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| 2 | What to do when everyone around me is getting action but not meI have exactly the same issue!! | /r/seduction | 10/08/26 05:57 AM |
| 1 | 79 Women Later: Everything I’ve Learned About Women, Attraction, and DatingWell.. to be honest I don't know anything about attraction, and if I manage to somehow attract, I don't know how to lead it to sex.. I've been consumed by the thought of wanting sex for years but to no avail sadly, I look average maybe slightly above average, but I believe my issue is personality.. so if you've got advice do tell.. | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Sex is not happening to me at all!Well I'm struggling to even get a date, and even if I still struggle, it's even harder to escalate or sex.. like the girl who I've been in a long distance relationship before, we recently hung out a couple of times in a hotel and we did everything except sex cause she was nervous and reluctant to do it. So we ended up just with foreblay.. and it seems we would never have sex. This the best and closest I got with a girl, the other girls I barely even get a date with. I do not know how to create a… | /r/seduction | 15/04/26 07:59 AM |
| 3 | Sex is not happening to me at all!Okay I get your idea, and I do understand it.. but it just seems I'm incapable of learning their skills.. and believe me I have asked them before, so I don't know if it's just luck or what exactly. Like this guy that I'm talking about, he is introverted guy (and I always assumed it's the extrovert who get what they want in ME, but he surprised me by how successful in terms of this aspect). So even if I did ask him, I still can't find the solution to my problem, that's why I asked here cuz I'm ge… | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 12:42 PM |
| 0 | Sex is not happening to me at all!Well either way I do want his life yes, I want a temporary relationship where I can enjoy my partner and they enjoy me, I do not want marriage | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 10:26 AM |
| 12 | Sex is not happening to me at all!I can't do that since all my life is here! And I don't think it's the solution since it actually happening in my country, just not happening to me :/ ! | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 10:17 AM |
| 3 | Sex is not happening to me at all!I assume they do! Like the girl who is refusing sex she is the one asking me out, and the one who are just chatting on the phone and chats, they wouldn't talk if they aren't interested.. but it's still seems weird that it isn't working. | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 10:16 AM |
| 17 | Sex is not happening to me at all!Kuwait.. but it is happening alot (in secrecy), contrary what people usually think. | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?Because almost all women, even if they are open to it, will say shit like "I don't have sex on the first date" to not seem sltty, it's their anti-slt mechanism. | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Feel lonely when no girls texting or contactingAfter a period of time, you'll be thinking: Oh well, I much rather be like this than being annoyed. I know cause I've reached that stage now | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 09:07 PM |
| 1 | First Date - Girl wants to bring her friend with her??When you say we flirted a little bit through text, care to share how? Or what did you say that was considered flirting in your opinion? I can't tell what is the frame without knowing what was said | /r/seduction | 04/05/25 01:01 AM |
| -1 | "You look gay" - biggest compliment and insult you can take advantage of as a manWell you kinda negating yourself there dude.. you said they called you look gay, then you went and change your looks, then you got results..!! Well since you changed your looks you DON'T look gay anymore. Honestly you might be handsome dude but the lack of brain cells is severe | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeI have commented similar comment to yours, and he told me he just made a post about it. I haven't looked it up yet, but about to. | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeWill do! Thanks for letting me know | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeWell.. I know that, this isn't new information my guy. Everytime I get nervous is because "I lack social skills / I do not want to embarrass myself" Even rejection itself doesn't get me nervous, it's the fact about "I don't want to look stupid, then she's gonna tell her friends, and everyone around the area will know how bad I am at interacting with people / game" Your post doesn't really solve the issue here.. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good way to approach women?I'm not great with coming up with lines to say, so maybe I ain't the best to be asked this.. But I'd feel this line is shit and wouldn't work. If it does, I'd be surprised but do let us know. | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Today is her birthday.Mmm.. she could be liking you, but she also could not. My take on this is she does miss your presence but only as a "friend". And if you don't want that I suggest you keep her at a distance and not try to approach or think about her. If she doesn't like you, she'll come to you, if she doesn't like you, she won't | /r/seduction | 27/04/25 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Today is her birthday.Would she come to him? Or does he have to initiate the approach? Cause usually even if women like you, they don't really come to you do they? | /r/seduction | 27/04/25 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Went out to try a cold approachI find it quite the opposite, yes if you were at events and socialising you'd meet more women and talk to more women. But most often, you don't really go high stakes and ask the woman you like out cause you think you do not ruin the dynamic of the group, what if she rejects me? Then we wouldn't talk as normal anymore, risk embarrassment between friends and so on.. So what happens is you don't outright ask the woman out, instead you play around the bush, joke around, try to be flirty, only to fin… | /r/seduction | 27/04/25 05:32 AM |
