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We are still visiting... 😉 7 year marriage, 2 kids, massive income disparity. Divorce took 5 years. I had to pay her attorney fees. $400k in fees alone gone. 53/47 % split at end + child support. That was 6 years ago. Remarried about 2 years ago. This time, separate property pre-nup. You learn after you get stung! Made all the money back plus some.... hotter and 10 years younger upgrade.... Oldest kid from prior marriage lived with me after all her alienation was apparent to court and him. It ge…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 12:08 PM
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Truth! You are liberated! A lot of men just do what you, and I, did: i am supposed to live like this. I am supposed to just say yes because it's easier than arguing. I must stay in this marriage bc my kids are everything to me. Nope. You mustn't. I divorced a miserable person that made me miserable. My oldest is 18 now and can see how much happier I am compared to when he was 10. Miserable 5 year divorce/custody battle but I am so much happier, healthier, made all the money I lost in the divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 03:02 AM
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The good old protective order. Been there, twice. First time, 3 months. Second time 9 months. Both times my two young boys suffered the most. Their therapist even testified that mom is using the kids as pawns. Thats when the tables turned. Spent 5 years in family court. Had 3 attorneys. She had 4. I was made out to be Epstein himself in court several times. At the end? My oldest came to live with me at 14 and is now 18. My second boy is week on/week off going into high school. What did she gain?…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 02:54 AM
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Let us know how it goes for you without an attorney....... Unless an asteroid hits or its WWIII with a total collapse of state and local governments, there isn't anything you or I or any man can do to stop the reselling of children through family court. Feel free to not participate.....
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 01:09 AM
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Whats sad is that there are true broke losers and deadbeats that get a better deal after divorce than those men that built themselves up financially and were in a successful career. The latter are the ones that get punished. The broke losers walk away with barely anything to pay. So they get left alone. The successful ones get punished via state laws and destroyed financially and emotionally in the process. Keep your chin up. I went through it and made it all back plus some after 2 years. The ch…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 10:43 AM
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The only winner here are the attorneys with the payday. I spent over $400k in attorney fees over 5 years despite several friends advising me to just walk away as the system is setup against dad's. The outcome was 50/50 custody of my youngest teenager and 60/40 in my favor for my oldest teenager. I still have to pay child support and fund her frivolous lifestyle choices. I am still a deadbeat in the eyes of the system for "taking the children away from their mom". Looking back at it, I should've …
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 11:48 AM
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Its published. Google is your friend. The texas OAG office publishes stats for custodial vs non-custodial. The local county has stats for TRO's. Any attorney in texas will tell you the first thing a lawyer representing a mother is a TRO to get the dad out of the house for "safety" reasons. Lookup your local county's website snd search by attorney name for "divorce with children".
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 10:46 PM
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How hot was she for you to move, marry her within 5 weeks, car, boob job, expenses paid for 10 months? You could've had dozens of "special dates" with dozens of women for that much money. I digress.... She won't get squat. Marital debt split. You off the hook. Watch out for false dv allegations. Record every conversation from now on and don't sleep with her again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/25 07:48 AM
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Its ok to get angry. Its ok to feel rage against your ex for wronging you, your kids, your family. Its ok to feel outbursts of emotions. You were wronged. You probably worked hard to build a comfortable living, a family, a future for your kids. You were loyal and had a purpose. You built it all and she crumbled it all. She is living above her means based on your means. Your former home. Validate those emotions. Its ok. They are thoughts and feelings. No need to act on them. Just acknowledge them…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 02:13 PM
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Texas will also give her 50% of his assets, retirement and alimony (25 years - assuming married). No child support but thats the cheapest thing in Texas guidelines. If she was a stay at home mom, she'll get more than 50% of his assets/income as Texas is an equitable distribution state. Might be cheaper to go hire a pro to get his nuts drained and just try to work it out via therapy. Never would I say this after cheating if I didn't experience Texas family courts first hand.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 02:27 AM
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Your ego gets rebuilt for sure going through family court. You see behind the curtain. Its up to you to rebuild as a shell of your former self, or a reinvented 2.0 version. Best thing to ever happen to me is see the betrayal first hand. Rebuilt much better, much calmer and realized how simple and trivial daily issues are compared to before.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 09:53 AM
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The courts here favor mothers since its a larger child support payment and fathers will pay to contribute to the state's reimbursements. Title IV-D.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 11:02 AM
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16 in Texas. Primary custodial parent needs to sign off. Never gonna happen as the state wants title IV d incentives.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 12:15 AM
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No 50/50 in Texas. If the mother doesn't agree, its $100k plus a custody eval. Hell on earth.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 12:14 AM
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Marriage is doomed in the west. Its a contract that incentivizes one side to break it and at minimum collect a free paycheck via child support. Only an idiot would get married in the US. Your story gets repeated daily across every city all while a woman is empowered to destroy her current family in pursuit of her happiness. Screw the kids desire to grow in a two parent home or your feelings. Its about her, her validation, her happiness. Society will "you go girl" her into thinking she did good f…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 06:59 PM
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She wasn't happy and wanted to go find herself..👀
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 05:21 PM
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I have no respect for men that intentionally play this game to get psleeve while they see another man fighting for his kids. Simps and cucks. Might as well walk around with butt plugs.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 04:05 PM
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Legally she is the custodial parent. If he just comes over and stays, I end up in court with a restraining order against me. Been there, done that. He gets extracted by force from my house and places with mother. I ended up with no contact with both kids for 3 months.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 04:03 PM
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He tried that once. We ended up at the police station. Then another TRO against me. Hearing and yet another "dad, you are alienating kid. Pay child support and stfu".
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 04:00 PM
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Pick up/drop off at school and when not in school I don't exit my vehicle and she is not allowed to do so either. We put that in our divorce decree (stay in your car and not allowed on each other's property). I only see her when we go back to court every year or during sporting events where I stay away as far as possible (no permanent restraining order but rather my own choosing to keep her as far away as possible). Our parenting facilitator (divorced woman) told us to assume the other parent is…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 03:24 PM
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Fuck the therapist. Had 3 therapists tell me the same thing. 4 years later, kids are just pawns for mom's pleasure. This concept of coparenting never works in high conflict. Parallel parent. Parenting your children should not be dependent on keeping your ex happy. I am in court every year for trying to keep her happy and I lose every single time. She cheated, she made the decision to put her children in this position. She can fuck off for all you care. Kids will adjust and eventually grow up to …
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 03:15 PM
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Dude was at my son's football game and came up with her to say "hello"...... Have another 11 year old with her... finish line is 7 years away.....
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 03:04 PM
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She has a live in boyfriend. Kids hate him. She finances his lifestyle via my past and current earnings. She filed a TRO against me last year for asking the dude to man up and stop being a cuck living off of another man's earnings. I had to pay her attorney fees for "disturbing the peace". Smh....
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 02:58 PM
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Planning on it. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 02:55 PM
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I told him to get a job and save for gas money. He did and started working at 14. He is turning 16 soon. He saved up about $4000. Straight A kid, job, sports, steady gf for 2 years that calls me her second dad. Solid kid, no drugs and listens. He is at odds with his mom since she won't let him come live with me and she is looking for any excuse to further reduce my time, even at his expense. 1 PO, 3 TRO's, one criminal trial (I was found not guilty) and a nasty divorce just in the last 4 years. …
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 02:41 PM
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She makes Amber Heard look like an amateur with her tactics. I am gonna bite the bullet but concerned she'll go to court and say I am alienating again and that she should have title of the vehicle since she is the primary custodial parent. Female judge, female amicus and the law favors mothers here.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 02:18 PM
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See above. We tried that earlier this year (son wanting to come live with me) and the judge reduced my time. A female amicus attorney sided with the mom. Texas is a mother state and they don't like it when CS is even threatened to be reduced. Son told judge and amicus that mom neglects him, dad is stable, mom is a drunk and that blew up back in my face as everyone assumed I coached him. Its an annual court battle.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 02:08 PM
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I agree with you. Thats the direction I am headed but wanted to see how others are handling it. I already know I'll get blamed for buying the car should anything happen, god forbid, to have her even further reduce my time. I already lost custody time because my oldest son wanted to come live with me but she threw the "parental alienation" card in court and the judge reduced my time.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 02:05 PM
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During my time only? His mom refuses to let him use her vehicle and expects me to buy the vehicle for him that he can use during my time and her time. She says vehicle's are not her legal or moral obligation and that I should be responsible.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 01:41 PM
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Of course they do. Ain't nobody stupid. As long as OP doesn't get attached and understands it for what it is... slay away!
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 11:00 AM
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Slay away.... humble brag....46 here... Same experience due to aging very well and have spare cash for a very comfortable living.... have only been dating 23-30 year olds. Some for as long as 6 months and some just a hookup and most of the time 2 at any given time... I tell them upfront I am not ever going to get married or have more kids. They don't care. I tell them I work hard during the week and unavailable. They don't care. I tell them I am not a sugar daddy nor will I pay an allowance. The…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:26 AM
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This. Judges in divorces or custody cases will always want attorneys paid (remember, judges used to be attorneys). So when one party is pro se, the judge will maximize the money flowing to lawyers. So unless your ex is busted with heroine needles while driving your kids without seatbelts (even then she'll just get a slap on the wrist), you better get an attorney. The system is built on conflict and funded by parents fighting over assets and children. I had a 40 year experienced district attorney…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 08:09 PM
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In the hearing, yes. Your attorney can review the evidence and if its blatantly obvious, then your ex's attorney will buckle quick. Consult with an attorney today.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 04:55 PM
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Do not try to contact the judge directly. That's frowned upon. Your attorney can file a motion to vacate the TRO and request a hearing. You need an attorney to handle. I know its tough as they want a retainer/money but you need one asap.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 10:28 AM
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First, just remember this is family court. Not only are false allegations common, they are encouraged. Secondly, by adhering to the TRO and not violating it for the next few months, you aren't really a danger to her or your son. Her claims are normal. Every single man on here probably faced the "he is abusive, he is crazy, he is a threat" allegations. Judges hear those claims all day long. Everyone in that profession gets it. They'll ask for your financials and hers. The attorneys will figure ou…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 02:15 AM
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We've all been there. Welcome to family court. False allegations are normal and delaying the TRO hearing is a tactic to see if you break the order. My advice: 1) get a lawyer. 2) stay cool. Don't mess up and try to contact ex or son. I know this is hard, but some on here did it for an entire year! 3) go sign up for a therapist (voluntarily) and work on coping with the temporary loss. Have your attorney say that you signed up voluntarily on the next hearing. 4) see if you can get into mediation b…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 12:48 AM
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$2300 per month. I pay $370 per month on top of that for medical, dental and vision. 75% of all extra curricular activities. 75% of all unreimbursed medical/copays. I have 50/50 custody. State of Texas. We both work, make 6 figures, she was never a stay at home mom. I did 80% of the parenting during the marriage. Courts only care about money flowing through the state distribution unit so that they can collect title ivD reimbursements. Those fund the AG's office and the judiciary retirement fund …
/r/MensRights18/10/23 07:19 PM
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This needs to be a sticky.
/r/MensRights18/10/23 07:16 PM
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Why? You want him to keep feeding the system? Fight until he is broke? Can't afford child support and end up in jail? Mental health problems? Whats your suggestion?
