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When he's stressed does he like having you do things for him or does he like uninterrupted time to destress and engage in his own hobbies? The best thing I can do for my SO during stressful times is back off to allow room for Netflix watching and book reading.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 07:56 PM
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I think marital arts are a great hobby. They teach patience and mindfulness, how to keep your calm in tense situation, and focus on defense most of the time not offense. I think every woman should at least take a self defense class as part of personal responsibility, but martial arts from a young age would be even better. She may love it and stick with it, she may decide that it's just a side hobby, she may quit altogether, but I think it's a great hobby to try out.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 04:12 PM
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I took a class in college! If you can find one or even a few YouTube tutorials, that'll up your skills (for when you don't want to deal with hands that smell like feet lol)
/r/RedPillWives25/03/17 10:42 PM
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I'm grateful that my SO has been so supportive during the last few stressful weeks at work I'm tentatively grateful that I seemed to have cleared the greatest work hurdle I'm grateful that we have pets who never fail to do something cute/dumb to make us laugh I like early-mid fall best. October is my spirit month.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 05:17 PM
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If it takes two minutes or less, don't let it sit!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 11:12 PM
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Communication - ask your husband what he wants to see happen on a day to day basis, show him the budget and ask him which areas he'd like to conserve in to bolster your savings, regarding work, pulse oeuvre to look into work you can do from home? I had a friend who would babysit a few other toddlers while she was home watching her own kid anyways. Budgetting - check out r/personalfinance and r/eatcheapandhealthy and read their sidebars for tips on saving and budgetting. Learn to do your own hair…
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 05:09 PM
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Regardless of your feelings about how hard he works at work, it sounds like you didn't implement much of any of the advice given to you last year. What his boss said to him in an email is immaterial. For all you k ow the financial stress is imo ting his current workplace behavior or there's some office politics. But it doesn't matter because it doesn't change the pattern Or your situation. You've gotten good advice about having hard conversations. Don't let your feelings related to the email you…
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 08:54 PM
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Know the phrase "dress for the job you want, not the job you have"? The same principle goes for behavior. Be the cream, not the chaff.
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 10:59 PM
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Yowza! That is inappropriate office behavior and incredibly unprofessional no matter how cute. Maybe hat flies in your workPLACE but it certainly doesn't in the larger workWORLD. Catty coworkers and office politics are best ignored (rise above), but your behavior is inappropriate at best and I wouldn't be shocked if you got a talking to at your annual review
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 10:57 PM
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Similar. I was furious to hear that some schools were closing due to insufficient staff related to the protest. There has to be some understanding that essential functions (like school, emergency services, etc) should continue. Those teachers are also forcing parents to either stay home from work and possibly lose pay or face consequences at work or form out money they may or may not have for childcare. It seems incredibly selfish. Wear red, abstain from purchasing, but don't disrupt essential d…
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 03:34 PM
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1) I'm grateful for the weekend my SO and I just had. I had a hectic and stressful week and didn't have enough time to clean or cook like I usually do before having guests over, but my SO had Friday off and took care of the bigger ticket items and was super cuddly and affectionate and seeing that really helped me get my stress/attitude/perspective in check, and we had a really chill, relaxing weekend even with guests. 2) I'm grateful for the rocking chair I found at a thrift store last night whi…
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 06:04 PM
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Bring him your problem, in this case that you want to help but don't know how, and really listen and respect what (of anything) he says he needs from you.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:11 AM
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Trends come and go. Develop your own style. You may not be buying the hippest trendiest item atH&M but you might feel comfortable in their office appropriate stuff or their basics or whatever. Have you checked out or thought about posting on r/femeninenotfeminist
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:09 AM
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Doesn't coconut oil destroy condoms? Water based lube is the way to go. Warm it up with you hands first, trust me! If you're not too shy, go to a sex toy store and they can help you try out different lubes (on your hands) and tell you what's safe for condoms and what's not. You can usually buy sample packs of lube and try them out at home before buying a full bottle.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:06 AM
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Pack the lunches, offer thoughts and advice when asked, have coworkers over for dinner parties, pep talks, the usual
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 01:23 PM
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Got any spoilers or tldrs for us?
