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Because good habits are hard to keep and bad ones are easy to fall back into
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:33 PM
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According to pornhub yes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:11 PM
8

Huge oversized hat like maybe a sombrero
/r/seduction18/04/24 08:03 PM
0

She’s an adult and can have sex with who she wants. Not sure why the judgement. Its not unheard of for professors to engage with their students in college, although in recent years a lot of universities have policies against it and it’s been highly frowned upon. If I were a professor I’d be highly suspect of a student making moves on me if they were a current student in class, I mean concerned about conflict of interest or if she had some other motive. The only way I might even consider is if I …
/r/seduction21/03/24 06:58 PM
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Are you sure you’re not just super thin or skinny? Add maybe some muscle and even some appropriate amount of fat would you still have “small bones”? This reminds me when you have fat people claiming to be “big boned.” Idk if that’s even a thing
/r/seduction21/03/24 04:04 PM
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It depends on the location or hotel. Places where there’s a conference or event or a lot of solo travelers can be a good place to meet women, cougar or not. Hotel bars are probably one of the few types of bars it’s common to see women there solo.
/r/seduction19/03/24 01:14 PM
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I mean Mia Khalifa has done threesomes and BJs wearing one lol
/r/seduction16/03/24 03:39 PM
47

A lot of this is good info but left out the part where 99% of them will be there in groups or with friends. You either have to get her to break away from them or win over the group.
/r/seduction03/03/24 05:23 AM
1

That’s fine but only take up those things if you are into them. Don’t do it solely to meet women
/r/seduction27/02/24 04:48 AM
10

I mean by “looks” how you present yourself, not implying someone needs to be a model
/r/seduction18/02/24 02:45 AM
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A job that makes a lot of money. If not a job that interacts with people and makes you look interesting
/r/seduction17/02/24 02:54 PM
86

How do you dress/look? Are you in shape? If you think about this….Jason Momoa is 44, I doubt any woman of any age would have a problem with someone like him approaching. But if you look like a typical old creepy guy and come off as old, then yeah it’s creepy
/r/seduction17/02/24 02:50 PM
5

So OP just needs to become King of Morroco or an NFL player
/r/seduction16/02/24 10:46 PM
39

A chad in this definition can get away with more certainly. But if he’s socially awkward he probably won’t be as successful. A chad like that will definitely do better on dating apps, but maybe not with irl approach (especially if he never approaches).
/r/seduction08/02/24 06:01 PM
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It’s historically Mormon capitol so you are lucky they have bars or clubs at all. Given a lot of transplants have moved in and given a more west coast feel. Not many minorities for a major city though at least when I’ve been there If you like outdoor activities, skiing, or stuff like that it can be a fun place to visit but definitely not top of my list for nightlife.
/r/seduction01/02/24 08:49 PM
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Life is just a huge pickup game
/r/seduction27/01/24 07:01 PM
2

I wonder what people are all going to think of the “broccoli head SoundCloud rapper” look 30 years from now
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:17 PM
5

Not a lawyer but I don’t think that would really stand. Popular nightlife venues have been doing something like that forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:39 AM
5

Whenever I’ve had male friends who were overweight or out of shape and struggling with dating because of it, you know what other guys would usually say? “Hit the gym, start cutting, eat healthy” When women have the same issue the advice from other women is more likely be just to accept yourself as is and find the right person who is okay with that. I get there’s a lot of pressure on women with looks. But nobody expects a perfect body. However in recent years it seems like there’s an ungodly amou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:16 AM
2

Because it’s hard. It means giving up certain things like sugary substances (which are addictive), limiting things like alcohol, eating healthy meals, and regularly exercising. Similar to quitting smoking or drinking or drugs, someone that wants to change needs to do it for themselves not other people. I went from being overweight to becoming a personal trainer (former now) but it took an entire lifestyle change.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:30 PM
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Because it’s a pure numbers game for men seeking women on these apps, and they are at a natural disadvantage the fact there are way more men than women on most apps (there are stats out there proving this). So if a guy is solely relying on dating apps they sometimes decide to “take what they can get”. If the situation were reversed I would guarantee most men would only swipe the top 10-20% attractive women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:25 PM
5

Because success builds your confidence which builds more success
/r/seduction19/06/23 07:49 PM
1

I think it’s one perspective. I’ve met plenty of fit women who live at the gym and as just much into tracking macros. I think in terms of long term dating or relationships it has to do with compatibility and shared interests more than anything
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 08:13 PM
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I don’t think you need TRT or steroids to look like that. For extreme bodybuilding usually that’s true. But plenty of people can get like this with the right type of workout and diet routine naturally
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 12:47 AM
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How are they being “used”? This is part of the problem this idea that if a woman has casual sex she’s being used up or something. It’s just sex at the end of the day. Lots of women do like sex as well
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 04:13 PM
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I truly think a lot of it is due to slut shaming of women that still exists. Most women would be less selective about who they hookup with or how many guys they do if it wasn’t for concern of things like “n count” (as this sub says) or whatever other hangups that come along with it. A lot of men unfortunately blame easy women as part of the problem but knock them for being too selective. It creates an imbalance and shows how people in the Hetero world haven’t truly become sexually liberated
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 04:11 PM
1

Obesity being unattractive is not gender specific. It hides natural features and indicates often unhealthy habits (not always of course). Even most fat people would rather not date other fat people. Agree BMI is not a good metric for individuals but it’s undeniable people have gotten larger. If you are simply a healthy normal body weight you automatically up your game in dating simply because majority are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 10:39 PM
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Most of these women are only mildly overweight. Yes they don’t have perfect figures but most of them are reasonably attractive still. When guys complain about overweight women they are usually talking about very fat or obese. In the 70s these women would probably fall closer to that category, but today they are just average to mild overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 10:30 PM
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I don’t think guys on average even want super thin magazine cover women. I could usually care less if a woman is a little overweight if she has other qualities. But what OP is describing is very obese. I’m significantly taller and not lightweight/have muscle yet still don’t weight as much as the woman described. In contrast I have a friend who is a reasonably overweight man and actually likes heavier women yet struggles because many don’t want to date a fat guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:31 PM
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They probably don’t find her that attractive (maybe some do) but don’t find her a turnoff enough to turn her down for easy sex, so they take what they can get. There are plenty of men like this and unfortunately with dating apps due to the high gender imbalance and frustration even moderately attractive guys sometimes have, it’s only gotten worse. If you wanna know the difference ask her how long these guys chat with her before wanting to go straight to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:20 PM
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Yeah I would think it’s theft of services, like leaving a restaurant without paying Also the Drake story I thought was just an internet rumor
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:59 PM
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I think what OP describes can be a real phenomenon and is why so many guys feel the need to escalate toward sex sooner than later. There are men who don’t mind sex 2-3 dates in if they like the girl, but in the meantime she’s getting chatted up with other guys
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:20 PM
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It could depend on location and the app you use Tinder has gotten horrible with something up to half profiles being fake
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:15 PM
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Yes but supply demand forces are at work. Some of these apps can be 70-80% male to female. Which means guys relying on them will get frustrated enough to just swipe-meet-fuck girls they would never bother with irl I know a woman who is not very attractive and obese who told me she stopped using apps because she was overwhelmed by matches. Sure she isn’t getting the thousands an hour and guys wanting to buy her gifts like the really hot girls, but she can still have a date with most average looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:33 PM
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Wouldn’t this cause some type of black hole to open up in the red pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:31 PM
2

