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Red pilled Christian’s. We look at the tools taught in the married red pill and the Red pill subreddit through actual biblical teaching. It’s crazy how biblical a lot of it is.
/r/RPChristians04/11/24 05:14 PM
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One look at this guys profile tells us everything.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/24 01:54 PM
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Dude I guess I can spell this out for you. Appetites whether sexual or for food purposes are the same in that you have a finite capacity. You cannot just eat and eat. At some point you become satisfied and no longer have the hunger pain or motivation to eat. Sexual appetite is the same. You cannot just become bone and bone. If you satisfy your sexual hunger with porn, it will either decrease your drive for real sex or sensitivity to real sex. Especially if done daily. But Again keep coping. You’…
/r/TheRedPill01/08/24 01:52 PM
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A hungry man hunts, you fool. No one is going to enjoy the 5 star meal if they have been eating shit all day. Porn is the shit. Real women are the 5 star meals. Keep coping.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/24 11:10 AM
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There is hope. Just get to work. And don’t blame your her for you sucking.
/r/askMRP09/06/24 09:04 PM
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Don’t get defensive, you came here and asked. You’re also angry like all of us were at some point. A lot still are. Funnel it into bettering yourself. It will fade but you should use it while it’s here. If you really don’t care about her anymore then there is nothing holding you back from being an authentic you that focuses relentlessly on bettering yourself. No more nice guy stuff. Focus on you. Shut up while doing it. It’s really important that you don’t go preaching your new found knowledge. …
/r/askMRP09/06/24 08:00 PM
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Are you an awesome human being? Seriously? Do people want to be around you? Are you fun loving and carefree? Have you improved yourself to the point to where it would make no sense from someone on the outside looking in that you’re not getting action 24/7? No. So shut up until you get there. Maybe then and it’s a big maybe you might deserve the things you want. Until then please shut up. I skipped most of your pandering because it was easy to tell where it’s going. Until you are awesome enough t…
/r/askMRP09/06/24 04:16 PM
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This reminds me of the response someone made to my last OYS on MRP before I got permabanned No one explained themselves. Vets just started getting in a circle and kicking him while high diving each other. I have gone through the post a few times and have read others making an attempt at breaking it down but still. Vit did not provide value but no one else did either. which seems to be a pattern with you christian f@gg0ts. you all like to play a bunch of pretend. it was way better when you were o…
/r/RPChristians07/06/24 12:19 PM
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I see. I don’t think I have that much going on. In the absence of RP content over the last few months I picked up video games again and started scrolling popular Reddit. Those are the things I will cut back on. My job gives me a lot of free time so I plan to do productive reading during the days I have free time as well instead of turning to porn out of boredom. I was sleeping terribly. I would typically sleep for a few hours and then wake up between 1-3 and not be able to get back to sleep. Sin…
/r/RPChristians07/06/24 12:08 PM
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Excuses. Leaned on my shoulder still hurting. Wasn’t difficult to get back to it this week. I’ve worked out every day thus far. I talked to family about it and we realized together that due to our past we just shut down sometimes. We kind of go into a state of just existing. I don’t want to exist like that anymore so I’m making the changes. What do you mean about saying no? Obviously I need to say no to the things that impact me negatively like booze and porn (which I have not had any of since t…
/r/RPChristians07/06/24 09:14 AM
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There is no such thing as a better man. Part of RP is seeing that you decide what is good or bad for YOU. There are those here that value power above all else and see sharing and being vulnerable as a sign of weakness that could lose them power. There are others that value relationships that see shaving their feelings and being vulnerable as a way to seeping relationships. It’s up to you. Personally I see it even more basic. Are you honest? Are you hiding? Are you putting on a face? These are th…
/r/askMRP06/06/24 10:58 AM
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I think it more so means that you cannot rely on anyone but yourself. The “path” being the road to your most successful happy self or the RP road. No one is out to help men walk this path. Woman are in it for themselves no matter how much they tell you otherwise. There is no support system out there to lift men up in a way all woman have access to one. There is camaraderie for men which can be nice but make no mistake, when it comes to your goals and your happiness the buck starts and ends with …
/r/askMRP06/06/24 10:17 AM
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OYS 14 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and a girl on the way. I got a lifetime ban from MRP. Spiraled and haven’t done a thing relating to it since. I have been on auto pilot in most things while actively preparing for a baby. I have restarted PT for my shoulder (prior attempt was online and it sucked now going real stuff and actually seeing improvement). Provided a lot of comfort to my wife while she has been pregnant and we are in a good space. Haven’t had sex in a w…
/r/RPChristians03/06/24 12:40 PM
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I am a rando on the internet so take what I say with a grain of salt. I am also a hopeless optimist (also as in like you). Only you can gauge what’s going on here. If you believe her then own it and move on. Continue to improve and do the work. Forgive her and move on. I hold the opinion that men are like dogs and I equate this to being told when I was young that the reason dogs are man’s best friend is because they are the most forgiving animal in the world. You can legit, out of nowhere hit th…
/r/askMRP03/06/24 07:44 AM
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She likely went further than she admitted. It is unwise of you to believe you caught it at the beginning because chicks are much better at hiding things then we are. You gladly took what she said and dropped it because you couldn’t handle what the truth likely is and then she trauma bonded you with the weeks of good sex. Have you read anything here? Because this is textbook behavior. If it’s important to you draw the line and stick to it. You don’t have to give her leeway because of your past ch…
/r/askMRP02/06/24 01:34 PM
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This isn’t magic. You don’t waive a wand. You were consistent in not accepting bad sex which showed congruence. That got you laid. Keep it up. Read lift and STFU.
/r/askMRP01/06/24 05:00 PM
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Either way he needs to stop considering her as a factor in the outcome he wants in his life. Who cares if she makes more. Who cares if she feels justified in her work. He has a plan and a goal. He needs to work toward it. If he is doing the other work; lifting, reading and STFU while also pursuing his mission she either cums around or she doesn’t. He can’t be mad until he is his best self but if he actually gets to that point and still has problems with her then that’s a whole other issue that h…
/r/askMRP29/05/24 12:17 AM
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You nailed it. Everyone stuck in the anger phase getting mad they are doing all this work, expecting the world to give them something for it. He asked her for help, she didn’t. No big deal. He can take care of himself. He keeps doing the work and fulfilling his own needs, at some point she will do the math and either add herself in or get left behind. It’s that simple. Stop making these woman part of the equation. Get what you want out of life by doing the work. If you’re worth it a lady will wa…
/r/askMRP29/05/24 12:05 AM
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After one time of this happening you should have pulled your attention and just planned to get done what you needed. When you have become attractive enough she will either fall in line or you will have what you need to act accordingly. Edited: misspelling
/r/askMRP28/05/24 08:16 PM
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Short answer: rely on yourself alone. She has proven to be unreliable so stop. Pretend she doesn’t exist and do what you would do for you. Two things will happen. You get what you want and therefore have nothing to complain about or she sees you don’t need her and feels compelled to change.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 08:13 PM
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https://open.spotify.com/show/3rpy0QBzyBshKgHcXv1zIM?si=uKA5abxmSUeQj1v0HWCqrQ There is no reason outside of the above to not have Spotify. lol
/r/askMRP19/05/24 12:59 PM
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I have the subscription but it may be free with adds. I don’t have to pay extra for it.
/r/askMRP18/05/24 09:59 AM
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It’s on Spotify all!
/r/askMRP18/05/24 09:26 AM
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I needed to read that again.
/r/askMRP23/04/24 11:17 PM
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You have more work to do than you think. Keep lifting and reading. Outside of that, your desire to see your wife smile like that is affirmation seeking. You’re asking us if it’s okay for you not to put on shows for your wife to get validation. Change is uncomfortable. Do you want a friend that laughs at your jokes or a woman that can’t keep her hands off you? That’s the real question you’re asking.
/r/askMRP23/04/24 07:48 PM
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(Im projecting clearly) I didn’t read all of your OYS. I got to “once the structure goes, I go with it”. I am the same. Got banned from MRP permanently and have kind of been falling apart systematically. It comes from an all or nothing mentality I have had my whole life. I know personally that if I allow that to continue I will not have the life I want and neither will you if you do the same. I know now that I (and you) have to be honest with yourself. If you won’t continue to do this just becau…
/r/RPChristians23/04/24 12:57 PM
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This is a quality post. have a delusional level of self belief That alone is a good way to sum up the altitude all men should apply to everything they do. Dig the breakdown of the act of also having to develop an opinion before implementing. You have to have something to say. A mission to accomplish.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/24 09:26 PM
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You have too much fear of how your wife feels about this. Do you. Talk to your parents. Develop the relationships you find important and do so selfishly. No hiding. That’s nice guy crap. If you feel she deserves or you feel she adds value then invite her in. If not don’t. Who cares if she sighs while you’re on the phone. Who cares if she is salty after you give someone else your time. I was the same way with my friends and family. I did everything to avoid her sighing about it. Since I started R…
/r/askMRP08/03/24 03:19 PM
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There is no telling what she may have wanted. You need to lead her to fulfill your desires. All I wanted to do was point out that never in the history of mankind has a woman gotten dolled up without intentions. What you might want to also think about is what YOU did that was so unattractive that she decided she did all that for nothing. Also need to add the RP creedo of: just put "with you" at the end of all of those I can't, I wont statements from your lady. "I would never/have never done those…
/r/RPChristians08/03/24 03:06 PM
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I highly recommend you do not stop lifting. Work around your injury, work on mobility. Also, cutting is not a reason to not lift. You’re the second person to tell me that. I’ll stick to the I lifts I can. I want to drop percentage points fast so planned on switching to cardio. Two people telling me the same thing is enough for me to lift as I can and just incorporate more cardio. . You let this girl have way too much head space. At 20ish% body fat a true 10 would not even talk to you. Maybe a 10…
/r/RPChristians05/03/24 09:10 PM
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OYS 13 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and a girl on the way. Objective: discover what actually makes me happy and pursue relentlessly - achieved listed below New objective: To facilitate and perpetuate discipleship. To pursue my personal relationship with Christ in a way that inspires others to do the same. Objective: destroy covert contracts and validation seeking Objective: live a more sensual lifestyle and experience sexual fulfillment Objective: build a fulfilling…
/r/RPChristians05/03/24 11:02 AM
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She got dolled up. You’re right that she didn’t want to give you a hand job. She wanted more. Wanted you to be a man that would take her and you begrudgingly resigned. The whole serve me for Gods sake is a bad form of negotiating desire and incredibly unattractive. It’s worse than duty sex because of the implication of Gods will. Both God and your wife want you to man up. Be a man and stop looking at porn. Stop looking at porn because God doesn’t want you to. Be a man and take your wife when you…
/r/RPChristians05/03/24 10:32 AM
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You might be right. I can have a thick skull at times.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 05:44 PM
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Not going to lie, interacting with you has me fearful of getting banned but here we go. That thread upset you so much that you had to include it in your OYS? It did. Because I could not see why everyone was so upset. No one explained themselves. Vets just started getting in a circle and kicking him while high diving each other. I have gone through the post a few times and have read others making an attempt at breaking it down but still. Vit did not provide value but no one else did either. Why e…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 11:00 AM
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Most o these are all fitness(sh!t) tests. Fogging would have done you good in all of em. You also have to believe in what you say. Are you certain you will get jobs? Are you certain of the decision to make this move? You as the leader of your house must be. She is pushing you to see if you actually believe in yourself and your plan. If you are so weak that your little lady can make you doubt, why would trust uprooting her entire life with you? The oak would not move against these pushes. Because…
/r/RPChristians28/02/24 01:26 PM
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How long without porn? It can taken a long time to restore your own desire and to get creative. You have literally had curated explicit content melt you brain and ability to be creative. It takes time but it also takes effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 07:32 PM
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Tell us your plan. Broken recording that you have it figured out or that it will all be okay when you have failed to do so in the past will not offer any comfort. They’re may also be power in fogging. “I could see how you feel that way. But this is handled and I’d like to discuss this, or do this” and then you move on. Just let her know that you hear her but are not concerned. Might even be enough to not have to explain yourself as the first time I told my wife “I could see that, but I’m taking …
/r/RPChristians27/02/24 04:10 PM
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OYS 12 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (it’s a girl!) on the way. Objective: discover what actually makes me happy and pursue relentlessly Objective: destroy covert contracts and validation seeking Objective: live a more sensual lifestyle and experience sexual fulfillment Objective: build a fulfilling relationship with my kids that I find rewarding Objective: understand and live out Gods will- this is understood. I am to be a true disciple and am to make di…
/r/RPChristians27/02/24 02:39 PM
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OYS 12 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (it’s a girl!) on the way. Objective: discover what actually makes me happy and pursue relentlessly Objective: destroy covert contracts and validation seeking Objective: live a more sensual lifestyle and experience sexual fulfillment Objective: build a fulfilling relationship with my kids that I find rewarding Objective: understand and live out Gods will- this is understood. I am to be a true disciple and am to make di…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 02:37 PM
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Started listing to living waters this morning. Good stuff.