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 01:21 PM
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I work but I do this on weekends in. I feel like a schlub if I'm in PJs all day and that impacts the way I relate to my SO and other people and things in my life. A pair of leggings and a comfy dress are just as cozy but look better and help me feel like I am presentable and not stuck at home due to my own schlubbiness
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 01:27 PM
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What did it take for you to feel confident in education your children? Like, for example, I love reading but would have no idea how to teach a child to read, etc. I've read up on learning/teaching theory over the years but still don't get it. I have so much respect for teachers and homeschoolers because I wouldn't know where to start, especially with a young child lol
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 06:08 PM
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To get a sense of living on one income, spend three to six months (if you can) putting your income in savings and living on his. Not only will that give you a nice little nest egg, it will help you figurine out where to cut and how to do so comfortably while you still have that income coming in.
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 06:02 PM
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Non sequitor, but what inspired you to choose homeschooling?
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 05:50 PM
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Also check out the book My Side of the Mountain about a boy who leaves the city to live in an old family plot of land in the wilderness
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 06:44 PM
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Depends on how that interest is show . I'm quite a bit taller, so I'd be off out regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/17 06:24 PM
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curling up next to him with a book We do this when SO has to bring work home on weekends. On occasion if I get up to go play with the cats or make a snack, SO will actually ask me to stay and cuddle instead.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 12:41 PM
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Agreed. Life can deal you a shitty hand or a winning hand, but it's up to you to play your cards right.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 12:28 PM
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So when I was growing up, that skinny WASconsidered attractive. But I suppose that varies from place to place and time to time.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 07:07 PM
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As a concept, I like HAES. I ballooned up as a preteen for several years before my height caught up to my weight and evened things out. I was so mopey (I'll never be pretty/thin/athletic so why bother), but the HEAS message would have been incredibly helpful. In this society my experience has been that size/beauty and self worth are intertwined (or at least in my generation), so I like separating those into "no matter what size you are now or what size you end up you are worth putting the time e…
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 07:05 PM
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Playing devils advocate here: if we say that the evolutionary imperative to mate with a fit partner drives attraction to women if a slim/healthy figure, then in theory wouldn't someone very skinny be just as unattractive as someone very overweight due to the impact that low weight has in reproductive capabilities?
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 06:35 PM
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Yup, but that's once you're in. Registering for the draft is a different story.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 02:51 PM
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Funny aside-- In her thought exercise about feeling feminine vs feeling powerful, i had the same moment. My guess is that's because I feel most powerful/in control/etc when I'm in my element and using my strongest skills, which aren't traditionally masculine ones to begin with. I totally agree with the premise of the harsh/masculinizing workplace taking its toll on women. Feminism fought for women to be able to enter the workforce, which was a mans world. Feminism didn't change the workplace; it…
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 04:44 PM
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Congrats!
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 12:44 PM
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When I think tinder, I think cheap and easy hookups. Many people use multiple apps, so why not stick to OKC, CMB, etc in hopes that the guy you might have matched with in tinder is also on one of those. Think also about what being on tinder says about you.
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 01:53 AM
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A bowl of Hershey's kisses. He will be the most popular man in the office.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 01:37 AM
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Ohhh! Ok, I get you. I think this was posted during my hiatus. Great post, thanks!
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 03:09 PM
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What does HHH mean?
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 04:04 AM
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My SO and I did one if those online love language quizzes based on that book together as a fun date night in. It confirmed what we already knew about each other but it was nice to have a concrete result to build a conversation around.
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 01:55 AM
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I have no idea what you're asking so I'm just going to answer as I understand it. When I'm playing a game with my SO, I don't hold back. I bring my A game, so my SO can either beat me fair and square or admire my skill... usually the former lol.
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 01:51 AM
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There's always some fad chasers with any new movement/diet/lifestyle. I kind of wish there were some around me IRL so I could maybe have some gals to do productive activities with. Maybe check out some MeetUps.com groups if you find the time in between your DH and kiddos.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 10:45 PM
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I am indeed pretty liberal, politically, but the type of liberals produced by tumblr are just... so wearying. You and me both!
