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7

Spoken like a true incel
/r/seduction16/05/24 10:50 PM
12

Get a social life. Your list is just a bunch of excuses.
/r/seduction16/05/24 09:11 PM
1

People hating but the tug-and-pull of a last minute ONS interaction often does look like this, which is why many people actually don’t prefer them.
/r/seduction13/05/24 01:18 PM
10

Nah this isn’t true. If you’re hot you will pull in a club regardless of how much money you’re spending.
/r/seduction07/05/24 05:59 PM
9

You can't really tell because of the dynamics at play. In the early stages of dating, every man's goal is to bed you. Some will be more up front about this than others. Some men will seem like they actually like you and want to get to know you and then bounce as soon as they get sex. This is why women are the gatekeepers of sex and men the gatekeepers to relationships.
/r/seduction14/04/23 05:34 PM
21

Nothing gives you more social proof than "picking up" a woman in a social setting. You'll feel like a celebrity as every woman goes into poacher mode.
/r/seduction02/04/23 08:00 PM
1

Yeah definitely. I just meant she’s pretty good looking overall.
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:06 PM
0

Just saw them on IG. She definitely is one of those nerdy chicks with a nice ass body but never shows it off.
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:54 PM
12

Half these athletes settle down with regular, pretty but not supermodel types of women or IG baddies. Finding a goodlooking, down-to-earth woman seems difficult even for celebs.
/r/seduction28/10/22 03:47 PM
7

It’s not difficult to understand. Women only need to be pretty because men are the ones that value it above all else. Whether men are biologically hardwired to value looks so much doesn’t matter cause simps always going to simp for looks. So just stop bitching and get to work.
/r/seduction27/10/22 06:54 PM
3

Exactly. Teasing is relatively harmless. You can tease girls about a lot, too, especially when you’re just being blunt and honest about an action they took, which again, isn’t some form of manipulation.
/r/seduction27/10/22 06:39 PM
8

Hardwired to or not, men are still the ones who give women that look pretty enough value to only need that feature.
/r/seduction27/10/22 06:15 PM
4

Negging is basically teasing women for things they have no control over in hopes that you erode their self-esteem and create a desire in them to please or want approval from you. Teasing a girl about how they dressed in high school is light hearted and funny for both parties. Telling a woman you never date women over 5’10 makes her feel shitty. The right woman will tell you to fuck off. Women with low self-esteem and other issues may or may not transform their need for your approval into a sexua…
/r/seduction27/10/22 06:13 PM
3

Truth, but because being a ladies man is so valued by young men in our society, some of them will have to sleep around to learn this lesson for themselves.
/r/seduction25/10/22 01:34 PM
1

No idea. All I know is once I have anywhere from 3+ matches messaging me at once, I can see why it’s so easy for women to be noncommittal and play the power role. Having that many options naturally relegates some men to low priority, no matter the “connection.” Imagine having 10+ whenever they want. I also believe most women are just as superficial and visually driven on apps. Because you can’t use tonality, eye contact, posture, etc. it’s all they have to go on. So even if you’re having good ba…
/r/seduction23/10/22 02:45 PM
6

You’re trying to use logic when most women don’t for dating. Even things like a man having money, which should equate to a logical rationalization of financial security and safety, becomes “ugh, the feelings are so good” to them. In other words, there’s no group reason. I get flaked on the same rate even with the banter. The women I’ve had the most success with off OLD were down to meet up for a drink in less than 10 messages total. And that’s probably because they liked my looks over anything e…
/r/seduction23/10/22 02:27 PM
2

You also have to understand that some women are at the club for a ONS and as long as a guy meets the bare minimum threshold for their standards, which have probably lowered some due to timing and alcohol, she may simply think, “hmm, yeah okay, I’ll sleep with him.”
/r/seduction23/10/22 01:01 PM
2

No one else has mentioned it, but seeing a therapist would help. At the very least you’d get to vent about this openly with someone who may have come across this before. You could even see one of middle eastern ethnicity if possible.
/r/seduction22/10/22 01:55 PM
9

