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| 6 | Is it true women will always have more value/suitors than men in the dating market?Almost certainly yes. Men are biologically designed to pursue more, and this model is psychologically reinforced in most societies so that (on average) men make the initial moves at a far larger rate. This doesn’t mean women don’t face significant difficulties in the dating market I ran the numbers for chances of finding a “good” attractive man (25-45) making a decent income (80k) who is mutually interested in having a serious relationship. A lot of women have told me this is a modest but still … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 06:04 AM |
| 0 | Men have their own version of beta bux for women but don’t like to acknowledge itIf there is actual resentment and no splitting as your reply suggests then you are correct it’s the equivalent of a beta-bux, nothing to debate lol. It’s less likely that men can do this but still true. Men do acknowledge it subconsciously or to their guy friends. See a married guy liking IG models all the time, friend constantly talking about other women, etc. so I find it’s a lot easier to tell when a guy is doing it in my personal experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 04:18 PM |
| 0 | Men have their own version of beta bux for women but don’t like to acknowledge itWhat you’re describing is similar to the Madonna-Whore complex which isn’t the same thing as a beta bux. He actually loves the Madonna (motherly demeanor and some sexual attraction) but his own unresolved aggression and discontent from prior relationships (most of the time his mother during childhood) causes him to split, and take his sexual frustrations out on other women he finds sexually attractive. Again this is a maladaptive condition. A female beta bux would be utterly despised by the husb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Women's self centeredness doesn't allow them to see things beyond themselves and what they can get from men.We should make it mandatory to state how you meet these men/women in every post Your statement is true to some extent; but there’s a man version of this same thing that women deal with and it’s an epidemic right now. I’d argue that the real problem here is that the women you meet are trash, which is an increasingly common experience because we are meeting women/men who are constantly online, have no personal goals, 0 ability to get there needs met outside of relationships and pseudofill them wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 05:38 PM |
| 5 | Men need to be aware that they are easily replaceableAre you aware of what type of woman this is? I stg everyone views getting into some type of relationship with any woman/man as some big fucking victory. This guy who she went on five dates with all of which were good times apparently was done a huge favor by your entitled friend. High quality men aren’t looking for a woman that would cut them off just because they have a busy week at work and can’t simp to her every need just because god forbid she entertain herself for one Monday-Friday. I woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 11:37 PM |
| 0 | Women get incredibly outraged when they get reminded that they're not as pretty as they think they areYour claim is 100% accurate but you’re about to get deflected, trickle truthed, and gaslit to the fourth dimension, or someone gonna be like “but men are too” when that’s not the topic of the thread at all. I don’t think we need to be looking for supermodels if we want great relationships but this issue will have to fix itself sadly I have a lot of female friends and cohorts. Like a lot. Very few of think they are mid when a bunch of us think them as such. Hell even saying a woman is a 7 which i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Hey PPD! What is an unpopular opinion that you are thoroughly convinced is true about modern dating after many years?My unpopular opinion as the thought discourse on this sub doesn’t frequently highlight just how big of an issue this truly is: the increasingly complete destruction of the 3rd place and its replacement with online dating. I think if we just got rid of OLD and severely limited social media this would promote more people to actually interact with real humans and find other satisfying pursuits in life. Being exposed to literally millions of other peoples opinions and lifestyles is the recipe for di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Shaming as a social engineering toolYour premise is untrue based on many studies that you literally can just ask a GPT to reference. The numbered points are factual though. Shaming is an effective tool in so many areas especially ones that are not about dating. Unfiltered CHRONIC shame is pretty maladaptive. Shame in moderation or shame accompanied with positive reinforcement and autonomy are also effective. For example, the obesity rate in America steadily increased when we lessened shaming obesity and stopped promoting fitness (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Men are finding out what happens when they bring nothing to the tableWe could literally change the title to “Women are finding out what happens when they bring nothing to the table” and the statement would still be true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 06:59 PM |
| 1 | "Your value is what you can get" is a useless tautology that purely serves as a thought-terminating cliche.Correct this was a typo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 04:29 PM |
