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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:50 PM
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CMVRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:20 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:52 AM
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Ridan_/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:21 AM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:33 AM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:20 PM
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DiscussionRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:01 PM
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CMVRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:07 PM
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Ridan_/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:40 AM
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DebateRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:29 PM
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CMVRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:20 PM
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DiscussionRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:09 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:32 AM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:13 PM
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DiscussionRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:12 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:39 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 05:49 PM
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DiscussionRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 01:06 PM
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Ridan_/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:20 PM
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CMVRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:28 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 10:41 AM
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CMVRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:58 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:08 AM
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DebateRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:59 PM
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CMVRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 07:08 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:18 PM
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DiscussionRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:01 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:22 PM
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Question For MenRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 10:15 PM
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Question for BluePillRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:02 PM
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DISCUSSIONRidan_/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 05:01 PM
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Ridan_/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:39 PM
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DebateRidan_/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:12 PM
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/r/MensRights11/09/23 12:00 PM
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I’m just talking about if you were to suggest walking somewhere secluded and rural - idk where you live
/r/MensRights14/08/23 10:15 PM
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https://www.pwc.com/gx/en/issues/c-suite-insights/the-leadership-agenda/the-motherhood-penalty-is-widening-the-pay-gap.html#:~:text=Mothers%20experience%20a%2060%25%20drop,of%20the%20gender%20pay%20gap. Mothers experience a 60% drop in earnings compared to fathers in the decade following the birth of a first child, and women have lower pension balances at the end of their working lives.
/r/MensRights14/08/23 08:27 PM
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Again. I’m curious about why you’re so pressed about it. Also idk where you get your stats from but you’re wrong. The average age of a woman having her first child in the UK is 30.9 as if 2021 and is only getting later https://www.statista.com/statistics/294590/average-age-of-mothers-uk/#:~:text=Average%20age%20of%20mothers%20in%20the%20UK%201938%2D2021&text=Between%201991%20and%202021%20there,1991%20to%2030.9%20by%202021.
/r/MensRights14/08/23 08:24 PM
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My point is that the motherhood penalty is very much real. And you’re avoiding my question for some reason. Surely this should be good news that some women are earning more and now you can relax about being rinsed for your money?
/r/MensRights14/08/23 07:35 PM
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A lot women find it off putting for a guy to ask her on a walk fyi. Unless you’re walking somewhere very public, it can come across very tone deaf to expect a woman who doesn’t know you to go on a secluded walk with you.
/r/MensRights14/08/23 07:34 PM
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The article about women earning more only applies to a few cities in the US. Besides, what’s the angle here? Most men complain that women don’t have no money and scrounge off men, now you’re upset we do have money?
/r/MensRights14/08/23 07:31 PM
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The article refers to young women who aren’t yet mothers since it’s only women under 30 Mothers experience a 60% drop in earnings compared to fathers in the decade following the birth of a first child, and women have lower pension balances at the end of their working lives.
/r/MensRights14/08/23 03:11 PM
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I dont know what Men's Sheds is so I won't weigh in on that. Generally, being around people who can sympathise and understand your struggles and also encourage eachother to work toward your goals is a positive thing. I used to lurk in PPD and stopped as I found it to be an echo chamber of the same discussions over and over. But yeah, both genders need to stop treating the discussions of one set of issues as a minimisation of the other. Otherwise we're all in for a lifetime of more hostility towa…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 04:26 PM
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I definitely agree that loneliness in men is a rising epidemic and it's harder for men to reach out and make even platonic connections. I've seen this in my brother and it's always broken my heart, I've always made an effort to include him in my social life, luckily he gets on well with my bf and friends. Loneliness can drive people to very dark places, destructive to themselves and sometimes others. The rhetoric around men's mental health is slowly improving, but there is still a long way to go…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 02:15 PM
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Personally, I've never seen women advocate for video games or porn to be banned, I certainly don't think that would help anyone. Porn will always be available, if it were criminalised that would lead to more trafficking and less safeguarding for the performers. Banning video games is just ridiculous and again, there would become illegal ways to obtain it. Again, everything in moderation. In modern society, there is almost no delayed gratification anymore, we want the dopamine rush instantly. Tha…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 12:55 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_mass_shootings_in_the_United_States_in_2023 I’m not American but this looks like a lot of mass shootings to me, there’s also articles discussing the very recent sharp rise in gun violence as well.
/r/MensRights16/06/23 12:34 PM
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Could you expand on the idea that the two alternatives for men is to either use video games/porn or to explode in a way that would be harmful to women? FYI - I’m not against porn or video games, I think anything in moderation is totally fine as a stress relief/coping mechanism.
/r/MensRights16/06/23 12:22 PM
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I’m glad you’re happy :) What elements of red pill are present within your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 05:27 PM
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If you’re with someone constantly bitching and complaining it’s probably not a happy or healthy relationship so yeah, the natural solution is to part ways. I said OR end the relationship - if you discuss it and can’t agree on a compromise. Keep up. All relationships are a matter or give and take and compromise from both sides, if two people are serious about eachother and want to go the distance, you listen to eachother and you’re both trying to bring 100% to the relationship and be the best ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:13 PM
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Implying that if you listened to your gfs complaints you’d be ‘miserable and living your life in service’. When actually, it would just make you a caring and attentive partner who wants to develop and be happy with someone? And if the requests are unreasonable, you can discuss it and come to a compromise or you take the initiative to end the relationships as there’s clearly a compatibility issue. Ignoring someone’s needs and desires because ‘wimmen are neurotic!!’ is indeed being a crappy partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:57 PM
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Have more respect for your partner than to expect them to put up and shut up with a crappy partner
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:42 PM
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Well if Myron says it, it must be true!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:42 PM
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I mean it’s a whole ongoing joke of “take her swimming on the first date” all the skits of the girl you take home versus who you wake up to etc it’s not a super niche thing. I do feel a bit bad for women who look drastically different with and without makeup it indicates insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 07:06 AM
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Dw that’s not what I meant! I do think that dating apps are hellscapes and why dating is awful - the only problem is that it is now so much harder to meet people irl. I feel very lucky I met my bf through friends. Especially since covid, a lot of people work remotely now and never even meet their coworkers. By becoming friends with coworkers you may eventually meet their friends which opens more opportunities up, idk I think we are deprived of so many social interactions/situations that would in…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:03 PM
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Ehh you may have me there - most of them met in person, usually via friends. I met my bf through mutual friends and I think it’s the best way. I HATED dating apps when I was on them and hardly bothered.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:44 PM
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Why do people use that stat to try and ‘prove’ that the issue is women being educated - and not men being insecure/bad partners. An educated woman has more financial freedom, life experience and has done more critical thinking. If those things lead to divorce, maybe she’s not the problem here. I am very kind and nurturing to the people I love but I wouldn’t tolerate being ‘lead’ by a husband, I want a partner not a dictatorship. Luckily my bf sees me as his equal, not someone less competent at m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:11 PM
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Everyone seems to have a different interpretation of a high value man so it’s hard to say. You asked my opinion which is: a man who’s self aware, emotionally intelligent, ambitious (not necessarily about becoming rich, just any passion/dream) secure in himself, looks after himself physically so non smoker, non binge drinker, does a sport/works out. This is just from the top of my head but yeah. And yeah, those girls are with those types of men. Men on this sub chalk it down to physical attribute…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:16 PM
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Clearly you haven’t heard of inflation which no, is not caused by women buying designer bags and it’s adorable you think that. SAHMs have to deal with the stress of single handedly raising a child which is a 24-7 job. There’s a video tallying up all the work a SAHM does if you were to outsource and it comes to 6 figures. It’s plenty of stress, plus, people get hurt, sick etc regardless of whether or not they work. If women didn’t work, there goes the majority of teachers, social workers and nurs…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:44 PM
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I’ve been around extremely intelligent people, none of them felt the need to sit on Reddit and rage about how nobody understood their genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:06 PM
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If you want to be a breadwinner don’t do it and decide that the woman who is sacrificing her body, independence, earning potential and social life in order to give you children is somehow indebted to you because you chose to be the breadwinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:53 AM
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Yeah because mums who work simply don’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:49 AM
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Big yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:43 AM
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You do realise how difficult it is these days to have a single income household? What exactly would you be providing if she is having to give up comfort? Unless you plan on barricading her in the house she will still be exposed to the dangers and stress of the world. More women than men are now graduating university and most will want to work, like I said nobody will be interested in the bizarre dynamic you have in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:39 AM
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And what does she get out of all of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:31 AM
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If you put people off it’s because you’re obnoxious and unpleasant, not because they’re threatened by your intellectual prowess