Imagine if something like this was open for any gender to post about people they’ve dated. I don’t think anything good would come if it It would personally be a huge turnoff seeing that a woman was using or on this type of app or FB page. Like equivalent if a woman saw that a guy was an Andrew Tate follower
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:27 AM
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I think it would be one thing if they were simply posting guys who were abusive, stalkers, etc. But my understanding is women will post pics and info of guys from dating apps that they’ve yet to even meet like asking for Yelp reviews, even when there’s no red flags about them. Any FB group doing something like that is highly questionable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:46 PM
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I think it’s somewhat true but depends if the guy is attractive. Problem is so many guys get older and “let themselves go” end up out of shape and boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:37 AM
1

Why do men use these apps let alone rely on them? Would anyone want to go to a packed club that was 80 or 90% male-female?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:29 PM
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If you are in America and fit today you are a rarity and obesity is generally not considered attractive regardless of gender. I think one difference if a man is out of shape and struggling in the dating market most other guys will tell him to hit the gym and work on himself. Whereas there’s a lot of messaging to women to simply accept the way you are. Dating apps might also skew their perception as the imbalance on apps have created a lot of desperate thirsty guys who are willing to meet and hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:08 PM
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I’m in my 30s but know a lot of guys in and right out of college who are really bitter it seems or dating is a sore subject. Theory is that online dating being the norm has had an impact. Everyone here always mentions relationships but casual sex and dating has long been a big part of younger peoples formative years as adults. And there seems to be an impression, perceived or real, that only a small percentage of guys are able to “get to play” so to speak. There’s always been men who are more su…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 08:28 PM
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But we live in the 21st century. Sex is just a normal activity and can be done for fun not procreation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 08:23 PM
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Obesity though generally isn’t attractive for anyone’s gender. There are people who have more difficulty maintaining a healthy weight due to disease or genetic factors. But I would guess 8/10 of them today could change through diet and exercise. People have gotten fatter the past several decades. Today in the US if you are a healthy body weight you’re a minority. And if you’re actually fit or athletic you’re even more rare
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:12 AM
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No but there are men who get frustrated with online dating and will meet/fuck women they would never consider approaching irl
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:06 AM
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One thing is that with such a market like online dating where there’s a huge disequilibrium it incentivizes bad behavior, lying, and manipulating by the players in that market with a natural disadvantage
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:04 AM
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I think yes and this applies regardless of gender. It’s a lifestyle thing as well. If one of you works out religiously and the other prefers to sit on the couch and eat fast food all day, it’s gonna be hard to be compatible. There’s also health implications. Obesity is actually a health problem and people are not just “healthy at any size” despite all the efforts to convince everyone otherwise. In the dating market fit people tend to have more options vs fat people, especially in a country like …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 03:22 PM
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The problem is also more men active on these apps than women. Plus men who swipe on everything, and worse attractive guys who will meet and smash with much less attractive women because they get frustrated and lower their standards
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 06:45 AM
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I’m a 36 year old who has dated as old as 50 and as young as 23. It really all depends. I notice older ones have a lot of weird traditional “rules”, but some of them (like divorced moms who just wanna get laid) don’t care and are very forward about sex. Meanwhile it’s a mixed bag with younger. They seem to have less rules but also can really have this entitlement mentality, especially if they are very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 02:44 PM
1

How about stop listening to this shit advice First off places like nightclubs and bars imo are fair game. Sure you should take no for an answer and move along. As a male I’ve been occasionally approached by a woman at a bar, people of all sexual orientation go to bars/clubs to meet people. If someone is afraid they might be approached at those places they probably shouldn’t go to them. Outside of that, it depends what you mean by “meet.” At a university class or mall or grocery store yes it can …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 09:34 PM
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I think we need to also recognize not everyone is cut out for monogamy and it’s not the only way to live your life. I know plenty of forever single people who just date or have casual relationships and are happy. I also know some nonmonogamous couples who it works well for them. You don’t need to follow the whole life script you were taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 03:33 PM
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I would point out this data comes from marriages. Lots of people would casually date someone with a larger age gap if they are attracted to them, but when it comes to LTR or marriages would want someone around their own age. On the flip side this could also mean when women were economically more dependent on men they were more likely to marry an older guy with wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:04 AM
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If we take long term relationships out of the equation though and look at women who are purely “dating” in a more short term or casual sense, I would bet there’s a lot of them sharing the same guys. Not saying it’s bad or good. Just stating a probable reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 09:04 PM
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Is there any real data for this? It seems highly anecdotal. Where I live in an expensive suburb I don’t notice much of any difference. Last i recall some Nordic countries with higher than normal average height were still only like 6ft or 6’1” at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 08:50 PM
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You are not actually short though. Definitely at least average height I would think. I can see how some would have a problem with big height differences, but 5’10” you are still taller than most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:41 AM
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But why don’t they? I think the issue comes down to womens selectivity not promiscuity. If there was less stigma to women having a high count they might be less selective, which is where the imbalance happens. This whole dynamic is way less prevalent among the gay male community for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:24 PM
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I think most of the hesitancy women have from sex in this modern era is cultural. They get shamed by men and other women for having too much casual sex. The “feeling used” is simply the result of how society views them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:15 PM
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Transplants don’t always work well for many men. All it does it take hair from the back where it’s less likely to disappear and move it elsewhere. You will still continue to bald in places outside of the transplant unless using fin and it’s stopped the loss. It seems to work best with guys who have only temple loss or very minimal baldness. Every advanced balding guy (NW6/7) who I have seen getting a transplant looks like a waste of money…nothing but a thin small wisp of hair in front that looks…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:45 PM
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You assume all feminists are anti-sex work. think you are referring to SWERFs
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:38 PM
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That’s why I’ve always been 100% supportive of abortion rights as a man. BC is never full proof and no woman should be forced to have a kid just because she had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:24 PM
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I know a lot of gay men and never heard of one them put so much preference into height as women on dating apps supposedly do. “10 inches taller” is almost excessive to me and I wonder what sample they are using for this. I’m tall but usually left swipe on height queens because they tend to be high maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:22 PM
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I once dated a women who did the whole “GI Jane” thing and even though it wasn’t my normal preference admit she pulled it off well, was otherwise attractive and athletic/great shape
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:59 PM
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Think it depends. Not bald but from what I have been told women see a shaved head more aggressive looking but may or may not find it attractive. Also been told younger women in their 20s are not as into it. But it depends on the guy, some guys can pull it off well and others don’t. Generally I think it’s usually an unattractive trait otherwise “hatfishing” on dating apps wouldn’t be a thing. But other factors like being jacked and having a good face can make up for it. I’ll admit many men just d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:56 PM
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This right here. Women get very sensitive over it, much like shorter men so over height preferences. I don’t think necessarily most men care that much about age though as long as the women is still good looking. They will take an attractive 37 year old over an unattractive 24 year old almost all the time. I say age because it’s not something that can really be changed much like height. However I think weight is probably a bigger factor for men finding women attractive. Being obese is generally n…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:29 PM
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A friend of mine stopped the mugging of an old lady one time. He wasn’t trying to bang her, he just saw someone in trouble and stepped in. The guy who posted the story didn’t indicate he was into this girl even, but what he couldn’t believe is her behavior of not only not going to authorities but actually getting back together with the creep that sexually assaulted her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:22 PM
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I think part of it is for a guy to have lots of sex partners (who are not prostitutes or bottom of barrel women) it’s often a challenge or requires you to be attractive or desirable in some way. For an average woman to do the same is not very difficult. Being said, I think part of this imbalance is caused by how women are slut shamed and indoctrinated with the belief they shouldn’t have casual sex or too many partners. Women also like sex. But cultural pressures push them to be more reserved and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:12 PM
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I kind of think that’s a troll post though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:21 AM
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I think the reality with obesity is that it’s a known health issue and for most people is largely due to diet and exercise habits. Being obese hides physical features and is not considered attractive regardless of gender though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:10 AM
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People still use those?
/r/seduction22/10/22 03:39 PM
2

