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Yes because I think that it will cause us to lose attraction to our partners. In my experience it has been the opposite: as I've grown to know my husband, I've grown to love him more deeply and completely. It's changed for hot love to a deep adoration. I know more about how he ticks, what he's thinking and feeling when he does things. I appreciate him more, and respect more how he does things and why. I know how to present myself as attractive and enjoy doing so. Even so, attraction between us h…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 08:43 PM
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Dude why on earth would somebody need an ex in his or her life? Red flag overall. For the win. Why has no one else pointed this out? An ex should be gone. Period. Not helping with stuff, not texting, Gone. /u/Strasse86 - do NOT let her take any more than one more trip to pick up her stuff. She is fitness testing you, to see if the nuclear option is working yet. Don't let her pull that. Get your keys back (or change the locks), cut her off, and be done. She's the one that pulled the plug, make he…
/r/askTRP28/08/15 08:05 PM
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LOL - well played. Have an upvote.
/r/TheRedPill25/09/14 01:10 PM
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Do a few hours of housework throughout the week and have some babies while your husband's the one that has to have a job. If this is all you're looking for in your mate, then you need to up your standards in a wife. A red pill wife will bring much more to the table.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/14 03:16 PM
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girl's do it all the fuckin time. I've never seen this. I had a roommate that was seeing 5 guys at the same time - which horrified a number a others in the house - and even in this case, she would be very careful to not double book. Maybe the pool you're dipping in and the pool I swim in are different places. But I've never known any woman to double book, much less all the time.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 05:12 PM
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Thank you for this post!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 02:51 PM
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What RPWomen decides to be with a man whose judgement is lacking? To be fair, not everyone swallows the red pill pre-marriage. Old habits are hard to break. /u/RedPillWannabe needs to swallow the pill and try it the TRP way. The results (lack of angry husband) will speak for themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 02:38 PM
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Is it even worth trying to put it as a question? "Is the breaker supposed to be switched off?" I'm guessing that's too potentially loaded.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 02:31 PM
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But make sure the man you are allowing to lead you is worthy of doing so. /thread
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 02:21 PM
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Thank you for this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 01:49 PM
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Softerbee, you struck a lot of chords with me! I am also an engineer, also groomed up through the "smart girl, you should do smart things" part of the world. I'm guessing I'm 10 or so years older (I wish I would have found TRP sooner), and that you're a few steps further down the road of TRP journey than I. I've also been trying to pick and choose, and am finding difficulty. You are so right about the bitter, bitter taste it leaves... I feel like I have to stoke down this strong personality (dar…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 01:30 PM
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Why do I get the feeling that this entire interview is also a crazy-ex attempt to keep herself in the spotlight of a relationship she should have nothing to do with. That is my gut feeling, too. She's psycho about this guy and needs professional help.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 01:19 PM
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A man doesn't need a high paying job to be respected. QFT
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 01:17 PM
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Flowers are clutter-free; that makes them great in my book.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 01:17 PM
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Check out Joy of Baking. It's been a while since I've made them but I remember them being tender but not crumbly.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 01:14 PM
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Maybe try a different anti-d, there's several out there. Of course I don't know her details and I'm not a dr... but if it's an SSRI there are options. She should definitely not be taking them willy-nilly, that will definitely make things worse. Instead of "just" depression, its becomes depression + withdrawal = double whammy... and if it's willy-nilly, then it all becomes a roller coaster. I'm sorry, it must be a tough time. Hopefully switching will help her with the negative side effects so she…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 08:22 PM
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I've always chalked it up to her being bi-polar with the wrong dosage/combination of meds, and think to myself it'll blow over soon enough... If the meds aren't right, get them right. You don't want to be fighting against the tide. If she won't get that corrected, it's game over. You can't fight that. Telling her she's biting the hand that feeds her won't do any good if she can't physically think straight. (If her meds aren't right it's a physical chemistry problem... but you probably knew that.…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 07:49 PM
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Also do you have naked pictures/videos of her? Get them. Suggest they are going online if she does go through with her threats. Don't wrestle with a pig, you'll just get dirty and the pig will probably enjoy it. Doing this would most definitely NOT be holding frame.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 07:43 PM