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 10:42 PM
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"Hey, how's it going. I saw you posted an article about ISSUE the other day and I was wondering if we could grab coffee and talk about it" - said hardly anyone ever on social media when trying to have a discussion and/or challenge someone else's opinion.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 06:19 PM
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Chivalry isn't dead! Sounds like you've got a good one :-)
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 06:17 PM
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So from his end being stupid goes both ways in that choosing to have sex with a drunk girl (for example) increases your risk of wrongdoing? While also, getting blackout drunk at a frat party increases your risk of being assaulted?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:09 PM
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What was it like in the early days? Why do you think it devolved I to clickbait?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:07 PM
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Just put it in hold at the library
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:06 PM
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I will say, I know someone IRL who is a very down to earth hippy dippy, passively avoids all things princessy/pink/etc but doesn't go out of her way to hate in them. Her daughter from the age of 2 was obsessed with pink that she saw other girls ind aycare wearing and is the most princessy pink girly girl I've ever met. Her son likes soccer and dolls and orange. Some parents definitely get sucked into the gender stereotype thing, but not all, and some girls like princesses and pink regardless.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:59 PM
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What made you quit blogging and meeting up?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:55 PM
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I know a bunch of people IRL who are super into radical homemaking, new domesticity, reclaiming femininity, etc all from a liberal anti-oppressive perspective. Sometimes I wonder how many of them are really just burning out from the hyper-PC, liberal, snowflake, identity politics and going along for the ride as the pendulum swings more conservative to balance things out. Do you see any of that in your offline life too?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:54 PM
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What were his opinions on rape culture? If you're RP we're his opinions more BP?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:51 PM
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Post it here! sounds like it will be a happy update!
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:13 PM
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I haven't touched the random button since it gave me some weird fetish thing lol glad it worked out better for you!
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:00 PM
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Aww! How are things now?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 03:59 PM
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I looked this up once. Transwomen (MtF) have to register but if the draft is instated, they will not be drafted, but need to report to the call for the official "no we won't draft you" piece of paper. Transmen (FtM) didn't have as much written on them. IIRC they may not register even after their documents have all been changed and may (for financial aid purposes, etc) need to get an official rejection letter to prove that they didn't dodge the draft. No word on people in between. Seems like the …
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 03:52 PM
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I love cabbage slaw, broccoli slaw, corn salad (fresh or good quality frozen corn thawed with chopped tomatoes, avocado, and scallion or red onion dressed in lime juice and salt), and a good hearty potato salad. I made pulled BBQ chicken in the slow cooker this week but didn't go the fun sides route.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 03:36 PM
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Wow! Talk about cherry picking. That being said I think we should have a draft for men and women and anyone in between, like Israel does. It's a 2-3 year draft, and there's a job for everyone. You can fight, you can teach, you can run logistics or if you're not fit or object to military service, you get placed in a community service position where you might teach, do child care, aid new immigrants in an absorption shelter, etc. That system ensures that every kid has a chance to get away from hom…
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 03:32 PM
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I love my social work field for similar reasons. I used to think about teaching English/writing but classroom management scared me off. I might get my PhD one day and teach at the college level. Good on you for pursuing what you love!
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 01:20 PM
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Specific to STFU-ing when you want to ask if your SO loves you-- here's what I think to myself to help: I trust and respect my SO's decision-making skills. If my SO has decided that I'm a worthwhile partner and chooses to be in a relationship with me, then I will trust and respect that decision too. Basically, trust his judgement when it comes to who he wants to be in a relationship with. Any of our boyfriends, husbands, or whatever you call your partner could wake up one morning and decide that…
/r/RedPillWives16/02/17 05:54 PM
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Steak first, because nothing sets the mood like red meat, then maybe that toy my SOs been talking about... EDIT: hit post before i was done Last week was hard because I had trouble thinking if something new to try. I ended up tucking a love letter in my SOs lunch bag. My SO likes love letters but knows I struggle writing them, so it was a good challenge for me and much appreciated/extra special.
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 08:04 PM
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Enjoy!
