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Coming home to cook and clean is much more fun when you don't HAVE to do it but instead can choose to because you live at home and at the end of the day all of the adult responsibilities technically fall on your parents. If you don't want kids, why would a guy want to support you in staying at home? What do you bring to the table that's THAT valuable? It sounds like you want to use a man as a meal ticket to avoid adult responsibilities which is NOT ok. If you can monetize a cooking video blog th…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/18 11:32 PM
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You really buried the lead there. Ok, so, counseling: you for ptsd, him for whatever he still needs, and separate couples counseling for both. That being said, you only control yourself. He can make all the reparations in the world but if you're not ready to accept them, it'll all be for naught. So you have to decide deep deep down if you are ready, willing, and able to CHOOSE to trust this man, forgive this man, and move forward with this man AS HE IS right this day, not who he was or who you t…
/r/RedPillWives06/02/18 04:02 PM
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I don't think my ideas of fun are... Of course you don't, they're YOUR ideas. I agree with the poster who talked about reframing "fun" as purposeful activities, like learning more about something at a museum. Also, maybe you could learn to find his activities fun. I love outdoors work and find it fun because I work in an office during the week, so doing something outside that I can look back at a measurable result for is SUPER fun. If your end goal is spending time doing stuff together, learn to…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/18 01:45 AM
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Out of curiosity, do you work? If so, what time do you get home and what time does he get home? My FH needs alone time too, but I'm a natural cuddler, and it took us a while to figure things out in a way that worked for us both. One thing I had to learn to understand was that since I got home from work around 6, and he didn't get home until around 7 at the earliest, I would get the whole house to myself for at least an hour a day whereas he only gets the house alone when I'm traveling by myself.…
/r/RedPillWives16/01/18 05:55 PM
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We do this too!
/r/RedPillWives16/01/18 05:45 PM
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Add public transportation to that list! Grabbing my ponytail and grabbing my ass (in front of my fiancé, who I then had to talk out of following the guy) is not a compliment. In my city, I could be clothes head to toe in baggy clothing and if I'm a woman alone I get catcalled, and I really don't think those should count as compliments when the intent is clearly to harass. Someone hitting on me at a bar or a social event I understand, even if I don't like it, but the workplace, the commute, the l…
/r/RedPillWives15/01/18 10:35 PM
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Is there a difference between the manosphere and trp?
/r/RedPillWives11/01/18 12:50 PM
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That's a whole different ballgame!
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 02:01 PM
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Yay books! What draws you to nonfiction and what kind of nonfiction are you interested in? This past year I got into tracking the year's books using the GoodReads app. It was really a really awesome motivator and also gave me a quick look at what direction my reading was trending, like that time I read four or five memoirs about growing up and/or leaving the Amish or a bunch of pop psychology nonfic -- I could reflect on my list and push myself to get out of that rut haha
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 01:31 AM
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Wow, I can't imagine losing one if the people I work with to addiction. He did get a lot of help, and I guess I didn't think he credited that help enough or universalized his experience to assume that most had access to that amount of help. That being said, I do think the military is a good option for people without other options. I almost with we had a 2-3 year draft with the option of military or civil service for everyone upon turning 18 or graduating high school. It levels the playing field …
/r/RedPillWives03/01/18 07:43 PM
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I don't dispute the issues (drug epidemic, lack of economic and educational opportunity, isolation, etc), but his proposed solution, which seemed to be "get into an Ivy League and get out" just isn't feasible for most. I wish when people talked about the drug epidemic and rural poverty that there was a middle ground between "pull yourself up by the bootstraps and get your ass down to Harvard" and "let's spend government funds wantonly and without limit because clearly that will solve the problem…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/18 06:10 PM
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Thanks, I'll check out Shadow of the Wind! I read Hillbilly Elegy this year, but I was really disappointed by it! I read a lot of memoirs and I read a good amount of sociological type non fiction books, so I thought I'd like his approach but it just seemed like his attempt to do both led to him not doing either fully or well. It probably didn't help that I found his reasoning to be flawed but it's been long enough that I don't remember my exact criticism, but I think they were to the tune of sol…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/18 03:31 PM
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Power to the Ps!
/r/RedPillWives03/01/18 04:08 AM
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Not sure if this wil 100% answer your questions but this post made me think of three posts u/Camille11325 recently linked me to about relationship styles, dominance levels and thresholds, and different typologies of men and women and how that impacts the relationship dynamic. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4ep0xh/relationship_dynamics_part_one_updated_expanded/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4jzdgi/relationship_dynamics_part_15/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWiv…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/18 01:17 AM
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Neat! How are you implemented this logistically?
/r/RedPillWives03/01/18 01:10 AM
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As a quick example, think back to the last time you spent a full day with your partner. How much did you have to talk about that night? How interested Were you? Now compare it to a day you spent apart from your partner? How much to you have to talk about that night? How interested were you? There needs to be some difference and distance to maintain interest and intrigue. But also, we tend to pick up on and dislike the traits we dislike in ourselves in other people, so if a partner is too similar…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 08:18 PM
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All my wedding insights so far boil down to elope haha! Yay weekend trips! For number five, I'm trying to do this by listening to my whims instead of outright dismissing them, which has led to a few more crafting and cooking projects, and when the weather is nice, spending as much of it in nature as possible. I'm also trying to consciously connect more to cycles because that almost always gets me in a more hippy-dippy mindset: moon phases, seasons, hormonal tracking, holiday rituals, reading the…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 08:01 PM
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Nice! Have any recs for me? If you read and liked those two books, you may enjoy Austenland (but you HAVE to be in the mood for chick lit otherwise the tone of the novel gets annoying) and if you liked the "dark" aspect of the Night Circus, you may enjoy the Austenland sequel "Murder in Austenland."
