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| 0 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateRight, and any type of discrimination by the government against its citizens can be challenged under the equal protection clause of the Fourteenth Amendment of the United States Constitution. This particular type of discrimination has been challenged and struck down before in a landmark case by the Supreme Court. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 02:37 AM |
| 0 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateDude I don’t mean to be an ass but you’re reading comprehension is not good and you’re missing the point. I said it could be challenged, it would be an interesting argument to hear, and I could see an argument for either side of the case no where anywhere did I say discrimination against non-married men and women triggers strict or intermediate scrutiny. The facts are kind of unique and I’m curious how it would work Particularly bc a law like this would single out non-marital children who are a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateI never said marital status was a protected class. The case I cited struck down a law discriminating against non-married people w/out identifying them as a protected class. Just because married and non-married people can be treated differently under the law doesn’t mean any law that treats them differently would be upheld. Not sure how the federal tax code in anyway pertains to this discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one statehttps://www.oyez.org/cases/1971/70-17 Children born out of wedlock are a protected class. I can't think of a case that labeled marital status specifically as a protected class but Eisenstadt struck down a law that discriminated against non-married folks using just using a rational basis test. The facts are particularly salient compared to this topic and there's some dicta in that case about the right to privacy for individuals to make choices about how to form their families. Like I said I think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateWe agree on your first point. Non-bio dad should be off the hook, practically that only leaves mom. I should have done a better job clarifying in my first response. I'm looking at the issue from a public policy perspective. This is my (rather informed) opinion or speculation on why it's not popular for states to criminally prosecute mothers for paternity fraud. Personally I think it's very bad and wrong. Practically I don't always think we should change the law because it seems unfair. I also th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateI'm not suggesting anyone should be on the hook for CS for a child that they didn't create or knowingly consent to provide for. I'm saying if dad disestablishes paternity in civil court based on the fraudulent actions of mom, dad has already justifiably asserted a legal defense for why he should be disqualified from CS, which leaves mom as the parent supporting the kid (and bio dad if and when he can be tracked down). Dad can bring an action for disestablishment in civil court, he can potentiall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 06:37 PM |
| 8 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateBecause in the US our whole system of governance is guided by constitutional principals and amending the constitution is incredibly difficult and rarely happens? I am not an expert in constitutional law by any means but I have studied constitutional law in actual law school and I have experience as a law clerk working on cases challenging paternity. Off the top of my head government mandated paternity testing triggers 4th Amendment issues and 14th Amendment issues (right to be free from unreason… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 05:18 PM |
| -2 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateCriminalizing paternity fraud is problematic because there’s a child or children who rely on their parents for support. If you’re criminalizing paternity fraud then dad is raising the issue that he shouldn’t be on the hook for the kid. By subsequently making the mother pay a fine or serve time you’re now making it more likely this child is going to need financial support at the taxpayers expense. In my state putative fathers can challenge paternity after they’ve acknowledged it previously if the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 04:24 PM |
| 17 | Mandatory paternity testing - a redpill dream law almost became a reality in one stateI’ve been banging this drum in the comment sections for ages. This and “paper abortions” are like a bingo card of potential constitutional law issues. Had it passed the TN law could also have been challenged bc it discriminates on the basis of marital status. Which would actually hypothetically have been interesting to see arguments in a case. But ultimately aside from constitutional issues w/mandatory testing a state has little incentive to fund mandatory testing for all babies. In my state the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 04:05 PM |
| – | Why is Taylor Swift seen as a role model for young women when she has so many traits representing what’s wrong with the modern woman?Her football boyfriend does come to her concerts and does receive attention at them? I'm not a huge Tswift fan (I like her music just fine) but I've still seen footage of TK at her concerts hyping her up and dancing along. Also why would major networks that carry those game not occasionally pan to her in the audience? She's probably one of the worlds most famous pop stars. It's not uncommon to see other celebrities in the stands, or brief clips of players families in the crowd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Most 50 / 50 LTR's will fail if you are the guy, if you want it to work, you have to exploit a power dynamicThis is weird. Let’s assume all the resources you’re suggesting are in fact available to women the way you say they are. I don’t think most women want all their validation, money, and hookups piecemeal from a bunch of random people they don’t even know. The appeal of a relationship is that you have someone you can trust and rely on who you also (hopefully) like to have sex with. All in one neat little package. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you?My current boyfriend has 5 years. We’ve been dating for 2ish years. He was upfront about his former use right off the bat and honestly it’s weirdly nice to have that in common. We relate to each other in a way other people probably can’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 08:53 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you?It’s an automatic breakup, and maybe call me once you have a year clean and we can talk. I’m in recovery myself and just hit 6 years sober, so for me it’s not something I’m willing to risk in terms of my own sobriety. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 06:58 PM |
| 7 | Is cheating in women ultimately a matter of time and place?Well now I’m definately not going to cum. Guess I’ll just have to wash my hands and head to the car. Or you know, not engage in sex acts at work like a normal person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 02:13 AM |
| 13 | Is cheating in women ultimately a matter of time and place?Ah I see. So my fingers are a no-go for public car masturbation, but my co-workers (presumably also unwashed) fingers inside of me are A-OK. Also is there less social stigma for men masturbating in public? I have so many unanswered questions! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 01:52 AM |
| 20 | Is cheating in women ultimately a matter of time and place?You think the average first-time, rushed, sexual encounter with a straight man is likely to result in an orgasm for your average straight woman? Can you explain why you think a woman masturbating in her car is somehow less discrete than fucking her coworker at their place of employment, presumably on the clock and under video survelience? Mechanically what is different about a man jacking off in the car vs. a woman, aside from maybe needing to pull your pants further down? I'd argue if you were … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 12:41 AM |
| 5 | I Think It’s Okay To Reject A Girl Based On Her Weight.Where are you seeing this? Really and please cite to an actual source and not some delusional individual on TikTok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 07:22 PM |
| 5 | I Think It’s Okay To Reject A Girl Based On Her Weight.Fat acceptance movements broadly focus on fat people’s legal and medical treatment, as well as social acceptance. Fatphobia wasn’t “created” it’s always existed. Generally fat activists are calling for fat people to be treated better by society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 07:16 PM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularWomen don’t really frequent strip clubs the way men do. It’s a novelty experience and usually something you’d only do as a one-off for a bachelorette party or if you have like a very fun aunt and it’s her 50th birthday. If you’re going to go and be ridiculous you probably want the whole Chippendale’s experience, what you imagine a male strip club to be like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 09:58 PM |
| – | Women hate age gap relationships because they are scared of being tossed aside in favour of young womenThe grossness is related to the creepy behavior towards teens. So yeah if I had a friend who was dating a similarly-aged older guy who openly leered at teenage girls I’d probably disapprove of the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: How would you react if you discovered a man you liked wore a toupee, shoe lifts, etc?Hair thinning in women is quite common. Post-pregnancy and aging both can cause it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/23 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Are guys who don't go to college screwed in the dating world?Anecdotal but I met my current boyfriend when I was in law school and he was taking night classes at a community college. He just got his associates degree at 31, it’s a non-issue for me. He might go back to school and he might not but he doesn’t even need the associates for his career. I’ve watched him take his PT construction business full time and even helped work on small projects. It’s super cool to see how talented he is at his trade and how much pride he takes in his work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/23 05:42 PM |
| -3 | Choose better is always the response when women are in bad relationships? Do you show the worse parts of yourself when just meeting someone?“Choose better is code” they mean “choose me” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/23 03:37 AM |
| 3 | Do you think there are more men willing to be house husbands or more women will to have house husbands?I've been a stay at home parent, and now I'm a single working parent. Let me tell you the "gold standard" in child care (assuming you have a willing parent and are able to afford it) is a stay at home parent. You can be virtually assured you have someone who is dedicating their time and attention to your child, and in this case it's ideally the person you trust the most to care for your child or children. You also can work late, leave early, adjust your schedule, travel, etc. with minimal planni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/23 05:06 PM |
| 4 | Affordable paternity tests should be a mandatory part of the birthing process CMVIt really depends on who's asking, and how. In the United States, I'm going to massively generalize, the answer is yes unless there is a specific court order for those records. We don't compel people to give genetic samples unless we're investigating or prosecuting a crime, or in the case of establishing paternity, with the court overseeing those proceedings orders those results. Giving a sample at a hospital for treatment purposes would clearly create some expectations of privacy, that law enfo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 02:28 AM |
| 5 | Affordable paternity tests should be a mandatory part of the birthing process CMVBut you’re creating a system where the government by necessity would need to access medical records. Because you’re saying this should be done at the time of birth at the hospital. Anytime child support is established for a child of unmarried parents dad has to either attest to paternity or there is a court-ordered paternity test. In the latter scenario the test results become part of the court record, they don’t just let you go out and do your own test, and then report back. You have to go to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 01:28 AM |
| 20 | Affordable paternity tests should be a mandatory part of the birthing process CMVBecause you’re creating a system where a huge portion of the population is handing over their genetic profile to the state. There are some serious constitutional issues that arise. Like a law school essay exams worth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 01:00 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Women complain about the double standards when it comes to sex while also identifying the reason when it’s convenientI think people are confusing a hysterectomy with tubal ligation or removal. A hysterectomy in with a c section would absolutely make an already complicated invasive procedure more complicated and require much longer recovery time. Caesarian hysterectomies are only done when absolutely medically necessary, usually an emergency procedure to save the mother’s life. Tubal ligation also impacts recovery time, but to a lesser extent. Those can be electively performed during a planned c section. Althou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 11:48 PM |
| 0 | Alimony was never cash and prizesNo contract is enforceable if it doesn’t comply with the law or is fundamentally unfair. But modern prenups drafted by a lawyer who knows the area of law, and comply with the uniform prenuptial agreement act (when applicable) are usually enforceable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 07:16 PM |
| 0 | Alimony was never cash and prizesA lot of people build alimony in to a prenup. Like if we’re married for x years, you get y number of years of alimony. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Alimony was never cash and prizesIn my opinion to understand the necessity of no fault divorce you have to study case law during the time when it wasn’t allowed. It’s quite difficult to prove behavior occurring within the confines of a private relationship, and parties had every incentive to air all their dirty laundry in court. Sometimes couples would collude to “prove” adultery that never happened so they could get divorced. They were long, complicated, contentious legal battles. Making no fault divorce available can streamli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 06:59 PM |
