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| 3 | Drowning financially because of child support.Around 140k, but I live in seattle | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/25 04:06 PM |
| 17 | Drowning financially because of child support.Mine is $4750 a month. Stay strong brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/25 10:45 AM |
| 5 | Wait at least one year after Divorce before dating.I'm so curious why this advice is consistently given. I started dating 3 months after my wife left me. Met a great women who actually loves me and treats me right never once regretted it and allowed me to quickly move on from shitty ex wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/24 04:43 PM |
| 24 | Tom Brady was cheated on tooYou are correct. Everyone needs to stop wondering where you went wrong. It does not matter who you are, where your from how much money you make, how many chores you did around the house, how much you helped with the kids, how well you treated her. Bl THESE HOES ARE NOT LOYAL AND WILL DROP YOU REGARDLESS. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/24 11:16 PM |
| 2 | I’m glad to be getting divorcedI'm in the exact same boat, make 125k but my take home is less then 50k because the 40% is post tax. lucky form me its not for life, but still pretty terrible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 02:45 AM |
| 12 | What do young women care about these days? I guess having a baby together wasn’t enough. Being a father to her son wasn’t enough. Moving across the country for her wasn’t enough. Buying her gifts wasn’t enough. Getting married wasn’t enough. Buying a family home wasn’t enough.Your wrong, better men then you have lost their wives for less. If a celebrity can't keep a woman faithful, what makes you think you have a chance? Are you better looking then Brad Pitt? Do you have more money and status then Jeff Bezo? Do you make up for your lack of money or looks in romance? It doesn't matter. Stop pretending you have control over whether or not your wife leaves you. We live in a time of throw away culture and instant gratification. When things get hard or old you move on to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 12:23 AM |
| 7 | Wife says she wants a divorce because I sound like Donald TrumpI never thought I'd say this on this sub, but since I'm mostly certain this is a troll post and dear God I hope it is. You wife is right to want the divorce, you are not a sane person. I honestly can't believe full grown men run around believing in witches and satanic secret orders. Gods not real, Satan is not real, witch's, wizards, unicorns, dragons, goblins are all fiction. Life is dull and unimportant, just because you want things to be more interesting doesn't mean it is. Taylor swift is si… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 05:27 PM |
| 11 | Is getting married even worth it?It's worth it because kids? You know you can have kids without getting married right? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 05:34 AM |
| 30 | Is getting married even worth it?You can not use married couples with 30 years together as a reference. They are at least 48 years old and met in a time before dating apps, the rise of instant gratification and throw away culture. Marriage is absolutely not worth it based purely on the statistics. The math is clear, if you want to gamble with your retirement and risk having children taken from you in a nasty expensive custody fight it's about 50/50 chance. Womens standards and entitlement are at an all time high and continue to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 05:32 AM |
| 1 | FKN Ex Wife, Now What?You don't get to file for divorce then get upset when your ex moves on. What did you mean to her? What did she mean to you? You literally divorced her.... Anyway as others have said she sounds toxic as he'll just move on and cut all contact. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/23 08:41 PM |
| 16 | Fell in love with a young women while separated now my wife want us together and I am torn!You've not been honest with either of them. It's not possible for the 27 year old to love you, she doesn't even know you. You are actually being a major shit head. I'd have killed for a financially stable wife making 500k who respects me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/23 08:15 PM |
| 5 | Gents, what did you do that was definitely "wrong" to cause your marriage to end?Setting and enforcing boundaries is only for women if you try to do it your marriage will end. Oh and having children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Not a cry for attention but serious question. What is the point of living?The point of living is to experience things. You will likely witness a manned mission to Mars in your life time. There will be incredible advances in technology because of AI that you can't even imagine. The future contains so many incredible experiences and pleasures. You are simply blind to all of these things because you have chose to make one miserable bitch your sole purpose of living. Time will heal your suffering, but you also need to take action to help it along. You need to allow your s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/23 02:53 PM |
| 1 | What can a law team tell from internet records?You miss my point talk to a lawyer ofc, but porn is not illegal and it doesn't matter how much it bothers her. No judge is going to force you to provide internet history records. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/23 09:15 PM |