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 08:02 PM
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Your first point, I understand. The second point I'm still not wrapping me head around. It's because of internalized ideas about the roles of men and women that dads get flack (guilty until proven innocent). If women adhere to gender roles, it makes dad's overstepping that gender role even more egregiously out of the norm and therefore suspect, no?
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 04:09 PM
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Issues like this trip me up on red pill theory because, as I understand it (and please correct me if I'm wrong), RP endorses traditional gender roles as part of the path to healthy relationships and functioning between the sexes. On the other hand, all of the issues in this thread (sexual assault, parenting, "dirty work", etc) have to do with gender roles. We're gender roles abolished, these wouldn't be issues because there would be, for example, no concept of men=pursuer/women=pursued therefore…
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 03:09 PM
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Adorable! I want to second what you said in your comment about commitment when you're young and seeing each other through to young/broke/stupid years. I'm pretty young so, older women feel free to chime in and correct me. When you make a commitment to someone while you're both still young and growing, it forces you to grow together. Without that commitment you grow individually and that means growing apart; but with commitment you become a unit growing together, growing more compatible together,…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 06:11 PM
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1) I'm grateful for the three day weekend that I added a vacation day to to get some rest and make some headway on home improvement projects (SO's favorite poster has no been framed and hung along with some other art we've collected) 2) SO ordered in my favorite burgers on Sunday and we just stayed in and watched TV together, and it was so much better than the birthday dinner my SO had originally been talking about but couldn't do last week because of long hours (and by BETTER I mean less clothi…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 05:33 PM
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If you live near a Williams-Sonoma, sign up for a cooking demo. Fish tacos are simple. I rub tilapia with a Cajun spice blend and some salt then throw it in a hot oiled pan and cook each side until it's crispy. I serve it up ina tortilla with whatever taco appropriate vegetables and dips I have on hand. Garlic shrimp (gambas al ajo) are also simple. It's basically shrimp (skinned and deveined) sautéed in garlic and butter or oil inthink with a little tomato (haven't made it in years but it was m…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 02:05 PM
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Here's a good overview: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4daxez/the_stfu_method/
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 12:22 AM
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"Stfu" is shut the fuck up, in true RPW bluntness. Basically holding your tongue especially when your anxieties, insecurities, need for control, etc go into overdrive. Sometimes we dig ourselves into a hamster hole. type "STFU" in the search box (be sure to limit your searches to this sub only) and you'll find it explained waaay better than I can. Can someone tag the mod who was talking about a TBT/throwback Thursday of old but good posts. Maybe we could start with the STFU method. Edit: clarity…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 12:20 AM
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We had a discussion this morning and he talked about how he has been slacking and is going to change that. He did the laundry, went out to buy groceries, and is talking about his plans to move forward with his career. I still think he needs some help, obviously, but that might be mental health kind of help. I'm glad having this conversation works. Bringing your captain your problems is always a great start to effective communication (see also STFU, etc). Mental health could be a factor, but plea…
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 10:16 PM
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Does she have an issue with feminism? Or specifically third wave? This is a question I often run into in anti-feminist spaces. There's so much criticism of third wave liberal feminism; but I don't see much content or opinions on other streams of feminism. Are they "all the same" or is it specifically this liberal-feminism that most take issue with?
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 06:01 PM
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I'm guilty of this too. What helps me is taking a deep breath and remembering how grateful I am that my SO is doing whatever it is and not me. Who cares how the thing gets done as long as the end result is the same, right?
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 03:39 PM
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But then she'd be in the same boat plus she works.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 03:37 PM
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This was great!
