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OK... So... Your word as a man about the sexual arousal patterns in women is more valid than women's opinions. You completely failed to register the point I made that beauty is entirely subjective, NOT linked to genetic fitness and that standards change with time and geography. And you tell me to ignore studies because theyre irrelevant and are "too much thinking" .... 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Well there's no arguing with stupid is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:03 AM
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No. Youre chosing your own words, of your own free will. Dont pass the buck.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:20 AM
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Im sorry.... You lost me at "these bitches should realise that they have no value". Truly vile and disgusting stuff there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:16 AM
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(1) You're extrapolating from male thinking. Mens thinking seems to extend as far as "she's hot, me wanna bang her" (with or without a relationship). Women can see male beauty. But womens sexual arousal paths often require far far far more. (2) Beauty does NOT equal genetic superiority. Factually, it just doesnt. Plenty of beautiful people get ill. Plenty of not beautiful people live to a ripe old age. In the past, yes, "beauty" would be linked to the amount of nutrition a person was getting (go…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:12 AM
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Jeeeeez. Personally, Id try and cultivate some depth. When I say some, I mean, any at all. And heal whatever trauma is going on in your mind. How long can you stretch it out? You can keep going until you're 95. The issue is that you will look more nd more pathetic as you go on, and your soul will rot more and more. And at 26, you're already well out of this being an age appropriate exploratory phase, and into looking pathetic and it sounds like your soul has already started to well an truly rot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:32 AM
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Yes. If a man finds a woman "hot" it seems to universally mean that he wants to fuck her, maybe have a relationship. If a woman finds a man handsome.... It means that she finds a man handsome. And that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:25 AM
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Ir does show that he doesn't value relationships, because everyone haa limited time on earth and he has chosen it to screw around instead of building something meaningful. Fine. But not aligned with my value system
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:15 AM
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Awful isn't it. That as a human being, I'm only accountable to myself. Not to the nen who want to fuck me. Ah I miss the olden days
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:13 AM
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I want a man who has enough drive and energy to lead in a relationship. That's not a "test", its a criteria. Or am I not allowed to have preferences as a woman....
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:11 AM
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Yeah that's pretty much the summary. It's slightly unusual in that I have no interest at all in orgasms. But most women dont really have a great interest in orgasming during sex. A lot of my friends cum with men because its the man who wants it more than her (basically an ego boost for the man - something I have no interest in providing). What you have to realise is that PIV sex isnt inherently orgasmic for women. In the foetus, the genetalia are asexual for quite a while, being neither male nor…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:54 PM
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Depends. Will either of them leave me the hell alone? Or are they both going to take marriage as an excuse to be able to rape me?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:41 PM
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(UK) Generally I like the app. Seems to be a slightly higher quality of men on there. On the downside, it removes the simple "test" I have for whether a man will initiate conversation. Plus I worry its full of lazy men who expect women to throw themselves at them (this is the way it's marketed in UK).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:38 PM
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To me, a key question is does he have good morals and values. And is he able to set cleae boundaries and expectations. And, to be blunt, does he make sure you can't get away with stuff you know he should call you out on. Thats the to respect, I think. Incidentally, those traits arent about dominance or submission. Its just the way that anyone who is not-weak should be.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:33 PM
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I haven't watched the video.. But... What glares as a flag to me is any man who, when someone mentions abuse against women, responds "but men get abused too". Its literally a victim mind set. He's trying to turn it into some sort of sick competition to minimise what abuse women do suffer from. And, yes, in that casr, it shows a worrying, immature and possible red flag behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:31 PM
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I wish that women would stop falling for the line from men who say that casual sex is empowering to women and that women should be "sex positive" . Men say it outloud to try to make women (specifically or in general) sleep with them. But really they all believe the opposite (that they are "ruining" women by sleeping with them). Mens attitude to sex is generally fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:25 PM
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Yes I care. (1) I want a committed partner. Sleeping with lots of women shows he doesn't value relationships with women and I dont want to be yet another in a long row of women. (2) The type of man who sleeps with a lot of women usually has the mindset that he is "reducing their value" by doing so. See your post about "running women through", and most of the talk about "body counts". Its a disgusting way to be referred to, as a human being. And I dont want to be with a man who thinks like that, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:23 PM
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Its absolutely possible for the woman to be more dominant partner, and the man to be more submissive. Both partners can be very happy. But... I think the trick is that you have to respect him, and not feel resentful about the fact that, in a lot of the things that men typically do in a relationship, it will be you carrying him, not him carrying you. Can you be happy with accepting that dynamic permanently? Especially given that previous relationships have not worked for you because you found the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 06:30 PM
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Reread what i said - "Im sure this will blow men's minds...."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 10:56 AM
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Reread what I said - I have no interest in cumming with a man
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 10:23 AM
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You've got time enough to make this post...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:53 AM
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🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 10:40 PM
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See above. Of course, there are people I admire. But i havent just selected one and tried to make my life into someone elses life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 10:36 PM
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Depends on your relationship dynamic. But if you want to be in charge, you have to inspire your partner to follow. Trust me, trying to "seize control" aint gonna work where you have a decent partner. Oh - and part of good leadership is recognising that you might not be the most competant person in the room. Oh - and putting your partners needs above your wants (and even at least occasionally above your needs), is also part of good leadership
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 10:17 PM