Bro, they fold with that hand
/r/seduction22/10/22 01:53 PM
3

I like hanging out with these girls. It's fun. But atm I'm not really dating anyone serious, last relationship broke down about two months ago and I'm mainly working on myself atm. Maybe one or two dates a week.
/r/seduction19/10/22 10:16 PM
9

You could get a hobby or two instead. Something that gets you out of the house that you can't cancel. Maybe squash or such with a friend. Bu8t the abundance mindset is important.
/r/seduction19/10/22 07:06 PM
10

Depends on your schedule. Say you meet the woman you actually like twice-thrice a week, the other 1-2 you can meet on two other days.
/r/seduction19/10/22 06:38 PM
8

Yeah, I try. I don’t even overtly show over-interest, seek validation, or do boyfriend things. They can just sense I’m more interested than I should be early on.
/r/seduction19/10/22 06:32 PM
6

Same. Which is why I continue to date 1-2 more women I kind of like.
/r/seduction19/10/22 06:31 PM
116

My biggest issue. Go through so many girls I don’t even like, as soon as I find one who’s attractive and cool I end up over-pursuing because I’m projecting way too much.
/r/seduction19/10/22 02:30 PM
7

Why are you so angry? Half the time I actually agree with your takes but they’re clearly colored in a tone of resentment, bitterness, and condescension.
/r/seduction18/10/22 05:26 PM
1

What about over text? I feel like just listening and having a conversation gets me left on read.
/r/seduction17/10/22 11:26 PM
6

Shit, I literally just did this with a chick an hour ago. Already had a witty line worked up, tried to force it in the convo, things got awkward immediately after that and what went from a high-interest opening fizzled out quickly.
/r/seduction17/10/22 07:02 PM
15

Been called cute my whole life. Hooked up with most of them women calling me that.
/r/seduction15/10/22 10:30 PM
2

She likes you
/r/seduction15/10/22 01:44 AM
1

General consensus on this from seeing across Reddit plenty of times is no.
/r/seduction09/10/22 12:03 AM
3

I had your other post saved but you deleted it. What was the line you had a decent success rate with on Tinder?
/r/seduction08/10/22 07:25 PM
9

They might be more likely to end of with someone on roids because they share similar goals. Obviously the influencers have some status that plays a role, but from what I’ve seen the average gym bro juicer has to punch down. I’d bet a lot of money women would pick the ripped soccer player over a steroid physique anyway.
/r/seduction07/10/22 06:53 PM
1

The overtly sexual energy of that pic juxtaposed with a dog gives me weird vibes. I’m not a woman but I was wondering how women would feel about that one.
/r/seduction07/10/22 04:23 PM
3

He did post old pics where he looked way worse, but it seems most of his success came down to grooming and how he presented himself. I literally made the same changes, minus orchestrated photos, and also saw my success skyrocket. It’s cause I was already 6’1, good face. Now I’m also confident, fit, and present myself accordingly. I haven’t taken a single “professional” photo yet.
/r/seduction07/10/22 04:18 PM
27

They are not intimidated by natural muscle because even at a man’s peak, when they’re going about their day-to-day life, they will just look like fit, in-shape guys. They’re intimidated by steroid muscles because they’re usually overly developed, giving the person that unnatural look, like they’re walking around with a post-gym pump 24/7.
/r/seduction07/10/22 03:48 PM
9

I can’t do it without porn though. Cell phones have made it so accessible.
/r/seduction02/10/22 02:14 AM
8

It probably is but I certainly can tell the difference in myself with 2 weeks abstinence vs jacking off 5 times a week.
/r/seduction01/10/22 10:37 PM
107

Reads like some pseudo-science bs but I’ve found abstaining from porn and masturbation to solve most of my issues. The need to bust a nut overrides the fear of rejection, nerves, etc.
/r/seduction01/10/22 07:23 PM
2

Yeah, tone and awareness is everything. Just a distinction to make since these women will literally say “ugh—rude!”
/r/seduction29/09/22 05:56 PM
2

