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Economics doesn't work. What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:50 PM
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Time and closeness matter to men more. If I spend a lot of time with you, if I trust you, If you know things about me, if I like being around you, these are the foundation for romantic feelings. But for women, that doesn't matter as much. They'd rather date a guy they met last week.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:57 PM
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There’s a difference between pretending to be a woman’s friend for months and spending some time getting to know her and deciding whether you even like her as a person (and allowing her to get to know you) before pursuing her sexually. The only difference is what's convenient for you to think. Most women aren’t interested in having sex with men who don’t even like them. Could have fooled me. Try to understand that just as men want to be wanted physically above all else and appreciated as a perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:08 AM
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It's not that its bad. Its just a lot of guys become friends for the sole purpose to try to date or fuck you. No they don't. Truly, if they just wanted to get laid they would not waste the time befriending you. Like, how can you purposefully lie about your intentions and ever think i can trust anything you say after that? But this is why talking to women about this is very rarely productive. Because you will choose what to think based on what's convenient for you, not what's true. Feelings chang…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:04 AM
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Nah, sometimes there's something there. Most people aren't crushing on someone for no reason as adults. If you're friends and have a rapport, developing feelings is pretty on track. Women just tend not to care as much. That rapport is cheap when you have many people interested in you, but it's still real. And if they gave the guy a shot, there could be something.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 09:57 AM
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When male Shelters are brought up it's usually in reference to the story of a Canadian shelter that was closed down due to it being considered to close to a school or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 04:27 PM
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I think there's a difference in trying and getting negative results and refusing to consider trying. If I'm reading you right, you have approached people you wanted to be with, it just didn't work out well. I don't consider that the same thing. But if what you think holds you back from finding a good relationship ever changes, I would hope you try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:16 PM
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where do lesbians fit into that equation? Obligatory, I'm not this guy and I don't think what he thinks, but the answer to your question is... Their orientation doesn't determine their social relationship to men, especially in a premodern context but even nowadays there are women in lavender marriages. If they live in a culture that forces them to marry and have children, they will still be in a position of demanding resources from men for those children. If they are not having children, they wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:54 PM
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Most of what's said about men is a moral judgment on here. So, my apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:34 AM
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Meaning she doesn't behave like a man. Women who think this way think so little of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 10:56 AM
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Men that they like in general. I'm not really sure what distinction you're making but maybe I'm reading you wrong. Whoever they like, they should be willing to try to speak to them. Nobody's going to talk to everyone they're attracted to. But I've seen many women categorically refuse to even imagine what it'd be like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 10:31 AM
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Certain women? Yes. A general female perspective? I'd like to think it doesn't exist. How well do you understand women's reasoning? There's a gradient of ideas and expectations when it comes from women that range from there being no difference between genders to those that are completely incomprehensible. I don't see completely incomprehensible most of the time, especially outside of this sub. The worst I usually see are things that I understand intellectually but emotionally I just don't respec…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 09:52 AM
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Social skills are important in the way financial management is important. It's always good to have, but it doesn't do much for you unless you have money to manage in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:08 AM
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I'm not asserting OPs claim. Just giving my two cents. If it was good enough they'd stop looking. I think you're misunderstanding what's meant by good enough here. It's not good enough to be with, it's good enough to stop looking for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:04 PM
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If you take for granted that many men are partnered with women they don't see as good enough, then it makes more sense. The idea of cheating on someone that I'm satisfied with fundamentally would make no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:09 PM
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Well that must mean she was out of his league! Must be his fault then. This is a bad argument in this kind of conversation because you're responding to the idea that women will always want to do "better". Better is completely subjective. The man she leaves him for doesn't necessarily have to be better than the first guy, as it's a decision rooted entirely in her own dissatisfaction with the relationship. A woman with poor discernment can dynamite a good relationship to go be with a superficially…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:07 PM
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You're around some shitty people or you don't like people pleasers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:58 AM
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I agree, but my point is that it's only a situation that arises from trying to get two different needs met with the same person. Many times people are only compatible with one or the other and that mismatch needs to be resolved by leaving the person be romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:47 AM
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It's not hypocrisy. We just have a society that blends together two different social functions in ways that don't always work. Having sex with someone in private for pleasure =/= wanting to be seen and associated with them in public. And that goes vice versa, just cause you like being seen with someone doesn't mean you want to do anything with them in private. Do you think every woman that hooks up with a man but wouldn't tell her friends about them is a hypocrite or is she just keeping boundari…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:34 AM
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Nah, they're the mild stuff. I've written fanfiction raunchier than that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 08:45 AM
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Nah, women like this still punish you for trying. You're only acceptable when they like you, you're just supposed to know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 08:44 AM
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I'm talking about a non SJM book in my example.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:57 PM
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I didn't commit what I read to memory. I don't really have anyone to talk to about them. My friend's have very idiosyncratic boundaries around this stuff. Even though they're the ones who showed me this stuff, they can't stand to acknowledge it openly. They've read them, done God's knows what with them. But can't stand to hear it outloud. So I just let it go. I just remember the basics of the non Sarah J. Maas one, it involved like 6 different guys/creatures and they all had a different kink tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:39 PM
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I've perused only a couple. Not deeply, but vanilla was not what I saw. I know it can't all be like that, but still...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:59 PM
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I have not decided that. What I have accepted is the words of the story presented to me. And not calling BS on what is a very believable and standard interaction. A high school child would be a girl, not a woman The only difference is the age, not the behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:27 PM
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It's those books man....