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:20 AM
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Right… but a woman without a career or ambition is just another gold digger, trying to achieve hypergamy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:52 AM
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In the case of abusive relationships - those men are usually very good at being a wolf in sheep’s clothing. And then once the true colours do come out, the woman is invested, he’s incredibly manipulative, it becomes a lot more complicated that “she should have had better standards” especially if she’s pregnant. I’m guessing you’ve never been in an abusive relationship so I don’t expect you to understand. Fair point about children although a lot more women are deciding against having them or opti…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:44 AM
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Idk, on this sub i see a lot of men with a shopping list of requirements for women. Not saying women aren’t picky too, just that it goes both ways. Despite the obesity rate being very similar for both men and women, men here make a TON of noise about not wanting to be with an overweight woman- and that is their right, I totally get it. But I’ve known men irl who were overweight and unfit and saying they only wanted a small gym bunny for a girlfriend. So yeah, let’s not act like it’s only men wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:41 AM
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What if the standards have nothing to do with body count/sex though? Even if a woman had her ‘hoe phase’ she can still later on want to be with someone who’s kind, can hold a job down, similar values and interests etc. Because plenty have. I’m in my early 20s but I know plenty of girls with double digit body count in a LTR, the body count thing doesn’t really come up or be a problem. They had their fun during uni and then met someone they liked enough to date who felt the same way, it’s not that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:37 AM
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If that were true this sub wouldn’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:24 PM
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https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/hsph-in-the-news/homicide-leading-cause-of-death-for-pregnant-women-in-u-s/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:35 PM
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The no.1 cause of death for pregnant women is homicide
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:28 PM
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This is why I’m convinced men on these subs don’t go outside because I’ve seen SO many couples where the girl is a baddie and her bf is… yeah No problem with it if they’re happy it’s all good and ofc there are couples where it’s a more even but never a couple where the guy is significantly more attractive than the girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:15 PM
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The stuff you see online of idiot women demanding their man make X amount and that she’d want to be financially supported - yes the women you describe are out there but they are not 95% of all women. Those women are just given a huge platform, you never hear normal rational women given that kind of visibility because it doesn’t make interesting or controversial/viral content. Idk what circles you’re in but I don’t know any girl who expects her man to pick up every single bill and if I did, peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 07:04 PM
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There’s a difference between dating and long lasting relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 03:35 PM
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I said it came from personal experience :) typically it helps if you view women as people and not merely just things to pursue. When you have non romantic/sexual female presence in your life, you’re more likely to understand that. I can say that having male friends has helped me understand the male perspective better, which I’m sure leads to traits that helps my bf and I get along.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 01:58 PM
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Never said having female friends was the only factor in attractiveness. It’s just a case that more female presence can lead to traits in men which women like. It’s not the be all and end all. Again, nobody’s forcing you to be friends with women if you don’t want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 12:46 PM
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I’d say that if a girl knows you have female friends she’s more likely to trust you as she can see that other women trust you enough to have you around and you probably have slightly more emotional depth and intelligence, also more likely to open up. From my experience, the guys I’ve seen with female friends usually have more success with girls and long lasting relationships. My bf is close with his sister and his mum, had a couple female friends and I think it really shows in how he’s very empa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 08:20 AM
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Yes. I’ve been aware for a few years of what the RP/incel movement was but assumed it was a weird, niche on the internet and that none of the people who bought into it ever actually went outside, so I was safe from it. (Hyperbolic I feel like I have to say) Seeing how mainstream this vitriol for women has now become… yeah I’m even more wary. Ive cut off guy friends after finding out they were into this. Thank god I have a boyfriend who’s actually normal, I’d hate to be dating in this weird hells…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 11:27 PM
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I’m interested in why you suggest waiting to have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:27 PM
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Am I allowed a different opinion? I just don’t think that’s the only truth on this subject. Let’s agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:29 PM
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Something I find interesting is the increase of labiaplasty surgeries and women being very insecure about how their genitals look, because in porn the women typically have very little labia. A friend of mine actually had this procedure done as an ex of hers commented that he could “tell she’s been around the block” which is just ridiculous. I’ve heard a few instances of men commenting on a woman’s genitals for having more labia than your average pornstar and being stupid enough it has any connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:28 PM
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Maybe - I don’t think it’s always that straightforward
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:21 PM
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Like I said - it’s about accessibility. Takes a lot more effort to get yourself to a theatre when today it’s just a couple taps on your phone completely free.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:18 PM
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There’s a difference between looking at a nude picture and actually watching people have sex. I said in my post “restricting” porn and going back to what people used 40-50 years ago, not outright banning all nudity everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:15 PM
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We don’t have a problem in society of men being sexually assaulted, harassed and constantly objectified. Women can compartmentalise a lot more when it comes to that, that’s a straw argument and you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:12 PM
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It’s interesting looking at how accessible dopamine is (not even just around porn) and the negative impacts it’s had on society. What I’m curious is, why is porn seen as essential for masturbation, couldn’t men get similar satisfaction from just looking a nude images, using their imaginations etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:10 PM
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I’m not talking about intention, but rather if there’s a correlation between men who frequently consume porn - and if they’re able to have good relationships, and also have the capacity to view women outside of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:06 PM
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Y’all will say anything but admit that some men just aren’t very good in bed
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:36 PM
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No but you seem keen to pin down bad sex as solely the women’s fault
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:27 AM
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Okay, keep that same energy for guys who complain about women starfishing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:15 AM
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Again. Get off Reddit and go outside. You will see plenty of couples where the guy is 5,7 and a similar height to his gf, shorter than his gf, whatever. I know plenty of short guys who get girls, they just avoid developing “little man syndrome” and they do absolutely fine in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:37 AM
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The ‘natural dynamics’ of the situation where heterosexual women are having worse sex than any other demographic… but it’s not down to the mans lack of skill or want for trying!!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:18 AM
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They seem to be able to communicate just fine with other women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:16 AM
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Women are pretty good at having sex with other women, it seems like when there’s bad sex, men are the common denominator. But sure, do whatever mental gymnastics you need to do
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:16 AM
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Moot* And no, my point is that people fixation on body count is hardly a new thing, so idk why you’re portraying it like it is. Also, you’re ignoring the fact not everyone lives in a western society.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:01 PM
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The orgasm rate for lesbian women is 86%, still a fair bit more than for heterosexual women. You’re right but I’d like to offer another opinion. Porn very much portrays sex as being inherently degrading to women and all about getting the man off. Boys younger and younger and consuming this and internalising how sex is meant to be. A friend of mine works at a school where a young girl was recently raped by a classmate (15) and when he was asked why he did it, he said he thought it was normal for …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:00 PM
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I mean it’s kinda derived from the centuries of purity culture perpetuated by men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:31 PM
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I said it’s fair if someone sees it that way? Here’s the definition for gaslighting as you clearly don’t know what it means: manipulate (someone) using psychological methods into questioning their own sanity or powers of reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:02 PM
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Keeps me safe from guys like you so thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:17 PM
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He said ur a bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 08:07 PM
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-body count 3, idk if this is considered ran through you tell me -definitely not submissive lmao -nurturing to people I love and care about so ig yeah -I probably don’t fit your idea of feminine -university educated, atheist, liberal/central Looks like I’m out of luck for a man who writes these lame ass posts on Reddit! I’ll just have to settle for my relationship with an actual HVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 08:05 PM
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Hopefully she’ll take your advice. Thing is you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. Put your own oxygen mask on first and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:53 PM
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I wonder how she’d feel if she could read your post
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:50 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/comments/11vg0b4/according_to_this_guy_every_man_is_secretly_a/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:48 PM
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I was being sarcastic bro chill
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:13 PM
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I have seen posts of men saying that women taper off at around 19/20 and I agree it’s insane thinking but that’s what my comment was about
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:11 PM
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I’m 22
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:04 PM
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No. I like being able to laugh with someone and experience a lot of news things with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:24 AM
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Haha how is it fascinating?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:59 PM
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You know I’m right :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 02:39 PM
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? Can you elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:32 AM
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Ok but what’s a viable solution here? You can’t force people to get married or impose some handmaids tale shit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:14 AM
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Maybe this is just the process of people who shouldn’t be reproducing being filtered out
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 12:06 AM
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No they just don’t want to fuck him
