RisingHegemon Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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5	Men taking a portion or all of themselves away is not manipulative or toxic I think this is a great breakdown of the dynamic. Very rarely is it a situation where the man is intentionally lying about wanting to be friends just for sex. Most guys have experienced getting rejected after making a move too quickly, and some may feel they need to "earn" the romantic/sexual connection by demonstrating what they provide. These guys aren't just interested in sex -- they are interested in emotional intimacy, and walking away after rejection is usually the healthy thing to do. G…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 08:28 PM
5	The line between encouraging people to work on themself and being confident in who they are? (coming from a male perspective) 29m Thanks for raising these points and having an honest discussion on how height and race dramatically affects your dating opportunities in America. People like to conveniently leave these points out whenever they tell men to “just be yourself and put yourself out there” as though physical traits don’t have a major impact from the get go.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 08:52 PM
1	Genetic research suggests that in prehistoric human hunter-gatherers, more than four women reproduced for every man So if it’s a major issue affecting men “it’s just nature and there’s nothing to be done about it” but if it’s a major issue affecting women it’s society’s responsibility to fix it? That’s a double standard. Someone who believes in gender equality would identify that inequities faced by either gender are unfair, and that we should collectively put in the work to change social norms. Men who are under six feet tall, are racial minorities, or make less than six figures are at a disadvantage when it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 05:41 AM
2	What’s your unpopular dating opinion that would get you crucified by this sub? You’re saying sex and relationships aren’t important while speaking from a privileged position where you have your sexual and romantic needs met. That’s like a rich person telling a homeless person that money doesn’t make you happy — it’s completely hypocritical. Choosing to be single and being happy with your choice is far different from people who have no romantic options at all because they are completely shut out of the dating market. The number of sexless, single men has skyrocketed in rece…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 09:13 PM
–	What’s your unpopular dating opinion that would get you crucified by this sub? If you were someone considered undesirable sexually on account of your race, height, weight, or status I think you’d have a different opinion. Those who struggle to have romantic partners suffer from a much lower quality of life. It’s very easy to cast judgment on them when it’s coming from a position of privilege. You’re right that it’s natural selection to a point, but it’s also others factors like technology that skew dating success for men far beyond the standards of even 10 years ago. If yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 03:17 PM
2	A man’s lack of success with women is no one’s fault but his own. Agreed. I’ve always treated women as people and demonstrated emotional intelligence — my issue when I was younger was that I wasn’t forward enough and generally chose not to escalate out of fear of disrespecting boundaries. Ironically, it was following the kind of advice given by people like OP that kept me single, and I think a large number of men have their own experiences confirming this. Waiting for things to just develop naturally doesn’t work for a man, because relationships never develop …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 12:34 AM
1	Is it considered a female privilege that almost all women have access to live out all of their fetishes/sexual fantasies in real time with only the slightest of efforts? I’m not really sure how you read “many men don’t have options in dating” and take that to mean removing women’s choices, and then use that as an excuse to launch into personal attacks. For the average man, dating apps are a pretty demoralizing experience — even more so if you are under 6 feet tall, are a person of color, or don’t make above six figures. These are all factors that are widely understood to influence a man’s opportunities when it comes to finding a romantic connection, and your gas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/22 03:23 AM
6	Is it considered a female privilege that almost all women have access to live out all of their fetishes/sexual fantasies in real time with only the slightest of efforts? The point is men can’t be choosy when most men don’t have any choices at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/22 03:01 AM
1	Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enough Or they are building their savings and maximizing their investments in a strategic manner. If you live in a HCOL area, are underpaid at a salary that doesn't keep pace with the rate of inflation, and work remotely the majority of the week, living at home makes even more sense as a way to save money. There are trade-offs for sure, but the young people who live at home these days, nearly half of young adults, are making the best of a shitty economic situation. Also FWIW, buying a home is a terribl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:46 AM
10	Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enough But I have noticed a trend in which people who live at home as adults (especially men) have a tendency to be very bad at housework Speak for yourself, I fucking love cleaning. This is a risk for everyone, but I'd probably prefer men who have had some experience living out of the house. Or at least with people not their parents. By saying this, you're basically saying you prefer men who are wealthy enough to live independently. Nobody I know who lives at home post-college has chosen to do so beca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:22 AM
8	Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enough You can live with parents and still contribute to the household, those two things are not mutually exclusive. Deciding to stay with parents due to financial considerations is a sign of maturity. Additionally, there are plenty of countries around the world in which multigenerational households are the norm — my prediction is that they’ll become more common in the United States in the coming decades owing to our unsustainable approach to housing development. You seem to have a special interest in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:10 AM
44	Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enough It’s perfectly acceptable to live with your parents past college in this economy. That’s a savvy financial decision that will reverberate for the rest of your life. Trying to live beyond your means on a minimum wage job in a high cost of living area reeks of immaturity and a failure to delay gratification. Considering women typically try to date above their income level, saving money as early and efficiently as possible, and investing those savings in the stock market is a smart decision for you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 11:20 PM
2	Most women DO support men being more emotionally vulnerable and receiving support on and offline, but that doesn't excuse being a toxic cry baby with a victim complex The men you seem to date don’t sound emotionally vulnerable, they sound emotionally manipulative. If that’s a recurring issue in your life you should ask yourself why you keep dating men who are “openly critical, rude, and insensitive to others.” While I agree that men should be allowed to be more emotionally vulnerable, I’ve found in my personal life that I’m going against social expectations from both other men and women if I do so. The constant refrain you hear as a young man from both gender…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 11:12 PM
2	CMV: A lot of men struggling are in their situations because they live in male dominated, rural or suburban areas. I disagree with your point regarding smaller towns vs cities — if you are an ethnic minority you’re likely to be completely shut out of the dating market as a male in a small town or suburb, which in large parts of the US are majority white. Additionally, most cities and suburbs lack opportunities for socialization that a place like NYC offers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 10:41 PM
1	Why do RP guys try to shame women for desiring top 20% men? What’s wrong with a man making the same amount of money as the woman they’re dating? That’s literally what gender equality would mean. It’s fine to have traditional values and aspire to be a homemaker who relies on a bread winning husband, but I imagine that’s not the argument you intended to make. If 80% of men were after only 20% of women, and the rate of single women skyrocketed in the last decade due to online dating, I highly doubt you’d be receptive to the argument that “men just have thei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/22 05:00 AM