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It's only overt if he tells her, and it's still a shitty idea to try to trade sex for favors.
/r/askMRP23/08/23 11:27 PM
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I think you should be aware of your covert contracts, and be very mindful of the reasons why you are doing things. There is a difference between doing something because you want something in return, and doing something as a gift. Know when you do something for someone else's favor, and when you do something because of your own altruism. Athol Kay recommends making your covert contracts overt. My personal experience is that it never works, my wife had a much larger awareness of my covert contract…
/r/askMRP23/08/23 08:40 PM
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I was calling OP out on improving himself with the explicit purpose of getting sex from his girlfriend. For a beginner I believe this is fine as a substitute for internal motivation. What caught my eye was the high degree of resentment and anger that OP is expressing, and that resentment is a problem if OP cannot channel it the right way. Resentment is typically connected to unfilled covert contract. OP seems to have done some work but is not getting what he thinks he is entitled to.
/r/askMRP23/08/23 03:01 PM
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Noted. Felt like it was necessary to point out that he shouldn't eat paint. Edit: Read his post history, and he writes that she does not provide any value. I agree with you.
/r/askMRP23/08/23 12:50 PM
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Another option is to stay with her while you work on yourself, but without any expectations that your relationship will improve. It depends on what value she provides. You are clearly in the middle of the anger phase, and going scorched earth in the middle of the anger phase is probably not the best of ideas.
/r/askMRP23/08/23 12:42 PM
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That was a lot of hamstering and covert contracts to unpack. Your frame sucks! try LTR for the personal belief that I think it is a better to have children in that type of situation [...] I won't break up with her; no need to explain, but there are indeed a lot of perks to being with a girl with rich parents It sounds like your goal is to get children. Then later it sounds like your goal is to marry rich, even if she won't have sex with you. Good luck getting kids if she won't fuck you. I have n…
/r/askMRP23/08/23 12:13 PM
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That makes a lot of sense, thank you! I like the subtle change of focus. For me variety is also key, sometimes I don't have the patience to wait and I just want to get over it. Regarding green lights, even before I put a baby in my then plate, wifed her up and our bedroom dried out I seldom got green lights, and her green lights are typically very overt. With yellow lights I often have to use the two steps forward one step back approach. In your first comment you were right on the money regardin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 07:02 PM
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Thanks, perhaps I phrased my post incorrectly. It's not the level of interest in me I am gauging, rather it's the level of responsiveness to further sexual escalation in that moment, while also effectively being a form of teasing in many cases. It has allowed me to calibrate how quickly I can escalate. An issue I see with the approach relying too much on her frame, rather than being direct with my intentions and taking her right then and there. Then again as I suck at calibration, a lot of the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 04:41 PM
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OYS 23 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 168lbs (-0.6), ~14%bf, DL 270x4, SQ 260x4, BP 175x4, OHP 110x7 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM, Models, Bang Reading: Iron John, The Red Queen I have listened to The Subtle Art of not Giving a Fuck this week, as the other books on my reading list are slow going. It's a nice and light packaging of some of the ideas of Stoicism, even if the language is a bit blunt and the book could have …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 12:47 PM
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You are helping him setup even more covert contracts. If I just bench X lbs my wife will fuck me for sure. She will not anything, and it doesn't matter anyway. Lifting is for him.
/r/askMRP21/08/23 05:15 AM
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This is a great list. I would even remove the first two from the list. Dinner happens regardless, and activity plans have been communicated well in advance. As for neighborhood bicycle, I believe a hard NEXT would be more appropriate than a phone call, but hey that's just me.
/r/askMRP17/08/23 05:22 AM
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OYS 22 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 169lbs (+0.5), ~14%bf, DL 255x2, SQ 245x3, BP 165x6, OHP 105x8 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM, Models, Bang Reading: Iron John, The Red Queen Mission: My mission is to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children, and grow to become the best leader I can be both in my personal and professional life. Health and exercise I am back to squats and DL after my lower back tweak…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 02:46 PM
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Edit: Ignore what I wrote below, it's irrelevant to you. This is askMRP and not askTRP. You get ONEitis super easily on girls, when you should plate them for a significant amount of time before committing. Women are the gatekeepers sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment, and you give away yours as freely as a triple digit N-count women. Your last "girlfriend" jumped on Chad's dick at her first opportunity. Sidebar, lift and go fuck ten other women. I'm assuming you mean that as long as in…
/r/askMRP14/08/23 06:45 AM
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How can you know if this is just her trying to weaken you or if you are truly not giving enough attention-love Why does it matter what she thinks? What do you think? When does it stop being a double bind and become a legitimate comfort test? If things are requested with a shitty or otherwise bratty tone, it's definitely not a comfort test. My last relationship ended due to complaints of her supposedly having to beg for love Light switch effect. She had already checked out.