| 1 | What was your parent's relationship dynamic like?Yes Yes Not when I was younger. As an adult occasionally one of them will mention a disagreement they have, but they appear to be minor. Very rarely Very rarely Yes Almost all on my mom. Dad worked crazy hours when we were younger, slightly less towards the end of his career but mom handled pretty much everything. Now that dad is retired its more equitable. Same as answer above. Now that they have grandkids I still see my mom doing a lot more of the active child care with the grandchildren, with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/23 05:50 PM |
| 1 | “80% of women date 20% of men” is BSYou're conflating a lot of different issues into one. "Government is also basically their provider husband." Women only organizations and homeless shelters are private organizations, although shelters do receive some government funding. Women being promoted for diversity purposes, assuming that's what's happening in any case a woman advances in her career, is similarly not something that is caused by government interference, outright. I don't want to talk about parental leave too much because it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/23 12:28 AM |
| 10 | The one factor that causes the breakdown of the relationship that we're apparently not allowed to discuss: children. (part 2)I’ve noticed this sub likes to talk a lot about biology and how it determines our behavior. Women are more likely to have healthy pregnancies when they’re spaced out, 12-18 months at least between childbirth and conception of another child. Gives your body time to heal. Also think about how human infants require so much more in infancy than other animals. Babies need to get the bulk of their nutrition from milk for the first year of their life. They don’t walk until at least this time as well. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/23 04:20 PM |
| 13 | The one factor that causes the breakdown of the relationship that we're apparently not allowed to discuss: children. (part 2)It’s reasonable to expect intimacy changes though, especially with very young children. I had a baby and sex was painful until I stopped breastfeeding. I couldn’t get wet. I went to my doctor who told me to just “drink a glass of wine and relax” (I don’t drink). I tried a lot of different things to jump start my sex drive and also tried to focus more on quality time with my partner and non-sexual intimacy. But I don’t think many women are withholding sex PP to be vindictive or cruel. It’s just e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/23 04:03 PM |
| 7 | The one factor that causes the breakdown of the relationship that we're apparently not allowed to discuss: children. (part 2)In my experience when mom is still breast feeding you need to accept the possibility that sex might look different or be less frequent and listen to her if she asks for change or help. Like maybe sex is on the table but she dose t want her breasts touched, or some women want more non-sexual intimacy. Your drive takes a bit hit due to hormones and also if you spend most of your day and a lot of the night being touched by the baby you crave some time where no one is touching your body. Giving mom … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/23 03:44 PM |
| 15 | “80% of women date 20% of men” is BSI don’t know how to explain this accurately. If you just showed me pictures of dudes with zero context the men I’d pick out of the lineup as especially attractive and would likely not overlap with the men I might be attracted to IRL. I’ve had crazy sexual chemistry with men I didn’t find super sexy immediately. I’ve also found men really good looking, objectively, but been completely unmoved sexually by. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/23 01:14 AM |
| 14 | “80% of women date 20% of men” is BSMan some of you have not applied for benefits and it shows. It’s not lucrative. Also most of those welfare programs provide more funds for children. Those children are just more likely to live with a single mom. It’s not like being a single woman gets you fast-tracked for HUD housing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/23 12:59 AM |
| 5 | most women don't deserve chivalry from menI want to, and do many of them. My boyfriend usually bodies me out the way to walk so he's closest to traffic, and is rather physically protective. No ones standing up when we enter or leave a room because neither one of us is royalty or a judge presiding in a court room. But like exchanging thoughtful gifts, paying for dates, giving compliments, checking to see the other got home safely or giving a ride. All stuff we each to for each other. I have never fixed his vehicle alignment, although I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 03:17 AM |
| 5 | most women don't deserve chivalry from menWhat if I think old fashioned dating behaviors displayed by men should be done by both partners, save for maybe physical protectiveness. And both parties should be loyal, faithful, attempt to be a good listeners, and show patience with each other. Oh and seek to provide each other with emotional support. I get that "seeking consent" has I guess? been historically associated with men. Actually now that I'm typing it out I have some questions about that. But it's 2023, baby. Consent isn't just a s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 03:03 AM |
| 1 | The reality is that women do not bring desired traits to the tableOooh Becky is a little spicy today, and I like it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/23 03:29 AM |
| 1 | All of men's dating issues are caused by menDo you…usually only compliment people because you have to? Aside from basic social niceties I compliment people because I want to. I sincerely believe what I’m saying and it makes me feel happy to communicate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 02:57 PM |
| 11 | All of men's dating issues are caused by menThis is depressing. I made and dropped off a lasagna at my boyfriends house this week because I knew he was going to be too busy to cook/it would make him happy. And I compliment him all the time. You gotta find some nicer ladies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Why are people okay with the government being involved when child support is an issue, but want the government to stay out of it when it comes to the issue of mandatory paternity tests?In my state fathers are allowed to disestablish paternity in court if they can show their initial acknowledgement was made due to fraud or coercion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Why are people okay with the government being involved when child support is an issue, but want the government to stay out of it when it comes to the issue of mandatory paternity tests?From the article you linked "St. Augustine Attorney Brandon Beardsley has been practicing family law for more than 16 years. He was surprised by the Department of Revenue's decision to file an appeal "I’ve never seen this happen before," said Beardsley. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 03:23 AM |
| 2 | What is up with the term “tingles”?Alternatively I've tried to ignore the lack of "tingles" early on, because a dude had so many green flags. This is always (for me) a precursor to the relationship fizzling out even though I would go in to it hoping to find some spark along the way. It's hard to manufacture sexual attraction even if you think the guy is perfect on paper. There are a subset of men that are both sexually appealing and also very good dudes. I think it's just hard as a straight lady who dates men to find one who fill… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 03:33 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Asking for a paternity test is not an accusation of cheating, and women who think like that are red flagsDo you know how acknowledgement of paternity works in your jurisdiction? In my state there is in fact both a legal window of for the father to delay signing a BC, or to resend acknowledgment. And the ability to refute paternity outside that window of time if the father can show they acknowledged due to fraud or duress. Men who are married to the mother can also refute the presumption of paternity. So you can and should get a DNA test when baby is born or even before, if that’s a concern. However… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 07:57 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?https://www.reuters.com/fact-check/no-law-requires-dna-testing-establish-paternity-united-states-2023-09-13/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 03:25 AM |
| – | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?It won’t be long until every hospital in every western country is paternity testing every baby as a standard so no man has to ask. ooooh do tell. Why do you think this is an inevitability? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?I've seen a handful of cases where men are determined to not be bio dad and still ordered to pay support. Usually splashy headlines where dad has been raising kiddo for years as his own before he finds out. How often are men court ordered to pay support for children when they have legally determined the child is not their own, and under what circumstances? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 04:05 PM |
| 7 | What do you think about instagram comment sections on dating reels?The comment section of most reels are absolute war zones. Seriously. Anything that is even remotely controversial will have the dregs of humanity in the comment section being extra shitty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 04:01 PM |
| 1 | If "love" is primarily conditional on transactions, wealth, education, etc., then it's not really love. So what's the point?Adult relationships should be transactional. Or if you wanna be less cynical relationships should be mutually beneficial and conditional. I disagree with your argument that there is unilateral or even majority agreement among straight women that men need to be more educated or wealthier. Especially from the jump. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 03:51 PM |
| 12 | Q4W: Can you get why some men have a problem being initially seen as "relationship material" vs being "for fun"?If this is actually happening, sure I can see how that would hurt someone’s feelings. However trying a specific sex act and then deciding it’s not for you doesn’t mean your arousal levels with a new partner are luke warm. However I’ve said it once here and I’ll say it again. I don’t do hookups because I’ve tried in the past and now matter how attractive I find a guy I have a hard time enjoying sex until I’ve gotten to know someone. My body can’t relax enough and I don’t feel comfortable lowering… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 09:18 PM |
| 1 | The Percentage of Rape Victims Who Are Men, and the Percentage of Perpetrators Who Are Women, is Higher Than Most People ThinkFor anyone curious hermesmann v. seyer is the case in they teach in law school to discuss child support orders for statutory rape victims. Be warned it is pretty bleak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 11:25 PM |
| 2 | The Percentage of Rape Victims Who Are Men, and the Percentage of Perpetrators Who Are Women, is Higher Than Most People ThinkI'm really sorry that happened to you, friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 08:30 PM |
| 3 | The Percentage of Rape Victims Who Are Men, and the Percentage of Perpetrators Who Are Women, is Higher Than Most People ThinkI agree that sexual violence perpetrated by women against men is seen as less serious. Cultural reasons abound. From personal experience men in my life have described sexual encounters to me (about other women) and they don't conceptualize them as rape/assualt even though from my understanding they were non-consensual. For example being coerced into hooking up because the woman told him she would tell everyone he was gay if he didn't have sex with her. Or waking up to a woman inserting them insi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 08:24 PM |
| 1 | The real reason women hate when older guys get with younger girlsLargely I don't believe shame or judgement are particularly useful as a tools. I do believe you're conflating a lot of people expressing concern or reflecting on their own experience regarding this matter as judgement or jealousy. And some people are going to come out and say "ew, gross, stop" and certainly are entitled to think that way. It's not the most productive way of discussing this but it's probably emotionally honest. In the same vein I think men on this sub can talk about their own des… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 06:08 PM |
| 2 | The real reason women hate when older guys get with younger girlsIt's interesting that you conflate military enlistment and higher ed in your comparison. I understand the need for a black and white minimum age to consent. However I know that military recruiters often specifically target very young and often poor people for enlistment. Similarly college admissions departments often over-promise ROIs for potential students, and encourage students to take out large, high-interest loans in order to pay for a degree. Both institutions can be predatory and specific… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 03:34 PM |
| 8 | CMV: It’s not misogynistic or controlling for men to expect/ask the women they date or marry to not dress like they are still singleMy boyfriend straight up doesn’t care. In fact I think he’d prefer I show more skin. I dress modestly in my everyday life (especially at work) bc I have boobs that make somewhat reserved tops look scandalous. But he is A OK with me dressing more provocatively with him, or without him. It’s honestly really nice. Especially in the summer covering up and/or always wearing a supportive and compressive bra isn’t comfortable for me. My point is if you saw us out and I was wearing short shorts, he woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 09:04 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Red pill views of family law (divorce, custody, child support) have little to no basis in realityDecisions regarding education and medical care are considered “legal custody” and parenting time is called “physical custody.” Even in situations where one parent has primary physical, legal is more often shared between the two of them, equally. Some states also make child care and private school tuition separate from actual child support, with each parent contributing a portion of tuition. I split daycare and preschool costs with my daughters father 50/50, and I can’t pull her from any program … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 03:39 AM |
