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Hot Take: If creating sexual tension doesn't come naturally, you're better off trying a different approach. It's not impossible to learn how to sexually escalate an interaction, but women will immediately sense if it's forced and be turned off. Not to mention, the kind of guys we see that seem to create sexual tension out of thin air are relying heavily on a deeply ingrained confidence that they often unknowingly cultivated over years and years of experience of social interactions both platonic …
/r/seduction03/02/24 07:22 PM
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Bro, literally read what you just typed out: It is crazy to buy alcohol for everyone who asks. 2 girls with whom I have the best conversation did not ask anything You said yourself your mood was spoiled by the girls who asked and every deflection led to the end of the conversation. Why the fuck are you concerned with giving these succubuses any further thought or attention when you could be directing it to other women who are far more genuine and deserving and who you yourself claim give you bet…
/r/seduction11/07/23 01:22 AM
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If you've ever worked any job ever, you know this is never the case.
/r/seduction18/04/23 01:31 AM
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Found the simp 👆
/r/seduction15/04/23 01:44 AM
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This is one of those bits of advice where this will totally work if they're already really interested in you, and if they're not has a 50% chance of just totally creeping them out
/r/seduction11/04/22 02:42 PM
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lol I'll let you removing your post speak for itself
/r/seduction17/03/22 01:26 PM
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This should be in /r/relationships
/r/seduction17/03/22 12:58 AM
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But it was a nice chat, I got to know another humam being and also got to practice my game. If there's one thing yall need to take away from this post, it's this attitude right here. Outcome independence. Getting a number or getting laid doesn't dictate success, it's being able to walk away from any interaction with something positive. This is honestly one of, if not the biggest things holding most of yall back. You get so fixated on this idea in your head of closing as the only goal or only mea…
/r/seduction13/03/22 07:53 PM
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Is that the kind of person you want to be? Someone who'd compound some poor girls obvious issues just so you can have sex? You already know the answer dude, be better than that.
/r/seduction11/03/22 05:16 AM
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80/20 Rule: 80% of the time you get rejected has nothing to do with you or your approach and everything to do with whatever else is preoccupying who you're approaching. You have no idea what this stranger is going through in life that could be leaving them emotionally unavailable regardless of how good your approach is, and you most likely you will never find out, and so it's far more beneficial to not bog yourself down with what you should've or could've done, and instead take this as an opport…
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:50 AM
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Your attitude and sense of entitlement in this post tells me everything you left out that's ruining your game, and it's only adding to how unbearably whiny this sub has become. Would love for you to break down how you've approached these "several hundred" girls so we can get a more accurate idea of what your issue is and dispel this petty and lame ass conclusion you've come to.
/r/seduction01/03/22 01:37 AM
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Be sure to report back to us on how that mindset helps you with your dating life 👍
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:38 PM
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"If I do the thing that literally every girl wishes their man would do on a regular basis, would that be a turn off?" Bruh are you serious?
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:49 AM
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Are you 14 years old? You didnt even read the comment you completely let your insecurities turn you into this whiny little bitch boy just now because you picked out words from a sentence you barely processed that sounded like they couldve been contradicting you simping for models. Go date as many models as you want I couldn't give less of a shit, but planning your career and basically your life around "dating models" is fucking stupid and shortsighted. But do you boo boo
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:54 AM
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Literally never said that and this meltdown you're having is embarrassing to read, get over yourself
/r/seduction06/02/22 07:20 AM
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Oh I didn't realize you were 14 years old, hope your shitty attitude doesn't bite you in the ass some day lol
/r/seduction06/02/22 07:08 AM
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Please for the love of god don't try and plan your life around what will more likely attract instagram models to you and instead find out what your passions are a pursue those and maybe figure out how to become a decent person in the mean time
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:58 AM
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Hump her sweetly and ball her discreetly
/r/seduction23/01/22 07:42 PM
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Good on you, kill em with kindness! It's hilarious though, they're literally the male equivalent of girls who always say "men are trash"
/r/seduction19/12/21 11:27 PM
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Gotchu bro 👊 Ignore these fucking losers commenting. Realizing that you need to make a girl feel safe and comfortable is probably one of, if not the most important things to learn with dating, or just in general really. And it sounds like you're a good guy with a good heart which I'm sure helps your game, unlike all these other dopes here who feel soooo sorry for themselves saying "all women are the same poor me couldn't possibly be my shitty attitude 😭😭" like give me a break ffs
/r/seduction19/12/21 11:11 PM
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What a bunch of lame ass incels in this sub hating on this dude making a perfectly valid point. No way to prove any of your claims about him and this girl and no way to disprove his, yall just trying to drag everyone down because your dating life sucks. Nice post OP 👍
/r/seduction19/12/21 10:54 PM
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This is what this post is: You asking for advice, people giving you advice, and then you coming up with an excuse for literally everything. How about starting with fixing your attitude? You're 24 and haven't even kissed a girl yet, I'd put money on it being from a lack of social intelligence. You need to learn how to read the room and understand how the vibe you give off makes other people feel. Take advantage of the wide circle of friends you have and talk to them about yourself, about your ind…
/r/seduction30/10/21 06:04 PM
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Because it's so obvious you found this sub and spent zero time looking through any of it to find that the answer to your question has been discussed in depth and reiterated a hundred times over. I can't help but think this lazy half assed mentality carries over into your dating life
/r/seduction11/10/21 03:41 AM
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What's with the influx of these god awful posts in this sub recently?