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Yes, sure, men and women find women and men in their 20s / 30s physically attractive. The difference is that whilst some 50 year old men often think that finding a 20 year old woman is hot is an excellent basis for a relationship and the only one needed, women usually need a lot more than looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 10:14 PM
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Think about what men go through, then add this: https://youtu.be/fZPabO7fY-U I cant say it any better
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:30 PM
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I don't have a single role model. I try to live by having a firm set of values, morals and principles, and do my best to apply them practically in life and with compassion. Guess that makes me "ho on the streets", apparently. Honestly too, I think its good to look critically at the good and bad of another persons life. But to look at one single person and essentially try to copy their life, when you are not them (nor surrounded by the same life circumstances), is likely, in my opinion, not to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:20 PM
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Im sure this will blow some mens minds, but its an irelevant question to me. I've never orgasmed with a man and have no desire to. (Still love sex though).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:16 PM
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That says that Dolan misinterpreted one of his survey question results, but Dolan still directly says, " The substance of my argument that marriage is generally better for men than for women remains"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:11 PM
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Most women have decided that a combination of: -the amount of negative experiences they have on dating apps (dick pics, men asking "wannna fuck", etc) - negative experiences, and observation, that in relationships women are expected to do most of the work (domestic + emotional + childcare + paid work) just not being bothered about finding a partner & happy enjoying their life as it is ... mean that its going on dating apps just isn't worth it. Look at the stats on happiness and life expectancy. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:06 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly on the hypocrisy point. That red pill men think they can literally fuck around for twenty years (thus creating "hos" who they think are "worthless sluts") but then pick up an 18 year old virgin off the shelf. Even if I accept the RP view that a womans virginity / low body count is important but a man's isnt, and that all women (eventually) want a husband and kids, it tells me something about a man that he will sleep with a woman for his own pleasure when doing so supposedl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:36 PM
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Ok, here is how I filter for personality through internet profiles before I've even contacted a man... Profile photo. Majority of men show lack of basic social awareness by posting photos of themselves including: selfies in the bathroom, no smile/dead expression, not looking at the camera, group photo when I have no idea who they are, photos with other women and/or previous partners. There are also lifestyle indications I can see too that are relevant to me. For example, photos in bars, with lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:28 PM
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"Men are rapists or not". Errr.... Legally sure. Practically, hell no.... Some men rape.... Some men dont rape.... But they do sexually assult. Some men do touch without permission. Some men do stalk. Some men do make threats. Some men do sexually harass. Some men are creeps and make you feel uncomfortable. Just because a man isnt a out and out convicted rapist, doesnt mean that you are physically or emotionally safe with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:33 PM
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So you dont believe women when they say no, you dont believe advice they give or opinions about their own preferences.... Yet you seem to want relationships with them (casual or otherwise).... Hmmm.... 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:25 PM
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Im not surprised. Women who are older have often been in relationships before. They have experienced the fact that women usually have to do most of the cooking, cleaning, childcare, emotional labour AND go out to work. They look a the burden that they know men are, and just think "no thanks, far too much work". Whereas older men look for women, because they are net beneficiaries in relationships. Even the statistics on this are harshly clear. Single childess women are the happiest of all. Marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:20 PM
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It's women who gossip? Have you seen the amount of time men on here talk about "body count" and women, often specific women. Or do you just mean that if its men doing it, by definition it cant be gossip?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:10 PM
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No.... Whatever happens, they want sex. And the second slide shows that far more women want a committed relationship than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:08 PM
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Its down to perception and self fulfilment If you set your life up to get more money to "get" a "hot" girl in your mid 30s, you will naturally attract women who are only interested in your money and the whole thing will be transactional. How could it be otherwise - you deliberately set up the relationship to be based on exactly that exchange (sex appeal for cash),because you think you have nothing to offer a woman other than money. If, however, you believe that your self worth is not defined by …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:12 AM
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Yeah, no, trust me. Every woman who has ever dated, most definitely including women in their 20s when most men are looking to fuck them and run, has been messed around by crappy men. But, sure, nice try.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:51 PM
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As a single woman, I say loudly "wine and cats over loveless relationships" all the way! Lonely sometimes? Sure, definitely. But not half as bad as the sole destroying aloneness of being with someone who doesnt understand you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:33 PM
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I'm in those dating forums. If you think that only happens to "older" women, you're incredibly wrong. Happens to all ages, including teens / 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:29 PM
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I've been in bad female dominanted work spaces and good ones. Same for male dominated work space. Women are just people. The idea that we're all just bitches rampantly jealous of each other because the other women might get a guy with a bigger dick than us is just another tired gender stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:17 PM
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I call BS. Love from a woman who lost her viriginity together with her husband, both aged over 25, who was then cheated and walked out on. Virginity does not equal virtue
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:14 PM
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I think we have similar challenges, but additional ones too.... For example, I don't think men understand just how Judged, endlessly endlessly Judged, women are. And in a way that women simply can't "win". Not a virgin on your wedding day - slut. Wont put out on a first date - prude and using a man to get your dinner paid for Not married and no kids after 25 - washed up old hag. Marriage and kids before youre 25 - irresponsible young mother Not wearing make up - you've let yourself go. Wearing m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:00 PM
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As a woman, I can't understand it either. On one hand I love sex, would like it every day and am into some fairly heavy stuff (hard BDSM). But the way that most men are obsessed with it, prefer sex with as many strangers as possible, chase it around and prioritise a womans "hotness" to the exclusion of just about any other of her qualities as person or aspects of her personality that would make for a happy relationship or even interaction, I find.... dull and rather pathetic.