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/u/hexhook 's reaction is very common in a mental health situation - it is very difficult to recognize a problem until it is a big, big problem. There is often denial that there is a problem. I think he's done with that phase, though.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 07:41 PM
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Thank you for enunciating what I was trying to formulate! There is a /relationship/ here. Personally I descended into a pit of hell called clinical depression under similar feelings (used/unappreciated both at work and at home). Drugs and therapy got me out after 15 months but a Captain should NOT damage his FO this way! As feminism can hold an extreme point of view, so too can TRP - frying the hamster is a very, very bad thing to do. Don't go there, there is more than one way to "lose" your wif…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 07:37 PM
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"Just because I'm following my own interests and doing things for myself doesn't mean you can't." Winner. Women can have a difficult time pulling away from the children and the household to take time for themselves. "Man may work from sun to sun but a woman's work is never done." There will always be laundry, dishes, coloring, crafts, yada yada yada. It's human and easy (although not right) to transfer this personal guilt to our spouses. I went through this with MrRPW. The roadmap looks differen…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 07:31 PM
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Tell her you wont tolerate her being out of the marital house. Tell her you are either all in, or all out. This. I agree wholeheartedly with this. I think it's a test, personally - keep holding frame and make it clear you're all in and she must be, too. This is a hand-in-hand thing you're getting through together. Period. She wants that frame, that strength, the reassurance. Make it clear that it's a one-way door if she decides to move out. In the mean time figure out what your rights are or are…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/14 07:16 PM
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Thanks for the clarification. I have seen the suspected scenario too often; glad yours is not that case. It only takes one yes. Keep telling him that. It is the hardest "yes" to get. It took me 4 years to find that first "real" job in my degreed area; every move since has been far easier, and increasingly better. He is actively looking for a job on his field but still has the one he doesnt like and does not plan to quit until he has something else. Good to hear! I was mistaken about his prioriti…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 01:57 PM
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Do you know for a fact he is ACTIVELY looking for work? Sending out even one resume a WEEK? Is his resume good and tight? If not, this is one are where you can help him. Or your college's job office. What are his chances of getting work in his home country? If getting sponsorship in your country is part of the hiring problem, then more applications/resumes isn't going to do any good. Talk to your Alma Mater's job center if there is any question about likelihood of sponsorship. (side note: they m…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/14 07:47 PM
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He is very RP, and I am the first girl he has decided to settle down with. You are not married, and he has cheated on you. How exactly is that settling down? I'm sorry, but next his cheating tail. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You're young, there's plenty of time and better men to look toward.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 06:37 PM
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You're attacking the wrong person, which is what people tend to do when they're hurt. That girl had no reason to be loyal to you, she was just looking to hook up. Your boyfriend actively betrayed you, and not only that, did so in front of your friends. End thread. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 06:31 PM
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Why do you feel so threatened by someone else's choice that has nothing to do with you? This, ohhh 10,000 times, this! "Women have the right to choose, as long as it's what Feminism would choose."
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 03:05 PM
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I didn't bust my ass in grad school to fry you up some chicken. You hit the nail on the head of the blue pill! Women are "expected" to go to college, and then it is so easy to get the entitled mindset! I found myself in these shoes, too, pre-RPW. I set a goal to cook X amount of dinners that first week. Added more week by week. This is an awesome approach, I am going to have to work this. Previously, I'd come home from work and bitch about my receptionist overscheduling me. Or bitch about this, …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 02:55 PM
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She said that when I bragged about my husband it completely caught her off guard because she's so used to being around groups of women who are complaining about or just being generally condescending about the men in their lives. It's almost unacceptable to brag about how awesome your husband is, because husband bashing serves as a type of sick female bonding. That afternoon made her rethink how she talks about her own husband and how she's going to respond when the women around her start the eye…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 02:24 PM
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Meanwhile HAES[3] tirelessly promotes the opposite for women. Obese is the new normal body type for a woman, "curves" and all that. Shudder. Where's the eye bleach?
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 02:20 PM
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Could you expand on "high T" please?
/r/RedPillParenting22/08/14 02:14 PM
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Thanks. H and I are in the process of raising a red pill son, and am looking for some resources.
