Remote-Classic-3532 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
66	Women who are sexually active, what’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex and how much of a struggle was it?	Question For Women	Remote-Classic-3532	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/23 02:55 PM

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1	Do men actually like the idea of “coaching” a woman through life and why? The biggest defining trait of masculinity is competence. Women are typically attracted to competent men, and men derive the majority of our self worth from the feeling of competency. Doesn’t really matter what area it’s in. And there is no greater measure of competence than the ability to teach, guide, or coach.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 10:51 PM
1	Men cause their own loneliness I don’t really have specific examples as they would be case by case basis, but just generally speaking say a guy is really into a girl on all levels and wants to pursue a serious relationship with her. When he’s talking to his friends, he’s probably still mostly going to talk about how hot he think she is and how he’d like to hook up with her, to a varying degree of explicitness. That’s just how guys verbalize their attraction. Now when talking to her, he’ll be more sweet and romantic because gu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 10:05 PM
10	Where do above average but not hot men fall in terms of dating? So I feel like I probably fit somewhere in this category and I have to say the biggest struggle is managing expectations. I’m just good looking enough to feel like I should realistically have a shot with hot women, and sometimes I even get a superficial level of attention from some very attractive women, but usually not enough to leave a lasting impression on them. I’m not socially inept but I’m not the life of the party either, so when they have access to men who are I obviously can’t really ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 05:36 PM
1	Men cause their own loneliness Right, but the point I was making is that when most men talk about wanting sex they aren’t really just talking about sex, they’re talking about all aspects of a relationship. It’s just the only way a lot of men know how to verbalize their intimate feelings about women is by using sexual terms. Especially when they’re talking to other men about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 04:52 PM
7	Men cause their own loneliness The idea that most men are obsessed with casual sex is a myth based primarily on misunderstanding. Most men actually want a deeper connection with one partner who matches their sex drive. We just talk about our feelings in hyper sexualized terms because that’s the way most men learn how to talk about their intimate feelings.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 02:10 PM
24	For those who believe in redpill dating should be the last of your worries I would argue that dating is a milestone most people hit before any of those things. Most people start dating in their teen years before being anywhere close to having any of that. For those who don’t hit that milestone when they’re in high school, it’s easy for them to fall into the trap of still pining after the teenage version of romance, they’re in this state of arrested development where they can’t actually move on and pursue adult accomplishments because they’re still stuck in that teen an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 12:23 AM
3	Bluepill is mostly right on relationships, Redpill is mostly right on dating and meeting new people The problem with both is that it’s a bunch of people assuming that their own anecdotal experiences paint an accurate picture of all human behavior and then they create these echo chambers full of people who constantly validate each other’s mindsets to the point of them all losing the ability to empathize with anyone who may have had a contradictory experience. Most blue pillers have been fairly successful or are at least content with their role in the modern dating world so they can’t comprehend…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/23 08:02 PM
3	You’re only a “dancing monkey” if the woman isn’t dancing back Ok, but that attitude is naturally going to change to bitterness overtime if they are unable to find success. You have to think, most of the guys who have this complaint have probably struggled with this same issue since they first became interested in girls. They kept telling themselves things like “ok high school wasn’t my time but I’ll do better in college”, “ok, once I get established in my career I’ll find success”, etc… and yet their social ineptitude still hinders them no matter what chan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/23 03:28 PM
5	You’re only a “dancing monkey” if the woman isn’t dancing back “A tragic fundamental lack of desire to be an interesting social creature.” I can go with a lot of what you said up until that point, but I think you’re mistaking a lack of desire with a lack of aptitude. Some guys are just inept at socialization. Now granted, some girls are too but it’s a lot easier for them to turn that into a positive as on average there are a lot more guys into the “weird quiet girl” than there are girls into the “weird quiet guy.” As a guy, you really only have two options:…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/23 02:48 PM