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 06:28 PM
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I heard once from a religious teacher that secret to setting achievable resolutions, in faith and in life, is to set goals that are so small and so simple that you're ashamed to admit you're not already doing them. The common sense implication was hat these are also practical and you have a means of implementing them. Ex. not "pray more" but "say grace before eating dinner" Ex. not "practice good sleep hygiene" but "not pick up my phone after lights out" Ex. not "be more thankful" but "say out l…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 03:42 PM
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Book recommendations? Ho boy, I apologize in advance for this earful. I narrowed it down to my 13 favorites (there are two books with sequels, so it's more like 11), and I broke them down by genre because I don't know what you like. I start with non fiction and then work down to Fiction: History - How to Create the Perfect Wife by Wendy Moore, which is a brief history of a 19th century man who attempted to raise an orphan into the perfect wife for him using Thoreau's model. Self Improvement - Br…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 03:14 PM
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Nice! I'll check that book out down the road. I got really into women's health in college and have been tracking mine for ages, irregularities and all.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:44 PM
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Pineapple upside-down cake
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 03:02 AM
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What are your sewing skills like and do you have any clothes that stretch or are cut to accommodate weight fluctuations? For a while I was gaining/losing tons of weight due to a chronic illness. My wardrobe was mostly stretchy skirts (I like black tube pencil skirts because you can tress them up/down), and stretchy or sleeveless wrap dresses. Leggings have also been pretty forgiving to me, ditto for scoop neck tshirts.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:26 AM
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What kind of activities? at that age my parents (ok, my father) took me out of doors hiking and canoeing and camping and to interpretive centers/museums bye also just hanging around in the yard. Instead of answering my questions about things, my dad would "look it up together" or check out a kid appropriate book on the topic (ex. Clouds and the water cycle). I was also gifted science kits at Christmas, which made science seem like playing around with toys. At such a young age, I try to teach to …
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:24 AM
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SO has always been in the fence, leaning towards child free. I'm on the fence leaning towards having kids. Today my SO sat me down to talk about wanting kids and a timeline for when we'd be doing that if we decide to go ahead and do it, as well as some logistics since there's a strong possibility that I will struggle to conceive or even be infertile. I was so not expecting that, but it's nice to know that my SO would want a family with me. We've talked about parenting styles and roles anyways ju…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:20 AM
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How are you going to keep in touch with family? This is somethting I struggle with as well.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:16 AM
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Yes! I just mastered the stockinette stitch. I've been stuck doing garters for years. I'm working on the moss stitch now, which has resulted in a lot of tangled yarn.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:16 AM
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We got an Alexa for Christmas. Haven't figured out audiobook synching yet but can't wait to!
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:15 AM
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1) Continue focusing on health and wellness to manage my chronic illness 2) Train for and go on an epic urban hike with my SO 3) Read at least 52 books, focusing on quality/learning/content instead of just quantity (157 books this year, but no rhyme or reason to them) 4) Pull off an amazing wedding on our shoestring budget 5) Get back in touch with my carefree, hippy-dippy side in order to help manage chronic stress. 6) Visit at least two more states (trying to hit all 50) 7) Squeeze in at least…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 02:14 AM
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Not too much trouble at all, I love this stuff. Glad you found it helpful!
/r/RedPillWives28/12/17 08:22 PM
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I always assumed I was in a LLL or HLL but after reading everything here I can say that my SO falls into the magician category and the closest fit to describe us would be LHL-- I never thought of myself as high dominance but I'm 100% a Mother-Amazon archetype, and I guess my Amazonian goal-orientedness has been very focused on building a healthy relationship since I've got my career goals locked down. My SO straddles the line between H/L but I think errands on the L side. I wasn't familiar with …
/r/RedPillWives28/12/17 02:37 PM
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Thanks! I remember that first post. It must have left before or miss d the others! Love the quizzes.
/r/RedPillWives28/12/17 02:13 PM
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Whew it's been a while since I was here. Could yo point me in the direction of a refresher on all this Ls and Hs? My SO is the kind of person who hates to ask for anything or butt in but does have strong preferences and expectations. Early on in our relationship we talked about certain areas of life that my SO preferred to hand over to me and we talked about needs, wants, and preferences then. This is mostly the cooking, cleaning, and household management as well as making any and all spreadshee…
/r/RedPillWives27/12/17 02:05 PM
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I rarely notice other people's homes unless its egregious or there's something in stark contrast (partially wiped and you see color difference). I notice it a LOT in my own home but can't always tackle it due to a chronic illness. It can get to me and stress me or, so I really have to keep working on letting it go and keeping my calm. I work full time and so does my SO so we're not home much during the week to deal with it.
/r/RedPillWives18/12/17 11:09 PM
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