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:56 PM
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Not really. Exclusivity isn’t expected from someone you’re seeing until you talk about it. Idk anyone who does this differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:56 PM
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Let them complain lol the world isn’t going to end over it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:07 PM
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Rule of sixes?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:40 PM
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‘Someone they find attractive, interesting, kind and funny.’ Just because someone rejects you doesn’t mean you don’t have those traits, or that those traits are somehow worthless. You take the L and move on until you come across someone who does recognise those traits in you and wants to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:37 PM
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And I agree with you there. There’s that episode of Jeremy Clarkson where a man talks about his gf locking him out on a balcony and he had to jump 3 floors to escape and the crowd laughed, it was disgusting to see. Thank god the host pointed out they would have never done that had he been a woman. A male friend of mine had an abusive ex who hit and slapped him when she drank and when he told a counsellor about it - the counsellor laughed because this guy is 6,3 and built so he couldn’t understan…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:58 PM
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But the post doesn’t talk about male victims of DV, im talking about men who end up with cheaters, gold diggers, generally just bad women who are granted much more sympathy than the female victims of DV.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:47 PM
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That’s true, I should have been clearer but basically my point is men on this subreddit are far more sympathetic to men who choose bad but non abusive female partners than female DV victims. I also totally agree, male victims of DV are done a huge disservice and the stigma around it needs to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 01:27 PM
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Pretty sure it’s data from London Met Police, the stats I’ve seen from them are the same
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:10 AM
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https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/london-prosecution-rate-domestic-violence-worst-uk-cps-b924635.html To summarise - only 66% of men reported for abuse even go to court. One 1 in 20 reported rapes result in the man being prosecuted. At my uni, a girl being abused by her bf had him arrested for assault. The university were aware and he didn’t get expelled. He then applied for his masters degree at the same university and got accepted, staying in the city for an extra year as he was in the yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:47 AM
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Again with “women choosing wrong” 🙄 How about “men choosing to be abusive”. God forbid they have any accountability. It’s men choosing to be abusive that is costly for society. So many RP men bitch about how women need to ‘choose better’ and in the same breath cry about women having unrealistic standards. Do these men ever consider that the reason they’re not being picked is because women are starting to ‘choose better’ but now you’re upset because you’re not the one being chosen. Take a day off…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:20 AM
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It’s not usually down to choice but blackmail lack of resources: financial abuse is incredibly common in DV, this is especially true when children are involved threat of violence against them or their loved ones simply down to excellent manipulation tactics, being told by someone you love how deeply sorry they are and that they’ll never treat you this way again childhood abuse leads to adults being far more likely to stay in abusive relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:29 AM
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I feel sorry for them all
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 11:13 PM
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It seems a bit sad to cling onto someone just because you may not come across anyone else who’s nice. Your partner can be the nicest man alive but there’s so many reasons relationships fail, sometimes you just fall out of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:49 PM
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Ahaha it was never that deep, it’s not like they were aware of the unnecessary angst I was subjecting myself to Besides after a first date the nerves ease off and it’s all good
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:14 PM
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Please don’t have children
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 09:42 PM
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And ofc forking out for the breast lifts, tummy tucks, Botox etc when the age catches up to her
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 08:48 PM
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It’s hilarious how clueless they are that if we described men were not attracted to the way they describe women they’re not attracted to, we’d be bombarded with “man hater” “unrealistic” “hypergamy!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 07:48 PM
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Can’t even drown out your thoughts with some music you now have to listen to some man talk about the latest Joe Rogan podcast episode :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 06:07 PM
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Ahahaha are we labradors now being taken for a walk in the park 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 05:30 PM
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Nah sorry but a McDonald’s date is beyond tacky, let women have some standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:25 PM
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In the UK it’s usually either 50/50 or once you’re more serious it’s proportional to whoever earns more. Obviously if one person makes a lot more money, it isn’t really fair to stay 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:20 PM
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Okay, and the guy is an adult who made the adult decision to pay for dinner. If he wanted another date he should have got to know her more before paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:17 PM
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19 year old me did not consider that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:02 PM
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I’m not claiming anyone’s lying. Try reading and comprehending what I actually said.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:01 PM
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I find this so weird. Idk any couples where the guy pays for everything. My bf and I are pretty 50/50 it’s seen as very normal. If you’re constantly coming across women who expect you to shell out for everything, that’s down to you and your choice in women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:57 PM
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I find this so weird. Idk any couples where the guy pays for everything. My bf and I are pretty 50/50 it’s seen as very normal. If you’re constantly coming across women who expect you to shell out for everything, that’s down to you and your choice in women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:56 PM
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Did walking dates become a thing after covid? The last date I went on before my current bf was in 2019 and I never went on walking dates ahah
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:41 PM
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Right, but if a girl sleeps with a guy and is then upset bc he ghosted or didnt want anything more to do with her- that’s just her fault because she chose to sleep with him knowing there wasn’t a guaranteed outcome of commitment. The double standards are back at it !
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:39 PM
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I hated coffee dates, I’d already be nervous and now you’ve added coffee to the mix so I’d be even more nervous and needing to take a shit
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:33 PM
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Idk any girls that give a fuck about the first person they slept with, it really isn’t that big a deal
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 07:59 PM
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Every analogy related to this topic likens women to being objects you can earn/possess (trophy) or something that depreciates in value with each use (car). It’s overdone, it dehumanises women and contributes nothing meaningful to the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:46 PM
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What’s snowballing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:36 PM
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I guess I can only speak for myself, so what it meant for me before I met my bf was: a guy wanting more than just sex (this filtered out most of the 100s of men that approached me) someone patient and kind, I waited 3 months before sleeping with my bf and he never pushed me someone I get on really well with, shared sense of humour, values, interests All of these factors may seem irrelevant to sex but they all add up to a woman trusting a man and feeling safe enough with him to sleep with him. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:22 PM
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Okay but you do realise most couples date for at least a couple years before getting married. Would you plan on marrying someone straight off the bat?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:12 PM
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The men I know irl who actually get pussy don’t want virgins because they want a girl who knows how to fuck. And look there’s no shame in being inexperienced, nobody is just born knowing how to do it, but it’s just a preference people have once they’re 21+
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:11 PM
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What are the downsides of having a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:02 PM
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Climate change or war will probably take us out within the next 50 years so I’m chillin
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:37 PM
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Okay. Why don’t you outline what a balanced relationship looks like to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:05 PM
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What did I edit? And no, RP men don’t want a balanced relationship. They constantly talk about wanting a submissive woman who will put up and shut up, ask for nothing but also be 50/50 in everything. That’s not balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:56 PM
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I can live in london while also having enough expendable income to travel. Living in a recession doesn’t automatically mean I’m broke and again - 0 relevance to the post. I also never claimed to be going through hardships, again with your pointless straw man arguments 🙄 FYI- Milan is in Italy babe. It really is true what they say about Americans and their grasp on geography lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:08 PM
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My country is literally in a recession and you’re bitching at me saying that im lying somehow? It’s not relative or a matter of perception, it’s reality which you are wilfully ignoring in to labour your weird moot point that has 0 relevance to my post
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:28 PM
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So whats your favourite kind of window to lick?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:22 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:20 PM
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I love your confidence given that you don’t know where I live
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 11:43 AM
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There’s 8 billion of us I think we’re fine. The bigger concern is an ageing population but tbh climate change will probably take us out first. Ofc plenty of women are very maternal and deeply want children there’s no denying this, but there is also a steady increase in women who don’t want children and the birth rate has been slowly declining in most countries. https://theconversation.com/amp/more-than-1-in-5-us-adults-dont-want-children-187236
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 11:42 AM
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There are now more women aged 30 without children than with. A lot more women are realising you don’t need a ring and a bump in order to self-actualise. More and more women are choosing to not have children even if they are in a relationship. For example I’m in a LTR and don’t ever want children. I’d rather spend my life enjoying my money and travelling. Being alone and pursuing your passions is finally recognised as far better than being held back by a mediocre husband. This is implied by the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 11:08 AM
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I’m always pro breaking up if the relationship isn’t working? What’s your fight here
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:35 AM
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I think what a lot of RPs miss is that you can still feel lonely even if you’re able to get dates or you have an easier time hooking up if you wanted. Meaningless interactions/sex feels worse than none at all, (I think this applies more for women) but you don’t realise it until you experience it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 09:02 AM
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Literally every RP dating strategy is based on manipulating women to get what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 08:39 AM