5	It is not a man’s problem, when approaching, that women might feel uncomfortable or don’t know how to say no. I mean, from a philosophical stance it’s not a man’s problem, but the problem certainly affects men. Our three options are either arbitrarily complain about it, learn how to play, or simply take ourselves out of the game. Any choice is valid but you have to accept the results that come with that choice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 10:05 PM
2	Men don't actually love women, especially when sex isn't involved. Isn’t most love in general based on how one person makes another person feel? I mean that’s just kind of how love works. I’d say the only truly non conditional form of love is a parent/child relationship. As far as romance goes, even the most wholesome relationships form because certain conditions are met, that doesn’t mean the love is superficial or inauthentic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 01:55 PM
14	At what point is 'improve yourself' no longer good advice? It’s never bad advice on its own, but it’s often faulty within the context of the question it’s answering. When a clearly distressed person asks “why can’t I get a girlfriend?” then simply telling them to improve themself is the equivalent of telling a depressed person “just do things that make you happy.” It completely fails to take into account the mentality of the person asking, and gives them the false impression that working out a little and maybe getting a better haircut is going to take t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 04:24 AM
1	Why do you think so many women are sexually attracted to K-pop male stars ? That’s why trp theory is flawed, while it’s correct in a lot of its assertions it’s wrong in assuming that women are stupid. Most of them know exactly why they want what they want, and they realize when certain things can be supplemented.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 12:30 AM
2	Why do you think so many women are sexually attracted to K-pop male stars ? Yes, but they are constantly surrounded by bodyguards and probably own homes in nice, low crime areas where they would never have much of a reason to get into a physical altercation to protect their woman. Even when they go out to clubs and parties they typically stick to private places that would keep sketchy individuals away.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 12:20 AM
1	Why do you think so many women are sexually attracted to K-pop male stars ? Women gravitate toward masculine men for security and the ability to provide. They can fix things, provide physical protection, aren’t very emotionally needy, are often hardworking and successful within their career fields, etc. They still find the more effeminate “pretty boys” attractive, they just realize as they get older that they aren’t usually good at providing, they just look hot. When you’re a successful pop star though, most of those problems go out the window. Money isn’t an issue, fix…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 12:12 AM
3	Today society is PERFECT for men You’re acting under the false impression that all, or even the majority, of men want casual sex. That has never been the ideal male fantasy. The ideal male fantasy is to be in a committed monogamous relationship with an attractive woman who matches his sex drive and supports and respects him as he achieves his goals. Obviously there’s much more to a real relationship, I’m only describing the fantasy. Men also like paying for things and being the breadwinner, so long as we are deeply respected an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 12:00 AM
18	Women should be allowed to have unrealistic expectations of men Anyone should be allowed to have whatever expectations they want of anybody. They just also shouldn’t complain when those expectations make everyone around them miserable and they get called out for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 09:35 PM
–	Men, would you date a reformed hoe if you liked her? Women would you omit facts about your sexual history if a guy you liked asked about it? It depends on how she views her “hoe phase.” And before anyone comes for me, I’m not saying she should be ashamed of it. But is she more along the lines “yeah I was wild and crazy when I was younger” or does she actively view casual sex and hook up culture as a healthy lifestyle? I’d relate it to binge drinking. I would date someone who partied and drank a lot as a young person and has fond memories of it, but I wouldn’t date someone who as a fully mature adult would still defend that type of be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 08:32 PM
11	Should a person in a relationship be allowed to see other people if their partner doesn't want sex? Unsatisfactory amount of sex and infidelity are on two completely different levels. Not even close to the same grievance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 07:44 PM
12	Women discomfort to reject men seems to parallel the discomfort men have to approach women On surface level, yes that sounds reasonable. But it fails to account for the real life experiences the majority of attractive women have faced regarding men who legitimately were predatory. It’s very easy for a socially inept man to come across as threatening without intending to so, and then it just becomes a game of miscommunication. The man thinks he’s behaving in a perfectly acceptable way, the woman gets triggered do to past experiences and becomes defensive, the man gets upset at what he …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 05:09 PM