| 7 | The orgasm gap would be smaller if women took the time to communicate their needs instead of expecting things to magically happen to themI briefly hooked up with a very attractive man who was arguably out of my league for a variety of reasons. But his disinterest in my sexual pleasure made it quite easy to move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 02:51 PM |
| 10 | The orgasm gap would be smaller if women took the time to communicate their needs instead of expecting things to magically happen to themIf this is true than I’m very confused about the narrative that we’re all so hung up on ghosts of chad, who left a dick print on our hearts so now we can’t pair bond? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 02:26 PM |
| 6 | Women who have to rely on vibrators and other toys to get off during sex aren't worth men dating.(NSFW)Truly. Being with a partner who views my sexual pleasure as a priority, instead of incidental, has unlocked a level of my sexuality I didn’t know existed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.So it appears your stance is "If there is a gendered problem, then the answer is to address the larger long-term societal issue and not put responsibility on the opposite gender to step up and address the short-term issue. No. There is absolutely a responsibility for women to step up and address many issues facing men. I mentioned mass incarceration specifically for that reason. The over-incarceration of men is both morally wrong and indirectly hurts women as well. Suicidality in men is another … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.I think if you look back at my responses to you you'll see I'm not advocating for shaming the older partner at all, and instead focusing on potential consequences for young people. Of course the draft is a gendered issue. Making conscription mandatory for woman wouldn't right that wrong, In the same way that encouraging harsher sentencing and mass incarceration of women wouldn't be correct, either. Instead we shouldn't be making anyone sign up for the draft, and affording non-violent male offend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.But I’m not advocating for changing the minimum age to consent to anything you’re proposing. (Aside from the draft). The US military preys on young people because they value their youth and take advantage of young people’s potential naivety. Which can be a similar reason much older people specifically seek younger partners. Also this is a gender and dating debate sub, my guy. If this were a community that discussed contract law I’d have similar views as dating. 18-year olds might not be mature e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 05:30 PM |
| 8 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.There’s a big difference between feeling a sense of maternalistic protection for young women (and young men) in this instance, and arguing the age of consent should be raised by law. And I’ve never seen a single woman on this sub advocate in favor of mandatory conscription. Young people are entitled to access certain rights at certain ages because those laws create clear boundaries to protect kids and also to gradually encourage autonomy over their decision making. I can vividly remember feeling… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 02:27 AM |
| 3 | Men should just refuse to get marriedThere are like four immediate legal issues I spot with this proposal. Starting with “it should be no problem to change the law” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather be with a man who raises kids that aren't his? Or one the has kids he doesn't raise?My boyfriend has two kids with an ex girlfriend, and his oldest isn't his, biologically. It's a long story but bio mom is out of the picture and he is raising both kids as his own. The major downside is that we have three kids between the two of us, plus school and work and life. So our schedules are a little out of whack. However I can't imagine dating a man who abandoned his own child or children. I appreciate dating an involved parent. I don't know if we'll have kids of our own, but I so appr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather be with a man who raises kids that aren't his? Or one the has kids he doesn't raise?In some jurisdictions you can pursue custody using ILP or another equivalent legal theory, even if the biological parent objects to visitation. I have not seen a lot of case law where de facto step parents are pursuing shared custody or visitation rights after a breakup. I assume its somewhat rare, just based on research I have done in the past. Bio parents are usually presumed to be acting in their child's best interests, when determining who that child or children can spend time with. Anecdota… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Would you rather be with a man who raises kids that aren't his? Or one the has kids he doesn't raise?This isn’t always true. Look up the doctrine of in loco parentis. In the US non-biological parents can have standing to pursue custody and visitation to children they raised, but didn’t sire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 05:58 PM |
| 11 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?This. I was with a long-term partner when I was a lot younger, who was offended when I tried to touch myself during sex. He wanted me to orgasm from penetration alone, and got upset if I tried to stimulate myself. I think it offended his ego, like he wasn't enough or something. In reality I just really struggle to orgasm with penetration, alone. He didn't like performing oral sex, either. I was young and dumb, so I just kept having sex with him the way he wanted. And so I rarely finished. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 03:17 PM |
| 1 | how important is oral / fore play for you as a woman in terms of how much you like a man?In my experience being great at fucking = learning and being enthusiastic about my pleasure. I feel like men (sometimes) think of great sex in terms of raw skill you bring to the table. But like most things in life, good sex is a skill you develop over time with practice and dedication with the person you’re choosing to have sex with. my current partner is by far the best lover l have ever had but that’s because of his enthusiasm for making me feel good. I also find him very attractive. I’ve nev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 03:44 AM |
| 1 | how important is oral / fore play for you as a woman in terms of how much you like a man?In my experience being great at fucking = learning and being enthusiastic about my pleasure. I feel like men (sometimes) think of great sex in terms of raw skill you bring to the table. But like most things in life, good sex is a skill you develop over time with practice and dedication with the person you’re choosing to have sex with. my current partner is by far the best lover l have ever had but that’s because of his enthusiasm for making me feel good. I’ve never had a mind blowing first time.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 03:43 AM |
| 4 | AF/BB is a bad strategy for women.I married your 7/10 guy. Tech guy, nerdy, shy, not a lot of experience with women. I did find him attractive. And it turns out he wasn’t as “nice” as he seemed. Controlling, angry, all the things he said he loved about me in the beginning he ended up disliking about me. Plus he was super in to the redpill stuff when we met. Although I didn’t know what RP even was at that time. consuming that content made him pretty bitter about women and it seemed often that he took that bitterness out on me. So… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 11:54 PM |
| 3 | We all agree that women are attracted to men who display competence and drive, but are women also disgusted by the very effort it takes to reach the level of competence they admire?I actually think it’s very cool to watch my partner tackle new skills as he builds his business from the ground up. He took his part-time side hustle full-time this year. It shows me that he takes pride in his work, learns from his mistakes, and how he productively manages his stress levels. I’m merely an anecdote. Maybe some women only want to see a finished product? I have also seen a variation of this phenomenon with men and women alike. Basically dudes tend to like women they see as naturall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 06:21 PM |
| 6 | A lot of women, especially those on the younger side, crave excitement and adventure, not stabilityRight. Long term relationships benefit from seeking adventure or novelty together. As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned how valuable it is to a partner that wants to go on adventures with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 03:25 PM |
| 1 | As a woman, you can afford to be lazy and uninteresting and you'll still find someone to provide and take care of you.Confirmation bias is a real thing. You’re more likely to remember these anecdotes if they align with your beliefs. Women are more likely to argue with you if they have a more equitable values when it comes to money and dating. The truth is likely somewhere in between. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Single mothers by choice is extremely selfish and should be illegalAre we talking about the us? Because I’m fairly certain this proposal of yours would be unconstitutional. Also, silly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Have we "run out" of women (for the prime dating ages at least)If we’re talking 18-30 disparities are based on trades. Big metropolitan areas have more folks in tech. Dudes still dominate many of those spaces. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Does the past matter? Talking about sexual historyI don’t speak for all women. I am more adventurous in committed relationships. I don’t like casual sex, not for moral reasons but because I don’t feel comfortable letting my inhibitions go with someone I just met. LTRs are where the real fun begins. My boyfriend now “gets” my kinkiest self. Because he makes me feel completely comfortable to try new things, and I’m incredibly attracted to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Men vs Women entering universityYou forgot TikTok outrage content | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Being unsuccessful with women doesn't mean someone is a misogynistYou know why 👀👀👀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Women who say Chad isn’t their type. Yes he is lol, you just over low very minor and superficial differences.Why would we listen to the opinions of real women sharing their lived experience, when instead we could defer to straight men seething on the internet? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 06:56 PM |
| 2 | It is hard to be empathic to women's struggles in single motherhood when they have literally all sexual and dating powerThe major assumption you’re making is that the former man will make a good father/partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 02:45 PM |
| 3 | When women have bad relationships they are told to “pick better” but when men are, we assign blame to womenChild support is for offloading financial responsibility from the state, whenever possible. That’s why the financial abortion argument tickles me so. You aren’t relieved of your obligation to pay CS unless the child is adopted, or your parental rights are terminated due to neglect or abuse. Goes for both parents, by the way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 06:40 PM |
| 1 | When women have bad relationships they are told to “pick better” but when men are, we assign blame to womenHow could anyone argue with such a fact-based/non-emotional argument? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 05:52 PM |
| 5 | Should abortion require the permission of the father?Mortality rates are relatively low. However it’s a major medical event that can and does go wrong and can lead to permanent disability. I see dudes say this all the time and I get it, you probably can’t understand. I underwent pregnancy and child birth voluntarily and had a relatively uncomplicated pregnancy with a very long and somewhat complicated birth. You’re subject to dozens of invasive medical exams, painful and uncomfortable procedures. It’s undignified and bloody and painful. Psychologi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 05:07 PM |
| 3 | Fashion and Models with morbid obesityTotally. In the west it’s very difficult to disentangle health issues from issues stemming from poverty, generally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Fashion and Models with morbid obesityPoor people heavily rely on processed food because it’s inexpensive and shelf-stable. Plus it takes less time to prepare. Taxing it heavily would probably compound food insecurity. It might reduce weight in those populations, but if they’re still eating the same foods in smaller quantities, their overall health wouldn’t improve much. I’ve seen some interesting studies on increasing SNAP funds for unprocessed foods instead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 09:49 PM |
| 5 | Fashion and Models with morbid obesityI see body diversity in men’s fashion advertising on a regular basis. Less body positivity content for men, to be sure. But I imagine part of it is that men seem highly resistant to that content. Whenever I chime in on these discussions and say, maybe let’s be less shitty to fat people? The dudes are always the ones shouting me down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 09:33 PM |
| 5 | Q4W : Why would you be attracted to a physically unattractive man?I wouldn’t be with a man that’s physically unattractive to me. But I have dated all of the above at one point or another. Current boyfriend is totally bald, and I think he’s hot as hell. Part of that is his personality but part of my attraction is very physical. Historically I like short, broad shouldered dudes who are a little stocky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Relationships are just a carnal diversion. Something we do to stave off boredom at best or a crippling addiction at it's worst (inceldom). All we are really doing is satiating a biological compulsion that is hard wired in all of us. Just sex with extra steps.There are plenty of dudes on here bitching about how we should eradicate no-fault divorce and welfare benefits in an effort to “encourage” women away from “hypergamy.” Just a bit odd to see a PPD user pivot so hard in the opposite direction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Commentary by divorce lawyer: reasons for divorce due to women being expected to do it allI don’t think it’s a bad thing to have a job! I have one too. Part of my job is helping people try and access federal benefit programs. think it’s a bad idea to suggest people can comfortably or easily subsist on welfare. Also men have access to those programs, as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 03:32 AM |