/r/seduction11/10/21 01:55 AM
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What's great about this is now that you know you have the will to cold approach a cute girl, next time you see one, you're going to think to yourself "well, I know if I feel like I'm going to wimp out, I'm just going turn back around and talk to her anyway. Might as well go right up to her this time." Keep it up dude
/r/seduction28/05/21 11:50 PM
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In every bit of literature on self improvement or dating advice you'll ever come across, you will never find a section talking about "how to interanally punish yourself for your mistakes/ flaws." There is absolutely no place for negativity in self growth, because negativity by definition only takes away, it doesn't add anything like positivity does. Getting rid of self deprecating behavior can feel damn near impossible, but it will forever hold you back if you don't.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:39 PM
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Perfectly put, and I mean think about it: you don't plan or overthink a conversation you're going to have with your best friends, but those always turn out to be the most meaningful because you just let conversation flow and naturally progress, whereas if you're in your head trying to force the conversation to go a certain way, it will come off as exactly that- forced and disingenuous.
/r/seduction24/05/21 06:26 PM
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70% Rule: 70% of the time a girl rejects you, it has nothing to actually do with you. She has a whole life outside of this relatively small interaction with you that can and is effecting how receptive she is to you approaching her. Could be any of the things OP listed. Looks for opportunities to learn and grow in rejections, but also give yourself a fuckin break once in a while my guys.
/r/seduction16/05/21 05:14 PM
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Key point: It humanizes the messages I made a post about doing this exact thing at the start of quarantine, here's why sending a voice message is so effective: -Texting/ messaging should be used only for setting up dates and flirting/ keeping things exciting until the date. Unless your text game is rock solid, it is very difficult to keep things exciting and fresh over text though -Sending a short voice message makes you stand out from the 15 other guys that are flooding her with the same exact …
/r/seduction10/05/21 09:27 PM
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This also totally comes down to being too agreeable of a person. People who are too agreeable often don't excel too far in life because they either settle for less than what they want or are exploited for their agreeableness. It's not at all a masculine quality and it disallows you to come off as a more dominant figure, which women absolutely look for in a man. While there are obvious pitfalls with being too disagreeable, disagreeable people also tend to get more out of life from the average agr…
/r/seduction01/05/21 08:26 AM
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Gonna go ahead and just copy and paste an older comment of mine: Self Amusement. Every approach you make, you're not hoping for anything other than a fun and memorable interaction, solely reliant on YOU having the confidence to say and do what YOU think would be funny or interesting. You're not worry about what would make the other person laugh, you're thinking "what would make ME laugh". You obviously want to be considerate and engage the other person, but you're not going to pander to them. Yo…
/r/seduction20/04/21 06:44 PM
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To piggy-back off of the perfectly put comment: -You are not your thoughts or emotions, you are only your actions -Motivation is an emotion, and emotions are fleeting and not meant to control you -Don't burn out the excitement of something by thinking about it too much before you've even done anything -You can't rely on emotion (motivation) to bring about motion. Instead turn motion into emotion, the rewarding feeling that comes with just having done anything Pickup weightlifting, start trying t…
/r/seduction21/03/21 08:37 AM
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Teach me Daddy
/r/seduction18/03/21 06:51 PM
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*Unless they're now in a committed relationship with a girl they're head over heels for and want to use their experience over the years to help others 🤙
/r/seduction05/03/21 08:10 PM
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And leave "I bet you get approached all the time" out of your opener. If she does, it's nothing she needs to be reminded of in the moment to make her see you as just another guy trying to hit on her. And if she doesn't, all the more reason not to be reminded. Don't give her the chance to associate you with anything negative. Frame yourself as something new and exciting.