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:07 PM
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You have no clue just how needlessly dysfunctional women can be. Especially in high school
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:02 PM
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Why? Why do you doubt that? Why do you trust that sense of doubt?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 08:15 PM
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There's no extra step in his story. He didn't do anything wrong. She just didn't like having her consent asked. Just like many other women. And that is it. This is a cut-and-dry example of a woman being the problem and you're still trying to find a reason to make it his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 08:04 PM
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Anxiety rules our dating norms. And it means inconsistent behavior is considered normal and goes unexamined.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 07:54 PM
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He said in comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:18 AM
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That is not most porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:17 AM
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If someone was reading murder mysteries with their vibrator on the dresser, I'd have questions about that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:17 AM
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Oh that man is angler fishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:52 PM
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So long as there are people with worse personalities than them that are also more successful, they will never hear you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:30 PM
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Respectfully, you don't know me or what I could get away with. But I agree in principle. But that principle is more varied than you think. It's all about perception. If a woman sees you as the best she can get, the desperation will make her put up with things she wouldn't from a more replaceable man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:23 PM
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We're not talking about them, yes in the vastness of human experience this can be separated in some people. But that's not the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 12:32 PM
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Have you ever felt that without the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 12:23 PM
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Could have fooled me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 12:17 PM
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I've seen bums cheat on women they had no business being with, seen those same women cry over them. Seen good men left on the shelf, seen awful men start families and getting fat and happy. Anybody who thinks they have women completely figured out is smoking crack. There's curve balls getting thrown everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:13 AM
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Women only treat the men they're attracted to well enough to get this. Women do not treat men they're settling for with care and consideration. It's not just about sex. It's the full package.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 01:49 AM
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This presupposes that you would respect him or them if they were honest. But that's the bare minimum. Bare minimum isn't praised much by women. The opinion of women is kind of a stick without a carrot in these situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:50 PM
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Agreed. I was studied up my first time, wasn't a lot of physical guess work left to worry about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:45 PM
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I'm curious but I don't want to pry too much
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:08 PM
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You're from a different world
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 09:29 PM
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How old are you now?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:56 PM
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Depends on who's around them. Environment only matters if they're attractive in that environment. Maybe ask one of your guy friends what their sex life has been like. Learn something about them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:28 PM
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There's not that much to sex that can't be figured out in like 40 seconds
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:25 PM
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It "often" means. I'm not speaking in absolutes. People who spend their time fantasizing are usually not ready for the real thing. That's with everything in life. If you're fantasizing you're distancing yourself from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:51 PM
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Why can't people read? It's all that I ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:39 PM
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No, it's the foundation of understanding that there is always tension between individuals. We're not always going to want things in the same ways. And in the meeting of our two desires, there is contradiction. And where there is contradiction there is tension. If I want green curtains and you want blue, we become obstacles to the desires of one another. If you want sex Wednesday night and I want it on the weekend, we become obstacles to each other. What's rape culture is thinking that women don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:45 PM
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Never met a woman with the capacity to carry a flame that long without acting on it. Different generation I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:38 PM
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Most do. There's nothing about respecting another person's humanity that means they're supposed to like obstacles
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:37 PM
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In my experience, the time frames are flipped, but I understand what you mean. Never seen a woman/girl make a new man wait as long as a known one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:33 PM
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It often means that they are emotionally unprepared for what it entails. But that's something that should be vetted for while you're dating. If you've married someone that treats you like OP describes, you have made many compounding mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:31 PM
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I don't know who this "everyone" or "you guys" refers to, but you need a better frame of reference for "treatment in a relationship" than being sodomized. Most men just mean how many dates you go on before you take them seriously, how quickly you have sex (the kind you both enjoy) and what kind of financial expectations they have. Consistency in standards and relationship progression.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:26 PM
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Are they supposed to? What is the point of saying this? "Women don't like that men want sex from them".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:21 PM
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Nobody has brought up anal in this conversation except women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:18 PM
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Comparing very different levels of activity here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:17 PM
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They could also choose to jump off a bridge. It's no one's job to self-sabotage so you feel better. I agree that they should be honest, but if you want honest people around you then you have to reward honesty. If you can't do that then you'll keep getting liars.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:41 PM
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think they are good but actually hold really misogynistic view What do you mean by this
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:37 PM
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Contradiction and hypocrisy aren't synonyms.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:51 AM
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Gotta look for love in the rest of the year, October's not enough sis.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:48 AM
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Not hard to find at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:40 AM
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The ability to think about why we think what we do is a cognitive filter that most people can't get past. And I think that's a shame because I've also noticed this kind of perception-first value judgments. And while it's certainly not women only, it's a problem with enough women that you cannot make sense of certain interactions without. I think it's also at the heart of why conflict resolution can be so hard with these types. Because it's often the case that the issue of the argument isn't the …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:35 AM
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Finding a man that thinks men should make their partners' lives easier isn't hard, it's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:22 AM
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In many ways we are all diaspora
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:21 AM
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He just called you son, big bro
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:45 PM
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Below average doesn't make it short. It's taller than most of you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:42 PM
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5'6 isn't short
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:39 PM
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Dispatch
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:09 PM
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Is that a fantasy?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:02 PM
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Yeah, the everyman protagonist very rarely stays an everyman in these animes. The fantasy is more about fulfilling potential than to just get girls without having to earn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:56 PM