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 01:31 AM
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Let her have the kids and go make some more. The system is built on two things: 1) attorneys, judges and ancillary actors (parent facilitators, amicus's, GAL's) building up conflict to keep the system funded by extorting as much money as possible. 2) fathers that keep fighting to be in their kid's lives. They know fathers will go bankrupt if needed to keep fighting. Stop feeding the machine. Even if you win, you'll be a shell of your old self. If you lose, you aren't any better off. She'll alien…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 12:48 AM
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In Texas also, and you will face all 3 consequences. Less than 50% of your kids as 50/50 doesn't exist in texas. You'll get 47%. She sill get child support. She will get 52% - 55% of the estate. You will pay her attorney fees as she has no income. She will drag her feet for years as you'll be paying for everything (house, bills and child support). Was in your spot. I should've filed sooner. Be mentally prepared and go file. Push for mediation and call it a day. Kids will adjust. You'll be happie…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 02:10 AM
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Tiktok.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 11:23 PM
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Listen to this guy OP.... Get your name on the birth certificate. Stop any joint accounts. Do not get married. Post baby being delivered, those initial 3 months, you'll see her true colors. Record everything. Watch out for claims of domestic violence. GTFO of that relationship. Get a custody order restricting her from moving away (standard btw, nothing to it). Pay child support. Do not believe she will get better with time. It never works that way. Ever! Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 11:02 PM
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Its called hypergamy. Its in their evolution. For thousands of years, caves, villages, cities, islands and coconut houses would get attacked by outsiders. Men would be killed. Offsprings would be slaughtered. Women would be saved for reproduction purposes. Their only way to survive is to adapt and accept the loss of the past and move on with the new mate. Its survival. We, as men, never had the evolutionary track and hence why to this day we are shocked by the loss and the ease of which a woman …
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 01:32 PM
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Imagine forking over a 7 figure marital assets settlement then being told the state requires you to also pay $2300 per month for the next 7 years. Oh, and keep the kids on your health insurance. All while your ex makes a 6 figure salary yet saved up 0% of it during your marriage. All while you have your kids 70% of the time. What happened to equality? Strong and independent women? Feminism doesn't get mentioned in family courts. Yeah... marriage is a scam. Child support is also a scam. Educate y…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 03:38 PM
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Child support in texas is a lucrative business. It pays for 80% of the OAG's office, family court bailiffs and contributes to the Judicial Retirement funds. Read that last one twice. Even with 50/50, you can ask for an offset child support calculation vs the state guidelines. Both parents must agree. The attorneys will advise against it as they don't want judges to hold it against them for future cases. 93% of non custodial parents in texas are fathers because father will always pay and its easi…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 02:54 PM
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Its in their evolution. For thousands of years, caves, villages, cities, islands and coconut houses would get attacked by outsiders. Men would be killed. Offsprings would be slaughtered. Women would be saved for reproduction purposes. Their only way to survive is to adapt and accept the loss of the past and move on with the new mate. Its survival. We, as men, never had the evolutionary track and hence why to this day we are shocked by the loss and the ease of which a woman can move on. Its scien…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 05:01 PM
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There is no such thing as "financial abuse" unless you are in family court. If you made less than her, she would say "emotional abuse". If you made the same amount, she'd accuse you of adultery. If you were a monk, she would accuse you of being a "child abuser"....etc. Get where I am going with this? It's always the man's fault. Don't even be phased with these accusations. Her next up game is "domestic violence" if she doesn't get her way. Record everything from this point on and be prepared for…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 04:46 PM
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In texas, that is a very fair outcome. 93% of non custodial parents are fathers. Get as much time as you can with your kids. Volunteer at their schools and build quality time based relationships. Unfortunately, abuse allegations are normal in family court. All the judges care about is child support money flowing thru the system. I'd recommend a parallel parenting class that you can stick in your mediation. Conflict will surely start up again in a few months as vindictive mothers don't typically …
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 02:47 PM
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Court is a disaster as you have no control over the outcome. Judges don't have time to dig deep into your issues as they just need to move the docket along. Its a major gamble. Mediation: you have control a bit more and can negotiate items in a controlled setting. More time also. I walked out of 3 mediations and then we came to an agreement on the 4th attempt. Better outcome than going to court/trial.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 09:46 PM
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☝️ listen to this man. Texas: 93% of non custodial parents are fathers. Temp restraining order granted to mothers: 80%, even under false allegations. Thats the trick to get you thrown out of the house. The person you married isn't the person you divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 12:29 PM
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No such thing as a good attorney. They all know each other and pray on family destruction to make their billable hours. Think about it.... the first thing you do going thru a divorce is disclose your assets, income and debts. The attorneys call each other up, after golfing with the judge last weekend, and agree to how much cut they will each suck out of your community property. They'll create false narratives and ask you not to talk to your soon to be ex. This way they can secure their "cut" wit…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 01:12 AM
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Expired RSU's aren't exercisable. So neither you nor your ex would get anything. Net new RSU's after the divorce are your sole property.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 12:01 AM
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Ain't nobody going to care during the divorce. The judge will care about splitting assets, custody and who pays child support. Don't waste your time and money paying attorneys chasing hearsay. Attorneys love to litigate hearsay and bs stories. Go to mediation, split assets, custody, child support and move the F on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 09:28 PM
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OP said "during marriage". Correct, RSU's post legal divorce (texas for me) are separate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 09:02 PM
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My attorney showed me the statue and walked me thru it. He has experience with rsu's and options. If you google your state family code and stock options, you'll know if your state has it documented. Most do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 08:47 PM
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They are considered community property. There is a formula based on when they were awarded, besting schedule and a taper down payout to your ex-wife. At least in texas, the formula was documented in statute. I had to pay 50% for those rsu vesting within a year. 25% the following year. 16% the year after...etc.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 07:24 PM
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no. It will be uncovered and really look bad on you. Accept that she will get minimum 52% since you are the main earner. texas is anti father state. 91% of non custodial parents are fathers. You'll get joint decision making and custody but standard is every other weekend and one overnight per week plus alternating holidays. she'll have to buy you out of the house equity. no. If you move, you'll get less time with your kid. on the below question, no. All states will give minimum 50%. Texas is goo…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 12:44 PM
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Two lawyers: one criminal and one civil. DA can drop the case if she will file an affidavit of Non prosecution. Be nice. Get that done. Expunge your record within 30 days of DA dismissing the case. Once the 30 days pass, file for divorce and then move out to avoid any new false allegations. Get a voice recorder and record everything. Do not even raise your voice anymore. Be nice and get rid of her. She will do it again and you'll be back asking why you didn't listen to my advice. Assets will be …
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 02:21 AM
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IRS debt for back due taxes is about the only legit way. Your approach will be obvious. Judges will see right thru your approach. But, if your business owes the IRS back taxes and you're under water, the judge won't mess with that. Its legit debt. A forensics accountant will immediately see what you are doing and you'll be in trouble.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 03:24 AM
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She is angry and attorney's make money off of emotional charged up ex-wives. This isn't just your case, but pretty much every single divorce case where one side is emotional. Acceptance. You need to accept that you will be set back years in financial resources. There is nothing you can do about it other than advocate against the destructive nature of family courts. If you have to pay a little more to get out, do it. Otherwise, the attorneys are going to make out like a bandit. I was in your shoe…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 07:57 PM
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These stories are why marriage is dead in the US. Any man getting married is flat out an idiot or low income. You can have children, a girlfriend but no need to cohabitate. The stories are real and not just a Hollywood thing anymore. Men need to educate other men. Yes, I know there are good stories of divorces, but thats less than 1% of the population. The laws are written by attorneys, do not expect the law to change. Only way true men's right movement is educate the younger men of the flaws of…
/r/MensRights14/07/23 04:04 AM
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Thank you for the translations! 3 years after divorce and I was starting to wonder if I was all those things as I still hear them every week!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 03:28 AM
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Brother, Look at my post history. I've been thru hell and back. Kids pawned against me, financially lost half of everything that took me 20 years to build. I fought so hard and didn't give up. Got my 50/50. A year later, I am back in court and lost access to my kids again and now have to pay her attorney fees. A couple of things I learned: 1) if you are fighting a vindictive mother, it will never end. 2) a vindictive mother will use the system (family kangaroo circus court) against you and drain…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 08:13 AM
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I am sorry you are going thru this. Many men have gone thru your path. Its destructive and mentally exhausting. You will soon realize staying in Ukraine was peaceful compared to going thru family court in western countries (US, Canada, UK..etc). The system will emasculate you, rip your money for child support payments from your wallet thru your asshole with the long thick fist of feminist laws. My advice: focus on you, don't fight a losing battle and play calm and cool long game. Don't try to ma…
/r/MensRights10/07/23 08:55 PM
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Depends on income disparity, length of marriage, community estate size. Either way, be prepared to fork over some money to attorneys. Need more details. 91% of non custodial parents in texas are fathers (source OAG). You'll get standard possession unless her attorney convinces her that you were controlling, abusive and a bad father. Someone has to feed the attorneys children.....
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 11:38 PM
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Kevin costner. Tyreese. Dr. dre. A prenup can still be challenged and unless you have money, the lawyers will milk you to fight it and force you to settle. Marriage is dead. 20+ years from now, population decline to the point forcing lawmakers to do something, but then they'll get challenged by women's rights movements and more attorneys. Its beyond repair at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 08:40 PM
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I went thru this except mine was from the US. Same story. Fought like hell. Got 50/50. 3 years later, back to zero contact with kids. Court bought her story of alienation. Now I have to go prove that I am not alienating. Its my responsibility to prove that I didn't do something. If a vindictive mother is determined to erase you from the child's life, be prepared to fight it out in the broken family court system every few years. Haven't made a decision yet but debating just walking away and comin…
/r/MensRights08/07/23 07:36 PM
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As coach greg adams said... if this was a man doing this to his daughter, he'd be chained up with a muzzle on his mouth like hannibal from silence of the lambs. His pic would've been posted and shown in every major news outlet.
/r/MensRights07/07/23 01:25 PM
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You bust your behind and work 60 hours a week for 20 years.... invest it and double down on passive income.....then you hand it over to your ex and attorneys..... all for 7 years worth of a marriage.... biggest mistake of my life was getting married.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 12:41 AM
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$258k in attorney fees here. Lost $1.4mil in community assets, that I built up. Down the line split. Paying another $250k in child support over next 8 years for 50/50 custody. Any idiot thinking about marriage needs to reach out to me so I can stomp some reality into what the system does to men in family court. Attorneys feed off of a woman's emotions but only the man gets screwed. A woman will collect cash prizes in the way out. Its a lucrative incentive for a woman to get a divorce in a high n…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 10:49 PM
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Not in Texas. Doesn't matter if you see the child once every 6 months or have them for 50% of the time. Its the same 20% of your income. He doesn't pay child support on his teenage kids. So no discounts either.
/r/MensRights30/03/23 04:12 AM
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50 year old with a 1 year old? Does that compute? In texas, even full shared custody (full 50/50), fathers still pay child support. So now she gets two weeks off a month, dad is daddy daycare and she collects child support. Its worse than actually just walking away and paying CS.
/r/MensRights30/03/23 01:09 AM
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Best advice.... but he is already baby trapped. I feel sorry for the guy. Saw him at lunch today and his entire demeanor was crushed. I told him to get therapy as he didn't sound mentally right.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 10:27 PM
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He has 3 kids already here. Leave them? Run from child support means your passport will be frozen by the state department eventually. You'll be arrested upon entry and put in jail for not paying child support. Leave his life because men have no reproductive rights?
/r/MensRights29/03/23 10:09 PM
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Its a slave labor for fathers on child support. 91% of non-custodial parents, who pay child support, are fathers. Its about to sky rocket over the next 5 years due to the abortion ban.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 09:19 PM
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Judges don't care about who said what or when. They process child support orders based on the state's calculator. The state funds the judicial retirement fund. No judge is going to waive child support just because the man was suckered into having a baby with a short term fling.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 09:11 PM
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Texas child support does give her that right. Fathers are optional in Texas and if he doesn't want to be involved, the state doesn't care. They only care about the money flowing in for child support through the system. A man must pay child support if the mother chooses to keep the baby. No way around it at all.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 12:39 PM
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Yes, dna test to establish paternity is his next step. Once proven, he is under her control, enforced by the state, for 18 years. You can’t force an abortion and in Texas, they’ll prosecute you if you even aid in it.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 12:32 PM
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Similar situation here. My answers in OFW are limited to “Yes, No, I disagree, I can’t afford it.” If she comes back arguing, I just ignore. My divorce decree says I have to check Ofw every 5 days. I check it once a month. I decline any expense in Ofw that I didn’t explicitly say “yes” to. I approve unreimbursed medical bill in Ofw. I avoid any face to face contact and will not attend any school or sports event during her parenting time. If she attends any during my time, I stay 100 ft away (by …
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 12:25 PM
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He isn’t going to fight it to be involved. Dude is done with babies.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 12:17 PM
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She flat out told him she is keeping the baby, men have no rights and she doesn’t want him to be involved other than pay. He doesn’t want another child nor be involved. Forget child support, it’s the mindset she has! How he missed the feminist red flags is beyond me…..
/r/MensRights29/03/23 12:12 PM
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I live in Dallas and the one here has over 70K women. Two of my really good friends (females) and my current gf are on the site. So I see what gets posted on some of the dudes. Let me be very clear: 1) They post pictures of "possible" dates and want to know if the dude is good or not. 2) They post pictures of guys that they have dates and either it didn't work out or the dude was seeing other women at the same time From there, it's like sharks circling blood. They will completely destroy the man…
/r/MensRights24/03/23 08:57 PM
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Child support is pretty much guaranteed. So why not kick the man to the curb, claim child support to keep the paycheck and go explore your sexuality? Wash, rinse and repeat. It’s a career for some.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 03:12 AM
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Divorce is freedom. Divorce is a gift wrapped in rebuilding yourself wrapping paper. Once you open that gift, its the best version of YOU. Divorce doesn't kill you, but staying married would've. Divorce is an opportunity to show your kids how men handle conflict and adversity. Divorce will always be freedom
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 03:24 AM
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Same to you! Have both my boys this week and hosting a valentine dinner for my 15 year old son and his girlfriend tonight! Going all out!
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 11:38 AM
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No chance for child support if paternity comes back as the children are not yours. Make sure your attorney files immediately. Texas is 20% for first child then add 5% for second child with a maximum cap. So for two kids, the max is $2300 per month plus medical, dental and optional vision coverage. 50/50 all unreimbursed medical and sports. Texas is trying to pass a law to pay child support at conception, ain’t going to fly due to these cases. You’ll be fine if paternity test is demanded within 3…
/r/MensRights03/02/23 01:45 AM
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Have your attorney send a cease and desist letter to her attorney outlining the specific issue. I had to do the same. The hovering was being done and sometimes the grandmother would get in on it. Disgusting approach by some women that use children for punitive punishment.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 07:57 PM
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Join a divorce support group. Plenty on meetup. Talk your heart out and hear other amazing stories of marriages ending in flames. It’s free!
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 12:03 PM
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I have several text messages from my oldest son that read as follows: “I feel very uncomfortable with this guy sleeping here”. “Brother woke up and came to my room. He feels unsafe with this guy walking around downstairs.” “Dad, alarm system went off and this guy is here in middle of the night.” “Dad, I don’t feel comfortable and asked mom to come spend time with you but she said no.” “Dad, I want to come to your house but I can’t leave my brother here with this guy”. Is that jealousy? What woul…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 08:05 PM
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She won’t even give me his first name. I found out from the kids. They don’t know who he is, what he does for a living or his last name. He spends the night and my youngest and oldest complained to their mom several times (I have it in writing) about them not feeling comfortable. She just ignores them and says it’s just adjustment time. Kinda hard to run a background check when he doesn’t park in the drive way and I have no info on the guy. He hides inside when I go to pickup the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 07:51 PM
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I am dating but spending the night isn’t something I am interested in having my kids go through. My home is their sanctuary and while they see a girl or two come and go, none are allowed to spend the night during my parenting time. But if the ex wants to meet them, I would have no issues with it. It’s her kids also….
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 05:47 PM
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This is my concern. My kids say he has two children but has restricted access. So this new dude has more access to my kids (50%) of the time but he only sees his kids once a month. Something is fishy…..