/r/seduction04/03/21 07:56 PM
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My guy, this is as successful of an approach as I've ever heard before. You did so many things to be proud of, let's fuckin break it down: You identified what was potentially an indicator of interest You acted on that IOI and overcame approach anxiety You attempted to strike up conversation in a setting most guys wouldn't have the balls to do so in You had the social awareness to know she wasn't interested and appropriately didn't escalate things further You stood your ground when her bf walked …
/r/seduction03/03/21 07:25 PM
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I'd say learning when there's no chance with a particular girl and when to leave the interaction is incredibly helpful, actually. You'll learn to pick up on dismissive social cues that will better help you see more positive ones in other interactions, or even better distinguish what's a shit test and what's really just a rejection. You can't find out if you're not her type or if she's not attracted without at least inquiring. And learning to deal with approach anxiety and taking rejection well i…
/r/seduction01/03/21 10:11 PM
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"If a man does not have the sauce, then he is lost. But the same man can be lost in the sauce." -Gucci Mane
/r/seduction01/03/21 01:27 AM
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I definitely think there is a place for learning to see yourself as the one to be "won over" between you and a woman, especially for people going into dating with a low self esteem or extreme approach anxiety. Honestly, use whatever works until you start seeing consistent success. I think what you're saying though is 100% true and is like the last picture and caption of the "expanding brain meme". Neither of you are a prize, but you both are equally deserving of respect- respect for one's time, …
/r/seduction28/02/21 08:09 PM
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I think a better mindset would be "Be considerate of others, but don't give a fuck about anything"
/r/seduction27/02/21 07:59 PM
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Before the pandemic? Out dancing at bars or clubs on the weekends, or really just out anywhere in general. Doesn't really matter where or when (unless it's at night on the street and she's alone), if you see someone you find attractive, approach her, think of an opener (but don't overthink), build some comfort, show her you're invested in getting to know her and not just her looks, don't overstay your welcome, and get her number and go
/r/seduction27/02/21 07:55 PM
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First off, who the fuck downvoted your comment? Thank you for sharing that man. That was a really good way of putting that: "self actualizing my sexuality." I'd say the vast majority of men don't do this, and it's something I'm still working on. But not doing it will absolutely negatively affect your relationships, because you're not allowing yourself to get what you truly want, and in turn keep your partners from getting what they truly want too which is a confident, fully realized man. I think…
/r/seduction27/02/21 07:50 PM
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Couldn't agree more. Especially regarding the situation you bring up, listen to your gut early on before too much investment has been built so that if walking away is necessary it's not as painful.
/r/seduction26/02/21 11:33 PM
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Can you put into words what it is exactly that you want? What was missing from your 5 year relationship that you felt you really want? Doesn't matter if it seems shallow or unfair, you are allowed to want whatever you want,even if it's just to hook up with a bunch of hot girls. If you're not willing to risk rejection or feeling anxious, then you don't really want these things, you only kind of want them, and kind of wanting something leaves you trapped in a life of mediocrity.
/r/seduction26/02/21 10:26 PM
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Let me fuckin tell you something. The day I finally admitted to myself that I simply am and always have been girl crazy was the day I finally started getting what I wanted from dating. No more jumping from relationship to relationship with girls I knew I was settling for because I was too afraid to be upfront about what I really wanted for fear of hurting someone's feelings in the moment. No more ignoring the fact that I have always day dreamed about being a bachelor, pursuing and dating multipl…
/r/seduction26/02/21 09:09 PM
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He forgot to add the part about how if you pay a dating coach, your dick will literally fall off.
/r/seduction15/02/21 09:25 PM
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I don't think pointing out the very obvious fact that there is nuance in what I said is productive at all. It's just disingenuous and petty. If you're a mute quadriplegic that was in a car accident that ripped half your face off and also was sexually abused by your parents until you were 16, then you've got more important things to be thinking about than a comment on this sub. But just like pretty everyone here, I'm guessing you're neither that nor a holocaust/ cancer survivor and all you're doi…
/r/seduction09/02/21 07:39 PM
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It really is just a matter of choice. Regardless of what life throws at you, ultimately it comes down to what you choose to do with it. Do you want to choose to be a victim to the hardships and struggles of life, no matter how unfair they may seem? Or do you want to choose to take it all as a challenge to overcome and rise above a life of mediocrity and unhappiness? The girls you want to date, the dream job you want to get- they won't ever be handed to you for free or out of pity. You have to ch…
/r/seduction05/02/21 06:58 PM
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This sub needs more posts like these. Seriously, there's so many posts asking for advice on incredibly specific situations with girls when the dude posting barely has his life in order. "There's nothing in here about how to get laid." If that's your only take away from this, then this post is written specifically for you.
/r/seduction05/02/21 01:35 AM
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I love your level of self awareness. You know yourself well enough to be realistic about your timeline and potential inhibitions, but you also know what you're capable of, and that you see a path to where you want to be and won't give up.
/r/seduction31/01/21 10:47 PM
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This. And if you're seeing other girls anyway, it really takes no effort or energy to put the flaky girl on the back burner and check in and initiate again every once in a while.
/r/seduction16/01/21 12:44 AM
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Say it with me, gentlemen: SELF 👏 AMUSEMENT 👏 "I’m not on a date to work for someone else or keep them interested , im there to have fun and hopefully, they have fun as well and we connect." You got it down dude. You're know your worth, you know what you have to offer, you're your own source of fulfillment. If a girl wants to take your generous invitation into your life or pass on it, that's her own gain or loss.
/r/seduction13/01/21 02:34 AM
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Self Amusement. Every approach you make, you're not hoping for anything other than a fun and memorable interaction, solely reliant on YOU having the confidence to say and do what YOU think would be funny or interesting. You're not worry about what would make the other person laugh, you're thinking "what would make ME laugh". You obviously want to be considerate and engage the other person, but you're not going to pander to them. You're not entertaining them, you're entertaining yourself with thi…
/r/seduction27/11/20 06:20 PM
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Came to the comment section to hopefully find what I thought would be a good amount of people praising such positive and truthful advice, instead find 90% of comments doing exactly what OP is describing lol. There's obviously nuance to this mentality, the irony in yall feeling the need to to take the time to point that out is almost laughable.