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 03:36 PM
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Fair criticism. You make a good point about the work/housekeeping vs neither point. Homemaking is a full time job, so is job hunting though. I would expect my captain to be doing at least one of those "full time" but then again my SO is one of the most driven people I've ever met, so I may be biased here.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 03:34 PM
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Oh my goodness, he's not your child! If he wants a trainer, he can get one or ask for your help himself, etc. Back down a little (or a lit), because it sounds like you're inadvertently emasculating and infantilizing him. How in earth do you plan to have kids with a man you're not married to when you're the breadwinner? Time off work, etc??? It doesn't even sound like he's initiated the wanting kids conversation. Try bringing him your problems in a non accusatory way,m, like "I'm struggling to ke…
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 04:50 AM
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Re: men's roles and rights, i think there is a limit with pregnancy in that if she wants an abortion and he doesn't, well, he's not the one carrying the child for nine months or risking his health. I don't think anyone should have the right to mandate someone to carry their child. If she wants the child and he doesn't, I think there's room for either a pre-natal termination of parental rights or even mandatory abortion, but legally I can see that getting complicated since the justice system move…
/r/RedPillWives12/02/17 03:12 AM
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My state is super pro reunification and pro parents rights and slow to terminate rights. I've worked with kids who have been in and out of the system for 3, 6, plus years
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 07:20 PM
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Did you catch the article in the Atlantic about the father trying to adopt his child after a shill of a woman reneged in her promise to give the baby to him if she didn't want it instead of letting strangers adopt it: https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2015/07/paternity-registry/396044/ Well written and a great read!
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 03:41 PM
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In my (limited) experience, adoption is expensive and foster-to-adopt is difficult because the courts believe in family reunification and are slow to terminate parental rights. A kid in foster care costs quite a bit. Would you tweak any of these systems to make adoption easier or cheaper? If so, what would your ideal look like?
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 03:38 PM
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Absolutely! People already have gone to the lengths of risky black market abortions to end pregnancies. If there willing to put their own life in danger, why wouldn't they do this?
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 02:16 PM
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Anyone who goes for evidence collection (fluid, DNA, etc) has it done at a hospital where standard procedure is to give them the morning after pill anyways.
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 02:15 PM
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This is where I fall in my own beliefs. Pragmatism wins out!
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 02:14 PM
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I want to echo what you said about other pro-choicers. The topic came up on a different forum that is all liberal pro-choicers, many of whom are in their 20s. And they were literally like "all pro-lifers are evil" and let's just say my arguments to the contrary fell on deaf ears.
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 02:11 PM
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To be fair, it's probably not the parading gay people getting the birth control and abortions ;-)
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 06:29 PM
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I think you mean double plus ungood
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 06:28 PM
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Have lots of guests and spend lots of time in the bedroom isnmy secret. Most of the mess is clothing leftover from laundry (which we air dry) and my SO leaves things on the flor and I don't know what's ok to be reworn and what is destined for the bin and it just adds up fast.
/r/RedPillWives10/02/17 12:47 AM
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Im going to have to start hosting dinner parties or breaking things in our bedroom lol. The living room is always company ready because I like having SOs friends and coworkers over-- the most it will need is a quick vacuum and 5 minute surface decluttering (reshelving books, bringing clothes back to the bedroom, putting the throw blankets and pillows back). The kitchen is almost always company ready but gets dirtier faster and more often. Same for the bathroom but it's small and easy to clean th…
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 02:19 PM
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Congrats :-))))))
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 02:11 PM
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I could use some help brainstorming how to do this. I praise my SO at home very often. SO had to turn in some big reports at work yesterday and was nervous about the reception and I was all like "you're so smart and worked so hard, they've loved all your work so far, and I'm sure whatever you handed in was awesome" (to summarize). I never speak negatively about my SO in public. I tend to keep my private life private so I don't speak about my SO much at work, etc. it's been a while since I've got…
/r/RedPillWives08/02/17 07:26 PM
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How about, "hey babe, I know things are tough right now but if there's anyone who can push through this rut, it's you! What can I do to support you/make you feel good (wink wink)/take your mind off things/etc?" Affirm your belief in him and be his soft place to land.
