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RimbaudsRevenge/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 01:43 PM
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How do you feel about women that are into anime, go to geek conventions and such? Some of these seem to have a fetish for short guys, especially if you also have an androgynous style overall. Warning, some of these girls are really pedophiles, looking for someone legal, albeit boy-like enough to project their desires on. Other than that, I remember the indie pop scene of the 00's where you'd sometimes see very short anorexic and effeminate looking guys surrounded by girls. That scene doesn't exi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 12:44 PM
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You can certainly live very well indeed adhering to "anti-masculinity". Basically Never protect, Never provide, Never lead.... but enjoy the rest! You know, slice away those part of masculinity that's subservient to spouses and society. I've lived like that and it's been a blast. The fact that it annoys the fuck out of those who "just want what's best for you" is an added bonus. :) Still, I eventually made a few concessions because I wanted something esle, but I was very sure to put some checks …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:51 PM
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It can be so, but there's also something like the underdog advantage. If people see you and underestimate you, and you're perceptive enough to realise with some accuracy in what way, then it's sometimes possible to spin it. A guy who looks like a downright slob, but when you talk to him quickly realise how he's unusually sophisticated, things like that can create powerful impressions. It's sometimes a good lot more interesting than someone who looks sophisticated and proves to be just that. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:34 PM
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"Also never tell a woman you have zero experience...." You know.. I actually did. I decided to be truthful that I had no relationship experience (past an age where it's starting to look abnormal) and it worked well for me. At the time I had become confident, good looking and absolutely impervious to shame, embarassment and all the pathetic little taboos and norms that exist in society. I was a walking contradiction. Didn't look or act even remotely as the stereotype of an inexperienced guy. True…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:16 PM
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No not at all pointless. When you get through to another person and really share laughs and good talks it's totally worth it. It just takes a long time to get there with a woman sometimes and that has everything to do with trust, having to rule out attraction aso. and you feel yah, it could be great but why go through all that trouble? It's like making friends in France, extremely gradually, and thus very boring and on-the-surface the dozen first times since so much will be hesitantly withheld a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:33 PM
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I agree that there's a lot of lazy fingerpointing going on and it'd been one thing if it was just random people on reddits like these pushing blame, but it's when trash rags and (supposedly) reputable publications having the gall to dictate what men should be (but not women), that's when we have a real issue. If the subject is the betterment of society (like they pretend; I think it's often just thinly veiled spite) then we're into ideals and morals, and those can't be slantedly adressed to one …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 07:28 PM
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Then you have to question whether people around you actually deserve it from you. If what you get is actually worth what you give.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:02 AM
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Yes, it exists. If the concept means exhibiting the destructive parts of a gendered role, or exploiting it's loopholes, then clearly it makes sense to talk about toxic femininity too. But the crux now is that women are afforded 100% relativism, provided their choices are arguably self governed and don't count as criminal. The debate is entirely on "how do we mold men into what we find desirable?" Never the other way around. Everyone can smell that hypocricy for miles. They can write "new masculi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 11:19 AM
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Yes, but what's so painfully ironic is that if men defect from all this, the same people will also complain like "No! Go back to masculinity and be useful!". There's tons of men who don't care to become strong supporting providers anymore and instead live minimalist lifestyles. Work just so you can cover the rent. No career aspirations. Don't take leadership positions among other people Low investment/low effort relationships (if any) Lot's of spare time for playing games and posting on reddit..…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 08:33 AM
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Yeah, this whole part about getting paid gifts and dinner dates is retrograde, and furthermore it lacks imagination imo. Money and sex aren't the only currencies. The idea to postpone sex is in my mind a sound one, but isn't the best course that you try investing in each other, in team work? He brings you someplace interesting and presents you to cool people. You invite him to a home cooked dinner. He helps you move your stuff. You enlist a friend to help him with some snag he's dealing with in …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 02:50 PM