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 04:55 PM
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Hey kids, I met this guy. He is fine. It’s ok if a new man is around and let’s give him time. It’s also an adjustment period. I can’t say that today as I don’t know him from Jeffrey Dhamer.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 04:00 PM
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Thank you. Will look into this if she continues to refuse.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:59 PM
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That’s what I am trying to do but she is refusing. I just want to buy the guy coffee and get a feel on who this man is. He has access to my children, in their home and I don’t care about her life. I don’t want to knock on the door during exchanges asking to meet him as that’s very intimidating. I also don’t want to meet the guy and it turn ugly in-front of my kids with the baby mama. Ideas?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:51 PM
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She isn’t disclosing any of this info but the children complained recently when he started showing up and spending the night. All within the last 4 weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:48 PM
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My kids 11 and 15 are both boys. We have a very strong relationship as I’ve been the primary male figure in their entire lives.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:47 PM
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Why would I try to get full custody? She is their mother and deserves 50% of the children. Toxic yes, but a good mother. My concerns are with a strange man sleeping in the same house as my children.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:46 PM
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Not spying or concerned with what the ex does on her own time. My concern is my children (11 and 15) repeatedly telling me he is creepy. I offered to take the guy out for coffee. She refused.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:39 PM
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Yes of course I can. But what does that have to do with meeting the ex’s bf?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 02:48 PM
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She is keeping OP around as “friends” while she discovers herself in other men’s bedrooms. OP, you’ll be back here in a few years, once she hits the wall and tells you “that’s you, you are my guy, take me back”…… don’t. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/23 09:35 PM
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Family court. If you’ve never experience it, then you have no idea how toxic and powerful feminism is.
/r/AntiFeminists10/01/23 06:18 PM
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False allegations in family court is the standard approach. It’s a whole other level of angry when she files false criminal charges also. Read my story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 01:37 PM
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The only way. If you don’t, she’ll file against you and say you hit her. Your life will be ruined as nobody will believe you didn’t. Happens every day. Go spend the day in a police station, it’s like a women’s therapy shelter.
/r/MensRights05/01/23 10:04 PM
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My son called yesterday and told me mom left him (m10) at home for New Year’s Eve and didn’t come back till 2 pm yesterday and spent the night with her boyfriend. She flew her mom in from another state to watch him. His older brother (m14) was out all night also. She barely saw them in December and as soon as her parenting time started 4 days ago, she was out all night till the next day. All paid for by child support and my past earnings. Nothing can be done about it. Funnel that anger into the …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 04:00 PM
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If you have children, get a fathers rights attorney (male or female). I had both since mine was very high conflict. Plus a female GAL, female custody evaluator, female therapist for the kids. No kids? Doesn’t really matter as it’s right down the middle on assets.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 11:38 PM
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Your success post divorce isn’t measured by the next relationship. It’s defined by your ability to weather this divorce storm, get your life in order, get your financials back on track, get your kids (if any) on a schedule and your self care (gym, weight loss) back in tip top shape. I did that for the year following my divorce (was a very rough one) and understood the hypergamous nature of women. Begin to understand the saying of “she is never yours, it’s just your turn” and you’ll understand wh…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 08:36 PM
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Welcome to Texas….. first, family court is run by the bar association. So expect to be drained financially. Second, Texas only has a custodial vs non custodial parent. So even if you have 50/50 custody, you are the NCP and must pay child support. That money goes through the state distribution unit. They state collects federal grant reimbursements from title IV-D. The state is incentivized to force one parent to pay. Mothers have 91% custody in the state of Texas as they want the men out working …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 02:49 PM
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I was 29 when my ex-wife pulled the same “no prenup and let’s get married” stunt. Fast forward 15 years later, here is the finale to my marriage: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Read it and then either decide to have a similar outcome and the family court slaughterhouse or you bail today off of that girl. Son, do not make the same mistake as those that came before you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 04:41 AM
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So many common stories, including mine. But think of it this way: - you won by getting divorced. Imagine her pulling this nuclear bomb when you are 55 or 60! - they are still not going to be happy. Even divorced, with a stack of cash, they’ll post on fb how happy and strong they are but we all know it’s fake. Deep down, a woman can’t take responsibility for her actions and will never admit her fault in the destruction of the marriage. They’ll ride the cock train until they hit the wall and reali…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 09:41 PM
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Not worth your effort…. A woman needs validation in the court of public opinion….. and the regular courts would go broke if women didn’t make up majority of false accusations to string along attorney billable hours…. We wouldn’t have the likes of Amber Heard! Not worth your effort, money or energy. The best way to get back at them is to live your life to the fullest and give zero f*cks about her bs…..
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:29 PM
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I share my story all the time…… not only is it so common in divorces, the attorneys coach their clients to do so. There are YouTube videos and Facebook women groups that will provide step by step in the hopes fathers just give up the fight and live destroyed for the rest of their lives…. My story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/MensRights17/12/22 01:55 AM
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Your story needs to be amplified and every young man should read it. This is why I go out of my way to educate young unmarried men (including my two teenage boys) of the implications of marriage. It’s a suicide contract at this point. You’ll spend another $100k in appeal and she’ll still get maybe the same amount or something cosmetically less. I am sorry brother. Truly sorry that you are going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 11:05 PM
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👆the first line in the answer is all you need to drill in your head….. I’ll repeat it: Not 1 f#%king thing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 09:41 PM
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My gf is a dental hygienist, but let me tell you, her place is always a disaster. Bed never made, dishes everywhere, laundry maybe twice a month. My house, spotless (I clean it), beds made every morning (I force my kids to tidy up and make their beds everyday). She spends a few nights here and every time, she leaves without making the bed, her coffee and plates on the kitchen table, empty water bottles everywhere and clothes on the floor. 🤬 My ex’s also were not as well groomed in house chores e…
/r/MensRights15/12/22 04:59 PM
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Seeking
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 02:45 PM
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My kids ended up staying in a hotel, hitting the indoor pool, gym and ordering room service non-stop. My child support money paid for it..... I slept good those nights!
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 07:30 PM
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Buy new..... My ex took a portable generator I had in the garage. I asked about it and she said the movers must've taken it. A year later, my son calls and says the generator won't start as they lost power and mom wants to run extension chords to the fridge. I told him the movers took the generator and that his mom should call the movers. It was a 3 day power outage (here in Texas) and she lost all the food that was in the fridge plus they had to go stay in a hotel. Karma is a b!tch! I still get…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 05:29 PM
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My ex's entire net worth was $27K that she had saved up prior to the marriage. Fast forward to after the divorce, her net worth sits at over $1mil, $600K house, Tesla and zero debts plus the same $65K job she had before. Plus $2300 per month in tax free child support payments for only having the kids 2 weeks per month. All thanks to the community estate I built up. Tell me how women are not incentivized to destroy the family unit and go ride the cock train on her ex-husbands earnings? This is wh…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 05:24 PM
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Being aware is being warned. Sorry to be blunt, but my ex was having sex with me after filing for divorce and was pretending all is well. Do not ever assume that “it’s not that bad” is a sign of “all is well”.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 01:24 PM
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I will give you advice that I wish someone gave me when I first started having kids and realized my marriage is doomed: - get out now. Stop thinking it will ever get better. - do not put up with your current life and go make another one. - kids are resilient and will adjust to coparenting. - file first, amicable, ask for 50/50 custody and 50/50 assets. - the day after you file, move out to avoid false allegations. This concept of stay in the house is an old wives tale that opens up the door for …
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 01:07 PM
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I’ll summarize my story as I’ve learned that hearing other men’s stories helps: - blindsided by divorce, tro, po and was homeless. I netted 7 figures that year and she made less than $65k that same year I was discarded. That was my highest earning year EVER and she knew when to strike. - took a whole year to battle in family court while my children were taken away and under her and her attorney’s protection. Got the divorce done after a year of living in a rental and paying over $300k in attorne…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 02:27 AM
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The comparison should be male vs female child support obligations. In texas, the higher earner is obligated to pay child support, even if it’s 50/50. But, if a man isn’t paying child support, he ends up in jail. A woman wouldn’t as she is taking care of that child 50% of the time. Same situation reversed, the man will be chased down, drivers license suspended and eventually put in jail. There are no men’s rights in family court. Just woman rights as they are the weaker sex needing big government…
/r/MensRights13/12/22 04:39 AM
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Go ahead and tell Eli Evans that his story is nonsense: https://youtu.be/6zyDgJlQU-E How about all the other fathers that have lost access to their kids? Forced into slavery via child support system? I am sure it’s nonsense, but a whole lot of fathers would disagree.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 03:02 AM
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Your constitutional rights are waived in family court. No due process, no evidence and the defendant is responsible for proving his innocence. No jury. 1st and 4th amendments all get thrown out the door and if there is a Protective Order, your 2nd amendment is also thrown out the door while you have to prove innocence. Tell me where in the US constitution are your rights as a citizen waived? Nobody tells you that when you sign a marriage certificate.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 02:28 AM
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“That is likely because family law cases, often centering on divorces and related child custody issues, produce particularly strong emotions among involved parties, an attorney interviewed by the journal said.” Really? Let’s see… she probably accused him of violence, took his kids, wants all his net worth, threw him out of his house and wants child support. Let’s look at the circus that is family court first to see why some men are driven to such extreme actions, including suicide.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 11:39 PM
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Divorce her.
/r/MensRights12/12/22 11:19 PM
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In family court, hold an emotional woman accountable for false allegations? Nope. In criminal court, hold a lying woman accountable? Nope. At the police station, anyone care about holding a woman accountable for filing a false police report? Nope. Been in all three. What country do you think you live in? Same country that traded a woman for the lord of war. Your question made me laugh….
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 11:04 PM
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Nothing will ever change as family court is run by bar association clowns. As long as people keep getting married and having kids, nothing will stop the money train…. Only way to win the game is to not play at all. No marriage and no kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 08:29 PM
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One of the most illegal and unconstitutional tactics used in the circus of family law. It is used to typically throw the man out of the house, setup the mother with full custodial rights (temporarily) and sets the stage for legal fees to pay the attorney’s kid’s college funds. About a few hundred years ago, they used to hang witches based on unsubstantiated complaints and word of mouth. That concept moves later into “preponderance” of evidence. That’s the bar used in family court for evidence to…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 06:18 PM
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I went from 4 hours on Saturdays only to full 50/50 and full primary, as long as I paid full child support $2,300 per month. Texas. It’s not illegal for mothers to sell their children back to their fathers in exchange for more money. No judge will care. There is no moral or legal obligations for either parent when it comes to custody or parenting time in exchange for more money.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/22 10:44 PM
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The most corrupt institution of government is family court. Constitutional rights are waived the minute you sign a state marriage certificate. Judges can order anything they want, without jury, and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Only way to win the game is to not play it at all. Marriage is a death sentence to the high earner, a future ransom payment if you have kids and your a slave to the system. I wish more men with educate younger and unmarried men about what marriage has turned in…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 04:12 AM
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Go file asap. Be ready for the battle of your life. Read my story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I will say this with all seriousness: women are coached and attorneys will flat out tell her you hit her and your life will be upside down for a few years. Being aware is being warned. She will divorce you and there is nothing you can do to save the marriage. Go file. Set the narrative and then you’ll still be i…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 03:18 AM
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And very expensive……..
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 09:24 PM
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Zero accountability. The legal system in the US, built by bar associations, is incentivized for high conflict. No judge will ever prosecute (criminal) a false allegation of abuse against a man. Been there and witnessed it first hand.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 09:24 PM
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It’s a standard “get angry and find an angry attorney” so that I can protect myself and the children from that man. I just want his financial support but I also need him punished. Read my story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 09:22 PM
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Take mommy - err - child support out of the equation and you’ll see how quick governments start holding mothers accountable. Unfortunately, women make up 70% - 80% of voters. So that base is much more needed than disposable men. Protect the weaker sex, protect the children and the village will survive mentality. Sickening…… Only way to win this game is to not participate. Protect your seed, you’ll protect your assets and soul from such fraud!
/r/AntiFeminists07/12/22 09:18 PM
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Get ready for the following: - babysitters on your dime via child support - clothes war (why didn’t you return the socks, underwear, that momma bought with your child support money?) - withholding medical and educational decisions from you - alienating the children by constantly bad mouthing you - turning in $3 expenses for your share of the copay - having the children call you to ask for money as mom doesn’t have any - changing schedules last min because she is a strong and independent person t…
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 05:51 PM
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Max cap in texas on child support is $2300 per month for two kids. Add 5% for each kid thereafter. Healthcare for the kids will be on you. Alimony is locked in at 1 year if you’ve been married over 10 years. She will have to work after 1 year. If she is a stay at home mom, she’ll get a little more than 50/50 assets as texas is a “just and right” division of the estate state. So figure 55% of the assets. You must file first and claim adultery. Texas is a no fault state but you will be able to get…
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 12:52 PM
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It’s not about the girl.. it’s about the laws. So even if you marry an angel, she decides to walk out because she is not happy, boom, have your assets are gone, child support and alimony in some cases. It’s about the laws. The awareness and education about marriage laws is crucial before getting married. Yes, it’s helped and I’ve saved a couple of guys from making that catastrophic mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 10:47 PM
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Bingo! “Just have fun” and enjoy it while it lasts. Brother, take it from someone who has learned the hard way. Two marriages, two kids, 8 amazing relationships just this year….. it’s not about the relationship….. your purpose should be YOU. If a girl comes along, great, if not, find one that can satisfy your needs for the weekend and move on. Way too many men are focused on relationships. Divorce should’ve taught us a thing or two about the implications! Relationships are a loss in this day and…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 07:13 PM
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Why are you dating or looking for a relationship? In today’s market and online apps, you can have a different girl every weekend or every month and live that initial new relationship high all year long with 3 to 4 back to backs. I do not recommend men, post divorce, to get into dating to look for a relationship. Do not have the FOMO (fear of missing out) disease. Divorce should’ve taught you that relationships do not last. Love is temporary and only for the initial period of being with someone. …
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 06:51 PM
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Serendipitous, Ye is listening to “gold digger” song right now…..