/r/RPChristians21/02/24 03:42 PM
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On the Old Testament. I have always struggled with it. Seemed like a different God. Moses was my least favorite character in the Bible as he constantly rejected Gods desires for him, passed the responsibilities God gave him to others, showed a profound lack of faith in Gods word despite having physical evidence and oh my goodness that’s me… this whole time I never realized it but I hated him because he is the perfect example of how fallible man is. Even though he is heralded as one of the greate…
/r/RPChristians20/02/24 09:59 PM
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OYS 11 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (it’s a girl!) on the way. Objective: discover what actually makes me happy and pursue relentlessly Objective: destroy covert contracts and validation seeking Objective: live a more sensual lifestyle and experience sexual fulfillment Objective: build a fulfilling relationship with my kids that I find rewarding Objective: understand and live out Gods will Read: NMMNGX 2,MMSLP, TMM, TSAONGAF, Current reading. SGM 30%, RP…
/r/RPChristians20/02/24 01:50 PM
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About two years. after thinking about your question for some time I see that I was DEERing. It’s not that I don’t trust him it’s is that doing that would destroy me or how I think I am perceived. I’m super happy to tell people about how I “used to” struggle with porn, pot and alcohol when I have a couple months down but actually going to my pastor while in the thick of it gives me actual physical discomfort. I have my list of safe people that I know would hold me accountable that I made from a N…
/r/RPChristians18/02/24 03:25 PM
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It is amazing when scientific method is used to explain Gods design. It is rarely done but awesome when it is.
/r/RPChristians15/02/24 08:29 PM
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Objective: discover what actually makes me happy and pursue relentlessly Is that what you think life is about? From my perspective I have been going through the motions so long that I honestly don’t know what makes me happy outside of the fleeting pleasures mentioned. I am not looking for those fleeting pleasures in my objective there. I want lasting joy. I know where it comes from but my life has made it very difficult for me to actually experience it. Not going to use my past as an excuse. Wha…
/r/RPChristians15/02/24 03:16 PM
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And absolutely there are like a handful of scientists out there that are really trying to bring God into the mix but there’s a whole lot of the ego you described out there and all I was saying is it’s definitely good to have a Christian counselor or therapist, or someone who knows that God is the centerpieceespecially when trying to better yourself as a human being
/r/RPChristians15/02/24 01:07 AM
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Promise you I’m not saying I’m against science. Or that it has no place. What I am saying is that most science has the specific goal to explain the world logically without god. Going to a secular science is not helpful for Christians who know that the answer is God most conventional sciences want to point us away from God as an explanation.
/r/RPChristians15/02/24 01:07 AM
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All sciences are man’s attempt to explain and define the world when removing God from it. I am in now way saying that science is garbage. But what I am saying is that science has no interest in gods truth therefore I think it’s a very good idea that you are seeing a Christian therapist vs a secular one. Let us know how it goes.
/r/RPChristians14/02/24 09:38 PM
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Seeing that it has been 3 months since this has me pretty disappointed in myself. I’ve made very little progress on anything. Not as angry but mostly depressed. Have gotten much further in the sidebar. Not gaming my wife at all because she is pregnant and honestly I have no imagination. Lifts still suck but improving. If I m honest I don’t think I’m man enough to even do this. I thought I was going to come back to this reminder with something to show for it. 3 months and I am almost worse off as…
/r/askMRP14/02/24 09:33 PM
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Wow okay thanks autocorrect. RPing
/r/RPChristians14/02/24 04:44 PM
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Nah this is not too long. This alone explains the improvement in your sex life. How long were you Taping before you started OYS?
/r/RPChristians14/02/24 03:37 PM
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This may be more helpful then I realize. I have been pretty aimless about most of my life. On that which I have prepared for goes well. So when you plan not to look at porn, what exactly did that look like? Or do you make sure to plan all your activities in a way that it doesn’t allow for it? Asking you as you have accomplished it
/r/RPChristians13/02/24 07:18 PM
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The plan is just to stop. Anything more or less is made up. I want to stop right now so I will. I find that the more time I put into planning for something like this the more I know the cracks and the more I DEER. Anything more then: “if I feel tempted I will pray or do something productive” is me lining up the excuses for failure. Example: “this porn didn’t block this so I’m doing it” I just have to stop because I want it for me. I keep telling myself I’ll stop, so that u will be hornier, sow t…
/r/RPChristians13/02/24 04:41 PM
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OYS 10 (missed last weeks due to covid Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way. Objective: discover what actually makes me happy and pursue relentlessly Objective: destroy covert contracts and validation seeking Objective: live a more sensual lifestyle and experience sexual fulfillment Objective: build a fulfilling relationship with my kids that I find rewarding Objective: understand and live out Gods will Read: NMMNG,MMSLP, TMM, TSAONGAF, Ab…
/r/RPChristians13/02/24 03:10 PM
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You right
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 06:22 PM
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Don’t even play with that mentality. You got what we are all here for in some capacity. I’m literally stuck at the beginning for the next 6-8 months. Live it. As far as that fulfillment you seek you know what’s up: “Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness and the rest will be given to you as well”.
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 04:51 PM
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I have been thinking about this as my mission as well. I didn’t play an instrument for 10 years. Last year my church needed a bassist (not my main instrument) and I needed a purpose so I said yes. God has done so much in my heart and life since saying yes to that. Inspired my passion for music overall and has me playing all my other instruments. What would fully accepting the mission of music/worship look like to you? For me, I don’t generally care for a lot of Christian music as the commercial …
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 04:18 PM
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Good stuff. I’ll try it.
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 02:24 PM
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I had a very hard time even imagining doing that. Made me somewhat emotional. I will give it a legitimate shot.
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 12:27 PM
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Okay. What would you do to move past that?
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 11:28 AM
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She talked with you for an hour. Must have been a reason? I think you're experiencing Imposter Syndrome. I reasoned that it was to talk to my mentee who I was hanging out with. She slipped into his DMs later during the conference. Either way I agree on the imposter syndrome. Have had that for a while now. And who knows? Your wife might just get off on it too. My wife has not given me the slightest indication that she has a sexual identity apart from fulfilling my needs. As far as RP goes that’s …
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 11:03 AM
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In the future, this should work to your benefit. It didn’t then. Made my relationship suck but again that could be in me for not knowing how to handle it. I won’t pretend to think I could handle it better now even with what I have learned. I do feel that I may be dealing with some unnatural levels of jealousy from my LTR. Her dad was a cop, cheated on her mom and took his own life a few years later. If you are high value your wife is not going to leave you for flirting. This comment and comments…
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 10:54 AM
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On the seed it’s that I like what I like. It’s like painting a beautiful canvas and for a woman to take it willingly and enthusiastically seems ideal. Could be porn induced but that’s where we are in right now. And it’s kind of like marking a territory. Maybe i won’t like it as much when it’s common occurrence. I need to find out though. On the getting off it was just boring or the same thing. I want variety and I want it spiced up. The way I have been initiating is also boring. It has been stra…
/r/RPChristians30/01/24 04:54 PM
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OYS 9(missed last weeks due to traveling Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way. Objective: discover what actually makes me happy and pursue relentlessly Objective: destroy covert contracts and validation seeking Objective: live a more sensual lifestyle and experience sexual fulfillment Objective: build a fulfilling relationship with my kids that I find rewarding Objective: understand and live out Gods will Read: NMMNG,MMSLP, TMM, TSAONGAF, …
/r/RPChristians30/01/24 03:31 PM
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It’s true. My wife is SAHM and I swear I deal with 80% less BS from her because she isn’t being swayed by the masses. Was at a work conference this week and am motivated to keep this dynamic even more so after seeing how some ladies behaved themselves.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/24 02:41 PM
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There is a third option. You raise your SMV to the point that you can suggest threesomes with chicks or opening it up on your side only. That I think would be the most growth oriented. Not recommending it. I just see that you didn’t list it. If you like her and she is willing to actually cooperate why not try option one? Do you really think your SMV is high enough to have any woman you want? I have the same wish you do as my LTR and I are each others first and onlys. I too would love to bang oth…
/r/askMRP18/01/24 02:37 PM
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I’ve had sex with one woman my whole life and the majority of pornstars are trashier/sluttier/bimboier which is what I now know to be my preference. Sure I might be able to lead my wife in that direction (if I accomplish what I am aiming for) but I’m not gonna make any progress there til 6 months after the pregnancy even if I’m lucky. That’s the honest answer. I am beginning to understand I have been under eating but I start to gain weight when I do. Maybe I need to allow a growth phase once I’m…
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 10:35 PM
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I have been doing that a lot. Getting much better and jamming more with friends. How long on the ban?
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 09:32 PM
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Your progress is looking awesome. Glad you’re working on frame as it’s been an issue for me as well. I almost need to back track a bit to fully understand my whys so I can better establish my frame. Curious what you got banned for…
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 09:15 PM
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OYS 8 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way. Objective: Come to a conclusion on faith Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: Put finances on auto pilot - see IWTYTBR Objective: HAVE COPIUS AMOUNTS OF EXCITING SEX Objective: Do fun things with my boys Objective: to write book and record album. Objective: regain social status of life of the party and center of attention. Why I am here: Figure out what I actually want and need to …
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 09:13 PM
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Your right.
/r/askMRP12/01/24 10:13 AM
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I just got this. lol
/r/askMRP11/01/24 02:47 PM
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Again right on.
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:33 AM
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Right on.
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:32 AM
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This handle and this subreddit are the only forms of social media I have and look at. I was listening to a lot of rian stones side bar talks and his field report dissections but now that those are gone I find little use for his other content. Might be a good book to read. Initially stopped reading the side bar because the TMM filled me with rage. Frame is what I need to work on for sure and I’m happy we have something more definitive on it now. Thanks again.