/r/RedPillParenting22/08/14 02:14 PM
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how do you ladies keep your pretty things clean? How do you transition from work to home? Do you use aprons? Do you have 2 sets of pretty things - one for work and one that is more easily washed? The vast majority of my work clothes are machine washable. I do however tend to change when I get home from work. (I am a mom of two, ages 6 and 3.) At work I am a Senior xxxx, at home I need to communicate a different message and my clothes help me to do so. At home I want to be cute and somewhat sexy …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 08:02 PM
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With so much of the "anger stage" at TRP... is there much LTR material to be had? No offense met, but I am lurking at TRP less and less.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 08:47 PM
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Is there an age where butt-length hair becomes too much? I can't imagine a 60- year old with hair that long. Maybe a 40-year old. What's the limit?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 08:30 PM
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Thanks for the followup. Hope things continue to improve for you and your wife.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/14 09:03 PM
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My husband and I - while neither of us were virgins, we waited until our wedding night. Totally worth it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/14 08:49 PM
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I have mentioned recently the concepts of TRP that apply to marriage specifically and he was shocked at me "finally getting it". Thank you for posting this! I am a Protestant working mom (and obviously, wife). I went through some of the same as you when I started applying RPW to my marriage. It was incredibly frustrating for the first years of our marriage because it was almost as if we were talking past each other and not really communicating. I found RPW and started doing the right things - al…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/14 08:48 PM
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she deserved a good crushing anyway. Gee, sounds so... Biblical. /s Hope you are/were able to settle that out.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/14 08:30 PM
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My mom would crochet while watching tv. At one time I would hand quilt... unfortunately I don't watch enough tv at this point to get much of either done. Good thoughts though about leveraging tv time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/14 04:44 PM
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The monogamy thing--no. He's definitely not, and she may or may not be either. What is this based on?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/14 08:35 PM
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Ah, bobby pins. Hubby helped take mine out in our honeymoon suite, we still talk about it from time to time. It is a fond memory. :D
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/14 08:31 PM
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My sister-in-law is a very intelligent lady. She never went to a day of college. She married my husband's brother young. She is... maybe 33, they've been married 12 years and have three children. She has made it her business to run their home and home school their three little ones. And by "made it her business" I don't mean it in a pushy way: Instead of a formal education she has focused on learning how to do her vocation well. And she does. Frankly, I'm intimidated by her skill as a mother and…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/14 01:44 PM
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Fair enough! The etiquette is: the invitation is for exactly who it is addressed to. The +1 means you are welcome to bring a date or a friend. No restriction. If you're not familiar with this then it's understandable to drop your friend a quick text to figure out what's going on. So: If I were to recieve an invite for Mr and Mrs RPWJ2014 and the invite did NOT include my children's names or "and family" then it would be clear that it is a non-family event. (A formal evening wedding, perhaps?) OR…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/14 01:57 PM
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She is shit testing YOU. I tend to agree. I'm not so sure we're getting the full story here, though.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 05:13 PM
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What works for you, ladies? Everyone's going to be different. There are just so many different variables that go into finding a good balance and making things work. Yup. TRP isn't rules, or regiement, it's a mentality, it's a way of thinking. You've tried to take on more housework, you had positive results. Now rinse and repeat. trying to do too much at once is going to drive you bonkers. My top areas are laundry, housework, and meals (and associated cleanup). As a noob, that's been quite enough…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 05:08 PM
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Exactly. There is much the OP is not sharing. Why would a bride include a +1, but not want someone's SO to go? And why would a guest need to text the bride to check as such? Too much missing from this picture. For all we know, the OP is a plate, and her friend is drawing the line.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 05:00 PM
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I don't know how many times I've seen this, and it still cracks me up!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 08:01 PM
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Even if it's a quick dash of eyeliner and/or some shimmery lip balm. :) It takes less than a minute and makes a lovely difference!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 07:29 PM