/r/seduction19/11/20 09:26 PM
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It really is a double edged sword- Oh, you got turned down so "she's a hoe anyway?" Aight, well how do you think you chasing after a hoe and getting butt hurt makes you look? Also, "There are plenty of good reasons to reject someone that don't have to be taken personally" One of the most important lessons you could ever teach yourself. These people you're approaching have an entire life and history that you have no idea about, there's an infinite number of reasons they could've turned you down t…
/r/seduction05/07/20 07:28 PM
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Then don't make up a fake version of yourself? Work on improving yourself and molding the real you into the person you want to be. You're 17 years old, you have so much more learning and growing to do than you can possibly imagine. Don't let such a fatalistic view hold you back from discovering your full potential.
/r/seduction22/06/20 06:01 PM
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Why are you frowning at this? The guy just told you the key to becoming your own source of happiness and validation
/r/seduction22/06/20 05:56 PM
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This is actually such an interesting idea. You're already going nowhere with one girl you're overly invested in, so indulge and exhaust your needy behaviors on her so that you can have a fresh and clear headspace interacting with other girls. And like you said, there's some obvious potential cons to this, but this would be so interesting to experiment with. Not to mention the incredibly petty satisfaction you'd get when the initial girl sees you begin to invest less in her if you're successful w…
/r/seduction16/06/20 08:40 PM
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This "monstrous post" is infinitely better than the abundance of shitty "Let me ask the same question that's been covered a hundred times in a hundred different ways on this sub but refuse to take five minutes to read through the top posts to easily get my question answered" kind of posts this sub gets all the time. Let OP have his "Nice", don't be a dick about it.
/r/seduction14/06/20 10:24 PM
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All you commenters getting mad at this guy for just trying to make some people laugh with a silly meme (that does indeed touch on an important rule in seduction and therefore is relevant to this sub), I bet you'd be more successful with girls if yall lightened the fuck up instead of desperately scavenging the next bit of "100% foolproof guaranteed to get you laid" advice that's been reposted and reworded a hundred different ways on this sub already. Thanks for the laugh, /u/Crystyl3, I miss this…
/r/seduction09/06/20 08:46 PM
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Alright, that's fair. Just antisocial then, my bad.
/r/seduction29/05/20 05:29 AM
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Nah, nothing to do with being introverted, just what the previous comment I replied to stated: not finding joy in other people's happiness, general self-centered attitude. Definitely worth talking to a professional about over some strangers on the internet.
/r/seduction29/05/20 01:58 AM
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That's definitely a fair point. More power to ya!
/r/seduction29/05/20 01:50 AM
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OP needs to go to therapy. Seriously, go see a therapist, because this is borderline antisocial/ sociopathic behavior.
/r/seduction28/05/20 09:12 PM
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Ease yourself into this. I think starting with 5 approaches a day is a really good way to burn yourself out. I'd start with setting a minimum of one approach a day, or even one approach every week for the first month or so. You'll realize how easy it is to hit your quota which will encourage you to approach more and go above your minimum without feeling discouraged when you don't get in five approaches every day. Work up it, or find your happy medium along the way. Best of luck, dude. This will …
/r/seduction28/05/20 08:18 PM
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Lol do you know what passive-aggressive means? Just calling out delusion when I see it bud.
/r/seduction19/05/20 07:15 PM
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Sounds like you are just not having the success you want on dating apps. It sounds like you're not matching with the girls you actually want to match with, so that automatically means it's an "exception" when it happens to anyone else, like some extenuating circumstances or supernatural force are allowing other guys to be successful. And rather than entertaining the idea that maybe your pics and bio, or even your text game, aren't as great as you thought, you just make this gross generalization …
/r/seduction18/05/20 07:53 PM
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I think using misinterpretation would be super helpful here to kind of probe how she's feeling about you, and if you're too nervous to "accidentally misinterpret" what she says, use it on something you said yourself. You can kind of set yourself up for it too by saying something that could even remotely be construed as sexual, and immediately following that up with "fuck, that was a bit naughtier than I meant for that to sound.." and if she doesn't totally dismiss it, you're good to play around …
/r/seduction08/05/20 10:14 AM
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I made a post about this: Set up a time to call. Be nonchalant about it, don't make it seem like a bigger deal than it is. Send her a voice message beforehand just so she can hear your voice and tonality and get comfortable with the idea of actually talking to you. Keep it short, like a minute and a half: "Hey you. This is really random I'm sure, but I'm just so over texting being the only form of communication I have with people. This is where quarantine has me at now. Hope you're doing well (c…
/r/seduction08/05/20 09:55 AM
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It's an evolutionary thing, we've got a couple hundred thousand years of mating behaviors hardwired into us. Males have a low reproductive cost (producing sperm) and prioritize finding partners with good genes (attractive physical features), whereas females have a very high reproductive cost (8-9 months of pregnancy) and typically prioritize resources and being able to provide and care for them during pregnancy as opposed to prioritizing looks, unless your looks signal that you can provide safet…
/r/seduction21/04/20 12:16 AM
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Well if you want to put people at risk so you can get your dick wet then go for it, my dude. I'm sure women that have the same level of irresponsibility would be down.