/r/askMRP14/08/23 05:33 AM
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Depends on your program. Normally with linear progression programs you try the same weight again.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/23 05:28 AM
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since I can barely finish the minimum 5 reps as is, why add even more weight If you finished your reps you should add more weight. That's the entire purpose of any linear progression program. If you struggle with a weight but still complete the reps just lower increase until next time. Perhaps that's the entire point... Yes, that's the entire point. Reps close to your max weight will seldom be pretty.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 08:48 AM
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lifts Just wow! You should not be plateauing at those weights. Neither should there be a need to deload. Your lifts indicate to me that you haven't been adding weight to the bar every workout. How come? You probably won't be here next week, but you need to do more shit and read less. Find an area in your life, do some work to improve it, make sure it's improving, then move on to the next area.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 05:26 AM
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You are right. The reason is most likely my fear of getting caught.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 07:06 PM
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Your current work situation sounds difficult. Then again a high stress level, depression and obesity is a high price to pay for a good title and high pay check, especially if you do the work to finance someone else's lifestyle and shopping addiction. Instead of recommending you to lift, read NMMNG, and STFU (which you should do regardless). I might have an exercise for you. Instead of seeing you losing your job as a problem, try to find the gift in it. What do you want from your life? What does …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 05:57 AM
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You aren’t worried about being needy. You’re worried about looking needy. Touché. That I have definitely been doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 08:12 PM
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True, my last reply is focusing on my wife's response, and it's true that I have been on the dancing monkey plan. Changing the response of another person is an extremely weak source of motivation, and as such I have part by part removed it. I consider the relationship to be unsalvageable and my motivations is firmly on me. I'd be surprised if we are still together in half a year. I am going to continue to spend the majority of my time on things giving me value in my life, and that's helping me g…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 08:06 PM
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Why are you avoiding your wife? How has that worked out before? I am not avoiding her, over time I am just refocusing more on my own life and time with the kids, given that her sexual availability does not improve. Think small steps, and not directly following denial, more than just going about my day. I don't think I have ever avoided her, and therefore don't have anything to compare with in terms of how well it's working. The place I was just half a year ago I was following her around like a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 07:24 PM
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Are you suggesting that I am throwing the baby out with the bath water regarding reduction of kino and initiations? I see it mostly as a question of calibration. Big difference between what I have done previously with kino/initiations all the time/never, compared with dialing it the fuck down and using it in a way much more closely following the 2/3 rule. I have thought about how to decline cuddles when she seeks them, but have not come up with any method which does not come off as passive aggre…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 04:31 PM
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OYS 21 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 168lbs (-0.3), ~14%bf, DL 270x5, SQ 205x5 (rehab), BP 175x2, OHP 110x5 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM, Models, Bang Reading: Iron John, The Red Queen Mission: My mission is to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children, and grow to become the best leader I can be both in my personal and professional life. I have been thinking a lot of what I want from my life over the …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 02:33 PM
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My long term fitness goals is to gain strength and size (180lbs 10%bf), and to improve mobility and power in my high roundhouse kick. For squat my current issue is knees caving somewhat in the bottom position and lost tension in lower back, and a bit asssymetric push. Adductor strength and hip mobility is my main problem with my roundhouse kick. I want to fix these issues. In terms of strength goals I would like to reach 1/2/3/4 plates, but don't have any aspirations post that (yet). Short term …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 06:28 PM
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on a technical level, more awfulness Thank you for your input! I am curious to learn more about what specifically you find awful with my approach. Any suggestions on a better method? Continuing to lift too heavy with poor form does not seem to be a good way to go about things, then again there needs to be some weight on the bar to work on form. I have had some success with adding accessories to mitigate weakness previously, including your recommendation to do the hanging exercise for shoulder mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 05:24 PM
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Its like how anyone who uses the term “buttwink” or “deloads to work on form” will never accomplish anything in the gym Yes, definitely fuckarounditis, the stats speak for themselves, and my SQ and DL have not improved the past few months. Injuries do not help the progress either. My plan is to work on flexibility and adding accessories for abductor and adductor strength, and start to add weight to the bar as soon as my pain when I bend forward goes away. what is sacrosanct through practice This…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 04:04 PM
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Nice Madonna/whore complex. Do you disagree with the taxonomy from PFP, or disagree with my application of it? manual on how to dry out pussy Same question here, shitty advice in the book, or crappy implementation by me? I am having some success with pushing through LMR by AA, or just agreeing verbally and continuing to escalate physically. My girl has a lot of anxieties around sex (with me), and my challenge is that my frame and OI needs to be strong enough so that her LMR and rejections does n…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 02:25 PM
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OYS 20 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 169lbs (+1.1), ~14%bf, DL 270x5, SQ 245x5, BP 175x2, OHP 110x5 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM, Models, Bang Reading: Iron John, The Red Queen This week I have finished reading both Models and Bang. Of the two, I prefer the approach outlined in Models due to its focus on vulnerability and non-neediness, and how it's focusing on gaming high self esteem good girls rather than low self est…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 01:37 PM
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Thanks, that's what I am doing. Still not automatic though. It has made a huge difference in power dynamics, and based on the results I am suspecting that I might not be The Captain and Her Husband after all.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 05:15 AM
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OYS 19 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 168lbs (+0.6), ~14%bf, DL 270x5, SQ 245x5, BP 170x4, OHP 105x7 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM Reading: Iron John, Models Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I lifted weights three times, and did interval training twice during the week. I am close to fully recovered from my prev…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 01:29 PM
