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| 17 | Redpill teaches men things to avoid but is extremely damaging to having real relationships | Debate | Revolutionary-Swim24 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 07:49 AM |
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| 1 | Redpill teaches men things to avoid but is extremely damaging to having real relationshipsI would say more accurately that the very thing that makes a guy attractive (or a massive part of it) is how other women see him. But you don't actually need to threaten in any capacity talking to them. I'll say that with my soon to be wife, I actually tried to pass her shit-tests the pickup artist way and it caused serious problems. She got trust problems from it and told me we aren't moving forward if you dont stop being like this. The thing that she actually wanted from me was for (to give an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 07:26 AM |
| 2 | Female written romantic literature is insanely patriarchalAs someone whose... I guess I'd say purple pulled, this is kind of a bad argument. Like yes in practice just about everything that makes men actually attractive is being in some way more dominant than she is. However, for every woman who watches 50 Shades, theres another three who watch Friends. So this is somewhat of a selective audience who read smut. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Y'all are shooting yourself in the foot with the slut shaming and puritanical cultureMost men in these cultures who I know are extremely misogynistic and also look down on the women they have sex with. Like yes I agree that looks isn't a huge component of what makes men attractive (on dating apps it's different but there's a massive difference between who women will fall for in real life and who they'll swipe right for) but none of this is an example of a healthy sexual culture. These are the kind of men who commit honor killings for the same behavior they engage in regularly an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 06:30 AM |
| 1 | It is worth sacrificing a marriage for a paternity test.I think that a lot of men here need to understand that there is a reason why women don’t like the idea of this. It’s not romantic. It’s a delegitimization of the struggle they go through to basically have a rubber stamp that they didn’t cheat and lie and aren’t sociopaths for doing the most intense form of giving imaginable. But. In the last 60 years, men have essentially gave in on every comparable issue, despite originally saying that it was a violation of trust and a betrayal of their hard wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 07:56 AM |
| 1 | For redpilled men, what does consent mean to you?Consent means she is a) physically capable of saying no, b) practically has an ability to say no and is not threatened in any capacity including non physically, c) is not blackout drunk to the point of lack of basic situational awareness, d) does not say no or try to push a guy away, and e) if she doesn’t say yes, reciprocates either with a smile or returns touch in some capacity to affirm her consent. I’m not necessarily saying that this is the smartest standard to have practically, but I don’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 09:57 AM |
| – | Is it true that almost every average couple has a dead bedroom?https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-often-married-couples-have-sex#:~:text=Average%20number%20of%20times%20per%20week%20married%20couples%20make%20love&text=25%25%20had%20sex%20once%20a,had%20sex%20once%20a%20month Roughly 50/50, which is rather good considering that an absolute half of marriages generally result in divorce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Women totally care about personality more than looks and dig guys who are decent and cool. But here's the twist – they kinda suck at reading character.This. Even the looks standards women actually care about aren’t about looks, they’re about feelings and conversational dynamics that happen to come with certain physical features, like muscles or height, which shape perceptions of a personality. Being tall creates a different conversational dynamic and a different feeling when talking to someone, and it’s not something very easy to compensate for. Like yes, women might like guys with full hair and blue eyes, but these are not at the top of most … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 09:09 AM |
| 1 | The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male heightI’ll say this. When looking for a long term partner, demanding looks well above and beyond the over 50% threshold, especially if you’re not over that threshold and don’t have money or a serious skill to make up for it is… a choice, but it probably won’t bode well for you, because statistically not that many such people exist. Demanding 6’3, or even 6’0, is the equivalent of a guy demanding a wife with giant natural boobs. You can do it, but if you’re looking for a stable relationship, looks shou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 08:38 AM |
| – | Are you guys in tune with the dating culture of your own country?I’ll say this. As someone who lives in a rather traditional culture (Israel) and grew up in America (which in my opinion literally the single best dating culture in the world if you’re looking for something serious and you’re Jewish), America does impact the rest of the world in a serious way. In my country women both typically wait until hard commitment if not marriage (if even slightly religious) to have sex (obviously not all but that’s kinda the definition/border of what Israelis look down o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 06:24 AM |
| 6 | The "male housework list" or "honey do list" (the second shift) | Sources from Dr. Warren FarrellI dunno, I know plenty of guys who do all of these, and each individual one on this list is either every other day, every other week, every other month or every other year, but they're all stressful, physically difficult and things women generally loathe doing that are necessary for a house to function. More than that, if you hired a professional for all electric work, painting, shoveling, moving big furniture around, plumbing, lawn care, pest control, leaf raking, car issues, leaks, etc and bou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 09:35 AM |