I’ve gotten called rude a ton in my dating life and 90% of the time the same chick hooked up with me. Why? Cause I make fun of them. Sometimes this stuff is borderline mean but I’m always playful about it. Why does this work? Because I’m usually not serious and do it to make myself laugh. You just have to sprinkle in some sugar with the spice.
/r/seduction29/09/22 05:53 PM
2

For real. OP seized the opportunities at the right time but these aren’t cold approaches.
/r/seduction29/09/22 01:05 PM
2

I looksmaxed and started getting some results. Once I knew I could physically attract women it was a matter of gaining some self-awareness and playing to my personality strengths.
/r/seduction29/09/22 12:09 PM
4

Lol dude what. At 22 I has like 4 lays. By 28 I had 50.
/r/seduction29/09/22 02:28 AM
107

Lol good stuff. I would do something similar if I lived in a major city. Clear use of logistics, time restraint, adventure, etc.
/r/seduction28/09/22 03:11 PM
1

Yeah, I didn’t think you were, the whole thing is just a stark reminder that women are full of shit when it comes to looks, especially with OLD and hookups.
/r/seduction27/09/22 07:52 PM
37

I’ve found that if a woman wants to fuck me she has no problem inviting to her own place or being receptive towards me inviting myself.
/r/seduction27/09/22 05:37 PM
1

His profile matched. Lots of steroid talk and you could see some of the pics he used.
/r/seduction27/09/22 02:08 AM
7

Bro are you really using old ass Biden for your example lmao
/r/seduction26/09/22 07:15 PM
8

It’s normal
/r/seduction25/09/22 09:17 PM
9

I’m not steroid level jacked, but I have a great physique that gets me a lot of attention in person. Thing is, 9/10 women will say posting shirtless pics on your online profiles makes you look like a conceited douche, so I’ve never done it. Just proof that what women say they like and what they react to are entirely different. They are just as shallow and visual driven as men when it comes to short-term relationships.
/r/seduction25/09/22 09:07 PM
18

There was a guy on here recently who had 6k matches and 600 messages from women. He was on steroids, covered in tats, and posted shirtless pics. That’s it.
/r/seduction25/09/22 03:40 PM
8

Plus beard
/r/seduction24/09/22 11:02 PM
2

Then it’s likely he met someone else
/r/seduction23/09/22 11:35 PM
1

He could be shallow and saw something he didn’t like once you were naked. I’ve done this quite a few times. The way I rationalize it is: Well, I put in too much effort to not have sex in this moment, but Im no longer excited/interested in having sex with this woman for the foreseeable future.
/r/seduction23/09/22 10:22 PM
1

Hire this guy^
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:59 PM
2

That is tough. My friends have always been bros before hoes regardless. You guys all sound pretty young. That two-faced behavior resolved itself in my friend group as we got older.
/r/seduction18/09/22 10:16 PM
3

Be honest with yourself in therapy and reflect deeply on your flaws. I was in a similar situation to you once, very jealous of my friends’ seemingly effortless success with women, and now get success over them half the time. Definitely hit the gym and maximize your looks. Looking good helps you feel good. But what it really sounds like is you’re coming off very desperate and creepy and everyone can recognize it, so you’re “off the table” to a whole friend group of women. They’ve collectively pic…
/r/seduction18/09/22 09:12 PM
8

Yeah, no one gives af if you’re getting laid. It’s a privilege, not a necessity (even though it feels like one).
/r/seduction15/09/22 11:58 PM
5

That’s an oxymoron then. The main reason I stay fit and in shape is so I’m not a hypocrite for wanting to date fit and in shape women.
/r/seduction13/09/22 11:32 AM
23

Entitlement through the roof. Start in your playing field with fatties and work your way up as you improve your life.
/r/seduction13/09/22 02:08 AM
17

Been there. Matched with a decent amount of smoking hot women I probably wouldn’t approach irl. Never actually been out on a date with any of them. The way I see it is these women have so many men in their social circles and daily lives pursuing them they really have no reason to risk going out with someone online. I’ve even setup dates with some of them but they’ve flaked 100% of the time. It doesn’t really bother me cause these same girls are getting offered to go to boat parties, sports games…
/r/seduction12/09/22 09:46 PM
90