/r/ExRedPill22/09/22 06:33 PM
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As a woman, yes a lot of men on apps are "odd" or married. Im still theoretically on them but not to much purpose. Why am I on them? I would like to meet a partner. Im single because my husband (lost our virginities together, married in our 20s, had child in early 30s, professional careers, together for 13 years) cheated on me and walked out to be with his mistress. Its somewhat frustrating to me that all men on here (and probably the hugr majority on apps) assume from my circumstances that I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 05:05 PM
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I tried casual sex. Throughly and utterly boring. I get much more thrill and excitement from a night at home alone with a blanket, bar of chocolate and a good book. (And, yes, I love fucking and my personal preference is hard BDSM - but done casually its still boring as hell). Honestly, too, forums like this are an eye opener. They've shown me that whilst I might (theoretically) enjoy myself having casual sex, most likely the man I'm (theoretically) sleeping with thinks I'm worthless human being…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:57 PM
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As a woman, I would be somewhat cautious around a man who hasnt had either a relationship or long term relationship before, not because I think that he couldnt get one, but because I would assume he didn't want one. And I want a long term relationship - but if he never ever has wanted one, then has he changed? If so, why
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:42 PM
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I think most women are the same. So few men we are interested in and the interactions we have are actively off putting (dick pic, conversations that go straight to sex, insults or harassment if we say "thanks but no thanks"). It just doesn't seem to work for most women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:33 PM
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You miss out on the real reason for most women.... Most women are happy single. They don't want casual sex and are not looking for a relationship. Sometimes, the simplest answer is the easiest
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:29 PM
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As a woman, I understand that it gets statistically harder to find a partner the more educated and better job I have. But what am I supposed to do?? Whether I meet a man I love or not in life, is not in my gift. Am I really supposed to do a job I don't like and/or that doesnt challenge me and/or is low paying, as a deliberate dating tactic?? To deliberately make myself poor, financially vulnerable and struggle in life because it makes it "easier to find a man" whom I may never meet anyway, is in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:20 PM
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I know! I did everything by the supposed RP / "societally approved good girl" book. Virgin before my husband. 13 year relationship. Married before 30. Never done drugs, never partied. Had a child in my early 30s after we tried together for about 9 months. But my professional engineering degree husband, who also never partied / did drugs / slept around, had an affair and walked out. Somehow, as a 30 something single woman, I've been reborn, according to most men. I'm now apparently a trashy, wash…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:36 PM
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My husband cheated. He walked out, blaming me for him walking out because I was "an awful person". I later found out that his sports friend was in fact his mistress. Did I confront either of them? No. I dont see the point. My ex knows he's a horrific person for cheating and walking on our marriage because of it. I know because he insisted we remain friends after the end of the marriage, got his mother to lie about his girlfriend (former mistress) and still, three years later, tries to hide his r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:29 AM
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As a divorced woman in my 30s, I know that being in a relationship with a man comes with a lot of costs. We're expected to do most of the housework, child raising, organisation, emotional labour AND work a full time job. Honestly, unless a man brings something of value to the table, it's just not worth being in a relationship just to "not be alone".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:12 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:58 AM
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99% of my entire "value" being ascribed solely to the looks I was born with, by most men. Being seen as a "free for all sexual vending machine", by most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:56 AM
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Cambridge
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:14 PM
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My last partner was 5ft 5in (and I'm 5ft 4in), not a great looker and had similar wealth/income to me. But, hey, what do I know about my own opinions. Apparently you're more of an expert in my own preferences than I am. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:32 PM
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I find the issue a hilarious conversation topic. I rather get the feeling that the men who hate OF models and call them "sluts" and "hos", are exactly the same men paying for the photos 😆😆😆😆😆😆
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:44 PM
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As a woman, 99% of men make absolute bare minimum "efforts". They are what I call "dead fishes" - they sort of lay there on the floor, twitching. You can pick them up, put them in water, try to breathe life into them - they carry on, just sort of occasionally twitching. (What I'm talking about is men who match on dating apps but never message. Men who message but with nothing of interest at all [hey, how r u, watcha up 2]. Men who message but never ask you out. Men who ask you out but never both…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:39 PM
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"A high value man is a man with abundant sexual options". Omg, no. A high value man, to me as a woman is.... Clever, emotionally intelligent, driven, a natural leader, empathetic, kind, friendly, cares for and "protects" his family, actively moves towards responsibility, takes care of his health and fitness.... And thats just some of the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:23 PM
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Yeah.... I chose one of those. "Stable, boring", maybe a 6/10. I lost my virginity to him. I never cheated or looked elsewhere. We married before we were both 30. He wasnt abusive, never violent, never shouted or called me names..... He walked out on me after 13 years and an affair. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️. Turns out "stable and boring" doesnt in fact also mean "not a total shit of a guy" - it means "stable and boring" and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:13 PM
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I'd be disappointed that he was concentrating on the physical. I want to be valued and appreciated as a person, not a shiny object 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 11:07 PM
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"Why not simply risk being poor and homeless?".... I'm not sure why I understand the question? You think its a "good or easy life choice" for a woman to have, to have to pick between a loveless and potentially abusive marriage, and homelessness?? Read "The Five", a book on the victims of Jack the Ripper in London. It's a story of five women who went through life without / who lost male "protection" in a society that denied women the chance to be self sufficient. I wont spoiler it for you by tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:11 PM
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Look up "trauma bonding" on YouTube
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 09:31 PM
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My midweek lodger hit on me. He was old enough to be my father AND married. Oh and it was a few weeks after my dad died suddenly from cancer. Aren't horny, entitled men great 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:41 PM
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Yes, men have standards when it comes to picking a wife. I've acknowledged above. And good for them, they should have standards. But you also seem to be saying that men who dont want marriage or kids, simply don't exist? Every single man wants that, apparently. Without exception. And the 70 year old men hitting me up for random sex have simply not, in 55 years of dating women, ever ONCE met a woman up to marriagable standards.... Well gosh, what a lot of unfortunate men there are out there....