| 2 | Your 'standards' are irrelevant. The dating market tells you what you're worthWhat’s your rant about ? Because you’re dancing pretty close to the whole, “single moms shouldn’t get welfare b/c they’re sluts” argument. An ever popular talking point on PPD. Also, women pay taxes, homie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 11:54 PM |
| 5 | Your 'standards' are irrelevant. The dating market tells you what you're worthGod this again, it’s amazing! You’re so close to a good point, too. While individual shareholders and investors aren’t insulated from loss, you know which groups of people are? Big ass corporations. Who protects them? The legal system, and the federal government. I know no one who says this has actually applied for welfare or subsist largely on government benefits. It’s not an easy or highly lucrative endeavor. Oh and last I checked men can still get PELL grants?! And most forms of government as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 09:16 PM |
| 3 | Commentary by divorce lawyer: reasons for divorce due to women being expected to do it allTell me you’ve never applied for or used welfare benefits, without telling me. welfare distribution for single mothers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Study show that straight women are disproportionaly more likely to search porn with violence against women and where they are being raped abused and endure physical violence, than straight men do.Well now it’s because you’re avoiding responding to the question. And it’s not a narrative, I told you it’s experience. Would you let someone you didn’t know handcuff you to a bed? Even if they were like, super hot? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 05:03 PM |
| 5 | Study show that straight women are disproportionaly more likely to search porn with violence against women and where they are being raped abused and endure physical violence, than straight men do.I’m basing my opinion of my own experience and those of real people I know in real life. Yours I assume is something you’ve read from other men, on message boards like this one. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 03:47 PM |
| 5 | Study show that straight women are disproportionaly more likely to search porn with violence against women and where they are being raped abused and endure physical violence, than straight men do.Plenty of romance novels and even movies and shows for little kids, feature a female protagonist who is being forced to interact with the male protagonist, or even captured by him, only to realize she in fact is in love with him. Or a depiction of a woman scantily clad in some type of bondage gear. See princes leia in the gold bikini/jasmine at the end of Aladdin. I think a lot of fantasies or kinks we have as adults are just ideas we were exposed to as children or young adults, and intrigued us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 03:45 PM |
| 5 | Study show that straight women are disproportionaly more likely to search porn with violence against women and where they are being raped abused and endure physical violence, than straight men do.This is a wild take. and one I see often here and it makes me think y’all don’t know that many women, or are hanging out with some that have issues. I would never ever do BDSM-adjacent activities with someone I didn’t know well and deeply trusted. I don’t like making value judgements about other people or their sex lives, but letting a stranger tie you up or degrade you is objectively dangerous. I have only ever explored such activities in my committed monogamous relationship. The few casual hoo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Men's obsession with the sexual purity and virginity of women harms young menI think wanting someone with similar experience or values is fair enough. But realistically if you (or other men who hold this view) were presented with the opportunity to date whatever the female equivalent of the hot tattooed biker boy is, when you were younger. You would have astutely passed, thinking of saving yourself for the “right” future partner. I know as many women who have a regrettable bad boy in their past, as I do men who have a “hot, but crazy, ex.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Men's obsession with the sexual purity and virginity of women harms young menDoing an at home test and sending it to a local testing center to process is $199 dollars in my area. You can get one for $100 at Walgreens and mail in samples. A court ordered test and processing runs up to $500 total in my state. So compared to 18 years of child support + untold emotional trauma, a paternity test costs comparatively little. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Being a tradwife, RPW in this day and age is likely to attract narcissistsCharacteristics of NPD include “Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others.” People with NPD are very often terrible partners. Those who maintain long term relationships are either abusive, or they mask as decent people because it’s beneficial to them. So some narcissists might act like decent people but they’re doing it out of self interest, not love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 01:38 AM |
| 3 | Being a tradwife, RPW in this day and age is likely to attract narcissistsA combative woman is going to go for the jugular every time, whether it's her fair share or not. She's going to leave when she feels like it and take what she can on the way out. A ride-or-die is with you for life. didnt JB pretty publicly get caught with his dick out? If Steadman married Oprah before she blew up, he should be allowed to take half her company because he "supported" her? Women would be in a uproar if that happened. he would be entitled to half the property accrued in their marria… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 01:27 AM |
| 7 | Dating as a “mid” woman isn’t as easy as most men make it out to beThis is an unhinged take based on nothing but a feeling you have. It just doesn’t match any real world experience I’ve had or heard of. For starters you’re automatically assuming banging a “way better looking” man will be sexually satisfying, what if he’s bad in bed or the chemistry isn’t there? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 09:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV : Its the badness in and of itself that women find attractive in badboys, not the strength and confidence it representsAh. How benevolent. I don’t know if you’re American so I’m going to ignore the constitutional implications of terminating parental rights w/o due process. And the sort of general ethical quandary I have with taking kids from their parents because you think mom is slutty, and therefore undeserving of welfare, and skip to the practical side of things. Have you perhaps, thought about the cost benefit analysis of providing mom with some benefits, vs. making tens? of thousands of kids wards of the st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 07:59 PM |
| – | Are the majority of men against abortion doing so only to fulfill a deeply unconscious evolutionary desire for reproduction of their own lineage (that abortion threatens) or socio-cultural reasons that revolve around morality, belief, philosophy, etc.?That doctor you’re referring to is in prison for both murder and manslaughter, and will be for the rest of his life. He should be, too. He was a fucking monster. The majority of abortions in the US take place within the first trimester and are medical (aka patient takes two pills and induces a miscarriage). Around 10% of abortions use d&e, which is the process you’re probably referring to. 1% or less abortions are taking place after 21 weeks. It’s rare that a woman has this type of procedure and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | CMV : Its the badness in and of itself that women find attractive in badboys, not the strength and confidence it representsIgnoring some of the broader stereotypes you’re relying on, what’s the alternative? Whether we like it or not some people make poor choices. Many of those people have children. Some people don’t have the higher order skills to fend for themselves. Some people are literally not smart enough, or too mentally ill to function well in society without help. If we left them on their own when they fucked up we’d have an underclass of people (and their children) who were in even more dire straights. Do y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.When the 80/20 concept is brought up it’s used to rationalize some weird rp/bp gobbledygook about how women are too selective because they’ve “hopped on the cock carousel” and now have an inflated sense of self-worth. Basically you take a theory that is probably true, women are generally more selective/find fewer men attractive, and attribute it to something that’s not true for many. I know an awful lot of women who’ve have varied sexual histories. And a lot of the rhetoric you read on here abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 08:22 PM |
| 28 | Women don't appreciate male breadwinnersY’all always looks at what seems fair in the aggregate, without thinking about how a good relationship actually functions. Work load changes, commutes change, homes change, your health changes, kids come in to The mix and then then eventually move out. All that stuff fluctuates. At the end of the day do you think your partner deserves time off to rest and enjoy hobbies? Do you trust that your partner is doing their best, even if their capacity changes depending on the circumstances? If the answe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 11:24 PM |
| 1 | I regularly see women say on here that men overrate their own appearance, but women are guilty of this to a significantly higher degree.I acknowledged smoking one paragraph down, shouldn’t have stopped reading. I literally linked multiple studies showing you how your attitude not only doesn’t promote health, it makes fat people sicker. Oh and I’m a recovering alcoholic btw. So when I do step work with other people who are suffering I don’t tell them binge drinking drinking makes them cool and to live there lives! I treat them with kindness and love. I also offer approaches to sobriety I know in fact, work. They don’t need more s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 10:46 PM |
| 1 | I regularly see women say on here that men overrate their own appearance, but women are guilty of this to a significantly higher degree.You’re actually using an entire argument based on your feelings. You’re confusing my general suggestion that we treat fat people with respect, with my overarching argument that social shaming of obesity is absolutely ineffective at promoting weight loss. You think obesity rates are higher and there are slightly more fat people represented in popular media, so it feels intuitive those things are connected, when there is no evidence to show that. So if shame isn’t an effective tool what do we do? … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 06:03 PM |
| 3 | I regularly see women say on here that men overrate their own appearance, but women are guilty of this to a significantly higher degree.I think you’re taking the 80/20 principle and conflating it with some of the more objectionable content on TikTok. I don’t doubt women on average find fewer men attractive, as opposed to men who generally find more women attractive “enough.” But off social media most of us don’t have an inflated Dick size or height threshold. I can’t tell you how often one of my girlfriends is absolutely PRESSED about a dude and I’m just kind of “eh” about him. I’m not suggesting I’m some sort of babe either who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 12:04 AM |
| 2 | I regularly see women say on here that men overrate their own appearance, but women are guilty of this to a significantly higher degree.I didn’t say not finding fat people is attractive is bad. I said speaking about them with distain and hatred is bad. I don’t care if you personally don’t want to have sex with someone who is fat. It’s fucked up to judge someone even if you think they’re unhealthy. And weight is related more closely to environment and genetics than individual will power or lack thereof. That’s why you see specific communities with higher rates of obesity. When we focus on weight as a singular health marker we mis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 10:38 PM |
| 5 | I regularly see women say on here that men overrate their own appearance, but women are guilty of this to a significantly higher degree.This is…disorganized. I understand corporations are using diversity to make money. I’m under no impression sports illustrated or Disney make any significant moves they don’t ultimately think will be profitable or generate publicity. I just don’t think it’s a bad thing that the public at large finds more diverse entertainment and media desirable enough to argue over wanting more of it, or not finding it objectionable. There’s a lot more to be said about not just using diverse bodies, but seeking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 08:37 PM |
| 8 | Men dont actually care about a women being healthyNo women is getting criticized for being slightly above ideal healthy weight Many of us grew up with parents who did exactly that, from a young age. Kinda fucks up your relationship with food and your body for a while. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 07:05 PM |
| 7 | I regularly see women say on here that men overrate their own appearance, but women are guilty of this to a significantly higher degree.Saying you aren’t attracted to fat women is fine? It’s bad when people speak about fat people with hatred, just for existing, that’s objectively shitty. lizzo is fucking disgusting Also those women on SI covers aren’t on there by force. They’re invited because somewhere along the way sports illustrated decided it would could be profitable to feature those women. I don’t understand why fat people can’t exist in public forums without ridicule. If you don’t like it vote with your dollars and engage… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 06:52 PM |