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That's your victim complex talking
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:19 PM
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Normal is relative. I would disagree that you will find "love", but I do agree that you'll probably find a relationship. Will it be enough for you? Will you be satisfied? Will you have options? That's up in the air, but you'll probably run into something or someone if you can tread this water.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:58 PM
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Women are often more socially integrated. Which means more external regulators for their behavior; family, community, culture, caste. By whatever means a person's behavior may be affected or directed, women are always close to the center of it. Men can orbit, distance, in many cases they are forced to. And in that aloofness, there is room for deviation. Nobody's going to notice you don't go to church on Sunday if no one checks in on you to begin with. But when you're close to social institutions…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:11 PM
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I would actively refute it. Especially if we're comparing groups of relatively decent social standing. I think women have a higher floor, but the higher up you go and the more men have to overcompensate for being distrusted. We're not as socially shielded as women and so we have to learn how to maneuver around others with more finesse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 01:38 AM
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Yeah, a lot of the partnership /sexlessness anxiety guys have is because they carry the emotional baggage of their youth into the adulthood. Once you've come out of your shell, you shouldn't keep the pieces around. If you've done it once you can do it again. And then you can let yourself let go of the fear you had beforehand. Embracing the reality that you have nothing to prove will help. Help everyone really. People do lots of dysfunctional things just to prove they're not broken or weak. Take …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 04:51 PM
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There's an aspect of this that probably comes down to being uncomfortable with public speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:45 AM
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Cool dick bro
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:32 AM
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I disagree a bit with the dichotomy they're drawing. But real compatibility isn’t shared hobbies "we BoTh LiKe HiKing" or matching political takes. For the simple, this is real compatibility. Cerebral people often have a poor understanding of what less conscientious people are driven by and satisfied by. At the end of the day, most women just want to feel safe and have company for the parts of life they already enjoy on their own. They're not looking for a meeting of the minds. They don't want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:33 AM
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A shallow culture breeds shallow people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:06 AM
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No. And more to that point, sports clubs aren't very common anymore. Nor gaming groups for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:07 PM
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No, women need to stop appraising men's value based on how attractive they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:04 PM
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Do men think that "society" is just women? I'm not this guy, but I have to say that this is more true than it isn't. Women are the connective tissue of society. They're the ones with the extensive social circles, they're more welcome, more trusted, more involved, more drawn to each other. And especially in the United States, most of the people that make up what could be called "society" are women. Because women are more likely to be in connection with other people, shape and express a common opi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:03 PM
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We generally don't. Women imagining that men are constantly putting each other down is mostly a projection. Often because women who are mostly socializing with other women cannot fathom the level of input that the opposite sex has on men's emotional wellbeing, because they themselves do not give this much of a damn. Putting down other men's looks are only the norm in very emotionally disturbed, dysfunctional spaces. Incels and lookmaxxers are like this, not normal men. Normal men are focused on …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 11:54 AM
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If men need sex to validate their self worth You must take it another step further. Women need men to have sex to see men as worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 11:51 AM
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For me personally if someone I considered a friend yelled at me for sharing my views, that would be the end of our friendship. I had to figure out that that was a reasonable stance to have after many failed reconciliations. Thank you for understanding. I think this is another one of those things that fall under "men aren't taught how women are supposed to treat them".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:31 AM
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I don't think it's healthy to treat toxic behaviors as the default. They are though. Finding good, well adjusted people is not normal anymore. There's something wrong with everybody. The women we've got to work with are highly medicated, stressed out, some are traumatized, others are resentful bigots. Having a mild anxiety/obsessive compulsive disorder is the closest thing to healthy we can generally find. The question is just whether the unhealthy behavior hurts themselves or others. I always f…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:15 AM
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Not hyperbolic in the slightest. I've had to cut off a couple for how they've spoken to me. Women generally do not consider restraint in how they deal with men. That's probably another topic you should avoid with women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:58 AM
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Mothers? No Women with a pattern of enabling and emotional dissociation from the consequences of anti-social behavior? Yes. People who have an understanding of structure and accountability will always do better at raising children than people whose sense of right and wrong is subjective and driven more by emotional defense mechanisms than by values/principles.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:31 AM
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Understanding your social environment is not an excuse. Obscurantist
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 01:12 PM
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Therapy doesn't improve a man in a way that makes him attractive, hell, it's not guaranteed to improve him at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 01:09 PM
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The example the guy gave is a joke, nobody's going to lead a conversation with "you suck" literally. So much of this is just women not having any experience in male spaces and then projecting their anxieties onto them. As if every conversation would go smoothly if you were a man. And the only reason you're getting push back is because you're a woman. It does not work that way. I am saying this as bluntly as possible. “Geez well I guess if I can’t do it right I guess I just won’t try to help you …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:54 PM
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You do realize that arguments are about getting the other person to see your point right? If you have something to say, you're not going to be agreed with by default. That is why men explain what they think, to prove their point in order to have what they say be accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:46 PM
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No, what I pushed back on is the idea that your "criticism" counts as critique just because you think it is. If you're insulting people, how can I know? Only you are present for these conversations you're attempting to have. If this is a problem you run into often, tell me a story.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:31 PM
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A lot of the people who watch these videos have never been close to these situations in the first place. I don't think the guys in the comment section calling women "Foids" have been to many parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:28 PM
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What I'm pushing back against is the idea that it's about women specific resistance to criticism. You know well that there are men that nobody can talk to without it being a fight. I'm speaking about otherwise reasonable men, it's how you approach communication most of the time. Especially if you're coming into the conversation assuming that they already have a chip on their shoulder about you, a woman, saying anything to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:22 PM
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Men can accept genuine criticism of their actions and skills from women just fine. It's attacking their person that men take offense to. Imparting needed information and scolding someone like a child are not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:11 PM
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no man should feel emasculated or less of a man simply because his female partner earns more money than he does This is not the primary reason why men want to make more. Yes, some old school men are like this, but nowadays the fear is much more about a woman resenting you for making less than them. It's not about how we feel, it's about how they feel. I can be cool about it all day and night, but if she's getting the ick cause she's got more zeroes than me, I'm SOL. There are definitely women wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 01:00 AM
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Exactly, it's within their power, and that is what they are judged on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:39 PM
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Complaining about having too much attention on a dating app while continuing to engage with more people, thereby bringing in more matches. is an evergreen example. It's them directly putting more on their plate and then complaining that they have too much to deal with. Complaining about things that you have the power to fix and power to avoid is what he's talking about here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:23 AM