| 1 | What can a law team tell from internet records?Nobody gives a fuck about your porn. Of all the thinks to be concerned about, this is not one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/23 09:09 PM |
| 15 | I messed upThis post has to be trolling. Is their really men out there that allow them selves to be treated like this and actually think they are in the wrong? If this is not a troll post please for the love of God grow a pair and take control of your life for the first time ever. Get personal counciling to unfuck your brain from years of brainwashing and gaslighting your stbx has done to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 08:15 PM |
| 3 | “Nothing to worry about”You need to immediately change the way look at your STBX. She is no longer your friend, no longer your lover. Just a hollow husk of the women you married long long ago. You are used to subconsciously seeing her as your property, and something that needs protecting... STOP! Women often turn into major sluts after a breakup, as they need to start their search for another sucker. Many people will give you different advice on how to stay focused and move past this. The best and most general advice i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 05:30 PM |
| 3 | For those that are divorcedI think its a pretty serious issue if your wife is your best friend. Friendships with women are always transactional. Male friends will always have your back and ask for nothing in return. Go find some new hobbies and make some male friends. It's such a benefit to your mental and emotional health. Edit: ofc it's ok to be friends with your wife, but if you don't have a buddy you can call your bff, i'm very sad for you :( | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 08:23 AM |
| 7 | Divorce will be finalized today, I feel sick to my stomachBut his wife hasn't died, she's simply reached her final form. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:02 PM |
| 22 | Separated and wife is rounding 3rd baseDude? You are getting a divorce... she's not yours it was just your turn. What did you think was going to happen when you guys agreed to split? Did you think she was going to save herself until you gave her approval to fuck someone else? The only reason you are getting this hurt and angry about hearing this story is because you subconsciously feel like she is your property and sharing your toys with another dude is no fun. The sooner you accept that she is gone and will likely get plowed by 10 d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Brain just continually searches for answersAgreed it's pretty dumb to blame an imaginary sky daddy on any adult problems. Grow the fuck up and take responsibility. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/23 07:50 PM |
| 3 | How to kick soon to be ex out of marital home once she takes name off deed…do I need to evict her?You are screwed need a lawyer, none of the advice here is realistic. That house is as much her residence as it was yours. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/23 02:19 PM |
| 21 | Brain just continually searches for answersThis is extremely common, something changes in women after having children. Their focus is no longer on their husband and instead focus is redirected towards the kids. As the saying goes, men love women, women love their children. Your exact scenario happened to me as well. We were married for 10 years, the first 8 were happy and no issues, after our daughter was born something changed. She became very protective and disinterested in anything else. My theory is that married women without childre… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/23 11:05 PM |
| 4 | Wife wants to leaveStop trying to make sense of it. She got bored of you and is now looking for something new and exciting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/23 11:50 AM |
| 83 | need help. I found the text messages and I don’t know what to do.Do not confront her, you have a huge advantage atm. Get a lawyer, file for divorce immediately and blindside her. The person filing first has a huge advantage especially if it's the man. She is way less likely to successfully pull off false DV claims. She shouldn't know about the divorce until she is served papers, then you Grey rock and record everything. As for the children, once the stbx is notified, sit them down and explain to them the situation. Depending on their age they will react diffe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/23 01:50 PM |
| 6 | I get how fathers abandon their childrenWow thank you for writing this. It gives me hope that as long as I continue to be a loving and supporting father I can have a healthy relationship with my children someday. I currently only see them every other weekend and it hurts so much to say goodbye. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/23 08:56 AM |
| 3 | Wife asked for divorce this week. Terrible feeling. Making slow steps to rebuild but am needing camaraderie and shoulders to lean on.Terrible take, she is gone and good riddance. He should run far away from this women and thank his lucky stars they don't have children. Only 30 years old no kids, no problem. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 09:48 AM |