| 7 | CMV: Women complain about the "expectation" to wear makeup even though they enjoy it.Most of the time not wearing makeup is not a barrier to entry in the work force. It’s something that can count against you when you’re compared to your peers. This is particular true if you work directly with important clients or are in specific jobs where the expectation is business attire, or in hospitality. Many of us will conform to unspoken etiquette at work because it’s not worth it to make a stand. We also might complain about it because it is in fact, irritating. I don’t really get why t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/23 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Do you think woman have greater in group bias?Ummmm the examples you provided are weird ones. Generally speaking, sure. I see greater cohesion among women, or solidarity with each other when it comes to certain social issues. You’ll see it here, too. I’m sure there are more factors at play but women tend to back each other up on discussion, where a lot of the men tend to critique each others posts more often. But I think y’all need to get off TikTok. I do not believe most women are out there cheering for their fellow sisters who are robbing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 06:01 PM |
| – | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?Damn it, take my upvote. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 03:03 AM |
| 5 | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?Yes. Fancy dinner costs $$$ but otherwise requires little effort. Picnic date requires some time and intention to plan. I think if he packed two pbj’s in a ziplock bag I might be unimpressed. But if he made in a little effort to put some things together and had a pretty spot in mind I’d be in to the idea. My now boyfriend proposed a walk in the botanical garden for our first date with coffee afterwards, and got super in to the lawn gnome scavenger hunt they offered for free at the front gate. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 12:46 AM |
| – | Let's talk about the recent TwoX post and the concept of "emotional labor"I have always understood the term in the former context. There is (in my experience) an observable gender gap in who keeps track of everything on the home front. The relationships I’ve seen where it’s more balanced have a stay at home dad. I think emotional awareness and communication is more nuanced. Both concepts suffer from ingrained stereotypes about how men and women should express themselves, and the roles they are expected to carry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 02:20 AM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.I said intersect, not follow. Ideally the law should follow medicine, or experts in the field the law is implicating. I have several points I’ve relied on throughout this exchange. Instead of working through most of my arguments you’re pedantic or come back to the fact that because I disagree with some of his view points I must want him to be sanctioned or punished because of those viewpoints. https://cpa.ca/docs/File/Ethics/CPA_Code_2017_4thEd.pdf Look at pages 33-34. His behavior is in clear v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 12:40 AM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.Just because an issue overlaps with a political issue doesn’t make it “pure politics” almost all aspects of health care intersect with the law. The MMS works because it’s an alternative “medicine” that’s promoted by supporters of Qanon. A doctor being reprimanded for promotion drinking bleach can argue their being censored because of their political beliefs. But they would be promoting behavior that wasn’t in line with the practice of safe medicine. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/suspended… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 10:14 PM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.He’s not being charged with a crime. He possibly could, I don’t understand the Canadian laws about hate crimes well enough to weigh in on that. Peterson is facing having his license suspended and being de platformed. If a doctor wasn’t recommending Miracle Mineral Solutions to his patients but was telling everyone on Facebook they should be taking it, she might loose her license to practice medicine and get kicked of Facebook. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 09:20 PM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.I’ve gotten heavily in the weeds with other users in this thread about specific instances. He’s a smart guy, a good debater, he tends to say things that are objectionable and then walk them back later. Usually there’s a thin veneer of deniability. He didn’t realize the guy he posted a picture with on twitter who was wearing a MAGA hat, flashing the white power sign, and holding a Pepe flag was a white supremacist, for example. But most recently he got on twitter and deadnamed and misgendered Ell… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 09:09 PM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.Just because you say he’s not sexist because it doesn’t feel sexist to you, doesn’t make it true, homie. I provided you with the general definition, applied it to his own comments. He thinks no one should be pressured into social conformity except women should be pressured into monogamy. Even if you say he didn’t mean literally forced “how could anyone ever extrapolate he meant forced when he used the word enforced!” /s he himself acknowledges its contradictory behavior. He just doesn’t care. He… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 09:00 PM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.When I say he’s transphobic I don’t mean he’s the most insidious bigot I’ve ever seen. Hes probably not in the top 5 worst people Joe Rogan has has on his show. He’s comparing the fact that trans people are becoming more visible to the satanic panic which isn’t even a good metaphor. The satanic panic involved accusing other individuals of that behavior, not people self-identifying as satanist pedophiles in mass. There are in fact broadly accepted theories about the emergence of more trans people… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Do you care about morals when choosing a partner?The central premise overwhelmingly expressed on this sub is that men are more sexually motivated, and less selective. Can you honestly tell me that if a younger you was approached by a 19-year old mega hottie who was a 10/10 but openly rude and a little unstable, you wouldn’t have jumped at the chance to bang her and try and keep it going? Let’s say, by virtue of her age and not necessarily her morals, she had a low number of former partners. Honestly most of y’all would have learned the hard wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 07:03 AM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.Transphobia doesn’t require violence against trans people. It’s a fear or aversion to trans people that can include violence. Peterson waffles all the time about whether or not he would be willing to use gender pronouns if requested. He uses the word transsexual which is no longer appropriate and he should know that because he’s a psychologist, and it’s no longer used in the DSM. He said some fucked up stuff about Elliot Page I’m not going to repeat but I’ll link it here if you care to read it. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 06:14 AM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.The problem is incels align themselves with men like Peterson. And I get that, to an extent. He’s talking about and taking seriously a problem that is important to these men. But Peterson takes it a step further, you’re lonely and struggling, and here’s who to blame. He’s repeatedly attributes male violence to women not complying with enforced monogamy. He’s sexist, sometimes racist, and homophonic. So when incels consume this content they’re getting the validation they crave but also absorbing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 04:35 AM |
| 2 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.Oh my god I feel like you’re being willfully obtuse. Sexism = “prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex.” Peterson is saying he’s against forms of social control, except when it comes to women and monogamy. The most generous interpretation of his statement is that he thinks it’s ok for women to be pressured into monogamy, but it’s not ok for society to attempt to control others behavior in the same way. That’s discrimination, based on sex, which is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 02:31 AM |
| 2 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.from the same article… “But aside from interventions that would redistribute sex, Mr. Peterson is staunchly against what he calls “equality of outcomes,” or efforts to equalize society. He usually calls them pathological or evil. He agrees that this is inconsistent. But preventing hordes of single men from violence, he believes, is necessary for the stability of society. Enforced monogamy helps neutralize that.” You didn’t ask me for proof he’s a “hateful monster” you asked me for examples of hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 01:12 AM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.There are character and fitness components to licensing in many jobs that put people in positions of power over other people. Doctors, therapists, lawyers. This protects the reputation of the institution as a whole, and thus lends credibility to the license-holder. You don’t want a doctor for example re-tweeting white supremacist accounts after work. Patients of color might be understandably reluctant to be treated by that person, and it effects the reputation of the medical community as a whole… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 12:38 AM |
| 1 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.He was angry at God because women were rejecting him,” Mr. Peterson says of the Toronto killer. “The cure for that is enforced monogamy. That’s actually why monogamy emerges.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 12:23 AM |
| 2 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.“He was angry at God because women were rejecting him,” Mr. Peterson says of the Toronto killer. “The cure for that is enforced monogamy. That’s actually why monogamy emerges.” cool. Misogyny and misandry all rolled into one. Some lonely men can’t help but murder, so we must force women to have sex with them! Makes plenty of sense coming from someone who is vehemently anti government-oversight. “Here’s the problem, I know how to stand up to a man who’s unfairly trespassed against me and the reas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 12:07 AM |
| 2 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.It’s amazing to me that you think because his censure involves comments that could be seen as political it can’t be legitimate. Peterson leans heavily on the credentials which the licensing board issued him, to back up what he says. If his behavior is in violation of the ethical guidelines he’s supposed to embody when using those credentials, then he might loose his license. I would argue you’re just mad because you agree with the remakes he made, while his peers clearly find them objectionable.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Q for Women: How many of you genuinely enjoy being "objectified" in D/s kinki play with a man whom you trust enough to be totally vulnerable, obedient, and subservient with? In small fun doses of course.Yeah I’m way into it, only with the right person. The guy I’m currently with is just like, the best. I trust him and he respects me, we can talk openly about sex. He also has a very convincingly commanding presence in the bedroom. So it gets kinda wild. I would never have this kind of sex outside the perimeters of a good relationship, though. Just because I’d feel deeply uncomfortable letting a stranger tie me up or call me a dirty slut. It wouldn’t feel safe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 10:03 PM |
| 3 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.Buddy, I fully understand that JP is highly educated and a former educator. He’s currently a pop psychologist who doesn’t practice and is clearly in the midst of a mental health crisis. You’re appealing to his authority in psychology to suggest what he says is generally true or smart. So Let me clarify. I think some of his views specifically about women and trans folk are morally reprehensible. The governing board for psychologists in Canada is threatening to take away his license. I, not being … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 08:55 PM |
| 10 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.Dr Oz has an entire show devoted to saying dumb things about medicine. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medical_claims_on_The_Dr._Oz_Show People dislike Peterson because some of his views are morally reprehensible, and others believe he’s failing to live up to his professional ethical responsibility. That doesn’t mean I can’t empathize with his mental health and addiction issues. But his professional reputation and licensing issues appear to be a result of him publicly espousing views that other … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 06:50 PM |
| 8 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.And Dr Oz is a world-renowned surgeon. So is Ben Carson, for that matter. Both of them are famously talented doctors who say outrageously dumb and/or irresponsible stuff as public figures. In fact they sometimes rely on their professional reputations to back up their credibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 06:07 PM |
| 3 | A large amount of the issues with the modern dating sphere stem not from high female standards, but low reciprocity and the selfishness that has imprinted itself on female dating culture.My favorite bit about this, aside from the history refresher, is the following three sentences: “According to social media nowadays….” “If social media is at all representative of how the majority of women approach dating…” “This extremely prevailing mindset among women…” There are undoubtedly women on the internet who are straight up telling other woman to squeeze any and all resources out of men. How many of those reel views do you think are women are studiously taking notes to replicate the b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 06:01 PM |
| 2 | The real reason for forever girlfriend / f*ckzoned womenYeah I was only a SAHM for two years. It was a mutually agreed upon time frame. I went back to school when baby turned two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 03:56 AM |
