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Yeah, the solution is literally just "wait until he can actually consent to the procedure."
/r/MensRights25/05/26 09:31 PM
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My mental guideline is basically that if someone's so shitfaced that you couldn't tell them apart from someone who got drugged, then it's probably fair and reasonable for them to claim rape if the other person wasn't also pretty trashed. At that point there's basically nothing readable as consent or as lack of it. Anything short of that point and the rules for rape are the same as they always are.
/r/MensRights27/12/25 10:20 AM
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Both things can be true. Women sexualize themselves because it works, but women sexualizing themselves causes men to sexualize them more. It's a feedback loop, and treating either side as the "main problem" is just silly.
/r/MensRights20/09/25 10:42 PM
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I've said similar in the past, after realizing what sorts of things count as the feminine equivalent. "Toxic masculinity" is just internalized misandry, but the term itself is so awful that no one could reasonably make that connection through the context we see it used in, especially with how quickly it got watered down. It also puts the blame for that internalized misandry on men, instead of on society as a whole. One of the biggest problems with feminism, in my view, is how much of the movemen…
/r/MensRights04/08/25 08:05 PM
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I understand this complaint, with the caveat that I've only seen it applied to a fairly specific situation. That is, when guys who normally don't open up finally do, and open up about everything all at once. It changes the issue, imo. It's not quite hypocrisy in that context--people generally see it as rude to lay everything out at once regardless of who's doing it--but rather just... not having empathy for why it happens. After all, it happens because they have so few outlets. It's like opening…
/r/MensRights03/05/25 09:48 AM
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Oh, absolutely. When people feel they can't be honest about their struggles for fear of reprisal, when they have low self-esteem and are desperate for validation... Well, those are the people that cults and the like target, because people in that sort of state are so easily manipulated. Is it really any wonder so many young men end up hanging on the every word of people who push actual misogyny but make them feel seen and important?
/r/MensRights01/05/25 11:35 AM
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You can file a formal petition to have her committed. Visit your county's probate court to ask about it. I don't think there's any required cost to you, going that route, but constant paranoid delusions are an extreme mental health problem. You're probably going to want to not live with her once you initiate the process, but chances are the confrontation involved in people verifying her illness will make her freak out on a level that will ensure they realize that she is in fact violent. You don'…
/r/MensRights26/04/25 11:08 AM
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Toxic masculinity has become a largely meaningless term because it gets thrown around constantly. That said, I'm told that it's meant to refer to internalized misandry. So "men don't cry" is toxic masculinity, because that's a bullshit thing to force on men. It's not praising resilience, it's deriding a perfectly normal expression of emotion. Calling a guy "not a real man" because he's scrawny is toxic masculinity, because it assumes you must be muscular to be "a real man." I hate the term even …
/r/MensRights21/04/25 11:15 AM
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There's nothing wrong with the fear itself; that feeling is valid. The issue is when they then insist that men have no reason to fear being alone at night or whatever. Because the thing is, we all feel significantly more vulnerable alone at night. The specific fears involved are essentially the way our minds justify that vulnerability. It has nothing to do with actual frequency; it's more of a "if I had a violent encounter right now, what would it be?" situation. Women see rape as the scariest r…
/r/MensRights05/04/25 09:09 AM
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As a bonus, it's also why we think we're so racist. People don't realize that going from the Civil War to where we are now in 160 years is fast, or that the sort of casual racism associated with older generations exists basically everywhere--we're just one of the only places where "growing up in a different time" isn't considered an acceptable excuse. Basically, we think we're racist because we call it out more than anyone else, not because we have more than anyone else.
