Let's face reality: Be attractive, don't be unattractive. A caring, attractive guy is ideal. An uncaring, attractive guy is good. A caring, ugly guy is settling materia. An ugly, uncaring guy isn't even human in their eyes.
If men pumped and dumped their mates in nature our species wouldn't have survived. The pregnant women would die from hunger and predators. If pumping and dumping was the norm in nature we wouldn't be having this discussion.
The dating scene would stay the same, many would die trying to reach absolute perfection. Only the perfect 11/10 Chads would receive VR sex, normal men would have to settle for boring IRL sex.
What I learned from my experience is that reliance on others is a beautiful thing. Yes, I risk getting hurt, I risk losing something, I sacrifice some freedom in the form of hedonism, but that is so so worth it. That was beautiful to read. No joke, my eyes are wet rn.
Then the men won't stick around. If women have to sacrifice their best interests to keep men then it's better to stay single. The sane applies to me. Men don't need women and women don't need men.
It is fine for hot men to settle with ugly women for sex but it's not wrong for them to not settle. It is fine for hot women to settle with ugly guys for relationships but it's not wrong for them to not settle. Simple as that.
If she's promised some fat stacks, easy money when the reality of the industry is very different then she's being lied to. If she's scouted as a teen, that's grooming.
That's really, really sad. Marketing themselves as if they are objects to disgusting men who want a trophy wife. This doesn't even make me angry anymore, i'm simply sad.
Most people would rather put up with a bad job than to quit that job with no guarantee of employment. Porn actresses specially, due to the stigma around sex work they have a harder time than most trying to find a conventional job.
More like being paid 2.5 times what she'd have gotten at McDonalds while being raped and abused on camera for the pleasure of a bunch of sick bastards.
Most porn actresses were groomed as teens, suffered from mental ilnesses, were addicted to drugs. It's not a matter of being materialistic, there is a lot more at play here.
Alcohol isn't sold to kids, tobacco isn't sold to kids, why should porn be any different? Porn sites should be legally obligated to ask for the user's ID.
Sex Ed as it is now is basically biology class focused on human reproduction when it should be so much more. Sex Ed should talk about consent, performance anxiety, vaginismus, the risks of casual sex, sexual coercion, stealthing, foreplay and so on. Most Sex Ed classes go like "penis in vagina make baby and give std, use condom".
And you think that girls don't watch porn and don't want to try it? For real? I never said women don't watch porn, i said that boys watch it the most. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult what's the problem? The problem is that kids have this content easily available to them and it warps their perception of healthy sex and relationships. If only adults created and consumed porn it'd be mostly fine but too many kids have seen harcore porn by the age of 15. How is that healthy?
Especially not hardcore stuff that’s so easy to find This is the main problem. Kids should know about what sex is and how it works, that's what Sex Ed is for. However, actual Sex Ed is still not widespread nor profound enough. That leaves kids (mostly boys) to learn from porn. They then come across extremely hardcore and degrading porn, learn from it and inflict that onto girls. Btw, most porn is degrading to women. Aside from the occasional femdom fetish, most porn doesn't degrade men. Mainstre…
The easy availability of porn to kids is a very big problem. You gotta show your ID to get alcohol and cigarretes, that's because those substances are addicting and damaging to the body. Porn is also addicting, can lead to mental health problems but is easily attainable for any kid on the internet. At most they have to press a button "confirming" they are over 18. Porn is known to warp adults' perceptions of sex and love, imagine how it affects a child's brain. It's frightening.
From what i could gather by lurking FDS has many, many bad things going on. Body-shaming, bullying, ridiculing. Their views on sex work and porn, however, are really fucking based.
This double standard is absolutely terrible but instead of whining that "The wamyn havit better, they live in ReCrUiT MoDe" we should take actions that benefit men's mental health.
"I'm just pointing out the reality of the situation" my ass. You spoke about withdrawing support from women because men don't have any, i said we have to extend it to men as well. Btw, you're the one who brought up women getting drunk, we were talking about abusive relationships.