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Thank you, I feel better... a little better, anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 07:24 PM
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It's also fun that a gay man gets it, yet a woman doesn't. Don't swing the pendulum too far the other direction. Most women may not get it, some do.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 07:16 PM
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sometimes you have to pry yourself out of your emotional pit and look at the situation rationally: why would you be married to a man you couldn't trust with your well being? I wouldn't be. So instead of letting my emotions rule, I gave that position to him. THIS! When I remind myself of this things get SO much easier, relationally! I have to re-choose to trust him. The results have been fantastic.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 06:20 PM
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It's an interesting social experiment. When I was in college I went to a coffee shop; Twice, about a week apart. The same young lady helped me both times. One day I was dressed "cute" with my hair and makeup in place. The other time I was makeup-less with a ponytail. You can guess which day I got the better service.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 06:14 PM
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I feel you, sister! Corporate world tells women to downplay their femininity. And yes, it's a bid to say "don't look at me as a woman (ignore my female-ness) -look to me as a peer." For me, in university, it played out to wearing jeans and a tshirt like the guys to blend in. Part of me wonders if it's a bit of a defense mechanism to avoid too much scrutiny. I did have one prof that was definitely anti-women. Part of it is the laziness/tiredness of college years (staying up late/waking up early t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 06:04 PM
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The guys probably don't even care what you wear. 37/F/STEM. Peer-to-peer it doesn't seem to make a difference. If you do your job and do it well, no one seems to care. (My area is <10% women.) The higher-ups in my conservative company, however, are more traditionalist. If I am going to continue to promote (another conversation) I will choose to downplay my feminine characteristics and enhance my business value. Personally, where I am at, in my company, this is the picture I see. Companies are al…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 05:52 PM
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This is how I cook! I don't have enough talent to completely wing it, but like to browse and pick the best looking one.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/14 08:25 PM
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Men need - want - to wonder what her boobs look like. This lines up exactly with a male friend that stated he preferred one-piece swimsuits to less fabric, because "it left something to the imagination."
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 03:18 PM
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Another quilter, woohoo! I am working on a baby quilt for a virtual baby shower. Pinks and teals in a chevron pattern. :D
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 03:13 PM
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It is a serious catch-22. And if you're (I'm) trying to please everyone then you're out of luck. You don't have to go 100k into debt to get an education. One thing I have solidly believed for 6 years (e.g. before TRP) is that staying at home wouldn't be a waste of my B.S. (heh...) I have been through the scholarship/college application/education/graduation process as a first gen in my family. My parents had no clue, and there was a lot I either had to figure out outright missed. My children will…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/14 02:36 PM
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the content here is very different Completely agree, which is why I don't have much to add over here and tend to lurk. I have always felt strongly about the whole idea of changing job standards due to gender. I don't care if the firefighter is a man or woman, they better be able to drag my body out of a burning building. Same thing if they're designing a building - that building needs to stand no matter who drew it up. Set the standard, and let the rest of the cards fall where they may.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/14 01:27 PM
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The problem is that the pendulum has swung way in the other direction. Instead of being free to choose, the modern assumption now is that a woman is going to go to college, then to the workplace to "have it all." She now has to go against the norm to be a homemaker and raise children. The pendulum has swung enough the other way that she doesn't really have a choice. Staying at home is a "waste of an education" or a "poor use of her talents."
/r/TheRedPill26/06/14 09:26 PM
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Female STEM here. I have always argued the same thing, whether it's intellectual or physical standards for a job.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/14 09:16 PM
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RPW has a book club?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 09:12 PM
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Glad I wasn't the only one that caught this. First off, the fact the chick is calling around to rally OP's siblings against the OP is a HUGE red flag. Secondly, the siblings taking HER side? That's messed up. Good that he nope'd out of there.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/14 08:00 PM
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Still learning much, myself!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 02:54 PM
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Thanks for your feedback!