/r/MensRights04/04/25 11:23 PM
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A lot of earlier US history is culturally defined at least partly by waves of immigration. In this sense, the founders--those who migrated before we declared independence--are the "first wave." They defined the baseline culture. They were mostly people from the modern-day UK and Germany, plus a good number of Dutch. Immigration from those places continued, but there was enough time passing for culture to start blending together. In the late 1800s there was a new wave of immigration, most notably…
/r/MensRights04/04/25 12:24 PM
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One of the lowest-effort things that could be done, in my opinion, would be rephrasing feminist rhetoric. A lot of people genuinely think feminism has men's interests at heart, to, but continue using terms like "toxic masculinity" and phrases like "rich white men." Very few of those terms gain anything from being gendered; all they do is make men feel alienated and make dialogue more difficult. Getting all of them to stop using those terms is basically impossible--even if you explain the issue, …
/r/MensRights31/03/25 11:35 PM
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If you take the intention of the phrase at face value, anyone claiming that isn't recognizing the "big" forms of misandry to begin with. In that context, the best arguments are "one being worse doesn't mean the other doesn't matter" and "misandry perpetuates and validates misogyny by alienating people from your perspective."
/r/MensRights28/02/25 01:09 PM
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The issue is ultimately that a lot of these people have zero understanding of the difference between what they want to communicate and what they are communicating, and then they get angry that they're being misunderstood. This stunt is dumb because the people who see any kind of equivalency between their proposal and abortion restrictions are already on their side. Their target audience is literally the group most primed to take this as a serious attempt at legislation, and it's just going to pu…
/r/MensRights15/02/25 11:08 AM
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It's a combination of the way all humans are wired and the way all humans are socialized. You know how "women and children" are the first off a sinking boat, the prioritized victims of any disaster, and so on? How soldiers are overwhelmingly men? That only works because we all have less empathy for men. Imagine for a moment how you (and anyone else) would react if a country started a war and conscripted exclusively women and children to fight it. That is how people would react to men being sent …
/r/MensRights11/02/25 09:40 AM
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It's all good, it happens!
/r/MensRights06/02/25 09:43 AM
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How so? To rephrase, women either don't know or don't care that balding stresses men out too. Then they justify it using the logic that "balding" is an awful look and that men should just "get it over with." Balding women, on the other hand, are treated like they're going through something traumatic. I'm not claiming that's okay. I just think it's worth making an effort to understand the thought process behind stuff like this. It makes it a hell of a lot easier to change minds, in my experience.
/r/MensRights06/02/25 08:24 AM
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You're misinterpreting what I'm saying, so allow me to clarify despite your unnecessarily aggressive response. The original, core ideal of feminism was equality. I'm not referring to any of the other bullshit there. Equality, as an ideal, is perfectly commendable. Second, the fear response is in fact the same. I said nothing about the things being feared, no comparison between rape and false accusations, etc. Both sides are fearing actual threats that exist. Both sides are more worried about tho…
/r/MensRights06/02/25 03:08 AM
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The actual, core ideals of feminism are fine, even respectable. Don't be ashamed for it. Men's Rights has its downsides too, as does basically every social movement. They attract haters and bigots who feel validated by the movement, and those people frequently become the "loud voices" that people outside the movement hear. That makes more and more haters and bigots feel welcome in the movement, and it drifts from its core values. And since humans naturally reject harsh criticism of their in-grou…
/r/MensRights06/02/25 02:02 AM
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Yeah from what I've seen a lot of balding men get shit for trying to "prolong the inevitable." And if you look at that sub(I forget the name) that's basically just before/after images for balding men who finally shaved, I get it. They almost universally look better. I think the root of this particular problem is that a ton of women don't realize/care that a lot of men care about their hair or perceived age just as much as women do. That just because it happens to them much more often doesn't mak…
/r/MensRights05/02/25 11:27 PM
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Honestly, point out escalation. It's not as if male abusers start with slapping a woman so hard that she's knocked to the floor. They start with something that'll be tolerated and escalate. Female abusers don't need to hold back the same way, or at least not to the same degree. Since they're "not physically threatening" they often escalate to to weapons instead. And unlike women, male abuse victims have to be careful about defending themselves, or even just reporting abuse, because it'll often b…
/r/MensRights02/02/25 10:38 PM
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"Date down." ...What men already do, and always have? ...I wonder what the results would be if you had a few thousand men and a few thousand women rate a bunch of pictures of men and women on attractiveness.
/r/MensRights02/02/25 12:01 AM
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It ends up being a frustrating issue, because it's hard to convince people that making people get defensive makes everything else you say irrelevant. It doesn't matter how understandable what you're saying is, and it doesn't matter how logical. It's a psychological defense mechanism associated with our tribalistic tendencies, and you have to work around it if you want people to hear your concerns. Communicating effectively can be a pain in the ass.
