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Not much to add, but there is something to not giving up! My wife was 300lbs. when we first got together. Think a Mary Lambert type with a Venus of Wallendorf body. She lost a lot of weight when she went through some health issues years ago, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss the 300lbs. version of her. Cats here say "fat", I say "Built to f**k HARD!" Also, careful what you wish for. My wife wanted a relationship for years before we got together. Now, for 25 years, she's had to put up with…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:18 AM
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If you are also a virgin, it is not hypocrisy. It is something different, and more sinister. Are you saying that a virgin wanting another virgin is sinister?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:58 AM
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All the “normal” rejection don’t get propagated especially if the women are nice. I wouldn’t want people to know I got rejected so I’ll keep that private if he wasn’t a problem. Only the terrible women would be the ones going hahaha I can’t believe Bob from accounting asked me out. Does he actually think he had a shot??? Which does make men shy away from it. In my first year of university, I got rejected by a girl who I found out did local modeling. She was so good at rejecting guys, that I walk…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:57 PM
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I didn't realize people threw this buzzwords around for any little thing The thing that burns my ass is how those buzzwords are used for gaslighting! My situation wasn't anywhere near as harsh as yours, but my reaction was the same. I had an uncle who beat his wife's ass just to keep in practice. As a result, I tip toed around trying not to come off as controlling to my wife. Only thing that did was make her think her behavior was acceptable. That she could push the envelope further. I accept re…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:10 PM
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You gotta give up caring what society says about you man! The thing is, most guys don't like being labeled, so they don't stand up for themselves. I don't have that gene. So, those words roll off me. I told my wife that if she wants male friends, GNOs, have deep intimate conversations with men on social media, and texting men constantly...she can do that. She just can't be married to me anymore. You have to be willing to walk away, and to even be called abusive (which is bullshit). But, you have…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:10 PM
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She's put up with my shit for 24 years of marriage. I think she knows :p
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:48 PM
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Different strokes. I do appreciate the time you took to answer my questions. Cheers! De rien!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:20 AM
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I’m curious why having a friend would excuse cheating somehow It would be putting herself in harms way. The way I see it, having a close male friend that she shares personal stuff with, is tantamount to cheating anyway. It is sharing intimacy with another male, and my wife doesn't get to give that to any man but me. To me and emotional affair is sometimes worse than a physical affair, because at least with sex, you can say "Ok, it was the fucking!" With an emotional affair, you're left thinking …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:03 AM
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Kinda, yeah! Because there will be no other excuse except that she went to great lengths to cheat. That way, it will be near impossible to hide it. And, most important, I would feel better about dealing out the severe consequences that I would make her face.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:39 AM
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you can’t control other people’s behavior and you’re fooling yourself if you think you can. No, but you can make it hard enough so that if your partner cheats, it's obvious they went out of their way to do so. As her husband, it's not my responsibility to make it easy for my wife to spend one on one time with other men. If she can't handle those terms, I know that I can't trust her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:39 AM
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I think the majority of women feel this way. When I was 17, I took up boxing. My idea was that, if I got good, I'd attract women. I became a state champion, but I didn't attract one single girl. And I was told later by an acquaintance that the few girls who were into me were scared off because I was a boxer :( I was like WTF?!?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 05:04 PM
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I always tell people to ask themselves questions. 1. Does your partner "light up" when their friend contacts them? 2. Is your partner thinking about them during the day? 3. Is your SO getting dopamine hits, and by extension giving dopamine hits to their friend? Thing is, it is a fine line. And my wife has come very close to crossing it 2X. That's why I am such a hard ass about opposite sex friendships. I man will take as much as he can get from a woman who lets him. And, when you have a woman wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:06 PM
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that's really fucked up from that friend's side She's my wife's ex friend now. Just because you can drink alcohol doesn't mean it's a party atmosphere it's more of a conversational atmosphere I get what you're saying. And, in a perfect world, that would be ok. But, as you know, men can be some bold folks! And will try to score no matter the environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:40 AM
