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Dating a single mom seems context dependent/personal. Relative of mine (divorced) who didn't have kids, mostly because ex didn't want them, married a single mom and then adopted her youngest. (He dated lots of other women before remarrying.) So in his case a lovely woman having an amazing kid was a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:33 AM
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I think it's partly the pendulum swinging after the last few more feminist/equality-oriented decades, and partly Gen Z being somewhat more risk-averse (so less interest in dating a lot) than previous generations. I've wondered the same thing as you, tho I don't really know how widespread that desire is. I also think some young women may have seen how stressful working outside the home can be and want to try a different lifestyle than that. People may be trying to find a happy, balanced medium wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:09 AM
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As long as he knows you're interested in a date, I think the ball is in his court now and suggest you don't contact him and see if he reaches out/pursues you. He should know enough about you from pics and chatting to know if he's interested. Hope it works out!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 08:03 AM
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My reply is same as previous poster. Every therapist is different; a new one could be much more helpful. A professional should not be overwhelmed but be there as a source of support for you. Rooting for you, dear.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 11:23 PM
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💯 agree keeping phone in purse (unless OP and date are mutually using it) is essential. It will let him know all her attention is on him. Thoughtful and helpful post overall imo.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 11:10 PM
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Have you considered talking with a therapist about this? I hope the "explosive episodes" aren't physical. You and your daughter's safety and happiness are top priority here.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 09:22 AM
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I'd like to add make sure you have perfect table manners. If you're not an expert, look up dinner etiquette (napkin placement on lap, which fork for what, how to eat a steak or lobster correctly, etc.). Also I'd recommend a ladylike mani because he will see your hands a lot. You want to come across as refined and lovely. Agree with others that asking questions and really listening to his answers is essential. Smile a lot (when not eating lol). Laugh at his jokes, if applicable. Also be able to h…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 09:01 AM
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Off-topic but I love that book! Her other science fiction novel is excellent as well. Sorry to SF fan-interrupt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 11:27 PM
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I would find this a rude (and vague) statement and thus a red flag. Just me personally.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 08:56 PM
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I dislike it and never initiated it. Always uncomfortable when guys flirted with me too, going back to grammar school lol. But I do have both male and female friends who enjoy it so ig it's just a personal preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:55 AM
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Probably ask me a question. I usually listen to people so it's appealing when that's reversed sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 12:08 PM
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You sound like a cool, interesting guy. Don't let 1 bad date with a rude, silly person get you down. The college women I know are not superficial (or rude). Best of luck with your NASA job, that's awesome! and I'm sure you'll meet someone who appreciates you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:45 PM
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Rape is illegal and unethical. Reported.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:40 PM
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💯
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:13 AM
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No because I never make assumptions about 1) what a guy wants from me, if anything, or 2) what he's genuinely like overall. I'm friendly and gracious to anyone who's polite. If anything, I'd try to introduce a decent guy I wasn't into to a friend who might be, or just be pleasant and dance with him or something but without leading him on. So no, I've never found men annoying in the way you describe.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:12 AM
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Is he stingy on dates or just for himself? If he's generous toward you, but less willing to spend on himself, he may have grown up being careful with money or material things may not be especially important to him. My husband is endlessly generous with me but not so much interested for himself unless he really wants something. So maybe focus on how he treats you, rather than what he buys for himself as a single guy. Hope that might be helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 02:08 PM
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Honestly, truly interesting conversation is more attractive to me. Sexy seems more a smile or a look or eye contact or body language than a verbal game to me. I just respond to that more. In a serious relationship, sure, all the language, but still that's direct, not flirtatious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 01:58 PM
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I don't think anyone should "settle," if they don't want to. Why should they?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 01:50 PM
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I always feel awkward when men flirt with me and always have. Prefer direct approach of guy starting a normal conversation. It's an art I appreciate the skill of but never really enjoy. So maybe it's not necessary to flirt. Seems to depend on preference of the individuals involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 01:38 PM
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I'm a woman and the showing up = custody actually isn't true. I know several men who despite being good fathers had legal difficulty getting custody or joint custody. I don't know the legalities re: a prenup concerning kids though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:41 AM
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This may be the best advice I've ever seen on this sub lol--judge a man by his overall character not just his income. I do think most women know this, but still a good reminder for both men & women to consider the whole person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:52 PM
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❤️
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/23 06:47 AM
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Racist bs reported. Hope it gets rid of op's post.