/r/MensRights30/11/22 08:33 PM
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Been married twice….first wife didn’t want anything and just walked out with what she brought it in. No kids. Second wife wanted everything including complete destruction of my professional career. Have two kids with her and it’s hell trying to coparent with a narcissistic malicious mother. I only gave her half my assets and full child support for 50/50 custody. I will not be gambling again with marriage or cohabitation. The pain and suffering isn’t worth it. In a long term relationship now, she…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 01:21 AM
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I’m in on the WhatsApp group…. Been out for 2 years but always helping current men going the family court circus….
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 07:29 PM
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A man courts a woman hoping she stays the same…. A woman courts a man to change him!
/r/MensRights31/10/22 11:02 PM
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Because now they can run it through the state collection office. Here are the benefits: 1) the state will collect 66 cents for every dollar they “collect and enforce” from the federal government. Title IV-D of the social security act. 2) the judge presiding will get his judicial retirement fund with a portion of that state enforced collection. In the best interest of the child doesn’t trump the state making money and the judge adding to their judicial retirement fund. This is why child support i…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 04:42 PM
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It’s not just marriage, it’s having kids all together. Most states in the US will default custody to the unmarried mother and place the father on child support. Men have no reproductive rights or a say in having the child. Forget getting married, a one night mistake could be an 18 year payout. Even if the man was raped, you still get punished and pay child support with default minimal visitation rights. All that and paternity fraud is at an all time high. Even if it’s not your kid, if you get ma…
/r/MensRights18/10/22 04:18 PM
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In a 50/50 situation with the child having equal access to both parents, one side should not be funding the other side’s lifestyle. That’s why even if both parents are fit, able and willing, the mom just throws a fit and withholds kids until she gets paid. 91% of the time in Texas. Child support is just mommy support. Let’s call it for what it is.
/r/MensRights17/10/22 12:40 AM
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Judges don't care. They want you of the docket as quickly as possible and onto the next. They want the assets split and one side to pay child support. The smear campaign is normal. Get used to it. She is not happy now and trying to play with your head. Stick with the divorce. It will get uglier, but you'll be better off. Expect the worst to still come out.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 06:12 PM
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As sad as it is, the mother will not allow 50/50 because of child support payment risk. The courts in some states wont allow 50/50 unless both parents agree and are both able, fit and willing. The state gets reimbursements from Title-IV D (federal money) for collecting and pushing child support payments through the system. Some judges get their judicial retirement fund via the state agency that collects child support. You see where I am going with this..... It's a legal RICO organization that al…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 04:26 PM
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Talk to someone. Join a divorce recovery support group (lookup heartbreaksupport.com) We've all been through hell and back. If you need someone to listen, DM me and I'll give you my number and you can unload.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 03:44 PM
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Jeff young, who is running for a seat in Texas senate is the source. https://youtu.be/QYe25tIaLZk Here are the stats for other states: https://www.justgreatlawyers.com/legal-guides/child-custody-statistics
/r/MensRights16/10/22 10:45 AM
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In the state of Texas, 91% of divorced fathers are non custodial parents. That means 91% are funding the ex wife’s lifestyle via child support. The state of Texas is a no fault divorce. So wife, or husband, an go cheat and the assets would be split in half either way. A marriage is a contract where one side is incentivized and 91% guaranteed child support and 50% of the assets. All the woman has to do is claim “I am not happy” when her hypergamous clock rings. She walks out free and clear with k…
/r/MensRights16/10/22 02:59 AM
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It’s not child care, it’s child support. Texas family law indicated that alimony is negotiated for marriages over 10 years AND the obligee (your wife) is unable to earn a job. Unless she has zero skills or degree, you can negotiate that down to zero years of alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 10:53 AM
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You are in Texas! Even if marriage was over 10 years, she would only get 1 year worth of alimony. Texas doesn’t like alimony as they want people working. She will get you for child support for sure, expect about $2300 per month max cap, plus healthcare for kids and up to 75% of extra curricular activity. She needs to get a job.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 01:59 AM
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Part of the corruption with the child support system is that each state collects about 66 cents in reimbursements for each dollar going through the state’s collection agency. That’s under a social security provision that was signed in 1974 known as Title IV-D. In addition, in my state (Texas), the judicial retirement fund is funded from that money also. So, it benefits the state to issue child support orders, the judges that have complete authority to do so and the mother who wants child support…
/r/MensRights02/10/22 11:36 AM
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So she divorced Jeff B (richest man on earth), the new guy I believe is a school teacher, had no chance from the start! I am sure both heard the “I am not happy” line a few times…. 🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 11:01 PM
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What income? You are hourly and they only pay you $10 per hour for your part time 32 hours per week work. Your child support will be imputed at that rate.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/22 02:41 AM
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You are an employee and all those items are business expenses. Assets are owned by the company. Never put it in your name. It belongs to the business and you use it as part of the business. All this needs to be done before marriage though. If you open the business during marriage, then your wife owns half of it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/22 02:17 AM
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Nope. Hence I am trying to document it in our parenting plan to be a “no questions and No obligation” plan. Example: Can you watch xxx child on yyy date for zzz hours? Response should be: yes or no. No further questions. Neither needs to know where the other parent is going or what the specifics are. No implications to say no or yes either. If you live so close (I do) and have 50/50 (I do but still pay child support) then why not have FOFR?
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 03:56 PM
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My youngest is 10. Other parent can ignore the FROR but in texas, settlement agreements are binding. So its basically up to other parent if they decide to adhere but it would be in contempt of court. Would I fight her in court over it? Probably not. It's really in the best interest of the child.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 01:50 PM
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Actually have a call this afternoon with a mediator to add FROR to my parenting plan. My ask is to get 24-48 hour notice to watch my kids if other parent will be gone for more than 2 hours. We live close to each other and my youngest keeps complaining about other parent’s babysitters. If I am available, I’d prefer child be dropped off at my place and picked up afterwards. If you live close, then it should be an option to exercise. It helps both parents out and fosters good coparenting. A child b…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 11:31 AM
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Lookup coach Greg Adams on YouTube and binge watch for 2 straight days. You will get all your answers and then some. You are in the 3rd quarter of the marriage wheel. Understand it. Understand hypergamy and move on. There is nothing you can do here other than minimize your financial damage moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 12:30 AM
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Lookup coach Greg Adam’s on YouTube and start binge watching. Learn about the marriage wheel. She was never yours, it was just your turn. Man up, move on and don’t get emotional.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 11:38 AM
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Divorce is a wealth redistribution system and attorneys are simply the clerks that work in the system. The clerks simply make sure that the wealth is getting evenly balanced based on the state laws. It isn’t the attorneys that are useless, it’s the laws that need to be changed. Many of the divorces are initiated by the women and yet they get rewarded generously for breaking the marriage oath. We need to go change the laws to stop this fleecing of the higher earner. Once those laws change, attorn…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 09:06 AM
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Do not ever get married:l. EVER! If you want kids, have a kid with a girlfriend that lives separately. Agree to 50/50 custody. Pay child support if you have to. But never get married. Imagine being high earner, and having to write a $1.2 million check for just 7 years work of marriage and paying child support for 10 years? Don’t ask me how I know this!
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 08:08 PM
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A grown adult needing to be paid alimony after the marriage has ended. Same shit concept as pay child support even if you have 50/50 so that the other adult can provide the same standard of living to the child. This country is doomed with these backwards welfare systems that penalize one parent over the other. Good for you brother. I have 8 years to go!
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 08:03 PM
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But the ex was still spending the night at her house “watching the kids”. She got mad at the current boyfriend for asking “why is your ex there at 1 am?” The only abuse here is her towards the new boyfriend. Either way, I shouldn’t get banned from the subreddit just because I told the dude to please do some homework on single mothers.
/r/MensRights18/08/22 05:16 PM
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Agreed. I got banned yesterday from r/coparenting because I replied to a guy about doing research on dating single mothers who still let their ex’s spend the night at their house. Bam, immediate bam for “misagony”. Literally for giving the guy advice to do homework on single mothers…. What the heck!?!?
/r/MensRights18/08/22 08:27 AM
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No. Unless it’s specifically called out in your decree, do not pay anything beyond child support, unreimbursed medical and any agreed upon extracurricular activities. Much higher income earner here, she made $65k a year and was worth less than $20k to her name before divorce. Here come the false allegations, complete toxicity and money grab attorneys. She walked out with $1.2 million cash settlement. I fought false allegations and won in criminal court. Pay max texas child support ($2300 per mon…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 07:05 PM
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Listen to this… Please. Your marriage is over. Do not be stupid and believe otherwise. You will get slaughtered and accused of abuse and taken to the cleaners. You need to listen and read this over and over again. Your marriage is over.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 09:53 AM
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Not saying this happens to all men, but 90% of the men need the waiver signed before getting married. There are stories like yours (less than 10% of men) that make it through the slaughterhouse. Good for you brother. But you are an exception to the rule. One wrong turn and you could’ve ended up a stat…..
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 10:00 PM
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Do not ever get married. The laws are stacked against you. Until the laws change, which they will considering the huge drop in birth rates, stay out of the slaughterhouse known as family court. Spread the word!
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 09:22 PM
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As long as you aren’t paying for the vacation via child support, let it go. The new schmuck will get his turn also. If you are paying child support, I’d be playing dirty and go scorched earth as you know that money is now being mixed in to pay for the vacation. Hypergamy at its finest!
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 04:06 PM
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Texas family court is a vile cesspool of corruption. I am sorry your friend is going through this. I went through similar circumstances and judges here do not care. They are funded by state reimbursements and elected as judges by their attorney friends. The state’s juvenile board responsible for most child related laws is led by a woman who has no children and has been arrested on dwi, yet she is still in seat due to the strong hold of the bar association. Having children in Texas is a death sen…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 03:59 PM
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To adjust, I created a checklist about 3 months into my divorce after an 18 year relationship and being a super dad to my two boys. The checklist helped during the weeks I didn’t have the kids. I would wake up at 5 am, do my bed, workout (couldn’t afford a gym, so I bought used dumbbells and a bar). Work, come home and clean one room top to bottom, make food (never ate outside) and wait for my seeking girl to come over and give me a BJ and have sex. I could only afford her once a week. I go fish…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 02:13 AM
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Prenups have nothing to do with custody or child support. Prenups will protect your assets. Child support is debt collection enforced by the state. Custody is access to children, also enforced by the state and decided by family court. Family court is a racket scheme of corruption that has placed itself above regular law and a prenup is a probate/tort contract. Be careful thinking a prenup would protect a man from such an outcome. It doesn’t.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 12:10 PM
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In texas also, had expanded standard plus 1 night which meant full child support but only had kids 13 days per month. It was too much back and forth on kids. Their mom didn’t budge since she wants full child support. So I offered her full child support but for us to go week on/week off. She said yes faster than the judge could sign the new modification order. At end of the day, if both parents are fit, able and willing AND live close to each other, then 50/50 should be the standard. Only reason …
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 06:40 PM
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Second guy in less than 48 hours going through the same thing. Judges need to wake up and realize this is a trick and a tactic used in divorce cases…. I digress .. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/w0u1zs/dealing_with_nonsense_tro_feels_like_an_uphill/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 05:06 PM
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😇 that’s how we roll in texas!
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 05:22 PM
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Seeking.com Have 4 in the rotation. $500 per meet. Ages 26, 29, 33 and 37. All well educated, super smart, very attractive but need an extra boost to their income and companionship with a wealthy man to enjoy the lifestyle of weekend trips, boat outings and ranch dinners. No drama, meet, have fun, have sex, they either spend the night or not, and leave. You don’t pay to have sex. You pay them to leave and they do and text you “had an amazing time with you, can’t wait till next time”. Quick cash …
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 12:15 PM
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Yup. No bruises and no injuries. Police officer even had it in the report:”no visible injuries.” Just remember to stay calm and collected and recognize this is a game used by so many women. Go get the books: “The Respondent” and “the third gift”. Wait till her alienation tactics begin with the kids, that’s a whole another level of crazy that will come out.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 12:07 PM
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All the same. Domestic violence felony is as bad as it gets and will stay on your record for life. If she drops charges then it goes away. Do not take a plea bargain other than complete dismissal. You are still innocent until proven guilty. Stay the course. She got half the assets. That’s what happens in a divorce in texas. Everything 50-50 split of assets and debts.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 03:25 AM
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Very serious. It happens every day, all day and every single woman falsely accusing a man of DV gets away with it. They ruin it for real DV victims but they don’t care as long as they win the divorce. The alleged assaults happened two weeks after she filed for divorce (without telling me that she filed) and she was supposed to serve me but the courts were backed up. So here come the assault charges since DV cases move up much faster and ex-parte protective orders get priority. At first I only go…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 02:32 AM
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She accused me of assault. No proof. Just her word. Problem is prosecutors (especially a woman) won’t drop assault charges, even if fabricated. They know this is a game but way too scared to drop the charges so they take it to trial unless you admit or plead guilty. Even with no evidence! Some women get coached by attorneys to pull that silver bullet tactic as a way to gain custody and an upper hand during the divorce. I didn’t fall for the trick and fought hard, almost went broke and lost it al…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 10:15 PM
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The drama of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 10:10 PM
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Family courts are a racket. Judges don’t punish women for such false allegations and many men get their lives ripped apart. Stay calm and collected. Do not get angry or show emotions. It will take a good solid year for this to shake out. Coach your kids to never get married and preach the stupidity of the courts to others. My story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 01:08 PM
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Started with 6 hours only a month then every other weekend then now 50/50. I still pay child support as ransom. Family court supports such extortion tactics as a way to fund all the attorneys, clerks, judges, campaign contributions….etc. You’ll get there. Keep your cool. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 05:29 PM
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Keep your cool. Do not violate the protective order. You will not lose custody of your kids. Once proven false, she won’t be held accountable but the judge will see that she didn’t act in good faith. It’s unfortunate that false DV charges get used to get the upper hand in divorce cases, but if you keep your cool and fight this hard, you will come out on top at the end. Long road ahead. Took me 2.5 years but I made it out of the slaughter house unscathed.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 02:21 PM
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You make it your job to study the law and prove to the corrupt family courts that you are a fit, willing and able dad. It’s the most screwed up thing in family court. Fathers have to prove they are fit and able. Mothers simply have to show up to the table to get 50/50. The responsibility is on us though as men to educate the next generation of this flawed court system. Only way is to not participate in the system by not having kids until the laws change to presumptive 50/50 in each state. Become…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 03:18 AM
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This! I burnt a quarter of a million and she realized I was going to burn it all on legal fees. She gave up the fight. A mother that fights a fit, able and willing father on 50/50 has a special place in hell waiting for her. Do not waiver. Your kids will see it when they are older. My son told me a few weeks ago:” Dad, I know you fought hard for us for two years. Everything you do was for me and my brother.” Let that sink in.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 07:03 PM
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It will only be FAIR for HER. Lawyer up asap. Do not meet with her lawyer without your own representation. The woman you married isn’t the woman you divorce. Get ready to be divorce graped in family court. (G is silent!)