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And here I was hoping for cheat codes! Back to the grind it is then.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 05:42 PM
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Makes sense, and I agree. Just finished reading your OYS, congrats on turning your life around. How did you go about turning the game -> DTF wife covert contract around? This continue to be my main struggle. I LARP game, but without it being congruent.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 09:56 AM
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Thanks for sharing! Your notes were very useful to me. In the spirit of sharing notes, I have been reducing comfort, and now it's mostly resulting in my wife initiating a lot of cuddles back, something that did not happen at all even three months ago. Initially when withdrawing comfort I did it from a frame of anger, with a number of nuclear shit tests as a consequence. I still have a covert contract in there, but for now it seems mostly useful, and I deal with my scoreboard related anger approp…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 07:04 AM
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Thanks! Makes a lot of sense. I asked because I received feedback from a vet on not listing any goals for the upcoming week a few weeks ago. I have to started to journal my mindsets every day, and listing actions for the day. I feel it's helping a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/23 06:31 PM
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What is your rationale for not sharing goals? Due to acta non verba? I seem to see pretty consistent recommendations, both as feedback on OYS, but also in books, on having clear long term goals. I am also pivoting back and forth from sharing goals and actions in my OYS, and would like to learn more on your take on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/23 07:23 AM
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You know your wife better than I do. At least you should have plenty of opportunities to focus on your own life, lifting and hobbies when she is away. Perhaps even spinning plates if that's your thing. No kids will simplify things too if you decide that she is not worth it.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 12:57 PM
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Being away for weeks at a time, while being in a low attraction relationship. She will leave you mate, unless you can turn yourself around. Looking forward to reading your posts in the weekly OYS threads.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 12:48 PM
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We went the entire day without a single text. Did you feel you needed the validation from a text? sarcastically/jokingly said about how rough my day was cuz I missed her so much What was your goal with this statement? I can feel the neediness just by reading this. well let me help you destress a bit by eating that tight little p*ssy I get better results by initiating non-verbally. You should never ever ask for, or negotiate sex, which you are clearly doing here as you are offering sex in return …
/r/askMRP19/07/23 05:01 AM
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Makes sense! Impressive stats btw. How tall are you? I also noticed that you have a new account. Do you have a link to your previous account/older OYS?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 05:19 PM
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Sex/blowjobs aren't on tap, but close to. Hence why I've started cutting again Can you see the covert contract in this statement?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 05:07 PM
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Thanks! By using visual comparisons I think 15% is pretty reasonable. Strongur and Navy formula both results in improbably low values of 12% and 9% respectively. Then again I don't think it matters much in reality, as long as I am pleased with my own aesthetics. I am mostly searching for a way to track muscle mass, so that I can tune my bulks and cuts better.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 01:27 PM
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OYS 18 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 167lbs (-0.2), ~13%bf, DL 135x5 (rehab), SQ 135x5 (rehab), BP 160x5, OHP 100x9 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM Reading: Iron John, Models If neediness is prioritizing others’ perceptions about you over your own, then vulnerability is the exact opposite. - Mark Manson, Models I'm reading Models at the moment as I want to refresh myself on game, and it is helping me to get things to click…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 12:09 PM
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On it!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/23 09:42 AM
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I agree. Any suggestions on approach? For now I am trying to ignore her mental state as much as possible by focusing on what's in my control (me), and living like she is dead.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/23 07:06 AM
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You are not completely wrong regarding my mindset. The fixing mentality is definitely nice guy, and something I have been doing a lot historically. I guess the difference is fixing the man rather than fixing the wife and/or relationship, which might or might not fix itself at the end of the 1000ft rope.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 05:05 AM
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There's flirting I like and want more of and flirting I don't like and don't want or I'm just not in the mood sometimes. Thanks for the advice, this is something I have been struggling with previously. I find some flirting to be annoying, and it has often resulted in me losing frame. This is a challenge Yeah, now I see it, and you are right. I was overthinking it along the lines of "correctly" responding to comfort tests by providing the comfort and stating expectations. AA or AM would likely ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 09:06 PM
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OYS 17 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 167lbs (+0.7 lbs), ~13%bf, DL 280x1 (rehab), SQ 230x1 (rehab), BP 170x3, OHP 105x5 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM Reading: NMMNG (1st re-read), Meditations (completed), Up next: Iron John Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I continue to rehab my ankle injury, and it is still lim…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 11:49 AM
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No I haven't, but did now! Thank you! Excellent advice. The fucking I do, or equivalently my lack of fucking, does not define me. Choosing my own actions and living according to my mission does. In practice I am often letting a number of external factors define who I am. E-prime seems to be a nice way of helping me make that distinction. Here is the link if anyone else is curious: E-prime The post reminded me about something from psychology called Fundamental Attribution Error, stating that when…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 04:10 PM
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But I still don’t think I’m necessarily doing the “right” things I need to be doing. How do you know what's the right thing? Right thing according to whom? I think I’ve gotten to the point of minimizing mistakes Are all mistakes bad and to be avoided? Imagine a kid learning how to ride the bike that sees falling as a mistake that should be avoided at all costs. I believe that a learning mindset involves making mistakes. The fear of failing or fear of being unattractive would put you in your wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 04:45 AM
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OYS 16 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 167lbs (-2.5 lbs), ~13%bf, DL 255x10, SQ 270x2, BP 165x5, OHP 100x8 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM Reading: Meditations, NMMNG (1st re-read) Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I am approaching the end of my cut. I am very satisfied with the results, both in terms of the weight l…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 11:50 AM