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As many have pointed out, 40 year old men who actually can get a woman in her 20's are very rare. If you want do dissuade them from trying so that young women won't have to deal with them, fine I guess that's valid but then again, being able to rebuff attention from someone you're not interested in is part of regular adulting. Men imposing themselves as major creeps isn't relegated to any particular age really so that's a separate problem. Potentially, a man that is a bit older should take into …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 11:28 AM
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You should affirm yourself and come clean with who you are. That can have the effect of turning someone off but then, so be it. You've been honest and true to self at least. Never let the hope of intimacy dictate who you are and what you should be. People who are obviously true to self get trusted more readily, even when they allow some of their less agreeable sides to show. That way, someone else can make the informed decision whether those bad sides are too much for them or not so bad next to …
/r/ExRedPill04/08/20 08:57 AM
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Absolutely, and don't get me wrong, I think that men who unwittingly follows into this deserve all the misery they get. If you have your eyes set on what matters and as you say, aren't a pushover, these people won't even be attractive to you. There will be simultaneous disinterest which is very practical here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 11:53 AM
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Better yet... Get a fine honed sense which kind of woman is of the "want it all" variety and avoid them for relationships. There's a kind that seems unable to fathom that bad times and downturns can happen, and do nothing to prepare for it. Luxuries should be dead last on a sane man's list of priorities anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 04:56 PM
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That will never be enough. Only top-down control effectively works. Want to stop the mangrove swamps from being irrevocably destroyed? Criminalise tiger prawn fishing, import, selling and consumtion then. Easy. Ethical shaming doesn't work but a loaded gun does. You just need to criminalise goods that are an environmental net loss and make it so that people aren't even allowed to make choices outside what's sustainable. The WTO needs to be done away with though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 01:44 PM
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Aaand, he is someone who fantastically agrees with every item she has on her dream list. Pool two economies into an insanely large mortgage "because it's so nice to have a garden", check. Get a couple of kids and finance their expensive hobbies, check. Sure, let's buy a horse! Check. Why, if he seems hesitant and tends to put off such "super valid" sensible decisions, well I guess he's just one of those men who doesn't know what he wants. :D
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 11:49 AM
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This is usually for the better. Look, men nowadays are keenly aware of exactly what a bad idea it is to allow their dicks to act as compass needles all the way into ill-advised commited relationships. Even men who see scarce little action know that it is very risky behavior. He will face and control both his desires and fear of lonliness rather than to rush into what could be a very bad decision. Does it sound shallow to you? A thing I've noted is that many women have complete and down in detail…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 11:35 AM
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See no problem with it if it's just one FWB. It's basically a friends first or pragmatic approach which actually has a lot of history that many people don't know. In some cultures, while marriages was still very much arranged by the family, there was a stage to it where the young couple were supposed to try it out in bed... but if that didn't seem to work after a couple of tries, it might be best to reassess the whole thing and probably call it off since the family would not want to doom their y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 09:57 AM
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Is it actually male validation that is driving this though? It seems more to me that male desires once formed the rules of that game but it's actually women competing with women for status now and it's gone so far that men hardly even factor into it anymore? I think this because aside from those that do nude(ish) selfies, there's a veritable army of women who post images of meals they cooked, rooms they decorated, places they've been, experiences they had, the pets and kids that love them (accor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 02:02 PM
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You do you, but for my own part I think her being interesting and able to make me laugh is damn important. Not very much so at first, but if the relationship is to last past 2 years. Lust, beauty and attraction is a bit fleeting. Sex eventually turns into this kinda nice and cozy thing you do but isn't all that exciting anymore. Deep down, we probably aren't naturally monogamous and that's the reason for it, but how do you manage then? It's a lot easier to kick those things down some orders of p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 01:28 PM