| -1 | Are you a ‘Traditional man’ worthy of a ‘traditional woman’? (Question for men who seek a traditional relationship)https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/12wvxgj/the_male_housework_list_or_honey_do_list_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button First of all see this thread insofar as men's work that goes unnoticed. Men do almost as much housework as women do and the type of work they do tends to be much more financially costly and emotionally and physically burdensome, not to mention skilled. It's not "all the housework." It's your half. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 08:25 AM |
| -4 | The "male housework list" or "honey do list" (the second shift) | Sources from Dr. Warren FarrellAnd this is why even in relationships wherein both partners work full time jobs, telling men they must do 50% of traditionally feminine household chores is simply not legitimate in 2023 when dishwashers and washing machines have automated the most difficult aspects of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Are you a ‘Traditional man’ worthy of a ‘traditional woman’? (Question for men who seek a traditional relationship)Depends. First of all, it's not like I'm not going to expect a guy to clean their dish if it's just themselves or on regular occasions if it's just him and her, or to not clean a big mess he makes right when he makes it, or to demand her to cook for him at times that it wouldn't particularly make sense, or to do all the child rearing, if he's not the sole provider. However, laundry, dish accumulations/on a date night preparing and washing an extra dish, sweeping, the sort of organizing that men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 04:44 AM |
| -2 | Are you a ‘Traditional man’ worthy of a ‘traditional woman’? (Question for men who seek a traditional relationship)Ok here we go. There is zero connection between being trad and being a sole provider. This woman talking point that's developed where "I don't wanna have a traditional relationship unless I'm a sugar baby" is probably the biggest reason the west is falling apart because it was never like that anywhere in the world until the 1950s. Being a woman who wants to be feminine and be 100% the best wife she can be and not half wife and half husband, and treat her husband like a king, and clean and genera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 04:05 AM |
| 1 | the fundamental issue with most dating advice directed at men is most of it boils down to “be someone else entirely”Yes, women want a guy, usually, who will be assertive, happy, confident and set boundaries. This is something every guy should be able to do no matter what. It's not a matter of personality. It's a matter of temperament. And by the way, I have friends who are shy and feminine that have great partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 02:00 PM |
| 1 | SOME men in your league will try to use you. But if you only go for men above your league, ALL OF THEM WILLI think OPs point is that from Chad's perspective, if Chad is looking for a relationship, then Chad, given that he has all the options in the world, will only choose the best of the best and if you're average looking, high body count, have a kid, idk whatever people judge over, etc, you will find that the only thing Chad will want from you is casual sex. Meanwhile an average guy is going to actually be willing to settle for an average women, so regardless of if a percentage of average dudes will… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/23 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman?I mean... Deserve no, but that is what I look for in a partner. One noteworthy thing about the west however is that a lot of traditional/especially a lot of foreign women expect a life of absolute luxury in exchange for chastity and exclusivity and being traditional. Which is really not realistic and furthermore not the way actually traditional societies operate. I live in Israel and I've never met a single woman here that didn't wanna get married and have kids (and like before 26.) But I've als… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/23 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Do very attractive men have a hard time respecting women because they know first hand how easy it is to get most woman to cheat with him?Ultimately women tend to only get with guys that they don't really find attractive when they're trying to settle down, but it should be stated that guys that are tall and maybe somewhat more attractive can also be in relationships where they have zero leverage. This isn't just an ugly guy phenomenon, it's a pushover phenomenon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/23 04:02 AM |
| 1 | CMV: pushing RP theories like the wall encourages immature women with very little life experience to make rushed decisions about who’s genes to pass onSo I think a general issue in all of this, period, is that red pill doesn't explain to women how to get men, which is extremely difficult in the west and any other place wherein the general cultural pattern isn't getting married young and where most men haven't been brought up to be good husbands and many men are going to lie their way into bed. Are women's marriage chances significantly damaged by a high body count and/or age? Yes. However, telling women to rush into unstable relationships to g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/23 03:53 AM |