/r/MensRights30/01/25 09:17 PM
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First off, sorry for your loss. One of the biggest issues with any group with gender or sexuality somehow at its core (and that includes both feminism and men's rights, yes) is that when humans tie a group into their identity, they tend to handle criticism of that group with all the grace of an epileptic giraffe. The most intense form of this is seen in cults, which is why "cult deprogramming" is a whole thing, but the principles used in that practice can be applied much more broadly. Basically,…
/r/MensRights30/01/25 11:19 AM
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Admittedly, that's not unique to gentlemanly behaviors--we've collectively forgotten the reasons behind a lot of standards of social interaction. Respecting your elders is another good example. Once upon a time, they had knowledge, experience, wisdom, connections, and resources that made them worth respecting by default, and worth maintaining that respect even if they were unpleasant, because a good relationship would be to your benefit. The former is still a polite assumption to make, but the w…
/r/MensRights01/01/25 04:17 AM
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The thing about gentlemanly behavior is more important than we give credit, I think. People have forgotten the things that made those behaviors gentlemanly, and act like the self-sacrificing aspect is just a basic polite thing that all women deserve to be on the receiving end of. They're not, though. Those gestures aren't polite, they're respectful, even cherishing. Walking between a lady and the street, laying down your coat, lots of stuff like that was intended to protect the effort that went …
/r/MensRights31/12/24 11:04 AM
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I've mentioned this elsewhere, but I firmly believe that "getting men to open up" starts with normalizing male emotional vulnerability to women. Men are trying to open up more. If those attempts didn't go poorly so often, it'd be significantly more common. The primary issue isn't a stigma from other men, it's a fear of having that vulnerability rejected by women.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 12:53 AM
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I could be reading too much into it, but I assumed it meant traditionally female jobs--there's quite a few where men struggle solely because they're men. Childcare, for example; there's this bizarre assumption that any man that wants to interact with children is probably a predator. And even if you can get parents to trust you, your coworkers probably won't and you'll still have to go above and beyond to ensure someone can't end your career with a halfassed lie.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 01:11 AM
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I maintain that the hate for cargo pants/shorts is propaganda pushed by those that resent that guys get real pockets. They're just jealous that guys have a category of pants literally defined by having even more pockets.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 01:04 AM
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Would you mind elaborating on racism vs prejudice?
/r/MensRights23/11/24 03:53 AM
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The Men's Rights movement disagrees with the very misandrist direction that the loudest voices of modern feminism take, and it disagrees with the normalization of misandry. It agrees with the part of feminism that's still focused on equality. It's just incredibly difficult to have that conversation in feminist spaces online.
/r/MensRights17/11/24 06:25 AM
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A huge number of statistics get misrepresented like that. "X group is more likely to do <crime>" and "X group commits most <crime>" are often used for the sake of fearmongering, for example, and often completely lack important context. That said, in this specific case I find myself curious what the numbers would look like if they were limited to murders committed while sober.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 05:45 AM
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...They're bringing "edgelords" into this? They have literally nothing to do with incels or sexism. I hate the term "edgy" in general, since it's another one of those things used as an insult to dismiss a ridiculous number of things as juvenile (like enjoying a black and red colorscheme?), but it's associated with middle schoolers.