| 1 | "Your value is what you can get" is a useless tautology that purely serves as a thought-terminating cliche.You are right but this is a meta-narrative. I don’t think women are a hive-mind but basically every human on earth likes when society benefits them (aka more power and especially more agency). Groupthink is running rampant worldwide via social media and increasing tech in which the loudest, lowest IQ opinions get clicks and therefore, traction. Because of this, the curve shifted way too far towards libertarianism of which feminism is included in, thus a hyper conservative response and angry male… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Why do you shame men for approaching women?This is a cultural thing and interpretation. Many countries are like what you described. For example, American women do this and I have no complaints about it but they can (and often are) misinterpreted. Body language is great when you have prior body language as a comparison. Not as applicable to someone you don’t really know. However, signaling yourself available to be approach and cold approaching are two different things. In Germany, woman go up to men and ask them to activities and see if s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 10:53 PM |
| 6 | Why do you shame men for approaching women?Last I read on this only 6% of women surveyed in a panel stated they preferred to ask men out and almost all of the women in the survey asked ZERO men out in the last year. Most of you do not. Most of my female friends have never and will never. Many people you know might defy this statistic which is nice and I hope that works out for them but the anecdotal experiences of men and the little data we have is against this notion as no one really wants to research this in depth. Humans in general ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 08:54 PM |
| 4 | The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security”This is mostly correct. A bigger problem is that the men who are desirable often can often go from 0 prospects (post breakup, just now open to dating) to several prospects at one time. Any man on here who’s actively dated multiple women at a time in the initially stages knows that it’s really fucking time consuming. I’m not gonna risk my employment, social groups, or being labeled a freak in public if I have several people I’m scouting for ltr. If you came up to me then I’d potentially drop them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/25 09:33 PM |
| – | Women’s reliance on passive dating is self-sabotage and they know itI’d love to read every study this article got data on but honestly this article should be mandatory reading before you are allowed to post on here. Literally a thread killer for 50% of the garbage men and women post on here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/25 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Dont say “Choose Better” and then get mad at picky women with high standards.No I agree with this. I meant to end my post with saying you can’t expect men who believe they have good personalities on here to have sympathy for women who end up in this scenario because to them because: (a) that pool is so narrow you are unlikely to find that so consider reevaluating your standards or be alone. I have some sympathy for this one Or (b) you’re ignorant/ignoring red flags when you expand on the situation which is a you problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Dont say “Choose Better” and then get mad at picky women with high standards.I think it’s more of an issue of women who tolerate bad behavior from men who meet a lot of their ideal criteria but not all. If women have to settle for less, then the argument people on here make is that they tend to settle for less in the personality department rather than looks, finances. I’m sure women would love a good, wealthy, attractive, funny, and emotionally intelligent man. The problem is that’s 1% of us. Now tailor that for you height, race preference etc. and unless you have a funn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 04:04 PM |
| 2 | CMV Women are overly dramatic about viable dating options.Yeah I’ve lived in multiple areas and it heavily influences how you’d rate people even in the same culture. She’s a 6 in both but she looks interesting and comes off as a nice person that’d be fun to talk to based of “her” DMs. A 6 is not an insult either you still are above average and hopefully we all live long enough to become 2s one day. She is more attractive than all of those men though lol maybe the golf guy with the shades is around her level but 34 and “still figuring it out” would be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 07:22 PM |
| 2 | CMV Women are overly dramatic about viable dating options.I don’t know where you live and location can influence a lot. That woman is a hard 6 here in looks. If she’s an 8 my match feed is full of 11s and my looks match is Margot Robbie and let’s be real it’s not. I get matches btw so let’s not go there, it’s not an assessment of her as a person either. If her personality was good I’m sure plenty of people would still date her as that’s more important anyway. I agree a lot of men overrate themselves but I see this issue in way more of my female friends… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 06:55 PM |