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:39 PM
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"Maybe women should stop being sluts...." Maybe men who label women "sluts", should save themselves for their future wives only, instead of trying to get the kind of casual or out-of-marriage sex that turns women into "sluts". #everydayhypocracy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:34 PM
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I'm not sure about predatory, but for a man from a high income country to go to a low income country specifically to "select" a wife, is most certainly transactional. In these cases, its clear that a man is after a cook / cleaner / sex maid and she is basically after his money / higher standard of living. It's a deal that both enter in to. I dont know if these sorts of marriages have lower rates of female infidelity. But since its a straight forward transactional exchange which doesnt involve so…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:24 PM
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Err... Well, yeah, some of them certainly see me as fuck material only. I think the stats are that most men will fuck the huge majority of women (80%+?), but judge women as suitable for LTR only at same rate that women judge men suitable (and women swipe right at the rate of about 5% on apps). When it comes to relationships, men are just as picky as women. So yeah, statistically most men who would actually like an LTR would still only fuck me. That's just the way that the stats on this work. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:03 PM
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Because I want a man who is driven, interested and socially capable enough to ask for a date. I've taken the "active" role in a relationship before and I ended up having to be the leader throughout the relationship whilst he sat back and was probably with me due to convenience. I dont want the same again. To be honest, though, I never ever expected it to be that much of a hurdle for men, for them to ask me out on a coffee date. I mean, if I match with them and am having a conversation with them,…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:49 PM
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Dont get fooled by the "women initiate divorces" statistics. I know five divorced women, off the top of my head. One had an affair herself, two had husbands who had mistresses and walked out on them, one was serially unfaithful and one had a violent husband. In the 4 cases where the husband was violent and/or unfaithful and/or abandoned the wife, he refused to initiate legal separation and left it to his (ex) wife. On paper and in the legal statistics, each of these women "initiated the divorce"…
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 04:12 PM
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Is dating better because I dont need a partner? Yes. Not being forced into a relationship with a man whom I dont like or even love, just in order to put food on my plate, a roof over my head and not die is, I guess, a step up from the alternative. But isnt that the basic that a human being should expect? To be able to earn my own living instead of being societally forced to marry (and have sex) for mere physical survival? Pretty sure we're talking about the most basic expectations of life here..…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:05 PM
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Wow. You want a woman to have a child with you but want her to make herself incredibly financially and socially vulnerable, whilst not giving her the barest figleaf of financial security for herself and her unborn child that marriage would give, and all because you fundamentally dont trust her and value your own money over creating a stable family structure for the unborn child.... No wonder you can't attract a sane woman 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:06 PM
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As a woman, I don't do casual sex. Mostly because I'm just not into it. But also because after a while of dating, I have seen how most men view women they want to have sex with as just a piece of disposable meat. I don't want to be treated like that. How many men would I be interested in seeing if i want a relationship with - maybe 3-5%. And I might be being generous. But I'm only looking for one man, so 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:41 PM
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"Most women cannot properly care for her husband, home and children while working a full time job"..... Yet most men expect just this 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:28 PM
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I wasn't a virgin when I married but had only ever had sex with my (now ex) husband-to-be. And he only had ever had sex with me. I never cheated, never wanted to. He cheated and walked out on me for another woman. Take from that what you will. My personal take.... My "body count" (🤢hateful phrase) is now higher than 1. Do I still want a life partner, who I will be utterly and completely faithful to until my dying day? Fuck, yes. And I am no more likely to cheat than when I was a virgin. I am, ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:16 PM
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I wasnt a virgin on my wedding day, but I had only had sex with my husband-to-be. Im now divorced (he cheated and walked out). What I would say about sex with him, is that in retrospect it wasnt great. I was shy. He wasnt adventurous. Since divorcing, I know too that I am deeply submissive and love kinky sex. From my point of view and in retrospect, it would have been better to marry after I'd had more sexual experience - enough to find what I really like and want in a long term partner. Then I …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:57 PM
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Im an "older" woman Am I jealous of younger women? No. I had that phase of life. They're in it now. We all have benefits and challenges in life. They're people. 🤷‍♀️ As a single woman, am I disappointed that a lot of men my age and older dont value what I can bring to a relationship (love, care, support, loyalty, devotion, fun, humour, a great sex life, deternination, wisdom, life experience) and only see what I dont have (the face and body of an 18 year old)? Yes, all too often I am disappointe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:38 PM
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"Why do women care less about looks than men"..... Wrong question. Correct question is, "why do men consistently value and select women on looks alone, when looks have zero correlation to happiness or longevity in long term relationships?"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:31 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:21 PM
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As a woman, one of my big issues is that I am expected by most modern men to cook, clean, do childcare, do the emotional labour in a relationship, organise holidays /birthdays /day trips etc, modify my schedule / habits / friendships to suit him AND work / earn as much as him. He expects to work outside the home (often contributing similar or less financially than me) and maybe do a bit of DIY, and that's it. In other words, whilst most men say that they want a "50/50" relationship, what this me…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:11 PM
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Because women, the majority of the time, carry most of the "burden" of relationships. We are expected to do most of housework, childcare, emotional labour AND work outside of the home as well. Its something we will take on a for a man who adds something to our lives. But without that, its simply an awful lot easier for us to be single. And the stats bare this out. The happiest, longest lived womrn are single childless women. Whereas the opposite is true for men. Even if its not a good emotional …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:05 PM
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I'm thoroughly confused. You asked about why women arent more direct with thier "hints". Then give examples of "hints" where a woman is directly TELLING THE MAN that she doesnt want sex and only wants to be friends. THIS IS DIRECT COMMUNICATION that she isnt interested. Not a "hint" that she means the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:46 PM
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From my pov as a woman, most men who approach me online are low effort (eg "hey" as an opener) because they are only looking for sex. And men are either desperate because they are looking for sex with any sort of woman at all (do I need to explain why being used as a sex doll for a man is not an attractive proposition?). Or a man is looking for a girlfriend, but again doesnt care who she is - in which case, a woman is wanted only as a status symbol or for what she can do, not as a human being. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:40 PM