/r/MensRights08/10/24 08:38 PM
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I could be wrong, but this might've actually had a somewhat understandable progression, even if it's long since gone too far. First, the self-defense aspect. In a world where it's only used as self defense mid-assault, in can be seen as a piece of shit getting what he deserves. Now add in pain getting played for comedy. Now it's funny for a bad guy to get kicked in the balls. ...And then people forget why it was just the bad guys getting kicked, the threshold for when it's deserved gets lower, a…
/r/MensRights06/10/24 02:27 AM
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The push for men to open up more and the push to wholly discard the traditionally masculine methods of dealing with emotion bug me, for this exact reason. Those people are right that it's not healthy to refuse to open up and to push everything down, but we know that. It's a result of pervasive emotional abuse, and the solution shouldn't be "get over it," it should be stopping the abuse. Men will fall into these patterns until they grow up being treated as emotionally complex people who matter. U…
/r/MensRights11/09/24 09:46 PM
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I think "attraction" tends to serve as a redeeming quality in the opposite gender, in the sense that it helps mitigate a lot of common conflicts or compensate for a lack of understanding. That is, men and women will never actually be on the same page when it comes to life experiences, and attraction bridges the gap. More practically, though, I think it becomes more obvious when absent. When the opposite sex has never gotten a pass for being hot (as in the case of lesbians and gay men), it's easi…
/r/MensRights05/09/24 12:41 PM
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Nah, they're specifically highlighting a counterpoint to the "pink tax," wherein something is given a "feminine" design or advertised as such solely for companies to increase price. Ultimately though, companies do that for every group they think will pay for it, and I'd call it less a sexism issue and more a "manipulative/predatory advertising" issue.
/r/MensRights07/08/24 11:01 AM
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I wouldn't classify it as a cult. Ideology, on the level I'm referring to, actually includes a lot. It's sort of like a psychological pattern more than anything. You see it in religion, in cults, in political groups and social movements, and even in people vehemently against religion. You see it in genuinely misogynistic spaces. And you see it in abuse victims. I don't have anything to back this up, but it strikes me that one of the overlaps is that all of these things are often seen as a refuge…
/r/MensRights16/07/24 04:43 PM
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Real talk here: it's an ideological issue rather than just a psychological one. When people believe something very strongly, as in religion or various ideologies, they get defensive very quickly when anything opposing their views comes up. There's a reason cult deprogramming is so difficult. You generally have to avoid saying anything in direct opposition to their views, you have to ensure that they feel safe and comfortable, and you have to let them come to the conclusion that their views are w…
/r/MensRights16/07/24 12:46 PM
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Yeah, I just looked at the wikipedia article and from what I can tell Vietnam's the only place it was more or less standard to remove the penis. Otherwise, it seems to have mostly been slaves turned into eunuchs by slavers that had it taken that far.
/r/MensRights18/06/24 03:56 AM
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I'm probably not being very clear, but I'm not trying to imply that the way women deal with emotions is better, but rather that the policing of emotions that boys grow up with can be super damaging. It's a really hard topic to explain well, because there's levels to it. There's "teaching boys the masculine way of handling emotions," which is perfectly fine and healthy, but it often ends up exaggerated, either by the adults doing the teaching or by the child's mind. And then you end up with boys …
/r/MensRights08/06/24 09:44 PM
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Many men are, though. That whole thing where men are expected to feel nothing but anger and horny? Where sadness is "weak" and happiness is "childish?" That leaves lots of us struggling with our emotions. It's not as if we don't feel the same things women do, but men aren't taught to navigate that stuff, or how to cope, or even how to define how they feel. And I did say pretty explicitly that any superiority women have for emotional stuff is societal. Men are taught to push it all down, women ar…
/r/MensRights08/06/24 07:51 PM
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More combinations, I'd assume. If you have only one man, all children are half-siblings at minimum, which will probably become a problem quickly unless everyone involved has pristine genes with no negative genetic predispositions whatsoever. The more men you add, the less of a problem that is. And since the new generation will take years before reproduction becomes viable, you'd end up wanting as many batches of kids as possible before the first group is old enough. If you have more men than wom…
/r/MensRights08/06/24 12:16 PM
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To be honest I've always seen "girls mature faster" as referring specifically to puberty. Girls start and end it earlier, on average, which also means that the associated hormonal maelstrom also ends earlier. I wouldn't be even remotely surprised if the phrase has been co-opted, but I always saw it used in that context, often to reassure boys who were getting self-conscious because girls were getting growth spurts first. A lot of social/emotional stuff women are said to be better at is a society…
/r/MensRights08/06/24 11:55 AM
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It can also be considered an iceberg in the sense that we don't know the actual frequency of male suicide. We know, for example, that many suicides get reported as accidents, but the case can also be made that men also frequently engage in behavior that they fully expect to kill them, which can be considered a form of suicide in itself.
