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Yeah, I’ve been close to that edge too. First—going back to the casino to “win it back” will only make this worse. That loop doesn’t end well. The fact you’re seeing that now is important.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 03:09 PM
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I’ve been there too. After living alone, I noticed the same things eating when I wasn’t hungry, staying up late, filling silence with anything. It wasn’t really about the habits, it was about the quiet.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 03:06 PM
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Yeah… that part is real. No one really prepares you for the after. You handle the logistics, the paperwork, the day-to-day and then suddenly it’s just… quiet. Not peaceful quiet. The kind that reminds you what’s missing.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 09:01 PM
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Yeah… this is one of those days where it all just hits again. And honestly, it makes sense. You’ve made progress you’ve gotten to a place of clarity about her, even lost attraction and that’s real. But grief doesn’t move in a straight line. It circles back, especially when something new gets added… and right now that’s your child struggling
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 08:53 PM
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Yeah… this is just a really heavy situation all around. Living together while separating, especially with kids, adds a layer that makes everything feel more intense. Anyone in that position would struggle seeing the other person move on so openly it’s hard not to take that in emotionally
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 04:03 PM
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Therapy must be a big help for us, but if you want I do have community that help and support you if you want to join there i'll give you the code, just dm me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 03:50 PM
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I hear you. And I get it because I’ve been in that place, too. That feeling of being stuck on someone who hurt you, but still wanting them desperately, even when logic screams otherwise… it’s brutal. Here’s difficult, honest truth from experience: it’s not about what you allowed her to do to you. It’s about the depth of attachment you built over years. When someone you love deeply violates your trust, or becomes unsafe for your well-being, your brain still craves the connection because it’s wire…
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 03:45 PM
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That kind of loss hits hard, especially when you tried to hold it together and it still fell apart.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 03:40 PM
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Yeah i’ve been through this exact phase, and I remember standing there thinking, how am I even supposed to divide a whole life into two apartments? It’s not really about the stuff it’s about what the stuff represents.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 03:36 PM
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I’ve seen (and been around) this exact situation..where people separate, feel the pull back, and seriously consider reconciling. Sometimes it works. A lot of times, it doesn’t. The difference usually comes down to one thing, Did the core issues actually change, or did the distance just make you miss each other?
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 03:31 PM
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Honestly, at first, it feels terrifying—you want to be there for your kid, and the idea that the schedule might limit your time can feel like losing part of your relationship with them. I had the same fear when my ex wasn’t willing to negotiate a fair rotation, and it’s exhausting to feel like your access is dependent on arbitrary terms ..What helped me was grounding myself in few things..
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 03:39 PM
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child support is about the child, not about you or your ex. Even if you split time 50/50 and share all expenses directly, Some states will honor a mutual waiver if both parents agree and the court is satisfied the child’s needs are fully covered. Others will still require a formal child support order regardless of your arrangement. Since your state has a one-year separation requirement before divorce, it likely has more formal rules around child support. The safest move is to have a quick conver…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 03:31 PM
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Honestly, I’ve been in the same spot after my divorce, and my first instinct was resistance too. At the start, those “no overnight partners” rules feel protective like they give you some control and stability while everything is still raw. But after a couple of years, you realize things have changed. People move on, relationships get serious, and you can’t control each other’s personal lives forever. For me, the thing that mattered most wasn’t the overnight part it was not knowing the person aro…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 03:12 PM
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You sound burned out, and honestly that makes sense given what you described. You’ve been supporting the household for years, finishing school, and now caring for a baby while the relationship has been unstable for a long time. Anyone in that situation would feel close to a breaking point. You don’t have to decide everything today, but you shouldn’t ignore how close you feel to your limit either. Your son needs a steady parent, and you can’t do that if you’re completely burned out.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 03:06 PM
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You don’t have to overhaul your life all at once. Even one or two consistent habits each week can gradually improve how you feel. If you want to share, one thing that can help narrow suggestions: When you do have a little free time right now, what do you usually end up doing with it? Sometimes small adjustments there can make self-care much easier to maintain.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 02:56 PM
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I know your daughter is proud of you too, just keep on progressing and valuing your own growth. If you need someone to rely on.. don't hesitate I cand lend my ear to you ☺️
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 06:04 AM
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Yeah becaus I realized Putting yourself first isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. When you slow down, look inward, and decide to grow instead of staying stuck, that’s a solid move. It means you’re learning from what life handed you rather than letting it harden you. How 'bout you how you cope with your situation?
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 05:19 AM
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Because we trust people so easily, but now I'm happy with my life, I'mfocusing on myself to become more progressive and productive.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 05:12 PM
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Oh that's not easy bro, i know how hard it is been there too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 05:07 PM
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