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As a single woman, I often hear the "you'll die alone" argument as a reason to "get" a man. Its an instinctive fear, that my heart reacts to. But then I think... I will almost inevitably die alone. Unless they die in a plane crash etc, everyone ultimately dies alone. Plus, as a woman, even if I "get" a man, statistically I will STILL be likely to die as a single (widowed) woman. And does anyone really want to die WITH someone, but regretting that they spent their life withsome they didnt love or…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:26 PM
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If I see a man who I might like to be in a relationship with, yes I see him as a catch. Do I chase him? No. Do I initiate? No. Because I did take the lead once before. Turns out that I therefore preselected for a man who was lazy and probably more with me out of convenience than conviction. I now dont except a man to "chase" me either. But I do want him to show some initiative as a basic check against being with another lazy, undriven man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:16 PM
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The issue isnt single mothers. It's absent fathers. And speaking from UK, the issue is also a legal system that goes out of its way to support men abandoning their children. If a man wants 50/50 custody, the law will support him in that absolutely (except, in cases of PROVEN abuse - and even then, for example, my friend had to spend £10,000+s and fight for two years to prevent her child being left alone with the father she had a restraining order against for years of violent abuse and physical h…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:11 PM
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I often see men complaining about women who arent "submissive" enough and who "dont comply". It always worries me. Why would a woman be default set to act like a doormat to any man? Now if I give you the benefit of the doubt and try to rescue you from your own terminology.... You need to not put the cart before the horse.if you want to be a man who is followed, and you're not being followed in the way that you want, you only have to look to your own behaviour. Only a bad leader blames his follow…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:51 AM
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Long story, but I had an offer from a married guy to be his mistress. I'd emotionally fallen for him so it was very tempting. And if it had been a relationship which he publicly acknowledged, and I would have played a visible and meaningful part in his life (alongside his wife), I would definitely have done it. But: (a) That was very specific to him, because of how I felt things for him emotionally. (b) Yes, he was rich. Although it wasnt necessarily his wealth that attracted me. It was that he …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:29 AM
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Thr issue is that most men value women on looks alone. So they project their own values, and assume that women are selecting men based mostly on looks. Which just isnt true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:20 AM
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Woman here. One previous relationship, 13 years, married (now divorced), my only sexual partner. I never cheated. I was academically curious about what other men were like sexually, but felt zero desire whatsoever to cheat. (Marriage ended because he cheated and walked out, btw).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:18 AM
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I'm past that age now, but as a 18-22 year old woman, my creepometer would have been screaming at a 30 year old man. I never would have gone there. Even a guy 2-3 years older is an "older man" at that point. Wide age gaps matter less as you get older, I think. But even in my late 30s, I still get an involuntary ick at men over 10 years older than me (although to be honest, that's usually also because they're hitting on me AND have wives). Either way, to me, wide age gaps usually indicate the man…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:09 AM
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Yes, it is different. There are more quality women who want to get married than men. So if a woman is 35/40 and unmarried its often because marriageable men are in short supply. If a man is 35/40 and unmarried, that usually means that he doesn't want to be married and / or has issues. Of course, exceptions on both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:54 AM
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Here's an answer you won't like... Things will level up for men, when men start creating a climate again where men having sex before marriage (and outside a marriage) is socially stigmatised. When men having sex with multiple women, sequentially or in parallel, this is labelled these men used to be: cads, who are feckless, irresponsible and unattractive. Because at the moment, highly saught after men are able to have casual sex or serial monogamy with many woman. Essentially this takes women out…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:42 AM
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Generally true, yes. And if he wants to but isn't, then there ia something else going on. Shyness, lazyness, fear of rejection etc. And then its up to a woman to ask if she wants a man like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:21 AM
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Dating scene?!? What? Where?!? All I can see is men looking for hookups and casual sex on tap. It's incredibly rare that I see a man who wants something more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:10 AM
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I'm all but sure its projection on his part. Mostly likely he judges women by their looks (most men tend to). So he thinks that they would look to judge you by your looks. And he's trying to be a "supportive" friend by telling you that youre good looking
/r/ExRedPill15/09/22 07:24 PM
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Occasionally he has some points - but only because a broken clock is right twice a day. He's just red pill light.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/22 07:18 PM
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And dont forget the fact that if the man wants to divorce his wife after 20 years (because ya-know the wife "hit the wall" as EVERY SINGLE WOMAN DOES, even married women) he clearly shouldn't have to give up ANY of "HIS" money, even though the whole reason she quit her career was to look after him and his kids domestically, and now has little to no chance of ever building her own career. Sounds like a great deal for a woman, right? They should be jumping at the chance....
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 05:16 PM
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As a woman, the idea that lots of women chear is bizarre to me. I have known married people cheat. Most of them are men. Despite my own biases (small unrepresentative sample size), the statistics currently seem to say that there is little to no gender gap on cheating rates. But I do believe what the poster above says. Men often want sexual variety and that's often a key motivator for them cheating. Look at TRP - it tries to get men to sleep with as many women they possibly can. The more women a …
/r/ExRedPill03/09/22 09:44 PM
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Great story.... Until you valued a woman by her fuckability 🤦‍♀️. You didnt talk about her intelligence, wit, funny turn of phrase, great sense of humour, her confidence, sociability, heck even her singing skills... Just "an attractive woman" 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/ExRedPill03/09/22 09:14 PM
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(Woman here). I've aged out of that bracket now. But when I was in it, these men NEVER appealed. Not because of their looks (I tend to love a man for who he is, then come to love his physicality). But because they very clearly and obviously are looking to use women as sex objects. A 50 year old literally has nothing in common at all with an 18 year old. He only has any interest in her at all because of her body, and her malleable personality (basically, she'll put up with shit from him that a wo…
/r/ExRedPill03/09/22 09:08 PM
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I see it as infantalism by men. They want a woman who is 110% available to look after the MAN. They want a cook, cleaner, sex slave, ego booster etc etc. The idea that a womans attention would be on anyone but him is off putting to redpillers. For example, does TRP say anything positive to men about fatherhood??? As far as I can see, it only encourages men to have no strings attached sex with women, not a relationship or (heaven forbid) a family.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/22 10:43 PM