| 2 | The real reason for forever girlfriend / f*ckzoned womenLmk tell you about how my now ex husband would get mad at me and threaten to needlessly drag us through litigation to spend down what little money I had. His primary gripe? I wanted him to pay for half of daycare each month and not to argue or yell at me in front of our child. He refused to believe me that childcare isn’t a part of our state’s childcare calculation. He had to hire a $500 per-hour attorney to explain it to him. Literally all I wanted was split daycare and to recoup the extra stud… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 12:01 AM |
| 1 | The real reason for forever girlfriend / f*ckzoned womenNothing. It’s usually who gets which car and you split whatever equity you have in your not-totally paid off home, assuming you don’t rent. Folks with money are technically entitled to 50/50 share of any property accrued in the marriage but even a lot of that is negotiated or tempered by pre-nuptial agreements. A lot of what people “loose” in the marriage is attorney’s fees if they spend a bunch of time and money arguing over things. Edited because I hit “save” too soon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 11:50 PM |
| 9 | The real reason for forever girlfriend / f*ckzoned womenAs a divorced person who left a higher earner l can promise you it’s not that lucrative of an endeavor. I’m not in a better position financially than when I met him. But I got the opportunity to be a SAHM for two years which I’ll always be grateful for. Edited for spelling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 08:15 PM |
| 2 | The real reason for forever girlfriend / f*ckzoned womenI don’t know about statistics. But relatives challenging unmarried adult partners and friends taking from the estate is very common in the case law for will contests. It’s really not surprising to me if it was a sizable estate or the deceased’s adult children didn’t like their parent’s partner. If you have some capitol and a good attorney you can tie up the estate in probate forever. It’s cleaner (legally) to be married when it comes to estate planning, property distribution and child custody. E… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 08:00 PM |
| 3 | For any man with abundance/options, there is no benefit to choosing a promiscuous womanI don’t believe in the whole Chad/Stacy framework. You said a man with options. I’m telling you I date men who have options and they generally don’t ask about sexual promiscuity as a screening device. But congrats on all the sex! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 01:03 PM |
| – | 50 shades and me too?Because it’s porn that’s appealing to (many but not all) women. It’s not uncommon to have fantasies you wouldn’t want to act out in real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 06:53 AM |
| 2 | CMV: We should have a Super Marriage concept where divorce is illegalhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Covenant_marriage | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 06:02 AM |
| 2 | For any man with abundance/options, there is no benefit to choosing a promiscuous womanI have found that men who get around generally don't care that much about this at all. My boyfriend and I got along swimmingly in all sorts of ways. Our sexual pasts have certainly come up in conversation as the relationship has progressed, but it wasn't something that seemed important to him at all in the stages of deciding to become exclusive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 06:00 AM |
| – | For any man with abundance/options, there is no benefit to choosing a promiscuous womanBesides, there's nothing enticing or interesting about a woman who's done it all and seen it all already. In my experience dudes who have had a lot of sex just don't care? Assuming it's not literally every eligible male in your small town including his uncle it doesn't seem to matter. I can think of a single time I've had a guy ask for a number. I don't disagree with you about shared values. If it's important to you to only date someone who's as chaste as you or whatever that seems A-OK. But I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 05:57 AM |
| 1 | CMV: If age gap relationships are wrong, so is dating a person with mental issuesIt would be manipulative situation regardless of age. The fact that she didn’t have a high school diploma left her more vulnerable than an older adult with more experience and resources. Can you understand why a senior who was trying to finish hs so she could maintain her scholarship eligibility, might be more susceptible to a controlling partner than an older adult in the same situation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 03:10 AM |
| 2 | CMV: If age gap relationships are wrong, so is dating a person with mental issuesNo one is saying adults above the age of majority can’t date. It’s just large age gaps with the younger partner being late teens/early 20s create power dynamics than can be unhealthy. Particularly if that person is also vulnerable in other ways. One example I’ve seen is a friend who’s father died and she was reliant on her older boyfriend to help with her housing when she was still a senior in high school. Her boyfriend would threaten her with withholding contributions with the household expense… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Is there even any society set expectations left on women anymore?That study doesn’t say divorced women are guaranteed custody, though. It says family court judges in Illinois likely hold some gendered bias towards parental fitness, and that judges aren’t wholly aware of this bias. It also notes the states laws are gender neutral on their face. For the minority custody cases that make it to trial are heard by judges who may favor mom over dad. Also that study notes attitudes have changed significantly since a similar study was conducted 16 years prior, with mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 09:09 PM |
| 2 | You have to approach women to get a relationshipMaybe I was unclear. Assault, unwanted touching and harassment are more prevalent than false allegations of such behavior, based on any metric I have seen. But I also hear men on this sub say they won’t speak to women they don’t know or even look at them (according to the user above) for fear of being labeled a creep, or fear being falsely accused of a sex crime. I would argue being the victim of such behavior is both worse, and more likely. I don’t doubt being falsely accused of rape or another… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 05:30 AM |
| 2 | You have to approach women to get a relationshipI don’t doubt it does occur. Do you think false allegations occur more often than actual assault? If not then why should men act informed by the fear of being falsely accused? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 05:08 AM |
| 0 | You have to approach women to get a relationshipI find it a bit odd that when women cite fear of sexual assault as a reason they might avoid certain men in certain situations it’s seen as alarmist or harmfully stereotyping. And yet the same men are saying they’re afraid of looking at women in public because they might be accused of harassment. I would argue the latter happens quite rarely and when it does the consequences are trivial. In fact most of the examples I’ve seen are in fact reactions to women who attempt to publicly call out men fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Taylor Siwft's "You Belong with me" is simply complaints men have about women but since it is gender flipped it is respected and celebrated instead of mockedThis song was produced by a teenager, largely for other teenagers. It’s also 10 years old. We don’t need to look for or wide for all sorts of other representations in media from that time and before where a nerdy dude is doing the exact same thing in pursuit of love and is celebrated for it. See the entire Fry/Lela plot line in Futurama. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Question 4 Women: Why do you own sex toys if you have a partner?I think it’s the difference between a whole doll vs a fleshlight. The latter wouldn’t bother me at all, so long as it wasn’t interfering with our sex life. I am eeked out by a life-size fuck doll. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/23 05:15 AM |
| 11 | Question 4 Women: Why do you own sex toys if you have a partner?sex dolls kind of activate the uncanny valley fear response in my brain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Yes the manosphere needs to denounce abuse but women also need to stop categorising things that are not abuse as abuseYou were replying to a comment saying women expect help from their partners for childcare for the not as much fun parts, since as a parent you’re on call 24/7. You’re response to that was to go on a rant about how entitled women are for wanting men to do everything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Yes the manosphere needs to denounce abuse but women also need to stop categorising things that are not abuse as abuseIf you’d read my reply you’d see I mentioned children in school and developmental stages. Also plenty of folks who work aren’t actively working all of those hours. When the children are very young there is simply less free time for everyone depending on what’s going on developmentally. Kids don’t reliably nap, they get sick, and often you need that nap time to get things done around the house. I see on this sub all the time people either saying SAHPs work 24/7, or any should be able to handle ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 09:37 PM |
| 14 | Question 4 Women: Why do you own sex toys if you have a partner?He bought most of mine for me. I can use a toy when I’m going down on him. He can control another with a remote or his phone so we’ve used it when we’re out and about. We don’t live together so occasionally we video chat and I use them while he watches. Given the choice I prefer his fingers or mouth or dick, but it’s a fun way to mix things up and keep it interesting. Also it’s nice to be in a relationship with someone who’s not remotely insecure about toys and so enthused about my sexual pleasu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Yes the manosphere needs to denounce abuse but women also need to stop categorising things that are not abuse as abuseIf he’s working, the SAHM is working, too. They have the same hours, so to speak. Adjust accordingly for stressors of job/number of kids/developmental level of kids. “Free time” after work/weekends is split up equally. Everyone gets a dedicated break, however that looks like. It’s not actually that difficult if you have a half-way decent relationship with solid communication. SAHPs get to spend extra time with the kids without worrying as much about money, which is invaluable especially when kid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 07:43 PM |
| 8 | CMV: When women talk of men opening up, what they mean is men should open up in women approved ways, for women approved problems and for women approved lengths of timeI feel like you’re obtusely ignoring context in inner personal communication. Depending on who’s receiving the message and your relationship with that person, how you communicate should be tailored to the person you’re communicating with. If I miss work due to illness and my boss asks me how I’m feeling afterwards I might say “I felt really awful for a few days but I’m feeling a lot better, thanks.” If I’m great friends with my coworker and they ask me the same question maybe it’s more of a, “du… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Women, how would you feel if a man expected you to split rent?The only reason I wouldn’t split living expenses is if I was a SAHM per a mutual agreement. I actually did that for two years but we decided that together. before I left work my income was being contributed to the rent and savings and we both had a set amount of spending money each month. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 02:11 PM |
| 9 | Pleasing a man sexually as a woman is so much easier than pleasing a woman sexually as a manthis guy gets it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/23 05:25 PM |
| 0 | Pleasing a man sexually as a woman is so much easier than pleasing a woman sexually as a manConservative political commentator who got pretty weirdly upset about WAP. See video and his comment below. Generally ridiculed for saying his wife told him excessive wetness is the symptom of a medical condition. General joke/consensus is Shapiro is bad at sex and his wife was trying to make him feel better. Realistically it was taken slightly out of context but also it’s probably Shapiro’s fault for pretending he didn’t understand the purpose of sexual hyperbole in rap lyrics. It was honestly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/23 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Responsive desire is mostly a myth.I don't think this question is that relevant because I said in my original response that this is the best relationship I've ever been in both emotionally and physically. OP says responsive desire is a myth because of that 80/20 survey. My point is simply if we're ranking based off looks and nothing else many people would likely wouldn't rank their significant other as their very top choice. Just looking at a person and realizing they're super attractive doesn't get me going, sexually. I need som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 02:29 PM |
| 7 | Responsive desire is mostly a myth.I was talking to a few. I wasn't sleeping with anyone. I kissed a single other dude during that time period. I had started dating again after my marriage ended. Current boyfriend is the only dude I've been with since my ex husband. Want to know my blood type? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 03:14 AM |
| 6 | Responsive desire is mostly a myth.If you had showed me a photo lineup of a few dozen dudes I don't think I would have picked out my current partner as the most attractive. Especially not if you used the actual photos from his dating profile. But I talked to him and we had a ton in common and he was really nice so we went on a date which was great, and ended in a handshake. Afterwards we kept in contact for a few weeks (we're both pretty busy so we were working on setting up another date) and the subject of sex came up during a l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 02:49 AM |
| 2 | If most men are vulgar and disrespectful than the wholesome ones should have no trouble connecting with women... yet they seem to struggle the mostThis as absolutely not true in my experience when I look around at the guys I know. The more genuinely nice a guy is, the more likely he is to be single. How does this resonate with your second point, though? Men with "wolfish smiles" or who appear dominate can also be nice. My partner definitely has that type of smile and he could certainly hold his own in a fight if need be. But he's also very kind and doesn't fight and wouldn't hit someone unless he absolutely had to. Like a genuinely good pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 09:22 PM |