/r/AllPillDebate19/07/23 03:19 AM
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Aerin Evening Rose. Somehow sexy and extremely feminine. Good balance. Husband loves.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 08:03 PM
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Yes for sex but no for wife & family. I'm a woman who dated then. It was easier for everyone to have sex because people spent a lot of time with each other, not online, which barely existed then. You almost couldn't help meeting people, especially if you went to college, or had a lot of friends (which were easy to make since people were always out and about), or even went to clubs (or really, anywhere). Unless someone was very religious, there was basically no concern about "body count" (cringe …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:03 PM
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I'm a SAHW, raised as a left-leaning feminist and still am--but I have a different, spiritual approach toward gender within my marriage. I don't remember what first led me here but I found this sub to be one of my favorites. I love the feminine vibe and the advice, especially the book recs. I've read Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife and I see my role in relation to my husband in a new and better light. I feel my eyes have been opened about feminine and masculine energy, receptivity…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 07:28 PM
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No way. If we're both free, ok. If it's just him, no interest in that scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:49 PM
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Personally and as a Nature Conservancy volunteer, I agree it's wrong (& in some cases illegal) to move a plover nest. But RPW or surrendered wife way to approach husband about it? Maybe don't question or criticize an action he may or may not have already done and may even feel bad about. Maybe teach your kids not to do this in the future and why (they are endangered, it will kill the babies, etc.). Re: husband, tbh if it was me, when we were in private I'd probably cry from sadness and hug him f…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 10:23 PM
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For dating: fun personality, common interests, attraction, sense of humor, polite For marriage: all of the above but add: character/reliability, a job/career (nothing specific); kind, adventurous, very intelligent and interesting (Just me personally and I'm lucky to be married to him :))
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:11 AM
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I don't really act differently with my male or female friends, except maybe more intimate with female friends or different topics of conversation sometimes. I think the main thing is to find women you like spending time with and have things in common with; then interactions will be more natural and easy. I don't see anything wrong with leading the convo at times if you have something to say you think the other woman will find interesting, but I think you're right on not interrupting or arguing. …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/23 10:28 PM
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Some dates are bad and you never know the reason. I agree with others who said no great loss (lemonade) and you dodged a bullet most likely. But you gained experience. I hope you put it to use going on more dates!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 07:32 AM
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In a dating environment it might change my attraction level, but in what way am I limited to not speaking with both these guys at different points in the evening and seeing how I like them beyond looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:21 AM
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I've never thought of sex (or anything else in a love relationship) as transactional. How is love a transaction? Sex (like a casual hookup) without love seems to benefit both parties more or less equally for pleasure, otherwise why would anyone do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:15 AM
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I successfully lost weight with Weight Watchers. You can do it in-person or online. You learn lifelong healthy eating and exercise habits. Highly recommend. Hope this or one of the other suggestions here works for you!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 01:13 AM
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Look your best and be interesting and kind. Be yourself. Smile. Pay attention to and respect the man you're with. Only date men you respect and whom you also really like (personality, interests, appearance, etc.). You'll be spending a long time together hopefully, so honestly, look for someone you trust and have fun with. Also, before it gets serious, make sure your life goals align in terms of family, lifestyle, etc. If a guy's clearly not interested in you don't waste time with him; the right …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:45 AM
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I wouldn't assume he would cheat and I wouldn't mind if he had past relationships. But the fact that you used the word "disrespectful" concerns me. I don't think there's ever a need for a man to be disrespectful toward women, even in a mutually consensual one night stand. That attitude would concern me more than his future (potential) playerhood. If you find him respectful now though, I wouldn't necessarily rule him out (people can choose to change) but that past disrespect would be a red flag f…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 09:24 PM
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Currently a SAHW. But earlier I was a technical writer and a marketing writer. I met my husband in college, and though we didn't reconnect and marry until later, I met excellent men both through work and just in my normal social life. I recommend pursuing your passion because you will be happy! I think men find happy women attractive! And I do know other women animators (and in tech in general) who are feminine and happily married.Best of luck whatever you choose.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 09:10 PM
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Others here have given great advice. Just want to share that I know several happily married women who had healthy kids when they were in their late 30s/early 40s. Yes, sooner is better, but you don't have to wait years after getting married to have kids. But I agree with others that making efforts to meet the right man for you who also wants children (and not wasting any time with other guys) is a more productive, goal-oriented focus for your energy than worrying. I think it's ok to acknowledge …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 11:01 PM
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If they're lucky, the guy they love. I
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:25 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:06 PM
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Are you sure you want to buy a house with your bf before marriage? I ask because if he's already "comfortable" just living with you, will this large fixer- upper project affect your marriage schedule? What if you don't end up marrying him? How will you split the house? Fixing up a house is a lot of work. Do you guys have a division of labor plan if you both will also be working full time when renovating? Maybe you can bring up current housework issues within the context of the much larger future…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 01:40 AM
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For marriage women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 05:28 AM