You don’t “game” over text. Be fun and be interesting but try to push for a real life meeting
/r/seduction22/10/22 03:31 PM
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Tall white dude here and can say for just about all of my 20s I struggled to be successful with women. Yes I would occasionally get IOIs and looks here and there but as soon as I started talking to them it often their interest just fell away. It wasn’t until I actually went through a self improvement and gained confidence that I saw a huge difference. In terms of physical attractiveness definitely being in shape and having muscle makes a difference. One thing I do notice about all the “chads” yo…
/r/seduction22/10/22 03:27 PM
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Well that’s true. I think I mean “most women” or those otherwise average looking if not for obesity or overweight. It has gotten out of control though at least in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:09 PM
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I don’t think it’s always short lived. Redditors somehow think the moment someone hits 30 they are a senior citizen. I would say most women don’t truly become “invisible” sexually to most men based on age until maybe their 50s+ but it could be earlier. Hot people are hot it just becomes (regardless of gender) more work to stay in shape and look good the older you get. I’ve met plenty of 40s women who are in excellent shape and have decent skincare that are more attractive than some 25 year olds …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:33 PM
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Honestly this day and age I feel like the only thing an average women has to do to be attractive is simply not be fat. I don’t mean perfect body just not being obese. I know many guys who date all types of women in terms of their overall look, ethnicity, height, personality. But none of them find obese women attractive. Of course the same could be said for men, as being overweight isn’t generally seen as attractive regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:26 PM
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Some people flirt or give off signals if they find you attractive, but may still not want to pursue you further. It’s not like a woman with a boyfriend is never into another guy.
/r/seduction19/10/22 03:27 AM
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The amount of morbidly obese women I see on OLD with a whole laundry list of requirements for guys has gotten insane. I am fit and muscular (ex personal trainer) but don’t care if they have a few extra pounds if we click well. However excessively overweight I just can’t be attracted to. The unfortunate part is guys who could do well in person get frustrated with apps and will swipe on women they are not into, meet them and even have sex. It causes some men to lower their standards and some women…
/r/seduction19/10/22 12:54 AM
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I don’t understand why this sub would be banned. It seems to be a place with others giving very respectful advice.
/r/seduction18/10/22 08:06 PM
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Because there are a large number of angry bitter men on Reddit who follow incel ideology and lack social skills to properly approach women and don’t want to do anything to change that. Just like when there are posts even on this sub of men being able to pull lots of women there’s always and influx of skeptical or hateful comments.
/r/seduction17/10/22 05:37 PM
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I can see doing this to get past a dry spell or if building confidence from the ground up. But long term have to up your standards which means often going for who you want vs just who you can easily get. I also unfortunately see a lot of guys on dating apps do this where the cards are stacked against them and they get desperate for anything. Do not use OLD as your only way to meet women.
/r/seduction15/10/22 04:56 AM
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Like any self help, you take it with a grain of salt. A lot of these gurus have long been just trying to make money off desperate people.
/r/seduction13/10/22 10:59 AM
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Hot women know they are hot and don’t need to be told. I wouldn’t start off with this because they get it all the time.
/r/seduction12/10/22 01:39 PM
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Yep. I’ve had a few situations where solid 10s had engaged me and flirted and I was an idiot trying to assume they were just being friendly and did nothing about it.
/r/seduction12/10/22 01:01 PM
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Just put 6ft or 6ft with cm in parentheses. If you put just metric most Americans won’t have a sense what it is.
/r/seduction12/10/22 02:14 AM
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Yep, it sounds like she doesn’t care. The only way it might be an issue if OP gets self conscious about it.
/r/seduction12/10/22 02:12 AM
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I have noticed those who are above 6ft are less height queens. I think it’s because they are used to being the tall one. And statistically if they only were interested in guys taller than them, it would really narrow their pool of potentials.
/r/seduction11/10/22 10:36 PM
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If you are 6ft you are not short, but it implies that she is definitely taller than the average woman. Some women have issues with height differences, some don’t. I’ve noticed tall girls are kind of used to most guys being shorter than they are.
/r/seduction11/10/22 10:33 PM
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I think you might be partially correct. I probably do need some better pictures but I didn’t think they were that bad. I do notice I go through these spurts where I’m getting lots more matches, then other times it’s a dry spell for the apps. Maybe the algorithm has an effect. I think what city/location you are in can make a difference. Out of the apps Tinder I seem to do best, bumble so far the worst.
/r/seduction11/10/22 12:57 PM
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Let’s be honest, how attractive are these women? I would think most average women who want a hookup online just go to Tinder
/r/seduction11/10/22 12:54 PM
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I think the dynamics are entirely different though with male-female relations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 04:13 AM
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I have no experience with Reddit r4r but I feel like so many of those are scammers
/r/seduction11/10/22 03:59 AM
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Now if you learn game you can find women to do this for free
/r/seduction11/10/22 03:23 AM
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I’m just trying to say I think these apps are mostly a ripoff. In real life the success rate is usually going to be better. A friend of mine is like 5’6” and not athletic at all but has more success than I do, obviously in the real world not apps. I also noticed on Tinder in recent years the massive influx of fake accounts, escorts, women wanting you to cash app them. There’s so much trash to sift through it’s not worth it most of the time.
/r/seduction10/10/22 11:49 PM
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It totally kills your self confidence when you aren’t successful. I’ve been told by many people, women, gay men that I’m attractive. I’m tall, fairly muscular, dress well. Ive been approached by attractive women before, commonly have women show IOIs. On bumble right now after some endless swiping, guess what I have? One match from a fat chick who hasn’t even bothered to message. These apps are a sausage fest filled with bots and onlyfans girls where they want guys to just pay for more features i…
/r/seduction10/10/22 11:23 PM
1