/r/seduction13/04/20 02:56 AM
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It's honestly been really fun, and made quarantine just a bit more bearable. I'd suggest making the first one a date. This is what I did, I told her to grab a glass of wine (which turned into more than one of course) and to put on something nice, and that I'd do the same. I also learned she's into yoga, so the next time we video chatted I had "teach me yoga" which just turned into us goofing around and laughing more than anything. Just keep it fun and different every time. And definitely don't m…
/r/seduction13/04/20 02:52 AM
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Destroy your bad thoughts with positive ones. That's a solid mantra right there.
/r/seduction10/04/20 01:44 AM
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This is actually a pretty prime spot to be in. If you feel more compelled to use your time to study, exercise, and read, then do exactly that! Put your time and energy into those, work on yourself, and enjoy this period of not having girls occupy your mind. Plus you'll be that much better for it when you decide to start dating again
/r/seduction16/03/20 09:54 PM
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"Just look like you're having a good time with your friends at the club." Or even better, just HAVE a good time with your friends at the club! Nice FR
/r/seduction02/03/20 07:20 PM
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Put yourself out there. Even if you're good looking, you can't rely on girls approaching you. You need to approach them. Regularly. A handful of approaches that didn't end in anything fulfilling in the last however many years since college means nothing because you didn't actually learn what you were supposed to. By regularly approaching, you internalize some of the most core lessons in game: -Approach anxiety never goes away, but you can learn to overcome it more easily with every approach -For…
/r/seduction31/01/20 03:50 AM
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I'm sorry for your hurt feelings, but this isn't r/relationships. What are you hoping to get out of posting this here?
/r/seduction26/01/20 03:14 AM
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Can you adopt me
/r/seduction25/01/20 09:25 AM
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I love this comment, especially that last bit about playing 8th dimensional chess.
/r/seduction18/12/19 08:40 AM
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To each there own. Pulling at nightclubs is effortless for me, or really anywhere with a dj and dance floor, because I love dancing and I go out specifically to dance and have fun with my friends. Girls see me having fun all on my own and they want to be a part of it. Either they come up to dance with me, or they're looking over at me the whole time and it's not even a second thought to go approach them at that point. Obviously its incredibly easy to physically escalate while dancing, and if you…
/r/seduction15/12/19 07:38 PM
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"You can't get rid of fear. It's like mother nature, you can't beat her or outrun her. But you can get through it. And you can find out what you're made of." -The Good Dinosaur
/r/seduction13/12/19 05:28 PM
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Are we in an anime right now?
/r/seduction12/12/19 08:19 AM
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Sounds like you want an open relationship. Super hard to come across a girl who's down for the same thing, but not impossible. I was in an open relationship with a girl a year ago. We both had just gotten out of monogamous relationships with someone else, both knew we were into each other, but also knew we didn't want anything serious. I basically just brought it up to her one night after going out like "Hey. So there's obviously something going on between us. But we both don't want to jump into…
/r/seduction11/11/19 07:21 PM
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Okay this is absolutely fucking pathetic, dude. The only thing holding you back is your bad attitude, and that is a choice. You have /u/Cynical_Doggie addressing all of your excuses, giving his own anecdotes; you have an entire subreddit full of breakdowns of every possible scenario and situation, many just like the one you're in, and instead of taking them for the learning lessons and helpful advice that they are and trying to apply them to your life, instead you maybe half-assed something you …
/r/seduction22/10/19 07:14 PM
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Dude, the better you get at approaching girls, the more hilarious these stories will be in retrospect. I used to cringe so hard at all the times I catastrophically fucked up talking to a girl. Now I belly laugh every time I get the chance to reminisce on those moments. I was with a group of guy friends once at another friend's college dance show. A basketball game was happening at the same time. A mom and her cute daughter was moving past us to their seats, and the mom said "what gentlemen, miss…
/r/seduction17/10/19 03:10 AM
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I don't care either way, because I have guys available to me at all time so it's my last priority This is probably the only important line from this entire thing. Hot girls have the luxury of flaking and ghosting guys whenever they want because there's ALWAYS going to be another guy readily available. All these girls want is to be comfortable. If you keep that idea in mind you can pretty much break down all of their behaviors. While making and committing to plans and getting to know someone over…
/r/seduction11/10/19 06:50 PM
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Which can then turn into a month of awkwardness!
/r/seduction13/09/19 04:10 AM
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Good for you for putting yourself out there! That's literally the hardest part is just approaching. And there's nothing wrong with being direct and making your intent clear. I'm positive one of the major reasons for getting turned down, other than the boyfriend which could have been a lie, is that no connection or comfort was established before asking for the number. Maybe you were in a hurry or just didn't think to do this, but try to talk to her for a bit before a number close because otherwis…
/r/seduction05/08/19 06:33 PM
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You got this!
