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LTR/MARRIAGERingthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 06:00 AM
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Ringthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 10:54 PM
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Ringthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 06:19 PM
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Ringthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 09:01 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGERingthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 02:00 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGERingthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 06:03 AM
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DISCUSSIONRingthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 05:47 AM
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Question For MenRingthrowaway77/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:11 AM
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DiscussionRingthrowaway77/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 05:07 AM
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DISCUSSIONRingthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 07:50 AM
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DebateRingthrowaway77/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/20 11:58 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGERingthrowaway77/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 01:44 AM
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Oh no, I didn’t take it as a bash! Frankly I just take any opportunity I can get to self-reflect these days. I’m sorry about the past abuse you experienced but it’s great to hear things ended well for you!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 06:02 AM
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https://www.marthastewart.com/339353/chewy-chocolate-gingerbread-cookies These are the BEST. Dough also is good for refrigerating/freezing if you want it ready to go.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 02:58 AM
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Every single day I am grateful about not having kids. For me, the final decision to leave came after asking myself "Will I ever be able to feel comfortable getting pregnant with this man" (no) and "If I did have kids and I died, would I trust him to teach them about faith/relationships, knowing what I know now?" (NO). Second question is pretty morbid but extremely helpful. There's really no gut stronger feeling than that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 01:19 AM
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Fwiw -- the early years of dating were much more friendship-like; I wanted to save sex for marriage, and I also wanted to make sure i wasn't getting so emotionally overattached that I couldn't make good choices. Then there was some long distance. The abusive stuff didn't start until after we were in the same place and engaged, at which point I'd started to get more lax on the physical side of things. Tbh I wish I'd waited, it probably would have kept me in that more objective headspace instead o…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 01:13 AM
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Haha I appreciate the offer -- unfortunately I'm not close by / probably am not nearly ready. Do you have any particular recollections of what your wife said that you found reassuring?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 01:07 AM
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Ty -- and definitely not acting on the crush in any way, it just feels good to know that good-seeming men that fit the criteria I have in mind are around.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 11:23 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate it. For other context, I was married <1 yr. So I invested a couple years into dating, then had sex, then got married a couple years later (with cold feet, though I loved him). I discovered a few jarring dealbreakers right after the wedding. After months of counseling, I separated then divorced. I was thinking something along the lines of "He was my only serious boyfriend and we seemed to have important values in common, but right after we got married, some information came o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 07:23 AM
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I think OP was referring (in a weird way) to his girlfriend, not his daughter.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 07:11 AM
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Get through law school finals without falling apart (...lol). Eat healthy (not going into my specific goal here)--stay on my trajectory to lose my last 15 lbs.; Walk or run ~1 hr. every day. Drink 64 oz. a day. Take vitamins nightly.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 01:40 AM
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Slightly different perspective than other top posters--I wouldn't put it in your bio. I think you might attract guys who fetishize "purity" or virginity, and not in a good way. I would just try to vet as hard as possible for men who are emotionally/financially prepared for marriage. That way, if they love you and respect you, waiting for marriage won't be such a big deal. Your biggest challenge may be that you're 21. There ARE older guys (late 20s/early 30s guys) who will be OK with waiting (eve…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 01:37 AM
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I did a traditionally ‘masculine’ sport in college (as a woman), was/am muscular, have a somewhat masculine facial structure, and tend to dress in semi-tailored, plainer clothes when not in leggings, t-shirts, workout clothes, etc. (some dresses, but mostly wore blues/blacks and never lace, silk, etc). I still got plenty of interest and an ex husband who loved that style, to the point that I don’t think he liked my girlier wedding dress—or at least he had nothing positive to say. I do think spor…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 08:58 PM
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The more obvious gaslighting and especially him telling me that I’m crazy has happened in the last year, after we got married. I still love him and I can’t imagine doing that to someone I love, even if I was angry or upset.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/20 12:09 AM
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Break into the 140s (weight) Finish the two books I’m reading for pleasure Yoga for 30 min every night
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 08:33 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 06:11 PM
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Totally, got it. My dad largely expressed his love through commitment to his job/breadwinning so that my mom could be at home if she wanted to be and have a nice home (he’s a great dad too). I respect that 100%. But he also still tells my mom she’s beautiful and can say he’s still in love with her, despite big ups/downs. That’s all I really want.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 05:20 PM
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I get that pragma might be dominant from him, but it’s still troubling to me that he’s never felt romantic feelings. Pragma also doesn’t explain inviting someone who assaulted me to our wedding, steamrolling me when I try to be vulnerable with him, gaslighting me, telling me I’m insane, trying to isolate me from my family by saying they’re a bad influence or I’m not loyal enough to him, etc. I also get that romantic love fades, but (for example) the priest told me I looked beautiful on my weddin…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 05:07 PM
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Who knows, after 8 years of knowing him though, I think the ‘diagnosis’ is that he wasn’t raised with parents/relatives modeling intimacy beyond being committed and raising kids, so he won’t engage in it and can’t/won’t give it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 04:20 PM
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I’ve read a book on it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 03:14 PM
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Maybe my description isn’t clear; for me, being ‘in love’ isn’t a reference to butterflies. I had them briefly with my soon-to-be ex but I knew they were temporary (I waited a year for sex until after they left). I’m referring more to wanting to feel protected, safe, able to connect deeply and be vulnerable with the person I’m married to. And yeah, after 8 years of exclusively being together, talking about it, working hard on myself etc., I’ve pretty much given up having those things with him. I…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 01:27 PM
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I think he’s just emotionally stunted and/or naturally leans that way, but I don’t think I browses Reddit or came across redpill stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 01:14 PM
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I don’t think he is, as his profession requires emotional skills and he has strong friendships with good people. I just think he doesn’t want to, or cannot, connect deeply to an intimate partner, at least not enough for me to fully trust his leadership and feel safe with him. I’ve also dealt with a sociopath before (diagnosed) and it was different. Fortunately I think my husband is an outlier. I think he’s aware of it too because of how his defensive he is, and how much energy he’s invested in t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 06:21 AM
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Security. A man who wouldn’t leave.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 04:34 PM
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Someone who frequents this sub more probably has a better answer, but it’s my understanding that RPWomen tries to help women find men who are good leaders, confident (so-called RP traits) but also caring, committed, etc. Taking the good, leaving the bad.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 01:23 AM
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This makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 01:01 AM
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Could be true, although I’ve only had one long-term relationship (and I did a lot of therapy, to the point that I was brought up the trauma with my partner and was fine talking about it—I just wasn’t OK with him gaslighting me over it and the other trauma he was causing). I think the point of this post is, ‘how does one avoid shallow relationships.’