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How about actually getting involved and integrate into the lives of the men she knows, and not just have individual goals? Idk, reciprocal effort, teamwork, mutual goals and the like with other people? I heard it can lead to long relationships, but also life long friends and community. Alien concept, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 11:51 AM
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I think I may have done a huge blunder in my topic by extrapolating my own experience on the general. For me that was actually a thing. I got lots of attention from older women when I was 18, but I didn't act on it. Meanwhile, I hardly ever encountered it from girls my own age. It's possible that this experience is more exclusive to young, nerdy-but-clean and articulate young men. In my country we call it "little old" which describes someone who's young but gets along better with older. Then aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 09:45 AM
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I disagree. A very low status man shouldn't practice conformity like that, play by the rules in an endless pursuit of trying to catch up, and then maybe, just maybe be admitted to some extremely conditional love. Talk about pyrric victory. No, I think he should go for being a Sigma instead, someone who detaches more or less completely from status, social hierarchies and such. Sure, to some degree he still has to play along with other people or he could lose his job, be put in jail etc, but aside…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 12:03 PM
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Yeah but then it damn well better be tech or stem. Not foreign languages, soft science, art or any of that crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:31 AM
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Right! I heard about that. Well, then it better be one of those were women outnumber men and the kind where people live on a campus that's secluded from everything elsr. Wasn't like that were I went (not in the US). The facilities wery in the city. No student life to speak of.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 03:19 PM
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I'm not making an argument against game at all. This was more about the general odds. In honesty, I do think it's better to face things dead on, improve rather than try to look for easier outs, but that depends who you are, how old, aso. Maybe something to consider for the blackpills, doomers and incels lurking about anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 02:37 PM
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Well it's a starting point and an easy first option. Besides, they're people too and what's so wrong with helping someone play out a fantasy where she momentarily gets to feel young again? It can be a fine thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 02:29 PM
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In my early 20's no, I couldn't. I'm in my 30's now, and did not fuck up so dating's a hell of a lot easier now. I just look back at it and wished I were a bit more shameless than being a prissy little bitch, and that I didn't study for a bullshit degree, and other mistakes. Game is a completely different topic. Just because I didn't write about it doesn't mean this is an argument against it. I was only talking about playing statistical advantage. And hey, maybe some do want to take a few paths …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 02:22 PM
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Well the younger dating pool is skewed in favor of women for a simple reason. Their age peers want to date them but also +5 +10 +15 +20 year older men. Hell, some even older. Girls don't even have a taboo for this kind of thing. Of course young women are picky and have abundance mentality then. Have you noted the ugly guys who matured somewhat, have a car and a place of his own and a few things going on? His girlfriends, maybe not the hottest, but always a damn lot younger. That's because despit…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 09:10 PM
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I've made some observations about the women who like feminine men. Some women just like feminine presentation, clothes and styles in men, but with actual masculine qualities beneath the surface. This is a nerd girl most probably. Nerd girls can ofc be into actually androgynous men too, but watch out, a small few of them may be pedophiles rather, if you stumble upon them in the anime/hentai scene. I've noted the rare women of the "mama bear" variety though. Predominantely masculine in most ways y…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 12:18 PM
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I hear you. It's not like you don't have a point regarding weak men led by their dick into relationships too involved for them to handle, because that is certainly a problem. At the same time, I think a lot of single moms are a bit deluded because they don't consider viable alternatives. Alternatives which isn't what they primarily wanted but can be more than well enough. Looking to recreate an intact family unit, not many men will agree to that, and that's not because of a lack of maturity and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 02:05 PM
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I would wager it's a lot less frequent that women of authority actually goes through with that and yeah it's pretty gross no matter who does it. If it happens there's no question where the responsibility lies, however... ...the sheer amount of young and dependents who idolize and fetishise their leaders and mentors are kind of pathetic and dumb in their own way. They put up stupid fantasies in their head that just because this man or woman is confident and competent in the work setting, why "the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 11:47 AM