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Proving his point. Reacting defensively to even the idea that women should have a productive conversation is rejecting accountability. If the only constraint to your behavior is what you're allowed to do, then you're little better than a child. Children need external restrictions to regulate their behavior. If you're an adult, you can regulate yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:20 AM
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Why the knee-jerk reaction to the term, and the process of eliminating that crappy stuff, when it's apparent that men aren't happy with it, either? Because women lack the discernment and compartmentalization to lead this process. You cannot engage people that you are bigoted against in a conversation that is focused on benefiting yourself and expect it to go over well. Many women will hyperfocus on sexual violence, to the exclusion of anything else, spread the blame as widely as possible based o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:38 PM
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This is not true. Men will treat you as well or as badly as their values allow them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:21 PM
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If you don't like whining, quit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:07 PM
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Not even the worst lawyer I've met, if you can believe it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:17 PM
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When I said you had a chip on your shoulder and I couldn't help you, I didn't expect you to go and write a novelette about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 08:53 PM
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There's nothing hypothetical about war and conscription to force people to fight it. You have a chip on your shoulder, and I can't help that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 07:32 PM
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Sweetie, law changes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 06:57 PM
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Yes that's a good thing. That's why it's not allowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:54 PM
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Oh, you're arguing with the OP. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:44 AM
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The election was rigged and it was largely between two right wing candidates.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:00 AM
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So just like we can’t have a society without a military we can’t have one without women having kids. We'll stop having militaries before we stop having kids. But the goal of progress should be to push humanity to a place where the sacrifice of childbirth is not a sacrifice and that the need for militaries are no longer present. Peace, painless, costless, optional birth. That's the horizon that we should be using all of this technology and abundance for. Why is not a good basis? I believe in Enli…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:39 AM
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It's very liberal in cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:18 AM
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Center Right and Sane are oxymorons but go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:14 AM
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We do not have a leftist society. Normies aren't leftists just because they don't like what you have to say. Not liking ideas that challenge their norms and assumptions about the world is what makes them normies. Even if your ideas are wrong, the point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:10 AM
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If women were actually allowed to register for the draft, it would draw political attention to the draft that would risk getting it abolished. And it is fucked up, I agree. I don't want women conscripted any more than I want men to be. It's genuinely a crime against humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:21 PM
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Yes, I think there are more women who vehemently do not give a shit about men than who make a point of advocating for policy that would help them. Misandry is cheap and common. Advocacy is uncommon and socially discouraged. How many threads on this sub do you think you would need to go through before you found a woman saying we need a war to get rid of excess men? It's not something that's put to the question. This isn't Tiktok or Instagram or Twitter, this would be a nonsequitur on most threads…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:17 PM
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I will not be conversing further with a BlueMAGA troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:51 PM
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You're beyond parody and have no self-awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:37 PM
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Joe Biden is responsible for a Genocide in Palestine. Trump is continuing a war that a Democratic President started. There is blood on all their hands and there is nothing that Kamala would have done that'd be any different because they're all warmongering psychopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:35 PM
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First of all, I'm not White. Second of all, the vote for Trump was split fairly evenly for almost every demographic (Except for mine).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:18 PM
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When I say allowed, I mean that media capture will not allow this to spread.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:16 PM
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Add it to the list then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:02 PM
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This is all built on the presumption of open public discussion of policy (which we do not have, free speech gets more and more curtailed with each passing year and the government doesn't pay much attention to it) and that there will be a political choice that will put these concerns into policy if people vote for them. This is not a topic that will be allowed to gain meaningful steam in this country. There are two major parties in the United States and neither are anti-war and they're certainly …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:52 PM
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Add it to the list of socially acceptable causes that people are "supposed" to be believe in order to be considered a good person. There are many issues on that list that progressive women police among themselves, but this isn't one of them. If you're anti-genocide, if you're anti-war, being anti-draft shouldn't be hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:49 PM
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Historically, women giving birth was a given. Now it is becoming more and more uncommon. If this is the metric, then women are opting out of the social contribution. I don't think this is a good basis for citizenship and suffrage, but if that's the way you're coming at it then you have to reckon with the fact that women have a choice to opt out and men don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:47 PM
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There are women in government as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:36 PM
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The draft being relevant has nothing to do with how it fits into the overton window. We're damn near about to start WW3, it's always relevant. That's the whole point about why the Selective Service is inequal. So long as it's there, it's a threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:30 PM
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Women having a strong opinion on any of these things are incredibly niche. I do think this is true. But I'm comparing two marginal opinions that aren't on the radar for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:28 PM
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but the obvious answer is to either make women eligible for the draft or abolish it altogether (I'm for the second option, personally). Yeah, this is one of those issues that are valid to bring up, but are both reconcilable (by doing ^) and aren't something that women can really address themselves independently. But it would help if women more vocally anti-draft. It's more common to hear a woman saying we need a war (semi-ironically) to get rid of the excess men than it is to hear one saying the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:51 PM
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No no, I appreciate your honesty
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:40 PM
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Goddamn, I expected a fight XD Edit: I can't breathe
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:35 PM
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That's you. What's your impression of how the women you know feel?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:22 PM
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Dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:59 PM
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They literally cost less. We're paying more for the experience. It's easier to enjoy dating when you have more money in your pocket from being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:52 PM
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Having children is not a given in a modern relationship. Okay. Same logic applies to women. So this doesn’t explain much. Given how much women self report dissatisfaction in their relationships, this isn't as much of a given. But also another thing that I didn't mention, but is implied by the last point. Women are able to access the positives of either situation with more ease than men, so there's not much subjective reason to be as affected by being in or out of a relationship. For most men, be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 06:49 PM
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The demographic of people who are married lean far older and they carry the baggage of older social arrangement and roles that don't necessarily exist in the modern day. But that aside. why is it that the happines difference between single and married men is greater Because men who are capable of making a long term relationship work are likely to be people who are satisfied within them, if they don't or they can't, they will drop out of that category. It doesn't tell you about what the effect of…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 06:27 PM