You’re on the wrong sub then
/r/seduction12/09/22 07:13 PM
5

Oof, all flags I too have a keen awareness of…and had to learn myself, the hard way.
/r/seduction11/09/22 07:52 PM
3

You’re overthinking. Plus working at a club should give you some status for the patrons too.
/r/seduction09/09/22 04:24 AM
1

Wtf does brad Pitt have to do with any seduction advice
/r/seduction07/09/22 11:10 PM
4

Get off the internet
/r/seduction06/09/22 04:26 PM
1

Because you’re not going after what you want, plain and simple
/r/seduction04/09/22 01:29 AM
1

What I've noticed about ugly guys that pull is that dimes to them are usually no higher than 7s, one, and two, they're usually not ugly, but average.
/r/seduction03/09/22 12:18 AM
7

And to think kids these days have access to porn as soon as they get a phone. They can be inundated daily with “Molly’s Hardcore Anal Brigade” before ever developing an actual crush.
/r/seduction02/09/22 10:35 PM
26

I’m not black, but I experience something similar. I’m muscular, tall, white, goodlooking, athletic. I wear plain t-shirts and jeans. Most women assume I’m a jock republican, or a cop, but I’m actually a left-leaning skateboarder, and while I do play sports, my other hobbies are reading and writing (which I also teach). I use it to my advantage. There are plenty of women who find it attractive that I have a mix between reserved/artistic and traditionally masculine traits. They are usually educat…
/r/seduction31/08/22 01:36 AM
10

These are pretty good
/r/seduction30/08/22 10:23 PM
4

Black dudes where I’m from pull women all the time but the same rules apply, regardless of skin color: be attractive.
/r/seduction27/08/22 02:04 PM
4

You are fucked if you put any emotional stock in online penpal relationships.
/r/seduction25/08/22 06:07 PM
5

While I’ll commend you for your perseverance, this just does not seem worth it for me to have a ONS with a random woman, who judging by your descriptions of the other girls, was probably average looking.
/r/seduction24/08/22 05:09 PM
2

I have an adolescent sounding high-pitch voice for a male. Sometimes get mistaken for a woman on the phone. Never held me back with women at all because I maximized everything else.
/r/seduction23/08/22 12:52 AM
23

You did the opposite of what you should have in all of those situations, as a lot of 18-year olds would. Don’t beat yourself up, just try to understand why. The answer is you come off unconfident and desperate, two absolute mood kills for women in a club environment.
/r/seduction20/08/22 06:57 PM
155

Having a take-it-or-leave-it attitude because you know there are other options out there is a good frame of mind no matter what you look like. I’ve found nonchalance works, but way more when the woman approaches or signals me, rather than when I initiate. It’s just rooted in abundance, though.
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:38 PM
18

Simply put they need way more emotional attraction to get aroused than men.
/r/seduction20/08/22 01:12 AM
8

Not sure, but I just deleted OLD apps, which is where I had most of my success. I figured I was part of the problem too, since I have a lot of options, and dating casually holds me back from furthering my career (something I’m lacking). I feel like a lot of women our age want a man who has achieved something career wise and is financially stable.
/r/seduction18/08/22 03:29 AM
13

I’m at the same point man. 31 and sick of having a bunch of woman I wouldn’t date kissing my feet and a women I do like sensing my long-term intentions as a death snell.
/r/seduction18/08/22 03:15 AM
1

I used to attract older woman all the time at that age but they would never commit to anything. Once I got in my late 20s it became way easier.
/r/seduction15/08/22 04:14 AM
2

The worst part of the whole song and dance
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:50 PM
41

Had the same conversation on a first date. I obviously didn’t tell her what I talked about with my therapist, or even why I went, just related to also seeking one out and finding it useful. It didn’t turn her off and we hooked up down the road for a while.
/r/seduction13/08/22 12:16 AM
2

You should do this as a man that respects himself, not by faking a mindset to get laid.
/r/seduction09/08/22 03:18 PM
1