/r/askMRP10/01/24 09:00 PM
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I was curious to know if I am calculating it right and thought y’all would know better and correct. Especially if it’s painting an inaccurate picture of what is being used to judge my actions and progress. I am posting because I know my actions need correction. I got a lot of great advice from these comments and am calming down on my processing of perceived slights. I took a lot from these comments and put them into my daily reading. You failed a shit test without even realizing it and then DEER…
/r/askMRP10/01/24 03:02 PM
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Fair assessment. If I can’t control my emotions or at the very least my mouth I have no business influencing the actions of others.
/r/askMRP10/01/24 12:40 PM
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At the time to me it looked like I would be rewarding her bad attitude about it. I did not know how to reward her good behavior while addressing her bad attitude about it. I wanted to reward her actions which is why I was trying to love on her and be fun before my son pointed out how uncomfortable she looked. I felt like I was caught between rewarding her good behavior and then enforcing her bad attitude about it. I might be looking too deeply into things. I see now I was being a douche. I neede…
/r/askMRP10/01/24 11:18 AM
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It’s true. All of it. Done drinking for now.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 09:46 PM
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You make average money Top 2 percent of earners without being a millionaire but okay. You’re physically substandard, bitter, entitled, and you think she owes you sex. correctomundo You also fail to reset. If she is unforgivable then divorce her. This hit hard. She tries to give a bid for attention faster than you and you respond by shitting on her. If she was a dog, what do you think youre training her to do? I see that only after the fact. Imagine complaining that your wife is bitchy and emotio…
/r/askMRP09/01/24 09:12 PM
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Thanks.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 09:05 PM
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With your lifts, you're probably even fatter than 20% Not trying to argue as my lifts are not impressive but I feel like there is something wrong with the method I am using to determine BF. Using the navy calculator it says measure at the naval while pushing your stomach out. I can do that pretty far even when I was 170. My obliques are starting to pop and the top abs are coming in nicely. But if it’s an 8 pack you want then I’m fat. Whenever you start getting angry and butthurt, instead of goin…
/r/askMRP09/01/24 09:04 PM
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You're very clearly still in the anger phase. Bitterness is literally anger. I see that now So you get drunk and fight? Sounds like you're still the drunk captain. Now you're just an asshole, too. Have cut down on drinking drastically but it seems I’m prone to outbursts when I am. Now not drinking unless in a social scenario. What does this mean? Was she previously not doing basic stuff like showering and putting on clothes? Showering, putting something on other than my high school swimming hood…
/r/askMRP09/01/24 08:38 PM
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Stfu. I’ll work on it. Don't argue. Happily raise your kids and work on yourself. Make your expectations clear but don't engage on any more than a civil discussion on logistics about meeting those expectations. It’s hard for a control freak. This is good advice though. And for fucks sake, praise compliance. She did what you wanted. Don't give her shit for not smiling big enough while she did it. After a while she will do it happily. She is sulking to get a reaction and you fell for it. Something…
/r/askMRP09/01/24 07:36 PM
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Your writing shouts neediness and validation seeking so you might want to work on that asap. You’re acting cocky (with words no doubt) but your signaling neediness and validation seeking with your behavior (anger when you don’t get your way). You’re right. Her nickname for me used to be hot shit for both being and acting like I was hot shit. I have always been cocky but I see that I don’t deserve to be. I need to continue working and start seeing that when I get upset it’s my former self that I …
/r/askMRP09/01/24 06:29 PM
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I get that. She is in month 4-5. In her defense I tolerated her not doing anything long before she was pregnant. When I hired someone to clean she used that as justification for her not keeping it up as and I quote” see it’s so hard we have to pay someone to do it”. As it’s been pointed out my timing is unfortunate but I do need to be better overall. Really hoping I haven’t pushed too much.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 06:15 PM
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Appreciate the distinction.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:52 PM
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But I’m not fat… I really hate to admit that you’re right about everything else. I’m not sure how to accept that on the daily. How do internalize it so that I can wake up everyday without blaming the world. I had a lot to blame the world for when I was a child but that doesn’t cut it as an adult. I am working hard right now. VERY hard and perhaps it’s patience that I need. Faith that it will work. That this is the way and that if I continue to do the work I will not feel this way. If I can have …
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:50 PM
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I’m going to try and read this every day. It’s Perrrrfect… sorry I couldn’t help myself.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:45 PM
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I am fasting 1-2 days a week with four meals + protein shakes during my non fasting days. Usually I am not as nuts during a fast. It’s usually a pretty spiritual event but not yesterday.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:18 PM
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Out of the first and into the second. I provided a lot of comfort while she was in the first as it was a very rough go. I am afraid to put my efforts in this on pause for the pregnancy because I cannot allow myself to revert back to my old self. I hate him with all of my being. Perhaps I am projecting. That became very clear as I wrote that out. It’s is required of me to be more beta now and I am kicking and screaming because of how much I hated it. But I have to or I will nuke it.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:16 PM
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Humbling and correct.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:12 PM
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No. Not at all. I was funner as the literal drunk captain. I know it and she knows it.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:11 PM
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I think you also need to buckle up and realize that you will likely be here for 1 YR +. So be patient and take RP practice/discipline seriously. That is becoming clear as I feel I am dealing with more than marriage issues. That gets clearer everyday. I am not giving up as I don’t see another way out of the whole I have dug.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:10 PM
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In the middle of it now and can see how helpful it would have been to start with.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 05:07 PM
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I got through NMMNG and that was what seemed to be the most helpful. I know I am the problem and that’s what am looking for help with. How do I let go? What is the best resource in developing outcome independence?
/r/askMRP09/01/24 04:16 PM
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I truly need help with the mindset and you might be right about the fasting.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 04:13 PM
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Social More reaching out this week for more pans next week. Have much plans with a few friends spaced throughout the week and am meeting a good friend for dinner to talk through more faith items. People are starting to reach out to me to hang which is quite nice. Started talking to a female coworker over chat that is a bombshell. Not planning anything bad but would love to see what flirting with her would do. I had a work related question to ask her and it was really thr first time I have engage…
/r/RPChristians08/01/24 02:05 PM
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OYS 7 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way. Objective: Come to a conclusion on faith Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: hit the next 6 figure threshold Objective: Put finances on auto pilot - see IWTYTBR Objective: HAVE COPIUS AMOUNTS OF EXCITING SEX Objective: Do fun things with my boys Objective: to write book and record album. Objective: regain social status of life of the party and center of attention. Why I am here: F…
/r/RPChristians08/01/24 02:05 PM
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Looking at why I got banned and how much I let my ego get in my way, in short showing me how little internal progress I have made led me to justify engaging in destructive habits. Like eating and drinking. Sorted out now.
/r/RPChristians06/01/24 03:11 PM
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I have read and feel the same. Excited to start and really hope you get some results!
/r/RPChristians04/01/24 10:24 AM
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Sounds like it’s going good and you’re in a good path. How is the Fin? About to start taking it myself. Have heard there are side effects for some but not all.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 11:30 PM
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I too am from the west coast and now live pretty close to you. Winters are brutal! I really appreciate all this. It’s making sense.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 08:31 PM
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I really needed this. I can see that Satan is using my sin to manipulate me. And I in my pride am trying to rely on my own judgement and power to overcome instead of him. This is futile and will lead to further confusion. It’s hard trying to develop my own frame while ultimately submitting to Christ’s. Feels like a tight rope. King James seems like a hard read but I’ll give it a shot. The Old Testament is the new testament concealed and the New Testament is the Old Testament revealed You are the…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 07:24 PM
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I appreciate your responses. I have begun the process of accepting it but then since prevails. I would say I have been born again but my sin takes over. To be honest the fear of hell is the least thing driving me to Christ. In my heart I know the truth. It’s when I go to the source material that I begin to doubt. There are things in my life that I can only explain with Christ. The heart and soul of it is there. Reading the New Testament does it. I myself have even described the Old Testament as …
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 04:18 PM
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We are on opposite ends of the spectrum. I have faith despite my belief. It is the academic part that causes me to stumble. I can pray, trust in him, really feel the emotion and connection. There are things in my life that I can only explain with Christ. But the second I go to the source material I get this feeling in the pit of my stomach that I am being manipulated. And it all falls down. Like I can’t actually believe that’s what it’s based on. I am not giving up. I wanted to post this here be…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 03:02 PM
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Your objectives and your "Why I am here" statement don't line up with each other. If your objectives are clear, then you already know why you are here. However, the question remains: will any of your objectives fulfill your wants and needs? I suspect that you're throwing darts hoping one or two will hit the target. Your correct. One of my issues for the past my whole life has been defaulting to the wants of others. I had a dream of being a rockstar or and movie writer. I had talent but it was st…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 02:54 PM
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What for you to turn it around? I am not attacking the faith in general or your faith. In fact I envy it.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 02:03 PM
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Your response is incredibly meaty and I want to go through it a few times before responding. Thank you for putting so much effort into this.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 12:21 PM
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Your response was very eloquent. But was not a response to my actual statement. I will keep reading as I want to believe more than I don’t. How do you justify believing something that seems like such a wonderful work of fiction in an effort to explain the unexplainable? Did you just happen to have this faith of yours or have you been indoctrinated to believe it no matter what? As all other peoples of different cultures are? What caused you to choose?
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 12:20 PM
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I understand that there are tons of references to from the new to the old. That makes sense. What doesn’t is the claim to at Christ was there from the beginning. So many things don’t make sense and seem like it was written by a culture that was trying to understand the world from a limited view. Tower of Babel being an example. God got intimidated by a tower so he scrambled the languages? Pretty reactive for an all knowing God. Also he doesn’t care that we are traveling through space? Christ mak…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 10:29 AM
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OYS 6 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way Making changes to objectives. Got banned for two months from main MRP sub for extreme validation seeking post. Caused me to take a step back and evaluate. This whole thing has been a validation seeking covert contract and my ego is out of control. Objective: come to a conclusion on faith Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: hit the next 6 figure threshold Objective: Put finances on …
/r/RPChristians02/01/24 05:45 PM
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You are taking the wrong advice here. YOU do not have the power to mold her into anything. I order for you to have that power you must first gain the power of molding yourself into what you want. You have not mastered yourself therefore you cannot be the master of anyone else. Stop being desperate. That she has let herself go to this point without actually getting commitment from you is all you need to base your decision on. it’s super telling of what you can expect in the future. You don’t have…
/r/askMRP30/12/23 11:01 AM
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Those all sound like bad excuses to be complacent. You, I, everyone here and even SHE knows she will never meet those goals. Even if she attempts to it won’t be permanent. You need to stop believing fairy tales and realize that it’s you that you need to work on. If you propose and marry this girl it will get even worse and you will regret it the rest of your life.
/r/askMRP29/12/23 06:09 PM
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I had a comment on your OYS that I think you should answer. This is negotiated desire at best which isn’t what anyone wants (her included). This will end in a dumpster fire. Why are you still with her? Dead bedrooms when your not even married and she is in her 20s? Get out of there!