| 4 | How to cleverly handle her friend who knows I have a crush on her?So what do you suggest instead Mr. Not virgin ? Edit: wait I'm either misunderstanding or you are, he is flirting with Girl A because he wants her, so why should girl B approach him and be confrontational about it? It's not of her business so yeah why he shouldn't reply with what I said? | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Went out to try a cold approachi agree that social events is easier. But as an ambivert myself, I alternate between the two, so I've experienced the feeling of being extrovert&introvert. And found out that the key isn't really in how many you approach or whatever (yes approaching so many might make you comfortable in approaching or make your self-esteem shatter), the key really is in having good social skills and having good game. I'm saying this because when I used to have good social skills I used to get a lot of success ev… | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:18 PM |
| 7 | Went out to try a cold approachCongratulations in walking the street??!! 🙂 I'm being sarcastic cause what the hell! I get being nervous to go to up to girls and not doing it cause I have backed out myself too, but wtf is walking confidently for 20 minutes is man! 😂 Being nervous to approach is fine, backing out can be annoying and it stings afterwards, but you have to push yourself to do it. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:12 PM |
| 5 | How to cleverly handle her friend who knows I have a crush on her?"Ohh yeah? What if I am?" with a smirk! So what if her friend know!! | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:08 PM |
| 1 | If women are truly picky as many seem to believe...Cause men are competitive in nature, they want to win the pick. Simple | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:05 PM |
| 1 | How did you learn to flirt without feeling weird or awkward?I'll be honest, I used to be so good at it naturally. But now I feel like I lost all the skills that I need to start from scratch which is annoying and frustrating! | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 12:51 PM |
| 1 | PragueSounds to me like you got everything a girl wants, why do you need a wingman 😂 | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Tired of being horny all the time...what should I do....I need some helpOkay, that's actually hard, how to find girls or even suggest the idea from friends to friends with benefits? Like how do you tell them | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Tired of being horny all the time...what should I do....I need some helpHonestly if you've quit porn that's good!! Because it actually hinders you in too many ways, it actually let you be more nervous in doing anything even talking to girls became nerve wracking (based on experience), so you quitting porn is the best you could do. Work on social life, learn how to socialise!! It is very important to know how to socialise and be charismatic yourself, that will get attracted to you and you'll be able to charm them. (That I do not know how cause it's something I strugg… | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 11:56 AM |
| 1 | How can I get multiple sexual partners?How did you improve your social skills within a year? Any books that helped? Also another question.. how do you start the cold approach? | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 05:35 PM |
| 8 | Guys who get laid every time they go to a bar, what is your secret?“At that point after flirting and getting to know them you need to escalate” So.. I really don’t know how to flirt or even escalate, I’ve gone down on my skills to the point even normal conversations is hard now.. Granted I do have good looks, but that’s that | /r/seduction | 25/05/24 08:39 AM |
| 5 | This whole getting laid thing is ridiculously simple.To be fair, two things comes to my mind when people say this to me, although I agree with you to some extent but here it is.. First, is even with how many people I have met in my life and how many people I approached I’ve always seems to fall short, and not have the factor that brings people in.. Second, I can never realise my own mistakes for the love of me..! It’s really annoying not knowing what exactly your mistakes, you just know you messed up based on the results. And it keeps on happening… | /r/seduction | 22/04/24 04:33 PM |
| 6 | This whole getting laid thing is ridiculously simple.If you see my last post.. My social skills isn’t great, I find it the hardest to improve to be honest.. So do tell, how? | /r/seduction | 22/04/24 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Dating is kinda painful when you’re personality somehow kills their attraction.I wish it was this easy, how the hell do you do that? | /r/seduction | 22/04/24 04:10 PM |
| 7 | Help!!! Hooked up with a ClassmateHow tf you got the stage of hooking up with her is my question, teach us your ways! | /r/seduction | 23/03/24 04:15 PM |
| 34 | In a recurring social setting, do you ask a girl out immediately or build rapport over time?“learn to escalate” has to be the hardest thing ever | /r/seduction | 23/03/24 04:14 PM |