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He's wrong about some things, but he's right that relationships (especially ones that aren't abusive) generally cost women a lot less. It's not the same deal on both sides, and you should be able to see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 06:16 PM
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Everyone changes for the worse and for the better. It just depends on what you're talking about. She might get less because I've learned that giving more is bad for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:41 PM
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Of course I've changed. I just don't expect a woman who knows how I have changed to be happy with changes that mean she will get less from me than other women have. If you are only changing in ways that only make you more closed off to future partners, you're not moving in a positive direction. (There's a difference between taking more time to get to know someone and permanently taking things off the table for your relationship) It's your right to change and grow, but you're not entitled to anyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:20 PM
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No, that's just the response that would make you comfortable. Nothing common sense about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:35 PM
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Oh FFS, it’s not about you. She made that decision for herself. Not to do something to you If it involves me, it's about me. Intentions are not what's being judged, consequences are. And I’m the one he’s with now - how is that the “short end of the stick”? Being in relationship with someone isn't a prize. Being in a good relationship is. The quality of the relationship is reflected in what you do for one another and how you make each other feel. If your behavior doesn't make your partner feel go…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:27 PM
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What are you talking about, dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:58 PM
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How do you even know what she did with the last guy? Pre-existing relationship with the woman is one way. If you're in the same social circles, it's possible that you even got a front row seat to the last relationship. Women talk where they're comfortable. And even if she doesn't tell you everything, she's probably told someone else she knows. And even if that's not the case, many women will tell on themselves when they're in the relationship with you. Most women normalize how they think and act…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:09 PM
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I can’t imagine being the kind of person who would expect their partner to do something they don’t like just because they did it before. Well that's the thing, most of these inconsistencies aren't about a fully realized relationship. This is all courtship. Ie. the part of dating that is most costly and risky for men in terms of time and resources. And what a woman does by applying stricter standards to one man than she did another is to make a conscious decision to make our lives harder, our pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:52 PM
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It's hard to have faith that that's how a woman sees you when so much of the life experiences we have with them are dismissal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:18 PM
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I only trust IUDs, and even that is probably a mistake
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 09:39 PM
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Co-signing the lack of care for protection. I think one thing I've heard a girl say was "turn me into a twinkie"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 07:00 PM
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Have you ever experienced your ideal pace with someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:42 PM
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I agree, currently having that issue as we speak. I feel more distant than I'd like with the woman I'm talking to currently.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:38 PM
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Not universal, just... normal. And yeah, it does. Women set the tone for what's acceptable in dating more than they know. That's why it's interesting to talk to women who act differently than what I'm used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:02 PM
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Creepy? More words losing their meaning
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:38 PM
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Tell my friends that. Either they want to jump on a guy or they barely want to talk to them. I think it's porn brain, but it comes from Dark romance and too much sexual attention. They're disregulated and numb at the same time. So they only respond to extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:25 PM
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I agree, but you must understand that this is not the norm that most men come across in life. And that's where these expectations come from. From the patterns of behavior they come across most often. The norm is either disinterest or early interest. I've only known one female (they don't identify as a woman) that's had an actual slow burn with a partner. And they had a lot of anxiety and trauma to get them to that point. Everyone else is in the 0-2 date range before they're having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:49 PM
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Most of the people are overgrown children and trolls, they're no better on politics. Most are worse
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:12 AM
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Freedom from fear of starving Freedom from fear of eviction and homelessness Freedom from poverty. Freedom from sickness. Freedom from desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 12:49 AM
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Your uncurious self can't tell the difference between Secret Police and Civilians, your opinion on anything is worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:54 AM
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God Help us, so many fascists
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:53 AM
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Why do you hate freedom
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:05 PM
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I think it's interesting that my mind read tall in that sentence twice before realizing you didn't say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:33 PM
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I wonder if we understand the word 'safe' the same way. Do you think it's a realistic approach to life and relationship? Safe, as I'm using it means "partner is satisfied with you and is not planning to leave, will not abuse or cheat on you" safe means things are going steadily. If you asked me, a woman, I'd argue that even perfection won't make a non-delusional woman feel safe in relationship. If I'm understanding you, then that's probably because women are attracted to things that make then in…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:28 PM
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I've got to get to work and I will respond to the rest of this when I can. I understood men are mostly angry that women are applying what is in essense a man's dream strategy: sex with hot people in 20s, then settling down with someone family-oriented. But I had to push back on this. The dream is to have sex with someone hot who you grow to build a family with. It's not a dual track thing, the ideal would be a woman that you dream about and make a life with at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:13 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, what would you do if you somehow learned that there was a man that sparked instant attraction in your partner in the past, while her attraction to you was more healthily developed? Depends. Depends on how long "healthily developed" is. Because longer doesn't mean healthier. It'd depend on how she acts now that we have developed the relationship. It'd depend on what the guy looks like, what his personality is like, how she was at the time, how long ago it was, did I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:50 PM
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But there's a strong belief in manospgere if the woman changes her former behavior, then she's necessarily settling and will never have the same level of desire for her husband/boyfriend that she did for others. Every time women try to argue with that, they are called liars. Because a lot of women are lying. I think these words would go over better with an acknowledgement that it's sometimes true that women are being opportunistic. Because that's the truth. There are women who truly appreciate t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:44 PM
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Do you agree that he offered her the AF/BB strategy? I don't believe in red pill dogma, AF/BB aren't in my vocabulary. But for the sake of the conversation, I disagree that what he suggested is that. He didn't suggest using an unattractive man to make her life easier. He just said moderate your choices and pick someone that's going to stick around. But women are accused of being hypocrites because of it. I'm not sure where the hypocrisy comes from here that you're referring to. But obviously nob…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:12 PM
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How many ugly men have you even spoken to? You say you avoid them like the plague yet you're somehow an authority on their behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 12:55 PM
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It's not hard for men to place themselves in someone else's shoes and give them the best advice (as they understand it) from that person's perspective. Don't sleep with a man right away, if you want ltr. This advice isn't guaranteed any way you split it, but it at least avoids the negative feelings that come from having sex with someone that ultimately doesn't want a relationship with you. Waiting won't stop that from happening, but it makes it less likely simply because you're having sex with l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 12:35 PM