/r/askMRP29/12/23 03:12 PM
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I keep thinking about the center of attention thing. I want it for me. I enjoyed talking to people and making friends when I did it. There absolutely was a validation thing in the past but I miss being me. I miss the confidence I had in walking up to random people and being able to talk or how I would be the guiding force at parties just because I want to have the ability to guide the crowd and to lead it with my charisma back. It will also help my ministry goal to be that magnetic again. That g…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 06:30 PM
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If anything you can take it as reinforcement of your assessment and fuel for why you should do what you said you should. Creatives can spend so much time in their head that they are in danger of entertaining themselves without action.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 06:27 PM
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I think you’re right on all fronts outside of religion on this. I’ll see if I can challenge myself more on the squat although I feel I got close to failing on the fifth set on my current weight. I will focus on my failures moving forward on OYS. On the evangelizing. One God does not seek us we must seek him. Christians have been charged with being his light and acting hand. If I have found him I am to do my best to lead others to him. Next my relationship with Christ has played a major role in m…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 04:28 PM
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In the social status center of attention. I used to be much more outgoing and outspoken. I absolutely got off on it and enjoyed it a great deal. I stopped as I became more beta-ized. I enjoyed interacting with lots of different people and being friendly. I stopped because it made my wife insecure. I want to be who I was. Sure they may be validation that comes from it but I have to own that I enjoyed it for me. I may need to reevaluate the fat mix as it is incredibly difficult. I have a huge fear…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 03:50 PM
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Why are you still with her if no sex in three years? Especially if not married? Seems like you are just avoiding another conflict. Your girl is in her 20s. That y’all aren’t going at it while not even married is bad. You can leave her now and avoid all the problems men here can’t because of what divorce would mean. What has this woman done to keep you?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 03:33 PM
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Outstanding simplification of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 03:29 PM
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On the day dreaming about leaving your wife. You have established yourself as a creative type. I am too and struggled with this a lot but one thing I have noticed is that thinking like this is completely useless at best and progress impeding at worst. You have two versions of your wife. The real one that you don’t hold accountable in any way and the one in your head that you take all your frustration out on. This is nice guy behavior. There is an element of STFU that needs to be adhered to but t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 03:18 PM
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Dual hearted men never prosper. Christ specifically mentions this. You choose one side of this fence or the other or you will be impaled by the fence post.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 02:42 PM
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OYS 5(back after temp ban) Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way Changing my OYS format as it was too wordy. Objective: evangelize. Get people to say the prayer purposefully Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: hit the next 6 figure threshold Objective: Put finances on auto pilot - see IWTYTBR Objective: HAVE COPIUS AMOUNTS OF EXCITING SEX Objective: Do fun things with my boys Objective: to write book and record album. Object…
/r/RPChristians27/12/23 02:03 PM
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OYS 5(back after temp ban) last OYS in RPchristains Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the Objective: evangelize. Get people to say the prayer purposefully Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: hit the next 6 figure threshold Objective: Put finances on auto pilot - see IWTYTBR Objective: HAVE COPIUS AMOUNTS OF EXCITING SEX Objective: Do fun things with my boys Objective: to write book and record album. Objective: regain social stat…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 02:02 PM
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Good morning! Where have you been?
/r/RPChristians19/12/23 03:08 PM
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OYS 4 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way Changing my OYS format as it was too wordy. Objective: evangelize. Get people to say the prayer purposefully Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: hit the next 6 figure threshold Objective: Put finances on auto pilot - see IWTYTBR Objective: HAVE COPIUS AMOUNTS OF EXCITING SEX Objective: Do fun things with my boys Objective: to write book and record album. Objective: regain social st…
/r/RPChristians19/12/23 02:27 PM
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Having a kid makes everything in life more seriously and makes you think about things in a whole new context. Nearly 100 percent of men cheated on did not expect their lady to be a ho. This is true in the reverse. When you are dating/married before kids. It’s low risk. Even if you say I do for life no one means it anymore. But when kids are brought into the picture it is far more serious and sometimes changes how you look at things. Might make one more suspicious or more open to scenes that they…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:06 AM
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What did it say?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 02:49 AM
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How is it announced to the whole world? You wanna know who announces it to the whole world when a man asks a woman for a paternity test? THE WOMAN! She screams it from the rooftops to her friends, family and his family to shame the man for having insecurity, showing weakness and for making the mistake of thinking that he could actually trust the woman with his fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 02:06 AM
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Did I mention I want to write a book? lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 08:00 PM
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Beta behavior is needed in relationships alongside alpha as I have read. Especially when dealing with a pregnant lady. I see these as comfort tests not fitness tests. Where did I go wrong?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 08:00 PM
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I had a pretty crippling porn addiction. I would spend hours a day on it. I had ED for a bit after I stopped but at some point realized my fear of ED was now the new source of it. I would get anxiety about not being able to do what I want over fear that I ruined my mind/body with porn. What helped me was looking at sex as a conversation, not a defined event. I gave my wife all sorts of attention and powered through ED by doing other sexual activities if my member wasn’t cooperating. What I found…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 02:39 PM
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You could be right on that. Getting my dick wet is not a problem. I want control over my life and I want the good sex to be a side effect of my making my life better. I can totally see how I am projecting.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 02:33 PM
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It really does.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 02:32 PM
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Good stuff, I like the idea of a list because it gives me a goal. I worded that badly, I can’t be in love without sex. Might be a whole other issue to try to address. Going monk and not having intimacy made me feel nothing toward her. If I do not put effort into maintaining physical intimacy my heart and mind will wander. On to my wife’s comment. She is a lot to deal with while prego for sure but I think I understood it as: 1)She has sensed my fuming anger over the last couple of months feels fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 02:31 PM
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Fair
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 02:25 PM
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That is better and helps me understand the context. It does still seem like you don’t have external motivation bigger than your relationship. What is your life mission? I too got married too early to have made the decision. My wife is also my HS sweetheart and the only person I have been with. I think that makes it hard to exist outside of that relationship. What would you do if your wife wasn’t there? Outside of screwing everything that walks? I guessed that because it’s typically the only answ…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 10:16 AM
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Hey, on the erection thing. You looking at porn or still jacking off to the thought of it? If so that is your problem period. A 34 year old would not likely have issues like this without outside over stimulation. On your wife, there are two things that could be happening on the message front. To paraphrase MMSLP, you need to build anticipation for you. Messages are a great way to do that. They are really good also when you do them expecting nothing. It’s part of long gaming your wife. Make her f…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 09:42 AM
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Happy to hear you found your wife’s vag hack. I noticed something while scrolling through this OYS and through your last one. It’s possible I could have missed it but why are you doing this? Everything about this OYS and the last was about your relationship and your wife’s reaction to you. That’s fine if that’s all you care about for now but will lead to you regressing to your old ways if you don’t have other reasons to improve. How is work going? Finances? What are your other goals? How is your…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 09:25 AM
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Ministry: Catching fire in ministry. I was asked to take part in a large annual event at the church and will now be a regular. I have also been asked by another church to help in this same area. Goal: I am still lacking in evangelism and am not sure how to start. I am going to present an idea to the pastor that we start a men’s group for those interested. Family: went bowling with the family. It was awesome. Working with my boys daily to get them into a routine that they can follow. My 8 year ol…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 09:17 AM
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OYS #3 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way Changing my OYS format as it was too wordy. Objective: evangelize. Get people to say the prayer purposefully Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: hit the next 6 figure threshold Objective: Put finances on auto pilot - see IWTYTBR Objective: HAVE COPIUS AMOUNTS OF EXCITING SEX Objective: Do fun things with my boys Objective: to write book and record album. Objective: regain social s…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 09:17 AM
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Set a boundary. You either take her threats seriously or not. You keeping her threats secret(I imagine you haven’t told anyone) is enabling her to use those threats to manipulate you. Tell her straight up that you will not take those comments lightly moving forward and that if you receive them from her in the future that you will act. Whether it’s calling through police, family or so on. You have to stop pretending you can handle this situation alone. You are not Superman no matter how much you …
/r/askMRP12/12/23 09:16 AM
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Missed the week. Was busy and making excuses. Not happening again.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/23 04:33 PM
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Ministry: Catching fire in ministry. I was asked to take part in a large annual event at the church and will now be a regular. I have also been asked by another church to help in this same area. Goal: I am still lacking in evangelism and am not sure how to start. I am going to present an idea to the pastor that we start a men’s group for those interested. Family: went bowling with the family. It was awesome. Working with my boys daily to get them into a routine that they can follow. My 8 year ol…
/r/RPChristians11/12/23 03:58 PM
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OYS #3 Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way Changing my OYS format as it was too wordy. Objective: evangelize. Get people to say the prayer purposefully Objective: Achieve 180s and 15% body fat Objective: hit the next 6 figure threshold Objective: Put finances on auto pilot - see IWTYTBR Objective: HAVE COPIUS AMOUNTS OF EXCITING SEX Objective: Do fun things with my boys Objective: to write book and record album. Objective: regain social s…
/r/RPChristians11/12/23 03:57 PM
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Men who “do” actually do. They are too busy being what you want to be and can’t tire themselves coaching others to to the same. Being a real man is hard work. So much so many don’t bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:51 AM
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I was sick to my stomach the first time I saw the difference between my wife’s long game and short game. She knew too as she hid. I still married her but that’s my problem. Her upswing at the time seemed better then what I could manage but time has really shown how untrue that is. The wall is going to be bad for both of us to manage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:50 AM
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I am a man in this scenario. My wife was quite happy before I discovered red pill. I was quietly unsatisfied. Since discovering RP I can’t help but see how innately selfish my wife is. I honestly never noticed because I was at one point at least satisfied in making her happy. My pill went down hard. The woman that I thought was pure and selfless ended up after retrospect being one of the most selfish human beings I have ever come into contact with. I am struggling to see her in any other light n…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:06 AM
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Right but isn’t that what trust is? No one enters a relationship expecting to be cheated on and yet it only seems to happen to those that committed to a real that they trusted. Men in this instance want the same security woman have innately. This is true equality. To fight this instance of true equality seems suspect to me. Someone who fights for equality and fights this right to it(for men) has alternative motives. Or can only be construed as such logically.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:09 AM
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I came here expecting all women to shit on this. I am glad to see your response but also feel like the argument was laid out so well that only a lady that has cheated would fight it. All that to say finally this argument has been put in a perspective that women can understand. I have been downvoted to oblivion for defending this stand when I feel this stance requires only the smallest amount of empathy toward fellow HU-man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 12:24 AM
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That is how it is supposed to happen that is not what happens
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:43 PM
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It’s not evolutionary. Female empowerment has caused them to be more demanding of men. Our grandfathers and men prior where not forced to jump through the hoops that men of today have to in order for o keep their women happy(we know they aren’t happy getting their demands met but that is a different story). This type of supplication almost leads to a stock-home syndrome type response in men where we fall harder for our captors as we are made useful by them.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/23 06:05 PM
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It’s the motivation for all species that have a male and female sex. Sex/breeding is THE motivator and perpetuator of all life and society on this planet. The things people choose to debate about on this Reddit is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:00 PM
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From a biblical context it would seem that marriage was designed in this way. That men lead and woman follow. What I have found as far as relationships, women do not like doing the thinking. My wife certainly doesn’t and to be honest she isn’t really good at thinking for the sake of our family. She either over thinks, considers more than is necessary befor a decision is made and often gets overwhelmed. I went on thinking we were to make decisions together for the first 15 years of our relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:21 PM
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The people not on medication. It’s a red flag as someone that needs med for a mental thing and sometimes physical ailment is unable to manage their life without aid. It paints a picture of someone who will need far more support than a “normal” person. Not trying to set myself up to serve someone more than I have to. Most woman are already demanding. Add to that someone that is unable to manage their own self? No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:35 PM
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You can’t even give anecdotal evidence.. thanks for your useless comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:56 AM
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Income doesn’t matter. Women are not in danger. Law is and always will have judges treat divorce as based on precedent. No one cares what is made or who makes more. Men are the ones who pay in Divorce. Pull up those facts if you want to make an impact on this argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:53 AM
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Laws are set to make divorce more painful for men. How this hasn’t been mentioned once I don’t know. Divorce rape is not a term a woman have to think about and is highly unlikely to take place at the expense of a a female. I have never once in my life heard of a woman who got taken for all they are worth. Oh and if they can’t pay they go to jail. Not many woman have to worry about losing half of what they have now and a portion of what ever they might make in the figure. My father lost half his …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 08:15 AM
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Laws are set to make divorce more painful for men. How this hasn’t been mentioned once I don’t know. Divorce rape is not a term a woman have to think about and is highly unlikely to take place at the expense of a a female. I have never once in my life heard of a woman who got taken for all they are worth. Oh and if they can’t pay they go to jail. Not many woman have to worry about losing half of what they have now and a portion of what ever they might make in the figure. My father lost half his …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 08:14 AM
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No it won’t. She is living a divorced life now. You are too blind to see it. Stop thinking about how what you do will impact her. The relationship ended when you didn’t hold true to your boundaries. Your Oneitis is still clouding your judgment. She does not care about you. No one would treat you this way do they did. Cry it out if you need to and listen to these comments. They are gold and will get your through this.