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it wouldn’t have been a problem So your life will be great if you can just get your wife to respect your frame and leadership? Can you see how putting the responsibility of your happiness on your wife is problematic? It’s my fault. Damn right. STFU, lift and sidebar in that order. NMMNG and WISNIFG will be of particular importance to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/23 10:23 AM
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I'm sure that it can be great as a method of frequency of sex has already been turned around. Book of Pook and Practical Female Psychology in the sidebar. Mystery Method and The Game was what first got me into game, but would not recommend today more than for historical context. I was into the RSD The Blueprint stuff long ago. I am however probably not the right person to ask on MRP, as I am very rusty and have only done like ten or so cold approaches this year.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/23 07:08 AM
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The post u/FutileFighter mentioned might have been mine. I have been approaching MRP from the perspective of doing/saying the right thing without much success over the last months. Changing my mindset and re-focusing on inner game works much better for me. Then again I have built my current LTR on game, and have literally run every routine in the books on her. One of those examples of dynamite to children, as my relationship was the result of ~2 years of practicing game in my late teens. https:/…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/23 12:17 PM
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That's true, I definitely need to, and will, get my lifts up! I don't have any expectation that this will change anything other than my ability to push more weight though! Shame about sexuality is one of the important realizations I got from NMMNG. I had avoided initiating due to this shame.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/23 10:29 AM
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Thanks for the reading recommendation of Codependent no more. I will make sure to look it up. which you should have read Yes, I have probably read too much about game. What I am realizing is that it does not help with the mindset. Navel gazing about the nature of frame is nothing new and might actually help here That's what I am thinking too. I will expand a bit more on my mindset in my next OYS. I have started to come to the realization that I do most things for the wrong reason. conflating ini…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/23 10:05 AM
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You are of course right. Doing things covertly with the intent of getting her horny to get laid later is however I covert contract. I feel the difference is frame, or lack thereof.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/23 03:08 PM
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A very perceptive answer as always, thank you! For context, I am zooming in on a mindset issue. In the grand scheme of things I am very happy where I am at in my life, and am extremely proud of the progress I have made during my past 15 OYS. The struggle I am facing here is related to your initial example, I expect to see the reflection of my progress and my awesomeness in my wife. Whats that something That is the intelligence, humor and perceptiveness I bring to all my encounters, and how I hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 05:03 PM
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Excellent input, thank you. You are helping me put words on some things I have been doing mental gymnastics about the past few weeks. Knowing the path and walking the path is apparently not the same thing. I will have to continue to reflect on your questions. Whats different between your gift giving and his gift giving? My gift is often not a gift at all, but rather a thing I do to get something in return. His gift does not have any ulterior motive. The gift of my presence is associated with me …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 05:07 AM
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The covert contract is the "game" and prep leading up to it. I elaborated on the problematic mindset in the comment thread with Blarg, but it basically boils down to expecting sex from a frame of scarcity and pressing whatever buttons I have to get there. To exemplify, I might do kino from a needy frame, or get into unnecessary conflicts with the kids just to get them to bed early enough to have time for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 04:56 AM
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What's the difference between him and you? He is operating from a frame of abundance where he is the prize, and the sex is a gift he is giving. I am instead operating from a frame of scarcity where sex is something I need to manipulate my way to. What is "too dominant" to you? Was this it? No, enforcing a boundary with the kids, or saying no to unreasonable requests is not too dominant. This is also why I wrote "nuclear shit test", with emphasis on shit test. I believe that she is reacting to my…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 06:43 PM
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I see my frame (or lack there of, truly) as needy, but haven't received any feedback on it. I made this realization a few weeks back when I tried to orchestrate sex many hours in advance, and saw that this was a frequent occurrence for me. As an example I would use game as a CC whenever nearing sharkweek, a trip, or anything that might interfere with sex. I don't trust myself with not manipulating myself to sex during these times, and feel like I need remove this form of manipulation from my beh…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 04:18 PM
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OYS 15 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 169lbs (unchanged), ~14%bf, DL 255x10, SQ 255x5, BP 155x7, OHP 95x10 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM Reading: Meditations Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I got the stitches from my skin surgery removed last week, and have again been able to lift three times according to schedu…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 11:43 AM
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I see that most has been said already. Your issues however seem very much like mine, so I hope my experience can be valuable to you. First off, I think you might be hiding the lead. that it is painful post-baby Painful sex is a medical issue, and she should get it looked up by a medical professional. Fixing this will not do anything to her interest of fucking you though, so don't make it into a covert contract. Most recently she did something disrespectful during sex and i stormed off a bit butt…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 06:07 AM
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OYS 14 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 169lbs (-1.9lbs), ~14%bf, DL 320x1, SQ 290x3, BP 175x2, OHP 120x1 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP, TWoTSM Reading: Meditations Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I fucked up with my planning while getting some minor surgery due to a skin issue. I was assuming that I would be able to exer…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 12:32 PM
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Thanks! I will continue the grind.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/23 11:51 AM
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What is your goal? To bulk or to cut? < 170 at your height seems to put you on the scrawny end. Long term, gaining mass, but preferably while staying reasonably slim. I don't want to need to do a two month cut again. Why does it feel easier? Why do you care that they enjoy it? I'm more OI when I am not pushing towards any form of close. Looking for IOIs is a validation seeking behavior. What makes you certain this was a comfort test? I am not certain, but I imagine that I could tell the differen…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/23 08:14 PM