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What would you say: are progressive women or progressive men more open minded (on average) when it comes to this? I myself have no definitive opinion on that since i probably have a massive confirmation bias. I am just curious what other people think. On average it's absolutely men. In the areas where these women largely live, there are hegemonic cultural values that are aligned with those basic ideas. To say those things, state that you believe in these principles, it's just being normal, no de…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 04:37 AM
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If someone would not want to go to a coffee shop, concert, or gallery, that is completely fine. But it tells me we value different experiences. I am not looking to drag someone into my life, and I am not willing to shrink my life to make it more convenient for someone else. This is all very fair, I can only give my perspective. In different times, I'd have a different opinion of these things. In better times, I'd like to go myself. I do not want to be a burden. But I also do not want to spend ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:02 AM
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Framing women as financial sinkholes for wanting to leave the house feels extreme. There is no other way to describe a dynamic where one person is paying for two for things they wouldn't want to do on their own. You're using his money, for your lifestyle, in a society where most people are barely able to afford their own lives. That's not all relationships, but it is the default. I take myself to cafes, restaurants, concerts, and the theater. And if your partner was coming, would you pay for him…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:17 PM
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I don't know what satisfaction you get from being obtuse, but I promise you it's not going to help you get over whatever feelings keep bringing you to this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:13 PM
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Trying to make someone laugh, trying to make someone interested in you, trying to push conversations onto subjects that they like just so they will respond in a timely fashion, trying to find ways to make them answer you the same day. Things like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 01:56 PM
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I'm hoping to meet someone who actually likes going places. Men prioritize getting resources over losing them. Most men are not interested in throwing cash in the fire just for the experience of sitting at a slightly different coffee shop. I'm not saying this to be condescending, cause sometimes it really is nice to get out of the house and try something new. I just see a lot of women trying to turn luxuries into habits and I have to tell you it's a hard sell. Especially for the sex whose attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 01:54 PM
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One-sided courtship is the most neutral way to describe. Trying to impress and attract someone that gives nothing and demands more. Imbalanced relationships that a man has to overextend himself to maintain or even initiate. Think of a car that take $70 dollars of gas just to get above Empty. You'd have to pour a fortune into the thing just to leave the parking lot. But it's the only car you've got, so you either waste your time and resources making it work or you give up on the car. But the catc…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 01:45 PM
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You should be a nicer person to your partners, it won't kill you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:32 PM
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but because they have too many suitors Any woman who speaks like this is admitting that they're weak minded and indulgent. It's literally as simple as "stop swiping" or put your account on pause. Some things that get thrown at women about dating are unfair, but if your DMs are full, it's your fault that you let them get that way. If you wanted those men, you'd be answering their messages and planning dates. If you're not doing that, you just want the attention. Which is childish and wasteful of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:51 AM
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Many of these people are raised on movies with sociopathic anti-heroes, and they live in a culture which praises and excuses these values. It's not a coincidence that these Fight Club tier ideas are in constant circulation. Real empathy is instinctually suppressed because they cannot conceive of carrying the emotional burden of caring about more people than is absolutely necessary in a world with this much pain and suffering to be witnessed. I'd like to think that guys like this are just reflexi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:53 PM
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If your goal in life is endless permission, constraints and limitations will feel like control. People need structure
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:42 PM
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You can't solve supply-side issues by focusing on demand. The solution is to close the mines and educate the children, not make a moral point of being the one in a hundred million person to buy an ethical alternative. Sounds like you've got a lot of stake in justifying your selective nihilism, but I've got a job to go to. And I will be doing the good that I can manage without twisting myself into a pretzel to convince myself that the things I can't manage somehow don't also matter because they'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:10 PM
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It's not. It just feels that way because you don't want to put the time in to understand people you don't identify with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:43 PM
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Empathy is local, let's not pretend otherwise. Only for conservatives. I would agree that it is finite and exhaustible, you can't care about everything equally all the time everywhere. But distance is not the deciding factor, it's resources and actionability, how much you can do for others with what you have, how much you're willing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:36 PM
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You're putting the cart before the horse. if the fact that I’m always the one to initiate and that I’m usually the one more invested, the one making proposals and decisions (for example: where to meet for the first time) in the beginning makes the men I go on dates with not value and not respect me Men that like you will appreciate initiative. Men that don't like you will not appreciate anything. You're putting too much power in your hands to influence the outcome of another person's opinions an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:31 PM
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and after my ex wife cheated on me I have a huge distaste and aversion to cheaters. One more for the, "it only matters if it happens to me" club.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:18 PM
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Why is he your friend? Like, I've put up with a shady comment or two from other guys, but this is... that guy is hurting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:12 PM
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Yeah I was about to say, there are very things that are strictly private affairs. You can only think in this "sink or swim" way if you take for granted that there is no such thing as society. People are interconnected and there's no way to cut the dead weight, so it's important to ensure that as few people are dead weight as is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 02:03 PM
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I disagree with him, but it's probably a generational thing. so the though that they're being perceived as a threat doesn't really register. They either have to be older than 35 or live under a rock to find a guy that would say something like this. Most men have to learn not to care, but this is just a part of the culture now, no way around it. We are constantly exposed to the internal thoughts of women, their anxieties, their fears, sometimes even paranoia. It very much registers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:21 PM
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men will just go with any woman who accepts them That's never true, even for the most desperate. They might think they would, but in practice no man operates like this. Everyone has a minimum that they have to meet. Even if the bar is just "be nice to men and want to spend time together" that still disqualifies a vast portion of people right off. Nobody is that desperate. Nobody. don't choose women, they just tolerate them all. I do think that there's slightly more to this but even this isn't tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:05 PM
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The last one, which is probably controversial, is thinking that their clothing doesn’t or shouldn’t play a role in the outcome of their dating life. Presentation has always mattered. Certain looks attract certain men and certain types of relationships. Too many women think that it shouldn’t be a factor at all and that’s just not reality. How the last girl I dated presented herself was the thing that made me want to end it. She wasn't everything I was looking for, but I would have given things mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:48 PM
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In other words, “settling” for less than the hottest person you’ve ever seen is perfectly fine only when men do it? The reason why "settling" is criticized in women is inconsistency in how they treat their partners, based on how attractive they are to them. And where men also do that "sliding scale" treatment, that should be criticized because it's not fair to their settled for partner. But it's not as much of a given that men will do this, certainly not in the open. When women don't feel like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 03:33 PM
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A woman who can barely read should not have a better understanding of budgets than a PhD with an IQ of 110, Your class background is clouding your view of life skills. Those who have need, acquire, those who have no need, waste. People with money understand it the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:54 AM
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Of course it does. But you can't plant on fallow ground. It takes receptivity to build an audience, and the audience is only going to be receptive to ideas that fit the lives they're living. If the girls aren't treating them well, they're not going to think well of them. There are different kinds of misogyny and you can't fight them all the same way. The manosphere thrives on very preventable attitudes and ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:41 AM