/r/askMRP02/12/23 07:05 PM
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It has nothing to do with your looks man. I’m the same. I get looks to but you literally haven’t done a thing to act attractive. Setting boundaries and sticking to them is attractive. Being true to yourself regardless of the outcome is attractive. Letting your wife know that you know what’s best (you actually do have to act in your and your families best interest for this to be true) for your family and that you will decide the future and actually working toward it is attractive. Sitting at home…
/r/askMRP02/12/23 06:55 PM
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I was in the same boat. Sex never stopped but I was the drunk captain. Perhaps that’s due to a naturally high SMV or just a loyal wife. I was still a nice guy that was terrified of disappointing other people around me. I was making covert contracts all the time and silently hating my life without doing a damn thing about. Read NMMNG over and over again. The audio book is free on YouTube. Listen to RStones dissection of it. Act on what you want out of life.
/r/askMRP02/12/23 04:54 PM
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This isn’t a laughing matter. You need to heed the advice here. Most importantly you need to see this as saving yourself, not your marriage. Your marriage is over and you need to see it that way. I’m not saying leave her right now. Again follow the advice given and discreetly prepare for divorce. Start defining a life path that doesn’t include her at all and follow it. Practical advice: Get your kids in daycare immediately and get your business in a healthy place. This should be number 1. If you…
/r/askMRP02/12/23 04:02 PM
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The hours she spends at work and that she immediately got a crush on someone is really the only point to focus on here. Is that guy still there? I don’t want to make you feel bad man but where is the boundary setting? You’re at home taking care of her life letting all you want slip through your fingers so she can play boss b!$&# with some other guy. This is the picture you have painted. There is no frame. I certainly hope she isn’t cheating but if you allowed her to continue working for a fracti…
/r/askMRP02/12/23 02:32 PM
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Okay. No man on planet earth would choose to watch HGTV. Not the Gaines, not house hunters, not income property, not property bothers, none of it. Not one man would choose to watch this if they were alone. It is tolerated by men and nothing else. Yet it plays constantly across the tv screens of married millennial homes. Older ones too. And ladies eagerly look at their guy every time they “reveal” a lame ass gray living room with NO TV in it and expect the ohhs and ahhs. Dammit I’m projecting aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:33 PM
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Wow! Just can’t make this up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:27 PM
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The music video was made for ladies? Pa pa please!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:17 PM
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Just stoped here to say hi while scrolling waiting for you to respond to my other comment. Totally found this on accident as scrolling. Interesting variation in your music taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:15 PM
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Man, the Scientologist thing. I didn’t look to much into her life only that I have liked her in things that I have seen her in. That she may had had a leg up from Scientology is disappointing. Now you have me thinking that I can’t find an example of a plain or unfit woman making it at all in talent alone. Maybe Susan Boyle? I may have a bias. Scar Jo, whom I fancy in the looks department also happens to have my praise for her talent. The marriage story was an awesome display of her talent. If I …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:53 PM
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you actually might be right about that. I do not respect woman that were given more in life for their looks. I find it even harder when it seems like it was their looks alone. Im not saying that about taylor. She can obviously has talent. I just don't find what she does with it impressive in the slightest. They way that she relies on perpetuation highs chool tropes and the fact that people subscribe and ascribe to it shows a lack of maturity on their part. When I find a lady that is not conventi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:18 PM
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Nah. I love Metallica. They are just angry metal right? Totally commercialized? Yep! But check these lyrics out: “Soldier boy, made of clay, now an empty shell 21, only son, but he serves us well Bred to kill, not to care, he does just as we say He’s finished here, greetings death, he’s yours to take away” Substance. Add to that that they happen to be some of the most technically gifted musicians ever. They toured for a while decade before anyone knew their name. Gained popularity in their secon…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:27 PM
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No I think they know better than to piss off 50% of the market they might make money off of by telling them how much their shit stinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:21 PM
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What gender makes up the majority of George Micheal’s fan base? Because we can explain that pretty quickly… Gay men or highly feminized men can be put in the same position as Tay Tay because the female audience responds the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:24 AM
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I was asked for my honest opinion and gave it. What is the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:21 AM
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This actually proves that woman value style over actual artistic quality. Dude is skilled but has to dumb it down to reach what an untalented pretty woman has.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:00 AM
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(Checks list of favorite artists, sees phill setting pretty high up there, pours a scotch at 5:50. Thinks long and hard how to rebuke this claim) ”oh no…”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:58 AM
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Because this preference shows a lack in understanding art. It’s like a child having paddy cakes be heir favorite song and that staying the same their whole life. That’s the art part of why it’s deplorable. The second part (I already put this above) is because it shows that you not only are easy to manipulate because she is a walking and breathing commercial (nothing more) but that you are happy to be manipulated! It’s hard to respect. I am not trying to insult you but am giving the honest answer…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:43 AM
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Let me see if I can think of a male version of Taylor Swift. Someone that everyone says is talented but really is just super basic. Whose songs are all the same and all about the same thing. A guy who is pushed through all channels to be in our face all the time regardless of how mediocre they are. Someone that is loved more for being commercial than anything else. Someone who is far prettier than they are talented but every seems to respect them as if they are as talented as is projected. Someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:25 AM
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Interesting take. I am not trying to solve a dead headroom. I want to be my own man and in complete control of my life. I responded to another comment saying something to similar to what you have. The sex would have been slow and boring. I need to get rid of my need for validation and in order to do so I feel that sex needs to be my last priority. I’m using this time of celibacy to strengthen my resolve when it comes to porn, to get my own mind in order and to take over as leader of my house. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 10:22 AM
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All you have learned is that there is no guarantee. Love exists but there is no such thing as unconditional love for woman. Their love is tied to emotion. Women if they feel justified will drop their family, their kids, their friends and will most often leave their husbands when ever justification arises. Your love is in the form of action. You must look at your relationship as you do your physical fitness because like your body the relationship will fail if you do not act intentionally every da…
/r/askMRP29/11/23 02:28 PM
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Christ himself is actually a perfect way to define this. He loves all humanity equally. He will accept and love for who someone is, flaws and all no matter what! BUT you have to love and accept him to receive his gift of love and redemption. All are welcome to receive his love and gift but they must seek it. We as men should be the same as we are in God and Christs image. Christ is the Groom and the church his bride. Did Christ sit around talking about how great the church was? Did he capitulate…
/r/askMRP29/11/23 11:32 AM
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>I did "just go for it" this week and was past her limit. so she stopped you or you responded to what you thought was her limit?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 06:41 PM
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I have been struggling with a lot of that. Its the death of your oneitis. Its freeing but if you were overall attached to your lady it can seem like there is no point in being married. And I feel like there kinda isn't. Its true it was your fault. But why are women blameless? because they were made that way. I have been reading RPChristians and boy do they have a brutal explanation for this: its part of their curse for original sin. They will forever desire power over man but will never be happy…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 06:30 PM
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Hold up there. If she is into plugs she is in on the ass stuff. any reluctance there is ASD or the married Christian version of that (assuming she is christian as well?). I bet you could go as far as you wanted with anal as long as you didn't ask and just went for it. I like the validation pointers. On the writing. You have to get started. Even if its 20 mins a day. Nothing will teach you more about how to do what you are doing then doing. You can learn from the greats but you run the risk of ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 06:16 PM
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Still have no idea how to reference direct comments from your comments but I digress. I am happy you have recognized your passion for Fiction. We are quite simliar in that as well. What sub genre? Also looks good that you are killing the validation seeking. What do you attribute your success here to? CONGRATS ON THE ANAL.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 04:42 PM
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Thank you sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 04:35 PM
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She is prego and currently incapable of the act. She misses and wants me despite the fact that she can't have a sip of water without puking right now. The sex would have been slow and boring and extremely accommodating to her and I am not interested. Also in dealing with my validation I need to stop asking and use this time where she can't really be expected to have sex to focus on my genuine desire aside rom validation. Also, If I am honest my attraction to her is at an all time low anyway give…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 04:16 PM
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Eyyyyyyyyyy
/r/askMRP28/11/23 01:37 PM
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well you gonna post it?
/r/askMRP28/11/23 11:43 AM
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STATUS ON POINTS ABOVE 1 I am continuing to seek other men at the church that are like-minded and emulate what I wish to accomplish. I have joined a few mens studies. I have found that I am not recognizing all experiences as opportunities to evangelize. I want to by next OYS to have talked to 1 new person about Christ. I have started a daily reading plan as someone pointed out listening was not good enough. I have not missed a day, 2 This week continues to improve in this arena. I have completel…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 11:11 AM
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OYS #2 35/33w, married 12 years, together 16. 2 kids and one in the way. Read: NMMNG(audio got the paper back and will read again separately) MMSLP. Halfway through TMM which is included in the side bar PDF that I posted in the comments of another post. Also about halfway through the RPCHRISTIANS sidebar PDF. I have put pure RP/MRP on hold as I reach through RPChristains because I could not control my anger. It is subsiding and I am going back into other content. Finished listening to Rstones Si…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 11:11 AM
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seriously how do people quote other comments in their own comment? was told that: > this would do it and its not happening. lol.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/23 10:17 AM
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< From depression, to the overly pedestalizing attention from physical performance, to searching for higher values, to finding meaninful values, etc. I can see that if you have a small amount of drive. I have been where this guy is and have tried so many times to get to the gym and change for the sake of it with even my best improvements and gains all slipping away because I didn't have a purpose. For some people a look form a lady is enough but not when your this deep. It is rare for someone to…
/r/TheRedPill28/11/23 10:15 AM
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That is a lie and you know it. You are the only thing that can make life mean something to you. Give yourself the chance to evaluate things with clear head. Then work on trying new things to find out what works. You have to push yourself. take a class, talk to strangers, say yes to everything. This is the way, You can do this!