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 11:19 PM
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What happened to innocent until proven guilty Point taken, but reddit's not a court of law. Even if we don't have 100% undeniable proof that she and her husband support white supremacists or espouse those views, I'd still be interested in digging in deeper and avoiding giving her content clicks in the meantime if there are hints that they're sympathetic to those causes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 09:47 PM
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I know generalizations are generalizations for a reason (they don't apply to everyone), but her husband is a cop. I feel like that job can spill over cops' private lives pretty easily (i.e., a rigid sense of what is "right" and "wrong," and it also needs to be said that it's well-documented that cops have high rates of domestic abuse). This isn't meant to be anti-cop or "all cops are bad" or "she's in an abusive relationship," just worth noting. My ex was sometimes in charge of disciplining teen…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 09:43 PM
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Meeting outside for a walk, hike, beach/park sit-down is the perfect COVID date. It might be a perfect date under normal circumstances. I have totally non-RP women friends who have brought a basket of muffins, cheese + fruit, a container with a few pre-mixed cocktails (something along these lines) and a picnic blanket on dates, and they've had a good time. Would advise never having a guy over that early, doubly so during COVID. Also my impression is that Bumble and especially Hinge are way bette…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 06:31 PM
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I don’t know much about personality analysis, but aren’t those also traits correlated with religious people (i.e., monogamous Christian men?).
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 06:15 PM
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Why is being vegan a serious red flag? If a man is skinny/obese and doesn't take care of himself, sure. But some people are vegetarian or vegan for environmental reasons, personal health reasons, etc.; if there's a good justification and everything else fits, I don't see the problem (also, it's untrue that soy produces more bioavailable estrogen than eating meat/dairy).
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 03:52 PM
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Nope.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 03:18 AM
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Law. It’s less stressful than my old job so idk.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 06:43 PM
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I went to therapy for sexual assault a couple years after the event. No butterflies when we got engaged or married—the wedding was really unpleasant actually, there was lots of family fighting and I got pushed by my husband/mom into doing a big wedding that wasn’t my cup of tea.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 11:44 AM
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I said he hooked up with a bunch of people before he ‘settled down’ (started dating me) when he was 21. He was busy his first two years of college.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 01:50 PM
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I honestly am not sure. If he hadn’t had sex or dated, I might be concerned that he wasn’t sure what he was looking for in a long term partner, and that he was ‘settling’ on me just because I came along first. But he seemed to have a criteria for a long-term partner in mind before we met (while he was out hooking up), and maybe he would’ve still had those criteria in mind as a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 05:56 AM
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Hey there! I’m a 26 year old introvert who also got married recently to a teacher (and an extrovert), I’ve got a history of depression/anxiety surrounding big life changes, and we also moved to a new city with a smallish apartment after the wedding. So I can relate to some of this. Sex: Unlike you, we slipped sexually before we got married. On a religious level I regret this, but we started dating at college when I was 18, so on another level... I’m shocked we lasted as long as we did, and being…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 02:09 AM
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Wow, the covering thing at first struck me as extreme.., but the more I thought about it the more it made sense 😂. Thanks for the suggestions.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 05:14 AM
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This is kind of a self-defeating exercise because the most traditionally ‘feminine’ women won’t make news in real life—they usually don’t attention seek, show off, or attract public interest like a masculine man or woman manifesting ‘masculine’ traits normally would. So naturally, we won’t think of as many female role models with feminine traits. Ayesha Curry (Steph Curry’s wife) has a considerable following surrounding her cooking/cookware/cooking show business and motherhood. She had consisten…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 12:48 AM
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Lol I’m in the same boat. Plus I feel like paying for a sheet mask is always a ripoff compared to paying for a tube of charcoal/clay masks, or a nice pot of Aztec clay (the cheapest clay mask in existence). A nice oil massage with mineral oil or coconut oil (which is comedogenic, so it has to be washed off completely) is also my go-to.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 07:27 PM
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I’m still 20 lbs off my goal weight. I was making good progress until I got married a month ago, and since then I’ve pretty much held stable as I’ve snacked for emotional comfort during a series of big life events—moving, preparing to start law school, etc. Gotta get back on the morning workout grind and cut out bread/sweets, as those are my two biggest stumbling blocks (and I always feel worse when I eat them). I really don’t want to be thought of as chunky when I meet my husband’s coworkers an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 08:09 PM
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Thanks for this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 08:01 PM
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