| 4 | Not many women seek casual sex, but it takes just each of them having a on-and-off with the top % men for 20/80 rule to work.Right. If you’re so good looking (and privileged) you’re unaccustomed to hearing the word “no” things can get a little dicey. I also don’t think some of the men on this sub understand the disconnect between someone being hot, and someone being a good sexual partner. I’m always much more keen for a guy who’s enthused about my enjoyment as much as his. Size and a pretty face alone doesn’t equal a good time for me, often I find the opposite is true. So long as there’s a baseline physical compatibil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Not many women seek casual sex, but it takes just each of them having a on-and-off with the top % men for 20/80 rule to work.Or, hear me out. Those dudes were enthused about even their casual partner’s sexual pleasure and were fun and safe to be around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 06:33 PM |
| 6 | Not many women seek casual sex, but it takes just each of them having a on-and-off with the top % men for 20/80 rule to work.Eh. My only fwb situation was with a dude who was like 5’4, mayyybe 5’5 in cowboy boots and he wasn’t especially good looking. He had a certain air of, let’s say self-possession, l kissed him on a whim and there was so Much chemistry, very much translated in the bedroom. But off looks alone I wouldn’t say he was a babe or anything. But I would have married him except our political and social views were so opposed we couldn’t talk about anything serious. But we had sex off and on for a few years … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 06:28 PM |
| 5 | Ladies - What percentage of the bills would you expect your man to pay if you lived together?I think rent split proportional to income makes sense, utilities and groceries are 50/50. Higher earner takes the lead on paying for more expensive dates, especially if they want to go out to fancy dinners, concerts, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 06:23 PM |
| 3 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Don’t you think there’s a difference between pressuring someone, and expressing your desire or preference? “I felt a little sad you didn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day last year. I’d appreciate a gift or gesture this year so we can celebrate together.” Seems like a perfectly acceptable request. Ditto with sex. If you keep putting the moves on her after she says “not tonight” that’s pressure. But expressing you’re missing having sex and feeling disconnected is just expressing how you’re feelin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 01:30 AM |
| 2 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?The fixation on Valentine’s Day is fascinating. It’s a single holiday. First of all have you have you ever asked a girl your dating for a gift or a romantic gesture? I had a conversation with my boyfriend at a point after we’d been dating about how I’d like to celebrate holidays and asked his thoughts. So I do generally do something for Valentine’s Day. But what about your birthday or Christmas or Father’s Day? Are y’all really dating women who don’t give you gifts on holidays? Assuming gifts ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 01:10 AM |
| 3 | The way the manosphere express their preferences is far more problematic than the preferences themselvesEh, this is for the most part morally reprehensible. More importantly shame almost never works as a public health strategy. On a personal note I’m a single mom, just curious what “call her what she is” means in this particular context? What do you think people should call me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Women saying it's hard for them to find a man to 'commit' is pure hypocrisyIf you read the original case I cited at the end you’ll see why those other cases were referred to as part of the opinion. Judges in civil cases don’t have to make findings based on the same standards used in criminal court. But nothing in the descriptions of those cases shows the events described were being questioned for their veracity. They were saying one black eye wasn’t enough to amount to cruelty under the law. The opinion I was acknowledging a need for a more modern understanding of what… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 11:12 PM |
| – | Women saying it's hard for them to find a man to 'commit' is pure hypocrisyIf it wasn’t clear from my comment I’m adamantly pro no-fault divorce. Allowing for divorce on any grounds increases the rate of divorce, but it also helps to lessen the social pressures that leave individuals in abusive, unsafe, and unhappy relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 10:41 PM |
| – | Women saying it's hard for them to find a man to 'commit' is pure hypocrisyIs it lack of proof? Or weak elements? I don’t even know what the latter means. Also It’s not lack of proof because they’re not qualifying those summaries with words like “alleged.” When you weed through these types of cases you’ll notice that judges were acknowledging abuse occurred (often because the abused spouse’s testimony was corroborated by the abuser) but saying it wasn’t substantial” enough to merit a divorce. Take it from someone who’s read an awful lot of divorce cases this semester. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 10:26 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It is sad that it has become so normalized to not settle down until you're 30+When looking at long-term success in marriage the greatest predictors are the age, income, and education of both parties. Couples who delay marriage until they are older, more financially stable, and more educated, are less likely to divorce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 07:43 PM |
| – | Women saying it's hard for them to find a man to 'commit' is pure hypocrisyYou're right and wrong. Excessive cruelty was historically accepted as grounds for divorce. However the abuse had to be extreme, compared to our modern day understanding of what that term means. I pulled some relevant language from a case I cite at the bottom. "Even under this more modern definition, the cases for limited divorce on grounds of cruelty and excessively vicious conduct-there are no reported cases for absolute divorce on these grounds-show remarkable tolerance for abusive behavior. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Red Pill is nothing more than a misogynistic women hating movementeh I always like "half the older party's age +7" approach once everyone's over the age of majority. I think it's a little silly that people are coming for OP for being too young to have an opinion because of his naivete. In 6 months if said I feel a little weird about gylotip's twin sister dating Leonardo DiCaprio, I feel like we'd see a a much different response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Red Pill is nothing more than a misogynistic women hating movement"He doesn't have enough life experience to describe anything outside of the sand pit." Please keep this energy the next time there's a debate about how 18-year olds dating significantly older folks is problematic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDIs DNA testing mandatory in cases where the child was born to married parents, or paternity has already been acknowledged by dad? In my state verification of paternity is only done in child custody proceedings where dad isn't listed on the Birth Certificate, aside from some very narrow circumstances. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDProperty rights to your genetic information after its discarded is actually a really interesting, but I don't know a ton about it. https://www.casebriefs.com/blog/law/property/property-law-keyed-to-cribbet/non-traditional-objects-and-classifications-of-property/moore-v-regents-of-the-university-of-california-2/ When I've seen paternity testing ordered individuals are given a list of private centers they can use and then are court ordered to go and get swabbed on their own. So the information wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 01:39 PM |
| 4 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDI’m sure it sounds naive of me to say but so far I’ve found the work I’ve done in the area really interesting. And I have fairly tough skin/a high tolerance for nonsense. I’ve been divorced and established a parenting plan and all that stuff so I don’t feel totally unprepared. Maybe I’ll look back in a few years and realize I should have heeded your warning 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 04:33 AM |
| 6 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDIt’s because of the mandatory collection and storage of dna profiles without an individual court order or warrant. Is that what you were going to say? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 04:18 AM |
| 7 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDEven if it wasn’t literally compulsory and instead strongly incentivized I still think there are potential challenges and respectfully I still don’t think the government has reason to implement such a policy. You’re talking about a centralized data base of information and funding for hundreds of thousands (?) of largely unnessary tests each year. I’m not saying it’s an impossible undertaking but I see no reason for the government to compel dna testing. There are already legal remedies for parent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 02:38 AM |
| 0 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDI thought you practiced family law?! Maybe I’m thinking of another person on here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 02:30 AM |
| 11 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILD“Most men don't have the ability to stay single forever, which is a possible outcome of walking away.” I’m not sure this is a legitimate government interest that justifies legislation. Relatedly I’m American and I have a hard time imagining any state pass a law requiring dna or paternity testing of newborns. Even if a state passed a law like that it would likely be challenged. I don’t think it would be constitutional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 02:00 AM |
| 15 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDI’ve been say this on PPD for ages. Tell any gal you get serious with this and why it matters to you. As a future family law attorney I wouldn’t be offended if it was a blanket policy for a man I was dating. Paternity fraud appears to be quite rare but also the consequences are pretty serious for all involved. I think the idea of the government making it compulsory is bananas but that’s a longer post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Your wife/husband doesn’t want to do certain sexual activities that they did with the ex with you. Your response.Don't care! I don't doubt my dude's attracted to me, so I'm not preoccupied with how or why if our sex life is currently off the charts fun. People are allowed to have boundaries and I don't think it's necessary to investigate why something is a hard "no" because no is a complete sentence. As an aside I will and do way more kinky and adventurous stuff in LTRs as opposed to casual relationships. I'm not about to let a guy I barely know handcuff me to his bed. And it takes a while for me to get co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 06:05 PM |
| 7 | How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income?I’m not sure. I’m inclined to say people can spend their money how they want. But para social relationships on that level would certainly be a problematic sign as far as the overall mental health of men at large. and I think it would have an interesting impact on the economy. I don’t have moral objections to only fans. Probably easy to say in the abstract but I’m not judging creators or subscribers on either end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 09:54 PM |
| 20 | How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income?I don’t understand the economics here, maybe I’m just not understanding correctly. Are you suggesting a hypothetical where 80% of men are spending all there money on OF subscriptions? Because if that were true I imagine we’d have significantly greater issue than just no Christmas and anniversary gifts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 09:01 PM |
| 4 | Practically no men are "obsessed" with sex, they just can't satisfy their healthy, normal desiresThey're resorting to trivializations because you're almost certainly using rape as a comparison to sexlessness to get a rise out of folks, and it's working. So...congratulations, I guess. Not being able to have an intimate relationship when you want one is distressing but if you go about that argument by comparing it to rape you're going to have a lot of people understandably hung up on your analogies. In most societies including the United States we do not hold individuals liable for a crime ba… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 05:54 PM |
| 4 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?Being confident means you know what you offer to another person, and you know your own worth. This will make you feel more comfortable around women generally, and it will also make it easier to walk away from a relationship if your partner doesn’t recognize your value or appreciate it. I’m in my early 30s and I have much more “success” in dating, even when my SMV should theoretically be in decline. But unlike my early 20s self I genuinely believe I have a lot to offer. I’m not clingy and I can h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Oooh I remember this. Arousal non-concordance? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Why should women want traditionalism? What's in it for them?That sounds unbelievably rough. I'm sorry you've been through that or are still going through it. And honestly I think if we're going to have a semi-production discussion on this sub we should concede points that are relatively easy and obvious. I feel like we can generally agree that pregnancy and childbirth are very difficult, and also that men can in some instances experience and endure greater suffering. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Why should women want traditionalism? What's in it for them?Ok so not opiate withdrawal but I am a recovering alcoholic and did nicotine, alcohol withdrawal simultaneously. I have also been pregnant and given birth (medicated). I would argue withdrawal felt worse, but admittedly was a shorter period of my life than pregnancy. *Just for my own personal reasons I want to note that I was completely clean before I got pregnant and continue to not use to this day* I also think pregnancy is "easier" because it feels very purposeful and your discomfort is at th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 08:34 PM |