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 11:57 AM
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She would never stoop to this level just for money? Nah… She would never falsely accuse me and go to the police just to get the upper hand? Nah… My story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 11:11 AM
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Coach Greg Adams speaks the truth. Watch his videos and everything he says about how divorces, child support, coparenting and woman is the truth. When I watch him, I feel like he is doing a show about my life. But guess what? It isnt. He just figured out women and simply tells you what they did or will do! My story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/u4mi6m/not_guilty/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 07:58 PM
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Don’t worry too much about her claims of expenses and bs. Your lawyer can handle it. The judges see this bs all the time. It’s all about money at this point and they are trying to squeeze you for it. Depending on your state, she might be forced to go find a job. You are so lucky to not have kids with her. You would’ve been truly bent over the coals if kids where in the picture. Put up a fight and get your attorney to get aggressive with offers. Pay a little extra upfront and get rid of her asap.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 02:29 PM
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Women have abused their “VAWA” card so much that not only are real victims of violence being ignored but women have ruined it for themselves. Literally the prosecutor after the case told me that she sees “one per week” now. Even the police officer that testified said they get women walking daily into police stations claiming abuse because their attorneys told them to do so. Give women an inch, they hang themselves. Self destruction from within. All men have to do is not play the game of marriage…
/r/AntiFeminists01/04/22 09:25 PM
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It is a war! I was falsely accused and during my trial this past Tuesday, my ex took the witness stand and said (I am quoting here): “as a woman, I need to tell the jury the kind of abuse I endured from this man. I need him punished and held accountable for his violent ways. Men should respect women and never dare to abuse them.” Jury deliberated for 11 minutes. I was found not guilty for family violence.
/r/AntiFeminists01/04/22 08:03 PM
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So disappointing as I looked yesterday and poof! Wtf!!!! Someone had liked a comment I posted and it kept saying “content is banned”.
/r/AntiFeminists01/04/22 06:26 PM
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I was falsely accused of physical assault and family violence by my now ex wife. She got naked one night and walked into bedroom, started having sexual foreplay then stopped and started screaming that I hit her. She was recording. I didn’t know she had already filed for divorce. I was thrown out of my house, prevented from seeing my kids, dragged through family court and criminal court. Divorce was done quick as she got what she wanted. Criminal court took longer as they were backlogged. I spent…
/r/MensRights01/04/22 12:20 AM
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Prosecutors in criminal court see this a lot. They wait until the civil case wraps up and then maybe they’ll pay attention to the criminal case to take it to trial. Unless you went Will Smith on her, on camera, this is her word vs your word and the burden of proof is on the prosecutor. They know that woman play this game of false domestic violence accusations but can’t do anything to stop it. The reason my case took over two years is that the criminal trial kept getting pushed until we finally g…
/r/MensRights28/03/22 06:34 PM
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Search my username for my posts. I went through all of it and it took 2.5 years. Same exact story, Woman do this all day long and collect cash prizes at the end. Don’t over stress and get even more emotional. Play the long game. You will never trust the legal system or woman again after this. The person you married isn’t the same person divorcing you. The prosecutor will eventually either dismiss the case or the jury will find you not guilty. Do not do anything to act in her favor to continue to…
/r/MensRights28/03/22 05:14 PM
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Correct: Family Court. I was not hurt by my ex. She simply took what family court gave her, all on my expense.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 07:07 PM
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They do. They burn down the house on the way out to self justify their actions. But then after riding the cock-merry-go-round for a couple of years, they realize you were their best option. Tips on making them regret it even more: 1) don’t counter their actions and make it contentious. Be calm and smooth. 2) be your best self (physically and mentally). Hit the gym, look good, well groomed and happy to be single. Do not brag on social media and show off your new side chick. 3) show maturity and c…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 01:58 PM
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My ex wife, after filing for divorce, strolled into the police station and claimed I hit her the night before. She was immediately surrounded by support staff at the station, given free brochure and references to shelters. She didn’t mention to the detective that she had already filed and needed something to get me thrown out. I was served two days later with the divorce papers and a kick out from my own house order. I was homeless for 3 months, forced to pay the mortgage, spousal support and ch…
/r/MensRights21/03/22 01:01 PM
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Where is the upside down bot when you need him?
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 01:04 AM
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I gave him my advice above. Marriage counseling is a joke. He is already divorced and going to get family court graped (with a silent g)…. He just hasn’t caught up yet. His wife has moved on mentally and just buying time to increase her cash prize bag. Us men need to start giving each other straight up brotherly love advice that hurts. We’ve been getting screwed for too long with the stupidly manufactured “marriage can be worked on” commercials.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 02:22 PM
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Worst advice ever. Her in court:”he just wanted to use me as as sex object. I was emotionally abused and used for years”. Judge:”pay this women for the years you spent using her up in your emotional abuse.” Her:”I was in an abusive relationship and have the therapist’s written testimony as to his abuse. Both emotional and financial. Look, he even confessed this to our therapist. I couldn’t take it anymore and cheated on him because he pushed me to find love elsewhere. It’s all his fault.“ OP: “w…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 02:19 PM
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Don’t say anything to the therapist. It will and can be used against you in court. Do not confess anything. Do not acknowledge anything. Marriage counseling is a joke and you’ll end up divorced anyway. Cut your losses and file for divorce. Call it a day. Watch the upvotes from divorced men. Let me say it again: marriage counseling is a joke and you will end up divorced anyway
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 01:55 PM
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F that. Teaching both my boys to see how rigged the system is against men. Warning them of getting legally tangled up, losing half their stuff, their children, their home that they bought because of the laws in the western world. Teaching them how to have healthy relationships that are not based on opportunity. Teaching them to respect women but don’t respect the marriage laws as it’s simply a contract waiting to be broken. Teaching them that statistically, any relationship they have will eventu…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 01:48 PM
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Family courts operate above the constitution. Please tell me you don’t believe that your constitutional rights apply in family court? Family courts regularly violate the 14th amendment of the constitution. Their judges have unlimited immunity and no oversight. In addition, in 1997 the Supreme Court ruled that state government child support laws does not give states “federal right” to garnish federal payments in collection of child support. But guess what, states regularly “intercept” federal tax…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 01:10 AM
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What state are you in? This is the shifty part about child support, there aren’t two states that have the same rules and hence why it’s unconstitutional! In texas for example, income no longer matters, it’s based off your net resources. House worth much? They’ll force you to sell it to keep up with payments. Truck worth something? Let’s sell that too. Extortion at its finest.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 10:28 PM
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Wives and GF’s are dream killers: https://youtu.be/M3zoxMQf43A Want to have kids? Listen to this: https://youtu.be/d39K75B4qVM Marriage was the biggest mistake in my life. I am highly educated, run a very successful business and got graped in family court. Do not do it. Walk away now.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 12:46 PM
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Been there and much worse. Plus I had kids. Try to get to mediation as quickly as possible. Burr don’t give up the farm or too much. You’ll regret it down the road. I went through 3 mediations and walk out from each. Make an official settlement offer, one that your attorney can record as an official offer and be used if this goes to trial. Basically tells her that if she doesn’t accept and gets less during trial, she will need to pay your attorney fees. That’s what I did (my attorney) and she bu…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 01:54 AM
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You are 10x better of a man than many others. That’s because you saw the problem for what it is and acknowledged the issue as “a man is guilty until proven innocent!”. All because the woman said so. I have been there also and went nearly bankrupt fighting the same false allegations against the mother of my children. 17 years together and her way out was the same: “he assaulted me”. I am proud of you for being mature to share your story. Good for you brother.
/r/AntiFeminists13/03/22 11:36 PM
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Tread lightly. Last thing you need is a restraining order or a protective order. Remember, women will say they are scared but at same time instigate a fight and claim domestic violence. I learned the hard way. I do not even speak to my ex and it’s been 2.5 years. Our family wizard app only. Text if it’s an emergency. I follow the court order to the T. Any deviation in her part and I have my attorney send a “cease and desist” letter to her attorney. It puckers up her butthole like a turtle head p…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 03:01 AM
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I went though this. Our agreement came down to me being a fiduciary for those unvested shares managing “her” share. Our decree included the quantity and vesting schedule. We agreed to 50:50 distribution less taxes. Every time they vested, I would collect entire amount, less taxes. Post the transaction in our parenting app with receipt and transfer 50% over. Done. Just because they are zero value today, it doesn’t mean that you have no interest in those units. What you need to do now is agree to …
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 09:10 PM
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It's just about to get 10x worse with VAWA being re-enacted into law from 2022 - 2026 thats sitting with the senate for signatures. The states can apply again for federal grants worth up to $5million to protect women, develop programs to protect women and to train judges and courts to look for signs of domestic violence. Mind you that if you tell your wife or girlfriend "don't spend money on this or don't buy all this makeup or new yoga pants" it is a form of financial abuse / domestic violence.…
/r/MensRights11/03/22 08:37 PM
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This is powerful. Men can rebuild and be better. Women on the other hand simply decrease in value after divorce and are simply target practice once they hit their 40’s and older. A man is in his prime at that age and can re-do all over again. A woman just starts to decay with little value to offer except her psleeve for other men…… let that sink in!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 07:51 PM
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I love blasting my story everywhere and to anyone that wants to listen..... My story in a nutshell: - accused of domestic violence - thrown out of my house - homeless for 4 months after being served with divorce papers and restraining order - fought hard with everything I had. Almost went bankrupt. Was at the lowest emotionally and mentally. Completely drained of the will to fight and survive but I did. 2.5 years later, I was awarded the marital home, have my kids 50/50 but I do pay full child s…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 04:20 PM
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No. Just a father that has been through the corrupt family court system and see what's behind the curtains now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 03:27 PM
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Child support is a hustle. Doesn’t matter how good of a parent you are. Family courts push child support and incentivizes conflict due to title-iv d reimbursements from federal government. Fight it is my opinion but go pro se so that you aren’t spending a ton on attorney fees. Every parent should fight child support pro se as it’s just a process of mudslinging each other in front of a judge on who the better parent is anyway. Fight it. Pro Se. Don’t give in. This is about being a good or bad par…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 02:17 PM
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“Child support for her kids”… I could never. That comment reminded me of my ex-wife telling me:” every woman gets child support during divorce. It’s the law!” Ha! He did one for the team.. Thank you!!!!!!!
/r/AntiFeminists10/03/22 02:08 AM
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My brother is an expat in Dubai. He has been married and divorced 3 times there. Not only did he keep his house each time, he never had to pay alimony or split his assets. Each of the wives left with what they had walking into the marriage. I live in texas, got married and divorced once. It about ruined me. Lost everything plus 50% of my kids for a 7 year marriage. Was homeless for 3 months. Divorce set me back 10 years worth of earnings and 25 years worth of savings. So please tell me what femi…
/r/AntiFeminists09/03/22 07:53 PM
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There is no fast forward. There is simply a play button. Scenarios and thoughts play in your head over and over. The anger takes over…. You wonder how long will things stay the same…. But all that does is play things over again….. Focus on you, on your kids and on being sane…. Grief takes time, acceptance takes time, but it’s all the same…… Best of luck my internet brother…..stay in the game.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/22 12:10 PM
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One thing I learned from going through hell (divorce) is that playing nice doesn’t get a man anywhere. Women will use and abuse the system, the system encourages it and attorneys love false accusations. The fact that she already set the stage for what she will accuse you off, simply shows her psychotic state of mind and that it will come up again, during a custody battle. Do not for one second believe otherwise. Heed this advice: take the day off tomorrow; find the nastiest attorney in your coun…
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/22 02:37 AM
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Happy women's international day..... My wife was so scared she had filed for divorce and didn't tell me that she got naked, started blowing me, then stopped and accused me of domestic violence. TRUE STORY! 2 years later, hundreds of thousands of dollars spent on attorneys in both civil and criminal court and the result was: "It's ok, she was scared and didn't think about the consequences." No judge will ever hold a woman accountable for false accusation. They will err on the side of caution vs r…
/r/MensRights08/03/22 09:16 PM
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It must be going around as my ex just asked me to pay a bit more for my share of extracurricular activities. Me: why? Her: prices of everything is going up and I have to drive (son) to game and back. Me: I bought you a Tesla that I paid cash for and you charge it in the house that I bought for you as part of the divorce settlement. Plus, I take him also to the same event, in my diesel truck. Her: well, prices have gone up and it’s getting more expensive. Me: hangs up.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 12:43 PM
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I live down the street from my ex. She leaves them with babysitters 2 to 3 times a month, pays her out of the child support payment. My youngest begs and pleads with her to go to “daddy’s” during her weekend out with the girls and she still refuses. He FaceTimes me and we spend 2 to 3 hours on the FaceTime call playing and even the babysitter comes in, checks on him then goes back to watching TV. My ex refuses to give 1 extra minute as she is scared that can be used to lower child support. I’ve …
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/22 01:51 AM
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Child support is modern day slavery. Rather than easing up the “wealth redistribution” scare tactics, they are upping them. Wtf is wrong with TN!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 11:15 PM
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This is why some states are moving to shared parenting as the beginning point (50/50). Arkansas, Kentucky already done. Arizona and California it’s the starting point. Ohio has it up as a bill. Texas also. It’s a known fact that the only people opposing those bills are 1) mothers and 2) attorneys and the family bar association in those states. You can guess why: money. Go into it knowing you will lose most of your assets fighting for your kids. House, equity, 401k, savings..etc. attorneys know f…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 11:04 PM
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It is very common. Abuse, child abused, drugs. Domestic violence, historical rape… etc. you have got to stop talking to her. Get an attorney and record all interactions with her. Do not fall for the traps she will lay down. Almost every other divorce is now turning this way as women have started telling each other the “easy way out” approach. You will spend everything you have defending yourself and your children.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 10:14 PM
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Well said!