/r/MensRights13/05/24 01:00 PM
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One thing to keep in mind on this particular sub: You know how a lot of women mistrust men by default regardless of whether or not they've actually been a victim of SA? Many men here tend to mistrust women. Rather than harassment, it's emotional invalidation/manipulation. Rather than SA, it's false accusations or a life-wrecking divorce. The most bitter are generally firsthand victims, and many others see such things as too common to not be cautious. If that sounds similar to how women respond t…
/r/MensRights08/04/24 03:41 AM
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Yeah I was gonna say, big hands and long fingers are HUGE for piano. Like, to the point where the "average" male hands aren't large enough to be "piano hands." So women with "piano hands" are going to be the top of the bell curve for hand size, whereas men don't need to be all that far above average.
/r/MensRights02/04/24 10:21 AM
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Well, that's part of it, but the terminology is actually a huge problem. We (again, culturally) lump together pedophiles, ephebophiles, and those who actually commit CSA. People react poorly to this getting brought up, but there's a difference, it matters, and refusing to acknowledge it just hurts everyone. Ephebophilia(attraction to post-pubescent teens) is biologically natural, and calling it otherwise just makes totally innocent people experiencing it hate themselves because they don't realiz…
/r/MensRights17/03/24 06:42 AM
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Agreeing with other comments saying no one really knows. Thing is, on a cultural level we put very little effort into understanding this stuff. It's so squicky that no one wants to discuss the topic in a useful manner even before you bring gender into it. That said...when a teen boy fucks an adult woman the default response is to brag. Or at least, the expected response. If he didn't consent, he'll most likely just stay quiet, fully expecting to get called gay for "not enjoying it." Any male chi…
/r/MensRights17/03/24 04:52 AM
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...You know, something struck me after reading your post. I've seen mentions that women find like, 20% of men attractive or whatever that statistic was, and men find a much higher proportion of women attractive. I wonder to what degree that difference accounts for the difference in frequency of stuff like leering/groping/etc, how much is accounted for by the spread of power (i.e. do men actually abuse positions of power more or are they just in positions of power more), and how much is actually …
/r/MensRights05/03/24 08:24 PM
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I know there's also an issue with FtM folks ultimately turning out to be super traumatized; stuff like sexual assault often ends up leading to a disgust/rejection of female sexuality and perceived weakness/vulnerability, and that gets mistaken as gender dysphoria instead. And then transitioning doesn't actually fix it, because it comes from trauma, not their actual body. That's one of the big reasons a lot of places try to push like two full years of therapy before doing anything bigger than hor…
/r/MensRights09/01/24 09:34 PM
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Hell, I'm technically pretty far left and I can't stand how bad the left is at messaging. It's like... political theater in media representation or something, and I genuinely can't tell how much of it is well-intentioned and how much is pure virtue signaling. You don't goddamn lecture people, you normalize. Movies featuring gay protagonists are infamous for pulling this sort of thing, where they'll state outright that he's just like straight people in every way, only he's gay. That's condescendi…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 10:21 PM
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Y'know, I think I just registered another way to frame this whole issue. It feels like middle school bullying, i.e. putting someone down to feel better about yourself. I very rarely see men complain about strong female leads when they're just strong female leads. It's always the "anything men can do, women can do BETTER" sort of thing that puts guys off, and even then guys don't really care if it doesn't feel like it's taking that perspective too seriously. It's like they don't think their femal…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 08:49 PM
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Hell, even I'll admit the "6 feet 6 figures 6 inches" thing sounds like a reductive, borderline-misogynistic stereotype... ...But then you realize that men get accused of only wanting a pair of tits, with various other condescending additions. So many of these things that seem really extreme in Men's Rights groups are just male-perspective versions issues women have with men, following the same type of psychological logic. Men hating women after getting screwed in divorce? Women terrified of men…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 08:46 PM
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Women tend to see their friend groups as a place to get emotional support. Venting and seeking validation are pretty standard. Fun seems to get a lower priority, from what I've seen. Men tend to see their friend groups as places where they don't have to deal with the bullshit life and other people throw their way. Men are infamous for having close friendships women would consider surface level. It's admittedly not great when that feels like a necessity, but a lot of guys just plain cope better b…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 12:17 PM
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From what I understand, women initially judge the intentions of men based on appearance and charm. If you're neither attractive nor charming, you're assumed to be a creep/have negative intentions. Moreover, autistic guys often seem to hit a sort of uncanny valley where they try to be those things, don't quite get it right due to missing some kind of nuance or understanding, and get judged even harsher for it. But no one really sees "This autistic guy is trying to be charming and doesn't realize …
/r/MensRights11/11/23 02:46 AM
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This is my line of thinking. Teens have basically always had a tendency to rebel against mainstream culture that somehow slights them--why is anyone surprised that so many boys growing up in an environment that shames their whole gender end up attracted to the polar opposite view? Even cults prey on vulnerability and the desperate need for validation. I'm sure a ton of those boys really just needed to hear that it's okay to be male and that there's nothing inherently wrong with them, and got suc…
/r/MensRights03/11/23 10:06 AM
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Because feminism isn't just a social movement anymore. It spawned an ideology that pretends to carry the torch, and arguing with someone taking an ideological stance is like arguing with a brick wall.