I saw your comments on the other post, and while I agree, and would say trying to conform to traditional masculine personality standards can hurt you, looking masculine won’t.
/r/seduction09/08/22 02:01 AM
4

Solid post
/r/seduction07/08/22 08:10 PM
3

HM
/r/seduction06/08/22 02:40 AM
2

I make 40k in a high CoL area but I’m tall, muscular, have tats, good face, am witty and flirty. If anything, women are more likely to want something casual with me than to settle down.
/r/seduction05/08/22 09:47 PM
69

Truth. Picking up women is a short-term, shiny new object reward, whereas putting in the suffering for a long-term goal is what will attract them more anyway. My problem is I get horny and start relying on porn which is another problem altogether.
/r/seduction04/08/22 09:28 PM
1

A lot of women go out with the intention to "make out with cute guys" but not have sex.
/r/seduction31/07/22 08:49 PM
3

As someone who has plenty of women chasing him...I can tell you 99% of them are women I don't want to choose--that's why they're chasing.
/r/seduction24/07/22 07:18 PM
1

They definitely notice
/r/seduction17/07/22 11:24 PM
3

Can't speak for myself, but my buddy got on TRT and started hooking up with multiple women per week. He's average looking too, but has a locked and loaded libido which leads him to be very sexual, direct, and confident about his bedroom skills with women.
/r/seduction17/07/22 11:22 PM
3

Bro what, just do something active, literally doesn't matter what it is, and if you're having a good time doing it women will like that.
/r/seduction17/07/22 08:58 PM
1

Yeah, tbh, to be interesting, you need to have experienced a lot, and most of the time that means spending money. Most of the guys I know that have lots of interesting stories came from upper-class families.
/r/seduction17/07/22 08:57 PM
1

Damn, this explains a lot in my dating life and why I never seem to make it past the first 2-3 dates with a girl a like (even with sex).
/r/seduction17/07/22 08:34 PM
25

I lived at home til 30. It certainly made things harder but I still found women that had their own places and didn't mind I didn't. That being said, now that I'm moved out, it's much easier. I hated bringing someone I wasn't dating seriously around my family and having no privacy.
/r/seduction16/07/22 12:09 AM
2

Ah, that makes a lot of sense, and while it's convenient and reassuring to apply that line of rationale to my own situation, I do feel it was similar. She knew we had chemistry and the deep talks came naturally and she made it very easy for us to go back to her place the second night. She also said "I'm great and she respects me" and that was one of the reasons she couldn't continue because she knew she couldn't reciprocate fully in her current lifestyle. This helps a lot tbh, confirmation bias …
/r/seduction14/07/22 01:40 AM
1

Yeah, I don't think she was 100% lying since she seemed super down to continue seeing me and then flipped the switch one day out of nowhere without me doing something off-putting that would cause her to make that decision. Thanks for the insight.
/r/seduction14/07/22 01:23 AM
1

Yeah, just sucks cause I could never get a concrete reason for it
/r/seduction13/07/22 08:28 PM
2

Pretty similar in my situation. I know she liked me and could tell I was open to a LTR, but she had a lot going on and was maybe better suited to something casual. I at least got some relief in seeing her post about needing to hire an assistant for her business the next day; and her business was one of the main things she cited for not having the time to date. I'm glad she ended it though because I doubt I could have kept things solely casual with her. I do tend to give off bf vibes early on if …
/r/seduction13/07/22 08:27 PM
1

Yeah, but those are also Vegas thots
/r/seduction13/07/22 08:25 PM
1

Yeah, still stings though. The constant need to be exciting and challenging is exhausting.
/r/seduction13/07/22 08:24 PM
80

Lol dude what? You’re relying on online apps while traveling…just get out there and talk to women. Telling them you’re only in the area for a short time is all they need to know to understand anything sexual will be a ONS
/r/seduction17/05/22 01:43 AM
95

Dude, you’re traveling—they know already a ONS is the only option. Go out solo or stay at hostels.
/r/seduction17/05/22 12:03 AM
13

