RecycledMatrix Archive

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0	My dating coach showed me videos on street pick up - the anxiety and cringe was so bad I couldn't finish the playlist. You will never master that skill if the place you're coming from is anxious beyond the anxiety-inducing event itself. I'm talking about generalized anxiety, because approach anxiety is more specific (and requires doing more of it to reduce the anxiety.) This is not to say you are broken for being anxious. You're not. If you work on your anxiety, you'll naturally be more attractive. On the other side, from the woman's point of view, how is she supposed to be seduced when the guy is too anxious to…	/r/seduction	28/07/26 05:32 PM
1	Women only want me when I treat them like sh*t From the ~30 women I’ve slept with, all were treated like I didn’t give af. I didn’t talk about myself deeply, didn’t really care what she had to say, texted whenever I felt like it, and just basically treated her like a sex toy, and I was rewarded for it. 30 women is all women, or you've selected for traits in those 30 women that respond to the game you're playing? What's the alternative: do you want a woman who plays hard to get? Are you not in the men's version of the situation you present to…	/r/seduction	19/07/26 03:32 PM
19	How are some men so successful with hookups or casual relationships? Society teaches men to use the sniper rifle by default. Seduction works best with a shotgun. (It's a metaphor people) High # of interactions, high outcome independence. I estimate my lay % to be around 2-3% of purely casual interactions. Dates do tend to work better, but ... if they were going to date you, they were already most of the way there in smashing.	/r/seduction	22/05/26 01:16 AM
1	Why do women reject you but look sad with their head down everytime they see you? I disagree with the post removal, but understand. The important part of outcome independence is realizing the outcome is the message. Whether she's going through a world of pain or she rejects you, the outcome is the same, and you should aim to feel beyond individual outcomes. A sample size of 1, 2, 3 doesn't matter. Keep your chin up.	/r/seduction	08/04/26 03:13 AM
1	how do you go about when a girl is down to sleep with you but doesn't want to come off as easy Alignment of 2^ to proceed.	/r/seduction	29/03/26 11:18 PM
4	how do you go about when a girl is down to sleep with you but doesn't want to come off as easy 1: Consent is paramount to all remaining steps. 2: Make sure the behavior matches the cues. 3: She wants it, but doesn't want to admit she wants it. The camera in her head that livestreams her every move, watched by her dad, her preacher, and all of society simultaneously live is active. 4: Your job is to find the verbal or physical opening with gentle pressure. I say pressure here because it will feel that way for you to behave as if you want to have sex with her. 5: Verbal > physical, both are…	/r/seduction	29/03/26 07:18 PM
6	how do you go about when a girl is down to sleep with you but doesn't want to come off as easy Research the concept known as the anti-slut defense.	/r/seduction	29/03/26 03:04 PM
0	How do you handle dead chats when girls suddenly go cold and stop responding? This is why we should've never allowed the manosphere to become co-opted. There was a saying, "the girl who left you on read is getting dicked down right now." Sit with that to find your answer.	/r/seduction	25/03/26 04:12 PM
4	When a woman quietly ghosts you never press harder. Recognize it and follow suit. Attention is everything here. A woman wants a man. The man focuses on her. The man develops theories about why a given woman across a pattern of women as innate vs environmental is behaving a certain way in this context and and and. Focus on your self-concept. Your appearance is just the interface for that. Work on the substrate of you who are as a person to improve the interface.	/r/seduction	23/03/26 07:32 AM
18	Common dating advice does nothing for the average guy actually struggling Want actual advice? Half of this subreddit should get their testosterone levels checked for falling for the trap that theorymaxxing in isolation will yield results.	/r/seduction	18/03/26 09:56 PM
2	What is the best way to text girls for a ONS? You don't, and she doesn't either. That's the play of interaction. There are probabilities sure, actions which raise or lower probability (timing, kino, good conversation, vibes, teasing, flirting, how each of those land), but pre-planning everything in your head in the moment will absolutely destroy the game. What you can generally plot out ahead of time: your entire life up until that moment while knowing that particular moment isn't everything.	/r/seduction	12/03/26 06:38 AM
5	What is the best way to text girls for a ONS? Never be the gimme a line guy. Become the guy who generates them. All seduction is downstream from inner game. Mechanically: Plan the logistics of sex around this concept: she wants sex, you want sex, she doesn't want to get caught by the dad-mom-priest-teacher-camera-friends-cop in her head. Never leave a trail that could harm her reputation, text to confirm she had fun afterward (consent confirmation.)	/r/seduction	12/03/26 02:44 AM
2	Stone face when talking to women I approach ? When in doubt, think about how traits evolved and marketing. Ask yourself what you're offering. Ask yourself if they're interested. How do your questions above relate to your approach? Younger women have it hard right now, older women remember a time without lockdowns during key social growth periods and clear and present political upheaval. It's a numbers game. Do a hundred approaches, figure out the difference between universal women behavior and individual behavior, then suit to taste.	/r/seduction	14/11/24 02:42 AM