/r/MensRights22/10/23 11:24 AM
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I'm in the same boat, honestly. I was an anxious kid terrified of getting in trouble, so I was always "quiet and well-behaved" even if I tended to fidget a lot. For ADHD and Autism both all my symptoms got completely ignored even when my mental health started spiraling because I had no idea what was "wrong" with me.
/r/MensRights11/10/23 09:01 AM
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One thing that bugs me with autism is that it always gets asserted that women have it worse because they get diagnosed later, on average. While that's true, it's almost impossible to say with confidence that women actually present differently. The most obvious and disruptive symptoms are ones that the social conditioning girls get growing up helps them to effectively mask and/or cope with. It's a disorder heavily characterized by social impact. Boys get noticed sooner because they don't get taug…
/r/MensRights10/10/23 11:59 AM
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The problem is the "at the same time" part. That doesn't end up happening. Stop and search gets implemented, knife crime goes down, and then people treat it like it was a solution rather than a mitigation measure, right up until someone starts thinking "knife crime's too low to warrant something this invasive." Rinse and repeat. It's technically better than nothing, but it also gets people used to handing cops that much power, which is a slope that very much needs avoiding. Unfortunately, it's a…
/r/MensRights03/10/23 10:49 PM
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Paradox of tolerance, yeah. There's often decent points even then, but the framing can get pretty annoying sometimes.
/r/MensRights02/10/23 09:32 PM
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Not the person you're replying to and I dunno how much time you actually spend in this sub, so I'll give you a brief good-faith explanation for some general context. You know how women (seem to) frequently have a bad experience with a guy and end up taking the idea that all men are rapists in waiting to heart? Most of the stronger anti-female sentiments here essentially amount to being the reversed gender version. But there's also not many places to vent that frustration while it's still merely …
/r/MensRights02/10/23 09:25 AM
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From what I understand, this particular sort of thing works a bit differently for them. It's not their version of "death grip," some women just literally struggle to get off without that level of stimulation. It's "different strokes," not desensitization. ...That said, at that point expecting your partner to get you off during sex becomes much more unreasonable and they should be figuring out how it can be managed themselves
/r/MensRights02/10/23 09:13 AM
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I'm late to this (just found out the sub exists) but I've noticed this in a more general sense. My take relates more to the MensRights sub than anything else. It's sort've in an awkward position, because there's so few places online where misogynistic sentiments can be shared that aren't in actual extreme, inherently misogynistic spaces. The paradox of tolerance, basically. It's allowed, because so many of those guys are largely just bitter or scared because they or people they know have had the…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/09/23 10:37 AM
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Not OP, but generally speaking stuff like this is only going to happen in places where that sort of nudism isn't culturally normalized. The USA would be the shining example, but we're definitely not the only ones. Basically, when a place has to be labeled a "nude beach" instead of just a "beach" where no one cares if you're nude, it tends to get assumed that single men are only there to gawk.