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I wouldn’t say that’s so much related with women needing men but rather many fathers choosing to neglect their children and subject them to that disadvantage. Children need good fathers- that’s a given ofc. And YES single mothers aren’t always the result of the father cutting and running but let’s not act like that doesn’t happen all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 08:29 AM
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sounds like you’re seeking out women with very low self esteem to endure this type of relationship. makes sense why RP believes all women over 22 are gargoyles 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:36 AM
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Literally nobody is saying that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:28 AM
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Isn’t the essence of RP ideology trying to maximise the outcome of being with a woman via manipulation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:26 AM
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People on this subreddit focus too much on the theoretical aspect of these matters because they typically have very little experience of how relationships work in real life. I used only myself and my parents are an example but all long lasting happy marriages come with this mindset, even if it contradicts what you believe practically and scientifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:23 AM
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https://amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:22 AM
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I’m talking about single childless women. Child support isn’t about ‘needing a man’ it’s having the father contribute to his own child, which a lot of dads don’t do tbh. Alimony is only granted is less than 10% of divorces and it’s usually in cases if the woman sacrificed her own career and earning potential to raise his children and allow him to further in his own career
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:21 AM
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So there’s no such thing as a happy relationship ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:19 AM
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I am literally in a recession rn where I live lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:18 AM
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Men are actually 6 times more likely to leave their partner if their partner becomes terminally ill or permanently disabled. It’s more novel than you’d realise. I made the point because a lot of RP think that all a man has to do is provide a paycheque and the woman should nurture him when that isn’t the case. I agree with everything else you’re saying, I don’t quite understand the antagonism? We don’t need men financially, also men are now much more expected to look after themselves now. I’m try…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 09:07 PM
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That’s true, a lot of RP claim that women need men still.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 09:00 PM
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Interesting. I wonder if that’s why Roe v Wade was overturned in some states, pure speculation though. And yeah I’m aware of why China’s population is the way it is, despite what one charming comment said I have actually studied history 😂 I think younger people are going to start dying over the next few decades. Obesity in the US is at 42% and obese people rarely get old. Obesity in children is also steadily increasing. A ton of young kids are vaping like crazy and we don’t know what the long te…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:57 PM
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Two incomes… including the woman’s income. So men financially need women as well to buy a home. Kind of a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:42 PM
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I’m just curious about why you believe women will out populate men? I know that the birth rate is declining and there’s concerns about an ageing population/population collapse but usually where there are gender imbalances in a population it’s due to more men than women. In China there are around 32 million more men than women for obvious reasons for example
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:36 PM
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If I don’t sleep with an engineer will he automatically stop building things and our infrastructure will crumble around us?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:08 PM
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Not really relevant in the context of relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:59 PM
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My dad grew up in a very conservative household where his mum did all of the domestic labour and his dad rarely lifted a finger and once threw a fit about having to sort his own dinner. You’re right that my dad doesn’t deserve extra marks just for being an adult but it’s always stood out to me given how he grew up. Part of my speculation is the idea that the grass is always greener. Why work on a relationship/marriage when you can find a shiny new one within a few taps on your phone lol. People …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:54 PM
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You’re right that they’re of a different generation but they’re not a ‘traditional’ couple - my dad cooks just as much as my mum and actually does more cleaning. My mum also refused to include “obey” in her wedding vows. He’s retired but my mum is a freelancer still working so she’s technically the breadwinner now and loves joking about being his sugar mama. But yeah I agree with you. People only want the perks of a relationship and don’t want to put in the work to make them last and it’s really…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:35 PM
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Not sure how I’ll recover from such a sick burn
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:21 PM
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This subreddit is mainly men, that’s why lol. Ive asked everyone I’ve slept with for a STD panel beforehand, his N count had nothing to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:42 PM
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No girl would choose a partner who’s been with over 50 women. It says that a guy is a higher risk of STDs, has had a lot of one ONS and statistically will be more likely to cheat. Obviously if you really fall for someone and have that connection maybe you’ll overlook it but it definitely doesn’t make men more appealing. Same goes the other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:32 PM
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It’s about the same as women caring about a man with 50+
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:27 PM
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Eh you might be right, but the fact he was pushing for us to be exclusive, me to meet his family and friends and becoming official implies otherwise. Men who are just trying to spin multiple plates generally don’t act like that. I think he was legitimately just dumb. In 2019/2020 the rhetoric wasn’t talked about so much whereas it’s constantly talked about now - that’s what I meant. Every podcast by men now is just them talking about any women who is not a virgin is a ran through hoe nobody will…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 09:40 AM
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For me, I’m not concerned about trying to understand HIM, but rather his mindset that is so mainstream now. At the time I thought he was just a strange outlier but I’m learning now a LOT of men think the way he did. He’s just a case study, as this subreddit is constantly posting hypothetical scenarios and the same 3 questions over and over again so I thought this would be a better approach. Why are you so riled up about this? I’m a stranger to you and you’re acting like you have a dog in this fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:43 AM
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Fair enough. If I was into hooking up I doubt I’d bother asking men I was casual with but I think it’s useful info if you want something serious. You kinda just get curious. I also wouldn’t want someone who’d slept with my friends ahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:34 AM
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This is a LOT. Okay- the first point is by the time we were having these conversations we’d been on around 6-7 dates, we’d met eachothers friends, I wasn’t having this conversation with some random guy off a dating app I barely knew. He was mid looking, not ugly but I wasn’t drawn to him for his looks, rather the fact that initially we got on well. For me personality always comes first.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:28 AM
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Sorry, why don’t the girls count? They did a better job than some of the men they definitely deserve the credit ahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:37 PM
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It takes two to tango but it takes one person to walk out and more commonly it’s the father. Alternatively- why are you so quick to blame the mother for everything? Im aware of the importance of a good male role model for a child’s development. That’s why I think it’s abhorrent when those fathers neglect that duty. Looool one look at your post history and I know plenty about you… ten a penny on this subreddit tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:35 PM
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Granted, but they’re the exception, not the rule. Why are you more angry about the single mothers, and not the fathers who abandoned their own children?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:07 PM
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Thanks so much! I’ll forward it on :) And yeah thank you for your insight! I think a lot of RP men are so obvious about never being in a relationship. Ofc you won’t care about a woman’s intelligence, ambitions if it’s casual and if she’s pretty enough maybe you can stretch it out a few months. But eventually it will be intensely boring and draining dating someone with no intellect, passion or goals in her life/career. Why aren’t they understanding this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:31 PM
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I was responding to your comments, not your post. My tldr on your post is: hard to say, but the vast majority of the population would never even consider using a sex robot so I don’t think it will have a significant impact. I could be wrong, time will tell
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:46 PM
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Sorry - sex robot
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:40 PM
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Enjoy your sex doll but don’t expect everyone to feel the way you do about it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:25 PM
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Best of luck in your future relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:27 PM
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What was your thought process behind that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:16 PM
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It’s interesting - they get so resentful about gold diggers, hustlers or just women who want to be SAHMs and not work but they also can’t deal with a woman who makes good money and can stand on her own two feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 01:53 PM
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100% on board with that. It’s a shame that there’s such a divide of men vs women, everyone arguing over hypergamy, who needs the other more. The bottom line is we don’t ‘need’ eachother. Plenty of single people go on to have wonderful, fulfilled lives. The ideal relationship is where both of your lives are better for having the other person in them. It may be in different aspects as every person has different needs, strengths etc but ultimately it is that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:28 AM
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It’s useful to factor in the type of people you find on these subreddits, it’s very different to those you meet irl. JP is one of those where I just take what I need and leave the rest ahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:15 AM
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I think the issue is so many men think that the ONLY thing they need to provide is a paycheque. Given that the majority of households require two incomes, there are more female graduates than men and women are now half the workforce - this just isn’t the case. I pay my own rent and bills, I have no use for a “provider” in the financial sense. I don’t know ANY couples where the man is the sole breadwinner unless there’s very young children involved as daycare is ridiculously expensive and it’s a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:13 AM
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Just want to let you know that women (speaking for myself and the women I know) care a lot about men’s mental health and we see how unfair it is the way men’s mental health is treated versus women’s. I agree there’s much more stigma attached and it isn’t okay. I’m a woman and I quite like Jordan Peterson even if I don’t agree with everything he says (like how the only way fo be fulfilled is to have children) but overall I do believe he is a positive role model.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:58 AM
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So how’s your mindset toward women working out so far?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:55 AM
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Did she ever teach you how to do those basic tasks for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:54 AM
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It’s funny that the same men that cry about women generalising all men are also very quick to generalise all women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:50 AM
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Sounds like you mistake your partner as a doormat
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:42 AM
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How do you go about vetting girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:33 AM