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No way. Sure, it'd be nice with more honesty than pushing blame, but if a man declines to date a single mother for the reason he believes it's too much for him to handle, he's wrong? It's wrong for him to step into a situation were most often he'll be at a disadvantage and have to be in the humiliating situation of having to play "maturity catch up" forever. Instead of you know, mature alongside a childless woman on his own level, and if they get there, have a baby and discover it all together. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 05:29 PM
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to which the obvious answer should be to downvalue random sex on the male side? Instead of talking with friends about gratifying experiences, talk about the shitty ones that in retrospect weren't worth it at all. Instead of trying to troubleshoot a single guy, brofist his independence. The irony is that it's "progressives" these days who are invested in the narrative about low n-count and sexless men being miserable and trapped in a petulant and childlike existance. Pushing counternarratives is …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 11:50 AM
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I don't agree with all of this but I do want to highlight that parts of this assessment is something the so-called progressives have weaponized. They are ironically invested in upholding the image concerning hordes of desperate and thirsty men, and women being the absolute gatekeepers of sex (while never being the desperate or needy ones, no siree). Though I do agree that the generality you're pointing to is true to a certain degree, you have more fun going in the opposite direction. I think the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 11:22 AM
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Which brings me to my next point about women and public entitlement. Most Women feel unabashedly entitled to random Men’s protection.. I think you're going wrong here. There's been extensive studies showing that men and women (on average) have diffrent responses to fear and when stress hormones shoot up in the brain. A lot of women get hyper aware of both the dangerous person and people around who they can befriend and rally help from. The former is one reason women are often better crime scene …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 02:48 PM
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Agreed. Approaching in the old way is like being ahead of the curve in these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 04:21 PM
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I'd say the bar scene. No, not every type of bar, not every club but so often you wound up in a place and don't ask me how... but you can just sense how women sometimes are starved for classic approaches and spontaneous meetings. You give a bit of your attention and they come after or.. .. you don't do anything except have a really good time with your friends over at your table until suddenly there's some girls who find an excuse to pull tables together and join company. Pre-online dating, this …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 12:09 PM
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Noted. The difference in physicality is definately something which greatly factors into how women often are more at risk. I don't agree with social constructivism much so I'd put it higher on the list of reasons. Furthermore, I don't think male lust (on average) and female lust ( -//- ) works exactly the same. Regardless if it's desire, anger or any other strong emotion, males have a tendency to fall into it with a very singular mind in which they loose sight of other people. So yes, because of …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 03:37 PM
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I like a lot of what you write but I think you're taking it too far in the last paragraph. So in order for men to maintain consensual respect in the bedroom, he must always consider he has systemic power over the woman? That to me sounds infantilising a lot of women, which in the context of sex adds a icky dimension to it. In established relationships, don't you think people can have listening, respect and consensual sex lives even if they don't particularly buy into the political idea of system…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 01:42 PM
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Sorry for the late reply. I think what you say is very interesting because it fits with unexpected precision. I'm the one wearing the pants most of the time, but that has a simple explanation. She's several years younger than me. If it weren't for that, I'm sure things would've been different in our dynamic. But overall yes, she's more masculine if anything. I agree this doesn't fit with the premise. It's a side discussion on my part. Should one be a lot more overt in the beginning in order to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 10:01 AM
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Ok, this should be interesting. Second toes are indeed a bit longer. Index fingers are slightly shorter than the ring fingers, so you were almost right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 10:15 AM
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Sorry for taking this in a completely different direction, but I feel it's relevant to mention the problems can be avoided (at a cost). What can be done imo is that more men stop even presenting like a masculine stoic super capable rock type of person to begin with. I did so very deliberately and that was a winning strategy. I would make sure to be incredibly honest from the start. I hate the bluepill wording of the phrase "Show vulnerability" because being honestly sincere about who you are isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 10:10 AM