You can try, unlikely to work though if she has tons of messages/followers
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:38 PM
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If she’s attractive she will have hundreds of thirsty dudes everyday trying to “slide in her DMs”
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:28 PM
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Because you don’t have “smoking positivity” or similar movements. It would be one thing if this movement was promoting normal body sizes or people who aren’t perfect, but very often it’s a woman who is quite large in an unhealthy way they are promoting. And at the end of day most guys still don’t prefer these women no matter how much they push it. In all fairness obesity is not attractive regardless of gender, and I don’t see mens fitness ads and magazines with huge fat men on the covers, it’s o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:42 PM
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I find 9/10 times, at least today, when men say they don’t find a woman attractive physically it’s because she’s very overweight. Most male friends I have will date women if all different bra sizes, facial look, ethnicities, even ages ranging from 20 through 40s. But one thing none of them find attractive is obesity. And it’s been on the rise in western countries the past 20 years. Not talking about women needing to have perfect bodies or be thin as a preference for most guys, just being a norma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:22 PM
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Yes I have had it happen. But mostly they do not. Usually though they will give off signals that they want you to make a move.
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:51 PM
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90% chance you are a guy cosplaying here as a female
/r/seduction09/10/22 08:13 PM
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Dude needs to pack it in, just move to Florida, learn to play golf
/r/seduction09/10/22 04:43 PM
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Anyone else read the title and think it was going to be some retirement age man asking for advice on how to game?
/r/seduction09/10/22 04:42 PM
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I’ve had many who did not take the lead at all in establishing touch or escalating while we were somewhere public like a bar. But when I read the signals and escalated, they often reciprocate more aggressively and usually push for sex. If a woman wants sex with you and feels comfortable with you, very often the only element missing for her is being sure you’re into it with her. Once she gets the green light, more often than you think they will be the ones asking to go to the bedroom.
/r/seduction09/10/22 04:34 PM
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Also though remember if sex does happen there’s always a chance things could get weird at the BJJ gym. Maybe not depending on how cool she is with it, but it’s always a chance. Sex is not certain but if she’s willing to invite OP to her place she trusts him enough and presumably likes him. OP just needs to read for the signals and make his moves accordingly. Also a small chance warning if she tries to rope you into giving her money, betting for her, etc. I would think that’s not the case and she…
/r/seduction09/10/22 04:31 PM
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It’s an interesting perspective. I have friends who are older (40s+) that prefer younger, and also know those in their 20s who prefer older. I feel for some it’s a taboo thing or novelty. As a 35 year old having had sex with women from their early 20s into their early 50s I would say age is not as much as you make it. I’ve met 24 year olds who approached me who i found very unattractive while 45 year olds who were very hot. I think the only problem OP will have is, as others mentioned, the avera…
/r/seduction08/10/22 06:02 PM
1

Yes I would say. Either that or he is really concerned about your cardiovascular health.
/r/seduction08/10/22 05:07 AM
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I feel like until I became more self-confident I lost a lot of opportunities because I would sometimes get them but brush them off as someone just being nice or a coincidence she was looking at me. They are not reliable though and many successful guys don’t focus on them. Being able to feel people out is probably very valuable though. Everyone gives some type of indicator if they are friendly and approachable vs if they don’t want to be bothered. You can use that as a starting point.
/r/seduction08/10/22 05:04 AM
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Yep I see questions all the time on dating subs of girls asking “why won’t he approach me at the gym”, because most women this is the list of places they say never to approach. If OP makes direct eye contact or maybe says hi or gives some indication she is interested it will make her more approachable. Most guys are not going to just cold approach a woman at a gym who is showing zero IOIs.
/r/seduction07/10/22 05:54 PM
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6’2” checking in will one up him (Side note trying to figure out why OP uses ft for height and kg for weight)
/r/seduction07/10/22 02:38 PM
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I think the point is to maximize what you can to get the best results. It’s about looking your best just like in person. One thing that all men should be doing is at least staying in shape, if not building muscle. I’ve never seen where doing that has made one worse off. That being said don’t rely on online dating. It’s vast majority men on those apps and can be a frustrating time waster even for top 20% attractive guys.
/r/seduction07/10/22 02:34 PM
1

Maybe try /r/Toronto for something like this
/r/seduction06/10/22 02:43 PM
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40ft fishing trawler
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:42 PM
1

I feel like they are the male equivalent of FDS. Just bitter and angry. Instead of working on improving themselves do nothing but rant. Normal healthy people don’t spend time associating with those types of echo chambers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:39 PM
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Tbh I think online dating is an uphill battle for majority of guys. It can be convenient and if you are reasonably attractive with good photos you can be mostly successful. But there are many guys out there who will have little gain for the time they put into swiping and chatting. First off most apps are a sausage fest, and among the women there’s a lot of trash to filter out (pushing OF, insta, escorts, bots). It can mentally drain you where your feeling of success depends on the matches you ar…
/r/seduction05/10/22 07:18 PM
3

I feel like some women picture the average single man’s sex life to be like Ryan Goslings character in Crazy Stupid Love
/r/seduction05/10/22 02:15 PM
1