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I don't agree that it's as low as 5%, but I do agree that we have an epidemic of irrational (often magical) thinking. I think we'd need to do large studies into exposure to heavy metals among women, because historically that's usually the culprit when large ranges of people are operating at low level of intellectual development. Tampons have already been outed as containing heavy metals. You can imagine what that alone has done to generations of people who've been using lead-mercury suppositorie…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:32 PM
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Have you seen anything in your life that is similar to what I've spoken about?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:03 PM
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Some reflection on it maybe? Something you can relate to or question about what you don't understand. I can't speak for anyone else, but I don't talk about these things just to get them off my chest. It's not a conversation if there is no conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 01:35 PM
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...dude what is the point of asking these questions if that's all you've got to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:57 PM
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Alright, I've woken up a bit, so I'll bite. Have you been abused by a woman? Of course. Verbally more times than I can count. Psychologically, plenty of times with certain people. Physically, it has happened and if you consider sexual assault to be a kind of physical abuse then a bit more. Over the course of a lifetime, I've had the below happen with different people at different times -- Being berated or called childish for having boundaries or not wanting to fight constantly or for leaving a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:22 PM
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What do you think women don't understand, account for, blind about? They're capacity for violence, of any kind. They think of themselves as being weak and harmless in most aspects of life and they don't really engage with how much they hurt other people, how much they can. And this leads to impulsivity, abuse, etc. because they genuinely think there are no consequences to their words or actions. Not doing it to argue who gets it worse, just want to hear your stories. For people who truly interna…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 11:55 AM
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I can understand that you and many other women feel this way. I simply disagree that it's the only truth about women. I've seen too much that points otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:48 AM
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Im not trying to be difficult if I ask a guy what type of relationship he is looking for casual or serious. You can ask this question if you want, but I would let it go. The answer to that question is borne out in actions. And how they feel about it is going to change over time, it's the point of dating. I don't think it's a good first date question. Especially if you're on the younger side. If im not giving the man what he wants THE ONLY OPTION FOR HIM IS TO END IT WITH ME Nah. Takes too much e…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:10 AM
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I'm not this guy, but I wanted to say something about this knowing men lie to get sex Men lie to get sex because they are often put into a position where lying is the only the logical way forward. Don't put a man you're talking to into a position where lying is the only intelligent option and you can avoid people trying to trick you. Be the kind of person who can have an open conversation, with small disagreements, small incompatibilities and keep going. Lots of women look for someone that's per…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:57 AM
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but I don’t think there is a flair on this sub that would make sense for an advice post. Something they should fix btw. There are too many people here who just want to soapbox anyway. The least they could do is let people just put forth ideas without engagement requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:47 AM
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None of this is about ownership. Avoid Dick Moves. That's my entire point. It's insane you think you're being rational when you're basically saying women owe undying loyalty You've got an odd way of reading things.. It's not about undying anything, it's about not making yourself look bad. This is not a complicated idea. It's the same logic as not immediately remarrying after a spouse dies. There are other people watching and judging you, in everything you do. If you value your social standing, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:42 AM
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All true. But there are already social expectations of men to spare women's feelings and to take their emotional needs into account. Certain jokes you don't make, certain ideas you don't voice. You can't be half as mean to women as they can be to men and that's a social concession that men make, collectively for a certain kind of social harmony. It's not something that every man participates in, but if you want to be a normal respectable member of society, basic regard for women is a prerequisit…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:27 AM
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All I'm really saying that a sense of propriety gives less ammo to your enemies. It's not that complicated. The farther the general idea of women is from being selfish, childish, indecisive, cruel, among so many other things, the better women off women will be. You can date who you want, but you should minimize the emotional collateral damage of doing what you want. That's not a hostage situation, it's common sense and decency. Wait a week before throwing a new relationship in an ex's face, don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:18 AM
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Probably, but the blind can't lead the blind
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:04 PM
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Why are you cussing me out? (And what does shoehorning mean) you feel offended that females more than males relate to sex on an interpersonal level No, I'm refuting it outright. Because women engage in impersonal sexual activity regularly. This reality makes you feel as though women are “exalting” themselves. That's more directed at you specifically because you're the one making the argument. Women are freaks (in the sense of perversion or being sexually adventurous), they fuck who they want and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:01 PM
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....They've done surveys on school age boys to see what they think of gender equality. But whatever dude, I've got a job to go to. It's not a revenge fantasy, there is real resentment and it will have political consequences just like other forms of resentment have had political consequences. Good day
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:51 PM
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Yes, I understand that clearly. I'm making the distinction if you read through what I wrote, without skimming. I know I wrote a lot, and it's the last wall of text I will give you on this subject. What I'm saying is that sex is not inherently part of “love, intimacy, belonging, and affection” relationships. We live in a culture that pushes it to be, but that doesn't mean that it is that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:46 PM
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I'm doing okay at the moment, mostly single by choice and disappointed with the women I could potentially talk to. I'd like to meet someone I'm compatible with more than anything, I think that's a bit different from being lonely. I wrote down a pretty long/detailed list of mainly mindset changes and steps that helped me almost entirely alleviate my feeling of romantic loneliness/feeling left out (NOT finding a relationship!). Are you on the spectrum by any chance? I have a friend, and this seems…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:27 PM
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You keep defensively projecting value-judgements and morality when it’s not applicable. Value judgments are part of society and shape sexual behavior. They don't have to be legitimate to have social weight. I'm not sure how you're reading me, but in any case I'll move on to your other point. I'm not saying these things to judge, I'm saying that this is how people's sexuality works in their social context. ---------- I wrote this part last, but I'm putting it first because I'm losing you here. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:22 PM
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Most females place sexual intimacy on the third tier. I think your interpretation would be helped if you separated intimacy and sexuality, because I agree that intimacy for women is on the higher end, and sexuality is often only socially acceptable for women if it is paired with intimacy and commitment. And that tracks with the relationship patterns women have, flings in the dark for short term urges, long term relationships for more socially acceptable partnerships. Because as I said in the edi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:54 AM
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Well it's selfish and self-obsessed behaviors that are being criticized, and people like that are at a disadvantage in understanding these kinds of points. If people like this actually understood their effect on others (and the consequent effects others will have on them for it) they wouldn't do it. They would understand just how much of a threat to their own interests it is to mistreat people at scale and know that blowback will come. But narcissists can't value other people for their own sake …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:32 AM
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That species level need can only be met through the acts of individual people, you're kind of splitting hairs here. Women viewing sex as a higher-level motivator compared to men who view it as a base-level motivator is a gendered incompatibility that causes a lot of heterosexual dating friction. I think that this exalts women's sexual habits and desires above their actual place. Women's sexuality is also base and primal. They're just pickier, that's it. Plenty of women are having loveless, insti…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:23 AM