3	Is Models by Mark Manson basically saying you should act like you have Asperger’s? Not all blunt people are autistic, not all autistic people are blunt. As an autistic guy with a very high partner count, as core as autism is to your sense of self I know, you're still a person with traits, style, fitness, health, personality, humor to develop.	/r/seduction	03/10/24 06:10 AM
7	Do you guys rack up bodies with girls you aren’t extremely interested in? Ask yourself: would having sex with her be better than rubbing one out? Personally, excessive commute, appearance, personality, my mood, all play into that calculation.	/r/seduction	13/07/23 09:19 PM
10	4 mistakes men make when they ask a woman out Seduction has many parallels to sales. In sales training, the first no (in this case for a date) is met with a polite reframe of the pitch. The second no signals a lost cause. Know your audience. No man should invest his time so poorly to include hounding the disinterested for, at an unlikely best, mediocre sex and a relationship that wasn't meant to be.	/r/seduction	20/06/23 03:25 PM
1	Is it kind of late to the pickup game at the age of 50? Inner game is the source of all game, so no it's not too late.	/r/seduction	01/09/22 07:55 AM
–	Why do I only get hit up by monstrously fat chicks on dating sites? I'm a good looking, athletic dude. PM me your profile pics and bio. I'll critique.	/r/seduction	15/07/22 08:55 PM
10	When girls call you out on negging. What to say? You: What up disgusting fatty? Also you: why isn't she smitten? It's called push/pull, not push them into depression.	/r/seduction	28/06/22 10:39 PM
6	I turn 25 tomorrow and as a birthday pact I am going to talk to a girl every single day for rest of the year Manners, and habits, maketh man. In a given year, There will be days you don't want to talk to anyone. There will be days you want to shut yourself off from the world. There will be days you won't see any attractive women in your normal routine. This is where drilling the habit comes in. What elements can be made into habits? Being among people, having open body language, initial eye contact, opening a conversation come to mind. You can practice these elements of habit even when no attractive wo…	/r/seduction	22/06/22 12:47 PM
3	I'm kinda nervous to bring girls to my place Women in my experience don't care if it's for a hookup. I had most of my early experiences at my parents' hoarder house.	/r/seduction	19/05/22 12:50 PM
1	As a nerd how does one go about "Just be yourself" ? If you're incorrect in saying "I am this" then you are not being yourself. Think of it more like a koan than advice.	/r/seduction	24/03/22 07:52 PM
2	“Fake it till you make it” and “Women can tell when you’re being fake and it puts them off” Think of "Fake It Til You Make It" like actively trying to improve your posture. Sure your shoulders may be rounded forward from sitting wrong from years, but are you fake for trying to stand tall to correct it? Are you wrong in trying to do the right thing?	/r/seduction	08/03/22 05:05 AM
18	Why do female friends get jealous when their male friends flirt with and talk with other women? Aside from possible immaturity in relationships on their part, where they're interested but the "moment wasn't right" in your approach, what is a sexual relationship fundamentally? A merging of two people into one to create a third in the form of new life. The means are as important as the end. Sex is about resources. “Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” - Oscar Wilde By denying them your sexual attention, you've removed some of the power, or the perception the…	/r/seduction	19/01/22 04:05 PM
9	The single greatest activity that has helped boost my confidence in all areas of life has been marital arts classes Porque no los dos? "Never give a sword to a man who can't dance."	/r/seduction	13/01/22 05:31 AM
11	if young men in US are having sex 3x less than they were a decade ago but female rate has stayed the same, how are we supposed to believe there’s any hope for us?? If you're an average looking dude, average inner game won't do.	/r/seduction	03/01/22 03:49 AM
18	[deleted by user] Game is amoral. What issue would be solved by your sacrifice of easy lays? If it's contributing to incel men, that's on them to improve themselves whether they want casual sex or a relationship. If it's contributing to the carousel and post-wall misery, that's on women to avoid the mistake of conflating sex and relationships. My personal honor code includes never misleading women to the nature of the relationship. If they want sex, great. If they want a relationship and I don't, they can work fo…	/r/seduction	20/12/21 07:52 PM
25	Well I asked out my classmate today. Good job for the effort. Putting yourself out there in the moment is 90% of it. One critique. Ask yourself: "where am I leading her attention with my approach?" With an ask if she's busy, her mind went to her obligations. Even if she were interested, the mental space for her in that moment was discussing her caretaking. Though the outcome would have likely been the same had you presented your intentions outright, it's better to leave the impact of attraction and interest in the event her schedul…	/r/seduction	03/12/21 06:45 AM
2	How long should I wait to ask a girl out after a flake? Should I avoid texting her for a while? Put her on the backburner and pursue other prospects. She is the one missing out on you, you are not missing out on someone who does not respect other people's time and emotions. If she is interested again, you can retry but do not give into desperation and, if you're the ballsy type, call her out on her flake. Show her that you value your own time and your self worth.	/r/seduction	14/11/12 02:15 AM
8	5 Ways to Instantly Appear More Confident My biggest tip in addition to this post: It does not matter if you mess up. So it may feel embarrassing in the moment. Who cares? You'll forget about it, they'll forget about it. You'll learn more by failing in a social situation than falling back to your anxiety.	/r/seduction	12/11/12 03:10 AM