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As a woman, in general, most women are emphatically NOT looking for a provider. In fact, its seen as a hugely risky move to make yourself financially dependent on a man. A vast majority of women want to work. What most women dont want, though is a passenger / man-child who they have to financially support (along with working, birthing children,and typically also doing the majority of childcare and housewrok too). So most women do look for a man who at least matches their financial position, rath…
/r/ExRedPill13/08/22 07:44 PM
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As a woman dating in my late 30s, I can say that my experience has been that looks matter hugely to the vast majority of men. As in, its the absolute number one factor they are interested in. Sometimes to the exclusion of everything else. I have one dating profile which has extensive text about the niche kind of relationship I want, but it is designed to be anonymous and is a full length body pic with no head. What I get asked most often - "what do you look like?". They have zero interest in eng…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/22 04:33 PM
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As a woman who is nearly 40, I'm not dropping my standards to "bag a man". I just can't. The idea of waking up naked next to a man with low social skills, poor work ethic, a video games problem, overweight, low emotional intelligence, who I basically have to drag through life like I'm his mother....ewwww. Nope, I'll take dying alone thanks. And this is where TRP confuses me. It seems to tell men, "just wait 20 years and women will flock to you".... No. The women your age will still be unattracte…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/22 04:22 PM
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I'm 39 and Ill stick my hand above the parapet and say I'm a "desperate" woman... Though its maybe not the story you'd expect.... I'm divorced with a 6 year old daughter. My ex husband had an affair and walked out on us. My child doesn't have any cousins or basically any family after me and her dad inevitably go. For that reason, I want a wider family for her. Ideally that would mean me having another child. But I would be delighted to pair up with a single dad with similar aged children. I abso…
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 11:37 PM
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The thing is that these things are rarely said to a woman without alternative motives by a man that have nothing at all to do with her, beyond a desire to use her.... For example.... I had a lodger recently. Old enough to my father and married, working away from home. For a few weeks, he gave me support through a rough patch when a close family member had died. Or that's what I thought he was doing... Turns out, nope, he came out and said he "felt a sexual attraction" and wanted to fuck me. A wo…
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 10:05 PM
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Yes, I find it hilarious that TRP thinks hypergamy is awful golddigging in women but is teaching "5/10" men how to casually fuck a "9/10" woman [I hate that terminology, but thats how TRP descirbes the world]. BOTH instances are hypergamous - seeking shallow material or physical traits at the expense of depth and a human connection. But yet its only when women do it that TRP has an issue, and it encourages hypergamy in men... 🤷‍♂️
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 09:55 PM
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Bluntly... As a woman, I have things I'm looking for in a man and he has to meet those (I'm talking about ability to hold an intelligent conversation, good morals & values, and someone as "successful" / far on in life as I am [I'm older, and not looking for a passenger]).... But after that, when I pick, I'm done. I'm not looking around any more. I dont want an upgrade. I'm loyal and faithful and, if the man isnt an a**hole to me, that means to the end.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 09:48 PM
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What gets to me is that, yet again, no responsibility whatsoever is put on the men. When unwanted children are now born, the father has no obligation to look after them. To care for them. His life can go on completely and utterly without any change whatsoever. The biggest change MIGHT be that a small amount of his wages gets taken for the child - but note, this will NOT relate to the cost of raising the child but only what the MAN can "afford". And I'm in UK so healthcare is free - but does the …
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 09:29 AM
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Most of those men who matched on your experiment will be looking to use the woman for casual sex. The average woman is NOT down for this (no matter what TRP will tell you)
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 09:17 AM
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I'm a woman older than you. And I have to say, an awful awful awful lot of men want to screw women 10/20/30/40 years younger. Barely legal teens (thanks porn) are drooled over by many men. Now biologically, I can understand the drive for this. Yes, men have an instinct to sleep with fertile women. But they also have an instinct to steal, murder, hit other men in the face. We expect, or should expect, more from men. We should expect that men want to seek out women who they have things in common w…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 03:31 PM
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As a woman, what I would like is a man who is in control of his emotions. It's certainly not that he doesn't feel them, or express them - but that he can feel his emotions and choose whether to act on them or not. It's showing a certain amount of self regulation... For example, I don't think anyone wants a partner who makes them responsible for their mental health (i.e. not only shares vulnerabilities, but does so repeatedly expecting the other person to solve them and taking no positive action …
/r/ExRedPill22/06/22 09:10 AM
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By and large, I'd believe that this anthropological arguement does explain a lot of basic urges that men have (we do need sex to reproduce, so men need to have a desire to have sex and, for any individual, genetically, the more kids they have the better). But.... Just because we have base urges doesn't mean we should act on them. Lying, stealing, violence, murder, neglect... We all have instincts for those but hopefully its obvious why we shouldn't indulge them either. A lot of our base urges ar…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/22 08:11 PM
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"if someone met all my requirements but just didn't like themselves..." We don't always like all of ourselves... And we have to think there is something unperfect about ourselves if we are to improve ourselves or grow as people... But its a HUGE ISSUE that you would accept a partner who doesn't like herself. Thats a recipe for a codependently, highly disfunctional relationship doomed to disaster.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 11:01 PM
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Sure, sweetie. A woman who you yourself describe as a model is ONLY on Instagram to use it like a diary or record of her life, that she can fondly look back on when shes in a retirement home And of course you KNOW for sure shes not getting paid now because she told you, so it must be true. And "making no money" obviously also means that she receives absolutely no benefits in kind (freebie brand samples), zero publicity by putting her work on an international media platform (that could significan…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 10:51 PM
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The OP mentions she was young and this guy deliberately targets young women. Why? Because all young people are learning social skills, relationship skills, life skills and many are vulnerable, and so easy to manipulate and abuse. OP - please dont go to a therapist thinking that YOU are the problem here. What this man did was wrong and abusive. Go to therapy to help you process what you went through and how to protect yourself in future xxx
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 11:32 PM
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I need to pull you up. Why do you make the assumption that this guy is going to lose half of "his" (their) assets, or have "his life" stripped away? Most especially when his wife is described as successful, independent, two ivy league degrees, and leadership positions in industry and academia. Ever think he might come out of this marriage financially "better off" than when he went in???