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Sometimes, I really want to share with users here what really has helped me with this type of issue to help, but I know it would not be well received. You can't know that until you try. What's helped you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:15 AM
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Women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:14 AM
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You don't have to be constantly wrong to be berated. You're starting in a place where a man is assumed to be avoiding being rightfully held to account rather than being wrongfully mistreated. I agree that the former is childish, but that's not a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:12 AM
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Other men see you do what you do and it pushes them (for emotional self-preservation) to take you less seriously. You show that you have no loyalty to the people you've chosen, and in turn people will be less loyal to you. Act like an opportunist, you'll get treated like one. And when this takes place on a macro-social scale, it drives a wedge in gender relations in general. At some point, whatever sympathy or regard men have for women dwindles and that contempt, distrust, suspicion it bleeds ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:01 AM
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me and my female friends coach each other on things we want all the time Your female friends will not lose your respect for wanting your regular input. they give each other tips for work projects and talk to each other through marriage difficulties. That's collaboration for shared goals. Most women do not share or even try to understand our goals. Most advice a man would want or ask for is asking a woman to align herself with the interests of someone that she fundamentally doesn't relate to. And…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:50 AM
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Lol, that woman is pretty
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:44 AM
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It's not childish to not want to be verbally abused by your partner over small mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:42 AM
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I think there's an assumption that correction will become scolding and belittling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:15 AM
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The day Margot Robbie was called mid, I think a part of all of us died.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:14 AM
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Which one?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:10 AM
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Eye of the beholder, most women are flesh and blood, some are skin and bones, all of them are people and their looks shift from day to day. Nobody looks perfect all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:06 AM
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I can’t get a friend who is struggling to get a date a girlfriend. Depends on whether you have single friends. I can’t get someone who feels ugly laid. Not without a few high stakes conversations with your partner. But I can try to be supportive and kind and empathetic And that will be appreciated by the right people. people legitimately believe that the only true expressions of empathy are ones that magically fix everything and that everything else is fake. I think it comes from treating proble…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:04 AM
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some men really don’t like when women try to be empathetic If possible, I'd like to share some thoughts on why you might have run into this problem. That's because it's emasculating. And the best working definition that I've heard for how to explain what makes something emasculating is that it "undermines or distracts a man from what he needs to do to meet his goals". Most men's problems will not be solved through community as community often exists to ask something of them, not to give somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:48 AM
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XD
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:34 AM
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Why do so many men automatically assume good looking men are inbred assholes who beat women To be fair, it's a matter of perspective when it comes to people who are of average-but-unobjectionable morality. Just an example: a friend of mine has one of these for a boyfriend, and he can be kind of a competitive dick in an environment where he's winning a lot, but otherwise decent guy outside of those places. It's easy to let a negative impression color your entire view of a certain kind of person w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:18 AM
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i mean they have nothing to be upset about (generally). tall, athletic, good looking Yup. There's no karmic balance to this stuff. Some people have a winning hand and they, if you can believe it, win. Win, re-fucking-peatedly and they tend to be pretty anxiety free when they keep rolling 7s. And I understand the desire to focus on the attractive men who are disturbed, violent, of obviously low character, but there are plenty of good men who are also attractive. They just happen to be boring a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:05 AM
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I think it's more that they're only concerned with problems that get in men's way in relationships. That's their starting point "Does this make it harder to get a date?" if it does then it's important, if not then who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:00 AM
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It's quite possible for a woman to find an attractive man with morals. They do exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:47 AM
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The only valid point is "have sexual desire for him" So you approve of women being adult children who can't cook or clean after themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:54 PM
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Considering thousands of people had their insurance claims approved following that shooting just so United Healthcare could duck the bad press after it, whoever shot that CEO got tens and hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of healthcare to other people. It's not the most efficient solution, and it won't last and didn't last, but it did do something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:51 PM
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Have you considered that your father may be especially mentally ill? Like just because this was your normal growing up doesn't mean it is normal. Like you've got to resist the urge to normalize your own experiences. Most people do not grow up in a household that works like this. Yes men are flawed, all people are, but this is not a good example to prove your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:48 PM
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Self-reporting tells you more about the average honesty of the people questioned than what they've done.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:46 PM
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Rare, overall. Not that it's rare for women to hookup, just rare to explicitly look for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:29 PM
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My response to the list I. Basic Life skill, good for any kind of relationship you have, this is a win-win. Being able to prepare food is not a big ask. Just pick a man who can do it too and you'll be fine. II. See above III. See Above IV. Being thin isn't healthy, but being fit is. Take care of your body and people will notice. Take care of your body and you'll avoid problems. It builds self-control and an internal locus of control. Exercise is good. V. As a guy who likes awkward women, I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:16 PM
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IF THESE PARTNERS ARE WORTHY. The amount of comfort women have in constantly appraising other people's "value" is why they consistently meet push back on what they like and how they like it. Because every preference and requirement comes with a demand to "be what I want, stay that way, or I will judge you for not being it". If you're partnered with someone and it's a possibility that they're not worthy, you're not dating right. The people who make the cut should be the people that make the cut. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:15 PM
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More than "there's no way to know", it can be assumed that it's an inconsistently applied standard. That's how almost all standards work, most people are not actually fairminded enough to be strict in how they apply a standard. Especially a standard about what they want from other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:41 AM
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I agree, I think sex just works out as the thing that's most mutually validating thing people can do. Anything less opens things up for the guy to feel teased. Sex indicates a kind of undeniable interest from most women who'll have it with you. Most place some measure of importance on it, even if they have it fairly quickly in their relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:38 AM
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You're saying that if there isn't sex on the first date, women take that as a bad sign? We're judged on how hard we pursue even if the women would prefer not to actually do anything with us. Sexual interest is a form of emotional validation even if it leads to nothing sexual. Many women are deeply impractical people and they absolutely will get into their heads over a man not pushing them harder to do something they don't want to do anyway. The expectation is that we should try, so they can say …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:34 AM
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I'm 26, it's not about a lack of risk taking, not in the way you're saying anyway. People are just generally less healthy mentally and socially, and also less trustworthy and trusting which feed back into each other. Most of the women I've come across who've been available have been pretty unbalanced people, more prone to hurting themselves and others than building consistent relationships. And of the women that aren't available, they're simply more comfortable among other women. Likewise, the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 11:12 AM
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