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Couldn’t read much beyond the first sentence or two but I’d simply say it can’t be about revenge. You’re not going to make yourself happy over revenge except for the very first moments. I guess to get the most revenge is to act like it doesn’t matter to you, move on. Easier said than done but the best revenge is to act like it doesn’t matter and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 12:47 AM
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Yeah it’s called they are the narcissist. I swear this woke generation has ducked so many people over. It’s just led to a ton of people who can’t take responsibility. My exwife is a picture perfect example of (there’s gotta be a term for this) this generation of women who need to feel “equal” to their husband. They are told they need to make sure THEY are the head of the household and not let gender norms control that. Get away from this idea because women are just as capable as men. However I m…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 07:14 AM
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Always thought valentines was a sham anyways. Maybe contributed to why I’m divorced 😂. We had a child so him and I made Vday treats for daycare, reach out to my mom, know plenty of others in my same situation.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 10:26 PM
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Toughest thing about this is that it sticks on your mind. From there it becomes difficult to forget and ends up compounding. Make sure you concentrate on her, what turns you on and be in the moment. Easier said than done but I went through a stretch of this with my ex. It got rough, put a ton of pressure on myself, she started doing the whole, you don’t find me attractive, constantly asking me what’s wrong..only made things worse and worse. I don’t know what exactly changed but I do remember jus…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 10:24 PM
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Bahahha
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 10:09 PM
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lol yeah probably true.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 10:09 PM
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Yeah. Makes me want to just have a gf the rest of life. The idea of 100% dedicating my time to someone again for years to just throw it away and them literally trying to make my life a living hell doesn’t exactly appeal to me. Knowing my idiot self I’m sure it will happen again lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 04:46 AM
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Days will suck, nights will be worse. It gets better. Whether it’s true or not, you have to believe you are better off without her. That is the only way to move on. It’s all about your perception and you’re the only one who controls that. If you’re in a real tough mental place…..Talk to anybody you can about your situation, your true feelings and how bad it hurts. You have to be “man enough” to admit it hurts and that you hurt. It’s necessary. If you can’t find anyone to listen to you go to a th…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 04:43 AM
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Yeah no shit. The second you take them back, their guilt slowly fades and they will revert. 9/10 if someone cheats it’s because they don’t respect you. They will temporarily act then in a manner of regaining respect for you but it’s simply to protect themselves. Once they feel safe again, you are back to being their piece of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 04:35 AM
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I like it bud. Good luck to ya, with love from another brother!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 04:31 AM
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Haha yeah. A little depressing but try to stay positive, you never know!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 02:42 AM
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Yeah I’ve had mixed emotions on the custody. On one hand it is difficult to take true care of yourself (which is very important in order to take care of another person) and have sole custody. However it is heartbreaking to spend days not seeing your child. Perfect world, which we know there isn’t.. I would get sole custody and eventually find a good loving mama. Not that you ever want to take a child from their birth mother of course though..ok, alright none of this makes sense lol
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 03:45 AM
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I took down all pictures in our house after I realized how miserable it was to look at how happy I was or thought I was. It wouldn’t have even really bothered me but she acted like a demon after serving me papers. Spied on the house/me through our baby camera, went through my computer when I wasn’t home to try to find things on me, posted subtle things on social media trying to portray me as a terrible person, restricting time with my son, it was like constantly staring the devil down every time…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 03:40 AM
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Yeah, guess I didn’t even mention that but at this age, being divorced, having a child, it’s not the easiest to find someone even half decent let alone then subtract out any of them that won’t be interested in you..haha Feel like waiting too long might seriously impact finding anyone without seriously sacrificing what you really desire in a partner.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 03:32 AM
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Yeah that’s exactly my situation. Never got a hard confession of cheating but continuously would admit to more and more of how much they communicated, only through Snapchat, very abruptly started a lot of weird behavior, yadda yadda.. What I was able to prove of their relationship, every time would just come back to I just dream up everything and eventually when it became too much evidence for her to disprove, it simply became my fault. It was such a slow process of finding more and more I start…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 02:34 AM
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One hundred percent in my situation. Ever since we saw a therapist she couldn’t do anything wrong. Even when we went to therapy together and I asked for more support for this and that my ex didn’t listen to one word. It just became a crutch for her to prove her point and when I would say she wasn’t doing what I asked of her in therapy it didn’t matter because “all of our problems were caused by me and I needed to change for her to even start trying”
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:00 AM
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Not too far off from my thoughts. By the end of the time with my first therapist I finally asked in my last session. “So when I leave here I guess I have no idea where to go from here, like I feel like I often come here and almost leave more confused and upset about my marital issues. So how do I move forward?” The response I got back was, “yeah that’s what we need to figure out.” So do I have you down for next week yet?” This was like my 6th to 8th session. Still felt zero direction for trying …
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 04:51 AM
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Got a divorce 6 months after doing couples and individual therapy. Biggest mistake was just having no idea what to look for in a therapist. I now have a different therapist for after divorce individually who is much better. Makes me wonder if things would have been different had we had a better therapist. Just to be clear, it’s a good thing our marriage ended I believe. Looking back on it; our original therapist did nothing but make us both feel stronger that the opposite spouse was basically tr…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 04:45 AM
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When we went a month and couldn’t get through 2 days without a rather serious argument
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:16 AM
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Yes, if you want to not look unstable and committed to raising your child do NOT leave your house. I don’t know your situation but if she has started the filing process and she is not willing to talk then get an attorney. My wife acted crazy in this same way. I eventually said yeah let’s get a divorce but let’s work together, check out mediation, be civil and make it go smooth. She basically did everything to act like a sneaky beeyotch. I’d ask when we could talk and she would always say not rig…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 01:42 AM
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Yeah it's tough, very very tough. If you're in a situation like me, the only thing you can think of is the children are better off not being in that environment. Whether they get out or they don't have to witness what is going on. Either way it has to be better. Hopefully they themselves are not subjected to this and if they're not, well no doubt they will be better off and not right away but in due time they should understand what you did and why you did it. ​ To help you, maybe you start writi…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 09:42 PM
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​ I have found some audiobooks by John Delony very helpful. Not completely about divorce but relative to all parts of life. Exploring ideas about why you think the way you think, ideas on how to overcome those thoughts or process them in a healthy/productive manner. He does has episodes on relationships/separating and all sorts of helpful topics. Yeah it's impossible to say you ever "get over it" there's always a bit of a scar. I'm in the middle of a divorce right now after what there is evidenc…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 09:08 PM
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Thanks for the words. Glad to hear you have found some sense of peace. It's really hard to accept and make the choice to move on. Maybe somewhat similar to you I felt like I wanted to try anything I could to move forward and try to make it better. I obviously don't want a divorce and we have a child that will now have this on them as well! I started believing her that I probably do have all these mental disorders. I said I'm willing to go get checked out and take any assessment. Hell, if there i…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 08:31 PM
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I know I'm late to the party but looking for some moral support for what I'm going through. This whole ride has been wild and I could write pages and pages about it. This exact thing,, my wife told me about how all of her coworkers think I'm fucking nuts. Well ummm yeah that's all you've ever told them and the 2 that I have met I got along with just fine so..here's yet another thing on top of 200 other things that make you sound F&&&&ing ret&rded. However unlike your dumbass who complains you've…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 04:07 AM
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