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OYS 13 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 171lbs (-1.1 lbs), ~15%bf, DL 320x1, SQ 290x3, BP 175x2, OHP 120x1 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP Reading: TWoTSM, 5/3/1 Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I am continuing to cut with the target of being below 170lbs and 15% body fat in beginning of July/OYS 16. The progress towards my …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/23 11:14 AM
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Thanks! All valuable input. I would be gathering options at least, there's a long road between hitting on them and a pregnancy scare In pickup it was all about congruence, genuine desire to fuck/interact. The line I have been drawing for now is to game but without escalating kino. The funny/interesting/annoying thing is that I feel a lot more desire to talk to other women than my LTR, as it feels a whole lot more natural. The validation of getting IOIs is part of it, but I also think there is a …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/23 05:41 AM
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I have initiated from the point of view of wanting to prove myself as a man who fucks, which totally is validation seeking. Then again my batting average is terrible. Not measuring the progress of my journey in something external as sex frequency however seems like a good idea. A much better metric is how satisfied I am with my life. sounds like you avoiding taking action with your missus by making it about you. You are probably right, and I might be hamstering the rejections away. The rejection…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/23 07:07 PM
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Thanks for picking up on this, you are likely right about an unstable frame. I think there is probably something more to unpack here too. In part the changing of strategy is likely due to not getting the effect I want (hello covert contract). Another part is probably being afraid of getting feedback on not pushing hard enough (unstable frame and validation need).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 06:22 AM
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OYS 12 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 172lbs (-2.5lbs), ~16%bf, DL 305x3, SQ 290x3, BP 175x2, OHP 115x3 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP Reading: TWoTSM, 5/3/1 Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I have lifted weights three times and practiced martial arts twice the past week. New PRs in both squat and bench press, as I am doi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/23 02:33 PM
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I see the DEER in my response above. It makes me wonder how much other DEER I haven't removed from my other interactions in my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/23 06:05 AM
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Just stay consistent in the gym and you'll definitely make it!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/23 06:00 AM
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Thanks! Remember if dealing with your wife isn’t something you like I do like interacting with her most of the time. It's interesting that it's not coming across in my posts. I have been working on reducing my ONEitis, and perhaps this is what's shining through. Also, If you don’t like or want sex, fucking you probably sucks. Yes, she has nothing to respond to. After stopping sex for validation my sex drive has completely tanked. I believe that it's slowly coming back though.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 01:30 PM
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Why would you initiate something you don't want? I do want it, but perhaps only at three on a scale of ten. Are you scared of having getting what you want and self-sabotaging? Partly I think you might be right, but perhaps more being afraid of falling back into old covert contracts. I have also been very afraid of initiating when I know that it will likely be rejected, and have been too much in my GF's head. It's also me wanting to widen the envelope of what's considered acceptable. As of late I…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 01:26 PM
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5x5: squat 140, bp 120, row 107, ohp 92; 5x1: deadlift 100 I am assuming that you are doing StrongLifts 5x5, please correct me if I am wrong. Didn't lift while away for the long weekend Weren't there any gyms where you were going? What were you doing the other days of the week? Lifted only once last week. Consistency is really important when doing a beginner program. There will always be excuses to skip sessions, and you need to build the discipline for this not to happen. I am struggling with t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 04:52 AM
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Great formulation! I don't think the 2/3 rule is something to follow in an autistic manner. I did actually try applying it by counting each interaction for a few weeks, I am a bit sad that I did not post OYS yet then, because it would have been hilarious to have you guys pick it a part. Following it implicitly by just having too much shit going on in my life is working a lot better.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 04:39 AM
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5/3/1 is an intermediate program, you are not intermediate Thanks, you are probably right. Will form check my squat. I am running two cycles of 5/3/1 during my cut. I will likely continue with SSLP again when starting to bulk again. For now I am staying with 5/3/1. get a better job I have reflected on this, and you make a great point. I already make top 1% in my local market, as I am a manager at a global top employer. The way of getting a better pay would be either to be promoted into senior le…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 02:24 PM
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Adhering to the 2/3 rule seems to make me acknowledge that this relationship is dead and she doesn't care. Pause on that statement for a second, I think you are right on the money about it being a covert contract. What do you expect to get out of following the 2/3 rule? What do you expect getting out of not following it? Before I started to OYS I created a massive covert contract around the 2/3 rule, and it made me very resentful about my GF's lack of commitment to the relationship. Today I thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 12:52 PM
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OYS 11 Stats Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 175lbs (-0.8lbs), ~18%bf, DL 305x2, SQ 280x5, BP 160x5, OHP 110x5 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP Reading: TWoTSM, 5/3/1 Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise After switching to 5/3/1 and starting to read the book by Jim Wendler, I have noticed that my previous H&E sections have been full o…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 12:47 PM
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She probably thinks the wash basket needs to be taken down. Have you asked her? Why does it matter to you why she is asking it? Either you believe it's a reasonable request, or you don't. My point was for you to be your own judge, either take some valuable feedback about your behavior and fix it, or you could interpret it as the thing you already identified it as, or perhaps just ignore a silly request and don't make a big thing out of it.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 03:42 PM
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What value do you see in taking the washing basket down at 10PM? Is it perhaps only to avoid conflict? Are you owning your shit in the home the other 23 hours of the day, as you are a man that has his shit together without the need to live with a substitute mommy? I recommend you to read No More Mr Nice Guy and When I Say No I Feel Guilty, and if you have, read them again. You are the ultimate judge of your actions, not r/askMRP, and not your wife.
