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It's good to recognize it as wrong, and it is natural (and healthy) to feel remorse. Sit with that feeling, but think about what it can teach you about the person you want to be moving forward. You may not be able to immediately get over the feeling, but as time goes on if you can start living more in accordance with your current values you will be able to forgive and heal those words of the past. You made mistakes but you can grow beyond them - you've got this!
/r/ExRedPill03/06/26 10:28 PM
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That would be great! Self-reflection and personal growth is much more attractive than pursuit of wealth
/r/ExRedPill29/05/26 03:02 PM
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Woman here - no, this is not true. When I was a young adult, I did not care if the person I was dating had money. Young adults of all genders are usually pretty broke, and that's ok! I did care if they were reasonably financially responsible, because I'm financially responsible, so that's one value I wanted in a partner. What I mean by this is: guys who spent all their money on flashy expensive stuff & went significantly into debt for no good reason (I.e. for a fancy car vs. Going to school) was…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/26 12:26 AM
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I understand what you're feeling, as I've felt that "I'm not able to feel love like I did for them" feeling before too. That feeling is real, but it's permanency is not. You list aspects of life that aren't going as well for you as you want them to. If you can accept the loss - grieve it, feel it, and acknowledge that it's over - you can open yourself up to trying something new in life. Open yourself up to the possibility that you might in fact be able to love someone else that deeply or even mo…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/26 02:38 PM
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I concur that AI is not the way to go for advice!
/r/ExRedPill23/05/26 12:18 AM
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Yay!!! This is so awesome for you. A lot of your plans sound excellent and much healthier than just downing blackpool content all of the time. It takes a lot of courage to choose change like this - well done sir. P.s. as a woman, I do not consider 5'8" to be short, like, at all. Your insecurity will take time to move beyond, just wanted to say that.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/26 12:18 AM
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That's a pretty unhealthy expectation or hope to hold on to. We also have no idea what you look like - who knows, maybe you ARE jaw droppingly hot to some or many people. Even if you are, it's unlikely you'll feel "hot enough" with your current mindset, as you are likely feeling very insecure, not confident, judgemental of yourself and others, etc.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/26 11:28 PM
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You're right that many actors and singers are highly significant to a lot of the population. Even with this example though, not all of the most popular singers and actors are conventionally attractive by black pill standards. Some are, but not all. Do you personally value people's attractiveness above all other qualities? Or are there other things you value?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/26 10:57 PM
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I'm a woman and would say no. I have never felt like I was settling for someone ugly, nor have i ever heard another woman say that. Sure, there can be some "jaw droppingly hot" people. Most of the time though, that's not what people are actively looking for in a partner. If someone is mildly cute to me but has shared interests, makes me laugh, is kind, etc. I'm 100% going for that guy over some "chad" if they don't have a good personality or we don't click.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/26 02:55 AM
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Why does it feel like it would be a catastrophe to stop engaging in blackpill content?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/26 02:49 AM
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Think about all of the things you are impressed by in the world - inventions, music, art, examples of people doing good. Now, do you know what all of those people looked like? I bet you do not. And for the ones you do, MANY of them were/are not jaw droppingly hot. I bet many of them have physical traits that the blackpill would suggest make them bad/worthless/etc. Now think again about all of the things they accomplished - all of those reasons you were impressed by them. Conventional physical at…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/26 02:48 AM
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I was also bullied when young and was very insecure about myself for a long time. You can and will build confidence over time, but you need to go to the right spaces. Therapy is a great place to be! So would any space where you can make friends and get comfortable with yourself around others (hobbies, school, parties, work, common public places, etc). The black pill stuff ain't it. Those spaces and ideas WANT you to remain insecure, to fail, to feel hopeless. Why? Because it validates the theori…
/r/ExRedPill16/05/26 04:12 PM
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Do you have any hobbies already? If not, maybe look for ones that are often more male attended than others (or at least where it would be easy to find male groups). There are also sometines gender specific groups within many hobbies. Things like: sports teams, video games, table top games, D&D, wood working, fishing. Also, have you looked up "men's groups" in your area? Or like meet-up events for men (some are in person, some are digital). Also, perhaps consider reflecting on where this fear of …
/r/ExRedPill15/05/26 05:58 AM
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If you're looking for online connections, rather than in person, have you sought out positive or healthy male influencers/content creators? Might be a good place to start and see if there's comment sections or online spaces they recommend
/r/ExRedPill15/05/26 05:51 AM
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Oh dear, no... the guys who are calling themselves alphas and other guys betas are NOT doing this out of tough love. Most of the time they are doing it to feel powerful, to put someone down so they appear better in comparison, to profit off of them, or to attempt to make them look bad to others.