/r/TheRedPill27/11/23 09:22 PM
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you have to quit that stuff long enough for the fog to clear. I used to do that every night. Smoke and Drink while binge eating and wartching TV or playing games. I'd fall asleep EVERY night. My wife would typically have to wake me up. This is clearly the fog of weed and booze in your brain. It robs you of the real joy of life because you are so numb. Quit drinking and smoking for a month. You will find that you are so bored that you have to do something. Then, instead of grabbing that Drink, We…
/r/TheRedPill27/11/23 09:01 PM
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This was me. You are numbing yourself to the pain you are causing with your inaction. You have to think through what you want. Be honest. It doesn't have to be a higher calling or to save the rainforest or something like that. Start small. Be honest with yourself. What do you want? if you could waive a magic wand what would you be doing? Got it? Good! Now realize that magic doesn't exist and that if you want that you have to work for it. You have to plan for it. You have to take it because NO ON…
/r/TheRedPill27/11/23 07:57 PM
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None of this can be done for you. Asking some rando on the internet for a life purpose is cruising for a bruising. I've decided on spreading the good news that Christ loved you and died for your sins and wants a personal relationship with you. Also making Art. What do you want out of life? I realize that I had an issue of saying no to myself so often that I stopped asking what I wanted. You sound the same. You have to use your brain for more then endless pleasure pursuit. You need to try new thi…
/r/TheRedPill27/11/23 06:49 PM
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Redpilling is about taking control of your life so that you can get what you want out of it. Lifting and fixing your attitude will not help if you have no purpose or have not defined what you want out of life. Its clear given what you have put above that you have no purpose other than endless pursuing pleasure. Pleasures come and go but you need to be striving for meaning in your life and that typically comes when you find a purpose or a drive to complete something that is bigger than yourself. …
/r/TheRedPill27/11/23 05:03 PM
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STATUS ON POINTS ABOVE 1 I am continuing to seek other men at the church that are like-minded and emulate what I wish to accomplish. I have joined a few mens studies. I have found that I am not recognizing all experiences as opportunities to evangelize. I want to by next OYS to have talked to 1 new person about Christ. I have started a daily reading plan as someone pointed out listening was not good enough. I have not missed a day, 2 This week continues to improve in this arena. I have completel…
/r/RPChristians27/11/23 03:08 PM
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OYS #2 35/33w, married 12 years, together 16. 2 kids and one in the way. Read: NMMNG(audio got the paper back and will read again separately) MMSLP. Halfway through TMM which is included in the side bar PDF that I posted in the comments of another post. Also about halfway through the RPCHRISTIANS sidebar PDF. I have put pure RP/MRP on hold as I reach through RPChristains because I could not control my anger. It is subsiding and I am going back into other content. Finished listening to Rstones Si…
/r/RPChristians27/11/23 03:07 PM
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Sounds like you are doing a lot of things you don’t want to do and expecting to get something you want out of it…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:55 AM
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This is all fear based decision making. All of it. I am 35. Everyone I know has kids and is making this work. I used to be surrounded by people that complained about their situation constantly and did nothing to improve it. My best friend and I had a final confrontation recently as he allowed his life to fall apart and I didn’t. He and I are literally a day apart age wises got married around the the same time and actually when we first met in a couples Bible study I looked up to him! I was makin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:55 AM
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Seriously are people really struggling and not getting what they want? I feel like this makes me sound privileged but I struggled and got what I thought I want (job, house, wife). Grew up poor, both parents died young, no college degree. So no privilege there. I did work hard to get what I have. To me it seems anyone complaining about not having what they want just aren’t working hard enough or smart enough. It absolutely takes both and I think some men just think working hard is doing the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:46 AM
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I guess I value low value woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:45 PM
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The curiosity on this one is killing me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:43 PM
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This comment was very telling for me. I as a man, do all this stuff, more AND I pay for everything. No one questions this arrangement. I hadn’t for a long time. The whole problem with this sub and people in general is that this ability to connect with all people and say what ever you want leads to the delta between all divides getting larger and larger. Everyone either wants or gets the extreme and no one will settle for anything less. And the reality is that no one deserves he extreme unless th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:59 AM
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Damn did you sum that up well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:50 AM
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Bigger/better are interchangeable in this instance and to men in general. All that matters is that he accept his insecurity and sort it out as it is and that he not blame his wife for the past she was upfront and honest about.
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 02:40 PM
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He needs to accept the worst case scenario in his mind and move on or he won’t. You do not understand how men think. This is how men think and he needs to address his thoughts. Whether what I said or not is true he has to contend with it. His insecurity is driving him here. He has to address and accept the worst case for him to move on or it will eat him alive. His wife hasn’t done a thing wrong. He lies to her (about being a virgin) and then lies to himself about being okay with her count. Now …
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 01:10 PM
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You’re a Christian - this is how you should feel about it. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5‬:‭25‬-‭27‬ ‭NIV‬‬ If it’s an honor thing you have the above. You either handle this or don’t.
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 11:37 AM
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Look, you cannot pretend to be okay with something your not. Stop lying to her and yourself. No amount of lift/STFU or top ten tricks can fix your stance. Accept her or not. THIS IS NOT AN ACCEPTABLE REASON TO DIVORCE. you lied to her and yourself. What you do about how you feel now is between you and God. You should know though that at your age if y’all split, any woman you are interested in will have N count close to or higher. You will have to accept this truth whether for her or for the next…
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 11:34 AM
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This is something you get over or you don’t. You should not have powered through something like that for love. Oneitis can make you look past things you shouldn’t. You’ve only been married a few years? This stuff festers and grows exponentially over time. No one here can placate you or talk you into being okay with something you’re not. Sounds like this could have been a boundary you might have set for yourself if you weren’t such nice guy. This is your responsibility alone and you have to be de…
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 10:51 AM
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Or you sure on the unconditional love? What I have learned in my 17 year long relationship is that all have flaws right, but it is imperative that you work always to improve. Yourself, your relationship and those around you. Human nature can be fickle but there are universal truths. One of them is that woman are adored for their weakness, men are valued for their strength. It’s the bedrock of you will of human attraction. No amount of thought, persistence, philosophy or even religion will change…
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 01:41 PM
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I agree a bit with the extremes. I think the men her that are going ham have been hurt. They thought they way you did and opened up enough to push the people they trust to a point that they couldn’t come back from. They saw they’re wife’s desire for them die as they opens up exactly they way they wanted them to. It’s kind of like that Batman quote. To them, you either die believing unconditional love of live long enough to realize there is no such thing. That’s what you’re talking about right? U…
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 02:08 AM
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You are correct as in the more we say property even posting back and forth I feel gross about it. Property is a bad word as a person can’t be property. We agree on this. But, We are responsible for women in a way that they are not responsible for us. They are apart of a klan that we have ownership of as it is ours to keep, protect and lift up. They belong to us as our children so?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 02:02 AM
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Technically they are traded. A father who is the prior owner literally gives the daughter away. It is property that we are forbidden from sharing or giving away after that exchange. A man leaves his family, a women is given away. I’ll look for more scripture. Is not not widely referenced that in marriage Christ is the groom and the church is the bride? Is this not the example to make one’s marriage after? If so, then you are right. The Bible to my knowledge does not say that the church is Christ…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 09:51 PM
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In my LTR my wife has mentioned that she loves when I am vulnerable and that it turns her on. Well guess who has never received a single sexual favor after being so? Not I. But if am quiet all day, exude strength and desire and caveman her later. That did it. I get that you want to be accepted for you but women aren’t into that no matter how much they claim to be. The more you tell one person about your weekends the more it builds and eventually turns their opinion. Where is that line? No one kn…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/23 09:45 PM
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Thank you for the reply. I have no idea how people are responding to multiple chains of my post within their comments. Is it not a mobile feature? I have moved on from reading TMM and have since gone to completing the sidebar on RPC. I am lifting as I can but it’s weak. I am saved because I have proclaimed and believe That he was tortured for me, that he died for me and that he rose again. I have not done well this week with STFU. we aren’t interacting much at all because she is so sick. Touch s…
/r/RPChristians21/11/23 09:40 PM
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I see your point on number 1. My bad. On two, the whole point of this sub(at first) is to become attractive to the opposite sex. It’s supposed to lead to you shedding the desire for sex as the validation for you becoming your best self. I think… if that’s true then the only reason people start this process is to change what people think of them. To change that perception to the highest possible level. The line between having justified emotions as a man and coming off unattractive because of disp…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/23 08:49 PM
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Just read that post. Honestly it seems like you are rejecting the truth. Everything listed was given to us by God. Woman were created to be our helpers. The part of about becoming one flesh is really only talking about the blessing of sex in a marriage. I feel like you are rejecting the truth because if you look at what they say in RPchristians and look at your wife. I promise all of her unhappiness comes from you not stepping up to that role of her leader and putting her in her place as your su…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 08:24 PM
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1 everything in the side bar says what this guys says is true 2 not unmanly to do so in front of men. Absolutely wrong to do so in front of a woman if they are anything that can be perceived as a weakness. A women will forgive you time and time again for being a dick but never for being a pussy.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/23 08:14 PM
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I think he is saying the logic is missing because is so based on emotion? Also in the fact that women typically say one thing because of how they are feeling now and then possible say or do another when 30 mins later when they feel another emotion. Hard to keep logical conversations going when you realize that they never say what they mean or mean what they say. Ya dig?
/r/TheRedPill21/11/23 08:08 PM
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I think I made the post too long as I cut it in half and ended up posting the rest in a reply to my comment. New to this all. Thanks
/r/askMRP21/11/23 07:39 PM
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Thank you and ditto. I tried posting in RP Christian’s but it kept getting denied. Went through 3 times deleting profanity but still couldn’t post. Have you checked it out over there? I noticed the OYSs don’t get a lot of movement there either.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 07:38 PM
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Are there curse words that are out of the ordinary? I have reread my post 9 times and can’t find why the auto mod won’t post it.
/r/RPChristians21/11/23 04:40 PM
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STATUS ON POINTS ABOVE 1 took part in the fast and fast out the vices that were clouding my judgement. I have begun to reach out to other men at the church that exhibited the virtues I wish to incorporate. It’s going well. 2 this week I put a white board in the kitchen. We have our family creed, the scripture the encourage leading as a man and activities to be completed. I have been a little cranky with all the withdrawals? Working on it. I also get angry when disrespected. I know see it’s becau…
/r/RPChristians21/11/23 04:37 PM
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OYS #1 35/33w, married 12 years, together 16. 2 kids and one in the way. Read: NMMNG(audio got the paper back and will read again separately) MMSLP. Halfway through TMM which is included in the side bar PDF that I posted in the comments of another post. Also about halfway through the RPCHRISTIANS sidebar PDF. Religiously reading posts. Also listening to Rstones side bar series Weakness:I have to say that the manipulated man is a hard read. I have rage naturally. This is infuriating to me because…
/r/RPChristians21/11/23 04:37 PM
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Continued: Physical Starting to work out softly as I have a shoulder injury that I am doing PT for and had a foot injury that took me off my feet for weeks. Still working out as I won’t use that as an excuse. I will likely need surgery but am hoping to get results with therapy and my own working out. 6’ 191lbs (-42lbs since the beginning of the year), Squat 85 (5x10), Bench 95 (5x10) curl 35 (5x10) tri pull 20(5x10) with various machines for more arm and leg work outside doing some weighted core…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 04:24 PM
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OYS #1 35/33w, married 12 years, together 16. 2 kids and one in the way. Read: NMMNG(audio got the paper back and will read again separately) MMSLP. Halfway through TMM which is included in the side bar PDF that I posted in the comments of another post. Also about halfway through the RPCHRISTIANS sidebar PDF. Religiously reading posts. Also listening to Rstones side bar series Weakness:I have to say that the manipulated man is a hard read. I have rage naturally. This is infuriating to me because…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 04:23 PM
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Testing something. I can’t post in MRP or any of the OYSs and I can’t figure out why.