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 11:21 PM
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Because what do men look for as status markers in other men? Money, car, house, clothes, casual sex with conventionally outwardly sexually appealing women as young as possible - and a big dick. That's NOT what women look for in men. But shes not appealing to WOMEN. She's a business woman who's business needs to appeal to MEN. Put it this way.... Yet again..... If she said, "Here I am in my knee length dress with a turtle neck jumper. It keeps me really warm and is ethically produced. Ive just go…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 06:30 PM
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If you really do want love, commitment and humanity, why the hell are looking for casual sex????? The two are diametrically opposed. You either want one, the other or are hopelessly confused about what on earth it is you actually want in life, and about any way to therefore get what you want. And as for the UTTER DRIVELLING OBSESSION with casual sex, honestly, please, for the sake of your own sanity, the sake of your own soul - grow up. Go out. Interact with people. Real ones. Ones you dont want…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 06:16 PM
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Do you know why she says that? Because shes a business woman. Because if she goes online and posts fully clothed pictures of her being demure, without any make up on and saying she longs to be a wife and mother and play scrabble at home with her future husband, she will have zero followers. ZERO. But if she poses in skimpy clothes SAYING she has lots of sex, there are men stupid enough to follow her because not only do they find her pretty, but they also think they have a shot in hell of getting…
/r/ExRedPill10/06/22 07:36 PM
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"I want to have a woman I am close with to cuddle, have sex with, kiss, enjoy our time together, feel validated" What your describing are the benefits of a relationship, without any of the effort. You want to feel nice because of what a woman does for you.... but offer her no love, commitment or humanity. Just treat her like a prop for your self respect. Learn how to interact with women as human beings first AND EXPECTING ABSOLUTELY ZERO FROM THEM. Then there is a shot in hell you might get sex …
/r/ExRedPill10/06/22 07:20 PM
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Jeez. Why the monomaniacal boring obsession with casual sex? How about developing something else in your life? Hobbies, career, family, an interest in women as people not just sex vending machines, a wider philosophy on the meaning of life. As to why women see lots of men - because 99.9% of men want to use her body for sex and she has no interest in that, so she has to go on dates with a large number to find one who wants to build something meaningful.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 08:45 PM
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Hmm.... Its potentially a difficult one to explain... TL:DR - being emotional is fine, using it as an excuse to outsource responsibility for you own emotions or lack of desire to achieve in life is not. I fell for someone. He was, in some ways, quite sensitive. Things I said hurt him (long story). He also revealed some vulnerabilities. He'd had two mental breakdowns in the past. I still saw him as extremely attractive and masculine. Why? Because he was emotional AND strong. He had weaknesses, vu…
/r/ExRedPill07/06/22 11:06 PM
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Why do lies work? Because telling these women the truth ("I think you're a worthless object, and I want to use you for sex, before I discard you, denigrate you as a slut [for doing exactly the same thing that I've just done] and move on to my next victim" ) for some odd reason doesn't work with these damned stubborn women. Also, look at the women that these men are being told to target. Women as young as legally possible - often 10/20/30 years younger than the man. With as little social and sexu…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 11:06 PM
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As a woman, brutally, I think that a what a lot of men think women are looking for ("money") is actually a proxy for something else. For money, read grit, determination, intiligence, resilience, social skills, maybe even a certain amount of ruthlessness. I don't think a lot of women actually want money itself (though they are out there). More the type of man who is capable of making money. So for me, the likes of Prince Harry or Brooklyn Beckham (wealthy son of an international soccer player) ar…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 10:58 PM
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Yeah great. We women can go off to have something we mostly have zero interest in. Fabulous! Lets rephrase it. How about if I said to you, "it soooo not fair. Men, just by being men, are given a lifetime supply of rancid cabbage and can get it whenever they want. We poor women dont get a look in on rancid cabbage" Now a man who treats us with respect and as a person first, not just a vending machine to satisfy his sexual desires..... rare, very very very very very rare. And the slutshaming.... N…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 12:03 AM
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My ex husband (woman here) was on a different side of the political spectrum to me. I never set out to change him. But through discussion, through time, he came to adopt a lot of the views that I did. In retrospect, I didn't like it. I felt like he wasnt sure of his own beliefs and could be easily swayed - by me in this instance, but by who else next time? (He was a weak man in the end - he cheated and walked out). I'd say either accept this man as he is, unpalatable views and all - or don't.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/22 06:52 PM
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As a woman, for me, no. Of course I can appreciate a man who is good looking (in the same way as a pretty picture, or nice view). But what is attractive is personality. If I like a man, I start to like his body, no matter really what its like (2m tall skinny ginger ex husband, middle aged dad bod bald jewish guy boyfriend). Personality leads physical attraction. Of course, I can find an a**hole objectively handsome (pretty painting, nice view etc) - but that has nothing to do with whether Im att…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/22 06:33 PM
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Its one of the eternal contradictions that I dont understand. TRP only seem to value virginal teenage girls because they believe that they should have a "fertile" woman who can "pair bond" with them. And what do they want to do with these girls? Have s*x with them, then move on to the next. So the two main things they value (beyond looks alone), i.e. apparent fertility and apparent ability to enter into a relationship, are completely and utterly irrelevant to them.
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 09:51 PM
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If thats true (and its an if), I think its because women are looking for men at a similar stage and achievement in life. In 20s few people are established. Most are in education or just starting out, maybe in temporary jobs. Women are quite happy to date unestablished men because its absolutely normal for men to be unestablished at that age. In their 30s, most women, are more established in their lives, careers, finances etc. They want a man who is at a similar stage in his life. Which is, in my…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 10:22 AM
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What's it like? Huuuuugely depends on the relationship. (I haven't been following the case, but my suspicion is that) If you asked Johnny Depp what a long term partnership is like he'd have a lot of different answers. Every one is unique. But relationships are what you makr of them too, or what you pick. I'd encourage you heavily, though, whatever you do, to date with a purpose. Do you want a LTR? If so, whats important to you? From big things - children, career, marriage etc. To relationship ty…
/r/ExRedPill18/05/22 06:14 PM
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Women, when studied, respond in laboratories to situations with sexual content REGARDLESS OF THE NATURE of that sexual content. Therefore, women will show physical signs of sexual arousal when shown footage of baboons mating. Do you really think that that means that women are capable of falling deeply in love with baboons because their vagina said so?? Relying on a womans bodily responses, rather than listening to what she SAYS, also goes in to very very dodgy moral grounds. "Your honour, it was…
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 10:42 AM
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As a woman, I do find it baffling. If men trying PUA techniques just tried to relate to women as people or humans, in a normal way, they would be much more likely to get into a relationship - which is the proven, number one way to guarantee highest possible levels of sex possible for men. PUA stuff just seems like, literally, an utter waste of time to try to get what these men are actually looking for 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 09:41 AM
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Totally agree with the comments above I'm divorced. I filed. I was the one who "wanted" the divorce, according to the paperwork. The reality? I tried what I could to make marriage work, but my husband was having a secret affair and walked out on me for the other woman. But according to you, and to the paperwork, I wanted a divorce, I caused the marriage to end - when the truth is the opposite. Similarly, a female friend. He husband had multiple affairs. Lots of casual sex. Including with men. Pl…
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 09:20 AM
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If you're still redpill, why are you on this forum??