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I don't know what that means but I guess my answer to the question is: Postpone sex? Sure no problem Postpone all erotisicm? No way, forget about it. That would be incredibly awkward and feel unnatural, not being allowed to fan the flames even a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 09:32 AM
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It could be fun to edge her a bit. "Innocently" turn her on with just the right amount of touch and closeness. Cutsey level. Certainly no hands inside the shirt or anything that forces the issue. Often enough and just the right amount to make it very very hard for her to abide by her own rules and wait it out. Keep building it like that and it's bound to be a incredibly satisfying payoff when the time's there (probably a little earlier than expected but heh, don't blame me) That sounds pretty da…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 10:39 PM
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For an older man to have the ability to be attracted to a young beautiful 18+ woman is probably a sign of health imo. It's debatable if he should act on it though. In most circumstances the answer is no, and there's no problem so long as he doesn't. Sexism has nothing to do with it. Sexism is a certain act motivated by a certain thinking. On the contrary, when I was more of a misogynist, I was unable to find any woman attractive if it weren't somebody I had already known for a long time and made…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 09:59 AM
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This is contested. I absolutely agree that there are pronounced biological difference if we compare large enough group of men and women. On the individual level it's however very fluent to what degree someone is feminine or masculine. The biology gender analysis speaks for the possibility of trans people, gender fluid etc. (which is the true reason why TERFs are so anti-trans; they want us to believe that everything is culture) Anyway... It's disputed whether testosterone is what actually drives…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 09:15 AM
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I was super bluepilled as one often is in an academic middle class home, where my mother is constantly nagging my dad. It took a toll on my psyche and it wasn't until I was almost 30 that I saw through it all. It wasn't so much an anti-feminist as it was an anti-boomer values awakening. I think most that my parents thaught me was shit, and I intended to dishonor it all. Dropping academia for a regular job and work myself up did irritate them. Dating someone a lot younger and less accomplished th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 02:55 PM
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I recognise myself in a lot of this. I love being flirty but mostly I do this with other men now too. Though I'm more straight than gay, it's completely beside the point since I'm engaged and don't cheat. Flirting can just be a way to affirm someone's attractiveness. Just to get the feeling from someone that they definately would sleep with you if circumstances were different, you can live on that for a good long while. Pretty awesome thing to give and get. And yet, I do this less and less with …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 12:05 PM
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Agree. There's a lot of bullshit disqualifiers in online dating. I say bullshit because for meetings in person, you can pretty much offset a person's whole supposed list of disqualifiers. Deep down, people don't know what they want. If they feel genuinely seen by somebody with a strong alfa streak in his personality, the whole list typically goes out the window. Guys are no different. I remember a friend of mine who was of the "lol, no fat chicks" variety but... yeah you guessed it, a fat girl c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 10:38 AM
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For many individual people it'd be hell if no reasonable exceptions were allowed though. I'd say I was a natural exception. Getting into my 30's my career was so entry level that all my colleagues were around 18-24. My hobby interests, same thing. Only young people around. Having been a reclusive depressed nerd throughout my 20's, I was hungry to go clubbing, hit parties and conventions and yeah, you guessed it again... that's were the 18-24 yr olds were at. How in the flying fuck could I have b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 11:58 AM
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But perhaps you don't need it then? Never said it's for everyone. There's pros and cons to both ways, so it depends on what you value. Me, on the other hand, if I were living all by myself, I'd probably be out or at other people's places all the time. Spend most days someplace else and only return to eat and sleep mostly. For people that are like me, I am saying there's more options, and they should look into it before isolation wears them down. I remember when I studied in France. You basically…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 10:37 AM
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Sure we have feelings honey. Just because you're not trustworthy enough for us to share them with you doesn't mean we don't have them. These girls are essentially the Babadook hanging on the door to the male psyche screaming LET ME IN!! What they don't know is that better, more respectful women than themselves actually are invited to the "innermost sanctum" from time to time.
