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Blue Pill ExampleRenascenceMan/r/TheRedPill21/01/16 01:49 AM
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Go find Horns’ post on sex for validation. Sounds like you might be stuck in the loop.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/22 08:44 PM
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Shit test - Working Early, comment made to daughter "Daddy doesn't care about getting you off to day care" Response - "Have a good day girls, I am starting work" Some might say that a core element of what we call Frame around here is setting boundaries and maintaining them. For me, this behavior from your wife would be a hard boundary. Maybe for you it’s not. If not, why not? There was no need to go nuclear when she did it. You handled the immediate situation fine. But if this is a boundary for …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 11:30 AM
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What I need to do is keep working on game. Wrong Obviously I'm screwing up somewhere. Right I was rereading Mystery Method this week and realized I'm skipping/ignoring a lot of stuff. My initiations are lazy and could be stronger. Dumb The guys who do the best the fastest take their wife out of the equation early. She's dead to you, fix yourself and then let her worry about winning you back https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/qq60zw/why_field_reports_are_important/ Also: https://www…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 12:49 AM
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This where I’m at with shoes. Picked up a couple new pairs recently and got a lot of positive feedback on the more fun ones. I have a strong winter wardrobe. Lotta high end outdoorsy stuff that fits wells. Shoes though. They needed an upgrade. Going to keep having fun with this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/21 01:01 PM
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Look. I read your post history and I get that your wife sucks, but you’re spending 7 hours a day doing home duties and dinner / TV. Does your wife work? Does she do anything to help with the kids consistently? From your post history, you are clearly struggling to build a frame. This looks a good place to start. Set some boundaries with your wife and enforce them. When she loses her shit, fog, broken record, and hold your boundaries. Your post history tells me you are scared to fucking death of c…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/21 02:06 AM
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You’ve been on my mind because I was you in some ways once. Here is how Glover says the same thing I was saying. “Making the transformation from a Nice Guy to an integrated male doesn't come about by just trying harder to be a good man. Breaking free from the Nice Guy Syndrome demands embracing a totally different way of viewing oneself and the world, a complete change in one's personal paradigm.”
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:44 PM
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And you’re still extremely fat. Good on you for OI. Keep pulling on that 1000 ft rope.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:09 AM
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Everything that I hated about myself and drove myself to get rid of instantly had a different meaning. I used to inventory every visible fat deposit and think how much I hated it and criticize myself for being weak and allowing it to remain. I see it now as almost a battle wound. It’s left over from a life of of stress and misunderstanding. I want to exercise and diet now in the same way I would want do whatever it took to rehab a dog that had been mistreated. It’s discipline, yes, but it almost…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:57 AM
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Holy shit, dude. Deep breath. This reads like you took some trucker speed before writing it. You have a long road to walk, and you can only unfuck yourself one day at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:51 AM
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This place is fucking on fire today.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 11:23 PM
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Time management I call bullshit. What are you lying to yourself and us about? Is this attention management? Are you literally working 80 hour weeks?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 01:04 AM
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I’m committing myself to the daily routines I used to hold myself to and generally beating the bitch out of myself. You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy. You can’t solve your problems by seeking to never do anything “wrong”. You will always fuck up. That doesn’t make you less worthy. I’m finally getting up the balls to call my family out on the bullshit they put me through and dealing with past trauma instead of pretending like it’s not there while I let it manifest in various forms of dysf…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 12:07 AM
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The guys who do the best the fastest take their wife out of the equation early. She's dead to you, fix yourself and then let her worry about winning you back /r/marriedredpill/comments/qq60zw/why_field_reports_are_important/
/r/askMRP03/12/21 07:41 PM
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It’s like I’m trying to figure everything out at once and the problem is so big that I can’t see the forest for the trees. Of course you can’t see the forest. Finding your mission requires walking a journey through that forest down a wandering path. You see that little hill ahead that looks like a really nice place to be? That’s your mission. You know as you stand here today, that little hill isn’t really your mission, but it’s the best one you’ve got today. It’s as far down the path as you can …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 06:37 PM