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The act itself to me is a break of trust and pretty disrespectful This is what I try to hammer home to people! I don't know if there is a disconnect or just mass denial. But, most people seem not to have the self respect to draw a line in the sand.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:25 AM
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Depends on the type of establishment (is it a known pick up joint for example), who the friends are that she's going with, and what time she intends to get home. I would expect her to turn down drinks from strangers and turn away any guys who try to sit at their table. Even if they just want to talk. The thing is, I know what my wife's reactions would be. But, I can't trust her friends to be the same. And my wife not wanting to be a party pooper, maybe she would be influenced by the wrong friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:16 AM
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Cat had a turbulent childhood, and hadn't been shown much kindness over his lifetime. Which is why I didn't mind my wife being nice to him. At first. But, I noticed him getting attached and talking about subjects I didn't think were appropriate. I talked to my wife about him and she damn near had me thinking I was a perv for suggesting that he wanted more than a friendship. Until he declared himself to her. I was pretty smug about being right. This isn't even the strangest story I have about peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:56 AM
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Well you can be up until 2 am drinking with friends without hanging out with guys and grinding on anyone. You can go to pubs or friends place, drink and talk. You can go to pubs or friends place, drink and talk - what most people do when they socialize It's a value judgement. My wife can't do that. Alcohol and men are a non starter. If I'm not there she can't be either. She respects it, as long as I hold myself to the same standards. I would expect her to drop any female friends who would pressu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:47 AM
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The only male friend my wife needs is me, and the only female friend I need is my wife. See...you get it!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:36 AM
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Going on a girls night out doesn’t equal grinding on random dudes. I agree. If my wife wants to hang with the girls, she can go get coffee and be home by a decent hour. No need for her to be out until 2AM where alcohol and men are present.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:29 AM
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her family members Sometimes not even then. One of my wife's cousins ended up having a serious thing for her. I warned her but she told me I was full of it. I said "Wait and see." Sure enough, cat made his move and told her how he felt. I, sarcastically, asked her where on her body she wanted me to tattoo "I TOLD YOU SO!"?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:39 AM
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24 years speaks for itself :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:23 AM
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Grumpy 48 year old fart here. My wife, of 24 years, isn't ALLOWED to have male friends outside of one gay male she's known since high school. And I wouldn't let her go clubbing with him if he asked to take her. Speaking of which, gno's are a no-no as well. Especially with single friends or friends I know to grind with guys at clubs. Too many of the guys she used to know have tried to cross the line. There's nothing a guy friend can give her that a female friend can't. I don't let people manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:13 AM
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I find no need for female friendship. That is what wives and sisters are for. I also wanna set an example in my marriage. I be damned if I'm letting my wife have close opposite sex friends, so I won't do it either. I had a really good female friend once when I was in college. We would talk about life and goof off together until 3-4AM. Then one day she caught the feels for me. She wanted to see if "anything more" could develop. So, we slept together. The relationship was never the same. Of course…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:04 PM
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I'm impressed by your consistency!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:15 PM
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What do you consider "ethical?" If I'd never met my wife when I did, I certainly would have racked up some numbers from escorts. Is that ethical? Also, you can understand if a guy is a virgin himself, wanting to find a girl who also is for a ltr. Or at least one with a low n-count. Hell, that was one of the things that convinced me my wife was the one. We both lost our v-cars to each other. No way I'd have married her, having only had her as a lover, if she had been with other guys before me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:20 PM
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They may not get as much attention, especially in public, but fat women get their fair share imo. For the first half of our marriage, my wife was fat. She never had a problem attracting men. She was more bottom heavy though, which was something I liked. I wouldn't have found her attractive if she'd have carried a lot of mass on her upper body. I know she lost weight to feel good about herself and to stay healthy. But honestly, sometimes I miss the heavier version. You all say "fat", I say "BUILT…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:41 PM