/r/RedPillWives08/02/17 01:34 PM
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Thats up to you. For jokey gifts I just hide them around the house and either make it a scavenger hunt or a complete surprise. I put new head phones on SOs pillow last week. Finding them was half the fun :-)
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 12:25 AM
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I like simple gift bags. Streamlined presentation, not a lot of frill, but still aesthetically pleasing. You can get one that's not too girly too. If you want to class it up, get some tissue paper to stick out the top. Something like this but with whatever color combo you like: http://www.actionbag.com/media/wysiwyg/bagtypes.jpg They can also be saved and reused. I always keep few on hand for last minute or surprise gifts.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 08:34 PM
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I want to see the actual policy. If it really just says "dress like women" then it's a bit of a dud... like how can you not expect scrutiny (legal or social) for that. Also, I'm not sure I like what most "women" do with their clothing choices (and eyebrows) nowadays. I think we all get what he means. Dress feminine, clean cut, attractive without being unprofessionally attracting. But it could easily mean a shot ton of face contouring, huge ass drawn on eyebrows, ill fitting and ripped denim alon…
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 06:37 PM
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I won't keep mine for more than four or five days but it's probably good for a week. Longer if you freeze it.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 05:40 PM
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I was waiting for this to turn up here
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 05:38 PM
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My issue with most wool tights is that the weave isn't dense enough to offer much protection if there's any kind of breeze. Going up a size so they don't stretch helps but we sure you've got boots in to hide the inevitable ankle sag
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 01:53 PM
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This is my jam since I live in a cold climate and don't wear pants. Fleece leggings. The full on fleece ones are warmer than plain old fleece lined leggings or fleece lined tights but those are both options as well. On very cold days I pair those with wool socks, proper winter boots (warm and waterproof), and a sweater dress or sweater skirt with light layers on top. It also helps to figure out what parts of your body make the biggest difference to your sense of cold. For me it's my feet, torso,…
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 12:00 PM
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Tunnel vision gets the better of us all when we're too focused in on the problem. This is why I love bringing my SO my problems. There's always something I haven't thought of or some perspective I can't see on my own.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 10:25 PM
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Im calling bullshit. A lot of those skills can be self taught. I used to make side money as a freelance graphic designer which is a skill I picked up before YouTube by just fiddling with the software on a school library computer. You have to make your own opportunities. And you also have to take yourself down a notch. The world does not owe you a job. You have to earn it. It won't be pretty and it might be mind numbing and soul crushing. This is reality. If you work hard and play your opportunit…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:31 PM
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And teach her critical thinking so she can evaluate claims for herself.
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 12:50 PM
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I will likely have an hour (maaaybe two) after I get home but before SO gets home and there are some heavier duty chores we both dread and therefore do together but put off this pst weekend. I'm going to try and get them done and "surprise" SO with burgers from our favorite place (burgers are better than chores). Im debating whether or not to have them delivered at home and greet SO wearing nothing but my apron or going out for the ambiance. There is one chore that we HAVE to do together so, per…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 07:44 PM
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Four weeks away. That's good to know. I have to wait longer than that for the next season of my shows lol
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 04:43 PM
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Is there any way to watch it online? There are no screenings near me and I can't organize one
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:36 PM
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Haha I put notes in lunch boxes here and there or a surprise sweet treat. Not very often so it's always a surprise.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:35 PM
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SO doesn't like coffee or tea but I try/usually do make a grab and go breakfast for us both
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:02 PM
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Got any tips for a good morning? My SO is so happy just to be home that bad work days disappear upon entry haha. It's the mornings that are tough!
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 12:24 PM
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We went to a historic landmark and were able to find some of SO's family's immigration records from way back when! It was like a little treasure hunt and because it's cold, there weren't too many tourists.
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 02:24 PM
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I need to work full time for nonprofit or government for ten years to discharge my student loans. Sadly it makes the most sense for our finances. But thank you for the reality check! We're talking a bit more about how to balance things for now.
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 02:22 PM
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I've read up on her before. Most of the systems out there, like flylady, seem written for a house or a family with kids. I struggle adapting them to a one bedroom apartment without kids (unless fur babies count).
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 01:27 PM
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I usually end up making two dinners, or a big cut of meat that I eat less of along with more veggies
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 07:04 PM
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You're hired !
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 07:57 PM
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Preach!