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 03:54 PM
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Divorce her now if there is any chance of a future divorce. I don’t know why most of us men don’t bite the bullet and pull the trigger at the first sign. We simply delay the inevitable with our “hope strategy”. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 01:56 PM
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Nobody said 50/50 here. My advice to him was to lock his child in the state vs waiting on the mother to decide when the time is right. It’s ok if we disagree, but I’ve seen way too many men try to play it safe and end up losing their children in the process. I respect your disagreement but that’s ok, we can disagree.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 04:27 PM
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Sorry but this is bad advice. I know you are trying to help, but playing nice doesn’t make things better and simply allows the mother to walk all over him. Waiting until the child is older is also a major issue as he is building up more assets/net worth during that time period that he will just need to fork over. File for divorce asap (today) and control the narrative vs playing catch-up would be better.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 03:19 PM
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She didn’t have to do much. All she said was “I am not happy, I want a divorce.” Walks into attorney office and then family court does the work from there. She didn’t have to lift a finger at all as the laws are written to protect women and as the man, I had to pay her attorney also since I was the high earner. Point here is: laws are there to support women and men are disposable assets. This is universal.
/r/AntiFeminists03/03/22 03:14 PM
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That was my story. Paid a quarter of a million in attorney fees. Have my kids 50/50 but I still pay maximum child support ($2,300 per month) plus all medical insurance. She makes $100k per year but I had to give her $1.2 million in cash assets and buy her a Tesla and a house so that she can have the same standard of living as if we were still together. That drove me deep into debt, sold everything to stay in my kids’ lives. Paid her the equity in the house while she never made a dollar payment t…
/r/AntiFeminists03/03/22 02:35 PM
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Go get an attorney and file for divorce asap and establish the child’s residency. If you wait until after she takes the child to another state, you will have to play catch up. All she needs is 6 months there, while she is playing you to take time apart and you get your ass handed to you in court. A child that young will stay with mom and no judge will force visitation across state lines for a baby. Go file and stop dicking around and waiting to get escorted into the slaughter house that is famil…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 02:25 PM
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Only reason I am able to make 2/5/2/5 schedule work is that I work primarily from home. If I had to go into an office daily, it wouldn’t work and it would be too expensive to hire a nanny. The every other weekend and one overnight per week might be the best option for you (60/40). I’ve had to skip a few overnights here and there due to travel/work, but that’s a legit excuse. I won’t miss time with kids for personal things. Quality over quantity. Your kids will see you as a stable, hard working p…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 12:36 PM
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That was all in my when the refi was done. Since it was refinancing to put the house in my sole name. So I paid for that closing costs.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 04:45 PM
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It’s customary to split selling costs of marital home in texas, so she agreed to it. We didn’t go to court for that one and both attorneys didn’t object.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 04:24 PM
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Split 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 04:16 PM
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Getting under someone is the best way to get over someone else. Just saying….. Good luck. We’ve all been there.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/22 08:35 PM
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See a therapist. You have some serious unfinished business with your ex and your subconscious is manifesting those desires. You need closure. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 10:27 PM
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Wait until decree is signed off by judge then file a motion for enforcement. Then another motion for contempt if she still refuses to pay. That only works if it’s in the decree that she is to pay you back and the judge signs off on it. A side verbal agreement or handshake bs agreement won’t hold up in court.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 09:14 PM
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Mortgage is treated as community debt. You both will have to decide to either sell the house or if one side is buying the other out. If you sell the house, then proceeds get split between the two less commission. If one party buys the other out, then that party buys out the other’s share in the house equity. You could agree to keeping the house, with the debt but not having to buy her out in exchange of her keeping a larger portion of the 401k. That’s one example. To be clear, mortgage debt does…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 06:19 PM
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One other thing to note is that Texas judges prefer mediation route. A mediated settlement agreement is binding in Texas and judges can’t change it unless it impacts children or severely biased. So if you want all this to move quick, get her to understand that attorneys will milk you both dry and you’ll waste thousands on attorney fees. Mediation is preferred and cheaper. You still have to do all the financials and turn in all the statements first, then you both can attend mediation and settle o…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 05:56 PM
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Either your attorney or hers will hire a forensics accountant that will determine community property to be split as well as certify your and her separate property. Unless the two of you agree to those amounts, the the court will want an “expert witness” to testify to those amounts as it is assumed neither side will disclose all of the info.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 05:31 PM
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Texas is a community property state. Anything earned during marriage is to be split in a just and right manner. That means it’s not quite 50/50 but rather the lower earner gets a little bit more. 5 year marriage = no alimony. No kids = no child support. Anything you had prior to date of marriage is separate property and the court can’t divide that amount. File first with your narrative showing you want 50/50 of community assets. 60 day waiting period. Be careful that she doesn’t get coached by h…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 04:57 PM
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What that above poster said plus add journaling to your days. Go buy very thick notebook. Date each day and write out your angers, your emotions, the injustice of it all and your end of day thoughts. Not what you would’ve done differently as you can’t change the past, but more focused on your emotions for that day only. Workout if you can. Lifting heavy weights helps with anxiety and depression. Go fishing as it’s a zen sport that teaches you patience. Stay off the alcohol. Join a divorce suppor…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 10:59 PM
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Ouch!
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 01:04 AM
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​ Get into an arrangement, it's cheaper. If you think dating, spending on a woman in this day and age going through the traditional route of getting into a relationship to get sex isn't modern day prostitution then you are mistaken. Dating (act of spending money and time to get sex eventually in return) is modern day prostitution for a temporary monogamous relationship. Seeking, p411 and many other services available will give you the same outcome. Sex can be acquired in much safer and cheaper r…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 04:19 PM
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All that and maybe you’ll get missionary at the end of the night…….maybe unless she ate too much and her “stomach hurts”….. f that! Never again!
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 03:35 PM
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I would usually spend the weekend before planning, plotting, fighting to make reservations and ordering gifts for the wife. Second year of being divorced and all I did yesterday was go get a steak, grilled it, booked a full body massage and watched the Super Bowl in peace. Wow… what an amazing feeling. I will never succumb to the Valentine’s Day crap ever again….. what a scam…. A total scam…… Happy Independence Day to all the men!
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 03:21 PM
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I married down to earth normal woman that was living paycheck to paycheck with no more than $1000 in net worth. I divorced a selfish feminist that pawned our children to become a millionaire.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 01:59 AM
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Why would you ever want to date after a divorce? Genuine question. I am single, focusing on my purposes, being the best dad I can to my kids, living debt free and have full control of my own time. Why mess it up by introducing someone that isn’t going to add much to my life? I find the hookup culture as the best thing that could happen to divorced men.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 04:02 PM
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In texas, the standard possession (as of sept 1st, 2021) is the non custodial parent gets one overnight per week and then every 1st,3rd and 5th weekends of the month. Plus alternating holidays and weeks in the summer. Parenting time and child support are two separate things in texas. CS is a calculator based on the NCP’s income. Only if both parents agree to 50/50, will it be given. If the CP says no, then it’s another trial. But the easiest way is to claim DV or abuse and the CP will avoid that…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 01:40 PM
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That’s why many from California are moving here… lol. I understand alimony is on the books, but having gone through a nasty divorce here, I can tell you that it’s very rare. Over 20 year marriage, maybe alimony, but it will be minimal amount and minimal timeframe. Texas wants people to work. Even our child support is minimal compared to other states. The flip side of that is texas wants custody conflicts so that child support is awarded in one direction. 91% of non custodial parents here are fat…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 11:29 AM
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Does your decree or temp order define what to pay for unreimbursed medical? Mine says 50/50. If yours doesn’t, lookup your state laws for a standard. Safe to assume 50/50 for unreimbursed medical expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 01:47 AM
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Same story here except in texas there is no alimony. So paying her $2300 per month for the next 9 years in child support. She went in with all the usual abuse accusations and DV allegations. Spent more than a quarter of a million in attorney fees (just fees) and we split everything right down the middle at the end. She was upset with her attorney that told her she would get alimony and 90% assets if she claims DV. Well, all that did was me fighting harder for my kids. Dumb ass lost more in attor…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 01:43 AM
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Fishing. Seriously. It teaches you patience. It’s a form of mediation. And you can use the fish pics in your profile on the dating apps! I am so hooked on fishing right now and have been for years. Night time fishing is awesome. Find a local marina or fishing group, you don’t even need a boat. Shore fishing, barge fishing, or book a local guide and go. It’s a cheap hobby and has its rewards. Catch and release. So much wisdom is gained in the art of fishing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 04:15 PM
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A new boat. Lost a lot of cash and assets during divorce. Racket up a quarter of a million dollars in attorney fees during divorce. Still fighting false DV charges and going to court on Thursday for trial on that puppy. Once done, gonna save up, buy me a BIG liveaboard boat and sell all other assets and downsize my life. It will take years but I don’t need anything material at this point. Big boat, on a local lake in texas, cheap living and can be on the water 24/7.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 01:43 AM
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Thanks for all this. I think we married the same woman.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/22 03:00 AM
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You don’t want to access your portion of the equity and just leave it in the house to avoid PMI. This way your new loan is less than 80% of appraised value. That will get you a lower payment as you don’t need PMI.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 11:01 PM
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Ha! They all plan on a collaborative divorce and then it turns into mortal kombat. I started that way, once she found out she wasn’t going to get child support and only 50% of the assets…. She backstabbed me with domestics violence charges, got me kicked out of the house, withheld my kids and I was homeless. My advice: get an attorney, file first, make the offer 50/50 right down the line all while you keep her thinking you want a collaborative divorce. Record every single conversation, sleep in …
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 10:59 PM
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Make sure you come to an “agreed value” by either directly agreeing with her or by getting a remote appraisal done. When you apply for a refinance, they will order an appraisal anyway or waive it if they can do it remotely. Good luck. Easy process.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 10:13 PM
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Went through this last year. Do you have enough equity in the house? I had enough equity to refinance the house, take on the original mortgage plus her half of the equity into a new mortgage. Quite claim deed signed by her and as soon as refinance was done, she got the check for her half of the equity. If you don’t have enough equity, then it will be the mortgage balance plus extra on top to buy her out which doesn’t make sense at all to do. Example with my number: Original mortgage balance $300…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 09:54 PM
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Same. I had it written in my divorce decree that she is not allowed out of her car when picking up the kids from my house (which was the marital home I had to buy her out off - she never paid a dime in mortgage). She isn’t even allowed to speak to me live - ever. Sad part is after all the accusations turned out to be false, she walked away with cash prizes and was never held accountable by the court.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 08:40 PM
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Family court: “a man is guilty until he is found more guilty.” We as men need to educate and spread the word. More men are getting financially robbed in family court daily than Covid deaths. It’s a pandemic and it’s up to us survivors to warn the next generation.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 07:01 PM
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Attorneys and friends coach woman all day long to claim abuse. Then if nothing can be found, claim emotional abuse. Then if nothing can be found, claim financial abuse. True story:” you honor, he would make the money and then stop me from spending it on essentials. He abused me and used me for 13 years. He is a monster.” Judge to me:” did you do that?” Me:”her going on a cruise with her divorced friends is not essential when we just paid for braces.” Judge gives me dirty look. Her attorney:”see …
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 06:56 PM
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Dude… stop and divorce her now. You see what her true nature is. If you buy a house, it will be hers. If you pop a kid, she will take you for child support. Divorce and move on. Scarcity mindset is why you are still there. She will ruin your life in divorce if you have joint assets or children. I wish someone told me this when I was your age and saw the same signs.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:21 PM
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Mine didn’t even need to go there… she just filed for divorce, waited 10 days, initiated sex, stopped, had a fight, went to bed. Next day she went to police and said I beat her up. Got her protective order, amended her divorce filing and the combat began…. Took two years to get the divorce and fight the allegations. $258,000 in attorney fees before it cleared up. If I didn’t have access to the money, I would’ve been left with a bicycle and only supervised visits to my kids. I don’t know how a ma…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:14 PM
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Getting expense reimbursement request notifications on OFW for sports.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:10 PM
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Once orders are established, she can’t just move around and expect you to move around. Should would be limited to a geographic area. Have you spoken to an attorney? If not, get a consult going as you would be locking both you and her down until the kid is 18. She won’t be able to just pickup and move whenever she wants to. On the other hand, you could stay and ask for summers and major holidays. Again, a lawyer can help you here.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 10:35 PM
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What kind of joke alimony payment is this? Have her ass go get a job today and forget this masters bs. Paying a grown woman for past use of her psleeve is ridiculous. I get child support and have no problem with it, but alimony is simply welfare payments. Fight it. Your pretax amount is much higher after you are single, so you’ll be broke and miserable for the next 5 years. Refuse to pay all together and go scorched earth. No adult should be paying for another adult. This is part of the stupidit…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 02:56 PM
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Move back closer. Your temp orders won’t be favorable if you are “many states away”. Took me 3 months to clear the false child abuse allegations. Was only allowed to see my kids for 4 hours on Saturday’s. I was homeless after being thrown out of my house that I was still paying mortgage on. Once protective order turned out to be false, I was able to see them every other weekend. It’s a tactic dirty attorneys coach emotionally charged mothers to use to get the upper hand and secure their child su…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 12:56 PM
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1 That the mother is always the better parent. 2 That family court is about the best interest of the child. 3 That she stayed home to raise the kids, her choice, makes her eligible for half of what I built.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 06:47 AM
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Complete waste of time. Spent 3 years and $6000…. All it did was give ammo to the ex about my inner workings and it was used against me in court. Do not go or believe therapists can keep your info out of court. Why teach your future enemy how to break you down?
