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| 1 | Just got stood up... Question. | RedrunGun | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 05:34 PM |
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| 1 | At 30 years old,still a virgin, and no friends how big are my disadvantages?The amount of ego in this community is insane sometimes. You justify hurting people who are reaching out and clearly need/want help by making completely unfounded assumptions about them. You don't know a thing about this person other than they've had a rough time. If he doesn't intend on following some advice, why do you think he's asking for it? For the kicks? | /r/seduction | 15/07/17 04:59 AM |
| 3 | At 30 years old,still a virgin, and no friends how big are my disadvantages?Guy is reaching out for help, and you simply insult him and say it's hopeless? Wow. | /r/seduction | 15/07/17 03:04 AM |
| 6 | What To Do When Girls Cancel Your DateFrankly, if you can say that to yourself and believe it, there isn't much point in saying it to her too. Even if it is sincere, that can easily come off as being really invested, but trying reverse psychology. If they cancel, I say don't even mention it. If you know you're going to keep seeing them in school or something, pretend you didn't even notice. If you aren't going to see them again anywhere, just stop talking to her. If she did want to go on the date, she'll contact you. | /r/seduction | 17/06/17 11:24 AM |
| 2 | In a hell of a slump, is it something I'm doing wrong? Or is just who I am?Listen. There is no limitation on who you are. That's something you decide. We all start off with specific talents and weaknesses, but that doesn't determine what you'll be good and bad at the end. Where you place your focus determines that. | /r/seduction | 06/06/17 06:26 PM |
| 1 | "i don't have time for your pettiness today"Thank you, def got off topic for a moment there. There might be legitimate reasons he's insecure, but keep in mind all "feelings" are legitimate when we're feeling them. OP's reason might be that he's a ginger, or he's short, or he's not talkative enough, or that as a kid he was put down a lot so he feels stupid. All those things, though legitimate to the individual, are ultimately just in his head. In my opinion, the best way to combat these things isn't to work out all the details, it's to lau… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 06:56 PM |
| 5 | "i don't have time for your pettiness today"I agree, it's arguable. However; there's a more direct correlation between selfishness and insecurity than, say, selfishness and charity. Most of the more despicable human attributes have a more direct connection. You could say that everything stems from the idea that we want to benefit in some way, and so we're all selfish, but I don't consider providing yourself with necessities as selfish. Nor do I immediately consider something like sacrificing your life to save someone as selfish, though th… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 04:54 AM |
| 9 | "i don't have time for your pettiness today"It's arguable that insecurity stems from selfishness. If you aren't focused on your own feelings, there isn't anything to be insecure about. | /r/seduction | 28/02/17 09:43 PM |
| 1 | A story of a massive beta - just no!If you're already in the friendzone, it's to late for the direct tactic to work, so unless your goal is to desensitize yourself to rejection, don't bother. If you want this girl, at this point you need to be tactical. You need to manipulate her thoughts of you. Firstly, you need to be seen with other women, ideally ones who are attracted to you, but any will do. It's best if the girl you're interested in sees you with these other women from a distance so she can't start asking a bunch of questio… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/02/17 09:13 AM |
| 1 | too ugly for girls to like :/You aren't ugly dude, that isn't the problem, the problem isn't even that you think you're ugly, the problem is that you care what people think, probably in alot more areas of your life than just your looks. I'd encourage you to go out with the express purpose of getting girls to reject you. I mean, don't even try to make them like you, literally TRY to get rejected. See how many times you can get rejected in one hour. Do this exercise over and over again until rejection doesn't hurt anymore. I'… | /r/seduction | 19/05/16 07:22 PM |
| 4 | [30M] I'm sick of women being so insulting and toxic in the dating game and that my only option is to accept it and move on. It's making me hate women.You're right about why girls do it, but still, I don't think it's a sign of low self-esteem to not just eat disrespect. If your messed up about it yeah, but simply not tolerating disrespect is different. It might be a sign of arrogance though, the inability to rise above offense, needing to put someone back in their place. | /r/seduction | 18/12/15 06:20 PM |
| 9 | 27 M AFC about to give up on datingPeople can sense confidence, especially women. The fact that you say "most times talking to a women it's like I'm wasting time" tells me how negative your thought pattern is. first of all, don't try to get girls because you're unhappy and it'd make you happy, because though you'll be happy, it won't last. True happiness only comes from within, and when you've found it, you won't be needy anymore, and girls will be able to tell. Remember this, happiness is a choice. It's the choice to stay aware … | /r/seduction | 21/10/15 01:35 AM |