| 3 | 1 year post divorce. I am in a place I feel I can move on, she wants to reconcile.My God dude you are talking to your ex wife who absolutely cheated on you for a year and thinking about going back? Please please for the love of God do not let her monkey branch back to you. You need to get some self respect and stop talking to this women. The only communication you should have with her is regarding your kid. Have your learned absolutely nothing? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/23 06:45 PM |
| 2 | First Anger in New RelationshipThats actually pretty rude especially in front of her coworkers. But she's probably over reacting still. I'd say stick to your boundaries and jump ship if she crosses them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/23 12:42 AM |
| 0 | Well, it was finally said, the d-wordYou are not in the wrong for wanting out of a marriage that doesn't make you happy regardless of whether or not its your fault. But even if he was in the wrong, this sub is about getting men the support they need to get the best possible out comes from divorce. It's not about calling out and passing judgment about a situation that is far too complex for you to possibly assign blame based on two paragraphs of text that summarize 10+ years of marriage. But if we are giving our opinions on who's to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/23 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Well, it was finally said, the d-wordWho gives a fuck who's fault the divorce is? The judge doesn't care neither should you. This sub is about helping men navigate the obstacles of divorce and best prepare. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/23 07:37 PM |
| 6 | What do Stay at Home Mom's "Deserve" Out of a Divorce?Math is fun, both sexs can play this game. The wife often enjoys the services of a full time gardener, handyman, bodyguard, IT guy, mechanic, and Golden goose. Oh plus the mental health suffered from the stress of holding down a high performing career and being the primary breadwinner. So if we're going this route I guess the women is basically indebted to a man for the rest of her life after 3 years together? I mean clearly this is a bunch of absurd bs, but you are doing the exact same thing in… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/22 05:31 PM |
| 7 | Should I leave a good woman just to be single?Honestly this post is enraging, I'd have given anything for what you have, and you're ready to toss it in the garbage to bang some sluts. Sex with other women will be exciting for maybe a week or two. Then you will wish you had a good wife to come home to and complain about work. You do you, at least when you fuck yourself over you will have noone else to blame. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/22 08:23 PM |
| 3 | What are some green flags for picking a future wife?Bro listen to everyone here, your future wife being Christian will not be a shield. My sister is a devout Christian, she married a devout man, nicest guy I've ever met. After 10 years of marriage and 5 children she cheated on him with her gym buddy. Her husband still stays with her regardless because he believes that his faith in god can heal their marriage. I'm not religious, but I come from a very religious family and most of them are on their 2nd or even 3rd marriage. It simply doesn't matter… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/22 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Divorce or not, I'm screwed and she'll be just fineDo not do this it's a terrible idea, as long as your employer is in the US or EU they will find you and get your money. You would also likely be fired when dcs comes knocking on thier door. Women only make out better in the short term. Long term the men always come out on top. Just be a bad ass and keep making more money while she wastes hers on bs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/22 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Divorce or not, I'm screwed and she'll be just fineI felt this same with my 10 year marriage. Keep your head up get the divorce. As your experience and senority grow you will continue to make more money while your ex will be stuck with the same percentage. Also it's insanely easy to save money without a women in your life constantly spending on useless nicknaks. You may find even with half your income, savings go up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/22 06:27 PM |
| 8 | Is it normal to trash your spouse amongst friends?I had a similar experience, I accidentally came across a discussion between my ex wife and her mother. I couldn't believe what they were saying about me behind my back. It was clear that my wife no longer respected me nor gave a shit about me anymore. 1 month later and she left in the night with the kids. If your wife no longer respects you it's time to leave. Get a lawyer and file, because she's already making plans. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 03:27 PM |
| 37 | Trying to be Setup with Single Mom ✋🏽🛑I'm not attracted to them physically, but i will say they have a certain appreciation for you that you can't find elsewhere. Appreciation is an attractive trait. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/08/22 07:07 PM |