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 06:35 AM
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Stay away from alcohol. The stress will push you to be emotional. Be logical. Don’t react. What doesn’t kill you, just makes your stronger. Come back and post a daily update. Keep it simple. One day at a time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 04:35 AM
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You control the narrative if you file first. The other side simply responds to the narrative. For a man going through a divorce, it makes a difference in establishing custody. If a man files for 50/50 asset split it shows that he is trying to make it conflict free. The other side comes back with conflict and alimony bs, judges (wild card) will see which side is the problem side early on.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 12:05 PM
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The longer you wait, the more you pay. Rip the bandaid and pull the trigger after getting a second opinion. File first. If she has a job, alimony isn’t a given but if she files first, she will ask for it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 12:30 AM
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I’ve seen stories of women getting screwed if they were the higher earners. Rare, but it does exist.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/22 05:16 PM
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This. In texas, it don’t matter if it’s a new trust, LLC, S corp or PLLC. She is entitled to half. Best to divorce her before you earn too much.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 11:36 PM
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Run as fast as you can. You are in for doom and gloom if you marry this girl. Be smart and run. There are so many woman out there today, this is the last thing you need. Someone expecting you to be responsible for her debt (student loan debt) is a gold digger waiting to “spread her wings” on your dumb ass… run son, run!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 04:00 PM
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It’s all word of mouth awareness. When I got married, I was in my late twenties, didn’t know anyone that was divorced and all of our couple friends where getting married. So we did. 15 years later, she “wasn’t happy” anymore and wanted to break the contract. Bam…. I get divorce graped in family court (silent G) and lose half my access to my children. She takes more than half of the wealth I built, the kids and is now out finding her happiness at multiple different houses and with multiple differ…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 03:55 PM
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Marriage is the dumbest financial contract two people can voluntarily sign. Nobody explains to you the risks of that contract being broken. It’s word of mouth only to understand what you are getting into and the damage that can occur once that contract is broken. If someone had told me: you will be homeless, thrown out of your house, pay for all attorney fees and lose 50% of all your assets when this contract is broken; do you still want to sign the marriage certificate? I would’ve ran out fast!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 03:15 PM
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Yoga pants made out of flexi-seal!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/22 06:16 AM
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Malicious Mother Syndrome. Read up on it so that you understand what you are dealing with. Get the book titled “Divorce Poison” so that you can now address the problem. Courts and attorneys don’t care nor will you be able to change behavior of ex. Unless there is physical harm on the kids, then nobody will care or help. Understand the problem and deal with it using the tools we as men have at our disposal. Kids will learn who is the bitter parent and who is the better one. My 14 year old sees it…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 02:52 AM
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It’s cheaper to keep her at this point if you want to stay in Canada. Otherwise, transfer all your assets to a non-hague convention participant country and fly there. Buy a nice bungalow and call it a day. The financial damage that a man goes through after years of supporting the stay at home woman makes you become a spokesman for “do not get married” movement.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 08:26 PM
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Yes it will be capped. Expect other things to be asked for though. I am in the same boat with two kids. My CS is capped at $2300, I cover all medical, dental and vision. 75% of unreimbursed medical expenses and 75% of all extra curricular activities. In texas the standard custody now is expanded standard (Thursday overnight) and every other weekend. Rare that you’ll have to pay alimony unless she can’t work or has disability. Make sure everything is setup via the texas SDU to pay child support, …
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 10:28 AM
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The laws aren’t going to change. Too much money for attorneys. Legislation is cooked up by guess who? Attorneys. Family law has turned into a family cartel where attorneys and judges are simply pushing the same agenda over and over. Wealth distribution to prevent welfare and child support payments so that the state can receive federal funding via Title IV-D. Only way is to stop playing the game. Ie don’t get married. You can have kids but don’t get married or cohabitate with someone who might on…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 10:55 PM
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First, take good care of yourself physically and stay off the alcohol. Your son needs you in tip top shape. Secondly, fathers have to prove themselves and prove that they are good parents. A mother only has to show up to the divorce table. So fighting for your kid is normal. This isn’t your fault, it’s the family court racket that incentivizes conflict to line the pockets of attorneys in “high conflict”. Remember, if everyone agreed to an amicable divorce and 50/50 of everything including custod…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 03:03 PM
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Here is what I did: Cashed out stocks and bought a boat. Boats depreciate so quick that by the time she had her appraisal it was already $100k below what I bought it for. When I got thrown out of my house via the false allegations, I lived in the boat (it has multiple beds, kitchen and bathroom). Had the best time of my life until I got a rental for custody purposes. Boat now is worth $150k more due to supply issues. Market is hot for boats. Another way is to get an agreed value for the house. U…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 01:14 AM
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It’s our job to educate. And it’s working. Marriage rates are at an all time historic low. Keep preaching the word! Marriage is a scam!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 03:47 PM
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That applies to criminal court or probate / contract laws. Family court is simply a state by state welfare program and wealth redistribution racket intended to line the pockets of elected attorneys. Those attorneys help the non elected attorneys to ensure they are all friends and capturing as many votes as possible. The corruption runs deep in family court!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 03:32 PM
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If you are a father, raise your sons to understand the implications of marriage once they are of age. Raise your daughters to not expect a free meal or cash prizes after a divorce. Raise them both to know that marriage has been corrupted by the laws and government involvement. I don’t care if it was $750 million or $7.50 cents, no person should decide to cheat and then expect to be compensated afterwards by playing victim.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 02:33 PM
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Keep the house. It’s collateral. Market has died off a bit and isn’t as crazy as it was before. The money you make off of selling it now will be taxed and your tax bill will be higher. Try to negotiate buying her out at the cost of both of you selling it and paying the commission fee. I did that with my ex and we lowered the equity/proceeds by the 7% commission and the taxes we would have to pay on the proceeds. If you can come to a payment plan with her, then that’s even better vs paying all of…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 09:23 PM
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Even if it’s nothing to him, why should a man have to pay for his ex wife’s decision to have an affair? It’s a broken system. A man can have an affair and lose his assets and kids. A woman can have an affair, collect her children and cash prizes and still walk away as a victim.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 03:44 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 02:05 PM
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Just make sure you record all your interactions. If you confront her, she can claim domestic violence and have you kicked out of your house. She will then have the upper hand in the divorce. It’s called the silver bullet. Her friends, family, attorney and new guy will all be telling her to do it. She will do it. So be smart and record your conversations, all of them. Tell her you are recording the conversations and interactions. This way she can’t claim any laws being violated. DV is an entire i…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 01:56 PM
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She is triggering you to react. Watch for the tactics to get more visible. The mood swings and crazy will be coming out in full force. Record everything. Get a body cam if you have to. Watch for triggering events like her getting dressed and going out. Acting out. Watching you do something and critiquing. Getting naked and asking for one more sex session. Trying to get you drunk. Protect yourself. These stories are all over the place. False accusations are the easiest thing a woman can pull to g…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/21 06:30 PM
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Record all face to face conversations. Get a voice recorder asap. Nothing easier for her now other than to claim “he is abusive” or he “scared me in my sleep”. You will find yourself out in the street, homeless and fighting for dear life. Being aware of this is being warned. We’ve all gone down the path of amicable divorce that turns into combat with false accusations. There is a reason it’s called the “silver bullet”. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/21 06:20 PM
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Any debt you take on to pay for attorney fees is considered marital debt and you will either have to use that to offset what you get at the end or she has to agree to split it with you. Divorce is financial suicide for a man that earns more than his wife. Mine worked and made good money, but because I made much more than her, I was tagged with all the attorney fees. At the end, once all her accusations were false in civil court, we split the debt but that simply meant she got less cash, not actu…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 08:44 PM
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👆listen to this guy. I am also in the same boat except mine completely blindsided me by getting naked, stirring up a fight and walked into the police station the next day saying domestic violence. Turns out she had already filed for a divorce two weeks prior and used the silver bullet. Our stories are not unique, they are so common that 75% of DV accusations are false and simply used to get the upper hand. My advice, maintain distance, record all face to face conversations. Get an attorney and f…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 08:32 PM
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I live in Texas and when the same bill was introduced in the session this year, guess who shot it down? Yup, democrats. Why? Because majority constituents are women and child support welfare payments are the number 1 reason most women oppose this 50/50 arrangement. Good for Ohio to push this through. Let’s stop selling children’s time with either parent in exchange for money. It’s disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 12:29 AM
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What should’ve been an amicable divorce because two people don’t get along anymore turns into a shit show divorce that takes a man years to recover from. Somehow, the stats show that woman file for divorce 80% of the time and 90% of those divorces turn toxic. It’s like they can’t see an amicable way out, so let’s burn the house down while they are at it. For the record, I am in the same boat as you, I will and have walked away from perfectly good women after a few months of dating because I now …
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 07:33 PM
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At 41, you have your life all together, finances, career and you are the prize in this age group!!!! Enjoy it even more!
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 01:07 AM
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It takes a long time for some and others can be over it in days. Heck, your ex might be over it before you guys even filed. Hit the gym, stop chasing woman and focus on your own career growth. Read books on stoicism. Use meetup app to find activities. Do stuff that’s new and you always wanted to do. Go fishing. Stay away from self pity. Do not watch the news or YouTube videos on dating. At 32, you have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy it!
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 12:16 AM
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Go get an attorney ASAP!!!!! Stop screwing around or you’ll find yourself thrown out of your house and with no custody. Again, go get an attorney asap! Come back and give an update AFTER you get an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 12:11 AM
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Texas AG/SDU is the worst for multiple reasons: 1) there are no income taxes but 1800 people in the 2600 person AG office are dedicated to child support collection and enforcement. The AG brags constantly about the $4billion being processed and collected in 2020. That money is then used to get funding through title IV-D from the federal social security budget. Those funds pay for the 1800 people in that office and then most of the budget for the lawsuits he keeps filing. Free money. 2) 91% of no…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/21 04:56 PM
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My advice is to record all discussions and conversations with the mother. Don’t sign anything if it’s just an arrangement between you two until the mediation. Your ex is playing a dirty game and is being coached. Expect false allegations and all sorts of conflict. Be smart. Control your emotions. Get as much overnights as you can, be civil and record everything.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/21 02:44 AM
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Unless your state has a 50/50 custody presumption, it’s going to be tough with a child of that age. 1-5 years, judges prefer mothers to be primary care takers. To keep attorney fees low, you could try a 55/45 expanded standard possession with the agreement to get to 50/50 when the child turns 5 or 6. I know it’s not what you want to hear, but unless the mother is in jail, you need some arrangement that allows for overnights so that you can spend time with your daughter. The time lost now is horr…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/21 02:38 AM
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How old is your daughter?
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/21 02:28 AM
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You need a court order with custody arrangements signed off by the judge. If you keep the daughter forcefully, you will complicate the case. Mediation for custody is faster than a court hearing. Don’t make your situation worse but you now know her hand “he is abusive”. Many of us men went through this bs. I was accused of being a child abuser and took months to get my kids. Even though it turned out to be unfounded allegations against the kids, she walked away clean. There is zero accountability…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/21 02:20 AM
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Talk to a lawyer asap. This “we verbally agreed” bs will go out the door the minute you step into family court. Even a $100 an hour attorney is going to convince her that she is a victim and you are an abuser. How the fuck do you think attorneys make money? It’s not by a “let’s agree and work together” strategy. Keep us posted.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 02:26 AM
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My ex got naked, started blowing me, fabricated a fight then asked me to finish having sex. Insisted on it. I stopped and got dressed. She came at me so I pushed her away. Next day, I was served with divorce papers and a protective order. Turns out she had filed for divorce two weeks prior and wanted me to have sex with her to claim “forced sex”. Her pleadings in the divorce petition said “I forced her to be a sex toy for the past 13 years”. She was recording everything behind my back. Fast forw…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 02:14 AM
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And this is one of the examples why marriage is the worst mistake a man can make. Whether you have kids or not, you end up paying to support someone else’s life style. It’s a welfare system.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 11:27 AM
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Learn to live with it as best as you can. You kid senses things and it’s best to keep the emotions out of it for him. Family law is 100% biased against men. The only thing you can do is spread the word to younger men to never ever get married. That’s one of the core values I am teaching my sons. As a man, you will face the biggest discrimination in our own legal system if you sign that marriage license. Until enough men stop getting married and refuse to be slaves to the system, nothing will cha…
/r/MensRights06/12/21 03:53 AM
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I have a 2/5/2/5 schedule. I also got extorted by my ex out of the marital residence by having to buy her out of the house equity so that I can keep it. It was my attempt to give my two boys (8 and 13) the same familiar home they grew up on. She never paid the mortgage or any bills. The salary from her career was pathetic money but she felt entitled to half the house equity. Anyway, my relationship with my boys was strained at first, but a year into the exchanges, they have adjusted. I’ve found …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 12:44 AM
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Yikes! For how long?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 12:33 PM
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State calculator. You don’t really negotiate child support. Lawyers and judges all have a goal to ensure child support is paid in either direction during a divorce. The states collect matching dollars from the government via federal programs. Title IV-D mandates. Look it up. The deeper you dig into the matrix, the more corrupt the system is. Family court is a racket, lawyers and judges are employees of that racket and married couples are the sheep that walk into the slaughter house (inventory).