There’s a lot of evidence that humans, neither men or women, are really intended to be monogamous the way romance movies and most of our culture tries to idealize. If you look at the few animals that are considered sexually monogamous, you will notice it’s not something they struggle with it’s their base state in nature. A lot more women would be open to casual sex if it wasn’t for a lot of shaming of it (that comes from both sexes). Even as a guy, by experience I would say the sex from a ONS is…
/r/seduction05/10/22 02:12 PM
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So much of Tinder today, at least for men, is full of fake profiles and bots trying to pull insta followers. I would estimate at least 1/3 of female profiles on there fall under this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:11 AM
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Speaking of gay people, I’ve seen quite a few age gap relationships among gay men. There’s men who prefer younger just like some straight men. Yet few even bat an eye at this. It seems like it’s only a big deal when it’s a younger woman and older man that there’s this uproar. *not saying there’s anything wrong with gay men age gap dating either, adults should be able to date / have sex consensually with other adults regardless of age, gender, or sexual preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:09 AM
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30 and 40 are not huge differences tbh. 30 and 18 by comparison might be
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:04 AM
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I don’t think one needs to rely on alcohol or drugs. They can help you be more social and confident, but it is possible to be that way without them it’s just harder for many.
/r/seduction05/10/22 12:55 AM
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I’m not doubting. There was an experiment some guy did a few years ago using a fake profile with shirtless pics of some lesser known male model. He was able to open up in his first messages with some of the most sexual, vulgar, offensive lines you could imagine, but a lot of these women still kept talking or wrote it off as a joke. He could say something like “let’s fuck” and get a phone number in response. Now i know it’s the internet so who knows what’s real, but it’s very obvious the women on…
/r/seduction27/09/22 07:19 PM
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Keep in mind those fat guys getting laid from Tinder are probably swiping and messaging endlessly just playing a lottery and that can be mentally taxing. It’s also not impossible to get laid on Tinder even for a less attractive guy if he lowers his expectations to the absolute bottom of the barrel which shouldn’t be your ideal. Better use of OP time to work on improving himself and use dating apps as only a supplement not the only way to meet.
/r/seduction27/09/22 02:07 PM
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I know the post you are referring to and I’m inclined to believe he was real. The best part is he got banned/reported on Tinder supposedly for just ignoring all these women, something they all do constantly.
/r/seduction26/09/22 03:17 PM
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I think where it really went downhill is when apps like Tinder started having 1/3 or more (who knows how many) female profiles that are either fake or “follow me on (social media platform)”. A lot of stats you see on gender ratios don’t even take that into account. Whatever you do, try to avoid totally lowering your standards too much just because you get frustrated. If you consider yourself a 7 and start feeling the urge to smash with the 2s and 3s you see on the apps, it’s time to start gettin…
/r/seduction25/09/22 06:45 PM
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Tinder in real life would be like a club that was an extreme sausage fest every night but still had plenty of guys willing to pay for bottle service (aka “premium features”). Meanwhile half the girls there would be escorts or trying to sell you something.
/r/seduction25/09/22 02:11 PM
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Tinder has around a 4:1 ratio of men to women. This right here. Would you normally want to go pickup in a bar that you knew in fact had this kind of ratio, if you could avoid it. Success on Tinder is part how attractive you are in photos and part just luck/extreme numbers game. You can have success from swiping but it can also burn you out mentally if you rely completely on dating apps. A lot of guys today seem to be terrified of approaching irl or even given ridiculous advice online that you sh…
/r/seduction25/09/22 01:36 PM
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5) Don’t waste endless amounts of time and energy talking to one person on Tinder. You could have a great conversation for a week and get unmatched for no reason (rule 4 there certainly applies, so it sooner than later). While you’re talking keep swiping and don’t put too much mental energy into whoever you are chatting with. Also don’t rely solely on apps especially Tinder. I saw depending on country it can up to be 80%-90% male users, and a lot of female accounts today are bots or fishing for …
/r/seduction25/09/22 01:19 PM
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I really think if a woman is fit or at least not fat her prospects are dramatically increased. Although being obese is generally unattractive regardless of gender. I know a lot of “Chad” men who date all types of attractive women of all ethnicities, backgrounds, heights and ages, but they rarely date significantly overweight ones. Not trying to judge anyone but that’s just an observation that seems quite common.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 03:07 AM
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I don’t know about that early but would agree “most” in their 20s do. I say most because most guys stop working out, get fat, get boring, lose their sense of style and social skills as they get older. Very often that happens while they are in a many years LTR. However I have seen some who have a glow up or maintain their attractiveness who have more success with dating, including with younger, when they are older than when they were that same age. It really all depends. Just like you have 35+ wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:02 AM
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Men would likely approach women with high counts for casual sex much more. Another reason women would want to keep their numbers lower. Another thing it would be very hard for those in monogamous relationships to cheat. Or if your friends/neighbors/family members that know so and so is married and sees his/her number go up it would be quite awkward. Fun thought experiment but I don’t get why everyone gets worked up with numbers. Most adults are neither zero or extremely high anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:47 AM
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I do think younger women, like 25 as opposed to 45, there is a significant difference in perceptions around sex. It’s not uncommon for younger people today to have sex on the first date and casual sex is often seen as more normal, whereas those older seem to have a lot more “rules”. Then again there are those hot 45 year old newly divorced that just wanna get laid so it all depends on the woman. I think people here make a lot of generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:48 PM
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Honestly I can’t usually even tell the difference between a 31 year old and a 27 year old. Age is mostly just a number and attractive people are still attractive. I have met women who are very good looking (in decent shape) well into their 40s, and I’ve also met 24 year olds who I would never be attracted to. Now the only difference is usually, but not always, women who are in their 30s are not as open to just “having fun” or casual arrangements compared to those younger, and become very insiste…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:36 PM
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Rejection on dating apps for women = they are either very unattractive or they are only going for literally like the top 2% of guys who are able to get an exceptional number of matches
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:24 AM
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This is Reddit where half the users are probably in high school. Irl no one says this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:16 AM
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You must live in a place with lots of attractive guys. A growing number of men have become more socially awkward and isolated because of social media, maybe some have used it to self improve but a lot of guys are low effort, okay looking like trash, don’t know how to connect with women outside of onlyfans. Meanwhile social media and dating apps have made many women more entitled. A morbidly obese girl that no one would normally pay attention to irl can still get lots of insta followers and there…
/r/seduction21/09/22 06:51 PM
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None of these are really “old” women. I love how on Reddit you get people who think 31 is old. You can’t always know on the street if someone is early 30s or mid 20s. I’ve met early 40s women who get plenty of attention and have lots of options. If you stay in great shape it’s not really until like 50s where you start to become sexually invisible. It is true that an overweight 23 year old would get more attention than a 40 year old with the same body type, but that’s a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:53 PM
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If she isn’t giving strong signals but may still be interested, you could always just leave her your info and let her decide
/r/seduction21/09/22 12:38 PM
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I can see texting to stay in touch or chat sometimes but if it’s a situation you first get her number you should be closing to something sooner than later that involves hanging out in person. Otherwise it can fizzle out easy. Actual phone calls? Unless you’re talking to a 65+ old woman no one does that rarely if ever. That advice is definitely old.
/r/seduction21/09/22 01:22 AM
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I still wanna kick myself for all the times in my earlier years a woman was not only giving IOIs but in some cases trying to make subtle moves on me and I just wasn’t confident enough to be receptive or didn’t reciprocate. Or when she was definitely interested but I was still trying to “make the sale” instead of just escalating.