/r/seduction05/08/19 05:15 AM
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Literally anything. Could be something relevant to the venue, could just be you telling her you thought she was cute and wanted to say hi. It doesn't matter at all what you say, it's how you say it. This girl isn't going to be dissecting every sentence you say. What she's going to be looking for is how you're talking to her and how you're carrying yourself. If you start overthinking what to say, you're likely to stumble over your words or not even come up with anything to say and come off as awk…
/r/seduction05/08/19 03:39 AM
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You're damn right it is. And what's even more real than that is if you don't start approaching these girls you're actually interested in, and think that good looks and personality will get someone worth-while to chase after you, all you're going to find is you pulling these average girls that you'd hook up with but not actually want to be in a relationship with. But then you will get into a relationship with them because you can't get any hotter girls because you're not approaching them, you'll …
/r/seduction05/08/19 03:21 AM
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It is absolutely dominant/ masculine to approach first because you're taking control of the situation and going after what you want. It's one of the most attractive things you can do, taking initiative and leading a girl through an interaction. 99.9999% of the time, there is no hot girl that is going to go out of her way to approach another guy because the fact that he isn't approaching her makes her assume a lack of masculinity, as well as possibly a bunch of other things like he can't entertai…
/r/seduction05/08/19 03:10 AM
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You just went on a complete tangent about something totally irrelevant to what OP is actually trying to get across in his post. He probably could've worded things better, but the guy is literally just trying encourage others to put themselves out there more because, YES that is almost always what an attractive girl wants from a guy she finds attractive. It's like you read one trigger word and then completely ignored the rest of the post.
/r/seduction05/08/19 12:05 AM
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Because girls worth going after are approached by a metric fuck ton of guys regularly, so it's already ingrained in their heads that if you're not going to approach them, some one else just as good eventually will while you stand there alone DESPERATELY waiting for something that's not going to happen. I'm not saying it's fair, but you're really just fucking yourself over with that mentality my dude
/r/seduction04/08/19 11:46 PM
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Who the hell down voted you? You're absolutely correct on this. There's a million different reasons why a hot girl isn't going to approach you, but the biggest one is that they want a man who has the balls to not only to approach her, but to maintain and escalate things in a way that's not creepy, that doesn't make her feel like a slut, and makes him come across as high value, or from an evolutionary standpoint, worthy of the reproductive cost of time and energy. Don't down vote something becaus…
/r/seduction04/08/19 11:40 PM
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Thank you for this
/r/seduction25/07/19 06:26 PM
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The group chat I'm just having fun with. First text was literally just "Coffee Squad! So good to meet you both, we'll have to come up with something fun for next week" and we've been having fun just playing around with ideas for what to go do. Brunette I just messaged her separately saying "We had a good moment earlier right before I walked over. But Blonde is really winning me over here" More kind of framing that there's something going on between her and I, but then removing any attachment tal…
/r/seduction24/07/19 08:41 PM
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Oh that's good to know, not at all how I meant it to come off but I'll keep then in mind if I post again. You absolutely have to adapt and improve because every situation is different. There's themes or ideas though that you should always be thinking about that can help you come up with what to say. I certainly was paraphrasing a lot of what I was saying, but being able to see the dialogue or an actual example of principles being used is something that really helps me.
/r/seduction24/07/19 08:21 PM
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Poor guy, but I'll bet you've grown since then. That kind of thing has happened more times than I can count on my fingers and toes and I've squandered almost every opportunity. But we just gotta remember that if the interaction goes poorly, we're probably never gonna have to worry about seeing this person again, and we can identify and learn from our mistakes
/r/seduction24/07/19 08:17 PM
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We've all gotta channel our inner Todds. But really, I feel like he comes off a bit more genuine than most other guys on Youtube. Dan Bacon has some solid points, but half the time his advice is like "So what you wanna do is call her a piece of shit, and then have a laugh about that."
/r/seduction24/07/19 06:07 PM
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Amen, dude. Same exact thing. And I bet you're a good looking dude with a solid personality. But we gotta just break the cycle, go through some temporary discomfort by really putting ourselves out there, because you owe it to yourself to be with someone you see as equal value to you, and owe it to the ones you don't want to be with to not put them through the emotional push and pull of "I mean, I like you, but not enough to stay with you."
/r/seduction24/07/19 06:05 PM
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Your comment is a shitpost. The only response to this is that there's a million of posts asking the same thing, and people need to go take two minutes to look up the most top rated posts or search keywords in this sub to find their answer instead of actually shit-posting the same low effort bs.