| – | Being able to have sex at any time is still a privilege.Being homosexual is not a preference in the way you’re describing it at all. What type of men homosexual men are into, is a preference. People who are lgbt by and large claim to have always been that way from their formative years. They aren’t taught to be that way. Majority of people can’t even come up with their preferences when you ask them because society thinks for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/25 11:16 PM |
| 0 | Why raising men’s standards could change dating for everyoneRelationships are at a low right now, yet the problem gets worse every year not better. You’re suggesting a massive swing in male availability which can only happen via war plague, or tyranny. The root problem is the tech industry inadvertently set humanity backwards by a century so you’d need to fix that. Governments have started to step in but the measures will need to become more extreme which you probably will start seeing in later decades barring improvement | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/25 08:50 PM |
| – | Being able to have sex at any time is still a privilege.Wtf is with this weird argument of just be gay then. By that logic, women who “want good relationships and sex” just should snap their fingers and become lesbians in a nanosecond. Like great idea, OP and friends can just sleep on it and just be gay tomorrow | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/25 08:18 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Rejecting men because they doesn't earn enough is not "shallow"They are both shallow. I’m in the position where barring life ending injury I will be top 1% in income. I’m not saying this to brag, just if someone only liked me for that aspect I don’t want them. I value being supported along the way and offer it in return. If either of us got hit by a bus tomorrow what is the relationship. She’s probably “ugly” post injury and I’d be crippled and jobless. That’s a business relationship and I’m not interested. However, if a man can’t support a family and that’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/25 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Dating is a numbers game and men who care less stay winning it.We agree entirely on this point. Most man play the numbers game as it does work provide you can actually keep getting numbers. I wouldn’t say it’s the best strategy but it is a good one. Still have to have a lot of luck I think the effect causes perfectly good men to leave dating, jades good men, and changes a large percentage of men to fit the market. Women also suffer in this system. This will eventually have long lasting negative impacts that will worsen the cause like a positive feedback loo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 05:19 PM |
| 1 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?Ikr, I mean they make sex devices for people who are well endowed so only a tolerable amount goes in. Theres literally almost no circumstance where it is better to be smaller | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 01:26 AM |
| 5 | Dating is a numbers game and men who care less stay winning it.While this is definitely the right approach to dating as a man these days, this mentality ironically is also a large part of the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/25 07:17 PM |
| 6 | The best way to correct the dating market is for men to leave women alone.You are never going to fix the current dating market, not globally but especially not in Westernized countries. This method wouldn’t work either as it’s impossible to get male buy-in at a high enough level. Only way is to ban all social media or at least ban social media from using pictures or videos which will never happen. Learn another language and move to a better market, accept the one you’re in and either get lucky or move on to something more fulfilling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/25 05:29 AM |
| – | Women in this subreddit are always confused about 'high standards'.The only time I respect the high standards argument is when a woman says she has high standards for both physical AND mental characteristics. If you stay with a hot guy that you find boring/abusive/etc. then guess what, you settled. People on here forget that we will all be 50 someday and almost none of us will have our looks anymore. If you gave someone you aren’t that attracted to a chance but after months you still aren’t attracted to him physically then congratulations you also settled. Bett… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Online dating really isnt that bad.You’re right honestly but if you’re a man you have to be very attractive due to men flooding apps and then using the apps like shit. Paying also helps exponentially because even attractive men get buried in likes and it is debatably cheaper in the long run but if your profile is good you don’t really need to pay per se. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 09:25 PM |
| 1 | If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates.I told her and we put the google definition up and she didn’t give a fuck. I don’t judge it’s her life but the second prompt was the only reason she swiped him left. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/25 12:29 AM |
| 1 | If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates.That example was actually a specific example when one of my friends was swiping to show how bad the other half is. His profile literally said “I am a love bomber” and she didn’t bother looking it up because “he was hot” even after I explained it. She only swiped him left because his second prompt said he “solves problems with a spanking” which at least she caught that but she was sad about it. If you’re willfully ignorant when someone literally shoves it in your face then that’s on you when you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/25 12:24 AM |