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In 25 years, my wife and I have had two periods where sex stopped. The first one, I'll take 90% or the blame for. The career, I had spent 5 years working towards, went up in flames. I became a bitter prick and lost a lot of her respect. And as a result, our sex life suffered. She became a once a month woman :( This after 9 years of 6-7 times a week. The second, time my wife had an undiagnosed health condition. Once she got a proper diagnosis and treatment, we've built up to a good 2-3 times a we…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:07 AM
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I’m totally not an evangelist Oh no doubt, no doubt! I didn't mean to imply that you were proselytizing. I was only suggesting that polyamory people give good advice (in general) for handling jealousy. I learned more about dealing my own jealousy issues, from talking to polyamorous people, than I did in five years of therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:39 AM
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once a week I get a night to myself and get the whole bed. I don’t feel jealous Fair enough. I have been reading a lot lately about how polyamory relationships handle jealousy. I think they have a lot of good advice to give on the subject. I'm still too stubborn and set in my ways to follow any of said advise. But, I think it could help many people outside of the community.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 02:45 AM
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I've always wanted to ask someone in your community, do the "downtimes" ever bother you? That is to say when your wife is going out with one (or more) of her partners and you are having a dry spell. How do you deal with the envy? Or maybe you don't feel that emotion...or maybe you never have a dry spell?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 02:18 AM
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Come come now. I bet none of the women, who took pleasure in rejecting me, ever thought they were "morally wrong". And believe me, that was a huge list. Most men on here think they deserve good things. I was insulted that they approached me. And, resentful that they were uggos. I felt that, by rejecting them harshly, I was giving the female gender a little payback. And teaching them some valuable life lessons. I held out for years, until I got what I wanted/deserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:35 PM
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Well this is horrific, that is all I have to say It was fun though ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:31 PM
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Sometimes when life tries to give you a scraps, you gotta look life in the eye...and say "Go fuck yourself!" And it was hella fun being the rejector for a change :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:30 PM
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validation you get from rejecting, it is morally wrong. Gonna play devil's advocate and disagree. When I got outta hs, I was an angry and bitter little troll. I improved myself in uni, and started to get approached by women who I thought were beneath me. I took a sadistic pleasure in shooting them down. I mean seriously, these uggos acted like I should have been grateful for their attention, then look genuinely shocked when I told them to go pound sand. LOL!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:01 PM
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I met my wife on (W)ebchat (B)roadcasting (S)ystem. It was what passed for social media in 1997.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:40 AM
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A girl I had been chatting with was visiting me for what I was hoping would be a week long hook up. I was pretty excited at the thought of losing my V-card finally. A wrestler friend advised me to "wrap it up, and don't let her get attached!" He told me that, from my description or her, she would be "a good one to start off with."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:33 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:55 PM
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Yeah, I tried this strategy a few years before I met my wife, and the girl still copped a tude, and tried to manipulate me with the promise of sex...someday. One day, she laid into me about something personal, that wasn't any of her business. In anger I told her, to her face, that she wasn't anywhere near hot enough for me to put up with her shit. She stormed off, and, we never saw each other again. LOL!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:13 PM
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she didn't especially consider them to be super valuable friends. You're welcome. If I'm being honest, she did seem to get more out of their conversations (emotionally) than I was comfortable with. So, an ultimatum was indeed made. And no effort was made on his part to get to know me. I've met him briefly, IRL, and I didn't care for him. A couple of things I want to add. First, it goes both ways. I used to be a fan of a female soccer player and followed her on IG. Well, apparently, I was getting…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 12:03 AM
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The thought of either type of infidelity makes me livid. But yeah, emotional infidelity would be just as devastating. At least, in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:44 PM
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BINGO, I know if someone really wants to cheat, they'll find a way. My thing is to make it so hard that I will surely find out, and that it will be obvious that she went out of her way to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:43 PM
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Or did you ask her to stop having deep conversations (on any topic) with this other friend? This makes me sad to hear because I don’t think it makes sense to expect a partner to fulfill all emotional/conversational needs, and that’s why you have friends with whom you can talk about other topics. And yikes, saying “I put a stop to it” sounds like you’re talking about a child or an employee, not a partner. Yes, I had her stop ALL deep conversation with said friend. If she needs to lean on someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:40 PM