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I’m going to continue the moratorium for a time being until I feel I’ve had a hard reset and am ready. If I finish it too soon i worry I will revert to my old behaviours and I don’t want to go backwards to that. You need to continue this not just “for the time being” but for at least as long as you told your wife you would. Just because it’s working now and you dodged a bullet doesn’t mean that will continue to be the case. You have to see this through to your commitment. One thing to think abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 06:18 PM
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The solace has come from shoving the feelings down and Wrong. This will only fuck you up and make your journey harder. focusing on what actual steps I can take today to realize the main goals I set for the next few months, difficulties and roadblocks be damned. Right.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 12:15 PM
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My hygiene and grooming is on point. My teeth could use another round of whitening. I’ll start that this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 12:06 PM
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This is why we tell you hit the fucking gym. No, don't just lose weight. Oh, you ran a marathon. Good for fucking you. You know who else can run and finish a marathon? Probably any woman who trains as much as you did. Now, go bench 225. How many women can do that? Like... 0.1% of them, if they're Olympic-level athletes and/or using significant pharmaceuticals? You realize the mere ability to lift heavy objects, these are superpowers to women. My wife's uncanny sense of knowing exactly when I nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 01:21 AM
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Have you done any DL 6 or 7 work? Not to influence her, but for you. How deep does your abundance go?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 02:45 PM
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I’ve dropped 16.5 lb since 9/1 using CICO no other restrictions or goals. A little more than I wanted to. My goal has been 5lb/month to keep from yo-yoing or impacting weights. I’ve started to struggle a bit with weights and so I’m adding macro tracking and a goal of 180g of protein and 230g of carbs a day. I’ve been doing that for a week and it seems to have made a difference. I’m going to keep these macro goals until the end of the year. My goal has been to be at 205 by the end of the year and…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 02:31 PM
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Why do straps when you can switch to mix grip as an initial change?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 01:58 PM
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You have a ton of your own shit you are trying to fix right now while also trying to change things with your wife. Things suck with your wife. Let them keep sucking.. Your wife and your relationship with her do not matter right now. You have so much unfucking to do of yourself first. You’re super fat, you’re trying to lose weight but gained 2 lb, your finances are a disaster, you’re struggling to parent with a kid at a super tough age, you want to stop porn but can’t. And you’re doing all of thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 01:07 PM
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Your flair is entirely appropriate. This is a waste of everyone’s time. What is your shit? How did you own it?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 01:20 PM
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The way you teach your wife that you will touch her without initiating is to touch her without initiating. Sure she will pull away and be cold and act nasty. What the fuck do you expect her to do? This will suck. Your fee fees will be hurt. (And don’t get me wrong, that’s okay. Of course it will make you feel like shit. You’ve spent your entire life sucking the validation out of women like a leech sucks blood. Don’t tell yourself you’re weak for feeling that pain. Fucking feel it. But recognize …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 12:55 PM
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I’ve been reading reports on here for years and this has to be one of the dumbest fucking things I’ve ever read on here. Don’t listen to me, I’m a worthless piece of shit, but you have gotten be kidding me with this absolute trash. “I danced real good so mommy fucked me more, but then when I only want to nurse her tits she stopped touching my pee pee” Or maybe it’s: “I suck at leading my wife and family and the validation sex isn’t where my work-a-holic, don’t even have a spine at work, ass need…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 08:28 PM
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(these are all out of date pb) So you’re bragging about what you used to be able to do not owning where you’re at now?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 04:17 PM
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I am in. I’ve hit my lifts every scheduled day for 5 weeks. I’m not going to miss a day, even with the holidays, for these 60 days. I just changed up my schedule and it is working for me so I am going to stick with it. One change was to move from lat pull down to pull ups. I will be able to do 5x8 clean BW PU by the end of this 60 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 04:16 AM