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Fair play
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:24 AM
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Do you treat women the way you’d want to see your sister and mother be treated?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:20 AM
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Tbh the posts here that get the most traction are the very inflammatory ones that are deliberately made to get people riled up. It’s interesting this one isn’t sparking that kind of response!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:06 AM
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Women are much better communicators, they’re easier to open up to as they’re much more empathetic. Tbh less drama and headache than dating a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:41 AM
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Doesn’t seem like there’s a great incentive for women to be with men in that case
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:51 PM
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Eugh god I’m sorry about that- I’ve added an edit to the post now!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:21 PM
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I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive. Women can be aggressive too but it’s nothing to do with how much testosterone they have. Ultimately we are all responsible for our behaviour and how we treat people - regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:08 PM
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I was responding to the above comment about not wanting to come home to someone argumentative and stubborn and pointing out it’s mutual - not restricted to either gender or femininity
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:03 PM
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Would you describe yourself as having any of those traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:55 PM
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Women can say the exact same thing. We don’t want stubborn and argumentative partners either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:11 AM
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This is such a reach how did you say this with a straight face lmao In the UK alone - 2 women are murdered every week by their partner or ex partner 98% of mass murders are committed by men Your math isn’t mathing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:41 AM
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As much as we like to romanticise this fierce, protective man who is gentle towards his gf but always going to bat for her - the reality is our worst traits are taken out on the people closest to us. If he’s aggressive with other people, he will likely become aggressive with you. Fun fact physical abuse in relationships actually increases significantly when the woman is pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:11 AM
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This is part of what I’m curious about - a lot of the traits men list tend to follow the theme of a woman who puts up and shuts up basically. Which speaks volumes about the type of person they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:57 PM
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I don’t understand all the discourse around men needing to be ‘protectors’ like where do y’all live that you’re expecting to throw hands to protect your gf all the time lmao. Agreed, a combative man is a pain in the ass at best, a threat to my own safety at worst
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:54 PM
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That’s because for the majority of women who are murdered or harmed - it’s done to them by their partner or ex partner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:23 PM
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I went through all the stages of grief reading that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:58 PM
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In that case, why would a feminine woman want a man who’s going to be combative with her, isn’t that a recipe for an unhealthy dynamic? If a guy is going to start throwing his weight around he can forget the possibility of me sticking around
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:54 PM
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In this economy, focusing on your career isn’t really an option unless you’re happy living on the breadline
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:44 PM
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Does this mean that being combative with your partner is a more masculine trait?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:42 PM
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They can never resist an opportunity to bitch about women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:31 PM
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What information?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:14 PM
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Because your post history depicts the reasoning behind your mindset about this. It also speaks volumes you only respond to negative comments when you could choose to ignore them and engage with the people who aren’t ‘attacking’ you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:32 PM
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I think the very first post indicates that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:28 PM
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You’ve been given answers, but you keep pushing back with your own delusions of how women actually operate. Genuinely though, I’m sorry you’re dealing with the stuff you are. I hope you get some good people around you to pull you out of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:26 PM
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Honestly, I just feel bad for you. But raging on Reddit and portraying women as one entity with 0 individual differences isn’t the way to go about it. Women have different sex drives, different values, cultures differences etc and yeah some women may be disgusted by sex but they’re usually on the asexual spectrum if that’s the case. I don’t know any hetero women disgusted by men or sex - unless it’s bad sex with a guy who makes 0 effort to make it a good experience for her What answer are you lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:20 PM
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If you’re on a first date with someone presumably off a dating app, they’re a stranger and you don’t owe them anything beyond basic decency. Definitely not respect or loyalty.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:01 PM
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Peace, respect and loyalty are earned so yeah you would be out of pocket asking for those things on a first date
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:58 PM
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Statistically, men are far more likely to cheat than women but go off
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:27 PM
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If you’re married to someone and you’re not convinced the child is yours you have far bigger problems
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:14 PM
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Whose psychological biases are you blaming though?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 04:40 PM
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How tf am I meant to know you’re Canadian lmao Your sheer ignorance and desperation to be a victim struck me as very American, I apologise for the assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 04:23 PM
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The issue is that men blame women for the issues they face, they don’t understand that it’s the product of the system that they themselves contribute to. Just speaking anecdotally now in the context of mental health - men are terrible at talking about their mental health with eachother, they’re far more likely to open up to their female friends/girlfriends. Meaning that it’s not women who are shaming men for being vulnerable. Again, I am aware that women who shame men for struggling DO exist, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:43 PM
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I’m not saying men’s issues don’t exist but they don’t even begin to match up to the centuries of oppression women have faced and continue to face. There are no 8 year old boys being forced to marry women 5 times their age. Besides, all the people who negate men’s issues and slap on a pescription of self improvement via gym and reading Jordan Peterson’s books are funnily all men. The call is coming from inside the house. I am all for a platform and more discourse around how male loneliness and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:37 PM
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I’m not saying men’s issues don’t exist but they don’t even begin to match up to the centuries of oppression women have faced and continue to face. There are no 8 year old boys being forced to marry women 5 times their age. Besides, all the people who negate men’s issues and slap on a pescription of self improvement via gym and reading Jordan Peterson’s books are funnily all men. The call is coming from inside the house. I am all for a platform and more discourse around how male loneliness and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:59 PM
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Men’s day is the other 364 days of the year babe
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:42 PM
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Fun fact they looked into how often “when is international men’s day” is googled and there is a HUGE spike of searches around international women’s day. Make of that what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:29 PM
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When will yall realise that the call is coming from inside the house …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:21 PM
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Fair play, as long as you’re happy then more power to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:05 AM
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Can I ask how you’ve managed to sustain a 15 year casual relationship ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:39 PM
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Climate change will probably take us out first lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:35 PM
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Is “queen” another RP terminology?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:38 PM
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Nah my bf does a great job
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:37 PM
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I’m a woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:37 PM
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Does this apply to everyone or just women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:33 PM
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Sex toys are not replacements for actual relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:32 PM
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What do you think the extreme thing will be?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:28 PM
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I think it was more seeing how many men were riding his dick and lapping up everything he was saying. When he became mainstream last summer I was genuinely appalled by how many men i knew supported him and that definitely changed my view of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:27 PM
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lol worryingly feasible
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:04 PM
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It’s not persuasion, it’s pathetically obvious manipulation. I’m giving you solid advice here - Just ask someone straight up instead of the weird (yes, weird) mind games you’re attempting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:03 PM
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Any source explaining why women biologically don’t like men?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:55 PM
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The majority of violent crime and crimes against women are committed by men. We’re mainly just scared of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:46 PM
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Nail on the head
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:42 PM
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Sorry what’s PUA?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:40 PM
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Had to look up what this is lol and can confirm I’m not, I’m in a very happy LTR, just observing behaviours and attitudes I’ve seen online :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:25 PM
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Ok that’s great but how is any of this relevant to my post
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:07 PM
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Getting a woman drunk so you can weasel her body count out of her isn’t weird at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:51 PM
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Because sex and proposing to someone are completely different things. Hope this helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 07:33 PM
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How is that relevant to the video?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 07:17 PM
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Interested in hearing people’s thoughts about this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 07:09 PM
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You familiar with the concept of revoked consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 04:04 PM
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Some guy is trying to claim that men in fact DO get forced to get married if their girlfriends are nagging them for a ring. Breaking up due to being on different pages about the future is not an option apparently- who knew??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:37 PM