| 10 | She Had A Good Time But Not Feeling Second Date AgainIf a woman is having fun, she’ll come back. | /r/seduction | 16/03/24 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Flirting is the hardest skill known to man, or at least known to me..What do you mean by “if you fester a little you build sexual tension”.. I’ve never known how to actively build sexual tension. | /r/seduction | 29/02/24 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Flirting is the hardest skill known to man, or at least known to me..I like the advice but there is something I didn’t understand, you said “continued to make small talk despite giving her no reason to care”, how do you do that? How should I demonstrate value? Also, I did invite only as a way to show intent because I’m usually friendzoned because I keep my intention hidden.. So how could I show intent in a better way? Is it by a compliment or what exactly..? Lastly.. I have a situation in my building with a girl who always stare and smile, sometimes even laugh an… | /r/seduction | 28/02/24 11:56 PM |
| 9 | Flirting is the hardest skill known to man, or at least known to me..Honestly? you might as well be right.. But how else am I meant to improve Idk. Also another thing, I don’t really know if I should keep the convo polite or try to actively flirt.. The comment of visiting Kuwait is obviously fake but it was to signal intent Ig. It sure feels like I’m a socially inept person trying so hard to change that, but will always be stuck. | /r/seduction | 28/02/24 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Flirting is the hardest skill known to man, or at least known to me..It was in the elevator and it arrived to my floor, so I couldn’t stay in the elevator for longer could I?? And didn’t want to seem like a creep that hold the elevator from her reaching her floor. I was thinking we’re on the same building so I might see her again. But now that I feel the flirtatious vibe wasn’t there I doubt she’ll even respond if I talk to her again.. I can feel the vibe/energy most of the time, but I do not know how to actively change it. The vibe didn’t feel flirtatious to me,… | /r/seduction | 28/02/24 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Flirting is the hardest skill known to man, or at least known to me..I realise that the elevator was a time pressure, but I’d love it if I did at least one line that could change the vibe to flirty, or even do something with my body language/eyes that make it that way.. But didn’t know how? and that’s usually the case, the other day I cold approached a lady on the street and approached with a very good opener that she liked, but didn’t know how to keep the conversation flirty..! | /r/seduction | 28/02/24 06:20 PM |
| 1 | I’ve got confidence but no social skills/game, it is worrying..I swear to god, you’re absolutely telling the truth.. I used to act in the way you mentioned (two years ago) and everything was going so good, but now after social anxiety&depression everything’s totally different, I don’t know how to go back to normal. I approached two girls today and after the interaction finished I noticed that I was nervous, and I spoke tons of words in 2x speed because I’m nervous when talking, thinking in my brain: “I wanna keep the conversation going” “I wanna keep it ent… | /r/seduction | 27/02/24 12:47 AM |
| 1 | I’ve got confidence but no social skills/game, it is worrying..Being able to talk, have fun & flirty convo.. Now it’s either boring conversation or a serious one, or if I try to make it fun and crack jokes, it ends abruptly as they’re not interested in talking and view it as childish.. | /r/seduction | 24/02/24 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Help! Other Guys bombard every girl I approachI've got no advice unfortunately, but I'd like to know how do you approach and get them interested? brief advice would help. | /r/seduction | 21/02/24 01:29 PM |
| 1 | I want to get back at game, back to being a “player”!I don’t understand what you mean but I like the sound of it. | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 04:28 PM |
| 1 | How to Pull More WomenCurious to know a list of books you recommend..? | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 04:05 PM |
| 1 | How to Pull More WomenI do agree, but how the hell am I meant to learn these things you mentioned about social skills & game | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 02:13 PM |
| 2 | I want to get back at game, back to being a “player”!I don’t know I’ve suffered from social anxiety and depression in the last two years alone, that I now feel like “where the hell is my old personality, and how can I get it back!?”, also any old chat I read I say to myself how the hell was I able to write that 🙂.. So yeah I do feel lost and don’t know what to do, I actually don’t like reading books, but how else am I meant to bring my social skills & game back? | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Help me guysA bad reputation or a good one you mean? | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 01:26 PM |
| 2 | It's really that simple..The thing is I no longer know how to make them “feel” anymore.. I used to be good at it, not anymore.. | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 06:03 AM |
| 1 | She was clearly flirting, I just didn’t know how to reply..Man she really play hard to get, most girls from my country actually do, I do not know how to handle it.. I do not get salty by it, but I also don’t know how to manage my way around it. | /r/seduction | 17/02/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | She was clearly flirting, I just didn’t know how to reply..I get don’t be salty when she play hard to get, but what can I do instead in that situation? | /r/seduction | 17/02/24 01:20 PM |