/r/MensRights15/06/20 01:48 PM
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Valid. I should have said "it's not in the front of the mind yet" rather. It's as you say, a bit more often on the subconscious level at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 01:07 PM
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They are, all the time, but I think you're not seeing it. Especially now I think when men have grown so reserved, I see it much more often. For many women it's the only way to make something happen. That whole sitting and waiting by the bar doesn't really work the way it used to. But... they're not doing it the same way. A lot of guys have their mind made up from start "would bang", and that doesn't change unless she turns out to be unpleasant or something. This colors the guys approach to be mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 11:20 AM
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I think a grown person should be able to withstand a slur thrown by a dummy. It's not pleasant but it happens now and then. Some more than others (which sucks), but we all get it now and then. The alternative is that we go further and further into abolishing speech through social pressure. Self-regulating Maoism where everyone is afraid to ever blurt something impulsive. No thanks. Sounds like hell. Rather... spit back my friend. Woman calls you a pussy? sass her back with "I'm the proudest puss…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 10:44 AM
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I think a lot of women saying "Its not women's responsiblity to have sex..." do so as a self reminder. Because a lot of them have a mental reflex to first ask themselves what they owe to the collective. They are either innately less individualist or have been brought up as such (probably a bit of both). The indoctrination starts early. I remember preschool and onwards, where female teacher is talking about playing nice, always do what you're told, minding everyone's feelings, deny individualism,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 09:29 AM
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Firstly, you can't "go gay" if you have none of it inherently. This you know if you have no homophobia but still feel that sex acts with another man is just unappealing, pointless and uninteresting. If so, you just can't. Forget about it. You can try some gay porn and see if that wakens some sort of interest, but likely it won't. However, a lot of men are bi to some extent. If that is you, and you also seem to be a bit at odds with attracting women, sure. Go right ahead. See how far your bisexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 08:41 AM
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People must consider cohabitation, collective living etc. The epidemic of loneliness kills scores of people by suicide. Meanwhile, the housing market has long since become debt slavery for anyone except the rich. By letting out and renting more rooms in existing households you kill two birds with one stone. I've always lived together with more people, even when I'm in a relationship. First I rented rooms. When I had enough for a mortgage of my own, I started to let out rooms. It has it's challen…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 08:21 AM
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Yes. For a rational thinker, admitting biology is not the same thing as accepting biological determinism.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 08:15 AM
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If a woman sexualizes herself blatantly but then ALSO is super relaxed and unfazed and takes it playfully when men hit on her or sexualize her, then Thats 100% fine too! I respect and like that woman and even if she nicely refuses to engage me or others after the first interactions but does it in a nice and understanding way, then im super fine with it and take it like a fun game I struck out on cause she’s just not interested. This! In these cases I feel like she's both genuinely liking the att…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 09:16 AM
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The only "advantage" that comes with the condition is the lack of conscience and care about morality as others understand it. You nailed it with this, I think. To build on it, for men who can't date, inhibited by overactive empathy and social inhibitions, it does help to take a cue from the sociopaths. Just to dial back the empathy a bit, the care about fitting in with others. As you point out, actually being a sociopath has a lot of problems on it's own. Unless you are one, which you can't help…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 10:50 AM
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By being sincere and focusing on the things that matter. What absolutely shouldn't factor in is shame based on nothing. There's nothing automatically wrong with a guy who becomes a late virgin. There's nothing automatically wrong with a woman who's have had sex with lots of different men. Virgin (man)and slut (woman) are baseless slurs which cannot be allowed to factor in at all. That out of the way, you can have a more honest discussion because fact of the matter is that late virgin guy and hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 10:09 AM
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Nah, the women in my life aren't entrusted with my worst or weakest. That's strictly between guy friends. I'm not going to put a lot of effort into packaging it into something palatable. Vent it with a friend at the bar. Disregard or even take delight in the fact that people listening in give you annoyed faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 03:03 PM
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The people you are looking to date might be women. But it is not 'women's' job to care about what you need from them. Not wanting to give this to you does not make them a bad person. Just don't date them. Why break up? You can just elect another person in her stead, and this is what a lot of men have said in these threads. I detect no bitterness on their part. They're just saying "Here's what you do instead...". Seems pragmatic to me. Your girlfriend is likely to be absolutely incompetent in bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 02:13 PM