| 1 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?So it's not that women can't experience love at first sight and the women saying that here are just kind of lying about themselves unless they're extremely special, but one has to clarify what "first sight" means. To women, they're not necessarily going to fall in love with a guy at literal first glance, for many this is impossible and for most to whatever extent they might think a guy looks kinda dreamy it isn't a very deep emotion. However, what absolutely does exist for women is falling in lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?So yes, it is too, because casual sex is actually a lot more appealing to men than it is to women, and it's kinda difficult for a lot of girls to meet high quality guys in the present age of social isolation, especially when women tend to have high standards. However, from a perspective of trying to find a traditional wife as a man, in the west today virginity isn't necessarily the green flag that you might think it is. A woman whose not incredibly religious and over like 22 has probably had a c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Do men really want traditionalism more than women?Your average millennial woman in America has had 11.5 partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 04:04 AM |
| 0 | CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles.So what I'll say on this is that while OP is kinda delusional about the idea that women aren't expected to contribute to bills and work equally or at least almost equally, there is something to this. Men are expected to do masculine chores, like fix cars, repair things, take out the trash, keep everyone safe, do yardwork, and generally bring home somewhat more money, at least if there's kids. In the 1950s, women didn't work and were expected to do the cooking and cleaning, and now they do work a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 10:18 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of same sex cheating, compared to opposite sex?I don't really view it as cheating period, although the only definition of cheating is doing something against the rules of a relationship and so if that's how your relationship works then that's cool I guess. I'm not gay and neither is my girl so it doesn't impact me in any way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 02:54 PM |
| 1 | CMV: attractive RP men SHOULD care more about a woman’s financial status and intellectPersonality sure. I'm not sure why I'm supposed to care about class though. Seems judgemental for no reason. Plenty of women without tons of money are intelligent and with good values. And unfortunately there is a phenomenon of some women with money that they have a mentality of "I have my own money, I don't need a man, therefore any man I have I'm going to keep on his toes and demand an impossible standard from because I don't need him for my financial wellbeing and I'm going to remind him of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 02:52 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of men wearing shoe lifts to appear taller?So as a guy whose 6'2 and I guess I have privilege here, wearing sneakers with insoles that are made to look normal is try hard behavior. But, literally just go buy yourself some nice boots. Measure the soles, see what gives you the most. Im here to tell you, timbs give you more than an inch. if you're short, wearing boots that actually look good on you is a fashion choice, it doesn't scream insecurity. Also if you're under like 5'7 I understand complaining about height but if you're not my best… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 06:17 AM |
| 28 | Do women really want a man who opens up in a relationship?Women need emotional stability from men. This is a need. It's as much of a need as financial stability. High quality women will... tolerate you when you aren't at your best if it's a legitimate reason because they ultimately believe in you, in the same sense that high quality women will tolerate you not making money for a period of time. That doesn't mean they like it. Women need a man who they can look up to and can assume to always think rationally and not succumb to their emotions who they ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 01:41 AM |
| 2 | There's nothing inherently wrong with having a high body count, but it is a predictor of other red flags in the relationshipIf she grew up secular like I did, had other good qualities, and blew precisely one dude who was her boyfriend who she wanted to marry while she was 18 and stupid and sorta just starting to get into religion (this would be the parallel situation because this is what happened to me), and was completely over said guy and regretted it (as it is for me), then sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 12:53 PM |
| -1 | Change my View : Most Humans would cheat or replace theyre Partner if the "New Partner" is way more "high Value" then theyre old PartnerCheat not necessarily. Replace, perhaps, but one has to understand that there is a concept of subjective value (a word I sort of coined but imo hits the nail on the head insofar as what's missing in the red pill worldview.) There's things that make people high value in the universal sexual marketplace, or to every guy/girl. For example, height as a guy, money, weight, humor, body count as a girl, etc. However, there's also things like chemistry, values, sexual performance abilities (while these … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Stop saying such and such is "not a gendered concept"So men cheating could be argued as equally as emotionally hurtful, depending a lot on context, cultural expectations, and whether kids are fathered from it, but overall it's an entirely different set of emotions being triggered. Men cheating makes women feel like they're not enough for them, worthless, used, and lied to. Is this grounds to end a 20 year marriage? Maybe. It's not a new idea that women are jealous of affairs, it's in 2000 year old literature too. Women cheating triggers something … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 09:13 AM |
| 1 | How do redpillers justify sleeping around if they diminish the worth of women?As someone who lives in a traditional country where there is a real sense that most women want to either save until marriage or marry in their mid 20s and not just give it up to anyone, as a member of this society, it is logical for me to care about it. If I were living in a country wherein the women also don't really care... Well, I might want to avoid them, but I wouldn't see it as morally evil, unless it was to the extent of leading on a girl who was genuinely traditional and hurting her abil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 06:29 AM |