| 1 | If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates.Doesn’t this mostly apply to online dating where you can’t vet through social circles? I am of the opinion that it is nigh impossible to vet out highly extroverted Machiavellian men and unfortunately women will fall victims to these men unless they are celibate and even then. I think men should have sympathy for victims of these men If you don’t vet out guys prior to a date who put obvious red flags like “I’m a love bomber”, blatant misogynistic shit in their profiles, instas and boring personal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | How important is a "high-status career" really when it comes to dating?I love psych so that’s why. In the unlikely event I pick something else then I’ll embrace the grind life for sure. It pretty much is just those three specialties though and psych is the only field where the average attending doesn’t touch 40hrs a week last time I checked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | How important is a "high-status career" really when it comes to dating?Status matters. Anyone who says otherwise is either signaling or hasn’t experienced it. I’m going to speak as a medical school student (not even a fucking doctor yet). I have had MULTIPLE attractive women in my DMs that mention it and again, I’m not even a doctor yet. A quote this week from one was “I don’t normally date broke people, but you’re a medical student so I’ll make an exception” Status matters and some statuses translate universally. Law and medicine included. To me, I don’t care for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Young women encourage toxic masculinityI see nothing but facts in this post except the last paragraph. It becomes more balanced technically but at that point a guy who came from being a loser typically isn't lining up to date his single 30ish year old counterpart. People on here consistently bash people who speak it but they never experienced the transformation themselves. They haven't seen a socially inept chad line women up while much more social normal guys go home empty handed. Then they get mad when you see the paradigm and star… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Dating your friend’s exOh I definitely felt betrayed especially since this guy was hanging out around us when we dating the whole time. It makes you question the entire nature of the friendship. Questions like “Was he like that the whole time or is he just an opportunist?” came up frequently. I definitely wasn’t rooting for them in any way. Maybe if he had came to me first I would have felt like there was some level of respect? Those complex feelings are really complicated in their roots. I do believe that there is an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Dating your friend’s exAh my view is that unless the relationship is certainly guaranteed to not only be a higher quality and longer lasting one than the friendship, then you hurt yourself through opportunity cost. I’ll use myself as an example. I had a friend get with my ex, we were similarly minded thus I knew it probably wouldn’t last very long due to them being an even worse fit that we were when we dated. I “leveled up” as a person after that relationship to the extent that I now have social circles full of attra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Dating your friend’s exIt’s not just a moral based issue if you look deep into the reason people general don’t participate or condone this. There are a few psychological/ logical reasonings behind this. You’re friends are supposed to be a reflection of you to some extent right? Most people generally deem themselves as loyal, understanding people whether this is true in reality or not. Most times you have a friend dating your ex, they secretly were attracted to them the whole time or they are so desperate/bad at their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 03:06 PM |
| 5 | How do you determine what your league is?Leagues are simply determined by the quality of women you attract and how often you can attract them. If you’re getting average and attractive options and occasionally cycle to a drought then you’re above average. If you’re constantly getting a stream of highly attractive women then you’ve hit the lottery genetically at least. If you’re dry most of the time, then probably average or below in the physical department. Tbh leagues don’t matter much anyway because they’re only used as a heuristic an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Q4Men how many women have personally told you they regret making an Only Fans due to its effect on their dating or work lives?I know three. It really hasn’t affected their job security very much. One of them is 5’6/250lbs but she still cleared $80k post tax after 6 months so I really can’t blame her. That’s two years of work for many done in the comfort of her own home on her time. I know why men pay for that kind of stuff but I still don’t really understand it or why we get mad at it. Only way I can see it go away is if prostitution gets legalized. Unless the job relies on her PR, If she can do the job I’d hire an onl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/21 06:14 PM |