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You’re not aware that most of the time, men propose? Damn you need to get out more. Having a discussion about expectations for marriage is very different to proposing. If you’re not on the same page, you break up. It’s very normal for people to break up if they have different desires for the future. It’s not about men vs women, it’s about different types of trauma and it’s long term effects
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:35 PM
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Y’all get mad when we marry you, mad when we ignore you. Can’t fucking win. All the men bitching about marriage forget that THEY initiated it, you’re the one who got down on one knee and popped the question. Nobody forced you to get married. In fact, women face WAY more pressure to have the “ring and a bump” by 30 than men do. Plus, men tend to remarry much faster, so whatever happened in their first marriage wasn’t traumatic enough to stop them doing it again clearly lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:20 PM
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And broadly - how do you describe women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:43 PM
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You dedicate a lot more time putting down half the population and being bitter about not getting laid lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:36 PM
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I’m currently in a very happy heterosexual relationship but I’m bisexual. God forbid my bf and I ever break up I don’t think I’ll ever date men again and I’ll just stick with women. It’s really alarming to see the vitriol so many men have toward women. I don’t plan on having children but I’d be scared to have daughters because I only see this movement getting worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:22 PM
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Men aren’t oppressed so no not really FYI, not being able to get laid doesn’t make you oppressed
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:19 PM
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That’s your opinion ig. I’m bi and my dad and I have a great relationship 💁🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:06 PM
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Really sorry to hear about your experience! Bless you when you’re younger and the type of person who likes to see the best in people it’s easy to become taken advantage of like that. Hope you’ve moved on to bigger and better :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:33 PM
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Can you explain how negging can work successfully? I imagine you’d have to use it on a really insecure girl. Anytime a friend of mine has had a guy neg her she’s spotted it immediately and we usually just laugh about it. (I’m in a long term relationship I’ve been out of the game for a while) I can’t imagine it ever actually working out. I love psychology so I’m just curious
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:27 PM
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Having that attitude generally doesn’t bode well for lasting happy relationships. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:17 PM
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Funnily enough the demographic you described applied to all the women he was trying it with
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:15 PM
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Idk what to tell you, I ended up dating his friend who did none of those things and actually had great vibes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:08 PM
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But if she doesn’t want to date a bi man, however bigoted that is, she is allowed to have that boundary. In the same way men are allowed to not want to date bi women. Surely by not telling her you’re undermining that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:02 PM
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If you’re with someone who’s biphobic and you’re bi, surely that’s not a relationship you want to sustain? You’ll just end up wasting your time and theirs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:48 PM
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Why do you feel there’s a correlation between a woman being bi, and being more likely to cheat/switch up? Imo it’s very different to being a mother responsible for a child with the baggage of a baby daddy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:47 PM
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Have you ever been married or in a long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 09:21 PM
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You could argue that getting divorce is taking responsibility- rather than continuing to waste years of your life in an unhappy marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 09:12 PM
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It seems my mention of women leaving unhappy/abusive marriages deeply struck a nerve with you - want to elaborate on why that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 09:08 PM
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You’re the difficult and unpleasant thing that women don’t want to do, so I understand your anger
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 09:02 PM
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https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/divorce/bulletins/divorcesinenglandandwales/2021
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:16 PM
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https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288/amp It’s also been reported that men hugely overestimate how much they do in the house and underestimate how much their spouse does. They both pay bills and rent, yet the woman does significantly more housework. Whenever the man does contribute it’s usually after being prompted by the woman. Do you have any idea how exhausting this becomes after years? It’s hard to feel warm and loving towards someone you see as m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 01:36 PM
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I was more addressing the pursuit of materialism, which doesn’t apply to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:54 PM
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You make enough to comfortably support yourself and a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:54 PM
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Maybe men should just date eachother and be eachothers peace instead
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:52 PM
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I’m 23F in the UK, sorry to hear about your experience
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:35 PM
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I wonder why she wanted you out
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:15 PM
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While also resenting her for being dependent lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:09 PM
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How did a breakup make you jobless and homeless?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:02 PM
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The men who complain about gold diggers are very rarely the ones making six figures lol That’s true, but a lot of these men seem to only care about a woman’s looks. She could be pretty but if she has rocks for brains and only cares about her looks, don’t expect a lasting happy relationship. Of course intelligence and educations are separate things, should have clarified
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 11:56 AM
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Again, whether or not kids are involved are a huge factor. If you both earn about the same then it would be expected you go halves on bills and halves on house duties. Idk where you’re finding these women that expect to be waited on hand and foot apart from the extremes you see on social media but the vast majority are not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 11:53 AM
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Yeah but the point is, they’re not always used correctly, hence the statistic… if condoms are carried around in a wallet for a while they can wear thin and break, or expire, or if you’re drunk you may not put it on correctly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 07:28 PM
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Idk about that, men’s favourite insult to women is “gold digger”, “shallow,” “tramps who only see men as walking ATMs”… men are VERY resentful toward women who choose providers. The ‘protect’ aspect can be linked to height and build and again there are a ton of very salty men who bitch about having to be 6ft+ and jacked in order to get girls. Regardless of we sleep with or who we don’t sleep with ... men will find something to cry about it seems
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:56 PM
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It’s not really “withholding” because that implies men are somehow entitled to it. Women either do or they don’t want to have sex with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:30 PM
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Women can still SA men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:27 PM
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But it’s the same vice versa, consent is also required from the man
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:38 PM
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Two things can be true at once. Plenty of shitty women out there as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:16 PM
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23, 3 partners, currently in a 3 year relationship. Other two guys were from a 1 year relationship and a 5 month relationship. Btw I’m not judging how anyone else does things, when I was at uni I actually felt very judged for not having casual sex like everyone else, but I knew it wasn’t for me so I stuck to my values and I am so glad I did. I don’t think I could emotionally handle casual sex. I’ve dated guys who got weird and offended when I asked them to get tested and claimed they just “knew …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:06 PM
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Potentially, I suppose. What I’ve heard a lot that’s also been confirmed by every guy I know is that men know what they want from a girl pretty much from the start. It’s either friendship, sex or a relationship, and they will act accordingly depending which it is. It’s why I tell my friends that if they’re confused by a guys motives, 99.999% of the time it’s simply because they’re not that into them. It sucks but it’s what it is. If a guy really wants a girl, he isn’t going to drag his feet. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:04 PM
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He’s allowed to break it off whenever for whatever reason. But you have to admit it’s pretty mixed signals from a guy who only wanted sex. Nothing wrong with only wanting sex, but be clear about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:55 PM
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Yes - I’ve also made sure everyone I’ve slept with has recently had a negative STI check It’s unusual but this way ive never had an STI and never been caught up in a messy ‘situationship’. If a guy didn’t want to be exclusive or go to the effort of getting tested - totally fine - but he doesn’t get to sleep with me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:54 PM
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u right im kinda a legend ok but jokes aside, I imagined it helped that I treated those girls like they were people and if nothing came of it, I was happy to stay friendly and move on. Open communication and respect was always no.1. Honestly, I had far less drama dating girls than I did guys. It’s not fair to paint every man with the same brush, but there is a reason why women are wary of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 12:07 PM
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I don’t do casual sex but one of my friends was seeing a guy for a while, he took her to meet his parents, she met all his friends, he even said he loved her and then … out of nowhere announced he wasn’t ready for a relationship and turns out he’d been sleeping with other girls the whole time. It happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 12:07 PM
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I don’t do casual sex so never, as for the latter I have no idea by this point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:54 AM
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I’m a bi girl and never had this issue when I was single and hooking up with girls
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:20 AM
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I think women only described feeling ‘used’ if a man was implying that a relationship was on the horizon in order to have sex with her. Or if the man is awful at sex and is clearly only using her body to get off rather than making it a mutual experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:07 AM
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Yeah thank God Roe v Wade hasn’t been overturned anywhere! And let’s talk about places where abortions are allowed. 2 friends of mine have had them and they are excruciating, I actually had to take one of them to A&E because she was vomiting and bleeding profusely and they put her on an IV for the day and heavy pain medication. FYI, she was on birth control when she got pregnant, she was only a few weeks when she had the abortion and it was a pill she took at home rather than a procedure. After …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:16 AM
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Well with condoms - and this is if they DONT break or slide off - they’re 98% effective. Meaning out of every 100 women who use a condom correctly, 2 will get pregnant. The risk is there. There is also the issue of women being stealthed which is alarmingly becoming more common. So that increases the risk alongside sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:10 AM
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But the same men who say this are the same who get arsey about women being picky … pick a side
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:09 AM