| 2 | Looking for people in the south Florida area to join our group (wingmens,sarge etc).Okay, time to get WEIRD. Is your same Josh? | /r/seduction | 08/10/15 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Looking for people in the south Florida area to join our group (wingmens,sarge etc).Where are you guys in south FL? I'm in West Palm Beach and would totally get involved in this if you're close enough. I'm 26 and totally new to this, so a group of like minded people is exactly what I need. Also, what's the age range of you guys? | /r/seduction | 08/10/15 02:52 AM |
| 1 | RSD have just released their full Blueprint Decoded seminar onto youtube, and I am really enjoying it. 4 days of seminars by Owen Cook (Tyler), focusing on dewiring oneself from sometimes unhelpful social conditioning.Commenting to check it out later. | /r/seduction | 18/09/14 04:04 PM |
| 1 | This homeless dude is a natural...This dude is homeless and gets laid like 4 times a week and I'm going on a year dry spell... What the actual fuck. It's because I'm a ginger goddamn it! /s | /r/seduction | 17/09/14 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Just got stood up... Question.That's what I'm doing, she's dropped if she doesn't hit me up. | /r/seduction | 22/07/14 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Just got stood up... Question.Yeah, I ended up telling her not to worry about it and that I'm sure we'll chill some other time. | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Just got stood up... Question.She claims to have quit drinking, but she's a mom. So I think it's possible she slept in. My main issue is that she apparently didn't make any plan to get up in time, so it doesn't seem like it was that important to her. | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Just got stood up... Question.Yeah, that's pretty much what I'm thinking at this point. | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Just got stood up... Question.When I got home an hour and a half after the time were goin to meet, I saw she had left me a message. Said "I didn't make it... I'm so sorry". I jokingly told her she's a square and asked what happened, she said she over slept. The date was at 1pm. | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Confidence in 60 secondsCommenting to come back later | /r/seduction | 20/07/14 03:31 PM |
| 2 | "A man with confidence and without grit is nothing more than a slick snake oil salesman."In my opinion, confidence is about inner peace, nothing more. Passions, goals, and really every aspect of our lives definitely benefit from it, but I don't think that's the reason for it, it's just a side effect that happens naturally when you're completely comfortable with who you are. One should strive to be confident because confidence and happiness goes hand in hand. The definition of happiness isn't success, but the definition of success is happiness. | /r/seduction | 20/06/14 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Theodore Roosevelt talks to us about "manning up"I need to get this tattooed on me. | /r/seduction | 23/05/14 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Game at the gymi like this. I'm going to remember it. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Girls will always think cold approaching them is creepy if...Even so, the goal is self improvement and we can always keep improving. | /r/seduction | 02/05/14 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Girls will always think cold approaching them is creepy if...Keep in mind that your not doing it for sexual reasons. Your not even doing it to get a number or a date. Your doing it to become confident and comfortable saying whatever you want whenever you want to whomever you want, which is simply self improvement. Improving yourself as an individual takes priority over (or at least it should) social acceptability or a feeling of awkwardness that someone may get because you talked to them. The short term reward might be sex, but that's not the end goal. Th… | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Girls will always think cold approaching them is creepy if...Walks up to girl, smiles. "I had toast for breakfast today, I like toast". Golden opener. | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 09:24 PM |
| 1 | She bailed again.Yup. It's time to let her go. | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 09:07 PM |
| 3 | [FR] I just picked up the hottest girl in my collegeLooks aren't everything, brah! Often humor, not giving a fuckness, and confidence when in combination with each other will make anyone sexy. | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 08:57 PM |