/r/RedPillParenting25/06/14 02:47 PM
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Then I realized, there was absolutely nothing wrong with his take on things. This has been a huge revelation to me as well! 9 times out of 10 everything works out, and when it doesn't it's truly not a big deal. I will second /u/taro888 suggestion about baby steps - since you want these changes to stick, take it slowly so you're developing positive habits that will become automatic.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 02:38 PM
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Love this post!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 02:35 PM
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I'd start going to bars after work with a woman like you waiting at home. This. OP, be glad he's spending his money on upgrading his car stereo, and not hookers and blow outside the home. Fix your problems, and maybe he'll decide he wants to fix his.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 02:27 PM
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I don't understand why there has to be a king. I see it more as a dual governing body, him and I. I totally understand where you're coming from here. I could have typed something similar a couple of months ago. Maybe I should have worded it that he needs to feel like the king. It's a male thing, they need to conquer and dominate; if they can't do that at home where else is it going to happen? It will overflow into their lives outside the home. Not saying that you're thinking/saying all of this, …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 02:17 PM
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New RPW here. The why has made all the difference for me. I treat DH like the king of our household because he IS. Who else would it be? I continue to trust him today because I trusted him 8 years ago and chose to marry him. He's an adult, I don't have to rescue him or cover his tail. He is strong and can stand on his own. Whe he screws up he knows it and doesn't need me to tell him. Previous to about 10 days ago, we too had a "split responsibilities" household. I've stepped up my game and have …
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 09:40 PM
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Yup, Alpha -- Beta is a spectrum.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 09:29 PM
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Book smart =/= street smart
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 05:50 PM
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She is a legal adult and will have to deal with the consequences of her actions but she just sounds like a clueless little girl way in over her head Bingo. Her body is mature, her mind needs to catch up. Someone needs to reality check the naivete right out of that girl.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 05:49 PM
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You're welcome! I really enjoyed the mix of conversational and scientific info.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 05:39 PM
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Near-term gratification without thought to long term consequences? In our society? gasp. /s
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 05:32 PM
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Fortunatly my sister found a good lawyer and the case was dismissed. The whole thing was a fiasco (state of MN).
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 05:31 PM
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Great post. Couple of thoughts. Post-menstruation is a wild card. Young women can start periods any time between 9-16. The average is around 12... but that's a huge range. Consider another indicator. •Don't, don't, don't share sexy snapshots of you. Men like to brag and women like to gossip 10,000 times this! And lawyers like lawsuits. My 14yo nephew was sued for a peer sending him a topless photo. He didn't ask for it, she sent it, yet the state wanted to try him as an adult for child pornograp…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 01:30 PM
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"After she’d had Henry, I wasn’t overly careful about hiding my horror that she suddenly had rolls of fat everywhere. Still, if anyone else dared comment negatively on Emily’s figure I’d be the first to leap to her defence. Her body has given us four great children and her flabby tummy is the price she’s paid." Makes all the difference IMO between a quality man and a guy who's out to be a jerk. I went through college under the "big boned"/"muscular"/"athletic build" myth. It may have been true w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 01:22 PM
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If I am making something heavy (cream cheese chicken, talapia parmeseana) I will set aside my portion before adding the heavy topping the last step. Honestly, Weight Watchers works for me. Nothing else really has. When I was in my 20's I could cut the crap and load up on veggies, and lose 5-10 pretty easily. Once I hit 30 that changed; a combination of being happily married, and moving less. You can "eat anything" and as long as you keep track, it works out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 08:25 PM
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It's a little off-putting, If your gut is telling you something, pay attention. If he's not willing to slow down to keep you from getting whiplash, there's something more to the story.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 04:23 PM
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I took the red pill a couple of weeks ago. I am 37; DH and I married at 30 and 31 and felt a bit of the wall anyway. I work in a STEM field, we have 2 children. I created this profile so I can post more freely. :) There is so much that is falling into place now that I am looking around again for the first time. I will post a field report soon; DH has been reacting very well to my changes. :) We've always struggled in our marriage - he's complained often that I don't respect him, and even though …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 02:05 PM
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The difficulty for many of today's career women is that in order to compete with men, we've morphed into them. Yes! We have cut off our hair, put on the pants suit, and put our feminity on a shelf. Only recently has there been a shift where women high up on the corp ladder have longer hair, and wear more color. I've been wondering the last day or two about how to compete in the workplace yet be FO at home. This article answered some of that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 01:54 PM
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This is a really great topic, and one I've been thinking a lot on since I'm 37 and want to take care of what I have! There is a great book out there, "Younger Next Year for Women: Live Strong, Fit, and Sexy—Until You're 80 and Beyond" -very much worth a read. It's aimed for the 40-something crowd, but if we can start these actioin items now while we're in our 30's... well we're that much ahead of the game. Re: Botox -I've got mixed feelings. I agree that it's easy to look unnatural with it. I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 01:28 PM
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