| 12 | (UK) Do all youse get to the point where you just don't give a shit?Sorry you are going through this, My wife left in the night with my kids and drove them 200miles away one and a half years ago. All I can tell you is that the thoughts of suicide under these circumstances are normal, but its important to remember that they are fleeting. Eventually I got a custody hearing and won, I now get to see my children regularly and my life is getting better with every passing month. Stay strong brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/22 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Really looking for some advice…She's lost all respect for you and therefore love for you. Sleeping with other dudes even with you knowing about it is just straight cruel. The harder you fight to keep her the more she will be disgusted with you. Desperation isn't a good look. It's time to get a lawyer, do not speak with her about it at all and just have her served. It's going to hurt but in time you will wish you had done it sooner. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Fun Weekend Contest for Divorced MenSet yourself free, you know what you need to do. You are going to get fucked, but it's the price of freedom and it's worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/22 03:42 PM |
| 5 | Fun Weekend Contest for Divorced MenOof no wonder you got married again. You learned nothing the first time because you paid nothing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/22 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Fun Weekend Contest for Divorced MenCS $1748, Daycare $2800, total $4548 a month. Married 10 years, two young children 4 and 2. Currently unemployed, previous income was 100k. We split all assets 50/50 but she continues take over 62% of my income even when im unemployed with 0 income at the moment. Also the rules of this game should be "winner" is the loser paying the most based on percent of thier income. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/22 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Hard to get back into a relationship?I see, thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/22 04:25 PM |
| 5 | My wife ended it tonight…Have a cry if that is what you need, mourn the loss of your marriage and blissful ignorance. But then, it's time to be strong. File immediately and take her for everything she is worth. There is no repairing your marriage or winning her back. The harder you try the more repulsing she will find you. As for the financials, you are entitled to half of everything, and should also receive alimony and child support. You will be required to find work, but there is government assistance for child care, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/22 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Hard to get back into a relationship?I'm curious, why does this matter in the context of his question? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/22 02:47 PM |
| 13 | Hard to get back into a relationship?I think you are simply older and wiser then when you "fell" in love the first time. You understand that it could go south at any second and are less likely to blindly and unconditionally surrender emotionally like the younger version of your self. It's also likely that deep down you really enjoyed the time and freedom of a single life which is likely why you loathe the drama, chores, and expectation that dating often devolves into. Because of this you feel guilty for not committing or feeling th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/22 02:42 PM |
| 3 | Asshole husbands are better than decent family manIt's simple, ask yourself this. If Jeff fucking Bezos, Bill gates and countless other powerful rich men can't prevent their wives from getting bored and fucking other dudes/leaving them. What chance do you have? The modern women's entitlement knows no bounds. You will never be enough for them. I only wish I learned this in my 20s, I'd be sitting on top of the world. Instead I'm starting to rebuild my life from scratch at 34. Don't be like me, learn from my failures and be the selfish asshole the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/22 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Ok, going through it.Run away as fast as you can. There is no reason to get married in this day and age. Any women pressuring you to marry her is simply trying to lock you down. If she cared about you at all marriage wouldn't be required for her to be happy with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 10:09 AM |
| 1 | My ex is dating a man almost the same age as her dad.I mean you clearly care and it bothers you. Who she's fucking is none of your concern anymore. She was never yours, it was just your turn. Date a girl 10 years younger then yourself and enjoy(assuming you are at least 30+). | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/22 08:45 AM |
| 6 | I caught my wife cheating two months ago after we just got back together last year. I filed for divorce now she’s saying she doesn’t want a divorce. It’s really messing with me.It starts in their 30s actually and goes until 55, then they want stability over anything else post 55. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/22 01:37 AM |
| 2 | I have my final mediating in few hoursGet over it, why do you care if she's getting bent over the barrel every night? She's not yours, it was just your turn. Get and fight for what is yours property/custody, then forget her and move on with your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/22 03:31 PM |