/r/seduction19/09/22 03:19 AM
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Agree. I think what he means is he wants more options. Attractive people (men or women) usually have more options.
/r/seduction19/09/22 12:53 AM
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I really feel that 9/10 times a woman complains about not being attractive she could up her attractiveness by simply a diet plan and exercise. Not saying it can’t be hard to lose weight. But there are women who have less appealing faces, are very short or tall, over a certain age, or have any type of overall look but if they are fit or at least average weight they will still be considered attractive by most men. But obesity is generally unattractive regardless of gender. Anyone can up their look…
/r/seduction19/09/22 12:52 AM
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If it’s just hookups or casual you can just remain ambiguous but at least be clear directly or indirectly you just wanna fuck and there’s no potential of anything serious. If you want a more open and honest ongoing situation though, best bet is to find someone who is also in the same situation or at least open enough to a guy who is. If you browse reddit on this topic you will come across a lot of miserable men who have no luck, but keep in mind many of these guys are probably unattractive, have…
/r/seduction18/09/22 05:40 PM
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You mean did any of them end up seeing his North Pole?
/r/seduction17/09/22 03:42 PM
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It’s been a few years since I’ve been to Vegas, but if OP is going as a solo guy (or with other guys) to some of the good clubs it can be a challenge to get past the door without bringing any girls unless they are a VIP or paying big $ for bottle service. Something to keep in mind. It’s a double edge sword though because on the plus most vegas clubs are not sausage fests. In fact I recall going to one seeing maybe 2 girls in the place for every guy almost. They are very good about this out there…
/r/seduction17/09/22 03:29 PM
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There’s a difference in how you approach like starting a friendly conversation and talking more if she seems receptive compared to just going up to random women in a Walmart asking if they want to go out with you A good way to start is just be more social and friendly to everyone you meet. That way it’s not weird
/r/seduction14/09/22 03:22 AM
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A portion of redditors are also 30+ year old male virgins, including probably some giving advice on this sub
/r/seduction14/09/22 12:36 AM
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Definitely welcome the opinion, but I know so many women who do not like being approached when working out. A woman would have to make some type of indication or signal (maybe even start a small conversation herself) for many respectful guys to even bother engaging with her at a gym.
/r/seduction14/09/22 12:33 AM
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Man you just defined the average full time Reddit mod
/r/seduction12/09/22 07:19 PM
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It was a risky 250 $ move though. Like if her friend had been able to pull her away or if she decided to bail for any reason.
/r/seduction12/09/22 01:39 PM
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This seems like an overall bad situation. I have experience with open relationships but this one seems toxic in so many ways. And creating weird rules like no OLD is ridiculous.
/r/seduction12/09/22 01:26 PM
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Yes that works. But if we are talking about your average bar or club on a busy Saturday night, how many girls will be there alone? They exist but are rare to encounter most places.
/r/seduction08/09/22 02:47 AM
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I think it’s just weird though. I don’t see age gaps necessarily as being a big deal but if you are say well into your 30s or older and trying to get with girls who can’t even legally drink (in the US at least), you can come off as creepy. Now if they are at least a few years or more into adulthood that’s probably okay. Its also concern if OP is specifically going after 18/19 year olds day gaming or meeting in public places. Very hard to tell the difference between say a 17 year old and someone …
/r/seduction07/09/22 12:21 PM
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Not entirely true. It really all depends regardless of gender. Yes “old” people like senior citizen age are not usually considered attractive. But saying a woman at 30 is all of a sudden not desirable is laughable. I have seen 40ish women who are decent looking while I’ve seen plenty of men at the same age who “let themselves go”, get fat and boring and lack social skills especially the longer they are in a relationship. Although I’ve seen where men that don’t and actually self improve can have …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 06:50 PM
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Why criminalize at all? If two consenting legal age adults want to exchange sex for money it’s up to them. In a legal format of where it’s a normal job with regulations, sex workers have health and safety protections and rights, and can’t be forced into participating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 11:58 AM
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I have never had any interest personally in prostitutes but I’m fully supporting of legalization. Sex work should be recognized as work as long as it’s between consenting legal age adults. Legalization actually ensures a safe environment for sex workers regardless of what peoples “moral” opinions are
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 10:11 PM
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I think a lot of the guys who complain about Chad would benefit from self improvement to the point where they could become Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 10:03 PM
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People do have friends with benefits or casually date where they are not interested in monogamy, so it’s hard to assume what organically will happen with someone you meet. Being said, women who are upfront on only wanting a relationship will weed out a lot of guys who do not. The ones who have options will left swipe on that, but you might have low value men who try to pretend they want something serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:01 AM
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Where exactly does anyone say you can’t have sex while drinking? I think they mean if someone is clearly out of it or blacked out drunk then yes certainly not. But if two people are kicking back a few drinks and have sex consensually and are into it, I don’t see what the problem is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 06:36 PM
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Women don’t hit some magical “wall” after age 29 and become completely unattractive like some RPers on Reddit seem to think. I’ve met women into their mid even late 40s who are still very good looking. Sure their 26 year old self might be by comparison get more attention from guys, but if she’s in good shape and keeps herself looking good plenty of men will still take interest. It is harder (both men and women) to stay attractive though as they get older. There is a wall maybe when as women get …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:17 PM
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I would agree completely that is shitty and manipulative. However I also think some women need to stop assuming a potential of a relationship. I’ve seen where guys are clearly giving no indication other than being a FWB and even at times state they don’t want anything serious, yet the woman gets upset that “he won’t commit” or something. People just need to be honest of what they really want
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 12:06 PM
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A lot of things like traditional monogamy and marriage originated from cultural and economic needs. Women get slut shamed for having a high partner count so they tend to be more sexually reserved. That creates a market like situation where men have to compete for attractive women while women for sex while women have to compete for desirable men. There are some studies showing gay male couples tend to be the most satisfied in dating in relationships. They also happen to be most likely to engage i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:51 PM
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How attractive were these women? Very hot girls have guys constantly hitting them up across every method and medium and many orbiters that try to get their attention. Excessively attractive women are almost not worth the time dealing with from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:45 PM
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I think some women, and even a few men, prefer to wait until they get a little comfortable with someone so maybe even if they aren’t looking LTR they may take more than one first meet to be open for sex. I think some guys here don’t understand that many women are cautious the first time they meet some random guy on a dating app of going directly back to his place just due to safety concerns. Even if he’s very attractive if she doesn’t feel safe and get the right vibe she’s not going to go somewh…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 09:45 AM
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I’m not a huge fan of RP theory nor do I buy into all its generalizations. But the story referenced if true is like the poster child for the AF/AB premise. The guys gf was only 24 so this only happened within a few years, not like she’s 40 and reminiscing on some wild days in college. This is why most men would much rather be the guy who girls at a frat party would sexually share vs be the guy who one of them tames down to settle with. It’s not surprising many women are very quiet about their se…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 05:06 PM
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Lots of people regardless of gender though get bored of sex with the same person. A large percentage have cheated or would if they didn’t think there would be consequences. Most people are not wired for monogamy but strive for it anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:07 AM