/r/MensRights26/09/23 12:02 PM
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...Having actually looked at the list, the fucked up thing is that the title doesn't reflect the question asked. The question was about what women wished their fathers knew, so many of the answers are super pointed. For example, "If we're avoiding a male relative's house, take the hint! Don't force us to go." The commenter wasn't implying it was even remotely common, just that it was a problem that came up with her father. There's a few comments in the list that are absolutely good advice though…
/r/MensRights25/09/23 02:47 AM
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The video OP linked states the data comes from a meta-analysis; 2-10% is probably used as a range covering the results of the various studies being analyzed. It's more accurate than trying to average out the data.
/r/MensRights20/09/23 10:44 AM
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Something I've noticed personally: there was an era where it was really common for parents in cartoons to both be dumb, or at least dense. Usually the dad was a little more so, but it felt more like general goofiness than actual idiocy. I suspect it got worse when single-parent households started getting more and more common, but I could be wrong.
/r/MensRights02/09/23 12:18 PM
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You're pretty on point with this. The thing about feminism is that it is ultimately ideological. When ideology is at stake, people tend to shut out information that goes against what they believe, and in some cases shut it down. Feminism tends to collectively refuse to hear this sort of information, and has a large enough presence that makes it very difficult for anyone trying to spread this information to maintain a platform. There's a ton of perfectly reasonable people out there; they just nev…
/r/MensRights27/08/23 12:58 PM
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I appreciate that, and I've been sort've trying to work out why the concept of "toxic masculinity" bugs me personally, recently, because I so rarely see anyone actually articulating what makes the term problematic. I think the big issue with the term is that poison is in the dose, not the substance, and most usage of the term is treating masculinity itself as toxic, instead of masculine traits taken to an extreme that becomes harmful to oneself and others. There's nothing wrong with wanting to b…
/r/MensRights28/07/23 11:03 AM
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Exactly. Guys tend to hide, ignore, or make light of their emotional struggles much more often. Part of that's biological, and part is the way we're socialized, but the result is that guys learn to open up without being vulnerable about it, and that vulnerability is a big part of the metric people use to judge how bad things are.
/r/MensRights28/07/23 04:18 AM
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There's something I've never actually seen brought up, but which I'm becoming increasingly certain of. There's an increasing awareness that a lot of research is based on men and that women often display symptoms differently, most obviously in neurodevelopmental disorders like ADHD and Autism. It's also increasingly recognized that the difference is partially upbringing--the social instruction girls tend to get makes them much better at masking, because even neurotypical girls get taught how to d…
/r/MensRights28/07/23 12:58 AM
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I think the big issue with the term is that poison is in the dose, not the substance, and feminists treat masculinity itself as toxic. Even then, though, for any case I can think of that could be called "toxic masculinity," actually doing so would be misrepresenting what's actually wrong. It attributes the problem to gender. Essentially, most "toxic masculinity" isn't, and for anything that is, calling it so is just being sexist instead of calling out the individual for being an asshole or whate…
/r/MensRights26/07/23 12:00 PM
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You're right, and I'm not entirely sure how I missed that. Fixed~
/r/MensRights17/07/23 09:26 AM
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I actually have to agree here. "Single fathers" are generally either widowers, fought tooth and nail for their kids, or the mother was just so awful that no amount of bias in her favor could make her look like the better choice. That means available data is hugely skewed. Single fathers are more frequently good, devoted parents, but that isn't because men are better parents, it's because family courts will jump on any flaw to use as an excuse to hand the kids to the ex-wife. I don't know the act…
/r/MensRights16/07/23 11:53 PM
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Saw you mention you're from the Phillipines in a comment; I don't know a whole lot about the country but I figured I'd give you some context. In the USA particularly, the voices of feminism have become pretty much dominated by anti-male bigotry, and it's only barely subtle enough that a lot of feminists don't realize how fucked up the sentiments they parrot are. However, people get very upset when you challenge their ideology in any way, and feminism is so widespread and powerful that literally …
/r/MensRights05/07/23 12:56 PM
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I'd almost say that men and women just plain weigh success rate vs the likely trauma of whoever discovers them differently. Some women are narcissistic about it, some genuinely want to avoid scarring others as much as possible, and some just plain don't actually wanna die. Conversely, there are some men who absolutely treat the state of their corpse as their final fuck you, but generally... they just want to be damn sure. People rarely factor this in since women fail so much more frequently, but…
/r/MensRights06/06/23 11:09 AM
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It's saying that, among males, the age range of 10-24 years has consistently had the lowest suicide rates, every time they've checked, since 1981. It is not saying that the rate they got that year is the lowest rate since 1981.