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Thank god your lifts are on point because the rest of you is a fucking mess. On the porn - you have a therapist - awesome. I am not one, so maybe listen to your therapist not an internet stranger. That said, consider stop trying to kill porn and masterbation at the same time. Start by delinking masterbation with porn. You can jerk off all you want, but no porn. You stop the porn, eventually the masterbation recalibrates to your body not the porn / dopamine feedback loop.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:49 AM
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Don’t ease up on DL due to grip. Do as many reps as you can in standard overhand then move to mixed grip for the remainder.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:39 AM
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Identifying those specific actions is what is next. If you do anything other than come back here and tell us what these specific, measurable, accountable actions are and how you made concrete steps toward meeting at least one of them prior to posting I hope all 40k dudes in this joint come in here and tell you you are a little bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:36 AM
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You might check out IFS therapy. It helped me resolve a ton of childhood trauma in a very short time. As with all things therapy, YMMV, but I’m surprised it’s not more known given how much of a difference in made in my life in just a few months.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:22 AM
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And it is a totally shit plan at that. 1/ read more consistently and 2/ keep better track on my readings. This is not a goal, it’s a vague aspiration. How many times a week for how many minutes? Or how many pages per week? Many goals are difficult to quantify. This is not. But yet still you don’t. How will you keep track of your readings? What the hell does “keep track of” even mean? Your mission fucking sucks too. Physically stronger again - easy to quantify: I will do 100% of my planned workou…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 01:43 AM
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At those weights I would guess that you have not really injured your lower back (as in your spine), you have most likely inflamed your spinous erector muscles. Research some rehab stretches and myofascial release work. These can be difficult muscles to get to calm down. You may need a quick course of corticosteroids or dry needling with electro stimulation. See a physical therapist. If this is what it is then the good news is you really won’t have to slow your lifting, just have some discipline …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 01:31 AM
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Don’t worry about gaining a pound. You are weighing yourself at a time where you are likely to have high variability in weight. Don’t mentally masterbate over 150 calories or what IF to do. Just keep doing the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 09:46 PM
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But this week it’s like I couldn’t find a reason to even try, it’s like throwing a party at a child burn unit. In my experience, this is an important step to making this whole journey about you, not her. Grind because of how it makes you feel about you, not because of how you hope it will make her feel about you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 11:11 AM
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The guys who do the best the fastest take their wife out of the equation early. She's dead to you, fix yourself and then let her worry about winning you back https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/qq60zw/why_field_reports_are_important/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 10:09 AM
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I just read your entire comment history. You’ve never shared your mission. What is it?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 03:34 AM
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“The guys who do the best the fastest take their wife out of the equation early. She's dead to you, fix yourself and then let her worry about winning you back” This. Right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 02:41 AM
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You might check this article on procrastination. Helped me a ton. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/smarter-living/why-you-procrastinate-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-self-control.html
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/21 02:17 AM
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You can say it won’t happen again all day long, and I take you at your word that you believe that and want it. But you don’t really mean it until you do the work to understand why it happens and develop the tools to short circuit the chain of events that causes you to lose control. Because while you can mean it all day long - deep in your soul - until you do the work to reprogram what happens to you when the stress and the frustration make it so that you can’t handle your own shit when your kid …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/21 02:10 AM
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OYS 5 - 8 weeks in Stats: 37 y/o 6'3" 207 lbs (down 1.lb since last week); BF: 22.5% - navy; 5x5 weights: S: 190 B: 145 DL: 235 BoR: 130 OHP: 100 Married 13 years. Kids 7 and 9 Reading: Damn near all of MRP; NMMNG; WISNIFG; TWOTSM. Current: Rereading TWOTSM Lifting: 5 weeks in and haven’t missed a day. Struggling a bit here with tendinitis issues. Deloaded my squat to 165 and working back up due to patellar tendinitis in my left knee. Also stopped the running for now and went back to walking. Se…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:44 AM