/r/askMRP21/11/23 03:59 PM
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Nice! The bedroom has shifted that way due to the first trimester but that should subside in a few weeks. I like these options as I am getting really pissed off doing the work myself. Everyone her is right. I need to mentally divorce her. Entirely. It’s super difficult to approach given how long I have feen in her frame but it has to happen or we will both suffer.
/r/askMRP19/11/23 06:18 PM
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No keep the pain and use it. Let it turn to rage and hit that gym. You got to use this emotion to make the change. I have been really struggling with this but it’s all you for you and if you don’t do it no one else will.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 09:11 PM
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Fucking shoulders man I have the same excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 09:09 PM
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I appreciate the feedback. As the cable guy put it:”somebody has to kill the baby sitter! The babysitter is our need for validation and that somebody is us. We got this.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 08:56 PM
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I just read the post on your profile. It does seem like we are similar based on the anger. Also that it seemed like a start stop. Saw some comments on it being treated like a cheat code and that is exactly what I have been doing. I think I have recognized something that i haven’t seen discussed and I want to ask you a question. Outside of all the MRP effort were you already naturally attractive? Good genetics bone structure or anything like that? I ask because I think it’s more difficult to real…
/r/askMRP15/11/23 08:09 PM
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I like the articulation. It’s that simple. I do have to say I feel a lot more positive after taking some of these responses to heart. Very grateful for victim pukes as it saved my day yesterday. My wife asked several times if I was okay. I shrugged and worked my ass off. Then something crazy happen. Because she didn’t know why was wrong she started working her ass off! I came upstairs after working on my office to a house cleaner then it has been and dinner was waiting for me! The clean house ha…
/r/askMRP15/11/23 07:15 PM
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Patronizing for who? If for the lady who started the patronizing then I think this is a good way. Push back, get the laugh reversed and let her realize that you are above being impacted by her pettiness. Also showing you can turn the tables might even get you a little ole respecto in the process! I should clarify that I am too new to this to know what I’m talking about but that would be my best guess at this point.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 03:17 PM
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You got it
/r/askMRP15/11/23 01:09 PM
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Kill the vices lift the weights. I like how repeatable this is. Thank you!
/r/askMRP15/11/23 09:03 AM
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Try logging in via web browser in your phone and not the app. That could do it.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 01:49 AM
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There really was a tremendous response. I know what needs to be done
/r/askMRP15/11/23 12:57 AM
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Validation is right on. I have been starting to in the being a dick. The red pill concept came to me during a very spiritual time where I realized that I have to be all the man I can be exactly the way god made me. Not the good guy the church says I need to be. Even the Bible says we are released from that law. I believed that lie of being good long enough. God made me abrasive and fun. He made me desire everything I desire and gave me the power to take it. I just have to put in the work. He mad…
/r/askMRP15/11/23 12:08 AM
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You are correct in that of all the posts I have read my post seems to have been handled with kid gloves? It’s like you guys know how big of a pussy I have been being
/r/askMRP14/11/23 09:06 PM
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RemindMe! Three months
/r/askMRP14/11/23 08:42 PM
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This is my third attempt at a reply. Sex frequency bit the issue. I want more out of life. I want to expand Gods kingdom. I absolutely feared my wife but nothing else. Again a bit of a duality in my existence where I was complete beta to wife and alpha to life but I gave her too much priority and let my friends and family go. It’s easy for me to cut most relationships. Due to my upbringing (shit who and a half) and what I gather from NMMNG I was always going to latch onto the first female that g…
/r/askMRP14/11/23 06:27 PM
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Are you having issues getting into the red pill Reddit? I had to join it via desktop. The app wouldn’t let me get past the prompt
/r/askMRP14/11/23 06:01 PM
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That’s the thing. I felt good about it for the longest time. Was happy to be the honorable family man(workhorse) in the light it and the pathetical hand fucker/addict in the dark. Created two versions of me and I don’t like either of them. All these comments are helpful as this is obviously better said here then to my wife or anyone close to me. End of the day it’s all on me and from what you all say it is well within my power to change. it’s just gonna take time and extraordinary effort.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 04:26 PM
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I’ll look into it thank you.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 04:20 PM
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I appreciate the lighter tone. I am trying to keep that in mind. I’ll look into following those steps. Seems good to me.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 02:58 PM
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This is great thanks. I absolutely need to distance myself no matter what. I need it and that’s the bottom line.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 02:54 PM
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I am an addict and you are right. I desperately want those good years. This post has been helpful as it’s one of the biggest steps I could take. I have been alone. Dad and grandpa died young. Shit upbringing and all that. This post and the response let’s me know that I am not alone, not making it up as I go and that there is hope. Before I was completely alone. There really is something to brotherhood
/r/askMRP14/11/23 02:13 PM
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I have put that to a stop but you’re right. I try to dedicate my time but it’s really hard to see past my anger. I will start to see how they have been raised to be like her. They expect the world for nothing. I have to fix this but in my current state I find it hard. Thought I was giving them my best because I was sacrificing my whole being but that was never the case. My kids deserve my best so that they can be their best. This is a good idea thank you.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 02:01 PM
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For those looking form the PDF sidebar. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/s/G5wicgefCW
/r/askMRP14/11/23 01:49 PM
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Found it: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/s/G5wicgefCW
/r/askMRP14/11/23 01:49 PM
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And I can see how annoying my post is after the first couple paragraphs. I had read the guide before but it’s a good reminder. Thank you and sorry for being a pussy.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 01:26 PM
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It was in either the red pill proper or MRP but someone posted and it’s legit. Would repost if I knew how.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 01:15 PM
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Sounds amazing! It’s is hard because of the context. I feel I have so much to be angry about. It should only be directed at myself but working from home 24/7 with a SAHM and two kids it’s like FUCKKKKKKKKKK save me from this prison of constant servitude. My wife cannot be depended on for anything. She is currently using morning sickness as her excuse. When I say nothing I mean NOTHING. the house will be dirtier then when I started work. I will have to cook dinner. The kids might be wearing new c…
/r/askMRP14/11/23 01:14 PM
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I don’t understand
/r/askMRP14/11/23 01:05 PM
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I am a walking explosion at this point. In the past I gave my wife agency over my mind. It was gross but she could always tell if I was hiding something and my fear of her had me surrender that knowledge easily in the past. I am grateful for my anger at this point because she has completely lost all manipulative power at this point. I see the situation clearly. All that to say that it’s a big enough boundary for me at this point for her to ask “what’s wrong” and for me to go” nothing” when it’s …
/r/askMRP14/11/23 12:56 PM
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“Check for a tampon” that’s good. I see what you’re saying in that I have to move and sweat this out. I can’t make a single excuse. Thank you.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 12:53 PM
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My mission used to be to create. I was a musician and wanted to make film. Let it all go to keep the lady happy. Even felt good about it for a while as it gave me a “deeper” purpose. Then I would make a 3 rum and coke and let my brain get sucked out by the TV. I want to show the world love I want to empower men I want to create art None of those involve my current situation. It’s like I woke up to a world that felt familiar but wasn’t min at all. I can’t unsee how used I feel by my family. I am …
/r/askMRP14/11/23 12:51 PM
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Thanks! I really do feel that that about sums it up. I have been struggling with this fact recently so I was happy to have a place to write it down.
/r/askMRP08/11/23 08:52 AM
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I don’t think it exists in a way men want it to. They don’t desire us the way that men desire and that’s really what we are all so pissed about. We aren’t wanted we are needed until we are not. We are not desired just for us we are desired for what we do and provide. Men deeply desire women. The sad thing is that most of all this subreddit is just men trying to be as desirable as what ever it is that they desire. They want to be wanted the way that they want and I just don’t think women have tha…
/r/askMRP08/11/23 12:23 AM
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On the sex drive thing. If you just stopped watching porn due to RP your drive will be fucked for a bit. Especially with all the other changes. Mine completely disappeared which was dramatic given my drive has always been more of a part of my identity. Keep working and it will return.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 11:06 AM
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Or not just try not to wed any of these ladies. Have your fun if you want. Don’t quit a career for a lady.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/23 06:08 PM
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Man, one of the best men I know is married with 5 kids and was in the military. For 16 years he has deployed or in a boat and his wife has had 5 kids in that time. Like it’s almost a certainty that at least one kid isn’t his. Guy happens one my brother in law and my wife can’t fathom her sister even thinking about committing such an atrocity but we all know. Makes it hard to look at him or his kids as it’s now a game for me”which one of you looks least like dad”. Even if the kids are his she has…
/r/TheRedPill03/11/23 05:58 PM
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You may get soft feelings in your heart for the vulnerability but it drys the nether regions. OP is insinuating that women are not aware of their disgust of men’s weakness. Just that a clear (but not clear at all) signal of “do not smash” is sent to the brain when a man shows weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:43 AM
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There are a lot of people that are arguing this post. My wife and I are this couple and we both know it. It is almost exactly as described as we both had pretty horrible childhoods. We recognize how that has impacted us but it is something that makes us so damn dedicated to each other. Right away we saw the same unstoppable light in each other. We saw all the pain below but saw that even deeper there was a beautiful light. My wife and I have been together for 16 years. we see each other as soul …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:58 PM
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Nice job man. Seriously. I really struggle with the rage and to see you come from where you were to having handled it is huge. My wife was not promiscuous in a way that I can prove but if she was then I don’t know if I could have turned it around. It’s hard enough feeling like I was taken advantage of for years. My life and wife could be everything I wanted and more now that I have the tools to make it happen it’s just so hard to think about giving everything you had to someone they was predesti…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 05:56 PM
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Goku in the American dubbed Dragonball Z is the perfect embodiment of positive healthy masculinity. He is strong, determined, kind and open. He does not allow negative influences to alter his mood or judgement. Criticism bounces off of him and he hold zero grudges. He pursues his own strength with all of his will and empowers everyone he meets to do the same. He is unshakable in who he is. In his relationship to his wife, a lot poke fun at how he treats chi chi. Most do not know how they met or …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 08:42 PM
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Is not that desire for self respect a bit seated in anger? Check this out: “I can’t respect myself because of HER actions”. That doesn’t make sense and does not show a man with frame. A man with frame doesn’t give a shit about HER actions only how they impact him for his own reasons. To have self respect hold you back in a relationship seems like the last hold out of ego and possibly a bit of anger over what the perceived disrespect of the other person was. The anger is still there. It’s just hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 05:11 PM
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It’s his frame if it’s what he wants. Your idea seems bitter to me. He seems to have let go of his anger and bitterness and chosen that HE wanted to have his cake(the family he fought for and blight) and eat it to( have the wife that had rejected him come crawling back to her rightful role as his server in perhaps an even better situation than he could have ever thought). Anyone who read what OP said and responds the way you did is angry still. And if that’s the case you need to think about whos…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 03:59 PM
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No one is without doubts or insecurity no matter how good their relationship is. anyone that demands that someone push their fears, insecurity or doubts aside for the personal wellbeing of only one side of the relationship is looking for a dictatorship not a relationship. PERIOD.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:27 PM
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Wouldn’t you say that at least 50% of all marriages started off with the attempt to be monogamous, loving and trusting? Even assuming 50%, 60% of that 80% will end in divorce no matter what the intentions. Bet a HUGE amount odds that is because of cheating but can only assume. So what your saying is, that in a relationship with someone where statistically speaking there is an 60% chance of failure (meaning more likely than not) that a man cannot want to protect himself at all? 60% will end! Rega…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:53 PM
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You are unwilling to see this outside of the female perspective. I am attempting to help you see that with examples that are unrelated to child birth. That is obvious. Can you respond to anything else I have said or are you going to be the broken record all disagreeing with this post are?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:47 PM