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 12:31 PM
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After school child care for my elementary school Kid. Someone has to watch him while I work and his mother pushes paper in her job that makes her the $55k salary. She makes sure I know that she “has a career also” at every opportunity. Strong and independent single mommy to the world. Welfare (err child support) recipient that sold her kids back to the state and professional victim on the inside.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 12:26 PM
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Lookup coach Greg Adams on YouTube. Free Agent Lifestyle for life!
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 03:36 AM
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Want to get a better one? Here goes: 1) $2300 per month in child support. I pay taxes on that income and she gets it tax free. 9 years to go. 2) can’t claim my kids as dependents anymore as I am a non custodial parent and she wants to claim them for the deductions. 3) no child care expense deductions. I pay for it monthly. 4) I pay all health, dental and vision for two kids but can’t deduct medical expenses as they are her dependents to claim. 5) I now have a higher tax bracket and pay more taxe…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 03:22 AM
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Depends on your state. I stroked a $1.2 million check, $550k was in stocks, I pay max child support. Had the marriage been over 10 years (or her claim of domestic violence was true), I would’ve had to pay alimony also per the alimony schedule in texas. 22 year marriage, expect alimony for a period of time. Doesn’t matter how rich she gets off your buttocks. Family court isn’t there to be fair, they are there for wealth redistribution.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 02:31 PM
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Been married. Had the kids. Got ran through family courts with false accusations, stroked the 7 figure divorce settlement check and got my shared custody along with the state of Texas after my buttocks for the next 9 years to ensure I pay my child support on time. Even though I am a willing, fit and able father with shared 2/5/2/5 schedule, I am still treated as a second class slave in the system. Never again. I would rather pay child support for another 18 years to any girlfriend I get pregnant…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 06:08 AM
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I am similar except for the 258,000 in attorney fees. $1.2 million cash settlement check that I had to write out 30 days after divorce was final. Still paying attorney for criminal case as she claimed violence to get me thrown out of my house after filing for divorce. The dumbest thing a man can do is get married. There are cheaper ways to get psleeve.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 03:26 AM
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Advantages: You become a better dad. You can be much more productive at work as your life is now structured, no nagging at home. You find extra money all over the place as you no longer have to go buy unnecessary gifts for valentines, Mother’s Day, Christmas..no wasted money on dates, clothes, makeup, crap from pottery dong….. Women will throw themselves at you, especially once they find out you are divorced. Disadvantages: You miss your kids when you don’t have them. You miss tucking them in be…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/21 02:11 AM
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I too was falsely accused, thrown out of my house and forced to be homeless and unable to see or contact my kids for 3 weeks and then only allowed 4 hours every other Saturday. That was September of 2020. Hundreds of thousands of dollars later, my divorce wrapped up in record speed by June of 2021. All her accusations turned out to be pure bs and even her attorney advised her to settle the case as the judge won’t look favorably on mothers that withhold children as a weapon of punishment. Today, …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 04:20 AM
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And if she is not agreeing to adding that in the MSA, then all you have is a partial MSA. Your attorney will need to handle from here in court.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 12:26 PM
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In texas, an MSA is binding and Can’t be changed. You are saying it’s missing something? That’s different and the MSA can be amended if both parties agree. If one party doesn’t not agree to a change, then it’s a breach of contract. If it’s missing something altogether, then you need the other party to agree to go back to mediation. Otherwise, what you have is a partial MSA. You’ll need the judge to decide on that “missing item”.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 03:50 AM
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“Parnell, a decorated former Army Ranger who led a platoon in Afghanistan.” Doesn’t matter what you do for your fellow man or your country. Family court will ruin you in the racket of “in the best interest of the children.” Judge collecting kick backs from the child support payment that the ex-wife was awarded. Normal for family courts to rip a man’s balls through his wallet…..
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/21 02:48 AM
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Bet you that in the divorce woman groups/subs, they aren’t looking at it as “wasted time” but rather “what was the average payout per year of service?”……I know my ex does that with her divorced friends and they compare average payout per year and how much child support they are each collecting per month……and of course the next “all girls” trip since they all have daddy daycare for free! So, I would challenge you to think of it as simply yet another bad mistake, that took much longer to fix. You …
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/21 02:52 AM
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Outside of the 7 figures I lost and maximum child support in texas, I too can not trust another woman anymore. I managed to get one lined up on seeking that comes over once a week, available for arm candy duty on short notice for any event that requires a +1, I pay and move on. Amazing how any man would get married in this day and age and out himself in a losing one-way contract when you can rent and it be 100x cheaper to maintain. I travel a lot for work and have zero interest in another relati…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/21 03:01 AM
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It doesn’t matter. What matters in family court is who has the money so that they can start the fleecing. If you have balls, then you are the bad parent. If you are emotionally charged and crazy hormonal, then you are the victim and should be compensated accordingly by fleecing the other party.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/21 10:50 PM
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As Bobby said, “go scorched earth” on the mf. I got in my ex’s love interest’s face then I filed a protective order against him. He was forbidden to be around my kids since he “threatened” me. That relationship ended faster than you can say “see ya”. If your ex wants to do monkey double back flips with another man, have at it. But kids aren’t going to be in the same house. I plan on ruining every relationship she has. Period. She can do the same. That’s what is expected.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/21 03:00 AM
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Scroggins law group They ain’t cheap, but experience is worth it. They handled my divorce and I never even stepped foot into a court room. Walked out with shared custody and no alimony. Child support (can’t control that) and settled 53%/47% her favor at the end. Texas is a just and right state (if you make more than your ex, then be prepared). Good luck !
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/21 02:06 AM
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Watch CoachGregAdams on YouTube and study up on his marriage wheel diagram. She was never yours, it was just your turn. She belongs to the streets. Man up and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 02:11 AM
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Find a good YouTube channel that deals with coping during a divorce. I was watching DSD (Duane) daily for a straight month to deal with the trauma. Not sure how ugly your divorce is, but if you are being discarded, thrown out of your house and prevented from seeing your kids or access to your property, then it’s mentally draining. Do not drink alcohol. Do not take a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I was lost for 3 months being a zombie and lost 30 pounds. My life was stolen from me th…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 02:01 AM
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Congrats! I also had a PO that was non-suited with prejudice (means she was full of shit and can never file another PO, ever against me). One thing I learned now that my divorce is done: that woman went after your jugular. Never ever trust her again and absolutely never take her back. What’s really sad is there is no restitution for false allegations. Judges don’t even give them a slap on the wrist. It’s a dirty tactic used by attorneys to get the upper hand in a divorce and get you off balance.…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/21 02:29 AM
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In texas you are still married until the divorce is signed by the judge. Texas does not recognize separation. Be careful here as they will subpoena your bank records and your paramour. Talk to your attorney to make sure you understand risks. Even though texas is a no fault state, alimony can be factored in if there is a girlfriend on the side. As far as your kids, I am in your shoes, also pay $2300 and the kids are being alienated. As given above, not much you can do other than be there for your…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/21 07:19 PM
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I am 1 year of your future self. A couple of things: 1) texas is a “just and right” division state. If your community assets are at $1mil or more, you are looking at 55%/45% division in the favor of the custodial parent. 2) texas just went to expanded standard for custody as the default. Child support is ordered to the custodial parent. Your wife knows this now and isn’t going to let you be primary custodial parent as that means she has to pay you. Doesn’t matter if you both agreed to no child s…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 01:54 PM
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I wish I knew: 1) attorneys will cause more conflict and bill you until you run out of money. 2) time with your kids will never get better. Go for 50/50 and don’t back down until you run out of money. 3) never trust your soon to be ex. The woman you divorce isn’t the woman that you married.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 12:08 AM
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It’s been almost a year for me, this time last year I was homeless after been thrown out of my 4000 sq.ft home and had my two kids taken away from me for about 2 months. Today, I am back in my house which I was awarded in the divorce and just got back from my oldest sons football game. I have shared custody. Kept my boat and motorcycle. Dating a girl 12 years younger and in her prime. My ex , while she got the majority of the cash assets, looks like she aged 10 years and absolutely miserable. It…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 08:42 AM
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But the mothers wanted the divorce?!?!? 80% of the no fault divorces are filed by the wife. They are just not happy and want to fly like a butterfly but still have the kids so that they can complain about being single mothers! So they cause the havoc and reap the rewards.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 12:26 PM
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The shuffling like hobos is spot on. While someone said it gives peace to the parent releasing the kids for a few days, which is ok, the concern is how does this shuffling benefit the child? The solution isn’t giving them to one parent and completely removing the other. It’s complicated but the root cause appears to be the no fault divorce approach that has been instituted by many states. No easy solution for the adults involved but the children are getting robbed of their childhood going back a…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 10:29 AM
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That’s because the system was built 30 years ago and back then mothers were considered better care givers. Family court hasn’t progressed enough to today’s “equality” themes and woman are still viewed as better care givers. I don’t mind the child support payment I make every month, but it’s the kids view of where their home is and living out of a backpack that is the most concerning to me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 12:36 AM
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I appreciate your perspective here. I really do. Never really looked at it this way.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 11:08 PM
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I was and still am in your shoes. Accused of abuse, domestic violence, child abuse, child poisoning, fraud, adultery, emotional abuse, physical injury due to plotting against ex….. every one of those was a battle and I fought hard. Nearly bankrupt and after $258,000 in attorney fees, they realized they can’t break me with false accusations and decided to settle. I have 48% custody but mentally and emotionally destroyed. I have been relegated to a visitor (non custodial parent) and my fatherhood …
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 11:47 PM
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I pay $2300 a month in child support. Maximum guideline in texas. Ex wife makes $100k a year but I earn double. She bought a house from proceeds received in divorce settlement (cash). She doesn’t even spend $500 on kids per month. Uses child support to pay utilities and all household expenses. She drives a Tesla now, goes out to get her back blown every other weekend and parties all night long, buys new clothes for herself and sends the kids over with the same clothes every week and tells them t…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/21 02:01 AM
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Listen carefully and follow directions: 1) do not try to make sense of crazy, you will go crazy. 2) the person you married isn’t the same person anymore. She will destroy you and claim false allegations and throw you out on the street. 3) record every conversation moving forward. 4) go file for divorce and a temporary restraining order first thing tomorrow morning, 5) come back here after divorce is done and you have primary custody, collecting child support and thank me for the best advice you …
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/21 07:48 PM
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You will be erased from memory and made out to be the deadbeat father that left his girls. As a father, I can’t believe you are agreeing and justifying this in your head. There are horror stories out there. Fight for shared custody. Do not give a rats ass over what she wants or where she wants to live. She isn’t your problem but your kids are your responsibility. Do not be a fool and believe a woman who is telling you she wants 100% custody and might let you see them every so often. The minute s…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/21 01:54 PM
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Spent $258,000 and ended up with one overnight per week and 1/3/5th weekends. I ran out of money and she settled for this expanded custody but didn’t budge on 50/50 since she wanted the full child support payment. Lawyers know that fathers will fight till the money runs out, so they add conflict. I am sorry to say, but a mother can be easily manipulated into thinking she is the better parent by an attorney just so he can prolong the fight. All one has to do is tell an emotional mother “you need …
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/21 03:08 PM
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Bright side: - you had your daughter with you. - the ex is out of your life. Make sure it’s for good. - she showed you her true nature. Better now then 10 years down the road. - you have a job. As others have said, we have all been there. Family court is a racket and you are guilty until proven innocent. Do your part snd absolutely prove your innocence. Criminal court is held to a much higher standard. You are innocent until proven guilty. I went through the same. Slept in my boat and lived off …
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/21 05:59 PM
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Run and run as fast as you can. This shows two things: 1) she will listen to an attorney’s advice over her own husband. 2) she will use anything said against him to prevent him from seeing his son. Why am I telling you this? My ex of 15 years snd two kids did the same thing. 1) accused me of being a child abuser to gain sole custody, and 2) that was her attorney giving her that advice in the promise that she would get 90% of assets if they can convince the courts. Family court is a racket and yo…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 10:26 PM
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6 silver bullets of divorce were used. The usual checklist and as we all know, in family court, you are guilty until proven innocent. So I had to prove my innocence and finally ended up with the divorce being granted on the grounds of insupportability. Which is your basic vanilla grounds in a no fault state. A divorce is a contract between a man and the woman/state. Only one side is incentivized to break it. She is living high and large now with more money than she can ever earn. It was brutal a…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 12:48 PM
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Since you both work and make good money, no alimony is to be expected at all. Kid is 15 so at best you will get an offset child support payment of maybe $800 per month since you both work. There is a formula for offset child support but your income shows that you don’t need it. Get an attorney vs going into mediation solo. Texas is a community state and all assets and debts will be split in a “just and right” manner. That is not 50/50. Mediation can help you negotiate. Don’t agree to it the firs…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 02:00 AM
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Net worth of community assets was $2.9 mil. Her net worth before divorce was $60k. After divorce her net worth was $1.2 million. Two kids, texas child support at $2300 per month for next 10 years. I walked away with all marital debt ($180k) and $1 mil in assets. Paid $258k in attorney fees. She works but spends all her money. Dumbest mistake of my life was to build up “our” net worth over the 7 year marriage. Men build, Women spend and build up debt in same time period. Community states split do…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 12:45 AM
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4 is the most disgusting thing ever. A woman will justify withholding children from a loving engaged father to secure her child support payment. Mediators, judges, attorneys will all find it normal and look at you as a greedy high earner that just wants to protect his earnings. It’s disgusting. Read the book the Respondent by Greg Ellis. I racked up so much debt in attorney fees going through 3 failed mediations that we ended up settling at the end as I couldn’t pay any of her or my attorney fee…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 03:32 PM
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