| 12 | Is it time to propose to my GF (2nd marriage for both)You talk about your ex wife being beneath you intellectually yet here you are trying to make the same mistake again. There is literally no reason to ever get married again. If this women is as amazing as you say she is, then she wont need you to marry her in order to be with her. Also she is making half as much as you so the inevitable divorce will have you paying alimony again. Women always change after marriage, while she may be loving/sweet/intimate now, everything will change after a few yea… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/22 08:47 PM |
| 37 | Being begged not to divorcePlease get out man, do not get her pregnant and leave. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/22 12:37 AM |
| 13 | All my friends are getting married. You guys teached me a lesson to never marryGood on you, marriage is not needed to have a family or women in your life. It's a complete scam designed to make you responsible for a women's well being for the rest of her life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/22 08:07 PM |
| 5 | Dying “old and alone”?Everyone dies alone eventually. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/21 08:34 PM |
| 1 | (29M, 27F) - My wife has moved in with her family, and demanded I make changes in order to get her back home. Married 4 years. We have no kids, no assets.. she works part time, and I’m full time, making 100k. I feel so lonely, but i’m tired of trying to fight to bring her home. I need guidance..You can still be a part of your kids life, but you will need to fight hard for custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/21 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Child care advise, should I help payHow is this legal? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/21 04:41 PM |
| 7 | An uphill battle that seems endlessIt's not complex at all, you've been putting up with unacceptable behavior and abuse for so long you can't see how fucked the situation is. Get a paternity test immediately and finalize the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/21 04:29 PM |
| 3 | Losing My ReligionI'm not religious(atheist) but sounds like you consider your church your religion, they are not the same. Your church is your community, you religion is a belief. You shouldnt lose your religion when your church turns against you. Find a new church / support group. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/21 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Child care advise, should I help payDude how did you get out only paying $500 a month? I pay $2100 a month for childcare and an additional $1580 for child support. I only make 6k net a month. So I get less then 38% of my income to live off of. BTW this is all court ordered. Details 2 kids 10 years of marriage, she didn't work for the last 3 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/21 03:56 PM |
| 10 | (29M, 27F) - My wife has moved in with her family, and demanded I make changes in order to get her back home. Married 4 years. We have no kids, no assets.. she works part time, and I’m full time, making 100k. I feel so lonely, but i’m tired of trying to fight to bring her home. I need guidance..Gross, run away as fast as you can. Why would you want to save that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/21 11:39 PM |
| 9 | Divorced for working too muchMy wife used to say the same shit, anytime I ever said we didn't have the money she would simply respond "we always manage". She's not wrong I did always manage literally everything. She now gets 50% of everything I built over the last 10 years. Disgusting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/21 07:11 PM |
| 1 | How to handle post divorce relations?I just had to stop seeing a nice girl cause she was pressuring me to hard to commit and I'm not ready. So just respect him and trust him when he says he doesn't want to date or make any commitments. The constant texts and expectations from her for me to spend literally every bit of free time with her was just way to much. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/21 08:16 AM |
| 1 | Kids and custodyIt's her word vs mine, kids involved so judge will simply error on the side of caution. I have no criminal record, cops never been called, but she's got one hell of an imagination. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/21 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Kids and custodyMy wife just accused me of false DV charge for custody. She has no evidence, but it won't matter in the end. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/21 10:35 AM |
| 9 | What Keeps You Up at Night As you Go Through Your Divorce?My wife has made a number of terrible accusations against me in a desperate bid to get full custody. She has no evidence for any of her claims as the accusations are false, but I've been told by my attorney that civil court does not require evidence when children's safety is concerned. I'm terrified that I won't get to be a part of my kids lives. This is what keeps me up at night. It's why I'm writing this comment right now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/21 12:26 PM |
| 7 | My soon to be ex-wife has stolen $300 from meMy wife just left 3 weeks ago, took the kids and 25k from our joint checking account. Could be worse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/21 11:16 AM |
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