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I think if women are truly not into fwb and only seeking a serious monogamous relationship though they need to be upfront about that and not just assume it’s what a guy also wants or is open to. It’s a little harsh to knock FWB or situationships though. I know so many long term relationships that start out that way. It’s quite common. And it’s 2022 women can have sex without needing to be in an LTR or being monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:49 PM
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How many hot guys are there on onlyfans making serious $ from straight women? Even super hot men cannot make much a living by being escorts as an example, unless their clients are gay men. Male “gigolos” seem to only exist in tv or movies. Agree being an attractive male women will put up with more of your shit than not and might give you a chance even if your personality is off putting, but being an attractive women is an entirely different game. Even a hot guy at a bar can’t just walk up to any…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:33 PM
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Attractive people regardless of gender are treated better and in terms of the dating/sex/relationships realm have it way easier than not. I’ve met very attractive women who the moment I had a conversation with don’t seem all that anymore. But it’s undeniable that being a fit, young attractive female you are highly prized. I’ve literally seen woman like that get incredible amounts of attention, seen men go out of their way to help them with things, seen them practically stop traffic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:20 PM
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Yep. They usually mean thick in the right places or having a little chubbiness but still attractive. They rarely mean the typical overweight or obese woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:11 PM
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Depends on the women he is getting. If they are like 7-10s then yes this guy has something going for him. If he’s finding bottom of the barrel women it’s not that impressive. Most men could have it easier getting casual sex with lots of women but they would have to seriously lower their standards to the point of being willing to have sex with ones they are not at all attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:16 PM
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Yes it’s easier for women but let be honest the equivalent female scenario we would assume she is at least average looking, 18-30something, and not excessively fat. For really unattractive women there are plenty of guys who would say no thanks, especially if they had other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:12 PM
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You might as a bonus have a chance with her friend since you negged her, probably made her jealous
/r/seduction31/07/22 11:33 PM
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It depends on life stage. After about 24 or 25 age gaps don’t seem to matter as much as you are both at least adults probably working and have some life experience beyond college age.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:32 PM
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It all depends there are many factors. I know an older man who is maybe nearing 60, formerly married, not in bad shape for his age but struggles dating because he admittedly is just not attracted to most women around his age. In terms of physical attraction there have been studied showing that men are most attracted to women who are (or at least look) within a certain younger age range. Call it cultural or biological, but it’s hard to deny it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:40 PM
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It’s a circular effect though. Women will only swipe a small percentage because men will swipe almost anyone. But because the match rate is lower for men, they also will swipe as many as possible and play a numbers game only perpetuating the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:10 AM
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What if you took all that frustration and instead worked on yourself…fix your personality, become more interesting, hit the gym, learn some game. Basically become the top 20% of guys. I know someone who went from being practically a virgin through most of college to easily getting 3-4 lays per month by at least average attractive women or above. It’s possible. There’s some top tier men out there but there’s also a lot of losers who barely put in any effort so it can work in your favor if you pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 01:53 AM
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Why not instead of bitching about Chad work on becoming Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:57 AM
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Dating apps starting with Tinder really changed the game in terms of sex and dating though. There were online dating sites for ages before apps came along, but it was when Tinder seemed to get popular that meeting people online was normalized. Prior to this couples were embarrassed to admit they met online. Then came hinge, bumble, whatever else followed. I think this is how a large percentage of not most meet today.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:54 PM
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It’s not new. If we wanna go back further the internet or it’s origins came to be in the 1970s. By the late 90s many people were online and online communities/chat and even meeting people online existed. But it was not anything like today. You dialed up once a day, did your thing, then spent the rest of your time in the real world. It really wasn’t until though the rise of social media and the smartphone to where it became a central part of nearly everyone’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:57 PM
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Any data on this fact that more women participate in casual sex than men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:53 PM
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One theory and just a theory, from what I’ve read Sergey is more of a nice guy vs Elon who seems to be an attention seeking narcissist. Some women are attracted to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 03:26 AM
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So many on here bitch about Chad the fboy when they would be better off working to become him
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:07 PM
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Anecdotal but I know several women who are bi and in open relationships who have dated bi men. But they more sexually open and are not the typical traditional style heteronormative women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:40 PM
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All the desperate wanna be PUAs out there going to be buying wheel chairs based on this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:36 PM
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Any stats for that? I’ve heard it’s if anything the opposite What if you were a very attractive man with a lot of options? Would that change your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:50 AM
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I’ve seen a lot more couples where the woman is objectively more attractive or in better shape than the man vs the other way around if I had to compare. Anecdotal but not sure what you would take of that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:42 AM
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Yelp-like ratings and reviews
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:09 AM
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True people can do what they want, although it would be a little hypocritical if it was a bisexual woman OP was talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:08 AM
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Don’t think it makes someone a bigot although their preference could be rooted in some type of homophobia at some level. But then again people are complicated. Some people don’t want to date those outside their own ethnicity (or won’t date certain ethnicities). Maybe they are close minded because of it, but it would be unfair to call them racist solely based on an attraction preference
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:05 AM
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There are plenty of women not looking for anything serious or long term, but that doesn’t mean they want a ONS or straight up hookup which is what casual is often associated with
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:39 PM
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You don’t factor in how many users are actually bots
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:19 PM
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They are basically “red pill women” posing as feminists
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:15 PM
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I thought they shut it down / left? I didn’t think Reddit actually banned them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:13 PM
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It’s a weird mixed philosophy of traditional conservatism that is pro-marriage, anti-sex work/porn/open relationships/casual sex and wanting men to be providers paying for everything…while also claiming to be independent women feminists. I think the TERF stuff just fits right in. Luckily have never met a woman like these irl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:12 PM
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I get everyone has different situations and different body types do exist. But fat/obesity is one thing that is possible to change and often indicative of lifestyle and diet. It’s also a potential health problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:22 PM
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I think the Reddit theory is that most women college age are hooking up everywhere with a select pool or top 20% of men, until they get older and want to settle down into a long term relationship where most settle for the lower 80% they would otherwise ignore Not my theory but I see this all over being claimed whether true or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:40 AM