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Two thoughts from this newb: (1) Sounds like we’re in a similar place with initiating. I just find pushing through resistance such a turn off right now. I’ve done it for so long and I recognize that it is just like doing a chore for her so often. (2) to use a phrase from/u/hornsofapathy, it sounds like you’re looking for frame reward sex, not dread sex. Problem there is, frame reward sex is harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 03:53 PM
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OYS 4 7 weeks in Stats: 37 y/o 6'3" 208lbs (down 3lb since OYS last week); BF: 26.69% - calipers; 5x5 weights: S: 185 B: 135 DL: 235 BoR: 125 OHP: 95 Married 13 years. Kids 7 and 9 Reading: Damn near all of MRP; NMMNG; WISNIFG; TWOTSM. Current: Rereading TWOTSM Lifting: On Point; up 10-30 lbs on all compound lifts. Hit 1 plate bench, 1.5 plate squat, 2 plate DL. Feels good man. Honestly, really struggled with weight last week, but pushed through. One day I had to go home, go back to sleep, eat b…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 04:24 PM
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Glad to hear it was helpful. Keep grinding. I’ll be keeping an eye out for how you’re doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 02:28 PM
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OYS 3 6 weeks in Stats: 37 y/o 6'3" 211lbs (up .5 since OYS last week); BF: 26.69% - calipers; 5x5 weights: S: 170 B: 125 DL: 215 BoR: 115 OHP: 95 Married 13 years. Kids 7 and 9 Reading: MRP: Stay plan is same as the go plan / You can't fix her, you can only fix you. NMMNG: Be an honest and integrated person. WISNIFG: Maintain your frame. TWOTSM: Embrace being a man and enjoy it. Current: The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem, also, what feels like the entire history of MRP Lifting: On Point; up 10-30 lb…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 01:00 PM
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Look, I’m a newb and don’t know shit, but your post resonated with me on mental health and procrastination. I have a life long habit of really fucked up self destructive procrastination. This article helped me a lot in understanding it: www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/smarter-living/why-you-procrastinate-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-self-control.html. Also, check the career section of NMMNG. It didn’t resonate with me at first because I’ve had a very successful career. But then after a bunch of emotiona…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/19 02:50 PM
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Not sure what to say here. Need to think on this feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 01:22 AM
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You’re right on the Glover. Was more an excuse to do what I wanted. Sticking with the 30 days off. Great posts on emotion and connection. Ended up on the one on just being with your emotions. Something I am really working on and this was helpful. Appreciate the direction to have emotional connection during foreplay / sex. I think that will work here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 01:21 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. On reflection and with MITW below, I think you’re right. I thinks she’s having fun testing me and I need to be more fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 01:16 AM
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Good post. Your flair fits. I’ll be checking you out, looking for more nuggets to think on. You’re where I want to be at the 6 month mark. Look forward to continue to see you grow so I have a new mark to hit 6 months from now.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:18 PM
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(2/2) Write out Vision / Mission and MAP. Post here for critique. Vision: To be the best man I can possibly be through continuous improvement, consistent discipline, and regular self reflection. To conquer my addictions. To embrace and enjoy life. To have fun and be fun. To be a fully integrated person across all relationships living a life of integrity. To find abundance and know it deeply. MAP: Items listed in order of importance to me: Addiction / Mental Health: This is the foundation of my j…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 09:21 AM
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OYS 2 5 weeks in. Stats: 37 y/o 6'3" 210.5lbs (down 2.5 since OYS last week); BF: 26.69% - calipers; 5x5 weights: S: 145 B: 105 DL: 205 BoR: 95 OHP: 90 Married 13 years. Kids 7 and 9 Reading: MRP: Stay plan is same as the go plan / You can't fix her, you can only fix you. NMMNG: Be an honest and integrated person. WISNIFG: Maintain your frame. TWOTSM: Embrace being a man and enjoy it. Current: The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem Lifting: On Point; up 10-30 lbs on all compound lifts. Diet: Met my weekly…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 09:19 AM
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OYS 1 Stats: 37 y/o 6'3" 213lbs down 6.5 lbs since 9/19 BF%: Fat Ass S: 120 B: 95 DL: 175 BoR: 85 OHP: 80 Married 13 years. Kids 7 and 9. Reading: Damn near every post in MRP. I find these very helpful for perspective. Biggest lessons: Stay plan is same as the go plan / You can't fix her, you can only fix you. NMMNG: Stop letting your ego cause you to hide your true self from the world. Be an honest and integrated person. Be frank about your needs and wants and own the consequences either way. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:50 PM
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