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I halfway agree with you. But, with longtime opposite sex friends, there is a level of intimacy that I am also not ok with. My wife had some old guy friends that she used to have deep conversations with. They'd talk to her about a lot of personal things. I put a stop to it. I just think that some things must be kept between us as a married couple. I won't have her sharing a deep emotional bond with any man but me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:48 PM
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Ok, now see...this is one of my worst fucking nightmares. And, scenarios like this are why I am such a hardass when it comes to opposite sex friendships. That poor shlub of a husband will never know. I feel humiliated for him!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:45 PM
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I wouldn't be ok with any of those! but, then again, I can't stand when some swinging dick clicks "like" on one of my wife's fb posts. I am kinda infamous for my jealousy, but, I own up to taking it too far at times. I don't even let my wife dance with other men. And, if I were to see her give a guy a hug, I'd turn into a blood thirsty psychopath. SO, opposite sex friends, on any level, are a huge NO-NO in our relationship!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:08 AM
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maybe her levels were off?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 12:53 AM
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Not to be crass, but shouldn’t they recognize this person is married, they had their chance(assuming they knew each other before you guys got married), and just let sleeping dogs lie? You'd think! Every one of these instances (7 by my count) has had unique circumstances. But, three of these were, as you intuited, long term friends. Two were married and very unhappy in their marriages, and one was newly single. With that one, as soon as he got divorced, I predicted he'd be trouble. So, I was prep…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 07:42 PM
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I've lost count of how many times my wife's "friends" have crossed the line in an attempt to make things happen. This last time surprised even me. We had a young acquaintance who I figured saw my wife as a mother figure. He's 21, she is 46, so innocent yeah? He musta developed a serious Oedipus complex because he ended up falling for her anyway We have had rule for a dozen years, "no one on one interaction with opposite sex friends." In groups it's alright but, guys will ALWAYS be up for more. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:37 AM
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Honestly, I think I'll give it a try. Thanks for the joust...PEACE!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 01:44 AM
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You aren't subtle, but you are effective. And, you've given me food for thought. Maybe not good food...more like beef jerky for thought :P I just think I'm damaged beyond repair. I'm 47 and it's too late to rewire. I don't believe that anyone can be trusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 01:18 AM
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ts not that hard for her to download a hookup app and hide it from you or hook up with some dude at work. It could happen, but It won't be easy. And I wouldn't want to be either of them, for any amount of money, if I ever find out. Or she’ll get tired of you eventually and just divorce you after a while contributing to just another divorce statistic We've been married 22 years. Rode through hell together. I've been crazy like this for 12 years...ever since we got on FB. If she hasn't left me yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 12:48 AM
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Do you even know how affairs start? Familiarity! Most guys only stay friends with women in the hopes that they will have a weak moment and let their guard down. The men, for their part, will take advantage. It's just how it works. I won't be disrespected like that. She and her circle will take me seriously by hook or by crook. Like I said, I'm cool with the "controlling-insecure" moniker. I get way more respect than most husbands do from letting their wives keep opposite sex friends. They only w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 11:02 PM
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I couldn't agree more with your parents and grandparents. Those generations knew what was up! And everything I have read on this sub confirms that I am correct in my way of thinking. My wife has made peace with how her friends feel about me. Some incidences happened when we first got on social media, where my wife let a few of her "guy friends" get too chummy with her. So, I read her the riot act and made her punt them outta her life. She thinks that I act a bit "silly" sometimes (I even have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 05:30 AM
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Longtime lurker here. I HAD to weigh in on this though. In my experience, women will *usually* have as many male friends as they can get away with. But, sometimes have a partner who won't allow it. I've been married 23 years, and I ain't ashamed to admit that I made my wife get rid of all of her male friends. Some the had known since kindergarten. I mean really, she can have all of the friends she wants. She just can't be married to me at the same time. People will try to convince me that I am c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 12:37 AM
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