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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Validation | Conversation | Rick_liner | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 06:09 PM |
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| 1 | Q4MEN (redpill) : Supposing hypergamy is entirely real and applicable to all women, why are you angry about it?To be fair to OP he did also state both genders objectify and it's dehumanising. This is probably my big gripe with it as well, I just stumbled upon this while googling hypergamy but i have to admit it explains a lot of what i've seen and experienced, i can tell you after 10 years in a relationship where, on reflection, my SO was only really attracted to what i could provide and left when she thought she had found a better deal, i have no desire to go through that experience again. I'm not sure … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/22 09:42 AM |
| 6 | You don't owe girls friendship or attentionIt sucks but, this. Every time I've stayed friends this is what has happened which is painful for me and they don't listen to my advice anyway unless it reinforces what they want to hear. | /r/seduction | 29/12/21 11:39 PM |
| 4 | changed after sexPeople behave differently in different situations. Someone who's calm and confident in every day life can easily become a fizzy ball of anxious energy once they get into a romantic situation with someone. The behaviours are influenced by different parts of our lives. | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 08:51 AM |
| 6 | Never allow yourself to be treated as a secondary distraction, or a source of attention for someone who doesn’t prioritize youwn. Honestly a bit of space i think is really important. I've been able to come back to previous lovers/friends following rejection once some time has passed, it really makes a big difference, so maybe pull back a bit. In my situation i was rejected and it was pretty much fine, but for some reason she clearly stopped respecting me, she was coming to me with queries about a guy she likes but doing it by coming sideways, asking questions which were not directly presented to me but bloody obvious. … | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 11:43 AM |
| 5 | Never allow yourself to be treated as a secondary distraction, or a source of attention for someone who doesn’t prioritize youOr maybe it's the real world and relationships and feelings grow and change. We'd both been with other people when we met and we just happened to become close friends. Couple years go by we both ended up single and found ourselves hanging out all the time and boom, shit developed. You talk about balancing scales like it's some power play. Who the fuck wants either a friendship or a relationship like that. | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 09:51 PM |
| 52 | Never allow yourself to be treated as a secondary distraction, or a source of attention for someone who doesn’t prioritize youRecently experienced the second scenario and it was/is still an absolute head fuck. I called her out on it and she got super defensive and rather than argue my point i just thought screw it and tolded her we needed to stop hanging out. We were really close, I was ok with the rejection but being used as a tool for attention has really made me angry. It's a shame i miss her but its not worth it. | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 04:20 PM |
| 3 | How attractive really is it when a guy shows vulnerability?I spent 10 years learning to open up because it was causing problems in my relationship. Hard fucking process going from a dude who is stoic af to bring able to talk about his feelings but anyway I digress... I learned since getting back in the dating pool that it's one of those things women say they want but really don't. They lose respect for you and treat you like a besty or another woman. When you're actually in the relationship sure it's important but in the early stages just keep it to you… | /r/seduction | 02/10/21 08:05 AM |
| 2 | How to stop self-rejection?Less self rejection more self sabotage, you sabotage your opportunities through your learned behavior which you have developed as maladjusted coping mechanisms. Long story short get some counselling, if you can't, introspect a fuck tonne, look for events in your life that may have caused you to develop these maladjusted strategies and recontextualise them as an adult. They usually stem from traumatic childhood experience as a means to cope. Just like avoiding sticking your hand in a fire. You ma… | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 11:15 PM |
| 3 | Do NOT tell frustrated young men to "be nice." It creates incels.Absolutely no question there. I was in an LTR for 10 years and didn't really realise what was happening until I was out of it. Since then I seem to attract women who like pushing boundaries. Learning some painful lessons but I'm working it out. | /r/seduction | 06/01/21 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Do NOT tell frustrated young men to "be nice." It creates incels.absolutely this, and that uncertainty in turn makes you willing to accept outward pressure which often results in you persuing other peoples agendas or putting up with behavior from people which is disrespectful or damaging to you. I've gotten to a point now where i can communicate my feelings and expectations but i'm trying to tweak it so that I speak sooner, before issues come up, rather than letting things become a big ball of drama. it's a lot of work for sure. | /r/seduction | 06/01/21 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT tell frustrated young men to "be nice." It creates incels.Cheers, I'm not resentful about it, but like OP said it's got me into some manipulative relationships and as you point out, i put others first. So i am at a part of my life where i am trying to change my thought process to focus on myself first before immediately thinking about how to please my partner. | /r/seduction | 06/01/21 06:54 PM |
| 99 | Do NOT tell frustrated young men to "be nice." It creates incels.can confirm, great at making female friends, all my relationships have been with manipulative women. I've never been nice expecting anything in return, i just am nice, and the worst thing is there is a growing part of me that hates it, it's definitely put me in a bad place lately. | /r/seduction | 06/01/21 11:31 AM |
| 3 | Don't be a nice guyI get told I'm a nice guy and tbh I hate it. My dad's example of being a man was to let my mum walk all over him or sleep on the sofa (he's not a bad dad he did his best but fuck me this is causing me issues) and the consequence is I put my partner first in everything because that's what he did. The result of all this was a 10 year relationship where I was used for support, a chronic inability to accept my emotions, and no ambition in life because my own interests were stamped out if mother didn… | /r/seduction | 02/12/20 09:03 AM |
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