| 4 | A floor in the thinkingI agree with this, double true if the guy isn’t aware of it. Out of curiosity, would you say that those women were attractive/aged well and what are their husbands like assuming you have any contact with these people that is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: How would you alter this dating advice for women?I think people don’t acknowledge that while this advice can work, it can seriously fuck you over. We have statistics on what potentially and often happens to men and women who try this. This advice pretty much tells women to go out and experience and sleep with whatever seems valuable. I like how she’s telling people to risk multiple instances of Skeeter McBeater when you could just learn how to vet from the jump and find the best of both worlds and lower non-personality expectations if you can’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/21 03:28 PM |
| 1 | How much SEXUAL attractiveness does losing weight and putting on muscle add to a guys SEXUAL appeal?I think you are spot on. Being fat severely hurts you but being muscular only helps a slight amount assuming you are being compared to the AVERAGE. People who go from bulimic to Jacked will notice huge difference and vice versa. Getting jacked is neither a magic cure to be Chad nor can it make your personality magnetic, but it’s certainly not hurting at least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/21 04:40 PM |
| 0 | How do you feel about men who “upgrade” to better girlfriends once they become successful and leave the old one?I think a person should be able to upgrade if they want. I don’t particularly see a problem with it, although if you get with someone it should be because you like them, not as a settling mechanism. It’s more understandable if he’s upgraded because the drastic lifestyle changes (athlete, etc.) don’t necessarily facilitate relationships, or require more suitable partners. What I don’t like is that even though the women stay through thick and thin, people are assuming that gives her some measure o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Everyone talks about what makes a man low value, but what exactly makes a woman low value?For low value (as in not average or high) Physically: Out of shape, Overweight, poor hygiene. Mentally: Bad personality (especially Cluster B traits), Radically feminized, single motherhood (not necessarily fair but it is what it is). Same overarching things that make a man lower value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 07:17 PM |
| 4 | [Q4All] Do naturally attractive women have to "try"?Hyper attractive people usually don’t have to do as much assuming that they know what to do when it comes to KEEPING attraction present. In addition to this, positive reinforcement from physical attractiveness (especially from an early age) potentially ruins personality development. Women in general are able to get more attention than men, thus leading to a logical conclusion that women value male attention less. In my experience, most women want to be able to lockdown great guys from their list… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/21 11:07 PM |
| 6 | CMV: The push for feminism from beta men backfired.Plenty of people know who they are. They get absolutely cooked by people who expose scams all the time. Richard Cooper is out here selling pheromone soap and grifting straight to the top 1% by scamming people like OP. All of those redpill guys are scammers and honestly losers too for selling information that they learned for free (and is still available for free) to gung-ho simpanzees on the internet. The people in TRP that make cohesive and non scam content (the ECs) are extremely unpopular on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/21 05:15 PM |
| 11 | Loosing my hearing slowly, scared I will loose social communicationI actually wear a hearing aid and it was honestly the best five racks I’ve ever spent. No one looks at me funny as far as I can tell and I doubt anyone cares. Think about it this way, if a guy sees a chick that’s an 8/10 or 9/10 with a hearing aid, do you think guys honestly give a shit as long as she can hear the shitty game they’re about to spit out. If they ask, tell them some dumb shit about how you lost hearing in a fight with Epstein to save 10 kids off the island. If they honestly care ab… | /r/askTRP | 24/05/21 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Girls feel lack of chemistry?Not enough details. A lot of things go into a decent date. Are you staying in one venue or going to multiple? What are your logistics? If you’re anything like me you probably are bored as shit on bar date #37 so try an action date to make it enjoyable for you. It rubs off on them too. Look into free association as well and general charisma because it might actually be you that’s putting hoes to sleep. I had a chick rant to me about Michelle Obama’s shitty ass biography on a date once so sometime… | /r/askTRP | 13/05/21 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Just had a first failed date, thoughts?(Same person replying btw) You can not fake high value by inflating response times. It doesn't work because it can't work. You subconsciously know it and so do women. She either likes you enough to hang out again (texting for logistics) or she doesn't. Just be busy or if you aren't don't be overbearing or needy. Or better yet, just don't care or reinforce that you do not care until you mentally flip the switch. See Frame sidebar and Abundance Sidebar. Same person replying btw | /r/askTRP | 18/02/21 10:39 PM |
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