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Meet in terms of less serious dating or casual? Plenty of men meet women beyond college so I’m not sure what you mean. For serious long term monogamous relationships/marriage, I could maybe see what you mean but that is not just men. If you are 30 or 35 and demanding to “settle down” within a few years then you have a smaller pool of potential partners and less time for something to happen “organically” as you say
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 09:33 PM
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There are different body types and I don’t think fat shaming is helpful…but the whole “fat and loving it” crowd also glosses over obesity is an actual health problem, one that can usually be attributed to individual behavior around diet and exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:02 AM
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Yes because being fit vs out of shape or morbidly obese doesn’t matter in the dating world
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:53 PM
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Men and women have both wanted fewer for a long time and now more are just opting out. It costs an incredible amount of money, time, effort and none of this is a big secret today. So those having them either really want them or they simply have a lot of social pressure to do so or fit in.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:32 AM
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I would agree just based on the fact I’ve seen so many couples where the woman is significantly more attractive than the man by comparison, but very rarely the other way around
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:12 AM
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This is a true statement for many things in life actually
/r/seduction14/03/22 09:37 PM
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Idk why she wants to fuck me. Who cares? She did
/r/seduction14/03/22 09:36 PM
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Doesn’t it matter how old the other person is? I mean 20 in the past 12 years is not the same as 20 in the past year
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 01:54 PM
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Not necessarily but they often will care about how she looks more than the need to find another doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 09:41 PM
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I think one thing women get warped by is the fact that just because a guy will have sex with you or be a FWB doesn’t mean he would be willing to have something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 09:40 PM
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Most people have had sex with multiple people though. Very few are monogamous in a traditional sense, they just engage in “serial monogamy” hopping from partner to partner. But serial monogamy is more socially accepted than being in a relationship and not being monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 05:46 AM
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I thought women have lower sex drives was a myth mostly. How much of this is societal expectations and basic economics? Like if most women were constantly pursuing men for sex and less sexually selective (and not concerned with “slut shaming”)…do you think the roles would be reversed somehow? Men either being more selective or not caring about sex as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 02:09 PM
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This is true. Age is not always obvious. People sometimes meet and don’t know each other’s exact age at first. I know a guy who regularly dates 25 year olds at 42 but he is in excellent shape, looks at least a few years younger, and doesn’t come off easily as an “old man.” When women date older this is usually the type, not guys who it looks creepy to be seen in public with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:13 AM
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There’s a lot of angry young so-called incels that get drawn to those communities online then become hateful at women when they aren’t getting laid. Whereas the real “red pill” would be focusing on your own self improvement first and naturally becoming a more desirable person along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:35 AM
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I’ve come across that sub and I don’t see any issue necessarily with women having standards and being more empowered in dating. However, there seems to be a lot of angry women with a grudge against men ranting on there. Also ironically a lot of narrow minded old school views on relationships, harping on even minor age gaps, very SWERF, biased against those who don’t follow anything other than monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:28 AM
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There is a theory that men and women are both poly amorous and the only reason these gender norms formed was due to societal changes with the agricultural revolution
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:41 PM
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It really varies by person but generally it declines over time. There could be a psychological aspect as well, as even men who take TRT are not as eager for sex the way they were as teenagers and sex was a “new” thing. I’ve heard married monogamous men with children have among the lowest sex drives but can’t say how scientific it was or where I learned that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:39 PM
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For men who are reasonably attractive, good shape, interesting, have social skills, money, and confidence…a lot of them will find dating in their 30s and 40s easier then when they were younger. I know a 45 year old who is just like this and regularly dates very attractive women 10-20 years younger. Now for the average fat dad bod who is socially awkward and broke it’s a different story. Men don’t get more attractive by age by default, only if they improved themselves along the way. Most do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:26 AM
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If it was legal wouldn’t it be more regulated like alcohol or other drugs? MDMA itself is not that dangerous but taking random pills at a rave can be since you have no idea what’s actually in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:31 PM
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What gap are we talking? A 50+ year old with an 18 year old most people find creepy regardless of age or gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:00 AM
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There would be a huge market for it in states where it’s legal and/or underground if that did happen
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 03:39 AM
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Obesity is generally not attractive regardless of gender. Women have interest in men beyond physical attraction but yes a lean muscular guy is going to be more attractive than a fat one and have easier time approaching women. Most men don’t find overweight women as attractive as slender ones, although men will lower their standards for sex and there are men who have some fetish for large women. Although I do think there is a difference between a little overweight and morbidly obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:24 AM
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Having kids is an option in a non-religious modern developed society. Turns out a lot of people don’t want them or don’t see the need to have that many. Not saying there are not those that do, but kids are an immense risk and expense that people really have to want to make that decision. Throughout most of human history (and still in some places) it’s just expected and not as much of a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 01:19 PM
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By observation men frequently have no problem being just friends with women…but usually when they are absolutely not attracted to them though. So yes I would agree with some of this sentiment. For women they are attracted some men may be friends only but they likely would always look out for any “opportunity” for more
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:19 PM
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First off not all men and not all women want kids. But yes in the present day world of heteronormative relations men are the initiators and things like wealth and status can make him more attractive. However women must compete with other women for commitment from the men they really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:08 PM
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Probably has more to do with maturity. Few 20ish women are trying to go for 50 year olds, but they do go for men in their 30s, maybe 40s if he is attractive, in shape, has things going for him, stable, etc. In fact many men who had no luck when they were 25 gain maturity and improve themselves and have an easier time when they are 35 attracting women they couldn’t ever back then. A lot of younger women I know complain endlessly about immature guys their age who can’t carry a conversation, are un…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:03 PM
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Honestly obesity is just not considered attractive by most people, regardless of gender. It’s just what it is. But opposed to other preferences like height, age, facial appearance, etc it is possible to change that. Yes some have easier time staying in shape than others due to genetics, but it can be fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:56 PM
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It’s simple….ruin the education system, make your country very poor, and promote religion/theocracy. Look at the countries with the highest birth rates they are typically very poor or very religious. The more developed and advanced a society gets the less necessity it is for having 3+ kids. The best you could do is provide paid childcare or ease the burden on those who want to have more kids to do so. Alternative is to increase immigration to offset population decline. But in reality there’s the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:14 PM
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