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Ohh okay. Not sure if we’re on the same page - pregnancy can still occur even with using protection, some STIs like herpes a lot of people don’t even know they have, plus they can still be transferred while using a condom. There are definitely still risks for a woman having sex, especially if it’s casual/ONS
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:03 AM
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A Charlie horse??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:58 AM
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That’s an interesting perspective, but in my opinion you should only sleep with someone if you genuinely want to, not because you’re expecting something else out of it unless it’s a prostitution situation. I don’t understand women who’d do that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:42 AM
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True. Although usually when a man is misogynistic it stems from deep feelings of insecurity and inadequacy that manifests itself as resentment towards women. I am not saying every misogynist has a small dick, but there is typically something going on that they’re projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:51 AM
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True. I’m also not really on board with the “tit for tat” mindset because that doesn’t get anyone anywhere. ‘Women are uneducated about foreskins so men get to be uneducated about vaginas!’ Like… no. Stop worrying about what others are doing and just be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:44 AM
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I find this so strange, I’ve seen my boyfriend cry and I’m just happy he’s comfortable enough with me to let his feelings out rather than bottling them in. I’d be really sad if he felt like he couldn’t cry around me. It’s appalling that some women could lose attraction for their partner for showing human emotion. What’s also interesting is the concept of ‘emotional’ itself. Some men can’t cry but they’ll punch a wall or something of that nature which is way more ‘emotional’ and ‘highly strung’ t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 10:50 AM
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Idk some of my friends sleep around a lot more than I do, it’s never incentivised me to start joining them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 12:18 AM
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Why would it be an issue if a girl has friends who are promiscuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 12:09 AM
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What if it was a small sentimental one that was a homage to something important?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:24 PM
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What’s the problem with tattoos?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:20 PM
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So any girl who’s ever been on holiday to Dubai has participated in sex work..?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:19 PM
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Unless a girl literally lives under a rock and never leaves her home, she will be in situations where she could cheat. It’s about if she chooses to or not. I have Instagram, but it’s private so only people I know follow me, and I’ve never cheated so 🤷🏼‍♀️ I get follow requests from guys but I just ignore/delete- it’s that easy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:46 PM
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Lol what’s wrong with Dubai and Tulum
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:44 PM
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Oh it’s definitely more than the average user but I was just giving a bandwidth
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:35 PM
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I mean if someone wants to cheat, they’ll do it with or without social media. It’s a tool for cheating but not the only way. She can also go out, hit up an old fling, use a dating app etc. If you don’t trust the person you’re with, you shouldn’t be with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:28 PM
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What does hypergamy have to do with Instagram
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:43 PM
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That’s a certainly a statement … does the number have to be the exact same or is there any leeway?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:43 PM
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What do you consider that to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:41 PM
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Ok GodLittleFuckling
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:18 PM
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Must be sad to be filled with so much spite and lash out at people on Reddit An actual response is - I have long time friends who are men, so your statement “no man wants to be your friend” is laughable and speaks volumes about your life
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:20 PM
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You sound a bit snappy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:16 PM
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Cheer up luv
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:12 PM
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What if the mother didn’t take her husbands name?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:03 PM
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I agree but in the red pill community women peak at 19 and start withering away after that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:42 PM
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I don’t know anyone married at 24 unless they were super religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:38 PM
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In today’s episode of what objects are women today - we are cars!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:49 PM
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I bet women have a whale of a time with you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:18 PM
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How would you suggest she enact on her ‘preasure’
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 01:34 PM
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She doesn’t speak for every woman … I never think about past exes with my bf
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 01:34 PM
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I’m implying it should be a mutual act where both parties are making sure the other has a good time. The whole reason this discourse exists is because women are frequently unsatisfied with the sex they have with men, and then men wonder why women don’t want to sleep with them. The call is coming from inside the house darling.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:20 AM
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Toys are your teammates
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:34 AM
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If you’re bad at sex, who else’s fault would that even be..?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:23 AM
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Kinda proving his point there
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:18 AM
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Are you able to value women past their appearances?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 11:05 AM
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Wouldn’t you want someone love you out of their own volition rather than being programmed to have no other choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:24 AM
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Tbh men like that need to be institutionalised
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:56 AM
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Do you think that would be conducive to eventually having a healthy relationship with a woman who has a life and desires outside of being your live in therapist/sex doll?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:54 AM
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In the UK alone, 2 women are killed every week by a partner or ex partner, so clearly plenty of men are able to get past that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:53 AM
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That article is terrifying, thanks for sharing It makes a point how men who use the bots can get the lines blurred between what’s real and what’s human and it could result in more violence towards women as he bots could reinforce that behaviour. At least a good percentage of women would leave someone for being abusive or fight back
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:12 AM
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It’s not really, just is what it is. Makes sense that a woman is going to know her own body than a man going at it for the first time. The issue is when the man doesn’t bother to learn how to make the experience good for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:34 PM
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Fair, but the majority of women can give themselves an orgasm, it’s typically the men who fall short on that front
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 02:32 PM
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Big talk given what your bio says
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 10:31 PM
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Instead of cheating maybe John should have looked into why this was? When you’re married to someone you’re in a partnership, not just expecting things together. He should have looked into if her emotional needs were being met, if she was stressed and if he could help, whatever. It’s attitudes like yours which is why so many marriages end in divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 10:23 PM
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Ah, victim blaming, I wondered when we’d get there
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:36 AM
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Being aggressive is literally the opposite of what women look for in a man. Given that two women are killed every week in the UK alone by their partner or ex partner, why on earth would we seek out an aggressive man..?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:10 AM
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Potentially. But a lot of people aren’t attractive growing up, they get bullied, rejected etc, but plenty of them go on to be well adjusted, mature adults
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:46 AM
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It’s evidence that he managed to wear her self esteem down enough that she stayed with him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:44 AM
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The impression he was giving off wasn’t dominant, it was creepy. As told by every other girl he came across apart from his ex. Really not sure what she saw in him but anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:37 AM
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This guy cries “strawman argument” any time someone makes a point, which is funny as he clearly doesn’t know what it means. Can’t argue with stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:36 AM
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We’ll stick with making threats, I’m not going to go into detail about someone else’s abuse. When you first talk to him he’s weirdly blunt, makes a LOT of eye contact and addressing you by your first name, but also acts very superior. He does this because he read in some forum it was a good way to make women interested in you and want to know more. apparently wouldn’t tell his ex what his job was for a while until she found out it was tech support. Hard to explain really but yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:17 AM
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She did leave him and he got abusive lol. He was punching well above his weight with her, I imagine she’ll be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:10 AM
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Nah I’m grand. Have a lovely day x
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:06 AM
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I can speak for his most recent ex of 2 years: he’s sweet enough to girls to begin with and plays up the whole mysterious thing, but then when she got to know him she realised there was nothing behind it, he was actually extremely dull.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:06 AM
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Who hurt you bb
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:02 AM
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Why do you struggle to understand that women want good guys… that they are also attracted to? You know full well that if you met a girl who had all the traits you look for in someone, but you weren’t attracted to her, you wouldn’t go for her. And that is perfectly fine for either gender to do. Life is unfair, you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. I can put it in other way around, if my bf wasn’t a good person but was still attractive and ambitious, I wouldn’t be with him. Everyone has a criteria o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:00 AM
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Idk, I don’t hear of many red pill men who are in happy relationships, there’s something
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:48 PM
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Loool don’t get me started on the nonsense you hear about body counts
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:46 PM
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I’m a girl lmao… In a long term relationship with one of the kindest people I’ve ever met. But I’m also with him because he’s attractive, ambitious, funny and we have a good time together. I’ve rejected “good guys” in the past, but not bc they were good, but bc of the other reasons I mentioned above. Was never anything personal. You’re just either into someone or you’re not. The other thing is - if you have to reiterate how good of a guy you are… are you really that good?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:35 PM
-1