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It wouldn't cause as much resentment if people had a more realistic view. I think very few relationships are 100% intimate, as in you share every thought, every feeling, every problem and interest the two of you have. Everything can be supposedly shared in the ideal relationship. I don't agree with that. It feels incredibly intrusive. Rather, you share different things with different people in your life, and some things are for you and you alone. There's also that private space inside your mind …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 11:38 AM
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I believe it's a very complex question but that it has to do with how "economism" creeps further and further into the private sphere. Something which used to be a space where those rules don't apply. Note that also the chores have been monetized in many relationships. Before they uses to be a fact of life and only in situations where it's become decidedly unfair, someone picking up all the slack while the other does nothing, would it be time to make demands to level the burden. It used to be mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 11:06 AM
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True but, noone ever gets everything out of life, and that in a sense is the whole point of it all. We all have to accept life's limitations and our own mortality. Even people who get hell of a lot more out of life than the majority (on some worldly average) can be panicky, unhappy and ultimately stressed out because they cannot accept how they too are limited. If they're spoiled for attention early, they remain self-absorbed vulgarians. We also get here because of the endless preaching how our …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 09:56 AM
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There's a lot of truth to it though, but it can be very hard for many men to do something which seems rather simple on paper. That is because grooming oneself and starting to reflect yourself in others it's, in a sense, a rather effeminate quality. Part of that comes down to born personality and men on average are often born with a lower capacity of feminine qualities. Of course there's a cultural programming too but it's very much a "fight your own nature" thing. I believe that's a good message…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 09:21 AM
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This is a side note but for those of us who didn't in fact have a lot of relationships, steady, fwbs and otherwise but do a hell of a lot better entering our 30's. the worst relationship choice is someone who looks for a settled relationship asap, want to start discussing having children after but a few months of dating (biological clock ticking!) and certainly move together quite soon. This describes a lot of women in their thirties. Another factor can be that a lot of these women and the ones …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 02:48 PM
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but more housework/parental stuff often falls on the woman even if they're 50/50 I'd like to address this. I see it as a problem on both sides of the equation. Far, far too many people as they form relationships do not have the conversation about how ambitious the home life should actually be, what level of standard, how many kids, how many additional obligations apart from going to work are going to be piled on etc. You have weak men who just skip having the conversation and tag along for the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 11:26 AM
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True, but quick has to be defined. In hobby gatherings you have to, as I said, establish some credibility, find a place in the dynamic. That doesn't take long. It just means it's generally a bad idea to try and make something happen the very first times you meet such a group. Larger gatherings like conventions are different though. There you meet someone on a party and get laid the same night etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 09:00 AM
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Haha! I think so. When I was single last time, I for the first time in my life explored the freedom of not giving a shit what other people think. So long as I wasn't scaring or otherwise causing pain, I'd just go ahead. That meant chatting up a lot of women in bars and asking women out from work for a drink etc. I didn't give a shit about small embarrassments. Those are actually quite funny if you can look outside of yourself, and if you have conquered having that emotional shame-response, those…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 03:48 PM
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True, but it also happens that you come across situations where no one actually has the balls to ask her out. Sometimes there's just orbiters, and among those, guys who actually look pretty good but have a mental hangup which prevents them from acting. So sometimes, even though the balance is really off, there might be very little actually going on.... until you showed up. QueenCouslands advice below checks out too. Do not hit on her day one. You have to genuinely be into the interest for it's o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 03:25 PM
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These days, it seems to me there are a higher number of women in the more flamboyant nerd gatherings. Think cosplayers, renfair, furries etc. Anything were making costumes to wear is a big part of the deal, go figure. In the gamer scene, I don't know, but my advice is to look broadly. Don't limit yourself to people playing one game or one genre of games, but broader still. It's unlikely you find someone who's exactly into what you are but I definitely think it's possible to find some sort of gam…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 03:18 PM