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You’re not speaking to the importance of a safe space. How many times do females go to their SO with doubts and insecurity? Any doubt is doubt and it’s a very normal feeling. Just not for a man. Girls beg their men for affirmation in the realm of: “tell me how pretty I am, tell me I am beautiful, tell me I am loved and that you will never leave me earnestly my trust and make me feel safe”. The type of stuff above is on repeat for men and we just have to try and make you ladies feel better. It’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:40 PM
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Only women thought time have had the ability to trust in this arena. There is no man on the planet that hasn’t questioned his prodigy at least for a moment. The hate women seem to have for this desire in the man’s side is so unjustifiable when it could easily prove innocent leads me to believe that this is a biological drive to protect female anonymity. You get an STD. You have heard the stories that some times you can get them from unwashed hands, public restrooms and so on. Regardless of how m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:19 PM
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It’s so obvious it’s upsetting. The he hamster is spinning a million miles a minute regardless of how clear a double standard this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:10 PM
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It’s not accusing. It is asking to have the same privilege of certainty that a woman has. No matter what you say the female in this situation is privileged with information that is life changing and for whatever reason is being stingy and judgmental. Men fear but are not allowed to say so. Again females beg for constant validation of their doubts and insecurities and men are forced to be present and understanding. Men wanting the same in a topic that has evolutionary pull? Our dicks are evolutio…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:08 PM
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Guys, it is clear in all responses that females here just won’t allow themselves to empathize with men at all. It’s so rampant on this topic it’s insane. How often do girls bring all their petty insecurities to men so that they can either confirm their doubts or laugh it off for how silly they are? Almost daily in most cases. But if a man shows one fucking inch of insecurity, especially fear we are crucified and vilified. Women are allowed to have a safe space to display fear and doubt and men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:34 PM
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No it’s an imaginary line you put in the sand when if you were really in the same team then this show of love and understanding from you to give him the same peace of mind that you have wouldn’t be a big deal. It’s also clear you don’t trust him from that hickey and that you likely haven’t forgiven him which is what this whole thing is likely about. How dare he not trust you when you (kinda but not really) trusted him in the past. This is easy to see from the outside. Good luck secretly hating y…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:43 PM
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He wants trust too. He wants to trust that you love him and that he can express fear to you like you can with him. I know he has created this safe space for you. I can tell. He doesn’t have that though because of what? It’s just so silly to be pissed about a man wanting the same certainty you have. For a man to want to remove a nagging fear no matter how silly. Don’t act like you don’t come to your man with silly fears that don’t make sense. What does he do in this instance? Tell you you are dum…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:52 AM
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Again, male perspective. It’s the only assurance we have in a world that really only seems interested in taking men for all they are worth. Females have certainty. They do not have to fear what we fear because they have it. A paternity test is the only way to get it. Words are nice but fall short to our that fear to rest. But for some reason we can’t have that because it makes someone else kinda sad about it? Men have to live with a lifetime of “what if” just because it might hurt someone’s feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:46 AM
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Why is it okay for you to define what he can’t and can’t be afraid of? And just for what? You to feel better? You obviously don’t care at all about others. Just how you feel. All men want is the certainty you have or the truth. Nothing else. You take it personally because men aren’t aloud to be afraid of anything or feel anything that women don’t like. Every comment on here proves that especially regarding this topic. You all can’t even dream of seeing it from a male perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:43 PM
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No, all men have fear. Men that are single have it. Men that are in relationships with women have it but for some reason aren’t allowed to show it. You continue to prove my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:40 PM
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I don’t get it. Even now I am telling you men are afraid when they say this and you take it apart and call it a revenge fantasy. You are legit getting angry at me for expressing that men have fear and antagonizing me for it. Thank you for proving my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:39 PM
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My wife has not, she just feels for men having to be uncertain and mentioned it. She is the only women I have met that genuinely try’s to understand men and not force them to be to fill all their own needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:16 PM
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Your first girlfriend thought you were into your her mom and went to make her claim. Evaluate their relationship and you’ll see that. Next you drove a drunk girl as a good looking guy home. That activity creates dread because it means you can easily get other women. That is why you got tail in that scenario. Look up preselection. If you’re even kinda good looking it’s even more powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:14 PM
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What about the fact that all of human history has seen quoted 1 in 10 kids being raised by a cuck? For some reason they moved that to 1-25. Who care which is which but I was raised being told the first one and a lot of men do. Again you are allowed to operate with certainty in this and the man is not no matter how good you are to him. Please stop thinking the male experience doesn’t matter. Why does it hurt you for a man to be afraid? All this is is men not being aloud to show fear. Plain and si…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:11 PM
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Because its the only way to prove anything and chicks don’t like that. They need to be able to dissociate or create the truth in their heads to at make them happy with themselves. This challenge and the ability to get proof is so profound to the mental make up of women who are used to having ALL the power. My wife told me the other day: “why aren’t paternity tests mandatory? Like only one person can prove it’s their child and the other just has to be forced with the what if? That’s fucked up”. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:52 PM
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Women did. All of them. Even my wife says it and doesn’t realize it’s not true. I can do all the nice things in the world. Do the chores, play with the kids, do really nice guy things and my wife will say:” damn that’s a man right there” or “looking my hot man taking care of business”. I even ask if the is attracted to the behavior sometimes and she confirms it. You know what never happens when i do those things and she says those things? ANYTHING SEXUAL AT ALL. even if i initiate after she says…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:02 PM
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Which is crazy because all people ever have to do in a relationship to keep it going is this: put out if the other person has a higher drive than you OR stop forcing the lower libido parter to have so much sex you. This would fix the world and would point out that no matter what someone is compromising. Good relationships are only good until someone gets pissed about all the compromising they have to do, have had to do or now have to do because the other person is now sick of it. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:25 PM
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I remember a definition of drug addiction being thrown around a lot when I was younger as “a predisposition toward actions that harm you or hose around you” I like this because it describes why some people can watch porn all day long and still have rewarding lives because if it doesn’t hurt them or others than it’s fine. That seems to be your situation Others, like myself experience the following negative effects Scorn of a partner Shame Compulsion regardless of desired outcome Decreased drive t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:22 PM
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Came to say the same. What seems more likely is that all of humanity is attracted to the wrong person thinking that they will give them what they want when they simply can’t. The hot brazen dude that looks like he could fuck anyone without caring can and will. And these high libido ladies seem surprised that the man mentioned above delivers in exactly what they found attractive. Doing whatever, whomever they want and NOT CARING. Seems like that type of man is too tempting and enough so for one o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:26 PM
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What is interesting is that men have to be disabled or a minority for society to take their life experiences seriously. Good or bad
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:10 PM
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I get that it sucks to go up against that but what doesn’t suck is that going up against that doesn’t matter when you get the job either way. The conceived notions woman might have to deal with or that they used to have to deal with are gone. I care as little about how good these female managers feel about their jobs as I do for the men that hold the same position. They are getting the paychecks and that’s all that has ever mattered. No body cares whether the male manager of old felt like he des…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:51 AM
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Not so from what I see. I work in sales for a VERY large and well known tech company. Been around for over a hundred years. Just 5 years ago management was stacked with men from sales, development, support and so on. HR was stacked with ladies. Now? All management roles are filled by females. All that is being pumped out of HR is inclusion and when I look at the resumes of all these recent female managerial candidates I see much less to impress than the male counterparts. Sure things used to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:08 AM
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I do. The chicks on screen getting fucked are to blame. If they weren’t there and willing men would have nothing to be addicted to. Interesting that the war on drugs fights the drugs and suppliers but when it has to do with men being addicted to porn it’s their fault and not the woman willing to seduce them virtually for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 01:08 PM
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You are the most confused person I have come across. You need therapy more than a life methodology at this point. The fact that you can’t see that your lady wants you and is having fun with you indicates far bigger issue with you than what red pill is trying to fix. Stop taking life so fucking seriously and give your wife what she wants. It’s your cock that she wants for some reason in case you have just as hard a time reading as you do picking up obvious signs of sexual interest from your wife.
/r/askMRP12/10/23 10:02 AM
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That’s not true they are attractive because of their wealth and celebrity. That OP fails to realize is that those derps wouldn’t be hot or considered attractive if they just walked up to them in the street. Example: Mic Fucking Jagger. If that ugly fuck didn’t have the society standing and value offered by his role and power his sex icon status simply not exist. But it does and having “moves like jagger” and ugly fuck is sexy. There is no woman in the world that is considered sexy for her power …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:54 PM
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I think that’s all perception. If one pedestalizes the chick in a body suite then yeah they went from zero to 100. What about the guys that don’t like that? Might have had a negative impact. I legit shaved my beard and put my hair up for the first time in years and the reactions I got were astounding. I didn’t see it as much but the people around me made a fuss. It was as if I took it from zero to 100 without even meaning to. We have the power it’s just that mean don’t believe in the impact like…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:17 PM
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That’s not true we just don’t talk about it. My hairline is shrinking on me. I powder my hairline up, BAM I move from a 7 to an 8. I put contacts in instead of glasses bam I did it again.we also have fashion. Sure fashion makes the ladies more attractive but it works for us to. You dress like a hobo and then get a tailored suite BOOM sex appeal. We have the same amount of tricks but they are different. Men just don’t talk about it or share notes in that space like women do with make up and shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:05 PM
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I think the other shoe has dropped so far and hard that men aren’t allowed to not be attracted to a girl no matter what. Also men are so desperate and passive now that they don’t know how to follow their desires. Those men probs just get there rocks off to the pornstars specifically designed to get them off and have surrendered to never having what they actually want in a real partner. They are happy to be led and told how to respond to these REAL LIFE ladies and it would probably cripple them t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:20 AM
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All the issues you listed are symptomatic of other trauma. They don’t know this and no one else does. They are hung up on the issues you listed because life convinced them that a man should want not. They believe it and then they find something that they feel is truly special because it seems different than all the trauma faced before but guess what, it isn’t and learning that truth is pretty devastating. Sometimes it’s too much to get over the fact that as a man life sucks and we are supposed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:29 PM
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I don’t know but according to the internet she has about 250 million reasons to be attracted to him despite what you mentioned and if she toughs it out it’s all hers not just some. Y’all think to small. Why involve the courts when she could just take care of him (use his money to take care of him) and wait to get it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:55 PM
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Agreed on that but it is clear here that physical touch is a love language that is not treated like all others. All other love languages can be filled by other people and it’s fine but for a person that has physical tough? They are fucked(obviously not literally) if their partner doesn’t value it the same unless in an open relationship. And just because YOU define physical touch in that way doesn’t mean that is how it’s defined by others. People get looked down on for having this need by those t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:25 PM
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This is true for people who do not care about physical touch as a love language. People who do not have that as a love Language tend to discredit sex as a need for them to feel loved. It’s totally cool to tell a guy, “whoa your being aggressive in your desire to love me the way you love me, we are not having sex until you address this”and then in the same breath tell him that he has to be more open, better at listening and that he essentially needs to learn to be better at speaking a girls love …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:26 PM
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