/r/ExRedPill15/05/26 05:46 AM
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Good on you for the self awareness and for wanting to make some changes. That's the most important step! What are your thoughts on reading some literature that would be directly counter to red pill content? Like, I'm thinking books like "The Will to Change" by bell hooks, or documentaries like "The Mask You Live In"? It's ok to not suddenly be the version of yourself you're striving to be - growth takes time :)
/r/ExRedPill02/05/26 08:59 PM
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Definitely keep up on the sports, and find other things that you like and enjoy in similar ways. I'm a woman and when I was 16 I felt similarly - tried so hard to have guys like me without any success, and generally felt really low and hopeless most of the time. It can and will get better for you. Hight isn't as big of a deal as people make it out to be. I've dated guys shorter than me, and I know many shorter men that have thriving lives (and partners, kids, all that good stuff). Being 16 can b…
/r/ExRedPill11/04/26 09:31 PM
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I get that you and your husband have chosen roles - for him to work outside the home, and for you to take care of the home. That being said, children are the responsibility of both parents, and of their extended community as well. You seem really down on yourself for not being able to handle everything perfectly, on your own, and without difficult emotions. It's ok to feel hard feelings, and to not do everything on your own. Are there other reasons than pride that you don't ask for help? For exa…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/26 05:22 AM
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This exemplifies the problem with this mindset though - relationships and friendships should not be built on manipulation, and they don't have to be at all. Healthy connection requires mutual respect and care. Seeing any vulnerability as an opening to be manipulated shows a skewed perception of connection. Connection is not to gain power over the other. It should be mutually beneficial and help both people grow.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/25 05:23 PM
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You're so welcome!
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 04:00 PM
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May I offer an unsolicited book recommendation? If you are still wanting to learn more about sex + relationships I would recommend checking out Esther Perel. One of her books is called "Mating in Captivity" and it offers some really helpful insights about sexuality in long term relationships. (Disregard if no unsolicited advice was wanted, lol!) Props to you for your self awareness and I wish you and your wife the best!
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 01:39 AM
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There are some great books written for (and some are also written by) people on the autism spectrum about talking to others, dating, sex, and relationships. I would recommend checking those out rather than, or at least in addition to, looking for answers on YouTube. Social skills are things that you can develop and learn - you've got this!
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 01:22 PM
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Yikes. This is very unhealthy. It seems you see dating as a competition rather than as a relationship. There shouldn't be winners and losers in dating. As someone who's been gaslight before, I can tell you that this behavior is a huge turn off and made me distance myself from the person as soon as I realized what they were doing.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 01:19 PM
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I think the answer to this has to do with finding your own boundaries. It is good to be nice and considerate of others, and this is a wonderful trait in relationships. You just want to make sure that you aren't over extending that kindness to a place where you are not aware or taking care of your own needs. Example: you have a girlfriend and she's in bed sick with a cold. It would be kind and considerate of you to bring her some food and medicine, and in a healthy relationship she would be grate…
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 01:15 PM
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Not sure what your interests are, but a more androgynous look is very accepted and appealing to women in many scenes and communities. There are so many men that don't have the alpha look you're describing but whom many women swoon for (thinking Timothee Chalamet, Connor Oberst, even like Kurt Cobain, etc etc.). As a woman who once upon a time used tinder, I would typically swipe left on any hyper-macho or overly masculine guys, as they often just weren't my vibe. Also, dating apps suck for most …
/r/ExRedPill23/02/25 06:42 AM
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That sounds like a really tough time you had when you were younger. Those external reasons for wanting a girlfriend (to stop the bullying, to fit in, to have peer acceptance) were logical at the time. Those same external reasons might help you look good to others, but imo they will not get you very far down the paths of meaningful connection, finding someone attractive for internal reasons (what YOU like, not what others say you should), intimacy, etc.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 07:35 PM
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"Attatchment issues" refers to attachment theory, which looks at how our earliest experiences of connection with caregivers (how we were cared for as infants and young children) impacts how we connect with others, particularly with romantic partners, as adults.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 07:30 PM
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Can you expand on what you mean by "status symbol"? My hunch is that this is your main problem.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 01:32 AM
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I hear you. And I recommend feminism. Read people like Gloria Steinem and bell hooks. Read stuff from the 60s and 70s, as some of the wisdom of that era of liberation might resonate more for you than current scholars/activists. Places like Kanopy have great documentaries for free. You're not alone. You're not weak, nor less worthy due to age or appearance. You're great and it's so good You're looking for new ways of thinking about yourself.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/25 08:17 AM
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Based on your age, I would suggest genuinely taking in the lessons that might be a part of your school curriculum on healthy relationships. If that's not available, maybe looking for that info yourself or speaking with a safe adult (counselor, whoever teaches sex ed, family, coach, etc). Redpill stuff is so toxic and likely gave you some pretty unhealthy introductions to things like relationships, gender, sex, consent, etc. It's hard to be 14 and the internet makes it even harder. Don't beat you…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/24 07:08 AM
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What book was that? Sounds interesting!
/r/ExRedPill03/09/24 12:41 AM
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I totally second this idea. Bars are the worst. So many other settings would be better to meet people naturally and have a chance to connect on personality.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/24 11:46 PM
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