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 05:23 PM
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But Logan few out of it. Made his own mistakes and learned to take responsibility for them! By the time he proposed to Rory he was a decent human being.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 05:21 PM
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We don't know what goes on behind closed doors though. Michelle Obama was also graceful, feminine, and supportive of her husband.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 04:31 PM
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It's really helpful to hear how other people do it and man do I wish we had a washer/dryer in house or even in building. Dead time at the laundromat could be good chore time! I got bored with podcasts and switched to piano jazz on Spotify and it does wonders for my mood... once I actually get around to putting away laundry or doing the dishes lol Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 09:57 PM
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I've done the frozen lemon trick and wasn't a huge fan because it ruins he texture of the lemons and I really like sucking on them when the glass is done. I do like popping in frozen cranberries with a squirt of lime juice! I also keep a knob of ginger in the freezer to quickly grate or slice into a recipe or a hot mug of water with some lemon or honey. Frozen peaches into sweet white wine is amazing though, especially if they're nice overripe peaches that you froze yourself to keep from spoilin…
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 09:48 PM
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Thanks for the reminder to keep my expectations in check!
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 09:33 PM
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Oh my gosh, you "get" it! I should be getting up more. My job is sometimes sedentary and sometimes on my feet half the day, but never heavy physical work, so it's really something I should make more of an effort to work on. Im super awesome about hydration though. I drink lukewarm or iced herbal tea all day long. I just discovered chamomile-lavender and it is doing wonders for my work stress :-) With regards to cleaning one hung a day, do you ever feel like you're never done? I haven't tried tha…
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 09:23 PM
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Then again she listed lifestage milestones which you can be any age for. I was in my early/mid twenties when I finished a professional degree, obtained licensure, and entered the workplace-- payed down my credit card debt and actually cared about and started investing for my retirement and squirreled away several thousand for a downpayment on a house (when I find the right house). I'm in my mid twenties and living the person I'm going to marry. I have friends in their late twenties, pushing earl…
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 12:12 AM
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My SO and I are a couple years older than you but REALLY not much Because we both just finished grad school in the last year. We have been together a year and a half and have been living together for six months. We have talked about it and plan to get engaged at the end of my SOs contract (another year and a half), after that my SO could end up anywhere in the country. I set a hard limit that I will not move for my SO without a solid commitment, which is why my SO proposed engagement at the end …
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 02:56 PM
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Don't give up your means of supporting yourself for a maybe. You aren't even engaged. He doesn't get to dictate your major career moves without some major commitment.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 02:47 PM
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...in bed? Because lord, let me tell you what we just got up to. I am one very happy lady right now. My SO is still sleeping it off, so I'm going to get something tasty cooking for dinner now.
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 09:46 PM
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In addition to what others have said, have you tried bringing him your problem: namely that you don't know how to handle out of whack hormones in addition to raising the kids, managing the household, and being a loving partner. Maybe he'll have some suggestions on what would work best for both of you during this period of instability
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 01:19 AM
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I hate her writing but enjoyed the method. I still prefer my personal folding style to hers and think her book philosophy is garbage but to each their own
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 01:44 PM
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I actually did post under an alt in askTG once as a social experiment and got told that I sounded trans and plenty other transmen felt that way yadayada I think people also find ways to make peace with and make meaning out of the choices in life they made, particularly the ones with heavy social investments, like coming out as trans or joining a new religion or marrying that guy your friends say is no good, etc, so people's psyche's protect against regret in many ways... I don't think as many pe…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 01:42 PM
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I had the same gender swap dream wish experience as you, except I'm a woman and my dreams were about being a man. It is easier or at least safer to move through the world as a man and I got so many awful and conflicting images about what it means to be a woman as a child that of course I wouldn't want to be a woman and the only alternative was a man. My mother never explained how my body worked to me, so having a penis seemed cleaner and easier. My mother may have wanted a RPW life but did every…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 10:38 PM
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Im Relaxed-Engaging too (66.7% relaxed/41.7 engaging), twins!
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 02:11 PM
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I've lurked on r/personalfinance but even their sidebar intros go over my head.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 02:02 PM
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Hmmm. When I was poor it was hand to mouth and barely enough for rent. I can't imagine compromising anywhere without being homeless.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 12:49 PM
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That's exactly how I was raised!
