Regular-Working9641 Archive

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2	27M. Getting divorced next month, but I still miss my wife every single day. That’s the cruel part isn’t. You’re missing a best friend. Someone that you’d instinctively reach to when going through something hard, and it’s precisely the person you can’t reach to anymore. Unfortunately, you need to accept at an intellectual level that it’s over. That means stop torturing yourself with what if’s, looking at old photos, revisiting old memories, anything that triggers that wound. You can’t shut off your feelings but you can stop picking at the scab. Then give your nervous sys…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/26 02:08 PM
3	How to support a man during a shocking divorce? Be there emotionally. Going through this hurts your self-confidence, your identity, your self-worth, and makes you feel alone and unseen. That’s on top of the regular emotions of sadness, anger, grief, etc. Give him a safe space to talk if he wants to (he may not want to or be ready to). Don’t try to fix him or offer ideas/solutions/advice. Just listen. Reassure him that he’s still loved, and valued, without dismissing his feelings. Texts like “how are you” aren’t super helpful because they put …	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/26 01:45 PM
2	Hard weekend Beautifully sad story. Thanks for sharing this. ❤️	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/26 09:26 PM
3	How do you navigate relationships in 2026 as a middle aged man? (3x Divorced) I don’t disagree with it definitely takes two to make a relationship work. The only thing I would say is be careful of using divorce subreddits as evidence that there’s a larger pattern with “women”. It’s akin to going to a hospital and concluding that humans are inherently ill. Last I checked there isn’t a “happily-ever-after” subreddit where people post “Spouse’s log, marriage day 3,246, spouse laughed at a dumb joke I made.” I think unfortunately one (or both parties) aren’t primed to give (o…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/26 06:26 PM
7	How do you navigate relationships in 2026 as a middle aged man? (3x Divorced) > relationships should be a two way street Completely agree. You are right that emotional accommodation can become one sided. I think your painting of “women act on their emotion” is unfairly ubiquitous and can lead to dismissing their feelings, leading to them not sharing them until the big divorce word gets thrown out. Listening to and meeting a partner’s emotional needs is different than being held hostage to them. I think you’re also making a bit of leap from “they don’t communicate” to “the…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/26 05:01 PM
2	How do you navigate relationships in 2026 as a middle aged man? (3x Divorced) Cheers, best of luck. I hope you find peace and whatever you’re looking for. Edit: For the record, I see a lot of your traits in me as well. Which is what helped me recognize them. My marriage is ending because I was very much the “functional” husband but I didn’t tend to the emotional side enough.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/26 04:18 PM
10	How do you navigate relationships in 2026 as a middle aged man? (3x Divorced) I’ll give you the specific red flags you asked for. To be clear, I don’t think you’re a bad person. In fact, your post reads like someone who has worked very hard to be a good man. But I think the blind spot may be that you define being a good husband mostly through responsibility and intention, while your partners may have been evaluating the relationship through emotional connection and experience. The biggest thing that stood out to me is that after three divorces, the common denominator is n…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/26 03:54 PM
6	How do you navigate relationships in 2026 as a middle aged man? (3x Divorced) Not to be a jerk, there are so many red flags I’m getting from you. Have you considered therapy?	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/26 03:21 PM
2	She just changed overnight Sure, my original post didn’t mention that you still need to have boundaries. If you are being mistreated or disrespected then it’s not a healthy relationship to be in. My whole point is that you can’t control others to make them respect you. They either respect you or they don’t. If they don’t, find someone who does.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/26 03:44 PM
2	She just changed overnight You shouldn’t need to “keep someone in check” to make sure they respect you. Be someone that is respectable. Lead your family with confidence, empathy, and integrity.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 02:55 PM
12	Did the right thing against my selfish desires and feel like crap. You’re a good man, who is acting in accordance with his values. Money, women, it’s all temporary. Character is forever.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/07/26 01:47 PM
1	Why does feeling good again feel so uncomfortable? Reach out to her. Let her know how you’re feeling. It’s ok to be scared and afraid. Those are valid feelings. You were hurt. You’re afraid of being hurt again. You’re afraid of being alone. Those are just emotions and your brain trying to use past experience to predict the future. She’s a different person. What you need to do is be intentional with how you interact with your fears. Do you allow them to drive your decisions, isolate you further, and perpetuate a wound? Or do you acknowledge them,…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/06/26 01:36 PM
2	The Turmoil Don’t torture yourself by second guessing. I went through that phase too. Just because her feelings for you right now are different, it doesn’t invalidate her feelings in the past. Think of the memories, notes, cards, photos, as snapshots in time. Also remember, people aren’t binary. They can struggle with lust and feelings like that, while beating themselves up about it and wanting to be committed to their partner. You don’t know if her writing these things was her way of coping (a valid therap…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/26 04:25 PM