/r/MensRights06/06/23 10:24 AM
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That's literally what I was saying. Calling it "muscle dysmorphia" makes it sound like a vanity thing, rather than a mental health issue, and as such I'm advocating that we not call it that, but rather what it is: Body dysmorphia, which is a recognized mental health issue. Apologies if that wasn't clear in my original comment, though.
/r/MensRights14/05/23 11:11 PM
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Steroids aside, let's not call it "muscle dysmorphia" or "muscle dysphoria" or whatever. It makes it sound like body dysmorphia in men is something vain rather than a struggle of mental health.
/r/MensRights13/05/23 08:57 AM
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Whenever I see how stark the difference is, I end up thinking about how many male suicides aren't reported as such. So, so many "accidents" that weren't actually accidental.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 11:51 PM
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Old men often have nothing left after retirement, but they're also far more likely to have a body that's utterly wrecked by their career.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 11:49 PM
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I don't really get how so many people fail to recognize that masturbation isn't the problem. NoFap contributes to that heavily, which is stupid because it's meant to be about breaking porn addiction, not an anti-masturbation cult. Shocker, a porn addiction isn't good for you. That doesn't mean masturbation isn't.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 12:10 PM
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Men feel like no one cares because it is very, very hard for men to find someone who will empathize with them, not look down on them for expressing emotions, not make the conversation about themselves or wildly misjudge what's going on, and not use that vulnerability against them later. Additionally, men are objectified in society. It's different from the kind women deal with; a society treats men as disposable. Tools to be used until they break, then discarded. Men receive less empathy than wom…
/r/MensRights01/03/23 12:30 PM
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Just in case no one else brings this point up: Keep in mind that there is a difference between leadership and bossiness, and that this goes both ways. Are you trusting her to direct you to what needs doing? Or are you submitting to her command? Chances are, a good chunk of parents that tend towards "commanding" rather than "leading" aren't doing so maliciously, but simply don't really realize that there's a difference, especially since so many people submit instinctively. When that happens, a pa…
/r/MensRights27/02/23 08:38 PM
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As a gay guy, straight women fetishize gay guys just as bad as straight guys tend to fetishize lesbians. Most niches of gay fiction, for example, are written primarily by women, for the enjoyment of other women. I think what it comes down to is just how you "experience" porn. If you're straight and struggle to experience straight porn vicariously, it just makes sense to prefer content where all parties involved are your preferred gender, imo.
/r/MensRights03/08/22 11:52 AM
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Only scanned the article, but from what I'm seeing, the wording leaves something to be desired for sure, but isn't quite as egregious as people are making it out to be. For one, this is a rare case where boys ARE the commonly reported party. Yes, 80% of children sexually abused by the church are boys, but basically everyone knows about the issue of priests molesting altar boys. Altar boys. This article isn't focused on them. Again, it could be worded a bit more respectfully, but it's focused on …
/r/MensRights06/10/21 10:58 AM
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I know where you're coming from, but puberty blockers are basically the middle ground. You're not letting them do something as a young child that could possibly be regretted, but you're not letting them develop the adult traits of their biological sex either. Puberty tends to be when trans people go from not feeling right in their own body to outright self hatred, and it makes transitioning so much harder. For example, a ftm having been on puberty blockers most likely wouldn't need a mastectomy.…
/r/MensRights09/09/17 06:36 PM
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This is what hormone blockers are for. Delaying puberty until they're old enough to be totally sure.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 10:22 PM
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To put it in simple terms, the "feminism" you see referred to here isn't the feminism you practice, but closer to the highly visible, man-hating feminism. They tend to reframe men's issues as women's, to make it look like every issue men have is a side-effect of discrimination against women, and that simply isn't true. Some are because of discrimination on both sides, like child care, but others don't have all that much to do with women at all.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 10:14 PM
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I don't know about the movement as a whole, but a lot of people on this sub seem just as vitriolic towards women as a whole as militant feminists are towards men.
/r/MensRights26/06/17 10:45 PM
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