34	Should a person in a relationship be allowed to see other people if their partner doesn't want sex? Unless they agreed upon an open relationship from the beginning, absolutely not. Either learn how to masturbate, seek couples sex therapy, or break up and both people move on to find relationships with a partner who has a compatible sex drive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 04:55 PM
6	Do abusive/manipulative men have better relationships than normal ones? No. Most abusive behavior stems from extreme insecurity, they become angry because they can never be truly comfortable in their relationship. They constantly feel out of control and are using abusive behavior to compensate for their own inadequacies, of which they are abundantly aware of. They might seem to be thriving on a level of power, but inside they’re miserable and in constant fear of losing everything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 04:50 PM
9	Do abusive/manipulative men have better relationships than normal ones? So he’s not an asshole, yet he hurts people often even after being told that his behavior is hurtful? I’m sorry I just can’t see how that makes sense. Maybe he’s a sympathetic or likable asshole, but at the end of the day committing asshole behavior when you know it’s asshole behavior by default makes one an asshole.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 04:40 PM
15	Women discomfort to reject men seems to parallel the discomfort men have to approach women It’s a thing both genders do of placing the burden of alleviating anxiety on the opposite gender, and then getting irrationally upset when they don’t do it right. Women only want to be approached in certain ways at certain times by certain men, and they just expect men to instinctively know which is which. Conversely, Men only want to approach when if they know they aren’t going to be mocked, ridiculed, or even labeled predatory. It’s a case of both genders unfairly placing the burden of knowing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 03:50 PM
0	Is it a good strategy for men to not befriend women at work to prevent problems? I think a lot of it depends on the work environment. For example, I work in a factory. There are still certain things I wouldn’t say around female coworkers, but most of the women that work there are open to and even participate in a certain level of crassness that wouldn’t be acceptable in say an office environment. It seems the higher up you go into the sphere of “professionalism”, the more conscious one has to be with what is said and who you spend your time alone with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/23 06:35 PM
19	A lot of women goad 'nice guys' on and then act surprised when they take it the wrong way I think there are two major factors involved. The first is that that’s just how many women talk to their friends, both male and female. There’s a level of flirtatiousness in female friendships that simply isn’t present in male friendships. The second is that women tend to group men into more subgroups than men do to women. Guys have two categories: women they would date and women they wouldn’t date. Even amongst platonic female friends, they still fall into one of those categories. Women have gu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/23 05:12 PM
13	Newbie Question: Why do you think American Society and Hollywood "Sexualizes" Friendships but "Desexualizes" Relationships? (American Pie, Power Rangers, Hangover, Videoclub, PUA ) Hedonistic sexuality makes for better comedy than romantic sexuality	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/23 01:42 AM
5	Should they teach young people to take relationships more seriously, in high school? Who’s they? Are we talking teachers and the school itself? Because if so, I’d say it’s hardly any of their business to commenting on personal relationships in any capacity. The thing is, it’s not like relationships are a subject you ever just sit down and learn about, that’s just knowledge you pick up from a combination of experience, social observation, and cultural influence. So it’s really hard to say that any one thing could help teach young people how to have healthier relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/23 06:50 PM
–	Women are way more forgiving of physical appearance than men I think there’s validity to that assessment, but what a guy lacks in physical attractiveness it usually seems he is expected to make up for in some other personality trait. You can be a little fat but you better be funny, you can be slightly ugly as long as you’re charming, etc. And that’s all justifiable criteria, but sometimes it’s incredibly hard for a man to judge his own level of attractiveness, so you get men who fall into the average-moderately handsome category who feel that since they’r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/23 05:51 PM
1	How come TRP doesn't teach betas in how to become alphas? Because then there would be nothing left to complain about and the community built around it would have no reason to exist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/23 02:40 AM