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I can confirm this. Option one is what happened to me and is the relationship I have to this day. I've also met a couple of the second cathegory. Guys can meet them if they like me are absolutely shameless about flaunting their geeky interests and don't care about those who are instantly turned off. (Let them turn their nose up, who cares?) There will be some girls who find you very interesting, if only because you bring up a lot of stuff she's never heard about before. Pretending not to have ce…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 03:06 PM
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This is actually a legitimate problem for all people, where it's absolutely not gendered in one way or the other. Women neither likes it to get into a relationship with a man who's been psychologically damaged from a previous relationship, which I absolutely understand. On the contrary, that's a very common complaint "The man who never got over being burned by his first love" often packed with very sarcastic thinly veiled "Please man up already (for her convenience)"-messages. The answer is very…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 10:24 AM
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Because the lady doth protest too much, basically. It's obvious they are losing, missing out and bitter as fuck about it. Something which only cements their position. I used to work with a girl who was a fatty, but not american levels of fat just, bordering on unhealthy. She wasn't very pretty either and more importantly, absolutely no fashion sense. She looked like a bumpkin or kindergarten kid wearing dungarees. But.. ... she had a big damn heart. Super sweet and considerate, always asked how …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 07:58 AM
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I don't think they commit early but often if they're past their mid-30's, they've been known to pick a stunning woman and actually settle (even though all previous relationships suffered from him cheating). He's still hotter than most but not as hot as he once was. He's still a strong social presence but is more out of the loop, losing the grasp of trends (or being the one to set them), so he tends to embarrass himself a bit more often (projecting the same old confidence but has a lot less clue …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 10:20 AM
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Maybe in the US. In other countries, prenups are writ in stone and alimony is only ruled in case you have one person who's been outside of the workforce since forever (very rare). It's like that in Sweden but to compensate, a partner who has nothing can get tons of welfare support in case they have no means on their own. Some take issue with that solution and I guess from an american POV, people being more married to the state than an actual partner is considered bad, but that's a different disc…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 07:46 AM
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Got a point there. Just because someone is a bit reserved and low key doesn't mean they're hiding something bad so I digress a bit with what I said. It's not really a good reason. And yes, lots of men act a little bad for style, but then turn out to be a whole lot worse than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 06:03 PM
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You are right about a lot of that. Can't think of solutions more than things that might lessen the blow. Glorify the fuck out of the single uncommitted lifestyle, despite whether you're getting laid or not. This so they at least feel a little better, but it carries consequences when a lot of unattached somewhat contented guys seem to default into: no point in investing in society. I mean totally so, not even once in a blue moon contribute to a little neighborhood bake sale. Other things I've see…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 12:10 PM
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Yeah, those guys don't get it at all (figuratively and literally speaking!) More factors come into play as well. I don't think women are especially attracted to jerk/ slight aggression behavior as TRP, PUA tend to think. Yeah of course there's some alpha = sexy element to it but they severely overestimate it's importance, and I feel you might also be doing it somewhat? It's just that somebody who's not attempting to hide his selfish, dominant, non-agreeable sides will appear more honest and trus…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 10:21 AM
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It would be a good PR move if feminists threw a few women under the bus now and then when they saw an egregious example instead of always remain silent. Such as: When a TV-panel of women sit and laugh at a story of a guy who had his nuts chopped off by his wife. In that example, it'd be nice if feminists would step in and call a bitch a bitch. Because.. you can only fight for equality by holding the line of unshakable equal principle. On this topic we have equal protection from harm and the sanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 04:04 PM
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I can see somewhat where he's coming from although I have no guarantee he reasons the way I do. I also have to say it's a bit too strict with "would never accept a guy who's more than 8 years older". There are always glaring individual exceptions to every rule, and you could potentially meet someone with whom making an exception is an obviously sound choice. The problem with this age gap is this: At 18-30, young women have extreme abundance. They can date same age, and men far up in the ages. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 03:21 PM
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