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 12:48 PM
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Yikes
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 10:06 PM
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I never understand how people who are poor afford drugs. I should know this based on my line of work but I just don't. Any ideas?
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 09:30 PM
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Im mid twenties too and embarrassed that I'm not more up to date with investments. I went with a company retirement plan/stock profile and contribute to that and that's about it. The rest of my savings is floundering away in a savings account. I almost have enough for a good downpayment on a starter house in a lower COL area but won't be ready to buy for another few years, so I should really get into investing. If I talk about this with people other than my SO who i went to school with, they loo…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 09:29 PM
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I hear you in the vinegar. I wish more places in the states served fries with a bottle of malt vinegar. Edit: it's tastier, lighter, and healthier than ketchup!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 09:26 PM
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Or just make sure your SO eats more garlic than you and won't be able to tell ;-)
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 09:26 PM
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I tease my little sister that she's paying someone to ruin her clothes for her. Everything she buys comes with holes and frays!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:51 PM
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Do t touch my garlic salt! Actually there's a place I like that puts fresh crushed garlic and parsley or basil on fries, but it's just a sprinkling so it doesn't give me overwhelming garlicky breath.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:49 PM
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My city has made some of those Ganges over he last decade and it's infinitely more livable now. Unfortunately the dirt cheap gyms are pretty out of the way and the ones in poorer neighborhood's aren't well maintained BUT they are a lot better than nothing!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:41 PM
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Don't forget the scene kids!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:39 PM
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Agreed but people always sure at me like I have a third head when I voice that.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:39 PM
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Im a devoted knit-while-Netflix-binger. My guilty pleasure is Sister Wives, and I'm in the middle of another scarf.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:38 PM
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Thanks for this! It's a really helpful breakdown!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 05:36 PM
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Can you say more about the skills/resilience? I'm a social worker by trade so that's kinda my jam but personal is very different from professional.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 03:46 AM
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5'9" BUT always wanted to hit 10"
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 06:40 PM
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I have wanted to be a foster parent for some time now and found out today that I may have fertility issues anyways. I'd love to hear more about your fostering experience. I have a social worker friend who works with high needs foster kids (mental illness, medical disorders, special needs, etc but she gets most of the mentally ill or behavioral issues kids). I'd love to hear more from the experience of the actual foster parent.
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 06:39 PM
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I can't look back to the OP while typing on my app so apologies if I overshare or undershare in relation to the questions posed. I am almost 25 and have been in a LTR for a little under two years, living together for the last six months. My SO doesn't feel comfortable around kids, and I go back and forth. My SO knows that I would like to be a foster parent when we're both more stable in our careers. I was raised by a single mother who had somewhat traditional marriage values even though she didn…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 06:36 PM
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my normal suit dress and be a bit chilled for a few hours? You don't have to be chilled. If sweater tights are too bulky, look into fleece lined tights. They're opaque, so if the opaque look doesn't go with your outfit, maybe you are SOL. But seriously, wear what makes you feel confident for the interview. If that means being a bit cold, so be it.
/r/RedPillWives07/01/17 07:47 PM
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49 BUT a lot of questions weren't relevant because I grew up outside of the United States
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 06:18 PM
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Recognizing that I don't have all the answers and that what I think is best for me isn't necessarily best for us as a couple and trusting that my partner has both of our best interests at heart.
/r/RedPillWives04/01/17 07:18 PM
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1) i am grateful that my SOs parents welcome and include me in their family holiday party 2) I am grateful that my SO is as much of a homebody as I am so we can "detox" from holiday socializing together 3) I am grateful that between the two of us, my SO and I can live a financially comfortable and predictable life with little luxuries for us both, including the ridiculously good Vermont butter we just bought
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 03:58 PM
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Good: had a restful and oroductive long weekend that included seeing my family off after a weeklong holiday stay, having a mutual friend over for Friday night dinner, having my SOs friends from uni over for NYE followed by a holiday party at my SOs parents on NYD, and catching up on household chores today interspersed with watching pride and prejudice movies while I worked since my SOs parents got us a smart DVD player that my SO got streaming devices hooked up to. Bad: the weekend is over Ugly:…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 03:18 AM
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