Most of it is pretty spot on from what I see
/r/seduction16/05/22 12:54 AM
6

Of course. Being a doctor, firefighter or for less women, a police officer, will be a turn on to some women. Others don’t want to date someone in any of those professions.
/r/seduction15/05/22 11:01 PM
3

They see him as another girlfriend and non-threatening in any capacity. Gay dudes with mainly female friends usually love gossip and drama and fit right in to the whole female social dynamic. It’s kind of common sense tbh.
/r/seduction14/05/22 01:36 PM
2

Californication
/r/seduction14/05/22 12:08 AM
3

Yeah, just data extrapolated by the incels and Blackpillers to explain why they aren’t getting laid. Women are fickle as hell, even about height preferences, they simply jack their standards up online.
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:50 PM
5

He said he’s going to Asia for 3 months?
/r/seduction09/05/22 09:47 PM
4

You’re overthinking it. Just accept the next time with very little enthusiasm and if she flakes go bang Asian women for 3 months and forget about her. Women that will skip sleep and arrange their schedule for you usually do that after they know you can dick them down, not just one date.
/r/seduction09/05/22 08:49 PM
13

I would say this is the opposite of being a moron. You clearly demonstrate boldness and wit.
/r/seduction09/05/22 02:26 AM
4

Nah, use a game on your phone you guys can play against each other
/r/seduction09/05/22 01:47 AM
2

That vulnerability is a turnoff. I think if you express your vulnerable moments in a way that conveys you are actively dealing with it and stepping up to the challenge, she will respect your self-awareness. But if you’re weepy, scared and want her validation or a therapy session, she will be turned off. Obviously this applies to more long-term dating than something like a club atmosphere ONS. I’ve also found that educated women respect it a lot more (but that’s also all I really date).
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:35 PM
3

Blackpillers will hang you by the stake for this.
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:31 PM
1

See a therapist. You have self-image issues.
/r/seduction04/05/22 01:33 PM
3

Jacked bald dudes with beards always kill it. Sounds like you’re strapped for time so invest in some home equipment.
/r/seduction04/05/22 05:17 AM
33

Make a post yourself to capture what you think is missing
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:51 PM
12

Still better than jerking off. Make sure you find a good fitting “like skin” brand.
/r/seduction02/05/22 09:07 PM
-5

If a woman has the twice the upper body strength than you…
/r/seduction02/05/22 08:48 PM
2

For texting something I started forcing myself to do was just typing out the first thing that came to my mind and sending it without overthinking
/r/seduction30/04/22 11:25 PM
3

I asked about this before on the hinge sub and women said that someone matching them a month after they initially liked their profile would lose points. Not because they waited, but because whatever sparked the attraction might have died out since then.
/r/seduction29/04/22 10:38 PM
2

You can’t have your cake and eat it too and not expect other people to want to do the same
/r/seduction29/04/22 02:38 PM
2

Oof, 4K cals is a lot. You must have a high TDEE if you saw little progress. I’m 6’1 and was able to completely transform my physique in 2 years. It has doubled my prospects. CrossFit is garbage for building muscle initially. Sounds like you do too much cardio.
/r/seduction29/04/22 02:04 PM
2

Yeah, but you’re about to graduate, and none of that social power will matter outside of college or in new contexts. You’re putting too much pressure on yourself because your ego is too invested with being a ladies man. It’s an easy trap to fall into once you start learning this stuff.
/r/seduction29/04/22 01:22 PM
3

Sounds like you compare yourself to your friends too much
/r/seduction29/04/22 01:18 PM
2

I’ve seen your pics on Reddit before in the same context. No offense, but you give off a nerdy, non-sexual vibe, kind of feminine. It’s not your genetics but how you’re flaunting them-or lack thereof. The people commenting that your first pic with hair pulled back and beard looks way more attractive is because it makes you look more masculine. If you put on some muscle, wore better fitting clothes, and keep those grooming aesthetics you’d have no problem.
/r/seduction29/04/22 11:51 AM
5