Regarding point three: No woman has ever rejected someone for being a good man. You can be a good man, but condescending when you talk to people, or have poor personal hygiene, maybe you can’t hold down a job, you’re just simply not their type. there’s a myriad of reasons someone may not be into you, but none of them will be because you’re a good man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:32 PM
2

Possibly, he went to one of the most expensive private schools in the country which was also a boarding school
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:24 PM
8

From what I’ve seen, he’s always the one doing the hurting in his relationships. Cheating, emotional/verbal abuse, stonewalling etc. I’ve known his exes and they’ve always been very sweet girls, hence my confusion. But yes, you’re right about insecurity playing a huge part, and no amount of privilege can help someone with that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:17 PM
1

Someone’s preference and experience isn’t for you to make sense of, it just is what it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:40 PM
3

This study is nearly 8 years old and uses a very small sample, and by glamour magazine lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:37 PM
1

Do you find it embarrassing for a woman to be a house wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:01 PM
7

Hold on a sec what does your wife do that she makes that kind of money ???
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:21 PM
1

How come you wouldn’t be married?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:05 AM
1

Probably should have made this clearer - I’m a woman. But thank you! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:07 AM
1

Lucky them!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:05 AM
1

It was more lying by omission, he knew she worked in finance, not that she was an investment banker
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:58 AM
1

The men in those salary brackets are probably in their 30s+, most women at that point are having children and are either giving up work, or going part time but either way their earning potential plummets once children enter the mix. Given that the birth rate is decreasing, im interested in what these numbers will be in 10, 20 years time. I personally don’t want children and neither does my bf. We want to use the money we make to live a nice life and travel as much as possible. I think things are…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:42 PM
1

I don’t live in the US, values are different here in the UK. It’s broadly much less religious than the US, women aren’t as bothered about getting married and having kids by a certain age when I know it’s a big deal to a lot of American women which may explain some of these statistics. From what I see, Americans are way more intense about continuing their lineage and enforcing traditional, Christian family values. Obviously there are exceptions, im just going off my own experiences. I know very f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:52 PM
2

Would you be prepared to take up the role of the sole breadwinner without any resentment or hang ups though?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:41 PM
1

How come?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:15 PM
1

I’m British, I don’t know exactly what this girls salary is other than it’s 100k+. He’s in the same job in finance as me, I’m 22 and he’s 28.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:49 PM
55

A coworker of mine found out a girl he was dating was actually an investment banker who made six figures, she said she always kept it from men because it put them off. FYI they split the bill on all their dates. He said he felt strange and a bit differently about her after finding that out. He makes about 30k. Thought it was interesting since most men have a huge hang up about women “not paying their way” but when they come across a successful, wealthy woman, they’re not quite happy with that ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:17 AM
1

What makes you need someone agreeable and submissive?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:15 AM
10

What kind of masculine traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:11 AM
2

Does she not worry about being financially dependent on you and how vulnerable that could make her?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:10 AM
1

How would you feel if a girl you were dating made significantly more money than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:59 AM
-1

Most accurate answer I’ve seen tbh, it’s hilarious watching these men attempt to justify their mental gymnastics behind hating and criticising women while also desperately wanting to be with them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:01 AM
2

Stopped reading at Andrew Tate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:55 AM
2

How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:52 AM
1

There was this funny thing called feelings involved, his motives were beyond just trying to sleep with me. It was chill, we were just hanging out getting to know eachother and then did it when the time was right, nobody was scheming away behind the other persons back nor was he constantly wondering when we were finally going to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:28 AM
-1

It’s disrespectful if a woman doesn’t want to have sex with you…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:47 AM
1

Four inches or less could be trickier to work with 5-7 inches? Idk I don’t think size impacts this Anything more than 7 inches would be painful for a lot of girls I’m a girl lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:45 AM
4

Dude I work in finance I’m happy making my own money, get over yourself and stop acting like we’re still in 1950.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:25 AM
4

Out of interest, why did she have to be younger than you and have a body count under 10?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:23 AM
3

Yeah, but less so these days. Especially in this economy where single income households are harder to come by.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:22 AM
7

Again, not true. All the guys I know wouldn’t be interested in a woman who had no ambition and planned to scrounge off him the entire relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:17 AM
4

What traits are these? And would this also apply to men with high body counts?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:14 AM
1

I don’t have traditional values. If a girl wants to have a hot girl summer and sleep with lots of people, I am all for it. The way I go about my sex life is about what im comfortable with (lower risk of STIs and sex is better when it’s with someone you love and trust) and nothing to do with being traditional. Moreover, most girls I know are like me. It’s just these subreddits that have completely scrambled your perception of what women are actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:09 AM
4

I’m a woman btw and most men I come across put me on edge, when I met my bf what I liked about him was that I could relax around him. He was kind without any ulterior motives, and confident in himself but not cocky. He was just easy to get along with. That is so much more valuable than being 6ft or rich. So many men have it completely wrong what women want in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:03 AM
5

Confidence and don’t be a dick. You’ll be grand :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:59 AM
3

So tell me about women who don’t delay sex with guys and will just sleep with who they’re attracted to and have a good vibe with
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:55 AM
7

Amen to this
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:54 AM
10

I don’t understand “pretending to delay sex” if you’re literally just delaying sex lol. Besides, why is it so negative to wait?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:42 AM
1

Coming from someone with a low body count, I don’t think a high body count is a bad thing. They may have just had a phase where they wanted to have fun and now they want to settle down and are in a place mentally and emotionally to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:41 AM
0

Check the first sentence of the post :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:39 AM
3

Literally this 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:38 AM
11

Yeah, I don’t know about that. The 2-3 months I wasn’t sleeping with my bf I wasn’t sleeping with anybody, I was just living my life lol. I was in my last year of university and working 2 jobs I didn’t really have the time to juggle more than one guy. (I also didn’t want to as I really liked him and wanted to see where things would go- 2 years later and we’re still going strong) People who chat about “beta providers versus jocks” desperately need to get off Reddit and touch some grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:36 AM
6

Seems like they’re setting themselves up for failure the way they want to criticise women no matter what
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:29 AM
1

That saying does my HEAD in omg, yeah makes sense. I’ve always thought well if you only want women who take their time before sleeping with someone… who’s going to be sleeping with you while you’re trying to be casual and fuck everyone? They’re so delusional lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:28 AM
4

How old are you out of interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:08 AM
1

A true feminist acknowledges the issues men face as well. It’s not a matter of men versus women, the issues men face (higher suicide rates, disadvantage in custody agreements etc etc) are also a product of the patriarchy. The patriarchy hurts both men and women, feminists who are someone educated in this concept recognise that rather than dismissing men’s issues or blaming them for it. Hope this clears it up or lends you a new perspective on it :)
/r/MensRights06/08/22 11:39 AM
1

I think the majority of pro lifers tend to be men, I think the feminists are pointing out the fact that it’s a lot easier to be pro life when you will never be forced to carry and have a child against your will. It’s not really comparable to being a gun owner versus not a gun owner or all the other comparisons made which are blatant straw man arguments. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying men shouldn’t be allowed an opinion, but it doesn’t sit well with a lot of people that a grown man should deci…
/r/MensRights06/08/22 11:33 AM
3

Not really, taste and preferences change over time. A 21 year old may be down with dating an unemployed stoner, a 30 year old with a self esteem and her shit together probably wouldn’t see the appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:53 PM
1

Do you ever respect the women you’re with..?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 12:35 PM
1

So tell me what there is to respect about you? You never clarified if the things you want in a woman are things you also provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 12:20 PM
1

Why respect? All of these things are fine to want in a partner and if they are things that you actually bring to the table, you’ll find someone with those attributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 11:47 AM
1

What do you now expect from women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:16 AM
1

Okay, and a lot of women aren’t ‘fortunate’ enough to have a rotation of men. They just don’t bitch about it so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:01 PM
1

And that’s ‘abusive’ how? A lot of men have a multiple women rotation, some just for sleeping with and 1-2 they’re properly dating. Again, everyone involved has the choice to leave the situation if they’re not happy with it. Living life with that kind of victim mentality is going to completely diminish any kind of internal locus of control you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 12:36 PM
3

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼THANK YOU. I have a few guy friends who are straight and single and nothings ever happened between us nor would they want to. It’s fucking insulting that whenever people say that men and women can’t be friends because it just removes any value women have besides their sexuality. Fuck outta here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 12:27 PM
3

You need to learn what abusive means. In this context you could also say it’s abusive for a guy to use a girl as a backup option for sex if the girl hes going steady with doesn’t put out, but most people would agree that’s ridiculous. Nobody’s forcing the girl to sleep with him, nobody’s forcing the guy to be her friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 12:25 PM
1

I guess the main difference (western countries) is the fact women marry for love, now that they make up of over half of the university education and workforce. Marriage is no longer transactional or forced. Weird question really.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:58 PM
1

Ok but are any of them sleeping with you bc it doesn’t sound like it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:43 PM
0

Woman here! Current in a long term relationship but did some dating around before. Dating is easy for a woman, you’re right. It’s also dangerous, and a minefield trying to work out if the guy you’re dating is just after sex, a rebound or something else. Like another comment said, what good are endless options when so few of them are good
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:39 PM
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