| 5 | There's nothing inherently wrong with having a high body count, but it is a predictor of other red flags in the relationshipThis is a false statement. I'm a virgin (I've gotten blown, I've gone on a lot of successful dates, and I've turned down sex, but I'm not sexually active because of both my religion and the fact that I'm looking for a girl who will wait for marriage) and I both know how to cold approach and how to escalate quasi sexually as well as how to think for myself and not simp. You don't need bodies to be confident, you just have to be... Well, confident. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 06:24 AM |
| 2 | Men and women not owing stuff to each other.Ultimately yes sex is a duty, but it's a two way street and sex should be viewed as something you owe her as well, and not just simply sex but giving her sexual pleasure. If either partner decides they don't want to please the other, and not just because they don't feel well one night, then this should be a deal breaker. If you have kids, then it's a bit more of a serious conversation, maybe I'd stay married for their sake and in all likelihood there's something wrong with trust or some sort of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Sexual ignorance is better for long-term partnershipshttps://amp.bodyandsoul.com.au/relationships/sex/heres-the-average-number-of-sexual-partners-each-generation-has-had/news-story/f114d63057bf898cc8581328d7f31ac5 Not really true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Is There A Big Enough Time Gap To Excuse a “hoe phase”Nah, I just don’t date women with hoe phases. If they are willing to fuck me quick too, I don’t exclude myself as an exception, what that means is that she doesn’t view sex as a prized expression of genuine intimacy, and I don’t think time erases experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 05:41 AM |
| 1 | While women are sexually objectified, men are emotionally objectified, they're both wrong.First of all, I think the thing women find attractive is when their man is a winner in what he does and when his narrative with her is one wherein he is the captain and can handle anything, and when he is not confident in himself and bad at handling problems, that is obviously not going to fuel this narrative. Crying and low self esteem demonstrate this. However, having problems, hardships, moments of weakness, etc alone shouldn’t turn off high quality women, and many women actually enjoy taking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 10:36 AM |
| 3 | The Red Pill’s biggest shortcoming and why men need to actually work on understanding women (and how to do it)I think the bigger failure in the red pill world is their understanding of how hypergamy and male value. And some non red pill PUAs actually do understand these concepts, which is what makes them actually better at getting laid. There is both objective and subjective value as a man. Objective value is the things red pill people love to talk about: height, muscles, money, raw charisma, etc. In a woman’s subjective view of a given man and her narrative of him in her life, so these exist? Undoubted… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 10:07 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussyHaving more partners either means you had sex without commitment, which is to say, for each partners you turned off the natural inclination for sex to create an intimate bond, or you had sex with commitment that didn’t work out, meaning you have created intimate bonds through sex that failed. Either way, the result is that more partners means pair-bonding happens less automatically through sex. And this is true for women more than men because I don’t think men really form connections automatic i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 09:53 AM |
| 2 | CMV: The manosphere bastardized decent traits into the "The Dark Triad"There are some women like this, that genuinely like men who don’t care about them and exhibit cruelty (the caveat is that they have to actually be winners in life and not be bitter incels). I don’t think this is descriptive of the majority of women. I think the majority of women can fall for a guy who happens to be dark-triad if they’re confident, objective and empathic (as the OP says.) Even then, there are some women that can spot these traits a mile away because they’re kinda hard to miss. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | While women are sexually objectified, men are emotionally objectified, they're both wrong.Meh. I think there’s a point where things can get toxic, but gender roles are biological and people will on average be happier when these needs are met. Men will feel happier when a woman acts submissive and shows herself off to him. Women will feel happier when their man can be their rock. I’ll let women speak about women, but I’ll say as a man that I actually think masculinity is healthy and the things that will actually make you happier are by sticking to your routine and succeeding in life. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 11:16 PM |
| 3 | Do all men wish their current girlfriend was a virgin before him?In my experience most guys who prefer virgins, prefer them because they form bonds more naturally and not out of jealousy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Do all men wish their current girlfriend was a virgin before him?Yes, although part of this is a) myself choosing to also not have sex before marriage (even if I’ve done some things like it) due to being religious and b) living in a country where this is normal for women that aren’t extremely religiously repressed to do, plus c) being 20. These factors make it very possible for me to actually marry a virgin who isn’t weird and has a healthy view of these things. I actually agree with the answers above saying that in the west, a girl whose a virgin over like c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 10:42 PM |
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