He’s a Nice Guy that goes for anime girls. We can assume he’s also into anime. Based on his responses OP probably matches those stereotypes.
/r/seduction29/04/22 10:27 AM
1

Yeah I’m banned from Tinder and Hinge for no reason. I wasn’t even active on them for a few weeks and came back to bans. Pretty annoying because I was having the most success on hinge. I emailed Hinge and they said it was a legitimate reason. Only thing I can think of is an ex lying about me on it.
/r/seduction28/04/22 11:40 PM
1

True. Was mainly using that common train of thought to give an example
/r/seduction28/04/22 07:55 PM
2

That’s not what I wrote though because I have no experience being wealthy and still have success
/r/seduction28/04/22 03:33 PM
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True, but then again this post wasn’t really about being in a relationship. Obviously you sacrifice most abundance when you commit to one.
/r/seduction28/04/22 03:00 PM
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That’s just false. There’s plenty of people here who have been with 50+ women but just like to hang around and shoot the shit about it.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:51 PM
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I myself found I could never “fake it to make it” with being all suave, abundant, etc. and not feel a little disingenuous. So I made it a reality for myself so it’s authentic. Took like 4-5 years tbh and I’m still limited by my career, which while you don’t need a great one to have success, matters more to women my age.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:19 PM
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True, I’ve still had my dry spells and have to remind myself it wasn’t that way a month of two ago.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:17 PM
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Men in successful relationships with attractive women still have abundance. Deep down the partner knows other women would scoop him up if given the chance, even if he’s 100% faithful to his wife. There is a degree of greed. Women get played by men with options while there are plenty who would treat them right.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:15 PM
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That’s why I said it won’t mean anything til you experience it. While you can pretend to “put on” a mask of abundance, women will sniff that out.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:13 PM
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He 100% will. I’ve seen tall, goodlooking friends make a woman lose complete disinterest in their dates just by walking. But that short bald guy needs to wake up and sniff reality. There are plenty of women who don’t have a chance with that tall guy he could go for. There was a severely handicapped person posting about their success on here a few months ago. He couldn’t even fuck but still pulled women and had abundance. He didn’t go for the extremely goodlooking ones.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:10 PM
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I would not advocate this for someone coming out of an 18 year relationship. First thing should be to go to therapy and look to heal underlying trauma.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:07 PM
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Yup, that’s why you need to create your own 20% sector. Like I said, you can go from a 4 to a 6 and have abundance with lots of women in that range. But these days women that are 9/10s can easily date whatever rapper or athlete is in their DMs.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:05 PM
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Based on your other post, you don’t have much dating experience or time for it, don’t drink, and don’t do apps, so you’re already limiting your options. You also did not once mention you improved your looks. This post is about the psychological results of abundance, not what you need to get it. Lots of men think they’re the best version of themselves. We really don’t have enough information to understand why you’re not seeing any success.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:02 PM
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Very common and often discussed topic, but the point is none of the discussion matters until you actually experience it. You achieve abundance through abundance: looksmax and approach. Rejection is inevitable even for men that have lots of success.
/r/seduction28/04/22 01:21 AM
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It's similar to the 80/20 rule where 20% of men are dating 80% of the women. You need to put in effort to get as close as possible to the 20%, and some people have more limiting factors than others, but you can still experience dating success. If someone improves to a 6/10 from a 4/10, they may not have very attractive women throwing themselves at them, but they can still achieve abundance by having multiple in their range. I've personally seen this in two twins I'm friends with. One hits the gy…
/r/seduction28/04/22 12:05 AM
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I'm doing mostly online There's your answer
/r/seduction27/04/22 10:56 PM
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Teasing is my go-to because it's so natural for me. I developed the wit at a very young age since I was small for my size and needed a way to "fight back" I guess you could say. A lot of women respond positively to light teasing, sometimes even offensive jokes. I almost never neg, and keep the teasing related to their choices, not things they can't change about themselves. A lot of women don't respond well to any form of teasing and I scale it back a lot. If I end up with one of these women, it'…
/r/seduction27/04/22 10:21 PM
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