/r/askMRP25/05/23 04:21 PM
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Will try it out the next time sex happens. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 03:41 PM
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Thanks! Doing it already, but have to try rock/grind. Less access for anal play though.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 02:48 PM
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Great input, thanks! My girlfriend definitely wants to be led most of the time, excluding around ovulation then it's mandatory doggy style. What seems to work for me is to make a selection of one of the "acceptable" positions, but not planning the scene more than that (e.g. who cums first, sequence of positions etc). Opening up sex for exploration is still a struggle. As mentioned in my response to FutileFigher, I believe I have been terrible at respecting boundaries, and as a consequence my GF …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 11:19 AM
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After having reflected on u/FutileFighter's comment above, SGM to me feels too advanced early on in the journey, especially when being the one with lower SMV, not yet having reduced my neediness and validation seeking around sex, and still having a lot of covert contracts. I also appreciated u/HornsOfApathy's comment in another thread this week about not creating a formal D/s relationship without first living with those dynamics. Both of these comments helped me with understanding the need of fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 04:48 AM
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Thanks! Eliminating covert contracts has helped me a lot with reducing my anger and resentment. Lots of more work to do though.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 04:38 AM
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Thanks, great input! My reflection is that I was caught off guard, and I created a lot of unnecessary drama out of nothing. It reeks of neediness and sex is novel enough at that point. I can see that. SGM became a big covert contract for me the last time I read it. Wanting to add too much variety (special sex act validation) is likely one of the original issues causing friction in our sex life. Me creating a need for her to constantly setup and enforce boundaries is not a good place to be in. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 04:14 PM
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OYS 10 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 175lbs (-1.5lbs), ~18%bf, DL 320x3, SQ 265x10/275x5, BP 167x5, OHP 117x5 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP Reading: TWoTSM, The Heart of Dominance Health and Exercise The week I have deloaded after feeling like my recovery was lacking, while keeping the number of workout sessions the same (2x martial arts, 3x lift). SSLP is too high intensity for me while on a caloric deficit. To deload I removed …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 12:00 PM
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Can't exclude either, and both might be true. A full hormone panel is on the todo-list. For now I feel like LARPing not needing sex is a useful mindset on the path to OI. Any input on a better mindset is appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:54 PM
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Way better unit price than wifey, and less hassle too. The question that keeps coming back to me these past few weeks is, do I need sex to be happy? I'm starting to get pretty fucking sure that I don't. Sex would not be the thing that makes me nuke my relationship, not right now anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 05:58 AM
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Muscle memory should play a large part as you essential get to recomp over the next several weeks/months Muscle memory is definitely a thing. I had a break of seven years of not lifting more than once a month on average. When getting back on SSLP it took me three months to get back all my previous 5RM and then some, without stalling and while eating at maintenance. The first time I did SSLP I bulked quite heavily and anyway had huge issues with stalling and needed to reset and deload to progress…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 05:13 AM
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I got way too into this book myself at one point, and made a covert contract out of it I am fearing this too. I know that she will not submit to me at this point, both due to lack of attraction but primarily due to lack of trust that I will be able to read and respect her boundaries. The thoughts in the book about creating a container, trust and confidence are therefore what I am mostly interested in trying to implement at this point, those are mostly "me" problems. I cannot say that domination …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 04:51 AM
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Indeed it is, with her. And you are completely right that I am not attractive to other women, yet. I am working on it, and will become a man with options. Thanks for seeing through my bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 07:01 PM
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You are of course right. I am sure it will resolve itself eventually. Pity that frequency of sex is outside of my control, given that I am not yet prepared to nuke my nuclear family. I know, lift, STFU and read!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 03:43 PM
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if she initiates I want it to be from desire and not seen as a means to an end. Are you sure this is not an example of an unfilled need of attraction validation? Why can't sex just be about sex? Validation needs that can poison your sex life
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 03:35 PM
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I set up an interview for a better paying position with more responsibility elsewhere I believe that Iron Rule 7 applies for jobs too. It's much less work getting a raise by applying for a new job than getting a promo or raise at your current job. Do you believe that your workload will go up significantly by switching? Is the extra money worth the additional effort? In my experience pay correlates very poorly with expected effort, then again you might have other expectations regarding working ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 12:48 PM
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Relationship and sex Not masturbating is starting to be effortless after three or so months of work. I feel like my sex drive is starting to come back throughout the day, and as a consequence have a lot more sexual tension in many of my interactions with women, including getting IOIs and minor shit tests from women at work. Furthermore, sex frequency is starting to feel much less of a problem as I am much happier now compared with a few months back. I still measure the quality of my relationship…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 11:42 AM
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OYS 9 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 177lbs (-1lbs), ~19%bf, DL 320x3, SQ 275x5, BP 167x5, OHP 117x5, Power Clean 145x2 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP, PFP Reading: TWoTSM, The Heart of Dominance I am really enjoying The Way of the Superior Man, but it's slow going as every chapter is so deep and requires a lot of self reflection. I will not rush this book, and am happy to only get through three or four chapters per week. I slowly feel …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 11:41 AM