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Idk how old you are but I think you will probably meet someone you have stronger/romantic feelings for. I don't think you should settle for someone you don't love.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 02:39 AM
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Maybe because it makes a relationship seem more like a business transaction than a love affair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 06:27 AM
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No, I'd be bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 04:44 AM
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Constantly when younger and single. Now less often as I'm older and wearing a wedding ring and am usually with my husband. Guys still like to play flirt or chat a bit but not seriously hitting on me as I'm obviously not available.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 01:33 AM
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With great respect to anyone serving or who served in the armed forces for an honorable cause, anyone can push the button or give the order or command the army. It's not only about physical strength on the ground. And even then, training, skill, and tech are huge factors. A well-trained army of women with high tech weapons would beat an army of random dudes with pitchforks. I need men (especially the ones I love) for very different reasons: as family, friends, and just human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:47 AM
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My takeaway from your argument is that safety is backed by control of powerful weapons. This seems non-gendered to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:31 AM
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He may have misunderstood your interest level. Why were you letting him hold you if you just met that night? Perhaps being less physical right away would help keep the next guy that you really do like wondering and interested 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 11:35 PM
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Have to go custom because intelligent, interesting, kind-hearted, creative and cool aren't among the choices listed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:02 AM
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Tbh I'm getting "he's just not that into you" vibes from your post. I think people can change, though not necessarily quickly. Imo it's up to you to decide whether you want to wait around. You don't say whether you and he share the same values re: marriage and children. I agree with another poster who suggested you pull back on your efforts (maybe don't go to his place on the weekends) and see if that wakes him up a bit. You could also talk with him to clarify if he even wants marriage & kids on…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 06:51 AM
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Aw, sorry you misunderstood. I was trying to help. I think most people have no issue with anyone who wants to remain single and realize that's an option some people will choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:19 AM
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Well, no one's forcing you to get married or be in a relationship lol. It's not necessarily for everyone. Not sure why you're posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:08 AM
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So funny, I read this and thought: a combo of these guys sounds good lol. Like mostly B, but ok if he has casual sex, as in A. (I'm married but if I was single, this combo would be fine. Love all the hobbies!)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:24 AM
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You could try volunteering at local organization that interests you (e.g., an animal shelter or Habitat For Humanity, hospital, etc.) At best you'll meet someone who is caring and with whom you share a common interest. At worst you've contributed to your community. I know men who met their wives this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:37 PM
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Depends what you will value most in your children xD
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:47 AM
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You might have to expand your dating circle beyond RPW. Lots of beautiful and fabulous women just want to have sex or friends with benefits, etc. and are also not interested in marriage (or just want to wait and have fun in the meantime.) Not all women will take it personally if you say you're not looking for something serious. I'm sorry if this is your experience but it's not the whole picture. (But this may speak more to a previous generation's norms than yours.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:42 PM
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Who cares who's hooking up if both people are into into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:54 AM
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My responsibility is knowing what's important to him and makes him happy and doing those things, same as his is for me. The specific needs and preferences will vary couple to couple but communicating honestly and genuinely loving each other and being kind is central imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:35 AM
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My grandparents were in love in all ways for more than 50 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:30 AM
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Can't speak for anyone else ofc but I wanted a guy I loved spending time with and who had integrity. So having fun was necessary, but essentially honest and responsible too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:27 AM
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I'd just say early on that you're not looking for anything serious right now or that you don't want to marry. Then she can choose to stay or go depending on what she wants out of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:23 AM
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Being wealthy and super attractive were nice but but not necessary for me when dating. Being interesting, kind and smart were more important. Biggest turnoff for me was arrogance.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:17 AM
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College club. Been happily married quite a few years now!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 08:35 AM
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I find Fiona Ferris's books very calming and peaceful. They help they me to tune into the aspect of myself that wants to slow down, be gracious and appreciate and create beauty, harmony and happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 09:34 PM
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I'd recommend finding a different, really good hair salon and stylist to give you the perfect cut and healthy maintenance advice to achieve a look that will make you happy with your hair. You don't have to do this alone. If you can, imo this a great investment in yourself. Hair accessories, as others mentioned, are a nice feminine touch too. Hope you end up feeling happy and pretty when you step outside.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 08:15 AM
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Not a rpw, but I did meet my husband at college. Before we married, my college education enabled me to support myself. You might also enjoy the clubs and social aspects of college even if you're not career-focused. My college education also helps me understand my husband's work better so I can support him when he talks about work stuff. Best of luck whatever you decide!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 08:38 AM
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