| 7 | [FR] I just picked up the hottest girl in my collegeNo one simply enjoys the conversation and just lets it flow naturally without thinking when they are first start getting over their approach anxiety. They have to feel organic before it can be organic, and that only comes with experience. OP is doing fine, better than fine. He's getting experience under his belt and that's already more than most other people. | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?But when you cut out the determining factor, at least in this example, your not giving any credit to the man for the choice he has to make. I know it's much more common for women to say no to sex, so I understand how that can lead to people considering them the gatekeepers of sex, but that doesn't make it an any less of a false statement. It's simply not true, they are not THE gatekeepers. It implies that you don't have a choice if a girl wants to have sex with you. You have a gate too, even if … | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?Then you are lost. I'm not the one who needs to wake up. You are. You need to realize that other peoples happiness are your concern just as much as your own, because we all effect each other on this little globe spaceship that floats in the infinite void. As long as there are people like you who put their own selfish instant gratification before others true happiness, not giving a shit who they hurt, we will never know peace. It is people like you who hold the human race back. | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?making them the party who has last say in whether they have sex or not That simply means women are less likely to open their gate. It definitely does not mean they are the only ones who have to open a gate as the term "The gatekeepers" suggests. Both parties have to open a gate, regardless of how much more often men open theirs. The fact that there is more than one gate that needs to be opened by different sexes for it to be consensual, the THE (meaning the only) in "the gatekeepers" must be rep… | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?That's a convenient way of not taking responsibility for your own actions. It's like an undercover cop pulling next to some guy, revving his engine as if to race, then pulling them over when he speeds. That cop set the guy up, tempted him into speeding, into hurting himself. There is a reason cops can't do that kind of thing, they are responsible. You are getting this girl to hurt both herself and her boyfriend and your fully aware of the situation. Your as responsible for their hurt as the girl… | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?when you say "the gatekeepers" you imply they are the one and only gatekeepers, which is not correct. Men are also their own gatekeeper, so they are not THE gatekeepers, just A gatekeeper. If women were the only ones who had the power to say yes or no to sex, male rape wouldn't exist. | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?I haven't down voted anything. Also, no, I said women are not the gatekeepers, which holds true, they are simply a gatekeeper. The difference between the word THE and the word A is massive. | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?No one is asking you to trust a stranger. No one is saying to care about a stranger. No one is saying to devote your whole being to everyone around you. The only thing anybody is saying is to not completely needlessly hurt people. There are plenty of single chicks who would like nothing more than to jump on some dick. You say it's just the boyfriend your not empathetic towards, but it's not. This girl is part of the relationship your fucking with too. | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?All that means is that more men openly want sex and aren't as picky. That doesn't make women the gatekeepers, it just makes men easy. Women being the gatekeeper suggests they make the decision if she and some guy are going to have sex. And I tell you, that is incorrect. She can't mind control you. You make your own decision on whether or not you want to fuck her. There is no single sex gatekeeper. She has to open her gate, and you have to open yours, regardless of how much more common it is for … | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?Since rape does exist, women are therefore the gatekeepers to sex. A woman ultimately decides if you are (or aren't) having sex with her. Of course it has to be consensual, but women are not the only ones who get raped. Not only one sex is the gatekeeper. The gatekeeper is every single one of us, men and women alike, but only for our own gate. We decide if we want to have sex or not, opening our gate. Then we wait and see if the other individual is willing to open theirs. Like I said, it take tw… | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?You don't care about boyfriends or girlfriends or the happiness they share, because if you did, you'd be able to put yourself in their shoes and realize that what they lose is much more than your instant gratification, and it would mean something. The fact that it doesn't shows a real lack of empathy. If your willing to fuck over peoples happiness in a relationship, why should anyone think you won't screw over their happiness for some other equally petty and self centered reason? Your not a trus… | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?Dude, it's possible to be a decent human being by not intentionally fucking over other peoples happiness and possibly their futures while still not caring what other people think. Your taking the idea of not caring what people think about you and turning it into just not caring about people. There's a big fucking difference. | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 10:55 PM |