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 09:17 AM
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Oh yeah. Looooots of men want that (casual sex, sex with lots of women and preferably both [tbh, you cant have sex with lots of women unless it is casual]). You'll just find that very very very very very very few women find casual sex interesting or want to be part of a harem of women (or, worse, both). All of that is basically just a wet dream for young men. And thr vast majority of women would rather stay single than engage in those activities. You're just narrowing your field down even more, …
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 08:19 AM
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I'd just say, as a woman, online dating breaks all of us just in different ways. My perception, as a woman, is that most men are obsessed with physical appearance and meaningless sex. I've also been ghosted, ignored, stood up, lied to and talked and talked for days or weeks to men without being asked out. Its the nature of the beast. 🤷‍♀️ The best advice I can give is to get pied off at online dating - but dont get pied off at humanity (women in your case, or men in mine) and remember that you a…
/r/ExRedPill16/05/22 09:18 PM
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You need to change your language. If there is a problem it isnt children "raised by single mothers". It's children abandoned by their fathers.
/r/ExRedPill16/05/22 09:11 PM
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Haven't watched the video, but addressing a few points... "The government is replacing fathers". No. Nothing replaces a father. Ever. His love, his warmth, his guidance. The state (UK here) does sometimes need to step in because some fathers choose to walk away and the children need financial help to be able to survive since the father elects not to provide that (and the state doesnt make him provide for a child in relation to what it costs just raise a child, just what he can "afford"). Also, i…
/r/ExRedPill13/05/22 06:13 PM
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Im a woman who WANTS to have a relationship with a man where I am submissive to him and his needs, and he leads me. Why am I STILL a feminist? Because I want to CHOOSE to be in a relationship like that. And doesn't that cut both ways? I mean, as men, do you really want a woman to be with you because she needs money (because most job's and education are closed to women), or cant own a house (because women cant own property in their own name), or pay her bills (because she cant open her own bank a…
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 09:56 PM
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Again, youre coming at things from a purely sex & physical appearance angle. As a woman, if I was looking for a hookup, yeah I'd go for a pretty guy. Why not? If we're done with each other at the end of the night, his character is utterly irrelevant the entire exchange. But, like a lot of women, I dont do hookups because theyre boring. If I'm determining how sexually attractive a guy is then he does have to pass a VERY basic appearance test, which is simply, do I find him repulsive or not. I've …
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 09:31 PM
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I identify as a submissive woman. As in, I'm into kink and like to be submissive in a relationship both inside the bedroom and outside. The first thing to know, in my opinion, is that looking for a man to submit to, because you want to submit, is incredibly hard. Unbelievably hard. When you submit to a man, you are consensually out sourcing decision making power of some, or a lot, of your life to another person. You have to have built up enough trust and knowledge of the other person to know tha…
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 09:18 PM
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On the one hand, in theory I'd like an attractive guy, sure. Who wouldn't I guess? Dont you want an attractive woman in theory?? In reality, it really doesnt matter a jot to me. As long as I dont find them repulsive, appearance is ok. Ive only ever been put off purely by physical appearance for one guy, and he was morbidly obese (John Candy plus). Otherwise, one ex was 6ft 7in and like a bean pole. The most attractive, sexy guy I ever dated, I actually didnt like physically at first - not very t…
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 09:00 PM
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As a woman I can assure you on two counts. (1) If I love a man, I love him. And I'm loyal. And I'm with him. I don't look elsewhere. I don't even see elsewhere. If I've chosen, he is it. (2) Yes women out number men on dating apps. Most of those men only want sex, not a relationship. And a lot of men on there are not attractive options for women looking for a relationship (smoke, do drugs, alcohol issurs, chronically unemployed, standard of English not good enough to provide a sentence or two of…
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 08:49 PM
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Why the obsession with viewing woman as sexual objects and only as valuable as the way they look?? If you need to fix anything in your head before dating, its that women are people. If you cant treat a woman as a person, and enjoy her company entirely without sex on the table, you probably shouldn't be dating her. Just jerk off or hire a professional instead. But if you want to complain about women having easier access to sex than men, go ahead. Because, sure we do. Its just not something that m…
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 08:40 PM
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Why is the sterotype out there? Because its what a lot of men (especially older red pill type men) want*. I think it comes from valuing a woman for her body and not for who she is a person, and how you relate together as a couple. Incidentally, I'm older now and whilst my comfort with age gap has gone up (it matters less as you get older), when I was in my 20s I probably wouldn't have gonr with much more than a 5 year age gap, as men more than that seemed like creepy guys. I was reapproached by …
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 08:25 PM
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(a) Why the obsession with sex? (b) Why the assumption that women determine sexual attractiveness in men by appearance? Thats typically a man trait. (c) A lot of women arent looking specifically for sex. We know that most men would have sex with us, whether they want to be with us in a relationship or not. Its just a given. Men are REALLY not selective when it comes to sex. (d) We're looking at the PERSON who the man is. We want to know who he is as a person. What's in his character and if he fi…
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 08:20 PM
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