/r/seduction09/07/19 10:04 PM
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The other incredibly important thing about this is that you'll be attracting people who like you for YOU. If by a miracle you put on some facade and actually meet someone who likes this fake you, now you have to constantly wear that mask and can never truly act yourself. The "real" you might not attract every person on planet earth, but you don't want every person on planet earth. You want to be with people you can be your true, genuine self with, who you can be comfortable with, and have way mo…
/r/seduction26/06/19 06:13 PM
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lol just do the Murph Challenge every single day
/r/seduction23/06/19 09:14 AM
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Ya know, I wouldn't be surprised if more than 90% of the stories you hear from reddit in general are bs, but there's no actual way I'll ever know if any of these stories are true or not, so rather than just being a skeptic and not believe anything I read, I just let myself believe it because how fucking boring to be the former? Maybe most of the fr's or experiences people share on this sub are fake. Who gives a fuck? If it was a cool story and inspired me to actually try something out and get ou…
/r/seduction02/06/19 01:52 AM
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I remember watching a Nick Sparks videos, and he talks about the 60-40 rule? or 80-20 rule?... lets just say the 70-30 rule to be safe. Either way, 70% of the time, or the majority of the time when a girl rejects a guy, it's from some extenuating circumstance we don't know about, like what OP listed. Acknowledging that has definitely helped my confidence quite a bit when things don't work out
/r/seduction24/05/19 06:01 PM
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Do a wheelie.
/r/seduction14/03/19 02:28 AM
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It's honestly really refreshing to get a solid, honest answer than getting ghosted or given bullshit excuses. Had plans with a girl last week, she messaged me the day of and said "I'm honestly just really exhausted from work today and really just want to stay in tonight." That's perfectly reasonable, how can I be upset? And from your story, definitely sounds like this girl was into you. I say you won in that situation. Good on you.
/r/seduction18/02/19 03:16 AM
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But not quite as pointless as your comment. Maybe if you post the same comment twice you'll sound more convincing. Oh wait... Anyway, it was less of advice and more of an anecdote relevant to the post, and it's absolutely helped me in terms of self-preservation, which I think is hugely important in maintaining the right state of mind, especially when it comes to dating. Maybe next time try taking a second to really think about what you just read and your response before spewing some hypocritical…
/r/seduction11/09/18 07:39 PM
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Preach it my dude. Ya, it's not the most heart-warming message, but it's so true and saves you from a lot of disappointment. When it comes to dating (or really anything) I follow the "Expect the worst, hope for the best" ideology. When things don't work out the way you wanted, at least you weren't expecting it to so you can't be disappointed. But when things DO go the way you wanted, you can be pleasantly surprised.
/r/seduction10/09/18 09:36 PM
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I think it was on /r/Showerthoughts I once read, "The problem with Tinder is you're meeting people that are at a point in their life where Tinder seems like a good idea."
/r/seduction09/09/18 03:57 AM
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Don't do something you don't actually want to do. Don't do something because you think you should. Do it because you want to. If you don't actually want to approach girls right now, then don't. You just got out of a 5 YEAR RELATIONSHIP. It's gonna take more than a couple weeks to really get over that. If you want to just be alone for a while, then be alone. A bit of isolation in times like these is good. Take time for yourself to process everything, take time to be alone and feel sad, like ACTUA…
/r/seduction25/06/18 05:39 AM
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Okay, you brought up a really good point: "Feeling confident in [cold approaching] is varied on different days and circumstances." That's like the biggest factor when it comes to cold approaching, on both ends. Sometimes you're just not feeling as great as other days, and that can have a big affect on your interactions. But recognizing that I think is really important, so good on you. It also can be a huge factor on the other person. Nick Sparks briefly makes a crucial point of that in this vide…
/r/seduction25/04/18 12:04 AM
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You, sir, are absolutely right. I think I said a lot of the same thing over and over again, just in different ways. I just get nervous that one of those ways of saying a certain point will chime with one person when the other ways might not. I'll definitely try and work on that with the next post I make. Thanks for the input!
/r/seduction24/04/18 11:40 PM
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That analogy was spot on. It's like you said, some people just have some advantages right from the get go, but for the most part, this shit takes time, a lot of trial and error. But making the most of this learning experience, having fun with it and having fun watching yourself grow. Also that was really nicely put, "all most guys need are a collection of aphorisms with which they can test out." That's basically what I'm going for with this, and maybe I'm sounding contradictory when I say how wh…
/r/seduction24/04/18 11:38 PM
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Thank you! Hey I'm glad you've already come to these realizations, that's awesome to hear. That was a really good way of wording that: "Life must be enjoyed for yourself and everything should be done to feel good and not to compensate something else." That's like the keyword I was looking for, "Compensation," because that's exactly what it is when I hear guys say that getting a girlfriend will make them happier. It's pure compensation. Thanks man.