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That's useful! I find it difficult to mot fall into the covert contract of creating sexual intimacy and expecting it to lead to intercourse. What I feel is working better is to have a clear exit in mind, and making sure that I am the one that leaves the situation first. As an example consider Athol Kay's shower move where you push your partner out of the shower in the end, or going in for a long kiss but abruptly stopping the kiss, grinning and leaving the room. I have reflected on the "needy ed…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/23 07:32 AM
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Thank you! Super useful feedback. In general I think I am too stuck in my head "what does the textbook say?" which makes things incongruent rather than natural. Teasing is great, don't mistake being critical for teasing though. I think there might still be some resentment that is visible through some of my "playful" interactions, which make them come across as passive aggressive rather than playful and fun. I also worry too much about how my behavior is perceived, rather than just going with wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 09:16 AM
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OYS 8 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 178lbs (-1lbs), ~20%bf, DL 320x5, SQ 265x5, BP 167x5, OHP 117x5, Power Clean 130x3 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP, BoP Reading: Practical female psychology I just finished the in my opinion overly verbose Book of Pook. I found the parts about womanese especially interesting, and see that I have a lot to learn in the area of subtextual communication and emotional meaning of what is being communicated. Prac…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/23 11:55 AM
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You're either super optimistic or you have no idea what you're getting into. You are right, I am a time optimist, and I sure don't know what I am getting into. I think my TDEE is a bit above 2500 kcal/day, and a 500kcal/day deficit seems OK. I will likely miss my target some weeks, but that's also OK. My largest worry is less energy for exercise. If I indeed decide to cut I will report back in my coming OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 04:58 AM
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If you initiate half-heartedly, the chances for resistance are much larger. Your woman gets turned on by your true desire. I believe this is the crux of the issue. My fear of rejection is causing half-assed initiations, and I go for the less direct initiations where I know I can handle a rejection. How about picking her the fuck up and throwing her on the bed. Push her against the wall, turn her around and THEN start kissing her neck from behind. Put your body into it. Give her the subtle feelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 05:11 AM
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Thanks! Great quote indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 05:00 AM
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Thank you. The first is your LTR enjoying the drama you created. You are most likely right. I have been a very successful Nice Guy in that I was able to disarm basically all my conflicts by giving in to my girlfriend's demands. I am sure this has been utterly boring. With increased exposure, your fear of her should recede, and the playfulness and teasing will be authentic instead of LARPing. That's what I am hoping. I still feel a bit afraid of setting and enforcing boundaries, as I know the bou…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 03:29 PM
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You are probably right, I have at least two months of cutting down to 15%. It's just a pity to change things when making good progress with the lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:07 PM
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OYS 7 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 179lbs, ~20%bf, DL 295x5, SQ 250x5, BP 165x5, OHP 115x4, Power Clean 120x3 Read: NMMNG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP Reading: WISNIFG, BoP Mission and hobbies: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. In my last OYS I talked about making some time for starting to play music again. I was able to squeeze in two sessions during the past week, and really…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 10:53 AM
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What new program is she running? At minimum you should be able to get to twice what you are lifting by following either Strong Lifts 5x5 or Starting Strength. I bought a set of 5-50 power block dumbbells and bench, and they are coming handy at home. Don't they sell barbells where you live? Dumbbell exercises are great as accessories, but with your lifts this is just fuckarounditis. and I was also stuck at these numbers Mind sharing parts of your workout log? Have you been skipping a lot of sessi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 05:49 AM
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This is gold! Don't forget...it's okay to love your girl. It's okay to like your girl. And if you love her and like her...why not have fun with her? This is something that I have definitely forgotten. Thank you so much for your explanations, I have some things to try out and practice. "In all of living, have much of fun and laughter. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured." This quote resonates a lot with me too. Before starting this journey "relationship problems" were taking up so much …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 05:11 AM
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Thank you, you are probably right. I need to reflect on your reply. On one hand I have been obsessing about it wanting to have fun with it, but on the other hand it became exhausting work as a result. I agree with your proposed mindset, and think that I am able to get there the few times where I am truly OI. I often have too much of a goal focus, and I believe this limits my ability to have fun in the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 07:50 PM
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OYS 6 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 179lbs, ~20%bf, DL 295x4, SQ 230x5, BP 162x5, OHP 115x4, Power Clean 120x3 Read: NMMNG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1, MAP Reading: WISNIFG, BoP Mission and hobbies: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. I haven't talked much about my hobbies in my previous OYS. When getting kids I forgot about myself and spent very little time on the things that I enjo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 10:55 AM
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I was reflecting on your reply. The only thing Rippetoe is guaranteeing with SSLP as long as following the program is to get to the level of being an "intermediate lifter". I took a look at a few different strength standards, for example Weightlifting Strength Standards, and it puts the intermediate level just about where you reported stalling in your comment, and also where I stalled the first time I did the program. Anecdotally this seems to be how the program is supposed to work, and I don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 05:39 AM