| 2 | She was clearly flirting, I just didn’t know how to reply..Yeah it was clear I can’t lie.. but I didn’t know how to manage my way through 🥲 Cause most often than not, they play hard to get | /r/seduction | 17/02/24 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Have I shifted the power with my fwb?You’re right.. But the thing is, you could one day be from type 1 to type 2, rarely the opposite but it could also happen. So how to always be type 1.. | /r/seduction | 17/02/24 12:38 PM |
| 2 | She was clearly flirting, I just didn’t know how to reply..I did not miss, but I said “that’s fine but I’ll cover your hair”.. because we had a conversation about her taking care of her hair and stuff. But I wanted a good flirty response, but my brain was in a freeze.. | /r/seduction | 17/02/24 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to get your personality back..?Ngl.. I don’t what or where to start from.. | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to get your personality back..?How is the question? | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to get your personality back..?How? | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to get your personality back..?Yeah it might be.. but how do I get my personality back then, or a better one even!! I feel like my life is suffocating me! | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 08:55 AM |
| 7 | Is it possible to get your personality back..?Not the best either to be honest with you.. like two years ago I used to have lots of friends and was able to be very social, but I lost that skill two years ago and now I’m unable to make any new friends at all.. But I was still good with the ladies even last year so I’m not sure if that’s related | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 08:43 AM |
| 4 | Is it possible to get your personality back..?None.. Absolutely none! The only thing I’m thinking about is I’m being more sensitive and self-cautious, but other than that I have no idea, it just feels like I’ve lost my “touch” | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 08:40 AM |
| 1 | You look like a fuckboyIt’s a good thing, girls used to see me that way and a lot of them were attracted to me at that time. I still look the same but they got to know me, figured out I’m not (based on personality) and lost attraction | /r/seduction | 31/01/24 06:15 PM |
| 2 | How to have masculine “energy” in a charismatic way?I have a question, what books/resources helped you in having social skills? I’d like to develop that as well | /r/seduction | 27/01/24 02:17 PM |
| 2 | I studied seduction men to women. Anyone knows women to men?I have a question, where/what did you study the attraction of man-to-woman. I’d like to learn that myself | /r/seduction | 19/12/23 12:10 AM |
| 1 | It took me a long time to realise this, but women actually like to be approached. They also respect guys more who do.No that’s what I mean by saying “awkward”, I’m actually good looking and also very observant, so I notice the signs that someone wants to be approached.. It’s just that I’m awkward when I speak and as soon as I do, they lose whatever enthusiasm that they had.. If I’m lucky, the conversation will stay for a little longer. Verbal use is not my best fortè | /r/seduction | 07/04/23 07:00 PM |
| 3 | It took me a long time to realise this, but women actually like to be approached. They also respect guys more who do.It’s okay I didn’t get offended, I know I’m good looking guy based on how often women approached in the past or just friends telling me so, i’d say they rated me 7/10.. But still I think the issue is with my game rather than look cause if I’m not looking my best/ dressed well/ having cologne I wouldn’t have approached in the first place | /r/seduction | 07/04/23 06:52 AM |
| 35 | It took me a long time to realise this, but women actually like to be approached. They also respect guys more who do.overthinking about “techniques” to hook up, you are doing it wrong. Then proceeded to say this establish eye contact and smile. Don’t stare. Make a genuinely nice, funny comment to start a conversation and see how things go. Remember always to be patient. You’re basically negating yourself here, you gave technique and strategies, so your words seem opposite of each other. If I were to be spontaneous and intuitive, I’d weirded the girl out because my original self is that I talk to everyone in my… | /r/seduction | 07/04/23 02:57 AM |
| 15 | It took me a long time to realise this, but women actually like to be approached. They also respect guys more who do.Well I approach on and off, but never had this occur to me, till last year when it happened it somehow kept snowballing and happening over and over again and it stings that I almost thought about quitting | /r/seduction | 07/04/23 02:48 AM |
| 50 | It took me a long time to realise this, but women actually like to be approached. They also respect guys more who do.Both are wrong, the truth is.. They’ll look at you and say “yeah?” or they just look in disgust without saying anything and ignoring anything you’d say.. Or at least those are girls from my culture, although they also like to be approached so I’m not entirely sure what I’m doing wrong | /r/seduction | 07/04/23 02:29 AM |
| 122 | It took me a long time to realise this, but women actually like to be approached. They also respect guys more who do.Yeah, hence why, we feel hella nervous. Because we don’t know how to do it “well” 🤷♂️ I’m very awkward | /r/seduction | 07/04/23 02:25 AM |
| 82 | Unusual ways to meet womanCan I ask something? I’m also funny, I tease a lot and I’m sarcastic and women love it, but me being funny has never build sexual tension so I do not know what is it really that’s wrong | /r/seduction | 31/03/23 04:25 PM |
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