/r/seduction24/04/18 11:31 PM
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This makes me so happy. As long as one person was able to take something from this, I'm satisfied. yes, self-improvement purely for YOU is all that truly matters. Everything else will fall into place for you. It's always when you're not thinking or worrying about something when it finally becomes present, especially girls. I'd love to talk more about simply making friends or expanding your circle. Was there anything more specific you wanted me to talk about/ is this in reference to your current …
/r/seduction24/04/18 11:27 PM
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First off, good for you for working on that addiction. When it comes to something like that, 11 days is a long ass time. I was going to post this link in another post because honestly this has changed my life, and I'll just share it with you now because it's relevant and I think it could help you a lot. Alright. So. Approaching girls on a daily basis for the sake of building confidence. Seems like the most obvious exercise to practice. When I first started here, I remember making it a point to p…
/r/seduction24/04/18 11:22 PM
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u/circlhat broke that down better than I ever could've. Listen to what he wrote. One thing that I've been doing for a while now, which for the sake of preserving my dignity and ego, and has been just as if not more effective than the reverse, is having the girl take my number rather than taking hers. If the girl tries to make me take hers, I'll insist she takes mine instead, often saying something like "Look. I'm clearly interested. If I give you my number, if you're actually interested, you can…
/r/seduction14/01/18 02:05 AM
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I know I'm a little late, but this video basically solved this exact problem for me, specifically around 14:00: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI&list=LLyEOyDxjYtCgraBW18lNmQQ&index=40 The gist of it is that you are not responsible for holding a conversation. A conversation is a two way street, it involves both parties and if the other person isn't willing to give equal participation in the conversation, then she's either not worth your time and you should move on, or what Nick Sparks …
/r/seduction09/06/17 08:08 AM
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"What's your social security number?"
/r/seduction15/12/15 10:34 PM
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Do not underestimate the power of Nonverbal Communication. It is Incredible the amount of attraction you can express and the connection you can build without saying a single word to someone, just eye contact and smiling. I could geek out about this kind of thing all day.
/r/seduction04/04/14 07:09 AM
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This is the kind of post that this subreddit has needed for a while now. Great fucking work, dude.
/r/seduction18/01/14 07:13 AM
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You've got to be kidding me. This is fucking ridiuclous. Allow me to invite everyone here to downvote me to oblivion, but this kind of thing does not deserve any upvotes or sympathetic replies. If no one is going to give this kid a harsh reality check that he so desperately needs, then allow me. Let me tell you right now. You're not getting a one night stand in this state. If you think you're just going to walk up to a girl, some how convince/ persuade her you're worth having sex with, and someh…
/r/seduction05/01/14 04:03 AM
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Trying to improve this subreddit by pointing out its flaws in order for us all to acknowledge and fix them, is definitely not being a social grinch
/r/seduction23/12/13 11:42 PM
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I'm pretty sure here asking where you're from wasn't a shit test.... Actually I'm almost positive that was a sign of interest, honestly wanting to know if you lived anywhere close to her, and it seems like you kinda blew it
/r/seduction22/12/13 04:34 AM
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I miss posts like this.
/r/seduction17/12/13 07:38 AM
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Can you define "has worked"?
/r/seduction14/11/13 03:39 PM
2

well say shes around her coworkers and you dont want to draw a whole bunch of attention, you just ask for the pen and paper, say "here ya go" and hand em both to her, give her a smile, and go on your marry way
/r/seduction08/11/13 12:01 AM
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I love the unexpectedness of it. If you do it right, you'll get this pleasantly surprised kind of, "Oh! okay then :)"
/r/seduction07/11/13 03:43 PM
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I just posted about a week ago planning to do basically this exact same thing. I ended up doing it yesterday to this cute girl I see regularly. Seriously, this idea is great if you want to give her your number but have to be somewhat subtle about it.
/r/seduction07/11/13 03:07 PM
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Oooooo i knew that... should I just delete this post and repost it there?
/r/seduction31/10/13 12:27 AM
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I agree with everything you just said. Asking her at work is really the only option for me though. And creating any awkardness with her coworkers is pretty much my primary concern. I feel just giving her folded note with my number would cause the least amount of awkwardness. If anything, the coworkers would see, and she could deal with them after I've already left.
/r/seduction30/10/13 03:13 PM
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Based on the title I was expecting alot more cringe, but it honestly sounds like you did really well. Her moving her face close to yours definitely showed that you made her feel comfortable around you, wouldn't look too further into it than that really. And if you feel it seemed like she wanted you to stay and you left too early, if anything, she'll just be looking forward to seeing you this weekend, which should set you up nicely
/r/seduction24/10/13 02:36 PM
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For some reason, I couldn't help but read this all in Sheldon's voice from Big Bang Theory..
/r/seduction15/10/13 12:28 AM
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Newport beach isn't shitty! well.. the surf is. and there's alot of rich brats around 32nd street... okay maybe newport is shitty.
/r/seduction01/10/13 06:21 AM
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Well i appreciate you and your taking the time to do this, and I know alot of other do/ will as well
/r/seduction29/08/13 05:51 AM
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I literally just finished watching the hour long youtube video of this because someone had posted it in a recent seddit thread. Good work getting in the major points. I would highly recommend taking the time to watch it though: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E626MownYoU
/r/seduction29/08/13 05:17 AM
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I think we're going to need a little more information than "I've been trying this stuff and getting nothing." give us examples of situations you've had with girls, dialogue, what you were feeling, what you thought she was feeling, etc. Really, what do you expect someone to say to say to a post like this?
/r/seduction03/04/13 02:57 AM
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"So what are you, a model or some bullshit?" Such a subtly brilliant line
/r/seduction02/03/13 02:46 AM
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