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Thanks, I am bookmarking the programs for the inevitable stall.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:44 PM
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Thanks! Any recommendations on program? I did SS my first time maybe seven or so years ago and got my lifts to close to my current short term goals, but did add some fat in the process. I don't intend on switching programs before stalling, but that will likely happen in the coming weeks or months if I don't start eating at a surplus, as I am rapidly approaching my old 5RMs.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 12:48 PM
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Thank you, you are right, covert contracts abound. Your comments were difficult to read as they hit close to home. I think you get my point. And if you don't, that's unfortunate for you. Yes, crystal clear. Thanks for the input. I agree that my mindset and initiations need a lot of work. I was going to ask you for pointers where to what areas to redirect my coming OYS, but I already know the path forward and have not put in the required work and the work that I have put in has been done with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 04:53 AM
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OYS 5 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 179lbs, ~20%bf, DL 275x5, SQ 215x5, BP 162x5, OHP 110x5, Power Clean 120x3 Read: NMMNG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1 Reading: WISNIFG, MAP Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and fitness The linear progression in the Starting Strength program that I am following is continuing to hold. Last week I missed a lifting session due to doing …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 11:41 AM
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OYS 4 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 179lbs, ~20%bf, DL 265x5, SQ 205x5, BP 160x5, OHP 105x5 (-10lbs reset), PC 110x3 Read: NMMNG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1 Reading: WISNIFG, MAP Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise As recommended by Starting Strength, I added power clean every other workout to give me more time to recover from my deadlifts. Last week I mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 02:04 PM
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Have you read the books by David Marquet? I use many of his methods with my direct reports, as I want them to take more initiative. Instead of asking the team for permission, I encourage them to state "I intend to..." as the preferred way of communicating an action. For me "I intend to" is a powerful phrase for taking ownership of something and I also tend to use it a lot when managing up. In many ways I feel this is similar to "I want to...".
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 07:19 PM
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Thank you! Good stuff, I will try it out!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 04:05 PM
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I have similar leadership training, and very much agree. Countless of feedback rounds at work of being asked to be less direct does not help either. I feel like it's the difference of being direct in a manipulative way (We need to do it this way) compared to being assertive with a "I want it done this way"
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 03:20 PM
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Don't use your SMV as a marker for her sexual adventerousness. Thank you, that's useful. I am trying to do what I want/consider fun while trying to stay out of her head, but I am obviously still failing part of the time. Question: How do you react when she turns you down? Historically not very well at all, including big fights over sex. The past months I have gotten better at applying CF/AM for example by with a big grin saying things like "Ok, tomorrow it is then" before going about my day. As …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 03:19 PM
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OYS 3 Stats: Age: mid 30s, LTR mid 30s, three kids below age 13, 5'11", 179lbs, ~20%bf, DL 265x4, SQ 185x5, BP 157x4, OHP 115x5 Read: NMMNG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1 Reading: WISNIFG, MAP Mission: My mission is to become financially independent, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise Continuing to follow Starting Strength, I am up to my old best 5RM in OHP and BP, and have started microloading to be able to complete more sets. My squad and deadlift…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 01:01 PM
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I am still early in my journey too, but there are some great stuff in the sidebar. No More mr Nice Guy and When I Say no I feel Guilty are already making wonders on my life. What do you want in your life? What is stopping you from getting there? What can you do right now to get there?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/23 08:01 AM
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Thank you!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 03:21 PM
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No, I haven't! Thanks for the advice, I'll definitely try it out next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 07:26 AM
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Thanks, I agree. Seems like low hanging fruit. I have been avoiding fixing due to pure laziness.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 05:00 AM
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And I spotted another covert contract by proof reading my post. I stepped in with a positive vibe ("C'mon, try again, this time you'll make it!", "You did great!" etc) which improved the mood. If I just show more leadership everyone will be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 12:49 PM
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OYS 2 Stats: Age: mid 30s. LTR mid 30s. Three kids below age 13. 5'11", 179lbs, ~20%bf, DL 235x5, SQ 170x5, BP 155x5, OHP 115x3 Read: NMMNG, MMSLPx2, SGM, RM year 1 Reading: WISNIFG, MAP Mission (Still a work in progress) My mission is to reach financial independence, and to create freedom and possibilities for myself and my children. Health and exercise I am skinny fat! I was too kind to myself in my first OYS when calculating bf%, and I am most likely closer to 20% than 15% based on images of …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 12:47 PM
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You are of course right. Thank you, I needed to hear that. Your reply also got me thinking that it is a buffer to avoid dealing with my fear of rejection and protecting my ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 05:54 AM
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OYS 1 Stats: Age: mid 30s. LTR mid 30s. Three kids below age 13. 5'11", 181lbs, ~15% bf (navy) DL 225x5, SQ 155x5, BP 145x5, OHP 110x5 Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, SGM Reading: MMSLP (2nd time), TRM year 1 I found out about game in my late teens and started pulling girls of much higher quality than before. I got a oneitis for of my plates (did of course not know what a plate was back then), making her pregnant, moving in with her and revering to an utter state of beta. After our second child my LTR was b…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 01:57 PM
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