RolandBallif Archive

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1	Kino tips for a date This is an argument that is true for both men and women in hostile situations, however I would argue that being ready to use deadly force is not a prerequisite of dating. It is, however, a prerequisite of self-preservation. That is, the one meaning of life that we can probably all agree on, that is, to survive. You need to protect yourself from harm. This is neither unique to women, nor to any particular activity, like dating. Bad things happen in all kinds of places.. directed towards men and w…	/r/seduction	21/11/15 04:03 AM
1	Kino tips for a date Whatever happen to assume attraction. But we don't assume desire in other parts of life, we check in first. If I think you'd love peanut sauce in the meal I'm making for you, I want to ask you first in case you're allergic. That doesn't mean I'm not a good chef because I'm unsure of what we're doing - it means I want to make sure that we can all enjoy the meal together. This may seem mundane, and sex is obviously different - but isn't there a line to walk between doing things that you think will…	/r/seduction	21/11/15 03:52 AM
1	Kino tips for a date We agree on a lot. But I think power, physical power, is still an issue here. What if a woman pulls out a handgun and the man wrests it away from her? What if he has a gun too? Doesn't it seem unrealistic to expect every woman to carry a handgun or take self-defense lessons? There are women who aren't comfortable carrying guns, there are women who doesn't have access to guns...they shouldn't have to always be ready to use deadly force just as a prerequisite of dating I want to take a step back a…	/r/seduction	20/11/15 12:50 AM
1	Kino tips for a date I think we're on the same page here - sex is about power but men have more physical power. A man who's assuming he has permission to slowly escalate, without even asking once in a while, is the kind of person who women worry about. Obviously I'm not saying we're rapists, but I know from watching my wingmen that women are hesitant to wanna F-close a man who reads as rapey I get more HBs when they feel like it's THEIR decision to touch and be touched. That's hot for them and it empowers them - and…	/r/seduction	19/11/15 04:27 PM
0	Kino tips for a date Thanks for your question man, a female friend of mine shared this tumblr for you and I'd love for you to give it a look: http://whenwomenrefuse.tumblr.com/ It's stories from women who have been assaulted for rejecting male advances. It's different when Sedditors are assertive - I know from experience on this subreddit - but sometimes men who feel entitled to women are very assertive and lash out when a woman says no. That's the cultural baggage we're going up against. Even women who say they wan…	/r/seduction	19/11/15 04:17 PM
1	Kino tips for a date it's the "(hopefully) stop" in your post that gets me though - I think there's an unacknowledged power dynamic here that troubles whether or not this is freely given consent. Let me quote what I wrote in a different comment thread But women take a serious risk when they're going on a date with a man - we're stronger than them and sometimes it's hard for women to resist slowly escalating advances because sometimes just saying no to a man can get you assaulted. there's a serious risk of hurting a …	/r/seduction	19/11/15 05:39 AM
2	Kino tips for a date So I guess the conflict I see here is between a) what will make a woman want to sleep with you and b) what will be the best mutual experience for you both. I think it's a false conflict. You can be selfishly interested in woman's safety and well-being - because a woman who feels confident and comfortable with you is just going to be more engaged in the F-close I'm worried that Seddit is adversarial sometimes, like it's literally just a game to get in a woman in bed with you. I understand that it…	/r/seduction	19/11/15 05:21 AM
2	Kino tips for a date hmm, could you elaborate further? I guess I'm trying to figure out how to value and respect the women I'm with while also making sure everything is safe and consensual for the women. I feel there's a way to be assertive while also letting women feel in control of the situation, and hey - it's hot when you're both calling the shots, that's how you know you're really into each other	/r/seduction	19/11/15 04:02 AM
-6	Kino tips for a date But women take a serious risk when they're going on a date with a man - we're stronger than them and sometimes it's hard for women to resist slowly escalating advances because sometimes just saying no to a man can get you assaulted. there's a serious risk of hurting a woman - and that means her not liking you - if you don't seriously respect what she wants. I get what you're saying about being assertive and going for it, maybe we could meet in the middle, what about saying "I'm going to put my a…	/r/seduction	19/11/15 03:19 AM
0	Kino tips for a date See that's what we hear on Seddit, but think about it. there's nothing sexier than a woman slyly winking at you and saying "yes, i want you to touch my body." You want to make her feel safe - that's respectful AND hot, and it doesn't trade off with being assertive	/r/seduction	19/11/15 03:05 AM
-2	Kino tips for a date First of all, good luck man!! I hope you have a good time. Kino is only hot when it's respectful. A lot of guys will start feeling a girl up right away - a girl won't like that. You need to make sure that she's cool with the kino, and that's not something you can just assume. Just like you would ask before you have sex, you should ask before grabbing her around the waist or holding hands - it may feel stilted but it will show her that you respect and care about her and that goes a million times …	/r/seduction	19/11/15 02:47 AM
1	How do you expand social circle? Yeah go into it with an attitude of self-improvement with the HBs as a side-effect. If you come in with the objective of boning girls, you're gonna get desparate and start doing anything you can to get with a girl, even the unethical stuff. DHV by being "that really popular guy" You need to find a girl who you want to be with and wants to be with you. When you find that, that's super hot!!	/r/seduction	19/11/15 02:18 AM
1	How do you grind with a girl? yes, stay in view when you isolate!! she wants to see what you're doing with her - that way she knows she's safe with you. you can escalate without having to be "mysterious"	/r/seduction	19/11/15 02:07 AM
1	22 Virgin needs help with international students (fwb?) "And don't try to kiss a girl if she has rejected you. That's a really scary situation for girls, when a man doesn't respect a no." this is so true -- consent is so important because if we don't respect the women we're with, it's basically assault You can escalate with a woman without kissing women who don't wanna kiss you - that's not just for AFCs who are timid and don't isolate	/r/seduction	19/11/15 01:49 AM
1	How do you grind with a girl? On point, this is what we mean when we talk about DHV. Its not a matter of making women do what you want -- she'll come to YOU bcuz your moves are on point. look at grinding like you would an approach in general - it's not cool if she doesn't want you	/r/seduction	19/11/15 01:35 AM
1	Upping my game - got a girl home and had absolutely nothing fun to do - HELP totally!! your last sentence really gets it. "its more attractive to advance and have her slow it down than to not make a move at all." we have to let women help set the pace so that they still feel in control of the situation - push but let her pull too if she gets uncomfortable. that demonstrates respect and that demonstrates HV! i have gotten a lot of HBs who say they love how I dont disrespect and force myself on them like other guys	/r/seduction	19/11/15 01:10 AM