| -2 | Trying to get a date with a girl who has a boyfriend?No. That makes them both assholes. Women aren't the gatekeepers to sex, it takes two to tango. | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 10:43 PM |
| 3 | A journey in learning how to improve eye contact: Eyes and the Stories They TellI make it a point to concentrate on one of the persons eyes, listening for cues when it's natural to look away so as to not seem like I'm avoiding eye contact but also so I'm not just staring at them the entire conversation. My problem is, I get really aware of what my my face and eyes are doing when ever I'm holding eye contact, and it makes it uncomfortable to the point that it's sometimes hard to concentrate on what the other person is saying. | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 10:37 PM |
| 6 | How to stop comparing yourself to others?Guide to no giving a fuzzidyfuck | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 10:26 PM |
| 1 | What I've noticed from living with women at universitySo much this. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:32 PM |
| 1 | I'm ready to throw my laptop out the windowI always forget to get the name lol. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Wow! Eye Contact plus a smirk does work!She probably was. But that doesn't mean she wan't into it. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Wow! Eye Contact plus a smirk does work!My left of their left? It would be weird if we had the same left. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Wow! Eye Contact plus a smirk does work!That's my problem. If a girl looks at me or smiles at me, a suave smirk becomes impossible for me as my mouth explodes into an uncontrollable ear to ear grin. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Wow! Eye Contact plus a smirk does work!My problem is that if the smirk works and she smiles back, my smirk immediately explodes into a ear to ear grin and there's nothing I seem to be able to do about it. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Wow! Eye Contact plus a smirk does work!That's what she said. To you, not me. I swear. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 04:41 PM |
| 0 | Wow! Eye Contact plus a smirk does work!Can't say so much for the movie.. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 04:39 PM |
| 1 | [FR] You don't need permissionMy problem is, logically I know there's not a single other person just like me, so I'm one of a kind, but emotionally I'm held back. I've had my share of success with hotties at parties and even dating models, but for some reason none of that really raises my confidence level. For me, I think it has to start from within, which I just haven't been able to convince myself to like myself. If that makes any sense at all lol. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Overcoming Approach Anxiety – (Not a “Hack” or “Trick”, but rather a Lifestyle)I really liked this write up! I just found seddit and already know that I'll be back often! So I just wanted to confirm. Basically, visualize for at least 21 days being successful with women right before you go to bed, focus all your attention on what she's saying and not what your going to say, be aware of what your feeling but think of it as a learning experience and not as good or bad, and practice practice practice? | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:19 AM |
| 1 | I can't have conversationsI just stumbled onto seddit of the first time and you really sound like you know your stuff! If it's cool, I'd like to ask you for some advice. I struggle with having just a regular conversation. With girls more so, but with guys too. I often feel like I'm grasping for things to say with random silence thrown into the mix rather than it flowing naturally. It wasn't always this way, when I was about 21 (25 now) I felt like I had a lot of friends and was at an all time high confidence level. Durin… | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 04:06 AM |
| 1 | I can't have conversationsMan, I've had the exact opposite experience. All my friends smoke almost on the daily and have all become MUCH more sociable, confident, and productive over the years. I actually burn the least, been clean for three months now while having a regular workout regiment and I'm sitting here wondering how all my friends got so damn confident lol. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Rambling Patchwork QuiltI'm kind of in the same boat as OP, so your post helped me out too. Just wanted to say thanks! | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 03:12 AM |
| 2 | How to escalate correctlyPure genius! I just discover seddit right now and I can already tell I'll be coming back often. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 02:58 AM |
| 3 | [FR] You don't need permissionI know you just explained but... how? HOWWWW?! | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 02:25 AM |
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