck up.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 12:02 AM
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70/30 is her getting every other weekend plus half the weeks in the summer. They will be best with me because I have the means to provide for them and I care more for their wellbeing than she does. She abandons them every week to go have her affair.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 05:09 PM
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Just tell the truth. Mommy made a bad choice and now she won't come home. They don't have to fully understand it yet, but that is the truth and it's what they deserve.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 01:48 PM
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I'm a year in with two kids, 4 and 2. They don't truly understand, but I had to tell them something. All they know is mommy ran away and doesn't want to come home. I always emphasize that she can come back whenever she wants to (despite that not being true) so that they know it's mommy's fault and decision not to. Whenever one says they miss mommy, I always say I miss her too. It's true, I do miss her, but that woman died.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 01:26 PM
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It actually sucks for me. I'm in the middle of a divorce in Missouri where, thanks to how much my ex has fucked up, I'm almost guaranteed to get 70% custody. Now the court will be less inclined to give me that.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 01:19 PM
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My ex put down nothing and never worked in 7 years. Not a competition here, I just can't get over how shitty women are. Mine also won't be getting alimony or primary custody it looks like. I can't wait to start sending her child support memes every day.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 11:27 PM
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It has gotten easier every day. Quiet is no longer deafening. Stillness and emptiness in the house is relaxing. Coming home to everything 100% how I left it is definitely nice.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 01:52 AM
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Definitely stop calling it a D.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 05:42 AM
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I can see having a conversation with a spouse and saying something like, "Hey, I think we were young and immature when we got married, and I didn't fully understand the depth of the vows I made to you. I don't think I can uphold them, and I want to be better than forcing you to stay with someone who isn't concerned with your best interests." But ultimately I still think people can change for the better and marriages should be fought for. I also believe women are incapable of the kind of love we …
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 12:25 AM
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The VA has me on a cocktail of pills that take the pain away. It's taken me a bit to get into the routine of downing the pills ASAP when I wake up so I can stomach going to work when they kick in. Otherwise, I'll sit on my couch wishing I could stop breathing.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 09:55 PM
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Did you get married to make yourself happy? Or because you believed she was someone worth providing for? Someone worth sticking through to the end? You don't throw away a family just because you're not happy right now. Right now is not forever, and I think that's everyone's problem. "I'm unhappy" seems to mean "I'll never be happy again unless something changes" and it's always the other person's fault. Never our own. I wish my wife had just worked on her depression and shopping addiction. Inste…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 09:54 PM
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I wish my divorced happened when I was in the Air Force. I feel like my leadership would have been very helpful and graceful with me. Plus then my suicide attempts would have revealed my PTSD and I'd have been medically discharged.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:32 PM
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It hurts them to demand everything. Makes them look unfair and disinterested in your wellbeing. I believe if someone came forward with a truly reasonable request a judge would be very respectful of it and side more with them. My lawyer believes that too, and has made sure we look more reasonable and my ex looks selfish.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:29 PM
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Good. They shouldn't want to get married if alimony is on their mind. Maybe this is one step in the right direction toward making marriage what it was meant to be, instead of the racket it has become.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:26 PM
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Get therapy. You don't throw away a marriage that you vowed to nurture for life for reasons that can be fixed with therapy. You don't quit when things get tough. That's how a lot of us got here. Our exs quit on us when we didn't deserve it. It's selfish and wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:22 PM
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What a shit reason for divorce. You sound incredibly selfish. Go work on yourself before you destroy someone else's life. Did you vow to stay by her side until you got bored? Until she became something you deem intolerable? Go get therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:19 PM
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She won't be enjoying them. She can enjoy the meager payout I have to give her. I suspect I'll even be given 60/40 on our assets. The judge was livid with her and denied every request she made. She even sustained every objection my lawyer made and overruled nearly all of the ones her attorney made. Feels good.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:16 PM
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My lawyer doesn't talk to me at all unless something comes up from opposing counsel, or if we have court soon. Lawyers, especially good ones, are very busy. Mine tries hard not to talk to me because she knows I can't afford to pay $50 per email for a bunch of nonsense.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:35 AM
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You're getting a lot of bad advice here. As I said to someone else, I'm going through this same thing, except I'm the one staying in the house and buying her out. My deck is also destroyed. Appraiser took the quote the decking company gave me and subtracted it from his estimate. He said it drastically lowers the value of the home to have such a broken deck, and the market will reflect that since this house will not sell for what it's worth due to the deck. He will be testifying to that in court,…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:32 AM
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Well, no. The value of the house will be lower if the buyer demands an allowance for a new deck. I'm literally dealing with this exact same thing now. My ex wants to be bought out, but this house won't sell without a new deck that will cost around $20,000. The house's value to reflects that. My appraiser even lowered his appraisal because the deck lowers the value.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:29 AM
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"Emotionally abusive" means he made her see how stupid she was.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:27 AM
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You'd marry a woman who divorced a man because they "grew apart?" I sure as hell wouldn't.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:26 AM
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Women think anyone who doesn't give them what they want must be a narcissist. To not see the self-evident value in their desires must make you so full of yourself that you're just plain malicious.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:25 AM
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