| 5 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypes“Sometimes the ick is nearly instant when you become intimate with someone, and you just can't shake the feeling of wanting to recoil if someone comes any closer to you," says licensed psychotherapist and certified trauma specialist Susan Zinn, licensed psychotherapist and founder of Westside Counseling Center in Santa Monica, California. "A bad kiss or being 'bad' at sex can suddenly be a major turn-off. This is different from having doubts down the line in a relationship. An ick feeling is ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 10:29 PM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeWhen you ask someone to explain something you need to specify what information you’re asking for. At least if you want to be precise. I’ve answered every question you’ve asked as far as I can tell. If you genuinely want me to respond to something copy and paste it. But honestly so far you’re failing to counter any point I made with anything other than a bullshit statistic you admit to making up + your own feelings about this made up number. So I’m rapidly loosing motivation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 02:30 AM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first place“Lol if 20% of British men found out their child wasn't theirs it would be 5 years tops before all western countries didn't have mandatory paternity tests.” What part of this is a question? If you’re referring to an earlier question you should be specific. I haven’t the slightest idea what “can you explain, please” is in reference to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 02:16 AM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeWhat do you want me to explain? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 02:04 AM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeA real full circle moment, I can see my work here is done. Peace and blessings ✌️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 01:11 AM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first place“It could easily happen in the uk or any other European country with socialized healthcare and the out come would inevitably be out sourced to the US” My reading comprehension is fine. I’m telling you its highly unlikely mandatory paternity testing will be outsourced to the United States, regardless of what happens in Europe (probably wouldn’t happen in Europe either). By all means if you’ve spent time studying constitutional or family law feel free to tell me what I’m missing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:28 AM |
| 0 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeI wholeheartedly disagree with your suggestion that it’s going to happen in the United States. I also think you’re talking out of your butt about the international stuff because I see no motivation for any government to get involved in this instance. But I’m not going to look up so sure, maybe in Europe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:15 AM |
| 0 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeI did. And as always if any dads want testing their are mechanisms in place to do that already. I’m telling you the government has no incentive to play Maury because it would burden them economically, dna testing is an invasion of privacy, and it’s unlawful outside of set specific perimeters. You don’t think there would be a subset of the population who would baulk at the idea of the state having their DNA on file? And again there is no evidence that paternity fraud is rampant, outside of a bunc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:00 AM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeWhat incentive does the state have to verify paternity for every child? It’s a huge expense, and l’m guessing they’re aren’t enough existing labs to perform tests, new ones would have to be built. You’re thinking about this from your personal motivation and point of view. It would be costly and for the majority of tests would simply confirm what the parents of that child already knew. You’re pulling the 20% figure out of your ass. Why would the government be motivated to test every baby, when th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 11:47 PM |
| -3 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeIt’s a moot point bc it’s almost certainly unconstitutional, assuming you’re in the us. Not to mention the state has zero incentive to foot the bill, assuming you literally are proposing mandatory dna testing to establish legal paternity. If you want to ask your partner for a test you should go right ahead and do that. But I’d make that request upfront, before the condom breaks or you start planning your happy family. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 11:36 PM |
| 5 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?I understand how declarations of paternity work. Family law is a complicated area. I can see a issues with mandatory testing as well, and possibly constitutional ones. There are a significant number of remedies available to men to establish or disestablish paternity. But no system will deliver perfectly equitable results. I feel like having a conversation with your partner before you sleep together about how you’d handle an unplanned pregnancy, and your desire for a paternity test after birth (o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?This isn’t true. You have a period of time after birth, at least in the us, to establish paternity and then you can sign the BC afterwards. In my state you also have a window of time to contest paternity after a BC is signed. Even after the window of time has elapsed (again in my state) you can contest paternity if you can show bio mom fraudulently lead you to believe you were the father, but mom had reason to believe otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 07:20 PM |
| 7 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?In the United States you can file a petition to establish paternity for a period of time after birth. At least in my state. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 07:16 PM |
| 5 | Would you date a single dad?Plus of single dad = I can see if his parenting values align with mine, and how present he is in his children’s lives. He understands my priorities when it comes to my family. Cons of single dad = coordinating our schedules. I only want to date a dad who is involved in his kids life, so he’s going to be time poor. Currently dating a dad and the only major downside is I don’t get to spend as much time with him as I’d like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 07:13 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD.I’m curious why it is that you’re so insistent I should trade my world view and experience for yours? And why you’re so angry expressing that. You’re telling me you dated an older woman and that relationship was good for you, I believe you. I believe that some of the backlash you see about celebrities for example is fueled by jealousy or internalized sexism. What I don’t understand is the refusal to even acknowledge that young people in this age bracket might be on average more susceptible to ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 03:01 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD.There’s a wide array of maturity during that transition. I don’t think men or women are more mature. 18-22 is a time when a lot of us grow and change. It’s also a time when most of us are starting our on our own for the first time. I could counter your story with a man I care about who dated a woman 20 years his senior when he was a young adult. That relationship really fucked him up. As an older adult he talks about how he was vulnerable and put up with behavior he would never accept now. So I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 02:39 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD.Statistically speaking significant age gap relationships with a teenage partner are more likely to be abusive. I don’t unilaterally judge couples who are in that demographic but I’m skeptical because there are other risk factors there. particularly if the younger partner becomes reliant on the older for housing, for example. I think you see a lot more women who are older and recognize issues with these relationships because they’ve experienced harm. For me at least it’s not a jealousy thing, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 12:57 AM |
| 3 | Conception should be based on consentThis theoretically makes things equal-ish between parents. But the state also defers to the best interests of the child, once it achieves legal personhood. Dad opting out isn’t in the best interest of the child, even if the only support he’s providing is financial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 12:46 AM |
| 7 | Conception should be based on consentA very good rule of thumb is not to have sex with someone if you don’t know their beliefs surrounding abortion and their readiness for having children if an accident were to occur. People can always change their mind but I think it’s a helpful conversation to have before the condom breaks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 12:38 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD.If a significantly older lesbian is trying to pick up a 19-year old woman I have the exact same feeling of general unease about it. Ditto with gay men. No one’s saying it should be illegal. You’re conflating people being uncomfortable with the dynamic to persecution. People are allowed to diss approve of same sex couples (and boy do they) but things like hate crimes and marriage equality are separate issues than general acceptance of homosexuality. You can think any age gap relationship is perfe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 07:58 PM |
| 12 | CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD.Have you ever gotten advice as a younger person that made you roll your eyes, only to realize later that person had a point? Individuals over 18 can make their own choices, but if it’s someone I care about expressing trepidation about this relationship I’m probably going to weigh in. Similarly I’m happy contributing my two cents when it comes up in discussions like these. I don’t think anyone’s advocating raising the age of consent. But if there’s a substantial difference in age, life experience… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 07:46 PM |
| 5 | Why are so many men against abortion given that most them just want casual sex?Equal parenting time is becoming the norm in the us. Especially in the last 15 years. As it should be. Research shows it’s beneficial for children to have both parents involved, assuming there is no safety concerns. 50/50 is the default in most states. Still some discrepancies in parenting time but trending in the correct direction. Child support is different. You’ll have a harder time advocating for eradication of child support in 50/50 custody schedules, although equal parenting time is usuall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 09:08 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn.I feel like we’re talking past each other and also you’re being hostile. I’m just expressing my personal opinion, albeit one that’s informed by lived experience. I take it you have children from your comments. I’m expressing how the mental and emotional labor of parenting is difficult to understand unless you’ve experienced it. And some people will acclimate better than others. I don’t understand why that’s such a controversial take. If you feel you were completely prepared for parenthood that’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 08:29 PM |
| – | CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn.You can understand the basic realities of parenthood but your own is just different. I’ll die on this hill as someone who worked for years with other peoples kids before I had my own. Your whole heart is walking around outside of your body, the awesomeness of that responsibility plus the all-consuming neediness of a newborn is different than babysitting your friends, or watching your parents care for younger siblings. When you spend time with other people’s kids you know it’s only for a set peri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:49 PM |
| – | CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn.Having children is one of those things you can’t truly know until you experience it. When kids are tiny everyone has to be doing a lot “more” than they did before. But you don’t know how jarring that can be or how you’ll handle those stressors individually or as a couple until you’re doing it. I think the disconnect comes because most modern women know what it’s like to work full or more than full-time. but some fathers truly never experience what full-time child care is like, even if it’s just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:15 PM |
| – | CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn.It’s not agonizing to spend time with your child that’s unpaid. It’s unpleasant when it isn’t also acknowledged as work, and calculated in the general understanding of what “contributing to the household” means. Whoever feeds the baby is up in the middle of the night multiple times for several months to a year and sometimes longer. It’s all dependent on stages and illness and a bunch of boring random stuff that’s unpredictable. Breast feeders also need to be close to the baby most of the time, o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:16 AM |
| 1 | CMV A lot of the "toxicity" and "misogyny" are just men no longer making up lies to please womenWhat if we can do both, at the same time! All the while the MRAs are online complaining endlessly that women have somehow manipulated and strong-armed feminist agenda into law by checks notes political advocacy and organization. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Women get over breakups faster because they do less work to initiate relationshipsI’m always so curious who y’all are dating and why you see relationships as so one-sided. Are you really regularly encountering women who don’t bring any value to your life? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 03:54 PM |
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